That's Not On Brand

Healing…let's just say it isn't for the weak. It can leave you burned out, depressed, and feeling like you're “fighting for your f*cking life”. That has definitely been the case for Bre'nai, and in this episode she opens up about this rollercoaster of a journey. Bre'nai shares the importance of prioritizing self-care and the ways in which she's getting her life, health, and mind back on track after falling into a depressive slump. Spoiler alert: it ain't all pretty!  EPISODE CHAPTERS introduction: 00:00 update + world mental health day: 00:55 I. the romanticism of self-care: 2:55 II. self-care & emotional/mental maintenance: 4:50 III. social self-care: 8:30 IV. healing vs. hiding: 11:17 V. spiritual self-care: 11:43 VI. external & internal self-care for the body: 14:35 VII. don't skimp on practical self-care: 19:30 outro: 23:13 THINGS MENTIONED:  Arthur 'Library Card': https://youtu.be/lyxEDSnegTU  The Undoing - Pastor Sarah Jakes Roberts: https://youtu.be/K7r09B95zC0  WAYS TO STAY CONNECTED:  social media

4 months of bereavement, now what? After the recent loss of her grandmother, Bre’nai returns from her hiatus to discuss how she is healing through her grief. TRIGGER WARNING: This episode covers topics such as mental health, self harm, death, bereavement and grief. SAMHSA’s National Helpline: for individuals and family members facing mental and/or substance use disorders – 1-800-662-HELP (4357) TTY: 1-800-487-4889 Keep in touch with That's Not On Brand ⤵  instagram: @thatsnotonbrand  personal instagram: @stalkerbabydaddy --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/support

Happy New Year Woadies! This episode Bre'nai reflects on the ups and down of the year 2020, all while sharing her intentions for the year 2021!  Keep in touch with That's Not On Brand ⤵ instagram: @thatsnotonbrand personal instagram: @stalkerbabydaddy --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/support

We all have that one fave that we choose to look the other way whenever they’re out here being problematic, right? Well Bre’nai has about five and she’s sharing them in this episode. Keep in touch with That's Not On Brand ⤵ instagram: @thatsnotonbrand personal instagram: @stalkerbabydaddy --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/support

What do you do when you're minding your business and impostor syndrome just starts knocking you upside your head? This episode Bre'nai unpacks and shares her process dealing with impostor syndrome. Keep in touch with That's Not On Brand ⤵   * instagram: @thatsnotonbrand  * personal instagram: @stalkerbabydaddy Check Out ConversationsWith_ a podcast hosted by my beautiful sister La’Shawnna: https://open.spotify.com/show/0ONL0N20mZOqtn59fXL8n9?si=uS6W2h8ORCKsFKbtE-Xqkg --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/support

Let's discuss pet peeves and everything else that isn't on brand, shall we? TV shows and albums mentioned in this episode are linked below: Happy Endings: https://www.amazon.com/Happy-Endings-Season-1/dp/B004V2E8RY RICO Nasty’s Nightmare Vacation: https://open.spotify.com/album/0jJEiaA2W9eFhTXC1EGMqG?si=ZrIwrkC5RI28gT4byXZjvw Keep in touch with That's Not On Brand ⤵  instagram: @thatsnotonbrand personal instagram: @stalkerbabydaddy --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/support

Are you down on your luck? Is your back against the wind? Need some music to lift your spirits and remind you who the hell you are? If so, than Bre'nai has some songs for you! Check Out The Playlist From This Episode: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/27hcxnp8LlF2QAdKO8urnz Clean Your Baseboards Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/0vbn41zzRSfSnhmJfgogX2 (I definitely will be working on making these playlist available on Apple Music & will link soon!) Freestyle Unity "Momma Killed Him": https://youtu.be/sP4fKkXMnFg Childish Gambino's "Into You - Cover" : https://youtu.be/UfQHEpf2q8k Childish Gambino's Kauai Album: https://open.spotify.com/album/5dVKggb6Nvfp7JJdLfHPof Keep in touch with That's Not On Brand ⤵ instagram: @thatsnotonbrand personal instagram: @stalkerbabydaddy --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/support

