This Polyamorous Life

The tables have turned! What happens when the guest interview the host? Listen to find out! Cited in the podcast:Windsor PolyamoryCharity's thesisLove's Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities by Kevin Paterson 

Graeme is a local DJ at CJAM radio, 99.1 FM in Windsor. His show Sylvio & Soul can be heard every Wednesday from 5:00 PM to 6:30 PM. Graeme's story is different. He's in a monogamous relationship now. He did have a journey through polyamory over the last couple of years or so, and I wanted to talk to him about his experiences. Our conversation meandered through ideas about identity and sexuality. I talked with him at the CJAM studios in Windsor.Sylvio & Soul: http://www.cjam.ca/supercali/show_event.php?id=675Jackie Shane - Any Other Way: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oZnwLamCia4Graeme's Major Paper "The Gay Commute: On the Development of Queer Community and Identity in the Windsor-Detroit Borderlands, 1945-1980": https://scholar.uwindsor.ca/major-papers/94/

David’s nesting partner, Charity, is an old friend of mine. (And one of the first guests on This Polyamorous Life.) I first got to meet David when I was on vacation in Dublin and he and Charity flew over from Germany to visit. I didn’t know him well and I was happy to get to know him better.This was a fun interview, and I learned more about David, like his opinion on the word “polysaturated.”Tobias Bernstrup- 27 - laser mix: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nb-KQNDgx2c

Juno is a YouTuber, podcaster, and essayist, coming at ideas with a relationship anarchy point-of-view. Drawing from their experiences (and how they were treated) as a former sex worker, Juno levels some harsh criticism at the very concept of “the couple.” Uncompromising in their efforts for personal autonomy, Juno tells a story about the perils of falling into the default social hierarchies. I spoke with them last August at a park in Metro Detroit.Juno's podcast, Bedroom Eyes is here: https://bedroomeyes.podbean.comJuno's anti-marriage essay: https://medium.com/@junomariahmedia/marriage-an-invasive-political-regime-48c25d8683e7Steven Universe's "Change Your Mind": https://youtu.be/aA-o2vmlCOM and for people outside the USA: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vSnlHG-JFDo

Brandi is my metamour-once-removed. She is dating the partner of my partner. She's become a constant presence at Windsor Polyamory events and we're happy to have her. We got to talking after this summer's Pride Parade and I asked her if she would be willing to do an interview. I spoke with her at her apartment in Windsor.Her collected polyamory positive Spotify playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6RjvN1ybLdjPxTeUElzULn?si=Ai67AE2tQ-6bAKrEdJCKBAIn The Middle by dodie: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CHXD9k19q1Y(acoustic version): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2i0VZCoM5gI

Joy has been polyamorous for over 30 years. She became aware of her non-monogamous inclinations when she was 17 years old. Since then she has raised two children and moved to Windsor to live with her wife and her other nesting partner. We talked at her house in Windsor.Bouquet of Lovers: http://caw.org/content/?q=bouquetDeborah Anapol's books: http://www.lovewithoutlimits.com/books.htmlSix Dinner Sid by Inga Moore: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/707710.Six_Dinner_SidMy New Friend Is So Fun! an Elephant & Piggie Book by Mo Willems: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xWuuIhinu0cSex at Dawn by Cacilda Jethá and Christopher Ryan: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/7640261-sex-at-dawn

Benzi in an active leading member of the Detroit relationship anarchy community. She's been non-monogamous for over 10 years and she's only 26. She describes herself with the intriguing term "anti-monogamous." I spoke to her at her home in Metro Detroit.Snake Oil: A remedy for societal ills with Benzi and Juno - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDCwv83153wTHCdvti4OK_gWannabe by The Spice Girls - https://youtu.be/gJLIiF15wjQSomething About Us by Daft Punk - https://youtu.be/sOS9aOIXPEk

When Balázs decided to pursue polyamory in his native Hungary there was no community to talk to, so he started his own. Balázs first founded the polyamory group in Hungary, then he did it again in Galway, Ireland. Now living in Dublin, he helps run the polyamory meetup group there. Mentioned in the podcast: Questionable Content - Number 726

Michelle is a sociology professor living in Metro Detroit. Non-monogamy has been part of her identity for two years now. She strives to practice relationship anarchy and what she calls liberatory relating. She was happy to explain what that all means.

As a social worker in Sarnia, Ontario, helping women leave abusive relationships was part of Charity's job, but it wasn't until she moved to another continent that she realized how toxic her own relationship situation was.

Katie is a bubble-gum princess who is new to polyamory. She talks frankly about BDSM and her mental health. 

We turned on the mic while we were answering questions about polyamory. This is what happened.