AUTHENTICALLY YOU - THE HIMMERS

The ZPD and scaffolding process are demonstrated through the six communication techniques taught by Dr. Himmer.

The theory of scaffolding, which is how the MKO (More Knowledgable Other) organizes and presents the learning process. Sometimes support is tapered off and other times it is enhanced.

There are four distinct learning styles on the road to mastery. 1) Dabbler, 2) Obsessive, 3) Hacker, and 4) Paralyzed Perfectionist.

ZPD is the distance between the actual development of a person and the potential learning capability under the guidance of a more knowledgable other (MKO). It is the difference between “knowing" and "knowing how."

What was the sign that led the Shepherds to baby Jesus? Hint: it wasn't the manger.

The Hebrew Wedding Ceremony, the Parable of the 10 Virgins, and how they are in the Christmas story

What role did Joseph play in the story and what was the impact of him accepting Mary as his wife when he discovered she was with child.

What do you think or feel when you see Xmas? Does it bother you? Today we address the origin of Xmas and provide a different way to look at it. We also talk about Joseph and Mary.

The tradition of Christmas Adam (day before Christmas Eve) started in 2001 when my son Charles counseled me to stop complaining about the commercialism of Christmas and do something about it. Christmas Adam addresses the myths and truths of Christmas, Christ's birth, and how we look at this holiday.

Moses is perplexed. He wants to understand the justice of God. Why do the wicked prosper and the righteous suffer? Moses gets his questions answered. When we know the answer to primary questions, we leave doubt behind, but we never stop asking questions.

Using Hebrew legend, we illustrate primary questions and the existence of God with an ancient story about Moses. We live in troubling times, political chaos, and broken families. Now, more than ever, we need a firm understanding of our faith. Does God exist? How does that firm belief sustain one in times like this?

Have you ever wondered what’s wrong with a loved one and wished you knew how to fix them? Such questions mostly lead to more frustration and stress. Change the question, change the energy!

Have you ever wondered what’s wrong with a loved one and wished you knew how to fix them? Such questions mostly lead to more frustration and stress. Change the question, change the energy!

Some questions are more important than others. In fact, some questions add to one’s misery, depression, and anxiety. Today we discuss the primary questions that lead to happiness, joy, and well-being.

Some questions are more important than others. In fact, some questions add to one’s misery, depression, and anxiety. Today we discuss the primary questions that lead to happiness, joy, and well-being.

Do you live with or know someone who seems clueless to the world around them? This segment addresses the life of being clueless and those who deal with cluelessness.

Do you live with or know someone who seems clueless to the world around them? This segment addresses the life of being clueless and those who deal with cluelessness.

Florence was/is Cheri's best friend. They were college roommates and I met them at the same time at a university dance. Florence passed away recently after 7 years fighting ovarian cancer. Cheri remembers Florence and her quest for happiness.

Florence was/is Cheri's best friend. They were college roommates and I met them at the same time at a university dance. Florence passed away recently after 7 years fighting ovarian cancer. Cheri remembers Florence and her quest for happiness.

Is love a principle, application, or a result (feeling)? Once the principle is understood, one can develop and follow applications that are specifically designed for success. An application is personal and not meant for others.

Is love a principle, application, or a result (feeling)? Once the principle is understood, one can develop and follow applications that are specifically designed for success. An application is personal and not meant for others.

Living a principle-based life is admirable on the assumption that you know what a principle is. In this episode, we unzip the principle, application, and results of love. Love is universal, or is it?

Living a principle-based life is admirable on the assumption that you know what a principle is. In this episode, we unzip the principle, application, and results of love. Love is universal, or is it?

Terresa Fagan James is our guest. She is Cheri’s health coach. She shares some challenges to weight loss and we collectively discuss how to address the challenges.

Terresa Fagan James is our guest. She is Cheri’s health coach. She shares some challenges to weight loss and we collectively discuss how to address the challenges.

Once you’ve practiced and become skilled at naming behavior, recognizing your body brains, and noticing the energy associated with maladaptive behavior, you use the “What if…” process to bypass the critical faculty and create the foundation for change. This is the integration of the upstairs and downstairs brains.

