Podcasts about Narcissism

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A hardened heart isn't where the story starts. It's what's left after a child trusted, got hurt, and concluded: I'll never be in that position again. This week, Dr. Greg turns the antisocial series toward hope: looking at how that hardness forms, and how the Sacred Heart of Jesus, betrayed and pierced yet still open, breaks the pattern. Key Topics: Why a hardened heart is never cold by nature—it's protection learned the first time trusting backfired Why the urge to control everyone around you is really an old strategy for never being at anyone's mercy again How "making up for it" can quietly become a way to avoid facing the wound underneath Why Jesus didn't heal the hardened heart from a safe distance—He walked straight into betrayal and stayed open What it means that control isn't the enemy; where you aim it is what changes everything Why healing means loving even the parts of you that sin, not just the parts that behave Why you can't will yourself into trust overnight—and why that slowness reflects your dignity, not your failure Learn More: Earlier in this series on the Antisocial Defense Patterns: Antisocial Part 1 — Ep. #281: Control or Be Controlled: The Devastating Wounds Behind Antisocial Behavioral Patterns Antisocial Part 2 — Ep. #282: You're (Probably) Not a Serial Killer—But You May Share Some of Their Antisocial Traits The Litany for Mental Health Dr. Greg references: A Litany for Mental Health The original Sacred Heart revelations: The Autobiography of Saint Margaret Mary Alacoque Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

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In a culture obsessed with likes, followers, and documenting every moment, it's easy to make life all about us. Even meaningful reflections—like realizing there will be a "last time" you hold your child—can shift our focus from gratitude and presence to our own emotions and experiences.In this episode, we explore how social media and the internet can subtly cultivate self-centeredness, how to recognize it in ourselves, and how Scripture calls us back to humility, service, and genuine connection.Key Scriptures: Philippians 2:3-4, John 3:30Connect with Anna:

In this episode, I break down the red flags of narcissism in women and why female narcissism is often much harder to recognize than male narcissism. Women are taught from very early on to speak the language of empathy, compassion, healing, boundaries, emotional safety and self-awareness. But that does not necessarily mean the underlying personality is agreeable, sacrificial or kind. In many cases, the narcissism is simply cloaked differently.   Subscribe on Substack to support my work and join our exclusive LIve and Google meets!

This episode dives into the mental health conditions and behaviors often mistaken for narcissism. When someone you love struggles with mental health and acts selfishly, the internet will immediately tell you that they're "a narcissist." However, you might be overlooking an underlying condition that just looks like narcissism on the surface. In this episode, Dr. Kibby reveals the five disorders frequently confused with narcissistic personality disorder, including: 1. borderline personality disorder; 2. attention deficit and hyperactivity disorder (ADHD); 3. autism, 4. complex post traumatic stress disorder (cPTSD), and 5.obsessive compulsive personality disorder (OCPD). Dr. Kibby breaks down why these five conditions share similar behavior as narcissistic personality disorder but have critical differences in deeper motivation, triggers and beliefs. For example, BPD's intense fear of abandonment mirrors narcissistic fears of devaluation, yet stems from different core needs. Understand how autism's social deficits and rigid rules can appear as arrogance but are rooted in neurodivergent processes. Trauma disorders like complex PTSD create self-protective behaviors in relationships, driven by past wounds needing healing. ADHD can be mistaken for selfishness, reflecting impulsivity and attention struggles.This episode is essential if you're frustrated by how a loved one's treating you but you get the sense that the label "narcissist" doesn't tell the whole story. Misdiagnosing these conditions can lead to frustration and missed opportunities for connection. Learn the nuanced distinctions that empower you to respond with empathy and insight, whether in personal relationships or professional settings.Resources:If you need support with a difficult relationship with someone who has mental health problems (narcissism, anger issues, BPD, trauma), check out KulaMind. Book a free call with Dr. Kibby to learn how she can help.

Hugh Hallman, Attorney, Educator, and former Mayor of Tempe, joins Seth in studio for the full hour to talk about the disturbing trend of young adults being encouraged to take the law into their own hands, and in some cases, to celebrate violence and destruction. The importance of teaching critical thinking and the dangers of creating a society where young people are not equipped to navigate complex moral dilemmas. The proliferation of social media and the ease of access to information have created a culture of instant validation, where young people are more likely to seek out information that confirms their pre-existing biases rather than engaging with opposing viewpoints. This has led to a breakdown in civil discourse and a lack of empathy for those with differing opinions.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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In this interview I talked with Dr. Keith Campbell. He is a Professor of Psychology at the University of Georgia, author of several books, and has been a guest on both The Joe Rogan Experience and The Jordan Peterson Podcast. Dr. Campbell is also a nation leading expert in narcissism and has written extensively on the topic. We discussed his newest essay from The Paradox Press on Narcissism, Spirituality, and the Problem of Ego Inflation. We suggest that you read his essay before listening to this interview and resist the temptation to psycho-analyze everyone in your life after listening. Go subscribe to The Paradox Press now!Follow me on X: https://x.com/andyschmitt99

หนังสือ You're Not the Problem: The Impact of Narcissism and Emotional Abuse and How to Heal ของ Helen Villiers and Katie McKenna - คุณไม่ใช่ตัวปัญหาที่แท้จริง แต่ความคิดที่เราคิดว่ามันคือตัวตนของเรามากกว่า - แสดงว่าความคิดของเรา ไม่ใช่ตัวเรา มันสามารถปรับเปลี่ยนได้ตลอดเวลา - อารมณ์มากมายที่มันถาโถมมายังที่ตัวเรา แน่นอนว่ามันอาจจะดีขึ้นหรือแย่ลงก็ได้ - หากเราไม่สามารถรับมือกับอารมณ์ได้ เราจำเป็นจะต้องหาสื่อการเรียนรู้ที่ช่วยเรา ไม่ก็ไปบำบัดก็ดี - ทั้งนี้ ทุกยุคสมัยมักจะมีการเปลี่ยนผ่านของอารมณ์ เช่น ความเครียด ความทุกข์ และเรื่องที่ไม่มีใครเข้าใจเราในแต่ละเรื่อง

I break down some of the most insidious and subtle ways abusers use language to dominate the narrative and erode your sense of reality.I walk you through five distinct patterns of weaponized communication: emotional manipulation disguised as vulnerability, defensiveness used as a silencing tool, blame-shifting hidden behind false equivalence, coercion dressed up as ultimatums, and silence deployed as punishment. Each example reveals the same underlying strategy — redirecting accountability, centering the abuser's discomfort, and leaving you questioning whether your own feelings are valid.If you've ever felt confused after a conversation you thought was reasonable, found yourself apologizing for simply expressing how you feel, or wondered whether you're the problem — this episode is for you. Because weaponized communication isn't poor communication. It's a strategy, and once you can see it, you can begin to break free from it.Support the show*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your RelationshipWebsite: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

When you're stuck in the same fight, it's tempting to believe you just need better communication skills. We've learned the hard way that the real lever is often deeper: the bond, the emotional safety, and the attachment needs neither of you is saying out loud.We're joined by Claire Rosoman, a psychologist and EFT trainer who helped shape our own work, to break down what emotionally focused therapy looks like in real relationships. We talk about why secure attachment creates flexibility, how self-protection shows up as “armour”, and why slowing the moment down is the fastest way to find what's actually happening underneath. Claire shares practical language and memorable metaphors to help couples move from defensive cycles into clearer reaching and responding.We also go into resentment as a cold protest that can drain goodwill over time, plus the tough truth that some “relationship problems” are tangled up with individual issues like addiction and coping strategies. Then we tackle one of the most searched and most misused topics online: narcissism. Claire clarifies narcissistic traits vs narcissistic personality disorder, explains grandiosity, entitlement and gaslighting, and describes the “fog” many empathic partners experience when their reality has been governed for years. We explore what can happen when you finally set a boundary, including the crucial difference between narcissistic patterns and simple misunderstanding or neurodivergence.If you want a grounded, compassionate conversation about EFT for couples, attachment theory, relationship resentment, and navigating narcissistic dynamics with clearer eyes, press play. Subscribe, share with someone who needs support, and leave a review letting us know what landed most for you.Check out https://bceft.com.au/ for resources and courses on this topic.Grab Clare's book here: https://www.amazon.com.au/Emotionally-Focused-Guide-Relationship-Loss/dp/103220561XThankyou for listening, if you liked it, please remember to subscribe.Join our Private "Thriving relationships - Deepening connection to self and others" community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1107209283451758/Website: https://michaelandamy.com.au/Join our free 7 day relationship challenge: https://michaelandamy.com.au/free-relationship-challengeIf you would like to book in a private discovery call with us, here is the link: https://michaelandamy.com.au/call

In this episode, I sit down with my real-life friend Jessica, a pastor's wife whose story intersects with mine: her husband was a pastor at the very church that excommunicated me. What started as a conversation about her story turned into one of the most layered, honest episodes I think we've ever recorded.Jessica spent decades being told her emotions were idols, her feelings weren't facts, and her needs were sin problems she needed to repent of. In this conversation, she shares what it took to finally see through that, what the long road out of a high-control religious marriage actually looks like, and why freedom sometimes takes many years to arrive even after the divorce papers are signed.Questions we cover:What does it actually take to leave when your abuser is also your pastor husband?Why do so many women choose the familiar over the safe?Is codependency just a fancy way to blame the victim?What does it look like when someone uses scripture as a weapon?What does a pastor's wife do when she can't tell anyone the truth?What actually happens when you let yourself grieve?What does it take to actually push yourself out?Get Today's Free Resource:

You're probably not a serial killer. But the patterns that shape one run through all of us, at lower volume. In this episode, Dr. Greg traces antisocial patterns back to their source in everyday life — how we manage people, pray, and protect ourselves from being hurt again. Key Topics: Why the patterns that define serial killers aren't limited to serial killers — and how to see yourself honestly in that mirror How omnipotent control can look like loyalty, competence, or even holiness — and what it's protecting underneath What "magical penance" looks like when atonement becomes a form of control instead of real repair Why prayer can become negotiation with God — and why that's a subtle form of magical thinking How the "hardened heart" of Scripture isn't just Pharaoh — it's any wall quietly built against trust How to meet the controlling parts of yourself with compassion instead of condemnation Learn More: Previous episode in the Being Human series on the Antisocial Defense Patterns: Ep. #281: Control or Be Controlled: The Devastating Wounds Behind Antisocial Behavioral Patterns Love and Responsibility by Karol Wojtyla (Pope St. John Paul II) Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary: Why Real Change Happens through Love not Willpower Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment   Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

Dr. Adam Dorsay introduces SuperPsyched and interviews forensic psychologist Dr. Reid Meloy about myths and realities of narcissism. Meloy describes narcissism as a spectrum like blood pressure, emphasizing healthy narcissism as self-care and resilience, while pathological narcissism involves self-absorption that damages relationships and can become destructive; he also discusses malignant narcissism as intense self-focus paired with paranoia, citing Jim Jones as an example. In relationships, narcissists “live in a world of one,” using partners as mirrors for adulation and lacking reciprocal affection, often prompting partners' realization they are replaceable. Meloy outlines long-term avenues for change—corrective emotional experiences, intensive psychotherapy, and psychoanalysis—and notes depression and loneliness in midlife can be an entry point for treatment, contrasting egosyntonic vs. egodystonic states. He warns about psychopathy's dangers, its link to pathological narcissism, lack of treatment, and risks when psychopaths gain power.00:00 Welcome to SuperPsyched00:28 Narcissism on a Spectrum02:48 Healthy vs Pathological Narcissism05:15 Malignant Narcissism and Cults08:36 Everyday Relationship Patterns12:51 Treatment Paths That Help15:16 Love as Antidote18:52 Loneliness Depression and Risk26:18 Partner Trap Trying to Change Them28:16 Egosyntonic vs Egodystonic30:32 Psychopathy Warning Signs33:10 Final Thanks and SubscribeHelpful Links:Dr. Reid MeloyDr. Reid Meloy BooksDr. Reid Meloy LinkedInDr. Reid Meloy Facebook

I was so excited for this one, and Nicole did not disappoint. Dr. Nicole LePera, the Holistic Psychologist, trained at Cornell University and the New School for Social Research, is the founder of SelfHealers Circle and the author of three books including the number one New York Times bestseller How to Do the Work. In this conversation, Nicole and I go deep into covert narcissism, how growing up with emotional unavailability shapes every relationship that follows, what re-parenting actually looks like in the body, and why healing is never a straight line from A to B. I had so many personal realisations listening back to this one, about my own relational blueprint, my expectations, and how narcissism in my family has quietly shaped how I show up with others. Connect with Nicole:theholisticpsychologist.comwww.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologistWORK WITH ME 1:1:❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support:https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewformDOWNLOAD FOR FREE:Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go-guideAttatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinayt.com/attachment-practice Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinayt.com/connect-and-groundAlive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinayt.com/alive-and-alignedTrigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:https://marinayt.com/resources CONNECT WITH  ME:Follow me on Instagram:⁠ ⁠www.instagram.com/marina.y.t⁠⁠ Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner Top Episode Quotes:"We all become self-focused when we feel threatened — that's survival. But when someone is consistently unable to hold anyone else's perspective, that's a different pattern entirely." — Dr. Nicole LePera"I was a million miles away, demanding someone feel close to me — while every instinct in my body was pushing them away. That was the contradiction I had to face." — Dr. Nicole LePera"Re-parenting begins in the body. Teaching your nervous system how to come back to safety — that's the foundation everything else is built on." — Dr. Nicole LePera"The familiar thing that's causing harm still feels safer than the unknown thing that might heal you. That's just how a nervous system works." — Dr. Nicole LePera"You don't have to get rid of your past entirely. The goal is to give yourself a choice — to bring forward what still serves you and break free from what's overtaking your present." — Dr. Nicole LePerainner child healing, reparenting, covert narcissism, nervous system healing, somatic healing, childhood emotional neglect, attachment wounds, relational patterns, hypervigilance, emotional attunement, people pleasing, family estrangement, self healing, trauma recovery, embodiment, deep within podcast, Nicole LePera, holistic psychologist, Marina Triner, How to Do the Work

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A heads-up before you press play: this is a bonus crossover from my true crime podcast, Murder on the Couch, dropping into your Virtual Couch / Waking Up to Narcissism feed. It's heavier than usual and opens with a disturbing familicide case that I don't sugarcoat, so if that's not where you are right now, it's completely okay to sit this one out and come back when you're ready. If you stay, I use the case to get at the things we talk about all the time—shame, compartmentalization, the altruistic defense, emotional immaturity, and differentiation—because the behavior is horrific, but the psychology underneath it is deeply human. John List killed his wife, his mother, and his three children—then walked away convinced God would understand. Murder on the Couch is back. Licensed therapist Tony Overbay reopens one of true crime's most chilling family annihilation cases, but not for the manhunt or the famous 18 years List spent hiding in plain sight as "Bob Clark." Tony sits with the question that actually keeps him up at night: how does a devout, rule-following Sunday school teacher reach a place where murder becomes, in his own mind, the most loving thing he could do? If you've ever performed "fine" while something was quietly falling apart inside you, this one lands closer to home than you'd expect. In this episode: Untangle guilt ("I did something bad") from shame ("I am bad")—and why shame left in the dark only grows heavier Spot the "altruistic defense": how control and harm get repackaged as love, devotion, and protection See how rigidity, compartmentalization, and a performed self can hollow a person out long before any crisis hits Learn the ACT distinction between the conceptualized self (the story) and the observing self (the awareness)—and why List had no one home to catch him when the story collapsed Drawing on acceptance and commitment therapy, David Schnarch's work on differentiation, and Richard Rohr's reframe of shame, Tony brings 600-plus episodes of clinical insight to the cases that won't let him go. Shame grows in concealment and shrinks in connection. And Tony's looking for a co-host—if a case has gotten under your skin and you know why, email contact@tonyoverbay.com and pitch it. 00:00 Bonus Episode Setup 00:21 Murder on the Couch Returns 02:56 Content Warning and Themes 05:53 John List Case Opens 08:46 Show Relaunch and Co-Host Invite 12:40 John List Background and Unraveling 17:31 Compartmentalization Explained 19:53 Shame Versus Guilt 24:21 ACT Defusion and Healing 25:47 Shame Architecture of John List 28:21 Altruistic Defense and Covert Narcissism 30:49 Narcissistic Injury 31:26 Altruistic Defense 35:32 Love Versus Control 36:29 Rigidity Explained 38:08 Rules And Fragility 42:06 Eighteen Years Hidden 45:40 Conceptualized Self 48:35 Excavating The Self 52:56 Why This Case Haunts 54:31 Faith And Performance 58:07 Tell The Truth 59:41 Closing And Co-Hosts Please follow Tony on Instagram @virtual.couch on Tiktok @virtualcouch on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/tonyoverbaylmft and on Substack https://thevirtualcouch.substack.com/ You can reach out to Tony through his website tonyoverbay.com or by emailing contact @ tonyoverbay.com

A heads-up before you press play: this is a bonus crossover from my true crime podcast, Murder on the Couch, dropping into your Virtual Couch / Waking Up to Narcissism feed. It's heavier than usual and opens with a disturbing familicide case that I don't sugarcoat, so if that's not where you are right now, it's completely okay to sit this one out and come back when you're ready. If you stay, I use the case to get at the things we talk about all the time—shame, compartmentalization, the altruistic defense, emotional immaturity, and differentiation—because the behavior is horrific, but the psychology underneath it is deeply human. John List killed his wife, his mother, and his three children—then walked away convinced God would understand. Murder on the Couch is back. Licensed therapist Tony Overbay reopens one of true crime's most chilling family annihilation cases, but not for the manhunt or the famous 18 years List spent hiding in plain sight as "Bob Clark." Tony sits with the question that actually keeps him up at night: how does a devout, rule-following Sunday school teacher reach a place where murder becomes, in his own mind, the most loving thing he could do? If you've ever performed "fine" while something was quietly falling apart inside you, this one lands closer to home than you'd expect. In this episode: Untangle guilt ("I did something bad") from shame ("I am bad")—and why shame left in the dark only grows heavier Spot the "altruistic defense": how control and harm get repackaged as love, devotion, and protection See how rigidity, compartmentalization, and a performed self can hollow a person out long before any crisis hits Learn the ACT distinction between the conceptualized self (the story) and the observing self (the awareness)—and why List had no one home to catch him when the story collapsed Drawing on acceptance and commitment therapy, David Schnarch's work on differentiation, and Richard Rohr's reframe of shame, Tony brings 600-plus episodes of clinical insight to the cases that won't let him go. Shame grows in concealment and shrinks in connection. And Tony's looking for a co-host—if a case has gotten under your skin and you know why, email contact@tonyoverbay.com and pitch it. 00:00 Bonus Episode Setup 00:21 Murder on the Couch Returns 02:56 Content Warning and Themes 05:53 John List Case Opens 08:46 Show Relaunch and Co-Host Invite 12:40 John List Background and Unraveling 17:31 Compartmentalization Explained 19:53 Shame Versus Guilt 24:21 ACT Defusion and Healing 25:47 Shame Architecture of John List 28:21 Altruistic Defense and Covert Narcissism 30:49 Narcissistic Injury 31:26 Altruistic Defense 35:32 Love Versus Control 36:29 Rigidity Explained 38:08 Rules And Fragility 42:06 Eighteen Years Hidden 45:40 Conceptualized Self 48:35 Excavating The Self 52:56 Why This Case Haunts 54:31 Faith And Performance 58:07 Tell The Truth 59:41 Closing And Co-Hosts Please follow Tony on Instagram @virtual.couch on Tiktok @virtualcouch on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/tonyoverbaylmft and on Substack https://thevirtualcouch.substack.com/ You can reach out to Tony through his website tonyoverbay.com or by emailing contact @ tonyoverbay.com

The Pope's first encyclical about the importance of human dignity and the threat posed by A.I. is causing a stir. Some secular journalists are celebrating Leo's moral clarity, while Trump administration officials are saying the Pope should stay in his lane. Historian Yuval Noah Harari has his own warning about A.I. and explains how we are moving from an "attention economy" into an "intimacy economy." With the launch of Holy Post Media on Substack, Kaitlyn and Skye take you behind the paywall to sample everything offered by Holy Post Plus, including a daily devotional for people who hate devotionals. Also this week, a dog in Nebraska stands his ground.   Holy Post Plus: Ad-Free Version of this Episode: https://holypost.substack.com/p/723-pope-leo-ai-and-the-intimacy   Getting Schooled - Matchmaking 201: https://holypost.substack.com/p/getting-schooled-matchmaking-201   0:00 - Show Starts   1:49 - Theme Song   2:12 - Sponsor - Poncho - If you've been looking for the perfect shirt—something breathable, fits great, feels even better, and stands out in a good way—give Poncho a try. Get $10 off and free shipping your first order by using this link: https://www.ponchooutdoors.com/holypost   3:23 -  Sponsor - Sundays Dog Food - Get 40% off your first order of Sundays. Go to https://www.SundaysForDogs.com/HOLYPOST or use code HOLYPOST at checkout.   4:28 - With God Daily is Here!   8:27 - Dog Shoots Woman!   10:55 - The Pope's Encyclical on A.I.   24:50 - How A.I. Hacks Brains   34:21 - Sponsor - Feeding America - Feeding America, led by neighbors! Give now to end hunger at https://www.feedingamerica.org   34:55 - Sponsor - World Relief - Multiply your impact today! Start your monthly partnership with World Relief to walk alongside refugees and others on the move. Give today at http://worldrelief.org/holypost   36:00 - Sponsor - BetterHelp - This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at https://www.betterhelp.com/HOLYPOST and get 10% off your first month!   37:05 - Narcissism and A.I.   53:07 - Tour of HP+   56:28 - With God Daily   1:03:46 - My Hill to Die On   1:11:34 - Getting Schooled   1:18:37 - 66 Verses   1:26:25 - Advice-ish   1:33:58 - End Credits   Links Mentioned in News Segment: Dog Shoots Woman at 7-Eleven! https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2026/may/26/dog-shotgun-nebraska-convenience-store   Slate on the Pope's A.I. Encyclical: https://slate.com/technology/2026/05/artificial-intelligence-pope-leo-encyclical.html   Other Resources:   Holy Post website: https://www.holypost.com/   Holy Post Plus: www.holypost.com/plus   Holy Post Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/holypost   Holy Post Merch Store: https://www.holypost.com/shop   The Holy Post is supported by our listeners. We may earn affiliate commissions through links listed here. As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases.  

This is the third part of a three-part exploration of narcissistic personality style at the neurotic level of personality organization. In this episode, Dr. Ettensohn examines the defensive architecture of neurotic-level narcissism, including the characteristic defenses that allow individuals to manage conflict, preserve relationships, and maintain self-esteem without resorting to the identity fragmentation or reality distortion seen at more severe levels of personality organization. Drawing on the Defense Mechanisms Rating Scale (DMRS), this episode explores obsessional defenses such as isolation of affect, intellectualization, and undoing, as well as neurotic defenses including repression, reaction formation, and displacement. Through clinical examples, personal reflections, and portrayals from film and literature, Dr. Ettensohn illustrates how these defenses shape emotional experience, interpersonal relationships, and the therapeutic process. The episode also examines how narcissistic concerns manifest at the neurotic level, including struggles with self-worth, dependency, vulnerability, perfectionism, and grief. Particular attention is given to transference, countertransference, and the unique opportunities and challenges that emerge in psychotherapy with neurotic-level narcissistic personalities. While neurotic-level functioning represents a profound developmental achievement, it also introduces new emotional realities. As the capacity for integration grows, so too does the capacity to experience loss, guilt, limitation, and sorrow. The movement toward greater psychological health is not the elimination of suffering, but the ability to bear it without abandoning oneself or others. Additional Resources Website: https://healnpd.org Newsletter: https://healnpd.substack.com Purchase Unmasking Narcissism: A Guide to Understanding the Narcissist in Your Life: https://amzn.to/3nG9FgH LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://rb.gy/cklpum LISTEN ON GOOGLE PODCASTS: https://rb.gy/fotpca LISTEN ON AMAZON MUSIC: https://rb.gy/g4yzh8 BECOME A MEMBER: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHeT5kujD1JqHRAi-x8xD-w/join About Heal NPD Heal NPD is a clinical practice specializing in the assessment and treatment of pathological narcissism, narcissistic personality disorder, and related personality difficulties. We offer comprehensive diagnostic assessments, individual psychotherapy, and consultations for partners and family members. Learn more or inquire about services: https://healnpd.org

Dr. Christine Cocchiola is back, and this conversation goes deep. Dr. Christine is a coercive control specialist, therapist, TEDx speaker, and author who trained under the godfather of coercive control, Dr. Evan Stark.In this episode, we get into what coercive control actually is: not a form of abuse, but the underpinning of all abuse. That distinction matters more than most people realize, especially inside a family court system that still does not know what to do with it.We talk about the emails that land on Saturday afternoon, right when you have the kids. We talk about why your therapist telling you that you have anxiety might be missing the point entirely. We talk about what it actually looks like when an abuser uses permissiveness to lure your children in, and what you can do about it without losing the connection you have worked so hard to protect.Dr. Christine's children's book, Every Moment of Every Day, is linked in the show notes. You can also find her at coercivecontrolconsulting.com and on Instagram at @drcocchiolacoercivecontrol.Support the show*Please Note: there is a long intro that explains my services. If you do not want to listen, just fast-forward 5 mins past. This intro will be changed in future recordings to be shorter. I am not paid to record this podcast and it is a free offering. Offering my work is the only way I can sustain the podcast*Join the Patreon: https://patreon.com/Youarenotcrazy*New Course*: Unhooked: Map the Cycle of Abuse in your RelationshipWebsite: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse{E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

Segment 1 • Dr. Jason Lisle argues that the strongest case for creation isn't fossils or geology—it's something far more fundamental. • If information always comes from a mind, where did the instructions inside DNA originate? • Carbon-14 findings in diamonds and dinosaur remains continue raising uncomfortable questions for deep-time assumptions. Segment 2 • A secular psychotherapist asks a startling question: What if therapy is actually tearing people apart? • Why does every difficult relationship now seem to involve someone who is "toxic," "narcissistic," or "traumatized"? • Todd examines whether modern therapy culture is helping people heal—or teaching them how to stay offended. Segment 3 • Young evangelicals aren't abandoning religion—they're searching for something they believe is missing. • Incense, liturgy, church history, and ancient traditions are attracting a generation raised on seeker-sensitive Christianity. • Were churches so focused on relevance that they accidentally stripped away transcendence? Segment 4 • The answer isn't copying Rome or importing Eastern Orthodoxy into Protestant churches. • What did the Reformers understand about worship, discipleship, and church life that many churches have forgotten? • From catechesis to church history to reverent worship, Todd outlines what may be needed to rebuild depth before more young people leave. ___ Thanks for listening! Wretched Radio would not be possible without the financial support of our Gospel Partners. If you would like to support Wretched Radio we would be extremely grateful. VISIT https://fortisinstitute.org/donate/ If you are already a Gospel Partner we couldn't be more thankful for you if we tried!

Zach sits down with James and Molly Christensen, a married couple and fellow therapists based in Sacramento, who spent more than six years in couples therapy before it actually worked. They burned through eight therapists, logged over a hundred sessions, and came within reach of a marriage that had been quietly failing for years. The fact that they are now both practicing couples therapists themselves makes this conversation something rare: a behind-the-curtain look at what the struggle actually looks like from inside.The conversation gets honest fast. James names what he had to face: narcissism, manipulation, a sense of superiority, and an inability to take feedback without it threatening his identity. Molly describes her own side of the dynamic, a deeply people-pleasing, avoidant woman who had been raised to see relationships as transactional, and who spent years wondering whether her instincts about James were accurate or whether she was the one losing her mind. The turning point for both of them came in the form of an intensive with a therapist who was finally skilled enough to hold them both, call them both out in the moment, and care enough about James to be blunt with him without losing him. James started recording every session and listening back four times. By the fourth listen, he could hear himself clearly. That's when things shifted.What runs underneath this whole episode is a conviction that most couples are doing "recovery lounge" therapy, showing up, going through the motions, and feeling okay about it, without ever actually growing. James makes the case that conflict is not the problem in most marriages. Avoidance is. The goal, for both of them as clients and now as clinicians, is more conflict with less anger, which means developing the capacity to say what you actually think, to your spouse, with genuine care behind it, and to hold your ground when they push back. That's differentiation. That's the work. And if you get through it, Zach notes, the intimacy on the other side is real.Key TakeawaysFiring your therapist is sometimes the right call. If you're not making progress after significant time, the fit may be the problem, not the process.Being resistant to therapy is often not about therapy. Molly's refusal to engage was partly a refusal to let James dictate her path. Understanding the resistance tells you a lot about the relationship dynamic.Narcissism has four components worth knowing: fragility (inability to take criticism), a sense of superiority, indifference to others, and manipulation as a means of protecting a false self.The breakthrough often requires a therapist who combines genuine care with genuine bluntness. Truth without love is abusive. Love without truth is just convenient. Both together is what actually moves people.Conflict is not the enemy. Avoidance is. Couples who never fight aren't at peace, they're just not saying what they really think, and it costs them.Differentiation is the ability to stay grounded in yourself when your partner is not okay. It's not about getting them to back down. It's about whether you can hold your own truth without crumbling under pressure.The tools from research-based approaches like Gottman are only as useful as the people holding them. If underlying traits like narcissism or avoidance are untreated, the tools won't stick.When couples heal, families heal. James and Molly both note that their children have noticed the difference, and that the work they've done has changed the floor their kids are jumping from.Guest InfoJames Christensen Licensed couples therapist based in Sacramento, California. Former Air Force pilot with 22 years of military service before transitioning to therapy. Specializes in high-conflict couples using the Crucible approach. Brings his own history as a client, over six years in couples therapy, to his clinical work.Website: https://jamesmchristensen.com/Molly Christensen Associate therapist (currently under supervision), working at a nonprofit and accepting sliding scale and insurance clients. Followed James into the field after their shared experience in therapy. Brings her perspective as a former people-pleaser and avoidant partner to her work with couples.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Not every rule-breaker is choosing rebellion. Most are choosing safety — and they've been doing it since childhood. In this first episode of a new series, Dr. Greg takes apart what "antisocial" actually means and traces the pattern back to its source: not evil or criminal, but a deep wound that learned to survive by refusing to trust. Key Topics: Why "antisocial" has nothing to do with introversion — and what it actually describes How charm and omnipotent control can be defenses, not personality traits Why growing up with an unpredictable parent makes rules feel like threats instead of like love What the interpersonal wish "help me trust you" reveals beneath even the most closed-off exterior Why the parts of us that push back against rules deserve curiosity, not condemnation How empathy, education, and direction together create the conditions where rules feel like love Why the gap between antisocial patterns and ordinary daily life is narrower than we'd like to admit Learn More: Summit of Integration 2026 — Join us in Dallas, October 20–23, celebrating the Feast of St. John Paul II. Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing: A Deep Dive into the Dependent Defense Pattern Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary: Why Real Change Happens through Love not Willpower Previous episodes on parts work (IFS): Ep. #34: A New Theory! w/ a Catholic Lens Ep. #35: Why Do I Feel Like I Have Conflicting Thoughts? w/ Dr. Peter Malinoski Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation. Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment. Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!Cass Morrow, Author of Disrupting Divorce: The NEW Man. Saving Struggling, Sexless, and Toxic Marriages.Kathryn Morrow, Author of Behind The White Picket Fence.You always have too much to say. Too much to defend. Too much to justify. Too much to correct. And it never works. Here's why: the urgency to speak isn't coming from your power. It's coming from your insecurity. And the more you speak from that place, the more you lose ground. In Ep444 of The 'NEW' Marriage, Cass and Kathryn break down the art of silence as strength — what it actually means, why it's not erasure, and how it becomes the most powerful thing you can do in a marriage that feels out of control.

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अहंकार माणसामध्ये कुठून येतो? तो फक्त वाईट असतो का, की आपल्या अस्तित्वासाठीही आवश्यक असतो?अनेकदा आपल्या जवळच्या माणसांच्या वागण्याचा आपल्याला त्रास होतो, पण त्यामागे अहंकार (Ego) किंवा नार्सिसिझम (Narcissism) असू शकतो हे आपल्याला समजत नाही. यश मिळाल्यावर माणसाचा 'मी' वाढतो की तो इतरांना गृहीत धरतो? आजच्या भागात आम्ही थेट चर्चा केली आहे अहंकाराच्या विळख्यात अडकलेल्या माणसांबद्दल. कसं ओळखायचं? नातेसंबंधांवर होणारे परिणाम आणि स्वतःला कसं जपायचं? अहंकाराच्या या अदृश्य जाळ्यातून बाहेर पडण्यासाठी हा भाग नक्की बघा."It's not confidence, it's consequences." In this episode of Khuspus, we dismantle the destructive nature of the Ego. From the subtle signs of a narcissist to the toxic cycle that breaks relationships, we discuss how ego masquerades as success. Learn to survive an egoistic environment and understand why understanding ego is a strategic skill, not just a psychological one. Stop letting your ego dictate your reality; start building genuine connections.

325 | [Healing Series] Narcissism in Adoptive Parents with Katy Perkins, LICSW-S This is a special episode in our healing series where I interview therapists who are also adoptees themselves, so they know from personal experience what it feels like to be an adoptee. Today we are joined by Katy Perkins to talk about a hot topic in our community, narcissism in adoptive parents. We talk about what it would have looked like to grow up in a family with a narcissistic parent or one with narcissistic tendencies, the impact it could have had on us as kids and now into adulthood. I was fascinated by everything Katy had to share in this conversation and I hope it's helpful for you!   Full Show Notes and Transcript Here   Join our adoptee community on Patreon here   Check out our upcoming live events here!   Find out more about Adoptees for Family Preservation here!   Support Haley's new podcast here!   This podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Nothing stated on it, either by its hosts or any guests, is to be construed as psychological, medical or legal advice. Please seek out professionals in those fields if you need those services. The views expressed by the hosts of Adoptees On or any guests are their own and do not represent the opinions of any organization or other person unless otherwise stated.

Today, I'm breaking down a topic that comes up all the time: narcissism. This is a word we hear everywhere now, especially online and on social media, but it is often misunderstood and overused. In this episode, I explain what narcissism really is, what narcissistic traits can look like, where they come from, and how to know the difference between narcissistic tendencies and narcissistic personality disorder. I also answer some of the biggest questions I receive around this topic: Can someone heal from narcissism? How do you know if you are a narcissist? Why do you keep attracting narcissistic relationships? Can you change a narcissistic partner? And how do you navigate a relationship with a narcissistic parent? This episode is not about labeling or blaming. It is about understanding the deeper shame, wounding, and identity patterns underneath narcissism, while also learning how to protect your energy, build your self-worth, and create healthier relationships from your Adult Chair. Key Takeaways Narcissism is a term that is often overused, especially online and on social media Narcissistic traits can include needing to be the center of attention, lacking empathy, deflecting criticism, and struggling to take responsibility Underneath narcissistic behavior is often deep shame and a false identity built around being seen as special, perfect, or superior Narcissism can develop when a child is placed on a pedestal or when a child is neglected and creates a false self to survive Narcissistic traits exist on a spectrum, and narcissistic personality disorder is at the far end of that spectrum If someone is genuinely worried they may be a narcissist, that awareness is often a hopeful sign You cannot change a narcissistic partner unless they truly want to do their own inner work Repeatedly attracting narcissistic relationships often points to old wounds, beliefs, and patterns that need to be updated When a parent is narcissistic, healing often requires grief, boundaries, self-worth work, and sometimes no contact Resources from this Episode: Free Self-Worth Course The Adult Chair® Collective MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com Membership: The Adult Chair Collective https://www.michellechalfant.com/collective  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

In this episode of the Masters of Self University Podcast, hosts Ellie Lee and Danny Morley sit down with fellow coach Gregoire Bosc for one of the most honest conversations you'll hear from men about the wounded masculine.Together, they dive into how patriarchal programming conditions men from the womb — creating cycles of selfishness, emotional immaturity, blame, objectification, and disconnection from their own divine feminine nature. This isn't theory. This is raw, personal, lived experience.The Masters of Self University PODCAST is your highest source of Sacred Truth and Universal Wisdom, offered by Rachel Fiori, mystical teacher, psycho-energetic healer, & CEO. Join our journey of soul transformation with hosts Ellie Lee, Danny Morley, and the rest of our amazing Certified Mystical Coaches of Oneness™.Become a full-time student at Masters of Self University and learn the full energetics of these teachings.Student Enrollment Information:    https://www.mastersofselfuniversity.com/university-enrollmentMasters of Self University:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://mastersofselfuniversity.com/⁠⁠Rachel's Book on Amazon:  ⁠https://shorturl.at/hkyLRJoin Our Free Discord Community:  ⁠https://www.mastersofselfuniversity.com/resources#discord⁠Amber's Social Media:   https://www.instagram.com/ambermacatumpag/  https://www.tiktok.com/@ambermacatumpagEllie's Social Media:   ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@ellieyjlee⁠⁠⁠⁠  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/ellieyjlee⁠⁠⁠⁠Danny's Social Media:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/dannyfmorley  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@dannyfmorley  www.youtube.com/@DannyfMorley

Dr Anjali Bhat is a neuroscientist, therapist and writer. Today we discuss the science of the self, the future of therapy, and what altered states of consciousness can teach us about the mind. Anjali explains her work in psychedelics research, including an upcoming study that involves giving people high doses of LSD in a high-resolution brain scanner. We also talk about the promises and limitations of psychedelic-assisted therapy,  ADHD, productivity culture, burnout, and why slowing down can be psychologically transformative. We also discuss what makes therapy effective, why the therapeutic relationship matters so much, the risks of AI therapy, and how to think more clearly about narcissism.You can find out more about Anjali's work here: https://www.anjalibhat.org/Interviewed by Dr. Alex Curmi. Dr. Alex is a consultant psychiatrist and a UKCP registered psychotherapist in-training. Check out The Thinking Mind Blog on Substack: https://thinkingmindblog.substack.com/If you would like to invite Alex to speak at your organisation please email alexcurmitherapy@gmail.com with "Speaking Enquiry" in the subject line.Alex is not currently taking on new psychotherapy clients, if you are interested in working with Alex for focused behaviour change coaching , you can email - alexcurmitherapy@gmail.com with "Coaching" in the subject line.Give feedback here - thinkingmindpodcast@gmail.com Follow us here: Twitter @thinkingmindpod Instagram @thinkingmindpodcast

Dr. Mark Ettensohn explains why narcissistic personality disorder is often misunderstood online—and how complex trauma, shame, attachment wounds, and identity shape pathological narcissism. Narcissism has become a buzz word on social media. It has moved from a psychological understanding to a term that is used for blaming, scapegoating, and other emotionally charged narratives. This polarization has led to casting someone with narcissist traits as a villain who is intentionally cruel, manipulative, and beyond help. While those with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) can exhibit difficult or even harmful traits, social media has erased the distinction between mental illness and moral defect. One clinician cautions that this "narcisso-sphere" content contributes to the despair of an already vulnerable population and even suicidality among those who identify with the diagnosis. On this episode of Transforming Trauma, host Emilly Ruth welcomes Mark Ettensohn, Psy, D. Mark is the founder of Heal NPD, a clinical and educational platform focused on the understanding and treatment of narcissistic personality disorder. His work explores the developmental and relational roots of narcissism, including trauma, dissociation, and identity. Mark is also the author of Unmasking Narcissism: A Guide to Understanding the Narcissist in Your Life and shares widely followed educational content through his Heal NPD YouTube Channel.  Transforming Trauma thanks Mark for sharing his expertise with our community. His empathetic approach to NPD invites curiosity over confrontation and genuine relational support over social media simplification. To read the full show notes and discover more resources, visit https://complextraumatrainingcenter.com/transformingtrauma SPACE: SPACE is an Inner Development Program of Support and Self-Discovery for Therapists on the Personal, Interpersonal, and Transpersonal Levels offered by the Complex Trauma Training Center. This experiential learning program offers an immersive group experience designed to cultivate space for self-care, community support, and deepening vitality in our professional role as therapists. Learn more about how to join. *** The Complex Trauma Training Center: https://complextraumatrainingcenter.com View upcoming trainings: https://complextraumatrainingcenter.com/schedule/ Join us for this a transformative 2-day Intro to NARM® online workshop: https://bit.ly/narmintro *** The Complex Trauma Training Center (CTTC) is a professional organization providing clinical training, education, consultation, and mentorship for psychotherapists and mental health professionals working with individuals and communities impacted by Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and Complex Trauma (C-PTSD). CTTC provides NARM® Therapist and NARM® Master Therapist Training programs, as well as ongoing monthly groups in support of those learning NARM. CTTC offers a depth-oriented professional community for those seeking a supportive network of therapists focused on three levels of shared human experience: personal, interpersonal & transpersonal. The Transforming Trauma podcast embodies the spirit of CTTC – best described by its three keywords: depth, connection, and heart - and offers guidance to those interested in effective, transformational trauma-informed care. We want to connect with you! Facebook @complextraumatrainingcenter Instagram @cttc_training LinkedIn YouTube

This is part four of the High Functioning Christian Women in Destructive Marriages series, and today we talk about a concept that ties the whole series together: sovereignty. Synonyms for sovereignty include: freedom, autonomy, and independence.If you've spent years managing everyone's needs, shrinking your own, and building an identity around your capacity to give without limit, this episode will challenge a misunderstood theology that was never meant for women who are already pouring out from an empty cup.

This episode continues the Heal NPD Seminar Series with Dr. Mark Ettensohn, joined by his associates Deanna Young, Psy.D., and Danté Spencer, Ph.D. In this session, the group discusses the paper “Living with Pathological Narcissism: A Qualitative Study” (Day et al., 2020), which examines narcissistic personality pathology from the perspective of partners and family members. Unlike most research on narcissism, this study does not rely on self-report or clinician ratings. Instead, it draws on qualitative descriptions from over 400 individuals in close relationships with someone exhibiting high levels of pathological narcissistic traits. These accounts provide a window into how narcissism is experienced interpersonally, particularly in intimate and long-term relationships. The discussion focuses on the study's central finding: that pathological narcissism is best understood as a system characterized by the co-occurrence of grandiosity and vulnerability. Loved ones described patterns of entitlement, arrogance, and need for admiration alongside insecurity, hypersensitivity, emotional instability, and chronic feelings of emptiness. In the majority of cases, these features were not separate “types,” but fluctuating states within the same individual. The group explores how these findings challenge common assumptions about narcissism, including the tendency to equate it with overt grandiosity or interpersonal abusiveness. Particular attention is given to the limitations of DSM-based models, which emphasize observable traits while underrepresenting the internal dysregulation and vulnerability that define the disorder. The conversation also examines broader relational and developmental themes, including: The oscillation between grandiose and vulnerable self-states The role of dissociation and splitting in personality organization The impact of early attachment trauma and “empathic failures” How narcissistic dynamics are expressed and amplified within close relationships The tendency for polarized, dehumanizing narratives to emerge in response to relational injury Finally, the group discusses the concept of “narcissistic abuse,” noting that while experiences of harm in these relationships are real and often significant, the term itself is not a well-defined clinical construct. The discussion emphasizes the importance of distinguishing between lived experience and explanatory frameworks, and of maintaining a nuanced, non-reductive understanding of personality pathology. Key themes include: Pathological narcissism as a dysregulated self-state system The interdependence of grandiosity and vulnerability Limitations of categorical and trait-based models of narcissism The relational expression of personality pathology The role of trauma, attachment, and development in narcissistic adaptation Clinical implications for assessment, formulation, and treatment This series is intended for clinicians, trainees, and viewers seeking a nuanced, clinically grounded understanding of narcissism beyond popular discourse. To learn more about our work, visit: www.HealNPD.org Additional Resources: Newsletter: https://healnpd.substack.com Assessment and therapy inquiries: https://healnpd.org/contact Purchase Unmasking Narcissism: A Guide to Understanding the Narcissist in Your Life: https://amzn.to/3nG9FgH LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://rb.gy/cklpum LISTEN ON GOOGLE PODCASTS: https://rb.gy/fotpca LISTEN ON AMAZON MUSIC: https://rb.gy/g4yzh8 Citation: Day, N. J. S., Townsend, M. L., & Grenyer, B. F. S. (2020). Living with pathological narcissism: A qualitative study. Borderline Personality Disorder and Emotion Dysregulation, 7(19).  Full Text Link: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles... About Heal NPD Heal NPD is a clinical practice specializing in the assessment and treatment of pathological narcissism, narcissistic personality disorder, and related personality difficulties. We offer comprehensive diagnostic assessments, individual psychotherapy, and consultations for partners and family members. Learn more or inquire about services: https://healnpd.org

This episode continues the Heal NPD Seminar Series with Dr. Mark Ettensohn, joined by his associates Deanna Young, Psy.D., and Danté Spencer, M.A. In this session, the group examines a recent empirical study titled Coercive Control and Intimate Partner Violence: Relationship with Personality Disorder Severity and Pathological Narcissism (2025). The discussion responds directly to common claims in online discourse that narcissism inherently causes abuse, and asks a more precise question: What does the data actually show about the relationship between narcissism, personality dysfunction, abuse, and coercive control? The study reviewed draws on informant reports from long-term partners and family members of individuals perceived as highly narcissistic. Importantly, narcissism was rated by loved ones rather than self-reported, addressing a frequent critique of prior research. The findings showed no significant association between overall pathological narcissism and abuse, and only weak associations with coercive control. In contrast, overall personality disorder severity showed stronger and more consistent relationships with both abuse and coercive control, but these associations were still mostly weak. The group explores what this means clinically, emphasizing the distinction between personality style (such as narcissistic features) and personality organization or severity. The discussion clarifies why certain narcissistic subcomponents, such as exploitative behavior, entitlement-related rage, and grandiose fantasy, show limited associations with specific forms of harm, while many other narcissistic features do not. Key themes include: The difference between episodic abuse and chronic coercive control Why collapsing abuse into a single personality label is misleading The role of personality severity and impaired functioning across diagnoses The limits of trait-based and moralized explanations of harm Clinical implications for assessment, treatment, and stigma reduction Throughout, the conversation situates abuse as a highly overdetermined phenomenon influenced by many overlapping factors, rather than the inevitable outcome of narcissism or any single diagnosis. The session concludes by emphasizing the importance of dimensional, developmentally informed models of personality over reductive and stigmatizing narratives. This series is intended for clinicians, trainees, and viewers seeking a nuanced, non-moralizing understanding of narcissism, personality disorder severity, and relational harm. To learn more about our work, visit: www.HealNPD.org Additional Resources: Newsletter: https://healnpd.substack.com Assessment and therapy inquiries: https://healnpd.org/contact Purchase Unmasking Narcissism: A Guide to Understanding the Narcissist in Your Life: https://amzn.to/3nG9FgH   LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://rb.gy/cklpum LISTEN ON GOOGLE PODCASTS: https://rb.gy/fotpca LISTEN ON AMAZON MUSIC: https://rb.gy/g4yzh8 Article Cited and Discussed: Day, N. J. S., Kealy, D., Biberdzic, M., Green, A., Denmeade, G., & Grenyer, B. F. S. (2025). Coercive control and intimate partner violence: Relationship with personality disorder severity and pathological narcissism. Personality and Mental Health, 19, e70038. Full text link: https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/p...

Dr. Mark Ettensohn examines a growing tendency in public discourse to treat narcissism as a moral category rather than as a psychological construct.   The episode explores why this shift occurs and how misunderstandings about the nature of mental illness contribute to it. While many people intuitively apply a medical model to psychological conditions, most forms of mental illness do not operate in simple cause-and-effect ways.   Instead, psychological disorders are identified through patterns of thoughts, emotions, perceptions, and behaviors that emerge statistically across populations.   Dr. Ettensohn discusses how online discussions about narcissism often move from specific interpersonal conflicts to sweeping claims about an entire category of people. In this process, personality traits, clinical constructs, anecdotal experiences, and moral judgments frequently become conflated.   Drawing on both psychological science and his clinical experience conducting diagnostic assessments for narcissistic personality disorder, Dr. Ettensohn explains why diagnosing personality pathology requires careful evaluation and why many individuals labeled “narcissists” in everyday discourse may not have any significant narcissistic pathology at all.   The episode concludes by distinguishing several different ways narcissism is commonly understood, and why treating it as a moral category ultimately obscures more than it reveals.   Additional Resources Website: https://healnpd.org Newsletter: https://healnpd.substack.com Purchase Unmasking Narcissism: A Guide to Understanding the Narcissist in Your Life: https://amzn.to/3nG9FgH   LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://rb.gy/cklpum LISTEN ON GOOGLE PODCASTS: https://rb.gy/fotpca LISTEN ON AMAZON MUSIC: https://rb.gy/g4yzh8   About Heal NPD: Heal NPD is a clinical practice specializing in the assessment and treatment of pathological narcissism, narcissistic personality disorder, and related personality difficulties. We offer comprehensive diagnostic assessments, individual psychotherapy, and consultations for partners and family members.   Learn more or inquire about services: https://healnpd.org

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In this episode of Funky Friday, Cam Newton sits down with Montell Jordan for a powerful conversation about faith, fame, music, marriage, and legacy. Montell opens up about growing up in church, breaking through with Def Jam, the untold impact of “This Is How We Do It,” and how success forced him to confront different versions of himself. He also gets real about AI in music, the importance of human soul in creativity, and the deeper work behind marriage, accountability, and redemption. From timeless anthems to ministry and legacy, this conversation shows a side of Montell Jordan many people have never heard before.00:00- Montell Jordan Explains His “No Smiles” Era00:48- Funky Friday Intro02:30- Cam & Montell Talk Hats, Style, and Standing Out06:09- Growing Up in Church and Finding His Identity22:45- How Def Jam Changed Montell Jordan's Life39:26- Writing Anthems That Still Live Today41:07- Montell Jordan on AI, Music, and Losing the Human Soul48:36- Why Real Energy in the Room Still Matters56:00- Fame, Marriage, Ministry, and Becoming One Man01:19:09- Why Covenant Hits Deeper Than Contract01:27:27- Montell Jordan Opens Up About Infidelity and Redemption01:29:21- Marriage Ministry and Choosing to Stay01:30:56- Narcissism, Accountability, and Doing the Real Work01:35:31- Cam Newton Gets Real About Commitment02:05:42- Montell Jordan on Cancer, Legacy, and Telling the Full Story

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The meltdown. The defiance. The constant "look at me." It's easy to wonder if something is wrong. But most of the time, these aren't signs of a disorder — they're signs of development still in progress. In this episode, Dr. Greg explores what's really underneath "behavior problems," why children can't be diagnosed with personality disorders, and why the question that changes everything isn't "what's wrong with my child?" — but "what does my child need from me right now?" Key Topics: Why children cannot be diagnosed with personality disorders — and what's actually happening when their behavior looks like one How emotional regulation is learned, not innate — and what co-regulation actually looks like Why a child's dramatic, self-centered, or defiant behavior is often developmentally appropriate What it means when a child borrows a parent's nervous system — and why that steadiness is the foundation Why the patterns we see in our kids so often point back to something in us How a parent's own unhealed wounds shape the environment a child grows up inside Why admitting our own imperfection is one of the most formative things we can give our children Learn More: CatholicPsych Newsletter - Sign up to stay connected and hear the latest developments! Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns:   Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Pilgrimage to Poland - Learn more about this journey with St. John Paul II Summit of Integration 2026 - Sign up to learn more about this year's event! Healing Retreat in Wyoming - Learn more about our upcoming retreat experience. The Stages of Spiritual Development - Previous Being Human episode on how the stages of human development are interrelated to the stages of spiritual development. Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

A famous, but somewhat strange, book from 1979.  Of the decline of American society from the perspective of fifty years ago. The written version of this review can be found here (https://theworthyhouse.com/2026/05/16/the-culture-of-narcissism-american-life-in-an-age-of-diminishing-expectations-christopher-lasch/). We strongly encourage all listeners to bookmark our main site (https://www.theworthyhouse.com). You can also subscribe for email notifications, or subscribe at Substack. The Worthy House does not solicit donations or other support, or have ads. Other than at the main site, you can follow Charles here: https://x.com/TheWorthyHouse https://charleshaywood.substack.com/

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This is Part Three of our series on high-functioning Christian women in destructive marriages. You are the woman people call when something complicated needs solving. You read rooms, spot patterns, and get it right. And yet in this one area of your life, you have been told that your judgment, specifically, cannot be trusted.Key Takeaways:Why the very perceptiveness that makes you exceptional everywhere else has been deliberately turned off in your marriageWhat is actually happening when religious systems tell you to wait, and who is really benefiting from your patienceHow to tell the difference between genuine knowing and fear, and which one you have most likely been carrying all these yearsWhat "blind adherence" has to do with faith, and why the real version of faith might look completely different than what you have been taughtThe one question that changes everything when someone tells you to wait a little longerGet Today's Free Resource:

$20 billion in research. Suicide rates 32% higher than the year 2000. Something is deeply wrong — and it isn't a lack of effort. In this episode, Dr. Greg makes the case that the mental health crisis isn't a funding problem or an awareness problem. It's a standard problem. Without a vision of what a healthy human person actually looks like, the best we can do is manage symptoms. And he introduces something new: a Mental Health Litany and Novena beginning May 15th — nine days of prayer leading into Pentecost, naming the specific fears and lies beneath our patterns and bringing them before Christ. Key Topics: Why decades of funding and awareness haven't moved mental health in the right direction Why the absence of symptoms is not the same thing as health What Catholic anthropology offers that the mental health industry doesn't have Why the Church has been slow to speak into mental suffering — and what that silence has cost How a litany does something that silence and symptom-management can't What it looks like to bring anxiety, depression, and trauma into Catholic prayer — by name Learn More: Download the Mental Health Litany and join the Novena: catholicpsych.com/litany Bad Therapy by Abigail Shrier: The book Dr. Greg references that argues our current mental health treatments may be making the problems worse  Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

It is one of the ugliest, most painful and destructive personality disorders in the world. And yet, the abuse handed out by a narcissist is often not understood by others, especially in the Church. Laurel Slade-Waggoner will take your questions on the topic, questions like: Is narcissism different in men than it is in women? Hear the answer to that question and your questions on our next broadcast.Become a Parshall Partner: http://moodyradio.org/donateto/inthemarket/partnersSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this Sunday live, I open by sharing a humorous-but-painfully-real Church Lady rebuke that will put a smile on your fce. From there, I dive into Philippians 2 and unpack what Scripture actually means by “selfish ambition” and “conceit,” tracing the Greek word studies and how they describe the dynamics we now call narcissism—especially in […]