Podcasts about Narcissism

In this episode, I'm answering a question I get asked constantly: are they trauma bonded to me too? People ask this when the person who hurt them starts falling apart after a breakup or after being told no. The panic, the pleading, the sudden self-awareness. It can look like proof that the relationship was mutual, that maybe both people were caught in the same storm.I will work through what is happening and how it looks the same as attachment, dependency, or the panic that comes from losing access to someone who regulates you. I'll get into what abusive people are actually bonded to, why their distress doesn't cancel out what they did, and why the question isn't whether they're hurting. It's what they do with that hurt.Support the show*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your RelationshipWebsite: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

This is the second in a 3-part series where I'm sharing the top three books that have changed my life. Last week I talked about the book A Failure of Nerve by Edwin Friedman. This week I will talk about Altogether You by Jenna Remiersma. And next week…well, you'll have to come back then to hear me talk about a VERY controversial book in conservative Christian circles, but WOW did it absolutely do a number on my chronic fear, shame, and anger. But for now - let's dive into a book that helped me make sense of the contradictory thoughts I struggled with every single day. “I can totally do this!” “I could NEVER DO THAT!” See what I mean? Get Today's Free Resource:

One hundred episodes. To celebrate, I am not throwing confetti. I am handing you the two practices that carried me from the woman who first sat behind this microphone to the one recording today.First, the 100 words practice, a simple boundary for your brain that I borrowed from the patron saint of not wasting words, Ron Swanson. I get into the neuroscience of why your brain loops in the first place, and offer a tip to start shifting it. Then, a light touch manifestation technique I learned from a mentor of mine, which is different from the usual force-the-positive advice.I also open up about what turning 100 stirred up in me. Being back in Utah and choosing your flavor of hard, why I keep saying the true thing out loud, and what a visibility year has to do with any of it. I also introduce The Reckoning, an upcoming series on narcissism and coming home to yourself, which has already posted over on Substack.If this show has ever helped you, even once, my one birthday wish is an honest review. And this month, come find your circle.In this episode:Why you feel like a different person year over year, and why that is a good thingThe 100 words practice: how to set a boundary to eliminate rumination  Why your brain loops, explained through the default mode network, and why awareness alone starts to change itLight touch manifestation techniqueThe difference between processing and looping, and how to tell which one you are inChoosing your flavor of hard, wherever you liveOffers and links:The Boundaries Reset, 17 dollars: [link]To celebrate 100 episodes! BOGO! Find your circle this October with two for one on the Fluent Human Course or the trauma-informed Certification. Buy one, bring a friend or colleague through with you. Purchase, then email our team with the name and email of the person you want included: connect@lindsaypoelmancoaching.comNeed a partner or a scholarship? A limited number of scholarships are granted each year. Scholarship link, or email connect@lindsaypoelmancoaching.com and ask for an application.The Reckoning series is posting now on Substack.Loved this episode? Please leave an honest review. It is the single biggest thing that helps a new listener find the show.Chapters:00:00 Turning 100, a different woman behind the mic00:51 A 100th-episode ask: leave a review01:41 October offers: the Boundaries Reset and finding your circle03:41 A visibility year and speaking hard truths05:03 Returning to yourself, and introducing the Reckoning07:15 Back in Utah, choosing your flavor of hard09:11 The 100 words practice, a boundary for your brain12:09 Why your brain loops, the default mode network13:23 Light touch manifestation 16:13 Your practice this week, and wrapSupport the showLindsay's current program offerings:Feeling the pull towards a new career? Ready to layer these tools into your already existing one? Become a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach through The Fluent Human Method™... the certification that teaches you to hold the whole human: nervous system, neuroscience, body, intuition, and soul. Join now to be a part of our upcoming LIVE cohort! Not here to get certified, here to learn about yourself? The Fluent Human Course™ walks you through all 8 pillars at your own pace, with live debrief calls every fall and spring. Get the course.New to all of this? Start free. 10 Things to Know About Trauma includes ten short emails that will change the way you see yourself... and everyone around you. Send it to me.Want a certification above + PRIVATE MENTORSHIP from yours truly? I have limited spaced available. Apply here.Check out her website here: Website.Find me on Instagram : @lindsaypoelmancoaching---Meet Lindsay:...

Hello, beautiful souls! Book a 30 or 60-minute angel reading at TheAngelMedium.com Join the Angel Reiki School or Angel Membership — email Julie directly at Julie@TheAngelMedium.com to connect and make sure it's a good fit before joining. Welcome back to the Angels & Awakening Podcast. I'm your host and author, Julie Jancius. Friends, this conversation has been living in my heart all summer — and I knew I needed to bring an expert in to help me have it properly. Today I'm sitting down with my friend Laura Butts, therapist and founder of Greenhouse Psychotherapy, whose specialty is narcissistic abuse and pathological love relationships. This is a powerful one.

Relationship Series: Narcissism Part 2 — Addiction, Abuse + Q&AWe go deeper into the architecture beneath narcissistic patterning—shame, the mother wound, emotional non-attunement, control, addiction, projection, and the persistent need to avoid accountability. Through a Frequency-First lens, we explore how narcissistic defenses and addiction can both function as external regulation strategies for an internally unstable system—and how relationships themselves can become part of that regulatory loop.Plus, we answer your questions on breaking the accusation/defense cycle, guilt after leaving, addiction and narcissistic traits, alcohol and spiritual development, drug-induced psychosis, psychopathy, and what it actually takes to stop participating in the pattern.---What actually organizes human experience?Drawing from neuroscience, psychology, systems theory, philosophy, and faith, each episode explores how perception, prediction, identity, biology, and relationship shape the way we think, behave, and become—and what creates the conditions for lasting change.If you're ready to decode patterns, and lived a more coherent life, you've come to the right place. I'm Talíyah, this is Superfreq, asking what's organizing you.Lets Go. Stay ConnectedInstagram: @superfreq.co // @whoistaliyahSubstack: SUPERFREQ® | Frequency-First Living taliyahverse.substack.comWebsite: superfreq.cohttps://superfreq.store/shop/welcome-to-frequency-work-free-meditation

In the latest episode of the Realist and the Visionary Podcast, host Tena dives deep into the complexities of the Jezebel spirit and its pervasive influence in our lives today. With a title aptly named "The Jezebel Spirit," this episode explores the intricate connections between narcissism, manipulation, and emotional control.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-realist-the-visionary--3304218/support.Check out our website:https://www.therealistthevisionary.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-realist-the-visionary--3304218/support.Follow us on IGFollow Us on TikTok

Narcissism gets thrown around so much these days that I was really bloody interested to get underneath the label and actually talk about what we know, what we don't know, and where we've potentially got it very wrong. Dr Peter Salerno has worked clinically with people who meet the criteria for severe personality disorders and now works predominantly with survivors of pathological relationships. We got into narcissism, psychopathy, manipulation, why highly intelligent and successful people can still get completely caught in these dynamics, and why telling someone to 'just leave' massively oversimplifies what can actually be happening to their brain and nervous system. We also got into the nature versus nurture debate, genetics, trauma, empathy, confirmation bias, why some people actively target others, and whether you can actually break these patterns and future proof yourself from ending up in another toxic relationship. There's a LOT in this one. And some of Peter's explanations completely challenge the way we usually talk about narcissism and abusive relationships. SPONSORED BY TESTART FAMILY LAWYERS Website: www.testartfamilylawyers.com.au DR. PETER SALERNO Website: drpetersalerno.com TIFFANEE COOK Linktree: linktr.ee/rollwiththepunches Website: tiffcook.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    Slam The Gavel welcomes back Natalia Dalton. Natalia, was last on the podcast Season 6, Episode 366. She discussed what it was like to grow up being raised by a Narcissistic parent, then finding herself unknowingly getting involved with a man with those same traits. Now, her son's education is in a precarious position. Natalia dedicated a song to her son: "Rescue," by Laura Daigle.     Discussing how the courts "got it wrong," is an understatement when handing a vulnerable child over to THE WRONG PARENT. However, Natalia went to the courts for help, wanting the father to be involved in their son's life.To Reach Natalia Dalton:  Natalia.dalton@gmail.com  and  YouTube Channel: Natalia Dalton: @missmysonSupportshow(https://www.buymeacoffee.com/maryannpetri)Maryann Petri: dismantlingfamilycourtcorruption.comhttps://www.tiktok.com/@maryannpetriFacebook:  https://youtube.com/@slamthegavelpodcast?si=INW9XaTyprKsaDkl https://capsmovement.org TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@maryannpetrihttps://substack.com/@maryannpetri?r=kd7n6&utm_medium=iosInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/guitarpeace/Pinterest: Slam The Gavel Podcast/@guitarpeaceLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/maryann-petri-62a46b1ab/  Twitter https://x.com/PetriMaryannEzlegalsuit.com   https://ko-fi.com/maryannpetrihttps://www.zazzle.com/store/slam_the_gavel/aboout*DISCLAIMER* The use of this information is at the viewer/user's own risk. Content on this podcast does not constitute legal, financial, medical or any other professional advice. Viewer/user/guest should consult with the relevant professionals. IRS CIRCULAR 230 DISCLOSURE: To ensure compliance with requirements imposed by the Internal Revenue Service, we inform you that any U.S. federal tax advice contained in this communication (including any attachments) is not intended or written to be used, and cannot be used, for the purpose of (1) avoiding penalties under the Internal Revenue Code or (2) promoting, marketing or recommending to another party any transaction or matter addressed herein. Reproduction, distribution, performing, publicly displaying and making a derivative of the work is explicitly prohibited without permission from content creator. The content creator maintains the exclusive copyright and any unauthorized copyright usage is strictly prohibited.  Podcast is protected by owner from duplication, reproduction, distribution, making a derivative of the work or by owner displaying the podcast. Owner shall be held harmless and indemnified from any and all legal liability.Support the showSupportshow(https://www.buymeacoffee.com/maryannpetri)http://www.dismantlingfamilycourtcorruption.com/

