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How do we lose our vital essence? And how can we reclaim vitality? Many of us today don't feel completely whole, as if we are not all here. When we begin to become aware of this, we can open to the possibility of reclaiming the intimacy we once enjoyed. With support, we can recover our soul, the vital essence of life. I share with you today, a clients' story, about welcoming back lost parts of herself who were willing to begin the journey home to wholeness. "What is trauma? Well for me it was total annihilation of my personal existence and I lost all feeling of any sensations. I didn't consciously know this because my body and mind were blank; trauma completely numbed my capacity to sense any emotional or physical pain. Even my brain went numb so that I didn't miss having fun, laughing, or really living. Trauma is timeless so when I got triggered, my body reacted as if the trauma was happening NOW, in the present moment. Whether the actual experience happened a year ago, a month ago, or even a week ago was not remembered. Because when these inner parts are triggered, my ability to perceive is filtered through the lens of the ever present past. I remember the first time I began to feel sensations again very vividly. I was lying in my hallway while on a conference call in one of Gloria's classes. Something had triggered me and Gloria invited me to slow time down and asked if I was willing for my inner experience to be met with warmth right where I was in the moment. What stands out to me now is how my body felt during this call; because something shifted in me and I began to feel again, my whole body awakened and I could feel pain. I remember even my toes hurt. I recall lying in the hallway, curled up in a fetal position with tears streaming out of my eyes, and trying not to make those crying sounds - because I didn't want anyone to hear me cry - I was telling myself if someone heard me crying I would die. In that moment past, present, and future blurred together and I have no memory whether I actually hid or if everyone on the call heard me. I don't even remember specifically what was coming up for me. Yet, I can still see myself very clearly, lying in that hallway in the fetal position, with the phone up to my ear and tears streaming out of my eyes. I did not die, I could feel my body and allow the warmth of a compassionate presence to wash over me and feel felt. It is an experience that is forever cemented into my memory, receiving the gift of being welcomed just as I was, to begin my journey home." What causes the seeming loss of our vital essence? For many it may be the result of trauma; a part of our vital essence separates from us in order to survive the experience and escape the full impact of pain. We forget who we truly are and what was once true is replaced by the projections placed upon us by others; family, authority figures, and peers. It is possible to receive the help we need to remember who we truly are and why we were born into this world. It is our birthright to live our lives whole and help others to do the same. Addressing our past hurts and trauma can be a daunting prospect. If this is true for you, you certainly make sense just as you are, and I welcome you with the energies of tenderness and care to reach out to me today at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on the journey with me today, Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can start my course introducing The Healing You Method here: https://www.healingyousanctuary.com/intro … [The Healing You Method - Episode 190] #TheHealingYouMethod

Why do wealth and health so often intersect for wise people? And how can you become one of them? If you could be paid to do what you love – what would you be being paid to do? Notice the first image or thought that springs up. How does that feel in your body? Are you aware that in many ways your thoughts, emotions, beliefs, visualizations, and aspects of your spiritual life like prayer and meditation, can change the energy field of your body in a way that affects your gene regulation? And the genes most readily affected by them are your stress genes. The wealthiest and best-informed people have had access to this kind of information many years ahead of the general public. The connection between unresolved emotional trauma and disease is one of the most well-established links in medicine today. Yet new research reveals that when a subject vividly recalls a past trauma, and then applies an energy therapy, the emotional trauma attached to the memory often dissipates instantaneously, and doesn't return. When you change your energy field, you change at a cellular level too. Remember when you were a kid, and when you changed where you were holding a magnet, the iron filings would quickly follow straight-away? This is a great metaphor for our energy fields and body. When you change your energy field, your magnet, the cells in your body are directly affected. Our cells are the same as the iron filings! By being willing to allow any emotionally traumatic events to be held within a depth-empathy process can open the way for any stuck energy to move freely back into the flow, which is like changing the magnets. So, what is the link between healing our emotional wounds and living from our souls? When we're pulled this way and that way by our emotional reactions to triggering events, our attention is compulsively absorbed in them. The emotional sound track of the up and down waves can leave us little time to reflect, to envision, to discover, and to create. Our stress response, the “fight, flight, or freeze system”, is engaged any time we're adversely emotionally triggered. When we're stressed, a cascade of hormones floods our body, from adrenaline to cortisol, preparing us for emergencies that may never even occur. Just imagine what your life might look like if you could leave behind the stresses you experience today. Because when stress disappears, the stress hormone cortisol drops, you feel better, and you discover you're capable of a whole new level of functioning! You have increased openness to abundance; you see new ways of delivering value to other people, and making money doing what you love! The well of joy and creativity can well up within you, empowering you to create the life of your dreams. When our ears aren't filled with the prattle of reactivity and the harshness of lack mentality, our life becomes free of stress-generated automated actions and the need to repair multiple ruptures in relationships. Then the still, small voice of our soul can be heard. The music of the universal orchestra becomes clearer and louder in the silence created by the absence of the emotional anguish, and we are able to follow the whispering of our soul and live in divine harmony with others. Learning to go inside to hear our own answers, to connect with our body's wisdom and our own divinity, opens the door to Knowing. Listening inwardly is essential if we are going to shift. Compassion is the key. Compassion includes tolerance of our humanity, and acceptance of what is inside us—both the dark and the light. Learning to forgive ourselves, to be conscious, aware and gentle with ourselves is vital. When we learn how to do that internally, we are empowered to offer it externally to others as well. To have accompaniment on your journey, reach out to me at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com I look forward to connecting with you. Thanks for being on the journey with me today, Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out

I worked with a young man one time, and it was tough. I remember hearing him cry out in despair, "I just want to kill myself!" When you hear those words, spoken in pain by someone you care for, how do you feel inside? Does your stomach clench and spasm? Or does a semi-paralysis claim your whole body and your breathing nearly stop? How do you hold space with love and support for someone when they are experiencing a primal response from the ever-present-past of trauma? We may not be aware of a past trauma holding us back in the moment when we are triggered, yet in attempting to protect us, our hypothalamus and triple warmer can lock us into outdated defensive strategies that rigidify our habit field. It is not possible for a person to think clearly when the blood has left the forebrain and moved into the limbs for fight or flight. Even though many people know the kinds of changes they want to make, they find themselves unable to make change happen. Trapped in habits from the past, they may put tremendous effort into willing themselves to change patterns that are emotionally locked into their body. This can increase their experiences of inner discouragement, cynicism, and self-loathing. Self-talk is not enough to change a primal response; however, there are energy techniques that can open your habit field for reprogramming. When your energies are freed for healing and creativity, your mind will follow. Three approaches for reprogramming the habit field are: (1) Defusing traumatic residue that is already in your habit field; (2) Programming higher frequencies into your habit field; and (3) Evoking your habit field to embrace a new physiological or psychological pattern. Each time that you are able to keep the blood from leaving your brain as you process stress and/or trauma, you are showing your brain a new strategy, and your habit pattern begins to transform. As your body learns to tolerate increasing amounts of stress before invoking the fight-or-flight response, your sense of health and well-being will also increase. After I worked with a child to reprogram his stress response, I asked, "What is the most important thing you can remember to tell yourself when you notice stress coming up?" "I love myself," he responded with warmth, "and I am going to take good care of myself and my energy forever." When we make time in our lives to drop out of our busy world and regularly receive support to focus our compassionate awareness on our body (rather than distancing ourselves and treating our body as our enemy) we can learn to begin to cherish our body. When we tune in to our body's subtle cues with curiosity and care, we can understand the energies of our body and attend to its needs. And as we learn how to turn on our body's energies, we can begin to unravel deeply embedded patterns of stress and trauma, forming resilient patterns of well-being. To receive accompaniment on your journey, reach out to me at HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on the journey with me today, Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can start my course introducing The Healing You Method here: https://www.healingyousanctuary.com/intro … [The Healing You Method - Episode 178] #TheHealingYouMethod #TheHealingYouMethod

As I pause and reflect upon the fruit I see growing in my own work, and in the world around me, I feel such profound gratitude for the clarity Marshall Rosenberg had when he gifted so many with the process of Nonviolent Communication. 17 years ago my life felt like it was turned upside down and inside out. I blamed myself for my son's difficulties; I did not have tools developed to maneuver new territory that was totally unpredictable and unstable; and my window of tolerance was raw and quite narrow. I perceived no choice but to reduce my private practice in order to sort out how to move forward and even function. With a heavy sense of desperation, I began to search for information and processes that would help me to parent and nurture my then 5-year old son so he could regain developmental territory and begin to thrive in his environment, not just survive. A friend mentioned Marshall Rosenberg's book, A Language of Life, and reading it was a breath of fresh air for my soul. I traveled to Seattle to meet Marshall in 2006, and was profoundly touched by his honest sincerity, when he asked how he could support me in relationship with my son. Marshall listened with his heart and truly gifted me, and so many other parents, by modeling a new way of being in relationship with Life - that radically transformed who I am today. These last 17 years I have intentionally focused on absorbing the key concepts of Nonviolent Communication, and integrating the model with Interpersonal Neurobiology, and Resonant Language, in order to live this unique blend in relationship with myself and my now 22-year old son. We have both come so far. Now, rather than going into shame spirals when the unexpected happens, I consciously seek to remain curious and respond with empathy, curiosity, and compassion in the moment. And when we flip our lids anyway - we take time to intentionally restore our connection with the power of making a repair. I am passionate to empower people to have eyes, ears, minds, and hearts, to know and sense how to translate any expression they want to give (or happen to receive) into ones that name the beauty of the needs seeking to be met in the moment. I want to live in a world where the environments of learning are ones that prioritize relationships over strategies. My work is about inspiring and co-creating a world of connected resources for folks who care about others with compassion, especially for those who show up differently than the main stream. I do the best I can to model how authentically and consistently providing deep wells of empathy to parents, educators, and others providing services, is what will provide all children, of any age, the support and nurturance they need to bring their gifts to our world. Our children are our future. Thank you, Marshall, may God bless and keep you. If you would like to learn more about my work, you can get access to my Video Series by clicking the link below or at HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on the journey with me today, Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can start my course introducing The Healing You Method here: https://www.healingyousanctuary.com/intro … [The Healing You Method - Episode 180] #TheHealingYouMethod

Have you ever noticed something when you were all alone and it both shocked and horrified you? I have. Let me tell you a story… "NO!!!" I felt a flash of heat as I screamed in silent horror. Rushing upstairs to look in the bathroom mirror my worst fear was realized. I saw the beginning of a stress sore on the corner of my mouth. Without conscious awareness my inner alarm triggered panic to flood throughout my nervous system. With ghastly images becoming more hideous by the second, I frantically searched through the cupboards, looking for my prescription to head off this atrocity. As the panic attack triggered an asthma attack, and my breathing became very shallow, I caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror. Wide frightened eyes, raised eye-brows, and frozen facial features. Slowing down, I held my own gaze, and watched as it slowly transformed into one of recognition and then the warmth of gentle kindness. Silently, I acknowledged what it was like to be me in that so stretching moment of time. I remembered the intense pressure I had unknowingly placed upon myself the previous day, to accomplish so many details on so many levels, and I recognized the intense stress reaction this had inadvertently created within my being. As I felt deep sadness I acknowledged how much that was not in congruence with my sacred values. Consciously I dropped back and mindfully began to breathe into the micro-sensations of my body. "Notice breath. Soften belly. Open heart." My shoulders dropped as they released the neurochemicals of pent up stress, and my lungs cooled their fevered inflammation - ever so slightly - allowing some much needed oxygen back into my depleted cells. As calming energy soothed this horror story, without making it wrong, I felt my heart open and I was able to receive inspiration from within to attend to self-care with essential oils. Reflecting back on my experience what stands out to me is, when I find myself under extreme stress, or panic, returning to my own center for a moment is an excellent strategy. Utilizing the healing power of meditation, as used in ancient spiritual and healing disciplines, enhances one's ability to; meet stress, increase concentration, and reduce vulnerability to anxiety while increasing spontaneity, creativity, peace of mind, and happiness. When one consciously evokes emotions such as love, appreciation, caring, and compassion, the heart produces a coherent rhythm that gets the brain to resonate with it. Where you place your attention, your energy follows. However you might be working with intense emotions at this time, I hope you'll take a step towards more self compassion by joining me in my online course; The Healing You Method Intro. You can learn more about joining at HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on the journey with me today, Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can start my course introducing The Healing You Method here: https://www.healingyousanctuary.com/intro … [The Healing You Method - Episode 182] #TheHealingYouMethod

How do you stay present in the face of perceiving an unexpected attack? What happens in your body as you take in the heightened expression of your child or loved one? As children move through adolescence, it can feel emotionally rocky, not only for the child, it can feel rocky for the parents. We can find ourselves reacting when we've promised ourselves we will stay present. Today let me share an experience I had with my youngest son, Rylan. I remember feeling momentarily stunned as I heard him cry out, “You're not my mom, you're a hologram!” His eyes were wide, and the corners of his lips were turned downward. I automatically slowed down my inner experience and took a deep breath in through my nostrils. I noticed my stomach was tight and my breathing was shallow. As I monitored my inner world, I further noticed my back was rigid, and the whole of my experience felt surreal, as if I was looking out of my eyes from a great distance. When we check within the body to notice the layers of perception, it activates the mind-sight circuits of the brain. Letting the internal sensations of the experience fill the awareness, it enables one to direct the energy and information flowing through the nervous system with the focus of attention. Where attention goes, neural firing in the brain occurs, and neural connections are strengthened. This attentional focusing, with mindful awareness, enables our brains to literally grow more integrative fibers, which in turn, empowers our ability to regulate emotions, attention, the thought field, and the capacity to pause with reflection rather than reaction. When I dropped into my own inner experience, I noticed that my ‘apparently normal personality' had stepped forward, to protect and support my implicit memories of fear from overwhelming me completely. Rather than reacting from that disconnected self, I mindfully connected to Source Energy and felt an infusion of trust, faith, and companionship, where my Essential Self offered a welcoming and safe refuge. Here, in this inner sanctuary, it was possible for me to own my own perceptions, and remain in congruence with my own values, regardless of what others might say or do. I was empowered to experience an “inner-parts dialogue”. I remember hearing my inner voice say, “He's just getting so big! His voice booms in my ears, the words come so fast, and I have to hide!” “Hmm,” my Essential Self murmured, “Just needing a little acknowledgment what it's like to experience this energy, and needing to differentiate it within your body? Do you like it when there is a little more warmth and softness, for there to be space to integrate what happens in the now? Do you need to know and trust that you really do exist, and your experience matters in the world? Especially in relationship with the one who is your son?” As I soaked up these guesses I felt a visceral shift as my body expanded, my breathing deepened, and I noticed a perceptual lightness in my forehead as my vision cleared and widened. Ah – presence! I turned and gazed upon my son, and intentionally sent him pure love and light energy, from my heart space to his heart space. I watched as his body shifted, and his eyes caught mine. They slowly changed from troubled and upset to quizzical, I remember he asked, “What are you doing?” I responded, “Sending you love energy.” And gave him a warm smile. An immediate shift of softness covered his body as he uncurled and voiced softly, “Aw… Mom.” A slow, warm smile softened the contours of his face, as it reached his eyes. As we learn to become more present in life, at any age, it helps us to become more resilient, the capacity to remain more flexible and strong in the face of stress. Presence creates the gifts of happiness and well-being in our lives. Are you, or a loved one, needing support to strengthen your ability to stay present in the face of stress? Reach out to me today at HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on the jour

There have been times in my life when life seemed to have a particular pattern, that I'd forget it's possible for something different to occur. Let me share an example. I remember one morning several years ago I heard the movement of our son coming from the other room, at the time, I felt it was incredulous when I turned and saw him. There he stood; with a slight grin on his face, holding his dog in his arms, and... his sound therapy headset on his head! Throughout the day he was energetic; he literally bounced around the house, sang to himself as he cleaned and organized his room, smiled often, attended to his chores, and engaged in conversations which quickly changed from topic to topic. (Identifying my child's natural movement and tendencies is an important step in understanding and honoring his true nature.) “Wow! Look at you this morning!” I exclaimed, with surprise and delight registering in my tone of voice and facial expression. With a big grin he replied, “Well, I just decided that the day does go better when I choose to use my iLs, (Integrated Listening System) so that's what I'm doing!” Then again the next day, first thing in the morning (even before breakfast) I found him sitting in his dad's recliner listening to his sound therapy without being asked for the second day in a row! “What?” I asked in awe, “Are you kidding me?” And, I smiled broadly. All I received as a response from him was a gorgeous wide smile and twinkling eyes shining back at me with pure joy and pleasure. I found myself marveling at this radical transformation as I reflected on how our son was showing up in the world. Gratitude and joy overflowed from my heart, and my face beamed with the light of love as I breathed in a deep, awe inspired, inhalation. To really appreciate this radical change in my son, let me rewind time with you. About 3 months before, Rylan was experiencing more intense symptoms of distress; internal heat, which intensified when emotionally knocked off balance. He also experienced increased muscle aches and pains, and he “flipped his lid” (temporarily lost his ability to link separate areas of his brain to one another) several times a day. I knew there was definitely something new happening under the surface of his experience, and his dad and I searched for alternative ways to support him. I brought our findings to our son's physician and made a request to begin the process of Rylan's current medication slowly being decreased, while we increased natural healing methods at home. After some engaged discussion, he agreed! Rylan's daily practice included; natural supplements, sound therapy, energy exercises combined with grounding (also known as earthing) limited screen time, and increased relational time with friends and family. Our journey was one of ongoing learning on how to expand the energies of love and presence, while mindfully slowing time down using the tool of interoception. Interoception is the capacity of the mind to focus awareness on the internal state of the body. We also developed our capacities to tune into the energetic frequencies which created our relationships. As a family we had fun tapping into energy and information flow in such a profoundly new way - a way that honored both our son's, and our own, unique energy types. Our daily practices continued over time to increase our abilities to remain more consistently open-hearted in our one-on-one relationships, and as a family. I personally discovered that implementing energy techniques with compassion in the moment of arousal, turned our differences into strengths and our areas of stagnation into renewal. If you are seeking personal support on your path, reach out to me at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com I'd love to learn how I can be of help. Thanks for being on the journey with me today, Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm acco

