Podcasts about drama triangle

In this powerful conversation, I'm joined by Christy Whitman—a two-time New York Times bestselling author, transformational leader, and energy mastery coach who has been teaching manifestation and universal laws for over 25 years. We dive into:✨ When Christy first discovered the Law of Attraction

What happens when your clients are juggling a career, kids, aging parents—and secretly falling apart inside? That's the story for a lot of Gen X women, and it's also a warning sign for coaches. In this conversation, Laura Aiello—Harmonizer Endotype, retreat leader, and wellness coach—shares how social wellness, intentional friendships, and boundaries aren't just “nice to have.” They're survival tools. She explains why many women feel undervalued, how people-pleasing erodes self-trust, and what it really takes to create a circle of people who see you for who you are. If you've ever caught yourself thinking “I hate people” while secretly wishing for deeper connection, this one will hit home. ➤ Laura Aiello's Website: laylowwellness.com ➤ Free Guide: 10 Things to Say When You Don't Know What to Say ➤ Raving Coaches Podcast: https://ravingcoaches.podbean.com/ Other episode mentioned: Avoiding the Drama Triangle with Your Coaching Clients

Tired of coaching clients stuck in blame, burnout, or helplessness? In this episode, Elena shares a live demonstration of how to coach someone off the Drama Triangle—and into a place of empowerment. Learn how to identify the roles of victim, villain, and hero, and how to gently invite your clients into transformation.Notable moments: Keep learning: Subscribe: Getting Off the Drama Triangle Skill Session in the Coach Learning LibraryThe First 10 MinutesReceive weekly wisdom and tools from Elena delivered to your inboxWatch the Bright Morning Podcast on YouTube and subscribe to our channelBecome a Bright Morning Member Follow Elena on Instagram and LinkedInFollow Bright Morning on LinkedIn and InstagramSupport the show:Become a Friend of the Podcast  Rate and review usReflection questions: Which role on the Drama Triangle do you most often hear in your clients—and how do you usually respond?What new language or strategies from the demonstration would you like to try?What do you need to reflect on in your own habits or beliefs to coach others off the triangle more skillfully?Podcast Transcript and Use:Bright Morning Consulting owns the copyright to all content and transcripts of The Bright Morning Podcast, with all rights reserved. You may not distribute or commercially exploit the content without our express written permission.We welcome you to download and share the podcast with others for personal use; please acknowledge The Bright Morning Podcast as the source of the material.Episode Transcript

Today on Become A Calm Mama, we're continuing our conversation from last week about The Drama Triangle. This week, we're diving deeper into a healthier model, The Empowerment Dynamic (TED). You'll Learn:Unhelpful stories that you might be telling yourself right nowHow our thoughts and beliefs become our reality (and how to use this to your advantage)Questions to ask yourself to determine which roles you fall into mostHow to shift yourself and your family from drama to empowermentWhich roles I default to most and whyIn this episode, you'll learn HOW to actually switch roles and shift into this healthier dynamic. This is one of those episodes where you may want to grab your journal, answer some questions, and work through where these roles are showing up in your own family. ----------------------------------------In The Empowerment Dynamic, the roles shift from…Victim → CreatorPersecutor → ChallengerRescuer → CoachShifting Into The Empowerment DynamicWe all take on different roles at different times. It's normal to switch between them (even within a short period of time). But my guess is that there are a couple that you do most often. The challenge for you is to figure out how you act and why. Victim → CreatorBecoming a Creator is about getting creative with how you want to respond to life's challenges. It is inevitable that we will all experience sadness, pain, and misfortune. But you get to choose the way you look at and respond to these obstacles when they arise.The Victim has a “poor me” mindset. They don't really believe in their own power. They don't take responsibility for the circumstances that they find themselves in. They feel very helpless and trapped, doubt their own capabilities, and look to others to solve their problems for them.You can see how it would be easy for our kids to fall into this role. They're young, and little, and they do need our help. But there are ways to provide that help and guidance without being a helicopter parent or bulldozing a smooth road for them (which does nothing to help their self-confidence).If you think you or your child might be in a victim mindset, ask:Do you feel helpless?Do you feel like you have power here? Like you can do something about this situation?In the Empowerment Dynamic, we want to shift from the role of Victim into the role of Creator. This shift develops resilience and confidence.The Creator wants to create and be their best self. A creator thinks things like, “I'm good enough. I get to choose how to respond to my life,” and, “I am capable. I have the ability to take care of myself,” and, “I can trust myself. I know that I am worthy of trust.”You can help your child make this shift to believing in their abilities by affirming that:I know you are strong.I believe in your ability to figure this out.This is hard right now, but I know you're going to be okay.Don't bypass the feelings. Validate their emotion, show your support, and ask, “What do you want to do now? How do you want to handle this?”If you are in a victim mindset yourself, think about how you can get what you want in a healthy way. Think about times in the past when you have overcome challenges and feel gratitude for your strength in those moments. Persecutor → ChallengerThe shift from viewing someone as a Persecutor requires you to look at them from a more neutral place. Rather than seeing them as “the bad guy”, you see the circumstance as a challenge that you can overcome.And if you are showing up as a Persecutor, this shift...

A deep dive into the unconscious roles of Victim, Rescuer, and Persecutor, and how the Drama Triangle drives conflict, disempowerment, and division in both personal and collective life.

*** Trigger Warning - Sexual AbuseWell Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 169 - "Understanding the shapes in the context of movies" is now LIVE!Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuideAfter an unexpected rabbit hole last week, we are going to take two. Join us as we go on a cinematic adventure into needs that leads to places not even we expected to go. In this week's episode we're going to put a Needs Lens on some popular movies, discuss the power of perception in movies, highlight the unsupportive roots of some of our favorite feel good classics and discover some of the unexpected places where the Empowerment Ecosystem lives in cinema. In this episode we cover:Why we suggest using movies to better understand the shapes The issue we found when trying to select moviesThe role of the Drama Triangle in "feel good" moviesFight Club - 17:14-25:26Back To The Future - 25:27-32:20What is punch down comedy, why it's harmful and the role you may be playingHow Hannah Gadsby bucked the trend with Nannette - 47:48-51:58Promising Young Woman (Trigger sexual assault and spoiler) - 52:00-1:03:32Our viral cultureThe Matrix- 1:09:54-1:13:09Lion King - 1:13:10-1:23:49What's the harm in Hakuna Matata?Shawshank Redemption (spoilers)- 1:23:51-1:37:25Episode References:The Selfirst episode - Episode 20 - Selfirst Series: What is Selfirst? Let's get specific…Episode 149 - The ONLY thing you owe other peopleThe Victim Approach episode - Episode 159 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 1) - The Victim ApproachThe Persecutor Approach episode - 160 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 2) - The Persecutor ApproachThe Rescuer Approach episode - 161 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 3) - The Rescuer ApproachThe Rescuer Approach harm episode - Episode 162 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 4) - Why the Rescuer Approach is so harmfulThe Creator Approach episode - Episode 163 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 5) - The Creator ApproachThe Supporter Approach episode - Episode 164 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 6) - The Supporter ApproachThe Contributor Approach episode - Episode 165 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 7) - The Contributor ApproachMoving from disempowering to empowering - Episode 166 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 8) - How to move from a disempowering approach to meeting your needs to an empowering oneThe Harm Dynamic episode - Episode 167 - The Harm Dynamic (AKA the abuse dynamic) - focusing on actual harm and the impact of it (Shapes 9)Episode 168 - How do the Interaction Dynamics apply to children and power dynamics? (Shapes 10 - (the movies are next!))Resources:Click here to download the companion PDF to this episode (and the rest of the Interaction Dynamics series): https://theuniversalneeds.com/The-Interaction-DynamicsVideo clips of scenes we mention (where we've been able to find them) - are in the full show notes, available here: ⁠https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide⁠

