The Soft Yard

This week, I'm reading you a love letter to myself, that I got prompted to do, when reading Rise Sister Rise. Background music: Heartbreaking by Kevin MacLeod | https://incompetech.com/ Music promoted by https://www.chosic.com/free-music/all/ Creative Commons Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/

Todays episode, starts with another disclaimer and trigger warning. I'm sharing some of my poetry at the beginning, that I know, the last time I've done this, triggered a lot for some of you. So please be safe if you're listening to this while driving and reach out if you need anything after. I am also talking about death and losing a loved one to cancer. I'm tapping into anger, the release of it, how to acknowledge and start healing ancestral trauma. This week's homework is to ask better questions and to become better listeners, why I think its important, why its the only thing I regret in my life, that I wish I've done when I was younger and why we all need to invite more of this into our lives.

Last week, I was delivered this question through another Podcast and I found myself with a big lump in my throat and some resistance to pair it with. So of course, what better way than to dismantle and unpack, whats underneath this, than right here, where I think it belongs. Enjoy x

I couldnt be more excited about this weeks episode, with the glorious and inspiring powerhouse that is my beautiful friend Michelle G Hunder. Before we pressed play, we talked for about an hour already and I personally have found so many golden nuggets in this precious conversation, that I am beyond thrilled to bring to you. We are talking about how important it is to constantly challenge your beliefs, so we can keep evolving as human beings, how compassion and detachment in that real is key and that context matters. Here's how you can get in touch with Michelle, her work as a photographer is incredible and her presence is nothing short of inspiring. https://www.michellegracehunder.com/ MGH On Instagram On Twitch On Twitter I am beyond grateful to be having these chats, with beloved friends of mine and that I get to share them with you, my lovely softies.

Its finally here, my very first guest on the show and I couldnt be more thrilled and excited, but to have a very dear friend on the show. Nas also known as the Streets Barber has always been a great inspiration from the very first moment I met him, from the work he does on the streets, as well as amongst the communities, his values and dedication are something to look upto. One of the things, I remember, him saying to me, years ago, was this : I will always have time for you, sis. And he always followed through on that, which is one of the reasons, he is so dear to my heart. Tune in, to hear all the golden nuggets he's sharing. https://www.instagram.com/thestreetsbarber/ https://thestreetsbarber.com/ http://thestreetsbarbershop.com/

Its getting juicy baby, Tune in, to this weeks episode, where I'm discussing how a drunken, not so fulfilling intimate encounter, has lead me to the most magical walk of "shame" in my entire life and got me opening pandora's box of all things s*x. We're going from, how to tell someone that they suck in bed, to a little run down on how to have better s*x. I cant wait for you to listen: follow me on instagram, to get in touch and for more juicyness https://www.instagram.com/thesoftyard/

I will start with a TRIGGER WARNING with this weeks episode. Last week I was made aware, that a couple of people had to pull over, while driving. So this weeks I want to ensure, you are safe and aware, that this episode might be best listened to, when being in a safe and calm environment, without having to operate a car or heavy machinery. I hope you're ready listening to this, it will be a lot but I'm here if you need any debriefing after. I'm talking about something, that's been a little annoying to me, in terms of what I keep seeing all around me, not just lately, but in the past week, its been pushed into my field of vision even more and I couldnt ignore it anymore, so of course I have to address it here. We'll be talking about, what I would love to hear and see more often and what I think, is a crucial step to own up to on path of your healing journey. And of course we cant heal, without some forgiveness and since this is something that MOST people struggle with, I want to share, how I was able to find forgiveness and share some of my worst and darkest moments as a human being

Happy 2022 my lovely softies, I truly hope you all had a marvelous time over the festive season and holidays, that you are staying safe and sound and that your ear is of to a great start. Here's a little life update of how wild my first week of the year has been. And I'm also letting you in, on the direction we're heading. What 2022 should and feel look like for us, as a community and collective. I'll be sharing with you a funny little synchronicity, that cannot be a coincidence and why I think, when you're brave enough to ask the universe, it will always deliver, it will always provide an answer, as long as you're staying open and curious of hearing, seeing and feeling, what it has to show you. I'm so excited for this year to come, to strengthen our bonds, build this tribe and help each other heal. the marvelous, magnificent women, that I spoke about and that I'm doing this incredible course with, is Angella Gallo and you can find her here! #socialmediayslay

