Podcasts about Guilt

Would you die for your kids? Most dads would. But would you live for them? In this powerful episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I sit down with Andrew Jax—father of three, Australian natural bodybuilding champion, and founder of the “Ditch the Dad Fat” program. Known as the “6 Pack Dad,” Andrew shares how optimizing your health isn't just about looking good—it's about leading with strength, energy, and integrity at home. We explore the silent leadership of fatherhood, why most men's health declines after marriage, and how to reverse that trend with small, sustainable changes. Andrew breaks down the real cost of saying “I don't have time,” the importance of emotional and physical energy for our families, and how you can enjoy your pizza and beer—and still lose the dad bod. Whether you're already committed to health or just thinking about getting back in the game, this episode will fire you up and equip you with strategies you can use today.   TIMELINE SUMMARY: [0:00] - Would you die for your kids? What about live for them? [2:10] - Introducing Andrew Jax: father, champion bodybuilder, and coach [3:17] - Why health is a leadership issue, not just a vanity project [5:00] - The “Dad decline”: why men fall apart after marriage [8:22] - Guilt, shame, and why self-care isn't selfish [13:06] - The myth of “no time” and how to make fitness fit your life [17:07] - Why starting small matters—and why most men wait for a crisis [21:22] - Andrew's “Habit Sustainability Formula” explained [25:17] - Daily accountability: the #1 key to long-term success [28:10] - How to stay lean without relying on exercise [31:08] - Why sleep and stress management are crucial to fat loss [34:03] - Finding balance: eating clean without giving up your life [37:04] - Prioritizing protein, carbs, fats, and smart supplementation [43:08] - How Andrew leads his family spiritually, emotionally, and physically [46:10] - Where to connect and get a free copy of Andrew's book   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS 1. Health Is a Legacy Issue Your kids aren't just watching—they're modeling. Leading with health means passing on a generational inheritance of physical, emotional, and mental well-being. They'll follow your example more than your advice. 2. Self-Care Is Not Selfish Skipping your workout may feel noble in the moment, but long-term neglect robs your family of your energy, presence, and vitality. When you take care of yourself, you increase your capacity to take care of others. 3. You Don't Need Hours or Perfection You don't need five workouts a week or chicken and broccoli forever. Andrew's clients are busy dads and business owners who see results with three efficient sessions per week and a flexible, sustainable eating plan. 4. Daily Accountability Changes Everything Forget once-a-week check-ins. Andrew's clients get results through daily guidance and support. If you want real change, don't go it alone—build a system that keeps you on track every single day. 5. Lead at Home Like You Lead at Work Andrew's success isn't just in coaching—it's in how he shows up as a husband and father. He shares how servant leadership, spiritual alignment, and presence fuel his connection with his wife and kids every day.   LINKS & RESOURCES: Free copy of my Ditch The Dad Fat eBook: ditchthedadfatbook.gr8.com Free training on How Busy Dads Are Losing 10-35lbs & Reclaiming Their Health, Energy & Confidence In 6 Weeks Without Exercise or Extreme Diets: ditchthedadfat.com Ditch The Dad Fat Podcast: rebrand.ly/DTDFPodcast Dad Edge Podcast Website: https://www.thedadedge.com Episode Page: https://www.thedadedge.com/538 If this episode gave you fresh perspective or practical tips, please rate, follow, review, and share the podcast. Your support fuels this mission to help fathers lead legendary lives—for themselves and their families.

New Russiagate disclosures reveal more intelligence communities lies about Trump's "collusion" with Russia during the 2016 election. Plus: the Trump administration demands that universities adopt DEI programs only for Jewish students, while claiming to crusade against wokeness. Finally: a controversy at FSU shows the Trump administration's desperate attempts to shield Israel at every opportunity.  ----------------------- Watch full episodes on Rumble, streamed LIVE 7pm ET. Become part of our Locals community Follow System Update:  Twitter Instagram TikTok Facebook  

Join the free WELLth Broadcast Join the Quantum WELLth Coaching Membership   Connect with Leanne on Social Media:    Instagram: www.instagram.com/awakeningwomenofficial/  Facebook: www.facebook.com/awakeningwomenofficial/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/theevolvedfeminine Website: leanneoaten.com    Leanne Oaten is a former Registered Professional Counsellor with a background in Counselling Psychology and has over 13 years of experience counselling and coaching women. This podcast is for high-achieving women who refuse to settle in a life that looks successful on the outside but feels empty on the inside. If you're juggling business, career, family, and a relationship that doesn't light you up while secretly craving more freedom, more money, and more joy - this is the podcast for you. I help women reclaim their power, build unshakable self-trust, and create the kind of life they no longer want to escape from. We're not here to hustle harder or burn it all down. We're no longer focused on changing men, we are building for ourselves so that we never settle again, and can call in aligned partners who want to build together as a power-couple.  We're here to make power moves with ease, and feminine energy that attracts everything you want without losing yourself in the process. So if you're ready to stop waiting for him to change, stop negotiating your worth, and start embodying the woman you want to be, welcome home. Let's dive in.  

In this episode of The Sober Motivation Podcast, Laura shares her story of growing up with lots of rules and a strong spiritual background in a small town in West Virginia. Struggling with anxiety and perfectionism throughout her childhood and high school years, Laura's life took a turn when she started drinking in college. She describes how alcohol initially seemed to provide relief and confidence but quickly led to blackout episodes and further emotional and legal troubles. Laura discusses her journey toward sobriety, and then having a relapse, to getting back at it. This is Laura's story on the sober motivation podcast.   Join the Sober Motivation Community (30 Day Free Trial): https://sobermotivation.mn.co Laura on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recoveringwithlaura/   00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome 00:18 Laura's Childhood and Upbringing 02:51 High School Years and Early Struggles 05:18 College Life and First Experiences with Alcohol 09:46 The Double Life: Therapist and Addict 15:58 Grad School Challenges and Legal Troubles 20:46 Working in Addiction Treatment While Struggling 33:38 Facing the Fear of Quitting 35:10 The Cycle of Guilt and Hangovers 41:37 The Turning Point: May 2023 44:38 Navigating Early Sobriety 53:41 Relapse and Reflection 01:01:25 Rediscovering Sobriety 01:03:55 Encouragement for the Journey  

Ready to stop feeling like a jerk every time you protect your time and energy? This one's for all the women who know they need boundaries but feel guilty just thinking about setting them.I keep hearing this at networking events — successful women who can negotiate million-dollar deals but can't tell their neighbor they're not available to babysit; or 'feel bad' delegating to their employees because they assume they have too much on their plate already.What we're diving into:Why saying no feels like being a bad personThe crosswalk analogy that'll change how you think about boundariesHow guilt is actually your protection mechanism (not proof you're considerate)3 journal prompts to break the guilt cycleThe truth bomb: Your boundary struggles aren't about not knowing how to say no. They're about an unconscious belief that your worth depends on managing everyone else's comfort AND that your guilt = being considerate. But really? Guilt is keeping you from authentic relationships where people actually know the real you and what you need.Resources mentioned:Free Calm Mind Blueprint (includes private podcast with voice guidance): www.samanthapenkoff.com/calm-mind-podPrivate coaching (1 spot open): www.samanthapenkoff.com/privatecoachingConnect with Sam:Instagram: www.instagram.com/samantha.s.saysFacebook: www.fb.com/coachsamanthahawleyEmail: hello@samantha-says.com

Author, businesswoman, designer, and chef Joanna Gaines used to let guilt and anxiety consume her. As a mom of five children, and as one half of one of the most successful lifestyle brands in the country, Joanna is now battling her burnout by letting go of those feelings. This week, we spoke to Joanna about that shift to free herself from the pressure of expectations and what it's unlocked for her, professionally and personally.  In this episode, Joanna shares:  How she and Chip built a loyal and diverse audience  Why she still has a “small business” mindset, despite all her success The realities of raising five children and running her business How she's dealt with the pressure of other people's expectations – and her own  Her favorite activities that spark creativity Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Candor Coach and executive coach Farrah Mitra joins Amy Sandler to share her 4-step Communicating Change Framework—a practical guide for leaders navigating layoffs, performance conversations, or org changes. Learn how to deliver tough news with kindness, clarity, and confidence, without causing unnecessary harm. A must-listen for anyone leading through change with Radical Candor. Get all of the show notes at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RadicalCandor.com/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Episode Links: Transcript Communicating Change with Clarity and Care—A Framework for Leaders The Biggest Reason We Run from Challenging Conversations What's Your Radical Candor Story? Candor Coaches Share The Feedback They're Most Grateful For Farrah Mitra | LinkedIn Lead Change Better: A New Way to Communicate What's Coming Connect: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Bluesky⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Chapters: (00:00:00) Introduction Amy introduces Farrah Mitra, Radical Candor coach and creator of the Communicating Change framework. (00:01:49) Why This Matters Two stories that highlight the power of how change is communicated. (00:04:47) Framing Makes the Difference How message delivery impacts emotional response. (00:06:28) Goals of the Framework The overarching goal of the Communicating Change framework. (00:07:36) Why We Avoid Empathy Why leaders struggle with human-centered communication during change. (00:09:54) Structure Creates Confidence Creating a process that facilitates courage and clarity in conversations. (00:11:30) Communicating Change Framework A framework that gives leaders direction during tough conversations. (00:13:00) Coaching for Mindset Shifts Coaching to focus on reframing how leaders feel before they speak. (00:14:20) Reframing from Guilt to Partnership A real coaching story shows how shifting mindset changes everything. (00:17:51) Grief, Identity & Communication Why emotional processing is key before delivering hard news. (00:21:00) Clarifying the Message Choosing a narrative that doesn't mix performance and role decisions. (00:25:13) Focus on the Receiver Questions to help reverse engineer empathetic communication. (00:29:02) Helpful Phrasing Tips Phrasing examples to tailor language to ensure authenticity and clarity. (00:31:15) Empathy vs. Niceness Thoughtfully using structure to communicate with clarity and compassion. (00:35:24) Company-Wide Implementation How one org made the framework part of their leadership culture. (00:38:19) Why Empathy Still Wins Human-centered communication prevents harm—even in tough moments. (00:39:52) Connect with Farrah Where to connect with Farrah and find her framework. (00:41:11) Conclusion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Saying no can feel uncomfortable, but when done with love and intention, it becomes one of the most powerful ways to honor your energy and create space for what truly matters. I know how hard it can be to say no—especially when you're someone who wants to show up, perform, and please. But here's the truth: when we say no to what drains us, we create space for joy, alignment, and our true selves to shine. In this episode, I'm sharing my own journey of learning to release guilt around saying no and how doing so made me feel lighter, freer, and more whole. Action Plan: - Honor your body's whispers: Fatigue and tension are signals, not glitches—listen and respond with care. - Let go of what no longer fits: Release outdated roles or expectations to make room for the real you. - Choose alignment over logic: A choice that feels right may not always make sense on paper—and that's okay. - Trust your inner signals: When joy fades or your breath shortens, it's time to reassess what you're saying yes to. - Set loving boundaries: Boundaries aren't barriers—they are invitations for peace and clarity. More from Megan YouTube | Website |  Instagram

