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Welcome to part one of a brand-new series I'm calling “Emotional Abuse 101: Everything You Need to Know,” because, let's face it, the church didn't exactly hand out “How to Spot a Narcissist in Your Youth Group” pamphlets in Sunday school.In this episode, I'm diving into the 10 most subtle signs of emotional abuse, the kind of signs that don't leave bruises on your body but do leave bruises on your soul. These are the red flags that fly under the radar, the ones that make you ask “Am I too sensitive?” or “Maybe I am the problem?”Here are some things we'll cover in this episode:The Silent Treatment Special — Why emotional withholding isn't just immature behavior, and the real reason he's using it against youMr. Jekyll and Pastor Hyde — What happens when everyone else thinks he's amazing, but you're living with someone completely different at homeStrategic Emotional Sabotage — The shocking pattern behind why your birthdays, holidays, and girls' nights keep getting ruined Weaponized Vulnerability — How opening your heart becomes ammunition in his hands, and why you're not crazy for feeling betrayedDream Crusher Lite™ — The subtle way he makes pursuing your goals absolutely miserable without ever saying "no" outrightPlausible Deniability — Why you're always "too sensitive" or "making assumptions," and how this phrase is actually a manipulation tacticRead the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question hereTake a FREE emotional abuse quiz by going to emotionalabusequiz.com. Find out if what you're experiencing is normal Christian marriage stuff...or abuse. Related Resources:Was this episode helpful? You may find these two Flying Free episodes equally worthwhile: “Does an Abuser Know They Are Abusive?” and “Nine Tricks Emotional Abuser Use to Pull Us Back Into the Cycle (and six clever ways to respond!)”
Dr. Jeffrey Smalldon has corresponded with some of the most infamous killers in United States history.That habit started long before he became a distinguished forensic psychologist, an expert on what makes killers tick.In his new book, That Beast Was Not Me: One Forensic Psychologist, Five Decades of Conversations with Killers, Jeff delves into his correspondence with infamous killers and figures like Charles Manson, Lynette "Squeaky" Fromme, Ted Bundy, John Wayne Gacy, and more.Get Jeff's book That Beast Was Not Me here: https://bookshop.org/p/books/that-beast-was-not-me-one-forensic-psychologist-five-decades-of-conversations-with-killers-jeffrey-l-smalldon/a4e8236eb8ace300?ean=9798986512488&next=tOr here, on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/That-Beast-Was-Not-Conversations-ebook/dp/B0D6WPF17HCheck out Jeffrey Smalldon's email and newsletter here: https://jeffreysmalldon.com/Find discounts for Murder Sheet listeners here: https://murdersheetpodcast.com/discountsCheck out our upcoming book events and get links to buy tickets here: https://murdersheetpodcast.com/eventsOrder our book on Delphi here: https://bookshop.org/p/books/shadow-of-the-bridge-the-delphi-murders-and-the-dark-side-of-the-american-heartland-aine-cain/21866881?ean=9781639369232Or here: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Shadow-of-the-Bridge/Aine-Cain/9781639369232Or here: https://www.amazon.com/Shadow-Bridge-Murders-American-Heartland/dp/1639369236Join our Patreon here! https://www.patreon.com/c/murdersheetSupport The Murder Sheet by buying a t-shirt here: https://www.murdersheetshop.com/Check out more inclusive sizing and t-shirt and merchandising options here: https://themurdersheet.dashery.com/Send tips to murdersheet@gmail.com.The Murder Sheet is a production of Mystery Sheet LLC.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
In this episode we lay out how to recognize signs, and not react and ways to stay in your own power with a narcissist. Narcissism crosses the line when someone's need for admiration and control overrides empathy and respect for others. In this episode we share ways to recognize and not react. Includes: 10 Phrases to never be gaslit or manipulated EVERY again! And a follow up with 'Are You Living with a Narcissist-Self-Reflection Checklist?' with a affirmation list to guide you back to grounded. Joanne's Book to help family Manage Emotions:Super Dog Helps Boys Fears A 30-second free guide to see if you qualify at ServiceDogPro.com! https://podcast.feedspot.com/anxiety_podcasts/ https://podcast.feedspot.com/us_psychology_podcasts/ sts/
Join Jay Gunkelman, QEEGD (the man who has analyzed over 500,000 brain scans), Dr. Mari Swingle (author of i-Minds), and host Pete Jansons for another no-BS NeuroNoodle episode diving deep into neuroscience, psychology, and brain training.✅ Topic 1 Explained: Overlapping reward/inhibit filters are safe because of 3 dB roll-off – 12 Hz can exist in both without confusion; always match the patient's real SMR (some have 10 Hz!)✅ Topic 2 Deep Dive: Essential tremor & movement disorders stem from thalamocortical dysrhythmia – neurofeedback quiets ANS, trains SMR, and reduces tremor amplitude✅ Topic 3 Insights: Narcissism shows distinct frontal EEG patterns from early attachment failure – very different from ADHD forgetfulness or autistic cue-blindness✅ Additional Topics
What does it mean to (re)orient our entire culture around the power of love? To answer this, we have to understand the nature of love and of power and how both of these have many meanings in our culture, some of them essential to moving forward - and some of them so toxic they turn the entire concept into a poisoned cue. This week's guest is friend of the podcast, Jamie Bristow. We spoke to him back in episode #274, recorded at the start of this year, and there, we consider what it was to be a Spiritual Warrior in our times - a concept to which Jamie has given the past 16 years of his life. Jamie is someone who lives and breathes at the intersection between spirituality - specifically Buddhism - and international policy in the realm of what is still called sustainability but which must, now, be shifting towards systemic change. For eight years, he was clerk to the UK's All Party Parliamentary Group on Mindfulness and director of the associated policy institute, the Mindfulness Initiative, where he helped to introduce mindfulness to a number of other parliaments around the world. In 2023, he joined the Inner Development Goals team to lead on public narrative and policy development, emphasising the inner skills and qualities needed for a sustainable transition. His work includes influential reports such as Reconnection: Meeting the Climate Crisis Inside Out and The System Within: Addressing the inner dimension of sustainability and systems transformation. He is an associate of Life Itself, The Climate Majority Project, Mind & Life Institute and Bangor University and now is working with Professor Rebecca Henderson on an initiative which is currently called the ReWeaving Project and it's in this area that we focussed our attention. There are many ways these conversations go. Often, I'm exploring a particular body of work and am asking questions to which, broadly, I have a sense of the answer - 'tell me about [x] that is squarely in your field'. Sometimes, though, I'm talking with someone I know well enough, and where we share enough of a common grounding, that I can ask questions to which I don't know the answer. Where we can find the places where our Theories of Change meet but perhaps don't overlap, and explore the fertile, liminal spaces of uncertainty. Jamie is one of these people and this was one of those conversations - where we explored love and power and game theory and how we get from where we are, through a nexus of power that is arrayed firmly around the Dark Triad of Narcissism, Psychopathy and Sadism (and I know that's slightly different to other Dark Triads that have Raw Cunning as the third one and sadism as an afterthought, but I think the cunning is in there with Psychopathy and the Sadism is, as we're seeing around the world, an essential part of the performative power-over that the wounded egos need to tell themselves they're safe). Anyway - we explored all the things that matter - and still only scratched the surface. So Jamie will definitely be coming back for another conversation, but in the meantime, here we are, delving deep into what it is to be human, and to be striving for emergence into a new, generative, kin-centric and flourishing system at this moment of total transformation. LinksRebecca Henderson https://rebeccahenderson.com/Jamie's website Jamie's substack Jamie on LinkedIn Mindfulness Initiative Mindfulness initiativeUN IDG Inner Development GoalsLife Guild lifeguild.earthJamie in Episode #274 https://accidentalgods.life/becoming-spiritual-warriors-exploring-a-politics-of-radical-compassion-with-jamie-bristow/What we offer: Accidental Gods, Dreaming Awake and the Thrutopia Writing Masterclass If you'd like to join our next Open Gathering offered by our Accidental Gods Programme it's 'Dreaming Your Year Awake' (you don't have to be a member) on Sunday 4th January 2026 from 16:00 - 20:00 GMT - details are hereIf you'd like to join us at Accidental Gods, this is the membership where we endeavour to help you to connect fully with the living web of life. If you'd like to train more deeply in the contemporary shamanic work at Dreaming Awake, you'll find us here. If you'd like to explore the recordings from our last Thrutopia Writing Masterclass, the details are here
