Podcasts about purity culture

On this episode: Nate Luau's at Presbyterian Church. Aaron withholds his “arr,” he wants it so bean something. This week, Nate and Aaron interview Gail Stucker. Gail is an Allender Center trained story work coach working with individuals, couples, and groups. She shares her story of finding Jesus in para-church ministries. Gail shares her experiences of “purity culture” not being fireworks, relationship bliss, and all the promises from Ephesians. Discussing that if men don't feel desired, they would rather be mowing the lawn. Gail talks about how her heart changed towards herself and others after seeing others and being seen in story work. And finally, she walks us through how to discuss his and her feelings and needs.Links: Gail StuckerBooks Mentioned: God Loves Sex: An Honest Conversation About Sexual Desire and Holiness The Deep-Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and DelightSept. 12-14, 2025 Austrian Retreat Nov 7-9, 2025 Santa Fe, NM Samson Summit Nov 7-9, 2025 The Wild & Sacred Journey, Womens RetreatSponsor: Life Works CounselingIf you have thoughts or questions and you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.   amazon.com The Deep-Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight The Deep-Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight [Allender, Dr. Dan B., Call, Dr. Steve] on Amazon.com. FREE shipping on qualifying offers. The Deep-Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight (148 kB) https://www.amazon.com/Deep-Rooted-Marriage-Cultivating-Intimacy-Healing/dp/1400344468     Samson House Store Samson European Retreat: RAV 47 — Samson House Store 38 hours + 5 meals + 3 Samson meetings + 1 mountain ascent = 47 lives changed forever     Samson House Store 2025 Samson Summit — Samson House Store Join us for an unforgettable weekend to explore your story, deepen your relationships, and live out your story as fully as God intended. When: November 7-9, 2025 Where: Camp Glorieta , a 2,400-acre campus located about 15 miles southeast of Santa Fe, New Mexico Lodging Options Available.        

Natalie is joined by sex educator Erica Smith to talk about how our obsession with purity culture affects the quality of sex education we are given. Sex education should be something that is delivered to people without bias and without the idea that virginity and religion should be at the center of your sexual identity. Erica is the creator of the Purity Culture Dropout program that aims to provide support to people who are wanting to de-program from purity culture and take part in sex education that is queer inclusive, safe, and informative. The episode will center around how we became so purity driven when it came to sexuality, the consequences we face when sex is only viewed from the lens of religious morality, and what steps we can be taking to make sure we are talking about sex in ways that everyone has the knowledge to make decisions based in how they actually feel.Follow us at @menivetoleratedpod on Instagram!https://www.patreon.com/menivetoleratedpod on Patreon for bonus content! We are currently running a free trial on all three tiers! Come join in on the fun!All ways to support the show, including our merchandise, can be found at https://linktr.ee/menivetoleratedpod.Find Erica:Website: https://www.ericasmitheac.comInstagram: @ericasmith.sex.ed

In this episode, Leslie and Morgan talk about their experiences within church purity culture, what they got wrong in dating relationships and why boundaries are so important. They offer a different way to think through physical purity that inspires you towards God and doesn't endorse shame. Listen to this regardless of your season, it will help you or someone you know!

RERUN! We took a cute little break to have a very culty wedding weekend but couldn't leave the culties high and dry on content! This week we give you one of our favorite episodes from last season! Anyone who grew up evangelical Christian and/or plugged into teen celebrity news circa 2008 will be familiar with today's cult: Purity Rings. You know, the dainty piece of jewelry placed ritualistically on a teen girl's wedding finger to signify her vow of chastity until marriage, or else?? Purity rings are not just an accessory-they're a bonafide industry, complete with rules, ceremonies, secrets, veiled threats, and religious trauma up the wazoo... but are they a cult? This week, a very special (ex-evangelical) guest, @normalgossip's @mckinneykelsey, is joining host Amanda to unpack just that! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How do diet culture and purity culture work together to shape—and shame—our relationships with food, body, and self? In this thought-provoking episode, Dr. Marianne is joined by Cassie Krajewski, LCSW (@inneratlastherapy), to unpack the trauma that often hides beneath the surface of “clean eating” and “moral” behavior. They explore how religious teachings, modesty expectations, and diet rules can become deeply intertwined, reinforcing eating disorder patterns and disconnecting people from their own needs. Whether you've experienced religious trauma, struggled with body image, or felt trapped in all-or-nothing thinking, this episode offers validation and insight. ABOUT CASSIE Cassie is known for her authenticity, warmth, and compassion, which shows up in her work as a business, owner, therapist, consultant, and podcaster. As the founder of Inner Atlas, Cassie is passionate about helping people heal from the impacts of trauma and disembodiment. Cassie's personal history and healing experiences drove her to pursue a career in social work. Her training emphasized the importance of context, culture, and systems upon mental health. This lead to her dream of opening a practice centered on anti-oppressive, holistic, and trauma-responsive care. Her professional experiences inform her understanding that working with the body's inherent wisdom takes clients further, faster. She is rooted in the belief that she is not a guru but a guide. ‍ Outside of her clinical work, Cassie is actively involved in mentoring and teaching other therapists. Her approachable nature and deep empathy ensure that her practice remains a space where clients and colleagues from all walks of life feel seen, heard, and valued. FOLLOW AND CONTACT CASSIE IG: https://www.instagram.com/inneratlastherapy/ E-mail: hello@inneratlastherapy.com Website: https://www.inneratlastherapy.com CHECK OUT OTHER EPISODES ON DIET CULTURE! Let's Talk Recovery: Ditching Diet Culture & Crushing Eating Disorder Thoughts on Apple & Spotify. Just Say NO to Dieting: A Weight-Neutral Approach to Fitness on Apple & Spotify. The Diet/Wellness Industry, Accessibility, & Diet Culture on Apple & Spotify. INTERESTED IN HANGING OUT MORE IN DR. MARIANNE-LAND? Follow me on Instagram @drmariannemiller Check out my virtual, self-paced ARFID and Selective Eating course Look into my self-paced, virtual, anti-diet, subscription-based curriculum. It is called Dr. Marianne-Land's Binge Eating Recovery Membership. Live in California, Texas, or Washington D.C. and interested in eating disorder therapy with me? Sign up for a free, 15-minute phone consultation HERE or via my website, and I'll get you to where you need to be! Check out my blog. Want more information? Email me at hello@mariannemiller.com

Send us a text“Soul ties” refers to the belief that when you have sex with someone, you are now joined in the spiritual realm, and that “tie” impedes your ability to ever experience freedom if you marry someone else. Often people claim you have to go through a specific prayer to break the tie, or an exorcism. But is this idea biblical? And does it help or hurt? Today Joanna Sawatsky shares our results of believing in soul ties, and we discuss different ways to talk about heartache and trauma. PRODUCT HIGHLIGHT:Our puberty course The Whole StoryJoin my Substack!TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Join our email list!THINGS MENTIONEDOur book She Deserves Better My series on Soul TiesJohn Eldredge's Podcast series on Soul TiesLisa Bevere Reel with misinformationThe domestic violence website with steps from breaking trauma bondsJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

