Just a Girl Pastor

Join me as I talk with my friend Rhyan, who like me, stepped into a calling in ministry as a pastor and was shut down at every point. Rhyan shares with us her story of how she began deconstructing as she fought to leave an abusive marriage and church system that ultimately forced her to lose everything. Her courage and strength is something to be admired and I am so grateful to have had the chance to hear more of her story. Rhyan is a digital creator, actress, photographer, singer, and model (to name a few things). You can find Rhyan on IG @rhyanmichele and you can also check out her photography business @cinemanshots As always, thank you so much for listening to the show and being on this journey with me! You can support this show here: https://anchor.fm/heather-r89 and you can find me on IG @justagirlpastor --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/heather-r89/support

Join me as I talk with my good friend Bekah about parenting while deconstructing our faith. I had the pleasure of hearing more of Bekah's story about how she started deconstructing and ultimately leaving the church and the impact that had on her family life and parenting style. We discuss the ways her and her husband have learned to communicate with their children and how they have learned to incorporate their own personal growth and relearning into the way they parent together. Bekah is an amazing women who has been so inspiring to me in my own parenting journey and I do hope you go check out her page @bekahsays and follow her! She is also the co-founder of Help Humans which is a brand advocating for re-humanizing people. You can find all their merch here: helphumans.care As always, thank you so much for listening and supporting this show! If you have questions or comments feel free to email me at: justagirlpastor@gmail.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/heather-r89/support

Happy 2022 everyone and welcome to Season 2! I had the honor of talking with David Hayward (aka Naked Pastor) and hearing more of his personal story with deconstruction and what led him to start Naked Pastor and bring us all the amazing books, art and cartoons we all know, love and share! David is genuinely one of the kindest people I've met and it was a pleasure having this conversation with him! He was a pastor for over 30 years and he explains more about why he finally had to leave the church. We talked about his thoughts on misogyny in the church and how certain verses are abused and taken out of context when it comes to gender equality. He also told me more about some of his profound and unexplainable mystical experiences. You don't want to miss this conversation! You can find David on IG @nakedpastor and you can find all of his work at https://nakedpastor.com/ Thanks so much for listening to and supporting this show! I love you all! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/heather-r89/support

I cannot thank you all enough for being on this crazy journey with me and listening to and supporting this show! When I first started this show I hoped for it to be a place of hope for people like me who found themselves in a space of growing and unlearning so many harmful things that were so deeply ingrained in us in the church and the evangelical world. It has been an honor to hear so many of your stories and to get to walk with you on your own journey! Thank you so much for making this process so much lighter and way more full of love than I ever could have imagined! I love you all! Truly. Here's to the end of Season 1 and cheers to new adventures, more healing, and more growing than we could ever imagine in 2022! See you in Season 2!!! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/heather-r89/support

Gary and I continue our conversation and dive deeper into a candid conversation about mental health and caring for yourself. TW: drug use and childhood neglect Gary is such an incredibly strong fighter and it has been so amazing as his friend seeing him learn to care for and stand up for himself in setting boundaries and learning what it means to put himself first. He is truly an inspiration. Follow him on IG @garebear1313 his DM's are always open! If you are enjoying this show, please take a moment to rate it and share it! I truly appreciate it! Follow me on IG @justagirlpastor and email me at justagirlpastor@gmail.com Thank you so much for listening to and supporting this show! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/heather-r89/support

In this 2 part series I get to talk to my friend of 10+ years and hear more of his story about coming out as gay and the adversities he faced as a result with his family and the people around him. TW: Suicide, drug addiction, alcohol addiction, rejection as a result of coming out as gay ***If you are listening to this and you have had suicidal thoughts or ideations, you don't have to go through that alone. Please call the Suicide Hotline and someone can help: (800) 273-8255 Gary shares his experience growing up in a toxic environment and being forced to go from place to place after he came out as gay. We also talk a little bit about how we met and how our preconceived ideas about each other didn't stop us from being good friends. You can follow Gary on IG @garebear1313 If you have not subscribed and rate this show yet, please do! It really helps get this show out to more people! You can follow me on IG @justagirlpastor for more content and as always, feel free to reach out to me at justagirlpastor@gmail.com Thanks so much for listening!!! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/heather-r89/support

