Podcasts about Narcissism

If you are stepping away from an emotionally or spiritually destructive marriage and suddenly feel hit by severe anxiety, physical illness, obsessive thoughts, or a desperate urge to run back, you may be experiencing trauma bond withdrawal.When a relationship alternates between unpredictable emotional mistreatment and periods of seeming “niceness,” your body builds a biological and neurochemical dependency on that cycle. Breaking free triggers a physical and emotional detox.Today's episode is a faith-informed, clinically grounded guide to understanding trauma bond withdrawal symptoms, dismantling weaponized scripture, and restoring your nervous system.Resources mentioned in this episode:The Grey Rock Method for Emotional Abuse VictimsFlying Free Kaleidoscope ProgramGet Today's Free Resource:

Experiences with stress, depression, and anxiety are often paired with feelings of not measuring up or that you're not enough. However, feeling that you're lacking in some way is not limited to a mental health diagnosis; these feelings are actually very common and, unfortunately, they make our lives smaller. We're working on our Element of Enoughness in this episode, identifying Enoughness as an inner knowing that you are enough just as you are, with acceptance of where you are at this moment, without giving up on where you're headed. We'll start by identifying some obstacles to that knowing through two powerful research frameworks. The first is Dr. Jennifer Crocker's "contingencies of self-worth." This is the idea that we stake our self-esteem more heavily on certain domains than others, and when we do, our worth rises and falls with our performance in those areas.   The second framework is Drs. Paul Hewitt and Gordon Flett's three typologies of perfectionism: self-oriented (impossible standards for yourself), other-oriented (impossible standards for others), and socially-prescribed (believing others are demanding your perfection). Henry also names the common root for our feelings of not being enough: the fundamental fear of not belonging.  This is the start of our series on Enoughness, so be sure to stick with us for the next episodes as we talk about and gain skills related to having enough, doing enough, knowing enough, and being enough.   About: The Joy Lab Podcast is an Ambie-nominated podcast that blends science and soul to help you cope better with stress, anxiety, and depression. It's hosted by integrative psychiatrist Dr. Henry Emmons and holistic mental health researcher Dr. Aimee Prasek. The podcast is best paired with the Joy Lab App.   Bonus: spread some joy and keep this podcast ad-free by donating (Joy Lab is powered by the nonprofit Pathways North and your donations are tax-deductible).   Full transcript here   Sources and Notes for Our Element of Enoughness: Related Joy Lab Episodes:    Ep. 268: Humility Can Be Stressful... But Worth It for Mental Health  Ep. 273: How to Build Confidence (When You Don't Feel Confident Yet)  Bellam, S., Curran, T., Hill, A. P., & Stoeber, J. (2025). Perfectionism and work performance: A meta-analysis. https://doi.org/10.1111/joop.12570 Carver, C. S., Lawrence, J. W., & Scheier, M. F. (1999). Self-discrepancies and affect: Incorporating the role of feared selves. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167299025007002  Crocker, J., & Park, L. E. (2004). The costly pursuit of self-esteem. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.131.3.392  Crocker, J., & Park, L. E. (2004). Reaping the benefits of pursuing self-esteem without the costs? Reply to Schmuck and Sheldon (2004), Sheldon et al. (2004), Pyszczynski et al. (2004), and Kernis (2004). https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.130.3.430 Crocker, J., Karpinski, A., Quinn, D. M., & Chase, S. K. (2003). When grades determine self-worth: Consequences of contingent self-worth for male and female engineering and psychology majors. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.85.3.507 Crocker, J., & Wolfe, C. T. (2001). Contingencies of self-worth. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-295X.108.3.593 Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. (2004). Avoiding death or engaging life as accounts of meaning and culture: Comment on Pyszczynski et al. (2004). https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.130.3.473 Freudenberger, H. J. (1974). Staff burn-out. Journal of Social Issues, 30(1), 159–165. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1540-4560.1974.tb00706.x  Harari, D., Swider, B. W., Bujold Steed, L., & Breidenthal, A. P. (2018). Is perfect good? A meta-analysis of perfectionism in the workplace. https://doi.org/10.1037/apl0000324 Hewitt, P. L., & Flett, G. L. (1991). Perfectionism in the self and social contexts: Conceptualization, assessment, and association with psychopathology. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.60.3.456 Higgins, E. T. (1987). Self-discrepancy: A theory relating self and affect. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-295X.94.3.319 Joseph, S., & Linley, P. A. (2005). Positive adjustment to threatening events: An organismic valuing theory of growth through adversity. https://doi.org/10.1037/1089-2680.9.3.262 Kernis, M. H. (2005). Measuring self-esteem in context: The importance of stability of self-esteem in psychological functioning. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1467-6494.2005.00359.x Kirkpatrick, L. A., & Ellis, B. J. (2001). An evolutionary-psychological approach to self-esteem: Multiple domains and multiple functions. In G. J. O. Fletcher & M. S. Clark (Eds.), Blackwell handbook of social psychology: Interpersonal processes (pp. 411–436). Blackwell. Leary, M. R. (2000). Sociometer theory and the pursuit of relational value: Getting to the root of self-esteem. https://doi.org/10.1080/14792772043000045  Maslach, C. (1981). The measurement of experienced burnout. https://doi.org/10.1002/job.4030020205   Park, L. E., & Crocker, J. (2005). Attachment styles and contingencies of self-worth. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167205277030 Pyszczynski, T., Greenberg, J., Solomon, S., Arndt, J., & Schimel, J. (2004). Why do people need self-esteem? https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.130.3.435 Schaufeli, W. B., Leiter, M. P., & Maslach, C. (2009). Burnout: 35 years of research and practice. https://doi.org/10.1108/13620430910966406    Questions this episode was made for: Q: What does "you are enough" actually mean? Isn't that just an excuse to stop growing? A: Enoughness, as Joy Lab defines it, is the inner knowing that you are enough just as you are, with acceptance of where you are, without giving up on where you're headed. Enoughness is distinct from self-esteem (which rises and falls with performance) and is closer to unconditional self-worth; this episode explains the distinction and why believing you are enough actually makes you more open to genuine growth, not less.   Q: Why do I feel so driven to prove myself even when I know it's exhausting and not working? A: That's the contingencies of self-worth in action. When we stake our self-esteem on certain domains, we strive or perform not to learn or grow but to prove our worth; this episode explains the mechanism, its real costs, and why loosening those contingencies is not giving up on goals but can help free yourself from letting outcomes dictate your value.    Key moments: [00:00] Welcome to the brand new Element of Enoughness  [00:30] Opening fact: you are enough — and the Zen teaching Henry loves: "You're perfect as you are, and you could use a little improvement"  [01:00] Aimee's working definition: Enoughness is the inner knowing that you are enough just as you are, with acceptance of where you are, without giving up on where you're headed  [01:30] Contentment spiked with hope — Enoughness is not a ceiling, it's a foundation  [02:00] Why Enoughness is hard to define operationally — but viscerally familiar; we know what having it and lacking it feels like  [03:00] Henry: this topic lives in the conversation around scarcity and abundance — how much is enough is a question we don't give enough thought to  [03:30] Most of us carry on as though we don't have or aren't enough — striving, or feeling bad for what we think we lack  [04:00] The rare person who feels comfortable in their own skin: receives praise but doesn't need it — and stands out for it  [04:30] Four dimensions to explore: having enough, doing enough, knowing enough, and being enough  [06:00] Two key frameworks for the month: contingencies of self-worth (Dr. Jennifer Crocker) and typologies of perfectionism (Drs. Hewitt and Flett) [06:30] Contingencies of self-worth: we don't stake self-esteem equally on everything — certain domains carry more of our worth  [07:00] Three key claims: contingencies motivate where we put attention and effort; they influence how we react in those domains; they can lead to fragile self-esteem linked to higher depression and anxiety  [07:30] Contingencies turn "I feel good about myself" into "I feel good about myself if..."  [08:00] Crocker's college student study: students who tied self-worth to academic performance studied more hours — but extra studying did NOT predict a higher GPA  [08:30] They were studying to prove worth, not to learn — and reported more conflict, more academic struggle, more dissatisfaction by end of freshman year  [09:30] Key takeaway: you can be motivated to do well without attaching self-worth to the outcome — that's actually the more effective route  [10:00] Loosening contingencies isn't surrendering goals — it's refusing to let outcomes or others' judgments dictate your value  [10:30] Henry: inadequacy is closer to the truth than insecurity — the belief that we're not enough permeates almost everything  [11:00] Buddhist psychology: grasping — endless grasping — as the manifestation of not-enoughness  [11:30] No matter how much we get of the thing we think will fill us up, it doesn't last — this tragic gap drives anxiety and depression  [12:30] Aimee: feeling inadequate shakes our sense of security and safety — evolutionary roots, we need the group to survive  [13:00] Important distinction: self-esteem (rises and falls with performance), fragile self-esteem (staked on outcomes we grasp onto), and self-worth (intrinsic, not performance-dependent)  [14:00] Baumeister's challenge to the self-esteem movement of the '80s and '90s — hollow self-esteem building is at best unsubstantiated, potentially harmful  [14:30] Baumeister and Vohs, "Narcissism as Addiction to Esteem": chasing self-esteem through reality-detached praise creates a dopamine-like loop — feels good briefly, drops quickly, tolerance builds, need more and more  [15:30] The addiction pattern: constantly chasing the next hollow boost, convinced it'll finally hold — and it never does [16:30] Henry: why do we give our lifeblood chasing what we know deep down won't give us what we want?  [17:00] The fundamental human drive: to belong — to be seen, appreciated, cared about — once basic biological needs are met  [17:30] The tension: deep need to belong vs. the illusion that we are separate and must go it alone  [18:00] Neuroscience of belonging: newly born neurons immediately extend to connect with others — if insufficiently connected, they shrivel and die; same for us  [19:00] Introduction of perfectionism typologies from Drs. Paul Hewitt and Gordon Flett  [19:30] Type 1 — Self-oriented: punishing standards for yourself, intense drive to be perfect and avoid failure  [19:45] Type 2 — Other-oriented: same rigid standards applied to others — hard on relationships, linked to more loneliness  [20:00] Type 3 — Socially-prescribed: believing others are demanding your perfection and will judge you if you fail — most linked to depression, hopelessness, and possibly suicidal ideation  [21:00] Henry: socially-prescribed perfectionism feels like the loneliest of the three — you're playing by rules you didn't design, trapped in a system you didn't agree to  [21:30] All three stem from the same root: the fundamental fear of not being enough, of not belonging  [22:00] Self-oriented: "If I'm not perfect, I'm not worthy of belonging" — attacking yourself to earn your own permission to exist  [22:30] Other-oriented: projecting the fear outward — demanding others meet standards because that's what you believe it takes to matter  [23:00] Socially-prescribed: the loneliest — responding to what you believe the world demands, even though that belief deserves to be questioned  [23:30] Most of us carry all three — when we can name these patterns, we have a choice; we can loosen the grip  [24:00] Aimee: all of these types come from a good place — wanting to matter, wanting others to matter — it's driven by a desire for connection  [25:00] Pushback addressed: will believing you're enough make you lazy, entitled, or narcissistic? No — Enoughness is not the same as self-esteem  [25:30] Enoughness is a neutral, solid ground — you can feel bad about a mistake and still feel like enough as a person  [26:00] When you feel like enough: you can take criticism without your value collapsing; apologize without self-destruction; make mistakes and still belong  [27:00] Joy Lab Program Experiment for Enoughness — head to JoyLab.coach  [27:30] This is a collective experiment — to feel like enough, we have to offer that to others  [28:00] Closing wisdom from Lao-Tzu: "When you are content to be simply yourself and don't compare or compete, everyone will respect you."   If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review us wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts!    Please remember that this content is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice and is not a replacement for advice and treatment from a medical professional. 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I'm a therapist who 's had enough of therapy culture!One of my biggest pet peeves with it is the way we've turned mental health diagnoses into explanations for human beings. Depression. Anxiety. ADHD. Bipolar disorder. Narcissism. We throw these labels around as though they explain *why* someone thinks, feels, and behaves the way they do. They don't. A diagnosis tells you the WHAT. It does not tell you the WHY.This week, I'm digging into what psychiatric diagnoses actually are, how they evolved, what we really know about “chemical imbalances," and what can happen when a diagnostic label becomes part of someone's identity. Your suffering is real. Your symptoms are real. But you are a human being first—and your humanity, your history, your relationships, your pain, and your adaptations deserve to be understood. The label should never take the place of the human being.Follow Vanessa: https://www.instagram.com/vanessathetherapist/Follow the show: https://www.instagram.com/theworkofbeinghuman/

