Coconut Yogurt

Welcome back! In this episode, we share the lessons and musings we've encountered on our trips to Cazadero, CA and Sedona, AZ. We also share our experiences about our first week with moldavite, the lessons we've been learning from our vivid dreams, how we're bringing our highest self to the present moment, and how redefining productivity based on our own values has impacted our lives. Also – Mystical Matchmaking should be a thing.

In this episode, we begin with our thoughts on HBO's Big Little Lies and how it's affected us to reflect on our personal perspectives on dating + romantic relationships as a whole. We talk about the fears we have as women in the daunting world of casual, online dating, as well as how our self worth truly defines the way a romantic relationship can unfold. Sophia reads some passages from Glennon Doyle's stunning memoir, Untamed, in which Doyle describes the power of imagination as fuel for creation in a refreshing light, and allows us to view a concept as seemingly esoteric and intangible as manifestation/visualization with an unprecedented clarity of something as universal as human experience.

In this episode, we discuss how quarantine and graduation have impacted our relationships with our parents and growing up with the Internet. In the past, we saw our parents as GODS who had all the right answers but as we get older, we're seeing eye to eye with them and the dynamic shift is … weird. It can also become more challenging when our parents better understand the changes in our life we're facing but we have no way of truly understanding the changes they're experiencing. This is your gentle nudge to bring more empathy (than usual) into future conversations with your parents and maybe even to start watching This Is Us (strong recommendation from Sophia).

What's in a mindset? In this episode, we explore a variety of topics – from becoming the manager of your emotions to getting a life-changing perm. In our experiences, a change in mindset has unlocked hidden opportunities and built the positive momentum we never knew we needed. The decision to commit to change is the hardest part but why not make it easier by getting a new haircut or putting on an outfit that makes you feel hot! The gist is that in every moment, we have a decision on how we want to feel – so how do you want to feel right now?

In this candid episode, we talk about astral projection, the challenges of fusing art and capitalism, and the divine timing of Pixar's new movie, Soul. This movie has been inspiring in so many ways and has even been a seed for Sophia's latest creative venture, @hausbylau. HAUSBYLAU sells handcrafted earrings made with polymer clay, acrylic paint, and lots of love :-,) – you can now check it out on Depop and Instagram!

Get to know us a little bit better (and reflect along!) as we play the Self Reflection extension pack from the We're Not Really Strangers card game. In this episode, we answer the following questions: – What's the most exciting improvement you've been seeing in yourself recently? – What am I putting off that feels important? Why am I avoiding it? – Are any of my insecurities hurting anyone else by accident? – How would I describe my relationship with myself in one word? – When do I feel most helpful to others?

In this episode, we invite Jackie back onto Coconut Yogurt. We share the feelings and lessons we've encountered on The Great Conjunction. While all this spiritual woo-woo talk can sometimes feel elusive, we've taken these events as signs and opportunities to set boundaries, shed what doesn't serve us, and carve out a life that is based in self love. The Great Conjunction, the Pattern app, the Costar app, and tarot readings have also become vehicles to shed light on the shadow work we want to deal with before the new year. Jackie and Sophie have also started a new creative accountability project on TikTok that you guys can keep up with @laudlee. Just a reminder that all of our episode titles are written and designed as journal prompts that you can use in your own self-reflection following the episode! This journal prompt is the one that we discussed in the episode as an exercise used the night of The Great Conjunction.

Change is the only constant in our life and gaining “clarity” might just be overrated. We share our wavering thoughts and how we've been attempting to ground ourselves in this time. In this episode, we realize that a reframing of the intimidating questions we're asking are a key part of allowing ourselves to be, living more presently, and accepting the lack of clarity. We express our anxieties and guilt that come with wanting to enjoy a good book in a capitalistic society that values hard work and career over everything else, and discuss how analyzing our fundamental beliefs about our self worth can be pivotal in organically changing our habits to become in alignment of what we believe that we deserve. Just a reminder that all of our episode titles are written and designed as journal prompts that you can use in your own self-reflection following the episode!

In our first episode apart and online, we have a raw conversation about our current state of exploration in the defining decade. From making pivotal changes like moving to rejecting traditional corporate careers, we dive deeper into the mental and emotional hurdles that we're encountering. Other than empowering ourselves with our own definition of what a successful life is “supposed” to be, we discuss how reaching out to people who are on our ideal paths, applying The Four Agreements to our present experiences, and routine journaling (no surprise) have been keeping us grounded. Just a reminder that all of our episode titles are written and designed as journal prompts that you can use in your own self-reflection following the episode!

