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Once upon a time in a land not so far away (Birmingham), Ni and Sim realised they were closer than they thought to the big 4-0. It was at this moment they questioned everything. Are high-tops still appropriate? Should I have more savings? Can we still hire a quad bike in Napa? Do we really want more kids? This is UNSURE. Let’s talk it out. For enquiries contact: thisisunsurepodcast@gmail.com

Ni and Sim


    • Jul 30, 2021 LATEST EPISODE
    • every other week NEW EPISODES
    • 38m AVG DURATION
    • 41 EPISODES


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    Can black women find love on Love Island?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 30, 2021 42:55


    In this episode, we discuss all things Love Island! Although this series has been a bit of a slow burner, there have been some things that have stood out. We have a frank conversation about the portrayal of black contestants - particularly women. We also question the role of the production team in the selection process and whether the franchise has turned into a get-rich-quick scheme for participants. Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    Should we be more open to different cultures?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 16, 2021 63:01


    In this episode, we have a good 'ole chinwag about the importance of allyship, interracial dating, and whether opposites really attract. We're joined by our wonderful guest Charlotte, who speaks candidly about her support for the BLM movement, her reasons for dating outside of her race, including the childhood memories that may have contributed. We also touch on being underrepresented in the workplace, the right time to enter a new relationship and we settle the score on which guys are most likely to hit your WhatsApp with a d*ck pic! It's a good one guys! Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    Is colourism dividing our community?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 1, 2021 53:49


    In this episode, we explore the subject of colourism. Why is it still so rife?! We discuss what it's like to be on the receiving end of colourism and how it affects our communities. We also have a frank discussion about the potential effects of colourism on our children and ask ourselves as with ageism, sexism and racism, will colourism always be prevalent in today's society. Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    Is Blue Therapy highlighting real relationship issues?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 27, 2021 43:47


    In this episode, we're discussing one of the most popular shows of the year Blue Therapy. The jury's still out on whether the couples and their storylines are authentic, but it certainly deserves top marks for entertainment. We also discuss relationship therapy more broadly, Sim's (hilarious) couples counselling experience and Ni's requirements for entering a new relationship! Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    The 90's - What a Vibe!

    Play Episode Listen Later May 13, 2021 32:39


    In this episode, we're feeling rather nostalgic. After watching this week's SWV vs Xscape Verzuz, we're in our 'old skool' element! This was hands down our favourite Verzuz battle. We also discuss why we're disappointed with the BRIT awards, the lack of quality performers in today's music scene, the hilarious undercover comedians on social media and why we're excited to be able to relive the 90's vibe once we're released from the shackles of lockdown! Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    Cryptocurrencies: What’s all the hype?

    Play Episode Listen Later May 6, 2021 46:48


    In this episode, we unpack the fascinating world of cryptocurrencies. With so much talk of Bitcoin, XRP and other popular coins, we dive into the reasons for the sudden surge in interest. Joined once again by S, we also discuss forex trading, whether traditional savings accounts are a thing of the past and exactly what is the smartest way to invest your cash right now! Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    Is it time to stop existing and start living?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 22, 2021 41:32


    In this episode, we have a frank conversation about life! With all of the recent doom and gloom with the lockdown and the deaths of loved ones and famous figures, we take a step back to reflect on it all. What can we do to lead happier and fulfilled lives? How do we combat stress and how can we ensure we’re prepared for the future – whatever it may hold for us. This is a topic that affects us all and we’re sure you’ll have your own way of dealing with life’s many curveballs. Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    Why are more black women dying during pregnancy?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 8, 2021 35:18


    In this episode, we discuss the recent Channel 4 Dispatches documentary, The Black Maternity Scandal. The documentary highlights the startling statistics of black women being four times more likely to die during pregnancy, childbirth and up to 6 weeks post-partum compared to white women. Hosted by Rochelle Humes, the documentary gave real and authentic insights into the experiences that black women sadly face. We explore our opinions on the content and also give our personal accounts of the care we received when having our own children. Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    Husbands, Wives and Side Chicks

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 26, 2021 43:58


    In this episode, we delve into the world of relationships. This week the socials have been alight with news of self-proclaimed Relationship Expert, Derrick Jaxn's infidelities. This leads us to question whether there is such thing as a 'perfect relationship'. We also discuss joint finances, taking surnames and the taboo subject of prenups. And finally, will Ni ever meet her Prince Tyrone and will Sim eventually become a wealthy housewife?! Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    But, surely the customer is always right?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 19, 2021 44:50


    In this episode, we explore what makes good customer service. We've all experienced instances of good and bad service and we discuss ways that businesses can improve. We also discuss nail salons, hairdressers, barbershops, food services and online retailers and ask ourselves whether our customer service experiences shape our loyalty. And, it wouldn’t be an episode about customer service if we didn’t reference the Jamaican food shop now would it?! Enjoy! Ni and Sim.

    The Princess & The Royal Tea

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 10, 2021 44:05


    In this episode, we share our opinion on the 'Interview of the Century'. This week, the world watched as Harry and Meghan shared the shocking treatment they received from The Palace and The British Press while being full-time Royals. They put to rest false headlines as well as describing how this treatment affected their mental health. Whether you love them or loathe them, you can't deny the fact that they’ve had a pretty rough time. We also discuss Piers Morgan, why the monarchy needs to modernise and exactly who made the skin colour remark! Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    Team Balenciaga vs Team Boohoo

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 5, 2021 43:08


    In this episode, we discuss all things brand! We talk about our favourite brands, celebrity brand collaborations and brands that were popular over the years. We explore whether with age we become more comfortable with brands that were less favourable back in the day. We also ask whether we feel it's important to match the styles of our significant others, whether it be high street or designer? This episode is dedicated to all 80s babies. Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    #freebritney - How did it come to this?

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 19, 2021 36:10


    In this episode, we discuss this week's Sky documentary, Framing Britney Spears, which follows the ongoing conservatorship of the popstar. We have a frank discussion about our thoughts on the situation and whether it is strictly about control. We also question if the pressures of fame contribute to issues surrounding mental health and whether large entertainment corporations should do more to protect their artists. Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    Unsure Movie Night - The Education of a Negro

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 5, 2021 38:23


    In this episode, we sit down with Ryan Culver, Director of The Education of a Negro, and have a candid chat about his thought-provoking new movie. We also welcome Sammy back to the show and together we discuss Ryan’s motivations for creating a film about white supremacy, how this links to events that unfolded in the last year and the importance of creating positive stereotypes in film. The Education of a Negro is available to Rent or Buy on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2URsGOq Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    Reality TV? It's a no from us!

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 22, 2021 40:04


    In this episode, we share our thoughts about Reality TV. We question whether we'd sign up to a reality TV show and the pros and cons of doing so. We discuss Big Brother, Love Island, First Dates, the Real Housewives of Atlanta and the Love and Hip Hop franchise.  We also discuss our individual stories about being manipulated by the XFactor production team. Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    Lockdown 3.0 - Managing Your Mental Health

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 15, 2021 26:16


    In this episode, we're joined by Counsellor and Psychotherapist Karen Hartley to discuss the effects of lockdown on our mental health. England has been plunged once again into a national lockdown and we're all feeling pretty crap! Using Karen's expert knowledge, we question whether the government should be doing more to promote positive well-being and Karen provides some well-needed tips and tricks to make us feel better at home. Read more about Karen's work at www.karenhartley.co.uk or Instagram @therapy_heals

    Musical Memories - Our Favourite Eras

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 8, 2021 45:30


    In this episode, we take a trip down memory lane and discuss our music tastes throughout the years. From growing up on ragga classics, through to the Bad Boy era, Year 2K (early 2000s) masterpieces, UKG and beyond, we reminisce on the feelings and memories that each musical era provided. We also discuss our favourite songs, artists and bands. Sim tells us about her treasured Fila’s and Ni makes a passionate speech to UKG's forefathers. Come and reminisce with us! Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    New Year, New Drop - Our 2020 Round-Up

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 2021 49:04


    In this episode, we explore the highs and lows of our 2020. From our personal relationship woes to our feelings about the BLM protests. And of course, it wouldn't be a 2020 recap if we didn't discuss all things Pandemic - entering lockdown, the lockdown heatwave, homeschooling and not being able to meet the squad! HAPPY NEW YEAR!! Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    The Festive Show

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 24, 2020 31:42


    In this episode, we bring you the Unsure Festive Show.  We discuss our Christmas traditions, including The Queen's Speech, Secret Santa and our not so favourite presents. Join us for the ultimate Christmas chinwag! Don't forget your prosecco! Have a fabulous day. Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    Daddy’s Girls - Being a Father to Daughters

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 18, 2020 38:02


    In this episode, we're discussing Mike's experience of raising his daughters in two very different generations. We ask how big a role social media plays in the upbringing of our young girls and the importance of positive role models in mainstream media. We also chat about setting boundaries, being positive influences and whether we as parents should be wholly accountable for our children's actions. Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    The COVID-19 Vaccine - Are we in or out?

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 11, 2020 38:43


    In this episode, we discuss one of the UK’s hottest topics - the COVID-19 Vaccine. How do we feel about it? Do we want to take it? While it seems that taking the vaccine is optional for now, how likely is it that it will become mandatory and if it does, what could this mean for all of us? We also discuss the decision-making process and what happens in instances when parents disagree on whether to vaccinate their child. Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    Our bodies - Are we our own worst critics?

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 4, 2020 56:48


    In this episode, Karen joins us to discuss all things to do with our shape and size, including diets and exercise, finding clothes to flatter our figures and whether men really care about the way we look. We also share some exciting revelations, from Ni’s passionate speech about the need for four dumplings in her soup, Karen’s take on her ‘kebab legs’ and why you might find Sim rummaging for biscuits in the loft in the middle of the night. You’ll want to hear this one! Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    A Man's Wandering Eye - is Evolution the Reason?

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 27, 2020 65:05


    In this episode, we dig deep into the masculine brain. Joined by TJ, what started off as a discussion about online dating, turned into a very detailed analysis as to why he thinks men react the way they do in certain settings. While we didn't always agree with his views, perhaps there is some truth to his outlook. Are some men just afraid to be honest and do we as women just not like to hear the truth? We'll let you decide. Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    Three Friends, Three Cultures, Three Points of View

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 20, 2020 56:31


    In this episode, we're discussing the importance of our cultural identity. Joined by our friend Nana, the three of us have a lighthearted conversation about the impact of our individual cultures on our childhood, our teens and our adult lives. We also discuss the importance of embracing cultural traditions and ensuring these are positive experiences for our children. Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    The US Presidential Election - One Voter’s View

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 12, 2020 51:41


    In this episode, we’re discussing what has dominated the news globally for the past few weeks - the US Presidential Election. Daniela joins us to discuss how it feels living in the US, and what we think will happen in the coming weeks and months. Daniela also enlightens us about other factors including how the election works, particular voting groups who have made a difference and her opinion on both Trump and Biden as candidates. Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    #ENDSARS Understanding The Movement

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 5, 2020 42:23


    In this episode, we get clued up about #ENDSARS. With Sim having Nigerian heritage we felt it was important to discuss the issues surrounding the movement. We’re joined by our guest Dami (@DamiTravels), who breaks down the reasons why the Special Anti-Robbery Squad (SARS) was formed in 1992, and highlights the significance of the protests which ultimately caused its disbandment in October 2020. Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    Keepin’ It Real - Let’s Talk Romance

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 30, 2020 31:59


    In this episode, we’re discussing relationships and romance. We’re joined once again by S (@dottaofficial), who provides his comedic point of view about his experiences and where he thinks we as women - go wrong. We also discuss the dating game, going dutch, the meaning of love and how to keep things spicy in your relationship. Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    Diary of an Unapologetic Black Man

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 22, 2020 39:52


    In this episode, we speak once again to Julian and discuss how a strict upbringing, a predominantly white middle-class schooling and a red-brick university education helped to shape the man he is today. We also ask whether these experiences have stopped him from getting caught up in the stereotypical view of ‘a black man’ in today's society and why making his impassioned speech at the Birmingham BlackLivesMatter protest was so important to him. Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    Two Women, Two Journeys - in partnership with UCB

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 20, 2020 34:20


    In this special episode, we discuss our career journeys. 2020 has definitely highlighted the continued struggles of black people in modern society. How has this affected us in the workplace and does the fact that we are women make it even more difficult? This episode is in partnership with University College Birmingham (UCB) as part of Black History Month. Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    Normalising Miscarriage

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 15, 2020 43:06


    In this episode, we question why miscarriage is still such a taboo subject. With 1 in 4 women experiencing miscarriage, surely conversations should be normalised. So why aren’t they? In honour of Baby Loss Awareness Week 2020, we’re joined by Daniela @danielapbraide who suffered a miscarriage 18 months ago. She provides some very useful insights into the physical and emotional side of miscarriage and also the importance of good support networks, taking the time to process grief and finding your own way to heal. Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    Big Boys Don’t Cry

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 8, 2020 35:53


    In this episode, we discuss whether men should show their true emotions. And if they choose to, how are they perceived? We’re joined by Julian who adds his perspective to the discussion. We debate whether crying is a weakness, if Kanye West's public breakdowns have affected his brand image and the importance of channeling your emotions effectively. Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    A Shooting, a Facelift and a Pandemic

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 1, 2020 29:33


    In this episode, we discuss whether artists can bounce back after periods of crisis following the shooting saga and ongoing tensions between Tory Lanez and Megan Thee Stallion. We also talk ‘lockdown birthdays’, the real housewives and whether the US is becoming increasingly less influential due to existing and emerging UK talent. Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    What is Influencing the Younger Generation?

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 24, 2020 33:45


    In this episode, we're dissecting the many influences that are affecting today's youth. Joined by Sammy, we touch on discussion points including the education system, the role of religion, the portrayal of young people in the media and the impact of popular culture. Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    Instagram Versus Reality - Are We Comfortable Being Mediocre?

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 17, 2020 24:28


    In this episode, we're joined by S (@dottaofficial) where we explore the reality of online perceptions and whether these have a bearing on how we deem our own success. We also discuss BBLs, the 'Gym Look' and whether these are sustainable. We also discuss the impact of these ideals on our mental health and well-being and whether these negatively influence the younger generation. Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    Online Dating - The Good, the Bad and the Ugly

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 10, 2020 26:43


    In this episode, we explore the world of dating. What are the current methods to bagging a date? Is online dating the way forward?  We’re joined by special guest Karen B, who shares her experiences of all things dating. Topics discussed include Karen’s tried and tested methods, ‘d*ck pics’ and negative experiences, her shift in attitude towards dating throughout the years and how she finally found her Mr Right. Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    Have We Become a Generation of Takeout Foodies?

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 3, 2020 27:04


    In this episode, we discuss finding the time to prepare and cook meals in a time where we as women are increasingly busier and more career-focused than ever. But are we really too busy to cook or is cooking pushed down the priority list in favour of other things? We touch on the shift in gender roles and the role of women in the household. Our guest Michael joins us once again, to offer his honest perspective on the subject. Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    Our School Experience – The Highs and Lows

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 2, 2020 27:51


    In this episode, we give you the rundown of school-life. During our pilot, we touched on the debate of whether we would send our children to a single-sex, faith school. It sparked numerous conversations within our peer group so we decided to revisit the subject and discuss some of our experiences in more depth. From school trips, to cookery baskets and hockey sticks! We think you’ll like this one! Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    Having Children, Establishing Routines and Finding our ‘New Normal’

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 28, 2020 24:58


    In this episode, we explore our individual experiences as new parents. How did we cope? What did we do? What would we change? We discuss the pressures of finding what we consider our ‘new normal’ as well as establishing our roles as parents and our attitudes towards accepting change – both in our personal and professional lives. Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    Mutton Dressed as Lamb - A Man's Perspective

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 25, 2020 28:03


    In this episode, we're told some home truths about what's considered reasonable attire for women of our age. We explore turn-offs for men when it comes to dress sense and we also touch on some key relationship topics. Enjoy! Ni and Sim

    Pilot: Are Single Sex Faith Schools the Winning Formula?

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 21, 2020 8:12


    In this episode, we explore the concept of single-sex and faith-based schools.  As former pupils of both, we question the thought processes surrounding making these choices as parents. We also discuss the day to day life and the pros and cons of attending such schools. And finally we ask ourselves whether we would be comfortable sending our children to single sex or faith-based schools.  Enjoy!  Ni and Sim

    This is Unsure - Official Trailer

    Play Episode Listen Later Aug 17, 2020 2:56


    Once upon a time in a land not so far away (Birmingham), Ni and Sim realised they were closer than they thought to the big 4-0. It was at this moment they questioned everything. Are high-tops still appropriate? Should I have more savings? Can we still hire a quad bike in Napa? Do we really want more kids?  This is UNSURE.  Let’s talk it out. 

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