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On today's episode, we have Momo (they/them) join us for another Relationship Anarchy research conversation. Together we talk about creating mutually pleasurable relationships, getting off the intimacy escalator, and stepping into an abundance of love.If you are also interested in participating in the research and sharing your voice in the movement or reading Nicole's dissertation, then click on the link below.
Your best friend used to be your first call. Now you have to schedule weeks in advance just to see her, and her new boyfriend keeps calling your friendship "codependent." A listener named Sarah shares: "My best friend and I have been inseparable for six years. We talk every day, we're each other's emergency contacts, and honestly she feels more like family than my actual family. But lately her new boyfriend has been making comments about how 'codependent' we are and how she needs to 'prioritize him now.' She's starting to pull back and it's breaking my heart. Am I wrong to feel like she's my person? How do I communicate to her that what we have matters just as much without sounding jealous or clingy?" In this episode, we unpack the invisible hierarchy of love that puts romance at the top and pushes friendships aside. You'll hear why speaking up for the relationships that matter isn't selfish, it's necessary, and how to advocate for your connections without being dismissed as jealous or needy. What You'll Hear In This Episode: Why romantic love doesn't automatically rank higher than friendship love How the "codependent" label gets weaponized against close friendships What it means when a partner asks someone to "prioritize him now" The real reason you're afraid of sounding jealous or clingy How to start the conversation without triggering defensiveness When to recognize someone is making you smaller in their life Want to track what's working (and what's not) in your dating life? Download the free Date Tracker at damonahoffman.com/datetracker Got a relationship question? DM @DamonaHoffman on Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook, or leave a voicemail or text at 424-246-6255 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode, Janice discusses why it's challenging to show up authentically in our intimate relationships, including some of the ways internalizing dominant culture's "relationship rules" had her constantly feeling insecure and trying to manage her past partners.She shares about how practicing relationship anarchy (RA) – which advocates for us building our relationships through open communication, collaboration and mutual consent vs. according to prescribed labels and rigid social norms – has helped her feel more secure in herself, deepen her connection with others, and approach her dating partners and friends with more curiosity and care. The reflection questions Janice mentions include:How intentional am I being in building this relationship with the other? Am I truly aware of what I need and desire from this person I'm in relationship with? Have I communicated that transparently to the other? How do I stay true to myself, while also staying open to the other person's needs, preferences, and boundaries when I'm navigating, for example, a romantic partnership where I might bring in expectations and pre-conceived ideas of what that relationship “should” look like?Am I actively creating a safe-enough space for the other, where they trust they can express themselves authentically, even when that means us bumping into each other's differences that can cause tension?Am I aware of how the dominant culture impacts the decisions I make in my intimate relationships?----- DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for working with a professional mental health or healing practitioner.
Most of us have been conditioned to follow relationship "escalators," those predetermined paths that dictate how our connections should progress. But what happens when we step off these escalators and design our relationships according to our own values? What if we could move beyond hierarchical thinking and embrace a more expansive view of love and connection?Enter, relationship anarchy, and Dr. Nicole Thompson, who's joining us to explore this fascinating path to more intentional, authentic connections across every aspect of our lives. We aren't just talking romance here–relationship anarchy is about reimagining all your relationships by examining and dismantling their power structures.In this episode, we talk about:— What relationship anarchy really means:— How relationship anarchy connects to political anarchist values of self-governance and community care— Why relationship anarchy isn't just about romantic or sexual relationships but applies to all connections in our lives— The difference between "power over" dynamics versus conscious stratification of relationships— How to recognize when you're using hierarchy as a safety mechanism rather than as an intentional choice— The challenge of moving away from obligation-based relationships toward mutuality and choice— Why commitment looks different in relationship anarchy— The revolutionary feeling of knowing someone chooses to be with you when they have complete freedom not to— How to begin practicing relationship anarchy by first recognizing all the relationships you already have— The importance of community in providing multiple sources of love and support— Why relationship anarchy requires ongoing consciousness about power dynamics in all areas of life— How to navigate the reality of finite time and energy without defaulting to unconscious hierarchiesResources mentioned in this episode:— Modern Anarchy Podcast, hosted by Dr. Nicole ThompsonJOIN The Year Of Opening® community for a full year of learning & support. Registration is open now at www.TheYearOfOpening.comLearn the 5 secrets to open your relationship the smart wayAre you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.comGet the answers you want to create the open relationship of your dreams! Sign up for an Ask Me Anything hereMusic: Dance of Felt by Blue Dot Sessions
Send us a textRelationship Anarchy is not just a buzzword but a lifestyle philosophy emphasizing intentional connections where each relationship exists independently, free from predetermined expectations or hierarchies. This episode explores why the relationship with yourself should be your primary focus and how Relationship Anarchy principles can benefit everyone, regardless of relationship structure.• Introduction to Relationship Anarchy as a serious topic with no fluff• The misconception that Relationship Anarchy justifies dropping people without consideration• Each relationship should be independent of others — what happens in one shouldn't dictate another• The relationship with yourself is the most important one to nurture• Relationship Anarchy requires daily practice and self-awareness• Asking "why" about your choices and reactions is essential for growth• This philosophy works for both non-monogamous and monogamous people• Making mistakes is inevitable and valuable — learn from them• Fighting imposter syndrome when teaching about relationship stylesCheck our socials on Instagram and Twitter (@KinkyKampfire) or email us at AroundtheKinkyKampfire@yahoo.com with questions about Relationship Anarchy or suggestions for future episodes.Come let us know what you think on IG - https://www.instagram.com/kampfirekinksters/
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with Mel Cassidy, a queer, multidisciplinary somatic practitioner and relationship coach who specializes in supporting queer and questioning folks navigating non-monogamy. Together, we explore the liberating possibilities of honest, consensual non-monogamy—how it works, why it can be both exhilarating and challenging, and what it means to approach relationships with openness and authenticity. Mel's personal journey—from crafting imaginative, non-monogamous love stories as a child to courageously embracing relationship anarchy and becoming their own primary partner—sets the stage for a conversation that is both vulnerable and deeply empowering. As we dive in, Mel shares how colonialism and the nuclear family model have shaped our ideas of love and commitment, why chosen and extended kinship networks are essential, and how perfectionism and societal norms can quietly limit our relational freedom. Along the way, we unpack Mel's unique framework for mapping relational landscapes, explore the nervous system's role in building meaningful connection, and discover how to create space for both autonomy and intimacy. If you're ready to break free from outdated scripts, expand your understanding of love, and build relationships that reflect your truest self, this episode offers both the insight and the tools to begin. Connect with Mel Website: http://radicalrelating.ca Insta: https://www.instagram.com/radicalrelating Free Gift mini-ebook Connection in Disconnected https://radical-relating.kit.com/74882e7ee9 Connect with Deborah Questions and Answers Substack: https://substack.com/@deborahkat Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94