Therese Fallentin and Ohad Pele explore the dynamics of the drama triangle and the empowerment dynamics, discussing how these concepts can be applied to personal growth and societal transformation. They emphasize the importance of shifting from victimhood to empowerment, the need for mutual accountability, and the role of education in fostering a new narrative for future generations. The discussion highlights the interconnectedness of humanity and the necessity of compassion in addressing conflicts and challenges.   Discover practical insights and real-world applications that challenge the status quo and inspire a new way of engaging with the world. Tune in to learn how embracing these dynamics can lead to a more connected and empowered humanity. The conversation emphasizes the shift from victim consciousness to empowerment, advocating for a systemic approach to societal issues and the creation of new narratives that foster healing and connection. "The universe is a friendly place." "We need to heal, not eliminate." "Compassion is key to evolution."   Takeaways - The drama triangle is a pervasive dynamic in society. - Humanity is facing a crisis of consciousness. - Shifting from victim to creator is essential for personal growth. - Understanding the roles in the drama triangle can lead to empowerment. - Disempowerment is a heartbreaking reality for many. - Mutual accountability is crucial for resolving conflicts. - Education needs to shift towards empowering narratives. - Compassion is key in addressing human dynamics. - The sacred spark in victimhood is the ability to surrender. - Power should be used to empower others, not to dominate.    Timestamps: [00:00] Introduction to the Drama Triangle  [05:30] The Role of Empowerment Dynamics  [12:45] Personal Reflections and Inner Work  [20:10] Real-World Applications and Challenges  [30:00] Moving from Victimhood to Co-Creation  [40:15] Closing Thoughts and Future Directions   Keywords Drama Triangle, Empowerment Dynamics, Consciousness, Victimhood, Accountability, Education, Compassion, Human Dynamics, Transformation, New Narratives   Music by:  Lennart Hansen https://open.spotify.com/artist/5gHzTp8pUzQH8ASPrlFzJv?si=i4QEjUcPQH-wJ4g9jKdVvQ   You can read more about me and my work here: Therese Fallentin; coach, facilitator and business hippie.  https://www.empowermentdynamics.no/  https://magefolelsen.com/hjem https://youtu.be/3y9TcPOLP8Q  https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/    About Ohad Pele: https://www.kabalove.org/about     

Today, we're digging into the concept of the Drama Triangle (which you can probably guess is something you don't want to be stuck in). I'm talking all about what the Drama Triangle is and how it shows up in parenting.You'll Learn:What the Drama Triangle is and why you don't want to get stuck thereExamples of how the Drama Triangle shows up in familiesA new model to help you shift out of the drama and into empowermentMy own experience of being stuck in the Drama TriangleLet's get you and your family out of drama and into a place of empowerment and resilience. ------------------------------------------------What Is the Drama Triangle?The Karpman Drama Triangle (named after psychologist Stephen Karpman) describes how we often adopt one of three unhealthy roles when attempting to resolve conflict: The Victim feels powerless and wronged—“Someone's hurting me and I need help!”The Persecutor is the “bad guy”—the one blamed for being harsh, critical, or causing pain.The Rescuer swoops in to “save” the Victim from the Persecutor, solving everyone's problem—but often at their own expense.Overall, the Drama Triangle is maladaptive - meaning that these roles are not actually helpful for conflict resolution or family dynamics. How the Drama Triangle Shows Up at HomeMaybe your oldest is always “the troublemaker” (Persecutor), your youngest is constantly “getting picked on” (Victim), and you're forever running interference (Rescuer). Or maybe, after a particularly tough bedtime, you feel like the Victim—powerless over your child's tantrums—and wish your partner would “rescue” you by stepping in.Over time, these patterns teach our kids to rely on others to solve their problems, or—worse—internalize harmful labels as “the bad one” or “the helpless one.” And as moms, we sacrifice our own needs for peace that never really lasts.Here's the tough truth. When we fall into these roles, nobody wins. VictimIf a child (or anyone, for that matter) is repeatedly put into the Victim role, we take away their belief that they can solve their own problems. We let them think that they are helpless and that they are trapped and that they cannot do for themselves. They look to their Rescuer to solve problems for them, which is a really disempowering place to be. PersecutorA Persecutor often blames others for their actions. Instead of responding to problems with helpful behavior, they often respond with judgment and criticism.When we remember that feelings drive behavior, we can see that the Persecutor is the one who is actually in pain. The one who needs support. But we often don't give that support to the Persecutor. We go to the Victim instead. So the Persecutor stays stuck in that pain and that role. They start to feel like the “bad kid”. This is common with older siblings, aggressive kids, kids with ADHD or neurodivergence, and parents who aren't emotionally regulated. And because they are treated like the problem, they feel very isolated and disconnected. They're trying to get control by putting someone else down, but that isn't really empowerment. And it doesn't make them feel good. RescuerThe Rescuer is doing the Victim's dirty work. A lot of moms find themselves in this role, and it ultimately creates a codependent dynamic where everybody's turning to you, and now you're the rescuer of everybody and you have to solve all the problems and fix everybody's issues all the time. It's exhausting, and it leads to resentment.Plus, by rescuing our kids, we deny them the opportunity to learn how to

In this episode of the Dyslexia Explored Podcast, host Darius Namdaran welcomes back Joe Lee, his co-founder and wife, to discuss how coaching strategies can aid individuals with dyslexia. Leveraging her extensive experience as a life and business coach, Joe breaks down the distinctions between various forms of coaching and counseling. She delves into two essential models: the Drama Triangle and Appreciative Inquiry, offering insights on how these can transform the perception of dyslexia from a hindrance to a source of strength. Through engaging discussions and practical examples, this episode provides valuable perspectives on overcoming dyslexia-related challenges and emphasizes the importance of focusing on one's strengths.Link:Jo Lee Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jo-lee-21a234155/ Jo Lee Coaching: https://www.joleecoaching.com/ This podcast is sponsored by: Get ivvi notes now: https://ivvi.app/ Dyslexia productivity coaching?: http://dyslexiaproductivitycoaching.com/ Dyslexia Quiz: https://bulletmapacademy.com/dyslexia-quiz/How to Mindmap: https://www.bulletmapacademy.com/courses  Interested in being a guest? Email us at info@bulletmapacademy.com

*** Trigger Warning - Abuse dynamicsWell Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 168 - "How do the Interaction Dynamics apply to children and power dynamics? (Shapes 10 - (the movies are next!))" is now LIVE!Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuideIf you're tuning in for our movies episode, we promise its coming next week. Join us on our journey down a rabbit hole so deep, we had to change the episode topic mid-recording. We've spent weeks talking about the shapes and how the Interaction Dynamics apply to us and our relationships however, they don't always apply to everyone. Tune in for todays episode where we focus on our approach and impact specifically in situations regarding power dynamics and with children. What you choose to do now can affect the dynamic approach that your child uses in the future. In this episode we cover:Why the Drama Triangle and Empowerment Ecosystem don't apply the same way to children as adultsHow to lead as a parent in Creator ApproachThe importance of creating consistency with our children and within our daily livesUsing a container to support childrenThe impact of creating options and choice for childrenHow power dynamics can affect the Interaction DynamicsRecognizing the Harm DynamicPutting responsibility where it needs to beEpisode References:Attachment styles - Episode 83 - Conflict Series - Resolving conflict through coping, closing or co-creatingPrinciples vs rules - Episode 121 - How trying to maintain an image can compromise your needsThe Victim Approach episode - Episode 159 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 1) - The Victim ApproachThe Persecutor Approach episode - 160 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 2) - The Persecutor ApproachThe Rescuer Approach episode - 161 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 3) - The Rescuer ApproachThe Rescuer Approach harm episode - Episode 162 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 4) - Why the Rescuer Approach is so harmfulThe Creator Approach episode - Episode 163 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 5) - The Creator ApproachThe Supporter Approach episode - Episode 164 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 6) - The Supporter ApproachThe Contributor Approach episode - Episode 165 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 7) - The Contributor ApproachMoving from disempowering to empowering - Episode 166 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 8) - How to move from a disempowering approach to meeting your needs to an empowering oneThe Harm Dynamic episode - Episode 167 - The Harm Dynamic (AKA the abuse dynamic) - focusing on actual harm and the impact of itResources:Click here to download the companion PDF to this episode (and the rest of the Interaction Dynamics series): https://theuniversalneeds.com/The-Interaction-DynamicsLinks for the "What were you wearing" exhibit:https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/What_Were_You_Wearing%3Fhttps://sbaproject.org/what-were-you-wearing/https://vimeo.com/1087245651https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RdNh87cDHO4

