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Mormons on Mushrooms
65: Unpacking Purity Culture w/ Purity to Polyamory

Mormons on Mushrooms

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 12, 2021 95:12


We're back for another juicy one! Join Mike, Doug and Shelise as we unpack purity culture, religious indoctrination and sexual shame with the founder / host of Purity to Polyamory:Purity to Polyamory is a podcast and writer/creator dedicated to helping people in deconstructing purity culture, oppressive religious structures, and recovering religious trauma survivors who are exploring non-traditional relationship structures such as ethical non monogamy and polyamory. IG: @puritytopolyamoryPodcast

Parenting Forward
132: Mild At Heart: Deconstructing Purity Culture in Men w/ Bradley Onishi

Parenting Forward

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 11, 2021 39:33


Because of a whole host of systemic issues, the parenting space is mostly populated with women. In other words, mothers are the primary parenting influencers. Of course, there are several fantastic dad voices out there. I'm constantly on a mission to seek them out and am always on the lookout for anyone talking about deconstructing toxic masculinity.  Because of this, I was really excited to find out about Bradley Onishi. He hosts a group for people exploring sex, love, and masculinity after purity culture. I love what Bradley does because there are so many more conversations that need to be had on purity culture from different perspectives.  In this episode, we talk about all of this. Bradley helps us understand how to deconstruct purity culture for the boys we are raising. He also answers the question I am constantly getting from all of you parents in the audience: how do I raise my sons without toxic masculinity? Tune in to learn from Bradley's incredible insights. Show Highlights: Bradley's background with evangelicalism and the church. Why adolescence is such a vulnerable time and, therefore, a particularly difficult time to get thrown into purity culture. How purity culture harms both men and women. Why Bradley feels like his conversion to evangelicalism was an immediate conversion to purity culture as well. How purity culture leads to toxic masculinity. Bradley's perspective of deconstructing from a privileged place. How to raise straight white boys in a way that is forging forward equity, undoing oppression, and dismantling toxic masculinity systems. What homosocial enactment is. Why it's dangerous to always separate boys and girls in youth ministry. How to actually let your kids be themselves. Why it's so hard to be a child. Links (affiliates included): Join us at the Parenting Forward Patreon Team - https://www.patreon.com/cindywangbrandt Parenting Forward, the Book - https://amzn.to/3g0LJPn You Are Revolutionary - https://www.beamingbooks.com/store/product/9781506478302/You-Are-Revolutionary *** EPISODE CREDITS: If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment. He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world. Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

Sit Still With Sierra
Ep. 30: Purity Culture Mythology with Harmoni Burton

Sit Still With Sierra

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 9, 2021 33:18


In this episode, Sierra and Harmoni have a robust conversation about unlearning false doctrine, specifically myths perpetuated from purity culture. Follow the podcast @sitstillwithsierra and Harmoni @h.burton_99 on Instagram.

Paul and Morgan Show
Christians React To Rhett And Link's Purity Culture Video

Paul and Morgan Show

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 7, 2021 35:43


‘Christians React To Rhett And Link's Purity Culture Video' It's time to talk PURITY CULTURE! Youtubers Rhett and Link (Good Mythical Morning) recently opened up on their Ear Biscuits podcast about their experiences growing up under purity culture and the effects it had on their dating lives and views on s*x. As former Christians who fell away from the faith, Rhett and Link's conversation around purity culture is one I think many Christians can relate to. There are a lot of strong opinions against purity culture. We'll use their video to decide where we stand!   Thanks for being part of the P&M Fam!! SUBSCRIBE!

The Modesty Files
#32 - Deconstructing with an Audience: Lindsey of TikTok's @cultchronicals Shares Her Experience with Bill Gothard and IBLP - Part Two

The Modesty Files

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 6, 2021 45:25


Today we're continuing our conversation with Lindsey. Last week, she shared with us was it was like growing in ATI culture and working with Bill Gothard at Headquarters for the Advanced Training Institute. If you haven't listened to Part One, we highly recommend going back to hear Lindsey's story from the beginning. Lindsey is going to share with us how she ultimately left ATI, fell in love, and started a new life for herself outside of the church.Topics in this episode include mature adult themes, so listener discretion is advised.Support us on Patreon! patreon.com/themodestyfilesFollow us on Instagram @themodestyfiles for updates and bonus content.

Straight White American Jesus
Mild at Heart: Love, Sex, and Masculinity After Purity Culture: Ep 4

Straight White American Jesus

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 6, 2021 24:24


Brad shares an episode from his deconstruction when he began to date again. It was the first time he was out of church and single since he converted. What ensued was a crisis of self image and a crisis of masculinity. While he was overjoyed to be outside the narrow confines of the Evangelical fold, he also had no tools with which to understand himself in the world. When he tried to date "out there in the world," he immediately felt worthless, empty, and full of self doubt. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://swaj.supportingcast.fm

I Love You So Much With. Kenzie Elizabeth
Reframing Negative Belief Patterns, Fear of Dating, Toxic Purity Culture & Creating Boundaries with my College BFF Jess

I Love You So Much With. Kenzie Elizabeth

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 30, 2021 55:27


Description: Welcome to the ILYSM Podcast with Kenzie Elizabeth. Today Kenzie sits down with her college BFF Jess to talk reframing negative belief patterns, fear or dating, toxic purity culture & creating boundaries. Hope you enjoy xo!  SHOP MERCH: https://shop.dearmedia.com/collections/ilysm   SECRET FACEBOOK PAGE: https://bit.ly/2zEx3BM   JOIN OUR GENEVA GROUP CHAT: https://links.geneva.com/invite/ab361e92-0405-41ad-9e12-b17b592365bc   JOIN THE MAILING LIST: https://bit.ly/2uumkus   Kenzie's Channel: https://youtube.com/kenzieelizabeth   Kenzie's IG: https://bit.ly/298RzRn   Kenzie's Twitter: https://bit.ly/2RdtJsE   ILYSM IG: https://bit.ly/2vlwxXy   ILYSM YOUTUBE: https://bit.ly/2UQ8DUj   Jess:  https://instagram.com/jesssicaohara?utm_medium=copy_link   Shop the collection on the Nasty Gal app at nastygal.com Visit TryOhza.com and use code ILoveYou at checkout for $5 off your first purchase Produced by Dear Media

The Modesty Files
#31 - Deconstructing with an Audience: Lindsey of TikTok's @cultchronicals Shares Her Experience with Bill Gothard and Growing Up in IBLP/AT

The Modesty Files

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2021 61:36


Welcome to SEASON THREE of The Modesty Files! On today's episode, we're speaking with Lindsey, a former member of Advanced Training Institute, the infamous homeschool curriculum created by Bill Gothard. While we know our guest as Lindsey, for those on TikTok, you may know her as at @cultchronicles. Looking for something to do at the start of quarantine, Lindsey decided to re-read her old journals and document her re-exploration of the past on TikTok. She went viral, and people were fascinated by the stories she was sharing. But more importantly, Lindsey discovered that opening up about her life in ATI was what she needed to finally begin her healing process. So today, instead of hearing Lindsey's experience growing up in ATI in a 1-minute video, we have two episodes to explore the depths of her upbringing.Topics in this episode include mature adult themes, so listener discretion is advised.Support us on Patreon! patreon.com/themodestyfilesFollow us on Instagram @themodestyfiles for updates and bonus content.