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Think of six people you know. Chances are, one of them is a narcissist. Narcissism seems to be a topic on everyone's lips right now. Clinical psychologist Dr. Ramani Durvasula is one of the world's leading experts on narcissism. Her work has struck a chord with people trying to make sense of relationships with someone who craves attention and admiration and puts themselves at the centre of everything. It's a subject so widely experienced that Dr. Ramani is going on tour, with a live show coming to Auckland in April at the Bruce Mason Center.

Jonny Miller on Nervous System Mastery, Grief, and Why High Performers Can't Afford to Stay Stuck in Their Heads Your nervous system is running every decision, relationship, and reaction in your life, and you won't notice how much it's costing you until something breaks. This episode gives you the exact framework for building real nervous system mastery instead of running on autopilot until it fails. Watch this episode on YouTube for the full video experience: https://www.youtube.com/@DaveAspreyBPR Host Dave Asprey sits down with Jonny Miller, host of the Inner Frontier Podcast and founder of Nervous System Mastery, who has taught more than 1,000 people how to build the skills of interoception, self-regulation, and emotional fluidity. A former Silicon Valley founder turned nervous system expert, Jonny brings a rare mix of rational, data-driven thinking and deep somatic work to a field most high performers avoid entirely. They break down why interoception, self-regulation, and emotional fluidity are the three learnable skills behind every major shift in performance, relationships, and decision-making, and why most high achievers have spent their whole lives disconnected from what's happening below the neck. Jonny introduces the half-life of reactivity, his framework for measuring how quickly someone can move from triggered back to calm, and explains how free diving became his gateway into surrender, breath work, and pressure equalization as a form of high-stakes meditation. Dave shares his own parallel journey through nervous system work, including lessons from running 40 Years of Zen and a costly business betrayal that reshaped how he reads people. Dave and Jonny also open up about grief, including Jonny's experience losing his fiancée and later his mother, and how community and co-regulation shape how fast someone actually heals. You'll Learn: Why interoception, self-regulation, and emotional fluidity are the three core skills behind nervous system mastery What the half-life of reactivity is and how to use it to measure real emotional progress How free diving works as a form of high-stakes meditation and a direct feedback loop for unclenching Why congruence between your inner and outer state matters more than staying composed under pressure How team intuition can be used as a practical filter in high-stakes hiring decisions Why co-regulation with friends and community can dramatically shorten the grieving process What Jonny's Breath Buddy device is designed to teach kids and families about nervous system regulation Thank you to our sponsors! - MOD | Visit mod.com for a consultation and get 10% off your first order plus free shipping with promo code DAVE. - ZenBud | Dave's Nervous System Biohack. 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Narcissism, Cult Recovery, Spiritual Awakening, and DiscernmentMark Vicente is an author, speaker, and award-winning Writer/Director/Producer from Johannesburg, South Africa. Taking his first photograph at age four, he worked his way up through the ranks of the camera department, shooting a number of anti-apartheid films in the 1980s before relocating to Hollywood.Because of the atrocities in his native South Africa, he found himself propelled to question fundamental assumptions at a young age: beliefs about human behavior, morality, cosmology, existentialism and mysticism. Unifying his love of science, philosophy and filmmaking, his dream of creating cinema to inspire and provoke thought emerged with the creation of “What the BLEEP Do We Know?!” Later, deeply moved by the violence consuming Mexico, Mark released “Encender el Corazon,” a film about the kidnapping epidemic there and one community's courage in standing up to the cartels. It was a bittersweet victory. While the film touched many people deeply, it was by association supporting the criminal enterprise NXIVM. Mark made the difficult decision to pull the film from distribution and, with a small band of whistleblowers, exposed NXIVM's criminal behavior, resulting in multiple arrests and prosecutions. This journey is captured in the HBO Documentary Series “The Vow.”He has since developed a passionate interest in exposing the coercive, duplicitous environments of high-control groups. His feature documentary “Narcissists' Playbook,” examining malignant narcissism through self-confessed, self-aware narcissists, juxtaposed with testimony from victims, survivors, scientists, and mental health professionals, has now been released. He is also developing “Inst@Guru,” a series examining the rise of predatory self-help culture in the social media age, centered on Dutch social media guru Bentinho Massaro.Websites:markvicente.comNarcissist's PlaybookBonnie Piesse is an Australian/American actress, singer-songwriter and soul alignment and manifestation coach. She's best known for her roles in Star Wars: Attack of the Clones, Revenge of the Sith, and Obi-Wan Kenobi, and was recently seen in My Favorite Girlfriend alongside Tyler Johnson and Michael Nouri. As a singer-songwriter, her music has been featured in film and TV including Miss Arizona, HBO's The Vow (in which she was also a subject), and CW's Life Unexpected. Through her business, Your Quantum Life, Bonnie helps soul-led leaders remember who they really are and step into authentic expression and embodiment.Website: bonniepiesse.com

In this episode, we're doing something a little different. I'm opening up my private monthly book club discussion (usually just for Flying Higher members) and sharing it with you. This month we read the bestselling novel Yesteryear by Caro Claire Burke. We get into the tradwife aesthetic, performative Christianity, and the difference between a woman who genuinely loves a homemaking life and a system that demands every woman perform one. Key Takeaways:The reason the beautiful tradwife image is so seductiveThe most convincing performances usually start with a belief that's actually sincere. One character's storyline sparked a heated disagreement in the group about who gets to be "smart" in stories like this one, and why that distinction matters There's a subtle difference between a woman choosing a traditional role and a woman being conditioned into one, and it changes everything about how we respond to the trend.What does authentic faith look like once the performance stops? If you're a divorced Christian woman who loves self-development and learning new things, consider joining the Flying Higher community! Get Today's Free Resource:

Trust isn't something you manufacture through effort — it's something you receive through relationship. In this episode, Dr. Greg Bottaro concludes the series on OCPD and perfectionism by exploring why control feels so necessary, how our earliest relationships shape our ability to trust God, and why freedom begins not when we become perfect, but when we allow ourselves to be loved. Because holiness isn't built on mastering the perfect spiritual routine — it's built on learning to rest in the love that has always been pursuing you. Key Topics: Why trust can't be built through more effort, more surrender, or the right devotion How "trying harder" to trust God is actually the pattern itself, not the way out of it How the parts of us that need control aren't bad, but are protecting something deeper Why compassion, not correction, is the first step toward healing a controlling part How self-possession exists for the sake of self-gift — and why you can't give what you don't have Why holiness was never meant to end fear of hell, but to end the need to earn love in the first place How real healing only happens in relationship — not in a program, a podcast, or a novena Learn More: Previous episodes in this series on Obsessive Compulsive Personality Patterns: Ep. #290: "I'm Only Loved When I'm Perfect": The Lie Fueling Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder Ep. #291: OCPD and Scrupulosity: How the Worship of Rules and Control Leads to the Loneliness of Certainty Ep. #292: Holy Anxiety: The Understandable Underbelly of Scrupulosity Join us at the Summit of Integration this October in Dallas — launching the Year of St. John Paul II Presence Virtual Retreat: Practice the presence of God and trustful surrender  Previous episodes on parts work (IFS): Ep. #34: A New Theory! w/ a Catholic Lens Ep. #35: Why Do I Feel Like I Have Conflicting Thoughts? w/ Dr. Peter Malinoski Start of the Being Human series on the Antisocial Defense Patterns: Ep. #281: Control or Be Controlled: The Devastating Wounds Behind Antisocial Behavioral Patterns Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation. Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment. Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

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Welcome back to In Sanity: A Piece of Mind. Last episode, I talked about the gap between who someone is and who they need to believe they are, and how narcissism is really a wall built around that gap, not an excess of self-love. In this episode, we will start there. Today I'm going deeper into what the actual clinical picture of NPD looks like, what the research says about shame specifically inside that diagnosis, where it actually comes from developmentally, and how you protect yourself from narcissistic behavior without needing to dehumanize the person behind it. My hope is you leave this episode able to hold empathy and a boundary at the same time.**This podcast does not address physical abuse in any way. If you are in a relationship where there is abuse, please seek professional help**

Subscribe to get access to the full episode, the episode reading list, and all premium episodes! www.patreon.com/OrdinaryUnhappinessThe Summer of Narcissism brings Abby, Patrick, and Dan to Freud's landmark 1914 essay, “On Narcissism: An Introduction.” While the sexologists considered narcissism a niche sexual perversion occurring only among a small number of adults, Freud structuralized the concept into a broader model of universal processes of development and subject formation. Moreover, Freud argued that some kind of narcissism was necessary for any basic human capacity for self-esteem, and saw it implicated not only in comparatively rare pathological formations, but also in socially celebrated activities like parenting and falling in love. And as Abby, Patrick, and Dan explore, while much of Freud's essay hasn't stood the test of time (especially in its homophobia and misogyny), his distinction between “primary narcissism” and “secondary narcissism” remains vital and has proven foundational for subsequent theoretical and clinical thinking about personality disorders, treatability, and more.Have you noticed that Freud is back? Got questions about psychoanalysis? Or maybe you've traversed the fantasy and lived to tell the tale? Leave us a voicemail! (646) 450-0847A podcast about psychoanalysis, politics, pop culture, and the ways we suffer now. New episodes on Saturdays. Find us online:http://www.ordinaryunhappiness.comX: @UnhappinessPodInstagram: @OrdinaryUnhappinessPatreon: http://www.patreon.com/OrdinaryUnhappinessTheme song:Formal Chicken - Gnossienne No. 1https://open.spotify.com/album/2MIIYnbyLqriV3vrpUTxxOProvided by Fruits Music

Eve Lorgen returns to The Cosmic Switchboard to talk about The Disclosure Movie, as well as aspects of Hosting, Narcissism related to entity attachments and possession and much more. In Part 1, Eve discusses how the movie Disclosure Day may be used to spin control the narrative regarding alien abductions. She examines the depiction of telepathic abilities, mind intrusion technology, and the potential exoneration of hybrid characteristics in the media. In Part 2, Eve and James discuss the historical involvement of U.S. presidents in secret alien programs and the darker side of MK Ultra and milabs. They also touch upon human cloning, the reality of physical evidence in ufology, and the current state of the disclosure movement. Eve discusses some of Barbara Bartholic’s work including the Breed Out The Love Program and aspects of her new book about the Alien Love Bite. Eve Lorgen's Website: EveLorgen.com Eve Lorgen's Books: The Dark Side of Cupid, The Love Bite Part 1 Video: [This post contains video, click to play] Part 2 Video: [This post contains video, click to play] Part 1: https://www.thecosmicswitchboard.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/08/Eve-Lorgen-Interview-with-James-Bartley-on-thecosmicswitchboard.com-Part-1.mp3&Download: mp3 Audio Part 2 – Members Only: https://www.thecosmicswitchboard.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/08/Eve-Lorgen-Interview-with-James-Bartley-on-thecosmicswitchboard.com-Part-2.mp3To Play or Download: Login or Join To Download Use the link under the player for the part you want to download. The post Disclosure Narratives and Mind Control – Eve Lorgen Interview with James Bartley appeared first on The Cosmic Switchboard.

In this live broadcast, I stand at the intersection of mental health and biblical insight, sharing from my journey “in the trenches” of my own journey and through experience of helping those who are struggling. From a pastoral lens, I share the common root areas that are often underlying those who struggle with OCD and also those who battle ADHD, and how these […]

What if some of the pull toward porn addiction isn't just about sexual desire—but about loneliness, disconnection, and a deeper longing to feel known?In this episode, I sit down with therapist, author, and professor Chuck DeGroat for a conversation about porn addiction, narcissism, shame, loneliness, healthy masculinity, and what Chuck calls the growing crisis of connection in our culture.One of the ideas that stood out to me most was pseudo-connection. Pornography, social media, technology, and other forms of high-stimulation escape can give us something that resembles intimacy or connection without requiring the vulnerability of actually being known. We may experience temporary relief or stimulation, only to find ourselves more isolated afterward.Chuck and I also unpack an important distinction between porn addiction and narcissism. Struggling with addiction does not automatically mean someone has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Yet addictive and narcissistic patterns can sometimes share deeper experiences of shame, inadequacy, self-protection, and the painful sense that I am not enough.From there, we explore what men may actually be searching for underneath compulsive behavior: worth, belonging, and purpose.For me, this connects directly with something I learned in my own recovery. There were times when what initially felt like a purely sexual craving became much clearer when I slowed down and listened to what was happening inside me. I could eventually recognize: I don't actually need porn right now. I'm lonely. I want connection.That shift changes recovery.Instead of only asking, “How do I make this craving disappear?” we can begin asking, “What is happening inside me, what do I actually need, and how can I move toward something real rather than another form of escape?”Ultimately, this conversation is about much more than behavior modification. Porn addiction recovery is not simply learning how to say no more forcefully. It is learning how to become a man who can tolerate discomfort, tell the truth, ask for help, develop meaningful relationships, live with purpose, and allow himself to be genuinely known.If you've been trying to overcome porn addiction through willpower alone, I hope this episode gives you a larger and more hopeful vision of what recovery can become.Connect with Dr. Chuck DeGroatOrder Chuck's book, Who You're BecomingCheck out Chuck's Soul Care CollaborativeLink to Blog Article for this EpisodeVisit No More Desire Tools for Recovery for recovery tools and training, the free online community, my free eBook, Workshop, The RAIL Method ™ and more to help you break free from porn.If you're tired of trying to quit porn on your own, the No More Desire Academy gives you a structured path to recovery through coaching, brotherhood, practical tools, and step-by-step training. Learn more about the Academy.If you want deeper, more personalized support, I also offer 1-on-1 porn addiction recovery coaching. We'll work directly on your patterns, emotional triggers, recovery plan, and long-term growth. Learn more about working 1-on-1 with Jake Kastleman.My gratitude for the music in this episode (in order of appearance) goes to Ievgen Poltavskyi, AtlasAudio, and Aleksey Voroninfrom Pixabay.Support the showNo More Desire

Let's talk about emotional neglect. Can we really categorize this as “abuse?” I say we can, and in today's episode, I'm going to tell you why. In this episode, you'll learn:Five specific ways emotional neglect shows up in a marriageWhy silence can be more controlling than yellingWhat your nervous system does when someone ignores youThe question every neglected wife asks herself over and over again, and why she needs to stop asking that questionGet Today's Free Resource:

In this release episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon talks with Mark Vicente ('What The Bleep Do We Know?', 'The Vow', & The Narcissist's Playbook), about his new documentary, covert narcissistic abuse, spiritual narcissism, enmeshment, the dark night of the soul, surviving the the cult of NXIVM, psychopaths, and the experience of waking up.  If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Scrupulosity often looks like devotion — but when fear takes over, even our spiritual life can become consumed by doubt, checking, and the search for certainty. In this episode, Dr. Greg Bottaro continues the series on OCPD and perfectionism, exploring the difference between a healthy conscience and a scrupulous one, why mercy can be hard to trust, and how our experiences shape the way we see God. Holiness was never meant to be an endless audit — it was meant to lead us into relationship with the One who loves us. Key Topics: How reciting the truth about mercy in your head does nothing to change what your body still believes Why certainty about being forgiven is the one thing this pattern can never actually get Why confession, meant to bring peace, can quietly become just another form of checking How the voice you call your conscience might actually be a punishing voice in disguise Why the face you're afraid God is making at you was never really His How the saints wrestled with scrupulosity — and what finally brought them peace wasn't more proof Why doing this work alone almost always makes the pattern worse How the way out can feel too easy to trust Learn More: Previous episodes in this series on Obsessive Compulsive Personality Patterns: Ep. #290: "I'm Only Loved When I'm Perfect": The Lie Fueling Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder Ep. #291: OCPD and Scrupulosity: How the Worship of Rules and Control Leads to the Loneliness of Certainty Episode referenced on spiritual bypassing: Why "Everything Happens for a Reason" Isn't Working: The Holy Words We Use to Avoid Healing Join us at the Summit of Integration this October in Dallas — launching the Year of St. John Paul II Start of the Being Human series on the Antisocial Defense Patterns: Ep. #281: Control or Be Controlled: The Devastating Wounds Behind Antisocial Behavioral Patterns Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation. Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment. Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

Send us a messageEpisode 230: Your Adult Child Calls You a Narcissist: What Are They Really Trying to Say?If your adult child has called you a narcissist or emotionally immature, you may feel hurt, confused, defensive, or unsure what those words actually mean.These terms are showing up more often in conversations about difficult parent-adult child relationships, but they are not interchangeable. Narcissism and emotional immaturity describe very different patterns, and understanding that difference can help you respond more thoughtfully when your adult child uses one of these labels.In this episode, Tina looks at narcissism vs. emotional immaturity through a family systems lens. She explains how these patterns can show up in parent-adult child relationships, why adult children may use these terms to describe painful experiences, and how parents can listen for what is underneath the label without immediately accepting it or rejecting it.You'll learn:The difference between narcissism and emotional immaturity and why narcissism is a clinical diagnosis while emotional immaturity can describe underdeveloped emotional skills.Why adult children may use words like narcissist or emotionally immature when they are trying to explain their experience, and why these words are not interchangeable and describe two very different things.How to respond when your adult child calls you a narcissist or emotionally immature, especially when your first reaction is defensiveness, shame, or the urge to prove them wrong.How emotional patterns can be passed down through generations, especially when empathy, emotional attunement, self-reflection, and healthy communication were not modeled in your own family.What emotional growth can look like for parents of adult children, including becoming more self-aware, listening without immediately defending yourself, and learning how to stay present during difficult conversations.If you are trying to understand why your adult child sees you as narcissistic or emotionally immature, this episode will help you look beyond the label and focus on the relationship pattern underneath it.You may not agree with the word your adult child is using. But understanding what they are trying to communicate can give you much more useful information about what is happening in your relationship and what you may be able to change.If you know another parent who is struggling with these same questions, share this episode with them.Click Here to download the free guide: 5 Steps to Take Before Trying to Repair the Relationship With Your Adult Child Tina Gosney is the Family Conflict Coach. She works with parents who have families in conflict to help them become the grounded, confident leaders their family needs. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------If you want support putting what you're learning into practice, come join The Connection Community in Bridge to Connection. This is the perfect spot where you can learn, connect and get targeted help to start moving your relationship with your adult child in a different direction. Set up a Connection Clarity Call with Tina to see if this is a good fit for you: CLICK HERE TO SET UP A CALL---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Tina is certified in family relationships and a trauma informed coach.  Visit tinagosney.com for more information on coaching services.

