Podcasts about purity culture

This ladies-only Q&A gets practical fast. You'll hear encouragement for retraining your brain to see sex as good, not dirty, plus what to do when arousal disappears on the pill, why penetration is not enough for orgasm, and how to stop feeling like your pleasure is a burden to your husband! Ladies, tune in!! Watch the episode on YouTube!! Our Episodes: Birds & Bees Episode The Higher Desire Wife Menstrual Cycle Episode Thoughts During Sex episode Our Products: Figuring Out What I Like Guide Resources: Orgasm Course Waitlist KS Sex Challenges Married Dance: Use the code KINGDOMSEXUALITY for 10% off Birds and Bees Courses: Use code KINGDOM20 for 20% off the course Awaken Love  Cycle Syncing Resource The Eden Feeling Sexy book ⁠My Counselor Online⁠ ⁠Better Help⁠ ⁠⁠Join Unite & Ignite ⁠⁠ Want more from Kingdom Sexuality? Come hang out! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Approximate Time Stamps: 0:01 — Intro / ladies' Q&A setup 0:59 — Verse of the day 1:23 — Topic overview: purity culture, pleasure, and random questions 1:56 — How to retrain your brain to enjoy sex instead of seeing it as dirty 4:14 — Resource: Hannah Ward / The Eden 4:59 — Feeling sexy for my husband feels sinful 8:13 — How to talk to your kids about sex 9:30 — Married a year and still don't know what I like 10:45 — Retraining your brain after purity culture 11:03 — Not seeing my pleasure as a burden to my husband 14:18 — Shame about having desire at all 16:28 — Wanting lovemaking to be more interesting 18:07 — Loss of arousal on the pill 18:46 — How to tell my husband I've been faking it 20:07 — Orgasm only on top / grinding 20:30 — Types of touch based on your cycle 22:01 — Why penetration alone doesn't lead to orgasm 23:17 — Is it lust to want pleasure? 25:06 — How to stay present and not let your mind wander 26:40 — Closing prayer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the reason intimacy carries so much weight for men is that it's the only place we've been given permission to be fully human?Dr. Celeste Holbrook is a sexologist with a PhD in health education and thirteen years of practice working with couples. Her book, Missionary Position: A Slightly Irreverent Guide to Sex After Purity Culture, helps people rebuild their relationship with their own bodies after being taught to fear them. In this episode, she joins Jon and Will for one of the most direct conversations we've had about why men struggle to talk about intimacy, what purity culture actually did to boys, why rejection lands as a rejection of self, and what changes when men have more than one place to experience their own emotions.IN THIS EPISODE:1.  How purity culture shaped men differently than women — and what it taught boys about their own bodies2.  Why intimacy becomes the only sanctioned outlet for male emotion — and the cost of that3.  The desire gap: why every couple has one, and how to negotiate it without resentment4.  Why a no can land as a rejection of self, and the work required on both sides5.  Focus on what you want to feel, not what you want to do — the reframe that changes everythingMore about Dr. Celeste Holbrook:1.  Website: https://www.drcelesteholbrook.com2.  Book: Missionary Position: A Slightly Irreverent Guide to Sex after Purity Culture - available on Amazon and her website. Don't forget to check out her book club!  Check out our Awareness-to-action Self Mastery COURSE & COMMUNITY:12 modules on attention, presence & performance. Work at your own pace plus a community built for Inspiration and connection.1.  www.focusnowtraining.com/a2a-CourseJOIN US IN PERSON — Future Events and Retreats.1.  Live in-person event: Warrior Defined. We will be in Charlotte, NC, September 25, 2026 more info HERE: Or mentalkingmindfulness.comGET MORE FROM MTM:Text MTM to 33777 — free weekly newsletter1.  Subscribe: mentalkingmindfulness.com2.  FNT: focusnowtraining.comBRING FNT TO YOUR TEAM:1.  focusnowtraining.com/contactProduced by Robert Lopez | https://www.cratesaudio.com/

Send us a Positive Review!Lately there has been a lot of talk about the LDS disaffiliation crisis in the 21st century. Here at Latter Day Struggles we support open dialogue about what happening in our LDS homes and congregations.  Please enjoy this special "audiobook" addition of a Latter Day Struggles series unpacking some groundbreaking research done by therapist Liz Macdonald exploring common LDS family dynamics shared by young adults whose disaffiliation experiences were the most challenging.  We care about people all across the spectrum of faith in and around the LDS church.  Taking research like this seriously could profoundly reshape our community in healthy ways. Timestamps:00:00 Welcome03:54 Meet Liz and The Study11:48 Method and Study Limits22:03 Four Key Findings Overview28:00 Disconnected From Self52:20 Fear-Based Theology and Parenting01:02:38 Conditional Love and Worthiness01:12:42 False Self and Hidden Struggles01:22:32 One-Way Communication and Fear01:31:17 Blaming Outside Influences01:40:20 New Episode Research Overview01:57:49 Purity Culture and Shame02:08:05 Adult Development and Compassion02:20:19 Fear of Selfhood02:30:25 High Demand Religion02:44:22 Research Recap02:52:12 Eight Stages Walkthrough03:04:59 Parents Threatened by Growth03:19:13 Fundamentalism and Safety03:27:20 From Identity to Intimacy03:34:37 Recommendations and Repair03:41:27 Closing and ResourcesSupport the showSupport the showListen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODESFriday Episodes Annual Access $89Friday Episodes Monthly Access $10Valerie's Support & Processing GroupsGift a ScholarshipDownload Free ResourcesVisit our Website

"In this episode Trevor talks to Macy Burkett, Ph. D about purity culture, feminism, her PH. D research, and whether or not there is such a thing as a fundamentalist atheist. https://www.kmacyburkett.com/ Support Belief It Or Not Created by Trevor Poelman Produced and Edited by Jamie Carlisle Produced by Michael Mongiardi Art by Joel Jackson Music by Devon Hyland Special Thanks to The Sonar Network Visit https://www.beliefitornot.com/ Email enquiries to Trevor.Poelman@BeliefItOrNot.com Follow Belief It Or Not: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beliefitornot Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beliefitornotpodcast/ BlueSky: https://bsky.app/profile/beliefitornot.bsky.social TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@beliefitornot Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/beliefitornot Brought to you By: The Sonar Network https://thesonarnetwork.com/

In this episode, We react to a sermon delivered by Eddie Lapina of First Baptist Church of Hammond, Indiana, at their annual Pastors' School event. This sermon also happens to be word-for-word the same sermon delivered by convicted sex criminal and disgraced former FBCH Pastor Jack Schaap nearly 20 years ago.Subscribe to Leaving Eden Podcast on YouTube!https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ4q94gAnsoW2jME4SvVrrQJoin our Patreon for extended, uncensored, and ad-free versions of most of our episodes, as well as other patron perks and bonus content!https://www.patreon.com/LeavingEdenPodcastJoin our Facebook group to join in the discussion with other fans!https://www.facebook.com/groups/edenexodusJoin our subreddit! Reddit.com/r/EdenExodusBluesky:@leavingedenpodcast.bsky.social@hellyeahsadie.bsky.social@gavihacohen.bsky.socialInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/leavingedenpodcast/https://www.instagram.com/sadiecarpentermusic/https://www.instagram.com/gavrielhacohen/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week, I talk with Kate Johnson about her deconstruction journey and healing from religious trauma. Listen to hear all about: How growing up in evangelical culture created an information bubble. We reflect on how strict media restrictions, homeschooling, and Christian-only entertainment reinforced the belief that avoiding certain books, movies, and ideas would keep families spiritually and physically safe. How trauma exposed the cracks in that worldview. Kate Johnson shares how her father's arrest for child sexual abuse material shattered the promise that following every rule would guarantee safety, leading to a painful reevaluation of the community and beliefs she trusted. Why forgiveness without accountability can deepen harm. We discuss how teachings about immediate forgiveness sometimes minimize abuse, shift responsibility onto victims, and allow perpetrators to avoid meaningful accountability. When books became a path toward healing and perspective. Kate Johnson shares how fantasy novels initially provided escape during childhood, while later works by authors like Kristin Kobes Du Mez, Rachel Held Evans, and Tia Levings helped her understand her experiences within the larger context of evangelical culture rather than seeing them as isolated events. How deconstruction ultimately led to connection instead of fear. Rather than abandoning spirituality altogether, we discuss moving toward a spirituality rooted in curiosity, community, nature, joy, and authentic human connection instead of shame, perfectionism, and control. Links: Kate Johnson's Substack Kate Johnson's List of Books for Healing from Religious Trauma Kate Johnson's List of Books on Purity Culture All the Bookwild Links:Check Out the Bookwild SubstackSubscribe to Bookwild on YouTubeGet Bookwild MerchFollow @imbookwild on InstagramCheck Out Author Social Media Packages Follow Co-hosts On Instagram:Gare Billings @gareindeedreadsSteph Lauer @books.in.badgerlandHalley Sutton @halleysutton25Brian Watson @readingwithbrianMacKenzie Green @missusa2mbaErin Ashley @bellametaphor