Straight White American Jesus
Mild at Heart: Love, Sex, and Masculinity After Purity Culture: Ep 3

Straight White American Jesus

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2021 26:07


Brad continues his analysis of sex and masculinity in purity culture. He focuses on how it teaches men to hate themselves twice. First, they hate themselves for continually giving into lust and sexual temptation. It is a losing battle that can't be won. Second, they hate themselves because men are supposed to be sexual barbarians. So, when they get married, if they don't want to engage in sexual activity all the time, then they aren't real men. This hurts women because they are asked to be the gatekeepers of purity in one instance and taught that they are doing something wrong if their husband doesn't want sex multiple times per day in the next. For an ad-free premium feed, https://irreverent.supportingcast.fm/straight-white-american-jesus-premium. Use code SWAJ for 60% off the monthly rate! Use code SWAJyear for $12 off the annual membership! All patrons receive an ad-free experience too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://swaj.supportingcast.fm

Restored 2 More
How the Purity Narrative Set Me Up For Failure with Noah Filipiak

Restored 2 More

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2021 49:20


Unfortunately, many of us are set up to fail regarding sex in marriage. Noah shares how the purity culture led him to believe that if he saved himself sexually, sex in marriage would be utterly satisfying, effortlessly enjoyable, and fulfilling. When it wasn't, he turned to God in frustration and begged to be given what he thought he deserved. Noah shares how his relationship with God transformed in this crisis and, through it all, became a writer, a better pastor, and ultimately a closer follower of Jesus.More Resources:https://www.noahfilipiak.com/https://www.noahfilipiak.com/category/blog/podcast/the-flip-side/Our Resources:https://www.instagram.com/restored2more/https://restored2more.com/

Roundup Podcast
Talking Back to Purity Culture with Rachel Welcher

Roundup Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 28, 2021 47:02


Enlightened The Podcast by Sophia Spallino | Honest & Encouraging Conversations that Inspire Personal Growth
DATING, DESIRE, & SEXUAL INTEGRITY with Kat Harris -- Purity Culture vs. Hookup Culture -- Sexual Ethics -- Dating Advice -- Personal Development -- Spirituality --

Enlightened The Podcast by Sophia Spallino | Honest & Encouraging Conversations that Inspire Personal Growth

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 28, 2021


If you're caught between purity culture & running free like a wild, liberated woman, trying to navigate dating and sexual integrity…this episode is for YOU. In this episode Kat Harris & I talk about sex, lack of sex, sexual ethics, & personal boundaries! Enlightened friends, it's been a while since I have had a progressive Christian voice on the podcast. If you didn't already know, I am a spiritual, but not religious girl, who has deconstructed (and is still deconstructing) from Christianity. I promise today's guest is incredible, open-minded, full of love, and wisdom.  Kat Harris is the host of The Refined Collective Podcast, and Co-Founder of the online publication The Refined Woman. The New York Times, Vanity Fair, GQ, Forbes, People, Who What Wear, US Weekly, Glamour UK, and more. She coaches and equips women all over the world in dating, relationships, singleness, sexuality, faith and how to build a renewed and healthy biblical sexual ethic rooted in freedom, truth and grace as opposed to the oh-so-common shame and fear narratives so many experienced growing up in evangelical culture. Ultimately, her vision is for women to know their beauty, identity, worth and value and to experience untapped freedom and joy in their lives regardless of their relationship status.  This episode covers topics like: -What is sexuality and who does it belong to -How to deconstruct negative ideologies surrounding your sexuality -What is sex and how do I know if I'm ACTUALLY abstaining from it -How to identify physical boundaries in dating without falling into legalism, fear, or shame -How modern research and science proves there's no such thing as casual sex  -The "Disgust Response" and why you need to know about it! -How to develop a holistic & healthy sexual ethic  -Positioning yourself for a long term relationship or whatever you really want rather than settling for crumbs  -The instant 'spark', the 'one', and the truth about lasting intimacy  -How to know if he's emotionally unavailable or only looking for a casual fling  Stay in touch with Kat Harris: Follow on IG: https://www.instagram.com/therefinedwoman  Get her book: sexlessinthecitybook.com Subscribe to her podcast: THE REFINED WOMAN  Kat's website: www.therefinedwoman.com Join the Refined Collective on IG: https://www.instagram.com/therefinedcollective/ If you feel comfortable to share how the show is touching your heart, please leave a rating and review on iTunes or the Apple Podcast App. It will only take a minute, but genuine reviews are vital to the success of my show, so please review by tapping here. Thank you for supporting my labor of love by sharing screenshots of the podcast, subscribing, and by pledging to contribute. Because creating inspiring content demands my time, creativity, resources, and talent, I depend on generous listeners like you to support the production of my show. Kindly support Enlightened for as little as $0.99/mo by tapping here. *you may cancel at anytime. With infinite love and gratitude, I pray that peace be with you. xo Sophia (@SophiaSpallino on Instagram) Listen to MY HEALING: a forgiveness anthem that I wrote and recorded: https://sophiaspallino.trac.co/sophiaspallinomyhealing Watch the Lyric Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Da4M2KKGbF0 Learn more about me and what I do: https://www.SophiaSpallino.com Follow me on Instagram for inspiring real-life stories everyday: https://www.instagram.com/sophiaspallino/ Pledge to support my show: http://bit.ly/SupportEnlightened Shop my merch: https://www.SophiaSpallino.com/shop Shop my favorite books and card decks here: http://bit.ly/SoulBooks If you would like to download my TikTok/Reels or Podcast Start Up class, here is the link: https://sophiaspallino.com/mentorship/ If you are seeking wisdom & guidance, branding/social media tips, dating advice, a breakup breakthrough session, or a card reading, schedule a one-on-one virtual meeting with me: https://sophiaspallino.com/mentorship

Simply Stories Podcast
Episode 98 :: Jody Hedlund :: Stories of What We Learn from the Past, Knowing God's Word, and the Prevailing Power of the Gospel

Simply Stories Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 23, 2021 70:51