Are you feeling stuck, unmotivated, or unsure why you're not making progress—despite wanting more from your life? In this episode of Building a Life You Love, host Kristin Fitch dives into five powerful but hidden reasons women often hold themselves back from stepping into the life they truly want.From limiting beliefs to fear of judgment, guilt from past choices, and the mental overload of doing it all—we unpack the mindset traps and emotional blocks that quietly shape our decisions and derail our dreams. Kristin shares real stories, faith-fueled encouragement, and simple mindset shifts to help you break free from self-sabotage and begin walking in your God-given purpose with clarity and confidence.Whether you're facing a transition or just longing for more joy and fulfillment, this episode is your permission slip to release what's weighing you down and take the next right step forward.Download My Free Joyful Living Devotional: https://kristinfitch.com/devotionalReady to take your first step towards a more joyful, faith-filled life? Download our Reignite Your Passion Workbook and start living with purpose today!What to feel more energized in midlife? Grab my 5 Day Energy Reset Jump Start Guide here.Ready to work with Kristin to make a shift in your life? Click here to get started.✅ Key Takeaways:Awareness is the first step to change: You can't fix what you don't see. Identifying hidden fears and blocks is essential to moving forward.Limiting beliefs create invisible ceilings: These often form in childhood or after major life transitions and quietly shape your decisions.Fear of judgment and failure hold women back: Many women wait for permission or perfection instead of starting imperfectly.You're allowed to want more: Prioritizing your own desires and well-being doesn't mean you're selfish—it means you're finally showing up for yourself.Guilt and decision fatigue are silent dream killers: Learn to release past regret and simplify your choices so you can act with confidence and intention.what's holding you back, overcoming self-sabotage, Christian women podcast, limiting beliefs women, mindset shift for women, decision fatigue and burnout, finding your purpose, fear of failure and judgment, women in transition podcast, personal growth for women, building confidence in midlife, stepping into your calling, faith and mindset coaching

Send us a textDo you know what one of the most pervasive challenges of modern motherhood is? Guilt. This seemingly logical approach is actually dangerous to our well-being and our parenting. In this episode, you'll learn the crucial difference between helpful guilt and unhelpful guilt, and we explore a practical framework for recognizing guilt, assessing whether it serves you, and learning how to respond with wisdom instead of reactivity. This episode offers both emergency tools for overwhelming moments and lasting strategies for breaking free from the guilt cycle that steals your peace and presence. Take a listen- I think you'll walk away knowing that you don't have to feel guilty to be a good mom—If you'd like to get the show notes for this episode, head to: https://leighgermann.com

This week, we break down the shocking Praxis exam scandal that has rocked the SLP world. ETS canceled scores for over 180 future clinicians, citing cheating and policy violations tied to a shared Google Doc. We explain what happened, who's being penalized, and why the response from ASHA is raising eyebrows. Dr. Jeanette Benigas and Preston Lewis, MS/SLP, bring clarity, evidence, and a call to stop fear-based culture in the field. If you're impacted or just want to understand what this means for the profession, you don't want to miss this episode.·Want to earn some PDHs or CEUs with a discount? Find our most up-to-date promo codes and discounts here.·We want to collaborate with YOU. If you would like to lead or join your state team, please email your name and state to states@fixslp.com.·Become a sustaining partner to support our work.·Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok·Find all our information at fixslp.com, and sign up for our email list to be alerted to new episodes and content.·Email us at team@fixslp.com.·Leave a message on our Minivan Meltdown line! ★ Support this podcast ★

Overcoming “All-Or-Nothing” Mindset: Why Perfect Isn't the Goal | Fit Vegan Podcast Ep. #399 Interested in the Fit Vegan Workshop? Secure your spot now before we sell out ​https://fitvegancoaching.com/vancouver-2025Join our Free Fit Vegan weekly newsletter: https://fit-vegan-coaching.kit.com/newsletterInterested in working with our world class team, Book your application call here: http://book.fitvegancoaching.com/podcastWelcome to the Fit Vegan Podcast! In this episode of the Fit Vegan Podcast, I sit down with my wife Ivy to talk through the most common fears and concerns people face before starting their health transformation. We cover everything from mindset and motivation to physical limitations, fear of commitment, and the real cost of investing in your health. We also explore how to stay on track while traveling or during busy seasons, the power of whole food plant-based living, and what truly creates lasting, sustainable change. Along the way, we bust myths about carbs, protein, and strength training, and share how our coaching helps people—at any stage of life—build strength, confidence, and long-term results.In This Episode, We Cover: [00:00–12:53] Getting Honest About Transformation: Common Fears, Mindset Shifts, and Moving Past the “All or Nothing” Mentality.[12:54–29:10] Letting Go of Guilt and Shame: Accountability, Information Overload, and Adapting to Physical Limitations.[29:11–36:19] Smart Muscle Building: Why You Won't Get “Bulky,” Strength vs. Cardio, and the Long-Term Benefits of Resistance Training.[36:20–55:53] What the Science Says: Doctors on Strength Training, Debunking Carb and Protein Myths, and the Risks of Restrictive Diets.[55:54–01:25:14] Making Health a Priority: Forming Habits That Last, Handling Life's Curveballs, and the Realities of Time, Cost, and Commitment.[01:25:15–01:36:59] Choosing the Right Program: What Sets Coaching Apart, Body Recomposition Goals, and Final Thoughts on Sustainable Change.Key Quotes"What I see often in people is that there's a fear of failing again... So they're afraid of like, well, if I take this on and I invest in myself, well I might fail because potentially they know that they have a hard time being compliant." -Maxime."So when I do speak with leads or people that are worried about, I don't want to get a lot of muscles and, you know, look like a dude. Trust me, I tried like for three, four years you won't. There is no way. I mean, unless you're, you're like really dialed into your diet and you know, bodybuilders too. Like, it's not happening. So don't worry. That would be the last of my worries!"-Ivy.My name is Maxime Sigouin. I am the founder of Fit Vegan Coaching and Empire Builders Agency. I have a passion for serving and helping people live to their fullest potential.Book Your FREE Consultation Call Here: http://book.fitvegancoaching.com/podcast- Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maximesigouinofficial/- Join our FREE Fit Vegan Community: www.freefitvegancommunity.com- Youtube Channel : https://linktw.in/AyNrSW

Feeling like you're behind on marketing? You're not alone especially if you're a financial pro coming off of tax season or juggling a full life.    But here's the good news: You're not behind. You're not failing. You're human and your marketing doesn't have to be perfect to be powerful.   In this episode, I'm wrapping up the 5-Minute Marketing series with a little reset and a big reminder: Why being “quiet” doesn't mean you're behind How to return to your content without overthinking it The simple mindset shift that can bring you back online What to say if it's been a while since you posted or emailed The best way to restart with no grand re-entry required   Book a Free Call: Simplified Marketing Services   Let's Connect: Website: https://simplifiedmarketingservices.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/biancamarissasmith/ Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/simplifiedmarketingservices

Episode 205: Hosts Richard Kyte and Scott Rada dive into one of the year’s most unexpected viral moments — not to rehash the gossip, but to explore what it reveals about the culture we live in. You’ve probably seen the clip: a Coldplay concert in Boston, a playful moment on the jumbotron and two people who instinctively pull away from the camera. Within hours, internet sleuths had identified the pair as high-ranking executives at a tech company — and the fallout was swift. The CEO was married, but not to the woman next to him. Both resigned. Social media had a field day. But in this conversation, Kyte and Rada move past the memes and into the moral gray area: What drives the rush to judgment when private moments become public? Is there any room for compassion in a digital world that thrives on humiliation? They explore how public reactions often hinge less on what’s right or wrong and more on whether someone gets caught. Along the way, they dig into the deeper difference between being accountable to your own values and reacting to the judgment of others — a line that separates two powerful emotions often confused with each other. This episode also looks at how viral incidents pressure companies to act, regardless of policy or due process. Did the company involved really have no choice but to cut ties with its leaders? Does the fact that one of them was in charge of HR change the equation? In the end, Kyte and Rada ask: What does our fascination with these moments say about us — and how can we create a culture that values understanding over outrage? Links to stories discussed during the podcast Public shame is having a moment again and the Coldplay kiss cam scandal explains why, by Kaylee Holland, Fox News Shame and humiliation at a Coldplay show, New York Times letter writers

Many Christians share Jesus' big heart for others and desire to love people like him. But all of us can fall prey to caring for others in a way that's fueled by our own unrecognized needs or wounds. Even good intentions can drain our souls and leave us feeling resentful towards ministry and people. Tune in for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi talk about the tension between loving sacrifice and codependency. You'll learn how to search your own soul with Jesus and cultivate an emotionally healthy attachment to Abba so you can discern who to serve and how to partner with God for greater fruitfulness.Resources for this Episode:Attend a Soul Shepherding RetreatMeet with a Soul Shepherding Spiritual DirectorDonate to Support Soul Shepherding and Soul Talks

