Unf*ck Your Mindset

As Uncle Ben Parker from SpiderMan said, "With great power comes great responsibility." But the problem in most people is that they love the power, freedom, and all other perks but hate responsibility and accountability. And it's extremely unfortunate how some would be so willing to give up the power and control they have over their lives just to get rid of being accountable to something. The only time you will be truly free is when you take personal accountability of everything that you do and all that you say.  When you're not afraid to face the consequences of your decisions, no one can threaten you. Nobody can make you feel small or afraid. This is what freedom looks like.  If you're looking for a mindset coach to unfuck your mindset, this is the perfect podcast for you! 

This week Brayand is joined by Nasar Elarabi to share his story which shows the power of a great mindset. Being from the hood and growing up in a tough community didn't stop him from having a life of no limitations and success. Now, he is a real estate investor, author, coach, and more and shares what mindsets allowed him to create this live of abundance.  Tune in to learn how successful people think, and how to get the right mindset for success.  Social Media - @realestatedoru Facebook Group - Wholesaling with the doru His Book – Flip Houses like Burgers 

What did he learn for 40 years of success in his real estate journey? Today we are joined by Russel to share his inspirational entrepreneurial journey. Being in real estate since 1978, he shares how he changed his mindset and became more successful as time goes by! One of his keys for success is that on any goal that you want to achieve, you have to look in the direction you want to go and not at why you can’t do it. The attitude you go into business with has a huge impact on the result, and he shares the attitude that changed the game for him! 

In this episode, Brayand is joined by Steve Trang to talk about his journey and how he got to where he is now. Steve is a real estate broker, and currently runs a podcast named Real Estate Disruptors which is one of the most popular real estate investing podcasts.He shares he most impactful tips for the industry.  One huge takeaway is that our mindset is the first thing we need in achieving success and as far as the mindset goes, you can’t care what your friends have to say and in a lot of ways what your family has to say. You got to do what you believe is right. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/steve.trang/ Podcast - Real Estate Disruptors Website - https://www.disruptors.com

In this episode, Brayand is joined by Mark Warlick to talk about the power of manifestation and how it changed both of their lives. Mark is a real estate entrepreneur and long time friend of Brayand.  He shares a story of how manifesting allowed him to successfully increase his income by 50%, and how you can use start manifesting today! Throughout the episode you'll  get many tips on how to manifest your goals and dream life to reality. If you're looking to learn how to manifest, how to raise your frequency, align your energy for what you want in life, and learn more in your spiritual journey, this is a perfect episode for you!

What are the most important life lessons? In this episode we're joined by Brayand's mentor of over 10 years, Jeff Fagin and he shares his most important life lessons with the listeners. Jeff is a powerful mentor who teaches people how to achieve their full potential!  Important lessons on financial freedom, commitment, and what true success it are all explained in this episode!Everybody needs a mentor, someone who can see ahead of you. However, it is also important to find the one that resonates with you and is the one that you want to be. Email address - jeff.fagin@gmail.com Social Media – Jeff Fagin

In this episode, Brayand talks about how he always know that he would be successful, he always knew he would be a millionaire and love his life. You can do it too, if you truly believe you can, if you KNOW you can. This is the power of your mind!  He explains that the physical world is nothing more than a printout of your spiritual, mental, and your emotional states. Everything in life starts with your thoughts, so when you learn to unf*ck your mindset, you learn to unf*ck your whole life and live a happy life you love!  If you’re looking to level up and change your mindset, get mindset tips from millionaires and entrepreneurs, and advice for being truly happy and abundant, this is the podcast for you!

How disciplined are you? How to build discipline? In this episode, Brayand talks about the power of building discipline. He shares his own struggle with discipline as well as overcoming it.  Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose. Especially in the beginning, you tend to lose more than you win. However, if you stay disciplined and if you stay the course, slowly but surely that scale is going to tilt.   If you’re looking to level up your life, change your mindset for the better, or get some mindset tips as an entrepreneur, this is the perfect podcast for you!

If you are wondering how to build mental discipline or why it’s important, this episode with our host, Brayand, shares the importance of building mental discipline. Through his experience of doing a 7-day fast, he learned so much and shares it all.   A lot of the stuff he does is based on instinct and energy, which is fine but if you are not disciplined you can only go so far. Your mind is powerful, it controls everything. If you can control your mind and build discipline, it will take you so far. If you can train your mind, you can train your body.  Your lack of discipline shows your limitations.  Listen to the full episode and others to get tips for building mental discipline, tips for mental strength, how to have a good mindset, mindset tips for entrepreneurs, advice for learning new things, and everything that has to unf*cking your mindset!

The Karate Kid movie portrays many great life lessons, Brayand is here in this episode to explain what life lessons he believes the movie portrays.  First, he gives a general breakdown of Karate Kid movie, then shares the lessons.  A few of the lessons are: It's not going to work out the way you want it to or the way you thought it will, a bad teacher creates bad students, doing what you are told not to do, the power of commitment, why meditation is important, and more!  If you are looking for life lessons to improve your life, mindset tips for entrepreneurs, mindset hacks, ways to strengthen your mental health and mindset, and more, then this is a great podcast for you! 

"Usually the people who don't have shit think they know everything." - BP During this motivational Monday, Brayand explains how most won't admit that it's not the lack of information available but the fact that were not teachable. It is now time to admit it, uncomfortable or not, owning it so you can change it is a MUST. Our competition within should be being the most willing to learn. The goal is to become a learn It all and not a know it all. The willingness to own that we don't know what we don't know.  Most people think if they "heard" something that means they know it, however, Brayand reminds us that we don't know something until we're doing it. Before looking for change, you must know that you know nothing and ask yourself, "how teachable am I?" before starting this journey. RESERVE YOUR SPOT TO BRAYANDS TRAINING NOW: 10 Secrets To UnFuck Your Mindset     

How to stop caring about what other people think! In this episode, BP talks about how we should not care about what other people think and continue to be ourselves. Be who you are because those that mind don't matter and those that matter, don't mind. This episode brings you great tips for developing a good mindset for life, success, entrepreneurship, and more! A strong mindset is very important and with knowledge from the host, Brayand, you can massively grow your mindset!

In this episode, BP talks about how we actually create our own reality. The situations and feelings that we have right now is all created by us. We have to un-learn the things that we were taught growing up. Stop playing the victim and trying to justify the bad things you are experiencing. Stop playing victim, stop settling for a job that you can't stand, stop creating a negative reality. Start working on a positive mental attitude, work on being financially free, and work hard for your goals in life.  It depends on your imagination and how far you can take it. You have the ability to choose what's going on in your life right now

 In this episode, BP talks about how we must let things go in order to have a peaceful mind. Through his own experiences, he learned that anger and resentment doesn’t good us any good. We deserve a peace of mind,  so we should let go of things that hold us back from it. A lot of people are holding onto resentment. When you go for something because of resentment, even if you succeed, you will never be happy. You don’t understand the damage you do to yourself until it’s too late.  One huge takeaway for this episode is that you’re holding back your personal growth because you’re not letting go of the past.

In This episode, BP talks about remaining calm during the storm. Growing up in the inner city of Los Angeles, one of the things that are shoved right in front of your face from a very young age is racism. He has experience racism many times in his life. He remembers thinking to himself as a kid that he wishes he was born white.  The main reason why people can’t have a civilized discussion about what’s going on is that nobody can remove their emotion from what is going on. If you don’t control your emotions, your emotions will control you. It is important to remain calm. Racism is still alive in this country.  Understand that this too shall pass. Process your emotions and then carefully choose your words. This is way bigger than racism. Every single morning you wake up, before doing anything else, take some time for yourself and just quiet your mind as much as possible. We as humans tend to choose deep rooted emotions.  Try to understand from the other side.

In this episode BP talks about being selfish. Think about yourself and absolutely nobody else. Put yourself first. You can only give from what you overflow. We’ve all heard from our parents, our teachers and the society that the most selfless people are the best people in society. If you’re a parent who are your kids going to depend on if you’re not well? How are you going to take care of your kids when you are struggling financially or mentally or emotionally yourself, when all you do is give and give? Most people are out there looking out for themselves. We’re all tuned in on the exact same frequency, “What’s in it for me?” Everybody in this world, regardless of how selfless you think they are every single person is tuned in to the exact same frequency. We shouldn’t feel bad about it. We were brought up to feel bad about being selfish when in reality was ingrained in our DNA, its called survival. Everything that you do right now is for a selfish purpose. Stop feeling bad about it. Start embracing it. Be selfish in order to be selfless. You need to take of yourself first before you take care of others. If your priority is others you must work on yourself that much more. The more you focus on yourself the more you’ll be able to help people.  

What do you focus on? In this episode BP talks about how the things we focus on expand.   Fear runs most people‘s lives. Nothing causes more fear than uncertainty. Uncertainty makes us focus on fear. What you focus on expands. Where focus goes energy flows and results shows. He encourages the listeners to think about what you focus on. What our mind goes to in any situation and how long you stay there.     Problems lead to opportunity, opportunity leads to wealth. Don't focus on the problem. Think how you can be creative. Focusing on fear will just bring you more things that give you fear. You have the choice as to what expands. You have a choice to see this as an opportunity. You have the option to choose what to focus on.    Focus on being grateful and you will end up attracting a lot more things that will make you feel grateful.The reason why most of us do not get what we want is because we do not focus on what it is that we want. We focus on what it is that we don’t want to happen. Focus on what you want.

In this episode of Unf*ck your Mindset, BP talks about knowing yourself. Today’s topic is the 100% basis of Unf*ck Your Mindset. Your worst enemy is you. Your mind is not your friend. That chattering voice you hear over and over, constantly pointing out everything that is wrong, constantly helping you avoid situations and problems. He loves and finds inspiration from the book Art of War, the book’s author‘s philosophy is: “If you know thy self and if you know the enemy, you have nothing to fear in a hundred battles.” You are the cure but you are also the cancer. You are your worst enemy. Your mind knows you better than you know yourself. Most people don’t know themselves. Understand yourself. Understand your strengths and weaknesses. When you know yourself, you know what you are likely to fall for. Get to know yourself, find out who you are and what makes you happy. When people start to know who they are they can start embracing who they are.  

In this episode of Unf*ck Your Mindset, BP touches on last week’s topic about affirmation and declaration and that doing this is also doing what he calls intention and counter intention. The reason why affirmations don’t work on most people is because it allows doubt to creep in to your mind. Most people don’t have the mental capacity to actually believe the affirmation and if you don’t believe, not only are you not going to get it but you’re actually going to attract more doubt.  As you allow more doubt, that’s like keeping your foot on the brake.  Like attracts like, what you put out into the universe is what you’re going to get.  For most people their negative ball of energy is bigger than their positive ball of energy. Your mind knows you more than you know yourself. Your intention for your affirmation is to achieve a certain goal. However, your counter intention which is all the doubt and negativity, especially if it goes on and you’re not getting closer to your goal. This resembles pressing down on the brake and pressing down on the gas at the same time and it makes you feel like you’re going somewhere but it doesn’t really get you anywhere. At the same time you’re continuing to feed your negative ball of energy.  A lot of problems can come by setting that intention and counter intention and having them go at the same time. It's very important that when you're setting an intention, you remove the counter intention. If it’s bringing you that much negative counter intention, stop doing it and get your mind right then go back.  “Know thy self and know thy enemy”, and knowing thy enemy is understanding counter intention.

In this week's episode of UnF*ck Your Mindset, the host, BP, talks about affirmations. He shares that affirmations are making up things that haven’t happened and pretending that it happened already, and thinks it’s a waste of time and energy that creates doubt.  Affirmations and vision boards are not for everyone, they only work on certain people.  It sounds nice and makes you feel good at the moment but it doesn’t accomplish anything.  BP explains that there is a difference between an affirmation and a declaration, and how to properly attract what it is you want in your life.   

Brayand talks about the fact that because most of us are creatures of habit, most of us are losing our minds having to be locked up in our house for a while. Anybody can be happy and positive when things are going great but your true character will show when things aren’t going good. Choosing not to participate in the recession, meaning not letting it dictate you mind, your decisions and scare you.  Change equals opportunity and opportunity equals wealth.  Every time something changes there’s going to be a need for something attached to that change, whatever it is. The world will never be exactly the same as it was before we experienced COVID-19. Look at it as potential opportunities to do things differently, to get outside of the curve, to find more ways to create income.  Whether you like it or not the world is going to continue changing.  If you are going through something right now, how many other people do you think are also going through it? If you take advantage of the opportunity, you can create wealth. Start looking at obstacles as opportunities instead of complaining about what’s going on. This upcoming recession will be an amazing opportunity for those of you who make it an opportunity out of it and will be the downfall for those of you that let it be the downfall.    

"You cannot fix your problems with the same mind that created them." This week, Brayand talks to us about the importance of continued learning. He shares about working with his mentor’s and being in his classes for 10 years. They study the same book over and over again but he still shows up, listens, and pays attention. Never stop learning. Be a "learn-it-all" and not a "know-it-all." The three most dangerous words to human beings are “I know that”. The only way that you know that you know is if you’re living it. He reminds us that nobody likes a know-it-all because they have no intentions of listening. There’s always something that we can learn. This is often why you hear some of the great mention reading the same book 2-3 times over.....the book doesn’t change but you do. The best entrepreneurs and successful business owners know there is always something you can learn from someone else even if you already heard it before. Brayand has learned over time that the results are not the reward, it’s who you have to become to get there that becomes the reward. Make sure to join BP's UnF*ck Your Mindset Program: https://www.unfuckyourmindset.com/

"We all get what we believe deep down that we deserve." In this episode Brayand talks about an experience with one of his one on one coaching clients and how when most people mention "the problem" or what they are struggling with, its usually much deeper. Brayand challenges us to ask ourselves the right question as it's critical to focus on the root and not the symptom. If you don’t continue working on your mindset, whether things are good or bad, at some point your mindset is going to retract back to the same ways that got you stuck. BP provided some key insights for us to reflect on: Not feeling worthy. Deep down inside, do you really think you’re worthy? Fear of success.  Most people are scared of success. People say they are not scared and that they are worthy but deep inside they don’t really believe it. We all get what deep down inside we believe that we deserve. People keep on getting on the same situation. People don’t believe that they deserve happiness or making money without stressing. We are taught that if we want anything we must work really hard for it.  It doesn’t take money to make money, it just takes creativity. If you don’t truly believe it , it’s not going to happen. You are worthy, but none of it means anything if you don’t believe it. If you have not, make sure to jump on the opportunity to join Brayand's UnF*ck Your Mindset Beta Program before it closes: https://www.unfuckyourmindset.com/

"You are the sum of the people you surround yourself with." Ever heard that? Some people believe they are exempt from the rule but Brayand breaks down clearly that that simply is not true. He explains that every single time if you show people who you hang around with than that shows who you really are. Brayand opens up about what many won't by saying, "I don't have regular friends, I don't hang out with people who are not business owners or entrepreneurs." Brayand explains this is not because he thinks he superior but because he himself was once poor but because he gave up being an employee. He committed to himself that he would never ever again work for someone else, and thats something people with 9-5's don't understand. Brayand admits that he learned early on that he can only hang out with people he wants to be like, if he's doesn't want to be like them than its detrimental to his growth. What he wants most people to understand is that this is the case with most friendships because you tend to mold yourself or others to fit in anyway, it's just a matter of what you are becoming to fit in and the goal should be that you are mimicking or copying something that brings you growth. MAKE SURE YOU JUMP ON THE OPPORTUNITY TO GET LIFETIME ACCESS TO BRAYANDS NEW PROGRAM: UNF*CK YOUR MINDSET PROGRAM: https://www.unfuckyourmindset.com/

Enough is enough, right? It feels like we are on day 571955 of this quarantine and the excessive fear only seems to be on the rise.  This episode is important because Brayand wants you to understand what you are experiencing and why it's important you control what's controllable. You are not alone, and the more fear you enroll in by choice, the more you anticipate pain. The only thing to fear, is fear itself and fear is anticipating tomorrow with no real evidence. F.E.A.R. = False Evidence Appearing Real The more we allow the media to instill fear in us we provoke the energy behind it which gives power to attracting more bullshit, more fear, and stupid decisions, etc. and it becomes a vicious cycle. When the truth is, most of the things we tell ourselves in our most fearful moments about what could happen actually never will.  Our survival relies on us NOT feeding into fear right now. There is no better time than now to enroll in UnFuck Your Mindset Beta program for lifetime access: https://www.unfuckyourmindset.com/     

In todays episode, Brayand addresses everything we are currently dealing with around the coronavirus. Are you tired of hearing this yet and everything the media has told you about it? He explains how the medias job is to take away our focus and keep us coming back to read and check-in over and over and over. He uncovers what's real and what's not and how we as humans were created to handle situations like this.  Trauma, blanketed fear, and anything that is leading us straight to the unknown is always going to show us who people really are. Brayand helps us understand that how we are when life is simple and easy makes sense but who we are is truly tested in times like these. Brayand is preparing a beta group for his unfuck your mindset breakthrough program and you STILL have time to sign up: https://www.unfuckyourmindset.com/ 

"I am a smart man because I live from my own mistakes, but I am a FUCKING genius for learning from other peoples mistakes." While it makes since to fail and learn lessons on your own, in this episode Brayand reminds us that we DO NOT have enough time in this life time to learn every single one of them the hard way. It is imperative that we become open to learning rom the mistakes of others. If you think that "working on yourself is boring" then you must consider that in order to stay above the rest and groom your mind to maintain at a high level than you must treat personal growth like brushing your teeth and taking a shower, it has to be done every single day.  Some of our biggest mistakes are included in our daily habits or the lack there of. Evolution over time has proved to us that the hardest part of unf*cking your mind is society constantly reinforces what everyone is doing as the "way." Grab your notepad and make sure you are taking notes during this episode!

While "sleep when your dead" seems to be a popular saying these days and something many entrepreneurs live by, Brayand breaks down exactly why it's not! As a child, the saying "be the first one in and last one out" was instilled in Brayand so much that he even got it tattooed on him. Only to realize later, it's complete bullshit! It's not the right or healthy way to run anything that you want to last. The age old story, "slow and steady wins the race" is something Brayand has found to be true now more than ever otherwise your faced with burnout and most times little results. When networking with seasoned investors and entrepreneurs the advice Brayand has received has NEVER been, make sure you work until the sun comes up. He has only heard over and over to prioritize family, build a business you love, and don't sacrifice the things that matter because you'll be miserable. If you are ready to UnF*ck Your Mindset, Join Brayand here: https://www.unfuckyourmindset.com/program-pre-launch  

There is no better question to ask yourself before listening to this episode than, "are you truly happy?" For many, this is where most people get stuck. The unfortunately reality of living in a capitalist country is how spoiled we've become and how we are never satisfied with what we have. We are all on a fleeting journey of acquiring everything we don't need to meet some unachievable level of success or status.  In this episode, Brayand talks about learning the hard way that happiness is truly a state of mind. During one of his trips to Haiti, Brayand opens up about learning that one of the happiest people he met in Haiti also was sleeping in a shack on the floor with his entire family. How the children there were the happiest when playing with rocks and coke bottles, and they wanted for nothing more.  Whether you are struggling to secure your first deal, wondering when you'll have enough money to buy a new car, get a bigger house, or just find the perfect spouse.....this episode is a MUST! because Brayand explains exactly why happiness is NOT on the other side of "obtaining something" but it is in everything you have right now. If you are ready to UNFUCK your mindset, join us here: https://www.unfuckyourmindset.com/program-pre-launch  

Most people will continue to struggle not because of laziness or lack of resources but because of their unwillingness to cut people off and "prune their tree" often. Even when you don't like the way it looks, the dead ends of our hair have to be cut off regularly in order for the hair to grow......and just like your hair, your success is the same. Your success is depending on it. Some people who are lucky enough to experience great levels of success early on, they even think will find themselves thinking everything will continue to grow. However, it is natural to grow, to get rid of things that no longer serve us anymore. In order to produce more, you have to get rid of more.  Make sure to get more of where this came from by joining, UnFuck Your Mindset: https://www.unfuckyourmindset.com/program-pre-launch

Just like brushing your teeth and taking a shower daily, these things are only useful when done daily. The same goes for unfucking your mindset.  Once you decide, the work has to be done daily as all of us are born and raised with a mindset that has to be unraveled and retrained. Some of you are fighting against 25, 35, and even 45+ years of gathered evidence that has led you to believe you know how things go. In this episode, Brayand helps us to understand you have the power to decide and attract exactly how things go. The problem is some of us are not prepared to create a reality that we have never dreamt of.  "You get what you think about all the time." The key to unfucking your mindset and KEEPING it unfucked is learning how to control your thoughts and expand your mind.  If you are on this journey and ready to create and maintain the mindset that is going to take you to the next level, join Brayand at: www.unfuckyourmindset.com

TFAR? Ever heard of it? Not the most common acronym but what this means is critical to understand when trying to understand how to truly manifest the life you desire. If you're focused on the actions that you are missing a key step. One must understand that..... Your thoughts lead to ----> Feelings.  Your feelings lead to ------> Actions. Your actions lead to ------> Results.  In this episode, Brayand breaks down an exercise to use how important it is before manifesting the life you want that your thoughts matter more than your actions. In order to "unf*ck your mindset," you must learn to stop asking your emotions for permission and focus on mastering them instead. Before you take a step further, make sure to check out www.unfuckyourmindset.com to begin the true journey of mental mastery with Brayand! 

Brayand uncovers in this episode how he met his long time business mentor and how the first thing he told him was life changing! "Clarity leads to power." Brayand was doing a lot of things at the time but was not sure what he wanted to focus on. The truth is that most of you do not know what you want and this creates a lack of clarity which is always the reason you are not operating from your most powerful place.  Just like a relationship, one of the biggest mistakes people make is going down the wrong road enthusiastically. A lack of clarity will cause you to go down the wrong road thinking this will lead to happiness when you need to understand this won't end well because you have no idea what you want! Do not miss this episode to find out how clarity helps us unlock our power and become natural born leaders.

The unfortunate reality of unf*cking your mindset is that it can not be done within a day or two of hard work. The reason why it can't be done so quickly is because each of us is facing years and years of things we've been told by our parents, society, and even our loved ones and friends.  Unfortunately, they don't know better either because they just repeat what they've learned. It's time for you to break the cycle and get committed to seeing, thinking, and acting differently. In this episode, Brayand uncovers how easily you may have overlooked the things you've been told and how they've affected you daily actions. The only way to begin unraveling your f*cked up mindset is to first acknowledge where it started.    

Welcome to the UnFuck Your Mindset Podcast!  Before we jump in strategies, learned experience, and removing the beliefs that allow us to have a fucked up mindset, it's important that you meet your host, Brayand Ponciano. Real Estate Investor and serial entrepreneur, Brayand has learned one very important thing after years running successful businesses, you have nothing without your mindset.  In this episode, Brayand uncovers his childhood growing up in the streets of LA and why his priority is to help you UnF*ck your mindset!