Today on the podcast is the incredible and much beloved author Jody Hedlund. Jody is the author of a vast array of books ranging in topics, locations, historical people, and places in time. One of her latest novels engages the mystery of the miracles that took place in Canterbury England during the Middle Ages. Come Back to Me is full of early church history, mixed with a little bit of fantasy, the Tree of Life from the Garden of Eden and Revelation, and sifting through what's fact and fiction is absolutely fascinating. Jody is spectacularly gifted at using stories to capture the attention of our hearts, and highlighting where God has moved in the past to help us see where He is moving now.  This is one of those episodes where you I got to unpack all the things that just bring me a lot of joy: the power of the Gospel, the power of stories, what history teaches us (and how much I still don't know about history) and how allllll of that applies to everyday life. So much of the Church's history carries deep wounds, but the Gospel survives throughout history even when broken people twist it to their own advantage, because the gift of Christ cannot be tarnished and His Word cannot be stopped. (All the praise hands!) Jody is just a fascinating woman of faith, and she brings such fascinating insight into how stories hold space for conversations in everyday life. As a Mom of multiple teens and a youth small group leader, she offers poignant perspective about conversations with the next generation about hard things. They are growing up under tremendous pressure, and confusion about who they are, what constitutes a healthy relationship just to name a few things. The importance of knowing God's Word, and developing a relationship with the Lord so that Spirit can lead you in times of plenty and times of famine is imperative in the lives of all people. If we don't know how to find and drink from the water of life, we'll end up digging our own cisterns and that does not lead to the abundant life Christ died to give us. (Jeremiah 2:13, John 10:10) I hope and pray that we will seek the Lord with all our heart, mind, soul and strength so that those things can be so real in us, it overflows onto others, our neighbors, of all ages, and all struggles. Let the redeemed of the Lord tell their story. Tell of what God has done in your life. Tell of where you've struggled, wrestled and questioned, and then share where God met you in it. It means more than you will ever know. Because you matter friend, your story matters.   Connecting with Jody: -Books -Facebook -Jody's Reader Room -Instagram -Pinterest -Twitter  -Website    Episode Sponsor: His Kids Company Use the Code: SIMPLY20 for 20% off Shop Here Follow them on: Facebook, Instagram   Resources: -”Talking to Jesus”- Maverick City Music featuring Brandon Lake  -John Bunyan- her book The Preacher's Bride  -Bio-fiction  -Erin Bartels and the “Michigan Mitten” -Bride ships (not exclusive to this area, but here's a historical idea) - her books -Orphan Trains- her books -Her Young Adult fiction, Fairest Maiden Series and Lost Princesses, etc.   -Martin Luther // her book: Luther and Katharina -John Newton // her book: Newton and Polly  -Heidi Chivaroli (one of my favorite dual timeline authors) -The Middle Ages -”Robin Hood: Prince of Thieves” (my personal favorite version of the options out there. The Disney version not withstanding)  -”Outlander” -Holy Water, St. Thomas ampullas and then the pilgrim ones (I think and details of their history) -Canterbury Cathedral (this also shares a lot about Thomas) and the “miracle windows”  -realistic visions with the Holy Water from the life of Christ  -”life giving” water research, legends about fountain of youth, etc.  -Wallsingham miracles / archives -Canterbury miracles -Hundred Years War between England and France -Peasants Revolt against the nobility and the clergy / Wat Tyler's Rebellion -The Crusades -King Richard I ( the Lionheart ) -the other King Richard II (a TWEEN King. Crazy) -Dr. Bryan Litfin (our episode, his books, and his study of the Early Church) -the Christian persecution by Rome -Constantine and his conversion to Christianity -John Wycliffe, the translator of the Bible from Latin to English -first 3 YA books with Zondervan's study guides, here is one of them for An Uncertain Choice  -Purity Culture issues (an example)- ( Additionally Tiffany Bluhm and I talk about this at length in our conversation Episode 79. Her book Prey Tell also talks about this as well.) -Never Leave Me- pre-order here -Her new YA series, Knights of the Brethren books 1 and 2 releases November and December -Cowboy for Keeps, released in January, and the second one The Heart of a Cowboy comes out October 2nd!    Scripture References: Genesis 2:9, Genesis 3:22-24-“The Tree of Life” from the Garden of Eden  Genesis 2:8-17, Genesis 3-“The Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil” in the Garden of Eden, and the fall  1 Thessalonians 4:17, 1 John 2:17 -Living forever redeemed with Him  Revelations 22:1-3-Revelation speaks of a tree of life in Heaven  Deuteronomy 6:6-7 and 11:18, Psalm 119:11, Colossians 3:16-Hiding God's word in your heart  Proverbs 3:5-6, Phillippians 4:8, James 1:5 -being able to distinguish what's true  John 8:31-32-the truth will set you free Ephesians 4:1-live life worthy of your calling Isaiah 30:21-following the voice of the Spirit  Acts 9 / Acts 22:6-21 -Saul/Paul on the road to Damascus and his conversion  Ephesians 6:17-the Word is our sword  John 14:26-The Holy Spirit would come and remind us of what Jesus said  Hebrews 4:12-the Word of God is alive Ecclesiastes 1:9-there is nothing new under the sun  Genesis 1:27, Ephesians 2:10, Psalm 18:19,  Psalm 147:11, Isaiah 62:3-5, Zephaniah 3:17, -we are special to God  Joel 2:13,Hosea 6:6, Ezekiel 36:26,Psalm 51  -God does not promise blessing for good behavior, He is after our hearts  -we persevere (a great list of verses from an interesting source lol) Lamentations 3:22-23, Psalm 33:4 -we can trust Him  Isaiah 55:8-9,-His ways are higher than ours Hebrews 11:1-Faith comes down to believing that He is doing something we can't see John 16:33-In this world we will have trouble  Jeremiah 29:11, Romans 8:26, 1 Corinthians 2:11, -God knows what each person needs to hear  Connecting with Emily and Simply Stories Podcast:Instagram (Em life // Podcast Life)FacebookTwitterBlog  *Intro and Outro music is from audionautix.com

Straight White American Jesus
Mild at Heart: Love, Sex, and Masculinity After Purity Culture: Ep 2

Straight White American Jesus

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 22, 2021 25:23


Brad discusses the strange contradiction at the heart of purity culture's vision of masculinity: You are a sexual savage that has a near uncontrollable libido and that is just how God made you. And you, the uncontrollable animal, should be the leader of church, family, and society. This, among other things, is a form of rape culture. It's also an infantilizing view of masculinity and sexuality that hurts men . . . and women. For an ad-free premium feed, https://irreverent.supportingcast.fm/straight-white-american-jesus-premium. Use code SWAJ for 60% off the monthly rate! Use code SWAJyear for $12 off the annual membership! All patrons receive an ad-free experience too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://swaj.supportingcast.fm

Unchurchable
Meg Cowan - Recovering from purity culture and finding sexual freedom

Unchurchable

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 22, 2021 66:53


The wonderful Meg Cowan has been on my list of interviewees for a while - a fellow Southern Hemisphere girl from across the ditch in New Zealand. Her work as a sex and intimacy coach has seen Meg in the long grass of helping purity culture survivors reclaim and heal their relationship with their bodies. This conversation was one we had a couple of goes at, and I promise you its worth a listen. It goes without saying that this episode carries a content warning. But don't all the good tings in life. Enjoy

We're Not Weighting's podcast
Ep. 125 Liberating Your Sex Life by Liberating Your Body with Guest Dr. Celeste Holbrook

We're Not Weighting's podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 22, 2021 53:29


We are delighted to share our conversation with Dr. Celeste Holbrook this week. This episode addresses the effect purity culture has on our sex lives, our bodies, and our ability to be intimate.  GUEST INFO  Dr. Celeste Holbrook is a sexologist and speaker who helps her clients evolve into the women they were created to be, in and outside of the bedroom. She speaks on a variety of topics from sex drive and sexual shame to painful intercourse, purity culture, and more. Her mission is to provide safe spaces for people to talk about sex. You can find her teaching classes for The Velvet Box or at her website at www.drcelesteholbrook.com.  MENTIONS Sex Positive Families  SHOW SPONSORS Get Your Free Copy of our We're Not Weighting Workbook  If you're craving more freedom and peace in the midst of diet culture, our Live Free Collective is made for you. We created a monthly membership just for listeners of our podcast. You get a monthly coaching call with Tonya and Tracy, a supportive community of women who just like you are on their own their LIVE FREE Journey. Plus bonus downloads like mantra cards, phone wallpapers and backgrounds, and a monthly meditation. And it's all available on your phone for $18 a month! To find out more, click here.