Do you ever catch yourself simmering in frustration—at work, in traffic, or waiting for that text back? In this episode, Justin Wenck, PhD, pulls back the curtain on why we cling to annoyance and how to finally break free.What You'll Learn:The hidden payoff of frustration and why we stay stuck in itHow the Drama Triangle (victim, villain, hero) secretly runs your lifeThe powerful shift to the Empowerment Triangle (creator, challenger, coach)Real-life examples to turn everyday annoyances into growth opportunitiesWhy letting go of frustration leads to more joy, ease, and love in your lifeListen in if you're ready to ditch the drama and start living as the creator of your own experience.Send us a textWatch the full video episode at Justin Wenck, Ph.D. YouTube Channel!Check out my best-selling book "Engineered to Love: Going Beyond Success to Fulfillment" also available on Audiobook on all streaming platforms! Go to https://www.engineeredtolove.com/ to learn more! Got a question or comment about the show? E-mail me at podcast@justinwenck.com.Remember to subscribe so you don't miss the next episode! Connect with me:JustinWenck.comFacebookInstagramLinkedInYouTubeDisclaimer: No copyright infringement intended, music and pics belong to the rightful owners.=====================================================

So much of what holds leaders back isn't strategy or skill. It's the invisible mindset traps we don't even realize we're stuck in. Most leadership challenges are created by unconscious patterns running the show beneath the surface. In this episode, we dig into what it really takes to break those patterns with Diana Chapman, executive coach and co-author of The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership. We explore how leaders unknowingly operate from fear instead of trust, how ego-driven patterns around control, approval, and security quietly sabotage progress, and why taking radical responsibility is a game-changer. Diana also breaks down the Drama Triangle—the victim, villain, and hero roles we slip into—and reveals how to break free from reactivity and drama to lead with more clarity and presence. We unpack why addiction to comfort and being right can quietly derail your leadership impact, and explore the dangers of greed in leadership, and what it really means to show up in a state of trust and curiosity.   ________________ Start your day with the world's top leaders by joining thousands of others at Great Leadership on Substack. Just enter your email: ⁠⁠https://greatleadership.substack.com/

Hey friends! In today's episode of Insights from the Couch, we're exploring one of our favorite (and most handed-out!) psychological models—the Drama Triangle. If you've ever felt stuck in dysfunctional relationship dynamics, unsure why you're constantly the “rescuer,” “victim,” or “persecutor,” this one's for you. We break down how these roles silently fuel relational chaos and emotional suppression—and most importantly, how to get out.We also introduce the Empowerment Triangle, the powerful antidote that helps you reclaim your agency and transform your relationships. We're not here for surface-level chatter—we're all about taking personal responsibility, getting real about what's not working, and building healthier, more honest connections. So grab your coffee and settle in—we're getting real about emotional growth, boundary-setting, and stepping into your truth. Episode Highlights:[0:02] - Welcome to Insights from the Couch and intro to "The Chat" community [1:47] - Why we love teaching the Drama Triangle model [3:24] - Defining the three core roles: victim, rescuer, and persecutor [5:34] - The puppet-master energy of the victim role [7:50] - The shift from victimhood to Creator mindset [10:57] - Personal stories on family dynamics and feeling disempowered [13:19] - How rescuers unknowingly uphold dysfunctional systems [16:33] - Gender, parenting, and the over-functioning rescuer [18:26] - Emotional discomfort and the fear that fuels rescuing [22:46] - The persecutor: the role no one wants but everyone needs [25:07] - Why breaking the triangle means risking being “the bad guy” [27:56] - How emotional suppression drives the Drama Triangle [32:54] - Shifting to the Empowerment Triangle: Creator, Coach, and Challenger [35:51] - Taking personal accountability and validating our feelings [38:24] - The difference between rescuing and coaching with compassion [41:05] - How to offer support without enabling [42:06] - Embracing the Challenger role to live in truth [44:33] - Join our new community space “The Chat” at insightsfromthecouch.org Links & Resources:·         Join the conversation and community at: https://www.insightsfromthecouch.org/the-chat ·         Learn more about the Drama Triangle and Empowerment Triangle: The Power of TED* by David Emerald·         Recommended reading: The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!

What if conflict isn't the problem—but the portal? In this raw and real episode, Alicia is joined by Annmarie, a fellow stepmom and conflict resolution ninja, to unpack what's really going on underneath the same old fights. (Spoiler: It's not about the dishes.)They dig into:Why your drama triangle has assigned seatingHow to tell if you're reacting from love or fearWhat your partner's defensiveness actually means (it's not about you… kinda)Why kids shapeshift between houses and how it's not personalUsing conflict as a gateway to unconditional love and radical self-awarenessWhether you're blowing up over socks on the floor or questioning your entire role in the stepfamily, this conversation is your loving slap-in-the-face reminder that healing is hard, but worth it.Connect with Annmarie:www.annmariechereso.meQuiz: What's Fueling Conflict in Your Relationship? InstagramWant a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.

Hello! This is Episode 366, and in it, I’m diving into the Drama Triangle and how it can show up in the communication and relationships involved in your renovation or new build project. This episode is a little different to the usual tips, strategies, and homeowner stories I share here. But I know from experience - personally and professionally - that how you communicate can make or break your project journey. [For all resources mentioned in this podcast and a free, downloadable PDF transcript, head to www.undercoverarchitect.com/366] When things get stressful, uncertain, or emotionally charged, it’s easy to fall into unhelpful patterns without even realising it. You might shut down, lash out, try to fix everything for everyone, or feel like you’re walking on eggshells. These responses often come from roles we unconsciously play. Roles like Victim, Persecutor, or Rescuer, are part of a well-known psychological model called the Drama Triangle. In this episode, I’ll walk you through what the Drama Triangle is, why it’s so common in building and renovating, and how you can shift out of these roles into something far more empowering, using what’s known as the Empowerment Dynamic. Whether you’re dealing with a tricky team member, struggling to make decisions, or feeling overwhelmed by the process, this episode will give you fresh tools and insights to approach things differently… with more clarity, confidence, and control. As always, if you’d like to access a full transcript of this episode and links to the resources I mention, head to www.undercoverarchitect.com/366. Now, let’s dive in! RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS PODCAST: For links, images and resources mentioned in this podcast, head to >>> www.undercoverarchitect.com/366 Accessing my free '44 Ways' E-Book will simplify sustainability and help you create a healthy, low tox and sustainable home. You can download your free copy here >>> https://undercoverarchitect.com/ways Access the support and guidance you need to be confident and empowered when renovating and building your family home inside my flagship online program >>> https://undercoverarchitect.com/courses/the-home-method/ Just a reminder: All content on this podcast is provided by Undercover Architect for reference purposes and as general guidance. It does not take into account specific circumstances and should not be relied on in that way. You should seek independent verification or advice before relying on this content in any circumstances, including but not limited to circumstances where loss or damage may result. The views and opinions of any guests on the podcast are solely their own. They may not reflect the views of Undercover Architect. Undercover Architect endeavours to publish content that is accurate at the time it is published, but does not accept responsibility for content that may or has become inaccurate over time.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you feel like you keep getting stuck in the same old arguments? What drains our aliveness more than work? And what if the thing killing your sex life had nothing to do with sex? Today Alyson and I reveal one of — if not the — biggest killers of aliveness, intimacy, and trust. It's the drama triangle. We explore what it truly is, how it keeps us from finding solutions, and what you can do to pull yourself from its trap.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/07/drama-triangle   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 163 - "How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 5) - The Creator Approach" is now LIVE!Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuideWe've spent a lot of time talking about the disempowering approaches to try and meet needs and all that pinging around the Drama Triangle has us dizzy. This week we're switching gears (and shapes) as we get into the core of the empowering approaches. Tune in to find out the approach that will not only help us to meet our needs in more fulfilling ways but can also help support the relationships in our lives. In this episode we cover:The Empowerment EcosystemWhat is the Creator Approach?The 80/20 RuleHow we can connect to our Creator ApproachSparking creativity with noodlesThe context in which we want to be creatingWhy it isn't enough just to want somethingThe importance of specific and flexible outcomesThe 6 Steps to connecting with your Creator ApproachMaking the Creator Approach easierWhat is chunking and what does it have to do with making a PB&JHow chunking can help when you're navigating challengesBecoming the gardener of your own lifePracticing the Creator ApproachLearning how to pivotEpisode References:The Selfirst episode - Episode 20 - Selfirst Series: What is Selfirst? Let's get specific…Needs Formula episode- Episode 70 - Burning the candle at both ends series: The Needs FormulaThe episode where we talk about throwing noodles - 145 - When your help is actually a hinderanceThe Victim Approach episode - Episode 159 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 1) - The Victim ApproachThe Persecutor Approach episode - 160 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 2) - The Persecutor ApproachThe Rescuer Approach episode - 161 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 3) - The Rescuer ApproachThe Rescuer Approach harm episode - Episode 162 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 4) - Why the Rescuer Approach is so harmfulNote: The PB&J sandwich instructions YouTube video - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j-6N3bLgYyQResources:Click here to download the companion PDF to this episode (and the rest of the Interaction Dynamics series): https://theuniversalneeds.com/The-Interaction-Dynamics

