Effort and Vibes

The crew practices social distancing and decided to pod via Skype, to share their experiences during the quarantine. Tune in to hear how the crew is adjusting and how they find time to themselves when everyone is home! The pod was recorded on March 21st, at which the CDC reported 24,583 cases of Covid-19 in the United States. It has not even been two weeks and the number of reported cases is over 140,000. The team at Effort and Vibes wants to stress the importance of social distancing and how it will help to stop the spread. We want to thank all of the medical staff on the frontlines of this epidemic and to all of the essential employees who are still working to provide some sort of normalcy during this time. We hope that this pod will relate to you and your family and to let you know that we're all in this together.

What has shaped you in becoming the person you are today? This week, Effort and Vibes explores gender roles and where they come from. The crew breakdown why you should avoid threesomes during the coronavirus outbreak and share how they always seem to get naked in Maine. Tati and Zay share their love for Boston’s first city dispensary: Pure Oasis. The crew share their grown comfort with both their femininity and masculinity. Tati and Tae bless us with another Effort and Vaginas segment in honor of International Women’s Day. They share their frustration of being consistently associated with their emotions and the women in their life who continue to break through glass ceilings. Join us this week to find out why no matter what gender, you should always add a pedicure to your routine. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/effort-and-vibes/message

Time is money! Or is it? This week, Effort and Vibes talk about timeliness, when to leave the function and how long may be too long when holding a grudge. Viruses: if you’re under 30, you’ve been faced with every scary illness and the media hysteria that comes with it. The crew share their thoughts on some of the misinformation around the Coronavirus. Can you rework a broken friendship? They share some tips on which ones may be worth the effort. Are you getting over it or suppressing it? The E&V guys share times as men where they didn’t know how to share their feelings with others. Do y’all know the "partner show" rules? Effort and Vibes break down the relationship rules when it comes down watching a tv series together. What do you imagine the future will look like? The crew brainstorm what future generations will think about the 2000s and what tech will take over. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/effort-and-vibes/message

This week, Effort and Vibes talk Black History Month and their experiences being Black year round. The crew recap their Valentine’s Day festivities and Tati and Zay share how they know no one is smoking outside in Chicago right now. They discuss The Photograph starring Issa Rae and LaKeith Stanfield and the importance of black love on screen to assist in the break down of generational trauma. Have you ever talked to your family about your family story? The crew share some of their family history, lineage, and the importance of asking questions when you can. When is the first time you can recall an instance of Black Girl Magic? The crew share their favorite encounters of Black Women and why they always deserve more praise than we can give them. We break down why Black Boy Joy isn’t just for kids and whether or not to use the N word in mixed company. The crew shout out some badass Black people they have the privilege of knowing. Remember; show your Black friends love all year, not just in February! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/effort-and-vibes/message

This week we're elevating the vibes and talking about love and all things Valentine's Day! The crew talks "Afrochella" and retracing their African heritage. Have you heard of "wrist-bending?" Zay explains your new favorite slang. The E&V crew make it law, that if no one swag surfs when "Swag Surfin" drops, your party is whack...straight up *Travis Scott Voice*! Tae explains why we won't stop talking about slavery and we're not gonna stop swag surfin' in the club. Tune in to hear all about the return of everyone's childhood snack! We take it back to the Valentine's Day treats and who got what Valentine. We talk love letters and lyrics that got all the ladies in middle school. The guys talk vulnerability and the opportunity Valentine's Day gives them to open up. Do you love publicly receiving Valentine's gifts or find it awkward? Javon shares a time that Tae went all out with gifts and his clunky trip home on the bus. Don't know where to go for dinner? Tati and Zay share a creative game they came up with that could be of assistance this Valentine's Day if you have a picky partner! The crew share their past and present Valentine's Day stories and you don't want to miss it! The ladies of E&V are excited to launch a new segment...Effort and Vaginas! Where the women of E&V drive the topic and conversation, while the men take a back seat! For this segment, they explain how they prepare for Valentine's Day, the struggle of lingerie, and how their expectations have changed throughout the years. (Timestamp 50:21 min) ---- Check out our blog posts at www.EffortandVibes.com! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/effort-and-vibes/message