Ear Biscuits
303: Our College Years: Dating Our Wives In Purity Culture | Ear Biscuits Ep.303

Ear Biscuits

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 20, 2021 97:13


From a masturbation chart posted in their college apartment to the extent of the physical relationship with their wives pre-marriage, listen to R&L talk about how they navigated through purity culture during their college years and throughout their engagement on this third episode of Sextember! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ave Spotlight
Episode 59: The Danger of Purity Culture with Hannah Gutierrez

Ave Spotlight

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 20, 2021 16:54


Let's talk purity culture! In this episode, Hannah Gutierrez, formerly with the Culture Project, talks about sexual education and how to find balance in our hyper-sexualized world. Gutierrez hopes that people recognize their value and worth to live a life of virtue free of shame and open to God's mercy.

Straight White American Jesus
Mild at Heart: Love, Sex, and Masculinity After Purity Culture: Intro and Ep. 1

Straight White American Jesus

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 15, 2021 18:27


For an ad-free premium feed, https://irreverent.supportingcast.fm/straight-white-american-jesus-premium. Use code SWAJ for 60% off the monthly rate! Use code SWAJyear for $12 off the annual membership! All patrons receive an ad-free experience too! On this first installment of Mild at Heart, Brad shares some of his experience with purity culture. He focuses on how it taught him to hate his mind for the way it led him into continual sexual sin, and to hate his body for the way it stood in the way of his walk with God. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://swaj.supportingcast.fm

A Tiny Revolution
#155: Purity Culture, PTSD, and Parenting w/ Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers

A Tiny Revolution

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 14, 2021 50:19


Dr. Tina is an author, psychotherapist, professor, speaker, and bad ass who has been talking about the damage of purity culture since 2006. her newest book, Shameless Parenting, tackles how to raise your kids without the shame you had growing up, and how to heal your own along the way. Find her on her website and follow on Instagram. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Thrive Marriage Podcast
What to do if Your Marriage has Incorporated Bad Thinking

Thrive Marriage Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 14, 2021 16:26


Where in your marriage have you written something, unintentionally, that has a toxic dynamic? That has been woven in alongside things that are meeting genuine needs? What do you actually want to write into your marriage rather than incorporate from someone else's teaching or influence? Whose script are you living? Spurred by thoughts on The Rise and Fall of Mars Hill Podcast and the influence of Mark Driscoll on couples.Download "Take Up Your Pen and Write" for free HERE. Check out the Thrive Mini-Course on Story HERE.Thrive Marriage Lab is a product of ReStory™ Labs, powered by Restoration Counseling and a part of the ReStory™ Universe network.Learn more about Thrive Marriage Lab. Learn more about ReStory™ Labs. Learn more about Restoration Counseling. Learn more about ReStory™ Universe.Learn more about marriage intensives with Chris or Tracy.

ShrinkChicks
Purity Culture Dropout with Erica Smith, M.Ed.

ShrinkChicks

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 13, 2021 56:11


Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are joined by the amazing Erica Smith, M.Ed., sex educator and creator of the Purity Culture Dropout Program. Erica educates us all on purity culture and what it looks like in our world today. They discuss Erica's path to becoming a sex educator and the work she does to help her clients recover from the effects of purity culture. They cover topics like dress codes in schools, abstinence only sex education and why it doesn't work, how abortion became a central part of American politics, and so much more. Tune in to find out what Erica is calling BS on and why Emmalee got sent home from middle school during Home Ec class.  The various resources (and then some!) that Erica mentioned in today's episode: Erica's Purity Culture Dropout program: https://www.ericasmitheac.com/the-purity-culture-dropout-program Jo Luehmann Twitter account Shameless by Nadia Bolz Weber Sex Positive Families for all things raising children with a healthy, shame free sense of sexuality Pure by Linda Kay Klein Jamie Lee Finch Church Too: How Purity Culture Upholds Abuse and How to Find Healing by Emily Joy Allison  Shameless Parenting: Tina Schermer Sellers  Thanks to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: ZocDoc: Go to zocdoc.com/shrink and download the ZocDoc app to sign-up for FREE and book a top-rated doctor. Many are available as soon as today! Dipsea: Sign up for an extended 30 day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/shrink 

Ear Biscuits
302: Our Teenage Years: Growing Up In Purity Culture | Ear Biscuits Ep.302

Ear Biscuits

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 13, 2021 79:17


You better not. From a message on Rhett's bedroom ceiling to meetings out in the Walmart parking lot, listen to R&L talk about their sexual experience during their teenage years while growing up in purity culture on the second episode of the Sextember miniseries! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Christian AF Podcast
Episode 40 - Pure AF

Christian AF Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 7, 2021 63:05


Purity Culture has done a number on the Church over the years. Misogyny, sexual guilt, misinformation, and sexual abuse are only a few of the many destructive issues caused by this movement, leaving a wake of confused, abused, and misguided generations of would-be Christ-followers. Being full of obvious flaws, our natural reaction is to push back against this largely Evangelical culture with everything we have, but should we be throwing out the baby with the bathwater? Join us in this conversation as we talk about all things "purity".––––––––LINKS AND SOCIAL MEDIAWebsite • Facebook  •  InstagramEmail: christianafpodcast@gmail.comSupport the show (https://paypal.me/ChristianAFPodcast)

Faith and Feminism
Episode 147: Reclaiming Our Sex Lives After Purity Culture with Dr. Celeste Holbrook

Faith and Feminism

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 6, 2021 63:02


Many of us grew up in purity culture, and were disappointed, angry, or afraid when we began to have sex and it wasn't as promised. In this episode, Dr. Celeste Holbrook talks about recovering from purity culture and reclaiming our sex lives.

But, What's Next? with Michelle Reed
Toxic Friendships, Purity Culture, & Drama with In Laws! Answering Advice Questions

But, What's Next? with Michelle Reed

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 6, 2021 43:06


In this episode, I answer your life advice questions! We talk about boundaries in dating when waiting until marriage while also touching on purity culture, drama with in-laws, and handling toxic friendships. We also touch on moving out of your home, moving to NYC, and how to time when to get married. Things Mentioned- Nuuly (get $10 off here too)- http://fbuy.me/surUh BetterHelp (use code WHATSNEXT for 10% off your first month)- https://bit.ly/3gyoSwM Find Michelle Reed below- Instagram: @michellereed https://www.instagram.com/michellereed/ YouTube: @michellereed https://www.youtube.com/thisissmileyandshell

The Naked Marriage Podcast
Purity Culture

The Naked Marriage Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 6, 2021 31:10


Many of us grew up in the "Purity Culture" movement which had a positive aim of keeping kids away from premarital sex, but it had some negative repercussions in terms of the baggage it left in its wake. In this episode, Dave and Ashley share their own experiences with Purity Culture and talk about how the movement has impacted modern marriages. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Coffee & Tea
The Sexisode

Coffee & Tea

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 2, 2021 67:46


Episodes have been far and few between, so why not come back with a bang and talk about sex? Tara & Ben discuss what influences their sex life, how they think about sex and during sex as well as where they could improve and what they're doing well. This is by no means a comprehensive look into the issue and nobody here is an expert, but it is an honest and open discussion.  They also offer their own tips and give some advice that they hope will be helpful. It probably goes without saying but this does contain explicit content and you should not listen with children present.

The Modesty Files
Where Are The Now: Lydia's New Life as a Wife and How She Reshaped Her Views on Marriage

The Modesty Files

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 1, 2021 31:20


On today's “Where are they now” special episode we're talking with one of our season 1 guests, Lydia. She was the first one to introduce us to Christian purity culture and Josh Harris's book “I Kissed Dating Goodbye.” Lydia shared with us last year that she had yet to have her first kiss, and while we'll let Lydia share with us what she has been up, let's say it's almost as perfect as a hallmark movie. We highly recommend going back and listening to her episode in season 1, episode 8 to hear her complete story. Support us on Patreon! patreon.com/themodestyfilesFollow us on Instagram @themodestyfiles for updates and bonus content.

Tulips and Honey Hub
Tulips & Honey: Episode 106 - Purity Culture with TikTok Famous Kristin Everett

Tulips and Honey Hub

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 31, 2021 93:10


Throughout church history there has been a consistent, if not defective, tendency to attempt to fix the problems within by forcing goats to behave like sheep. By demanding a work of righteousness before salvation, before even an explanation is given, effectively putting the cart before the horse. One prime example of this was the Purity Culture, which hit its fever pitch in the 90's and has had some devastating affects. Unfortunately, the ideas promoted in that movement linger on, and need to be addressed. So, what to do? The obvious answer is to bring Kristin Everett onto the program so that she can single handedly solve all the woes brought on by Purity Culture. Listen in as she gives first hand examples, as well as many sent in to her via the mysterious "stitching" of TikTok videos, showing the sad state of works based religion masquerading as morality lessons for teens. We get into the nitty gritty as well as detailing solutions, and a far bit of theology to help negate this unhelpful teaching. Below is a timestamped outline incase you want to skip through, as well as links to Kristin's social media, previous episodes, and famous TikTokery. Yes, I made that word up. Patten it, guys! TS 00:01:35 - Why discuss this topic? TS 00:03:00 - What is Purity? TS 00:19:00 - Kristins experience with Purity Culture TS 00:39:15 - My experience with Purity Culture TS 00:41:20 - My husbands experience with Purity Culture TS 00:51:15 - Where is the balance? TS 00:57:35 - How do we share the grace of God in this? TS 01:08:00 - How to rightly correct Purity Culture TS 01:22:25 - How do we correct teachers who are teaching this?   You can find Kristin on TikTok sharing the Gospel and the truth about Gods Word here: https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMJVg6Vgo/​ Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/xtin.rose/ If you'd like to check out the three part interview I did with Kristin you can find them all here: Part I: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xMqk2... Part II: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b35IH... Part III: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rlopZ...   If you'd like more information about Tulips & Honey check out my website: 5Solas.Online   My blog over at: https://biblicalbeginningsblog.wordpress.com   My store: https://shop.spreadshirt.com/tulips-honey/   or my Patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/Tulipshoneyhub     For questions, comments, recommendations, prayer requests, you can contact me on social media or via my email biblicalbeginnings@outlook.com

ASIAN AMERICA: THE KEN FONG PODCAST

In this latest special episode, these two long-time friends, former pastors, and fellow podcasters critique the "reparative therapy" movement while reviewing the Netflix documentary "Pray Away." But they wrestle with why anybody--gay or straight--would willingly be part of groups the require them to repress essential aspects of who they know themselves to be.

The SAP - Comedians Talk Motivation, Dating and Relationships
#451 A Chat About Overcoming Purity Culture

The SAP - Comedians Talk Motivation, Dating and Relationships

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 27, 2021 40:15


The SAP is about excelling in dating and in life. We talk about relationships, finding the best way to love yourself and building a community that is attracted to that prosperity. Join the newsletter or patreon here: https://linktr.ee/daveneal

Secular Sexuality
Secular Sexuality 08.32 08-19-21 with Christy Powell and Emily Maynard

Secular Sexuality

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 20, 2021 80:50


It's no small feat to stare down thousands of years of human culture and perhaps a lifetime of Sunday School before proudly declaring “There Is No GOD.” Whether you've taken that step or not it's an entirely different thing to look at your marriage and accept “they are not my soulmate” or “no amount of sex is going to fundamentally change me as a human” or perhaps harder still “my relationship ended- and it still mattered.” The trappings of purity culture and a christian worldview don't always die easy and that's okay- healing is an aspiration, not a destination. Here to help us on our journey is Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist Emily Maynard, joining Christy in taking your calls and deconstructing the myths, assumptions and expectations of a dated worldview. Catch the episode live and be sure to call in for a purity culture deconstruction deep dive on August 19th's SecX!

You, Me, Empathy: Sharing Our Mental Health Stories
188: Unmet Expectations, Purity Culture, and Feelings within Evangelical Christianity with Caleb Campbell

You, Me, Empathy: Sharing Our Mental Health Stories

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 16, 2021 78:02


On Episode 188 of You, Me, Empathy, Caleb Campbell and I explore the glorification of hustling, the untold grief wrapped up in expectations, purity culture, and why there's no space for uncomfortable feelings within evangelical Christianity. Read the full show notes at FeelyHuman.co! Empathy Links: Caleb CampbellCaleb on InstagramCaleb on TwitterAs We Carry On: Using Words to Explore Grief with a Compassionate Lens (NEW workshop!)Feelings Are My Jam StickerSitting With My Feelings MugSupport You, Me, Empathy on PatreonSign up for the Feely Human newsletterMusic by David Grabowski

Nobody Special
Nobody Special 169 | Purity Culture

Nobody Special

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 13, 2021 60:11


In today's culture, we see many ex-evangelicals who seem to be deconstructing their faith. Many of them bring up this supposed idea of Purity Culture and how it harmed people. But let's not throw the baby out with the bath water. As Christians, we are called to pursue purity within ourselves and with one another while also extending grace to those of us, including ourselves, who have made mistakes in the process. For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God; that no one transgress and wrong his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger in all these things, as we told you beforehand and solemnly warned you. For God has not called us for impurity, but in holiness.(1 Thessalonians 4:3-7, ESV)We want to hear from you! Where have you seen the effects of purity culture? What needs to go and what needs to stay? Ask us questions or just say hi! If you want to reach out to Nobody Special, go to Nobody Special and fill out a form at the bottom of the page. Also be sure and check us out on Facebook, Instagram, and our Youtube Channel. We want to hear from you so feel free to leave us a message!The Gospel Outpost Presents Nobody Special See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

The Everyday Missionary
(Ep. 206) The Purity Culture From A Woman's Perspective with Ellen Boswell

The Everyday Missionary

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 12, 2021


Straight White American Jesus
Religious Trauma and Purity Culture: Part II

Straight White American Jesus

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 12, 2021 35:46


Brad speaks with Emily Torres, who is behind the Life She Wrote blog and podcast. Emily tells her story of growing up--and eventually leaving--Evangelicalism and describes the religious trauma that ensued from her experiences. She explains the mechanics of purity culture and how young women learn that their bodies are not their own, their bodies are stumbling blocks, and that they should never trust them. This leads to a prolonged conversation about how purity culture inflicts trauma on young people through both subtle and explicit cues, signals, and messages. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Real Talk Real Walk
Episode 65 - What Is Purity Culture And Where Did It Come From?