Lyndsay Soprano sits down with spiritual counsellor, energy healer, and author Chris Wasko for a heartfelt conversation about trauma, narcissistic abuse, old souls, and the lifelong journey of healing. Together, they explore how childhood experiences shape our nervous systems, why so many survivors remain stuck in survival mode, and what it means to reconnect with the truest version of yourself.Chris shares her own story of growing up in a narcissistic family, the path that led her to spiritual healing, and how inner child work, nervous system regulation, and self-awareness can help us move from simply surviving to truly living.This episode is compassionate, deeply validating, and a reminder that healing happens one layer at a time—and that even after profound pain, peace is still possible.Episode Highlights:(00:00) Introduction and episode overview(03:23) Chris Wasko's background and expertise(04:07) Traumatic upbringing and narcissism spectrum(06:30) Recognizing narcissism in family and its effects(08:23) Healing abilities emerging through trauma work(09:23) Covert vs overt narcissism explained(12:14) Connection between narcissism and old souls(13:29) Understanding the old soul and Spicy Old Souls test(14:55) Healing old souls and vibrational energy(17:57) Impact of pain on nervous system and trauma response(22:32) Healing ripple effects and collective consciousness(24:49) Regulating the nervous system for trauma recovery(29:21) The wayfinder archetype and exploration energy(33:02) Personal insights on movement and safety(41:01) The significance of safe spaces and inner chaos(41:38) Introduction to the book An Old Soul's JourneyFind Chris Wasko Online Here:Website: chriswasko.comFacebook: @chriswaskomediumYouTube: @energyhealingwithChrisBook: An Old Soul's JourneyFind Giving Pain Purpose Online Here:Website: givingpainpurpose.comInstagram: @givingpainpurposeFacebook: The Giving Pain Purpose PodcastLinkedIn: Lyndsay SopranoYouTube: @givingpainpurposeShop: thegivingpainpurposeshop.comSubscribe on YouTube | Merch Shop is OPEN!! | COMING SOON: The Pain Hub - A Women's Healing Community. Subscribe Now!Unfiltered convos. Dark humor. Real healing. This is where pain meets purpose — and you're not doing it alone.++Want to be a guest on Giving Pain Purpose with Lyndsay Soprano? Send her a message on PodMatch, here: Be a Guest on The Show

Send us Fan Mail. More sheriffs in Colorado are "opting out" of providing licensing requirement service for residents wishing to purchase AR-15s and like weapons. This necessitates the People of Colorado making a defiant stand against compliance with the state's new illegal law.. Many states will still continue to outlaw SBR's and suppressors even if the DOJ allows the injunction against enforcing the NFA to stand, because governments, like a narcissistic spouse, refuse to relinquish the power they've usurped from the People.. President Trump's DOJ is no friend of the 2nd Amendment, and the sooner we the People realize that the better. They have offered their contentions in support of the NFA with narcissistic circular reasoning and outright defiance of the 2nd Amendment.Bill Mick Live!Tune in every weekday morning from 06:00-09:00 EST for some common sense, uncommon radio!Sicarios Gun ShopFirearms, Accessories, Ammo, Safes, and more!The Gun Site9-Lane 25 yard indoor Shooting Range, Gun Store, Training classesFreedom GunsFirearms, Ammunition, Accessories, Training classes WJS GunsGun and Outdoor Shop, ammo, accessories, fishing tackle, moreSHOOTINGCLASSES.COMOnline business operations platform for firearms instructors, trainees, and Shooting RangesCounter Strike TacticalBest Little Gun Store in Melbourne, Florida! Veteran Owned and Operated 321-499-4949Go2 WeaponsManufacturers of AR platform rifles for military and civilian. Veteran Owned and OperatedEar Care of MelbourneNeed hearing aids? Go to the audiologists that gave Royce his hearing back!Glover Orndorf and Flanagan Wealth Mgmt.Wealth management servicesControl Jiu-Jitsu/MMAJiu-Jitsu/MMA Training in Melbourne, FLDisclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the showThe Watch Floor - YouTubeAskari Media GroupBuy Paul Eberle's book "Look at the Dirt"Paul Eberle (lookatthedirt.com)

Send us a message, we can't respond. If you'd like a response email us at rick@warriorswaymindset.comIn this episode, Dr. Stephen Paul Edwards shares his profound journey through trauma, relationships, and self-discovery. He explores the metaphors of the Venus flytrap, attachment, and healing, offering valuable insights for personal growth and overcoming narcissistic dynamics. In this episode, Dr. Stephen Paul Edwards and Rick Yee explore the depths of human consciousness, belief systems, and the path to healing. They discuss how to identify and rewire core patterns, the importance of inner trust, and practical steps for transformation.Here is the Books Purchase link for your audience:  https://www.amazon.com/Venus-Fly-Trap-Lies-Repercussions/dp/B0FR7BYYYNhttps://www.amazon.com/Venus-Fly-Trap-Enough-Never/dp/B0GLNMCFYS Join our free men's community! Click here for more information Join our free men's community! Click here for more informationSupport the showJoin our Discord community now and start your transformation today!MEN click here ----- WOMEN click hereIf you want more information on our programs head over to our website here

In this episode, host Lisa Bilyeu is joined by ex-CIA spy Andrew Bustamante and renowned defense attorney Karen Conti for a riveting discussion on the complex interplay between power, money, and justice in high-profile cases. Focusing on Sean "Diddy" Combs, the panel unravels allegations of abuse, manipulation, and the concealed video evidence that has sparked intense debate.Our guests delve into the mechanisms of reputational protection, the ethics and legality of selective video management by hotels, and the broader implications of federal investigations that could ripple through the entertainment and financial sectors. They also touch on the societal idolization of celebrities and the reluctance to believe victims of abuse, especially in racially charged contexts.The conversation does not shy away from the darker aspects of celebrity culture, including the psychological and legal struggles victims face, and the role of powerful networks in perpetuating harmful behavior. Andrew and Karen provide insights into the strategic use of influence and blackmail, comparing Diddy's case to other notorious figures like Jeffrey Epstein and R. Kelly.SHOWNOTES-Prosecutor challenges: doubt, juror skepticism, evidence.-Normalization leads to acceptance of inappropriate behavior.-Narcissism fueled by adoration led to crime.-Hollywood power and blackmail delayed revelations.-The entertainment industry is extremely abusive.-Reputational protection industry safeguards high-profile individuals.-We define our own privacy, not others.-Diddy appears dazed; Cassie tries escaping situation.-Apology video seemed scripted and well-produced.-Professionals empathize with aggressors, differing amateurs.-Was his organization structured like a business?FOLLOW LISA:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeuYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpactTik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=enSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Welcome back to In Sanity: A Piece of Mind. I this episode, going to talk about shame and the narcissist.Most of us picture someone loud — bragging, taking over every conversation, never admitting they're wrong. But narcissism isn't loving yourself too much. It's the opposite. It's what a person builds when they can't stand to look at the real, ordinary version of themselves.Narcissism is the cope used when someone can't tolerate the gap between their real, ordinary, flawed self, and the fantasy self they have created, and need to believe is real. We will discuss two types of narcissism and how they operate from the same egocentric premise.Join me this week, take a good hard look at yourself, and see if you can't diagnose a bit of narcissism in your own life.

The Summer of Narcissism journey brings Abby, Patrick, and Dan to late nineteenth century Europe, and to the revolutionary and controversial new discourse of sexology. Emerging at the intersections of medicine, anthropology, public health, education, and the legal system, sexology took up human sexual behavior not as a question of sin or theological denunciation, but as an object of scientific study. Introducing the field, Abby, Patrick, and Dan survey how various sexologists understood sexuality, sample the rich behavioral taxonomies they produced by way of reading from classic works by Richard Krafft-Ebing and Havelock Ellis, and reflect on how sexologists' work combined an emphasis on self-consciously secular scientific objectivity with explicit moral attitudes and implicit normative assumptions. The three also how explore how the sexological enterprise struggled with the implications of two core problems – the question of auto-eroticism (the ways people use their own bodies for sexual pleasure) and the question of orientation (the ways people's sexual behavior does or doesn't involve the bodies of others). And as Abby, Patrick, and Dan discover, it was precisely while trying to reconcile those problems that two sexologists summoned Narcissus into modernity, and named “narcissism” for the very first time.  To support the Muriel Gardiners campaign at the Psychosocial Foundation for the Known and Elsewhere Collective, Parapraxis Books, and more: https://www.thepsychosocialfoundation.org/donateLearn more about the Psychosocial Foundation, including seminars, events, short courses, and therapy: https://www.thepsychosocialfoundation.orgLearn more about Parapraxis: https://www.parapraxismagazine.com/Selected works cited:Havelock Ellis, “Auto-Erotism: A Psychological Study” (1898)Paul Näcke, “Die sexuellen Perversitäten in der Irrenanstalt” (1899)Richard von Krafft-Ebing, Psychopathia Sexualis (1886)John Berger, Ways of Seeing (1972)Mark Jordan, The Invention of Sodomy in Christian Theology (1998)Have you noticed that Freud is back? Got questions about psychoanalysis? Or maybe you've traversed the fantasy and lived to tell the tale? Leave us a voicemail! (646) 450-0847  A podcast about psychoanalysis, politics, pop culture, and the ways we suffer now. New episodes on Saturdays. Find us online:  http://www.ordinaryunhappiness.com X: @UnhappinessPod Instagram: @OrdinaryUnhappiness Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/OrdinaryUnhappiness Theme song: Formal Chicken - Gnossienne No. 1 https://open.spotify.com/album/2MIIYnbyLqriV3vrpUTxxO Provided by Fruits Music

Check out Cam's latest novel / audio drama here! Across genre fiction, "the chosen one" always becomes a cautionary tale. So what does it mean that GRRM dramatizes the unsuccessful reigns of an endless number of Targaryens who all believe that they have the divine warrant to rule the Seven Kingdoms? In this episode, we're exploring the theology of narcissism that empowers strongmen and emphatically makes the case against any sort of hereditary rule. Maggie explores the remarkable similarities and differences between Arya and Dany to find out why their equally impassioned and aggrieved stories end in such different places. Cam takes a closer look at the problem of evil, particularly the unseen and excused evils of the world that don't garner nearly enough outrage of philosophical attention, but still have the power to crumble a kingdom from within. LINKS: Patreon, YouTube, Spotify, Instagram Feedback & Theories: secondbreakfastpod@gmail.com 00:00 Camel Confusion (Redux) 02:47 Recap of Chapters 21:33 A Theology of Narcissism 30:54 The Myth of The Chosen One 37:11 Couplet or Contrast? 45:55 Maggie's Bird Corner 50:06 The Problem of (Excused) Evil 01:00:40 Closing Thoughts

Narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and NPD get thrown around constantly online, and most of what circulates is wrong. In this episode, licensed marriage and family therapist Kati Morton walks through what narcissistic personality disorder actually is (all nine DSM criteria, and why five or more are required for a diagnosis), the difference between covert and overt narcissism, and the specific behavior patterns that make a relationship abusive: love bombing, gaslighting, trauma bonding, DARVO, flying monkeys, isolation, and intermittent reinforcement. She also covers the gray rock method, the signs you're walking on eggshells in your own home, and how healing from narcissistic abuse actually works. If you've been wondering whether what you experienced counts, or whether the person in your life is a narcissist or simply selfish and hurtful, this one is for you. Timestamps 0:00 Everyone thinks everyone's a narcissist 1:07 What narcissistic personality disorder actually is: five of nine criteria 3:20 Covert vs. overt narcissism 9:22 What narcissistic abuse means 9:48 Love bombing, and how it differs from someone just being kind 13:49 Gaslighting 19:11 No accountability, no apology, no repair 22:19 Monitoring, isolation, and turning you against the people who love you 24:22 Trauma bonding and the abuse cycle 27:25 DARVO 30:45 The gray rock method 34:30 Flying monkeys 36:57 Why they aren't nasty all the time 40:02 Intermittent reinforcement 40:47 Signs you're living in this dynamic 43:50 How healing actually happens 46:27 Reconnecting with the people you lost touch with 49:16 A better question than "what's wrong with me" 53:33 Afraid you'll end up with another narcissist This episode is brought to you by Rebound, offering specialized virtual trauma therapy in all 50 states, founded by survivors and psychologists. Head to https://hellorebound.com/askkatianything to learn more and check your insurance. Using that link is a direct way to support the podcast, so even if you're only curious, take a minute to look. Ask Kati Anything ep. 327 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT MY BOOKS Why Do I Keep Doing This? https://geni.us/XoyLSQ Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? https://geni.us/sva4iUY ONLINE THERAPY If you're looking for a therapist, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed online professional: https://betterhelp.com/kati (enjoy 10% off your first month) This is an affiliate link, which means a portion of your signup helps support the podcast at no extra cost to you. PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co Disclaimer The information provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us Fan MailSend us Fan MailIn this inspiring episode of Living the Dream with Curveball, we welcome Rebecca Magnuson, an extraordinary singer, songwriter, playwright, and advocate. Rebecca's life journey is a powerful testament to resilience and the healing power of creativity. From her beginnings as a child piano prodigy to becoming a vital voice for women who have survived abuse, Rebecca shares her remarkable story of transformation and empowerment.Rebecca opens up about her experiences with physical, emotional, and financial abuse, and how these challenges shaped her artistic expression. She discusses her one-woman musical, *She Sings*, and her upcoming documentary series, *She Sings: Surviving the Narcissist*, both of which aim to educate and empower others facing similar struggles.Listeners will learn about:- The impact of Rebecca's childhood on her music and artistry- Her journey from classical piano to the Nashville songwriting scene- The creation of *She Sings Publishing* and her mission to support female artists- The importance of using art as a means of healing and self-expression- Insights into her documentary series and the stories of women she has interviewedJoin us for a heartfelt conversation that not only highlights Rebecca's incredible achievements but also encourages listeners to find their own voice and share their stories. For more information on Rebecca and her work, visit www.shesings.comSupport the show

Send us Fan MailCW: Child abuse, death or a parent, emotional traumaGrowing up with a narcissistic father has given me some insight in how to manage people in power who have a heightened sense of self importance, an excessive need for admiration, and a profound lack of empathy. I've become an expert in managing men who are entitled and expect everyone to agree with them. If you think that sounds familiar, then maybe you grew up with a narcissistic parent. Either that, or you've been to see the doctor.Got a question for the next podcast? Let me know!Connect With MeBUY THE BOOK: Never suffer through another through another weight loss lecture from your doctor againJOIN THE NO WEIGH MOVEMENT: Get a free script when you sign upTHE WEIGHTING ROOM: Community with a neurodivergent flavour. **BOOK CLUB** exclusive to Weighting Room members. BOOK A CONSULTATION: For the ultimate transformation in your healthcare journeyEXPLORE THE MASTERCLASS LIBRARY: Become an expert in your condition and the weight inclusive ways to manage itFREE GUIDES:Evidence-based, not diet nonsenseFind me on Instagram, YouTube, and LinkedIn.

This is part two of our series on the subtle gaslighting tactics emotional abusers and narcissists use in Christian marriage. You'll hear four more specific examples of what he says, why he says it, what it triggers in you, and the precise words to say back so the tactic stops working on you for good.Key Takeaways:There's a reason your husband can turn any conversation about his behavior into a conversation about your tone, your past, or your "real" intentions, and once you see the move, you'll catch it every time.One specific manipulation pattern explains why a man can be caught in something devastating and somehow still come out of the conversation as the victim.There's a single Bible verse Christian men weaponize to shut down any conversation about unresolved hurt, and it doesn't actually say what they think it says.Find out why your anger in the moment of betrayal might be the most spiritually honest thing in the room, and why he needs you to believe otherwise.Every gaslighting tactic is aiming at the exact same target inside you, and once you know what it is, you'll never be fully fooled by any of them again.Get Today's Free Resource:

Certainty feels like safety. But you can only ever be certain alone — and the life you build on control slowly becomes a lonely one. In week two of the series on OCPD, Dr. Greg explores why we reach for control when trust feels dangerous — and how the certainty we build to feel safe ends up costing us the very relationships it was meant to protect. Key Topics: Why the certainty that makes you feel safe is the same thing that leaves you alone How a rule can feel safer than a person — because a rule never changes its face Why the control you use to protect the people you love can drive them straight into the danger you feared How devotion can quietly turn into a contract with God instead of trust in Him Why trying harder to get it perfect is the pattern itself, not the way out of it Learn More: Previous episode in this series — OCPD Part 1: Ep. #290: "I'm Only Loved When I'm Perfect": The Lie Fueling Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder Join us at the Summit of Integration this October in Dallas — launching the Year of St. John Paul II Faith of the Fatherless: The Psychology of Atheism by Dr. Paul Vitz — on how wounded trust in a father can shape our capacity for faith Person and Act — St. John Paul II's (Karol Wojtyła's) philosophical work on the acting person, and the personalist heart of this episode Stop Walking on Eggshells by Paul Mason & Randi Kreger — the book on borderline patterns Dr. Greg references Start of the Being Human series on the Antisocial Defense Patterns: Ep. #281: Control or Be Controlled: The Devastating Wounds Behind Antisocial Behavioral Patterns Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation. Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment. Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Recording A Fight: Right Or Wrong!You hit record because you were finally going to have proof. And the second that phone went face-down on the table, you started behaving—measured, calm, reasonable—while you waited for them to hand you the exact reaction you were looking for.That's why the recording never works. In Ep469, Cass and Kathryn take on a question they get constantly, including the one recording of their own worst night that actually changed something.

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Today's conversation is with Richard Grannon. Richard is an author, life coach and one of the world's best-known educators on narcissism, trauma, emotional resilience and human behaviour.Through his YouTube channel, books, and coaching, he's helped millions of people better understand toxic relationships, manipulation and the psychology that shapes modern society.In this episode, we explore what narcissism actually is, why it's so widely misunderstood, and how narcissistic traits can show up in relationships, workplaces, social media and even wider culture. We also discuss the psychology behind victimhood, virtue signalling, identity.On a macro level, the UK is in the grips of malevolent forces and its decline sits at the feet of an elite who have no regard for the native population. Richard and I explore how this relates to narcissism and psychopathy.Expect to learn:What narcissism actually is and what it isn'tWhether narcissistic personality traits are inherited or developedHow social media has changed human behaviour since Richard's 2019 Plugged In documentaryWhy victim identity can become psychologically rewardingThe psychology behind virtue signalling and group identityWhy society feels increasingly polarisedWhether society can reverse the rise in narcissistic behavioursThe lessons Richard has learned from an unconventional life spanning self-defence, psychology, coaching and entrepreneurshipTake the FREE 4-Minute Sales Audit - https://colinsales-vygp2xak.manus.space Peak Performance Blueprint - https://colcambro.kit.com/products/peak-performance-blueprint Vitamonth Get 50% off your first month with code CAMBRO - https://vitamonth.ukConnect with RichardWebsite: https://www.richardgrannon.com/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@RICHARDGRANNON Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/richard.grannon Connect with ColInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/col.cambro/Email List: https://colcambro.kit.com/30bde23b0c

What do people who believe they are writing songs when they use Suno AI, YouTuber Hank Green, and Narcissus from Greek mythology all have in common? Quite a lot, it turns out. And they can help us recognise a form of stuckness that’s becoming increasingly common as people’s relationship with generative AI begins to blur the boundary between ourselves and the technologies we use, making it more difficult to know where the human ends and the machine begins. https://youtu.be/zSMwN0wKGlE Getting Stuck in the Digital Image Our relationship with technology and, in particular, large language models (LLMs) like ChatGPT and Suno poses a really interesting existential dilemma. I’ve been fascinated to see how these are often sold as tools to overcome stuckness. While at the same time, they create a whole different form of stuckness when we become attached to them. The demise of Narcissus came through an obsession with his own reflection. Perhaps the price of looking away from his reflection brought its own kind of departure and death. Maybe the image had become more real, perfect, and desirable than the human staring at it. In this episode of The Gentle Rebel Podcast, we consider how the reflection of ourselves in the machines we use can bend us out of shape and leave us uncertain of who we are and what we’re capable of. What Does It Mean to Write a Song? Fil Henley, AKA Wings of Pegasus, asked this simple question in a recent video. He analysed an advert from the AI music generation platform Suno, which features producers and songwriters using it to make songs. Fil says, “If you don’t know what the song is going to sound like before you hear it, then you haven’t written the song.” Platforms like Suno act like fruit machines. The output is based more on luck than judgement. What makes them compelling and perhaps even addictive, is that the result is impossible for us to predict. It’s a surprise each time that feels exciting to reveal. And it can turn any old crap into something you might hear on the radio. As we see in the video. More Than a Tool This is what makes these services different from tools. A tool reliably enables us to carry out a task without doing everything and more autonomously. So when the producer says that Suno is showing him stuff he never would have thought about, he is revealing the blurred boundary between us and these machines. It is more than a tool for songwriting. It’s generating the song itself. Suno isn’t like a digital audio workstation (a tool), where a songwriter records, edits, and produces music they have written and performed. It goes further, making many of the creative decisions that normally require time, judgement, and consideration throughout the songwriting process. In other words, the user doesn’t need the skill required to produce the result. Whose Ideas Are They? So if YOU didn’t think of them, whose ideas are they? And if it’s outputting stuff based on something you haven’t thought of, what’s the point in you being there at all? The song is found in the mirror as generative AI reflects back an image of a reality that doesn't exist above the surface. Creative Block as a Rite of Passage In reality, human creativity emerges through the energy generated by those moments of friction, uncertainty, and obstacle. By intervening early with generative AI before we have taken the opportunity to grapple with a block, we deprive ourselves of that bittersweet joy of finding something that comes to life THROUGH US. Instead, a service like Suno short-circuits the block. It presents fully formed solutions that we “never would have thought about”. Perhaps, we would have thought of something much better and more “us” if we had been patient and given ourselves time to grapple with the block. The Allure of The Mirror When you listen to these outputs, there is a professional sheen to them that feels sharp. It sounds just like stuff you hear on the radio. But it sounds like stuff you hear on the radio. There is a sameness to it. An increasingly homogenous stasis. Maybe this technology is attractive precisely because it DOESN’T sound like us. It’s familiar enough for us to to glimpse ourselves. But we look different. It cleans up the parts we might cringe at and be afraid of revealing. Those bits that feel messy, broken, chaotic, and weird. We don’t argue with the machine that makes us sound like something you’d hear on the radio, see on TV, or LinkedIn. Slick, clean, authoritative, clinical, soulless, indistinguishable, unremarkable, dull. Incidentally, this is a good way to identify the best producers, editors, and coaches to work with. They don’t try to make us sound like them or force us to emulate their processes. Instead, they seek to understand and support us. They are able to help us notice, accept, and amplify those parts that we would try to shrink down and hide when left to our own devices. The machine holds a mirror with some perfected image that we believe is us, but is stripped of blemishes, stains, and imperfections. But rather than being the Platonic ideal version of us, it’s more like an aggregate approximation of who everyone else is in the land of mediocre homogeneity. We arrive in this territory when we sand off our edges and lose our spark. The Culture of Narcissism In his 1979 book The Culture of Narcissism, Christopher Lasch offers a fresh way of thinking about the myth of Narcissus. We tend to think that Narcissus died because he fell in love with his own reflection and couldn’t look away, so was unable to do anything other than stare obsessively at himself in the water. Lasch adds another layer, depicting cultural narcissism emerging as the image of the human in the water becomes more important than the human it reflects. Telling Us Apart YouTuber Hank Green recently revealed that he had become over-reliant on ChatGPT after viewers pointed out something in a video that felt off to them. When viewed in context, the clip actually makes more sense than the reactionary commentary suggested. But while he said he didn’t accidentally read something from ChatGPT left in the script, Green didn’t dismiss the criticism. Instead, he agreed, “I think what people have said in this thread about me diluting myself is spot on”. Diluting oneself through the use of technology indicates how a separation between the image and the self can get blurred. This is perhaps why those using Suno to make songs believe they themselves are writing songs. It’s not necessarily a deliberate deception being perpetrated by people pretending to know more than they do or pretending they’ve done things they haven’t. There is a real belief being seeded and nurtured that means people genuinely struggle to distinguish between themselves and the output generated by these technologies. The Gift of Getting Stuck There is a gift in getting stuck along the way during the creative process. It invites us to be resourceful problem solvers. It builds character and reveals more about who we are as we experiment, test, and try things without guaranteed results. Imperfectly. Clumsily. Grappling with creative friction gives opportunities to deepen our confidence and grow our experiences of being okay after failing. These tools are sold to us as ways to avoid that friction. But in so doing, we avoid strengthening the tension wood of creativity altogether, grown in a dance with the rhythm of life’s winds and storms. It Takes a Village (of Humans) In this Sunotopia, depicted through their advert, we see many people gathered in the studio. Yet, the future reality that will come through the success of these platforms appears to be very different. The technology is moving us away from others so we don’t need a producer, an engineer, or other musicians to work with. All we need is Suno because Suno doesn’t get blocked. It will work with whatever crap you feed it. And it will turn any old noise into the kind of song you might hear on the radio. Happiness is Only Real When… Christopher McCandless’s diary concluded that “happiness is only real when shared”. An observation made under tragic circumstances. I think there is a lot of truth in this. I’ve found many times that even the happiest experiences I’ve had on my own feel more complete when they are witnessed through sharing a story with someone else. When we’re feeling the pressure to conform to the schedule of our unrelenting world, we need the courage to give it time. To give OURSELVES and ONE ANOTHER time. Maybe our intuition and imagination will start to show us stuff an LLM never would have thought of… It is rebellious to release ourselves from the pressure to rush and force output for the sake of it. Technologies like Suno and ChatGPT can become an attractive crutch when they are sold as ways to keep going amidst the limitless demands of a productivity-obsessed world. But they gradually erode confidence in our own creative capacity. We would do well to remember, “it is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society”. This is where we become unstuck (in the best possible way).

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In this special episode, Joe and Brett engage directly with the audience by reading and responding to comments from their recent episode on narcissism. They navigate what's true in the pushback as well as what they'd want to add or clarify. It's an honest, unscripted conversation about the limits of framing narcissism as a spectrum, the difference between abuse and narcissistic personality disorder, and the long journey from victimhood to empowered compassion. Together, they explore: The critical distinction between narcissism as a trait and narcissistic personality disorder The pros and cons of framing narcissism as a spectrum Why the natural progression often goes from "I'm the problem" to "you're the problem" before real healing becomes possible The difference between engaging with narcissism in the workplace vs. in an abusive relationship Why any love that makes you feel ashamed or turn away from yourself may not be love worth keeping Rebuilding a relationship with a narcissistic parent Why compassion and boundaries actually go together, not in opposition What abuse survivors actually need Why the option to leave isn't psychologically available until certain internal work is done Joe's story of meeting a mother in a homeless shelter and what it revealed about capacity and choice Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Send us Fan MailWhy do so many smart, accomplished, and successful women stay in toxic relationships? In this powerful episode of Heartbreak to Happiness, Sara Davison is joined by Lindsay Abernathy, host of the Bitch Is a Bad Word podcast, to uncover the hidden dynamics of emotional abuse, coercive control, and narcissistic relationships.Drawing from her own lived experience, Lindsay shares how abuse can exist behind the façade of a picture-perfect life, why leaving is rarely as simple as it seems, and the subtle red flags that often go unnoticed. Together, Sara and Lindsay explore trauma bonds, love bombing, gaslighting, post-separation abuse, co-parenting with a toxic ex, and how survivors can reclaim their confidence, voice, and sense of self.If you've ever questioned your reality, wondered whether you're "overreacting," or felt trapped in an unhealthy relationship, this conversation offers clarity, validation, and hope. Lindsay also shares practical advice for healing, rebuilding your support system, and creating a peaceful life after abuse.In this episode, you'll discover:Why intelligent, capable women can become trapped in toxic relationshipsThe warning signs of coercive control, gaslighting, and love bombingHow abuse impacts children—and why peace matters more than appearancesStrategies for co-parenting with a high-conflict or narcissistic exHow to rebuild your confidence, identity, and future after leavingThis is an honest, empowering conversation for anyone seeking freedom from toxic relationships—and proof that healing, happiness, and a brighter future are possible.Support the showFind more information and resources here: http://saradavison.com/Follow me on social media►Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saradavisondivorcecoach/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SaraDavisonDivorceCoachTwitter: https://twitter.com/SDDivorceCoachLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sara-davison-742b453/

Borderline and narcissism are often misunderstood—this episode separates myth from science. Robert Drozek explores the science behind borderline and narcissistic personality disorders, separating common myths from current research. Together, he and Sue discuss attachment, trauma, genetics, parenting, evidence-based treatments, and why understanding these often misunderstood conditions can bring greater compassion, hope, and healthier relationships. “Borderline is driven by a need to reconnect.” – Robert P. Drozek, LICSW Time Stamps for Challenging Personalities: Understanding Borderline & Narcissism with Robert Drozek (307) 04:14 Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder 09:25 Exploring narcissism: Definitions and types 13:29 Vulnerable vs. grandiose narcissism 18:56 The Role of Trauma in Personality Disorders 22:25 Parenting styles and their impact on narcissism 27:14 Identifying narcissism in relationships 33:34 Treatment approaches for Borderline Personality Disorder 36:45 Challenges in treating Narcissistic Personality Disorder 45:26 Navigating relationships with narcissistic individuals About our Guest – Robert P. Drozek, LICSW Robert P. Drozek, LICSW is the clinical director of the Mentalization-Based Treatment Clinic at McLean Hospital in Belmont, Massachusetts. He is a teaching associate in the Department of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, specializing in the treatment of borderline personality disorder, narcissistic personality disorder, and post-traumatic stress disorder. He is author of the new book, Mentalization: Utilizing reflection to heal from borderline personality disorder—the first book for the general public about mentalization-based treatment.   Resources for Challenging Personalities: Understanding Borderline & Narcissism with Robert Drozek (307) MBT Boston – An organization that Robert co-founded that offers training and supervision to clinicians across the world in MBT MBT USA – A consortium of MBT providers and organizations in the United Robert’s faculty page at McLean Hospital Instagram: @RobertDrozek Mentalization book – Facebook page Get your copy of Mentalization: Utilizing Reflection to Heal from Borderline Personality Disorder here!     Please support our sponsors – they keep our podcast free and accessible to all!  SimplePractice is an all-in-one EHR that is HIPPA compliant, HITRUST certified and built specifically for therapists. If you are ready to simplify the business side of your practice, now is a great time to try SimplePractice. Start with a 7-day free trial, then get 50% off your first three months. Just go to SimplePractice.com/TU to claim the offer. Beyond Attachment Styles – Deepening Security in Yourself and Fostering More Secure Relationships Course available NOW!   Everyone’s heard of attachment styles – but you likely don’t know how much the popular press gets wrong and what the science actually says about how to improve your relationships long term (including how we relate to ourselves).  This course is for anyone wanting to more deeply understand attachment (styles vs patterns), unconscious defense activation patterns, implicit scripts… and most importantly, what to do once you do get activated!  Online, Self-Paced, Asynchronous Learning with Quarterly Live Q&A’s! Earn 6 Continuing Education Credits – Available at Checkout. As a listener of this podcast, use code BAS15 for a limited-time discount. Or read Marriott & Kelley’s critically-acclaimed book, Secure Relating: Holding Your Own in an Insecure World (HarperCollins,2023) for the most in-depth experience of learning about Secure Relating. Therapists love it, but it’s accessible to everyone.  If you aren’t interested in the background science, just start at Part 2 and we will be talking directly to you – it’s fun!   You are invited!  OK for those of you who refer others to the pod, use it professionally or consider yourself nerdy and just love this stuff, hello, you are our people! Join our exclusive community to get exclusive bonus content, early access to training opportunities, and an ad-free, private podcast feed. It’s this warm community that allows us to donate half of all corportate profits to mental health access for marginalized peoples.  Sign up for our premium Neuronerd plan!! Click here!! 

Today we'll talk about one of the most disorienting experiences Christian women in emotionally abusive marriages face: gaslighting. But we aren't going to just define what gaslighting is. I'm going to break it down into all the tiny parts and give you some specific stories so you can see exactly what's going on and WHY. You'll learn three specific tactics gaslighters use, why they use them, and what you can do to stay grounded in your own reality when someone is working hard to pull you out of it.Key Takeaways:Why someone can sound completely loving and caring while actually doing something deeply harmful to youThe hidden reason your concerns keep disappearing from conversations before they ever get resolvedWhat a "joke" has to do with control, and why your body's reaction is not a character flawThe psychological mechanism you share with a slot machine, and what it's actually costing youThe one shift that strips a gaslighting tactic of all its power, without you having to win a single argumentGet Today's Free Resource:

Perfectionism doesn't always come from loving excellence. Sometimes it's the only way you've ever known how to feel safe. In the first episode of a new series on Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder, Dr. Greg unpacks how perfectionism, rigidity, and control take root—and why, underneath them, control quietly fills the space where trust was supposed to be. Key Topics: Why the pursuit of perfection is often less about loving excellence and more about not feeling safe without it How "until I'm perfect, I'm not loved" becomes the sentence an entire personality gets built on Why one small mistake can feel like disconnection instead of just a mistake How conscientiousness and perfectionism can look identical from the outside—and the one thing that tells them apart Why you can get everything right and still never feel free to rest Why the love you keep trying to earn was already given—before you got anything right Learn More: Person and Act and Related Essays by Karol Wojtyła (St. John Paul II) — the anthropology of self-possession and self-gift behind this episode Join a future Black Elk healing retreat at the Hawkeye Ranch in Wyoming Episode referenced on spiritual bypassing and scrupulosity: Ep. #288: Why "Everything Happens for a Reason" Isn't Working: The Holy Words We Use to Avoid Healing Inner Parts Easy Conversation Guide — an audio guide to get to know your inner parts. Start of the Being Human series on the Antisocial Defense Patterns: Ep. #281: Control or Be Controlled: The Devastating Wounds Behind Antisocial Behavioral Patterns Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

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In this episode I sit down with Wendy Behary, one of the world's leading experts on narcissism with over 30 years of experience, founder of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey, and author of the international bestseller Disarming the Narcissist, selected by Oprah Daily as one of the top books on the subject and now in its third edition translated into 18 languages. Wendy cuts through the myths that flood the internet around narcissism, explains the real difference between narcissistic traits and narcissistic personality disorder, and shares what she has learned from three decades of sitting in the room with both narcissists and the people who love them. We talk about when to stay, when to leave, what healing actually looks like for a narcissist, how to build your healthy adult self, and how to regulate your nervous system when you are living in close proximity to someone deeply volatile.This is one of the most clear, grounded, and genuinely rare conversations I have had on this topic,and I learned an enormous amount.Connect with Wendy:https://www.instagram.com/donsanddivashttps://disarmingthenarcissist.com/https://www.schematherapytrainingonline.com/p/empathic-confrontation-wendy-beharyhttps://courses.schematherapytrainingonline.com/p/empathic-confrontation-wendy-beharyWORK WITH ME 1:1:❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support: https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewformDOWNLOAD FOR FREE:Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinatriner.com/stay-or-go-guideAttatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinatriner.com/attachment-practice Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinatriner.com/connect-and-groundAlive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinatriner.com/alive-and-alignedTrigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinatriner.com/trigger-2-rooted VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:https://marinatriner.com/resources CONNECT WITH  ME:Follow me on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/marinatriner/ Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner Top Episode Quotes:"It's not your fault that you are the way you are — but it is your responsibility, if you want to be responsible, to work on this." — Wendy Behary"You don't have to be angry all the time to justify your position. The best place we can get ourselves to is solid, steady conviction." — Wendy Behary"Narcissists don't sit there plotting to hurt you. They are acting in defense of their ego — and they will run you over to protect it, but that is a different thing." — Wendy Behary"When you're in your healthy adult mode, what would that part of you say about this? That's always the question I bring people back to." — Wendy Behary"The grandiosity is a masquerade. It is covering the shame. All of it is a compensation for feeling deeply insecure at the core." — Wendy Beharynarcissism, trauma healing, nervous system regulation, somatic healing, narcissistic abuse recovery, attachment healing, schema therapy, inner child work, emotional regulation, relational healing, people pleasing, self abandonment, codependency healing, self worth, healthy adult self, trauma bonding, complex trauma, deep within podcast, Wendy Behary, disarming the narcissist 