Effort and Vibes dedicate this week's episode to Kobe Bryant and his influence on our adolescence. The crew share the affect of Kobe's passing and the process of grief, while exploring how to navigate those feelings for someone you didn't know personally. They share their favorite Kobe moments, reflect on those lunchroom and school bus debates and share what Kobe facts they used as their go to pickup lines. How do we celebrate Kobe's legacy, while holding him accountable for past transgressions? The crew hold space for the various perspectives that surround the infamous Colorado case that shaped Kobe early in his career. We recognize the different parts of Kobe outside of basketball and his favorite role that has been hash tagged across the web as #girldad. We send our love and condolences to the fans, friends and family of Kobe and Gianna Bryant, John, Keri and Alyssa Antobelli, Christina Mauser, Sarah and Payton Chester, and Ara Zobayan. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/effort-and-vibes/message

This week, the crew share their experiences in support of Advesa (tune in to learn more about Advesa!) and attending town hall meetings. Tati suggests that smaller cars be invented in 2021 to help with traffic. Find out what a "doula" is and if it's covered by your health insurance. Tae shares a scary story and why it's important to always wash your hands after you finish working out! The crew shares why you shouldn't completely judge someone off a first impression and how it's all about the energy they give! This episode is all about personalities and how ours have (or have not) changed throughout the years! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/effort-and-vibes/message

We are BACK from the hiatus! The crew share all the things between our bonus episode and bring you our very anticipated season two. Have some 2020 resolutions on your list? Tune in to hear how we reset throughout January, while keeping ourselves accountable and goals attainable. Find out which of our hosts have been working on their own goals of entering the cannabis industry, where they want to set up shop and their feelings on entering an industry in which individuals are still incarcerated for. As we leave the decade of sidekicks and side pieces, the crew reflect on how technology has amplified voices around the world and the real life consequences of the internet. Have you ever thought of being an IG model after a successful selfie? We talk why we’re all influencers on the internet and how to best utilize it. Tune in for a very special announcement on the moves Effort and Vibes is making in 2020 to live in more places than just our podcast. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/effort-and-vibes/message

Did you miss us?! The crew come back together in between seasons to provide a special bonus episode! We break down our Friendsgiving festivities and a special E&V trip to see Sir’s show in the city. Tae talks concert etiquette and why you shouldn’t be in the front row if you don't know the lyrics. Planning a vacay during the holiday break? Zay shares some hacks on how to get the best perks for your next cruise. Tati shares the importance of taking a break from hosting and why you'll never catch her ice skating. Is an ice luge at an office party weird? We break down some do’s and don'ts when trying to vibe with your co workers. Find out which Podder has two work husbands and what Effort and Vibes foresees for 2020! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/effort-and-vibes/message

Tis the holiDAYZ! We break down how to prep for your next Friendsgiving, while providing some tips on how to keep your cool during those infamous moments around the dinner table. Are Ritz crackers a cop out at the potluck? The crew try to determine the algorithm for what food to avoid and what to add to your to go plate. We share what to do when your parents use you to flex on your family and the transition to sitting at the grown folks table. The team reflect on our First Season and how comfy we've gotten after moving to Studio 33. We share reminders of being comfortable with your pace of growth and not being afraid to build your platform and your voice. We thought our parents would be our only weekly listeners, so thank you! Drop some comments on Apple Podcast on what you would like to hear more of in Season Two. Keep up with us on IG for some extra vibey content while we're away, Here's to Season Two! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/effort-and-vibes/message