In today's episode, we're unpacking a phrase almost every survivor has heard at some point: “You're the only one who has a problem with me.”It's one of the most subtle yet powerful forms of emotional manipulation — the kind that makes you question your reality, your reactions, and even your goodness. When someone says this, they aren't giving you perspective — they're stripping you of credibility. They're trying to convince you that your pain doesn't matter unless other people agree with it.In this episode, I share how abusers use this tactic to isolate and silence you, the emotional math behind it, and how you can start trusting your own experience again.Support the showJoin the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner
Dr. Cheyenne Bryant — psychologist, author of “Mental Detox: Let Go of What’s Not Working & Build a Life That Does”— joins Angela Yee, Jasmine Brand, and Jordy to break down the real psychology behind modern dating. From anxious attachment and abandonment trauma to love bombing, narcissistic traits, identity struggles, over-sexualization, and the fear of real intimacy — Dr. Bryant goes deep on why so many of us repeat the same patterns, choose the wrong partners, and mistake trauma bonds for love. We open up about our own relationship struggles: Jasmine’s need for reassurance, Angela’s independence, Jordy’s oversexualized dating history, and how childhood wounds shape adult relationships. Dr. Bryant explains how to build healthy love through emotional intelligence, vulnerability, communication, and self-awareness — and why “potential” is an illusion that keeps people stuck. Later in the episode, the conversation turns to sex, intimacy, boundaries, and the things we compromise (or don’t) for love. Dr. Bryant talks about submissiveness, sexual comfort zones, non-negotiables like threesomes, and how real connection requires honesty about who you are and what you need. This episode is one of the most vulnerable and revealing Lip Service conversations yet — raw, honest, and filled with practical tools for healing and building healthier relationships. Topics include:– Love bombing vs healthy pursuit– Narcissism myths & misunderstood traits– Anxious attachment & abandonment wounds– Childhood trauma shaping adult love– Transactional sex vs relational intimacy– Identity struggles, self-worth & vulnerability– Why relationships “grow apart”– Communication, boundaries & emotional intelligence– Sex preferences, non-negotiables & intimacy comfort zones– “Gallons vs pints” partners & choosing correctlySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this episode, I get down and dirty with a topic that triggers all the rule-followers and religious gatekeepers: salvation. Not the flannelgraph-Jesus kind where you prayed the “magic words” at age seven and then spent the next 30 years terrified you did it wrong. Nope. I'm talking about real, liberating, soul-exploding salvation.This one's especially for you if you've ever stayed in an abusive marriage because you thought God would be mad if you left. If you're exhausted from trying to please “godly” authority figures who think they are mini Popes. If you've prayed the salvation prayer 73 times just to be sure it “took.”Key Takeaways:Belief isn't a checklist. It's not about doing the right things, following the right leaders, or avoiding the wrong music. It's about trusting that Christ already did it all.The gift of salvation is already yours. Yes, even if you cuss, leave your abuser, or buy non-organic lettuce.Many Christians are still hoping for a salvation that is already theirs. Why? Because we've been taught to fear God more than we trust Him. The verse “God hates divorce” has been weaponized. (Psst…it doesn't say what you think it does, anyway. Listen to find out what the Bible actually says in Malachi.)You can experience the joy of salvation the moment you believe it's real. Like full-body joy. (Really!)Read the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question hereListen to my book, All the Scary Little Gods, FREE by going to scarylittlegods.com.Related Resources:If this episode was helpful for you, you'll love these two episodes, too: “Two Hotel Rooms: One Rescue Mission” and “Praying for a Miracle — When the Miracle Might Be You Walking Away.”
BASED ON A TRUE STORY (BOATS EP. 378) — Discover the historical accuracy behind the 2025 film "Nuremberg" which is adapted from Jack El-Hai's book "The Nazi and the Psychiatrist."Get Jack's Book: The Nazi and the PsychiatristLearn about the real Dr. Douglas Kelley (Rami Malek) and his complex relationship with Hermann Göring (Russell Crowe) during the historic Nuremberg trials. What did the filmmakers get right and what did they change from the true story? Tune in to find out!Also MentionedJack El-Hai Official WebsiteNuremberg (2025 Film)22 Cells in Nuremberg by Douglas KelleyHowie Trieste's Book on Nuremberg ExperiencesStars and Stripes Military NewspaperChapters0:00 Intro2:35 Movie Overview - Nuremberg and Main Characters5:45 Historical Grade and Book Comparison9:10 Goering's Capture by Allied Forces14:20 Douglas Kelley's Role as Psychiatrist18:55 Goering and Rudolf Hess Relationship23:45 Goering's Narcissism and Motivations29:00 Concentration Camp Films and Kelley's Turning Point33:15 Reporter Character and Kelley's Departure37:00 Howie Trieste's Story as German-Jewish Translator41:45 Kelley Handing Over Research to Prosecutors45:15 Goering's Cyanide Pill and Suicide48:00 Final Lessons and Democracy Warnings50:30 Behind-the-Scenes Film Production Story52:15 Two Truths and a Lie Answer RevealSupport My WorkSupport my sponsorsBecome a BOATS Producer (name in credits + ad-free episodes)Join the BOATS DiscordGet the BOATS email newsletterEmail me: dan@basedonatruestorypodcast.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Think people pleasing is selfless? Think again. In this raw and unfiltered episode, I'll expose the uncomfortable truth: people pleasing isn't about helping others—it's about YOU. If you've ever said yes when you meant no, overcompensated to avoid someone's discomfort, or gone above and beyond to be seen as "nice," this episode will shake you awake. I share my own journey as a recovering people pleaser—from rubbing Avon lotion on my stepmother's feet at age 9 to building a business around fixing everyone else's problems. I reveal how people pleasing nearly destroyed my health (hello, fibromyalgia) and why your body will eventually reject this behavior. In this episode, you'll discover: 1️⃣ The real reason you say yes when you want to say no (hint: it's not noble) 2️⃣ Why "nice" people are actually liars (and how this damages relationships) 3️⃣ The connection between people pleasing, codependency, and chronic illness 4️⃣ How people pleasing enables others and keeps them from growth 5️⃣ The 24-hour challenge to break the pattern 6️⃣ Why coaches and practitioners MUST address their own people pleasing to truly serve clients This isn't easy to hear, but if you're ready to stop the facade and start living authentically—this episode is your wake-up call. Key Quotes "Nice people are liars. You are lying when you tell me something that's not true to avoid what I might think, say, or feel." "You are doing God's work when you are being yourself—not pretending to be a nice person who is lying to avoid discomfort." "What you control and what controls you will eventually become what you resent." "You cannot have a narcissist in a relationship without the people pleaser. You need each other." Take Action The 24-Hour People Pleasing Detox: For the next 24 hours, commit to: ❌ Not doing anything you don't want to do ✅ Saying "no thank you" without explanation ✅ Being truthful instead of "nice" ✅ Observing your discomfort when someone is disappointed ✅ Standing firm in your decisions For Coaches & Practitioners: Before giving feedback, ask: "Are you open to hearing what I'm observing?" or "I'm curious—would you like to know what I'm witnessing?" Episode Timestamps [00:00] Welcome back + life update from Miami travels [01:00] Why we're tackling people pleasing today [02:00] Kim's origin story: The Avon lotion moment at age 9 [04:00] What IS people pleasing really? Breaking down the behavior [06:00] "Supposed to" according to what rule book? [08:00] The rheumatologist's revelation: Fibromyalgia is self-inflicted [09:00] The uncomfortable truth: Nice people are liars [11:00] The selfish motivation behind people pleasing [13:00] Narcissism vs. people pleasing: Two sides of the same coin [15:00] How people pleasing handicaps others and prevents growth [17:00] Kim's confession: Calling out her own people pleasing in business [21:00] The assessment: Why do you say yes when you want to say no? [23:00] For coaches & practitioners: How to have uncomfortable conversations [26:00] The 24-hour challenge: No people pleasing allowed [27:00] What happens at 45+: When your body can't take it anymore [28:00] Coming soon: Mind Body Energy Practitioner community