In this spoiler filled episode, the ladies review, Forever, Netflix's bold reimagining of Judy Blume's iconic novel. Set in 2018 Los Angeles, this coming-of-age series follows Keisha, a track star from Crenshaw, and Justin, an aspiring musician from Park-Windsor Hills, as they navigate first love, identity, and the messy truths of growing up. They unpack how the show modernizes Blume's themes of sex, consent, and teen self-discovery all while centering Black teens in a story that brings refreshing representation and authenticity to a classic coming-of-age tale. Tune in to find out who was team Justin or Team Keisha, Cheers!! *Please be advised this episode is intended for adult audiences and contains adult language and content. We are expressing opinions on the show for entertainment purposes only.Dedication: To our patrons as always!! We love you!Moni: To Kat and the steak tacos she brought before recording, thank you!Kat: Dave Young and Maurice Walker for the nice YouTube feedback, thank you!About the Show: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Forever_(2025_TV_series)About the Creator: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mara_Brock_AkilThe Original Book "Forever" by Judy Blume: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Forever..._(novel)12:06 Team Justin or Team Keisha1:05:37 Kat raps**Stranger than Fiction:

You probably didn't get a sex talk like this in church… Today we're chatting with my dear friend Michelle Castro about the broken theology and mixed messages Christian women have received about what intimacy in marriage is actually meant to be. Get ready to get real, get a little uncomfy, and break free from shame about your sexual design!To connect with Michelle, head over to @itsmemichellecastro or @ripitoffpodcast on IG!WANT MORE? By Words episode 150 with Michelle: https://youtu.be/ZwICJq9oj00 RIP IT OFF Podcast: bit.ly/ripitoffpodcast FREE DOWNLOAD — 13 Types of Intimacy: https://itsmemichellecastro.myflodesk.com/13typesofintimacy Use code HANNAH10 for 10% off Naked & Unashamed: bit.ly/31dayjourney  SUPPORT BY WORDS: https://buymeacoffee.com/bywordsSHOP MY BOOKS:Waking Up: Living Open — https://amzn.to/3LusgrzLove Is Devotional — https://amzn.to/3S6OZhs FREE Path to Purpose Guide: https://hannahhughes.myflodesk.com/pathwaytopurpose My favorite Bible studies + devotionals - HANNAHHUGHES10  for 10% off: https://thedailygraceco.com?dt_id=300773 Connect: ⁠www.thehannahhughes.com⁠Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/thehannahhughes/⁠ https://www.instagram.com/bywordspodcast Shop my Amazon faves: ⁠https://www.amazon.com/shop/thehannahhughes⁠

Hier geht es zur Buchvorbestellung von Nanas Buch FEUCHT & FROMM - Die schmutzigen Geheimnisse der Purity Culture ---> https://ruach.link/feuchtfromm Hier geht es zu dieser Folge bei Hausverbot im Beichtstuhl ---> https://open.spotify.com/episode/3SCUjTDmhmCsFh6RkpDZqw?si=n3lkRlHOSwKDHLhrizQnIA Schaut bei den Jungs gerne vorbei und folgt ihrem Podcast oder kommentiert und speichert diese Folge, um sie sichtbarerer zu machen. Nana hat an einem tristen Dienstag Uwe und Micha, die in ihrer Stadt wohnen eine DM geschickt, ob sie mitkommen wollen, in den Film Gotteskinder, da sie in düsterer Vorahnung Angst hatte, alleine in den Film zu gehen und Unterstützung von zwei ähnlich Freikirchen-Geschädigten gut gebrauchen konnte. Das ist schon eine Weile her und brühwarm aufgenommen haben die drei ihre Retraumatisierung, Emotionen und Gedanken dazu, damit ihr darauf an diesem kuschelig-verregneten Sonntag nicht verzichten müsst.

In this wonderful episode, writer Stephanie G shares with Terri Petersen her experiences as a Latter-day Saint in a patriarchal system. Together, she and Terri mourn what was lost to them through the church's purity and modesty culture, leading to body image issues, irrational notions that they are in charge of men's thoughts, and more. In another section, they discuss the frequent rhetoric from men about their needing women, but only for the service they provide, and never their ideas and self empowerment. They also talk about how many women feel "unsafe" in situations in which they are forced to counsel or be interviewed by men. A particularly poignant section is introduced by Stephanie G reading parts of an essay describing her feeling compelled to engage in a temple assignment while she was postpartum, with her body aching to be with her child, including having her breasts leak onto her body and through a temple shield. Her descriptions are powerful reminders about the war between what we think we must do and what women's bodies, their temples, are compelling them to care about. They also talk about what advice they would give to their younger selves, focusing primarily on claiming God's grace and giving grace to themselves. They talk about messages they inherited from having to face the prospect of living polygamy and how it complicates for the church its messaging about Heavenly Mother. Stephanie G also shares ways that she imaginatively inserts the Mother God into scriptural and other stories that have left her out. They close with a discussion about dealing with their anger over experiences stolen from them through their imbibing messages that support patriarchy and women's secondary importance in God's plan. How are they now trying to use that anger more productively as they continue to engage with Mormonism. This is a rich and powerful episode! Don't miss it!

In this episode, Joyce shares her story of involvement in a PCA church in Florida and how her experience of marriage, faith, and community unfolded over more than a decade. She describes the early support her family received, her deep investment in church life, and how that shifted when she began raising concerns about her marriage. Joyce outlines the church's response, her efforts to seek counseling, the process of pursuing divorce, and the consequences that followed, including church discipline. This episode examines how systems designed for accountability can fail those in crisis and how theological frameworks can impact the choices survivors feel they're allowed to make. An update on Joyce's situation is shared at the end of the episode.Support the show

This week we will be talking to a notorious former pastor about their experience growing up inside high control religion, becoming a poster child for purity culture, being set up to take over for a large church and ultimately giving it all up, deconstructing his faith and leaving the church. If you grew up in evangelicalism, and likely even if you didn't, you're sure to be familiar with Joshua Harris, author of the wildly popular Christian dating, ahem, courting, book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye. He's here to share with us about his time inside of high control religion, what opened his eyes to the unhealthy dynamics inside the church and his process of healing after leaving. It's an episode that all of our younger selves never saw coming and definitely one you won't want to miss! This podcast is brought to you by the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery: an online trauma coaching company whose practitioners are trauma informed and trauma trained to work with individuals, couples and families who have experienced high control religion, cults, and religious trauma. For more information on the support that CTRR provides, for resources–including courses, workshops, and more–head to traumaresolutionandrecovery.com or follow us on Instagram: @traumaresolutionandrecovery The views and opinions expressed by Sunday School Dropouts are those of the hosts and not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery. Any of the content provided by our guests, sponsors, authors, or bloggers are their own ideas and opinions.The Sunday School Dropouts podcast is not anti-religion but it is anti -harm, -power and control, -oppression and, -abuse and will speak to the harmful practices and messaging of fundamentalist groups. Follow Andrew on Instagram and TikTok @deconstruct_everything Follow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com Hosts: Laura Anderson and Andrew KerbsMusic by Benjamin Faye Music @heytherebenji Editing and Production by Kevin Crowe and can be found at  www.kevincrowe.co

Almost weekly there is some small thing that reminds us we were raised in purity culture. This week we share a few that have recently popped up in our day to day.