In this episode, Sathiya discusses the importance of connecting with God during recovery from addiction, emphasizing that true recovery involves more than just abstaining from harmful behaviors. He highlights the significance of spiritual practices such as prayer, worship, and reading the Bible, and how these can foster a deeper relationship with God. Sathiya also addresses the feelings of shame and guilt that often hinder individuals from seeking God, reassuring listeners that God desires their integrity and connection. The conversation culminates in practical advice for creating a structured plan to enhance spiritual connection in recovery.   Know more about Sathiya's work: JOIN DEEP CLEAN INNER CIRCLE Got a Question? Submit It Anonymously Through This Form Get A Free Copy of The Last Relapse, A Blueprint For Recovery Watch Sathiya on Youtube For More Content Like This Chapters: (00:00) Introduction to Connecting with God in Recovery (01:54) The Importance of Connection in Recovery (05:20) Overcoming Shame and Guilt in Spiritual Connection (06:55) Practical Ways to Connect with God (09:53) Creating a Structured Plan for Connection

We spoke with a woman named Leyna. She is Temujin Kensu's biological daughter. She described the hell he has put her and her mother through over the years, even from behind bars.Pre-order our book on Delphi here: https://bookshop.org/p/books/shadow-of-the-bridge-the-delphi-murders-and-the-dark-side-of-the-american-heartland-aine-cain/21866881?ean=9781639369232Or here: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Shadow-of-the-Bridge/Aine-Cain/9781639369232Or here: https://www.amazon.com/Shadow-Bridge-Murders-American-Heartland/dp/1639369236Join our Patreon here! https://www.patreon.com/c/murdersheetSupport The Murder Sheet by buying a t-shirt here: https://www.murdersheetshop.com/Check out more inclusive sizing and t-shirt and merchandising options here: https://themurdersheet.dashery.com/Send tips to murdersheet@gmail.com.The Murder Sheet is a production of Mystery Sheet LLC.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We spoke with a woman named Leyna. She is Temujin Kensu's biological daughter. She described the hell he has put her and her mother through over the years, even from behind bars.Pre-order our book on Delphi here: https://bookshop.org/p/books/shadow-of-the-bridge-the-delphi-murders-and-the-dark-side-of-the-american-heartland-aine-cain/21866881?ean=9781639369232Or here: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Shadow-of-the-Bridge/Aine-Cain/9781639369232Or here: https://www.amazon.com/Shadow-Bridge-Murders-American-Heartland/dp/1639369236Join our Patreon here! https://www.patreon.com/c/murdersheetSupport The Murder Sheet by buying a t-shirt here: https://www.murdersheetshop.com/Check out more inclusive sizing and t-shirt and merchandising options here: https://themurdersheet.dashery.com/Send tips to murdersheet@gmail.com.The Murder Sheet is a production of Mystery Sheet LLC.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

How can you tell if your husband is truly remorseful or just feeling guilty after infidelity? In this episode of Beauty Beyond Betrayal, I'm breaking down the critical difference between guilt and true remorse—and why that distinction matters deeply for your healing journey as a betrayed wife. You'll learn: Clear definitions and examples of guilt vs. true remorse How to recognize when your spouse is just “checking boxes” The top 3 signs that reveal whether he's walking in true repentance Why true remorse is essential for rebuilding trust What you can do when guilt is present but transformation is not I'm also sharing how my Marriage Redesigned program helps couples go beyond surface-level change to rebuild their relationship God's way—through full ownership, heart transformation, and lasting healing. If you're tired of wondering whether his apology is real—or you just need clarity—this episode will equip you with the wisdom and encouragement you need.   True Apology | E117:  Listen Here  

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"You're supposed to be striving for more, but also be really pleased with what you've got... You're never supposed to be seen wanting. You're supposed to be just filled with gratitude for everything that you have, but also constantly trying." -Amy LaroccaListen in as Dr. Jennifer Reid chats with Amy Larocca, former New York Magazine fashion director and author of How to Be Well: Navigating Our Self-Care Epidemic, One Dubious Cure at a Time. Amy pulls back the curtain on how the wellness industry has become the new fashion industry—using the same aspirational marketing tactics to make women feel perpetually inadequate.If you've ever felt guilty for being "just fine" or pressured to optimize every aspect of your life, this episode is your permission slip to stop. Amy's journey from fashion journalism to wellness investigation reveals the dangerous messaging targeting women and offers a refreshing antidote to optimization culture.Key Quotes:On the pressure to optimize:"It feels irresponsible to be satisfied with fine... especially if you're a woman, it's like, okay, well, what about my family? Like, who am I, if I'm saying that's okay. Should be trying to optimize at all times."On the myth of returning to yourself:"The idea that the self is fixed...if I could piece together what this self that we're endlessly being sold promises...but it's not a sustainable idea of itself."On wellness as the new status symbol:"Fashion was becoming less exclusive, which meant people interested in aspiration had to find something more exclusive. And weirdly, it became health. Do you know this doctor? I have better health than you."On the core message:"I look at my daughters and I'm like, you don't have to improve anything. And all I would wish for them is to not waste that time thinking that they're not enough... you're so more than enough."About the Guest:Amy Larocca is an award-winning journalist who spent 20 years at New York Magazine as fashion director and editor at large. Her writing has appeared in The New York Times, Vogue, Town & Country, and The London Review of Books. She lives with her family in New York and North London. Her book How to Be Well: Navigating Our Self-Care Epidemic, One Dubious Cure at a Time, is a love letter to her daughters and all women caught in the optimization trap.Resources Mentioned:* The Invisible Kingdom: Reimagining Chronic Illness by Megan O'Rourke* "Welcome to the Menopause Gold Rush" (NYT article by Amy Larocca)Dr. Reid on Instagram: @jenreidmd and LinkedIn and her upcoming book, Guilt Free.Thanks for listening to The Reflective Mind and reading A Mind of Her Own! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work.Also check out Dr. Reid's regular contributions to Psychology Today: Think Like a Shrink.Seeking a mental health provider? Try Psychology TodayNational Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255Dial 988 for mental health crisis supportSAMHSA's National Helpline - 1-800-662-HELP (4357)-a free, confidential, 24/7, 365-day-a-year treatment referral and information service (in English and Spanish) for individuals and families facing mental and/or substance use disorders.Disclaimer:The views expressed on this podcast reflect those of the host and guests, and are not associated with any organization or academic site.The information and other content provided on this podcast or in any linked materials, are not intended and should not be construed as medical advice, nor is the information a substitute for professional medical expertise or treatment. All content, including text, graphics, images and information, contained on or available through this website is for general information purposes only.If you or any other person has a medical concern, you should consult with your health care provider or seek other professional medical treatment. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something that have read on this website, blog or in any linked materials. If you think you may have a medical emergency, call your doctor or emergency services (911) immediately. You can also access the National Suicide Help Line at 1-800-273-8255 or call 988 for mental health emergencies. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit amindofherown.substack.com

In this episode of Help Me Understand, Coach JK tackles three listener-submitted questions that hit close to home for a lot of people trying to stay consistent with their fitness goals.Topics/questions covered in this episode:• Whether collagen protein counts the same as regular protein, and what to consider before tracking it• How many days a week you really need to train to make progress, especially with changing schedules• Why rest day guilt is so common, and how to start working through itAs always, coach JK aims to blend real education with the realities of everyday life without the hype, just honest answers and perspective that meet you where you are.-------Got a question you'd like answered on a future episode?DM @CoachJKMcLeod or email jk@jkmcleod.com.Want to join the free Fitness Foundations Community? Reach out via email or IG for your invite!

Are you feeling exhausted or burnt out from the mental load?  In this episode, I speak with Professor Leah Ruppanner – sociologist, gender equity advocate, and founder of the Future of Work Lab at the University of Melbourne. Leah unpacks the mental load in a way you've never heard before - why it's not just cognitive, but deeply emotional too. If you've ever felt invisible, overwhelmed, or wondered why you're carrying so much, this conversation is for you. Leah's insights are validating, refreshing, and might just change the way you move through motherhood and work. From gendered expectations and the invisible labor women carry, to the societal norms that fuel mum guilt, Leah shares evidence-based insights and practical ways to help you begin to lighten the load.  You will hear about: - The true definition of the mental load (spoiler: it's more emotional than you think) - Why some mental load solutions don't work (and what might) - How gender norms are holding us back at home and at work - The real reason mum guilt exists and how to release it - How workplaces can (and must) better support caregiving - What the research says about dads, mental load, and the desire to be more present - Leah's vision for structural change and redefining care as essential infrastructure   MORE LINKS Connect with Leah via her website www.leahruppanner.com or on LinkedIn www.linkedin.com/in/leah-ruppanner-1657a417/ Follow Working Mumma on Instagram @workingmummacommunity and the website  www.workingmumma.com.au or connect with Carina on LinkedIn www.linkedin.com/in/carina-obrien/   SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW  If you loved this episode, please take a moment ot subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts. Your support helps us reach more working mums who need this resource to help them navigate the juggle of career and motherhood. Thanks for tuning in and see you next week. 

Denise Tollefson talks about a topic that isn't spoken out loud enough - guilt when it comes to caregivers and their aging loved ones. When & Where for Senior Care is brought to you by Serenity Assisted Living and Memory Care in Dilworth, MN.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Send us a Positive Review!In this episode Val is a guest on the Join Latter Day Digest podcast & what unfolds is the very unlikely story that led to Val's and Nathan's eventual 'outlaw' status within the LDS church.  Why is this so odd?  Because this couple could not have been more traditionally believing for the majority of their lives--including spending most of their marriage following all of the traditional scripts of Mormonism...which in some ways worked and in other ways didn't work that well at all.  Then something happened within Val & Nathan (different life-shifting changes/crises) and their paradigms changed...radically.  From living traditional roles prescribed by outside 'experts' on their lives to becoming passionate advocates of finding courage, truth, and God-connection within, Val shares a journey that might offer hope to anyone out there who thinks transformation isn't possible.  00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome00:22 Valerie's Early Life and Background02:04 Young Women's Experience in the Church04:33 Struggles with Traditional Gender Roles10:06 Mission and College Years16:25 Meeting Her Future Husband18:53 Professional Aspirations and Challenges22:01 Empathy and Helping Others24:50 The Cost of Doing the Right Thing25:22 Balancing Family and Career25:48 Struggles of a Stay-at-Home Mom27:44 Finding Joy and Autonomy29:46 Guilt and Cognitive Dissonance33:15 Pursuing a Career in Mental Health36:43 Starting a Private Practice41:10 The Birth of Latter Day Struggles Podcast43:58 Helping Others Through Faith Expansion47:05 Commitment to a Higher Calling50:43 Conclusion and Future PlansSupport the showListen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Subscription $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Subscription $10 Valerie's Support & Processing Groups Donate: ⁠Venmo or Patreon⁠ Visit our Website

Part two of a 4 part series on Guilt and Shame with guest, Dr. Anthony Mazzella, Psychotherapist & Host of The Narcissism Decoder Podcast What if the guilt you carry… isn't actually guilt at all? In Part Two of this powerful conversation, Renee and Dr. Anthony Mazzella dive into the subtle but life-changing difference between guilt and shame—and why confusing the two can keep you stuck in cycles of self-blame, anxiety, and emotional paralysis. You'll learn: Why guilt is actually a sign of emotional health—and a driver of change How shame stunts growth while guilt motivates repair The difference between healthy guilt, toxic guilt, and emotional manipulation Why narcissists often fake guilt through apology—but never actually change How to recognize when you're feeling shame, not guilt, and what to do about it The role of empathy, boundaries, and emotional development in healing Why we must give our pain words—and why shame so often lives unnamed If you've ever said, “I feel so guilty…” but couldn't put your finger on why—or felt weighed down by an apology you can't stop making—this episode is for you. This is the emotional fork in the road: one path leads to healing. The other keeps you stuck in someone else's story.

In this powerful episode of the Secret Life Podcast, host Brianne Davis-Gantt bravely confronts the often misunderstood emotion of shame. With her characteristic blend of authenticity and humor, Brianne delves into the four distinct types of shame: existential, situational, class, and narcissistic, revealing how each can profoundly affect our self-worth and relationships.Throughout the episode, Brianne shares her personal experiences and insights, illustrating how shame manifests in our lives and the detrimental impact it can have on our mental health. She emphasizes the difference between shame and guilt, providing clarity on how these emotions shape our identities and behaviors. Listeners will resonate with her anecdotes of feeling unworthy and inadequate, as she encourages a journey of self-discovery and healing.Brianne also offers practical strategies for recognizing and addressing toxic shame, urging listeners to cultivate self-acceptance, challenge negative beliefs, and seek healthy relationships. This episode serves as a poignant reminder that while shame can feel isolating, it is a shared human experience that can be transformed through awareness and action. Tune in for an enlightening conversation that invites you to face your shame and reclaim your worth.

In this episode, Dr. Peter Kim dives into the guilt and cultural pressure many physicians face when it comes to balancing work and personal life. He shares his own journey of stepping off the traditional path, finding freedom, and redefining success. If you've ever felt like you're living for everyone else but yourself, this episode is for you. Tune in to learn how to break free from the pressure and start living life on your own terms! Joining PIMDCON 2025? Click here to reserve your seat! Are you looking for a community to encourage you as you begin, or want to accelerate your business to the next level? Then join thousands of physicians who share the same journey of creating their ideal lives through multiple streams of income by joining us in our Facebook communities such as Passive Income Docs and Passive Income MD. Like what you heard? Subscribe and Rate Us!

The author of Hebrews 12 says, "Let us strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up. And let us run with endurance the race God has set before us.”  ‍How many of us are slowed down, or never finish the race at all, simply because we need to let go of some extra pounds? What are the weights that God is asking us to let go of? Is it the heavy burden of guilt and shame?  Well, take heart, because the bible says there is No Condemnation in Christ Jesus. Everett Whiteside finishes our Summer Shred series by addressing the enemy's garments of lies and giving us steps to shed the straightjacket and clothe ourselves with our heavenly robe of righteousness.‍

This week on Breathe, we’re talking about something that keeps so many women from experiencing real joy: guilt — especially the hidden kind that whispers, “You don’t deserve this.”Have you ever felt bad for doing something that made you happy? Like taking a break, saying no, or choosing what’s good for your soul? You’re not alone — and it’s not your fault.In this episode, Bonnie shares a deeply personal story from her childhood — a pink outfit, a heart full of hope, and the moment joy was lost. But she also shares how Jesus met her in that memory — and how He can meet you in yours too.Key Takeaways: How your brain uses visual cues to form habits (both good and bad)
 The neuroscience of why clutter creates stress and how to reset your mind
 Why your environment matters when building new rhythms of rest and joy
 A simple soul care practice called the “Summer Soul Toss” to refresh your space — and your spirit Breath Prayer
Inhale: Your steadfast love never ceases.
Exhale: Your mercies are new every morning Scripture:“The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning.”Lamentations 3:22–23 Join NEW Wellness Course: Breathe Joy with Jesus: Creating Happy Healthy Habits with God's Promises Register at mysoulcareschool.com → Take the FREE Soul Care Quiz at soulcarequiz.comGet your free personal wellness assessment and learn which area of wellness you need most: emotional, physical, spiritual, or social wellness. Connect with Bonnie: Bestselling Books by Bonnie:https://amzn.to/3NpVYQd Join the Soul Care Newsletter:https://thebonniegray.com/subscribe Watch Weekly YouTube Devotionals:https://youtube.com/thebonniegray Follow Bonnie on Instagram & Facebook:@thebonniegray Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Today, Sali sits down with Laura Modi, the woman changing the way we think about feeding babies. The mother of four is the CEO and cofounder of Bobbie, an organic formula company that was born out of her own feeding frustrations after giving birth to her first child. In 2018, she officially set out to launch Bobbie as a direct-to-consumer, subscription-based company, and it would become the only mom-founded and -led infant formula brand in the world.Bobbie has been at the forefront of supporting parents—and it's in large part thanks to Laura's leadership. But baby formula was not always the long-term plan for her, and in today's episode, she'll share:why she left Ireland to work in Silicon Valley, and the major differences between the two.the breastfeeding experience that left her feeling guilt-ridden yet inspired her to start Bobbie.what it takes to create a product for the most vulnerable population—there's zero room for error.putting up the very first breastfeeding billboard in Times Square.and why it fuels her when people describe her work as “cute.”On Sali: Argent X Citizens of Humanity Unlined Weekend Blazer, Park Trouser, and Maybelle Pocket TeeOn Laura: Argent Double Breasted Blazer and Ribbed Collar SweaterWork Friends CreditsHosted by Sali Christeson @salichristesonProduced by Gina Marinelli @ginaalilbitEdited by Ryan WoldoffTheme Song by Karina DePiano @sheplaysdepiano & Melanie Nyema @melanienyemaRecorded at Podstream Studio @podstreamstudioWork Friends is produced by ARGENT (www.argentwork.com), a women's clothing label on a mission to redefine workwear and drive forward women's progress. For more, follow ARGENT on Instagram, @ARGENT, and subscribe to the ARGENT YouTube channel, @ARGENTWork, for clips and bonus content. To be featured on a future episode, email your work questions and dilemmas to WorkFriends@ARGENTWork.com for a chance to have one of our amazing guests weigh in with advice.

Why does the Bible talk so much about blood? In this powerful episode of Behind the Mike Podcast, Mike Stone walks through Leviticus 4 and answers the question so many of us ask: Why all the animal sacrifices and blood in the Old Testament?

On August 28th 1999, 16 year old Jessica Gaudie would vanish without a trace while babysitting in Nambour, on the Sunshine Coast in Queensland Australia.In August of 2001, Derek Bellington Sam is sentenced to 15 years imprisonment for her murder, but to this day has refused to co-operate with Police and take them to Jessica's body.One year before Jessica's disappearance, on July 16th 1998. 25 year old British Backpacker Celina Bridge vanishes without a trace after last being seen walking down Boolooumba Creek Rd, in Kenilworth.Three months prior to Jessica's disappearance, on May 28th 1999, 46 year old teachers aide and animal over Sabrina Ann Glassop vanishes without a trace, also from Boolooumba Creek Rd.The one thing in common, these women all came into contact with Derek Sam.In Season Six of Guilt, Ryan heads into the untamed hinterland of Australia looking for the missing piece of the puzzle. In an attempt to answer the question, where is Jessica? And what happened to Celina Bridge and Ann Glassop.Subscribers to Brevity+ will get ad free listening, bonus episodes, early release AND for the first time ever, access to weekly video content, interactive maps and more to compliment the podcast via our website www.theguiltpodcast.com. More details on this will be coming soon.Episode One drops for subscribers August 4th and for all free listeners August 11th.If you have any information related to Derek Sam or the disappearance of Jessica Gaudie, Celina Bridge or Sabrina Ann Glassop please contact us via our website or email brevitystudiosnz@gmail.comSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/guilt. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you constantly overcommitting, people-pleasing, or feeling drained — but don't know how to stop?
These 7 quick breakthrough moments will help you finally learn how to say “no” without the guilt … so you can protect your energy, set better boundaries, and reclaim your time.This isn't just advice - it's a compilation of real, raw moments from past episodes that hit deep and shift your mindset fast.

OCD can ruin your life if you start living in avoidance and if you believe that all your catastrophic thoughts are the truth. Guilt, shame, embarrassment follow as OCD takes a grip of every aspect of your life and you limit your action in fear of feeling terrible. It seems to be impossible to get out of this powerful grip, but there's more than one way through the darkness of OCD, and it starts with a single step. Join us as we explore the principles of Radical Bravery with insights from Renee Zukin's journey, learning how to take action and live your best life, even with OCD.  Renee' suffered from OCD for decades and is now able to do many things that were previously restricted by her fears. This tender interview shows us that beating OCD is about choosing courage over fear, recognizing your power to change, and finding hope in unexpected places.  The final message from Renee' is that you don't have to wait to feel good to start living. We'll show you how to become conscious of your thoughts, feelings, and actions to create the life you deserve. Hope is real, and it begins with you.    Topics Covered: OCD management, anxiety solutions, radical bravery, behavioral activation, overcoming fear, mental health hope, CBT, exposure therapy Questions? Find Renee Zuni here: www.everydayimbrave.com Buy her book! www.reneezukin.com   Did you enjoy this episode and would like to share some love?  

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In this episode, Emily discusses the complexities of mom guilt, particularly from the perspective of actor moms. She shares her personal experiences and insights on balancing motherhood with a career in acting, emphasizing the importance of self-care and the need to overcome negative self-talk. Emily highlights that pursuing personal passions is not selfish and encourages listeners to acknowledge both the challenges and joys of being a parent in the entertainment industry.TakeawaysMom guilt is a unique experience for actor moms.It's healthy for children to have time apart from their parents.Pursuing a career in acting can feel selfish, but it's not.Balancing work and family is a constant challenge for actor moms.Childcare logistics can be emotionally taxing.Taking time for yourself is essential for personal growth.Guilt and gratitude can coexist in parenting.Negative self-talk can exacerbate feelings of guilt.It's important to explain your career to your children.You are not alone in feeling mom guilt.Chapters00:00 Understanding Mom Guilt02:52 The Unique Challenges of Actor Moms06:05 Balancing Career and Family08:52 The Emotional Weight of Childcare12:01 Guilt and Gratitude Coexisting14:46 Overcoming Negative Self-Talk

This is a Fan Fav episode. There is something both sobering and chilling about being manipulated, especially by someone close to you. The feeling of betrayal and pain can leave you untrusting of everyone after that, and the emotional aftermath can lead to years of therapy or unhealthy behaviors. If you're a ‘Yes' to any of these, this episode is a must for you: Have fallen for people's fake concern at the expense of invalidating yourself Felt suffocated by the weight of someone's constant complaining Started questioning your version of reality because you were being gaslit The Boundary Boss and one of our favorite homies on Women of Impact, Terri Cole, is back for another round and this time she's unpacking everything you need to never be tricked by manipulative people again! They want to get their way no matter what at your expense, and it's your job to recognize it and put an end to it with the right boundaries in place. Terri Cole is a licensed therapist and bestselling author who helps women like you break the cycle of living without boundaries. It doesn't matter who you are or what your past is, everyone deserves and needs boundaries to create and maintain healthy relationships. If you're walking on eggshells at home, it's time to sit up straight and pay attention. Original air date: 5-17-23 Check out Terri's new book, Boundary Boss: ⁠https://www.amazon.com/Boundary-Boss-Essential-Guide-Finally/dp/1683647688⁠ Follow Terri Cole: Website: ⁠https://www.terricole.com/⁠  YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-OC1zN27enpTA_eNWB7dKw⁠  Podcast: ⁠https://www.terricole.com/podcast/⁠  Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/terri_cole⁠  Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/terricole/⁠  Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/TerriColeLCSW/ CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out.  SleepMe: Visit ⁠https://sleep.me/woi⁠ to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ ****************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠ ⁠ ⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠ ****************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jess, Sarina, Jennie and Jess are all here to talk about taking a break from various angles: the mechanics angle, the guilt angle, the fear angle, the identity angle and inspiration angle. Mechanics. * Leave yourself notes about the project when you leave off, for example, “The next thing that needs to happen is this…” so when you come back, you know how to get back into the project. This is Sarina's daily practice, but it really helps when she has to leave a project behind. This can be especially helpful when you have to go away for an unexpected emergency. * Jennie adds that the only way you can do this is if you have a place to keep and find those notes to yourself. In one of your 47 notebooks or in the document itself? Or, as Jess adds, on the side of the cardboard box you use for trash in your basement workshop that you almost recycle by accident. * Jennie also notes that you have to have intentionality, to know what you are writing so you can know what comes next, whether that's in your outline, inside outline, or whatever. * Jennie has a little notebook she brings on vacation with her and she downloads those ideas into that just before going to sleep at night when she's away. * These vacation inspiration moments are much like shower thoughts, part of the magic of our brain unhooking, getting into deep default mode network, and becoming its most creative. * Sarina mentioned an article about how walking makes you more creative, also a study in why tapping into the default mode network is so effective as a practice. Fear * The only way to get over this is to sit down and do it. Open the document. Just start. * Jennie points out that getting back into a manuscript when it's disappeared feels horrifying but it's much easier than it sounds and has happened to one of our frequent guests, Sarah Stewart Taylor, when her then-toddler created a password for the document that was not recoverable. She had to give in to the fact that her book was gone, and recreate it out of her memory. Guilt and Identity* It only took Jess until her fiftieth year to figure out that her process - of walking, gardening, beekeeping, musing - is a part of writing, and that's cool. * Can you be a writer if you are not actively writing? Yes, if research, planning, thinking and otherwise cogitating is a part of your writing process. Get over it. The words have to land on the page eventually, of course, but if you are doing both, have grace for the not-actively-writing part of the writing process. #AmReadingTess Gerritsen's series set in Maine (The Spy Coast and The Summer Guests) and, once she finished those two books, Jess went back to The Surgeon, where it all started for Tess Gerritsen. Stay tuned for our interview with her! Andy Weir's Project Hail Mary (Don't watch the movie trailer if you plan to read the book!)Sarah Harman's All the Other Mothers Hate MeAmy Tintera's Listen for the LieRosemerry Wahtola Trommer The UnfoldingRichard Osman's The Thursday Murder Club (coming to Netflix in August!)Janelle Brown's What Kind of Paradise Want to submit a first page to Booklab? Fill out the form HERE.Writers and readers, KJ here, if you love #AmWriting and I know you do, and I know you do, and especially if you love the regular segment at the end of most episodes where we talk about what we've been reading, you will also love my weekly #AmReading email. Is it about what I've been reading and loving? It is. And if you like what I write, you'll like what I read. But it is also about everything else. I've been #AmDoing: sleeping, buying clothes and returning them, launching a spelling bee habit, reading other people's weekly emails. Let's just say it's kind of the email about not getting the work done, which I mean that's important too, right? We can't work all the time. It's also free, and I think you'll really like it. So you can find it at kjdellantonia.com or kjda.substack.com or by clicking on my name on Substack, if you do that kind of thing.Come hang out with me. You won't be sorry.Transcript below!EPISODE 458 - TRANSCRIPTKJ Dell'AntoniaWriters and readers, KJ here. If you love Hashtag AmWriting, and I know you do, and especially if you love the regular segment at the end of most episodes where we talk about what we've been reading, you will also love my weekly Hashtag AmReading email. Is it about what I've been reading and loving? It is. And if you like what I write, you'll like what I read. But it is also about everything else. I've been ‘hashtag am-doing', sleeping, buying clothes and returning them, launching a spelling bee habit, reading other people's weekly emails. Let's just say it's kind of the email about not getting the work done—which, I mean, that's important too, right? We can't work all the time. It's also free, and I think you'll really like it. So you can find it at KJdellantonia.com or kjda.substack.com or by clicking on my name on Substack, if you do that kind of thing or of course in the show notes for this podcast. Come hang out with me. You won't be sorry.Multiple SpeakersIs it recording? Now it's recording. Yay! Go ahead. This is the part where I stare blankly at the microphone. Try to remember what I'm supposed to be doing. All right, let's start over. Awkward pause. I'm going to rustle some papers. Okay. Now, one, two, three.KJ Dell'AntoniaHey, I'm KJ Dell'Antonia, and this is the Hashtag AmWriting Podcast, the weekly podcast, while writing all the things—short things, long things, pitches, proposals, fiction, nonfiction. And somebody told me they thought this was a recorded intro. And I just want you to know I do this live every time, which is why there's this, come on, there's more variety here, people, and you should know that. Anyway, here we are, all four of us, for we got a topic today. But before we do that, we should introduce ourselves in order of seniority, please.Jess LaheyI'm Jess Lahey. I am the author of The Gift of Failure and The Addiction Inoculation. And I laugh, because when you said seniority, all I could do was think of us in our little eave space in my old house, down the street from you, not knowing what the heck we were doing. But yeah, we've been doing this for a long time now. You can find my... you can find my journalism at The New York Times, at The Washington Post, at The Atlantic, and everything else at Jessicalahey.com.Sarina BowenI'm Sarina Bowen. I'm the author of many novels. My new one this fall is called Thrown for a Loop, and it will be everywhere that books are sold, which is very exciting to me, and all about me at Sarinabowen.com.Jennie NashI am the newest of the co-hosts, and so happy to be among this group of incredibly smart and prolific and awesome women, and I'm the founder and CEO of Author Accelerator, which is a company on a mission to lead the emerging book coaching industry. And you can find us at bookcoaches.com or authoraccelerator.com.KJ Dell'AntoniaI'm KJ Dell'Antonia. I'm the author of three novels, the latest of which is Playing the Witch Card, and the most televised of which is The Chicken Sisters—Season Two coming soon to a Hallmark network near you. And I'm also the former editor and lead writer of The Motherlode, making me our... well, and Jennie too, like the crossover. I've done too many different kinds of writing—probably should have stayed in my lane. Oh well. And our plan today—as we're recording, it is summer. And a pretty frequent thing that happens in the summer is that you need to put your project down for a little while, because you have house guests, because you're going on the kind of vacation that does not involve working, because you just need a break or you're sick. That's not really a summer thing, but it definitely happens. Anyway, we wanted to talk about how, you know, what—what do you do to make that work better?Jess LaheyI think a lot about being a parent and needing to take a break too. And you know, this is something I talk a lot about with, you know, other writers who are sort of struggling, especially since I read a lot about parenting—who are struggling to—with that guilt of, you know, like, I feel like I owe my time to the words, and I feel like I owe my time to the children. And finding a way to take a break from the words and not feel guilty about not being with the words can be really, really hard, especially when you're going gung-ho on something. So I want to make sure that we figure out a way to have a break without guilt. That's like the big question I get a lot—is, how do you, you know, either from the parenting or the writing side?KJ Dell'AntoniaAnd I was thinking about it more from a mechanics side.Jess LaheyYeah.KJ Dell'AntoniaHow do you put this thing aside for a week or two weeks or even a month? And know where you were?Jess LaheyRight.KJ Dell'AntoniaAnd come back and feel like it does not take you forever to dig in.Sarina BowenYeah. Um, so we've got the guilt question. We've got the mechanics of how to do it. And I would just like to add a layer, which is the fear factor.Jess LaheyYeah.Sarina BowenI have this thing where, when I walk away from a manuscript, I become afraid of it. So it seems scarier when I take a break. Like, even if it's not true—that I don't know where I am or that I become unmoored from the channel of that book and it seems intimidating to go back to.Jess LaheyCan I add one more layer as well? And that's the identity factor. You know, if I identify as a writer, what am I if I'm not actively writing something? And that messes my head up a lot. So I would love to add that added layer in as well and make sure we discuss that.Jennie NashWell, and I have something totally different from all of those, which is that I often find when I go on vacation, I am more inspired and motivated to work on my project than I was in my real life. It tends to light a fire under me. So then I'm faced with that choice of, you know, wanting to really lean into it. And, you know, just like a really small piece of that story is, I love to write on airplanes. I just love it. Give me a very long flight, and it's—I just want to work and not talk to anybody. And, you know, it's awesome. So I feel some guilt around that. When I'm with my family, it's like, don't talk to me, don't watch movies. You know, I'm—I'm enjoying my plane time, doing my work. So I have that reality.KJ Dell'AntoniaWell, that's the choice that you have to start with, is, am I just, you know, can I not? Am I—do I need to accept the reality, which is that this is a beach trip with extended family and some, you know, my—to multiple generations, and I inevitably am going to be the person who is cooking and figuring out where the garbage has to go in the Airbnb? I should, you know, I—I will feel better if I just accept the reality that I'm not going to wake and work. Or, you know, is it a—is it a trip where you can schedule some work time and want to? Or is it a trip where you affirmatively want to give yourself a break? Or is it also, I mean, I sort of think that the last possibility—well, there are probably multiples—is I just want to touch this every day. So I feel like you can kind of—you're like, you're either like, just—no, not going to happen, not going to pretend it's going to happen, not going to feel the guilt. That's the—that's where we are. And there's sort of a, I just want to open the file every day and keep it warm and friendly. And on, you know these three—three days I have an hour.Jess LaheySo let's do this. Let's—let's do mechanics first, since that's the real nuts-and-bolts stuff, and then we'll talk about all the touchy-feely stuff after that. So let's do mechanics first. It sounds like you have thoughts, KJ…?KJ Dell'AntoniaWell, I was actually thinking that Sarina did this pretty recently.Jess LaheyYeah, that's true.Sarina BowenYeah. Like, you know, I, um, I have found mechanically that leaving yourself notes every time you walk away from your manuscript is a good thing. So this is sort of like a best practices in your life idea, where I will have