***Trigger Warning - Domestic AbuseWell Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 162 - "How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 4) - Why the Rescuer Approach is so harmful" is now LIVE!Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuideWhen it comes to the Drama Triangle, taking the Rescuer Approach doesn't seem all that bad, right!? Well, let's just say not everything is as it appears. In today's episode we're going to get deeper into the Rescuer Approach and reveal what really lies behind that mask and cape. Tune in to find out where you may be doing more harm than good. In this episode we cover:Why all the repetition?The Victim Approach in disguiseGood intentions with harmful resultsThe speed at which we can change positions in the disempowerment approachFinding something that feels a little less suckyThe relationship between the Rescuer Approach and coaches, councilors and therapistsWhat is pin-balling in the Drama Triangle?How we engage in these disempowering behaviors within ourselvesWhy we need to be compassionate about our past Drama Triangle behaviorsThe importance of recognizing our objective victimhoodWhen we should intervene and come to the rescueEpisode References:The intention episode - Episode 41 - Why your intention REALLY doesn't matter…The Selfirst episode - Episode 20 - Selfirst Series: What is Selfirst? Let's get specific…The Apology Blueprint episode - Episode 156 - The 6 essential parts of an effective apologyThe Rescuer Approach episode - Episode 161 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 3) - The Rescuer ApproachThe Victim Approach episode - Episode 159 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 1) - The Victim ApproachThe Persecutor Approach episode - Episode 160 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 2) - The Persecutor ApproachResources:Click here to download the companion PDF to this episode (and the rest of the Interaction Dynamics series): https://theuniversalneeds.com/The-Interaction-Dynamics

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We all get caught in relationship drama from time to time. Whether it's with our partners, friends, family members, or even ourselves, these patterns can feel frustrating and difficult to escape. The good news? There are frameworks that can help us recognize when we're stuck in drama and practical tools we can use to shift into more empowering dynamics.In this episode, we dive into the Drama Triangle, a powerful model that helps us understand the roles we play in our relationship conflicts, and explore how we can transform these patterns into healthier interactions. We share our own experiences getting caught in these cycles and the small but significant steps that have helped us break free.We're unpacking:— The Drama Triangle model and its three archetypal roles: victim, hero (rescuer), and villain (persecutor)— How we each have preferred "on-ramps" to drama that feel familiar even when they're uncomfortable— The ways we unconsciously maintain drama cycles in our relationships— How we can play multiple roles in the Drama Triangle, even all by ourselves— The Empowerment Dynamic as an alternative to the Drama Triangle— How to transform from victim to creator, hero to coach, and villain to challenger— Why small actions can create significant shifts in breaking drama patterns— The importance of recognizing when you're in the Drama Triangle before you can step out of it— How non-monogamy can amplify drama triangles by adding more people to the system— Real examples from our relationship where we've gotten stuck in drama and found our way out— Why it's so challenging (but possible!) to break free from familiar patternsResources mentioned in this episode:— The Drama Triangle model by Stephen Karpman— The Empowerment DynamicJOIN The Year Of Opening® community for a full year of learning & support. Registration is open now at ⁠⁠www.TheYearOfOpening.com⁠⁠Learn the 5 secrets to open your relationship the smart wayAre you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.comGet the answers you want to create the open relationship of your dreams! Sign up for an Ask Me Anything hereMusic: Dance of Felt by ⁠Blue Dot Sessions

 Coaches, are you helping your clients... or are you accidentally creating drama that stalls your business? In this solo episode, Laura Hulleman breaks down the Drama Triangle—victim, persecutor, rescuer—and how it sneaks into our coaching relationships, our marketing, and even our self-worth. If you've ever wondered why your business feels exhausting or your messaging sounds off, this episode is your mirror. Tune into the Raving Coaches podcast to find clarity, drop the hero complex, and start building client relationships that are healthy, strategic, and sustainable. If your message is murky, take the course: Stop Calling Yourself a Coach

Welcome to the first episode of Dial Emma! Each week, I'll be answering your dilemmas with honesty, empathy, and a few therapeutic truth bombs to help you make sense of life's stickiest moments. If you've ever wished you had a therapist in your back pocket, Dial Emma is here to help.This week, our listener dilemma involves ageing parents in a toxic marriage, and an only child who often gets stuck in the middle of their conflict.How do we manage responsibility for people we love and care about, while also remaining true to ourselves? How can we do things differently to get us closer to the outcomes we actually want?In this episode, we explore the listener's dilemma through the lens of the drama triangle, highlighting the three roles we play in conflict: the Rescuer, the Persecutor and the Victim. We discover what the healthier alternatives to these roles might be, how to change the script, and how to navigate highly emotional family responsibilities while maintaining personal boundaries and self-identity.If you have a dilemma for Emma, please fill out this form. ---Dial Emma is hosted by Emma Reed Turrell, produced by Lauren Brook.---Social media:Emma Reed Turrell @emmareedturrellDial Emma @dialemmapodcastEmail: contact@dial-emma.uk

Are you tired of feeling stuck in the same frustrating patterns of family conflict?Do small arguments keep escalating, leaving you drained, defeated, or disconnected?In this empowering episode, we break down exactly how to step out of the Family Drama Triangle—the toxic cycle of victim, villain, and rescuer that silently sabotages your parenting, partnership, and peace.We share the 3 surprisingly simple steps that will help you break free from reactive patterns and create more calm, connection, and cooperation in your home—starting today.