Can religion ruin your sex life? This week on A Little Bit Culty, Sarah and Nippy are joined by psychotherapists and certified sex therapists Jeremiah Gibson and Julia Pastima—co-hosts of the podcast Sexvangelicals: The Sex Education the Church Didn't Want You to Have. Together, they explore how religion, especially purity culture and fundamentalist gender roles, can cause lasting damage to relationships and sexual well-being. From internalized shame to rigid scripts about gender and sex, Jeremiah and Julia explain how high-control religious environments affect intimacy long after someone leaves the faith. They also discuss the complexities of deconstructing religion as a couple, the importance of finding shared values, and why therapy can be a vital lifeline through it all. If you're trying to untangle your beliefs from your bedroom, this conversation offers both validation and guidance. This one's extra spicy, so listener discretion is advised. Resources mentioned in this episode: When Religion Hurts You by Dr. Laura Anderson available on her website. Sex, God, and the Conservative Church by Tina Schermer Sellers can be found on her website. Come As You Are and Come Together by Dr. Emily Nagoski is available on Amazon. To hear more from The, listen to their podcast, check out their blog, and visit their website. Also… let it be known that: The views and opinions expressed on A Little Bit Culty do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, group, club, organization, business individual, anyone or anything. Nobody's mad at you, just don't be a culty fuckwad. Check out our lovely sponsors Join ‘A Little Bit Culty' on Patreon Get poppin' fresh ALBC Swag Support the pod and smash this link Cult awareness and recovery resources Watch Sarah's TEDTalk CREDITS:  Executive Producers: Sarah Edmondson & Anthony Ames Production Partner: Amphibian.Media Co-Creator: Jess Tardy Writer: Kristen Reiter Associate producers: Amanda Zaremba and Matt Stroud of Amphibian.Media   Audio production: Red Caiman Studios Theme Song: “Cultivated” by Jon Bryant co-written with Nygel Asselin  

Tessi Muskrat, M.A. - Free To Explore: Sexuality After Purity CultureDivorced: Evangelical Purity Culture A native woman of Cherokee and Irish descent, Tessi Ynada Muskrat holds a master's degree in counseling psychology and is a doctoral student researcher at the University of Missouri. Co-founder of the international Purity Culture Research Collective (PCRC), Tessi's research centers the voices of those who have experienced sexual and gender-based trauma in religious contexts. Additionally, Tessi works as a post-traumatic growth coach, companioning those who have experienced religious or purity culture trauma on their journey to health and thriving.  In this conversation, Tessi shares about going from life on a shame-free commune to being deeply indoctrinated by purity culture teachings - and eventually, discovering her own sexuality. FIND TESSI: https://www.puritycultureoutcomes.com/FIND JANICE:Janice Selbie's Best-selling book Divorcing Religion: A Memoir and Survival Handbook is now available in the USA https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DP78TZZF and CANADA https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0DP78TZZFTickets are now available for the ONLINE Shameless Sexuality: Life After Purity Culture conference, happening May 24-25, 2025! Get yours now: https://www.shamelesssexuality.org/Religious Trauma Survivor Support Group is happening on Tuesdays at 5pm Pacific and Thursdays at 6pm Eastern (starting April 17). Don't miss this opportunity to connect with others for healing and support: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/servicesNeed help on your journey of healing from Religious Trauma? Book a free 20-minute consultation with Janice here: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/servicesFollow Janice and Divorcing Religion on Social Media:Threads: Wisecounsellor@threads.netBlueSky: @janiceselbie.bsky.socialFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/DivorcingReligionTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@janiceselbieInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/wisecounsellor/Subscribe to the audio-only version here: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/religious-trauma-podcastThe Divorcing Religion Podcast is for entertainment purposes only. If you need help with your mental health, please consult a qualified, secular, mental health clinician.Podcast by Porthos MediaCopyright 2025www.porthosmedia.netSupport the show

Quantas Ginn, MBA, MS, LMFT-S, CST (he/him) - Sex Therapy for Purity Culture Survivors  My guest today is Quantas Ginn. Quantas is a Marriage and Family Therapy (MFT) professor teaching courses on Human Sexuality and MFT theories. His research interests include interracial relationships, perinatal parenting, and the intersection of religion and sexuality.  Quantas also operates a private practice as a marriage, couples, and family therapist, and also as a Certified sex therapist. He works with individuals and couples on a variety of issues, including communication, conflict management, and sexual intimacy.  I'm delighted that Quantas will also be joining us at the online Shameless Sexuality: Life After Purity Culture Conference this May, where he will be talking about “Embracing Your Sexy Self, Literally and Figuratively.” FIND QUANTAS: https://www.quantasginntherapy.com/ FIND JANICE SELBIE:Janice Selbie's Best-selling book Divorcing Religion: A Memoir and Survival Handbook is now available in the USA https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DP78TZZF and CANADA https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0DP78TZZFTickets are now available for the Shameless Sexuality: Life After Purity Culture conference, happening ONLINE May 24-25, 2025! Get yours now: www.shamelesssexuality.orgReligious Trauma Survivor Support Groups happen on Tuesdays at 5 pm Pacific and Thursdays at 6 pm Eastern. Don't miss this opportunity to connect with others for healing and support: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/servicesNeed help on your journey of healing from Religious Trauma? Book a free 20-minute consultation with Janice here: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/servicesFollow Janice and Divorcing Religion on Social Media:Threads: Wisecounsellor@threads.netBlueSky: @janiceselbie.bsky.socialFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/DivorcingReligionTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@janiceselbieInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/wisecounsellor/Subscribe to the audio-only version here: https://www.divorcing-religion.com/religious-trauma-podcastThe Divorcing Religion Podcast is for entertainment purposes only. If you need help with your mental health, please consult a qualified, secular, mental health clinician.Podcast by Porthos MediaCopyright 2025www.porthosmedia.netSupport the show