Harry Lloyd continues his groundbreaking Four Mirrors series, examining why justice and psychotherapy—though valuable tools—become dangerous when they define your identity. What You'll Discover: ✅ Why justice sorts the world into guilty vs. not guilty (and why that's limiting) ✅ How the psychotherapeutic mirror replaced spiritual guidance ✅ Why self-actualization without higher purpose leads to emptiness ✅ The problem with forgiveness in therapy vs. spiritual reconciliation ✅ Why "healthy" and "innocent" aren't endpoints, but byproducts ✅ How terror and contempt emerge when justice defines identity Key Topics Covered: The Justice Mirror: Why society needs it, but you can't live by it Martin Luther King Jr.'s insight: "Law cannot change the heart, but it can restrain the heartless" The Psychotherapeutic Mirror: Self-actualization without transcendent purpose Viktor Frankl's observation: Hyperfixating on happiness pushes it away Why cognitive behavioral therapy sorts the world into healthy vs. not healthy The difference between process and goal: Health is a byproduct, not the destination Harry's Core Insight: "Justice is a practical necessity for society, but making it the reflection of your personal identity creates only two possible products: terror and contempt. Both are actively antagonistic toward personal growth." On Psychotherapy's Limitation: "Without a higher authority to serve as the foundation for identity, it ends up being derived from the patient themselves. The psychotherapeutic mirror has the virtue of assuming imperfection and a need for growth, but it's still uncomfortably self-focused." The Four Mirrors Series: Mirror 1: The Empty Pool (Narcissus and self-derived identity) Mirror 2: The Cultural Mirror (society's expectations) Mirror 3: The Justice Mirror (guilty vs. not guilty) - THIS EPISODE Mirror 4: The Psychotherapeutic Mirror (healthy vs. not healthy) - THIS EPISODE
Feeling the pull between a deeper purpose and everyday desires? Today's episode dives into the often-conflicting inner world – the soul's yearning wisdom versus the flesh's demands – and how this dynamic plays out in our lives, relationships, and organizations. Learn about The Matrix of R.E.S.T. as a guide back to balance, harmony, and coherence while uncovering the subtle lies that lead us astray into self-absorption and narcissism. Discover the surprising role your soul and your body's central nervous system plays in this inner landscape and how understanding these components can help cultivate genuine peace and self-governance, moving beyond confusion towards R.E.S.T.Books MentionedRenovation of the HeartThe Divine ConspiracyWhere to Find VirginiaWebsiteInstagramFacebookLinkedInDonate
This episode continues the Heal NPD Seminar Series, featuring Dr. Mark Ettensohn and his associates, Deanna Young, Psy.D., and Danté Spencer, M.A. I n this session, the group discusses a recent meta-analytic review examining suicide-related outcomes in narcissistic personality functioning. The conversation explores why studies using DSM-based diagnoses of Narcissistic Personality Disorder consistently fail to predict suicidal ideation, attempts, or self-injury, while dimensional measures that include vulnerable narcissism show strong and reliable associations with elevated risk. Themes include the distinction between grandiose and vulnerable self-states, the limitations of trait-based and purely behavioral diagnostic models, and the deeper affective and regulatory structures that define pathological narcissism. The team examines how shame, identity instability, emotional dysregulation, and collapse of self-esteem stability contribute to suicidality—and how grandiose presentations can mask underlying fragility in ways that obscure clinical risk. Throughout the seminar, the group reflects on the developmental and relational origins of vulnerable narcissism, emphasizing the role of early emotionally invalidating early environments, contingent self-esteem, and dissociated self-states in shaping defensive functioning. The discussion also highlights clinical challenges in assessing suicide risk in narcissistic patients, including the role of masking, externalization, and shame-driven withdrawal. This seminar is designed for clinicians, students, and anyone seeking a nuanced, clinically grounded understanding of narcissistic personality functioning, suicide risk, and the hidden dimensions of vulnerability that are often overlooked in public discourse. To learn more about our work, visit www.HealNPD.org Additional Resources: Newsletter: https://healnpd.substack.com Assessment and therapy inquiries: https://healnpd.org/contact Purchase Unmasking Narcissism: A Guide to Understanding the Narcissist in Your Life here: https://amzn.to/3nG9FgH SUBSCRIBE: https://rb.gy/kbhusf LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://rb.gy/cklpum LISTEN ON GOOGLE PODCASTS: https://rb.gy/fotpca LISTEN ON AMAZON MUSIC: https://rb.gy/g4yzh8 Citation for the article discussed: Sprio, V., Mirra, L., Madeddu, F., Lopez-Castroman, J., Blasco-Fontecilla, H., Di Pierro, R., & Calati, R. (2024). Can clinical and subclinical forms of narcissism be considered risk factors for suicide-related outcomes? A systematic review. Journal of Psychiatric Research, 172, 307–333. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jpsychires.2024.02.017 Full text link: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0022395624000803
In this episode, I explore Frankenstein (2025) and its portrayal of narcissism. Mental Health is Horrifying is hosted by Candis Green, Registered Psychotherapist and owner of Many Moons Therapy...............................................................Show Notes:I am so honoured to have been nominated for 5 Canadian Podcast Awards — and I need your help!Outstanding Health & Fitness SeriesOutstanding Television & Film SeriesOutstanding Education SeriesOutstanding Artwork for a Series (artwork by Chloe Hurst)People's Choice AwardMembers of the public can vote on the People's Choice Award, and it would mean the world to me to receive your vote!Voting takes 5 seconds —Click on this link: https://canpodawards.ca/vote/Click on "People's Choice"Click "Vote" next to MENTAL HEALTH IS HORRIFYINGVoting is open to the public until November 22.I would be grateful beyond the depths of my bat-filled heart to receive your vote.Thank you!
This week on Health Matters, Courtney talks with Dr. Warren Ng, a psychiatrist at New York Presbyterian and Columbia, and the Community Health Director for the Center for Youth Mental Health at NewYork-Presbyterian. Dr. Ng explains what makes narcissistic traits distinct from narcissistic personality disorders, and offers an in-depth explanation of the symptoms and management strategies for navigating relationships with narcissists, whether colleagues, friends, or family members. ___Dr. Warren Ng is a psychiatrist for children, adolescents, and adults with an interest in HIV, public psychiatry, and family issues. He is the Medical Director of Outpatient Behavioral Health and the Director of clinical services for the Division of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry at Columbia University Irving Medical Center and NewYork-Presbyterian/Morgan Stanley Children's Hospital. He is also the NYP Behavioral Health Service Line Clinical Innovation Officer. He is the President of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry and has been past president of the New York Council on Child and Adolescent Psychiatry. He served on the Assembly and the Council on Children, Adolescents, and Families at the American Psychiatric Association (APA).___Health Matters is your weekly dose of health and wellness information, from the leading experts. Join host Courtney Allison to get news you can use in your own life. New episodes drop each Wednesday.If you are looking for practical health tips and trustworthy information from world-class doctors and medical experts you will enjoy listening to Health Matters. Health Matters was created to share stories of science, care, and wellness that are happening every day at NewYork-Presbyterian, one of the nation's most comprehensive, integrated academic healthcare systems. In keeping with NewYork-Presbyterian's long legacy of medical breakthroughs and innovation, Health Matters features the latest news, insights, and health tips from our trusted experts; inspiring first-hand accounts from patients and caregivers; and updates on the latest research and innovations in patient care, all in collaboration with our renowned medical schools, Columbia and Weill Cornell Medicine.To learn more visit: https://healthmatters.nyp.org
Ever wonder why you keep getting stuck in the same soul-sucking relational merry-go-round and can't get off? Why you feel like you're starring in a never-ending soap opera you didn't audition for, but somehow you're the villain for wanting out?I sat down with Gwendoline, a longtime member of Flying Free and Flying Higher, to talk about her epic butterfly transformation. We're talking cycles of chaos, religious gaslighting, and the sneaky little acronym that kept her trapped in marital misery: FOG (fear, obligation, guilt).Key Takeaways:If it feels off, it probably is – Chaos, fights, and emotional whiplash aren't just "normal marriage stuff." They're red flags.Your body knows before your brain does – Tight hips, tension, and dread? Not random. That's trauma.Love isn't a magical fix-all – You can love someone and still need to leave them. Track the truth – Emoji mood calendars and journaling helped Gwendoline see the pattern she was gaslit into ignoring.You are the rescuer – No knight in shining armor is coming. Just you, your big-girl panties, and God on a divine co-rescue mission.Leaving is hard, but worth it – Healing takes time, but the moment you step out, your real life begins.Read the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question hereGet a FREE chapter of Is It ME? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, along with the companion workbook for that chapter, by going to flyingfreenow.com. I'll also send you the Freedom Letters. (Also free.
Subscribe in a reader If you're divorcing a narcissist, you may be tempted to use your therapy records to prove PTSD or emotional abuse in court. But handing over those records can backfire in devastating ways. In this powerful conversation with Bree Bonchay—psychotherapist and founder of World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day—we break down the hidden […] The post Beyond Interaction: The Loneliness Epidemic & the Courage to Connect | Christina Wenman appeared first on Narcissist Abuse Support.
In this episode of the Talk My Credo podcast, the hosts dive into various topics ranging from home networking projects to the ongoing rivalry between Kendrick Lamar and Drake, highlighted by the recent World Series, the viral incident involving a woman who falsely claimed to be attacked, and the implications of AI in music production. The conversation is filled with humor, insights, and a touch of shenanigans. The conversation shifts to the impact of wealth and status on relationships, the consequences of social media controversies, and the concept of rage baiting. The hosts also explore the psychology of narcissism and the gray rock method as a strategy for dealing with racist manipulative individuals. Ultimately, they emphasize the importance of redirecting anger and understanding the power of non-reaction in the face of societal challenges, making for an engaging listen.***Takeaways***- Home networking can be a fun DIY project.- The rivalry between Kendrick Lamar and Drake continues to captivate fans.- Celebrating wins can sometimes lead to petty responses.- Viral incidents can have serious consequences for those involved.- AI technology is changing the landscape of music production.- Community support can be manipulated through social media.- The importance of verifying claims before jumping to conclusions.- Humor can be a great way to discuss serious topics.- Creative projects can be a way to express oneself.- The podcast format allows for fluid and engaging conversations.- Indifference towards celebrity gossip reflects deeper societal issues.- Racial dynamics play a significant role in celebrity relationships.- Taylor Swift's lyrics can be interpreted as a commentary on race.- Wealth and status influence relationship choices and perceptions.- Social media controversies often serve as rage bait for engagement.- Understanding narcissism helps in navigating social interactions.- The gray rock method can be an effective strategy against manipulation.- Redirecting anger is crucial for emotional well-being.- Non-reaction can be a powerful response to provocations.- Engaging with rage bait only fuels the cycle of outrage.*** CHAPTERS ***00:00 Home Networking Adventures05:16 The Talk My Credo Podcast Introduction09:01 Kendrick vs. Drake: The World Series Showdown15:27 Congo Connor's Late Night Flight News18:36 The Case of the Viral Brick Incident25:45 The Art of Storytelling and Satire30:35 The Role of AI in Music Creation47:26 Cultural Commentary and Social Media Dynamics47:38 The Game of Rage Baiting51:08 The Backlash and Its Consequences55:13 Understanding the Baiting Strategy01:01:02 The Narcissism of Rage Baiting01:06:33 The Gray Rock Method01:16:15 Redirecting Emotions and Seeking Justice---------------
Teens today live at the intersection of real mental health risks and viral misused language like gaslighting, narcissism, and DID. On this episode of The Brainy Moms podcast, Dr. Amy sat down with children's therapist Stacy Schaffer to unpack how parents can support mental health without turning every rough patch into a diagnosis. Stacy shares the story behind her new book and the core idea that guides her work: integrate tough histories into practical, present-day tools so kids feel seen, safe, and capable.We dig into the messy middle of modern childhood—where TikTok trends meet group-chat drama and where grooming, exclusion, and “subtle” cruelty often fly under the bullying radar. Stacy offers concrete steps for delaying social platforms, keeping an open pulse on online connections, and having frank, age-appropriate talks about consent, safety, and the law. We also explore why framing therapy as a gift changes everything, and how to invite teens into the process so they feel respected rather than “sent.”A big theme is language. Words like trauma, gaslighting, narcissist, and DID carry weight and meaning; when they get stretched to cover discomfort or disagreement, everyone loses clarity. Stacy walks us through what those terms actually mean, when they apply, and how to teach kids a simple 1–10 scale that builds perspective without dismissing pain. We also clarify dissociation versus dissociative identity disorder and offer scripts that keep compassion high while holding responsibility steady: “You're in charge of all your parts.”Along the way, we talk about modeling healthy conflict at home, building emotion regulation, and helping kids collect “data” from hard moments they survived. If you've wondered how to respond when your teen throws out a buzzword, how to know when it's time for counseling, or how to keep kids safer online, this conversation delivers calm, clear guidance you can use today.About Stacy SchafferStacy Schaffer is a Licensed Professional Counselor with over twenty years of experience helping children, teens, and young adults navigate emotional and behavioral challenges. Based in Arvada, Colorado, she is the founder and director of Stacy Schaffer Counseling and specializes in both grief therapy and Synergetic Play Therapy. Her extensive training includes a Master's Degree in Professional Counseling from Ottawa University, a Graduate Diploma in Christian Counseling from Phoenix Seminary, and certifications in Synergetic Play Therapy and EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing). She is a proud member of both the National Association of Play Therapy and the Colorado Association for Play Therapy. She's the author of the book, With Love from a Children's Therapist about lessons she's learned from her practice.About UsThe Brainy Moms is a parenting podcast hosted by cognitive psychologist Dr. Amy Moore. Dr. Amy and her co-hosts have conversations with experts in parenting, child development, education, psychology, mental health, and neuroscience. Listeners leave with tips and advice for helping moms and kids thrive in life, learning, and relationships. If you love us, add us to your playlist!ABOUT US:The Brainy Moms is a parenting podcast hosted by cognitive psychologist Dr. Amy Moore. Dr. Amy and her co-hosts have conversations with experts in parenting, child development, education, psychology, mental health, and neuroscience. Listeners leave with tips and advice for helping moms and kids thrive in life, learning, and relationships. If you love us, add us to your playlist! CONNECT WITH US:Website: www.TheBrainyMoms.com Email: BrainyMoms@gmail.com Social Media: @TheBrainyMoms Visit our sponsor's website: www.LearningRx.com
This episode builds off of last weeks where I disussed DARVO in Family Court. I cover exactly how to capture DARVO behavior in a way that lawyers, GALs, and court professionals can actually understand.You'll learn how to:Identify the denial, attack, and role reversal phases in real-time.Translate emotional chaos into factual, court-readable documentation.Recognize when the abuser is using the legal system as a weapon.Communicate patterns to your attorney without being dismissed or labeled “high conflict.”This episode will help you see that what's happening isn't “miscommunication” — it's manipulation, and you can show the truth, clearly and strategically, without losing yourself in the process.For more support, visit emotionalabusecoach.com and https://jessicaknight.thinkific.com/courses/documentationSupport the showJoin the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy *New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your Relationship Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner
Send us a text- On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre"Narcissism because of Sex Addiction - Yuk! That's not me".Many clients initially (but silently and violently) object to any suggestion that there is Narcissism at work. I am never suggesting they have NPD (Narcissist Personality Disorder), but that they WILL have traits from Narcissism.Here is one definition of Narcissism which I use: "Narcissism is the way we conceptualise how we will look after ourselves. In its pathological form, it refers to people who seem incapable of acknowledging or taking sufficient account of the reality of other people and their separate existence. Narcissistic Personality Disorder describes those who exemplify an extreme form of this characteristic. The primary purpose of Narcissism is to compensate for experience, usually in early childhood, when ordinary expectable needs were not met adequately. The Narcissist denies dependence on others and denies even that others exist except as players in the Narcissist's drama. Other people are required to meet the narcissist's needs for recognition and value, but without relationship being reciprocated.The narcissist gives nothing, but demands others give everything. Therefore the original horrific experience of unmet need and the shame and vulnerability that goes with it, is denied and defended against.Traits include being the centre of attention; little interest in others; craves recognition and praise. They are performers and want others to keep on clapping and not stop; controls and dominates interaction with others; has to be right; cannot admit to ever being wrong and never apologises; insists on things being done their way; always makes the choices and decisions. Reliance on another is not acknowledged"."Gary, let me show you evidence that I do not seek attention, take little interest in others, don't crave recognition or attention, let alone a performer and want claps. How dare you...."Until I unfold their behaviours and leave them with 'food for thought' to reflect upon; including going back to my definition of Sex Addiction to see 'the function which the addiction serves'.Get some help from The Kairos Centre. See what you cannot see. Begin to change that which you begin to better understand.Help someone: https://igg.me/at/ThekairosCentreHelp is here for you: bit.ly/pornaddictionhelpGary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs), Accredited EMDR Practitioner.Key words: sex addiction, addicted, partner, porn addiction, recovery, sex drive, therapy, sex therapy, podcast, relationships, relationship counseling, relationship advice, addiction, couples, couples therapy, sex therapy, emdr, love addiction, behavior, psychology, codependency, sex life, neuroscience, sex ed, sober, sobriety, sexual dysfunction, relationship issues, sex coach, sexual, trauma, ptsd, sex science, The sex porn love Addiction Podcast, The Singles Partners Marrieds and Long Time Marrieds Podcast, Gary McFarlane, porn addiction, what neuroscience says, neuroscience, young adults, sex, sex addict, porn, recovery, porn addiction issue, porn addiction in teens, sex addiction in teens, sex hormones, hormones,Support the show
Understanding Narcissistic and Borderline Personality Disorders with Dr. Anthony Mazzella, PhDIn this episode of 'Healing From Toxic Abuse,' host welcomes Dr. Anthony Mazzella, a psychoanalyst with over 20 years of experience specializing in psychodynamic treatment focusing on narcissistic and borderline presentations. The conversation delves into recognizing the hidden dynamics of narcissistic abuse, the unique insights psychodynamic treatments offer, and the common struggles survivors face in reclaiming their identities and boundaries. Dr. Mazzella shares his journey into psychoanalysis, observations on personality disorders, the nuances between narcissistic traits and malignant forms, the overlap with borderline personality disorder, and effective strategies for both individuals and couples dealing with these complex issues. He also highlights the importance of self-reflection, insight, and compassion in the healing process.00:00 Introduction to Dr. Anthony Mazzella01:56 Dr. Mazzella's Journey into Psychoanalysis04:33 Understanding Narcissistic Characteristics06:03 Misunderstandings and Realities of Narcissism11:38 Narcissism vs. Borderline Personality Disorder22:31 Red Flags and Early Warning Signs28:23 Understanding Gaslighting and Narcissism30:37 Addressing Hurtful Comments in Relationships31:30 Steps to Address Malignant Intent32:56 Validating and Confronting Narcissistic Behavior40:32 Psychodynamic Treatment Approach49:13 Hope and Treatment for Narcissism50:57 Final Thoughts and ResourcesTo learn more about Dr. Mazella, visit:www.Drmazzella.comTo learn more about the host, Deborah Ashway, LCMHCS, LCAS, visit:www.InnerSourceTherapy.com
November is Family Court Awareness Month, a time to shed light on a system that too often fails to protect survivors and their children. In this episode, I explore what happens when a court system that frequently reframes abuse as “conflict,” rewards manipulation, and punishes protective parents for trying to keep their kids safe.I walk through:What Family Court Awareness Month is and why it matters.How the legal system can retraumatize survivors and reward abusers who appear calm, logical, and “reasonable.”The emotional and strategic toll of trying to protect your child while being gaslit by institutions meant to help.How survivors are adapting—learning to document, regulate, and think strategically to protect themselves and their children.If you're currently navigating family court, divorce, or co-parenting with a high-conflict person, I offer one-on-one coaching and specialized strategy sessions to help you document, organize, and stay grounded through the process.
In the first two episodes of this series, Dr. Kim Lannon guides you in identifying and understanding narcissists and their behaviors. In part three, we focus on how to handle a narcissist—not with the intention of changing them, but to prioritize our own well-being.
It's time to talk about the two kinds of people in this world: the seekers and the stuck.In this episode, I dive deep into the real reasons why some lives transform after abuse while others continue to feel stuck.We're unpacking:Why healing is not about labeling your abuser a narcissist and calling it a day How to know when you're ready to move from survivor to thriver.What your philosophy of life has to do with your emotional garden.Why reading one more Instagram post about toxic people isn't going to transform your life.And how your anger might just be the spark that gets you out of the cage.Read the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question hereRelated Resources:Listen to my book, All the Scary Little Gods, for FREE!Liked this episode? Then check out these two other Flying Free episodes, “An Emotional Recovery Tool That Changes Everything” and “How Pretending and Fear Keep You Stuck in Abuse Cycles.”
Are you tired of saying yes when every part of you is screaming no? In this week's episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with Annalie Howling — performance coach, trauma specialist, and boundaries queen — to unpack the truth about people pleasing, approval addiction, and why so many of us feel guilty putting ourselves first. We dive deep into the psychology behind saying yes, how it's linked to childhood conditioning, and what it actually takes to stop caring what everyone thinks. If you've ever been called “too nice,” struggled to set boundaries, or felt drained trying to please everyone — this one's for you. ✨ Who It's For: Chronic people pleasers who can't say no Anyone struggling with guilt, shame, or overgiving Women tired of being the “good girl” Anyone learning to protect their peace & energy
Helen Villiers, psychotherapist and narcissist expert, joins me to unpack the hidden dynamics of narcissism. From love bombing and gaslighting to the trauma bond that keeps victims trapped, we explore why it's so hard to leave, how narcissists use empathy as a weapon, and the powerful steps to reclaiming your identity and self-worth.Helen Villiers is a psychotherapist, coach, and author specializing in narcissism, emotional abuse, neurodivergence, and recovery. She is the co-author of the Sunday Times bestseller 'You're Not the Problem: The Impact of Narcissism and Emotional Abuse', hosts the popular podcast 'The Liberation Effect', and has been featured on BBC Radio 4's Woman's Hour and in publications including The Independent, The Telegraph, The Mirror, and Hello! Magazine. Follow Helen:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/helenvilliersmaTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@helenvilliersma YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@helenvilliersma Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HelenVilliersMA/ ⌚️ TIMESTAMPS 00:00 - Introduction 04:15 - The Most Surprising Thing About Narcissism 05:50 - The Five Core Traits of Narcissism08:53 - Narcissism: Personality Type, Disorder, or Both? 10:15 - When Self-Absorption Becomes Harmful 10:55 - Love Bombing and Early Red Flags 14:14 - The Science Behind Trauma Bonds 17:00 - Do Narcissists Know What They Are Doing? 18:10 - Do Narcissists Target Empaths? 21:01 - Confidence vs Control: How to Tell the Difference 22:48 - The Narcissistic Abuse Cycle Explained 28:15 - The Emotional Fallout After The Discard 31:06 - The “Gray Rock” Method: How To Escape a Narcissist 32:45 - Rebuilding Identity After Narcissistic Abuse 38:00 - Overcoming the Fear of Being “Selfish” 39:30 - Perfectionism and the Fear of Judgment 45:30 - How Therapy and Community Help Recovery 47:16 - Choosing the Right Therapist (and Avoiding the Wrong One) 50:28 - How to Begin Healing After Narcissistic Abuse 51:58 - How Long Healing Takes (and What It Looks Like) 54:45 - Why People-Pleasing is Toxic 56:35 - Can You Heal Without a Therapist? 59:04 - What a Healthy Relationship Really Looks Like 01:01:15 - Final Message: It's Not You.