Love after trauma isn't just about passion—it's about patience. The quiet moments between kisses, the hesitation in a held hand, the unspoken fear that lingers in intimacy… These are the places where love is tested—and where it can be rebuilt. In this Language of Love Session, we return to Brian and Stacey's raw, unfolding story. If you've been with us, you know: this isn't just about sex. It's about two hearts trying to find safety in each other—while wrestling with the ghosts of their pasts. (If you're new here, make sure to listen to my past sessions with Brian and Stacy to learn about the heartache, the fights, the small victories that brought them here.) So what happens when healing almost feels within reach? When the arguments soften, the warmth returns… and then—out of nowhere—the old pain rushes back in? Here's What You'll Take Away: “I want to, but I can't”—why this conflict is more common than we admit (and how to move through it) How childhood wounds whisper in adult intimacy—and how to quiet them When even loving touch feels like pressure—and how to rewrite that story Why watching porn together became a bridge, not a wall The moment a simple kiss became the bravest act of all How couples accidentally retraumatize each other—and how to stop The shift that helped Stacey reclaim her body—and her voice Why Brian is learning that patience isn't passive—it's love in action Want to feel safe in your own skin—and in your partner's arms? Start with my free quiz and then delve into 7 Days to Better Sex. If you're navigating deeper wounds, explore EMDR therapy or dive into the Drama Triangle—because real love shouldn't reopen old scars. Your story isn't over. In fact, the most healing chapters may be just ahead. Questions or thoughts? I'd love to hear from you: languageoflovepod@gmail.com And if this episode moved you, share it. Healing is contagious when we do it together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When people work closely together, conflict is inevitable. In a dental office, disagreements will come up, but if you have strategies in place to handle them, these sticky moments can actually bring team members closer and create a stronger work environment. In this episode of The Double Your Production Podcast, Wendy Briggs is joined by Heather Driscoll to talk about ways to reduce conflict at the office and bring the team together with a common purpose. In today's episode, you'll learn: How to establish non-negotiable rules of behavior to protect core values The Drama Triangle: what it is and how best to handle it in the workplace Scripts to empower the team to face discomfort and interpersonal tension How to disagree with co-workers without abandoning your integrity How clear roles and systems greatly reduce overall conflict within teams When conflict arises in your office, it's an opportunity to improve communication, strengthen the team, and emerge happier.  If you're struggling with conflict among your team members, reach out to us for some guidance and tools. Schedule a quick 10-min call here and we'll see how we can help: theteamtraininginstitute.com/10min 

Did you know that dissociative disorders are almost as common as mood disorders? Drew & Garden System chat with Dorinna Ruh, LCSW and cover valuable information about prevalence rates, how to recognize dissociation in yourself or in your client, ways to assess for a dissociative disorder, and a few EMDR tips as well! If you're working with complex trauma, then you're working with dissociation. You won't want to miss this episode!About Dorinna Ruh, LCSW:Dorinna's career has spanned 34 years, as she became a counselor in 1989, working in the substance abuse field. She obtained her Master's Degree in Social Work from the State University of New York in 1995.After moving to Fort Collins, Colorado in 1999, she started a private practice. She was trained in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) in 2001 and found that this therapy was so powerful and such a good fit for her that it has been her primary lens since then.  By 2010 she was both certified in and an approved consultant in EMDR therapy. For the past 9 years she has facilitated EMDR trainings for HAP/Trauma recovery and is currently a trainer candidate.She specializes in working with complex trauma and dissociative disorders and in addition to her therapy practice, she offers consultation and training for other therapists through her consultation business Advanced EMDR Education. Group consultation for EMDR certification and for advanced practitioners geared toward treating complex trauma. Individual consultation. Consultation link is https://advanced-emdr-education.com/consultation-groupsTrainings on Demand: Link is https://trainings.advanced-emdr-education.com/collectionsTherapy Snapshots — one-hour low-cost training on topics that have been super important to me:  EMDR Treatment Planning and Target Sequencing; Karpman's Drama Triangle as a Lens for Countertransference; Internal Healing Dialogue; Creative Resourcing; Building Internal Scaffolding with Ideal ParentWeaving in Cognitive Interweaves - a three-hour EMDRIA-approved classEMDR and Dissocation from the Beginning - a 12-hour EMDRIA-approved class that focuses on phases 1 and 2 of EMDR therapy.Thank you to our Sponsors for this Episode:https://www.instituteforcreativemindfulness.com/https://www.dylancrumpler.com/watch-petals-of-a-roseSend us a textFollow us on Instagram: @acoupleofmultiples, @note_to_selves, @seidi_gardensystem Follow us on TikTok: @seidi_gardensystem, @note_to_selves Follow us on Facebook: A Couple of Multiples - https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61556823127239 Visit our website: acoupleofmultiples.com to sign up for our mailing list, join our private, on-line community Hearts Multiplied, register for peer coaching, consultations, and workshops!

“I am not the victim of the world I see.” – A Course in Miracles Workbook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, Lesson 31What if you stopped identifying with the part of you that feels powerless?What if you could claim your power, right now, from the inside out?In this episode, we explore Lesson 31 from the A Course in Miracles Workbook for Students⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which invites us to break free from the illusion of victimhood. We examine how the stories we tell about ourselves—especially ones rooted in helplessness, blame, or fear—shape the world we see. And more importantly, how we can begin to write new ones.This lesson is a call to radical responsibility. Not as a burden—but as a path back to our power, agency, and peace.Whether you've been looping in blame, waiting to be rescued, or doubting your ability to change… this episode offers a gentle but clear reminder:You are not a victim. You are a creator.Key Insights from Lesson 31✨ Freedom is an inside job: Real freedom doesn't come from changing external circumstances—it begins when we stop believing the ego's script of helplessness and choose to see through the eyes of love and strength.✨ Perception is projection: Your outer world reflects your inner beliefs. Victimhood distorts your perception and locks you into reactive loops. But when you shift your mindset, even slightly, the world reflects that softness and sovereignty back to you.✨ Responsibility is not blame—it's empowerment: To say “I am not a victim” isn't to dismiss the pain you've lived through. It's to stop giving it control over your present. You can choose again. You can write a new chapter. One rooted in compassion, clarity, and conscious choice.Reflection QuestionsWhere in my life do I feel like a victim right now—and what narrative is fueling that feeling?If I fully embraced that I am not a victim of the world I see, how might I meet today's challenges with more personal power and agency?Is there a story I've outgrown but still wear like a second skin? What belief would I need to release to return to who I truly am?What's one small way I can reclaim authorship of my life today, instead of waiting to be rescued or fixed?RESOURCES MENTIONEDThe Three Faces of Victimhood: An Overview of the Victim TriangleIdentifying the Drama TriangleMaking the Shift From Drama to EmpowermentCONNECT WITH JESSICA FLINT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ORACLE DECKS USED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tea Leaf Fortune Cards⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Animal Spirit Deck⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Rose Oracle Deck

Send us a text! (add your email to get a response)Have you ever noticed a never-ending cycle of drama amongst your family or friend group? In this episode, we talk about how the Drama Triangle might be the hidden pattern keeping your relationships stuck in painful cycles. Whether you're supporting a loved one with mental illness or navigating difficult family dynamics, this pattern will keep you trapped in the pain instead of solving it.Stephen Karpman's Drama Triangle describes three roles that create and sustain relationship dysfunction: the Victim (feeling helpless and powerless), the Persecutor (critical and blaming), and the Rescuer (rushing to fix problems). What makes this pattern so challenging is how people shift between these roles, maintaining the pain while never actually resolving underlying issues.We identify places where we can spot the drama triangle in our own lives—from childhood experiences with divorced parents to adult relationships—showing how these patterns created confusion and heartache. These triangles often form because we're desperately trying to maintain stability, even when that stability is painful.The good news is that understanding these patterns gives you the power to break free. We explore practical ways to step outside your habitual role and ultimately break down the triangle entirely. Rather than seeing these behaviors as character flaws, we frame them as adaptations that once served a purpose but may now be limiting your growth and happiness.This conversation highlights how recognizing these patterns can help you create more authentic connections with loved ones struggling with mental health challenges. Check out KulaMind.com to learn more about our online platform designed to help you break toxic patterns and find peace while supporting someone with mental illness.Resources:https://karpmandramatriangle.com/dt_article_only.htmlSupport the showIf you have a loved one with mental or emotional problems, join KulaMind, our community and support platform. In KulaMind, work one on one with Dr. Kibby on learning how to set healthy boundaries, advocate for yourself, and support your loved one. *We only have a few spots left, so apply here if you're interested. Follow @kulamind on Instagram for science-backed insights on staying sane while loving someone emotionally explosive. For more info about this podcast, check out: www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com Follow us on Instagram: @ALittleHelpForOurFriends