It's Her Birthday and She'll Cry If She Wants To! Bre'nai kicks off the season two premiere reflecting on her recent birthday. She unpacks and shares the lessons she has learned on this journey to 28, and all the things she is planning to release. Keep in touch with That's Not On Brand ⤵ instagram: @thatsnotonbrand personal instagram: @stalkerbabydaddy --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/support

Get to know Tikima and Bre'nai a little better as they play a fun game of Never Have I Ever! That's Not On Brand: https://www.instagram.com/thatsnotonbrand/ Keep In Touch and Get To Know Us More Here: Tikima Renee: https://www.instagram.com/tikimarenee/ https://www.instagram.com/tikimareneefitness/ https://www.tikimareneefitness.com/ Tikima's Fitness Podcast with Her Homies: FIT BLACK QUEENS https://open.spotify.com/show/07ExYcsvlz8S0ow1km3UcG?si=X5EwVGKWQhK1XDKT22pzLQ Bre'nai: https://www.instagram.com/stalkerbabydaddy --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/support

Mo to the E to the...MOESHA! Let’s discuss everything wrong with our favorite black sitcom, shall we?  Don't forget to follow us here:  That's Not On Brand: https://www.instagram.com/thatsnotonbrand/  Tikima Renee: https://www.instagram.com/tikimarenee/  Bre'nai: https://www.instagram.com/stalkerbabydaddy --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/support

After last week's mental health check-in, Tikima and Bre'nai are sharing a few things that make them smile.  Follow Us Here:  That's Not On Brand: https://www.instagram.com/thatsnotonbrand/ Tikima Renee: https://www.instagram.com/tikimarenee/ Bre' nai: https://www.instagram.com/stalkerbabydaddy/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/support

Tikima and Bre’nai check-in and discuss their mental health along with the “crazy” trope. Follow us here: instagram.com/thatsnotonbrand Tikima: instagram.com/tikimarenee Bre'nai: instagram.com/stalkerbabydaddy --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/support

Tikima and Bre'nai share what they have been up to during their recent break. Don’t forget #blacklivesstillmatter #blacktranslivesstillmatter Follow us here: instagram.com/thatsnotonbrand Tikima: instagram.com/tikimarenee Bre'nai: instagram.com/stalkerbabydaddy --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/support

Current digs, keeping the same energy with protecting Black women in real life, with a dash of childhood story times. Ho, why is you here?: https://open.spotify.com/album/49FIsErcdC5rfTFhRpPZ7P?si=G5at2e-vQfK504ihqG26ng The Baby-Sitters Club (2020): https://www.netflix.com/title/81005407 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatsnotonbrand/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/support

This episode Tikima and Bre'nai share how they are queens of the tetherball court, and what they are currently digging from food, music, and television. Things we mentioned in this episode are linked below! An Evening with Belafonte: https://open.spotify.com/album/0j340tt50t3nVIr56nMtH7?si=rMZ2QdRkTHy_xmAdDVL47Q Snak Club Tajin Flavored Peach Rings: Snak Club Tajin Peach Rings, 11 Ounce, 6 Count https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07PYCGSCC/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_yatgFb7FVXJH4  The Spice Suite: https://www.thespicesuite.com/shop RuPaul Drag Race All Stars: http://www.vh1.com/shows/rupauls-drag-race-all-stars Supermarket Sweep: https://www.netflix.com/title/81289176 Shop Till You Drop: https://youtu.be/fYkEI-c9krY Pose FX Series: https://www.netflix.com/title/80241986 Most Likely To Succeed: https://www.amazon.com/gp/video/detail/B07ZJWB5TG/ref=atv_dp_share_cu_r Netflix’s Rodney King: https://www.netflix.com/title/80128715 Follow us here: instagram.com/thatsnotonbrand Tikima: instagram.com/tikimarenee Bre'nai: instagram.com/stalkerbabydaddy --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/support