Jayda and Marvyn sit down to explore themes of parenting, masculinity, protection and relationship anarchy. Marvyn shares his journey from a traditional advertising career to pioneering a platform that challenges generational narratives about black fatherhood. He opens up about the personal struggles of being a dad, the life-changing impact of therapy, and why emotional and psychological safety must be at the heart of all relationships. He talks about how he allows his core values to be his guides as a father and also introduces the concept of relationship anarchy and co-creating the most supportive environment for his children. Marvyn reflects on how inner work helps men build more honest, sustainable partnerships and what that work needs to look like. He also shares his unique co-parenting journey, centring his children's well-being while nurturing a respectful bond with their mother, and why men must create space for emotional regulation to show up fully as fathers. This episode offers profound, vulnerable insights on dismantling patriarchy, reimagining family dynamics, and prioritizing self-care as a vital act of love.Follow Marvyn HarrisonFollow Jayda GFollow Here's Hoping PodcastMore on our guest Dope Black DadsDope Black Dads PodcastMarvyn Harrison is a visionary leader known for driving business goals and cultural change through strategy, communication, and people development. He is the founder of Dope Black Dads and Dope Black Men, platforms amplifying Black voices across the UK, US, and Africa. Through his consultancy BELOVD, he has led impactful work with clients like WPP, Footlocker, and News UK. A regular media contributor and author of two children's books with Pan Macmillan, Marvyn is passionate about leadership, equity, and transformation. His upcoming book supports men through personal growth in challenging times. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Relationship structures don't have to follow a script. Whether you're monogamous, polyamorous, or somewhere in between, you can intentionally design all your relationships to fit exactly who's in them. But what does that actually look like in practice?In this episode, we welcome Annie Undone, a non-binary queer writer whose journey through various relationship styles offers powerful insights into relating. Annie shares their evolution from monogamy to polyamory to relationship anarchy, demonstrating how deconstructing societal expectations can lead to more authentic relationships across all domains of life.We dive deep into what relationship anarchy truly means (spoiler: it's not just about romantic relationships!) and how this framework can benefit everyone—polyamorous or not—by challenging the assumptions we've internalized about how relationships "should" work.In this episode, we talk about:— Annie's personal journey from monogamy through polyamory to relationship anarchy— The simple yet profound definition of relationship anarchy— How to deconstruct heteronormativity and mononormativity in your relationships— Why relationship anarchy can be beneficial even for monogamous couples— The importance of asking "Do I want this, or do I think I should want this?" when examining relationship expectations— How mononormativity can sneak back in even when we think we've moved beyond it— The value of intergenerational relationships and challenging ageism in our communities— Why coming out to family members about non-monogamy might be less complicated than you fear— The challenges of perfectionism in polyamorous communities— How relationship anarchy creates space for aromantic and asexual people in non-monogamous communities— Why symmetry in relationships isn't always the goal (and can sometimes be inherently unfair)— The ongoing nature of relationship deconstruction as a lifelong processResources mentioned in this episode:— Annie's Instagram— Annie's Patreon— Annie's new e-book, On Polyamory— Book a one-to-one peer support session with AnnieJOIN The Year Of Opening® community for a full year of learning & support. Registration is open now at www.TheYearOfOpening.comLearn the 5 secrets to open your relationship the smart wayAre you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.comGet the answers you want to create the open relationship of your dreams! Sign up for an Ask Me Anything hereMusic: Dance of Felt by Blue Dot Sessions
On today's episode, we have Juan-Carlos Pérez-Cortés (he/him) join us for a conversation about the revolutionary power of building loving community. Together we talk about hierarchy vs preferences, the stomach ache of NRE, and rewriting the narratives of love.
Relationship anarchy is a radical approach to relationships that goes beyond just rejecting traditional monogamy. Relationship anarchists believe that relationships should never involve having power over each other, in the form of holding each other to obligations. So, for example, relationship anarchists reject the idea of restricting one's partner from entering into any form of intimacy with anyone, even with mutual friends. They also reject any hierarchy of relationships - for example having a central relationship with one person whose agreement is needed for you to have relationships with other people. For relationship anarchists, all relationships should be approached individually and no relationship should involve placing restrictions on any partner. Natasha McKeever, and Luke Brunning, all based at the IDEA Centre, have been looking critically at the ethics of relationship anarchy, and I spoke to all three of them in a wide-ranging conversation about this fascinating topic. Some links to further reading:A 'Short Instructional Manifesto for Relationship Anarchy'An article by Aleksander Sørlie, Ole Martin Moen on The Ethics of Relationship Anarchy.A book about relationship anarchy by by Juan-Carlos Pérez-Cortés.Book your place at our public event with Gavin Esler, "Dead Cats, Strategic Lying and Truth Decay", here. Ethics Untangled is produced by IDEA, The Ethics Centre at the University of Leeds.Bluesky: @ethicsuntangled.bsky.socialFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/ideacetlLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/idea-ethics-centre/
Send us a textAre traditional relationship structures limiting your personal freedom? In this episode, Kristin and Sage dive deep into Relationship Anarchy, Non-Monogamy, and the power of Love Without Rules. From exploring the transition between Polyamory and Relationship Anarchy to Breaking Free from Relationship Patterns, this conversation challenges everything you thought you knew about love, commitment, and desire. If you've ever wondered “Is Relationship Anarchy right for me?”, or if you're looking for ways to create Custom Relationships that align with your values, this episode is for you.
In this month's Network Call, Lotti Neubert and Jocelyn Ames hosted an exploration of the Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord - a relational tool for deepening connections. Let's say it's a helpful conversation starter to get you talking about what you really want, expect and desire to experience with someone.Listen in as we talk about clarifying and navigating conflicts of interest, and our experiences of bringing structured approaches into relationship-building.Could this be a relationship mapping tool that supports your important relationships? How would you use it?Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord: https://tinyurl.com/relationshipanarchysmorgasbord
In this final episode of our Polyamory in Depth season, Karen chats with David Carlson, campaign coordinator for OPEN, about how to begin legislating at the local level for nondiscrimination ordinances protecting polyamorous folks and those in diverse family structures.In this episode:OPEN - The Organization for Polyamory and Ethical Non-MonogamyOPEN's campaign coordinator David Carson Host, sex educator, and energy worker Karen Yates OPEN's Legislative ToolkitGet Say It Better in Bed, Karen's free guide to upping your intimacy pleasure. Download here!The Afterglow, our Patreon membership group, brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip!Be Wild & Sublime out in the world! Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website.Support the showFollow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!