Do you ever feel like your relationship is stuck in a loop? The same fights, the same frustrations, the same silent distance—even though you both want things to be better. Here's the truth: Your partner's baggage fits yours perfectly. The work isn't to change them—it's to unpack your own while holding space for theirs. In this raw and revealing Language of Love session, Brian and Stacey lay bare their struggle—blame, withdrawal, and the aching fear of not being enough. Stacey is fighting to reclaim her voice after trauma, wondering if her needs even matter.Brian admits he's been avoiding effort, hiding behind the excuse of being “too busy.” Their story is your story. The tiny misunderstandings that explode into disconnection. The love that's there but buried under frustration. The desperate hope that things could be different—if only they knew how. If you've ever felt invisible in your relationship, used "busyness" as an excuse to avoid hard conversations, wondered why affection feels like a battleground, or found yourself trapped in the blame-defend-withdraw cycle, this episode will leave you breathless—and give you the tools to break free. Here's what you'll learn in this episode:  Why “I don't have time” is often code for avoidance—and how to fix it  The silent killer of relationships: unspoken expectations around affection  How just 10 minutes of intentional time can rebuild connection  The Drama Triangle (Victim, Villain, Hero)—and how to step off it  How to ask for love without triggering defensiveness  Why childhood wounds keep replaying in your relationship—and how to stop them  Non-sexual touch: The secret to rebuilding emotional safety  How to hold space for both love and frustration (yes, it's possible!) Ready to Heal? Take my free quiz and start 7 Days to Better Sex to transform intimacy today. For deeper trauma work, explore EMDR and the Drama Triangle—because love shouldn't hurt this much. Your story isn't over yet. Let's rewrite it together. Got questions? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com Share this episode—love grows when we heal together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to this episode of What to Say & How to Say It with Nina Roesner and Licensed Professional Counselor Kyle Hargrove!

The Drama Triangle Explained: How to Reclaim Your Power The Drama Triangle, a concept developed by psychologist Stephen Karpman, illustrates how individuals can become entangled in a cycle of emotional exhaustion and conflict through three distinct roles: the victim, the rescuer, and the villain. Each role plays a significant part in perpetuating drama in our lives, often without our conscious awareness. Host Tonya Leigh explores the concept of the Drama Triangle, a framework that reveals the subconscious patterns we create in our lives. The discussion highlights how many people gravitate towards drama, whether for a sense of identity, adrenaline, or connection, often without realizing it. Tonya emphasizes that while some drama may serve a purpose, much of it keeps us trapped in familiar, chaotic states, preventing us from experiencing peace and ease in our lives.  Tune in as we break down the three roles in the Drama Triangle—victim, villain, and hero—and how to recognize and escape these patterns to achieve a more elegant and fulfilling life. 00:47 - The Allure of Drama: Why We Create It 01:03 - Craving Peace and Elegance 02:09 - Role 1: The Victim 04:16 - The Victim's Self-Image 07:10 - Role 2: The Rescuer 09:50 - Examples of the Rescuer Role 11:07 - The Rescuer's Self-Image 16:00 - Role 3: The Villain 19:30 - Examples of the Villain Role 22:26 - The Villain's Self-Image 23:32 - Stepping Out of the Drama Triangle 24:03 - Becoming the Main Character Quotes: "What we crave is a sense of ease, a sense of peace, a sense of elegance in our lives, which means that we're going to have to give up some of the drama." "You're not the problem, but you are the solution." "If you want to grow your impact, if you want to have more ease in your life, you must be willing to let other people fail." "I'm only valuable when I'm needed." "The control, the criticism, and the blame comes from a fear of losing control, of not being enough, of being exposed." "You're the main character, but more importantly, you're also the writer and the director." Useful  Resources: Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel   

Welcome to Goals with Soul! If you've ever felt stuck in frustrating client dynamics - like you're always "saving" people or pushing uphill - this episode will change everything. I'm joined by spiritual mentor Michaela Pay, whose journey from skeptical personal trainer to intuitive keynote speaker and bestselling author, has transformed how she sees business and personal growth. And today, she's here to introduce you to the Drama Triangle - a hidden pattern that keeps us trapped in toxic roles.Michaela shares a hilarious CrossFit story that perfectly illustrates how we unconsciously slip into these roles of Hero, Victim or Villain, and how recognizing them can revolutionize the way we lead, coach, and serve. Tune in for these key insights from our conversation: - Why playing the hero actually disempowers your clients - How to attract self-led, high-frequency clients - The hidden motivations behind your business struggles - How to make a powerful shift that creates real transformation Michaela is the "least spiritual, spiritual person", so expect grounded, no-nonsense wisdom that will shake up how you show up in your work. Pour yourself something delicious, grab a notebook, and tune in now...your business (and future clients) will thank you! Enjoy the listen!________________________________You can find Michaela on Instagram and Facebook, and check out her book, Dismantling the Drama Triangle, here.________________________________If you're enjoying Goals With Soul, please leave us a review - each 5* review helps the podcast reach even more soulful healers, coaches and entrepreneurs.

Can love truly heal the wounds of the past? It's a question many of us ask ourselves when past traumas creep into our relationships, casting long shadows over the love we're trying to build. For Brian and Stacey, one of the amazing couples who come on the show to get support, this question isn't just philosophical—it's a daily reality. How do you rebuild trust when intimacy feels like a minefield? How do you show affection when touch triggers painful memories? And can love, no matter how strong, truly heal the wounds of the past? In this Language of Love Session, we dive deeper into the emotional rollercoaster of Brian and Stacey's relationship. Will they find a way to bridge the growing distance between them, or will past traumas continue to pull them apart? If you've been following their journey, you know this is a story filled with raw emotion, vulnerability, and the struggle to heal. If you're new, buckle up—this is a journey you won't want to miss. And if you would like to come on the show to get some support, make sure to email us at languageoflovepod@gmail.com Here's what you'll learn in this episode: How past sexual trauma can distort feelings of love and connection Why physical affection can feel both comforting and threatening The double bind of wanting closeness but fearing intimacy How to create non-sexual physical touch that fosters connection The importance of tuning into your partner's emotional needs Practical tools for building warmth and trust in a relationship How to navigate the Drama Triangle without blaming each other The power of pausing and shifting energy during conflicts Why avoiding each other can feel safer—but isn't the answer Check out my free quiz and 7 Days to Better Sex to start improving intimacy today. Healing and connection are journeys best taken with the right tools. For trauma recovery, tools like EMDR and the Drama Triangle can be incredibly helpful.  Got questions or stories to share? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com—and don't forget to share this episode, because love is a journey we take together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you stuck in drama without even realizing it? The Drama Triangle—where we unconsciously take on the roles of Victim, Perpetrator, or Hero—can keep us trapped in conflict and frustration. In this episode, Ani Anderson and Brian Trzaskos break down how these patterns play out in relationships, work, and even within ourselves. More importantly, they reveal a powerful alternative: the Empowerment Dynamic, where you can shift from feeling stuck to stepping into real agency over your life. Join us for a conversation that will help you recognize drama when it shows up, break free from the cycle, and create a healthier, more empowered way of being.Join us at Kripalu: https://kripalu.org/presenters-programs/core-centering-practitioner-certificationListen to all our episodes here:https://somaticcoachingacademy.com/podcastGet access to our free library of helpful resources:http://www.somaticcoachingacademy.com/library-signup

Do you ever feel like you have it all together—until life throws a curveball and suddenly, an unexpected part of you takes over? Maybe it's the part that gets overwhelmed, lashes out, or shrinks down. What if instead of fighting these parts of yourself, you could work with them, integrate them, and reclaim your full power? In this episode, I'm thrilled to welcome Brittany Hopkins Switlick, a seasoned yoga teacher, author, and personal development coach, to talk about her journey of self-reclamation, embodiment, and the transformative power of parts work. Brittany's new book, Dancing With Our Selves, is a roadmap to self-awareness and intentional living, blending yoga, mindfulness, and more to help you navigate your inner world with more ease and self-compassion. We dive into: ✨Why so many women feel disconnected from their bodies and desires—and how to shift back into alignment ✨The surprising way naming your inner parts (hello, Brandi) can transform your relationships and self-trust ✨How yoga and meditation can help you break free from old patterns and show up fully in your life ✨The role of self-compassion in healing and growth—and how to stop abandoning yourself ✨A simple yet powerful practice to shift from reaction to empowerment in any moment   Listen now and learn how to dance with all parts of yourself—so you can reclaim your fire, your freedom, and your fullest self. Follow Brittany: @brittany.hopkins.switlick Get Your Free Sensuality Activation HERE!

Reframing Mindset: A Conversation with David HigdonHave you ever noticed how most conversations about mindset feel suspiciously like Saturday Night Live's Stuart Smalley sketch—staring into the mirror, repeating, "I'm good enough, I'm smart enough..."? If affirmations were a magic wand, we'd all be living our dream lives already, right?Mindset matters, but not how most mindset coaches sell it. In a recent Creative On Purpose Live episode, David Higdon (David Higdon) joined me to poke gently at prevailing myths about mindset and affirmations. Spoiler alert: Mindset follows posture, not the other way around.Mindset as Interaction, Not Just ThinkingFor David, mindset isn't merely thinking differently—it's about interacting with reality differently. You don't become confident by declaring yourself confident; you build confidence by acknowledging where you are and taking micro-steps toward becoming who you want to be. Affirmations only stick when they're rooted in your current reality. "I am becoming confident" beats "I am confident" if confidence isn't yet your lived experience.Mindset Follows PostureI love how David aligns with my assertion—mindset follows posture. Your attitudes and actions shape your mindset more than your mindset shapes your attitudes and actions. This means doing the thing comes before being the thing. Want to become a better writer, coach, or human? Start acting like one.Mirror, Mirror…David shared a pivotal realization that reframed his entire approach to mindset. During a drive home from a band rehearsal in Jersey, he saw the New York City skyline and asked himself, "Why am I like this?" He collided with reality. By honestly identifying behaviors that held him back, David began removing the friction that stood between who he was and who he wanted to be.He calls this practice "looking in the mirror." It starts by acknowledging your part in situations that don't go your way. Instead of blaming the outside world—look inward. David calls this 'giving grace.' It doesn't mean accepting or ignoring your faults. It means forgiving your past self, appreciating the present you, and gently embracing the potential future you.Compassion and ResponsibilityEmpathy for others starts with empathy for yourself. David shared how learning to offer grace to himself made it easier to extend it to others, creating a virtuous cycle of compassion and accountability. But grace alone isn't enough; tough love has its place. Sometimes the greatest gift you can offer yourself is holding yourself accountable to a higher standard.Notice, Name, NavigateAs you know, my three-step framework is Notice, Name, Navigate. Notice what's happening as objectively as possible. Name the choices available. Navigate by doing the next right thing. David's similar approach starts with identifying impulses or triggers, noticing emotional responses, and choosing new ways to respond. Simple, but not easy. It's a practice—a habit.Victim, Persecutor, SaviorWe also explored Karpman's Drama Triangle. If you identify as a victim, you invite persecutors and saviors into your life. Conversely, by removing victimhood, you also remove the roles of persecutors and saviors. David suggested an intriguing possibility: once you've let go of the victim role, you might unconsciously step into the persecutor or savior roles instead. That's a danger worth noticing.Gratitude as a SuperpowerGratitude changes minds faster than affirmations. It's a scientifically proven superpower. Real gratitude means appreciating the challenges life hands you, not just the abundance. It's the secret sauce of becoming a better person and a better solopreneur.Final ThoughtMindset isn't something you “fix.” It's something you build, day by day, through conscious choices and intentional actions. The truth is, your mind doesn't need setting; it needs recalibrating through experience. So, start small, act intentionally, and trust the process. You'll become the person who can do what you aspire to do by consistently choosing actions aligned with that aspiration.What's one small choice you'll make today to move closer to the mindset you want to embody? Drop a comment, and let's keep the conversation going!Onward!Ready to find your compass?Join our community of thoughtful, purpose-driven solopreneurs inside the Solopreneur Success Circle. It's the perfect place to clarify your path, leverage your strengths, and build a prosperous business that funds and fits your ideal life.

The Drama Triangle is a powerful model in relation to human behaviour. In this Podcast we discuss the impact of the different styles can impact coaching dynamics. We explore how this psychological model, consisting of the roles of the Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer - can show up in conversations and influence client and our own behavior. We also discuss practical ways as coaches to support the shift from the Drama Triangle to healthy and empowering choices.

Are you stuck in the same argument over and over again? It starts with something small—an offhand comment, a last-minute plan, or a simple misunderstanding. Before you know it, you're in yet another argument, saying things you don't mean, feeling unheard, and wondering, how did we get here again? In this episode of The Language of Love Session, we check in with Brian and Stacey, a couple who love each other deeply but keep getting stuck in frustrating fights. Their latest? A basketball game invitation that—on the surface—seemed harmless. But for Stacey, it wasn't just about the game. It was about priorities, commitment, and feeling like she mattered. Here's where things got messy: Brian had already skipped their usual weekly sporting activity together. So when he jumped at the chance to go out with a friend instead, Stacey felt like she was coming in second. A simple, innocent decision spiraled into yet another heated argument. But here's the real issue—it wasn't about basketball. It was about unspoken fears, emotional triggers, and the stories we tell ourselves when we feel hurt. In this episode, we're breaking it all down: Why small decisions can feel like big betrayal How unspoken fears and insecurities sneak into your conversations and turn them into battles The power of pausing before you react  How to recognize when you're stuck in the Drama Triangle—and what to do about it The art of making your partner feel heard without silencing your own needs If you've ever felt stuck in the same frustrating arguments, wondering why your partner just doesn't get it, this episode will shift your perspective. Want to go deeper? Check out my Quantum Sex Course for relationship-transforming tools. Got a love dilemma of your own? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com, and don't forget to share this episode with someone who needs it. Because love isn't defined by the big moments—it's built in the small ones. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you want to create more healthy relationships with your partner, family, co-workers and friends? In today's episode, Katie shares a powerful framework for understanding your patterns in relationships, the Drama Triangle. It's time to shine a light on the unconscious patterns that are sabotaging your relationships so you can get out of the Drama Triangle! Ayurveda School is in session! Click here to learn more and start studying Ayurveda today! In this episode about the Drama Triangle, you'll hear: ~ An invitation to study with us in Ayurveda School! ~ What is the Drama Triangle? ~ Psychiatrist Stephen Karpman ~ Are there really so many narcissists? ~ The danger of labeling and “othering” people ~ Dissolving the labels you've given yourself ~ Characteristics of our inner victim, perpetrator and rescuer ~ Carl Jung's theory of projection ~ How to identify when you're projecting ~ The Vedic concept of Samsara ~ How to recognise when you're playing the victim, perpetrator or rescuer in your relationship ~ Examples of common dysfunctional relationship patterns ~ How to break free from the Drama Triangle ~ The Jungian concept of self-integration ~ How to develop more mature, healthy relationships ~ Awareness as a digestive enzyme ~ Taking radical responsibility for our feelings ~ Get our free mini-course about Women's Wisdom and Ayurveda for Women! Other resources mentioned in this episode: ~ 2025 Chakra Yoga Nidra Workshop: Study with Katie and other luminary teachers this fall in the Bahamas! ~ 2026 Chakra Yoga Nidra Retreat: Deep dive into the chakras with Katie as your guide in the beautiful Bahamas! ~ Sign up for our newsletter on our website ~ Follow us on Instagram and Facebook ~ Katie's latest book, Glow-Worthy Get the full show notes here: www.TheShaktiSchool.com/podcast/

In this episode ofThe Active Life Podcast, the hosts dive deep into the critical mindset shift from victim mentality to a creator mindset. They explore how our habitual thought patterns shape our perspectives and behaviors, breaking down the key differences between these two approaches to life. By examining the "Drama Triangle" and its inverse, the "Empowerment Triangle," they highlight how individuals often play roles of victim, hero, or villain—and how they can shift toward becoming creators, coaches, and challengers.Listeners will learn how the victim mentality keeps people stuck in fear, powerlessness, and dependence on external circumstances, while the creator mindset fosters responsibility, action, and personal growth. The discussion also uncovers the hidden dangers of the "hero" role, especially in coaching and leadership, and offers insights into how real empowerment comes from guiding, rather than saving, others. Through practical examples, including a powerful personal story of resilience in the aftermath of Hurricane Sandy, this episode offers a framework for recognizing where we stand and how we can intentionally shift toward an empowered, action-driven mindset.To wrap up, the hosts provide actionable steps for listeners: identifying where they currently operate within these mental frameworks, finding mentors or coaches who can guide them, and embracing challenges as opportunities for growth. Whether you're a coach, an athlete, or simply someone looking to take ownership of your life, this conversation will inspire you to move from reactive to intentional living.