Real Talk Real Walk

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 10, 2021 67:38


We discussed Purity culture and looked at the following:- - What is purity culture? - Who created purity culture? - Are there Christian Sex experts? Hosts:- Gabz: @Gabz_Amadi Eman: @Gaemechanger Ore: @Ms_Ore #RTRWPodcast You can contact us: Twitter: @RTRW_Podcast Instagram: @RealTalkRealWalk_ Email: RealTalkRealWalk@hotmail.com

The Modesty Files
Where are They Now: Angela's Transformational Year Since Speaking Out

The Modesty Files

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 5, 2021 28:09


On today's “Where are They Now” special episode we're talking with Angela, who was a guest in Season 1. She comes from a Pentecostal background and taught us all about the church's rituals, such as healing and speaking in tongues, her experience being a pastor's kid, and what it means to take a “liberal” stance on sex education and morals. We highly recommend going back and listening to her episode in Season 1, Episode 9 to hear her complete story. Follow us on Instagram @themodestyfiles for updates and bonus content.

Crazy Blessed with Hannah Keeley
PURITY CULTURE - with Brittni De La Mora

Crazy Blessed with Hannah Keeley

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 4, 2021 23:32


From p@rn to purity, Brittni shares her testimony of how God saved her from a life of drugs, sex, and alcohol and instead brought her into her dream life, full of blessing, purity, and fulfillment! You can order your copy of "A Call to Purity!" here: https://amzn.to/3Cfy3eX

Daily Grace
Does God Really Work All Things for Good?

Daily Grace

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 3, 2021 48:23


Romans 8:28 says, “and we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose”. But what does this verse really mean? When we're in the midst of hardship or suffering or tragedy and we hear this verse, we may think, “How can it be true? What even is “good” anyway? How can God use this pain and work it for my good?” This verse is a true comfort for believers, and we can find comfort in the moment.   Connect with us: www.dailygracepodcast.com www.thedailygraceco.com https://www.facebook.com/thedailygraceco/ https://www.instagram.com/thedailygraceco/   Questions? Email us! podcast@thedailygraceco.com _______________________________   Resources mentioned in this episode: Hydrojug SLAM Workout Group Talking Back to Purity Culture by Rachel Joy Welcher Suffering Is Never for Nothing by Elisabeth Elliot Ep. 114 The Pathway From Heartbreak to Hope With Mark Vroegop by Daily Grace “Never Alone” Depression Study by The Daily Grace Co. "Attributes of God" Verse Card Set by The Daily Grace Co. “Scripture for Grief” Verse Card Set by The Daily Grace Co. Ep. 2 God's Word in Joy & Pain With Kristin Schmucker by Daily Grace Ep. 10 Suffering & Sovereignty With Maritza Gutierrez-Rey by The Daily Grace Co. Ep. 75 Walking With Others Through Suffering and Grief by Daily Grace Ep. 126 How Jesus Responds to Sinners and Sufferers With Dane Ortlund by Daily Grace Ep. 119 5 Things Christians Should Know About Depression by Daily Grace   Scripture mentioned in this episode: Romans 8:28-30 Mark 10:34 Isaiah 52:14 Mark 15:33, 37 Hebrews 2:17-18 Hebrews 4:15 1 Peter 5:10 2 Corinthians 4:18-19 1 Peter 1:4 Psalm 34:18 Psalm 84:11 Proverbs 13:12 1 Corinthians 12:26   Connect with us: Subscribe to Daily Grace: on iOS, go to our iTunes page and click subscribe.  On Android, click this podcast RSS feed link and choose your podcast app.  If needed, you can copy this link directly into your favorite podcast app (like Stitcher or Overcast).  Or follow us on Spotify! We would love if you took a few minutes to leave us an iTunes review to help spread the word about Daily Grace!  We want to invite more women into our conversations! Download The Daily Grace app: for iOS, click here to download.  On Android, click here to download. Visit The Daily Grace Co. for beautiful products for the whole family that will equip you on your journey to knowing and loving God more.  Subscribe to The Daily Grace Newsletter and receive free Bible study resources in your inbox.  Like The Daily Grace Co. on Facebook. Follow @dailygracepodcast on Instagram for exclusive podcast content and @thedailygraceco for all things The Daily Grace Co. Engage with our Facebook community, “The Daily Grace Co. Community”.  Read The Daily Grace blog for encouragement throughout the week that is steeped in biblical truths. **Affiliate links used are used where appropriate.** Thank you for supporting the products that support the production of this podcast!

Revolution Church
The Toxicity of Purity Culture, with Milo Winslow

Revolution Church

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 28, 2021 64:40


This midweek bonus episode is a crossover with The Sacred Collective podcast. Our own Brien Aadland--pastor of the group that meets at Bryant-Lake Bowl on Sunday mornings in Minneapolis: known first as "Revolution Church"; then as "Revolution Church Minneapolis"; and now, "The Doubters/Believers Alliance"--interviews influencer Milo Winslow, for an episode of The Sacred Collective. Milo and Brien discuss similarities and differences in their experiences being raised in conservative subcultures of the midwestern United States, including their shared background as curious children raised in Pentecostal Christian churches. Both were inquisitive, intelligent kids, turned off by the arrogant attitude possessed by the popular Purity Culture of the 90's. Milo and Brien also share the sentiment that their experiences interacting with proponents of such one-dimensional thinking were often traumatic for much of the youth which they targeted.Milo grants Brien's request to help spread education and awareness about the challenging journey of embracing an identity as a gender-queer person. Milo elaborates on the nuances that surround facing that experience in both religious and non-religious settings which are ignorant to the challenges surrounding coming to terms with this very personal and often misunderstood personality trait.After editing this episode, Caleb told Brien how much he enjoyed just hearing the conversation, and how proud he was to be a part of Sacred Collective and Revolution both. He also told Jay about this episode, and how well it would fit in with the rest of Revolution's content, and asked Jay if they could use it as a bonus episode this week!(Jay said yes, so here it is!!)We should have at least a few more Meet Your Congregation episodes on some coming Wednesdays very soon, but have had to slow down a bit with the production schedule, as they sort through some heavy personal issues (which will definitely bleed through in Revolution's content sooner than later, as all things do when your work is this personal and transparently honest).Be sure to catch Milo on social media: @thatgaymilo; Brien Aadland can be found: @roguetheologian; the podcast this interview was recorded for was started by a small group including Brien and Caleb: @sacredmn; Caleb is facing a full plate-and-a-half right now, but managing to still produce some content: @revolutioncaleb @chromatoneproductions; Jay has also been involved in The Sacred Collective on more than one occasion: @jaybakker; and this is Revolution: @revolutionchurch94.The Doubters/Believers Alliance is the new name for the group that is meeting in-person in Minneapolis, MN at Bryant-Lake Bowl on Sunday mornings. It is now led by Brien, and is the newest iteration of the group in Minnesota that initially met as Revolution Church, under Jay Bakker. Caleb moved to Minnesota and eventually took over production of Revolution (which is now located in Seattle, WA) working for Jay, helping transform The Sacred Collective from a live small group into a recorded podcast and online community. Jay and Caleb are now in Seattle, preparing to launch Revolution in a new form--part live gatherings; part online streaming/recorded content--integrating bits and parts they've developed and refined over the years. Jay Bakker helped found Revolution as a Church in 1994. It was then, and is still now, a community of Grace and Provocation. Enjoy, react, and interact with Revolution, The Sacred Collective, and The Doubters/Believers Alliance online:www.revolutionchurch.comwww.facebook.com/revolutionchurchmnwww.revolutionchurch.com/donatewww.facebook.com/revolution-church-minneapolisIG:@jaybakker@revolutionchurch94@revolutioncaleb@sacredmn@roguetheologian@thatgaymiloT:@jaybakker@revolution1994@revseattlecaleb@sacredmn@brienaadland@thatgaymiloRecorded in St Paul, Minneapolis, on July 22, 2021, for The Sacred Collective podcast.Co-produced by Brien Aadland and Caleb Rowe.Original music by Caleb Rowe.www.revolutionchurch.com See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Line of Fire Radio
07.26.21 Purity Culture: Good or Bad?