The crew share their confusion around T.I. and the controversial gynecologist appointments. Conspiracy Jay tries to explain the latest Voyager news to his fellow Podders. Are those on the Millennium tour cancelled by association if R. Kelly wrote their songs? We talk open and honest about having a hard time cancelling artists for their problematic shit. The crew express trading cancel culture for one more of accountability. Does the public actually forgive? We explain learning through forgiveness for yourself and others. We break down the importance in acknowledging triggers that may need future support and why sabbaticals after work burn out are E & V approved. Tune in to see which Podder gives you your new favorite phrase and why Headspace may be our future sponsor. Make sure to follow us @EffortandVibes on Instagram! --- Be sure to follow our friends @TheMilliBlog and head over to https://www.themilliblog.org/events for more information on their next event! --- For more information on the petition for Rodney Reed, head over to https://www.freerodneyreed.com/. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/effort-and-vibes/message

What's probably the coolest thing about adulting? Buying your own gifts! This week, we throw it back to the bougie telly parties, the sweet sixteens and what childhood celebrations may have played a role in the crew's birthday evolution. We share our love for John "Pops" Witherspoon for his contribution as everyone's "Pop," and to our teenage humor. We talk surprise parties gone wrong and what country applies the pressure when you're single and Thirty. The crew explain why you should spend a portion of your next birthday alone and what their go to birthday vibe is. Tune in to hear which of our podders claims the title of "Terrible Uncle" and why you should always put money in the birthday card. Have your cashapp ready for your next birthday and participate in our poppin' polls for a chance to be featured in Episode 12! Make sure to follow us @EffortandVibes on Instagram! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/effort-and-vibes/message

This week, E&V talk the most anticipated season and its real spooooky! We share some of our favorite costumes and vibes that get us ready to turn up. The crew break down why karma's a bitch when you used to egg houses as a kid. Javon and Tae share his escape of near death at the scariest haunted attraction in North America. Tati talks about a magical place called Strawberry Park where both kids and adults get some well deserved, age appropriate, treats. Brother Zay campaigns for an adult Halloween that involves his favorite vegetable. We reminisce on the transition from Trick or Treating to just plain trickin' in college. How many of y'all still run to your room when you turn that hallway light off? As we talk all things frightening, Zay shares why getting audited by the IRS is the number one on his list. We deliberate the results of our poppin poll involving the infamous mixing of cereals and find out how many of our Vibers are Team Tati and Zay. Make sure to follow @EffortandVibes on IG to participate in our next poll for a chance to be featured in Episode Eleven! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/effort-and-vibes/message

This week, we talk about what we do to wind down, and what album passes the headphones and car test. We break down why reviewing your vibes and date nights are keys to a happy life! The crew reminisces on those landline phone calls and why open vulnerability with your people is cool as F*ck! Want to add some sexy to the bedroom? Find out why and how a scented candle can set that extra vibe you might be looking for.  Tae talks Howard Homecoming and her feelings on Kanye at an HBCU. Javon and Zay debate the intermingling of their favorite cereals, while Tati breaks down her required sleep position. We bring back our poppin' poll of the week and our #Vibers share their wind down faves! Make sure to follow us on Instagram @EffortandVibes, to participate in our next poll, for a chance to be featured on Episode 10! Check out some of our fellow creators who were mentioned in this episode (mentioned in order): @TheGameRoomPod: https://linktr.ee/thegameroompod @KelsConvers: http://thetinytravelerblog.com/links/ @TheMilliBlog: https://linktr.ee/themilliblog --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/effort-and-vibes/message

Zay talks how important it is to catch a vibe with your therapist and keeps us up with the latest lingo.  Javon gives us the definition of "Magnanimous," and reminds us that we are rare and a work-in-progress!  Tae let's us know why it's all about delivery when having tough talks with your friends. Tati recounts why collecting cans before trash day was NOT a vibe! The crew talks about how vital it is to work on your mental health everyday and why therapy should be on everyone's to-do list.  Does virtual reality make people socially awkward? Tati talks "dream-drifting" and Facebook's virtual reality program in the works.  We break down the crew's childhood hustles and how they used to make money with their Sam's Club grinds. What prevents us from pursuing our ideas? We discuss personal road blocks that prevent us from seeing our ideas through. Navigating through content on social media as a creator: why moving with intention is important when putting yourself out there online and in-person. Are you following your life path? Zay introduces us to an eerily accurate numerology chart that mirrors our hosts a little more closely than they thought (visit https://feliciabender.com/life-path-number/ to get your life path number)! Tune in to find out who's life path number is six in a group of all threes!  Thank you to everyone that participated in our poll on instagram!  Stay tuned for future polls on our page @EffortandVibes and be a part of the next episode!  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/effort-and-vibes/message

Fall just started and Tati is already tired of the pumpkin phase! Zay talks repurposing boxers and "if they work, they work!" Jay and Tae talk about the magic that comes with cooking with your partner and the importance of being offline. The crew talks love languages and we let you know which of our co-hosts constantly needs to be touched! They break down major keys in relationships, while sharing thoughts from the viewers about expectations and what's important to them! Thank you to everyone that participated in our poll on Instagram! Stay tuned for future polls on our page @EffortandVibes and be a part of the next episode! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/effort-and-vibes/message

From now on, Tati is referred to as Dr.Benjamin and Zay explains why she's a Witch Doctor. Tae vents about Javon's annoying eating habits when they watch a movie and how Javon will not watch a movie that will make him cry. Is the junk drawer hereditary? We all know you have one! E&V switches it up this week to talk about childhood, generational habits and growing up-and-out of those things that might drive you--or your partner--wild! Sit back on your grandma's plastic covered couch to hear the crew talk about what habits stuck and what they could do without. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/effort-and-vibes/message

Javon watched that episode of "Black Mirror" and didn't think of Zay...sure. Zay and Tati are done on their wedding tour and explain the meaning behind giving someone a two-slot toaster or a four-slot toaster. When you meet someone new, is it weird to get their social media handles instead of their phone number? Tae breaks it down and explains why a number will ALWAYS be better and how to avoid being "Hat-Fished." Does posting your relationship online 24/7 equal a healthy relationship? We discuss both sides of this topic! The crew talks about the effort it takes when you meet new people and how to establish a vibe! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/effort-and-vibes/message

Remember that one episode of "Black Mirror" when VR blurred the lines between best friends and lovers? Zay introduces Javon to the VR episode that left us shook! What's the best way to remember someone's name and get their number? Tati explains why you should always ask them to spell out their name.  We talk about our much anticipated event...The Millennium Tour! Should you send out RSVPs? What are your rules for last minute changes? The crew talks Hurricane Dorian's role in the postponement of the party and all the effort it took to curate the vibes on the fly! Tune in for Tae's DIY solution that took care of our uninvited guests...and why Soju will be your new drink of choice!  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/effort-and-vibes/message

Does your neighborhood have sidewalks? Hang on, we have a theory about this! Have you heard of Mount Ida College? Yeah, neither have we. Can your college degree go up in prestige? The crew takes it back to college to reminisce the moment they met. Is it okay to mix your friend groups? What's it like to meet your partner's co-workers? In this episode, we talk about relationships--romantic and platonic--and the effort it takes to keep the vibes going! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/effort-and-vibes/message

How old is too old to be in the club? What's a t*tty bounce house!? What's your code word when you're trying to tell your partner it's time to leave the party?  Effort and Vibes is getting ready for our annual "End of Summer" Party and we discuss the effort it takes to curate a vibe as we get older! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/effort-and-vibes/message

We catch up and let everyone know what we’ve been up to since our beginning days at the Barbertime Network! Is Mukbang sexual? What’s up with Chick-fil-A and Popeyes? What happens when your significant other gets into a brawl in another country and you don’t hear from them!? In this episode, we get into it all! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/effort-and-vibes/message

Allow us to reintroduce ourselves! Get a taste of what we’re all about and stay tuned for weekly content! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/effort-and-vibes/message