Welcome back to Part 2 of my conversation with Karina Murphy, the driving force behind Next Level Results Accelerator. In this inspiring and uplifting episode, we continue our journey towards greatness, diving into the transformative concepts of the Drama Triangle and the power of choice. If you missed Part 1, we covered Karina's powerful approach to self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and the first two sides of the Drama Triangle. It was a game-changer! But now, in this episode, we're taking it to the next level. ✨ What You'll Learn in This Episode ✨ Karina brings invaluable wisdom on how the roles of victim, persecutor, and hero-rescuer shape our experiences, often leaving us feeling stuck. With her expert coaching, we explore how to break free from these unconscious patterns, shifting from limitation to empowerment.

Did you know that most arguments in relationships aren't really about what they seem? That fight about the trash? The dishes? Being late? It's rarely about the actual issue—it's about something deeper. Feeling unheard. Feeling unappreciated. Feeling disconnected. In this Language of Love Session, we continue to follow Brian and Stacey as they navigate the challenges of trust, intimacy, and emotional connection. Brian feels like he's doing everything right—planning dates, showing affection, making an effort—yet the intimacy still isn't there. Stacey, meanwhile, struggles with past trauma and the weight of expectation, making it hard for her to fully engage. We confront the hidden emotions and unspoken fears that keep them stuck in the same frustrating cycle. What's inside this episode? How past traumas influence trust and intimacy in relationships Why taking sex off the table can help rebuild emotional and physical connection The importance of non-sexual touch in fostering intimacy and trust How to navigate the "Drama Triangle" (victim, villain, hero) in conflicts Practical strategies for shifting out of conflict and into connection The role of appreciation and physical affection in healing relationships How to create a culture of safety and understanding in your partnership Don't forget—love is a journey best taken together. Whether you're healing from past traumas, deepening intimacy, or improving communication, every step forward is one you don't have to take alone. Explore powerful tools like EMDR and the Drama Triangle for trauma recovery, or dive into transformative resources like Conscious Loving by Gay and Katie Hendricks. Want to go even deeper? Read my book Quantum Love. You can even check out my Quantum Sex Course. Have questions or stories to share? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com, and don't forget to share this episode—because love is a journey we take together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is the final episode of season two. After taking a short break, we'll return in March with season three.In episode eight of this season, I introduced a way to depolarize politics and evoke more constructive moods: escaping the drama triangle. In this five-minute episode, I answer a related question: how do you escape the drama triangle? Here are four steps you can start using today.**Subscribe to the podcast**To hear the origin stories of more big ideas, subscribe to How My View Grew on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you listen to podcasts.**Share the love**Leave me a rating or review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you listen to podcasts.

Welcome back to the House of Her Podcast. Today, I take you through the intriguing and often unnoticed behavior we exhibit when distancing ourselves from jobs, friendships, and mentorships. I am uncovering the psychological framework known as the "Drama Triangle," where we go back and forth between roles of the victim, persecutor, and rescuer to justify our transitions.In this episode I introduce you to the concept of the "Winner's Triangle," urging us to switch from helplessness to vulnerability, from punishing to assertiveness, and from rescuing to caring without overstepping. This shift not only transforms how we handle life's transitions but also ensures we retain the valuable lessons and growth these experiences bring. This episode is a game-changer for anyone looking to navigate transitions with more grace and less drama.Key Takeaways:Definition and roles within the Drama TriangleImportance Emotional triggers and performing old behaviorsThe importance of seeing challenges as growth opportunitiesTime Stamps:01:00 Misused Evidence and Rescuer Role04:29 Role-Shifting Dynamics Explained09:35 Balancing Gratitude and Clarity10:46 Finding Positivity in Imperfect SituationsEpisode Quotes"The real kicker is none of these rules actually solve anything. They just keep us stuck in this loop of drama that prevents us from doing the real work of conscious transition." - Andrea JohnsonConnect With Me:Instagram: @theandreajohnson

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In this episode of The Language of Love Session, I continue to guide Bryan and Stacey through the ups and downs of their relationship, tackling key issues like communication, trust, and appreciation. If you haven't tuned into their journey yet, be sure to catch up on our previous sessions—it's a story you won't want to miss. This week, things got a little bumpy. Both Bryan and Stacey found themselves in a tug-of-war, each trying to be "right," which only created more distance between them. As we dive deeper, we uncover how past traumas are still influencing their relationship today. The good news? Both Bryan and Stacey are committed to showing more appreciation for one another, hoping to create a more balanced and loving partnership. Here's what you'll learn in this episode: The ways past trauma impacts trust issues Why showing appreciation is a game-changer for deeper connection How each partner's unconscious energetic state  shapes the relationship How to balance between masculine and feminine energy in love Simple ways to express gratitude and acknowledgment Real-life examples of supporting and standing up for your partner How to build a culture of appreciation for long-term growth Remember healing and connection are journeys best taken with the right tools. Ready to deepen intimacy? Check out my Quantum Sex Course or read Conscious Loving by Gay and Katie Hendricks. For trauma recovery, tools like EMDR and the Drama Triangle can help. Got questions or stories? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com, and don't forget to share this episode—because love is a journey we take together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of The Language of Love Session, I continue to guide Bryan and Stacey through the ups and downs of their relationship, tackling key issues like communication, trust, and appreciation. If you haven't tuned into their journey yet, be sure to catch up on our previous sessions—it's a story you won't want to miss. This week, things got a little bumpy. Both Bryan and Stacey found themselves in a tug-of-war, each trying to be "right," which only created more distance between them. As we dive deeper, we uncover how past traumas are still influencing their relationship today. The good news? Both Bryan and Stacey are committed to showing more appreciation for one another, hoping to create a more balanced and loving partnership. Here's what you'll learn in this episode: The ways past trauma impacts trust issues Why showing appreciation is a game-changer for deeper connection How each partner's unconscious energetic state shapes the relationship How to balance between masculine and feminine energy in love Simple ways to express gratitude and acknowledgment Real-life examples of supporting and standing up for your partner How to build a culture of appreciation for long-term growth Remember healing and connection are journeys best taken with the right tools. Ready to deepen intimacy? Check out my Quantum Sex Course or read Conscious Loving by Gay and Katie Hendricks. For trauma recovery, tools like EMDR and the Drama Triangle can help. Got questions or stories? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com, and don't forget to share this episode—because love is a journey we take together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this 10-minute episode of How My View Grew, discover a powerful method for depolarizing politics and improving relationships: the drama triangle. Invented to support families in high-conflict situations, the drama triangle opens a new window into understanding political polarization, emotional intelligence, and difficult conversations. Listen in as I describe the victim, the persecutor, and the rescuer and how they show up in MAGA and liberal/progressive politics.**Subscribe to the podcast**To hear the origin stories of more big ideas, subscribe to How My View Grew on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you listen to podcasts.**Share the love**Leave me a rating or review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you listen to podcasts.

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