Once you’ve practiced and become skilled at naming behavior, recognizing your body brains, and noticing the energy associated with maladaptive behavior, you use the “What if…” process to bypass the critical faculty and create the foundation for change. This is the integration of the upstairs and downstairs brains.

There are three areas of behavior to start your behavior research. Cognitive distortions, the Drama Triangle, and Rules of Engagement. Become the Sherlock Holmes of social interactions. Self-awareness leads to self-regulation.

There are three areas of behavior to start your behavior research. Cognitive distortions, the Drama Triangle, and Rules of Engagement. Become the Sherlock Holmes of social interactions. Self-awareness leads to self-regulation.

What drives false narratives? What is epigenetics? How to name behavior. Using research to increase self-awareness and develop a system for healing.

What drives false narratives? What is epigenetics? How to name behavior. Using research to increase self-awareness and develop a system for healing.

I grew up being guilt-leveraged (shame based parenting, teaching etc.) and most everything I did seemed like it was a sin according to the adults in my life. What if focusing on the sin is dysfunctional and not productive? For every sin there is a cause. You address the cause you stop the sin. Seems to make more sense.

I grew up being guilt-leveraged (shame based parenting, teaching etc.) and most everything I did seemed like it was a sin according to the adults in my life. What if focusing on the sin is dysfunctional and not productive? For every sin there is a cause. You address the cause you stop the sin. Seems to make more sense.

Conclusion of trigger buster. Being aware of sounds, smells, words, phrases, people, positions, etc. Cheri practices a trigger busting protocol in mindfulness.

Conclusion of trigger buster. Being aware of sounds, smells, words, phrases, people, positions, etc. Cheri practices a trigger busting protocol in mindfulness.

How to better understand the role of expectations in our triggers and addictions. Using two case studies, one about Cheri's mom, who was a human time vacuum, and the story of the toilet seat. Why are men always wrong when it comes to the toilet seat?

How to better understand the role of expectations in our triggers and addictions. Using two case studies, one about Cheri's mom, who was a human time vacuum, and the story of the toilet seat. Why are men always wrong when it comes to the toilet seat?

Full review of addiction, trigger-reaction-consequence vs. cue-respond-reward, immaculate perception and the trigger busting process

Full review of addiction, trigger-reaction-consequence vs. cue-respond-reward, immaculate perception and the trigger busting process

Expectations are a guaranteed pathway to frustration, especially when they are based on how you want things to be (Expectation B) instead of how things have always been (Expectation A). After you discern the difference, you practice acceptance for perceived dysfunctional behavior.

Expectations are a guaranteed pathway to frustration, especially when they are based on how you want things to be (Expectation B) instead of how things have always been (Expectation A). After you discern the difference, you practice acceptance for perceived dysfunctional behavior.

How to change your position from reactive (trigger to flooded) to responsive (cue’d to reward) in three steps. It’s time to preplan going into fight or flight. In other words, how to preplan being a jerk and then not being a jerk.

How to change your position from reactive (trigger to flooded) to responsive (cue’d to reward) in three steps. It’s time to preplan going into fight or flight. In other words, how to preplan being a jerk and then not being a jerk.

While in isolation, cloistered in the darkness of his room and skipping dinner, Bobby gets a phone call from Brenda excited to see him, having just woken up for a needed nap. Whoops! Bobby’s journey from being triggered to flooded has created unnecessary anxiety and family drama.

While in isolation, cloistered in the darkness of his room and skipping dinner, Bobby gets a phone call from Brenda excited to see him, having just woken up for a needed nap. Whoops! Bobby’s journey from being triggered to flooded has created unnecessary anxiety and family drama.

Bobby’s girl friend, Brenda, has found another love. OR has she? Is it possible that Bobby is making up something that doesn’t exist because he’s flooded and his immaculate perception has created multiple prediction errors?

Bobby’s girl friend, Brenda, has found another love. OR has she? Is it possible that Bobby is making up something that doesn’t exist because he’s flooded and his immaculate perception has created multiple prediction errors?

Jillian’s intervention with Buck and her challenges to the team and to Buck.

Jillian’s intervention with Buck and her challenges to the team and to Buck.

The profile of an accidental bully. How to use emotional intelligence with your co-workers.

The profile of an accidental bully. How to use emotional intelligence with your co-workers.