Have you ever dealt with someone who twists every story, demands control, and always plays the victim? The world calls it narcissism, but the Bible calls it pride — and it's a spiritual battle that's destroying hearts, homes, and churches.In this powerful episode of Behind The Mike Podcast, Mike Stone uncovers the spirit of narcissism that's taken root in our culture — and contrasts it with the Spirit of Christ, who calls us to humility, grace, and truth.You'll learn:⚔️ The biblical origins of narcissism (Isaiah 14, Genesis 3, and 2 Timothy 3)
Convicted murderer Alex Murdaugh — the disgraced South Carolina lawyer serving life in prison for killing his wife Maggie and son Paul — has decided to issue a statement from behind bars attacking Hulu's new true-crime series about his case. In the letter, Murdaugh claims the show contains “numerous inaccuracies” and “misleading portrayals,” even going so far as to say it “totally mischaracterizes his relationships” with the very people he murdered. He accuses Hulu of failing to reach out to him, his attorneys, or his surviving son Buster before releasing the series — as if that somehow invalidates decades of documented lies, theft, and manipulation. In this episode, Tony Brueski rips apart Murdaugh's delusional statement line by line — exposing the narcissism, denial, and moral rot that have defined every chapter of this man's life. From stealing millions from clients, to staging his own suicide for an insurance scam, to the brutal murders at Moselle, Alex Murdaugh's downfall is a masterclass in arrogance. Now, from prison, he's worried about how Hulu portrayed him? The audacity is staggering — and we're breaking down every word of it.
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Convicted murderer Alex Murdaugh — the disgraced South Carolina lawyer serving life in prison for killing his wife Maggie and son Paul — has decided to issue a statement from behind bars attacking Hulu's new true-crime series about his case. In the letter, Murdaugh claims the show contains “numerous inaccuracies” and “misleading portrayals,” even going so far as to say it “totally mischaracterizes his relationships” with the very people he murdered. He accuses Hulu of failing to reach out to him, his attorneys, or his surviving son Buster before releasing the series — as if that somehow invalidates decades of documented lies, theft, and manipulation. In this episode, Tony Brueski rips apart Murdaugh's delusional statement line by line — exposing the narcissism, denial, and moral rot that have defined every chapter of this man's life. From stealing millions from clients, to staging his own suicide for an insurance scam, to the brutal murders at Moselle, Alex Murdaugh's downfall is a masterclass in arrogance. Now, from prison, he's worried about how Hulu portrayed him? The audacity is staggering — and we're breaking down every word of it.
Convicted murderer Alex Murdaugh — the disgraced South Carolina lawyer serving life in prison for killing his wife Maggie and son Paul — has decided to issue a statement from behind bars attacking Hulu's new true-crime series about his case. In the letter, Murdaugh claims the show contains “numerous inaccuracies” and “misleading portrayals,” even going so far as to say it “totally mischaracterizes his relationships” with the very people he murdered. He accuses Hulu of failing to reach out to him, his attorneys, or his surviving son Buster before releasing the series — as if that somehow invalidates decades of documented lies, theft, and manipulation. In this episode, Tony Brueski rips apart Murdaugh's delusional statement line by line — exposing the narcissism, denial, and moral rot that have defined every chapter of this man's life. From stealing millions from clients, to staging his own suicide for an insurance scam, to the brutal murders at Moselle, Alex Murdaugh's downfall is a masterclass in arrogance. Now, from prison, he's worried about how Hulu portrayed him? The audacity is staggering — and we're breaking down every word of it.
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What is narcissistic personality disorder? In This video Lee Hammock, a diagnosed narcissist himself, talks about the definition of narcissism or narcissistic personality disorder from his own perspective. Check out my courses "Understanding the 7 Stages of a Narcissistic Relationship" and "Finding Your W.H.Y!" at https://mentalhealness.netWant to be on the podcast? https://tinyurl.com/Mental-Healness-Podcast-FormContact Me - https://link.me/mentalhealnessI'm Lee & I've been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ). I've been in therapy since 2017 & It has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything. My platform is dedicated to giving you the WHYs behind the things that Narcissists do. I'm not here to diagnose ANYONE or to tell you to leave your relationship. I'm just trying to give you the information to make your own informed decisions1 on 1's and all my links - https://beacons.page/mentalhealnessRemember, It's not your fault - https://a.co/d/2WNtdKJ
Convicted murderer Alex Murdaugh — the disgraced South Carolina lawyer serving life in prison for killing his wife Maggie and son Paul — has decided to issue a statement from behind bars attacking Hulu's new true-crime series about his case. In the letter, Murdaugh claims the show contains “numerous inaccuracies” and “misleading portrayals,” even going so far as to say it “totally mischaracterizes his relationships” with the very people he murdered. He accuses Hulu of failing to reach out to him, his attorneys, or his surviving son Buster before releasing the series — as if that somehow invalidates decades of documented lies, theft, and manipulation. In this episode, Tony Brueski rips apart Murdaugh's delusional statement line by line — exposing the narcissism, denial, and moral rot that have defined every chapter of this man's life. From stealing millions from clients, to staging his own suicide for an insurance scam, to the brutal murders at Moselle, Alex Murdaugh's downfall is a masterclass in arrogance. Now, from prison, he's worried about how Hulu portrayed him? The audacity is staggering — and we're breaking down every word of it.
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Convicted murderer Alex Murdaugh — the disgraced South Carolina lawyer serving life in prison for killing his wife Maggie and son Paul — has decided to issue a statement from behind bars attacking Hulu's new true-crime series about his case. In the letter, Murdaugh claims the show contains “numerous inaccuracies” and “misleading portrayals,” even going so far as to say it “totally mischaracterizes his relationships” with the very people he murdered. He accuses Hulu of failing to reach out to him, his attorneys, or his surviving son Buster before releasing the series — as if that somehow invalidates decades of documented lies, theft, and manipulation. In this episode, Tony Brueski rips apart Murdaugh's delusional statement line by line — exposing the narcissism, denial, and moral rot that have defined every chapter of this man's life. From stealing millions from clients, to staging his own suicide for an insurance scam, to the brutal murders at Moselle, Alex Murdaugh's downfall is a masterclass in arrogance. Now, from prison, he's worried about how Hulu portrayed him? The audacity is staggering — and we're breaking down every word of it.
Convicted murderer Alex Murdaugh — the disgraced South Carolina lawyer serving life in prison for killing his wife Maggie and son Paul — has decided to issue a statement from behind bars attacking Hulu's new true-crime series about his case. In the letter, Murdaugh claims the show contains “numerous inaccuracies” and “misleading portrayals,” even going so far as to say it “totally mischaracterizes his relationships” with the very people he murdered. He accuses Hulu of failing to reach out to him, his attorneys, or his surviving son Buster before releasing the series — as if that somehow invalidates decades of documented lies, theft, and manipulation. In this episode, Tony Brueski rips apart Murdaugh's delusional statement line by line — exposing the narcissism, denial, and moral rot that have defined every chapter of this man's life. From stealing millions from clients, to staging his own suicide for an insurance scam, to the brutal murders at Moselle, Alex Murdaugh's downfall is a masterclass in arrogance. Now, from prison, he's worried about how Hulu portrayed him? The audacity is staggering — and we're breaking down every word of it.
The crew reacts to our latest batch of Hill Notes submissions. We look back at legendary moments from the Patriots and Buccaneers.
Today we dive into the mind of an avoidant- - what makes them shut down? - what are the thinking when they shut down? - what are the feeling when they have the urge to run away or shut down? - why do they walk away? And what you and your partner can do to save your relationship. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show
What if the very place you went for safety, love, and divine wisdom turned out to be the scene of the crime? Today we're diving headfirst into the world of spiritual abuse. This week, I'm joined by Katherine Spearing, founder of Tears of Eden, trauma recovery practitioner, and author of a new book, A Thousand Tiny Paper Cuts. If you've ever been told that “God doesn't want your happiness, He wants your holiness” while you were slowly disintegrating inside, well, friend, you're in for a ride. Buckle up, because we're talking:Why spiritual abuse is often so subtle you won't realize you're bleeding out until you're halfway through a panic attackHow high-control religious environments get you to abuse yourself (sick, right?)The toxic theology that turns God into a cranky toddler with a lightning boltKey Takeaways:Spiritual abuse is real, complex, and often normalized. Just because it's subtle doesn't mean it's not wrecking your soul.You're not wrong for wanting peace, freedom, and autonomy. That's not “selfish.” That's survival.Religious trauma isn't just in your head. It's in your nervous system, and it needs gentle care to heal.You get to get your mail from God. Not from your pastor, your husband, or some elder board in polyester pants.Patriarchy is the backbone of most spiritual abuse. If your theology only benefits dudes, it's not the gospel, it's a con.There's a whole beach of freedom outside that toxic church sandbox. And God's not mad you left.Read the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question hereRelated Resources:Grab a copy of Katherine's book, A Thousand Tiny Paper CutsConnect with Katherine on InstagramHop on Katherine's mailing list and get some free resources while you're on her site. Katherine Spearing MA, CTRC is the founder of Tears of Eden, a nonprofit supporting survivors of spiritual abuse, and the former executive producer and host of the groundbreaking podcast Uncertain, a podcast that pioneered pivotal conversations around spiritual abuse. She also is a Certified Trauma Recovery Practitioner working primarily with clients who have survived cults, high-control environments, spiritual abuse, and sexual abuse. Katherine is a huge advocate for the power of art to help us on our healing journey. She participates in improv theater both as a performer and coach and is the author of one novel. A Thousand Tiny Paper Cuts, her new book on spiritual abuse, addresses the survivor's recovery journey. She has been a guest on a number of podcasts, including IndoctriNation and A Little Bit Culty, is the author of several nonfiction articles, and writes regularly at katherinespearing.com and tearsofeden.org.