Have you taken in a blue sky with puffy white clouds on a warm summer's day lately - or in the past? Can you bring to your mind and body what that felt like to experience? As you remember can you slow down your inner experience to notice any sensations in your heart space, your face, your belly, or any images in your mind's eye? I, personally, have found this can seem very stretching to pull off, especially in the face of stress or anxiety when I had been anticipating pleasure instead. Several years ago after spending the morning connecting and working with my horses, I was looking forward to going with my son to visit one of the local Horse Rescue centers together. As I went into the house, I heard my son express with intensity, “It hurts! It hurts! Get off of me!” I felt my belly clench and face tighten, as I quickly moved to his side to offer my support only to be met with, “Don't touch me!” as he began to desperately pull off his shoes and socks. Immediately my chest collapsed, my face flushed, and I heard my inner critic taunt me, “It's never going to change – this will always happen – you should know better by now.” Silently I placed my hand on my chest, closed my eyes, and looked up over the horizon to connect with the Light. I breathed into my heart space gently, and felt my Essential Self draw close. “Are you feeling bowled over with the sudden sense of disappointment? Just so worried that time will be stuck in a loop of never ending lack? I'm wondering do you really like it when you can sink into the inner experience of having abundant, endless support about you, like a warm billowy cushion of Love energy within and all around. Especially in moments of intensity with the one who is your son?” My Essential Self guessed. Time felt as if it stood still as I breathed in Love, and breathed out Love. In reality it took only a moment, yet that precious moment of self-connection fueled my capacity to extend that same gentle, loving acceptance to my son. I asked him softly, “Do your feet need more freedom today, or maybe they'd enjoy the support of deep pressure massage?” I noticed his body shift and soften in response, as he made a request, “I need a hug.” In terms of building neural structure, what matters is not the event or circumstance itself, but slowing down to notice your embodied experience (without making it wrong) then consciously choosing to sink into allowing, and uncovering, a sense of Love. 
When I remembered to look up (with my eyes closed) to take in the wide expanse of blue sky and to focus with intention on the puffy white clouds I saw there (in my mind's eye) I could dip into the sensations of warmth, lightness, and happiness in my body, and notice, enrich, and absorb, how beautiful life is when seen as an opportunity. Would you like to experience more of a sense of freedom in your life? Reach out to me today to explore what that might look like at HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on the journey with me today, Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can start my course introducing The Healing You Method here: https://www.healingyousanctuary.com/roots-of-connection … [The Healing You Method - Episode 175] #TheHealingYouMethod

I remember when I received a call from a young mother, who was desperately reaching out for support. She said, ”I don't think it was an accident that you have come into my life. I really need help with my daughter, she's got so much anxiety building inside her. Maybe it's not anxiety, but she's just so grumpy all the time!" I gently asked, "Hearing your inner sense of desperation, I'm wondering if you would be willing to receive some empathy guesses from me?" "Yes," she responded, "I'm so desperate I will try anything! It's so hard to parent her!" "Oh, feeling so desperate," noticing my tummy contract, I paused for a moment, "I'm wondering if it might be supportive just to drop into your body for a moment and notice any sensations, any sense of where in your body this feeling of desperation reside?" After a moment of silence, she answered, "In my stomach." "Does it feel tight or hard? Expansive or light?" "Tight, and my throat is tight," As she dipped into her bodily sensations the sound of tears filtered her expression,."it's going all the way into my stomach." "Oh," I responded softly, "Do you need to be seen for just how hard it feels right now, in this very moment?" "Uh-huh." She answered through her tears. "And maybe to be seen for how much courage it takes to reach out for a little hope and support - to experientially tap into the sweetness of feeling felt?" I paused a moment before continuing, "I'm wondering what happens in your body as you receive these guesses just now?" "Relief!" She exclaimed, "I feel more relaxed and breathing easier now..." We all need to experience the relief of being welcomed with warmth, of being received with empathic understanding when we experience the stress of overwhelm in our relationships, especially with our children and/or partners. When we create trusted pockets of empathy support for ourselves, we are strengthening our own capacity to authentically express sincere love and kindness in moments of stress - instead of reacting from old patterns of anger, frustration, fear or disappointment. Do you need the relief that comes from connecting with someone who understands? I invite you to reach out to me today at HealingYouSanctuary.com I look forward to meeting with you. Thanks for being on this journey with me today, Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can start my course introducing The Healing You Method here: https://www.healingyousanctuary.com/roots-of-connection … [The Healing You Method - Episode 171] #TheHealingYouMethod

I've been experiencing some post-Covid low energy and needing deeper, undisturbed rest for rejuvenation. This morning I paid attention to where my thoughts went when I first awoke. What is the first thing you think of when you wake in the morning? Are you looking forward to the new day or do you want to roll over and go back to sleep? Personally, when I paid attention to my thought life I recognized I was getting into the habit of a "roll over and go back to sleep and hide from the day" kinda thing, rather than making myself wrong, I got curious and invited myself into a deeper process with my inner Essential Self. "Are you really tired and needing deeper rest?" My Essential Self guessed. I felt my body soften, gently uncurling, with my eyes still closed in a semi-slumber. Slowly awakening me, my Essential Self asked with care, "Maybe you are needing some shared reality and acknowledgement for the complexity of all that you hold and do in a given day." I spontaneously drew in a deep breath, feeling the relaxation that comes from a deep aliveness as it began to course through my being. "Are you needing the faith and freedom to trust you'll awaken inspired to create your day doing what you love?" A warm smile spread across my face as I opened my eyes, to stretch and gaze at the beautiful ocean painting, which was my mother's. The memory of my mother, the soft colors and imagery of the ebb and flow of the tide washed over me. I felt a deep healing resonance shift my inner experience from resistance, to one of peace. Endless possibilities gloriously stretched out all around me. When we lovingly listen to and accept ourselves at the soul level, right where we are, rather than berating ourselves for not being as we "should" be, it allows us an opportunity to be birthed all over again. When we then open our eyes we can see with the eyes of our soul. When we see the beauty of divinity in not only ourselves, but in each person we encounter, our relationships deepen, and the bonds of our unions strengthen. Creativity and inspiration are the opposite of routine. When you consciously know where you are going and have faith you will get there, allowing yourself to adapt to any changes, you can experience your infinite potential. You'll naturally act differently and attract consistently what you've aligned with. Relating to each other from the soul level, we are empowered to radiate out an expansion of love, joy, compassion, and harmony into our world. Deepen your inner experience by connecting with me today at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com I look forward to meeting you. Thanks for being on this journey with me today, Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can start my course introducing The Healing You Method here: https://www.healingyousanctuary.com/roots-of-connection … [The Healing You Method - Episode 169] #TheHealingYouMethod

I remember when Rylan told me about his fears in the night. He said, ”I just get so scared! If I wake up and you aren't there I think you are dead!" "I'm hearing just how scared you feel when you wake up and think I'm dead because you can't see me," I reflected, "you really like it when you know I'm okay and you aren't alone?" I guessed. "Yeah," Rylan's eyes widened as he continued, "but I get so scared my stomach hurts and it terrifies me! I want it to stop and I don't know what to do." "So you feel so scared your stomach hurts and it's terrifying? You really want it to stop; yet don't know what to do? I'm guessing you might like some support and new tools maybe?" I reflected with an empathy guess. Rylan nodded and leaned towards me slightly. Taking in his nonverbal cues, I drew in a deep breath to ground myself, then asked, "Do you remember the tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique) we did together when you were six years old?" "Yeah, I stopped biting my nails then didn't I!" he answered excitedly, "If we do the tapping again will that help my fear too?" "Are you willing to try it now and see how it supports you? This is something you can do anytime, anywhere, whenever you need support." I responded. We proceeded to sink into several rounds of tapping while I named his experience out loud in the first person. After which I asked, "How does your tummy feel now?" Placing his hand on his tummy he paused before responding with awe in his voice, "My tummy doesn't hurt." Giving him a big warm smile I acknowledged, "Wow, you are developing so many tools to support yourself in the moment. I celebrate how you are able to seek support when you need it!" He smiled, and then with tears building up in his eyes said, "Yeah, but other kids my age are able to do a lot more school work than me." "Aw, is it that you like to be included, especially with kids your age? And maybe wishing you had more power in your world? Would you just love to do and be anything you want to do or be right now?" He nodded as he wiped away his tears. "Well, I'm moved to some self-expression here son. You see, I'm not worried about that at all. You are doing some serious foundation work in your life. Do you remember why you are willing to do all this work?" * "So I can calm myself and not feel overwhelmed by my sensory and feel happier?" Rylan answered seeking affirmation. "Absolutely!" I affirmed, "And, once your foundation is solid you are going to soar wherever your interests take you and I'll be right alongside to support you. Now, are you ready to let me give you a great big Mommy-hug?!" Shifting our focus back to the present moment, as if on cue, Rylan's eyes opened and connecting with my gaze offered me a gorgeous big smile saying, "Good morning, Mommy, I love you!" How satisfying it has been to witness my son's journey in life interweaving with my own. By establishing the firm foundation necessary for secure-attachment we were both empowered to experience that it is possible to learn to welcome the Three R's, which are; Resistance, Rupture and Repair while holding both our self and one another with love and acceptance. When Rylan was moving through this integrative time in his life, he wanted other kids who struggled with sensory or learning difficulties to know that the work he did with audiblox, the Integrated Listening System, and intuitive tapping really helped him. Reach out if you want more information about these supportive resources at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on this journey with me today, Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can start my course introducing The Healing You Method here: https://www.healingyousanctuary.com/roots-of-connection … [The Healing You Method - Episode 157] #TheHealingYouMethod #resistance #rupture #repair #secureattachment #EFT #Emotion

Do you ever feel afraid at night? I know I have, and as a child it was a variety of things at night that I was afraid of. It can be different for everyone. I remember when Rylan told me about his fears in the night. It was around 10-years ago, he said, ”I just get so scared! If I wake up and you aren't there I think you are dead!" "I'm hearing just how scared you feel when you wake up and think I'm dead because you can't see me," I reflected, "you really like it when you know I'm okay and you aren't alone?" I guessed. "Yeah," Rylan's eyes widened as he continued, "but I get so scared my stomach hurts and it terrifies me! I want it to stop and I don't know what to do." "So you feel so scared your stomach hurts and it's terrifying? You really want it to stop; yet don't know what to do? I'm guessing you might like some support and new tools maybe?" I reflected with an empathy guess. Rylan nodded and leaned towards me slightly. Taking in his nonverbal cues, I drew in a deep breath to ground myself, then asked, "Do you remember the tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique) we did together when you were six years old?" "Yeah, I stopped biting my nails then didn't I!" he answered excitedly, "If we do the tapping again will that help my fear too?" "Are you willing to try it now and see how it supports you? This is something you can do anytime, anywhere, whenever you need support." I responded. We proceeded to sink into several rounds of tapping while I named his experience out loud in the first person. After which I asked, "How does your tummy feel now?" Placing his hand on his tummy he paused before responding with awe in his voice, "My tummy doesn't hurt." Giving him a big warm smile I acknowledged, "Wow, you are developing so many tools to support yourself in the moment. I celebrate how you are able to seek support when you need it!" He smiled, and then with tears building up in his eyes said, "Yeah, but other kids my age are able to do a lot more school work than me." "Aw, is it that you like to be included, especially with kids your age? And maybe wishing you had more power in your world? Would you just love to do and be anything you want to do or be right now?" He nodded as he wiped away his tears. "Well, I'm moved to some self-expression here son. You see, I'm not worried about that at all. You are doing some serious foundation work in your life. Do you remember why you are willing to do all this work?" * "So I can calm myself and not feel overwhelmed by my sensory and feel happier?" Rylan answered seeking affirmation. "Absolutely!" I affirmed, "And, once your foundation is solid you are going to soar wherever your interests take you and I'll be right alongside to support you. Now, are you ready to let me give you a great big Mommy-hug?!" Shifting our focus back to the present moment, as if on cue, Rylan's eyes opened and connecting with my gaze offered me a gorgeous big smile saying, "Good morning, Mommy, I love you!" How satisfying it has been to witness my son's journey in life interweaving with my own. By establishing the firm foundation necessary for secure-attachment we were both empowered to experience that it is possible to learn to welcome the Three R's, which are; Resistance, Rupture and Repair while holding both our self and one another with love and acceptance. When Rylan was moving through this integrative time in his life, he wanted other kids who struggled with sensory or learning difficulties to know that the work he did with audiblox, the Integrated Listening System, and intuitive tapping really helped him. Reach out if you want more information about these supportive resources at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on this journey with me today, Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can start my course introducing The Healing You Method here:

What do you want in a given moment? Do you know? Do you consciously consider what you want on a moment-to-moment basis? Or do you just tell people what you don't want? This is a concept my son and I worked with for some time about 10-years ago. Knowing what you want requires your prefrontal cortex to be available so you can imagine and dream. If you function from a state of fear/anxiety, your emotional alarm system tends to hijack your ability to stay regulated and present; you might easily get knocked off balance by the occurrence of things you don't want to happen. I remember when my older son's family came over for a barbeque at our home to celebrate my birthday. This was during the time we were in the process of moving to the Spokane area. It was such fun to play with my grandchildren while my older son barbequed my favorite food, and to visit with my daughter-in-law. My most special gift was that Richard, my husband, was able to be here too. When the weekend was ending and Richard was preparing to leave, Rylan started to squirm and hang on to his Dad. Suddenly he brightened with a smile and asked, "Hey, can I go back with Dad? My Uncle is there and can watch me when Dad's at work!" I could see Richard was open to the possibility, so I asked Rylan, "You've truly missed Dad haven't you, and would really like time to hang out and have more guy-time to start your summer off?" "Yep!" Rylan literally bounced on the couch with expectation. "Sounds like a lot of fun, and I'm wondering what ideas you have how you might support yourself if you get upset when you are there with your uncle and Dad's at work and Mom's here, any ideas?" "I won't yell or scream, or cuss, I promise!" "Okay, I am hearing what you won't do..." I began, when Rylan sprang off the couch to land on the floor, and exclaimed, "I know, I know! What do I want!? Say what I want not what I don't want! I have been working on that for two years now and I am finally getting it! I'll just go to sleep outside in the warm tall grass or hug my dog. Or I'll curl up and breath deep, that's what I'll do, that will support me!" "Wow, Rylan, high-five dude! That is so cool to hear you get that! Focusing on what you want gives your brain a map to work from and empowers you to succeed!” I was so excited that he was ready to take action like that. He got to go pack his bags and go spend that time with his dad. No one needs to live their life in repeating patterns that keep them stuck. It is totally possible to live your life empowered by what lights you up, and, it is really deeply satisfying. I'd love to accompany you, today, so reach out to me at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can start my course introducing The Healing You Method here: https://www.healingyousanctuary.com/roots-of-connection … [The Healing You Method - Episode 144] #TheHealingYouMethod #parenting #brainmap #fear #anxiety #possibility #emotionalhijack #compassion

The other day, when I woke up, I felt something was stirring within me. I had had a little bit of a restless sleep with fragments of memories from when I was younger. So, I reached out to my empathy buddy, and I asked for some support, some resonant support of my inner experience. It is such a pleasure to have a place where you can share your inner experience and to be met right there. To have trust and companionship to discover you really do make sense after all. As I received the support, what I was able to tune into was a very, very young part of myself. There was a sacred vow, something like, “I, Gloria Mae, solemnly swear to my Essential Self, that I will be utterly committed to being less than. Believing that I'm not enough so that this other person in my life that I was close to, would have peace and security in a world that made them feel insane.” I really tuned in to that this vow was made out of love for this other being. That is a really important piece to catch. I was utterly committed to that I idea that I am less than, in order for this other person to have peace and security in a world that made them insane. No matter the cost to myself or those I love. I took time to allow that energy to move through my system, through my body. Then I shifted my body to step into my True Essence, my Essential Self, and no, I didn't like that vow. It really makes a lot of sense and I can see how in my experience it was driving my behavior. Especially in certain situations where I would shrink back, or I would feel shame, or I would feel less than. Sometimes these experiences can be so subtle, and yet so profound. So, I told my younger self, “I release you from this contract and I revoke this vow. I give you my blessing to have eyes to see differences in people, with pleasure.” Because the young one, when she would see a difference, there would be a shrinking back and feeling of less than. But now, to have the blessing to see differences with eyes of pleasure, and to celebrate the differences that I see. Also, a blessing to enjoy challenges, rather than being scared of them. And, the blessing to completely relinquish the idea that I am less than. Instead, to embody the blessing of experiencing courage and confidence in my life and taking time with where I am at in the moment. To have the support to move through this type of a process is invaluable. We are born for relationships with others, we are not intended to do everything by ourselves. If you are in need of some accompaniment, I invite you to reach out to me today at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on this journey with me today. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can start my course introducing The Healing You Method here: https://www.healingyousanctuary.com/roots-of-connection ….. [The Healing You Method - Episode 135] #TheHealingYouMethod