When someone in a high conflict relationship insists their partner is entirely uncaring, is that the whole truth — or a sign of something else going on underneath? This episode puts one hypothetical high conflict case through two very different lenses to find out.Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD, and Megan Hunter, MBA, sit down with psychoanalyst Dr. Anthony Mazzella to compare the CARS Method with a psychoanalytic approach to containment, splitting, and setting limits that actually hold. They work the same scenario side by side — a spouse convinced her husband is entirely rejecting her — to show where connecting and EAR statements line up with clinical containment, and where the two approaches genuinely split. Whether you're in HR, mediation, or your own living room, you'll walk away with two working models for the same hard moment.It's All Your Fault is produced by TruStory FM.Full Show Notes & ResourcesSubmit Questions | Bookstore | WebsiteImportant Notice: Our discussions focus on behavioral patterns rather than diagnoses. For specific legal or therapeutic guidance, please consult qualified professionals in your area. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (00:37) - On Today's Episode (01:14) - Meet Dr. Anthony Mazzella (05:28) - Where He's Landed (06:31) - His Approach to HCPs (09:54) - Different Views (11:58) - Disregulated to Regulated State of Mind (14:35) - Example (17:00) - Initial Steps (19:45) - Comparison (22:58) - Coming Up with Solutions (25:26) - HR Setting (30:20) - Differences (33:05) - Reality Testing (34:30) - Being More Mindful (37:29) - Responding and Confronting (40:20) - Setting Limits (44:33) - Talking Through the Process (51:46) - Recap (54:19) - Treatment of Narcissism (56:30) - Types of Narcissists and Hope for Treatment (57:25) - Finding Dr. Mazzella (59:02) - Wrap Up

What is social media actually doing to our personalities, relationships, and sense of self?Dr. Kibby McMahon sits down with social media strategist and Pugs Media founder Connor Flannery to explore the psychology of growing up online.They talk about why negative comments can affect us so deeply, how parasocial relationships can become a substitute for real connection, what happens to empathy when our interactions happen through screens, and why social media may reward traits like narcissism and social climbing.Connor also shares his experience building an audience that generates hundreds of millions of views, how online criticism once pushed him to step away from YouTube, and why he now recommends that creators stop reading their comment sections.They also explore a bigger question: when followers, likes, views, and social status can all be quantified, does social media fundamentally change the way we see ourselves and other people?In this episode:• Why negative comments feel disproportionately powerful• Parasocial relationships and one-sided connection• How the internet may be changing empathy• Why online interactions can feel like “junk food” for relationships• The psychology of influencers and creators• Narcissism, status, and the numbers behind social media• How growing up online can shape identity and self-esteemLearn more about KulaMind: https://www.kulamind.com

The conversation explores the difference between influence and manipulation, why dark leaders are often drawn to power, how "kiss up, kick down" behaviour can hide for years, and why organizational culture plays such a critical role. Ted also discusses what he calls dark-activated behaviour: people who may begin acting destructively when the culture rewards or tolerates it. In Episode #118 of The Executive Commute, Jayson Krause is joined by industrial-organizational psychologist Dr. Ted Vokes for a deep examination of evil, the dark tetrad, and what dark leadership can look like inside organizations. Ted breaks down four dark personality traits: narcissism, psychopathy, Machiavellianism, and sadism. He explains how these traits can show up in leaders who appear charming, capable, and impressive to those above them while exploiting, manipulating, intimidating, or destabilizing the people below them. Jayson and Ted then move from recognition to response. They discuss how to protect yourself, set non-negotiable boundaries, contain damaging behaviour through clear expectations and behaviour management, and why organizations should act decisively when they have grounds to remove a toxic leader. The episode closes with a more hopeful question: what protects leadership from becoming dark? Ted points to social and emotional intelligence, ego maturity, and the ability to be secure in your own power while making room for the power of others. Episode timestamps: 00:00 Evil and dark traits in leadership 00:11 Ted's personal connection to dark leadership 03:47 Rethinking "hurt people hurt people" 08:24 Ted's background in industrial-organizational psychology 12:24 Understanding the dark tetrad 13:45 Narcissism 14:56 The dark, Goldilocks, and dazzling zones 19:15 Psychopathy 22:43 Psychopathy in executive roles 27:10 Why dark leadership can look delightful 28:15 Machiavellianism 29:43 Manipulation versus influence 31:47 Narcissistic theatre and self-serving causes 34:47 Machiavellianism in practice 37:54 Sadism 40:00 What workplace sadism can look like 44:23 How common dark traits may be 47:56 Culture as the antidote 49:00 Dark-activated behaviour 51:52 How culture can activate destructive behaviour 57:20 "What if I'm one of them?" 59:42 Working alongside a dark leader 1:03:00 Containment and behaviour management 1:06:39 Why not simply let them go? 1:08:04 The three outcomes of containment 1:11:00 Can people with dark traits change? 1:12:41 The worst advice for dealing with dark traits 1:16:52 Where the hope comes from 1:19:01 Boundaries are not negotiations 1:22:30 Where to learn more about Ted 1:23:37 The invisible force behind leadership success 1:27:27 Closing reflections Prefer to watch? Find the full video episode of The Executive Commute on the Level 52 Inc. YouTube channel. Follow Level 52 Inc. on YouTube for full conversations, clips, and more leadership content. Follow Jayson Krause LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jayson-krause/  

Sponsored recommendation:Listen to YogaScussion Sponsored recommendation:Listen to Sacred Grit Sponsored recommendation:Listen to the Maine Responder Podcast This week I'm joined by Anne Blythe, founder of BTR.org (Betrayal Trauma Recovery), an organization that has supported over 9,000 women navigating a partner's lying, gaslighting, infidelity, and manipulation. Anne shares her own story of spending seven years and seven therapists trying to understand what was happening in her marriage, and what finally helped her see the truth.We talk about why couples therapy so often fails women dealing with a partner who lies, why the search for a diagnosis (narcissist, sex addict, and so on) can actually delay a woman from trusting her own reality, and why "he's confused" is one of the most common and most dangerous excuses offered to victims. Anne also shares the framework behind her workshop, which helps women determine, with real clarity, whether their partner is telling the truth.If you've ever been told you're too sensitive, too reactive, or too quick to see abuse where it isn't, or if you've sat through couples counseling with someone who is actively lying to you, this episode is for you.Connect with Anne Blythe: btr.orgbtr.org/podcastSupport the show*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your RelationshipWebsite: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

A lot of people got mad at me when I started to change over ten years ago. They got so mad, they booted me out of my church and my family. In this episode, I'm going to tell you about a book that changed the way I parent, lead, and show up in my own life. It's a book about what it actually takes to become the leader of your own life when everyone around you wants things to stay the same.Key Takeaways:The real reason people push back when you change A phrase that completely redefines what "good parenting" actually looks likeThe difference between healthy empathy and "toxic empathy”Why criticism might actually be evidence that you're finally functioning betterThe three universal laws about children and parents that will make you rethink your entire approach to leadership in the home