The year is coming to an end and I found myself reflecting. I thought this would be a great way, to let you in on my journey this year. To be vulnerable, with what I found challenging and also to allow myself be proud of everything I have accomplished this year. I'm super grateful to wrap up this turbulent 2021, full of growth and am looking forward to the most amazing year ahead. 2022 come at me. I AM READY Spoiler alert, this is not another new years resolution episode, yet simply taking a moment for reflection, to let everything land in my body once more, whats been happening this year, to be able to go full steam ahead for the new year. To remind myself, that I've overcome things this year, I thought I wouldnt be able to go past and that I am capable of so much more, than I seem to give myself credit for, in the testing times. And through that I hope I can inspire you to see, that you are just as capable, of achieving anything and everything you set your mind to and that you allow yourself to do. my year ends with a massive amount of gratitude, especially for you, the ones, that are listening and have supported me throughout this journey so far. I assure you, we are still in the take off period, I have big plans and I'm excited for you to be here for it. Thank you x The lifechanging man and podcast I'm referring to in this, is called father bronques and you can find him here and listen to make art not content, here

Depression, Anxiety, Narcissism. Are you triggered when hearing these words? Me too, tune in, to find out whats behind it, for me. Merry Christmas my dear softies.

What does that say about me? We all know at least partly by now, that the outdated belief of only being worthy and whole, when having found a partner, is absolute idiotic. Does that stop us though, from questioning our own worth, when still being single the older we get? Do we question whether or not, we are loveable? whether we will end up alone? whether if theres something wrong with us? Let me share with you, my two cents of this and let you in on how I manage my own thoughts arising around the topic. Spoiler alert : it feels fucking amazing to be happily single and not settle for anything less than the best and ALL that I deserve and that is what it says about me

Lets debunk this myth of some people being "talented" and others aren't and how people seem to think, that theres some magical talent dust, being sprinkled over some babies and others being left out. Spoiler alert. This is one of my most favorite topics to rant about, as I heard often enough, 'oh you're so talented - I wish I could draw/was creative/ could do xyz' and it grinds my gears, like it nothing else does. Tune in and listen for yourself, as I dont want to give much away, from this short and sweet episode, where I tell you, that everyone is talented and how you can obtain the skills, to achieve your wildest goals, unleash your inner artist and what it takes to get there.

Here we go again. I'm sorry, I'm late. I'm sorry, I cant make it. I'm sorry I fucked up. i'm sorry this, I'm sorry that. we overuse this five letter word and it truly has lost its meaning. its almost like we use it as a filler a lot of the time, or as a replacer for common courtesy, like please and thank you. This episode is one for my people pleasers, you will love this. Tune in and lets burst your bubbles and eradicate, saying sorry a trillion times and work together on a more meaningful and helpful way, to turn your i'm sorry's into sincere and genuine ways to connect with one another.

Life is A LOT right now and while I'm really trying lately, to stay on top of EVERYTHING and not lose my cool, its bound to happen that sh*t hits the fan. So today's episode I'm starting with a little life update, to show you, I'm not invincible, I crack and crumble under pressure, just like everyone else and I actually give myself permission to do so these days. And how good that feels, you can hear for yourself. The actual purpose of this episode, is addressing the big elephant in the room and that we are using the term I'm sorry way too often. SORRY - those 5 letters have lost their purpose and meaning, as its being thrown around by many, without even thinking twice. So with this, I'm unpacking and dismantling, something that a lot of us do, if not everyone does and you better buckle up, to have your bubbles bursted, Softies. This episode will surely make you dizzy, but hang tight and enjoy the ride, it'll be worth it, I promise. This will be Part 1 of a sorry not sorry series - as theres much more to unpack, but I know your heads will be spinning enough as is, after this, so as always lets be kind and gentle with ourselves and take one step after another Book I mention in this episode : Unbound - Kasia Urbanik

How can we manage to show up for ourselves? It's pretty simple, but it aint easy. With todays episode, I want to inspire you, how you can light a fire under your own butt, to reach higher and dream bolder and unpack what it is that inherently stops us, a lot of the times. How the things, that you used to think are your flaws, are most likely your unique superpower, can be turned into fuel that will get things off the ground and how you can reframe your mindset around them, to embrace everything about yourself fully, instead of constantly looking why the grass always seems to be greener on the other side. Tune in, to today's Mini- Episode, to find out more. Connect with me: Website ‡ https://www.thesoftyard.com Instagram ‡ https://www.instagram.com/thesoftyard Subscribe to my Podcast and leave a review Apple Podcast ‡ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-soft-yard/id1588583283 Podchaser ‡ https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/the-soft-yard-1979526 Google Podcast ‡ https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy82NzliYzZiOC9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw==