I've spent some time with several people lately that have been really struggling with deep sadness and grief. This sadness can feel so profound that the heart contracts and it feels very similar to a heart attack. Your heart can feel heavy with grief. Have you ever felt your heart contract with pain, to where it feels difficult to breathe as well? Panic attacks are actually an activation of the PANIC/GRIEF/ABANDONMENT circuitry. When these attacks happen, it seems as if the very ground beneath your feet falls away. You can feel lost. Your SEEKING circuit dissipates, and you have no way to even begin to make movement in your world. As we begin to allow ourselves to be held by others, and not be alone in our grief, we can have the courage to name our experience. We can receive some acknowledgement around what it's like to be us in those moments. Such as, “Would it be sweet if someone understood just how difficult this is?” Notice what happens in your body as you receive that guess. As we grow and nurture our relationship with this part of ourselves, then the panic attacks aren't as intense. As we are able to hold these parts of our experience with exquisite gentleness, warmth, and care, we begin to heal our broken hearts. It is so important to be able to find someone who feels safe, someone who will listen with an open heart, warmth, and resonance, and not to be made wrong for how you feel. Then, you start to lay down the pathways for healing to happen. Grief needs accompaniment. Our sadness and loss need acknowledgement of that. This is so important for our hurting hearts. I'd like to share with you a technique that you can use in moments of panic or grief or sadness. This is an energy medicine technique. You place your hand over your heart space, then between your ring finger and pinky finger, take three fingers with your other hand and tap. While you are tapping breathe in through your nose, and out through your mouth. Now, notice, what is it like? I feel a softening in my heart, there is a relaxation down my back, and my shoulders dropped. If you are having sadness, feeling some alarmed aloneness, and you need some support and accompaniment, please reach out to me at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on this journey with me today. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can start my course introducing The Healing You Method here: https://www.healingyousanctuary.com/roots-of-connection ….. [The Healing You Method - Episode 136] #TheHealingYouMethod

One of my favorite things to do is to go out in the paddock and be with my healing herd of horses. I really love having the opportunity to support others and facilitate their experience with the herd. There was a particularly touching experience recently. Someone was really caught up with all the stories that spin around, and around, and around in their mind. This person would get worried that the stories would just take over, because when we have certain stories, we can start believing those stories are true. Even when they are not. Having a way to check in to the body's wisdom, which supports us to come into what is true for us, is really helpful. It's even more helpful when we are able to do this in the presence of a horse. Horses have such big hearts and such big guts and resonance; they are sentient beings who are acoustical. They are able to tune in to what is happening in the human and reflect that back, communicating in such a way that the human receives deep healing. This is a very body-centered approach that I like to invite people in to. As this person was standing in the paddock with the horses, I invited them to come into their body and to notice where their attention rested. The first place that they named out loud was their temples. Upon naming the temples one of the mares snorted really loud. They named there was a painful pressure there, and a tension that felt overwhelming. As they stayed with the sensations, they named the emotion of nervousness, the horse began licking and chewing, and the message they received was to be gentle with this story part. Coming into the body again, this time their awareness came to the back of their throat, a white horse came up to them placed its nose right at their throat. There was a moment of pausing, and they expressed that the initial soreness and feeling as if something was stuck, there was an opening. The message was to be open to trust, there was quite a shift right there. The next place the body's wisdom went was to their left eye. There was a heat and a softness, with a sense of comfort, in their left eye, and the message they received was to relax. Continuing with the body sensations and noticing where their attention would rest, each of the horses would come in and work with them, as they continued to move this energy through their system. What they were receiving was that it's alright to relax, and that when you feel calm it does feel very safe. Then the white horse came in again and put their muzzle right next to the person's face and there was this shared breathing. As the person tuned in to the rhythm with the white horse, they could feel every cell in their body begin to relax, and to let go, and to be in calm. There was a deep alignment within their belly that it's alright to trust, that it is safe to trust, and it is safe to name the unnamable and to be heard and received. The takeaway that this one had was that they could choose to welcome any story with compassion, and they could bring back this memory of the white horse breathing with them, supporting them wherever they may be in time and space. To remember how to calm. One of the gifts that you receive when you are working with the horses, is that they stay with you. There is a heart connection that you feel, and even if you are on a different continent, that connection is still strong. It is still with you, it is still vibrant and will continue to unfold within your life story, your life experience. It is a gift from the way of the horse. If you'd like to get to have an experience with the herd, reach out to me at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on this journey with me today. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can start my course introducing The Healing You Method here: https://www.healingyousanctuary.com/roots-of-connection ..... [The Healing Yo

There have been times when I've felt such deep sadness and pain that I would turn to others and take it out on them. I would flip my lid, get angry, have a fit and get really irritable. When I'm able to slow it down, I tap into what is really happening inside. This happened the other day with a client. This client was feeling such distress because they had just flipped their lid with their partner. When we took the time to slow down the experience within, they recognized this memory from when they were six or seven years old. They had an experience of being forsaken by their parent. We took time to really be with those sensation and notice the sense of hypervigilance that had arisen within them. The memory unfolded a little more and they realized that when they were seven their mother had another baby. When they brought the baby home, the seven-year-old was moved out of their bedroom and they had the experience that their mom just wasn't the same. So, slowing down even more, and checking in to get consent, we stepped through time to be with this seven-year-old self. The seven-year-old was in a hallway and felt stuck between two rooms, feeling lost and disoriented. Slowing down to sit with them and notice where the sensations are in their body, they noticed a little bit of relaxation. We checked in with this little one, to hear what was needing to be heard that had not ever been understood. This little one, any time it wanted attention it felt ignored and left all alone. They made a sacred vow to themselves, “I will just suck it up and I will move on. I'll pretend this didn't even happen, in order to survive the pain of being left all alone in alarm.” In this time-travel, hearing this vow, inviting their present-day self, their essential self, asking them, “Did you hear this vow that your seven-year-old made to you?” Inviting them to really see the child within themselves. Do they like that vow? They responded, “No.” Speaking to their child-self they say, “I release you from this vow, and I revoke the contract. I want to give you my blessing. I give you my blessing to fully self-express your truth however you are, authentically. I also bless you with accompaniment, to know I will always be with you. To be empowered to have a sense of agency in alignment with your values.” They took time to be with this through the release and the receiving of the blessing and had an experience of joy, hope, and newfound freedom from the inside out. It was as if shackles had just fallen off in their inner prison. There was a recognition that they had been holding themselves back. That they had not allowed themselves to be who they really are, especially if they believed the other person was especially smart. So, there was a holding back from this past trauma that had happened. They asked their younger self if they'd like to time-travel home with them, so, they walked down the hallway and saw their seven-year-old self who was stuck. As they came to them it was revealed that there were many doors down this hallway, which represented so many different possibilities and ways they could go. There was a sense of lightness, it was bright, soft, and comfortable and they noticed a sense of relaxation. Then we did something a little bit different, we invited this young one to be able to tune in to their mother's essential self. To be able to witness this mother that they had always longed for. Next, the seven-year-old made a request of their present-day self, to watch for them and notice when the felt sense of this young one would start to emerge, in order to have the accompaniment that they had always needed. It is such an amazing thing, and I'm so grateful to be able to accompany people as they discover this pathway to reclaiming their true essence. If you would like to have some accompaniment, reach out to me, today at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on this journey with me today. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready

Being misunderstood and having people talk badly about us can be very painful, dropping us straight into our Panic/Grief circuitry and our fear of abandonment. In this episode, we discuss how we can find solid ground again, and harness the protective power of our Rage circuitry in service of ourselves and those we care about, while still staying in the conversation. We also clarify how rage or anger differ from predatory aggression. *** Schedule your conversation with Gloria at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com and with Ingrid at www.IngridGunby.com

How do we listen from our heart instead of our mind? Many of the conversations that may end up seeming as if they're in conflict stems from there not being an agreement to have a conversation to begin with. When we come from a place of genuine listening while still honoring our own feelings, it creates a heightened sense of cooperation. *** Schedule your conversation with Gloria at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com

What kinds of conversations do you really dread? Do you try to avoid any possibility of conflict, or fear that you’ll be tongue-tied, be overwhelmed by sadness, or lose an important relationship in a big blow-up? In this episode, we talk about what kinds of conversations we find difficult, why people struggle to speak and to listen in these kinds of situations, and what we’ve found helps us to stay present, open, and curious when things are tense. *** Schedule your conversation with Gloria at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com and with Ingrid at www.IngridGunby.com

I've been thinking about what it's like when one feels mistrustful. This can show up in different ways perhaps; maybe you're feeling mistrustful of a situation and there are components of that situation that stand out to you. It just doesn't feel safe, or it feels out of balance. Maybe the mistrust is in relationship with another person, there's something that's been said, or an action taken that doesn't contribute to your needs for consideration or respect. Mistrust can show up in a lot of different ways. Maybe it shows up because you feel that there is not enough of something so you feel mistrustful whether you'll have enough for yourself and worried that someone else is going to take more. Most likely, these scenarios that play out reflections for us of our own inner experiences we had when we were younger. Revealing for us some inner patterns that need acknowledgement of what our experiences were like. We need understanding with compassion around that. I was working with someone the other day and they had a sense of resistance that came up that sounded something like, “I will not do this. I will not go there. I will not participate. I won't.” As we took time to be with the resistance coming up and start to tease apart the threads underlying it, of what their felt experience was. There was a fear that by participating this person would make everything worse. In their perception things were bad, and they didn't want it to get worse. So, there was a pulling away and a removal of self, moving into a sense of isolation. Rather than reaching for relationship there was a hiding from relationship. Taking time with this other being, gently and slowly inviting their attention to come inward, and to notice what's happening in their body. Their throat felt heavy and tight with constriction. Acknowledging a fear of being left out, and yet because of that fear they were isolating themselves. This revealed there was another layer underlying that. When they were younger, they had made a contract, they'd made a sacred vow. Slowing down to be with that experience and to hear the vow, “I'm going to do all or nothing. I won't reach out for any connection. When I'm needing closeness, I will run away. I will feel very mistrustful of my environment in order to not feel the pain of being left out and not having enough time to connect. No matter the cost to myself or those I love." And then just resting with that, noticing the body, how it feels and how it settles. Then shifting and asking if their Essential Self is available, and did they hear the vow their younger self made to them? They heard it. It makes sense why this little one would withdraw in order to not feel the pain. But it's not serving life any more. Their Essential Self said, “I release you from this vow, and I revoke this contract, and I bestow upon you my blessing in its place.” “I bless you with the joy of sharing, even with humans. I bless you with a sense of ease with vulnerability and honesty, and the courage to continue to show up in your life, with trust." As they sat with this experience there's a softening that happens; with the face, with the body, a relaxation response. In this process where we can start to rest and digest, we can begin to integrate parts of our life experience that had never been accompanied before. This thickens the pathways for social connection. It's not a quick fix, but it's very effective, very healing, and very possible. If you are interested in learning more about connection and the Healing You Method process, reach out to me at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on this journey with me today. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can access the preview of The “Healing You” Method Intro here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 130]

Join Lola Michelin, Director of Education for the NW School of Animal Massage, as she interviews Gloria Lybecker to learn more about The Healing You Method and resonant language. This integrative method connects body sensations, emotions, mind, and spirit to create powerful new neural connections within the nervous system. It is a powerful, trauma-informed approach that supports healing that is essential to making sustainable change. ..... If you are interested in learning more about connection and the Healing You Method process, reach out to Gloria at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on this journey with me today. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can start my course introducing The Healing You Method here: https://www.healingyousanctuary.com/the-journey-begins ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 129]

Have you ever had self judgements? I know I have, and I think that's pretty common for a human being to have. There was a person I was working with the other day who noticed a pattern that they struggled with. The pattern was being quiet when they were in relationship with somebody instead of speaking up when they had something they would like to say. Or, maybe they didn't agree with a friend. What would happen inside of them is they would have a self judgement. Criticizing not just themselves but also the other person, but not speaking up when they were not in agreement. They developed a belief that they held a really bad energy inside of them. There was a hopelessness that this energy that would be so critical would run them, and they would feel helpless and hopeless and they'd say, “I can't help it!” A big ball of energy would come up as anger, criticism, and then there would come shame that they would heap upon their own head. Like, “Why can't I navigate this? I have skills, but I can't hold it any better. I'm helpless.” So, there's such a fierce, sharp judgement that was rigid and cutting that left them feeling utter powerlessness, inadequacy and a lot of fear and anxiety about what the outcome was even going to be. They had a fear that they were going crazy. I mean this is crazy making stuff that can happen within us! There was the fear this would just take over and it felt so dark. A very dark shadow. As we took time to travel, to step through time, we stepped in with this younger self that was in their bed feeling quite terrified. They'd pulled the covers clear over their whole body because they had this fear that someone was going to come in a cut them up. They had watched some scary movies, and as a small child of seven or eight, that can be pretty terrifying and we can't determine whether that is real or unreal and then it comes into our dreams. They are nightmares. This little one was so terrified that they felt a cutting presence, an entity that was behind them, and they were terrified of it. The shadow belief that they had was, “I a bad and I am all alone, because IT makes me bad. Slowing time down to be with this child-self. Their compassionate-self steps in and places this darkness in a safe container. To the child-self it was a deep purple with dirt and moss. It felt really safe. They could feel the energy moving then down their neck and in their head. It created a space for this little child-self and there was no need for all the dishonesty. They had a sense of well-being and that life is good, they could taste life's goodness. They invited the young one to rest in the nest of support, in the branches of the Tree of Life, experiencing calm and uplifting energy, a calm alertness. The little one said, “God is good.” What they were able to do was invite a time-travel back, bringing this young one back to present day, and they time-traveled in a bubble back to her heart. They request that they made of themselves was to stay with the imagery of the energy moving through them, transforming that energy with presence. To also retain that imagery of that Tree of Life with the nest of well-being throughout their day and to nurture it. Life is good was the deepest truth that they took home. Life IS really good, and how important it is for us to take time for us to be with any of those scary shadows that may bubble up in our day, and to have accompaniment with that. If you have any of those kinds of bubbles that you are needing support with, reach out to me at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on this journey with me today. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can access the preview of The “Healing You” Method Intro here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 128]

There is a lot of anxiety that goes around with any transition; seasonally, a new year, starting a new job, or new neighbors. There are so many different ways that we can experience transitions in our life. I was working with a client the other day and they were noticing how they'd get really busy leading up to any kind of an event. That it had actually become a way of life. They were noticing just how much getting anxious affected their body. Not only did if affect their body, it also affected their thoughts, how they would speak to themselves and what they would tell themselves. They uncovered what they would do is tell themselves, “I will not relax. I will be responsible for getting everything done, even though I might suffer just a minute, I will keep on plowing through.” Underneath that there were some shadow beliefs; I don't have a choice. I don't have support, there is a complete lack of support. So, acknowledging the need for spaciousness, the need for choice. They recognized they were doing this - in order to be perfect – so that their mom and dad would be happy. It went way back in time to their younger self and it had become a pattern, a way of life. As the youngest of a pretty large family they'd grown up with a feeling of being in debt for even being alive. So, they made this vow to themselves to just stay really busy and push through, plow through, in order to not feel the pain of not mattering and experiencing a lack of presence in their life. As they were able to move through the process and release this vow, they received the blessings to actually physically stop. To allow themselves to experience being welcomed with warmth and soothing. The authentic action they are taking to follow through is to create a little corner for themselves where they will have a blanket, and some essential oils that will bring in a fragrance of soothing. The blanket also brings in a sense of warmth, care and nurturance. It's a real tangible authentic action. There was a complete transformation you could see on this one's face. As they went from this high anxiety to this ease of relaxation and mattering. The beauty of the needs there are inspiring me to really be paying attention to how my body is serving me, and, how am I taking care of my body. It's a reciprocal relationship that we all need to be able to develop, and model for those we love and care for. By caring for ourselves first. If you are needing some support to develop more capacity to care for yourself, and to welcome yourself with warmth, reach out to me at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on this journey with me today. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can access the preview of The “Healing You” Method Intro here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 127]

Have you ever felt intense emotions? I have. It's really important, if we haven't had anyone to accompany us with intense emotions, to know that it's possible to develop not just a tolerance for them, but to welcome them and recognize energetically what they are meaning for us. To recognize what the gifts are that they are bringing to our awareness, rather than trying to push them away or smoosh them down. They will just get bigger when we do that. I was working with someone who was feeling very intense emotions. They would have very intense anger, then it would flip into very intense sadness. Their experience was, when these intense emotions came, it always made life more difficult, everything would get worse, and they always felt they were made wrong. There was no sense of welcoming of their intense emotions, so their intense emotions got even more intense. That can burn us out, it's really hard on our nervous system, pumping all this cortisol and adrenaline constantly. It's exhausting. While we were working together this person was able to unpack the contract that was underneath this. As a little one they noticed that if they felt worried or scared of being left alone, then that intensity would come. They also recognized that if they didn't talk when they didn't feel good, or, they would say, “I'm fine. I'm feeling good.” Then they could side-step the intensity, or at least not be made wrong. So, they swore to their Essential Self that any time they felt worried or scared they would shut down their emotions. They would shut down their anger. When we shut down our anger, we are actually shutting down all of our emotional circuitry. So, any time they felt worried, or scared they were going to be left alone, then they would not talk. They would lie and say that they felt good, in order to avoid making everything worse with intensity and being made wrong and being left alone. No matter the cost to themselves or to those that they loved. As they sat with that and could feel where to was within their being, there was an acknowledgment just how long this had been running within them. As we turned to their Essential Self there was this heart of compassion that rose up within them. They told them they didn't like that vow and that they revoked that contract. They instead, gave a blessing to courageously express honestly, to cry loud when they need to. To be open and to allow themselves to be held with care by others. After they received the blessing, they had the experience of feeling so much more present. Their head felt open, instead of heavy. Their energy was moving all the way from their head down into their body, which felt open and confident, with a sense of ease. What was really cool was they felt that their eyes were wider, they could see more of life. We brought in a fine mist of warm water that washed all over them, cleansing and healing any residues of energies that were not life serving. They could feel the life energy tingling all the way down to their toes. There is something really beautiful about taking these parts of intensity and then getting to discover and witness the beauty of the gift that awaiting inside. Accompaniment is so important for all of us, we were created for relationships. If you need some accompaniment in your life, reach out to me at www.healingYouSanctuary.com I look forward to welcoming you. Thank you, for being on this journey with me today. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can access the preview of The “Healing You” Method Intro here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 126]

I was working with a client the other day and they said they were feeling just so bad. It was as if they were immobilized, frozen, from the inside out. What they noticed was that they stopped noticing what they felt in their body. It was as if they became numb and their head became really heavy as well. As they started to experience a shift, what they began to notice was they could begin to sense their peripheral senses. When we can begin to notice the space between our first two fingers it can start to bring us back in a completely different way. This is a very unique thing to be able to do, but, notice right now the space between your two first fingers. Is it warm, or is it cold? Is it moist, or is it dry? Simply notice without attempting to change anything, but just bringing your attention to your peripheral senses. Another thing my client noticed was being able to have movement, to invite movement would begin to allow the energy to flow again from the inside out. Bringing life energy up which is so supportive. Being able to develop these little steps towards presence, then they could begin to notice there was this place within them that had been there for quite a while. It was a part of them that didn't believe that they could care about anything or anybody, because they didn't believe anybody cared about them. So, why would they care. As they continued to journey they had a memory of a time when they'd been given some space from their therapy and their ongoing healing journey. They had needed to be willing to step in and take responsibility on a day to day basis for their healing. It was important for them to learn how to slow it down to just moment by moment. Because when we live in the moment, we are actually living more present. They uncovered an unconscious contract they had; which was whenever they sensed that someone important to them might go away, they would cut themselves off from having relationships with anybody else. This included them cutting themselves off from even their own self-care. They did this because they had the belief that they didn't matter and to survive the pain of being left behind. It was just too much for their body, when they were little, to be left behind. As they were able to go through the process to release that contract and revoke that vow, they received a blessing. This blessing is to be able to stay in relationship with compassionate understanding. Their imagination lit up and they had blue sparkles coming down from the sun with a feeling of lightness, as a big white horse came forward to greet them, and help them journey home to their sense of self. As they ended their session they made a request of themselves; to take the authentic action of doing their energy exercises every day, and to sit underneath a sun light. Because in the winter it can be pretty dark and the shadows can get thick and heavy. So, bringing that light in and having the blue sparkles in their imagination and that beautiful white horse accompanying them makes it doable. It's such a gift to get to work with people in this way, and to witness that divine energy that sustains and supports us to continue to grow and evolve, and get to know ourselves in a new way. If you'd like some accompaniment on your journey, reach out to me today at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com Thank you, for being on this journey with me today. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can access the preview of The “Healing You” Method Journey here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 125]

The other day I was asked to write about what it would be like to be in a session with me for a summit coming up. The idea of participating in the summit delighted me, yet when I heard the request for me to write 100 words of less to draw people in, I drew a blank. It's hard to describe what this is like. What I did was reach out for some support to unpack that a little bit. When I went blank inside, it was like a big pause button had been pushed inside of me, and I recognized an opportunity for some deepening of my understanding of self. As I was held in a sacred circle of support, I stepped back through time, which is a powerful process to welcome my inner experience more fully. What arose for me was my fourteen-year-old self. This part of me had made a vow never to write something that could be read publicly especially. As I went back in time to be with this part and receive more clarity around it, what happened was my fourteen-year-old-self used to journal about things that had happened in her life that were private. One day the journal was gone. So, there was a fear of being exposed, a fear of having my privacy violated, and really deep shame came up. Because, this younger self had an experience of being tormented and demeaned. It felt as if people loathed her or were disgusted with her. Bringing in some warmth, sitting with this part, my throat got really tight. My chest felt as if it were burning. This younger self had a loss of identity, when she honestly expressed herself in a written form, that was what caused her loss of identity, and her dignity was stripped away. So, bringing in the imagery of being in a field with the healing herd; with constellation work we are recognizing that we are in a field of life energy at all times. In this process I could feel the horse ancestors come swirling in. They first moved in a counterclockwise pattern, swirling around me. I could feel the wind, I could feel in the air this divine light that came in through the shadows. It was like a dance with the herd of horse ancestors. It sucked up all of the torment and all of the violation and shame, the loathing and disgust, all of that energy that felt so heavy and diminishing. Just swoosh! Then they turned and you could hear the thundering of their hooves which brought in this divine arc of energy. It was miraculous. It was softening, I could feel the tingles on my skin. It was as if there was a gentle mist of healing living water of life, mixed in with the divine light. This brought a deep soothing and restoration deep inside of my throat, my heart, and my belly. There was a peace. Then, out of the herd, a beautiful, majestic, black horse came over and bowed, inviting my younger self to jump onto his back. He took off flying, bringing her back here to the healing herd here, to be with me. For there to be nurturance, a place where she can begin to trust her own inner compass. Not only can she trust her own inner compass, she can trust the inner compass of others that connect and resonate with her. That is such a beautiful gift to receive going forward in life. I want to acknowledge that unless we are willing to go on these journeys of healing, there are so many things we won't know that we don't know. So, there is a mystery and a magic that comes with this way of processing of life energy. It is a divine gift to receive. If you'd like to explore how to connect with yourself more deeply, or in different way, reach out to me at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com Thank you, for being on this journey with me today. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can access the preview of “The Healing You Journey” here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 124]

Sometimes I find myself falling back into really old patterns. Patterns that I thought I had let go of and that I wasn't ever going to use again. Sometimes what can happen, when I've noticed that I'm operating out of an old pattern, is I can just beat myself up with anger. It sounds something like, “Oh, you are so stupid! I can't believe you are doing that again!” Then, inside I have this cringing with shame experience, “Oh my goodness, I can't believe that! I'm so horrible.” And then, I can fall even lower in the spectrum of energies. Into self-loathing, “Eeew, yuck.” Some disgust can come up. Well, I'm really grateful that on my journey in this life, I've discovered that it's possible to recognize these aspects of myself with compassion. In those moments I can acknowledge how it feels to be me. I can speak to myself, “Gloria, are you just feeling such frustration because you really like it when you make strides in the direction that's in alignment with your passion?” It's like, “Yeah.” Then, for the other part that cringes in shame, just gently sitting beside her with an open heart and warmth and say, “Gloria, does it feel like you are just crumpled in a ball and there is a pit in your stomach that will never go away? It feels empty?” I can notice a difference in my stomach as I ask that. With the self-loathing piece I want to be really gentle. I want to welcome this part of myself with warmth and resonance. I ask, “Gloria, are you so afraid that no one will like you? Do you need acknowledgement that has been your lived experience a lot when you were little?” Oh, there's a deeper breath and an easing up. So, a skillset that I've developed in my life, which really saves my life repeatedly because these patterns they can loop back around, yet it doesn't mean that I'm now going to go back and relive my past. No. What it does mean is that my current version of me is able to step through time to be with that original contraction. A felt sense in my body. So, I can practice noticing my body sensations, noticing how that feels and where that is in my body. I can shine the warmth, a kind, gentle eye-gaze on a younger version of me. With no pressure for that part to be different but to actually catch right there where it's at, and to sit with it. As I sit with it, I notice what happens. That accompaniment. Developing the capacity to accompany one's self, requires being accompanied by others, to begin to trust that it's possible for others to hold that space for us. It does require a little trust, and that trust can grow. So, would you enjoy some accompaniment? I'd love to welcome you at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on this journey with me. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can access the preview of “The Healing You Journey” here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 123]

Fear and anger can be really powerful forces. When I've worked with people, and taken time to do my own inner work, a discovery that I've made is any time that I've had an anger reaction, when I can slow it down I unpack it, I discover there was a fear right underneath it that started the cascade of emotional reaction within me. Depending on what our life experience has been, that can look really different for all of us. I was working with someone the other day, and they noticed that this fear came up really quickly, and right on its heels there was an anger. Just a feisty anger and so much of it. Then, there would be a complete shut down right after that. As we took time with this, and went into the process of Healing You, there was an image that came up of a small child within that had a sense of heaviness and wanted to cry. There was no comfort, no soothing available. As we rode the wave of this energy there was a memory of big people and lots of anger and lots of harm being done. As a small child being just as quiet as a mouse in order to not have that anger directed at them. So, in those expressions, we could begin to hear the whispers of an unconscious contract that was beginning to emerge for healing. It went something like, “I, little one, solemnly swear to my Essential Self that anytime there is a proclamation, or a struggle with people arguing, or a perception that someone might be rude and strong energy enters the room, I will not speak up even when I sense something, or I would like something different. I will diminish myself. In order to keep it from getting bigger, or worse, or blowing up, and to not bring more attention to the situation or to be harmed. No matter the cost to myself of those I love.” Taking the time to drop into the body and just notice where that energy was lying within, in the heart space. Then asking the Essential Self of this person, “Did you hear the contract this little one made to you? Is it one that you like?” For them to be able to hear it, and to hear it from the child, from that little one's perception it made total sense. But no, it was not life serving. So, the Essential Self says, “I release you from this contract and I revoke this vow, and I bestow upon you my blessing in its place." "I bless you to speak with grace, to speak precisely and with care, directing conversations to heart connection and compassionate understanding. To be empowered to translate any expression and reveal the beauty of the needs that actually lie there within their hearts." "To step into the courage of who you are created to be. With resilience to stay present in relationship with yourself, and with others, even in groups. And to know how much you matter and the value and impact your way of being ripples out in the world. So then really taking in that gift and noticing what that is like." They found an image of themselves; they were given it as a gift from an older cousin, and it really captured this small child. So, taking time to be with this smaller self, from the new perception of our older self, when we time-travel like this we bring compassionate understanding to our own life experience. It's a miracle. We are freed up, it's like we can have new skin. We can have a new space around us to begin to see life in completely new ways that we never, ever, noticed before. That is truly a gift. If you are ready to start out on your journey, and you are looking for accompaniment, I invite you to reach out to me at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on this journey with me. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can access the preview of “The Healing You Journey” here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 121]

What happens inside of us when we are self-critical? Where does that even begin? I've spent some time with this and for a couple of nights I would wake up around 2 or 3 and there would be this self-critical voice spinning around and around. The more it would spin, the more critical it would become. What would happen for me was a contraction, a kind of collapse inside of myself. As I woke up a little more, to actually pay attention in a new way, I recognized that this voice had a flavor to it. It was, “How could you?” So, there was shame in there, and as I sat with that, I could hear underneath that “How could you?” that there was deep grief inside of myself. This voice inside was listing all of the ways that I had failed as a mother. That's really huge. My life's dream when I was a little girl was to be a mother. So, it was rehashing all of those moments that I wanted to do something different. The shadow belief that I touched into as well, underneath those emotions of shame and grief, was this real-felt experience that I'm all alone. So, I want to just step right through time to be with that part of myself. What empowered me to step in that way was bringing in the felt sense of gentle curiosity. There is a warmth with that. In the night what I did was to actually turn and acknowledge that I was hearing this voice within. One of the things that happens for us as humans is, the default mode network, when we've experienced trauma, it keeps worrying over it. It's wanting to heal it, and it's doing the best it can to support us. So, turning to that part of myself with warm curiosity and asking, “Do you want to help me?” I could feel my face soften with that guess, with that acknowledgement or question. Because it's true, that part of me is wanting to help me. It just doesn't know how to do it any differently. With these criticisms of my parenting, especially when I was a very young teenage mother, I asked this part; “Was it so very hard for you? All of these experiences, were they so hard for you?” Then, feeling again the body's answer, “Yes! It was too hard for me to hold up under all of that on my own.” I was still a child myself at that age. The question that really supported me to experience a shift inside was asking, “Do you wish that Gloria had lived a different life?” Again, “Yes!” especially certain parts of my life. They were just too hard. This younger self, as I time-traveled to her, I could feel the immobility, I could feel the shame, the collapse. The hearts desire to make a difference and not knowing how, and not knowing where to turn and believing there was nowhere to turn. It's like, “No wonder! No wonder there was such a deep sense of loneliness, aloneness, that was nearing despair.” And, to just be with this part with gentleness and accompaniment. To be able to have some warm resonance, in order to allow the mourning to begin to happen. Because grief is not able to be processed when we are all alone. We need there to be that warm accompaniment. So, when we are able to bring warmth in, and ask ourselves, by using our name, “Gloria, do you wish you had lived a different life when you were a young mother?” “Yes, I do!” To bring in some love and resonance to shine out some golden light of warmth and love to send out to her and her two young sons at that time. And, to bring them home to me, to bring them in to nurture and acknowledge. To be able to name all the things that were so unnameable, that my younger self didn't even know how to name. As I continue on this healing journey and I allow myself to receive support when I need support, I'm able to hear these voices with so much more loving kindness. I'm forever grateful that I get to touch this younger Gloria that had never been touched in this way before. With warmth and gentleness, kindness and compassion. If you are needing the touch of warmth and compassionate understanding, reach out for some support at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com T

Do you know what is really possible? Well, it is possible that you can awaken to know your truth. You can see new possibilities for relationships that you couldn't see before. Which means you can no longer hide in the shadows. You can no longer hide in unconsciousness. It used to be that you didn't have a language for heart connection. Because of that you lived a life that felt disjointed and scrambled around in a sense of aloneness. Like a fish out of water. At times it felt pretty scary. But now you know it is safe to experience and experiment with new possibilities. You can even do this in real time. You can cultivate pathways, connections with others who have heart connection that support you, nurture you, and empower you, to be all that you were created to be. One of the things you can do to continue to support this to happen, is to simply notice. Drop into your own heart and begin to notice what you are doing that activates this aliveness within you. Notice it, and then practice noticing it. Consistently note down what you are noticing. It's so empowering. It's like fuel to ignite the life within you. As you do this, one of the side benefits is that you grow warm community, of nurturing and enduring relationships that will continue to accompany you in this life. This is a beautiful thing to experience. If you'd like to learn more about this, or join one of these circles with me, reach out to me at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on this journey with me. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can access the preview of “The Healing You Journey” here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 117]

Have you ever felt completely and utterly alone in the world? Where your experience is one that there was just a lack of tangible support available to you. For some of us our body contracts, our stomach can hurt, and there is a kind of collapse in our system. Then, our thoughts can become dark and it's like slipping into a void. I've had that happen to me before. It was not pleasant, nor was it comfortable. Yet, what I know is possible is to seek out accompaniment. So let me tell you a story. I reached out to my empathy buddy to have a check in. We hadn't checked in with one another in a while, and I described what it was like to be me. Then, I asked if they could offer me some resonate support. One of the things that was guessed was, “Do you wish that an angel could come down from heaven right to where you are. Standing beside you, they would gently place a hand on your shoulder and acknowledge that “It's true; you do not have corporate funding and you don't have a pension to rely upon.” “It's also true,” the angel says turning you to look to the other side, “that you have a heart of love and devotion, that you have dedicated to your children, especially your youngest son. And, out of that heart of compassion, you have developed your life's work.” When I heard this, and I felt this, and I experienced this deep within my sense of self, my body softened and I came in touch with a source of inspiration awakening me to recognize who I have been created to be. Rather than that being an impossible dream guess, it was a dream come true. This person is like an angel in my life and they have known me for years. Sometimes when we falter, we need those strong relationships to remind us who we really are. So, it's important to acknowledge the shadows. Not to make them wrong, or to stay within them in the contraction. But to also see them in the light of the truth of who you are. The first step, for me, is to notice my body sensations, this is where all of the energy and information flow begins. To recognize them and to name my experience out loud. The next step is to reach out for some support. For heart connection. Are you ready to reach out today? Meet with me at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on this journey with me. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can access the preview of “The Healing You Journey” here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 116] #TheHealingYouMethod

How do you talk to yourself? Do you notice how you talk to yourself? How about especially when you've made a mistake? What does it sound like, that voice inside of your head? Do you even like yourself? I'm wondering, are you self-critical? Or are you ever NOT self-critical? Do you constantly compare yourself to others? Or did your parents compare you to others? Did they constantly compare people? Our default mode network (DMN) is the part of us that is the voice in our heads. We all have one. When we've had experiences of trauma, then that trauma takes over our default mode network. It reruns all the memories. It really wants us to heal. It can get stuck though. When we are little, if we don't make sense to our moms, then as a baby our system has to run on cortisol in order to survive. This can burn us out. When a baby is born its amygdala (emotional alarm system) is hard wired to create a state of alarm in order to get a response for care. So, if we had a responsive mom, or caregiver, they would easily reflect the micro-expressions of whatever emotions we were feeling as a baby. We would experience that we make sense by having a responsive caregiver. We would grow “I make sense neurons” then and we develop more of a sense of secure attachment. When we don't make sense to our moms or our caregivers and we have this alarm state going off and its not met with care, then we end up not knowing how to care for ourselves either. I want to acknowledge that its never too late to meet someone that can respond with sensitivity and with care so we can grow those pathways that we need to learn how to care for ourselves. When we've had unresolved trauma it's possible to be held with acknowledgement that there is unresolvable trauma. What happens then is it allows there to be more movement of life energy within us, and it turns off that default mode network. So, when we can be held by another that is responsive and provides care for our CARE circuitry, then we can be empowered to name our experience. And, when we can name our experience it transforms the trauma from our nervous system and brings it into our explicit consciousness. We then have a deeper understanding of ourselves. Part of that process is when you name the experience, that there is a container, another being that is able to resonate with warmth and understanding to name the needs that your younger self didn't have held. It's really important work. I am really passionate about this and I'm so grateful for the resonate care that I've been held with to support myself and my nervous system to create an Essential Self that doesn't judge me when I fall into one of my old patterns. But gently, and with care, welcomes me back to life once more. If you'd like to learn more about how to be welcomed back to life, reach out to me at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on this journey with me. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can access the preview of “The Healing You Journey” here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 115] #TheHealingYouMethod

Have you ever felt like you don't fit in anywhere? You could maybe be part of a group feeling totally fine and then all of a sudden, it's as if there is a disconnect that happens inside. It could be a little bit of dissociation in your mind. Or, maybe it feels like you've just become a little bit invisible and there is no sense of a connection between you and anyone else in the group. It's like there is a space between you and others that before you hadn't felt at all. Then, you notice the other people and you wonder, how are they connected? How are they doing that? I want to acknowledge there can be this experience where it feels like there is something missing. There is some kind of missing linkage. I was working with a client the other day and they were having a very similar experience to this. They had been part of a group for quite awhile and what happened was when someone checked in with another person and started to engage with them and place their attention on them, they felt themselves disconnect inside. What that's like is a sense of being mute, recognizing something has just happened but I can't talk about it. If attention comes to me, I avoid checking in or having any communication. There is an immobilization that happens. This is really painful to experience from the inside out. This is something that can happen when we experience neglect in our lives, and we may not even realize we experienced neglect in our lives. That's part of how pervasive neglect can even be. Yet, I want to acknowledge that it is possible to lay down new neural pathways. It may not be re-learning how to welcome warmth, it may be learning how to allow warmth in. Maybe warmth was not something that your body and your nervous system is accustomed to receiving, so it may not feel welcome at all, and that is perfectly normal for this situation. I have a lot of compassion for this. I remember one point in my life, quite young, when I would be with a group of children and I would feel like I was on the outside looking in. I would wonder what was different about me. Why was I unable to engage with others with the ease that it seemed others engaged with? I didn't have answers to that, I just believed there was something wrong with me. I want to acknowledge that it's possible to learn how to engage. It's possible to learn how to open your window of welcome for warmth to begin to come through to you. It may not feel comfortable; it may be very foreign and not familiar at all. Yet, when there is a container where there is no pressure and you're not made wrong, rather you are welcomed as you are, you can allow your window to be as small as it is. When that is okay, it will naturally begin to expand a little bit. It may go back and forth and that's okay too. Because we want to be able to allow your nervous system and your body to reconsolidate; to readjust its settings and discover through the experience that it's safe to be seen, and soothed and feel secure from the inside out. If you'd like to dive more deeply into this experiential learning, reach out to me at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on this journey with me. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the resonance of somatic empathy and warm accompaniment? You can access the preview of “The Healing You Journey” here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 118]

You know, we all have an automatic voice in our head that tells us how we feel about ourselves. This part of us is known as our Default Mode Network, or DMN. It turns on and starts running anytime we relax and are not focused on doing something. When we are stressed, what it does is worry all the time, and can get on hyper-mode with it's worrying. It can get super intrusive, and it gets harder, and harder, to enjoy our life. The problem is, when we are stressed, our Default Mode Network thinks that the problem is us. That's when it's like a hamster wheel that goes around, and around, and around, and it becomes very, very critical of ourselves. It watches everything we do and analyzes it to prove that we are the problem. Well, you know, even though our Default Mode Network is deeply shaped by our unconscious contracts that we hold deep within us, it is possible for our DMN to work really well for us. When it is working well, it very easily learns self-warmth, even when this concept may be new to you. I want to acknowledge too that before we can hold our own emotions, it can be very helpful to find others that are skilled with warmth and care, to hold that space for us. When we can then learn how to turn towards ourselves with warmth, and presence, as we are accompanied, we can integrate the experience of being heard and felt and understood. We discover that we make sense and that others actually have had experiences similar to us, whereas before we thought we were all alone. So, let me ask you, would you like to be accompanied with warmth? Would you like to meet with others who have had similar experiences as you? Reach out to me at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com there is a small group starting up very soon. Thanks for being on the journey with me today. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the power of somatic empathy and warm community? Watch the preview of my course “Healing You Method Intensive” here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 112] #TheHealingYouMethod

Today I want to ask you, when do you feel wrong? Maybe you feel wrong to ever be angry, or maybe you feel wrong to feel afraid. Some of us feel wrong when we collapse when we feel helpless. Then, others feel wrong when they experience alarmed aloneness. But you know what? You might be surprised to learn that you have a RAGE circuit. Your RAGE circuit is there to help you. Because the RAGE circuit reduces stress and anxiety. It lowers our blood pressure and regulates our nervous system. It's our RAGE circuitry that empowers us to be protective and to advocate for whatever might be needed in the moment. I'll admit, sometimes RAGE or anger can feel really scary. Maybe you experienced RAGE or anger being aimed at people who have less power, and that can be very frightening. It can even be traumatic. If that's been your experience than I'm wondering, do you need acknowledgment that RAGE isn't meant to be used against the people we love? RAGE isn't meant to be used against people who are dependent upon us. When people have a vow to stop their anger, to diminish it and keep it small, it's as if they are turning down the volume on their own very life energy. Our whole system, our whole body, responds to RAGE, and RAGE is activated when resources are being threatened. So, it's important to reclaim that circuitry, if it's ended up having blocks in it, because we turned down our life energy. If you'd like to become more familiar with RAGE as a protective life force, reach out to me at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on the journey with me today. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the power of somatic empathy and warm community? Watch the preview of my course “Healing You Method Intensive” here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 111]

Life can feel really hard, and it can feel extremely exhausting. I know in my life there have been times when I'm in that place, when I'm that uncomfortable, that it feels like others just won't understand. Or, maybe it seems as if I'm being treated different because of my age, or my gender, or my job, or where I'm at. But there is some kind of a judgement that comes, and it feels like people don't really know me. Or maybe for you it's like people don't even know how to have a conversation that's real, rather than just surface. You can end up feeling sad underneath that, and all alone. For some of us, when we go down that slippery slope, it's a balance between falling into a pretty severe depression or feeling a lot of anger. It's kind of black and white. As I've worked with others, and myself, with this problem where life just feels so hard and so exhausting, what I've discovered is possible is that we can be guided by a deeper source of wisdom in our life. It is possible. When we are guided by this deeper source of wisdom we go through experiences where we discover we actually make sense! That even when we were down in our depression or our anger, and we take time to be in the uncomfortableness of it with accompaniment, then our deeper source of wisdom guides us to understand that we make sense. We can recognize where we are on our journey. Not only can we recognize where we are on our journey, we can begin to recognize where others might be, and stay curious and open-hearted with them. Then we can nurture conversations. I actually like to nurture conversations with myself first, and when I'm in my heart there I'm able to be inspired to nurture conversations with others to stay relational. When we are in that kind of an experience, it's possible to experience a sense of oneness in life. From there (I was inspired to hear another person speak about this) there can be the experience when we are in that field of oneness that we recognize others, even when we think they don't understand, we can recognize them and say, “You are a part of me that I do not yet know.” There is an openness to getting to know this other being. With curiosity and an open-heart. So, taking the time to be in our experience is to understand “what is it that I wish to contribute to my people, to the world, to the oneness, to the generations that go on?” One of the things I wish to practice is considering others, considering how the actions, and the viewpoints, and the way I show up in this world, how it actually impacts and ripples forward into the lives of everyone else. Especially my own children and grandchildren and then their children. What I want to bequeath to them, and to the culture, and to the community that they are going to be nurtured in and grow up with, is to have the experience that everyone matters and that they make sense. Also, for there to be a practice of a way of being; slowing down to focus on our heart, to embody our life experience, and to take time to do this in relationship with others. What might that look like? It's coming into Presence. I like to put my hand on my heart, because it supports me to focus there, then I bring to my mind someone or something or some place that brings up gratitude from within me. Then, I focus on that gratitude and allow it to develop into compassion filled with warmth and resonance. It fills up all of my energy field and then I send it forth from there. It's a practice of loving kindness, first with myself and then out with the world. I invite you to practice this, and to notice what it's like for you, and then maybe share it with a friend or a loved one. Let me know how that goes, I'd love to hear from you at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on the journey with me today. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the power of somatic empathy and warm community? You can start my free course called the “Healing

Did you know that we are profoundly relational when we are tiny beings? It's true. We are born being relational. When we have trauma that happens in our life, a good metaphor of that could be having a long string that gets in a big tangle. Have you ever tried to get a tangle out of string? Especially when it's really fine string? One of the clients I work with has uncovered the truth that when they were tiny, they didn't have the opportunity for others to be relational with them. Yet, because we are born profoundly relational it can cause a big tangle in our string of life. How that has shown up in this one's life is to be close to a person and enjoying time with them, and then something in their environment triggers this trauma tangle inside, and it's as if something takes over. Without conscious awareness there is this deep inner shift within, and a profound sense of lack, and a belief that they are just not enough, and they have absolutely nothing of value to contribute. One of these instances was triggered by the presence of another being that was contributing in a circle and was able to engage. There was something about this that caused this other person to withdraw, shut down inside, and believe “I'm not good enough.” There is a really big need for compassionate understanding and for them to be met right there in their experience. Without being made wrong. So, the practice can become, with repetition of being held in this way, we can begin to practice noticing when the trigger gets alarmed. We can notice the unfolding of this automatic pattern of this trauma bubble overcoming all out senses. We can begin to witness ourselves. As we practice this witnessing of self in action, without judgment, there is something that begins to happen inside. Especially if we can begin to practice a warm eye gaze. In order to develop this, we need to actually be held and accompanied by another that is skilled in this way. It is an exquisitely gentle process. For the unfurling of the inner being to experience being noticed, mattering, and making sense while being accompanied, rather than being left alone in their alarm. It begins this miraculous inner experience. It's like a solvent comes in with the warmth and resonance of accompaniment, and all the sticky glue where all the trauma pieces were glued together begin to melt away, and things begin to unfurl and become untangled. What a relief this is to the nervous system! Being able to have this practice in place does require that there is a trust that begins to grow from the inside out. From one heart to another. I'm so privileged to get to journey with people as they make these discoveries and become empowered from within. Empowered to be able to name their experience in the moment, but also before that to be empowered to call a pause and drop into their body and begin to notice, and witness, their own experience. That meets needs for beauty and hope in our world, and we need more of that. If you are seeking accompaniment in your life reach out to me at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on the journey with me today. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the power of somatic empathy and warm community? You can start my free course called the “Healing You Method Intensive” here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 103] #TheHealingYouMethod

I want to acknowledge that trauma can be really huge for us. It's connected to how we perceive our world as well as how we make meaning in our life. I had a session with a client earlier, and they shared how when they were getting off a call with someone, that they were in this state of feeling incapable of existing. It was as if there was a dark shroud surrounding them, enveloping them. They could sense something was awry and a deep sense of disappointment was within them, not feeling complete. Yet, at the same time there was an experience of feeling incapable of doing anything. Ever again. A sense that there was no going back to where they had been before. I'm imagining it was a kind of lostness. So, slowing down and being able to hear the message that the trauma-self had received in this experience was I'm incapable. The importance of connection in that moment with me was to slow time down for them to actually feel felt in that moment. And, to recognize that there was a part of them that had been fractured and splintered yet was now ready to feel felt. This is a very initial step in integrating past trauma, to be met right there in the experience; feeling the sense of a shroud around you, the darkness and incapability with the starkness that there was absolutely nothing you could do to get back. Then to slow time down to deepen into naming a sense of befuddlement, of not knowing what might happen next. Then there was another part that emerged as well, that had a belief that it was the end of the earth, the end of time, and they would never figure it out. They would be lost forever in this sense of befuddlement. I want to take a pause right there, and acknowledge to be able to name that after all these years of having this inner experience; of this dark shroud, and never being able to get out, or get back to how they were before. To be able to name it is a huge step in healing trauma. To be able to name and acknowledge one's experience, to acknowledge those worst moments that they suffered in isolated aloneness. Or alarmed aloneness. We are not meant to be alone in these ways. As we were able to hold this, with gentleness and care, there was a new realization that came up; it was a stark disbelief, it was unthinkable that a child would experience that. All by themselves and hold it in and never name it. So, we sat with that too. Just to be with it, not to make it wrong, not to judge it, not to judge anyone, but to be with that experience that felt so enormous. It was enormous. Then, checking in with the body and noticing what is happening. It's so important to keep bringing our body into our conscious awareness. Noticing our sensations, noticing any impulses for movement, and then time traveling to this younger part. First getting consent, “Is it okay if we time-travel to you?” Once we receive consent to go there and sit beside her in this experience, until there is a deepening of the breath, a shifting of the energy and felt sense of self. We then ask, would they like to time-travel home? What would that look like and where would they be? This one had a memory of getting to float in beautiful blue tropical water. It was so gorgeous and so heavenly and so light. They wanted to float and be able to be wherever they desired. What a beautiful way to invite this part into a sense of warmth into a container of safety and beauty with accompaniment. These tender parts need exquisite gentleness with their accompaniment. No pressure. Just to be where they are is enough. If you'd like to travel with some accompaniment on a journey, I'd invite you to reach out to me at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on the journey with me today. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the power of somatic empathy and warm community? You can start my free course called the “Healing You Method Intensive” here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Metho

How do you deal with change? It can come in many different ways. Some of us, when change happens, especially if it's unexpected, we get angry about it. Because, we don't like change. We like things to stay on an even keel, we like the familiarity of things not changing at all. Some of us say that the older we get the harder change becomes because we are stuck in our ways. Well, that's pretty true for a lot of us, because it gets uncomfortable. And, we don't like to feel uncomfortable. Others of us, we might get startled, feel really uneasy. Uncertainty can come up for us because it's new territory to navigate and change means things are different. The need for predictability can come up. We get comfortable with familiarity. We think we already know things then; we don't have to learn them all over again. Maybe you get scared. It may come up in the form of feeling scared you won't succeed, or that you'll get it wrong. I know that people like me, we don't like to get it wrong. We want to know that we are going to get it right! Or we get worried that things are never going to feel easy again. Sometimes change can feel really drastic. It can feel like things go from black to white. Or maybe it went from black and white to wild color! Again, we are not clear on what the path is now. But, you know, the truth is that change is happening all the time. The problem is that we might not be noticing it. Change happens every moment of every day and we can notice it when we take the time to have eyes to see it. When we live with a sense of unawareness it can feel like change just sneaks up on us. This can happen in many different ways, for me most recently it happened by getting to have a new granddaughter. Because my daughter, who just had this baby, is the same age that I was when I first had a baby girl. That just seems like it was only a blink of an eye ago, and now I have a new granddaughter. This makes a lot of changes, changes that I did notice the first time becoming a mother of a daughter. Now there are new changes happening as I'm the mother of a daughter, who has a new daughter. One of the gifts that I'm receiving from these changes, is I'm noticing the patterns with more clarity and compassionate understanding. It is possible to begin to notice our reactions to changes and be able to be in response, to have choice. Rather than completing our original reaction, we can slow down and begin to respond from our heart energy. We can then even begin to welcome the unexpected and be comfortable with the unknown. How do you do this? Well, for me it's been by developing presence, and cultivating curiosity, which helps to grow my awareness. It's possible to learn to welcome our emotions and receive the information that they hold for us. They bring messages to us when we learn how to listen. If you'd like to join me, and get to explore this more fully, reach out to me at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on the journey with me today. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the power of somatic empathy and warm community? You can start my free course called the “Healing You Method Intensive” here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 101] #TheHealingYouMethod

Do you ever get busy? Do you ever get so busy that you push on, even when you are exhausted and really tired? Maybe you want to be really organized and planning things out. Wanting to make sure you have a good diet, that you are exercising to be healthy, and you are taking note of the things that you want to do. As well as, the things you don't want to do. So, you get really busy and there doesn't seem to ever be enough time. Maybe you are afraid you are wasting time, because you value the time you have, so you do your best to get as much done as possible. Then, there is a part of you that starts making “doing” wrong, because you also value being a very embodied presence, as “One” with the Universe. So, you start giving yourself a hard time and telling yourself that you are not doing things “good enough.” Or, giving yourself a bad time telling yourself that you don't have enough willpower or strength. This can come in many different forms, depending upon our life experience, but when we get so hard on ourselves and fall into a sense of “lack” it can feel pretty stretching to find our way out. I want to acknowledge though, that it is possible. It's possible to slow down and to uncover what the unconscious contracts are that are driving your behavior and running you ragged. That are pushing you one when you are just exhausted. It's like a compulsion, you are compelled to “do.” For some of this it might be a contract that sounds something like, “I will behave as commanded in order to survive.” This was just the way we were brought up, it's a way that seems to be in our very DNA. When we can take the time to go through a depth-process, that allows us to release that unconscious contract, it's possible to feel empowering freedom from the inside out. It's possible to access your birthright for joy in the present moment. For you to have full self-expression in the world. And, then, there is a sense of more lightness and even being more energized by touching into your own heart and unpacking what's never been unpacked before. When I experience this there is a clarity that comes from inside. Learning feels easy, engaging in conversation is a joy, and there is a gratitude that leads from my heart. For me this is when “doing” comes back into balance and is in service of “Being.” What I do comes from Being in my heart, “Being” embodied in Love. That is a balance, and then what we produce is productive. So, the practice that I invite you to consider is to notice when you push yourself; slow down and breathe. Connect with your heart to calm your mind. Allow yourself to learn how to translate whatever that compulsion was that was driving you, to slow down to translate that into the beauty of the need that is underneath it. If you'd like to join others in learning these skill sets, you can preview my course at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com it's the Healing You Journey, and I'd love to accompany you. Thanks for being on this journey with me today. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the power of somatic empathy and warm community? You can start the preview of my course called the “Healing You Method Intensive” here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 100] #TheHealingYouMethod

Have you ever come home at the end of a long day, walk into your kitchen and see that it's a mess? What's that like for you? I was working with a client the other day and this was an experience they had; walking into the kitchen and finding it a big mess. They experienced intense frustration and anger, their head felt like it was spinning and there was a clenching in their gut. The thoughts running through their mind were, “I just can't believe that I have to do this again? Why do I have to be the one that always cleans everything up?” The outcome was a sense of resentment, a burning deep inside. They felt they had no support and were all alone. Slowing it all down to uncover some of the shadow beliefs; “I am all alone. I can't trust myself. Life is a struggle. I'm not important. I don't matter.” They were feeling very powerless. Slowing down right there to receive some acknowledgment around what it's like to have that enormity rise up within them. Slowing down to be in the heart and ask, “What is ready for healing?” The astonishment is when we are open to receiving what is ready for healing, when they could welcome that, this one went back in time to when they were just a child. They were going for a long drive to go see their grandparents. Their family didn't have extra money to buy special things, but when they pulled over at the gas station their parents gave them some money to go in and buy a pop. This was a really big surprise! They went inside, bought a pop, came back out and gave the change to their dad. Their dad asked, “Where's the rest of the money?” They answered, “That's all they gave back.” To which the dad replied, “That's just too expensive, you take that back in there and get the money back.” The experience for this child was crushing, humiliating and shaming. They went from such excitement to such lowness and shame, to take that pop back in and get the money back. This experience had been buried pretty deep. Not having support. Life is a struggle. I don't matter. No wonder these beliefs were running within this person. To be able to have some consideration and care, just acknowledging the needs for thoughtfulness, no wonder they were falling into the sense of resentment and rage, wanting to punch things. They were taking these actions from unconscious programs within them from that traumatic experience to protect themselves from the internal pain of being disempowered. In order to never be disempowered again. Being supported to slow down and hear that contract inside and ask their Essential Self if they heard the contract, and then are they ready to release it. From there they can receive a blessing. To bless this child-self with strength, consistent wisdom, to be just, generous and calm. To be blessed to know they are important, that they are the One, they make a difference in the world. They are empowered. To sit with that and feel that, deep inside, to notice what that is like. The body had a very gentle relaxation release. Then there was a sense of clarity and empowerment that comes from that. The lesson here is to recognize when we have these really strong reactions in life, it's an opportunity to slow down and be with our inner experience, in order to have a new experience. One that supports us to stay open hearted rather than closing down. Resentment can be very powerful to diminish who we really are. When we have the courage to have the inner exploration and bring in the Light, we can be in relationship with others in that resonate field. That's where the healing unfurls. If you'd like to explore this with me, I invite you to reach out at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com click on the links there and we'll have a conversation. Thanks for being on this journey with me today. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the power of somatic empathy and warm community? You can start the preview of my course called the “Healing You Me

Have you ever wondered what happens after healing? I used to wonder that. When I felt really stuck in my life experiences, I read a lot of books. There are a lot of books out there about healing, about self-care and improvement. I have a lot of books on that subject. There are a lot of books around how to be a self-healer too, and how to heal your own trauma. I've done a lot of soul searching and I've tried a lot of different programs; read lots of different books, listened to recordings, attended webinars and many of these things helped, but didn't last in my life. There is always more healing to do. I became very attached to the illusion that if I could just dissolve the illusion, then I could heal. So, the problem was I felt like I was not fully healed, and I felt really stuck. Part of the process of my own self-discovery was feeling rather alienated from others and alone in my experience. I would wonder, “Am I always going to be like this?” Then, sometimes, I'd give up for a while. I'd get more disconnected from my friends, and family. I'd get in more arguments with them and I was just not comfortable in my body. I felt pretty lonely, because I didn't know how to talk about it. One of the things that I've realized is that possible to feel strong. It is possible to feel the healing and acknowledge the healing that I have. It's true, there are other places and pockets inside of my self that I can welcome home, and I can let that be okay. What's possible when you find your path, where possibilities begin to emerge, and you have the courage to step into them while staying in relationship with yourself, you discover you get to choose what is next in your life. That is kind of nice! Free to choose what is next in your life. You can draw closer in relationships with others; with your friends and with your family. You can stay interested and curious about them, even when you don't agree with them, or they don't agree with you. That can be okay, because you can stay in that place of connection. For me, it's heart-connection that allows that to be possible. In that, I first needed to recognize what were the beliefs that I was telling myself that was keeping me stuck? I realized I was telling myself that I couldn't figure it out. I was looking outside of me for the answers that are inside of me. Because, it is possible to be directed by Divine Guidance. To be empowered to ask for support and receive it, when you are open to receiving it rather than stuck in your mind about what it is supposed to look like, sound like, or be like. You can be open to the possibility of Being with Life. So, what are some skill sets that you need to develop there? Well, to quiet the mind; practicing some mindfulness meditations can be really supportive. Also, practicing noticing sensations in your body, noticing your breath. Just noticing your patterns with warmth and kindness. It's also helpful to have a spiritual mentor, or guide. Someone who has been on this path; who can recognize where you are at and meet you right there to support you on your next steps. I'm so grateful for the guides that I've had in my life; that have encouraged me to be who I really am. And, I encourage you to do the same, because we need you here in our world. If you would like to learn more, and receive support along the way, reach out to me at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on this journey with me today. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the power of somatic empathy and warm community? You can start the preview of my course called the “Healing You Method Intensive” here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 96] #TheHealingYouMethod

Have you ever gotten annoyed, irritated, or even indignant, when you are having a conversation with someone and they interrupt you and start to question what you are saying? It feels like they are questioning your judgment, and that they are not trusting you. Maybe you feel a little worried, and you notice a pattern that starts to run inside of you where you start to tell yourself, “I've done so much to prove my trust! They should know who I am and recognize my intention.” Yet, you feel defensive and inadequate at the same time. Maybe you tell yourself, “I'm just a disappointment.” The thing is, when we get indignant and start to defend ourselves, we are using the fuel of anger in a way that is self-sabotaging. When we take the time to be in our experience, it's possible to experience something different. When somebody starts to question your judgment, it's possible to respond with, “Wow, I feel a little surprise!” You recognize this person doesn't really get you. They don't have understanding. With that surprise you can have curiosity and interest. You can even become fascinated with this individual that is speaking to you the way they are. Because it feels incongruent, you can recognize that. You can recognize projections as they are coming toward you in the moment and know it's not about you at all. Because your mind set is, “I know me, and I'm grounded in my own values, and I speak up rather than staying quiet, or becoming quiet. You can stay engaged and lean into the conversation, because curiosity supports that to happen. The key here, and the skill set to practice, is noticing when that projection is coming your way, or when it feels incongruent (what's being said doesn't match with what is really true inside of you) push a ‘pause' button. Develop your capacity to slow it all down inside of yourself, and become comfortable in those pregnant pauses, and stay interested as well. The second step is to tap into your inner modalities; notice what you are telling yourself, notice your breathing and any sensations with how you feel. Start to connect the dots from the inside out. That will provide the clarity that you need as you tap into your Roots of Connection with Life. As we make this self-connection, we can recognize this is the first need; to stay in relationship with ourselves. When we can stay in relationship with ourselves, then we can love ourselves and remember who we are. That, right there, is what empowers us. It empowers our voice to be open and strong with conviction about how we feel and how we believe and what's important to us, and, no one has to agree with us. And, we don't have to agree with others, and we can still stay in conversation and be relational. There is enough room for all of us to have a voice. So, take the time today, if you are willing, to notice when something starts to come up that feels incongruent, or out of balance, and push the ‘pause' button. Take time to connect deep inside with your own heart and soul. Notice what that's like as you ground in your Roots of Connection. Developing these skill sets is so much easier when we are accompanied by others who are on that same path. If you would like to reach out to me and connect with myself and other heart-centered people, you can take those first steps on my website; www.HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on this journey with me today. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the power of somatic empathy and warm community? You can start the preview of my course called the “Healing You Method Intensive” here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 88] #TheHealingYouMethod

Some of us have had the experience when life doesn't feel like it's working, we either explode or collapse. We can have emotional outbursts, they just happen, they erupt. We have this anger that needs to be felt and expressed. What happens after this explosion is this felt sense of a neediness. We need to feel close to the person again, and if that doesn't happen the way we anticipate it, then we can collapse in a puddle of tears. This can look different for each of us, we are unique beings. Yet, there is this cascade of emotions that are like a roller coaster that we can go on, when life just doesn't seem to be working. What can happen when we are sitting in that collapsed state can be, “Dang, I don't even know who I am any more, especially in relationship with this other being. I thought we were in this together!” This might be some of the things we say to ourselves. Don't give up. You know, on this path in life, it is possible to feel the emotional roller coaster and have less intensity in response to the exchange between you and others you are in relationship with. It's possible to recognize the sensations and emotions as they are beginning to arise, to recognize them early on in your conversations. Instead of judging them and getting upset with them, you are able to meet them with warmth and compassionate understanding. Because you've taken the time to do this, you know who you are because you live rooted and grounded in your values, and they inform your next steps. So, it's totally possible to live life without exploding or collapsing, even when if seems as if life is not working for you. So, what's the difference between these two ways of experiencing life? It comes down to what is it that we are telling ourselves, or what is the underlying belief system that is operating? Rather than believing – “I'm just a really bad and angry person! Why can't I just keep my emotions under control? I'm just really trying to control everything.” We can develop the capacity to understand that our emotions make sense – “I'm learning to listen to the sensations and emotions to receive the messages that my body's wisdom holds for me.” A practice that I invite you to explore, if this is something you experience in your life, or if you know somebody who has, the practice is to notice when you are triggered and to slow down, right then. To pause, and take a breath, and recognize and begin to name what the sensations are in your body, and where in your body you are feeling something. For some of us it can take a while to begin to name sensations. After you notice where this is in your body, begin to tune in to what is the emotion here? Then, one thing I like to do is to rewind time, back to the moment right before I got triggered. Notice, as I make an observation about that moment; what was it that was missing? What was the need that was missing, or what was it that I value that I wasn't seeing was there? Name that out loud, and when you do that, check back in with your body and notice what's different. If you'd like to experience more around what's possible, reach out to me at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on this journey with me today. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the power of somatic empathy and warm community? You can start the preview of my course called the “Healing You Method Intensive” here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 86] #TheHealingYouMethod

Have you ever thought life seems impossible? Maybe you've been in a situation and you feel expected to conform to the world? To the pattern the world has laid out right in front of you. And, it just feels impossible. There are so many layers of impossibility that it staggers the mind. When you slow down to be in your experience, does it feel like there is a watery abyss that is deep inside? I want to note that the element of water represents emotions. So, when things feel really impossible, it's most likely, because we are not allowing ourselves to abide in whatever emotional flavor is happening for us in the moment. When we can begin to slow down and notice our pattern; our thoughts that feel impossible. When we can be with that and feel what it's like in our being; to be with that without judgement, but simply acknowledging what it feels like to be you. Right now. Breathe into that, breathe into your heart-space. When we are empowered to do that it is possible not to buy into the story that's running us in the moment. To acknowledge, yes, it does feel impossible; it feels stretching, and I'm at my edges. I would really like some ease, and support, clarity and understanding. Just naming those, the beauty of those, what it's like to experience that, begins to allow that journey of the emotional abyss to be held by Spirit, by the energy of that which holds us all. We get to begin that transformational journey where it's through being with the inner experience that we notice it begins to shift and change. We can come back to that original trigger we had and notice; when it seems impossible, now what happens in my body? Oh, there's a deeper breath right now, it's not so tight in my chest. Just being with. That invitation is so simple, and so sweet. The opportunity is it is possible to be with our life experience, even when it feels impossible, by slowing it down and allowing that transformation to begin to germinate from deep within us, by the light of Spirit. We begin to have a closer look; we begin to see what is reflecting back to us. We can see our own heart. One of the things I want to share is that when we can acknowledge right where we are, really honestly, and ground ourselves in our Roots of Connection getting self-connected, then it opens us up expansively. Research shows that we can then see wider, we can hear more clearly, we can sense, smell, taste, everything just opens up inside, when we take the time to come back inside for self-connection. That empowers us. Be empowered to take authentic action that is in alignment with your values. What's most important? What are the essential few things that are most important? When you take time to be with and in your experience, it allows something new to emerge. If this resonates with you check out the preview of my 6-week Intensive at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com There are 5 videos you can watch and fill out the application on the last page to have a conversation with me. I'd love to get to journey with you. Thanks for being on this journey with me today. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the power of somatic empathy and warm community? You can start the preview of my course called the “Healing You Method Intensive” here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 84] #TheHealingYouMethod

Today I needed to come out and have some time with my herd and be in the sunshine and just “Be” for a while. When I'm with the herd it helps me to come back into my center. Have you even noticed how some days can feel so easy and things flow, and other days things can come up and take you by surprise? When life blows in a strong wind it can feel quite turbulent, so when I feel the waves of emotion come up, especially when they come up unexpectedly, I like to welcome them as best I can. I find I can welcome them with much more ease when I have accompaniment. When I'm in nature and with my herd there is a reciprocal exchange that takes place. We help one another and balance is restored within us, they are showing me that is what we humans can do at this time in our world. We can take time for self-care, to be with our experience with life, and that can empower us to be with others. We can be empowered to stay present with whatever their experience may be. Even in times of turbulent winds. When we take the time to allow ourselves to be with what is, it is a powerful practice. Taking the time to connect with Life; with the earth, with the sky, and with the solar energy of the sun, we can drop into our sensations and receive the frequencies of support that ground us and center us back in our heart. Take the time. Be empowered. Thanks for being on this journey with me today. Healing You. ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 81] #TheHealingYouMethod www.HealingYouSanctuary.com

I'm curious, what does your new normal look like? I'm especially curious about those of you who are in positions of leadership in your world. Some of us, in those positions, hold a lot of responsibility, even more so now. One person described it as navigating through the jungle of leadership. In some pockets of our world there is desperation and hard choices to make. When we have the capacity developed within us to hold the whole global picture and still be able to do the micro scission surgery of paying attention to the little details that can make such an impact on so many lives. That's a gift. It's not a gift that all of us have. I want to acknowledge that it's a gift that some of us have and I'm so grateful for your leadership in the world. You inspire me. At the same time as you are out there navigating this jungle of leadership in our world today, especially on the medical forefront where there is such a pandemic going on with this virus. It's like you are out there in this wilderness and you have this huge 100 lb. pack on your back and each pound represents one thing that you are paying attention to and holding with care. It could be an employee, or it could be all these masks that are needed or the ventilators. There are so many different items and pieces to track with care. To know how to get grants and resources and then provide those resources to the people who need those resources. You are so resourceful and are working with so much dedication you are on fire you are so lit up. Because you are passionate about helping the world, especially those you are in closest proximity to. And, because we need to be practicing physical distancing you are still reaching out socially hosting video calls, meeting with teams of people to support them, to inspire them and to empower them to be the difference in the world that each of us needs. Some of us in these positions, we are home alone! We need to meet our basic needs; prepare our food, take time to eat, clean our house, attend to hygiene, do our laundry. We need to find a way to have balance. We are so busy attending to all of these things, and attending meetings that are very, very important, we can get swept up in the intensity of it. Even though we are taking care of our basic needs, I'm wondering at the end of the day, do you feel drained? Exhausted? Or feel a sense of depletion or a desperation of loneliness? I'm wondering, are there places in your world where people are catching you? Catching your heart and hearing you with their heart? Are there places where your inner experience of what it's like to be you is being caught with compassion and care? Taking time to pause with you, to let you sink into your very being, so your body can start to come back to relaxation to rest and digest. To process all of the emotions that the container that you hold is filled with. Do you have a place where you can dare to be vulnerable to speak your truth, and others are there that can understand you and feel what you feel with you? So you can have accompaniment and feel felt and get gotten? They can reflect back with accuracy and precision while reflecting back the complexity that you hold and express their gratitude for you having built this capacity. Especially now. Well, if you are needing a place where you can be met with precision and warmth, the next small groups will be starting up at Healing You in the next few weeks. You can sign up by filling out the application on the last page of the preview of the course the Healing You Intensive on my website www.HealingYouSanctuary.com I would love to welcome you. Thank you so much for being the leader that you were created to be, for all of us. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the power of somatic empathy and warm community? You can start my free course called the “Healing You Method Intensive” here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 78]

What's it been like for you these last few weeks with all the changes taking place in our world? Some of us are experiencing a loss of our sense of freedom. Others, even though there are restrictions placed upon them, they live in a place that allows them to experience more freedom of movement. Maybe you have new learning curves because you need to work from home, if you still have a job. If you don't have a job, then you are learning how to be at home without your normal routine. There are new learning curves for all of us in many different ways. Maybe you are finding that there is not enough support when you need it. It could be as simple as something went wrong with your computer and you're at home without an IT person to help you, and you have to sort it out on your own. Or maybe you have a partner at work who got scared, locked themselves down at home and refuse to help at all, out of fear. Maybe it feels like there is a lot of weight on your shoulders being responsible for your employees making a living and providing for their families. You are doing your best to make it work, and your getting stressed. Stress can affect out system in so many different ways. Some of us might break out with a rash, or hives, our body is literally saying this is too much! Others of us turn to coping mechanisms that are not best for our health and wellbeing. We can become compulsive, attempting to soothe our system. Well, when we take the time to slow our experience down, to get out of our head and into our body, into our heart space, we begin to experience Presence. We expand our capacity to stay present even in the face of stress. Through that experience and being accompanied to get to know our own body's wisdom, receiving energetic support, we are empowered to make requests. To invite others to contribute to our lives. We can then empower others to step into being the leader they were created to be, and we can grow those ripples of support in our world. Watch the video to learn a practice you can experiment with… ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the power of somatic empathy and warm community? You can start my free course called the “Healing You Method Intensive” here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 76] #TheHealingYouMethod

Today I was remembering when I was a little kid. When I was a little kid, I wanted to be a big kid. Did you ever have that experience? One day my mom took us all swimming, it was a big indoor pool, and I could see all the big kids down at the deep end, swimming all around and having so much fun. While I was just a little kid at the little end. I thought, “I want to be a big kid.” I was quite creative and courageous. I started bouncing. Maybe you've tried something like this, where you bounce going down into the water to push off against the bottom with your feet to pop out of the water to get a big breath of air before you go down again! Each time I bounced I would move forward a little bit more. Down, up, and down, and up. I was determined to find a way to get to that deep end to be with the big kids. What I ended up getting, was a lifeguard's attention. That lifeguard watched me super close, they wanted to make sure that I was going to be safe. They tuned in to me, watching to be sure I came up for my next breath. Then they came and had a conversation with me on the side, encouraging me to practice a few skillsets, so I could learn how to swim in the deep end and stay safe and secure. I think this memory is a lot like what it is to heal from trauma. When we begin to heal from trauma and come up to break through to get a new breath of air, we get a glimpse of what's possible. We haven't developed our capacity strengthened enough and we feel as if we are getting sunk down, underneath the water, and maybe that water feels like it is stagnant and painful. When we go down the water is covering us. Some of my clients say that it feels as if there are rocks that are holding them down under the water. That sparked my memory of what it was like when I was a kid and I could enjoy the water. When we have somebody that comes alongside us, that has the skillsets needed, they can accompany us even when we go under the water and feel like there are rocks that are holding us down. They can leverage through their experience, attuning and resonating with us, and start to life those rocks and peek to see what's hiding underneath them. What is it that is holding us down? Even just a little shift of one of those boulders or one of those pebbles, whatever size it may be, there is a felt-sense experience that's felt from the inside out that signals that healing is possible. So, if you ever feel like you have been weighed down, deep in the water, and you're needing somehow to be able to push up through that water and be empowered to get a new breath of air, reach out. Check out the Healing You Method Intensive, because that's the path I have found that helped me discover not only can I swim, but I can float. Maybe I want to take a deep dive to the very depths of the ocean where it's calm. It's a different kind of world. We don't need to be ruled by fear or old patterns that don't serve us any longer. I'll toss you out a lifeline, a buoy, and you can learn to float, get some new flippers, develop some new skillsets and start to embody some new ways of being in this world. Some thoughts that can serve your life. What's really quite lovely is when you are able to consistently practice this way of being, with resonance and reflection consistently, you build bridges of trust from your heart to the hearts of others. Those ripples go out deeper and wider creating expansion in our world. So, check out the preview of the Healing You Intensive at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com I look forward to welcoming YOU! ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 75] #TheHealingYouMethod

Today I was thinking about those times in my life when I have just wanted to be griping about something. Or I'm moaning and I'm complaining. I notice what that's like for me, inside of my system, inside of my thought life, when I'm doing that. What are the behaviors that show up when I'm in that mood? Because I also notice, when I'm observing others and they are wanting to grip about things happening in their life; they are not happy, they are moaning and complaining, I know what that is like for me! Sometimes I might guess, “Do you need a little shared reality around what it's like when people go there? That is like this wild horse got loose and it's galloping around through the space and no one is even acknowledging it? Or, is it as if you are in this room and a big elephant came in and plopped right down in the center and everyone is pretending it's not there? But it's so obvious that it's there.” That's the way it can feel sometimes when trauma shows up in our behavior, in our thoughts, in our life. It's like this whole different experience comes into the room or into the space, and nobody is talking about it. Nobody is naming it. Yet, everyone can feel that something is amiss. We might get really uncomfortable, and squirm around, we might withdraw and be like, “okay, it's time for me to go now.” Or, maybe we'll start criticizing, we start telling people, “This is what you should do instead.” Maybe we will one-up them and tell them, “Well, this is what happened to me…” Or maybe we just try to avoid, pretend nobody is speaking, just dismiss them. Or just disagree, make them wrong. There are so many different ways, when something feels uncomfortable, or there is something happening and nobody wants to name it, that behavior can become complex and even more interesting. So right here there is a key that I have discovered in my life, is when I notice that about myself or others; when I can invite in my curiosity glasses, or my curiosity lenses, nobody can see you have them on. Except, your behavior is going to change. You might have a little more forward posture, more interest and leaning in just slightly. Interested to engage and learn to see underneath the behavior or see past those words. To be empowered to understand and sense into what is underneath that which is needing to be named. Or, needing to be recognized and not made wrong, but to be understood with compassion. Because all behavior is communication, do you understand the language? Most of us are not taught that. It's possible to learn that language of life that allows you to connect with others. Or, to translate, whatever that behavior or thoughts are, into what is life serving and allows there to be a heart connection between one another reciprocally. What would you like to be able to experience differently in your life when you hear the grumpiness coming? Or you sense the griping is going to start up. What is it that is so annoying to you in that way and how can you start to invite in some curiosity? To be empowered to stay relational rather than judgmental. Because, you know, we can only change our own thoughts and behaviors when we become consciously aware of them. When we do become consciously aware of our own thoughts and behaviors and slow it all down and begin to notice our sensations and emotions to discover our sacred values, we discover there is a whole new paradigm it's possible to live in. Do you need some companionship on your journey there? I invite you to reach out to me at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com I look forward to meeting you. Thanks for being on this journey with me today. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the power of somatic empathy and warm community? You can start my free course called the “Healing You Method Intensive” here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 72] #TheHealingYouMethod

This last week I've gotten to go on many journeys with many beautiful and sensitive souls. What is standing out to me is on our healing journey as we begin to break through our unconsciousness, to live our life firmly rooted and grounded in our heart-space in self-connection with self-compassion, it can allow new aspects of our journey to arise. Sometimes that can feel uncomfortable as well as unexpected. When we do the precision work, the tender work, of releasing unconscious contracts with time-travel empathy it's a whole new world. Because we had a contract, we didn't realize we had which was running our behavior, so when we release it, we get to live a whole new life. Then we get to notice what it's like as we live this life. Listen to hear how it was for one person who had struggled with a sense of unworthiness to move through the process of coming alive in a brand-new way. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the power of somatic empathy and warm community? You can start my free course called the “Healing You Method Intensive” here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 79] #TheHealingYouMethod

There has been a lot of talk about the pandemic here, and there is a lot of anxiety that is coursing through our world. It's really pervasive. Everything is closing down, everything is changing, and patterns aren't the same. That fear that can be sparked, can be contagious. People getting worried about catching it. Whether it is catching the virus or catching the fear, it's about getting caught and having no way out. This increases so much more stress in our body's system and that reduces our immune system. I also want to acknowledge that I have witnessed so many beautiful posts, emails, so many hearts are opening up and there is a deeper self-connection happening. As we are able to connection in this way, from our hearts, we are inspired to reach out to others. To reach out a helping hand in any way that we are empowered to. We are learning that it is possible to, even now, slow down and enjoy life. Maybe connecting with the arts; painting, coloring, or neural art (I recommend Olga Nguyen's classes.) You could take time to be in nature; take a walk in the woods, be with your pet, spend time with your family and reach out to others by making phone calls and send texts or emails. Write a letter or send someone a card! There are so many ways that we can be with life. My favorite way is to slow down and dwell within my heart. By dropping into my heart space and feeling my inner sensations in my belly, my chest, my throat and my face I get in touch with all the different areas where my Vagus Nerve connects. That's our social engagement system, and it is strengthened in this way. Tune in to Life, tune in to BE with Life, breathe deep and bring that oxygen in, it supports every cell of your being. Begin to relax into trusting That Which Holds Us All. Savor your relationships, it begins with yourself, being kind, warm and relational. This way of being soothes that inner fear, that anxiety. It allows you to live in the present moment, so treasure each moment, moment by moment. If you are in need for community, and looking for a place where you will be welcomed as you are, reach out to me at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com where you can sign up for a free consultation and we can tune in and you will get to have accompaniment. I look forward to hearing from you. Thanks for being on this journey with me today. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the power of somatic empathy and warm community? You can start my free course called the “Healing You Method Intensive” here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 70] #TheHealingYouMethod

Have you ever found yourself in the position of needing to get some support? Simply needing some help. Maybe you fell and were injured and later you recognized that you were hurt more than you realized. You can feel vulnerable, especially depending on what your life experience has been, feeling vulnerable may not feel safe. Maybe you've had to work out life on your own. As a kid you had to learn the hard way, by yourself, because there wasn't anyone to ask. Maybe when you asked you were shut down, or shamed. Some of us have had the experience that when we ask for help, or guidance, we get dismissed or scolded. Told that we should have been listening. Or, we should have done what someone else told us to do. If we made a mistake and ask for help, we are belittled or put down. Through that experience we learn, ‘Don't ask, just figure it out, somehow, on your own.' Another experience we could have in light of that is believing that something is wrong with us. That we are a misfit and there is not a place for us in the world, so we work extra hard to be productive. To prove we are worthy of acceptance and inclusion. We want to belong. That is one of the most heartfelt needs that we have as a human, is to belong in community. Well, it's possible to trust that you really are worthy of inclusion and belonging. It is safe to reach out and ask to receive support when you need it. We all need a helping hand now and then. Being able to build that bridge of trust from the inside out, and to trust your own inner knowing, when we can wake up at that level in our heart space, we can then be empowered to set authentic limits in conversations with others when they don't get us. When they shift left and are not relational with us any longer. We can have self-compassion for our experience. We can have self-acceptance as we are that supports us to continue to pay that forward to others in our lives. So, what might that look like? For me, I slow it way down, I want to get heart-centered and drop down into my body's wisdom by tuning into the sensations and noticing what it's like in the moment. Noticing where my breath is and allowing my sensations to inform me what the emotion is that is arising. When shame comes up, and I'm thinking there is something wrong with me, I want to be really gentle with myself. Sometimes we can use cards, there are a lot of different feelings and needs cards that you can find online but having something to help you to have a language to describe what you are feeling can be really supportive. Then I want to slow it down even further to acknowledge the deeper needs that are alive underneath those emotions. Because the beauty of the need is where, when we can rest there, then things come back into congruence. Then the energy is productive, even if it was feeling uncomfortable, it will become productive. If this resonates with you, I invite you to check out my website, there is a resource on there when you sign up for my newsletter, you receive a gift, a communication guideline. I'd love for you to have that, it's a nice first step to begin to practice the way to find your way to self-acceptance; through self-connection with compassion. Our next small group is going to be starting up in a few weeks. If you are the kind of person that enjoys being in a small group with heart-centered others, this will be a good fit for you. You can check it out on my website www.HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on the journey with me today. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the power of somatic empathy and warm community? You can start my free course called the “Healing You Method Intensive” here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 66] #TheHealingYouMethod

Today I've been spending some time thinking about how some of us might have the experience of being worried whether or not we matter. Maybe we've been close to other people in our lives and they go away for awhile and we lose that connection that we've grown to count on. Then, when they start to come back, there's an irritation that comes up inside. You just get angry; you've missed them really bad and now they are coming back and you are worried. You are worried that since they've been gone so long they are going to be tired, or maybe their schedule will fill up and there won't be enough time for you. Even thinking there's going to be time for others, but there won't be time for me. Maybe it's that you believe you don't matter enough. If you could just matter enough, then there would be time for you. When this kind of a spiraling loop starts happening within us, that is unconscious, we can hear inner voices that get more and more dismal. They may get loud inside and drown out anything around us for connection to happen. They may scream some things that aren't very nice at you, i.e. “That person's not really your friend. You're just not going to see that person again.” The shadows can feel so dark in the moment and start to multiply and your whole body can hurt. The mindset can be “I just don't matter, and this is just too hard!” Maybe you find yourself holding your breath just to get through the day. When we've been doing this work to reclaim our sense of self, and to retrieve those splinters of ourselves back into the wholeness that we are, maybe there is a new whisper that comes up. One that is doing it's best to be compassionate, yet it's slightly off. It wants to say things like, “Well, that's not true. That person is your friend. You are going to see them again. You are not being very kind.” That's a transition from the first voice that's quite adamant that no one's your friend and that you don't matter, you won't see these people again and that you are just all alone. Yet, I want to bring in another voice. It's possible to develop a compassionate sense of self that can hear all these different kinds of voices that come up from our ‘ever-present-past'. They can be kind and they can be gentle as they make empathy guesses. “Are you really scared that it's going to be different than you remember? And you really like predictability and ease in connection? Especially with those you love and care for, that you've learned you can count on? Are you needing to know you can count on these relationships and you can grow a bridge of trust from the inside out? So that it's always here with you, coming out from your heart. Maybe you are needing acknowledgement what it feels like in your body when it hurts so much that you are holding your breath to get through the day! Do you need some accompaniment right there, in the pain, to know through your experience that you are not alone after all? Because you matter so much! Slowing it all down, slowing time down to be right where you are. Are you feeling sad, worried, and lonely? No wonder you feel angry! That's so much to be holding all by yourself. No wonder you disconnect inside. Are you needing connections to be secure, reliable, and consistent? Does it feel so heavenly to feel your body relax and your breathing deepen down into your belly? For your throat to open and experience a little freedom to be who you really are? I feel my body soften and relax with all of those guesses. To have the experience that you do make sense and you do matter. To have it be possible to stay present and self-connected, grounded to your Source energy and resource your body's wisdom. Which empowers you to honestly express your truth about your experience and to have companionship on this journey of your life. That is possible. If this resonates with you, I invite you to reach out to me on my website www.HealingYouSanctuary.com there is a free course there where you can step into a little

Have you ever been part of a group where you had the experience that you were on the outside looking in? Maybe just an observer? Maybe it was difficult, or you didn't speak up because you didn't know how to engage in the group. Or maybe your experience is where it's easy to talk. When you are in a group you can always think of something to say. You can engage with ease, and yet, at the same time, you feel like you are on the outside, that you don't belong, and you don't fit in. This is the experience of a group that I've been working with, that they were exploring the other day. For example, I have a hand, and I have two sides to this hand. So there are two sides to having the experience of having a hand. This is an analogy for what it's like to be in a group. One side of the hand is scared to speak up. Maybe it doesn't know how, and as they begin to learn how, by exploring the process of self-compassion, and slowing time down to be in your experience to notice the nuances of that experience, They are discovering that when they have accompaniment with them, that it empowers them to have the courage to speak up. On the flip side, those of us who don't have a problem speaking up, having a conversation, broadcasting whatever we are thinking about. For them to still have the experience that they don't belong, or they don't fit in to the group dynamics, is the same thing. Just a slightly different aspect of the same thing. Yet, when they also have that accompaniment, and they are empowered to slow down, the recognition for both sides of the hand is; when we take time to slow down for self-compassion, by resourcing from our heart, our body, our soul, then we are empowered to have an authentic voice. The authentic voice is the one that speaks from truth. It speaks from our heart of hearts and is grounded and rooted in our sacred values. To me it's such a beautiful experience to witness these connections being made in community. We all have both sides of the hand, and though they can feel, or the perception of what we tell ourselves about our experience is different, the beautiful needs are the same. That need for a sense of belonging and inclusion, mattering and being able to fit it. For fitting in to feel “just right”. That is important for all of us to experience. If you are interested in getting to participate in a group like that, I invite you to check out my free course. There is a preview of what the course is all about, there are five videos and on the last page there is an application if you are ready to take those next steps to develop your capacity to stay self-connected with self-compassion. And to experience the inclusion and belonging and fitting in with warm community. You can find this at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com Thanks for being on this journey with me today. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the power of somatic empathy and warm community? You can start my free course called the “Healing You Method Intensive” here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 61] #TheHealingYouMethod

Introducing Life-Coach Jackie Hibbard! Today I'm excited to introduce you to my longtime friend and colleague, Jackie Hibbard. Jackie is the owner of Dancing Spirit Equine Facilitated Learning and Coaching, LLC. In her practice, she offers personal and spiritual growth opportunities in partnership with her horses for people wanting to deepen their self-awareness and expand into their most authentic self and state of being. Listen to learn more... Reach out to Jackie at www.DancingSpiritHorse.com or by calling (720) 320-7237 Thanks for being on this journey with me today. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the power of somatic empathy and warm community? You can start my free course called the “Healing You Method Intensive” here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 60] #TheHealingYouMethod

Have you ever felt really inspired by an idea or felt called to speak up about something in community, or in the world? Just when you are about ready to speak up or step out, fear or doubt comes in and starts to have this conversation in the background of your mind. It might sound something like, “What if someone gets upset by what I say?” or it could be, “What if somebody comes right out and disagrees with me? That would be really uncomfortable.” Or maybe it's a pattern you have in your life, you've just always looked outside of yourself for the answers, so you need permission to speak up. Permission from outside of you. This is a familiar path that I've taken, more than once in my life. At different stages and different ages, it shows up slightly differently. Yet, the pattern really is not really knowing your own truth. Not really having the conviction deep inside that gives you solid ground to stand on. Regardless of what somebody else may think, or do, or say. What inspires that kind of conviction inside of you? When I first started to get some solid ground for myself, with conviction, through my children. As they were growing up and they were developing and evolving into who they were going to be in this world, I was proud of them. I love them, and I want to empower them and be the wind beneath their wings. When they were getting older and started to run into some conflicts, having stretching and growing pains, I discovered that I had a different kind of metal inside of me. It's from my heart, I was a momma bear. I would be right there for them as an advocate for them. At one point in my life I thought, “Well, wait a minute. What do I want to model for my children about myself? Am I willing to speak up? Am I willing to have a voice that might be different from anyone else's voice and let that be okay? Can I speak with passion, purpose, courage and tenacity? Can I do this consistently? Yes, I can, I am doing this thing. I am living my life on purpose and I'm following the light from inside, because that's what I've discovered in my life's journey. That is where my answers lie, it's not outside of me, it's not getting permission from any other human being. It's from knowing in my heart and soul why I'm here and what I'm about. It's about being empowered by spirit for me. If somebody comes along and they don't agree with me, which you know has happened more than once, then I can stay engaged in a conversation. I can stay curious and interested. I don't need to make myself wrong and I don't need to make someone else wrong just because we don't see eye to eye. I can appreciate our differences. What I did, on this journey, was I took the time to unpack the question, “Why don't I stand up for me? Why doesn't someone have my back for that?” I did some inner-child work, I got some really deep support to time-travel back and recognize my younger self. The part of me that was never accompanied in that way. When I wasn't accompanied in that way I didn't know how to do that for myself. So going back and taking the time to allow the process to inform me, to find this lost part, to allow my soul to experience a retrieval. It's really sacred work. The, taking the time for self-care, to nurture this new aspect of myself, so I'm able to grow fully and completely and confidently. Just like my kids get to! I think I'll be growing for the rest of my life. I'm quite confident of that, and I'm looking forward to this journey. How about you? How's your journey going? Are you able to slow down and accompany yourself? Or do you have support in your life to accompany you? If you'd like to join with community, that's heart-centered, you can check out a free course I have on my website at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com I'm really passionate about drawing people together that are like-minded and heart-centered to be more light in this world. Thanks for being on this journey with me today. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step int