After reading Meg Jay's “The Defining Decade” and experiencing bouts of nostalgia, we reflect on the knowledge we've received and how we're using it to approach our defining decade. In this episode, we also talk about the impact of mentors (offline and online), the lack of guidance in the educational system, and factoring gratitude in our daily life while our journeys still feel unclear. Out of these reflections, we're slowly learning to be patient with our small lifestyle changes and accepting that growth is like training a muscle.

In this episode, we define personal “energy” and how celebrities and the people around us utilize it to attract huge opportunities and followings in their life. What defines a “healthy” relationship with social media, how is our relationship with social media similar to that of a codependent, romantic relationship, and how can we use what we know about our social media habits to identify the pitfalls and joys of our life outside of it? We discuss the meaning of the quote, “You only get what you have the courage to ask for,” and how the core of this is reflected in the white-business-man's energy in the classroom in comparison to that of a child of newly immigrated parents… We also bring up how energy reflects the absence of truth, as every different perception creates a different reality on the quantum level, and dive into the current book we're reading, “Atomic Habits,” by James Clear.

In this episode, Jackie returns for a lengthy discussion about burnout culture in college – types of burnout, what it derives from, how it's affecting our generation, and ways to combat it. We recount stories from our personal university experiences, and reflect on the changes that have developed ever since.

In this episode, we do a deep dive of the Amy Lee content we've been consuming recently. Our discussion revolves around the pros and cons of therapy, trauma's overlooked intergenerational nature, attachment styles, and love languages. Relationships can be hard, perhaps for the very reason that they can always serve as opportunities to learn more about ourselves, which, as we all know, is a never ending process.

We invite our friend Jackie to sit down and chat casually about getting tattoos, establishing community, and what it means to be a "central node" in a social network. We also recorded our conversation on Instagram Live (@eatcoconutyogurt) and uploaded to our Coconut Yogurt Youtube channel!

In this episode, we talk about our week experimenting with new creative pursuits and being inspired by Van Leeuwen's vegan ice-cream, as well as some lessons we're in the process of learning revolving around self-love. “We accept the love we think we deserve,” has never rung truer to our ears as we reflect on how even an act as simple as receiving a compliment can serve as a reflection to what we think we are deserving of. We also reference the heavy stereotypes placed on young, impressionable women as depicted in Euphoria, and why it's more important than ever to break out of these societal expectations to succeed in true self-love. (Apologies for the technical difficulties & late upload! Hope everyone is staying safe and healthy.)

This week, we dive into a discussion centered on the often overlooked concept of growth vs. fixed mindset, particularly what role they've recently played in our personal lives, and the ways that we have been trying to bridge the gap between our current and future selves – method acting as a technique for personal development, scripting as a regular journal practice, and ways that we have strived to heal our inner child wounds. Link to Youtube accompaniment: https://youtu.be/xxiRKZtQ2pY

After a several week hiatus, Sophie and Brittany are back to chat about the struggles of moving into our new LA apartment and adapting to a new city. We discuss our mutual gratitude for everything that has led up to us being together in this moment, our common intentions for our time here, and our attempt at establishing a morning routine to create structure in our lives. Also – we have a Youtube channel now! (and our first video accompaniment to this audio) Check us out if you want the 3-D experience of being in the conversation (or if you're just curious to see what we look like) – https://youtu.be/xsCK7U6b0LQ

Is it cool to care? How much is too much? We investigate the messy nuances that come with “caring” about the things in our life, such as in the thrill of the chase in our dating lives, the quality of an artist's work, and the capacity for people to break away from perfectionism in the pursuit of their personal creative goals.

A candid conversation on dating during quarantine and how the Hinge algorithm is prompting some self-reflection.

A passionate discussion about the way language learning cultivates our inner child, and the role of the ego in repressing this childlike wonder during our adolescence.

We investigate the line drawn between cultural appropriation and cultural appreciation, and discuss its relationship with media (Avatar), trends (fox-eyes, box-braids), and the high standards placed on celebrities to be politically correct ($tupid Young, Madison Beer).

What is nostalgia, and why is it so all-consuming? After visiting our childhood homes where we first met, we unpack the escapist nature of nostalgia and its role in our lives – how it can be toxic and indulgent, but at the same time necessary and healing.

How our inner circles are a reflection of our current stage of personal development and how cancel-culture can bleed into our willingness to express empathy when it's most essential.

An Asian American female take on the intricacies of dating, types versus fetishes, and the narrow beauty standards placed on Asian women.

Defining "wellness" through our personal experiences, "The Yoga of Eating," and the power of mindfulness.

We discuss why Netflix's "Never Have I Ever" requires more Asian American storytellers to step up, Netflix's replacement of Disney and Nickelodeon, and its implications on the future of the TikTok generation.  

What is coconut yogurt, who are we, and why are we doing this?