What the hell is a chicken head? Spoiler alert: We definitely aren't talking about the term some used to slut shame women. This episode is all about Tikima and Bre'nai unpacking their relationships with their hair.  Things we mentioned in our "What You're Digging?" segment is linked below! Flo Milli Sh*t: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1fZD7HFlziqJDme5MN1BNT?si=Vu_3EM5bQFWIAzsx9rUofQ Chloe x Halle's Ungodly Hour: https://open.spotify.com/album/1ReoUTt497nUg3u1ERgYwS?si=pvGq584HTBmBUpWOFtNNhg Yoga Teacher Resource Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/1kZVDnOCDrLC18a4p76fb9?si=n8qGbF6OQyCIkuxNGzhI7w Alexis's SWEAT FEARLESSLY Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6sMp6AU6pi2A2yfudNgs96?si=kvNpiKeUTp6pHJjTyOrdzA Tikima's Favorite TNOB Episodes:  Imposter Syndrome feat. @Blossom.Thick.Fit https://open.spotify.com/episode/7r9GFqsRgRx6KqrQEjCRT2?si=rzNNEAo6T7KzlIejlB8AhA 1998 https://open.spotify.com/episode/1VsnWqSQGlzPqUA1JbcuBS?si=sGZc2Jr-SCSu1o69c9wGUA Follow us here: instagram.com/thatsnotonbrand Tikima: instagram.com/tikimarenee Bre'nai: instagram.com/stalkerbabydaddy --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/support

What do your friendships look like? Are they toxic or are they healthy? This episode Tikima and Bre'nai have a honest conversation about their adult friendships. #blacklivesstillmatter #blacktranslivesstillmatter Follow us here: instagram.com/thatsnotonbrand Tikima: instagram.com/tikimarenee Bre'nai: instagram.com/stalkerbabydaddy --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/support

Tikima and Bre'nai take another trip down memory lane, but this time it's 2004 nostalgia. #blacklivesstillmatter #blacktranslivesstillmatter We Ranked Beyonce's Albums Here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5XAvLq5YRVAsCBuqPIkZsf?si=2GO-XdnQRh-0m4NT_k712Q Our 'Sorry_2004.mp3' Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/7qrXA7bnJlICR8YqsdqvOr?si=THLrKa5oSTiC_ueAxlOd9g Signs You Are A Habitual Line Stepper: https://youtu.be/ry2XlLKctiI The Fillmore Episode We Mentioned:  https://youtu.be/fBpeHNM0FKk Follow us here: instagram.com/thatsnotonbrand  Tikima: instagram.com/tikimarenee  Bre'nai: instagram.com/stalkerbabydaddy --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/support

When lifting your hands in the sanctuary goes wrong and traumatizes a 4 year old! Tikima and Bre'nai share stories of growing up in Black churches. #blacklivesstillmatter #blacktranslivesstillmatter Sunday Mornings the Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4LdTN3AsFEaxvUpUef9qsO?si=wmCI6HrCTf2wXRvWNa0spQ Church of the Redeemer Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/church-of-the-redeemer-with-pastor-dale-oshields/id324584417 Follow us here: instagram.com/thatsnotonbrand Tikima: instagram.com/tikimarenee Bre'nai: instagram.com/stalkerbabydaddy --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/support

What does support look like to you? How do you show support others? #blacklivesstillmatter #blacktranslivesstillmatter Follow us here: instagram.com/thatsnotonbrand Tikima: instagram.com/tikimarenee Bre'nai: instagram.com/stalkerbabydaddy --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/support