Today I was thinking about the time in my life when everything felt really intense. I felt so much sensitivity to my environment. I would be told things like, “You are just way too sensitive, you need to chill out a bit.” Or, “Man, you are deep.” (like it was a bad thing) Or I was told, “Why do you work so hard? Why don't you just relax and enjoy life?” Those kinds of comments were bewildering to me. They didn't resonate with my felt experience. What I want to reach out to all of you, if you resonate with this experience, is to acknowledge what is really possible when you have that level of sensitivity in your spirit. It's a gift. It's possible to develop the capacity to stay present in each moment of your life, to the best of your ability. When you do that you are able to live life with an open heart. You recognize that your sensitivities are gifts, you are born with special gifts, that allow you to take in life in a radically different way. Rather than being just a 5-sensory being, you are gifted to be a multi-sensory being. You absorb energy in a different way, the energy and information flow that surrounds all of life. You are able to enjoy stepping into those deep and meaningful conversations with other heart-centered people. And, that is very satisfying. You are able to grow those heart-connections with ease as you foster and nurture them, and you are nurtured by them as you grow community that gets you. You love the opportunity to hold the sacred space for other beings, you recognize that it's an honor that brings such joy to your heart and soul. The mindset that is being nurtured within you is that you revere life. There is a sweetness to it as you foster heart-connections with everyone you meet. You can see that each person has a unique soul and gift that they bring to the world. So how do you get from that place of believing you are just too sensitive, too deep, and why don't you learn how to chill and relax? To being empowered to live life large and on purpose and thriving in each of those moments of heart connections. The skillset that is so helpful to develop this way of being in the world, is to develop your emotional awareness. Not just through your mind, it's not just reading about it, it's about having a practice that you embody deep within you. Recognize that those sensitivities that you were born with are your birthright. They will support you as you are able to practice consistently with an empathy buddy noticing your sensations, noticing what emotion those sensations represent. Expand your window of welcome for all the different frequencies that life has to offer you. Life is like a school, and in the school of life you can learn something each day from the inside out. If this resonates with you, then I encourage you to find somebody has the skill sets to practice with you, to nurture you and to foster you. Practice journaling about your experiences and noticing each day what life is teaching you and savor it. If this is something that lights you up like it does me, then I invite you to join me and other heart-centered people, on a journey. It's called the Healing You Journey and you can begin with the free course on my website, www.HealingYouSanctuary.com when you get to the last page there is an application you can fill out and it will come directly to me and we can schedule a chat. I look forward to the journey with you! Healing You. ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 51] #TheHealingYouMethod

As the year is coming to a close, I find it a good time to reflect back over the last year, and even back over my life. To recognize where I am on this journey of my life. I was thinking back to earlier on in my journey, where I found myself in a karmic loop. Where life just didn't seem to make sense. It wasn't unfolding in the way I believed it was going to. I was having tough time understanding what I might do differently. I would fall into the place of feeling hopeless, blah, and all alone on my journey. I was lonely and really needing community, others that would get me and feel what I would feel. I felt very overwhelmed by all of the perceived pressures in my surroundings, wondering why life was happening the way it was. It just didn't make sense. Well, that was in my 20's and 30's, and as I continued on my journey, I found on my path some bridges; other souls that could meet me right where I was. They helped to collaboratively create a bridge over this chasm of life not making sense to new possibilities. It wasn't always easy, life is a journey, and that was part of my discovery. To recognize that my life is an ongoing journey. There will always be something new that I can learn, when I willing to be open to that learning. Instead of wanting life to be different than it is. I began to have a wider vision and I could begin to see things I couldn't see before. I could see details that were now being illuminated that seemed to be in the dark before. I began to trust that it's possible to live my life from my heart, with what I value leading my way. It's also possible that I can share that, I can share my truth with others that open and receptive to hearing and would like to journey along with me. So, I grow a community with others where we share values and a way of being in this world. We are supportive in this community; we are warm and caring and compassionate. We are able to identify the different cultural conditioning that can permeate our schools, our homes and our workplaces. We can have compassionate understanding around those perceptions, without buying into them. So, how do we do this? How do we traverse that chasm where we need that bridge to be built? Well, we can recognize that we are complex beings. Actually, spiritual beings having a human experience. We can have the mindset that recognizes that when I take the time to slow down, I'm mindfully laying down new neural pathways within my being that I make sense. I make sense, the world makes sense, and even those that don't share my point of view make sense. And passion and purpose inspire everything I do. It inspires my next breath. I would like to invite you, if you resonate with my life's journey, sharing where I've been and where I'm going, to begin to recognize your own patterns inside of you. When recognizing those patterns, part of it is listening to how you talk to yourself. Listening to your own inner chatter that can loop around, even noticing the way you talk when you are speaking with others. Notice your choice of words, without judgement, simply noticing what it is you are creating with your words, with your language. When you notice what you are saying, silently or verbally, notice what's happening in your body. Begin to develop a language of sensation. As you notice your sensations, name them out loud and notice what happens inside. If you are willing to do that, then also take the time to write it out. Journal it, track it. It can be a mindfulness practice that you begin each day with. Journaling down your patterns, journaling your inner talk, and journaling your sensations and naming it. Notice what that is like for you. What are the needs you are meeting when you do this? What are you creating? What pathways are you laying down? If this feels like it's in alignment with your values, then I invite you to journey with me. Take that next step and go to my website at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com and click on the free course to get

The Journey to Wholeness Webinar Series Purchase the Whole Year or Each Webinar Individually – Your Choice - You can always listen to the recordings and view the videos at your own pace afterwards! Begins on Monday, January 20, 2020 at 2pm Pacific time. This is an opportunity to Re-New your Sense of Self • With clarity, compassionate understanding, and warm accompaniment. • Join me for a year of exploration and discovery around what it means to be a spiritual being having a human experience. • We will explore in depth, Philip Shepherd's model of human consciousness, which is a “sacred marriage.” • The stories that our cultures have communicated, describe the nature of reality for us and mold our behaviors and belief systems. • My intention for this series is to support you to reflect on your own life experience in such a way that you are freed to feel the unbroken wholeness of the world to which we belong. • By opening up our consciousness to that of our bodies, we can awaken our full intelligence and come home to our wholeness. • Then, we are empowered with new ways of thinking, acting, and being in the world. January 20, 2020 – Unpacking the Elements of Myth Webinar Joseph Campbell, in his book The Hero with a Thousand Faces, describes how the ageless myths are playing themselves out among us here and now. In this month's webinar we will explore: • What Story Creates Your Reality? • what myths tell us about the elements of our own humanity • Answering the “call to adventure” the monomyth being told over and over • What are the basic elements of that story? • Two Primary Themes of Myth • two elements of the self – doing and being • Matrifocal & Patrifocal cultures • Willful doing & the living guidance of ‘what is'. • The fiction of meaning • The ‘known self' and endarkenment • True self knowledge • What is our birthright? We'll end with a practice which supports our journey to wholeness and a round of Q & A and what stands out to you or acknowledgement of what resonates with you. If you have questions, please PM me or reach out to me on my website at www.HealingYouSanctuary.com I look forward to journeying with you!

I was watching some of these videos that I've made, and I caught myself pausing… just like that. Only when I saw it, I wasn't very nice to myself. I felt some embarrassment, and I realized underneath that embarrassment there was a fear of being judged by my viewers. So, I unpacked that a little bit more and recognized how I sabotage myself, I was judging myself thinking I look dumb, or that I was dumb. As I slowed down to be with that part of me, that really did believe I was dumb, I was the youngest of 4 kids and to my older siblings I seemed pretty simple. That's pretty normal for kids. When I could hear that voice was still coming around inside, pretty subtly, I could be grateful that I could notice it. That I could actually hear it and hear what the need is underneath that. The need for self-acceptance. When I am able to accept myself with grace and give myself the freedom to show up how I show up. It means I let myself pause when I pause, because that's part of being who I am. It brings me full circle to why I even am making these videos. I'm making these videos because I want to create more resources in our world. I want to be able to reach the people that resonate with my way of being to grow community. Community of support and trust and resilience. To create a place where how ever you show up you are welcome, and you matter. To create places where we can pause when we need to pause. We get to show up authentically, transparently, we get to be real. We get to be who we are, who we were created to be. We get to let go of all of the shadows of who we are not. This journey for me a large part of it has been the journey home to myself. To know myself. To appreciate myself. To value myself, and to have the freedom to be myself. So, I went back in my mind to the video and I watched it again. This time I had eyes that were filled with acceptance and grace. As I watched the video I had made, I noticed that I paused. I tuned in with grace and acknowledged the depth of meaning making that was happening for me in that moment as I was transparently and honestly expressing from my heart. My heart then expands with warmth and acceptance. I'm so grateful that I am free to be myself. When we need acceptance, we need it to begin within ourself, and then that acceptance grows. So where in your life are you needing acceptance? What might it look like for you to slow down and recognize yourself with grace? Thanks for being on this journey with me. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the power of somatic empathy and warm community? You can start my free course called “The Healing You Journey” here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 42] #TheHealingYouMethod

This morning when I woke up, I recognized a familiar pattern, of wanting to roll back over and go to sleep. There is an ongoing list in my head of all the things I need to attend to. It felt like the list was growing and getting larger and more difficult. I noticed that familiar time-crunch. The time-crunch, when it happens, can feel painful. It's as if there is not enough time to attend to everything I want to attend to. As I'm noticing that, and taking the time to breath into that, and notice what happens in my body when I tell myself that. When I say that there's not enough time to get everything done. There is a tightening that happens, a constriction. Then, I thought about my herd, I haven't even gotten to spend as much time with them as I would like to. So, I'm out here to spend time with my herd now. I love the way they support me and stand beside me, they have done that for years. Taking time to be, right where I am, with acceptance and grace. Then doing a little time-travel back to this morning when I just wanted to stay with the softness of my pillow and my blanket. There's a memory of being a child and I loved waking up on a Saturday morning because it meant that I didn't have to get up. That was the one day that I could stay in bed. It was really nice to have that freedom, that ease that comes with giving oneself permission to take some time off. It's important for our self-care to allow ourselves to really relax. When we take the time we need, to find our way to have acceptance in the moment, there is a shift, my shoulders drop, I can breathe deeper. Grace is an amazing energy, undeserved merit. It's not so much about deserving it as it is allowing it. When I allow myself to receive the support I need, in whatever form it needs to be, then I expand my window of welcome to where I am able to be present with that list of things that I'd really like to attend to. And, I can allow myself to attend to things one thing at a time, rather than bunching them all up in my imagination and pressuring myself to do several things at the same time. So, allowing myself to slow down and notice the first niggles of when that overwhelm starts to creep in. Where my body wants to contract, and I just want to ignore life. I much prefer when I can welcome life, however it is in the moment. So how about you? Are there places in your life where you want to avoid something? Are you putting a lot of pressure on yourself to do several things at the same time? Do you have a list that is growing and growing, and you don't ever seem to get to take a breath? How about you experiment today with taking a breath anyway. Take time to relax and to be right where you are. Be relational with YOU, because you really do matter, and take time to smile, that will support your body as well. Thanks for being on this journey with me. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the power of somatic empathy and warm community? You can start my free course called “The Healing You Journey” here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 36] #TheHealingYouMethod

This afternoon it's such a beautiful fall day, I got to thinking about what I'm passionate about. I'm passionate about is what this conversation is all about. It's about healing, it's about healing from deep inside our heart and soul. To awaken to who we were created to be. I love life. I love all the seasons of life, some I enjoy more than others. There are so many amazing experiences that I get to have in each of these seasons. No matter the elements, there's something to savor. Right now, I'm hearing the school bus bringing children home, dogs barking to greet their kiddos as they return. There is a plane overhead, and my herd is a little restless as they are about ready for their evening meal. I remember being a kid and coming home on the school bus. I couldn't wait to run up the hill, to be greeted by the family dog, to play in the barn and see my cats. We had lots of critters when I was growing up. I especially loved the horses. Even when I was too little to get to ride by myself, I'd still go out and sit on the horse and pretend I was going all kinds of places! Having a very vivid imagination has served me well. It has allowed me to dream big and to step outside of the box. What I've discovered in my life is having that capacity to dream big and step outside of the box is a big part of what helps healing be possible. Since I've been on my healing journey, I have been able to relish and savor each opportunity I have to time travel back to those yester-year children. Those yesterday young women, and middle-aged women, and even my yesterday self. In order to slow down to recognize, what was it in the moment, that wasn't caught? What was the tenderness in that moment that was needing accompaniment and to know that the experience mattered? A lot of healing is as simple as that, and as profound as that too. I call it simple because in a lot of ways it is. I call it profound because it is incredibly profound to be able to allow something that was not spoken of, or shared with another person, or hardly even acknowledged to ourselves. To allow that experience to be welcomed, to make sense, to be sat with. To feel how it shifts, transforms and changes in a minute. It's a miracle! Nature and animals have been a huge part of that journey for me. That's why I thought I'd come out here and sit on my swing. My husband is an amazing guy, he went out and he found an old school swing set and an old slide. Now my grandchildren, and my clients, get to enjoy them. It's important to take time, to take time to be in nature. To allow your whole sense of self to be restored and replenished. Slowing down to enjoy this life, like it's the first moment that you woke up. That's possible when you take the time to really be present, and to develop your capacity, each day, a little bit more. So how about today? How about you take time to go for a walk, to be in nature. To go pet a dog, or a cat, or a horse! Take time to be relational. Remember what you enjoyed most as a child and give yourself permission to take a little time today, and remember in this moment, how much that means to you. Thanks for being on this journey with me. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the power of somatic empathy and warm community? You can start my free course called “The Healing You Journey” here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 35] #TheHealingYouMethod

Today, I've been thinking about how fear can take us out. There are a couple different types of fear that I've become away of in my life; one lets us know that we are actually in danger, and our whole sense of self is going to do it's best to make sure that we get out of danger. The other kind of fear is the fear that we don't matter. It's an alarmed aloneness where we literally feel completely and utterly alone, and sometimes, we really believe that we do not matter to anyone. And that nobody else in the entire world has ever experienced that pain. This can show up for some as a sense of abandonment or rejection. Have you ever been ridiculed or made fun of? Maybe you've been dismissed and feel that you lack, whatever it is that other's want you to have, and that you have no capacity on your own to ever be able to measure up, to be enough, or find acceptance. That can be a very dismal place to reside. This can show up in many different ways at different stages of our life. I remember as a young child my parents moved quite a few times in the same year and I lost my grounding, especially as a young child. I remember watching the other kids; they all seemed to fit in together, they all knew each other, and I had the distinct experience that I did not fit in. I didn't even know there was anyone I could talk to about it. Those kinds of conversations were not common, at least not in my life. Maybe they are not common in yours. It's really important to know that you do make sense and it's possible to find places where you can have those conversations, because those conversations are important. One of the things that some of us also find is that when we are in nature, or when we are with animals, that there's a sense of peace, of comfort, of aliveness that we can experience, that maybe we didn't experience with other people. That can be an in-road for many of us. I'm one of those that I loved being in nature. I'd go out with my brothers' dog and be on my horse. Or I'd go sit in the barn with my cats. I'd be at peace going for walks in the woods. There's something about connecting with the enormity of life, where you can start to touch into being a part of that existence. What I want to put out there is when you can feel that in your body, when you can notice what it's like to be you in the different environments that are available in our world, you can trust your body's wisdom. It can support you to find others that you will resonate with. I also want to acknowledge that it's true that when we've had patterns of being alone, and not being sought out by others, we need to be able to learn how to receive. Because we haven't been a receiver in our life, and we don't understand that it's possible or that it's safe. It doesn't feel safe, so how do we begin to allow ourselves to experience that it's safe? In my experience we need lots of repeated experiences of that in relationships with others. When we repeat those experiences, we develop new pathways. The more we get to strengthen those pathways, the more we discover that we make sense, and not only can we receive, but we can begin to give. We can develop reciprocal relationships of trust. Sometimes it starts going for a walk in nature, other times it starts connecting with other mammals, and sometimes it starts out by daring to reach out and allowing your experience to be felt and heard, and noticing what that's like. So, I encourage you, if you resonate with this, to dare to reach out. To have a conversation, because your experience really does matter, and we need to hear your voice in this world. Thanks for being on this journey with me today. Healing You. ..... *Are you ready to step into the light and out of the shadows, to experience the power of somatic empathy and warm community? You can start my free course called “The Healing You Journey” here: www.HealingYouSanctuary.com ..... [The Healing You Method - Episode 34] #HealingYou #TheHealingYouMethod