In this episode, Honey is joined by sex coach and author, Courtney Boyer, to talk about all things purity culture and polyamory.Courtney was raised in purity culture, so we talk about what she learnt about sex and relationships amidst a religious background.She explains how getting into a marriage confirmed everything she thought she knew about sex and relationships, and her journey to realising she was polyamorous, and beyond.We discuss what she has learnt about herself since revealing she's polyamorous, and why women are increasingly having these realisations later in life.You can find Courtney on Instagram, TikTok, and her website. Her books Opened and Not Tonight, Honey are available on Amazon and from local bookstores. As always, you can find Sextras on Substack, Instagram, TikTok, and our website. Email Honey at sextraspodcast@gmail.com, leave us an anonymous message on the website, or DM me with any questions or dilemmas you have.Edited and produced by Honey Jane Wyatt Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Send us Fan MailAnd….we're BACK with a fresh new season of the Bare Marriage podcast! We're kicking things off with a lively deep dive into the debate over purity culture, asking what happens when influential Christian voices revise their past teachings, redefine the terms, and rewrite the history of what they once taught. We unpack the difference between biblical chastity and shame-based purity culture, take on straw man arguments and shifting definitions, and explore how messages about sex, marriage, authority, and obligation can shape the church in ways we may not always recognize. Real change requires more than just saying something was harmful - it requires honesty, accountability, and a willingness to pursue better fruit. This is Part 1 of a 3-part series, so let's get to it and be sure to tune in next week!CHECK OUT OUR OCTOBER SIMULCAST EVENTWe're doing our sex talk and a one-day marriage conference! Check it out for more information.TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!)And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko FoundationJoin our email list!LINKS MENTIONED: Friday Round-Up link on Alisa ChildersOur statement on Shaunti Feldhahn (with links to her statement)Roys Report article on Sheila calling out Focus on the FamilyThe Whole Story CourseOur book, “She Deserves Better”Dannah's interview with Juli SlatteryDannah's interview with Focus on the FamilyZachary Wagner's book, “Men of Virtue”Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books:The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Today on Karl and Crew, we continued our theme, “First Principle,” where we explored the difference between decision and surrender. Dannah Gresh, author of “And the Bride Wore White,” shared insights on purity culture, emphasizing that true purity is found in Christ and urging the Church to embrace a biblical vision of sexual integrity with both truth and grace. Dr. John Mabus, a professor from Moody Bible Institute highlighted that genuine salvation requires wholehearted surrender to Jesus, focusing on discipleship and a life transformed by Him. We also engaged our listeners, asking, “If the foundation of your salvation was off from the very beginning, how would you know?” You can hear the highlights of today’s program on the Karl and Crew Showcast. If you're looking to hear a particular segment from the show, look at the following time stamps:Dannah Gresh [ 06:12 ]Call Segment [ 18:45 ]Dr. John Mabus [ 46:36 ]Ally Think It's Funny [ 56:40 ]Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/morningshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today on Karl and Crew, we continued our theme, “First Principle,” where we explored the difference between decision and surrender. Dannah Gresh, author of “And the Bride Wore White,” shared insights on purity culture, emphasizing that true purity is found in Christ and urging the Church to embrace a biblical vision of sexual integrity with both truth and grace. Dr. John Mabus, a professor from Moody Bible Institute highlighted that genuine salvation requires wholehearted surrender to Jesus, focusing on discipleship and a life transformed by Him. We also engaged our listeners, asking, “If the foundation of your salvation was off from the very beginning, how would you know?” You can hear the highlights of today’s program on the Karl and Crew Showcast. If you're looking to hear a particular segment from the show, look at the following time stamps:Dannah Gresh [ 06:12 ]Call Segment [ 18:45 ]Dr. John Mabus [ 46:36 ]Ally Think It's Funny [ 56:40 ]Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/morningshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today on Karl and Crew, we continued our theme, “First Principle,” where we explored the difference between decision and surrender. Dannah Gresh, author of “And the Bride Wore White,” shared insights on purity culture, emphasizing that true purity is found in Christ and urging the Church to embrace a biblical vision of sexual integrity with both truth and grace. Dr. John Mabus, a professor from Moody Bible Institute highlighted that genuine salvation requires wholehearted surrender to Jesus, focusing on discipleship and a life transformed by Him. We also engaged our listeners, asking, “If the foundation of your salvation was off from the very beginning, how would you know?” You can hear the highlights of today’s program on the Karl and Crew Showcast. If you're looking to hear a particular segment from the show, look at the following time stamps:Dannah Gresh [ 06:12 ]Call Segment [ 18:45 ]Dr. John Mabus [ 46:36 ]Ally Think It's Funny [ 56:40 ]Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/morningshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today on Karl and Crew, we continued our theme, “First Principle,” where we explored the difference between decision and surrender. Dannah Gresh, author of “And the Bride Wore White,” shared insights on purity culture, emphasizing that true purity is found in Christ and urging the Church to embrace a biblical vision of sexual integrity with both truth and grace. Dr. John Mabus, a professor from Moody Bible Institute highlighted that genuine salvation requires wholehearted surrender to Jesus, focusing on discipleship and a life transformed by Him. We also engaged our listeners, asking, “If the foundation of your salvation was off from the very beginning, how would you know?” You can hear the highlights of today’s program on the Karl and Crew Showcast. If you're looking to hear a particular segment from the show, look at the following time stamps:Dannah Gresh [ 06:12 ]Call Segment [ 18:45 ]Dr. John Mabus [ 46:36 ]Ally Think It's Funny [ 56:40 ]Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/morningshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today on Karl and Crew, we continued our theme, “First Principle,” where we explored the difference between decision and surrender. Dannah Gresh, author of “And the Bride Wore White,” shared insights on purity culture, emphasizing that true purity is found in Christ and urging the Church to embrace a biblical vision of sexual integrity with both truth and grace. Dr. John Mabus, a professor from Moody Bible Institute highlighted that genuine salvation requires wholehearted surrender to Jesus, focusing on discipleship and a life transformed by Him. We also engaged our listeners, asking, “If the foundation of your salvation was off from the very beginning, how would you know?” You can hear the highlights of today’s program on the Karl and Crew Showcast. If you're looking to hear a particular segment from the show, look at the following time stamps:Dannah Gresh [ 06:12 ]Call Segment [ 18:45 ]Dr. John Mabus [ 46:36 ]Ally Think It's Funny [ 56:40 ]Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/morningshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today on Karl and Crew, we continued our theme, “First Principle,” where we explored the difference between decision and surrender. Dannah Gresh, author of “And the Bride Wore White,” shared insights on purity culture, emphasizing that true purity is found in Christ and urging the Church to embrace a biblical vision of sexual integrity with both truth and grace. Dr. John Mabus, a professor from Moody Bible Institute highlighted that genuine salvation requires wholehearted surrender to Jesus, focusing on discipleship and a life transformed by Him. We also engaged our listeners, asking, “If the foundation of your salvation was off from the very beginning, how would you know?” You can hear the highlights of today’s program on the Karl and Crew Showcast. If you're looking to hear a particular segment from the show, look at the following time stamps:Dannah Gresh [ 06:12 ]Call Segment [ 18:45 ]Dr. John Mabus [ 46:36 ]Ally Think It's Funny [ 56:40 ]Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/morningshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Send us Fan MailWhat happens when good biblical teaching gets mixed with fear, shame, and legalism? In this episode of Ask A Pastor, we explore the important difference between biblical purity and purity culture—and why that distinction matters.The Bible teaches that sexuality is God's good and beautiful design, created to be enjoyed within the covenant of marriage. Yet many people have experienced messages that left them feeling ashamed, condemned, or defined by their past rather than by God's grace. Together, we'll examine what Scripture actually says about sexual purity, holiness, forgiveness, identity, and healing.We'll discuss why sex is a sacred gift—not something dirty or shameful—how the gospel offers hope to every sinner, why victims of abuse should never carry false shame, and how God's commands are designed to protect rather than restrict us. Most importantly, we'll discover that our identity is not found in our relationship status, sexual history, or ability to keep rules, but in Jesus Christ.Whether you've been hurt by purity culture, are wrestling with questions about biblical sexuality, or simply want a clearer understanding of God's heart, this conversation points us back to the perfect balance of grace and truth that Jesus demonstrated.Join us as we unpack how biblical purity isn't about earning God's love—it's about responding to the love and grace we've already received through Jesus Christ.Support the show