In this profound and tender episode, Lauren Elise Rogers—Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy & Relationship Coach—invites us into the raw, human process of healing sexual shame, reconnecting to our bodies, and reclaiming pleasure.With honesty and grace, Lauren shares her personal journey from a purity-culture upbringing and a traumatic marriage to becoming an internationally recognized voice for embodied sexuality and emotional liberation. We explore the healing power of self-pleasure, somatic practices, attachment cycles, and how to gently reconnect with your body after trauma.Whether you've struggled with sexual shame, religious conditioning, or feeling disconnected from your own body, this conversation is packed with compassionate tools, empowering questions, and reminders that you are not broken—and healing is always possible.Connect with Lauren:www.sexedforyou.comwww.sexedforyou.com/freeconsulthttps://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/Top Episode Quotes:"We are not the ones who caused our trauma, but we are the ones who can rescue ourselves.""Shame strangles the sexual soul—it disconnects us from pleasure, from safety, and from ourselves.""Healing sex—partnered or solo—is a restoration of right relationship, a return to wholeness.""Your body deserves time. If you spent years in systems that shamed it, you deserve just as long to reclaim it.""Before we seek safety with others, we must create safety with ourselves—become the first and best lover to your own body."❥Stay or Go Course: ⁠https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go⁠ ❥HeartSpace: An online monthly membership community for open-hearted, nervous system-attuned living.Join with a free trial: ⁠⁠https://marinayt.com/community⁠⁠❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewform❥❥❥ FREE RESOURCE: a step-by-step process of working with your triggersTRIGGERED TO ROOTED: A ROADMAP TO CREATE TREASURES FROM YOUR TRIGGERSThis powerful step by step process will walk you through how to somatically move through a trigger, ground yourself, allow the emotions to come up and experience massive growth in your lifeDownload here:⁠ ⁠https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted⁠⁠❥❥❥Follow me on Instagram:⁠ ⁠www.instagram.com/marina.y.t⁠⁠ #SexualHealing #ShameFreeSex #PurityCultureRecovery #SomaticHealing #EmbodiedIntimacy #LaurenEliseRogers #PleasureIsPower #BodyWisdom #ReligiousDeconstruction #SexEducation #HolisticSexuality #HealingThroughPleasure #TraumaInformedCoaching

Pleasure is so much more than orgasm. Don't believe us? In this re-release, DB dives into all things sensuality with Sexuality Doula Ev'Yan Whitney, author of Sensual Self. They unpack the grip of purity culture, talk body reconnection, and offer real-world tips for bringing more pleasure into your life—yes, even outside the bedroom. Still untangling your sexuality from the grip of the patriarchy? (Same.) This one's for you. GUEST DETAILS: Ev'Yan is a sexuality doula®, author, facilitator, and sensualist, and for the last 10+ years they've had an insatiable curiosity about their sexuality, sensuality, and body, and the ways they need to heal in order to take up space within the expression of those things. Find more from Ev'Yan: “Sensual Self” by Ev'Yan Whitney: www.evyanwhitney.com/sensualself  www.evyanwhitney.com @evyan.whitney CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdbTwitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB ROM-COM VOM SEASON 11 SPONSORS: Lion's Den, Uberlube, Magic Wand, & Arya. Get discounts on all of DB's favorite things here! GET IN TOUCH Email: sexedwithdb@gmail.comSubscribe to our newsletter for behind-the-scenes content and answers to your sexual health questions! FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" ABOUT THE SHOW Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it's the sex ed you've always wanted. SEASON 11 TEAM Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) Producer: Sadie Lidji Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen Growth Marketing Manager: Wil Williams Logo Design: Evie Plumb (@cliterallythebest)

In this powerful episode, Brady Cone sits down with Amber and Ashley from Across My Heart Ministries—two sisters who are leading the next generation into a better understanding of biblical sexuality, purity, and God's design for relationships. They dive deep into:✅ What purity really means (hint: it's not just abstinence)✅ How Gen Z is rethinking purity culture✅ Why shame-based messaging fails—and the gospel doesn't✅ How parents can disciple their kids with grace and truth✅ What the word Yada actually means and how it changes everything

Is wellness the new purity ring? In part 2 of Gender War Games, host Cristen Conger and trainer Cadence Dubus breaks down how body control, aesthetic discipline, and "clean" femininity are being sold as self-care—while reinforcing the same old patriarchal power structures. From the rise of Ozempic and disordered wellness trends to body shame masquerading as moral virtue, what happens when femininity and fitness become political battlegrounds where women are expected to be skinny, soft, and silent?(00:00) Your Body Is a Battleground (00:52) The New Right's Body Ideals(01:23) The Wellness Grind(03:16) Functional Strength > Weight-Loss Goals(05:48) Women's Fitness Mirage(11:13) The Ozempic Effect(15:18) America's Health Hierarchy(17:28) Politicized Exercise(21:15) Class, Wealth and Commodified Wellness(28:29) What's a Body to Do?For ad-free bonus episodes and uncut guest interviews, visit patreon.com/unladylikemedia. Get in touch on Instagram @unladylikemedia, and/or subscribe to the newsletter at unladylike.substack.com.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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This spring, Julia and Jeremiah are answering the ten most common questions that we receive as sex therapists. In this episode, they explore the question, "How do I have my first orgasm?"    If you haven't had an orgasm before and you want to have orgasms, messages about "just taking it off the pedestal" and focusing on other areas of pleasure can be really minimizing and dismissive, even if, in the long run, they are helpful.   J+J are joined by the amazing Erica Smith, sex educator and founder of Purity Culture Dropout. Join Julia, Jeremiah, and Erica for an hour long conversation about: Understanding the anatomy and physiology of genitals The power of the clitoris The importance of going slowly Masturbation Actively exploring your sexual fantasies Learn more about Erica's work at ericasmitheac.com. Registration for her summer 2025 Purity Culture Dropout cohort begins soon.    And learn more about Julia and Jeremiah's relationship coaching business. If you and your relationships have been negatively impacted by Purity Culture, schedule a free 30 minute consultation with them to learn more about how relationship coaching can bring healing and health to your relationship.   

TRIGGER WARNING: This conversation includes discussion about sexual violence, rape, medical examinations after assault, sex, and sexuality. Unfortunately most listeners will have had some interaction with sexual trauma. We hope this conversation helps you move through difficult feelings and find new understanding of what it can mean to heal and/or be liberated from sexual trauma, and empowers you to define what justice means for you in such situations. However we understand the topic of sexual violence is difficult to engage in. Please take care of you and know this is a resource if needed!------------------This conversation is maybe best described as a journey to better understanding sexual liberation and justice for survivors of sexual violence and their loved ones. In this deep and transformative episode of Impostrix Podcast, host Whitney Knox Lee is joined by Leah Forney, an advocate, consultant, and influential speaker who specializes in sexual health and assault prevention within BIPOC communities. One of her specialties is addressing the need for cultural sensitivity in sexual violence response. As they discuss healing from sexual trauma, Whitney and Leah reflect on their personal experiences seeking justice after surviving sexual violence. And Leah shares her insights on how black women are uniquely affected by such trauma. In this episode, we also touch on the idea of "purity culture" and the stigmatization of menstrual health. We share cultural myths that we grew up with regarding the use of tampons and the miseducation of young girls regarding how to care for their changing bodies. Important themes include reparenting one's self, redefining justice, and finding sexual liberation. Key takeaways revolve around the significance of internal healing rather than external punishment, and the role of cultural and historical nuances in the healing journey. They also touch on societal expectations, faith, and the importance of creating safe spaces for survivors. Essential resources mentioned during this episode:Sexual Assault Advocacy for Victims Everywhere (S.A.A.V.E. Me)Sensual Faith: The Art of Coming Home To Your Body by Lyvonne BriggsI Planned For This: Life Organizer for When It's Needed by Whitney Knox LeeJoin the WhatsApp group!Support these charities to help advance culturally sensitive advocacy for survivors of sexual violence, to end period poverty for incarcerated women, and to promote menstrual and reproductive health education. The Courage Couture Gala raising awareness and celebrating the voices of survivors of sexual violence.The Thurman Perry Foundation Girl Code Program aiming to end period poverty for incarcerated women in the United States.Scrub Life Cares nonprofit promoting menstrual and reproductive health education and supply donation to girls and women. 00:00 Introduction and Trigger Warning00:58 Welcome to Imposter Podcast Season Four01:48 Focusing on Black Women's Healing02:39 Introducing Leah Forney04:32 Understanding Sexual Trauma in Black Women06:40 Historical Context of Sexual Trauma10:15 The Impact on Black Men and Families14:06 Hypersexuality and Healing22:24 Sexual Liberation and Healthy Sexuality26:31 Faith, Religion, and Sexuality31:09 Tampons and Cultural Taboos33:04 Purity Culture and Public Shaming34:43 Gender Disparities in Upbringing37:18 Healing from Sexual Trauma39:01 Redefining Justice for Survivors47:54 Reparenting and Inner Child Work51:12 The Power of EMDR Therapy54:45 Final Thoughts and Takeaways