Line of Fire Radio

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 26, 2021


The Line of Fire Radio Broadcast for 07/26/21.

Steve Brown Etc.
Rachel Joy Welcher | Talking Back to Purity Culture | Steve Brown Etc.

Steve Brown Etc.

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 25, 2021


Purity culture has promised Christians a lot – maybe TOO much. This week, Steve and the gang have a frank and honest conversation with author Rachel Joy Welcher about good intentions gone bad. The post Rachel Joy Welcher | Talking Back to Purity Culture | Steve Brown Etc. appeared first on Key Life.

Ideas Digest
A Sucker Punch To The Pussy - God Is Grey

Ideas Digest

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 22, 2021 61:38


In this episode we speak with Youtuber and Author Brenda Marie Davies (God is Grey) about what she descrbies as the "rabbit hole of sexual exploration" she descrbies in her memoir. We discuss - Purity Culture and sexual trauma - A modern christian sexual ethic - Problems of hook-up culture - Female sexual pleasure - Masturbation Connect with Brenda Marie Davies https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1Xf6ScN9riYhTOUsvhkhaw https://www.godisgrey.com/ https://www.instagram.com/godisgrey/ Connect with us Tune in to our live podcast recordings on instagram https://www.instagram.com/ideasdigest/ https://twitter.com/ideas_digest Email: Ideasdigest@gmail.com Find out what we really think https://ideasdigest.substack.com/ Music: Lawson Hull https://www.instagram.com/lawsonhull/

Not Quite Average
Borderline Brainwashed: Perfectionism, Sex and Purity Culture, + Core Beliefs

Not Quite Average

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 20, 2021 38:35


Today we have our friend Sarah here to deep dive into some topics from her upcoming book. We will start with these topics - how our core beliefs shape us for better or for worse, struggling with perfectionsim and sex as a Christian. Find Sarah's IG Here: https://www.instagram.com/sarahthehumannn/Per-Order Her Book Here: https://amzn.to/3wIV3iz See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

The Refined Collective Podcast
TRC REMIX: Purity Culture, Painful Sex + Debunking Shame Narrative with Dr. Celeste Holbrook

The Refined Collective Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 14, 2021 64:12


Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y'all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!!   Welcome to the TRC Remix Series #4. If you're not sure what this series is click here for more info!   Today's TRC Remix episode is with Christian Sexologist Dr. Celeste Holbrook. In this conversation we unpack her experience growing up in purity culture, and her painfully awkward experience of having sex for the first time on her wedding day. Dr. Celeste offers insight and challenging questions like: How do we define sex? Why do we define it that way? What is sexuality? How is it different from sensuality? Dr. Celeste is raw, honest, and incredibly helpful in navigating a healthy, shame-free conversation around sex, desire, and pleasure...so here we go!   The Moment They Were Waiting For When she first had sex, it was extremely painful and not enjoyable for her.   "I thought I was going to be rewarded with great sex."   This disconnect between Celeste and her husband began to erode their relationship.   "I felt a lot of shame for not living up to what I thought I should be sexually."   She realized she never had good sex education. She decided to embark on a journey to unlearn shame, and to learn her body in a fresh way.   Deconstructing Sex And Shame   "I went through that process so that I could enter into a sexual space and feel worthy of pleasure and sex that felt good."   After experiencing breakthrough and pain-free sex, she made it her mission to help others in similar circumstances and pivoted from studying behavior to sexual behavior.   "Although it's a natural biological thing, it doesn't come naturally. You have to learn how to do it just like riding a bike."   Madonna Whore Complex: "You're shamed if you have too much sex and you're shamed if you have no sex. There's this pendulum that we can't seem to step out of."   What Is Sexuality? Sexuality is way more than just sex, desire, or physical intimacy.    "Sexuality is far more than that bottom layer of what it looks like biologically."     What Is Sex? A lot of single Christian women are wondering about physical boundaries in sex. 75% of women don't climax from vaginal sex—they climax from clitoral stimulation. Freud told women that to have an orgasm through clitoral stimulation is to be infantile. In 1998, neurologist Helen Connoll put the clitoris into the journal of sexual medicine.   "Limiting the term 'sex' to 'penis' and 'vagina' is marginalizing and produces shame."   Pleasure gets confused with hedonism, but pleasure is acknowledged in Matthew 6:26.   "We can't have a conversation about pleasure and spirituality without having a conversation about sensuality."     What is Sensuality?   "When we think about us as sensual beings, we are literally experiencing the creation and the creator through all five of our senses."   Sensuality can be as simple as being in the moment. We can't experience our senses in the past or future… only the present. What does celibacy mean to you when sensuality and sexuality are closely related? You can embrace sensuality in these smaller ways before we have sex.   Books To Read: Sexless in the City by Kat Harris Sex God by Rob Bell Good Christian Sex by Bromleigh McCleneghan Shameless by Nadia Bolz-Weber Come As You Are by Dr. Emily Nagoski If any parts of this conversation have felt triggering for you, just know that whatever you're feeling is valid. There is no judgement. Validate your feelings and then question why those feelings are coming up for you. "Our God is one that encourages curious questions and sincere questioning." Celeste has so many resources for you, including...  Resources: 20 sex-enhancing questions for free on her website. She also offers free 30-minute discovery calls. If you have questions about anything we talked about today, go to her website and click on "30 Minute Discovery Call."  She also has courses for one on one consulting if that feels right for you. Keep up with Dr. Celeste on Instagram at @drcelesteholbrook.    Ladies, does it ever feel like your shorts were just not made for you? Title Nine is performance outdoor gear made by women for women that you can wear working out, hiking, or just running errands. It is built to perform and made to last. Go to TitleNine.com/refined for $10 off and free shipping on your order over $100!   This past year, I've been trying to perfect some recipes I can have in my back pocket when I have company. In all of these experiences, I realized how important it is to have good cooking tools. I just got a brand new knife set from MadeIn Cookware and it has been life-changing. Go to MadeInCookware.com/kat and use promo code KAT for 15% off your first order!