Today on Karl and Crew, we continued our theme, “First Principle,” where we explored the difference between decision and surrender. Dannah Gresh, author of “And the Bride Wore White,” shared insights on purity culture, emphasizing that true purity is found in Christ and urging the Church to embrace a biblical vision of sexual integrity with both truth and grace. Dr. John Mabus, a professor from Moody Bible Institute highlighted that genuine salvation requires wholehearted surrender to Jesus, focusing on discipleship and a life transformed by Him. We also engaged our listeners, asking, “If the foundation of your salvation was off from the very beginning, how would you know?” You can hear the highlights of today’s program on the Karl and Crew Showcast. If you're looking to hear a particular segment from the show, look at the following time stamps:Dannah Gresh [ 06:12 ]Call Segment [ 18:45 ]Dr. John Mabus [ 46:36 ]Ally Think It's Funny [ 56:40 ]Donate to Moody Radio: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/morningshowSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dannah Gresh joins us for a conversation we didn't know how much we needed. Author of And the Bride Wore White, Dannah walks us through what purity culture got right, what it got wrong, and how to untangle the shame, silence, and mixed messages so many of us are still carrying. Whether you're single, engaged, married, or somewhere in between, this one is honest, freeing, and full of grace.

For decades, the church's answer to struggling marriages has been clear: pray more, submit more, give him what he needs. Sheila Wray Gregoire's research asked a different question: What if the advice itself is the problem?Drawing on a survey of 20,000 women, the largest ever done on Christian women's marital and sexual satisfaction, Sheila lays out what the data actually shows: a stark gap between men's and women's experiences, the quiet damage done by teaching women that sex is only his need, and why so many couples reach intercourse on their wedding night only to wonder if something is broken in her. She makes the case, gently but firmly, that if a teacher consistently produces bad fruit, the teacher's teaching deserves a second look.This is a rebroadcast of a 2021 conversation that remains one of the most meaningful in the show's history.Sheila Wray Gregoire is a researcher and author of The Great Sex Rescue.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

Dannah Gresh unpacks the good and the bad aspects of the purity culture movement, speaking against legalism and shame without abandoning God’s design for sexuality. She shares about her experiences healing from sexual sin and equips women to live with sexual integrity. Receive a copy of And the Bride Wore White and an audio download of "The Good, Bad, and the Holy of Purity Culture" for your donation of any amount! Plus, receive member-exclusive benefits when you make a recurring gift today. Your monthly support helps families thrive. Get More Episode Resources If you enjoyed listening to Focus on the Family with Jim Daly, please give us your feedback.

Dannah Gresh unpacks the good and the bad aspects of the purity culture movement, speaking against legalism and shame without abandoning God’s design for sexuality. She shares about her experiences healing from sexual sin and equips women to live with sexual integrity. Receive a copy of And the Bride Wore White and an audio download of "The Good, Bad, and the Holy of Purity Culture" for your donation of any amount! Plus, receive member-exclusive benefits when you make a recurring gift today. Your monthly support helps families thrive. Get More Episode Resources If you enjoyed listening to Focus on the Family with Jim Daly, please give us your feedback.

Theology, love, and Howard Thurman are the focus of this conversation with my colleague, the Rev. Dr. Kathryn House.Link to the recording of Howard Thurman reading his work, “Meditations of the Heart,” part of the Howard Thurman Collection in the Howard Gotlieb Archival Research Center at Boston University Libraries https://digitallibrary.bu.edu/readings-meditations-heart-part-1-2Text referenced: Love at the Center: Unitarian Universalist Theologies, editor Rev. Dr. Sofía Betancourt https://uuabookstore.org/products/love-at-the-centerRev. Kathryn House, Ph.D., is Assistant Professor of Leadership Studies and Practical Theology and Chair of the Rev. Dr. Lee Barker Professorship of Leadership Studies at Meadville Lombard Theological School. She was previously Visiting Assistant Professor of Practical Theology and a Louisville Institute Postdoctoral Fellow at Louisville Presbyterian Theological Seminary. House received her BA in Religion from Duke University and her MDiv. and PhD in Theological Studies from Boston University School of Theology. House is ordained in the American Baptist Churches, USA and affiliated with the Alliance of Baptists.House is co-editor, with Dr. Sara Moslener, of "Purity Culture and its Discontents," a special issue of Theology and Sexuality. She has also contributed chapters to Trauma and Lived Religion: Transcending the Ordinary (Palgrave Macmillan) and Faithfully Feminist: Jewish, Christian, and Muslim Feminists on Why We Stay (White Cloud Press), and her writing has been published in journals such as Perspectives in Religious Studies, Pastoral Psychology, and American Baptist Quarterly. Her current book project, an expansion of her dissertation, The Afterlife of White Evangelical Purity Culture: Wounds, Legacies, and Impacts, investigates the theological scaffolding of white evangelical purity culture and its continuing impact on American religious and political life.Her teaching and scholarship are generated at intersections of leadership studies, trauma-informed pastoral and spiritual care, and liberation theologies. She serves on the steering committee for the Ecclesial Practices Unit of the American Academy of Religion and on the Advisory Committee of the Wabash Center for Teaching and Learning in Theology and Religion. She is also an active member of the National Association of Baptist Professors of Religion (NABPR) and NABPR Region-at-Large.__________________________Thank you for listening. Many Windows: Conversations on Ministry is a production of Meadville Lombard Theological School. Theme music is “Destination” by Justhea. This episode is produced by Jules Taylor.(Justhea: spoti.fi/2NycVfd and apple.co/3u51z2V)

If you grew up in church in the 90s or early 2000s, you probably received some confusing messages about sex and desire. This week, Juli and Hannah unpack how those messages shaped our understanding of sexuality and purity—and why so many Christians still struggle to say "yes, yes, yes" after years of "no, no, no." This conversation will remind you that God is not ashamed of your sexuality and invite you into healing, wholeness, and the truth about your sexuality. Co-host: Hannah Nitz   Become a monthly donor to Authentic Intimacy and get a FREE copy of the new 25 Questions You're Afraid to Ask About Love, Sex, and Intimacy. We'd love to hear your thoughts about this conversation. Leave us a rating and review.    Follow-up Resources: 25 Questions You're Afraid to Ask about Love, Sex, and Intimacy by Dr. Juli Slattery Passion Pursuit: What Kind of Love Are You Making? (A 10-Week Study Through the Song of Solomon) Hot Topic Kit: Building a Great Sex Life Java #608 Purity Culture, Shame & the Grace of God with Dannah Gresh What Do I Do With My Sexual Desires? (blog) Video Q&A: What's the difference between sexual purity and sexual integrity? Video Q&A: What's the purpose of my sexuality as a single?  Follow Hannah Nitz @hannahnitz  Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy  