The holidays are over and we are back into our purity culture mini-series! This month we are talking about purity culture and it's impact on individuals who grew up male in this system. We are thrilled to have Dr. Bradley Onishi on the podcast today as our professional who has done research and client-facing work in this area as well as being a purity culture poster boy himself. Join Brad and Laura as they discuss the unique impacts of purity culture on men, shame, the expectations of being a “Godly man” and what happens when you don't measure up to that, as well as the importance of men learning how to step out of of the prescribed roles and mentality that both purity culture and patriarchy prop up. Resources Mentioned: Fair Play (book and game) by Eve Rodsky Mild at Heart podcast series (can be found on the website below and using “Mild” in the search bar)Guest: Brad OnishiWebsite: https://www.straightwhiteamericanjesus.comInstagram/TT: @straightwhitejc This podcast is brought to you by the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery: an online trauma coaching company whose practitioners are trauma informed and trauma trained to work with individuals, couples and families who have experienced high control religion, cults, and religious trauma. For more information on the support that CTRR provides, for resources–including courses, workshops, and more–head to traumaresolutionandrecovery.com or follow us on Instagram: @traumaresolutionandrecovery The views and opinions expressed by Sunday School Dropouts are those of the hosts and not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery. Any of the content provided by our guests, sponsors, authors, or bloggers are their own ideas and opinions.The Sunday School Dropouts podcast is not anti-religion but it is anti -harm, -power and control, -oppression and, -abuse and will speak to the harmful practices and messaging of fundamentalist groups. Follow Andrew on Instagram and TikTok @deconstruct_everything Follow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com Hosts: Laura Anderson and Andrew KerbsMusic by Benjamin Faye Music @heytherebenji Editing and Production by Kevin Crowe and can be found at  www.kevincrowe.co

DateApril 6, 2025SynopsisIn this sermon, we join worship leader Leah Benn Miller and pastor Brent Levy for a raw, honest conversation about lust and love as part of the Lenten series "Glitch: Reframing Sin and Finding Reconnection." Through their exploration of Ephesians 5:21-33, they flip the script on shame-based theology, revealing how our deepest desires point to a God whose power flows through intimacy and mutual submission. Rather than weapons of control, both scripture and sexuality become invitations to see each other as sacred beings worthy of tender care, creating spaces where vulnerability blooms into grace.ReferencesScripture: Ephesians 5:21–33 About The Local ChurchFor more information about The Local Church, visit our website. Feedback? Questions? Comments? We'd love to hear it. Email Brent at brent@thelocalchurchpbo.org.To invest in what God's doing through The Local Church and help support these podcasting efforts and this movement of God's love, give online here.

This spring, Julia and Jeremiah are answering ten of the most common questions they hear from clients, exvangelicals, and the larger cultural zeitgeist.   One of the most common questions is "What happens if sex hurts?"   In this episode, Julia and Jeremiah are joined by Dr. Camden Morgante (@drcamden on Instagram), author of the new book Recovering from Purity Culture. They reflect on how to address and reduce the physical and emotional pain that a repressive situation or larger culture, such as Purity Culture, might bring to a sexual experience.    Join them for a practical, empathetic conversation about:  Purity Culture and cumulative trauma. The normalization of pain in religious and non-religious settings. How physical therapy can help mitigate the pain of vulvodynia and vaginismus. Divorcing the notion of work from pain Sitting with grief. Tune in to our Substack, Relationship 101 (sexvangelicals.substack.com) over the next few weeks for more info about working with sexual pain.

Pure evil is all well and good, but what happens when fundamentalists take purity too far--and teenagers and women end up paying the price?

We are thrilled to have with us today Dr. Tina Schermer Seller who is an author, researcher, professor, and psychotherapist specializing in the impacts of purity culture, shame resilience, gender, and sexuality. In this episode, Dr. Tina shares her research and how she came to realize the psychological and physiological impact of purity culture and how that shaped the direction of her work with clients, students, and her writing. In the episode, Dr. Tina shares an incredible definition of sexual shame (see below) that can help us understand the felt sense experience of purity culture! But before we talk to Dr. Tina, we have a vocabulary lesson on what are porn and sex addictions really and why religion is so quick to diagnoses people with them, and we'll also be taking some prayer requests! This is an episode you won't want to miss!Dr. Tina's definition of sexual shame (taken from the dissertation of Noel Clarke): Sexual shame is a visceral feeling of humiliation and disgust toward one's own body and identity as a sexual being and a belief of being abnormal, inferior and unworthy. this feeling can be internalized but also manifests in interpersonal relationships having a negative impact on trust, communication, and physical and emotional intimacy. Sexual shame develops across the lifespan in interactions with interpersonal relationships, one's culture and society, and subsequent critical self-appraisal (a continuous feedback loop). There is also a fear and uncertainty related to one's power or right to make decisions, including safety decisions, related to sexual encounters, along with an internalized judgement toward one's own sexual desire. You can find Dr. Tina at: Instagram: @drtinashameless  Facebook: @TinaSSellers Twitter: @TinaSSellersWebsite: https://www.tinaschermersellers.comPsychedelic assisted psychotherapy: www.Inannarising.org Dr. Tina's Books:Sex, God, and the Conservative ChurchShameless Parenting – Everything You Need to Raise Shame-free, Confident, Kids and Heal Your Shame TooThis podcast is brought to you by the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery: an online trauma coaching company whose practitioners are trauma informed and trauma trained to work with individuals, couples and families who have experienced high control religion, cults, and religious trauma. For more information on the support that CTRR provides, for resources–including courses, workshops, and more–head to traumaresolutionandrecovery.com or follow us on Instagram: @traumaresolutionandrecovery The views and opinions expressed by Sunday School Dropouts are those of the hosts and not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery. Any of the content provided by our guests, sponsors, authors, or bloggers are their own ideas and opinions.The Sunday School Dropouts podcast is not anti-religion but it is anti -harm, -power and control, -oppression and, -abuse and will speak to the harmful practices and messaging of fundamentalist groups. Follow Andrew on Instagram and TikTok @deconstruct_everything Follow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com Hosts: Laura Anderson and Andrew KerbsMusic by Benjamin Faye Music @heytherebenji Editing and Production by Kevin Crowe and can be found at  www.kevincrowe.co