Obsession. Who hasn't seen it at this point?Curry Barker's $750K horror film has made over $400 million, minted a star in Inde Navarrette, and started a fight about what to even call this genre.This week we dig into the BTS trivia, the scenes we can't stop thinking about, and the Indian censor board's missing 36 seconds. Then we get into nice guy horror itself: the worst Pokémon evolution you've ever heard, Bollywood's hypermasculine inverse, and the Indian remake of Obsession that lives in our heads. (It involves IIT coaching.)Caution:⚠️ Full spoilers for Obsession, light spoilers for Barbarian and Companion.Let us know what you thought of it in the comments!ALSO DON'T FORGET TO LIKE, SHARE AND SUBSCRIBE!Chapters:00:00 – The biggest hit of the year01:29 – Blumhouse's biggest surprise02:44 – Breakout stars & the YouTube-to-horror pipeline05:14 – First impressions (three viewings deep)07:24 – Synopsis, spoiler warning & the allegory read12:02 – The censor board's missing 36 seconds16:17 – Duct tape, the helpline call & the spider crawl20:03 – Ian's billion dollars22:09 – The Infamous Brick scene23:43 – The final sequence hits different on rewatch25:04 – Trivia: Get Out & Hereditary homages26:54 – The rise of Nice Guy horror27:32 – The worst Pokémon evolution31:22 – It's not entitlement, it's control34:20 – Narcissism & missing your own red flags37:06 – Barbarian, Companion & the genre canon39:43 – Bollywood's hypermasculine inverse43:20 – Take a stand, cowards45:43 – Media literacy & the Indian audience46:30 – The scene that had to stay47:54 – Obsession, made in India (the IIT version)50:01 – Final ranking: Obsession vs Barbarian vs Companion53:42 – Wrap-upFollow us on our socials!

Everyone watching the Netflix documentary calls JP Miller a narcissist, but the federal indictment, the civil lawsuits, the sworn affidavits, and three decades of documented behavior describe something the published research treats as a different category entirely. Federal prosecutors allege Miller ran a seventeen-month cyberstalking campaign against Mica Miller — tracking devices on her vehicles, more than fifty calls in one day, her nude photo posted online without consent, interference with her money and her daily life. He has pleaded not guilty. Her death was officially ruled a suicide and he has not been charged in it. Two women allege in civil complaints that Miller sexually assaulted them as children inside churches his family operated. His first wife swore under oath that he admitted to being sexually inappropriate with underage members of his congregation. His father pled guilty to federal charges for trapping international students in forced labor at a Bible college. A forensic psychologist, a psychotherapist, and a retired FBI behavioral analyst have all publicly applied clinical frameworks to this specific case — narcissism, Machiavellianism, psychopathy, coercive control, and the DARVO response pattern. This episode walks through the documented evidence and maps it against those frameworks. Then it asks the question domestic violence researchers have studied for decades: what happens when a person who built a system of control inside an institution loses that institution? Miller's church is gone. A global documentary is streaming his alleged conduct. A federal trial is approaching. He's preaching to a handful of people with an ankle monitor on. The research says that's when the profile becomes most dangerous.Listen Anywhere You Get Podcasts: https://pod.link/1655749292 Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/@hiddenkillerspod?sub_confirmation=1 Join Our SubStack For AD-FREE ADVANCE EPISODES & EXTRAS!: https://hiddenkillers.substack.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/tonybpodThis publication contains commentary and opinion based on publicly available information. All individuals are presumed innocent until proven guilty in a court of law. Nothing published here should be taken as a statement of fact, health or legal advice.#JPMiller #MicaMiller #DeathOfThePastorsWife #SolidRockChurch #CoerciveControl #TrueCrime #Netflix #MicasLaw #HiddenKillers #JusticeForMica

Subscribe to get access to the full episode, the episode reading list, and all premium episodes! www.patreon.com/OrdinaryUnhappinessThe Ordinary Unhappiness journey through the landscape of modern narcissism continues – and arrives in the United States! In this episode, Abby, Patrick, and Dan turn to the work of Karen Horney, a figure who has variously been called a Neo-Freudian, a forerunner of Interpersonal Psychoanalysis, a key player in a psychoanalytic “Cultural Turn,” and one of the first prominent psychoanalytic feminists. But as Abby, Patrick, and Dan explore, such labels fall short of capturing the power of Horney's insights and the lucidity of her prose. Rejecting Freud's misogyny and his biological account of drives, Horney developed a psychoanalytic approach that was thoroughly cultural and that emphasized notions of selfhood and identity. For Horney, “neurosis” (IE, non-psychotic mental illness and problems in living) reflected the ways in which an individual's strategies for emotional survival, first developed during their childhood in response to distress in the family environment, could crystalize into maladaptive patterns for relating to both the self and to others. Horney thus saw “narcissism” as useful only insofar as the term pinpointed “self-inflation” as a defensive strategy that, as Abby, Patrick, and Dan explain, comes at a painful and alienating price.Have you noticed that Freud is back? Got questions about psychoanalysis? Or maybe you've traversed the fantasy and lived to tell the tale? Leave us a voicemail! (646) 450-0847A podcast about psychoanalysis, politics, pop culture, and the ways we suffer now. New episodes on Saturdays. Find us online:http://www.ordinaryunhappiness.comX: @UnhappinessPodInstagram: @OrdinaryUnhappinessPatreon: http://www.patreon.com/OrdinaryUnhappinessTheme song:Formal Chicken - Gnossienne No. 1https://open.spotify.com/album/2MIIYnbyLqriV3vrpUTxxOProvided by Fruits Music

This podcast discusses some of the more subtle, easy to miss warning signs that someone is a narcissist.www.CynthiaBaileyRug.com

"Women are presenting us with this paradox that we won't have sex with you until a different woman has had sex with you. We won't approve of you until another woman has approved of you. So you go — what do I do then?" Hannah Wallen hosts Talk 414 on a post arguing men need to be more social, and the reaction when they are. Also: why "women don't owe you sex" is not an answer to men being shut out of social contact entirely; Alcoholics Anonymous and the concept of loving detachment; and what the Manic Pixie Dream Girl is shielded from. "Women complain that their preferred partners are narcissists. Their preferred partners are the top twenty percent of men. So obviously they are." Support the show: feedthebadger.com/support Send us a message: feedthebadger.com/justthetip Join the community: badgernation.online