a writing day, and it's done now, and I'm going to get up and go do other things in my life. If I pick up my notebook, and I write down where I am—like, okay, and the next thing that has to happen is this—like, it could be really short or not. But taking better notes about the structure of the thing I'm working on is serving me on so many levels that it just slots right in here. Like, I took a big trip in April, and I thought I might work, but then I didn't, and I really seamlessly came right back in, because I knew where I was, and I avoided a lot of my own fear. So, if the practices that help you become a good day-to-day writer also can be practices that help you in this very instance, the mechanics of picking up your book again are that you left yourself a note right in your document, um, or in your notebook, that says, and here's what I think is supposed to happen next. And, yeah.KJ Dell'AntoniaThat's going to be gold for an unexpected break too, because that happens, you know, right? You get one of those phone calls, and it's a week before you're back or more.Sarina BowenYeah.KJ Dell'AntoniaYeah. I love this practice. This is one of those things I forget to do.Jennie NashI feel like I—I feel like I have to add to that a couple things. That the only reason you can do that is, A, if you have a place to take notes, which—which could be your, the document itself that you're working on. But Sarina talked about a notebook, right? You have a place that you know, that you can find that, which is not an insignificant thing to have, or...Sarina BowenCorrect!Jennie NashRight?! Or, in the case of me, it's like, I have 47 notebooks. Well, which one did I put the note in?Sarina BowenRight.Jennie NashBut then the second thing is, I mean, this is something that I find so inspiring about the way you work, Sarina, and it—and it's a thing that I teach—is you have to know what you're writing, you know, in order to know where you are, what the structure is, and what you're doing, and to ask those—like, you have to have done the thought work of what, what it is you're trying to do and what your intention is. Otherwise, you sort of don't ever know where you are or where you're going. So...Sarina BowenRight, but that's on two levels. Like, you could—let's just say you have successfully written yourself an Inside Outline, you know, the way that you do it—you still might need that granular thing.Jennie NashOh yeah!Sarina BowenLike, you might know where you are in the arc of the book, but you might actually need the note that's like, "And now we're going to wash the dishes." I mean, let's please not put that in the novel, but you know what I mean.Jennie NashYeah, yeah. But that intentionality of, on the big picture, what am I doing, and on the small picture—in this chapter, in this scene, in this moment, and with this character—what was I... how'd that fit into the whole? What was I thinking? And those things are not—they're not easy. Like, we're talking about them like, "Oh, you just..." You know, like I was saying, what if you have 47 notebooks? That literally is a problem I have. It's like, I know I wrote this note down, and I don't know where I put it—digitally or analog.Sarina BowenRight. I confess I actually do still have this problem. Like, even with all of my best practices, like, put into—sometimes it's like, well, is that in the document, or is it in my notebook? And then—or I thought about it at four in the morning and actually didn't write it down anywhere. And I'm looking anyway...Jennie NashOh, I do that too. I absolutely do that too. I'm convinced that I left a note while I was driving—that's a thing I often do. I'll leave—I'll have Siri write me a note, and then somehow it doesn't appear, or it's like, I know I did this, I know I asked her to do this... you know.Jess LaheyI actually have—I was doing the recycling, and I realized that I was in big trouble because three sides of a box I'd had down in the basement with me while I was working on a project—I was doing something with my, getting some beehives ready—and I was listening to an audiobook that is research for a project I'm working on, and I had scribbled some really important notes to myself about how I was supposed to start a chapter on. And it was a great start. It was like a whole paragraph on the three sides of the box, with an old Sharpie I found down in the basement. And then I realized I almost recycled, like, some really useful outline stuff.Multiple Speakers[all laughing]Jess LaheySo normally—no, so I actually have them. While you guys are talking about something else, since we do see each other while we're recording this, I'll show you later. But the thing that I normally do is either in the document, like right where I left off, or in my main notebook, because I am so bad at finding those notes that I have strewn all over my office or on the side of a cardboard box.KJ Dell'AntoniaI have had the problem lately of I'm not in a manuscript, and that it's much easier when you're in a manuscript to come back to a manuscript, but I'm in a notebook full of assorted random Blueprint challenge, you know, like trying to—I'm, I'm in figuring out where this is going mode, which means I do a lot of thinking while I'm not working that then hopefully I go and write down. But it also means that I frequently sit down and I'm like, well, am I going to think about who these people are? Am I going to think about what the plot is? What am I going to do? So I've been trying to leave myself like a task, something that will, that will just get me, get me back in, because sometimes that's the problem. I, you know, I open the notebook, and there's no obvious thing to do, and the next thing I know, I'm buying running shoes.Jennie NashWell, since we're talking about nuts and bolts, when I said that I often get inspired when I go away or go on vacation and I want to work, I'm not talking about I'm going to go sit in a library or coffee shop for three hours. What, what I mean by that is I often have ideas that I want to capture, and so I have a little notebook that I bring on vacation, and what I like to do is go to bed early enough that I can download all the things I thought that day. I need that space and time to—if it's, if I'm working on something, it's in my head. It's not going to not be in my head. And so the one sort of new mechanical thing that I, that I do, is have that "vacation notes notebook" with me.KJ Dell'AntoniaI always carry one, and I never use it. So there's that.Jess LaheyI get—I am at my most inspired to write when I specifically can't write, which is usually behind the wheel of my car. So I use, in my car, I have been known to, you know, either scribble on things—which, totally don't do that—or to record myself on my phone. But then, audio things, I'm particularly bad at going back and listening to; that seems like it's just too much work. So those tend to get lost a lot. I need to come up with a better system for that. But it is predictable that if I am in a place where I cannot physically write, I will be at my most inspired to write.Jennie NashJess, that's kind of what I'm talking about. That's what happens to me, is I might say I'm leaving all work behind. I'm going off the grid. I'm not doing the thing. And that's when I most want to do the thing. And I, like, my brain seems to really get inspired. What? What do you think that's about? Is that...Jess LaheyI, you know, I, I was very worried that it was my sort of, um—sorry, what's the word I'm looking for? It was—it's my, my brain's way of saying, "Oh, you couldn't possibly work now, so let's have some of the best ideas so that you seem like a good little doobie writer, but it's physically impossible for you to write now." It's just a really weird thing, and maybe one of the other things I thought about is that I'm often listening to a book that I'm really into, which also inspires me to write. I've been listening to a lot of really great books lately, and you can't listen to a book—even one that inspires you deeply—and actually write at the same time, which is another quandary.Sarina BowenYou know what, though? This is not uniquely your brain messing with you—like, this is shower thoughts.Multiple Speakers[Overlapping: “Mm-hmm.” “Sorry.” “Ohhh...”]Sarina BowenBut everybody—everybody has those great ideas in the shower, and it's because you have unhooked yourself. You are just in there with the shampoo and the conditioner and that razor that you probably should change the blade with, and like, you know, there is nowhere to write and nothing to do. So your brain is like, I am free right now to unclench and actually solve this problem of chapter 17, and that's what—that's what happens.Jess LaheyIt is my duty, whenever we mention this, to bring up that—years ago, Ron Lieber, the write... uh... the "Your Money" columnist at The New York Times, told me that he has a waterproof little whiteboard situation that's— that lives in the shower. He and his wife, Jodi Kantor—amazing writer as well, Pulitzer Prize–winning writer, even— that these would be people who might just need a waterproof whiteboard in the shower with them.Sarina BowenBut would that ruin the magic…?KJ Dell'AntoniaIt might just...Multiple Speakers[all laughing]Jess LaheyIf you had a place to write it down, your brain would—like—be... your brain would say, "Sorry, I'm not coming up with good ideas."Sarina BowenBecause I don't think I am willing to take this risk. I take a lot of risks in my life, but this one—like; we do not mess with the shower thoughts. I think, I think...KJ Dell'AntoniaSo, so what do we do if you didn't do any of this? If what—you know—what are—you're listening to this podcast, coming back from your trip, and you're like, I... was writing... something...Sarina BowenYou know what, though? I almost feel that we should point out the fact that, like, that is kind of unlikely. Like, somebody should feel welcome to take this trip and to have all those thoughts, and even if you didn't write them down on your whiteboard in the shower or on your handy notebook, like, I would argue that unhitching yourself in the first place possibly leads to a lot of creative development that, even if you don't capture it in the moment, is still with you. Like, I had this fantastic trip in April. I thought I was going to work, and then I did not, and it was, like, the best two weeks of my life. So then, the other day, my husband said, “Hey, there's a new article you need to read in The Athletic,” which is a New York Times sports blog, and I have just pulled it up so that we can recommend it, about how walking makes you a better problem solver. And the framing story of this article is about a retired baseball coach, but, um, but then, when they got around to studying it, um, they said this question planted the seed for the first set of studies to measure if walking produces more creativity. In the series of experiments, Oppezzo and Schwartz [Marily Oppezzo & Daniel L. Schwartz] asked 176 college students to complete different creative thinking tasks while sitting, walking on a treadmill, walking outside through campus, or being pushed in a wheelchair. In one example, the students had to come up with atypical uses for random objects, and anyway, on average, the students' creative output increased by 60% when they were walking.Jennie NashThat's so cool!Sarina BowenAnd the article is—it's so cool—it's called An MLB manager found value in long walks. Research suggests it's a ‘brain-changing power'.Jess LaheyI have put a spot for it in the show notes. And I should mention that this is all part of what we call the default mode network. This is the—the part of our brain that is the wandering, most creative part of our brain. And we can get there lots of ways. Walking is a fantastic way to do it.KJ Dell'AntoniaSarina, if you do have the fear of the manuscript when you're coming back to it, like, take—you know, travel back in time to maybe when you were a little less confident in your abilities. What do you do to get past the fear and sit down?Sarina BowenThere is only one solution, and that is sitting down. And I'm not so great at this—like, when, when the fear creeps up on me, in spite of my best intentions, man, I will do anything to avoid that sucker. And then when I finally do, and I wade back in, almost every time my response is, Oh, this isn't so bad. I know where—I kind of remember now. It's going to be fine, you know. But it's so easy to put off work out of fear. It's—it's the—it's the one big obstacle. Like, I don't put work off for other reasons, you know, because I'm tired or whatever. It's because I'm afraid that there's something fundamentally wrong with the project, or fundamentally wrong with me, and that is almost always what's keeping me from doing good work.Jennie NashThere was, back in the day before computers became what they are now, people would frequently lose manuscript drafts. It was just much harder to save your work. And I can't—I can't explain exactly what changed, but it was. People frequently lost huge chunks of their work if they didn't actively back up. And when I was a new coach and working with writers who would lose their manuscripts, they would be—understandably—beyond devastated. And this often was full manuscripts, just unrecoverable, full manuscripts. And it was true that if they sat down to recreate what they'd written, it would really flow from them, for that same reason—it was still in their brain. They—they had—they'd written it, so there was a sense that they had, they owned it, and they could sit down, and it was kind of quite remarkable. And I would confidently say to them, just sit down, start writing. I think it will come to you, and it always did. It's very interesting.Jess LaheyThere's an example—we've interviewed Sarah Stewart Taylor many times now, and she tells the story of, a long time ago, her youngest managed to crawl across the computer in such a way as to create a password for the document itself, and there's nothing that can be done. She was on the phone with Word—with Microsoft—for a long time, and they're like, look, this is a password you created. We can't—that's not recoverable. So she had to go and recreate—I believe she was about a third of the way into a book—but she said that it actually flowed really well, and that, you know, she'd had it, it had been cooking and stuff like that. So that massive fear of, oh my gosh, how am I going to get back into this project when it has just disappeared? It turned out to be not a thing—that it actually came really easily to her.Jennie NashJess, you're bringing all the very weird stories today, and I'm so here for it—notes on boxes, babies making passwords.Jess LaheyYeah, well, and the hard part—the funny part about that—is like, you cannot recreate a toddler, essentially, like bashing away at your keyboard and creating a password that's never coming back. Sorry.Sarina BowenThere is a writer—she once gave a talk that I heard—a very successful young adult author, Cynthia Leitich Smith, and she apparently wrote a discovery draft of the novel to, like, figure out what it was about and then deleted it and started over on purpose.Jennie NashOn purpose?!Sarina BowenYes, and everyone in the room gasped because, of course, you know that I just rather, like, been in a lot of pain. I'd rather have oral surgery than delete my first draft of a novel. But, um... but yeah, if she