In this episode I had to pleasure of talking with my friend Brad from @brad.lifecoach about his story of leaving the church. Brad had been in ministry 20+ years before he began his deconstruction journey. He is a certified life coach and it has been such an honor to get to know him and hear more of his story. Brad also tells us about his daughter's coming out as BI and how that impacted his time as a pastor and much more, you don't want to miss this episode! You can find Brad on Instagram @brad.lifecoach and also on his website coachingwithbrad.org As always, if you have any questions or topics you'd like me to cover please email me at: justagirlpastor@gmail.com Thanks so much for listening! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/heather-r89/support

In this episode Terrence and I continue our conversation about white Christian Nationalism, racism in the church and we even dive a little bit into Purity culture. We discuss the difference in our own personal generation and how we were impacted by things like purity culture. I'm so thankful for conversations like these and I hope they bring you hope that love and empathy can move us forward in these issues. If you have any questions or topics you'd like me to cover please email me at: justagirlpastor@gmail.com or find me on Instagram @justagirlpastor As always, thanks for listening and being a part of this journey with me! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/heather-r89/support

In this episode I am joined by my best friend of 17+ years, Terrence! Terrence is a husband, father and musician/worship leader who is currently in the Evangelical church. We have conversations like these all the time, but I thought it would be cool to bring him on and let you all hear some of his wisdom and experiences! Terrence tells us about some of his personal experience with racism and with being in predominantly white Christian spaces as a black man, and what that has been like for him. We also discuss some of his ideas and hopes for the church and how it can be more humanizing and loving in this current climate. You won't want to miss this 2 part series! Thank you so much for listening! If you have any questions or comments please feel free to reach out at justagirlpastor@gmail.com or follow me on instagram @justagirlpastor for more content! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/heather-r89/support

In this episode I had the pleasure of talking with Becky from Also Your Daughters podcast about her experience of reparenting her inner child and healing from trauma. Becky has posted content in the past where she talks about loving and accepting her younger self and how that has helped her heal as an adult and now mother of 2 girls. You don't want to miss this episode! If you haven't heard her podcast yet or followed her IG account you can do that here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/also-your-daughters/id1495708915 and @alsoyourdaughters The books she recommends in this episode are here: 1. The Making Of Biblical Womanhood https://www.amazon.com/Making-Biblical-Womanhood-Subjugation-Became/dp/1587434709/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1633376138&sr=8-1 2. Jesus and John Wayne https://www.amazon.com/Jesus-John-Wayne-Evangelicals-Corrupted/dp/1631495739/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1633376138&sr=8-4 3. How To Talk So Kids Will Listen https://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/1451663870/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1633376226&sr=8-3 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/heather-r89/support

In this short episode, I wanted to share some of my current thoughts about where I am at in my deconstruction journey and also tell you a little bit more about how I got my name. Thanks so much for being on this journey with me! If you haven't had a chance yet to rate and review this show please do! Feel free to email me at, justagirlpastor@gmail.com with any questions or topics you would like me to do on the show! You can find me on IG @justagirlpastor --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/heather-r89/support

In this episode Bret and I continue our conversation about education and schooling. Bret shares about his experience within the public school world and also how his home life impacted his overall experience. Thank you so much for listening! If you haven't had a chance to like, rate or review this podcast please do! It really helps people to find us! Love you all! As always, if you have any questions, comments or topics you'd like us to cover you can email me at: justagirlpastor@gmail.com or find me on Instagram @justagirlpastor --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/heather-r89/support

In this 2 part series on education, Bret and I talk about our unique personal experiences with our own education growing up as Christians in the evangelical world. TW: Mental health, dysfunctional families, Dr. Dobson and Focus on the Family, and neglect. If any of these topics are a trigger for you please care for yourself and skip over this episode. As always, if you have any questions or comments or topics you would like us to cover you can email me at: justagirlpastor@gmail.com and/or find me on Instagram @justagirlpastor The article I mention in this episode is: https://responsiblehomeschooling.org/research/summaries/a-brief-history-of-homeschooling/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/heather-r89/support

Join us as we talk about the connection we feel toward the Married at First Sight show and more about our dating experience in a cult. We also discuss the impact of certain purity culture advocates such as, Elisabeth Elliot, Mark Driscoll and Joshua Harris. We hope our story brings you a sense that you are not alone and that the damage of purity culture is real. Thanks for listening. Email me at: justagirlpastor@gmail.com and find me on Instagram @justagirlpastor --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/heather-r89/support

Welcome to the show! I'm just a girl pastor and I'm so glad you've joined me. In this episode I share a little bit about who I am, where I came from, my background within the church, how I left and more! I hope my story brings you a sense of hope in your deconstruction journey! Thanks for listening! If you have any questions or comments please email me at: justagirlpastor@gmail.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/heather-r89/support