Every relationship faces rupture — but the skill of repair is getting lost. Counselor and author Debra Fileta joins Dave and Ashley to talk about her new book People Skills and why loving difficult people well is one of the most important things we can do. She unpacks the rise of "cut-off culture," why we're too quick to label people narcissists, how to set boundaries that actually invite health, and the four levels of conversation that determine whether you feel truly connected in your marriage. Whether it's a spouse, a family member, or a coworker, this episode will help you love the difficult people in your life the way God loves us. Listener question: I feel like a roommate with my wife! Married 20 years with a 16, 14 and 9 year old and feeling emotionally, spiritually and physically disconnected. I've been patient since having kids spending years alone in the bedroom while she nursed, hoping our relationship would strengthen as the kids got older but it hasn't. We've talked a few times and I've shared books, podcasts, date night lists but can't get her to prioritize us. I'm slowly giving up and finding peace in solitude but am worried we're headed to a place where we can't come back from, and shared that worry. Any ideas on next steps? Get Debra's new book, People Skills: https://a.co/d/04U7eXjq Learn more about Debra Fileta: https://debrafileta.com Listen to Debra Fileta's podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/talk-to-me-the-debra-fileta-podcast/id1417804351 Learn more about Marriage Intensives: https://xomarriage.com We want your marriage to thrive! Learn more at http://xomarriage.com Dave and Ashley Willis spent thirteen years in full-time church ministry before devoting their work entirely toward the global mission of building stronger, Christ-centered marriages. Their marriage-related books, blogs, podcast, speaking events and media resources have reached millions of couples around the world making Dave and Ashley one of the most recognized and trusted couples in marriage ministry. Dave and Ashley partnered with XO Marriage in 2018. XO Marriage is the nation's largest marriage-focused ministry. The Willis family includes four sons and a rescue dog named "Chi Chi." When Dave and Ashley aren't writing and speaking, they love hanging out with their family, watching movies and going on long walks which is also where they develop many of their marriage ministry content ideas. Learn more about Dave & Ashley at daveandashley.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Narcissism is usually imagined as arrogance, dominance, and the loudest person in the room, but it is not always that obvious. In this episode, Vanessa explores narcissism as a problem of selfhood: what happens when a person does not have a stable enough inner sense of Self to stay emotionally coherent without constant reflection from the outside. Through Kohut, Kernberg, the myth of Narcissus, vulnerable and grandiose narcissism, the false self, parental overvaluation, and the difference between traits and Narcissistic Personality Disorder, we look at why these dynamics can feel so confusing inside real relationships. The question is not only whether someone can be charming, wounded, or empathic when things are easy, but whether they can stay curious about your reality when it no longer mirrors back the version of themselves they need to see.For educational purposes only. This isn't therapy.Join Vanessa for the free Inner Compass Academy Summit, August 5–7, where we'll explore depth psychology, shadow, embodiment, and what real transformation asks of us. Register here: https://www.vanessabennett.com/ica-summitReference Links:Heinz Kohut — Self PsychologyUse for: Kohut's self psychology, narcissism, mirroring, and development of a cohesive sense of self.Link: https://www.sciencedirect.com/topics/nursing-and-health-professions/self-psychologyNote: ScienceDirect overview identifies Kohut as the theorist most associated with self psychology and describes his focus on the development of a cohesive and positive sense of self.Kohut's Self Psychology Model / NarcissismUse for: Kohut's view of narcissism, unmet selfobject needs, and narcissism as part of development rather than simple arrogance.Link: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2860525/Note: Useful accessible clinical article describing therapy through Kohut's self psychology model.SelfobjectUse for: Kohut's selfobject concept: another person experienced as part of the self's regulation and cohesion, rather than fully as a separate subject.Link: https://www.encyclopedia.com/psychology/dictionaries-thesauruses-pictures-and-press-releases/self-objectNote: Use for the episode's explanation of relationships organized around mirroring and self-regulation.Narcissus MythUse for: Narcissus as the mythic image of attachment to reflection/image rather than real mutual relationship.Link: https://www.britannica.com/topic/Narcissus-Greek-mythologyNote: Use as the basic myth reference. The episode's psychological interpretation is Vanessa's depth-oriented reading.Otto Kernberg — Pathological Narcissism / Grandiose SelfUse for: Kernberg's work on pathological narcissism, object relations, and the grandiose self.Link: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/2678027/Note: PubMed abstract summarizes Kernberg's theory and mentions treatment focused on the pathologic grandiose self.Otto Kernberg — Borderline Conditions and Pathological NarcissismUse for: Primary book reference for Kernberg's work on pathological narcissism.Link: https://www.bloomsbury.com/us/borderline-conditions-and-pathological-narcissism-9780876681770/Note: Book citation for producer if referencing Kernberg's broader theoretical framework.Grandiose and Vulnerable NarcissismUse for: Distinction between grandiose narcissism and vulnerable / hypersensitive narcissism.Link: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5601176/Note: Research article describing grandiose narcissism as overt superiority/entitlement and vulnerable narcissism as hypersensitivity and introversive self-absorption.Pathological Narcissism and Psychosocial FunctioningUse for: Grandiosity and vulnerability as two core themes of pathological narcissism.Link: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6710132/Note: Useful source for explaining that narcissism can have both grandiose and vulnerable expressions.Narcissistic Vulnerability / Pathological Narcissism InventoryUse for: Narcissistic vulnerability as fragile self-concept, limited self/affect regulation, shame/rage, and sensitivity to perceived threats to self-esteem.Link: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3354008/Note: Supports the episode's discussion of narcissistic injury, collapse, shame, and fragility.Winnicott — True Self / False SelfUse for: Winnicott's false self concept, compliance, performance, and protection of the more vulnerable self.Link: https://academic.oup.com/book/1192/chapter-abstract/140028848Note: Oxford Academic page for Winnicott's “Ego Distortion in Terms of True and False Self.”Parental Overvaluation and Narcissism — Eddie Brummelman et al.Use for: Research showing parental overvaluation predicts child narcissism, while parental warmth predicts healthy self-esteem.Link: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4378434/Note: PNAS article, “Origins of Narcissism in Children.”Parental Overvaluation and Narcissism — PubMedUse for: Quick PubMed reference for the Brummelman study.Link: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25775577/Note: PubMed abstract states narcissism was predicted by parental overvaluation, not lack of parental warmth, while self-esteem was predicted by parental warmth.Narcissistic Personality Disorder — APA DictionaryUse for: Clinical definition of Narcissistic Personality Disorder and diagnostic features.Link: https://dictionary.apa.org/narcissistic-personality-disorderNote: APA Dictionary includes grandiose self-importance, need for attention/admiration, rage/humiliation/emptiness in response to criticism, entitlement, exploitation, and inability to empathize.Narcissistic Personality Disorder — MSD Manual ProfessionalUse for: DSM-5-TR-oriented overview of NPD as a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration/adulation, and lack of empathy.Link: https://www.msdmanuals.com/professional/psychiatric-disorders/personality-disorders/narcissistic-personality-disorder-npdNote: Useful accessible clinical reference for the distinction between narcissistic traits and a diagnosable personality disorder.Love Bombing — Empirical StudyUse for: Love bombing as a relationship formation pattern associated with narcissism, insecure attachment, low self-esteem, and excessive communication early in relationships.Link: https://scholarworks.uark.edu/hdfsrsuht/1/Note: Undergraduate honors thesis / empirical study. Use lightly. Love bombing is not a formal clinical diagnosis, but this source provides research support for the term.Love Bombing — Research SummaryUse for: Additional accessible reference for love bombing as connected to narcissistic tendencies and early relationship intensity.Link: https://www.kristenjozkowski.com/publications/18156-love-bombing-a-narcissistic-approach-to-relationship-formationNote: Use as a secondary support source if needed; avoid overstating love bombing as a formally established diagnostic concept.Narcissistic Personality Disorder — Recent Research OverviewUse for: Current overview of NPD, grandiose and vulnerable presentations, diagnosis, and treatment complexity.Link: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10187400/Note: Helpful scholarly overview of recent progress in understanding and treating NPD.If you want to go deeper, check out the written companion on Substack and explore community + training at https://www.vanessaBennett.com.Additional ResourcesExplore: VanessaBennett.comBook: The Motherhood MythCommunity: Inner Compass CollectiveTraining: Inner Compass AcademyConnect with Inner CompassFollow on InstagramConnect with Vanessa Bennett:Follow on InstagramFollow on TikTokLearn more on SubstackConnect with Vanessa Bennett on LinkedInSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this video, I break down the main differences between an overt narcissist and a covert narcissist, two faces of the same disorder that show up very differently in relationships. Overt (grandiose) narcissists are loud, attention‑seeking and openly entitled, while covert (vulnerable) narcissists are more introverted, sensitive, passive‑aggressive and often hide their self‑importance behind fake humility or a victim mentality. Drawing on clinical research about grandiose vs vulnerable narcissism and my own perspective as a diagnosed narcissist, we'll compare how each type rages, manipulates, plays the victim and reacts to criticism. If you've ever wondered why one narcissist brags nonstop and another seems shy, anxious or “too sensitive,” this video will help you see the shared core and the surface differences. You'll leave with clear red flags and language to describe which type you're dealing with and why both can be equally damaging.Book a Coaching Session Here - https://link.me/mentalhealness

In this video, I break down how misogyny and narcissism overlap, and why so many misogynistic men show classic narcissistic traits like entitlement, lack of empathy and a belief they're superior to women. Drawing on research that links narcissism and hostile sexism, as well as my own perspective as a clinically diagnosed narcissist, we'll talk about how viewing women as “less than,” objectifying them and needing them as supply while secretly despising them creates a very specific form of abuse. You'll learn why these men need admiration from women they don't see as full human beings, how patriarchy and collective narcissism fuel “boys' club” misogyny, and why their behavior is about control and ego, not genuine attraction or respect. If you've dated someone who hates women, treats you like property or uses feminist language while acting deeply sexist at home, this video will give you language and clarity to understand what you're dealing with. We'll also discuss red flags and how to protect yourself from misogynistic narcissistic dynamics.Book a Coaching Session: [⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://link.me/mentalhealness⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠]

In this episode, Dr. David Puder speaks with Robert Drozek, clinical director of the Mentalization-Based Treatment (MBT) Clinic at McLean Hospital and teaching associate at Harvard Medical School, about practical Mentalization-Based Therapy techniques to improve clinical outcomes in borderline personality disorder (BPD), OCD, and narcissism. Drozek explains the "What, Why, and How" model of mentalizing, how to address psychic equivalence (rigid certainty), pretend mode, and teleological thinking, and offers concrete strategies clinicians can use in session and assign as between-session work to help patients reconnect with difficult emotions, reduce intellectualization, and develop more flexible, reflective ways of understanding themselves and others. Link to blog Link to YouTube video

Avoidance works. That's the problem. Every time you dodge the hard thing, the relief is real—and so is the price you don't see coming. In this final episode of the series on avoidance, Dr. Greg makes the case that the way out isn't escape or a burst of willpower, but presence: staying in the room one second longer than you want to, and letting God meet you in the mess you were trying to hide. Key Topics: Why the relief avoidance gives you is exactly what keeps you stuck Why good therapy and mentorship refuse to hand you advice—and why that's what actually heals How even "staying present" can quietly become one more way to avoid what's surfacing Why healing works like a bruise, not a breakthrough—slow, at its own pace, and impossible to rush What to do the moment the wall goes up: stay in the room one second longer than you want to Why God doesn't wait at the finish line of your healing, but walks through the locked door to meet you in it Learn More: Presence Virtual Retreat: As a gift to listeners of Being Human, we're offering two full months free. Use code BHVRTRIAL at checkout to begin. The Retreat is a monthly subscription that brings together faith and psychology to help you overcome anxiety, quiet negative thought patterns, and live as if you truly believe in a God who loves you. Your first two months are completely free; after that, it continues at $17/month, and you're free to cancel anytime.  Stay connected — join our newsletter Join us at the Summit of Integration this October in Dallas Watch Being Human on YouTube – Watch the full video archive of the Being Human podcast Previous episodes in this series on Avoidance: Ep. #286: A Mental Tug of War: Inside the Avoidant Mind and the Burden of Being Known Ep. #287: We Are Not Robots: Why Connection Is Not Optional for Human Flourishing Ep. #288: Why "Everything Happens for a Reason" Isn't Working: The Holy Words We Use to Avoid Healing Start of the Being Human series on the Antisocial Defense Patterns: Ep. #281: Control or Be Controlled: The Devastating Wounds Behind Antisocial Behavioral Patterns Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Previous episodes on parts work (IFS): Ep. #34: A New Theory! w/ a Catholic Lens Ep. #35: Why Do I Feel Like I Have Conflicting Thoughts? w/ Dr. Peter Malinoski Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

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