Sponsored recommendation:Growing in Love for Life In this episode I talk about why emotionally abusive and coercive controlling relationships feel so disorienting, and why you end up spending so much time trying to decode behavior that was never actually confusing to begin with. I explain why the through line in these relationships is power and control, not love or stress or a bad day, and why intermittent reinforcement is what keeps you hooked and doubting yourself. If you have ever felt like you were losing your mind in a relationship that everyone else seemed confused by from the outside, this episode is for you.Support the show*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your RelationshipWebsite: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Voices of Courage with Ken D Foster It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: Healing Self-Abandonment with Laura Cheadle Ken D Foster talks with attorney, TEDx speaker and burnout coach Laura Cheadle about why what looks like burnout is often rooted in betrayal, and walks through her FUEL UP Method for recognizing self-abandonment, setting boundaries and rebuilding trust with yourself. A Show Built Around Betrayal, Not Burnout Ken D Foster opens Voices of Courage with a cold-open sample of the conversation to come before rolling the show's intro theme, then returns to formally welcome listeners into a subject he says affects millions of people yet is often misunderstood. He tells the audience that many people write off their burnout as needing a vacation, better time management, or more self-care, when the exhaustion, numbness, and loss of motivation they feel may point to something deeper: betrayal, sometimes by a workplace or relationship, sometimes by their own abandoned values. Foster explains betrayal rarely arrives all at once, building instead through one broken promise or ignored intuition at a time until it erodes confidence and purpose. He then introduces his guest as an attorney, author, TEDx speaker, leadership wellness coach, trauma-informed practitioner and creator of the FUEL UP Burnout Recovery Method, citing a statistic that roughly sixty percent of corporate workers carry unrecognized stress they no longer notice until it becomes full burnout. Naming the Symptoms Millions Ignore Foster and Cheadle walk through what burnout actually looks like before it becomes a full collapse. Cheadle names emotional exhaustion first, the feeling of not being able to face another day, return another email, or deal with the same people again, paired with not knowing what she wants except that the current path is not it. Foster adds a second symptom, a quiet loss of energy that can show up as simply not wanting to get out of bed, or as a slow drain nobody notices happening. Cheadle describes a related pattern of chronic lack of motivation, where people start saying good enough is fine and stop attaching their heart to the work. Foster, who says he has coached for thirty years, frames it as people betraying themselves before anyone else gets the chance, setting up the deeper conversation about betrayal as the hidden root of the symptoms they have just described. Betrayal as the Root Cause Cheadle explains that burnout functions like a fever, a symptom that gets treated for years while the underlying infection goes unexamined. She defines betrayal as the breaking of an expectation someone has relied on, one that ruptures how they see themselves or the world, whether that expectation was set by a workplace, a relationship, or an unrealistic idea the person built their own life around. Foster tests the idea against his own experience, describing someone who expected to make partner at a law firm, work hard enough, and finally have it not happen. Cheadle agrees and pushes further, saying self-betrayal often looks like organizing an entire life around an expectation nobody promised, then feeling like a victim when it does not arrive. Foster asks what real success even means, wondering aloud whether it is the next car or house, or something entirely outside material achievement, a question Cheadle answers by asking listeners whether they wake up grateful or already behind. Laura Cheadle's Own Story of Betrayal Cheadle traces her own burnout back to life as a corporate attorney trying to meet everyone's needs at once, walking away into a wellness practice of yoga and meditation that she expected would fix everything, only to burn out again and start questioning why the standard remedies were not working. She tells Foster that raising two children under two while also caring for aging grandparents collided with the promise she had grown up hearing, that hard work alone guarantees success. The deeper reckoning came later, when she discovered her husband had been unfaithful for twenty-three years, a betrayal she says cut her off at the knees and forced total honesty. Looking inward, she realized she had spent years saying yes when she meant no, performing for approval rather than living from presence, effectively telling herself that only her performance for others mattered, not her own needs. The FUEL UP Method, Step by Step Cheadle walks Foster through her FUEL UP Method letter by letter. F stands for finding your why, identifying the core values, such as connection, education or play, that a person has drifted away from. U is uncovering what is really going on beneath a symptom like exhaustion. E is naming expectations honestly, including the uncomfortable ones, like chasing a party for a dopamine hit rather than lasting relief. L is laughter, which Cheadle says the Mayo Clinic links to calming the nervous system, contrasting the old habit of starting the day with the newspaper comics against today's doom-scrolling. The second U stands for unbroken promises to yourself, such as protecting sleep, food and relationships rather than blaming busyness for broken commitments. Throughout, Cheadle insists the process is messy and requires grief, not a tidy two-week fix, and Foster connects it to his own memory of a therapist telling him to follow the inner voice urging him to feel his pain instead of running from it. Narcissism, Boundaries, and a Closing Word on Courage The conversation turns to reconciliation and to narcissism. Cheadle tells Foster she and her husband ultimately reconciled after his infidelity, calling it a difficult but genuine gift once she stopped blaming him and examined her own side of the relationship. Asked whether narcissists can change, she says no one is a hopeless cause, though nothing is guaranteed since everyone retains free will; change becomes possible once someone is in enough pain to want to live differently. Foster calls narcissism fear-based and argues that living with one teaches boundaries by necessity. Cheadle defines a boundary not as controlling another person but as stating clearly what she will or will not tolerate, then following through. Foster closes by naming the show for the courage it takes to walk into the unknown, whether that means opening a book or calling a coach, then directs listeners to Cheadle's book and to workplace-burnout.com before thanking her and signing off.

This is a replay of one of the most listened to episodes in the Flying Free Podcast archives, and it's such a good one, I thought I'd reshare it for our new listeners! If you've ever screamed, thrown something, said something you regret, and then wondered if you're the abusive one, this conversation will clear that up for you. Our guest, Annette Oltmans breaks down what's really happening in your brain, why "mutual abuse" is a myth, and what happens when the very people you turn to for help end up hurting you all over again.What we cover: Why your reactions don't match your characterA phrase from the National Domestic Violence Hotline that settles the "mutual abuse" debate for good.A former police chief once confronted Annette with a question that reveals exactly why so many victims get misread.There's a second wound that often hurts worse than the first one, and it usually comes from people inside the church.A simple physical trick can interrupt a trauma reaction before it takes over.Get Today's Free Resource:

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Find us at www.crisisinvesting.com  Doug speaking at New Orleans Investment Conference: https://neworleansconference.com/casey-2/ Doug and Matt reflect on the 25th anniversary of 9/11, arguing the official narrative remains unconvincing, citing unresolved issues like Building 7 and the lack of thorough investigation, and linking this to widespread public distrust in government. They discuss escalating Middle East conflict, including Houthi territorial gains in Yemen, threats to shipping near Bab-el-Mandeb, attacks on Saudi infrastructure, and U.S. strikes on Iranian-linked tankers, while noting oil prices and market fragility amid potential rate hikes; Doug discloses he has shorted Nasdaq. They compare alleged state cover-ups to the Charlie Kirk assassination and other disputed events, then address viewer questions on AI-driven job losses, potential debt defaults, protecting oneself via assets and residency abroad, central bank gold moves (including Argentina shipping gold to London), meetups and conferences, precious-metal storage jurisdictions, and Doug's negative view of Nike as an investment. 00:00 9/11 Anniversary Reflections 02:08 Doubting the Official Story 03:35 Building 7 and Media Oddities 07:45 Middle East Escalation and Oil 12:43 Charlie Kirk Conspiracy Questions 15:34 Trust Collapse and State Power 18:20 Trump 5K Proposal Fallout 23:08 Renaming Hormuz and Narcissism 25:27 AI Job Losses Market Impact 27:27 UBI via Tax Credits 28:57 Bribing Voters Warning 30:19 Default Fallout Prep 31:36 Hard vs Soft Default 33:28 Escape Political Risk 34:05 Central Banks Move Gold 35:53 DC Meetups and Events 39:13 Uruguay Free Zone Idea 40:06 Argentina Gold to London 44:25 Where to Store Metals 46:42 Nike Stock and Woke Brands 50:21 Weekend Sign Off

Send us Fan MailMother is the initial and most critical element in the development of an infant from conception. Narcissistic personality traits profoundly compromise the natural progression of developmental tasks. By the time the daughter of a narcissistic mother becomes aware there is a problem, her ability to establish and maintain relationships have already become severely compromised…but not impossible to heal. This episode shines a light on behaviors and experiences that have long been sources of confusion and disappointment.  It brings clarity to questionable memories and understanding to experiences that were difficult to describe. Dr. Mary Ellen Collins, the Founder and Board Chair of the ministry, gives a thorough overview of the stages of awareness when discovering that mother is narcissistic.Resources Podcast Episode highlights a blog by Mary Ellen Collins:  https://www.motherlessdaughtersministry.com/2026/05/20/the-stages-of-awareness-discovering-your-mother-is-narcissistic/Podcast also features a blog by Cathy DiBella:  https://www.motherlessdaughtersministry.com/2020/11/15/effects-of-narcissism-on-me-2/Become a Listener Supporter:  https://www.buzzsprout.com/1040194/supporters/newWhat We Offer:                           https://www.motherlessdaughtersministry.com/giving/ Ministry offerings:Support the showThanks for listening! Find our podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Stitcher, iHeart, Pandora, Amazon Music, and Audible. Also, find and follow the Motherless Daughters Ministry on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube.

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Family estrangement. It's kind of big on social media right now, but not always in a healthy kind of way. Gretchen Baskerville, author of The Life Saving Divorce, has done research on this, and she's discovered nine types of family estrangement. Chances are, you've had a brush with…or are experiencing…at least one type. Watch or listen in to hear real stories that show how addiction, control, mental illness, outside manipulation, and even distorted theology can all play a role in family estrangements, and why the truth is almost always more layered than "who's the villain here."Key Takeaways:There's no single reason families become estranged: what looks the same on the outside can mean something completely different underneath.Some of the most common "explanations" you see online only tell half the story, and Gretchen explains why.One popular Christian teaching has quietly shaped how families handle conflict, and the data on it might shock you.Not every estrangement is permanent. Gretchen shares research on how many families eventually reconnect, and what actually predicts it.You'll walk away with four powerful questions that can help you understand your own family's story with more clarity and less judgment.You can read Gretchen's insightful article on parent/adult-child estrangement HERE. And while you're there, be sure to check out her other researched articles on the topics of Christianity and divorce. Gretchen Baskerville is a Christian divorce recovery leader and researcher. Since 1998, she has worked in churches in the Los Angeles area helping heartbroken people find strength, courage, and healing. For more than 20 years she has worked with Christian women and men going through difficult, life-saving divorces, listening with compassion to those who have suffered from domestic violence, betrayal, infidelity, addicted partners, and emotional abuse. Herself the survivor of a toxic marriage, she walked through her own lifesaving divorce and was a single mother for many years. Today she is happily remarried. She is a graduate of Wheaton College with a degree in Bible and Christian Education.