Are you afraid, you will be hopelessly overwhelmed with socializing and going back to "normal" after being isolated and restricted for far too long? Are you unsure, if you are able to fit in again after spending a lot of time on your own and secretly loving it? Do you not know, how you're going to cope with the pressure and stress of going back to work and having to perform form 0 to a 100 real quick? The good news hereby is, its perfectly fine to be feeling this way, most of us are feeling it in one way or another. In today's episode, I'm dismantling some of the reasons on why we are overwhelmed, whats underneath it and offer some insights on how you can be better prepared, to stay calm and collected when shit hits the fan and how you can protect your energy better, when re-entering our "society" I know lockdown and its measures and anything surrounding the pandemic, can be quite triggering for a lot of people, but before you go off and fight me on my own opinion and beliefs, just tune into, why you are triggered and whats underneath it. I'm simply trying to offer people an angle to step away, and help you see the bigger picture, that there are ways how you can cope better with the mighty amounts of overwhelm that come with those testing times. Dont waste your precious energy, trying to convince another person of what you think they should believe or say about it. I'm not trying to convince anyone either, yet I am offering some insights based on my own experiences, what has helped me and what some of my research has brought to light. Follow my journey on the socials, get in touch and sign up for my inner circle - mail list, to get involved and be updated before everyone else does. instagram: @thesoftyard twitter: @thesoftyard subscribe mail list: join me homepage: The soft yard Connect with me: Website ‡ https://www.thesoftyard.com Instagram ‡ https://www.instagram.com/thesoftyard Twitter ‡ https://www.twitter.com/thesoftyard Facebook ‡ https://www.facebook.com/thesoftyard Subscribe to my Email Newsletter ‡ https://chipper-artist-2021.ck.page/550c8b527d Subscribe to my Podcast and leave a review Apple Podcast ‡ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-soft-yard/id1588583283 Podchaser ‡ https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/the-soft-yard-1979526 Google Podcast ‡ https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy82NzliYzZiOC9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw==

After last weeks confession, I wanted to ensure I will follow up with todays episode and dive a little deeper into, what it takes to truly care about oneself? Do YOU, yeah YOU truly care about yourself? Or are you trying to get your validation and gratification fix externally? How do you expect others to care if you don't even care? What even is this thing, called self care? This episode will have a few harder truths but as always, I'll throw in gentle reminders, that its ok and there's no need to beat yourself up, if you haven't done better in the past and even if you fuck up in the future. I will talk about how to get to a point to feel and embody true self love and what are the reasons why we were lead to believe we aren't good enough. We're all human and we all have our flaws, but lets not take away from the upcoming episode about that in particular, shall we? Enjoy todays episode and as always connect with me on social media and sign up for my mail list - to know whats up, before everyone else does Connect with me: Website ‡ https://www.thesoftyard.com Instagram ‡ https://www.instagram.com/thesoftyard Twitter ‡ https://www.twitter.com/thesoftyard Facebook ‡ https://www.facebook.com/thesoftyard Subscribe to my Email Newsletter ‡ https://chipper-artist-2021.ck.page/550c8b527d Subscribe to my Podcast and leave a review Apple Podcast ‡ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-soft-yard/id1588583283 Podchaser ‡ https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/the-soft-yard-1979526 Google Podcast ‡ https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy82NzliYzZiOC9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw==

Todays summary is short and sweet: I have a confession to make, but before i get to the nitty-gritty, I want to tell you a story about a girl, I used to know and fill you in about all the things, this girl did, to get her cups filled and her wounds licked, in the most unhealthy of ways. Trigger warning for this episode : use of explicit language and mention of drug and alcohol abuse. Book I mention in the episode: Attached - Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller Follow my journey on the socials, get in touch and sign up for my inner circle - mail list, to get involved and be updated before everyone else does. Connect with me: Website ‡ https://www.thesoftyard.com Instagram ‡ https://www.instagram.com/thesoftyard Twitter ‡ https://www.twitter.com/thesoftyard Facebook ‡ https://www.facebook.com/thesoftyard Subscribe to my Email Newsletter ‡ https://chipper-artist-2021.ck.page/550c8b527d Subscribe to my Podcast and leave a review Apple Podcast ‡ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-soft-yard/id1588583283 Podchaser ‡ https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/the-soft-yard-1979526 Google Podcast ‡ https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy82NzliYzZiOC9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw==