From shooting their shot, love languages, being a secret, ghosting, and communication Tikima and Bre'nai discuss what they learned from their past intimate relationships. Remember: #blacklivesstillmatter #blacktranslivesstillmatter Follow Us Here: instagram.com/thatsnotonbrand Tikima: instagram.com/tikimarenee Bre'nai: instagram.com/stalkerbabydaddy --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/support

We're Tired! #BLACKLIVESMATTER #BLACKTRANSLIVESMATTER DONATE: NAACP LEGAL DEFENSE FUND THE INNOCENCE PROJECT (LOCAL) BLM CHAPTER THE NATIONAL BAIL PROJECT https://www.transjusticefundingproject.org/ CHECK OUT MORE: https://blacklivesmatter.carrd.co/ PETITIONS: TEXT "RESIST" TO 55156  "JUSTICE" TO 55156 "ENOUGH" TO 55156 "FLOYD" TO 55156 MAKE CALLS: www.standwithbre.com/call www.justiceforbigfloyd.com/make-calls www.runwithmaud.com/call HOW WE'RE KEEPING SANE THROUGH MUSIC: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/0vbn41zzRSfSnhmJfgogX2?si=ORXfbgv9Ry-5b8I7trA7KA (CLEAN YOUR BASEBOARDS PLAYLIST) https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4HoLUrdzoAR8iDv0ShinCs?si=NYNelEb4TJKt4iekUpRMYg (ALEXIS’S BLACKOUT TUESDAY PLAYLIST) --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/support

A love letter to the year 1998! Don't forget to check out our music playlist from this episode here: https://open.spotify.com/user/al43nghobvyxte3x3v5jnv5xq/playlist/5XMEfIZYd7L04DYTRgCOKS?si=9xJPGy4hRTW9FbnAMnzpDg  Follow us here: instagram.com/thatsnotonbrand Tikima: instagram.com/tikimarenee Bre'nai: instagram.com/stalkerbabydaddy --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/support

Mirror, Mirror on the Wall, Who's the biggest Fraud of Them All? Tikima and Bre'nai discuss impostor syndrome with their older sister La'Shawnna. Show notes: instagram.com/thatsnotonbrand Tikima: instagram.com/tikimarenee Bre'nai: instagram.com/stalkerbabydaddy WHERE YOU CAN FIND La'Shawnna: instagram.com/blossom.thick.fit instagram.com/tijeraadamsdesigns YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqGkgmNH53lVpgrLyu6Lv5Q OR search (BLOSSOM.THICK.FIT) --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/support

Tikima and Bre'nai go from discussing anal bleaching to ranking Beyoncé's six studio albums. Argue with your mother not us!  Edit: Although Check On It was released in 2005 for Destiny's Child's #1's album, it was re-released on the international version of B'Day which is why we chose to include it. Also, I (Bre'nai) forgot to include Start Over and I Miss You as part of my favorites from the album 4 and I'm truly dissapointed! Tikima's favorite transitions from Homecoming: Partition, Yoncé, Mi Gente, Baby Boy, You Don't Love Me, and Hold Up Listen To Our Beyoncé Playlist Here: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/0YsiSFJGw3XbJkLcJVmEB3?si=2hb58r6bSBeb8LE_yHm_Xg Show notes: instagram.com/thatsnotonbrand Tikima: instagram.com/tikimarenee Bre'nai: instagram.com/stalkerbabydaddy --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/support

With Mother's Day being this weekend, Tikima and Bre'nai decided to dedicate an episode to their late mother. Show notes: instagram.com/thatsnotonbrand Tikima: instagram.com/tikimarenee Bre'nai: instagram.com/stalkerbabydaddy --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/support

Sisters Tikima and Bre'nai, discuss their family dynamics and their struggles with being family oriented. Show notes: Instagram.com/thatsnotonbrand Tikima: Instagram.com/tikimarenee Bre’nai: Instagram.com/stalkerbabydaddy --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thatsnotonbrand/support