On today's episode, Nicole shares her Clinical Psychology Doctoral Dissertation results from the first ever research study of Relationship Anarchy. If you are interested in reading Nicole's dissertation, then click on the link below. RELATIONSHIP ANARCHY RESEARCH : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/relationshipanarchy If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.comLooking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community? Join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384Looking to work with Nicole?Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practiceTranscript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/200-results-from-the-first-research-study-on-relationship-anarchyIntro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith Modern Anarchy Community:Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.comInstagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcastPatreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=5 Notes:Relationship Anarchy Manifesto: https://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/andie-nordgren-the-short-instructional-manifesto-for-relationship-anarchySmorgasbord Episode: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/podcast/episode/e4b03010/109-the-relationship-anarchy-smorgasbord-and-finding-queer-belonging-with-maxx-hillDean Spade Episode:https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/podcast/episode/254c2778/191-relationship-anarchy-and-the-romance-myth-with-dean-spadeJessica Fern Episode: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/podcast/episode/1b497590/175-the-polysecure-paradigm-shift-with-jessica-fernMonogamy and Relationship Anarchy: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/podcast/episode/26c528e9/161-relationship-anarchist-kat-pfligler
Relationship Anarchy rejects rules and expectations in how we relate to each other. It's mentioned more and more in the media, but what is it exactly? In this lively conversation, therapist Nicole Thompson explains that while RA can turn our relationships on their heads, it can also bring freedom. In this episode:Therapist and podcaster Nicole Thompson Host, sex educator, and energy worker Karen Yates Relationship Anarchy ManifestoRelationship Smorgasbord Get Say It Better in Bed, Karen's free guide to upping your intimacy pleasure. Download here!The Afterglow, our Patreon membership group, brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip!Be Wild & Sublime out in the world! Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website.Support the showBuzzsprout - Let's get your podcast launched!Start for FREEDisclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the showFollow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!
Send us a textAre you ready to challenge everything you thought you knew about relationships? In this eye-opening episode, I sit down with Annie Undone, a writer, artist, and relationship anarchist who's been through it all - from monogamy to swinging, polyamory, and now relationship anarchy. Together, we unpack the raw truth about opening up relationships and why it might just lead to the end of your current partnership... but that's not necessarily a bad thing.The Uncomfortable Truth About Opening UpWhy most people are terrified of opening their relationships (and why they might be right)The challenges of taking it slow when you're excited about new possibilitiesHow to embrace relationship transitions without letting fear hold you backBeyond the Binary: Redefining Love and ConnectionThe beauty of tailoring relationships to fit the people in them, not societal expectationsWhy relationship anarchy isn't just for the polyamorous crowdHow exploring different relationship styles can accelerate personal growth and self-discoveryA Peek into Annie's Upcoming WorkAnnie teases her new ebook, "On Polyamory," coming out in February. It's a collection of 11 essays chronicling the emotional peaks and valleys of her journey through polyamory and the end of her marriage. Find her work on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/annie_undone website - https://ko-fi.com/annieundone/shoppatreon - https://www.patreon.com/annieundonePoly Healing Retreat in Crete – March 31st to April 3rd, 2025Looking for a transformative getaway to deepen your connections and heal relationship challenges? Join Dedeker Winston of the Multiamory podcast and award-winning dance/movement therapist Orit Krug on the mythical island of Crete for a somatic therapy retreat designed specifically for polyamorous folks.Visit multiamory.com/retreat to learn more and apply
Send us a textAre you grappling with jealousy in your non-monogamous relationships? Curious about the differences between solo polyamory and relationship anarchy? In this eye-opening episode, I'm joined by the legendary Kathy Labriola, a counselor, nurse, and author with decades of experience guiding polyamorous and non-monogamous folks.Mastering JealousyUnderstanding why jealousy arises and how it differs from envy or covetingPractical strategies for addressing the root causes of jealousySolo Polyamory vs. Relationship AnarchyExploring the nuances between these relationship stylesHow different approaches impact emotional dynamicsBuilding Trust and CommunicationTechniques for creating more honest, deep communication in your relationshipsStrategies for emotional growth and embracing opennessComing Out as PolyamorousKathy's unique "platform release strategy" for navigating this processBalancing personal authenticity with potential consequencesAbout Kathy Labriola:Kathy Labriola is a counselor, nurse, and author with extensive experience in guiding polyamorous and non-monogamous individuals. Her recently updated book, Love and Abundance: A Counselor's Advice on Open Relationships, offers a wealth of wisdom gained from decades in the field.www.kathylabriola.comWhether you're dealing with feelings of insecurity, navigating new relationship dynamics, or simply curious about the intricacies of non-monogamous relationships, this episode provides valuable perspectives to enhance your understanding and practice of ethical non-monogamy.Join us for this thought-provoking discussion that challenges conventional notions of love and relationships, encouraging listeners to explore what authenticity and connection truly mean to them in the context of non-monogamy.Don't forget to leave a review if you enjoy this episode – it's the best way to help the podcast grow and reach more people interested in exploring non-monogamous relationships! Support the show
On today's episode, writer and activist Dean Spade (he/him) joins us for a conversation all about liberating our relationships from patriarchal and capitalist understandings of connection. Together we talk about building community outside of the nuclear model, choosing to be uncomfortable in order to live more, and feeling powerless to jealousy. If you are also interested in participating in the research on Relationship Anarchy and sharing your voice in the movement or reading Nicole's dissertation, then click on the link below. RELATIONSHIP ANARCHY RESEARCH : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/relationshipanarchy If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 Looking to work with Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice Transcript: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/191-relationship-anarchy-and-the-romance-myth-with-dean-spade Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith Modern Anarchy Community: Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, I talk with holistic mental health pioneer, Annie Boheler. Annie introduces us to the concept of relationship anarchy– a uniquely refreshing approach to relationships that balances chaos and order, recognizing the full range of connections equally. Hear about the influence of drawing from her extensive background in biology, environmental sciences, trauma healing, and psychedelic integration. Annie's extensive background in biology, environmental sciences, trauma healing, and psychedelic integration influences how she views the range and styles of relationships and the varying factors that play an impactful role to our experiences of autonomy and intimacy. Along the way, we explore her insights on dealing with societal norms like monogamy, and the importance of consent and authentic communication while healing relationships. We also discuss the pervasive impacts of shame and information overload, and how to navigate modern challenges in our relationships. Throughout the conversation, Annie offers us actionable steps to enhance connection and cultivate healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Connect with Annie https://lovagesomatics.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/rewildingintimacy/ Youtube https://www.youtube.com/@wellnessgeneralist1318 Connect with Deborah Got questions about sex and relationship? Podcast Feedback DeborahTantraKat@Gmail.com Book a breakthrough session with Deborah https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=11737312&appointmentType=60692935 Sex and Relationship tips direct to you Inbox https://deborahkat.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=428b26a12a8810bb5012792c3&id=ff89fb0d94 Practice and experimentation https://www.deborahkat.com/relationship-lab
On today's episode, we have Marcia Baczynski (she/her) join us for a conversation all about communicating your desires. Together we talk about chasing vs becoming available to pleasure, the vulnerability of claiming your desire, and liberatory vs oppressive hierarchy. If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com Looking to connect with the Modern Anarchy community, join our patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 Looking to work with Nicole? Apply Here: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith Modern Anarchy Community: Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 Marcia's Community: Marcia B is a consent educator, sexual communication coach and champion for living a life outside of shame. Website: http://askingforwhatyouwant.com Instagram: http://instagram.com/askmarciab
00:00:00 Welcome & Introduction to Adelina Adler 00:04:16 Introduction to Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) 00:05:12 Hard Truths before starting in an ENM relationship 00:09:26 Self-Reflection and Considerations in ENM 00:12:54 Debunking Misconceptions & Defining Poly & ENM Styles 00:23:05 Polyamory: Emotional Attachment and Multiple Loves 00:26:07 Is Polyamory an Orientation? & Navigating Jealousy and Envy in Poly Relationships 00:43:10 Maintaining the Ethical Aspect of Polyamory 00:46:35 Unicorn Hunting: Approaching Ethically and Avoiding Power Dynamics 00:49:16 Challenging Hierarchical Polyamory 00:51:10 Recovering from Heartbreak 00:55:38 Managing Time in Multiple Relationships 00:59:30 Questioning Societal Norms In this episode, Whitni Miller and Adelina Adler discuss ethical non-monogamy and its various forms. Adelina, a GSRD sex coach and educator, explains that ethical non-monogamy is when individuals choose to open up their relationships outside of just one partner, both sexually and amorously. They emphasize the importance of communication, consent, and respect in ethical non-monogamous relationships. They debunk common misconceptions, such as the idea that ethical non-monogamy is a license to cheat, and highlight the need for emotional maturity and stability in relationships before opening them up. They also discuss the different types of non-monogamy, including polyamory, swinging, and relationship anarchy. In this conversation, Adelina Adler and Whitni discuss various aspects of ethical non-monogamy and polyamory. They explore topics such as relationship anarchy, jealousy vs. envy, the importance of informed consent, and the need to challenge societal norms and expectations. They emphasize the importance of communication, autonomy, and respect in non-monogamous relationships. Adelina also shares insights on recovering from heartbreak, managing time and scheduling, and the need for self-care and self-reflection. They encourage listeners to educate themselves, question societal constructs, and create their own relationship scripts. Learn More from Adelina: https://www.askaddyadler.com Follow Adelina at: IG - @askaddyadler Tikok - @askaddyadler YouTube & Spotify - Sexplorations! With Adelina Adler Ko-fi - @askaddyadler Reach out to Whitni at: www.bde-moves.com Follow Whitni at: TikTok - @bdemoves IG - @bde.moves FB - groups/bdemoves YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks
We finally get to learn about relationship anarchy. Hope you're hungry for a smorgasbord! Maxx Hill, curator of the Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord, joins to talk about the infinite possibilities of how you can "customize your commitments" when you let go of societal expectations. Open the link and follow along! Mentioned in the episode: Relationship Anarchy Manifesto Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord Maxx Hill, @maxxhillcreates, on Instagram More about Mistakes Were Made: logo design by by eroyn franklin * mistakescast@gmail.com * https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/
Welcome back to the chatroom and this real ass conversation on being childfree by choice adults and what this life looks like. We explore the fullness of this conversation including what it is to be selfish, the labor required and those who single parent though partnered. The holistic healing explored the ideology of Relationship Anarchy. This is the episode for everyone, those who are childfree, the parents and everyone in between. Email - everybodymadpod@gmail.com Apple - Everybody Mad Google - Everybody Mad Spotify - Everybody Mad | Everybody Mad Site | Sade's Bio Instagram - EverybodyMadPod | SadeinStereo Facebook Page - Everybody Mad | Twitter - SadeinStereo
Send us a Text Message.I'm so grateful for my guest Kimberly Mathis and this week's fascinating conversation. Kimberly is a queer therapist-turned-general life coach with an ADHD brain who helps people change what feels unchangeable. She teaches her clients how to make their own decisions and navigate difficult relationships - including the one they have with themselves. She works with clients 1:1, loves sharing her work and life with her community on Instagram, and hosts a podcast called, "Decisions Change Everything." Healthy, respectful relationships can come in many forms. Traditional Western society pushes a heteronormative narrative about what makes a “successful” relationship- where longevity is valued more than quality. It IS possible to explore attractions and relationship dynamics in ways that are healthy, respectful, and respect your autonomy and someone else's. Communication is key, along with being vulnerable and tolerating discomfort. Can't wait for you to listen. Find Kimberly here:https://www.kimberlymathis.comhttps://www.instagram.com/thekimberlymathis/https://www.facebook.com/thekimberlymathis Find Sara here:https://sarafisk.coachhttps://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/https://www.youtube.com/@sarafiskcoaching1333https://www.tiktok.com/@sarafiskcoach What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!Book a Free Consult
Author Alex Alberto talks with Karen about “Entwined,” their memoir that explores polyamory, including community living, triads, pansexuality, and how the French and English language rate in describing being nonbinary.In this episode:Author Alex Alberto. Also on InstagramHost and sex educator Karen Yates Buy Entwined on Bookshop, our affiliate partner. Need a good read on sexuality or relationships? Check out our recs on Bookshop!Relationship anarchyRelationship anarchy tee and tote in our shop!Get Say It Better in Bed, Karen's free guide to upping your intimacy pleasure. Download here!The Afterglow, our Patreon membership group, brings you regular bonus content, early alerts, and goodies! Our newest $10/mo member benefit: 10% off all W&S merch! Or show your love for Wild & Sublime any time: Leave a tip!Be Wild & Sublime out in the world! Check out our new tees and accessories for maximum visibility. Peep our Limited Collection and let your inner relationship anarchist run free… Prefer to read the convo? Full episode transcripts are available on our website.Support the showBuzzsprout - Let's get your podcast launched! Start for FREEDisclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the showFollow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!
In this episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast, we sat back down with Annie Undone, a visionary artist and writer working to normalize diverse relationship styles and varied sexual experiences. She is a queer, kinky, relationship anarchist on a mission to incite individuals to experience personal revolutions. Get ready for an exciting and revolutionary conversation about deconstructing not only your romantic and sexual relationships with others, but your relationship with Self. Some Takeaways from this Episode:✨ Decentering Romantic Relationships: The importance of an autonomous relationship with Self and the pursuit of your most authentic life, regardless of conventional societal norms and expectations. ✨Unpacking Jealousy: Welcoming jealousy in your relationships as an opportunity for growth rather than conflict, especially where it relates to non monogamy and polyamory ✨Doing the Work: The heavy emotional lifting required when you open yourself up to relationship anarchy, non monogamy, and polyamory, particularly with trust and attachment
In a world that's rapidly evolving, one aspect remains timeless: the human craving for meaningful connections. But what happens when the hustle of modern life, the echoes of a pandemic, and the complexities of adulthood intertwine, transforming the landscape of friendship? In this episode, Dr. Scott dives into the heart of the intricate maze of adult bonding with two extraordinary guides; Vanessa Bennett and Dené Logan. Vanessa is a licensed holistic psychologist and bestselling author, using her expertise and depth in Buddhist and yoga psychology to pave the path toward authentic connections. Dené Logan is a marriage and relationship therapist, yoga instructor, and author of the upcoming book, Sovereign Love, where she offers her psychologically informed perspective on reclaiming our true selves in relationships. Together, they'll explore the polyamorous nature of friendships, things that make the cake of friendship so rich, and the importance of emotional intimacy. They'll navigate the nuances of building community in post-COVID times, the art of making and nurturing friendships in new cities, and the pivotal role of shared experiences and memory keepers in solidifying bonds. We'll challenge societal norms that often overshadow friendships, highlighting the gendered nature of close relationships and the empowering concept of Relationship Anarchy.If you're ready to redefine friendship and explore its transformative power in your own life - it's time to make friends with this week's guests. Topics We Break Down: Building a community in a pandemic of loneliness.Adopting a polyamorous approach to friendship. Defining reciprocity and intimacy in the context of friendship. Creating relationship anarchy and deconstructing the heart of what you want and need.Reframing trauma-bonding and drama-bonding.Generational ideas of resilience and emotional processing.Social penetration theory in action through a game of intrusive questions.
In this episode of Cheaper than Therapy the Podcast, we sat down with Annie Undone, a visionary artist and writer working to normalize diverse relationship styles and varied sexual experiences. She is a queer, kinky, relationship anarchist on a mission to incite individuals to experience personal revolutions. Get ready for an exciting and revolutionary conversation about deconstructing not only your romantic and sexual relationships with others, but your relationship with Self. Some Takeaways from this Episode:✨ Decentering Romantic Relationships: The importance of an autonomous relationship with Self and the pursuit of your most authentic life, regardless of conventional societal norms and expectations. ✨Relationship Anarchy: Deconstructing what society says a romantic relationship is “supposed” to look like, and creating a sustainable model for romantic and sexual relationships that works specifically for the people in them✨Non-Monogamy and Autonomous Growth: How ignoring societal norms and journeying into non-monogamy, kink, and relationship anarchy can lead to deep introspection and embracing your most authentic Self and genuine romantic and sexual relationships✨ Compassionate Curiosity is Key: Staying open-minded and curious as you challenge traditional relationships while simultaneously holding compassion for your partners' questions, fears, and desires is absolutely key when exploring polyamorous relationships and other varied relationship styles and sexual experiences
On today's episode, we have Juliet Barrett (They/Them) join us for a conversation about inviting more curiosity into our lives. Together we talk about the level of inertia needed to break your own reality, the divinity of a sex shop, and blowing bubbles before pegging. RELATIONSHIP ANARCHY RESEARCH : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/relationshipanarchy If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith Modern Anarchy Community: Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384
"Love is abundant, and every relationship is unique." That might not seem like the most controversial of statements, but it's actually the first point of The short instructional manifesto for relationship anarchy, originally written in Swedish by blogger Andie Nordgren back in 2006. Just as political anarchy sees all rules and authority thrown out of the window, relationship anarchy rewrites the book on how a romantic partnership should work. In fact the only rules and expectations are those that partners come up with themselves and agree to. The philosophy is also known as RA for short, and it shuns traditional models of monogamy and hierarchy, instead promoting autonomy and community. Is it complete chaos like with political anarchy then? Is it the same thing as polyamory? In under 3 minutes, we answer your questions! To listen to the last episodes, you can click here: Could assisted dying become legal in the UK? How can I improve my concentration at work? Why is generative AI set to explode in 2024? A podcast written and realised by Joseph Chance. In partnership with upday UK. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Happy New Year! We hope that you had a safe, peaceful, and festive holiday season with family and friends! For most of us, this week will be about transitioning out of the excitement and chaos that comes with the holiday season and into the rhythms of everyday life. That transition process can be really challenging on individuals and relationships. To help us, we invited our marketing and communications extraordinaire, Maddie, to be our first guest of 2024. Maddie talks with us about: Reverting and Growth (7:00) Applying Growth to the Relational System (11:00) Deconstruction Culture and Antagonism (17:00) Engaging in Conversations about Deconstruction with Religious Family (21:00) Recharging (24:00) Little Ways to Reconnect (28:00) Holidays as an Adult (33:00) Managing Conflict and the Pressure Cooker (44:00) Relationship Anarchy (46:00) Sexting in Church (50:00) This episode is a fantastic way to kick off 2024! Check out Episode #52: Holiday Horror Stories: How to Recover from the Holiday Season, with Maddie Upson, on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.
In this episode of B4USwipe, Dr. Lauren and Dr. Kris talk about who and how they share their relationship structure with others. In our conversation, we revisit many Relationship Anarchy principles including core relationship values, customizing commitments and practices, and love is abundant (but time is limited). Episode highlights include: Who you're allowed to grieve about at work (bereavement policies), holiday parties, smooch buddies, entitlement, activism vs energy protection, reframing terminology, risk assessment, and our value in the zombie apocalypse. If you know the plural of “squish,” please let us know!
Meet Annie Undone a writer and relationship anarchist and they are deconstructing normatively in all relationship structures Follow them on IG https://instagram.com/annie_undone?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA==Here are some resources from the podcast https://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/andie-nordgren-the-short-instructional-manifesto-for-relationship-anarchyTo learn more about Annie Undone and all the amazing things they are doing in this world here is a link to their website https://annieundone.com/?fbclid=PAAaalFa2plUGg4Ja1ksWBnjVUAudQXJ-YhuCg4H5KNlzMywmx1VfA36k7xBI_aem_AWvl4QSLuVB3xk8xYw6pA2jg0wrfzEvtPu3xBPNSL9hrmFE0KUcPYTgLk9MSlxpSJ4gMy coaching website is LIVE https://www.consciousloveconnectioncoach.com/Swinger Websites : Find all the best Swinger Websites/apps on my website https://sexyswingerchic.net/Club Eros CLEVELAND https://cluberoscleveland.comEmail us at:Kileyg1991@gmail.com Onlyfans https://onlyfans.com/sexyswingerchicDiscord:https://discord.gg/swingersocietyIf you like this podcast leave us a review to let other listeners know what you like we are always looking to improve what we can do for you. For more info about me and where to find all the events we will be at and to get an exclusive invite to The Swinger Society Discord make sure you check out my website https://sexyswingerchic.net/I'm on clapper so if TikTok gets banned follow me here: https://clapperapp.com/Sexyswingerchic?is_invite=1&r=gV6ALln5op&c=in&m=coJoin the Discord:https://discord.gg/swingersocietySponsor Links:https://swingersociety.net/https://www.go3fun.co/ad/TK10098https://promescent.com/kileyhttps://shamelesscare.com/?ref=358
In this episode of B4USwipe, Dr. Lauren and Dr. Kris talk about the connection between Relationship Anarchy and asexuality (experiencing little to no sexual attraction) and/or aromanticism (experiencing little to no romantic attraction). We bust some stigma while advocating for more freedom to form the kinds of relationships we want. Episode highlights include: Dr. Kris' identity crisis, “consummating” marriage, queerplatonic relationships, “bumping uglies,” a brief foray into our critiques of the prison industrial complex, and, yet again, we return to our wish to radically transform K-12 sexuality education. We also fantasize about a conversation between Andie Nordgren and Angela Chen — SWOON.If you want to go beyond the surface we barely scratched, check out these resources:Asexual Visibility and Education Network: https://asexuality.org/ Angela Chen's book, Ace: What Asexuality Reveals about Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex https://www.angelachen.org/ace
In the initial stages of what we typically call deconstruction, folks tend to focus heavily on meeting individual needs, self-advocacy, engaging the body in different ways, and finding new personal connections. And while all of this is fantastic, much of the resources within deconstruction communities, and popular psychology for that matter, use the language of boundary setting. Just set those boundaries. And, if we're not careful, individuation comes at the expense of our most important relationships. In today's episode, we explore how I statements aren't always helpful, how to integrate personal growth into relational growth, and ultimately how to reclaim the "We" in our relationships. Join us as we talk about: Crumbling Foundations (3:00): “Even when I got married within a fairly progressive Christian community, at least progressive compared to my growing up community, my ex-husband and I centered our lives around the church community and the social services connected to it. Then the Jenga tower started to fall. When the Jenga tower of my faith crumbled, so did the foundation of my marriage. My ex-husband and I had the choice to get divorced or create a new shared meaning. In my case, I got divorced.” Individuation (6:30): Jeremiah recaps last week's episode and the process of individuation: “In the initial stages of what we typically call deconstruction, folks tend to focus heavily on meeting individual needs, self-advocacy, engaging the body in different ways, and finding new personal connections. And while all of this is fantastic, much of the resources within deconstruction communities and popular psychology for that matter use the language of boundary setting, just set those boundaries and individuation at the expense of our most important relationships.” My Voice, Your Voice, and the Relationships Voice (21:00): Julia offers the metaphor of the sports team's health, which boils down to, even if one player is not doing great, the health of the team (relationship) still can be. “Think about a relationship like any team, and if there's two people in the relationship, maybe you're playing doubles volleyball. If you're in a family, maybe you do have an entire football team. And, if a coach only focused on the health of each player rather than the health of the team, the team would probably not do very well. So, what we are going to talk about in the next chunk of time is what it means to consider not just the health of each player on the team, but the health of the team in general.” Relationship Anarchy (31:00): Jeremiah explains, “Relationship anarchy suggests that decisions about the function and operations of a relationship are based on the specific desires and needs of the people in that particular relationship.” Sexual Menu and Relationship Anarchy (38:00): Julia shares, “This idea of relationship anarchy takes a very common intervention in sex therapy, which is the development of a sexual menu, and says you can have a menu for any other number of functions in your relationship. So if you have a shared business together, hey, you get to create a menu of what that means. If you're co-parents together, you get to determine what that means.” Deconstruction and Sex (41:00): Jeremiah talks about how sex is not the singular most important element of a relationship, and can be de-centered, going against pretty much everything EMPish communities preach about marriage. “In this process of deconstruction and rediscovering what a shared meaning might be, you may decide that sex plays a less significant role in your relationship, especially during the initial season of deconstruction. Or, as we're seeing in our work, that sex plays a more significant role, but there's a desire to explore sex with other people, often with folks of the same gender.” Differentiation and Religion (51:00): Jeremiah covers how differentiation is a process that requires communication: “Healthy differentiation requires us to consider three things in decision-making processes: me, you, and the relationship. And ultimately, relational health requires decisions that lead to outcomes that work for the relationship and each partner communicating in ways that align with their values.” Julia adds: “We acknowledge that this is an especially difficult task for people moving out of religious spaces, because for many couples, some element of the religious world was the shared meaning. And, when you take religion out of the equation, that can be destabilizing for some couples, such as us in our first marriages.”
On today's episode, we have Tuck Malloy (They/Them) join us for a conversation exploring the practice of relationship anarchy. Together we talk about choosing which feedback we integrate into our narratives, how much discomfort is too much discomfort in nonmonogamy, and the blank white canvas of relationship anarchy. If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 Transcript : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/post/137-what-s-your-frame-for-relationship-anarchy-with-tuck-malloy Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith Modern Anarchy Community: Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 Tuck's Community: Tuck Malloy (they/them) is a queer, trans, polyamorous relationship coach and sex educator. Website : https://intrasensual.com Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/intra_sensual/ Resources to Learn More: How Love Conquered Marriage : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9780143036678 Relationship Anarchy Occupy : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9798368039442 BDSM related fantasies were found to be common (40-70%) in both males and females :https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/00224499.2019.1665619#:~:text=BDSM%20related%20fantasies%20were%20found,20%25%20reported%20engaging%20in%20BDSM. 69% of the general population had fantasies about BDSM-related activities : https://academic.oup.com/smoa/article/7/2/129/6956474
Mattia Maurée is a composer, writer, AuDHD coach, and founder and host of the podcasts The Longer Road and AuDHD Flourishing. Mattia's pronouns are they/them, and they are nonbinary trans, agender, genderqueer, transmasc, autigender, AuDHD, and queer (as well as neuroqueer). They also use the labels relationship anarchy and poly. Find out what that means to Mattia in this episode.We also talk about being taken seriously when you're outside the gender binary, what counts as an apology and what doesn't, assumptions about presentation, the importance of diverse transition stories, performing gender, how advice for different neurotypes can be conflicting, and navigating intersectional marginalised identities. More on www.fiftyshadesofgender.com/mattia
In the initial stages of what we typically call deconstruction, folks tend to focus heavily on meeting individual needs, self-advocacy, engaging the body in different ways, and finding new personal connections. And while all of this is fantastic, much of the resources within deconstruction communities, and popular psychology for that matter, use the language of boundary setting. Just set those boundaries. And, if we're not careful, individuation comes at the expense of our most important relationships. In today's episode, we explore how I statements aren't always helpful, how to integrate personal growth into relational growth, and ultimately how to reclaim the "We" in our relationships. Join us as we talk about: Crumbling Foundations (3:00): “Even when I got married within a fairly progressive Christian community, at least progressive compared to my growing up community, my ex-husband and I centered our lives around the church community and the social services connected to it. Then the Jenga tower started to fall. When the Jenga tower of my faith crumbled, so did the foundation of my marriage. My ex-husband and I had the choice to get divorced or create a new shared meaning. In my case, I got divorced.” Individuation (6:30): Jeremiah recaps last week's episode and the process of individuation: “In the initial stages of what we typically call deconstruction, folks tend to focus heavily on meeting individual needs, self-advocacy, engaging the body in different ways, and finding new personal connections. And while all of this is fantastic, much of the resources within deconstruction communities and popular psychology for that matter use the language of boundary setting, just set those boundaries and individuation at the expense of our most important relationships.” My Voice, Your Voice, and the Relationships Voice (21:00): Julia offers the metaphor of the sports team's health, which boils down to, even if one player is not doing great, the health of the team (relationship) still can be. “Think about a relationship like any team, and if there's two people in the relationship, maybe you're playing doubles volleyball. If you're in a family, maybe you do have an entire football team. And, if a coach only focused on the health of each player rather than the health of the team, the team would probably not do very well. So, what we are going to talk about in the next chunk of time is what it means to consider not just the health of each player on the team, but the health of the team in general.” Relationship Anarchy (31:00): Jeremiah explains, “Relationship anarchy suggests that decisions about the function and operations of a relationship are based on the specific desires and needs of the people in that particular relationship.” Sexual Menu and Relationship Anarchy (38:00): Julia shares, “This idea of relationship anarchy takes a very common intervention in sex therapy, which is the development of a sexual menu, and says you can have a menu for any other number of functions in your relationship. So if you have a shared business together, hey, you get to create a menu of what that means. If you're co-parents together, you get to determine what that means.” Deconstruction and Sex (41:00): Jeremiah talks about how sex is not the singular most important element of a relationship, and can be de-centered, going against pretty much everything EMPish communities preach about marriage. “In this process of deconstruction and rediscovering what a shared meaning might be, you may decide that sex plays a less significant role in your relationship, especially during the initial season of deconstruction. Or, as we're seeing in our work, that sex plays a more significant role, but there's a desire to explore sex with other people, often with folks of the same gender.” Differentiation and Religion (51:00): Jeremiah covers how differentiation is a process that requires communication: “Healthy differentiation requires us to consider three things in decision-making processes: me, you, and the relationship. And ultimately, relational health requires decisions that lead to outcomes that work for the relationship and each partner communicating in ways that align with their values.” Julia adds: “We acknowledge that this is an especially difficult task for people moving out of religious spaces, because for many couples, some element of the religious world was the shared meaning. And, when you take religion out of the equation, that can be destabilizing for some couples, such as us in our first marriages.”
In this episode we discuss orienting your life around and enlightening lifestyle, love as an alchemy for change, Carl Jung's dreams and guidance, holding space for possibility and relationship anarchy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/gintantra/message
Peter McGraw is a bachelor, behavioral economist, author and host of the podcast Solo.In this episode: Relationship anarchy • Relationship design • The Solo movement • Relationship escalator • The difference between Single and Solo • The happiness data of marriage • Relationship hierarchy • Veto power • The 4 types of singles • Normalizing not wanting a relationship • The new way to have relationships • Core relationship values • How children fit into the “New Way” • Peter's ghost storyYou can find Peter hereWebsite PodcastFind us onlineThe Ghost PodcastInstagram @theghostpodcaststoriesEmail: theghostpodcaststories@gmail.comStop Ghosting People.
In this episode of B4USwipe, Dr. Lauren and Dr. Kris explore the relationship escalator rules and ways we may already be breaking them as we unknowingly embrace some relationship anarchy principles.Episode highlights include a Relationship Escalator tutorial, cuddle puddles, “parenting is hard,” supporting each other when we're sick, annoyance at patriarchy and capitalism, the ridiculousness of striving for static relationship structures, CB radios, gestures of care and connection, “first date”-like nervousness around asking people to vacation with you, and imagining and practicing deep, rich supportive connections.Here are the Relationship Escalator steps we outline at the start of the podcast:https://offescalator.com/what-escalator/And here's that New York Times article, “We Needed More Significant Others,” Dr. Kris referenced: https://www.nytimes.com/2021/01/08/style/modern-love-we-needed-more-significant-others.html
Annie Undone calls in to talk all about polyamory and relationship anarchy and discusses why she no longer considers herself polyamorous and instead is a relationship anarchist, what a relationship anarchist is, how and why her and her husband divorced and how she still kept her other relationships going, how and why she eventually broke up with her girlfriend and decided to be “monogamous” with her boyfriend, their romantic and sexual exclusivity and what that entails, her queer platonic partnership she now has with her girlfriend and what that looks like, the boundaries she has with all her partners and how they all have reacted to them, their no abandonment rule and what that means, her jealousy, where an when its come up and how and why she accepts it, how and why she is in the process of de-escalating her owner/property relationship, what polyamory has brought up for her and what she's learned from it, how she's done every single type of relationship style and why she believes knowing that there are many options is super important plus a whole lot more. Stay tuned for short update on all her relationships at the end of the episode. You can find her Patreon and Instagram here: https://linktr.ee/AnnieUndone **To see pics of ANNIE UNDONE plus see anonymous pics of my other female guests + gain access to my PRIVATE Discord channel where people get super naughty + get early access to all episodes + hear anonymous confessions, + gain access to my Discord channel, join my Patreon. It's only $5 a month and you can cancel at any time. You can sign up here: https://www.patreon.com/StrictlyAnonymousPodcast Want to be on the show? Email me at strictlyanonymouspodcast@gmail.com or go to http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on "Be on the Show." Have something quick you want to confesss? Call the hotline at 347-420-3579. Want a private convo with me that won't be aired on the show? All calls are private, confidential and anonymous. Click here: https://calendly.com/strictlyanonymouspodcast/45min Sponsors: You can get Doxypep here: ShamelessCare.com Get your Butter Wellness prostate massager here: https://butterwellness.com Want to have better S-E-X?! Who doesn't?! Use Promescent https://promescent.com/strictlyanon Follow me! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/strictanonymous/ Twitter https://twitter.com/strictanonymous?lang=en Youtube https://www.youtube.com/c/StrictlyAnonymouspodcast Website http://www.strictlyanonymouspodcast.com Everything else https://linktr.ee/Strictlyanonymouspodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
On today's episode, we have Mel Cassidy (They/Them) join us for a conversation about creating a world beyond the status quo of relationships. Together we talk building your relational garden, tuning into the wisdom of our bodies, and finding secure attachment in community. If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more, head over to the website www.modernanarchypodcast.com And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith Modern Anarchy Community: Website : www.modernanarchypodcast.com Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 Mel's Community: Mel is relationship coach and sex-positive nerd who works with queer and questioning people — and those who love them, and is a relationship anarchist who practices Solo Polyamory! Website : https://radicalrelationshipcoaching.ca/ Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/radicalrelating/ Monogamy Detox : www.monogamydetox.com Resources to Learn More: Normal marital hatred is real. Here's what to do about it. : https://www.washingtonpost.com/wellness/2022/09/23/marriage-relationships-conflict/ What is Learned Helplessness? | Kati Morton : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wA9VEsR2SFg Dr. Ayesha Khan : https://www.ayesha-khan.com/
On today's episode we have Michelle Hy (She/Her) join us for a conversation all about how larger systems impact our ability to love. Together we talk about how the personal is political, growing in relationships, and being turned on by the revolution. If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! To learn more about Modern Anarchy, head over to the website https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what keeps this podcast free and sustainable. You'll also access private posts about Nicole's research, a community discord, and behind the scenes content. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith Modern Anarchy Community: Website : https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com Pleasure Practice: https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/pleasure-practice Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/modernanarchypodcast Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 Michelle's Community: Michelle Hy is from Portland, Oregon and runs the page Polyamorous While Asian, which seeks to normalize non-monogamy and share her experiences through an intersectional lens. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/polyamorouswhileasian/ Website: https://polyamorouswhileasian.com/ Resources to Learn More: Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9780061707810 The short instructional manifesto for relationship anarchy : https://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/andie-nordgren-the-short-instructional-manifesto-for-relationship-anarchy The Relationship Escalator : https://bookshop.org/a/88413/9780998647012 Study finds that fear can travel quickly through generations of mice DNA : https://www.washingtonpost.com/national/health-science/study-finds-that-fear-can-travel-quickly-through-generations-of-mice-dna/2013/12/07/94dc97f2-5e8e-11e3-bc56-c6ca94801fac_story.html Our children and grandchildren are shaped by the genes they inherit from us, but new research is revealing that experiences of hardship or violence can leave their mark too. : https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20190326-what-is-epigenetics#:~:text=This%20sensitivity%20to%20cherry%20blossom,sensing%20the%20cherry%20blossom%20scent.