Dr. Kim and Camden Morgante explore how purity culture has shaped individuals' beliefs and relationships. They break down five harmful myths it promotes and examine how these misconceptions can impact a couple's sex life after marriage — including the unrealistic expectation of a fairy tale marriage as a reward for remaining pure. Dr. Morgante offers guidance to help couples move beyond the shame and guilt tied to these teachings, so they can embrace the beautiful gift God designed for marriage. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage.    Episode highlights: Our God isn't a transactional god. Purity culture has been compared to the sexual prosperity gospel. Many individuals only hear negative messages about sex before marriage. Reclaiming the beauty of sex involves holistic healing of mind, body, heart, and soul. Teaching children about sexuality should focus on values rather than rules. Purity culture can lead to feelings of being 'damaged goods'. Myths of purity culture can cause disillusionment in faith.   Couples Conversation Guide:  Main takeaway:  Our motivation for purity before marriage can serve as a stumbling block to intimacy within our marriage. Purity before and within marriage is important, but our relationship with God isn't transactional. We are missing the point of God's heart for sex when the focus is on a reward.  Questions to Discuss:  How was the conversation surrounding sex approached in your youth? Looking back, did you desire to stay pure before marriage and what was your motivation for purity? Did you believe one of the “5 lies” Dr. Morgante mentioned in this episode? What do you think Dr. Morgante means when she says that the lies of purity culture don't just live in our minds, they live in our bodies?    QUOTES: These myths didn't just live in our minds, they lived in our bodies. -Dr. Camden Morgante When you try to control people, it's really easy for shame and fear to become part of it. The end result may be good, but the way you get there can harm people. Shame and guilt is not from God. God wants us to experience healing. We have to have a deeper why for it.   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Dr. Camden Morgante's Recovering from Purity Culture.   You can connect with Dr. Camden Morgante on Instagram Unlock True Intimacy: Become a couple who prays together.  We have several other AWESOME Resources on our website. Check those out HERE.   Check out our Bible Reading plans on YouVersion and make sure you're following us there to keep current on all our newest plans!   

Send us a textIn this episode of the Soulfully You podcast, Coach Chris Rodriguez converses with Hillary about the ways we can incorporate, especially in times of grief. The discussion touches on body politics in North America, grounding practices, and the relational nature of support. Get your copy of Hillary's latest book Holy Hurt at your local bookstore or https://hillarylmcbride.com/Connect with Dr. Hillary Mcbride:Follow her on Instagram @hillaryliannamcbrideClick here to take your FREE Inner-Soul-Child Assessment.For all episodes and info about my coaching program, visit me at www.coachchrisrodriguez.com.Connect on Instagram at @coach_chrisrodriguez and on TikTok at @coach_chrisrodriguez.Be sure to subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform!00:00 Welcome to the Soulfully You Podcast00:44 Grounding and Connection02:49 Stories That Shape Us04:33 Trusting the Darkness05:43 Navigating Grief14:43 The Healing Power of Nature18:50 Research and Insights30:18 The Drive to Flourish and Heal31:29 Living Soulfully Every Day32:36 Closing Remarks and Gratitude

Hanna is back after taking a week off! We catch up about the past few weeks and then talk about how purity isn't the enemy, but purity culture is.Hanna's new fave tank top!! She wears MediumThe Eden USE CODE ‘POD'

Today we're talking about purity culture, homogeneity, and surveillance capitalism, which pushes us towards authoritarian control, which works to erode our individuality and agency.Purity Culture: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Purity_culture DONATE:www.pcrf.netGet Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + LinksGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Freedom from The Purity Culture Half Truths If you're anything like me, you grew up knowing that sex was something to be saved for marriage. Maybe you heard it in church, at youth group, from your parents, or maybe it was something just understood. You were told to “save yourself,” and by God's grace—you did. But now you're married. And... what gives? Why is this thing that's supposed to be beautiful, powerful, and God-designed... still clouded with guilt? Why does it feel so hard to enjoy? Why does it feel wrong? Friend, I get it. I was right there with you. Why Christian Wives Struggle With Sex After Marriage See, the problem is that many of us were given half-truths about sex. Yes, sex is meant for marriage. That's clear in Scripture (Matthew 19:5, Hebrews 13:4, and so many others). But what wasn't clear—what was never really taught—was what happens after the wedding. We weren't told that sex could be joyful, playful, passionate, and a gift. We weren't told that it was meant to be good for you, dear wife—not just your husband. We weren't told that God is the one who designed our bodies with tens of thousands of pleasure-sensitive nerve endings. That He's not shocked by desire. He created it. Instead, many of us internalized the message that sex is shameful, dirty, and something to be tolerated—maybe even resented. And so, we carried that shame right into our marriages. My Personal Journey From Sexual Shame to Intimacy I didn't grow up having “the talk.” There was no open, healthy conversation about sex or my body. What I had was silence, shame, and confusion. I stumbled onto pornography while innocently doing homework one day, and curiosity turned into a struggle I couldn't shake for many years. And even though I was a virgin on my wedding night, sex was not what I expected. It was painful—physically and emotionally. My husband and I didn't know how to understand each other. I assumed if he really loved God, he wouldn't have so many desires. I didn't understand that God made him that way—and me, too. But I didn't feel free to receive that truth. But God brought me on a journey of healing—of discovering what His Word really says. That sex in marriage is good. That it's for unity. That it's for mutual joy. That “May you ever be intoxicated with her love” (Proverbs 5:19) is not an embarrassing suggestion—it's God's idea. When Sex Feels Like a Chore Instead of a Gift Even with this new desire, I still didn't (and still don't!) have the same drive as my husband. And often, I would fall into that trap of “duty sex”. Yes, I know what that's like. I've done it. I've gone into intimacy just hoping to avoid conflict. But friend, that's not God's best. That's not what He dreamed up when He designed your body or your marriage. When I engage in intimacy from a place of love and trust, I come out of it refreshed, connected, grounded. Even if I wasn't “in the mood” at the beginning, choosing to lean in with the right heart often opens the door to real pleasure—real bonding. It's a spiritual gift. Are Your Sexual Boundaries From God—or Just Tradition? One thing that often hindered this connection and desire was the restrictions I put on my own self, but where had these even come from? They weren't from the Bible. Sometimes, the rules we put on ourselves aren't in the Bible—they're just tradition, fear, or misunderstanding.  I want to challenge you to ask: Is this boundary actually from God? Because Scripture gives us boundaries to keep sex holy—but it doesn't micromanage how you express love with your spouse. God is not offended by pleasure. He invented it. Let's stop walking past the “sunset” He painted for us in this area of our lives. Let's slow down, take a breath, and receive the beauty. How to Heal From Sexual Shame and Embrace Freedom Healing doesn't happen overnight. It's a step-by-step path out of shame and into joy. And yes, sometimes that means trying something a little new—changing up the lighting, experimenting with different types of touch, or even using intimacy accessories (yep, I said it!) to help bridge the gap between desire and delight. And no, not every time has to be earth-shattering. But what if some of the times were breathtaking? What if the oneness and the joy and the laughter and the satisfaction made you say, “Wow, thank you, God”? Because He deserves that praise. He made you for this. He wants this for you. Final Thoughts Sweet sister, I'm so proud of you. You've already taken a step by reading this far. Don't stop now! God made your body for beauty. He made your marriage for joy. And He made sex for you, too. With love,   Belah & Team   PS - If you want to check out the Pre-Marriage workbooks mentioned in today's episode, check out our Amazon page. All three are available now! PPS - Here is a quote from a recent graduate: "My faith has grown. I am praying more from my heart in conversation with God instead of sending him my "wishlist" of prayers. I am desiring to read my Bible daily and hear God's message for me and know his direction and leading in my life. I am more playful and fun! Playfulness not only brings me joy and makes me feel "lighter" but I've seen it affect my husband and kids as well. We are a more joy-filled family. Our growth in intimacy is a big celebration. I better understand the freedom God gives a husband and wife in sexual intimacy and so I feel free to be creative, spontaneous, fun, and confident with my husband."