was unafraid to get back there after that kind of break, then I think we can all handle it.KJ Dell'AntoniaThis is true. I've never deleted a draft, but I have just gone—poofft—"Let's, let's, let's start again." In fact, almost every time. Kind of sad. I'm doing it now, actually, but it's not a full draft. Anyway. So take the breaks, right? That's what we're saying here.Sarina BowenYeah, take the break.KJ Dell'AntoniaYou can break however you do it, you know, whichever thing you pick, and if you don't do what you thought you were going to do, that's cool, too. It's going to—it's going to be fine.Jess LaheyCan I mention something that has—so that now that we've sort of done mechanics, we've done a little bit about the fear thing, the—the identity thing—has been really hard for me, in that I have these two books that I've written, and I've written a bunch and researched a bunch of things over the past couple of years, and people keep asking me, what are you writing? What are you writing? And the reality is, like, I'm not. I'm working on something, I'm researching something, and I've written a lot of things. In fact, now I'm holding up my cardboard box pieces—I found them. But the day—I'm not, like, meeting a 1200-words-a-day goal. And sometimes I feel really... I feel like a fraud. I feel like a massive fraud. Like, what kind of writer is not actually sitting down and writing 2,000 words a day? And that's incredibly difficult for me. Like, I don't deserve to call myself a writer, even though I have a couple of books out there and I wrote—you know—did all this other stuff. But the thing that I have—there are a couple of things that have really helped—and one of those is to understand that and have some grace for myself around what I happen to know full well what my process is. Yes, I wrote a couple of book proposals that didn't turn into books, but it was only through writing the book proposals that I discovered that those books weren't something that I wanted to write, and only through doing all of this research on audiobooks and writing on the side of cardboard boxes. That's the way I've written every one of my books. And it's not—it's just what works for me. And so having a little bit of this, you know, this feeling of insecurity as a writer, I don't think is—I don't think is unique to me. I think a lot of writers feel this, and it's...KJ Dell'AntoniaNo, all the rest of them are...Jess LaheyAll of them are really...KJ Dell'AntoniaYeah, no, everyone else is just like, well, of course. No, I'm not an imposter.Jess LaheyBut what's great is when I sit down with other writers and I say, what is an integral part of your process that isn't actually about putting the words on the page? That's not some bogus, like, excuse for not writing. You know, the gardening is part of it, the—the research is part of it, the listening to audiobooks is part of it. The writing—or the walking—is part of it. And it's not just a part of it. It is an incredibly important part of it for me, and—and understanding that and owning that about myself has been really a good thing for allowing myself to not—I'm not productive when I just feel guilty or like an imposter every day. It—that's not good for my process. But none of you ever feel that, right?KJ Dell'AntoniaOr apparently the people around you…Jess LaheyThe other thing that has been—well, the other thing that's been really, really helpful is the—and especially from the parenting perspective—is, or the marriage perspective, or the dog perspective, or the bees perspective, is I need to be fully committed to the thing right in front of me when I'm doing that thing. And if I'm feeling guilty about not being with the words when I'm with my children, or not being with my children when I'm with the words, that is awful, too. And so I have found that when I have to let go of all the other stuff and be fully, 100% in, I'm highly distractible. And so if I'm not fully in the thing, and that—all that guilt of not being over there doing that other thing—that's just taking away from the actual process of writing or researching or whatever it is, or taking care of my bees. I have to be fully in the thing I'm in and not feel guilty about not doing something else. And that's been a growth moment for me, too. It only took me—how old am I? I'm 55 now, and I got there somewhere around 50, I think.Jennie NashThere is also—I mean, I—I love what you're saying, and that is a thing to strive for, for sure—to be, to be present in whatever you're doing. But there is also this idea—I always think of it as mental real estate—that you leave for your project, for your idea, for your writing, for your book. That you, that you have a space in your brain devoted to that, and that you visit, whether or not you're producing words. And I think that that, too, is writing. I think, in some ways, that's more writing than sitting at the keyboard. I mean, I always object to the process of just putting words down. And a lot of the things that challenge writers to do that, because they skip that part—the thinking part and the having-the-part—you know, the real estate-in-your-brain part. And I think this connects to the shower—shower thoughts, right? You're gardening or beekeeping, you're walking, you're thinking, you're writing proposals and throwing them out. You're doing all that, that, that's writing. That's the—that's writing in my mind.KJ Dell'AntoniaAnd it's not... I mean the other thing we do say a lot is, you know, "Good writing comes last."Jennie NashYeah.KJ Dell'AntoniaYou've got to do the other stuff. So you can do it on vacation, or you could not do it on vacation. This—I don't think—we just—maybe I—this was my idea, and I think maybe I just needed the reassurance. I have a couple weeks coming up where I'm probably not going to do anything, and I just needed a reminder that that's cool. That's cool. It's all right. It's going to be okay. That's what I—if y'all could just pat me on the head and say "it's going to be okay."Multiple Speakers[Overlapping voices: “Mm-hmm,” “Sorry,” “Ohhh...”]KJ Dell'AntoniaSix or ten times an hour, that might be about what I need.Jess LaheyWell and one of the other things that has been really cool this summer is I've been on a streak of really good books. And every one of those really good books that I've been reading has made me like, Oh, I could do this. Oh my gosh, I could do that. I could write like her. I could I could write this other thing. And it's, it's all that energy is good and it's all a good thing to sit on a beach and read a book, or sit in the woods and read a book. It's all great.KJ Dell'AntoniaAll right, everybody, go collect some energy. Hey, on that note, who's read something good lately?Jennie NashI want to hear all these great books, Jess.Jess LaheySo I really have been on this roll. I've already talked about Atmosphere in an earlier podcast, the Taylor Jenkins Reid thing. But then I've been on this Tess Gerritsen jag, because we're—I'm interviewing Tess Gerritsen later this week. You guys will get to hear her later this summer. I am... Sarina and KJ, I believe, read the first of her new series that she has set in Maine and with a couple of retired CIA agents and spies in Maine. And then I enjoyed those so much that I went all the way back to the beginning—to her first book, The Surgeon, which I didn't even know was turned into this whole series called Rizzoli and Isles. It's a television show—I had no idea. And now I'm deep into Tess Gerritsen land. I'm still—I found out that there's going to be a movie of the book by the guy who wrote The Martian, Andy...Sarina BowenAndy WeirJess LaheyAndy Weir, thank you. And I was warned very specifically on social media not to watch the preview—the trailer—for the new movie that is going to be coming out with Ryan Gosling later on this summer, because it ruins the book. The book is called Hail Mary… Project Hail Mary. So I very quickly turned away from social media and said, Ooh, I better read the book really quickly before anyone ruins it for me, and I am enjoying the heck out of Project Hail Mary. So it's been really fun. Yeah.Sarina BowenI am reading a book that KJ put into my hands. And the fun part is that I don't remember why she put it into my hands, you know. Like, why did I pick up this book? Like, it happens all the time. It's called All the Other Mothers Hate Me by Sarah Harman.Jennie NashWhat a great title.Sarina BowenYeah, like, I picked up this book, and my husband said, oh my God, what a great title. And so, yes, that's super cool. And it's very voice-y. And the—the flap copy has the—a premise that smacks of a thriller, but the voice isn't like all deep, dark thriller. And so I think maybe the contrast of those two things might be why KJ put it into my hands. But I am enjoying the fabulous writing, and I'm—I'm still at the beginning, but the way she introduces characters is really sharp. So even that alone is like a little master class on introducing characters.KJ Dell'AntoniaYeah, that was why I gave it to you, was that we'd been talking about, you know, the voice, and also because we'd been talking about, like, funny thrillers versus thriller-y thrillers. And this isn't funny, but it's super voice-y. It reminds me of the one you pressed into my hands, which maybe is a little funnier—Listen for the Lie.Sarina BowenYeah, yeah.Jennie NashWell, I'm reading something very different, which is not—not very beachy. I go to a yoga class that is taught by a middle grade English teacher, and she runs her yoga class sort of like English class, where she always starts with a poem and throughout the class, she refers back to the poem in a very embodied way that you're doing the yoga around. And then she reads the poem again at the end. It's—its spectacular. She's—she's so popular at our yoga studio that you have to, you know, fight your way in. But she read a poem by a woman named Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer—and that's Rosemerry like Christmas Merry, so: Rosemerry. And the book is called The Unfolding. And I say it's very different from what you are all mentioning because this woman experienced the death of her young son and father in very close proximity, and her poems are ostensibly about grief, but they're just filled with joy and hope and delight. And, you know, it's kind of that thing you're talking about, Sarina—that it's—here's a book about tragedy and grief, but it's—there's something about the voice that just is—is fresh. And they're just—they're just stunning, just absolutely stunning. And I have gone and ordered all her books, of which there are—are many. So she's a new voice to me, and I just—I can't get enough of them. They're incredible.KJ Dell'AntoniaWell, here I am going to go back to the fiction summary read-y thing. I am very late to The Thursday Murder Club party, but it is joy. It is so much fun—really your sort of classic Agatha Christie stuff, but way, way funnier and more entertaining, with a dash of elderly spies. So we're on that theme. And then I also want to mention, just because I liked it so much—and I'm not sure I want everyone to read it—What Kind of Paradise by Janelle Brown. This could be your lit fic read of the summer. It's somewhere—but—but it's still a page turner. And I thought the premise was extremely great. Basically, it's: what if the Unabomber had also raised a young daughter with him in the woods on all of his theories, back when the Unabomber was living in the woods, and inadvertently involved her in his first kill before she got away? And now she's an adult looking back at what happened. And Janelle Brown is a Silicon Valley person. She's really steeped in this culture. She really knows this world. It's a really good book—plus super entertaining.Jennie NashI love it.KJ Dell'AntoniaThat's it!Jess LaheyI love it when we have a lot of good stuff, because there have been a couple weeks this year where we were like, I was just let down this time around. But yay, I'm loving this.KJ Dell'AntoniaAll right, I think that's it for us this week, kids. Remember, if you support the podcast, you get bonus content every week right now, because we are killing it. You might get Jess's Soup to Nuts series, where she is coaching a fellow writer on creating a nonfiction proposal that also will work with her speaking career. You can join me and Jennie on a weekly basis as we flail our way through the beginnings of writing a couple of books. And of course, on a monthly basis, we've got the Booklab, where we look at the First Pages of novels submitted by listeners. And if you'd like to submit to the Booklab, that'd be great. Jess will put the link in the show notes.Jess LaheyIndeed, Jess will. And until next week, everyone, keep your butt in the chair and your head in the game.The Hashtag AmWriting Podcast is produced by Andrew Perella. Our intro music, aptly titled Unemployed Monday, was written and played by Max Cohen. Andrew and Max were paid for their time and their creative output, because everyone deserves to be paid for their work. This is a public episode. 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Send us a textNavigating Life's Challenges with Mind Over HeartIn this episode of From The Inside Out Podcast with Rivkah and Eda,we explore the intricate dynamics of balancing the mind and heart in overcoming life's challenges. Leia shares personal experiences and practical advice on maintaining spiritual and emotional equilibrium while integrating the teachings of Tanya. This uplifting conversation delves into the significance of choice, self-belief, and the power of intention in navigating various aspects of life. Tune in for an enriching session filled with valuable lessons on spiritual growth, self-awareness, and impactful living.EPISODE SPONSORSCIONA WIGS MIAMI & CHAYA HAIR & REPAIRThis episode is sponsored by Ciona Wigs Miami and Chaya Hair & Repair.Ciona's pieces are known for their beauty and comfort, and Chaya brings them to life with expert customization and care. From lace repairs to natural-looking hairlines, they're dedicated to helping you feel like yourself—without compromising on quality or service.Visit their instagram and websites to explore their pieces, book a repair, or learn more: @ciona_wigs cionawigsmiami.com and @chayahairandrepair chayahairandrepair.com.GUEST BIOMrs. Leah Rosenfeld is the co-director of Chabad of Lake Worth, Florida. Leah is a charismatic teacher of teens and adults, and was featured at the renowned JLI retreat. Her classes and workshops are filled with energy and inspiration and leave the listener thinking about new ideas, and how to implement them.CHAPTERS00:00 – Opening & Sponsors02:06 – Introduction04:50 – Tanya in Action: Mind Over Heart09:15 – Choosing Not to React When Hurt12:50 – Radical Transparency in Relationships15:40 – Balancing Emotions & Logic18:40 – Growing Through Challenge35:30 – Letting Go & Building Trust41:10 – Shalom Bayis & Naming with Grace42:30 – Holding Back as Strength44:50 – When Passion Cloud Judgment47:15 – Shabbos Candles & Resetting Emotion56:00 – Bechirah: Choosing with the Soul01:15:20 – The Struggle with the Animal Soul01:25:50 – Guilt vs. Remorse in Tanya01:33:20 – Growth as the Goal01:37:20 – Resistance to Change01:54:00 – Holy Actions Begin with IntentionCOMMUNITYJoin the Community! Connect with us on socials to discuss Episode 101, share insights, and continue the conversations you want to have:

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Today's episode explores a crucial topic that warrants our attention. We are discussing the after-effects of postpartum depression, postpartum anxiety, and perinatal mental health conditions. The lingering sense of guilt, sadness, regret, grief, anger, and frustration comes as a result of feeling that you weren't present during the postpartum time. How much time does it take to “make up” for that time that you felt disconnected and anything but joyful about motherhood? Do you feel that you missed important milestones in your baby's life? All of these are important questions that many mothers wrestle with in a constant mental battle. Let's take a closer look. Show Highlights: Where does the unreasonable pressure come from? Are you punishing yourself? The truth: You WERE there in all the ways you could manage at the time. You do acts of love and caring, even if you don't feel like doing them. What you need now is what you needed then: compassion, support, and loving thoughts. Self-compassion brings gentleness into the picture. Healing needs to happen (and that means allowing yourself to grieve). Dr. Kat leads a healing exercise to try on your own. (Try it!) Your healing is valid and worthwhile, even if you can't see it yourself. Resources: Call the National Maternal Mental Health Hotline at 1-833-TLC-MAMA or visit cdph.ca.gov Please find resources in English and Spanish at Postpartum Support International, or by phone/text at 1-800-944-4773. There are many free resources, like online support groups, peer mentors, a specialist provider directory, and perinatal mental health training for therapists, physicians, nurses, doulas, and anyone who wants to be more supportive in offering services.  You can also follow PSI on social media: Instagram, Facebook, and most other platforms. Visit www.postpartum.net/professionals/certificate-trainings/ for information on the grief course.   Visit my website, www.wellmindperinatal.com, for more information, resources, and courses you can take today! If you are a California resident looking for a therapist in perinatal mental health, email me about openings for private pay clients! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As we close out this word concerning the Lord giving us victory against our present enemy, we must remove all condemnation and guilt to assure our breakthrough.  On today's Podcast, we share how David did this and was victorious.  

Did the early Church believe the common Pre-Tribulation doctrines out there? Is gambling a sin? The Bereans and Sola Scriptura? Join us for Called to Communion with Dr. David Anders.

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Did the early Church believe the common Pre-Tribulation doctrines out there? Is gambling a sin? The Bereans and Sola Scriptura? Join us for Called to Communion with Dr. David Anders.