In the latest episode of Bad Bitch Therapist Podcast, we're diving into the realm of relationships that defy mononormativity and the Relationship Escalator. Not sure WTF any of that means? No worries— just buckle up and put on those headphones!Val here, and I'm not gonna lie— I was nervous AF jumping into this interview, because these 3 guests have hosted their own podcast, Multiamory, for almost a decade… and by this point have something like eleventy-zillion downloads. No pressure!
New format! In Season 5 we're having sex with comedians. Standup and storyteller Archy Jamjun talks with Karen about polyamory, the Grindr hookup app, his Thai grandfather's "arrangement," frottage, Archy's LGBTQ+ storytelling series, and racism in the gay community.We're part of the Lincoln Lodge Podcast Network. Check out the video of this interview.Leave a tip for our work or join our monthly Patreon members' club, the Afterglow, for discounts and other goodies! Join now to help us continue to spread the message of sex-positivity.In this episode:Archy Jamjun - standup and storytellerKaren Yates - sex educator, performer, energy workerReferences:Outspoken: LGBTQ storytelling series - ChicagoMichael Henry video: "I'm a side"Grindr: the app for bi, gay, trans and queer peopleFree download! Get the guide Say It Better in Bed! 3 Practical Ways to Improve Intimate Communication by host Karen YatesAre you looking for…?Wild & Sublime merchEpisodes on specific topicsThis episode's transcriptBooks on sex and relationshipsBuzzsprout bonus! Thinking of starting your own podcast? Buzzsprout can help you create, host and promote it! Plus lots of useful tools and resources to streamline the process and level up your pod game. Use our affiliate link for $20 off!Support the showFollow Wild & Sublime on Instagram and Facebook!
Themes: Relationships, Self Growth, Yoga, Empowerment, Partnership, Love, Spirituality, Life JourneyStarting her yoga practice at age 20, Gianna Cecile has used the wisdom of yoga to heal from back pain, depression, ADHD, and a motorcycle accident. She is an international educator teaching yogic practices and Ayurvedic living around the world. She works as a death doula and transitional guide, and runs an online school called the Siddhi School of Yoga. Through her work, she hopes to create space for people to see their options, realize their desires, and create their realities.In this exploration of self & relationship, Damodar & Gianna talk about an inspiring range of topics that touch on all the themes of this podcast - including:- The unveiling our divine gifts through the state of focus + flow - Yoga as a path of dusting off what covers our inner truth- What is relationship anarchy?- Maintaining our authenticity + individuality when in relationship with others- Where relationships & partnerships go wrong - Relationship as a bigger path to self growth + empowerment - How to live in presence in relationship & not projection when in relationshipand much more...Connect with Gianna here:giannayoga.com*Reach Out to Empowered Connection podcast host Damodar for your FREE Discovery Session - and start your 2023 journey of self & relational discovery & empowerment... for both individuals + couples who are ready to explore, illuminate + empower their lives & their relationshipsAND Get 10% OFF your coaching journey by mentioning the Empowered Connection Podcast*Attention Yoga Teachers in the Philadelphia/NJ/Delaware areas:Empower & Uplevel your yoga teaching with this special50 hr Advance Your Teaching Training THIS JUNE at Palo Santo Yoga in Philadelphia*Men's Circle starts June 4th - once a month in-person in Philadelphia & once a month online from around the world - contact Damodar to learn more*Follow Damodar on Instagram (and, gulp, TickTok) for Daily Self Growth & Relationship Tips + Tools:@empoweredconnection.me*Sponsored by wellness apothecary and all natural healing products for the body, mind & spirt Bhava Wellness&EMPOWERED CONNECTION
In this week's episode, Shanti shares her favorite social media couples that she secretly roots for while Antoinette sits with herself and leans into feeling all her feelings. For our main topic, we read the Relationship Anarchy manifesto written by Andie Nordgren as we continue the conversation around polyamory. What are the foundational values of relationship anarchy? Do we really even understand and agree with the philosophy? Is this something that we truly subscribe to? Do we want to? Join us...Do you have a question or comment you'd like to share with us? Call in! Leave a message!Hotline: (215) 948-2780 Email: aroundthewaycurls@gmail.com Patreon: www.patreon.com/aroundthewaycurls for exclusive videos & bonus contentShop ATWC Merch: https://www.aroundthewaycurls.com/collections
Today's episode is guaranteed to spark strong opinions. We're discussing relationship anarchy: can it be practiced in monogamy or is it a contradiction of terms? We'll be looking at some of the core components of relationship anarchy and how they can be applied in order to improve our relationships and work against the various normative systems that cause so many to be hurt, disenfranchised, or disempowered.For some more background and a deeper dive into relationship anarchy, check out Episode 150: Relationship Anarchy 101, and Episode 339: The Smorgasbord of Relationships. If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Our sponsor, Betterhelp, offers affordable professional counseling online. Visit betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month.Get hair care that is completely customized to your hair and your life AND get 15% off at Prose.com/multiGet 20% off a physician-reviewed at-home lab test by at Everlywell.com/multi.Order a sexy gift box from our sponsor, Like a Kitten, and get 20% off with our code MULTI at LikeAKitten.com/multi Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, find us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast, tweet at us @Multiamory, check out our Facebook Page, visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network.
Themes: Relationships, Non-Monogamy, Polyamory, Sexuality, Communication Summary: The Multiamory Podcast was created by Emily Matlack, Dedeker Winston, and Jase Lindgren in 2014 to fill the lack of voices about polyamory who were young and accessible to a modern audience. They were also tired of hearing all the same old, traditional, sometimes toxic dating advice. After years of creating episodes, connecting with listeners, and growing an amazing community, they have broadened their own views on relationships and are now helping people in a wide variety of relationship formats from polyamory, to monogamy, to Relationship Anarchy. Emily, Dedeker, and Jase believe in looking to the future of relationships, not maintaining the status quo of the past. They value ethics over tradition, and believe that a healthy world is one where everybody has agency in their relationships. Today, with three and a half million podcast downloads and a rapidly growing community, they are dedicated to providing the best possible transformational information, including new research, practical communication tools, a diverse group of guest experts, and more. Discover: Different types of monogamy (yes, they exist!) The variety of ways that non-monogamy is practiced How Emily, Jase and Dedeker came together as a triad and some of the challenges they faced What do to if you're in a monogamous relationship and want to explore non-monogamy Links: www.multiamory.com Instagram: @multiamory_podcast Twitter: @Multiamory Patreon: patreon.com/multiamory Polysecure by Jessica Fern Multiamory Relationship Radar Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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