Is humility making yourself small… or living in the truth? Joe and Father Boniface unpack humility as honesty—seeing ourselves as we are before God—and why that frees us to use our real gifts in service (yes, even taking the seat that has your name on it). We explore self-forgetfulness, how affirmation heals the reflex to self-protect, and practical ways to grow from self-concern into self-gift. Throughout, we keep all three lenses in view: integrity with ourselves, charity toward others, under a living relationship with God.Key IdeasHumility is truth: neither self-inflation nor false modesty, but an honest acceptance of who we are before God—and using our gifts accordingly.Concrete example: sometimes the humble act is to take the role or “reserved spot” that's yours, because it serves the community best.Know your tilt: some of us oversell; others undersell—humility learns our tendency and seeks honest mirrors (trusted people who can praise and correct).Self-forgetfulness grows from being loved and affirmed; emotional safety reduces self-protective focus and opens us to others.A simple path: notice insecurity triggers, share them with someone who loves you, receive affirmation there—and then go build that same affirmation in others this week.Links & ReferencesConrad Baars, affirmation and emotional development — Conrad Baars Institute (official): https://www.conradbaars.comPope Francis, Gaudete et Exsultate (On the Call to Holiness in Today's World) — official Vatican text: https://www.vatican.va/content/francesco/en/apost_exhortations/documents/papa-francesco_esortazione-ap_20180319_gaudete-et-exsultate.htmlCTA If this helped, please leave a review or share this episode with a friend.Questions or thoughts? Email FatherAndJoe@gmail.comTags Father and Joe, Joe Rockey, Father Boniface Hicks, humility, honesty, meekness, truth, sainthood, virtue, self-forgetfulness, affirmation, Conrad Baars, emotional safety, trauma and healing, self-knowledge, self-possession, self-gift, narcissism, ego, vanity, false modesty, discernment, service, vocation, speaking gifts, leadership, community, parenting, children, interior freedom, relationships, relationship with God, relationship with self, relationship with others, Benedictine spirituality, Catholic podcast, practical spirituality, growth, healing, gratitude
Welcome to the Social-Engineer Podcast: The Doctor Is In Series – where we will discuss understandings and developments in the field of psychology. In today's episode, Chris and Dr. Abbie discuss the complexities of ambition, emphasizing its connection to identity and intrinsic motivation. They explore how ambition can be healthy or obsessive, influenced by personality traits and life experiences. Their conversation warns against destructive ambition, which can harm relationships and ethical standards, and stresses the importance of regularly redefining success to maintain a healthy balance. [Nov 3, 2025] 00:00 - Intro 00:45 - Dr. Abbie Maroño Intro 01:01 - Intro Links - Social-Engineer.com - http://www.social-engineer.com/ - Offensive Security Vishing Services - https://www.social-engineer.com/offensive-security/vishing/ - Offensive Security SMiShing Services - https://www.social-engineer.com/offensive-security/smishing/ - Offensive Security Phishing Services - https://www.social-engineer.com/offensive-security/smishing/ - Call Back Phishing - https://www.social-engineer.com/offensive-security/call-back-phishing/ - Adversarial Simulation Services - https://www.social-engineer.com/offensive-security/adversarial-simulation/ - Social Engineering Risk Assessments - https://www.social-engineer.com/offensive-security/social-engineering-risk-assessment/ - Social-Engineer channel on SLACK - https://social-engineering-hq.slack.com/ssb - CLUTCH - http://www.pro-rock.com/ - innocentlivesfoundation.org - http://www.innocentlivesfoundation.org/ 02:35 - The Topic of the Day: Healthy vs. Obsessive Ambition 05:58 - Narcissism for Good 06:42 - Building Ambition 08:26 - Ambition the Destructor! 10:05 - Take the Long Road Home 15:18 - Development 17:02 - Social Obsession 19:02 - The Gift of Adversity 22:45 - From the Inside 26:35 - Dichotomies 29:02 - Redefining Success 31:27 - Growing Values 33:28 - Healthy or Obsessive??? 34:44 - Wrap Up 34:57 - Next Moth: Cognitive Dissonance 35:10 - Outro - www.social-engineer.com - www.innocentlivesfoundation.org Find us online: - LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/dr-abbie-maroño-phd - Instagram: @DoctorAbbieofficial - LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/christopherhadnagy References: Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. (2000). The "what" and "why" of goal pursuits: Human needs and the self-determination of behavior. Psychological Inquiry, 11(4), 227-268. Duckworth, A. L., Peterson, C., Matthews, M. D., & Kelly, D. R. (2007). Grit: Perseverance and passion for long-term goals. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 92(6), 1087-1101. Judge, T. A., & Kammeyer-Mueller, J. D. (2012). On the value of aiming high: The causes and consequences of ambition. Journal of Applied Psychology, 97(4), 758-775. Locke, E. A., & Latham, G. P. (2002). Building a practically useful theory of goal setting and task motivation. American Psychologist, 57(9), 705-717. McClelland, D. C. (1961). The achieving society. Van Nostrand. Wrosch, C., Scheier, M. F., Carver, C. S., & Schulz, R. (2003). The importance of goal disengagement in adaptive self- regulation. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 85(3), 503-508.
Kenza Haddock will join us to blend Biblical wisdom with clinical insights to uncover the true origin of narcissistic abuse, answering the hot-button question: What makes a narcissist? She will explain the unique and psychological response to narcissistic abuse, while giving us practical strategies and Biblical guidance.Become a Parshall Partner: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/inthemarket/partnersSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Has your inbox turned into a dumpster fire of accusatory texts from your abuser?In this episode, I hand you a step-by-step strategy to shut down the inner emotional chaos without getting dragged into the mud pit with him. It's not just about survival. It's about winning (for YOU!)What We Cover in This Episode: What to do when your abuser won't stop texting lies, and the courts won't let you block himHow to stop reacting and start playing offense with your own sanity-protecting strategyWhy your emotional reaction is his favorite snack (and how to starve that monster)The magic of radical acceptance. No, he's not going to wake up one day and be Prince CharmingWhy sarcasm is satisfying but not strategic (sorry, my fellow sass queens)A game-plan that builds a rock-solid paper trail, perfect for court receipts and your peace of mindHow to rewire your nervous system before you even read his garbage textsRead the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question hereRelated Resources:Check out Aimee Says for help wading through the word salad your abuser is throwing at you. Listen to some other Flying Free episodes, including “Winning Child Custody & Divorce Battles” and “How to Respond to Emotional Abuse Tactics.”