Currently we seem to shy away from a lot of conversations, more and more. The current times are uncertain,exhausting and we're trying to protect our energy, as much as we can, so we choose contempt over engagement with one another. We're scared the tiniest spark will turn into the brightest wildfire, as the tension rises, more each day. Disengagement will only create increased loneliness and feelings of isolation, over time and I personally think we have had enough of that in the past 18 months. I think its time to step up and learn the art of disagreeing. Why its important to not shy away from conflict and arguments and how to become a master at disagreeing without them turning into fights, is what i'll briefly discuss and break down in this mini-episode. And like promised in the episode, here's the link to what I consider the most valuable piece of education to build and further enhance our communication skills. Dr. Marshall Rosenbergs Non - violent communication free training on spotify Connect with me: Website ‡ https://www.thesoftyard.com Instagram ‡ https://www.instagram.com/thesoftyard Twitter ‡ https://www.twitter.com/thesoftyard Facebook ‡ https://www.facebook.com/thesoftyard Subscribe to my Email Newsletter ‡ https://chipper-artist-2021.ck.page/550c8b527d Subscribe to my Podcast and leave a review Apple Podcast ‡ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-soft-yard/id1588583283 Podchaser ‡ https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/the-soft-yard-1979526 Google Podcast ‡ https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy82NzliYzZiOC9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw==

In times where isolation and social distancing seem to keep us further and further apart from each other, a safe space, a place where we belong, where we connect truly,madly,deeply(I'm a 90s kid what can I say) is what so many of us seem to crave for. Based on that idea, the soft yard was born, and the aim is to create a container to have uncomfortable, uneasy and difficult conversations, we're all dying to have, but are too scared to show up for. I would like to invite you, to come listen, relate and realize that underneath it all, we're more similar than we like to think. And we're much more likely to bond through our so called soft spots, than pretending we've got it all figured out. So What does it mean to walk the soft yard? I think being soft is about keeping your heart open and leading with compassion, rather than bitterness. It means to choose kindness and care, even though your heart is scarred and your mind is scared. Its about leading with courage and vulnerability, because one cant go without the other, when we were told that they are the polar opposites of the spectrum. Come and join me in my very first episode, where I talk about, what it means for me, to be soft in today's society! Connect with me: Website ‡ https://www.thesoftyard.com Instagram ‡ https://www.instagram.com/thesoftyard Twitter ‡ https://www.twitter.com/thesoftyard Facebook ‡ https://www.facebook.com/thesoftyard Subscribe to my Email Newsletter ‡ https://chipper-artist-2021.ck.page/550c8b527d Subscribe to my Podcast and leave a review Apple Podcast ‡ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-soft-yard/id1588583283 Podchaser ‡ https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/the-soft-yard-1979526 Google Podcast ‡ https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy82NzliYzZiOC9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw==

Welcome to the soft yard In times where isolation and social distancing seem to keep us further and further apart from each other, a safe space, a place where we belong, where we connect truly,madly,deeply(I'm a 90s kid what can I say) is what so many of us seem to crave for. Based on that idea, the soft yard was born, the aim is to create a container to have uncomfortable, uneasy & difficult conversations, we're all dying to have, but are too scared to show up for. I would like to invite you, to come listen, relate & realize that underneath it all, we're more similar than we like to think. And we're much more likely to bond through our so called soft spots, than pretending we've got it all figured out. Connect with me: Website ‡ https://www.thesoftyard.com Instagram ‡ https://www.instagram.com/thesoftyard Twitter ‡ https://www.twitter.com/thesoftyard Facebook ‡ https://www.facebook.com/thesoftyard Subscribe to my Email Newsletter ‡ https://chipper-artist-2021.ck.page/550c8b527d Subscribe to my Podcast and leave a review Apple Podcast ‡ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-soft-yard/id1588583283 Podchaser ‡ https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/the-soft-yard-1979526 Google Podcast ‡ https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy82NzliYzZiOC9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw==