Healing Conversations Gloria and Ingrid's podcast

Being misunderstood and having people talk badly about us can be very painful, dropping us straight into our Panic/Grief circuitry and our fear of abandonment. In this episode, we discuss how we can find solid ground again, and harness the protective power of our Rage circuitry in service of ourselves and those we care about, while still staying in the conversation. We also clarify how rage or anger differ from predatory aggression. *** Schedule your conversation with Gloria at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com and with Ingrid at www.IngridGunby.com

What kinds of conversations do you really dread? Do you try to avoid any possibility of conflict, or fear that you’ll be tongue-tied, be overwhelmed by sadness, or lose an important relationship in a big blow-up? In this episode, we talk about what kinds of conversations we find difficult, why people struggle to speak and to listen in these kinds of situations, and what we’ve found helps us to stay present, open, and curious when things are tense. *** Schedule your conversation with Gloria at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com and with Ingrid at www.IngridGunby.com

Anger, especially when it has escalated to rage, is one of the emotions that most people find very difficult to welcome. But learning to listen to anger is one of the most transformative shifts we can make, both individually and collectively. So how do we hear our own anger, and how do we use it as fuel for life-enhancing action? And how do we meet anger, or even rage, with grace, curiosity, and respect? *** Schedule your conversation with Gloria at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com and with Ingrid at www.IngridGunby.com

Anger, especially when it has escalated to rage, is one of the emotions that most people find very difficult to welcome. But learning to listen to anger is one of the most transformative shifts we can make, both individually and collectively. So how do we hear our own anger, and how do we use it as fuel for life-enhancing action? And how do we meet anger, or even rage, with grace, curiosity, and respect?

In the midst of massive uncertainty and loss, it’s tempting to look for silver linings. But if we really want the Covid-19 pandemic to lead to positive, lasting change, then we need to stop trying to turn our pain into profit, and learn how to be with our darker, more difficult emotions. *** Schedule your conversation with Gloria at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com and with Ingrid at www.IngridGunby.com

Finding balance in the midst of a big transition is challenging, and the transition we’re living through is bigger than anything we who are alive now have experienced before. In this episode, we talk about what’s helping us to stay grounded, present, and balanced in a time of transformation and uncertainty.

What’s coming up for you as you adjust to living in lockdown? Like many other people, we’ve been experiencing fear, worry, grief, frustration, anger and overwhelm, as well as love, curiosity and hope. In this episode, we explore how can we be with these feelings in a supportive way, so we don’t get stuck feeling stuck, or afraid, or trapped, or miss opportunities for healing that this time might provide.

When it really matters to be heard, which do you find hardest: speaking up in a group, or speaking in a one-to-one situation? Are both equally scary for you? In Episode 12, we talk about some of the things that can make it hard to speak up authentically, especially when we feel “less than," and how to support ourselves to speak our truth while staying open to the words and experiences of others.

Reaching out to connect with others or trusting that they want to connect with us can be scary or confusing. Painful beliefs, rooted in old wounds, often get in the way: beliefs like “I’m not enough/I’m too much", "I don’t matter", or "everyone else knows how to do this - is there something wrong with me?” In this episode, we explore how these beliefs have affected us, and some simple practices to support healing, and new possibilities.

When the flow of connection with someone important to us breaks down, it’s very painful. That pain can be worsened by not knowing how to repair the rupture. Recently, we had a bit of a misunderstanding that was painful for both of us, so in this episode we made the repair - modeling the steps that we’ve found effective in restoring connection.

In earlier conversations, we’ve talked about the power of resonance between humans. In this episode, we share a variety of practices that we’ve found enable us to experience resonance with the herd - and talk about why that can be so healing.

We all tell ourselves stories all the time: stories that have their roots in our earliest experiences. These stories carry our expectations of others, the world, and ourselves, and shape our responses to every situation and interaction. In this episode, we explore how to become aware of the stories we tell ourselves, and Gloria models a simple but profound process for uncovering and releasing the unconscious contracts that give these stories such a hold on us.

Using resonant language - with others and ourselves - is the foundation of healing: it disarms the inner critic and creates a sense of trust and safety. So, what is resonance? And what qualities does communication need to have in order to be resonant?

What does it mean to be genuinely relational with yourself and with other people? How do we shift out of relationship? And how can we support ourselves to stay relational when the other person can’t?

In this episode we explore what is emotional intelligence? How does growing up without nurturing for emotional intelligence affect us, and how do we heal?

Some emotions are so difficult to experience that we’ll do almost anything to get away from them. Using Ingrid’s disappointment as an example, we model a simple but powerful process to expand our “window of welcome” for painful emotions.

Gloria shares how she got started and what some of the most powerful moments have been on her healing journey.

What qualities does a conversation need to have in order to support healing and growth? In this episode, we discuss what we know helps us to stay deeply relational with ourselves and others when we’re interacting.

Welcome to Healing Conversations​!​ In this episode of The Healing Conversations Show, Gloria Lybecker introduces Ingrid Gunby and​ they discuss how becoming a mother inspired​ Ingrid's first step on ​a​ healing journey.