The Holy Post
Jesus and John Wayne Episode 3: Tender Warriors (The '90s - '00s)

The Holy Post

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 9, 2021 66:17


Calvin University history professor Kristin Kobes Du Mez joins Skye Jethani to discuss her bestselling book, “Jesus & John Wayne.” In this episode, they examine why white evangelicalism left behind some of its militant rhetoric after the Cold War ended in the early 1990s to embrace a kinder, gentler approach epitomized by the Promise Keepers movement, and how an aggressive vision of Christian masculinity returned after September 11, 2001. Plus, why an emphasis on racial reconciliation ultimately doomed Promise Keepers, and how other ministries learned to avoid any talk about race or justice. Part 1 - Promise Keepers and Therapeutic Christianity Part 2 - Servant Leaders and Racial Reconciliation (15:36) Part 3 - Purity Culture and Fragile Masculinity (32:47) Part 4 - 9/11 and the Neo-Calvinists (48:38)

The Refined Collective Podcast
TRC REMIX: Is Masturbation a Sin? Part II

The Refined Collective Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 30, 2021 36:38


Thank you Newsstand Studio at 1 Rockefeller Plaza for providing a place for me to record this episode for y'all! No more Brooklyn closet recording!!!   Welcome to the TRC Remix Series Part II. If you're not sure what this series is click here for more info!   Today is part TWO of a conversation on masturbation on the podcast. If you missed part one, check it out here before you listen to this episode. This week, I'll be continuing a layered and nuanced conversation addressing the thing no one wants to say out loud, but everyone is dying to talk about: masturbation.   Is it a sin? Does the Bible say anything about it?   Brokenness is the beginning of the gospel. —David Kim.    Is Masturbation A Sin? My honest answer is: yes, no, maybe. All the way from Genesis to Revelation there's this rhythm we see of death to life, brokenness to restoration, renewal and redemption. [1]Clearly there is some real brokenness in how pleasure is approached, but if Jesus came to make all things new, is it possible that He could have a redemptive vision for this too? 1 Corinthians 6:12-13; 10:23 Paul says it twice: Everything is lawful, but not everything is beneficial. Everything is permissible, but not everything is beneficial.   How Can Masturbation Be A Win? 5 Things to Consider   Pleasure  God is for our pleasure. How do I know? Taste buds, sunsets, brownie sundaes, and the only purpose of the clitoris is pleasure.   Practice Healthy Consent Consent in sexual encounters whether it's a hug or sex is VITAL. But if we don't know what we want or what feels good we won't have the tools to communicate our wants and needs. Masturbation can be a way to: Know your body. Know what feels good and doesn't feel good. And have the ability to communicate that.    Mutual Honor and Acceptance We put on other people a tenth of what we put on ourselves. If I judge, shame, dismiss my sexual desire and in essence don't accept it, how can I accept my partner's?   Connection and Innocence To God: Mark 12:29-30— love God with all of you.   To self and others:  Matthew 18:3— be like little children. If little children can masturbate in innocence, can we not get back to that as well?    Practice Being Present: Sensuality Dr. Celeste Holbrook, the Christian sexologist, describes sensuality beautifully: it's the act of being present. She talks about how toddlers are the most sensual beings because they're in a constant state of discovery. Porn and masturbation are not mutually exclusive. Removes fear and shame around body, self, and sexual desire.   5 Questions to Ask Yourself   Am I addicted to porn? I am not here to shame you if this is your story. Masturbation for a person addicted to porn would be like a drunk living at a bar. Not a win for you right now. Phylicia Masonheimer has some amazing resources for you around this topic. Sexuality can be activated by abuse. If that is your story, I am so sorry and remember that it is never your fault. Your sexuality is not tainted and you have permission to work through this.   Why am I feeling turned on right now?  50 Shades of Grey, porn, or a normal Wednesday afternoon? What am I really looking for at this moment? Connection? Intimacy? Release?   How can I honor myself, God, and my future in this moment? Really take the time to answer this question for yourself.    If shame weren't a part of the conversation, how would I show up? Shame and fear is not the heart of God— Ephesians 3— rooted and grounded in love. Jesus came for the abundant life— not a spirit of fear, but of power! Is it possible to masturbate and stay present and not fantasize? Is it possible to remain in healthy community with myself, God and others and masturbate? Is it possible to experience self-pleasure and remain outward focused? Yes! Grace Alone: In every other area of our lives we're willing to fumble, but sexually we're so terrified. It's like 1-strike you're out and sent to the pit of hell. No! Just because some people may become alcoholics, doesn't mean everyone will.   Who am I becoming? (Jon Tyson) What are the actions, words, choices of your life propelling you towards? When to discern if this is problematic behavior? Porn/erotica. Isolation. Keeping you from relationship. Distraction from everyday activities. Can't work, go out, or sleep without it— like any addiction. Fantasy land vs. real life.    So is masturbation a sin? Yes, no, maybe. Where is your heart? I have masturbated in all 3 scenarios. Give yourself permission to search your heart, to explore, and seek God's heart. If fear is a part of the conversation, reject it! Resources: Embrace Your Sexuality Mini Course. Sign up for one on one coaching with me here. Phylicia Masonheimer offers 7-day free content for those struggling with porn addiction. Celeste's TRC episode: Purity Culture, Painful Sex + Debunking Shame Narrative Phylicia Masonheimer's TRC episode: Who Should I Date? Jon Tyson's TRC episode: Developing a New Vision for Christian Sexuality Grab a copy of my book, Sexless in the City!   Books to Read: *** Note: I don't agree with everything in these books, but they are great resources*** Redeeming Sex by Debra Hirsch Mingling of the Souls by Matt Chandler Sex God by Rob Bell Theology of the Body for Beginners: A Basic Introduction to Pope John Paul II's Sexual Revolution by Christopher West Check out all of the books I recommend about God and Sex here.   [1] Timothy Keller. The Gospel in All Its Forms. Acts 29, December 12, 2008. https://www.acts29.com/tim-keller-explains-the-gospel/. Accessed September 10, 2019. Another incredible resource on this is the book Every Good Endeavor by Timothy Keller. It's a book I wish  I would've read when I was in my 20s; it would've saved me a lot of heartache.   [2] “He who was seated on the throne said, “I am making everything new!” Then he said, “Write this down, for these words are trustworthy and true.” (New International Version, Revelation 21:5). I'm an avid reader and always have at least 3 books going at once. Anyone else love getting lost in a good fiction book? I just got a new book I'm super excited about called The Lost and Found Bookshop by Susan Wiggs. This NYT Bestseller now in paperback is the perfect feel-good summer read for a beach read or your book club. Grab your copy anywhere books are sold or find more at SusanWiggs.com.   You've probably heard a lot about collagen over the years and know several people who swear by it. I'm here to tell you that it's worth the hype. Collagen helps reduce fine lines and helps ease joint discomfort— pretty cool, right? You can put it in everything from a smoothie to banana bread. 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The Girl Defined Show
4 Popular Lies About Your Sexual Identity

The Girl Defined Show

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 28, 2021 42:30


Ep. 034 - Sex and sexuality are two of the hottest topics in society right now. With so many voices expressing opinions, it can be confusing to know what's truth and what's not. What did God actually say about our sexuality in comparison to what we're seeing happen in our society? If we, as Christian women, are not vigilant to discern lies from truths, we will will end up listening to whichever voice is shouting the loudest.  When we choose to embrace anything but God's good and original design for our sexuality, we buy into an inaccurate reflection of who God created us to be. That's why we're going to unpack 4 of the most popular lies permeating our society today. The Girl Defined Conference (TICKETS)Shine Bright Devotional Girl Defined  Love Defined Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/girldefined)