In this powerful episode, Lisa A. Romano, trauma-informed life coach and codependency recovery expert, dives deep into the often-overlooked role that anger plays in the healing journey from parental narcissism and complex trauma. Growing up in a dysfunctional family can leave emotional scars that are not easily seen, but they shape how we experience relationships and view ourselves as adults. In This Episode, You'll Learn: How denial serves as a survival strategy in dysfunctional family systems and how it can keep us stuck in toxic patterns The hidden anger that emerges from growing up with one narcissistic parent and another who was passive or emotionally absent Why it's common to feel guilt or confusion when recognizing anger toward a passive parent, even when they weren't overtly harmful How anger toward both parents can fuel the codependent behaviors and emotional dysregulation that often follow complex trauma The critical step of recognizing your anger as a valid emotion in the recovery process, and how it leads to clarity and healing Why This Matters When we grow up in a home where one parent's instability wreaks havoc, and the other's passivity leaves us emotionally unprotected, we internalize survival mechanisms like hyper-independence or helplessness. These patterns affect our ability to set healthy boundaries, build trust, and create meaningful connections later in life. Recognizing anger as part of the healing process is key. It isn't about blaming anyone, but rather about understanding how these dynamics shaped your sense of worth, your self-protection mechanisms, and your relationships today. Take the Next Step in Your Healing Journey Lisa's 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program helps you break free from codependency, complex trauma, and the long-lasting effects of narcissistic abuse. Through transformational lessons, journaling exercises, and neuroscience-based tools, this program will guide you toward emotional autonomy and inner peace. 12 Week Breakthrough Method: Start Today for 50% Off Learn More and Sign Up Here #CodependencyRecovery #NarcissisticAbuse #ComplexTrauma #ParentingTrauma #EmotionalNeglect #InnerChildHealing #TraumaRecovery #LisaRomano #BreakthroughHealing #HealingFromNarcissisticParents
In the 80s, the CIA started a secret project to explore altered states of consciousness… and what they discovered may change how you see reality. In this episode, Aaron Doughty exposes what those declassified documents reveal about the nature of the mind, manifestation, and the illusion of control. They also discuss how fear, ego, and identity shape our reality, and why surrender may be the most powerful spiritual tool we have.OUR GUESTAaron Doughty is a spiritual teacher and YouTuber with a community of over 1.8 million subscribers, dedicated to assisting people in expanding their consciousness. In 2012, he underwent a spiritual awakening that profoundly transformed his life.This awakening ignited a journey of self-discovery, involving reading hundreds of books, listening to seminars, and introspectively searching for answers. Throughout this journey, he let go of a painful past, discarded labels that no longer served him, and liberated himself from many of the autopilot beliefs he had previously operated under.Since that pivotal moment, he has felt a deep sense of purpose in empowering others to recognize their innate high vibrational nature and free themselves from the pain and negative experiences of their past.Aaron believes his purpose is to raise his own vibration and level of consciousness, all the while helping others achieve the same. He believes, deep within, you too are on a similar journey of raising your own vibration, and as you do so, it has a transformative impact on the world.AARON DOUGHTY
In this episode, Dr. David Puder is joined by world-renowned psychologist Diana Diamond, PhD to explore devaluation, narcissism, attachment, and transference in psychotherapy. Together they examine why patients with narcissistic personality traits or narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) often devalue their therapists, how dismissing and disorganized attachment styles shape treatment, and why these cycles can be so painful for clinicians. Dr. Diamond shares clinical insights from Transference-Focused Psychotherapy (TFP), including how to recognize subtle and overt devaluation, how to hold boundaries, how to think psychodynamically about these behaviors, and how to respond without reenacting the patient's internal object relations. The discussion also highlights the role of trauma, reflective functioning, countertransference, and the deeper tragedy of pathological narcissism. By listening to this episode, you can earn 0.75 Psychiatry CME Credits. Link to blog. Link to YouTube video
Why does a narcissist confuse you? On this podcast episode, Dr. David Clarke discusses how narcissists confuse you, and what you can do to leave a toxic relationship. Get Dr. Clarke's books: https://www.davideclarkephd.com/bookstore Book a 1:1 phone advice session: https://www.davideclarkephd.com/phone-advice-service
“He doesn't hit you, so it must not be abuse.” Yeah, no. That tired old line needs to die.This week, I sat down with Dr. Christine Cocchiola, a powerhouse expert on coercive control, the kind of abuse that doesn't leave bruises but instead, destroys lives. Christine breaks down how abusers don't need fists to dominate; they weaponize EVERYTHING from the court system, to churches, to your very own kids.If you've ever been dismissed, disbelieved, or labeled “too angry,” this episode is a masterclass in seeing the invisible, calling it what it is, and taking your power back, even if you have to fake it ‘til you make it from the ICU of your life.What You'll Learn: Why coercive control isn't a form of abuse, it IS abuse. Period. Full stop.How abusers hide behind charisma, charm, and a well-timed Bible verse.The horrifying way the legal system often rewards abusers and punishes protective moms.How abuse affects children, even when it's subtle, and especially when it's court-sanctioned.Why your anger is holy fire, not a character defect.How to start healing and parenting differently, even while walking through hell with a diaper bag.Read the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question hereRelated Resources:Check out Dr. Christine Cocchiola's website.Connect with her on Instagram and Facebook. Read FRAMED: Women in the Family Court Underworld, Dr. Cocchiola's co-authored book. Get her free map called Clinical Implications for Children Who Are Coercively ControlledWatch her recent TED Talk: It's All Coercive ControlChristine M. Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW is an expert on the experiences of adult and child victims of coercive control. A college professor teaching social work, she received her doctorate in clinical social work from New York University working under the tutelage of Dr. Evan Stark. She presents nationally and internationally on the concept of coercive control with a focus on educating professionals, advocates, and protective parents, on the experiences of children and best intervention strategies for adult and child victims of coercive control/narcissistic abuse. Her Clinician Certification Training is ASWB approved for 14 CE's. Dr. C is the creator of The Protective Parenting Program, a therapeutic evidence based attachment focused program for parents of children harmed by abusers and the co-author of FRAMED: Women in the Family Court Underworld.
Julia Shaw is a criminal psychologist and author who in her books explores human nature, including psychopathy, violent crime, the psychology of evil, police interrogation, false memory manipulation, deception detection, and human sexuality. Thank you for listening ❤ Check out our sponsors: https://lexfridman.com/sponsors/ep483-sc See below for timestamps, transcript, and to give feedback, submit questions, contact Lex, etc. Transcript: https://lexfridman.com/julia-shaw-transcript CONTACT LEX: Feedback - give feedback to Lex: https://lexfridman.com/survey AMA - submit questions, videos or call-in: https://lexfridman.com/ama Hiring - join our team: https://lexfridman.com/hiring Other - other ways to get in touch: https://lexfridman.com/contact EPISODE LINKS: Julia's Instagram: https://instagram.com/drjuliashaw Julia's Website: https://www.drjuliashaw.com/ Julia's Linktree: https://linktr.ee/drjuliashaw Julia's LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drjuliashaw/ Julia's Books: https://amzn.to/4mQBnTV Green Crime (US Book): https://amzn.to/4nLfSVE Green Crime (Canadian Book): https://amzn.to/47lBAdc SPONSORS: To support this podcast, check out our sponsors & get discounts: Shopify: Sell stuff online. Go to https://shopify.com/lex BetterHelp: Online therapy and counseling. Go to https://betterhelp.com/lex LMNT: Zero-sugar electrolyte drink mix. Go to https://drinkLMNT.com/lex AG1: All-in-one daily nutrition drink. Go to https://drinkag1.com/lex OUTLINE: (00:00) - Introduction (01:00) - Sponsors, Comments, and Reflections (08:16) - Dark Tetrad - Psychopathy, Narcissism, Machiavellianism, Sadism (29:23) - Serial killers (43:59) - Murder (51:51) - Lies and scams (56:38) - Jealousy (1:00:07) - Monogamy (1:05:20) - Sexuality (1:20:21) - Sexual fetishes (1:35:56) - Criminal psychology (1:39:04) - False memories (2:25:01) - Criminals destroying the planet (2:40:24) - Hope PODCAST LINKS: - Podcast Website: https://lexfridman.com/podcast - Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/2lwqZIr - Spotify: https://spoti.fi/2nEwCF8 - RSS: https://lexfridman.com/feed/podcast/ - Podcast Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLrAXtmErZgOdP_8GztsuKi9nrraNbKKp4 - Clips Channel: https://www.youtube.com/lexclips
Comedian and writer Paul Mecurio joins Adam and Dr. Drew to discuss whether society has reached peak Trump Derangement Syndrome. They also share their mutual disdain for cyclists and their narcissistic habits before Paul tells the incredible story of how he left a career in investment banking to pursue stand-up comedy full-time.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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