What happens when you're raised to be a militant Christian nationalist Supreme Court justice, but you decide to actually study church history instead? This week, we are thrilled to welcome social media powerhouse, educator, and musician Monte Mader to the show! You probably know her from her viral videos expertly dismantling Christian nationalist talking points, but her story starts far from the internet spotlight. Monte shares her harrowing and fascinating journey of growing up on a remote cattle ranch in Wyoming, steeped in extreme patriarchal theology, purity culture, and doomsday rhetoric. What was it like being trained in apologetics from childhood, only to realize the history of the church didn't match the dogma she was force-fed? We dive into the terrifying realities of purity culture, the weaponization of biblical texts against women, and the intense backlash Monte faces online for refusing to submit or be silent. But it's not all doom and gloom! Amidst the doxxing and the hate mail, Monte shares why right now—as the mask of Christian nationalism slips completely off—is actually a time for profound, irrational hope. _____________________________________________ Want to see more of Monte? Follow her various socials at the following links: Her Website: https://montemader.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/montemader?igsh=bGUyY29lamtlNGhi Threads: https://www.threads.com/@montemader TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@montemader?_r=1&_t=ZP-971v8VHMsPv YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@UCMfoN9bDN77VAd83ZFvwShA Substack: https://substack.com/@UCMfoN9bDN77VAd83ZFvwShA ______________________________________________ For early access to an ad-free version of every episode of Data Over Dogma, exclusive content, and the opportunity to support our work, please consider becoming a monthly patron at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/DataOverDogma⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow us on the various social media places: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DataOverDogmaPod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://x.com/data_over_dogma https://www.instagram.com/dataoverdogmapod/ Have you ordered Dan McClellan's New York Times bestselling book ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Bible Says So⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ yet??? Buy at this link: https://static.macmillan.com/static/smp/bible-says-so-9781250347466/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"Purity culture is a system that tells women to carry the moral weight of male desire." How is that healthy or fair? Joni Menard, an occasional guest on The God Journey, helps other women discover how to live deeply loved by God. She joins Wayne and Kyle for a conversation about patriarchy, purity culture, and gender differences, and how our religious systems often negatively shape the way men and women see themselves, their bodies, their desires, and each other. Patriarchy wounds men as well as women, and shame distorts the beauty of human desire. This podcast covers vulnerability, privilege, parenting, and the long journey of learning to listen, honor, and love without fear or control. Podcast Notes: Sorry, there is no video version of this podcast. (Due to FB policy, this link is only good for thirty days from the date of posting.) A JUST LOVE Meet-up in Kansas City The post Joni shared Get your copy of Just Love The post Patriarchy, Purity Culture, and Wholeness (#1038) first appeared on The God Journey.

Send us Fan MailYou never signed a purity pledge. Maybe you never set foot in a church. But the rules got in anyway — through locker rooms, movies, the way women around you were talked about, the bodies that got shamed. And now they're in your bedroom, quietly wrecking everything.Today I'm talking with Erika Smith — award-winning sexuality educator, 25 years in the field, and creator of the Purity Culture Dropout program — about the specific ways purity culture shows up in men who consider themselves good allies. Men who want their partners to have orgasms. Men who are still, without knowing it, making it impossible for her to ask for what she wants.We get into:Why she can't tell you to stop — even when she wants toThe "good girl/bad girl" split that's killing your sex life right nowHow penis-centered sex became the default (and what it's costing both of you)The porn conversation that's destroying otherwise healthy relationshipsWhere to start if you want to actually change what's happening in your bedroomThis one's for the men who are trying. And the women who love them.Find Erika at: https://www.ericasmitheac.com/the-purity-culture-dropout-programJoin in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp

In this season finale of Sunday School Dropouts, Laura and Andrew look back on a landmark season dedicated to unpacking the pervasive and lingering effects of purity culture. Reflecting on what they learned, what surprised them, and where they find hope, Laura and andrew explore how these rigid teachings extend far beyond sexual ethics into daily struggles with body image, diet culture, adult friendships, and social media dynamics. A central focus of the episode examines the connection between neurodivergence and high-control religious systems, drawing on insights from their interview with Michelle Moseley to explain why individuals with ADHD or autism can be uniquely vulnerable to these environments. The discussion also ventures into how purity culture historically intersects with power, control, and racial eugenics, while analyzing the unexpected rise of the modern manosphere and red pill culture as a new evolution of these familiar, toxic frameworks.The episode also tackles the deep personal work required to move past religious trauma, contrasting the intellectual act of deconstructing harmful beliefs with the arduous journey of somatic and emotional healing. Laura and Andrew discuss the protective impulse to completely burn bridges when escaping high-control environments, validating it as a necessary first response for survival rather than a reckless last resort. Highlighting a massive wave of listener feedback, including a notably strong resonance from the ex-LDS community, the conversation celebrates the collective power of shared stories. Ultimately, this finale bridges the gap between uncovering past harms and looking forward, offering listeners a compassionate roadmap for reclaiming their bodies, their boundaries, and their peace.This podcast is brought to you by the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery: an online trauma coaching company whose practitioners are trauma informed and trauma trained to work with individuals, couples and families who have experienced high control religion, cults, and religious trauma. For more information on the support that CTRR provides, for resources–including courses, workshops, and more–head to traumaresolutionandrecovery.com or follow us on Instagram: @traumaresolutionandrecovery The views and opinions expressed by Sunday School Dropouts are those of the hosts and not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery. Any of the content provided by our guests, sponsors, authors, or bloggers are their own ideas and opinions.The Sunday School Dropouts podcast is not anti-religion but it is anti -harm, -power and control, -oppression and, -abuse and will speak to the harmful practices and messaging of fundamentalist groups. Follow Andrew on Instagram and TikTok @andrew_kerbsTo begin working with Andrew as a coach, schedule your FREE inquiry call hereFollow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com To work with Laura as a coach, therapist, consultant, or to inquire about other services, you can do so hereHosts: Laura Anderson and Andrew KerbsMusic by Benjamin Faye Music @heytherebenji 

What if many of us learned more about avoiding sex than understanding it? In this episode of Married AF, we tackle one of the most controversial conversations in modern marriage, dating, and Christianity: purity culture. We unpack the viral statement, “She's told to cover up. He's never told to grow up,” and ask whether generations of people were handed shame instead of healthy relationship communication.We discuss how messages around sex, emotional intimacy, and love can shape marriage long after the wedding day. Some people grew up believing desire itself was bad. Others were taught that men simply cannot control themselves. We explore where those messages may have helped, where they may have caused damage, and how they continue affecting intimacy, marital issues, conflict resolution, and happiness inside relationships today.We also separate an important distinction: healthy boundaries are not the same thing as shame. Marriage advice often focuses on avoiding mistakes, but real marriage coaching should also teach connection, communication, emotional intimacy, and how couples can build a healthy understanding of sex within marriage.Whether you're newly married, dating, engaged, or have been married for decades, this conversation will challenge some assumptions and give practical support for building stronger relationship communication and deeper intimacy.In this episode:✔️ How purity culture shaped marriage expectations✔️ Why emotional intimacy affects physical intimacy✔️ The difference between boundaries and shame✔️ Marriage challenges couples rarely talk about✔️ Communication tools for healthier sex and connection✔️ Christian perspectives on love, marriage, and intimacy✔️ Practical marriage advice and supportMarriage is an adventure filled with challenges, growth, communication, conflict resolution, and learning how to love one another well. Sometimes the healthiest thing we can do is unlearn messages that were never helping us in the first place.

This video examines the tragic case of Kip Eliason, a 16-year-old who died by su*cide in 1982 after struggling with intense guilt and shame tied to teachings about s*xual morality within his religious upbringing.Kip's story has become a widely discussed example of how ordinary adolescent development—especially s*xual curiosity and masturbation—can be reframed as profound moral failure, leading to overwhelming psychological distress.This discussion is based on reporting and analysis found here:https://thoughtsonthingsandstuff.com/a-latter-day-tragedy-suicide-over-masturbation/In this episode, we explore:How purity-based moral teachings can intensify adolescent shameThe psychological impact of guilt-centered s*xual messagingHistorical religious rhetoric surrounding chastity and “virtue”How institutional messaging has evolved over timeThe broader question of responsibility when doctrine and mental health collideThe intent is not sensationalism, but reflection on how belief systems can unintentionally shape self-perception in vulnerable individuals.If you or someone you know is struggling with thoughts of self-harm, help is available. In the U.S., you can call or text 988 to reach the Su*cide & Crisis Lifeline, available 24/7.Please consider making a donation by joining our Patreon https://www.patreon.com/MormonNewsRoundup Email: kolob@mormonnewsroundup.org Website: https://mormonnewsroundup.org/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mormonnewsroundup Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mormon_news_roundup/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100093511869924 X: https://twitter.com/NewsMormon New episodes LIVE every Sunday and Monday nights at 9:30PM ESTPlease like and subscribe and hit the notifications bell. Remember remember, no unhallowed hand can stop this podcast from progressing!The Mormon News Roundup is NOT affilated with the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

Did the church get it wrong about sex, purity, and relationships? The answer might surprise you.

Michael Thornhill's book, The First, The Few and The Only, is available through the official book site and shop. The site describes Thornhill as an AfroCuban author, consultant, and recovering DEI practitioner whose work explores race, erasure, tokenism, and mixed identity in North America. Book / author links: https://www.thefirstthefewandtheonly.com/about Official book site: https://www.thefirstthefewandtheonly.com/shop Instagram: @thefirstthefewandtheonly Telling the Truth and Taking Your Story Seriously Michael “The first thing that comes to mind for the listeners is you need to take your story seriously enough to tell the truth. If you're going to write anything… you need to be honest. And if I remember your question correctly, to anyone who's the first, few, and the only, what that means is if you've ever been the only one with your face in the room, when you enter a room, you find yourself counting how many brown faces are there all the time at the church, on the school bus, in the youth group. If you've gotten so used to counting that you forget you're doing it, this book is for you.” “I wrote something called a mirror memoir and what that means to me is a phrase I coined to basically reflect what black and brown people do whenever they get together and discuss what's happened to them in a white world, that whether across lunch tables or whispered in hallways, you end up regurgitating something that happened to you and then next thing you know, the space between you becomes a mirror because you're kind of like, ‘Oh yeah, that happened to me too.'” “They feel well worn. They don't have their shock impact. There's not as much of a recoil and of course they feel old, but they also feel not polished in a sense of pedestal, but in a sense of a smooth rock that's been beat up by the waves against this cliff and they're like gems now. It just feels like something that's been well beaten down to the point of beauty and I feel it and yet it also feels good to name because it's like my body isn't the cage for it anymore.”   Well, first I guess I would have to believe that there was or is an actual political dialogue taking place that I could potentially be a part of. And honestly, I'm not sure that I believe that.

This week, Dannah Gresh shares the personal story behind And the Bride Wore White—one of a few books that launched conversations about purity, shame, grace, and redemption for an entire generation of Christian young people. Together, Juli and Dannah reflect on the wounds many women carry around sexuality, the beauty of God's forgiveness, and why purity was never meant to be about perfection.  Guest: Dannah Gresh Join an Authentic Intimacy Online Book Study!   Follow-up Resources: Pre-order And the Bride Wore White: Seven Truths to Living In Sexual Integrity No Matter Your Past by Dannah Gresh Q&A: How can I overcome the shame I experience as a result of purity culture?  Follow Dannah at @dannah_gresh Follow Authentic Intimacy at  @authenticintimacy  

Holy moly, The Hunting Wives is a spicy show! Lots of law breaking going on in this group of frenemies - drinking and driving, exhibitionism, and even murder! We chat about it ALL!Email us: KillerFunPodcast@gmail.comFollow us on Facebook: fb.me/KillerFunPodcastAll the Tweets, er, POSTS: https://x.com/KillerFunPodInstagram: killerfunpodcast

Erica Smith is an award-winning sexuality educator, advocate, and author from rural Pennsylvania, where she grew up casually Christian, went to public school, learned sex ed from a gym teacher, and somehow became the most responsible teenage sexual health nerd with birth control, condoms, spermicide, and library books before having sex for the first time. In this episode we talk about purity culture, religious sexual shame, high-control groups, Christian nationalism, marital consent, "duty sex," the pressure placed on both women and men in evangelical purity teachings, and why healing from purity culture is not just about learning sex ed, but reconnecting to your body, your signals, your autonomy, and your right to desire without fear. Join the live watch party on YouTube today, episode release day, at 5p PT / 8p ET: https://www.youtube.com/@birdsandbeesdontfck   Want to hear Reddit stories? Join the afterparty over on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/cw/birdsandbeesdontfck   FCK LIKE THE MOVIES Where to find Erica: Website: https://www.purityculturedropout.com Instagram / Threads: @ericasmitheducates Book: The Purity Culture Recovery Guide: Shame-Free Sex Ed You Deserve   Where to find Arielle: Instagram: @birdsandbeesdontfck TikTok: @birdsandbeesdontfck Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/cw/birdsandbeesdontfck   Like my cuffs AND my vibrator necklace? Me too. Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here: https://lovecrave.com/arielle   Episode Cheat Sheet 00:37 Why purity culture impacts everyone regardless of religious upbringing 02:01 Reclaiming spiritual language, God, universe, source, and finding meaning outside of shame 03:35 Erica's rural Pennsylvania upbringing and not coming from purity culture or evangelical Christianity 06:52 Conservative Judaism, kosher, Shabbat, fear of God, and the god of religious sexual shame 10:13 Why controlling sex is the central power tool in high-control groups and cults 13:15 Twin Flames, New Age purity culture, divine feminine and masculine, and forced relationship roles 15:11 Non-monogamy, the one-person mythology, and not knowing ethical non-monogamy was an option 18:22 The pressure on children to save souls and why evangelical recruitment causes anxiety 20:15 AIDS education, high school sex ed, birth control, Cosmo handouts, and a raw egg as a fake baby 23:35 Family planning at 16, condoms, spermicide, Planned Parenthood, teen pregnancy, and pre-internet sex ed 26:03 Curiosity as the common thread among sex educators and talking explicitly with friends about sex 30:26 From women's studies to abortion clinic counselor, September 11th, anti-abortion terrorism, and fake anthrax 33:46 Seventeen years doing sex ed and HIV prevention with incarcerated youth in Philadelphia juvenile detention 35:09 Exvangelicals, deconstruction, the 2016 election, and the mass exodus from evangelical Christianity 39:28 Wedding night trauma, the flip-the-switch expectation, marital rape, duty sex, and long-term sexual dysfunction 43:09 Consent in marriage, the every-72-hours myth, Christian patriarchy, and denying women the right to say no 46:14 Rape culture, dissociation, blaming wives for husbands cheating, and the harm purity culture does to men 48:41 Duty sex, maintenance sex, intimacy dates, responsive desire, and why sex should never be expected 50:06 Men in purity culture, being taught you are a sex demon, bounce your eyes, and associating desire with disrespect 53:01 How purity culture silences body signals around consent, danger, hunger, and attraction — and somatic healing 56:08 Why purity culture is not a thing of the past, Christian nationalism, fascism, voting, and bodily autonomy 01:01:07 Where to find Erica Smith, The Purity Culture Recovery Guide, and purity culture recovery support groups

On today's episode of Sunday School Dropouts we will be talking to Cody Harman, a certified fitness coach and nutritionist! Cody shares his story of growing up within evangelicalism and purity culture being socialized female, coming out and transitioning. Cody's lets us in on his process of healing from the shame and harm that was caused by high control religion and offers encouragement and hope on the journey of healing. You can find Cody at the following places:• Instagram: @mrcoachcody_scoobyprep• TikTok: @mrcoachcody• Facebook: Cody Harman• Twitter: @mrcoachcodyYouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@Codytalks11/featured• Website: www.codyharman.comThis podcast is brought to you by the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery: an online trauma coaching company whose practitioners are trauma informed and trauma trained to work with individuals, couples and families who have experienced high control religion, cults, and religious trauma. For more information on the support that CTRR provides, for resources–including courses, workshops, and more–head to traumaresolutionandrecovery.com or follow us on Instagram: @traumaresolutionandrecovery The views and opinions expressed by Sunday School Dropouts are those of the hosts and not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery. Any of the content provided by our guests, sponsors, authors, or bloggers are their own ideas and opinions.The Sunday School Dropouts podcast is not anti-religion but it is anti -harm, -power and control, -oppression and, -abuse and will speak to the harmful practices and messaging of fundamentalist groups. Follow Andrew on Instagram and TikTok @deconstruct_everything Follow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com Music by Benjamin Faye Music @heytherebenji Editing and Production by Kevin Crowe

I talked with Tia Levings about what it's like to come out of a world that shaped you completely and what happens after you leave; not just the belief system, but the habits, the fears, the voice in your head that doesn't feel like yours.Her new book, I Belong to Me, is really about that part. Not just what happened to her, but how you put yourself back together after.We talked about complicity. About how you can't just blame the system forever. At some point you have to look at yourself and ask what you carried forward.We talked about grief too. Not just what you lost, but what never got to happen, and what it takes to become someone you can live with._____LINKShttps://tialevings.com/https://substack.com/@tialevingsI Belong to Me on Bookshop_____I have had the pleasure of talking to some of the leading authors, artists, activists, and change-makers of our time on this podcast, and I want to personally thank you for subscribing, listening, and sharing 100-plus episodes over 100,000 times.Please subscribe to this Podcast, In Conversation… with Frank Schaeffer, on your favorite platform, and to my Substack, It Has to Be Said. Thanks! Every subscription helps create, build, sustain and put voice to this movement for truth. Subscribe to It Has to Be Said. The Gospel of Zip will be released in print and on Amazon Kindle, and as a full video on YouTube and Substack that you can watch or listen to for free.Support the show_____In Conversation… with Frank Schaeffer is a production of the George Bailey Morality in Public Life Fellowship. It is hosted by Frank Schaeffer, author of The Gospel of Zip.Learn more at https://www.thegospelofzip.com/Follow Frank on Substack, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Threads, TikTok, and YouTube.https://frankschaeffer.substack.comhttps://www.facebook.com/frank.schaeffer.16https://twitter.com/Frank_Schaefferhttps://www.instagram.com/frank_schaeffer_arthttps://www.threads.net/@frank_schaeffer_arthttps://www.tiktok.com/@frank_schaefferhttps://www.youtube.com/c/FrankSchaefferYouTubeIn Conversation… with Frank Schaeffer Podcast

Danielle 1. On adults needing honesty before they can guide young people “But then that comes back to us and being able to honestly talk about our own experiences as kids and be far more honest about what that experience was. Be far more honest about the spectrums we probably all lie along or the ways we've felt confused or the way we've worked through maybe even contradictions in our own selves that don't feel like they fit and what tools have we used that are helpful, what tools have not worked for us… I think it's a new way of differentiating from us as parents to be able to explore something different.” 2. On colonization, sex, caste, and racial hierarchy in Mexican history “One thing I know about my history and a part of the complex and layered part of Mexican history is that when colonizers came over, the Spanish particularly, they would then send for their families or their wives, but they would also, part of the strategy along with the Catholicism and the Christianity that was brought, was having babies with Africans that were enslaved… part of the colonial atmosphere was to essentially make classes of people based on race. And so you have a Christian monogamous colonizer with this sent-for family also having… either Indigenous folks or Africans that have been enslaved… That was intentionally done through sex under the guise of monogamy.” 3. On anger, violence, and the body “We know how arousing anger is and regardless of your sexual orientation, in our bodies anger is so arousing… as they put certain categories of people into unacceptable other categories, they're literally arousing themselves… essentially getting off on the violent talk is what I think and feel… using the content of the United States and our military as a form of doing that just feels so deeply violating.” Rebecca 1. On sexuality and gender as communal, not only individual “Sometimes we can think about this conversation about sex and sexuality and gender and all of that as this sort of individual choice or this individual expression. But I think there's something to be learned from the idea that it can be very communal and very collective and in that way have communal and collective impact. And I think sometimes we don't take that into account in very real ways.” 2. On young people needing a bigger frame “I definitely have the experience with my two kids of just a general sentiment like the frame that you gave me is not big enough to hold all of the things that my world requires me to hold. It's not. I need a different frame. I need a bigger frame. I need some flexibility in the framing in order to engage the world that is in front of me… Sometimes I think the best thing that we can do as adults in that space is say okay and be willing to knock down some walls and get rid of some steel and put something flexible in that space so they can breathe a little bit and figure it out.” 3. On not confusing authentic monogamy with colonial violence “Does that invalidate monogamy? And my answer would be no, it doesn't… if you're running around intentionally creating babies with the Indigenous people that were there in the place where you have come to conquer, don't call yourself believing in monogamy because that's a boldfaced lie… Christian nationalism is not Christianity, it's something else. And part of what is infuriating to me is the hijacking of an idea or vocabulary or belief that in and of itself is fine and it gets hijacked and applied to something that is a gross perversion of what it was meant to be.” Jenny 1. On purity culture, abstinence-only education, and labels “So much of that… is a symptom of purity culture and the fact that we don't talk about sex. The abstinence-only generations since the '80s were we don't talk about sex. And it was sort of Nancy Reagan's idea of just say no was applied to sex. And so consent was not talked about. Sexuality was not talked about. Gender expression was not talked about. And it's not that those things didn't exist… The queer community has always been around.” 2. On labels as both liberating and limiting “Raphaela Fieo from Healing Exchange says labels can be liberating or they can be limiting. And I think it's important to hold both. For some people, labels are really, really important and for some people labels are like, I don't actually want you to try to define me or put me in a box.” 3. On settler sex and Christian nationalism “What would have to happen is the reckoning of white heteronormative Christian nationalism… Kim TallBear is an Indigenous polyamorous scholar who has this article called Making Love and Relations Beyond Settler Sex… they essentially critique a lot of the white sex-positive communities that don't acknowledge the privilege in white polyamory or sex-positive practices when it literally was gender and racial and familial relations often that were used to Christianize Indigenous communities across the globe.” 4. On monogamy, normativity, and honoring difference “Monogamy could be part of that expression and all of these other things also are part of that expression… getting out of this normative thinking of like, if this is the way I do it, this is the way everyone should do it. And rather, okay, this is the way that resonates with me. So if I stay with what feels like the truest expression of my relationship and sexuality now, can that also give me more capacity to honor the ways in which other people are living into theirs, even if it's vastly different than mine?”   Well, first I guess I would have to believe that there was or is an actual political dialogue taking place that I could potentially be a part of. And honestly, I'm not sure that I believe that.

In this episode, Tia Levings returns to talk about her new book I Belong to Me - a guide to healing and recovery after high-control religion and other controlling environments. Tia walks through what she calls the steps before the steps: the audacity, the centrality, the willingness to want something different before you're even ready to name what happened to you. We talk about why language can free you and trap you at the same time, how cult-hopping happens and why, what developmental stages get stolen in high-control systems, and how somatic and body-based modalities opened up healing that talk therapy alone couldn't reach. This is a grounded, honest conversation about what it looks like to start to become the protagonist of your own story.Tia Levings is the New York Times Bestselling author of A Well-Trained Wife, her memoir of escape from Christian Patriarchy and I Belong to Me: A Survivor's Guide to Recovery and Hope after Religious Trauma. She writes about the realities of religious trauma, evangelical patriarchy, and the Trad wife life, decoding the fundamentalist influences in our news and culture. Her work and quotes have appeared in Teen Vogue, Salon, Newsweek, and the HuffingtonPost. She is an experienced interviewee, speaker, and podcast guest, and has appeared in the hit Amazon docu-series, Shiny Happy People. Based in Raleigh, North Carolina, she is mom to four incredible adults and likes to travel, hike, paint, and daydream. Find her on social media @TiaLevingsWriter.Tia's Book:I Belong to MeTia's Recommendation:Heart the LoverEverything in ColorConnect with Joshua: jjohnson@shiftingculturepodcast.comGo to www.shiftingculturepodcast.com to interact and donate. Every donation helps to produce more podcasts for you to enjoy.Follow on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Threads, Bluesky or YouTubeSupport the podcast and the ministry that my wife and I do around the world. Just click on the support the show link below NEW PODCAST: American Evangelicals - A History PodcastA thoughtful, deep dive into one of the most talked-about movements in American history.Support the show

I used to think holiness meant learning how to want less — less food, less attention, less desire. Less me.Today we're sitting down with Anna Rollins, author of Famished: On Food, Sex, and Growing Up as a Good Girl, to talk about something many of us have felt but didn't have language for — how purity culture and diet culture quietly taught us the same message: good girls make themselves smaller.We talk about the hidden scripts we absorbed in church and culture, the exhaustion of trying to control our bodies to feel safe, and the moment everything starts to unravel.What if your hunger isn't something to fix, but something to listen to?This episode is an invitation to stop striving, to notice where fatigue is giving you feedback, and to begin reclaiming your God-given appetite — for rest, nourishment, connection, and joy.To connect with Anna, head over to https://www.annajrollins.com or @annajrollins on IG!Get Anna's book, Famished here: https://amzn.to/45l5oFA Submit a question for “Ask Han” here: https://forms.gle/qWGxyy9M5Q5N2tMz9 SUPPORT BY WORDS: https://buymeacoffee.com/bywordsMy favorite Bible studies + devotionals - HANNAHHUGHES10  for 10% off: https://thedailygraceco.com?dt_id=300773 CONNECT:hello@thehannahhughes.comhttps://www.instagram.com/thehannahhughes 

It’s part 2 of our conversation with author and speaker, Dannah Gresh. 25 years ago she wrote And the Bride Wore White. At the time, there was a move in the evangelical world that embraced purity culture. How were people hurt by that purity message? We’ll also welcome, from Mama Bear Apologetics, Amy Davison. Don’t miss the discussion on Chris Fabry Live. Featured resource:And the Bride Wore White by Dannah Gresh May thank you gift:Powerful Self-Talk from the Psalms by Jon Gauger Chris Fabry Live is listener-supported. To support the program, click here.Become a Back Fence Partner: https://moodyradio.org/donateto/chrisfabrylive/partnersSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It’s been 25 years since Dannah Gresh penned a powerful book titled, And the Bride Wore White. Dannah returns to talk about what she got right all those years ago, AND what she has re-thought. The power of that book was her own story, her vulnerability about living with sexual integrity no matter your past. Don’t miss a conversation with Dannah Gresh on Chris Fabry Live. Featured resource:And the Bride Wore White by Dannah Gresh May thank you gift:Powerful Self-Talk from the Psalms by Jon Gauger Chris Fabry Live is listener-supported. To support the program, click here.Become a Back Fence Partner: https://moodyradio.org/donateto/chrisfabrylive/partnersSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

On this episode of the Natasha Helfer Podcast, Michelle Mower joins to discuss how the Mormon purity culture affects men. Michelle Mower, LPC, LMFT, CST,  is a therapist, coach, educator, and certified sex therapist who helps adults understand what's actually going on in their sexuality and relationships. Her work focuses on the erotic mind; how thoughts, desire, and personal history shape the way people experience intimacy. She works with individuals and couples who feel confused, disconnected, or at odds with their own desire, helping them move out of self-questioning and into clarity. Her approach is direct, grounded, and focused on making sense of experiences that often feel hard to explain, even to yourself. Michelle is completing her PhD in Counselor Education and Supervision, where her research examines sexual shame in men raised in the Mormon faith and the long-term impact of religious sexual conditioning on identity and desire. She is known for saying the things people are already thinking but haven't been able to put into words, bringing clarity to conversations about sex and relationships that are often avoided or oversimplified. Her work challenges the idea that something is wrong with you and instead focuses on understanding what hasn't been explained yet. You can find out more about her work on her website:  https://www.michelle-mower.com/ Or here: https://www.expansecounselingcenter.com/ Go here to read her dissertation (see podcast notes and resources): https://www.natashahelfer.com/the-natasha-helfer-podcast/episode137   To help keep this podcast going, please consider donating at natashahelfer.com and share this episode. To watch the video of this podcast, you can subscribe to Natasha's channel on Youtube and follow her professional Facebook page at natashahelfer LCMFT, CST-S. You can find all her cool resources at natashahelfer.com.  The information shared on this program is informational and should not be considered therapy. This podcast addresses many topics around mental health and sexuality and may not be suitable for minors. Some topics may elicit a trigger or emotional response so please care for yourself accordingly. The views, thoughts and opinions expressed by our guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views or feelings of Natasha Helfer or the Natasha Helfer Podcast. We provide a platform for open and diverse discussions, and it is important to recognize that different perspectives may be shared. We encourage our listeners to engage in critical thinking and form their own opinions. The intro and outro music for these episodes is by Otter Creek. Thank you for listening. And remember: Symmetry is now offering Ketamine services. To find out more, go to symcounseling.com/ketamine-services. There are also several upcoming workshops. Visit natashahelfer.com or symcounseling.com to find out more.

Reuben Johnson is one half of FlyDuo, a husband-and-wife team behind the pleasure-forward platform SexTech n' Chill, originally from the suburbs of Boston where growing up in a strict religious environment meant sex education was mostly abstinence, shame and silence. In this episode we talk about purity culture, abstinence-only sex education and how religious messaging around sex can leave people completely unprepared for real intimacy. We get into the science behind pleasure, why nervous system regulation matters in the bedroom, the myth of "think about baseball" when people struggle with performance anxiety, and how honest conversations about sex can actually help protect people from harm. We also talk about building a pleasure-centered relationship, the work Reuben and his wife are doing with SexTech n' Chill, and why comprehensive sex education is still so controversial in the United States. Want more? Catch bonus Reddit story reactions, private chats and more on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/cw/birdsandbeesdontfck Get my Yes / No / Maybe List  or Fck Like The Movies full course _________________________________________________ Where to find Reuben: SexTech n' Chill: https://sextechnchill.com FlyDuo: https://xoflyduo.com Instagram: @sextechnchill  YouTube: @SexTechNChill   Where to find Arielle: Instagram: @birdsandbeesdontfck TikTok: @birdsandbeesdontfck Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cw/birdsandbeesdontfck Join the live watch party on YouTube today, episode release day, at 5p PT / 8p ET: https://www.youtube.com/@birdsandbeesdontfck Love jewelry that doubles as a vibrator?  Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here:  https://lovecrave.com/arielle   Episode Cheat Sheet 02:10 Museum of Sex panel and meeting other sex educators 04:02 Consent, body language and what animals teach us about boundaries 08:36 Trauma responses, fawning and reading nonverbal cues 11:05 Nervous system regulation, anxiety and grounding techniques 15:02 Communication, emotional safety and better sex 19:11 Performance anxiety and why "think about baseball" is terrible sex advice 22:05 Vulnerability, trust and sexual confidence in relationships 24:40 Growing up in Boston and avoiding sex education conversations 26:40 Religious purity culture and sexual shame 29:10 The first real sex education class in high school 31:03 Condoms, lube and the basics abstinence-only programs skip 33:28 Why abstinence-only sex education leaves people unprepared 34:15 Dr. Joycelyn Elders and the fight for comprehensive sex education 36:01 Why pleasure and eroticism challenge systems of control 41:00 Social media censorship and the fight for online sex education 46:54 Porn history, kink and the evolution of sexuality 52:20 Wedding night sex after purity culture 55:50 Building Sex Tech & Chill and pleasure-centered relationships

What happens after you leave purity culture… but still feel disconnected from your body?Josh sits down with Dr. Kimberly Rose Pendleton, a coach and researcher focused on healing religious and sexual trauma, to explore what she calls “pleasure-based healing.” Together, they talk about how shame shapes our relationship to our bodies, why so many people feel numb or disconnected from desire, and what it looks like to reconnect with what feels good in a healthy, grounded way.This is a conversation about reclaiming pleasure, questioning old narratives, and finding a more honest path toward intimacy and wholeness.Website: www.kimberlyrosependleton.com Instagram: @drkimberlyrosependletonTikTok: @drkimberlyroseFacebook: @drkimberlyrose

Purity culture is actually the worst. Support Belief It Or Not Created by Trevor Poelman Produced and Edited by Jamie Carlisle Produced by Michael Mongiardi Art by Joel Jackson Music by Devon Hyland Special Thanks to The Sonar Network Visit https://www.beliefitornot.com/ Email enquiries to Trevor.Poelman@BeliefItOrNot.com Follow Belief It Or Not: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beliefitornot Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beliefitornotpodcast/ BlueSky: https://bsky.app/profile/beliefitornot.bsky.social TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@beliefitornot Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/beliefitornot Brought to you By: The Sonar Network https://thesonarnetwork.com/

Grab a copy of Holy Disobedience: Sex, Sin, and Secrets in the Biggest Church No One Knows: https://amzn.to/4s0pygnAs an Amazon associate, a small portion of every purchase made through this link helps support this podcast!✖️✖️✖️Melissa Duge Spiers is an award-winning essayist, screenwriter, and advocate for topics of religious and narcissistic abuse, utilizing her online platforms (TikTok and Instagram: “The Glory Whole”). Her memoir Holy Disobedience won the 2021 Book Pipeline Unpublished Nonfiction Manuscript prize, with excerpts featured in The Huffington Post. Melissa's writing appears in magazines nationwide, and she's a contributor to Take the Fruit: An Anthology of Religious Trauma. Also a runner, cheese lover, and life-long vintage collector, Melissa holds a B.A. in English Literature from Barnard College at Columbia University and is based in California.✖️✖️✖️About Holy Disobedience:“Spiers's writing is propulsive and intelligent.” —Tia Levings, author of the New York Times bestselling A Well-Trained WifeHoly Disobedience is a gripping, unflinching story by Melissa Duge Spiers about growing up in the shadow of control, silence, and secrets within the strict, fundamentalist Seventh-day Adventist Church. When Melissa learns that her father, a respected pastor, was a serial child predator shielded by the church, her world implodes. But this revelation is only the beginning.From being beaten for resisting a childhood home perm to seducing a forbidden public-school athlete to reclaim her autonomy, Melissa's early years were shaped by repression, shame, and indoctrination. Her escape from high-control religion launched her into a life of risk: Wall Street jobs, New York nightclubs, Hollywood hookups, and a series of abusive relationships. And yet, in these extremes, she was searching. Through self-reflection and finding her voice, and through an unexpected friendship with her father's first victim, Melissa slowly reconstructs the self she was never allowed to know.Holy Disobedience is not just a survivor's tale. It's a story of fierce honesty, radical freedom, and the beautiful mess of becoming whole.✖️✖️✖️Support the Show: Patreon.com/PreacherBoys✖️✖️✖️If you or someone you know has experienced abuse, visit courage365.org/need-help✖️✖️✖️CONNECT WITH THE SHOW:preacherboyspodcast.comhttps://www.youtube.com/@PreacherBoyshttps://www.facebook.com/preacherboysdoc/https://twitter.com/preacherboysdochttps://www.instagram.com/preacherboyspodhttps://www.tiktok.com/@preacherboyspodTo connect with a community that shares the Preacher Boys Podcast's mission to expose abuse in the IFB, join the OFFICIAL Preacher Boys Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1403898676438188/✖️✖️✖️The content presented in this video is for informational and educational purposes only. All individuals and entities discussed are presumed innocent until proven guilty through due legal process. The views and opinions expressed are those of the speakers.✖️✖️✖️Music by Lou Ridley — “Bible Belt” | Used with permission under license.This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/PreacherBoys and get on your way to being your best self.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/preacher-boys-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Grab a copy of Erica's book here: https://amzn.to/47cN56uPrefer to listen on Audible? Get a free Premium Plus trial here: https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp(As an Amazon associate, I receive a small commission on purchases made through the links on this channel. Thanks for making this show possible!)✖️✖️✖️Support the Show: Patreon.com/PreacherBoys✖️✖️✖️CONNECT WITH THE SHOW:preacherboyspodcast.comhttps://www.youtube.com/@PreacherBoyshttps://www.facebook.com/preacherboysdoc/https://twitter.com/preacherboysdochttps://www.instagram.com/preacherboyspodhttps://www.tiktok.com/@preacherboyspodTo connect with a community that shares the Preacher Boys Podcast's mission to expose abuse in the IFB, join the OFFICIAL Preacher Boys Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1403898676438188/✖️✖️✖️The content presented in this video is for informational and educational purposes only. All individuals and entities discussed are presumed innocent until proven guilty through due legal process. The views and opinions expressed are those of the speakers.✖️✖️✖️Music by Lou Ridley — “Bible Belt” | Used with permission under license.✖️✖️✖️As an Amazon associate I receive a small commission from purchases made on this site.This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/PreacherBoys and get on your way to being your best self.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/preacher-boys-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

n this special episode, we discuss the charges filed against former 19 Kids and Counting/Counting On star Joseph Duggar. Duggar is accused of committing Lewd and Lascivious Behavior, involving unlawful sexual activity with a minor. He has been taken into custody. The alleged molestation occurred some time in 2020. In this episode we discuss everything that we currently know, everything we don't know, the circumstances of the abuse, and then we answer listener questions.This episode contains discussions of child sexual abuse as well as discussion of Joseph's brother Josh's 2021 trial and conviction for possession of CSAM. This episode is not appropriate for children.Nowhere in this episode do we speculate about the identity of the victim, and we will not allow comments that do.Facebook post from Bay County Sheriff's Officehttps://www.facebook.com/share/p/1EoDDDy9qY/Reddit post with pictures of Joe and Kendra at Panama City Beach dated to October 11https://www.reddit.com/r/DuggarsSnark/comments/1rxk6ty/my_parents_2020_beach_vacation/Oxford University article about genetic predisposition to being an abuserhttps://www.psych.ox.ac.uk/news/sex-offending-genes-more-important-than-family-environment02:00 - Joe Duggar has been arrested 02:54 - Welcome to our show 03:10 - CW for CSA and CSAM discussion 04:20 - Consider joining our Patreon! 05:00 - BCSO Facebook Post 06:50 - Poor Kendra 07:53 - What is Joe charged with? 08:36 - What is a Life Felony? 09:46 - Joe's Apology 11:35 - Purity Pledge 12:34 - Will there be a trial? 17:48 - Thank you to our Patrons! 19:17 - What is the timeline? 20:04 - Raid on the Duggar car lot 20:45 - Counting the Cost by Jill Duggar Dillard 22:26 - Holy Disruptor by Amy Duggar King 24:20 - Jim Bob lied to the family 24:55 - Reddit Pictures on the beach 25:30 - Who was in Panama City Beach? 27:40 - Apologies to the victim's father? 28:15 - Homeland Security and US Marshals 31:27 - Kendra was pregnant 31:50 - Why did Joe Apologize? 32:50 - You are your father's property 34:20 - Did Kendra know? 35:12 - Will Kendra stay or go? 35:30 - Sadie's angry rant 37:43 - Question 1: Have we seen signs from Joe? Joe/Kendra age gap 38:54 - Sadie attended the wedding of a child bride 41:15 - Question 2: How does this keep happening in this family? 42:46 - Women are property, like livestock 44:50 - Limiting access and adding accountability prevents abuse 47:07 - Question 3: We know nothing about the victim or their family 48:11 - Question 4: Did this follow the same pattern as Josh's cover-up? 49:40 - Questions 5 and 6, Social media and Can Kendra Leave because Joe admitted his crime? 52:01 - Question 7: Purity Culture 52:42 - Question 8: Will this change fundie culture? 54:14 - Question 9: Genetics and Grandpa Duggar 55:35 - If there is a trial we will cover it!Subscribe to Leaving Eden Podcast on YouTube!https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ4q94gAnsoW2jME4SvVrrQJoin our Patreon for extended, uncensored, and ad-free versions of most of our episodes, as well as other patron perks and bonus content!https://www.patreon.com/LeavingEdenPodcastJoin our Facebook group to join in the discussion with other fans!https://www.facebook.com/groups/edenexodusJoin our subreddit! Reddit.com/r/EdenExodusBluesky:@leavingedenpodcast.bsky.social@hellyeahsadie.bsky.social@gavihacohen.bsky.socialInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/leavingedenpodcast/https://www.instagram.com/sadiecarpentermusic/https://www.instagram.com/gavrielhacohen/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A proposal in Congress that would impact the abortion pill. A Senate candidate from Texas has some strange theological ideas. The good and bad side of purity culture. And should Christians be connoisseurs of today's art?    Segment 1 – Proposed Mifepristone Ban; The Bible According to Talarico  Hawley proposes bans on mifepristone  A Kind Heretic is Still a Heretic  David French article  Breakpoint article on Talerico  Segment 2 – Purity Culture  A New Purity Culture – First Things  Segment 3 – The State of Conservative Art  First Things article  BBC report  Segment 4 - Questions and Comments