In this episode, Kristian and the crew discuss what it's like to be single in the Black Church regardless of your gender or sexual orientation. We'll uncover in this conversation that those factors make a difference. We're joined by two of our community members, BJ Jackson and Paul Best. Subscribe to Patreon Here: https://patreon.com/tfcvirtual Purchase full-length, uncensored episodes of the podcast here: https://patreon.com/tfcvirtual Watch the Patrons-only recording of the first Deconstructing Singles Ministry episode: https://www.youtube.com/live/_sVoY3Qeqzg?si=14q9KM-AgXOA8hIT Get Merch here: https://thefaithcommunity.org/merch-store Order Breaking All The Rules here: https://www.kristianasmith.com/breaking-all-the-rules Video Chapters 00:00 - Intro and Highlights 08:04 - Did not our hearts burn within us? - Part 1 Recap 12:30 - The One Rule 19:09 - Describe your experience as a single person in the Black Church 43:07 - Decentering Heterosexual Relationships 46:32 - Leave me out of your misery - Reaching for the Stars 1:02:10 - Jackie Hill Perry Levels of Repression 1:09:11 - The Masturbation Stigma 1:13:49 - How has Purity Culture impacted your relationships? 1:15:22 - Some single church mothers are closeted lesbians?   The Faith Community is a groundbreaking, inclusive faith community where the traditional meets the transformational. It exists to challenge harmful religious norms while creating a safe, affirming space for spiritual seekers of all kinds. Through virtual connection, theological interrogation, and an emphasis on love and self-acceptance, TFC helps its audience find abundant life and community without compromising their identity.

Erica Smith helps Purity Culture dropouts rebuild their sexual ethic after escaping restrictive religions, and this week she's helping all of us deal with the cult of America. On the way we talk about how porn addiction isn't real, how to keep yourself sane through the news, and how the revolution demands fuckin' and suckin'. To get the full version of this episode Join Patreon at $11/month or substack at $8/month. Sub space membership sign-ups are currently paused. Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here. Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com Go here for information on how to record a voice memo Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0 CREDITS Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune With Additional Support from Mr. Dune Artwork by Kayleigh Denner Music by Dan Molad

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Purity culture wasn't just a set of rules—it was a full-blown system of fear, shame, and control that dictated everything from dating to what we wore to whether or not we could even think about smashing without disappointing God. In this episode, I take a deep dive into how purity culture shaped my childhood, warped my understanding of relationships, and made me legitimately believe I was going to hell for shucking the corn at 13. From forced confession sessions to the bizarre ways we were taught to see each other as “brothers and sisters in Christ,” this episode unpacks the weird, uncomfortable, and straight-up damaging ways the church tried to keep us "pure." But this isn't just about the past—purity culture's grip doesn't just disappear overnight. Even today, I catch myself fighting against the messages drilled into me as a kid, and I know I'm not the only one. Whether you grew up in this world or you're just here for the wild ride, this episode breaks down how purity culture ultimately benefits men, how it oversexualizes women, and how we can start to unlearn the shame we were never meant to carry. Buckle up—this one's a doozy. Thank you for tuning in to this episode of Clemenz With a Z. Your support means everything to me and helps keep these conversations going. Purity culture left so many of us with shame, guilt, and confusion—but talking about it? That's how we take our power back. If you were a part of the ICOC, ICC, or any high-control religious group and purity culture shaped your experience in ways you're still unpacking, I'd love to hear from you. You're not alone in this, and together, we can continue exploring the question, ‘We were in a cult?'—and maybe even start to heal from it. You can reach me via email at clemenzwithaz@gmail.com, or send me a DM on Instagram at the Clemenz With a Z podcast page. And if this episode resonated with you, please rate and review—it helps more people find these stories. And remember: I'm just a channel, I ain't the source. If you would like to support the podcast financially please follow this link: https://gofund.me/7ebb0524 Until next time, take care of yourself, trust your gut, and unlearn the shame you were never meant to carry.  Peace!"

In this episode, we welcome Ben Stuart back to the show. He is a pastor and author. He serves as the lead pastor of Passion City Church, Washington D.C. Prior to joining Passion City Church, Ben served as the executive director of Breakaway Ministries on the campus of Texas A&M. Ben earned a master's degree in historical theology from Dallas Theological Seminary. In this interview, we discuss the challenges in leading a church in Washington D.C., what he learned about young men once he moved to D.C., how to spread the Gospel in a city obsessed with power and control, how he makes sure his church is “man-friendly”, how he personally avoids the temptations that come with being a well-known pastor, why the rumors of “the death of marriage” have been greatly exaggerated, why we should put God first in all of our relationships, what advice he has for people that are dating (since the Bible does not explicitly address it), what he would say to people that feel “hurt” by so-called “Purity Culture”, what we get wrong about sex, and much more. Let's get into it… Episode notes and links HERE. Donate to support our mission of equipping men to push back darkness. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

One of the biggest criticisms of purity culture is the way it reduced sexuality to a list of do's and don'ts, but there are lots of other reasons millennial men and women report feeling burned by it. Dr. Camden Morgante, author of “Recovering from Purity Culture”, shares some of the harmful narratives that formed the movement, and provides some alternative approaches to discussing sexuality.   Guest: Dr. Camden Morgante   Website: drcamden.com Instagram: @drcamden   Book: Recovering From Purity Culture by Dr. Camden Morgante Free Resource: Why You Still Need Boundaries As You Pursue Sexual Integrity   Sign up for our email list!   Timestamps 00:00 Introduction to Purity Culture 02:13 Camden's Personal Journey and Professional Insights 05:58 Understanding the Harm of Purity Culture 09:52 Navigating Sexual Awakening in Adolescence 13:58 The Importance of Teaching Values 15:57 Dating Dynamics and Courtship Culture 22:08 Modesty and Its Misinterpretations 25:07 The Role of Patriarchy in Purity Culture 30:54 Steps Towards Healing and Wholeness 39:03 Conclusion and Final Thoughts   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