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We're not the main character. Barry explores “main character syndrome,” tracing its roots and linking it to narcissism that it is. Barry challenges fathers to release the roles of author, creator, editor, and finisher of their story to Jesus Christ.Join the FatherSeekers community! https://www.skool.com/fatherseekersFS FacebookFS InstagramFS YouTubeAsk Barry a question: barry@fatherseekers.orgCHAPTERS00:00 Main Character Syndrome01:01 Origins of the Term02:43 Narcissism and Manipulation04:04 Biblical Roots and Warning06:08 Release the Spotlight07:37 Culture and Parenting Impact10:09 Jesus as Author and Creator16:28 Editor and Finisher Roles19:01 What Syndrome Reveals22:15 Becoming Supporting Character24:48 Final Challenge--FatherSeekers helps fatherless fathers become better fathers.Get discussion guides, devotionals, and more at FS Website

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Send us Fan MailTrent and Peaches are back, and somehow the episode starts with Valhalla, Norse paganism, Air Force beard waivers, and whether everybody suddenly developed shaving trauma at the exact same time.The boys talk about the lengths Airmen will go to for beards, shaving waivers, religious accommodations, fake individuality, and why spending half your professional life trying to dodge grooming standards might be more damaging than the beard itself. Peaches, as the only truly bearded member of Ones Ready, gives the hard truth: beards are not magic, they are more expensive, more maintenance, and your daughter might still roast your old clean-shaven photos.Then it turns into a bigger conversation about military culture. Why has so much of the U.S. military, especially special operations, adopted the whole Norse/Viking/Valhalla thing? Trent and Peaches push back on the cosplay version of warrior identity and make the case that the American military fighting legacy is already heavy enough. You do not need to pretend to be a Viking, samurai, or anything else. The legacy is already right here.From there, they move into fitness, running, and the idea that being better at physical training absolutely makes you better at leadership. It shows discipline, commitment, consistency, and the ability to lead from the front. They break down why most candidates hate running because they train like idiots, why every run does not need to be a death sprint, why heart rate zones matter, and how slowing down can make you faster over time.Also included: maintainers tracking macros, cinnamon rolls with chili, treadmill lies, pavement reality checks, San Antonio hills, Taylor Starch blood-doping at Colorado altitude by existing, the Manitou Incline, and Peaches nearly getting saved by a Ones Ready fan on a mountain trail.Links:OnesReady.comOperatorTrainingSummit.comChapters:00:00 - Ones Ready Intro01:03 - What Is Valhalla?01:23 - Norse Pagan Beards in the Air Force02:46 - Why Do People Care This Much About Beards?03:13 - Peaches Explains Beard Reality04:38 - Shaving Waivers and Razor Shenanigans06:23 - Trent's Anti-Beard SIMSAF Policy07:54 - Do Beards Make Us More Lethal?08:53 - Arguing About Beards Is the Problem09:39 - Individuality or Narcissism?10:22 - When a Bearded Airman Is Actually Squared Away11:20 - Maintainers Tracking Macros12:44 - Cinnamon Rolls With Chili14:20 - Why Special Operations Loves Viking Stuff15:44 - American Warrior Legacy Is Enough18:00 - The 13th Warrior Prayer18:54 - The Weird Side of Norse Cosplay19:54 - PT Makes You Better at Everything21:13 - Learning to Stop Hating Running22:20 - Heart Rate Training Changes Everything23:50 - It's Not the Time, It's the Miles25:48 - Zone Two Is Humbling27:00 - Treadmill Running vs. Real Running27:59 - Hills Change the Game30:10 - San Antonio Hill Country Breakdown31:16 - Taylor Starch at Altitude32:28 - The Manitou Incline35:06 - Lightning, Trails, and Podcast Fans36:05 - OTS Updates and Partner Discounts37:28 - Members Only TeaseSupport the showJoin this channel to get access to perks: HEREBuzzsprout Subscription page:  HERERegister for our Operator Training Summit:  OperatorTrainingSummit.comFind an Air Force Recruiter: AirForce.comCollabs:Ones Ready - OnesReady.com 18A Fitness - Promo Code:  ONESREADY ATACLete - Follow the URL (no promo code):  ATACLeteDanger Close Apparel - Promo Code:  ONESREADYDFND Apparel...

If you are stepping away from an emotionally or spiritually destructive marriage and suddenly feel hit by severe anxiety, physical illness, obsessive thoughts, or a desperate urge to run back, you may be experiencing trauma bond withdrawal.When a relationship alternates between unpredictable emotional mistreatment and periods of seeming “niceness,” your body builds a biological and neurochemical dependency on that cycle. Breaking free triggers a physical and emotional detox.Today's episode is a faith-informed, clinically grounded guide to understanding trauma bond withdrawal symptoms, dismantling weaponized scripture, and restoring your nervous system.Resources mentioned in this episode:The Grey Rock Method for Emotional Abuse VictimsFlying Free Kaleidoscope ProgramGet Today's Free Resource:

Experiences with stress, depression, and anxiety are often paired with feelings of not measuring up or that you're not enough. However, feeling that you're lacking in some way is not limited to a mental health diagnosis; these feelings are actually very common and, unfortunately, they make our lives smaller. We're working on our Element of Enoughness in this episode, identifying Enoughness as an inner knowing that you are enough just as you are, with acceptance of where you are at this moment, without giving up on where you're headed. We'll start by identifying some obstacles to that knowing through two powerful research frameworks. The first is Dr. Jennifer Crocker's "contingencies of self-worth." This is the idea that we stake our self-esteem more heavily on certain domains than others, and when we do, our worth rises and falls with our performance in those areas.   The second framework is Drs. Paul Hewitt and Gordon Flett's three typologies of perfectionism: self-oriented (impossible standards for yourself), other-oriented (impossible standards for others), and socially-prescribed (believing others are demanding your perfection). Henry also names the common root for our feelings of not being enough: the fundamental fear of not belonging.  This is the start of our series on Enoughness, so be sure to stick with us for the next episodes as we talk about and gain skills related to having enough, doing enough, knowing enough, and being enough.   About: The Joy Lab Podcast is an Ambie-nominated podcast that blends science and soul to help you cope better with stress, anxiety, and depression. It's hosted by integrative psychiatrist Dr. Henry Emmons and holistic mental health researcher Dr. Aimee Prasek. The podcast is best paired with the Joy Lab App.   Bonus: spread some joy and keep this podcast ad-free by donating (Joy Lab is powered by the nonprofit Pathways North and your donations are tax-deductible).   Full transcript here   Sources and Notes for Our Element of Enoughness: Related Joy Lab Episodes:    Ep. 268: Humility Can Be Stressful... But Worth It for Mental Health  Ep. 273: How to Build Confidence (When You Don't Feel Confident Yet)  Bellam, S., Curran, T., Hill, A. P., & Stoeber, J. (2025). Perfectionism and work performance: A meta-analysis. https://doi.org/10.1111/joop.12570 Carver, C. S., Lawrence, J. W., & Scheier, M. F. (1999). Self-discrepancies and affect: Incorporating the role of feared selves. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167299025007002  Crocker, J., & Park, L. E. (2004). The costly pursuit of self-esteem. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.131.3.392  Crocker, J., & Park, L. E. (2004). Reaping the benefits of pursuing self-esteem without the costs? Reply to Schmuck and Sheldon (2004), Sheldon et al. (2004), Pyszczynski et al. (2004), and Kernis (2004). https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.130.3.430 Crocker, J., Karpinski, A., Quinn, D. M., & Chase, S. K. (2003). When grades determine self-worth: Consequences of contingent self-worth for male and female engineering and psychology majors. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.85.3.507 Crocker, J., & Wolfe, C. T. (2001). Contingencies of self-worth. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-295X.108.3.593 Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. (2004). Avoiding death or engaging life as accounts of meaning and culture: Comment on Pyszczynski et al. (2004). https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.130.3.473 Freudenberger, H. J. (1974). Staff burn-out. Journal of Social Issues, 30(1), 159–165. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1540-4560.1974.tb00706.x  Harari, D., Swider, B. W., Bujold Steed, L., & Breidenthal, A. P. (2018). Is perfect good? A meta-analysis of perfectionism in the workplace. https://doi.org/10.1037/apl0000324 Hewitt, P. L., & Flett, G. L. (1991). Perfectionism in the self and social contexts: Conceptualization, assessment, and association with psychopathology. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.60.3.456 Higgins, E. T. (1987). Self-discrepancy: A theory relating self and affect. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-295X.94.3.319 Joseph, S., & Linley, P. A. (2005). Positive adjustment to threatening events: An organismic valuing theory of growth through adversity. https://doi.org/10.1037/1089-2680.9.3.262 Kernis, M. H. (2005). Measuring self-esteem in context: The importance of stability of self-esteem in psychological functioning. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1467-6494.2005.00359.x Kirkpatrick, L. A., & Ellis, B. J. (2001). An evolutionary-psychological approach to self-esteem: Multiple domains and multiple functions. In G. J. O. Fletcher & M. S. Clark (Eds.), Blackwell handbook of social psychology: Interpersonal processes (pp. 411–436). Blackwell. Leary, M. R. (2000). Sociometer theory and the pursuit of relational value: Getting to the root of self-esteem. https://doi.org/10.1080/14792772043000045  Maslach, C. (1981). The measurement of experienced burnout. https://doi.org/10.1002/job.4030020205   Park, L. E., & Crocker, J. (2005). Attachment styles and contingencies of self-worth. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167205277030 Pyszczynski, T., Greenberg, J., Solomon, S., Arndt, J., & Schimel, J. (2004). Why do people need self-esteem? https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.130.3.435 Schaufeli, W. B., Leiter, M. P., & Maslach, C. (2009). Burnout: 35 years of research and practice. https://doi.org/10.1108/13620430910966406    Questions this episode was made for: Q: What does "you are enough" actually mean? Isn't that just an excuse to stop growing? A: Enoughness, as Joy Lab defines it, is the inner knowing that you are enough just as you are, with acceptance of where you are, without giving up on where you're headed. Enoughness is distinct from self-esteem (which rises and falls with performance) and is closer to unconditional self-worth; this episode explains the distinction and why believing you are enough actually makes you more open to genuine growth, not less.   Q: Why do I feel so driven to prove myself even when I know it's exhausting and not working? A: That's the contingencies of self-worth in action. When we stake our self-esteem on certain domains, we strive or perform not to learn or grow but to prove our worth; this episode explains the mechanism, its real costs, and why loosening those contingencies is not giving up on goals but can help free yourself from letting outcomes dictate your value.    Key moments: [00:00] Welcome to the brand new Element of Enoughness  [00:30] Opening fact: you are enough — and the Zen teaching Henry loves: "You're perfect as you are, and you could use a little improvement"  [01:00] Aimee's working definition: Enoughness is the inner knowing that you are enough just as you are, with acceptance of where you are, without giving up on where you're headed  [01:30] Contentment spiked with hope — Enoughness is not a ceiling, it's a foundation  [02:00] Why Enoughness is hard to define operationally — but viscerally familiar; we know what having it and lacking it feels like  [03:00] Henry: this topic lives in the conversation around scarcity and abundance — how much is enough is a question we don't give enough thought to  [03:30] Most of us carry on as though we don't have or aren't enough — striving, or feeling bad for what we think we lack  [04:00] The rare person who feels comfortable in their own skin: receives praise but doesn't need it — and stands out for it  [04:30] Four dimensions to explore: having enough, doing enough, knowing enough, and being enough  [06:00] Two key frameworks for the month: contingencies of self-worth (Dr. Jennifer Crocker) and typologies of perfectionism (Drs. Hewitt and Flett) [06:30] Contingencies of self-worth: we don't stake self-esteem equally on everything — certain domains carry more of our worth  [07:00] Three key claims: contingencies motivate where we put attention and effort; they influence how we react in those domains; they can lead to fragile self-esteem linked to higher depression and anxiety  [07:30] Contingencies turn "I feel good about myself" into "I feel good about myself if..."  [08:00] Crocker's college student study: students who tied self-worth to academic performance studied more hours — but extra studying did NOT predict a higher GPA  [08:30] They were studying to prove worth, not to learn — and reported more conflict, more academic struggle, more dissatisfaction by end of freshman year  [09:30] Key takeaway: you can be motivated to do well without attaching self-worth to the outcome — that's actually the more effective route  [10:00] Loosening contingencies isn't surrendering goals — it's refusing to let outcomes or others' judgments dictate your value  [10:30] Henry: inadequacy is closer to the truth than insecurity — the belief that we're not enough permeates almost everything  [11:00] Buddhist psychology: grasping — endless grasping — as the manifestation of not-enoughness  [11:30] No matter how much we get of the thing we think will fill us up, it doesn't last — this tragic gap drives anxiety and depression  [12:30] Aimee: feeling inadequate shakes our sense of security and safety — evolutionary roots, we need the group to survive  [13:00] Important distinction: self-esteem (rises and falls with performance), fragile self-esteem (staked on outcomes we grasp onto), and self-worth (intrinsic, not performance-dependent)  [14:00] Baumeister's challenge to the self-esteem movement of the '80s and '90s — hollow self-esteem building is at best unsubstantiated, potentially harmful  [14:30] Baumeister and Vohs, "Narcissism as Addiction to Esteem": chasing self-esteem through reality-detached praise creates a dopamine-like loop — feels good briefly, drops quickly, tolerance builds, need more and more  [15:30] The addiction pattern: constantly chasing the next hollow boost, convinced it'll finally hold — and it never does [16:30] Henry: why do we give our lifeblood chasing what we know deep down won't give us what we want?  [17:00] The fundamental human drive: to belong — to be seen, appreciated, cared about — once basic biological needs are met  [17:30] The tension: deep need to belong vs. the illusion that we are separate and must go it alone  [18:00] Neuroscience of belonging: newly born neurons immediately extend to connect with others — if insufficiently connected, they shrivel and die; same for us  [19:00] Introduction of perfectionism typologies from Drs. Paul Hewitt and Gordon Flett  [19:30] Type 1 — Self-oriented: punishing standards for yourself, intense drive to be perfect and avoid failure  [19:45] Type 2 — Other-oriented: same rigid standards applied to others — hard on relationships, linked to more loneliness  [20:00] Type 3 — Socially-prescribed: believing others are demanding your perfection and will judge you if you fail — most linked to depression, hopelessness, and possibly suicidal ideation  [21:00] Henry: socially-prescribed perfectionism feels like the loneliest of the three — you're playing by rules you didn't design, trapped in a system you didn't agree to  [21:30] All three stem from the same root: the fundamental fear of not being enough, of not belonging  [22:00] Self-oriented: "If I'm not perfect, I'm not worthy of belonging" — attacking yourself to earn your own permission to exist  [22:30] Other-oriented: projecting the fear outward — demanding others meet standards because that's what you believe it takes to matter  [23:00] Socially-prescribed: the loneliest — responding to what you believe the world demands, even though that belief deserves to be questioned  [23:30] Most of us carry all three — when we can name these patterns, we have a choice; we can loosen the grip  [24:00] Aimee: all of these types come from a good place — wanting to matter, wanting others to matter — it's driven by a desire for connection  [25:00] Pushback addressed: will believing you're enough make you lazy, entitled, or narcissistic? No — Enoughness is not the same as self-esteem  [25:30] Enoughness is a neutral, solid ground — you can feel bad about a mistake and still feel like enough as a person  [26:00] When you feel like enough: you can take criticism without your value collapsing; apologize without self-destruction; make mistakes and still belong  [27:00] Joy Lab Program Experiment for Enoughness — head to JoyLab.coach  [27:30] This is a collective experiment — to feel like enough, we have to offer that to others  [28:00] Closing wisdom from Lao-Tzu: "When you are content to be simply yourself and don't compare or compete, everyone will respect you."   If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review us wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts!    Please remember that this content is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice and is not a replacement for advice and treatment from a medical professional. 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Mon. Aug. 31st/26. Join Me Tonight LIVE, Mon. Aug. 31st/26, from 6:20pm-8pm EST, on ‘The Angel Rock with Lorilei Potvin' as I welcome back special guest, fan fav and good friend Sonya Roy. Sonya Roy completed her studies at the University of Montreal in Psycho-éducation in 1997. She is a retired Corporal for the Royal Canadian Mounted Police. She owns and operates the Redu Spiritual Wellness Center® in Drumheller, Alberta Over the past forty years, she developed her gifts as a medium, master holistic healer, and shamanic practitioner who works with those around her. These teachings were passed down from her Maternal Grand-Mother. She started practicing Reiki in 2013 and teaches and shares her knowledge through workshops, conferences around the world. She has produced bilingual manuals for all levels of USUI REIKI RYOHO Tibetan & UNIVERSAL® for teachers. She also developed the Wisdom School of Spiritual Transformation©TM program to help people on their spiritual journey of learning and growth. Sonya is also an author of many books, including “Narcissism: 12 Steps To Successfully Heal & Flourish After Narcissistic Abuse” Tonight, we're going to be talking in depth all about Past Lives, what are they, how these past lives can affect your present life and so much more!! You can reach Sonya Roy here: https://www.sonyaroy.com/?srsltid=AfmBOopFj2fz_HH1O_cs0PMZbqy7tncqf8--Rb3ORlD0xSM3jn52hK8X United Public Radio & UFO Paranormal Radio www.uprntalkradio.com