UPDATE: Uploaded the sizzle file by accident. Should be the correct file now. In start contrast to last episode's rundown of I Kissed Dating Goodbye's no-touch, no fun, no-humanity mindset, we look at more recent trends in remaining "pure" while still managing to get some. And it's bizarre. The Horny Chapel is part of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dauntless Media Collective.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Send us a message at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hornychapel@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/hornychapel/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Jeremiah Gibson and Julia Postema, AASECT Certified Sex Therapists, explore the lasting impacts of purity culture, their personal journeys, and how they help clients reclaim sexual health and desire after religious trauma. Tune in for insights on navigating faith transitions, healing from shame, and embracing a sex-positive future.   Connect with Jeremiah and Julia: Substack: Relationship 101 Coaching Services: Let's Heal Together Podcast: Sexvangelicals Instagram: @sexvangelicals

Waking up one day and wondering if you're upholding Christian Nationalism is not an easy position to find oneself.  April Ajoy shares her transformative journey from a fundamentalist Christian upbringing to questioning how her faith could include embracing a more inclusive worldview. They discuss the intersections of faith, politics, and sexuality, particularly in the context of Christian nationalism and purity culture. April reflects on her journey from away right wing extremism via the impact of a a deep personal loss, a few loved one's coming out stories, and the challenges of navigating relationships and sexuality as an adult. Their conversation highlights the importance of self-discovery, the dangers of religion seeking power, and the need for open discussions about sexuality and consent, especially for practicing Christians. TW: brief discussion of sexual assault - see the chapters for the timing.  April Ajoy's information: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aprilajoy/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/aprilajoy Get a copy of Star-Spangled Jesus https://tr.ee/KOqRtqhQEc    Chapters 00:00 Introduction to April Ajoy and Her Journey 06:50 Leaving Christian Nationalism Behind 09:50 The Impact of Personal Loss on Faith 10:42 Political Awakening and the Trump Era 15:39 Understanding Christian Nationalism 19:43 The Intersection of Faith and LGBTQ+ Issues 24:41 Coming out close to home 27:13 The Role of Consent in Purity Culture 32:14 TW: Mention of SA 34:42 Reclaiming Autonomy and Sexuality 42:35 Unlearning that "sex is bad" isn't like flipping a light switch 46:06 The Intersection of Purity Culture and Christian Nationalism 52:58 The Dangers of Christian Nationalism today 55:00 Ask Coach Kristen Anything - Do you think DT and Melania still have sex?    Thanks for listening! XOXO Kristen   Support my work by becoming a Patron on Patreon: patreon.com/coach_kristen      Check out all the affiliates and discounts I have with quality sexual health companies: https://www.openthedoorscoaching.com/affiliates   Learn more about my coaching services : openthedoorscoaching.com Book an information session: https://rebrand.ly/TalkToKristen Dirty Bird e-newsletter: https://zc.vg/sf/vfMdv SFW e-newsletter: https://zc.vg/081sd Be on Keep Them Coming: https://forms.gle/g8CB2z61Vep9h3XQ8 Want your question answered?  https://forms.gle/xNBLKCcUy75h97nZ8 Hire me to speak at your event: https://rebrand.ly/Hire_Coach_Kristen   Read my column in The Pitch Magazine: https://www.thepitchkc.com/tag/keep-them-coming/   TikTok  https://www.tiktok.com/@coachkristen YouTube https://youtube.com/@openthedoorscoaching Bluesky https://bsky.app/profile/coachkristen.bsky.social Discord: https://discord.gg/uskVndTM LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/coach-kristen-thomas/    

It's a concept we all grew up with, and it's certainly shaped the way Hollywood tells stories about sex, but have you ever stopped to ask where the idea of virginity even came from? In this bonus episode, DB breaks down the history of virginity as a social construct, how it's been used to control women, and why the hymen was never a reliable “proof” of anything. What would sex look and feel like if it wasn't about losing something? Let's rethink the way we talk about first-time sex! Mentioned in this episode: "The 40 Year Old Virgin": The Bro Comedy That Hates Women Planned Parenthood on Virginity  

Natsha is joined by Camden Morgante on this episode of the Natasha Helfer Podcast to discuss her book, "Recovering from Purity Culture". Camden is a licensed psychologist, coach, speaker, and author and her mission is to help folks heal their faith, sexuality, and relationships from toxic beliefs. To find out more about Camden, you can visit her webiste: drcamden.com   To help keep this podcast going, please consider donating at natashahelfer.com and share this episode. To watch the video of this podcast, you can subscribe to Natasha's channel on Youtube and follow her professional Facebook page at natashahelfer LCMFT, CST-S. You can find all her cool resources at natashahelfer.com.  The information shared on this program is informational and should not be considered therapy. This podcast addresses many topics around mental health and sexuality and may not be suitable for minors. Some topics may elicit a trigger or emotional response so please care for yourself accordingly. The views, thoughts and opinions expressed by our guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views or feelings of Natasha Helfer or the Natasha Helfer Podcast. We provide a platform for open and diverse discussions, and it is important to recognize that different perspectives may be shared. We encourage our listeners to engage in critical thinking and form their own opinions. The intro and outro music for these episodes is by Otter Creek. Thank you for listening. And remember: Symmetry is now offering Ketamine services. To find out more, go to symcounseling.com/ketamine-services.

In this episode, Jake and Bethany are talking about sex within marriage and if lingerie should be part of a Christian marriage. We have noticed that sex and Christianity are not talked about together enough so we are aiming to open the conversation up in this episode and bring it back to the Bible.Samaritan Ministries: www.samaritanministries.org/wavesandlilacsMentionables: code BETHANY for 10% offWhatever is True Co: Held In HonorLike, Follow and Subscribe:Please leave a review on Apple PodcastsSubscribe to Bethany's email listFind us on Instagram: Podcast: whateveristrueco Bethany: wavesandlilacs Jake: jakeoffscript

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If you were raised in Purity Culture, you already know how challenging it can be to overcome now that you're an adult. You spent years being taught that it's important for you to be wholesome, that pleasure is sinful, and that there are very specific rules you need to follow. In this episode, we're sharing stories from people who were raised in Purity Culture, and giving you step-by-step tips for overcoming shame. Links and Resources: Reignite your love life in just 7 days? ➡︎ https://shop.vmtherapy.com/your-best-week-ever/?ref=podcast-191&utm_term=podcast-191 Treat Your Partner to the Best F0replay they've ever had: https://shop.vmtherapy.com/foreplay-guides-2022/?ref=podcast-191&utm_term=podcast-191 Check out our NYT best selling book Sex Talks: ➡︎ https://sextalksbook.com/?ref=podcast-191&utm_term=podcast-191 Connect with us!

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