I'm a therapist who 's had enough of therapy culture!One of my biggest pet peeves with it is the way we've turned mental health diagnoses into explanations for human beings. Depression. Anxiety. ADHD. Bipolar disorder. Narcissism. We throw these labels around as though they explain *why* someone thinks, feels, and behaves the way they do. They don't. A diagnosis tells you the WHAT. It does not tell you the WHY.This week, I'm digging into what psychiatric diagnoses actually are, how they evolved, what we really know about “chemical imbalances," and what can happen when a diagnostic label becomes part of someone's identity. Your suffering is real. Your symptoms are real. But you are a human being first—and your humanity, your history, your relationships, your pain, and your adaptations deserve to be understood. The label should never take the place of the human being.Follow Vanessa: https://www.instagram.com/vanessathetherapist/Follow the show: https://www.instagram.com/theworkofbeinghuman/

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Jonny Miller on Nervous System Mastery, Grief, and Why High Performers Can't Afford to Stay Stuck in Their Heads Your nervous system is running every decision, relationship, and reaction in your life, and you won't notice how much it's costing you until something breaks. This episode gives you the exact framework for building real nervous system mastery instead of running on autopilot until it fails. Watch this episode on YouTube for the full video experience: https://www.youtube.com/@DaveAspreyBPR Host Dave Asprey sits down with Jonny Miller, host of the Inner Frontier Podcast and founder of Nervous System Mastery, who has taught more than 1,000 people how to build the skills of interoception, self-regulation, and emotional fluidity. A former Silicon Valley founder turned nervous system expert, Jonny brings a rare mix of rational, data-driven thinking and deep somatic work to a field most high performers avoid entirely. They break down why interoception, self-regulation, and emotional fluidity are the three learnable skills behind every major shift in performance, relationships, and decision-making, and why most high achievers have spent their whole lives disconnected from what's happening below the neck. Jonny introduces the half-life of reactivity, his framework for measuring how quickly someone can move from triggered back to calm, and explains how free diving became his gateway into surrender, breath work, and pressure equalization as a form of high-stakes meditation. Dave shares his own parallel journey through nervous system work, including lessons from running 40 Years of Zen and a costly business betrayal that reshaped how he reads people. Dave and Jonny also open up about grief, including Jonny's experience losing his fiancée and later his mother, and how community and co-regulation shape how fast someone actually heals. You'll Learn: Why interoception, self-regulation, and emotional fluidity are the three core skills behind nervous system mastery What the half-life of reactivity is and how to use it to measure real emotional progress How free diving works as a form of high-stakes meditation and a direct feedback loop for unclenching Why congruence between your inner and outer state matters more than staying composed under pressure How team intuition can be used as a practical filter in high-stakes hiring decisions Why co-regulation with friends and community can dramatically shorten the grieving process What Jonny's Breath Buddy device is designed to teach kids and families about nervous system regulation Thank you to our sponsors! - MOD | Visit mod.com for a consultation and get 10% off your first order plus free shipping with promo code DAVE. - ZenBud | Dave's Nervous System Biohack. 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Keywords: Jonny Miller, Inner Frontier Podcast, Nervous System Mastery, interoception, self-regulation, emotional fluidity, half-life of reactivity, free diving, breathwork, nervous system regulation, somatic healing, grief processing, co-regulation, congruence, trauma response, boundary setting, narcissism, hiring intuition, cold plunge, surrender, NSDR, yoga nidra, Breath Buddy, biohacking, high performance, 40 Years of Zen, psychedelic integration, Silicon Valley founder, emotional resilience Resources: • Nervous System Mastery Course: https://www.nsmastery.com/ • Listen To Jonny's Podcast ‘The Inner Frontier' at: https://open.spotify.com/show/1lGD5wIfhnE4bepja42C9S • Get My 2026 Clean Nicotine Roadmap | Enroll for free at https://daveasprey.com/2026-clean-nicotine-roadmap/ • Dave Asprey's Latest News | Go to https://daveasprey.com/ to join Inside Track today. • Danger Coffee: https://dangercoffee.com/discount/dave15? • My Daily Supplements: SuppGrade Labs (15% Off) • Favorite Blue Light Blocking Glasses: TrueDark (15% Off) • Dave Asprey's BEYOND Conference: https://beyondconference.com • Dave Asprey's New Book – Heavily Meditated: https://daveasprey.com/heavily-meditated • Join My Substack (Live Access To Podcast Recordings): https://substack.daveasprey.com/ • Upgrade Labs: https://upgradelabs.com Timestamps: 00:00 – Trailer 01:10 – Losing His Fiancée 04:28 – Nervous System Mastery 11:52 – Community & Co-Regulation 17:37 – From Head to Body 22:52 – Surrender & Free Diving 28:54 – Half-Life of Reactivity 35:33 – Congruence & the $100M Lesson 38:58 – Stupidity, Narcissism & Intuition 50:22 – Biohacking Trojan Horses 59:11 – Breath Buddy & Outro See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Narcissism, Cult Recovery, Spiritual Awakening, and DiscernmentMark Vicente is an author, speaker, and award-winning Writer/Director/Producer from Johannesburg, South Africa. Taking his first photograph at age four, he worked his way up through the ranks of the camera department, shooting a number of anti-apartheid films in the 1980s before relocating to Hollywood.Because of the atrocities in his native South Africa, he found himself propelled to question fundamental assumptions at a young age: beliefs about human behavior, morality, cosmology, existentialism and mysticism. Unifying his love of science, philosophy and filmmaking, his dream of creating cinema to inspire and provoke thought emerged with the creation of “What the BLEEP Do We Know?!” Later, deeply moved by the violence consuming Mexico, Mark released “Encender el Corazon,” a film about the kidnapping epidemic there and one community's courage in standing up to the cartels. It was a bittersweet victory. While the film touched many people deeply, it was by association supporting the criminal enterprise NXIVM. Mark made the difficult decision to pull the film from distribution and, with a small band of whistleblowers, exposed NXIVM's criminal behavior, resulting in multiple arrests and prosecutions. This journey is captured in the HBO Documentary Series “The Vow.”He has since developed a passionate interest in exposing the coercive, duplicitous environments of high-control groups. His feature documentary “Narcissists' Playbook,” examining malignant narcissism through self-confessed, self-aware narcissists, juxtaposed with testimony from victims, survivors, scientists, and mental health professionals, has now been released. He is also developing “Inst@Guru,” a series examining the rise of predatory self-help culture in the social media age, centered on Dutch social media guru Bentinho Massaro.Websites:markvicente.comNarcissist's PlaybookBonnie Piesse is an Australian/American actress, singer-songwriter and soul alignment and manifestation coach. She's best known for her roles in Star Wars: Attack of the Clones, Revenge of the Sith, and Obi-Wan Kenobi, and was recently seen in My Favorite Girlfriend alongside Tyler Johnson and Michael Nouri. As a singer-songwriter, her music has been featured in film and TV including Miss Arizona, HBO's The Vow (in which she was also a subject), and CW's Life Unexpected. Through her business, Your Quantum Life, Bonnie helps soul-led leaders remember who they really are and step into authentic expression and embodiment.Website: bonniepiesse.com

In this episode, we're doing something a little different. I'm opening up my private monthly book club discussion (usually just for Flying Higher members) and sharing it with you. This month we read the bestselling novel Yesteryear by Caro Claire Burke. We get into the tradwife aesthetic, performative Christianity, and the difference between a woman who genuinely loves a homemaking life and a system that demands every woman perform one. Key Takeaways:The reason the beautiful tradwife image is so seductiveThe most convincing performances usually start with a belief that's actually sincere. One character's storyline sparked a heated disagreement in the group about who gets to be "smart" in stories like this one, and why that distinction matters There's a subtle difference between a woman choosing a traditional role and a woman being conditioned into one, and it changes everything about how we respond to the trend.What does authentic faith look like once the performance stops? If you're a divorced Christian woman who loves self-development and learning new things, consider joining the Flying Higher community! Get Today's Free Resource:

Trust isn't something you manufacture through effort — it's something you receive through relationship. In this episode, Dr. Greg Bottaro concludes the series on OCPD and perfectionism by exploring why control feels so necessary, how our earliest relationships shape our ability to trust God, and why freedom begins not when we become perfect, but when we allow ourselves to be loved. Because holiness isn't built on mastering the perfect spiritual routine — it's built on learning to rest in the love that has always been pursuing you. Key Topics: Why trust can't be built through more effort, more surrender, or the right devotion How "trying harder" to trust God is actually the pattern itself, not the way out of it How the parts of us that need control aren't bad, but are protecting something deeper Why compassion, not correction, is the first step toward healing a controlling part How self-possession exists for the sake of self-gift — and why you can't give what you don't have Why holiness was never meant to end fear of hell, but to end the need to earn love in the first place How real healing only happens in relationship — not in a program, a podcast, or a novena Learn More: Previous episodes in this series on Obsessive Compulsive Personality Patterns: Ep. #290: "I'm Only Loved When I'm Perfect": The Lie Fueling Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder Ep. #291: OCPD and Scrupulosity: How the Worship of Rules and Control Leads to the Loneliness of Certainty Ep. #292: Holy Anxiety: The Understandable Underbelly of Scrupulosity Join us at the Summit of Integration this October in Dallas — launching the Year of St. John Paul II Presence Virtual Retreat: Practice the presence of God and trustful surrender  Previous episodes on parts work (IFS): Ep. #34: A New Theory! w/ a Catholic Lens Ep. #35: Why Do I Feel Like I Have Conflicting Thoughts? w/ Dr. Peter Malinoski Start of the Being Human series on the Antisocial Defense Patterns: Ep. #281: Control or Be Controlled: The Devastating Wounds Behind Antisocial Behavioral Patterns Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation. Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment. Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

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Welcome back to In Sanity: A Piece of Mind. Last episode, I talked about the gap between who someone is and who they need to believe they are, and how narcissism is really a wall built around that gap, not an excess of self-love. In this episode, we will start there. Today I'm going deeper into what the actual clinical picture of NPD looks like, what the research says about shame specifically inside that diagnosis, where it actually comes from developmentally, and how you protect yourself from narcissistic behavior without needing to dehumanize the person behind it. My hope is you leave this episode able to hold empathy and a boundary at the same time.**This podcast does not address physical abuse in any way. If you are in a relationship where there is abuse, please seek professional help**

Subscribe to get access to the full episode, the episode reading list, and all premium episodes! www.patreon.com/OrdinaryUnhappinessThe Summer of Narcissism brings Abby, Patrick, and Dan to Freud's landmark 1914 essay, “On Narcissism: An Introduction.” While the sexologists considered narcissism a niche sexual perversion occurring only among a small number of adults, Freud structuralized the concept into a broader model of universal processes of development and subject formation. Moreover, Freud argued that some kind of narcissism was necessary for any basic human capacity for self-esteem, and saw it implicated not only in comparatively rare pathological formations, but also in socially celebrated activities like parenting and falling in love. And as Abby, Patrick, and Dan explore, while much of Freud's essay hasn't stood the test of time (especially in its homophobia and misogyny), his distinction between “primary narcissism” and “secondary narcissism” remains vital and has proven foundational for subsequent theoretical and clinical thinking about personality disorders, treatability, and more.Have you noticed that Freud is back? Got questions about psychoanalysis? Or maybe you've traversed the fantasy and lived to tell the tale? Leave us a voicemail! (646) 450-0847A podcast about psychoanalysis, politics, pop culture, and the ways we suffer now. New episodes on Saturdays. Find us online:http://www.ordinaryunhappiness.comX: @UnhappinessPodInstagram: @OrdinaryUnhappinessPatreon: http://www.patreon.com/OrdinaryUnhappinessTheme song:Formal Chicken - Gnossienne No. 1https://open.spotify.com/album/2MIIYnbyLqriV3vrpUTxxOProvided by Fruits Music

In this live broadcast, I stand at the intersection of mental health and biblical insight, sharing from my journey “in the trenches” of my own journey and through experience of helping those who are struggling. From a pastoral lens, I share the common root areas that are often underlying those who struggle with OCD and also those who battle ADHD, and how these […]

Let's talk about emotional neglect. Can we really categorize this as “abuse?” I say we can, and in today's episode, I'm going to tell you why. In this episode, you'll learn:Five specific ways emotional neglect shows up in a marriageWhy silence can be more controlling than yellingWhat your nervous system does when someone ignores youThe question every neglected wife asks herself over and over again, and why she needs to stop asking that questionGet Today's Free Resource:

In this release episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon talks with Mark Vicente ('What The Bleep Do We Know?', 'The Vow', & The Narcissist's Playbook), about his new documentary, covert narcissistic abuse, spiritual narcissism, enmeshment, the dark night of the soul, surviving the the cult of NXIVM, psychopaths, and the experience of waking up.  If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Scrupulosity often looks like devotion — but when fear takes over, even our spiritual life can become consumed by doubt, checking, and the search for certainty. In this episode, Dr. Greg Bottaro continues the series on OCPD and perfectionism, exploring the difference between a healthy conscience and a scrupulous one, why mercy can be hard to trust, and how our experiences shape the way we see God. Holiness was never meant to be an endless audit — it was meant to lead us into relationship with the One who loves us. Key Topics: How reciting the truth about mercy in your head does nothing to change what your body still believes Why certainty about being forgiven is the one thing this pattern can never actually get Why confession, meant to bring peace, can quietly become just another form of checking How the voice you call your conscience might actually be a punishing voice in disguise Why the face you're afraid God is making at you was never really His How the saints wrestled with scrupulosity — and what finally brought them peace wasn't more proof Why doing this work alone almost always makes the pattern worse How the way out can feel too easy to trust Learn More: Previous episodes in this series on Obsessive Compulsive Personality Patterns: Ep. #290: "I'm Only Loved When I'm Perfect": The Lie Fueling Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder Ep. #291: OCPD and Scrupulosity: How the Worship of Rules and Control Leads to the Loneliness of Certainty Episode referenced on spiritual bypassing: Why "Everything Happens for a Reason" Isn't Working: The Holy Words We Use to Avoid Healing Join us at the Summit of Integration this October in Dallas — launching the Year of St. John Paul II Start of the Being Human series on the Antisocial Defense Patterns: Ep. #281: Control or Be Controlled: The Devastating Wounds Behind Antisocial Behavioral Patterns Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation. Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment. Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

In this episode, host Lisa Bilyeu is joined by ex-CIA spy Andrew Bustamante and renowned defense attorney Karen Conti for a riveting discussion on the complex interplay between power, money, and justice in high-profile cases. Focusing on Sean "Diddy" Combs, the panel unravels allegations of abuse, manipulation, and the concealed video evidence that has sparked intense debate.Our guests delve into the mechanisms of reputational protection, the ethics and legality of selective video management by hotels, and the broader implications of federal investigations that could ripple through the entertainment and financial sectors. They also touch on the societal idolization of celebrities and the reluctance to believe victims of abuse, especially in racially charged contexts.The conversation does not shy away from the darker aspects of celebrity culture, including the psychological and legal struggles victims face, and the role of powerful networks in perpetuating harmful behavior. Andrew and Karen provide insights into the strategic use of influence and blackmail, comparing Diddy's case to other notorious figures like Jeffrey Epstein and R. Kelly.SHOWNOTES-Prosecutor challenges: doubt, juror skepticism, evidence.-Normalization leads to acceptance of inappropriate behavior.-Narcissism fueled by adoration led to crime.-Hollywood power and blackmail delayed revelations.-The entertainment industry is extremely abusive.-Reputational protection industry safeguards high-profile individuals.-We define our own privacy, not others.-Diddy appears dazed; Cassie tries escaping situation.-Apology video seemed scripted and well-produced.-Professionals empathize with aggressors, differing amateurs.-Was his organization structured like a business?FOLLOW LISA:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeuYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpactTik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=enSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This is part two of our series on the subtle gaslighting tactics emotional abusers and narcissists use in Christian marriage. You'll hear four more specific examples of what he says, why he says it, what it triggers in you, and the precise words to say back so the tactic stops working on you for good.Key Takeaways:There's a reason your husband can turn any conversation about his behavior into a conversation about your tone, your past, or your "real" intentions, and once you see the move, you'll catch it every time.One specific manipulation pattern explains why a man can be caught in something devastating and somehow still come out of the conversation as the victim.There's a single Bible verse Christian men weaponize to shut down any conversation about unresolved hurt, and it doesn't actually say what they think it says.Find out why your anger in the moment of betrayal might be the most spiritually honest thing in the room, and why he needs you to believe otherwise.Every gaslighting tactic is aiming at the exact same target inside you, and once you know what it is, you'll never be fully fooled by any of them again.Get Today's Free Resource: