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Hello and welcome to another episode of Authentically ADHD. I'm Carmen, and today we're diving into how the holiday season feels through the eyes (and brain) of someone with AuDHD – that is, co-occurring autism and ADHD. For many of us, the holidays can feel less “holly jolly” and more like a perfect storm of stress. In this episode we'll explore why the season can be extra hard, what it looks and feels like, and science-backed strategies to survive (and maybe even enjoy) the holidays. Whether you're a newly diagnosed adult or a parent of a neurodivergent child, this one's for you.What Is AuDHD? (Autism + ADHD)First, a quick science check. Autism and ADHD often go hand in hand. In fact, research suggests roughly 50–70% of autistic people also meet criteria for ADHD. Likewise, about two-thirds of people with ADHD have another condition like autism. In plain terms, having AuDHD means your brain experiences both sets of traits – the social-pragmatic and sensory sensitivities of autism and the attention-dopamine challenges of ADHD.This combination can feel like a constant tug-of-war in the mind. One part of you craves novelty and spontaneity (hello, ADHD!), while another part craves predictability and routine (hello, autism!). Imagine loving new experiences but also needing your favorite cookie recipe exactly the same every year. The result? It can be disorienting: you might feel like you “don't fit” neatly into either camp. Some people with AuDHD describe it as an internal “tug-of-war” or seesaw: one side impulsive and messy, the other organized and anxious to plan.In practice, AuDHD often means compensating and crashing. For example, someone's autism-driven focus might compensate for their ADHD-driven distractibility at work, or vice versa – ADHD-driven chaos can overwhelm autistic need-for-order, leaving them paralyzed by overwhelm. Dopamine is also at play: ADHD brains naturally crave dopamine and may impulsively seek novelty to get it. This can collide with autistic routines (which prefer sameness), causing even more internal conflict. All of this can be exhausting, but it also means AuDHD brains are vividly tuned in and often intensely creative. Think of it as life on high-intensity mode – colorful and chaotic, requiring constant balancing.Why the Holidays Are Extra ChallengingNow layer on the holidays, and the pressure cooker heats way up. Even neurotypical people report elevated stress: one survey found 62% of adults felt “very or somewhat” more stressed during the holidays than at other times of year. But for AuDHD brains, the holidays can amplify every stressor:Routines Disrupted: The holidays upend our anchors. School break means new daily rhythms, late nights, irregular meals – everything that might keep an autistic-AuDHD person grounded gets flipped. As one ND observer notes, “routines are often our anchor, and when they're pulled away, it can leave us adrift”. Even small changes (late start on Monday, new host home, delayed bedtime) can throw our whole system off.Sensory Overload: Holiday sights, sounds, and smells come at you hard. Think bright lights, loud music, clanging dishes, lots of chatter, and maybe even firecrackers or poppers. These environments can push a neurodivergent nervous system into sensory overwhelm. In fact, decorations blaring carols while a dozen relatives talk at once – that's the classic recipe for sensory overload. Neuroscience explains it as bombarding the five senses: your brain goes into fight-or-flight mode, and it can stay on high alert even after you're home. One ADHD resource describes this: “the body's nervous system shifts into ‘fight-or-flight' mode… After the event, the body may remain on high alert, struggling to return to a relaxed baseline – leading to fatigue, overstimulation, and emotional shutdown.”. In short, holiday clamor can fry an AuDHD brain.Social and Family Dynamics: Holidays often mean forced proximity. You're expected to play nice at a crowded party, join in traditions, maybe hug or kiss relatives, and make small talk. That's a lot of unstructured social juggling. Neurodivergent people often need more downtime than society assumes, but the holidays cram intense social demands into the shortest days of winter. Feeling like you should be joyful and festive can clash with feeling drained, anxious, or withdrawn. This is the “disconnect between ‘should' and ‘feel'” one psychologist talks about: everyone else is pretending joy, but you might feel agitated, melancholic, or exhausted instead. In fact, holiday stress can bring out “regressive” feelings: snapping at family, ruminating on past hurts, or longing for a perfect moment that never happens.Executive Overload: Then there's all the planning and to-dos. Making a menu, shopping for gifts, wrapping, hosting – the holiday season can demand supercharged executive function. Neuroscience shows that high demands on the prefrontal cortex (the brain's planning center) can impair memory and even slow down new brain cell growth. In other words, tackling 1,000 tasks can literally short-circuit our focus and memory. A coaching article notes that the “mental burden” of remembering everything impedes memory and interferes with brain-cell production. Even if you usually manage your ADHD well, the holiday juggle can make you feel like you're losing control. It's no wonder stress and forgetfulness skyrocket.Emotional Intensity: Holidays can stir deep emotions. The idea of a “perfect family celebration” is a myth, and that gap can trigger sadness, anxiety, or frustration. A 1950s concept called “Holiday Syndrome” described it well: diffuse anxiety, irritability, helplessness, and nostalgic/bitter rumination about past experiences. Many people (autistic or not) feel a low-grade hum of agitation or melancholy under the tinsel and carols If you're also AuDHD, ADHD's emotional dysregulation can supercharge those feelings. Research on ADHD shows that after a high-energy event, brains can “crash” with deep fatigue or emptiness as dopamine levels plummet. So after a big family gathering you might feel emotionally drained – like you've hit a wall. As one expert puts it, the ADHD brain gets a dopamine surge in the moment, then a drop afterward, leading to confusion and exhaustion. Cue the tears or irritability after the decorations are taken down.In short, every holiday pressure – social expectations, sensory chaos, broken routines, endless chores – hits AuDHD brains all at once. It's like the perfect neurodivergent stress cocktail. One Autism/ADHD coach even calls the holidays “every AuDHD stressor at once”: unpredictability + social evaluation + sensory intensity + disrupted routines. No wonder we might feel totally fried by Dec 25.FOCUSED & PATREON ADWhat It Feels Like: Overwhelm, Meltdowns, and MaskingSo what does all that actually feel like? Picture this: You step into a brightly lit living room filled with holiday music, clinking dishes, and chatty people. Immediately, your senses are on high alert. You feel your heart rate up (fight-or-flight kick in), your thoughts start racing, and your tolerance for noise plummets. You might grit your teeth through forced smiles, struggling to follow 5 conversations at once. In that moment, you're using every bit of your brain's executive function – planning what to say, filtering stimulation, remembering everyone's names, and suppressing the urge to bolt for silence. It's exhausting.Later, when you finally escape, you might hit the proverbial wall. Suddenly you feel mentally numb, weepy, or totally blank. This is the classic AuDHD “crash.” As one ADHD writer explains, after the stimulus ends “your brain experiences a dopamine drop – leading to emotional disorientation, fatigue, or a deep sense of emptiness.”. You could become super-snappy or oversensitive (even minor things trigger tears or rage). You might replay awkward conversations and feel a wave of guilt or paranoia. Or you might simply withdraw – closing your eyes, zoning out, or curling up until you “recharge.” These aren't just mood swings; they're neurological reactions to overload.Kids and adults alike can shut down too – becoming nonverbal, hiding, or refusing to participate. You might have meltdowns (full emotional blow-ups) or shutdowns (going blank). It might look like bursts of crying, rage, or stimming (repetitive self-soothing behaviors). This is especially common if surprises disrupt expected plans. And if you're masking (pretending to be “normal”), this takes even more energy. One psychologist notes that neurodivergent folks “must mask extra hard” during holidays when everyone expects cheer, which makes us even more exhausted and anxious.If you're a parent, you might watch your neurodivergent child display these behaviors. Maybe your teen suddenly “shuts down” mid-game, or your kindergarten child bursts into tears over a drop of water on a new shirt. They might meltdown over something as small as being served pie in a different dish, or hyperfocus on one toy ignoring the party around them. Either way, the feeling inside is similar: overwhelmed, dysregulated, and just done.It may help to know: You are not alone and not wrong. Feeling relief when others appear joyful, or feeling resentful for holiday expectations, is normal for AuDHD brains. Our nervous systems truly react differently under holiday stress. The good news from neuroscience is that holiday stress is usually acute, not chronic – our brains tend to bounce back once the season is over. But during the season, we need real strategies to cope.Science-Backed Strategies for Managing OverwhelmNow, let's talk solutions. Neurobiology isn't just doom and gloom – it also suggests practical fixes. Below are some evidence-informed strategies that target the very stressors we discussed. Think of these as your AuDHD holiday survival kit. You don't have to use all of them, but the more you prepare your brain, the smoother this season can be.1. Maintain Structure and RoutineWhenever possible, keep some normalcy. Research on executive function shows that routines are crucial anchors for neurodivergent minds. Try to stick to regular sleep and meal times as much as you can, even if other parts of your day change. For example: have dinner at 6 pm even if everyone else is having it late, or set an alarm for your usual bedtime. The coaching advice is to plan in advance: make checklists of tasks (shopping, wrapping, cooking) and schedule them early. Use calendars, alarms, or apps to remind you of things – our brains are already overloaded without trying to store all holiday details. Planning also includes travel: if you have to visit family, confirm details (who's hosting, what's served) beforehand so it's not a surprise.Visual supports can help too. For kids and adults, a visual schedule (even just on your phone) outlining “Friday: drive to grandma's house; Saturday: gift-opening 10am, game night 6pm” can ground you. Advanced Autism Services recommends creating a visual map of the event with times and people. Even as an adult, knowing the plan lowers anxiety. Similarly, preparing your child with social stories or role-playing can make gatherings feel more predictable.Finally, keep your exercise and self-care rituals. The Harvard team reminds us that even holiday parties need cognitive flexibility – which is easier when the brain is well-restedt. So keep up that morning run or evening walk, even if it's just 10 minutes. Exercise releases stress-fighting chemicals in the brain, which can buffer holiday overload.2. Plan and Prioritize (Executive Function Hacks)You can't do everything, so delegate and prioritize ruthlessly. Which traditions truly matter to you? Focus on those, and let go of the rest. A coach suggests making a short list of top priorities (maybe it's one family dinner and a small gift exchange) and kindly declining additional activities. It's okay to skip a party or leave early – your brain's health is non-negotiable. If shopping is a drain, try online or streamlined gift ideas (gift cards, experience gifts, or even “cookies night in” kits). The key is reducing last-minute tasks, which spike stress.Use tools to help: create gift lists on your phone, set reminders a week before each event, or use productivity apps that break big chores into small steps. Even ADHD coaches agree: “Last-minute tasks are particularly stress-inducing, so plan everything in advance that you can.”. Plan your outfits, plan travel routes, plan what to say when Uncle Bob cracks a joke (maybe even a safe “exit phrase” if conversation gets intense!). This way the unexpected becomes expected, which grounds the AuDHD brain.3. Communicate and DelegateYou don't have to go it alone. Talk to your holiday co-pilots. If you have a partner or roommate, divide and conquer chores. Explain that you might need help with certain tasks – maybe they handle gift wrapping while you focus on meal prepping, for example. If you're a parent, team up with other parents: one person watches the kids while the other cooks. NFIL suggests checking in with your support network about feelings and plans.Crucially, set boundaries. Let family and friends know your limits. It's totally okay to say things like “I'm sensitive to crowds and might need a quiet break” or “I'll stay for an hour then take a walk around the block.” As one psychologist notes, neurodivergent people are often more sensitive to holiday stressors like forced gatherings and touching. So be your own advocate: politely excuse yourself to a quiet room, or step outside for air. You might even create a “signal” with a buddy if social exhaustion hits and you need help quietly bowing out. Remember that boundaries mean self-respect – you deserve to protect your peace.4. Sensory Self-CareCombat sensory overload proactively. Bring your tools and safe spaces. Noise-cancelling headphones or earbuds can be a lifesaver when the living room booms with music and chatter. Sunglasses (indoors if needed!) can soften bright lights. Keep a fidget (stress ball, textured toy, or something to squeeze) in your pocket or a weighted lap blanket in the car. Even carrying a familiar scented hand lotion or a small plush can ground you when stress spikes.If possible, help “sensory-proof” the holiday environment. Offer a sensory-friendly zone at home or the party venue – a quiet corner with dim lights and comfy seating. Advanced Autism tips say designating a quiet space with calming items (like weighted blankets or favorite objects) gives everyone a place to recharge. Make it explicit: let family know, “I might head to the quiet room when I need a break.” You'll avoid confusion or hurt feelings. If you feel overload coming on, take that break. Step outside, do some deep breathing, stare at the horizon for a minute. Science suggests that even a few moments of sensory downtime can reset your nervous system.On the topic of sensory input: eat mindfully. If bright lights and noise scramble your nerves, having a calming snack (water, a snack with protein) can help level you out. Avoid too much sugar or caffeine spikes if possible – they can worsen anxiety and crash you even more. (ADHD brains often crave carbs, as notes, but balancing with proteins can stabilize energy.) Also, be mindful of smells or textures that bother you – if Aunt's potpourri is too much, step back or move to another room.5. Emotional Regulation and Self-CompassionGive yourself grace. The holiday season often brings up big feelings (nostalgia, grief, anxiety). It's okay to feel less than jolly. Dr. Megan Neff calls it the disconnect between what we “should” feel and what we actually feel. Acknowledge your feelings without judgment. You don't have to force a smile or pretend you're loving every moment if you're not. In fact, research on emotion in ADHD underscores that we have real neurobiological reasons for our intense feelings.Build in emotional checkpoints. Throughout the day, pause and ask yourself: “How am I doing? Am I overwhelmed?” If you notice tension in your shoulders or tightening in your chest, respond with a known calming strategy: this could be deep, slow breathing (even 4-4-4 breaths: inhale 4 seconds, hold 4, exhale 4), grounding (feel your feet on the floor, notice three things around you), or a short visualization (imagine a peaceful scene). Even a quick stretch can shock your body out of fight-or-flight mode.Remember, you don't have to be “on” 100%. It's okay to sit quietly and read a book while others chat, or scroll on your phone for a mental break. Taking care of yourself isn't rude – it's survival. The Neurodivergent Notes author puts it well: start by “acknowledging that the holiday season can be hard” and giving yourself permission to feel off or “not OKay”. You might even mentally prepare a mantra: “I do not have to be perfect. My feelings are valid.” Repeat that if family guilt trips start to chatter in your mind.If anxiety or irritation spikes, try reframing: nothing says every moment has to be merry. You can enjoy the smell of pine or the glow of lights without absorbing all the chaos. Keep reminding yourself: “This is just one season. I'll get through it, and then I can relax.” As Harvard experts note, holiday stress is acute – it will subside once the season passes. Meanwhile, lean into what you find comforting: maybe a warm tea by yourself, a brief nap, or a fun playlist in your headphones.6. Navigate Family Dynamics and TraditionsFamilies can be great, but holiday families can also trip alarm bells. If certain traditions or relatives trigger you, it's OK to modify or skip them. Brainstorm alternatives: If large dinners are a nightmare, how about a small movie night with a couple people you feel safe around? If gift exchanges stress you, propose a simpler plan (e.g. Secret Santa with a modest budget, or letting kids pick one special gift each). Decline invitations graciously: “Thank you for having me, but I'll pass this time” is perfectly acceptable. People might not get it, but the goal is to keep you well, not please them.For parents of AuDHD kids: many of these strategies apply to your child too. Prepare them with visuals or previews of events, pack their favorite quiet toys, and have an exit strategy if they get overwhelmed. Engage them in something structured during gatherings (e.g. start a puzzle together, or have a “gift wrap station” where they help with one thing – giving them focus and predictability). Communicate with other family members about your child's needs ahead of time: “X is sensitive to noise, we have headphones ready if needed.” Even young children can be taught a safe word or signal for a break.During gatherings, consider creating a “sensory diet” space even for neurodivergent adults. If you're hosting, put out a bowl of noise-canceling earbuds, a quiet corner with pillows, or a weighted lap blanket on the couch. Make an announcement like, “Feel free to take a breather in the den if it gets loud!” This normalizes it for everyone. If family members don't understand, you might need a gentle explanation: “I have ADHD/autism – sometimes I process things differently. I just need a little downtime every now and then.” Hopefully, they'll respect that.7. Focus on Joy and AcceptanceFinally, try to anchor yourself in the parts of the holidays you do enjoy. Maybe it's a cherished tradition, a favorite scented candle, watching a goofy holiday movie, or hanging with a person (or pet) who always makes you smile. Plan one or two little moments you look forward to, and treat those as gifts to yourself. It could be 15 minutes alone playing a video game, stepping outside to gaze at the stars, or savoring hot cocoa. These tiny rituals can ground you.And remember: it does not have to be the “perfect” holiday. The mantra from neuroscientists and psychologists is to keep expectations realistic. The Harvard article even reminds us: holidays are “just another time of year”. What matters is that you're safe and okay. If you spend the evening in pajamas binge-watching rather than hosting a feast, that's fine. You get to decide what this season means to you.Above all, be gentle with yourself. As the holiday advice goes: give yourself permission to be a bit Grinchy. It's okay if you feel like “more Scrooge than Hallmark hero” – that feeling is valid. By acknowledging that and taking small steps to care for yourself, you give your brain the buffer it needs. The goal isn't to force holiday cheer; it's to manage the chaos in ways that serve you, not deplete you.You've Got This (One Step at a Time)The holidays might be tricky for AuDHD brains, but you now have a toolbox of strategies informed by science and experience. To recap: Plan and prioritize, keep some routine, check in with your body's needs, create quiet spaces, set boundaries, and show yourself kindness. These steps tap directly into the neuroscience of stress and ADHD – they help keep your prefrontal cortex functioning and your nervous system calmer.Lastly, remember that the real magic of the holidays is connection – not the chaos. Connect with one or two supportive people. Focus on what truly matters to you. When you feel overwhelmed, remind yourself that this tough season is temporary and that you are not alone in feeling this way. Many of us AuDHDers have been there and come out the other side.Thank you for listening to Authenti

Ready to ditch holiday stress? Discover the relatively new Apple Invites app and cutting-edge planning tools that could change how you host, organize, and celebrate with friends and family this season. Apple Invites app demo: shared photos, playlists, and event updates Partiful vs. Apple Invites: choosing invite apps friends actually use Shared reminders and sections: holiday shopping and planning hacks OmniOutliner for meal prep and complex holiday schedules, plus AI outlines Favorite recipe apps: Paprika vs. Crouton for Thanksgiving cooking Secret Santa gift exchanges made easy with Elfster app features News: Apple launches $150 iPhone Pocket fashion accessory. New Apple hardware updates: iPad Pro, 14" MacBook Pro, Vision Pro M5 App Caps: Torras Mini MagSafe battery pack and Locket Widget social app Hosts: Mikah Sargent and Rosemary Orchard Contact iOS Today at iOSToday@twit.tv. Download or subscribe to iOS Today at https://twit.tv/shows/ios-today Want access to the ad-free video and exclusive features? Become a member of Club TWiT today! https://twit.tv/clubtwit Club TWiT members can discuss this episode and leave feedback in the Club TWiT Discord.

Ready to ditch holiday stress? Discover the relatively new Apple Invites app and cutting-edge planning tools that could change how you host, organize, and celebrate with friends and family this season. Apple Invites app demo: shared photos, playlists, and event updates Partiful vs. Apple Invites: choosing invite apps friends actually use Shared reminders and sections: holiday shopping and planning hacks OmniOutliner for meal prep and complex holiday schedules, plus AI outlines Favorite recipe apps: Paprika vs. Crouton for Thanksgiving cooking Secret Santa gift exchanges made easy with Elfster app features News: Apple launches $150 iPhone Pocket fashion accessory. New Apple hardware updates: iPad Pro, 14" MacBook Pro, Vision Pro M5 App Caps: Torras Mini MagSafe battery pack and Locket Widget social app Hosts: Mikah Sargent and Rosemary Orchard Contact iOS Today at iOSToday@twit.tv. Download or subscribe to iOS Today at https://twit.tv/shows/ios-today Want access to the ad-free video and exclusive features? Become a member of Club TWiT today! https://twit.tv/clubtwit Club TWiT members can discuss this episode and leave feedback in the Club TWiT Discord.

Is it even possible to do a successful Secret Santa if Slacker is involved?

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Ready to ditch holiday stress? Discover the relatively new Apple Invites app and cutting-edge planning tools that could change how you host, organize, and celebrate with friends and family this season. Apple Invites app demo: shared photos, playlists, and event updates Partiful vs. Apple Invites: choosing invite apps friends actually use Shared reminders and sections: holiday shopping and planning hacks OmniOutliner for meal prep and complex holiday schedules, plus AI outlines Favorite recipe apps: Paprika vs. Crouton for Thanksgiving cooking Secret Santa gift exchanges made easy with Elfster app features News: Apple launches $150 iPhone Pocket fashion accessory. New Apple hardware updates: iPad Pro, 14" MacBook Pro, Vision Pro M5 App Caps: Torras Mini MagSafe battery pack and Locket Widget social app Hosts: Mikah Sargent and Rosemary Orchard Contact iOS Today at iOSToday@twit.tv. Download or subscribe to iOS Today at https://twit.tv/shows/ios-today Want access to the ad-free video and exclusive features? Become a member of Club TWiT today! https://twit.tv/clubtwit Club TWiT members can discuss this episode and leave feedback in the Club TWiT Discord.

Ready to ditch holiday stress? Discover the relatively new Apple Invites app and cutting-edge planning tools that could change how you host, organize, and celebrate with friends and family this season. Apple Invites app demo: shared photos, playlists, and event updates Partiful vs. Apple Invites: choosing invite apps friends actually use Shared reminders and sections: holiday shopping and planning hacks OmniOutliner for meal prep and complex holiday schedules, plus AI outlines Favorite recipe apps: Paprika vs. Crouton for Thanksgiving cooking Secret Santa gift exchanges made easy with Elfster app features News: Apple launches $150 iPhone Pocket fashion accessory. New Apple hardware updates: iPad Pro, 14" MacBook Pro, Vision Pro M5 App Caps: Torras Mini MagSafe battery pack and Locket Widget social app Hosts: Mikah Sargent and Rosemary Orchard Contact iOS Today at iOSToday@twit.tv. Download or subscribe to iOS Today at https://twit.tv/shows/ios-today Want access to the ad-free video and exclusive features? Become a member of Club TWiT today! https://twit.tv/clubtwit Club TWiT members can discuss this episode and leave feedback in the Club TWiT Discord.

Ready to ditch holiday stress? Discover the relatively new Apple Invites app and cutting-edge planning tools that could change how you host, organize, and celebrate with friends and family this season. Apple Invites app demo: shared photos, playlists, and event updates Partiful vs. Apple Invites: choosing invite apps friends actually use Shared reminders and sections: holiday shopping and planning hacks OmniOutliner for meal prep and complex holiday schedules, plus AI outlines Favorite recipe apps: Paprika vs. Crouton for Thanksgiving cooking Secret Santa gift exchanges made easy with Elfster app features News: Apple launches $150 iPhone Pocket fashion accessory. New Apple hardware updates: iPad Pro, 14" MacBook Pro, Vision Pro M5 App Caps: Torras Mini MagSafe battery pack and Locket Widget social app Hosts: Mikah Sargent and Rosemary Orchard Contact iOS Today at iOSToday@twit.tv. Download or subscribe to iOS Today at https://twit.tv/shows/ios-today Want access to the ad-free video and exclusive features? Become a member of Club TWiT today! https://twit.tv/clubtwit Club TWiT members can discuss this episode and leave feedback in the Club TWiT Discord.

Ready to ditch holiday stress? Discover the relatively new Apple Invites app and cutting-edge planning tools that could change how you host, organize, and celebrate with friends and family this season. Apple Invites app demo: shared photos, playlists, and event updates Partiful vs. Apple Invites: choosing invite apps friends actually use Shared reminders and sections: holiday shopping and planning hacks OmniOutliner for meal prep and complex holiday schedules, plus AI outlines Favorite recipe apps: Paprika vs. Crouton for Thanksgiving cooking Secret Santa gift exchanges made easy with Elfster app features News: Apple launches $150 iPhone Pocket fashion accessory. New Apple hardware updates: iPad Pro, 14" MacBook Pro, Vision Pro M5 App Caps: Torras Mini MagSafe battery pack and Locket Widget social app Hosts: Mikah Sargent and Rosemary Orchard Contact iOS Today at iOSToday@twit.tv. Download or subscribe to iOS Today at https://twit.tv/shows/ios-today Want access to the ad-free video and exclusive features? Become a member of Club TWiT today! https://twit.tv/clubtwit Club TWiT members can discuss this episode and leave feedback in the Club TWiT Discord.

Ready to ditch holiday stress? Discover the relatively new Apple Invites app and cutting-edge planning tools that could change how you host, organize, and celebrate with friends and family this season. Apple Invites app demo: shared photos, playlists, and event updates Partiful vs. Apple Invites: choosing invite apps friends actually use Shared reminders and sections: holiday shopping and planning hacks OmniOutliner for meal prep and complex holiday schedules, plus AI outlines Favorite recipe apps: Paprika vs. Crouton for Thanksgiving cooking Secret Santa gift exchanges made easy with Elfster app features News: Apple launches $150 iPhone Pocket fashion accessory. New Apple hardware updates: iPad Pro, 14" MacBook Pro, Vision Pro M5 App Caps: Torras Mini MagSafe battery pack and Locket Widget social app Hosts: Mikah Sargent and Rosemary Orchard Contact iOS Today at iOSToday@twit.tv. Download or subscribe to iOS Today at https://twit.tv/shows/ios-today Want access to the ad-free video and exclusive features? Become a member of Club TWiT today! https://twit.tv/clubtwit Club TWiT members can discuss this episode and leave feedback in the Club TWiT Discord.

Tormod og Jørn ser på den utfordrende situasjonen langs frontlinjen, der russiske styrker oppnår langsom, men jevn fremgang, særlig i Pokrovsk. Ukraina svarer med intensivert dronebruk, en strategi som reduserer egne tap, men som ikke alltid fører til territoriell gjenerobring. Vi diskuterer også Russlands interne dynamikk, Putins læring etter Prigozjin-opprøret, og hvordan de russiske tapene håndteres. Episoden belyser de nådeløse russiske angrepene på ukrainsk energiinfrastruktur, inkludert et nylig og dødelig missilangrep i Ternopil. Samtidig ser vi på Ukrainas evne til å slå tilbake med angrep på russisk infrastruktur, inkludert spekulasjoner om bruk av egenproduserte ballistiske missiler. En stor korrupsjonsskandale i Ukraina er også et sentralt tema. Vi analyserer hvordan denne skandalen påvirker Ukrainas internasjonale anseelse og drøfter om avsløringene, paradoksalt nok, kan tolkes som et tegn på et fungerende antikorrupsjonssystem. Til slutt tar vi for oss de svært urovekkende rapportene om amerikansk-russiske «fredsforhandlinger» som, uten Ukrainas involvering, foreslår det Jørn kaller en kapitulasjon av Ukraina. Hva betyr dette for Europas sikkerhet, og hvorfor er Europa så passivt? Vi berører også de grusomme krigsforbrytelsene begått av den russiske Rusitsj-gruppen, og det rørende initiativet «Secret Santa» for ukrainske soldater.Lytt for en dypgående analyse av krigens militære, politiske og etiske dimensjoner. Tidsstempler: 00:00:00 – Introduksjon: Dagens dato og krigens varighet.00:00:29 – Frontlinjeoppdatering: Sakte russisk fremgang og situasjonen i Pokrovsk.00:02:24 – Ukrainas dronekrigføring: Fordeler og ulemper med intensivert dronebruk.00:04:14 – Russisk moral og Romanovs innblikk: Hva russiske krigsbloggere sier.00:05:46 – Putins lærdom: Hvorfor en ny Prigozjin-figur er usannsynlig.00:07:52 – Russiske terrorangrep: Bombing av ukrainsk energiinfrastruktur og angrepet i Ternopil.00:10:42 – Ukrainske motangrep: Angrep på russisk infrastruktur med ballistiske missiler (Hrim-2, ATACMS).00:13:26 – Korrupsjonsskandalen i Ukraina: Konsekvenser for støtte fra Vesten og tegn på fungerende antikorrupsjonsarbeid.00:17:53 – USA-Russland «fredsforhandlinger»: Den omtalte kapitulasjonsavtalen og Trumps involvering.00:27:40 – Europeisk reaksjon og advarsel: En farlig «mellomkrigstid» truer.00:30:06 – Krigsforbrytelser: Rusitsj-gruppens grusomheter.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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On this week's Vogue & Amber: the girls are just back from weekend in Glen Affric. Amber can barely walk after two nights of enthusiastic slut-dropping, Vogue bowed out at 9:30pm like a saint, and someone may or may not have puked in the car on the way home.They recap hot tubs, Loch dips, a surprise encounter with Steve the stag plus, huffers on planes, bin truck trauma, Vera Wang's youthfulness, trying to impress your boss in Secret Santa and what the hell is 6-7?!Watch us on Youtube! CLICK HERE! or search Vogue & AmberRemember, if you want to get involved you can:Email us at vogueandamberpod@global.com OR find us on socials @voguewilliams, @ambrerosolero @vogueandamberpodListen and subscribe to Vogue & Amber on Global Player or wherever you get your podcasts.

Ever wondered how Roz, Mocha, Shem, and Damnit Maurie would fare if the studio suddenly turned into an escape room? This episode dives into that hilarious scenario—and so much more! From debating whether one bum cheek or three is better, to the ultimate curse: wet sleeves or set socks. Plus, we tackle disappearing things no one notices, bad habits we can't shake, and reveal who's the absolute worst Secret Santa among the crew. Buckle up for laughs, surprises, and answers you didn't know you needed!

You're listening to American Ground Radio with Louis R. Avallone and Stephen Parr. This is the full show for November 17, 2025. 0:30 We dive into President Trump’s newly floated idea of a $2,000 “tariff dividend” for Americans earning under $100,000—and the heated debate it’s sparked. We break down the real numbers behind U.S. tariff revenues, the crushing weight of a $38 trillion national debt, and why handing out checks may feel good politically but won’t fix decades of fiscal irresponsibility. We explore who this proposal is aimed at, the working-class voters both parties are fighting to win back, and whether this is genuine relief or just another election-year strategy. 9:30 Plus, we cover the Top 3 Things You Need to Know. The Federal Aviation Administration lifted all restrictions on flights, airlines and airports over the weekend that were put in place during the Government Lockdown. Interim Director of FEMA David Richardson resigned Monday morning. Democrat Senator John Fetterman released a picture of himself on social media over the weekend, showing the bruising and scarring on his face after he took a fall on Friday. 12:30 Get Prodovite Plus from Victory Nutrition International for 20% off. Go to vni.life/agr and use the promo code AGR20. 13:30 We break down President Trump’s call for a full, no-holds-barred congressional vote to release every remaining Epstein file—and why the timing matters. We discuss Democrats’ attempts to weaponize selectively released emails, the media’s eagerness to push a narrative, and why even those emails ultimately undercut the left’s accusations rather than support them. The hosts explore Trump’s reasoning for demanding total transparency, including his belief that dragging out the Epstein saga has become yet another political distraction—“Russia hoax 3.0”—aimed at diverting voters from Democratic failures on the border, inflation, and public safety. 16:30 American Mamas respond to a listener’s question: “Why are you enforcing your beauty standards on Black women and forcing them to straighten their hair?” The discussion centers on recent comments from former First Lady Michelle Obama, who suggested at a public event that Black women often straighten their hair to conform to white beauty standards. The Mamas question whether hair maintenance is a racial issue or something all women deal with. And they point out that Michelle Obama has the right and platform to wear her hair however she wants, noting that she's been highly praised by media and public audiences. If you'd like to ask our American Mamas a question, go to our website, AmericanGroundRadio.com/mamas and click on the Ask the Mamas button. 23:00 Under Trump, the U.S. didn’t enter any new wars—unlike past administrations that oversaw conflicts in Iraq, Libya, and beyond. Trump’s foreign-policy wins, from the historic Abraham Accords to renewed regional cooperation in the Middle East, even citing Kazakhstan’s recent involvement as a sign of growing diplomatic momentum. 24:00 We sit down with three special guests from Ukraine—Alla Yatsentsuk, her son Daniello, and advocate Katya Pavlich—to share a firsthand account of Russia’s forced deportation of Ukrainian children. Alla recounts the terrifying moment Russian forces occupied her city and ordered children, including her 12-year-old son, to attend a so-called “rest camp” in Crimea. When the children weren’t returned, Alla learned the truth: the Russians had no intention of sending them home. With the help of the organization Save Ukraine, Alla embarked on a months-long, near-impossible journey to retrieve her child—navigating destroyed infrastructure, occupied territory, and deliberate obstruction from Russian forces. Daniello was one of the fortunate ones. Thousands of Ukrainian children are still missing, with fewer than 2,000 returned out of nearly 20,000 known abductions. Katya, representing Razom for Ukraine, explains how her organization is working to support hospitals, strengthen civil society, combat Russian disinformation, and advocate for abducted children on the world stage. She emphasizes a shared American and Ukrainian value: children are never bargaining chips. Visit razomforukraine.org to learn more. 32:00 Get TrimROX from Victory Nutrition International for 20% off. Go to vni.life/agr and use the promo code AGR20. 32:30 We break down fresh speculation surrounding Senator Ted Cruz and the possibility of a 2028 presidential run. Known for being anything but subtle, Cruz is doing little to quiet the rumors—allowing buzz about his intentions to build. We discuss Cruz’s political instincts, noting he has long kept one eye on his future ambitions. But whether he should run is another question. With JD Vance widely seen as the strongest Republican contender for 2028, we weigh whether Cruz would strengthen or divide the party. 36:00 Plus, Republican states stand by Biblical, pro-life values after the Dobbs decision, and that's a Bright Spot. We break down a new report from Americans United for Life ranking the most—and least—pro-life states in the country. With the Dobbs decision returning the issue to the states, the AUL assessment goes beyond abortion to examine each state's protections for life from conception to natural death, including bioethics, end-of-life care, conscience protections, and the legal status of the unborn. Their findings reveal a stark divide: the top 10 pro-life states—led by Arkansas, Louisiana, and Indiana—are overwhelmingly Republican, while the 10 least protective states, from Oregon to New Mexico, are all governed by Democrats. Stephen and Lewis argue this split highlights the deepest cultural divide in America today. 40:00 We unpack the escalating feud between Rep. Marjorie Taylor Greene and President Trump—a clash that finally erupted publicly over the weekend. Greene’s new slogan, “America First, America Only,” and her attacks on Trump over Israel policy and the Epstein files sparked a forceful response from the former president, who labeled her a “lightweight,” a “traitor,” and even a RINO. Right now Republuicans could be winning everything, but we're attacking one another instead. We've gotta say, "Whoa." 41:30 And we finish off with Michelle and Vaughn Pohl, a couple who decided who nearly doubled the size of their family when they decided to adopt four children in need. When the family's car broke down, and Secret Santa stepped in to help the family showing that the Christmas Spirit is alive and well. Follow us: americangroundradio.com Facebook: facebook.com / AmericanGroundRadio Instagram: instagram.com/americangroundradioSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome to Part 2 of November's Football Terrorists show, 1865's irreverent review of events at the City Ground. In this episode, we hear from an Everton fan with thoughts on Dycheball, explore why Igor Jesus is different in the cups, and decide who is getting what in the City Ground Secret Santa. Hosted by Rich Ferraro with the Maradona of the Midlands, with panellists Steven Toplis, Tom Newton and Baz. Guest appearance by Adam from The Call of Everton channel. We'll be back in your feeds this week with our Steve Chettle interview! Subscribe to 1865: The ORIGINAL Nottingham Forest Podcast via your podcast provider, and please leave a review, as it helps other Forest supporters find our content: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Join us on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠X⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Bluesky⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Threads⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. 1865: The Nottingham Forest Podcast is part of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Sports Social Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and partnered with ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FanHub⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week on The School Runway, Cara and Bronagh dive headfirst into the festive season — in matching personalised pyjamas, of course. Fresh from the Space NK Christmas event, the girls unwrap their beauty goody bags and chat through their favourite finds, from engraved perfume bottles and luxury candles to cult skincare and glowy makeup.There's also plenty of sparkle off the beauty counter, including velvet tailoring, Secret Santas, the importance of cuticle oil, and why Father Christmas is the only acceptable name. Plus, Cara takes us behind the scenes of her Dubai holiday — from KidZania chaos and desert BBQs to 4x4 dune drives.And yes, Cara used to work in a circus. With a snake. Called Rick.Whether you're after Christmas gifting ideas or just a cosy listen on the school run, this episode is pure festive joy.Highlights include:Space NK beauty haul and Christmas gifting ideasSkincare simplified: Inkey List's genius packagingCara's Dubai family holiday adventuresJoe Browns press trip and Afghan coat loveCircus pasts, fire breathing, and Love Island introsNew episodes every week — hit follow and leave a review if you're enjoying the show!Connect with The School Runway Podcast:Instagram: @schoolrunwaypodLeave us a voice note: https://sayhi.chat/oeks4Don't forget to leave us a review on Apple Podcasts & Spotify! x Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The silly season is here! But, of course, so are the ongoing bills and cost of living crunch. In this festive episode, Jennie and Liv tackle one of the toughest challenges of the year: how to enjoy Christmas without blowing the budget. They share some practical, creative ideas for saving money, setting expectations with family, and finding fun in over summer even when times are tough.This episode covers: • How to set realistic expectations with friends and whānau around Christmas spending • Creative ways to save money on food, gifts, and decorations • Potluck dinners, Secret Santas and DIY gifts that still feel special • Reframing the guilt around money and celebrating what really matters • Why it's okay to focus on “now” instead of “later” when times are toughResources mentioned in this episode:- Simplicity KiwiSaver & Investment Funds – gift a KiwiSaver or investment fund contribution this Christmas: https://simplicity.kiwi/gifting-funds- Auckland Council – Movies & Music in Parks (free local experiences): aucklandcouncil.govt.nz- City Mission Christmas Appeals – donate food or gifts: aucklandcitymission.org.nzChristmas doesn't have to mean chaos - or credit card debt. We're here to remind you that joy doesn't come from spending big, but from connection, creativity, and community. Whether it's a kindness advent calendar, a thrifted Secret Santa, or simply a beach breakfast in your togs and PJs, there are plenty of ways to make the season special (and stress-free) on any budget.---Please help us share the good word (and make Kiwis richer and smarter with money) - the more we grow, the more good we can do %) Don't forget to follow, subscribe and rate the podcast if you found it useful!Find us: InstagramFacebookLinkedInDisclaimer: This podcast contains personal opinions and is intended to provide educational information only. It doesn't relate to your particular financial situation or goals and is not financial advice or recommendations. Simplicity New Zealand Limited is the issuer of the Simplicity KiwiSaver scheme and investment funds. For product disclosure statements please visit Simplicity's website simplicity. kiwi.

In this episode, the guys discuss various topics including recent card releases, listener engagement through giveaways, and the upcoming Secret Santa event. They delve into significant hobby news, including Panini's strategic options and Beckett's legal victory, while also addressing the controversial topic of shill bidding. The episode concludes with a fun challenge related to patch pyramids, encouraging listener participation. Chapters 00:00 Reflecting on Five Years of Broadcasting 02:22 Health Updates and Personal Anecdotes 03:11 Show Announcements and Podcast Updates 05:26 eBay Affiliate Program and Listener Engagement 08:57 Weekly Raffle and Card Highlights 11:39 Listener Voicemail and Community Interaction 17:27 Discussion on Baseball and Fan Dynamics 21:24 The Impact of Cheating in Sports 25:40 The Joy of Secret Santa in the Hobby 26:14 Panini's Strategic Moves in the Market 30:38 Beckett's Legal Battles and Fraud Concerns 35:05 Controversy Over Shill Bidding in the Hobby 50:39 Auction vs. Fixed Price Listings 53:16 Patch Pyramid Challenge Introduction 01:02:54 Ranking Jersey Patches 01:05:10 Wedding Stories and Reflections   Check Out Our Other Content:  New Product Releases with Mrs. Doc - Every Wednesday

Gugs Mhlungu speaks to Debbie McCrystal, Founder of Conscious kids and life coach for kids how we can teach kids the value of gifting this festive season and how these lessons can inspire gratitude and generosity. 702 Weekend Breakfast with Gugs Mhlungu is broadcast on 702, a Johannesburg based talk radio station, on Saturdays and Sundays Gugs Mhlungu gets you ready for the weekend each Saturday and Sunday morning on 702. She is your weekend wake-up companion, with all you need to know for your weekend. The topics Gugs covers range from lifestyle, family, health, and fitness to books, motoring, cooking, culture, and what is happening on the weekend in 702land. Thank you for listening to a podcast from 702 Weekend Breakfast with Gugs Mhlungu. Listen live on Primedia+ on Saturdays and Sundays from 06:00 and 10:00 (SA Time) to Weekend Breakfast with Gugs Mhlungu broadcast on 702 https://buff.ly/gk3y0Kj For more from the show go to https://buff.ly/u3Sf7Zy or find all the catch-up podcasts here https://buff.ly/BIXS7AL Subscribe to the 702 daily and weekly newsletters https://buff.ly/v5mfetc Follow us on social media: 702 on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TalkRadio702 702 on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@talkradio702 702 on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/talkradio702/ 702 on X: https://x.com/Radio702 702 on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@radio702 See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Topics discussed on this week's #FlashbackFriday episode from 2016 include: Steve and Kyle's Secret Santa details An update on the new APS Craigslist sales Hipster farmers and concert babies Oregon's first revenge porn conviction Kyle's Comcast frustration The Fast 5 And more! Follow us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Bluesky! Get show merch here! Please review the show wherever you download podcasts! Wanna send something? The Steve and Kyle Podcast P.O. Box 371 Hudsonville, MI 49426 Opening music: "Malt Shop Bop" by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/ Closing music: "Pulse" by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/ TAGS: funny, friends, family, kids, comedy, talk radio, talk, radio, pop culture, music, food, garage, sports, relationships, viral videos, social media, politics, fbhw, free beer and hot wings

This week on NasCardRadio, Val and Logan are joined by Mike Norman, the man behind Rip-It Racing Breaks, for one of the most entertaining roundtables in the racing card hobby! From dirt track roots and collecting connections to how “pick your driver” breaks really work, Mike pulls back the curtain on why NASCAR cards offer something unique for every collector. Discover: How Mike started breaking, the legend of the duct tape phone stand, and his most memorable monster hit Deep dive into differences between NASCAR and other sports card breaks — and what makes race-used memorabilia so special Hot takes on certified, mid-level sets, Victory Lane nostalgia, and what Panini should bring back Most in-demand drivers, the rise of Connor Zilisch downtowns, and why Danica, Tony Breidinger, and Haley Deegan are always on collectors' radars Facebook group strategies, fair break rules, and how to get in on the Secret Santa hobby swap A full King's Court recap — rare auctions, wild booklets, patch autos, and that holy grail Dale Earnhardt card Exclusive community news, hobby shout outs, Spellbound Word of the Week, and merch you actually want to wear! Whether you're into eBay steals, high-end case hits, vintage press-pass, or would just like to know why secret Santa is a must in 2025 — this is the episode you can't miss. Leave a comment, share your favorite product, and get your Racing Card Hall of Fame nominations in by month's end. Thanks to Panini America and our awesome listeners. Until next time, happy collecting! #NASCARcards #ripitracingbreaks #racingcards #panini #tradingcards #casehit #breakers #NASCAR #collectables #hobbytalk

You’re ready to start investing… and then someone suggests borrowing money to make your portfolio grow faster. It sounds genius in theory, but is it actually a smart move? This week we’re unpacking the financial advice one community member received about doing just that, and Victoria breaks down how these loans really work, why the maths can be seductive, and the little thing called a “margin call” that can throw your whole plan into chaos.Then we switch gears into Christmas gifting season, which is currently giving drama. Someone asked for a $300 birthday present. Gift cards are in their controversial era. And half of you are quietly switching to Secret Santa because December is expensive enough already. If you’re feeling gifting guilt creeping in, this chat will help you set boundaries without losing your festive cheer.Thanks to OnePass for sponsoring todays episode! Nab your discounted membership here.Want to learn how to invest (or just get your money sorted)? Our Bundle Sale is live! Up to 30% off our most-loved courses and tools, to help you feel clear, confident, and in control. Check it out here. Need the team’s take on your money dilemma? Send us a voicemail here.Or if it's more of a spicy money drama and you want the communities verdict? Slide into our DMs here. Ready for more laughs, lessons, and unhinged money chats? Check out our oh-so-bingeable Friday Drinks playlist. Listen here. Join our 400K+ She's on the Money community in our Facebook Group and on Instagram. Acknowledgement of Country By Nartarsha Bamblett aka Queen Acknowledgements.*OnePass T&Cs, exclusions apply. Offer ends 11.59pm AEDT 01 December 2025, $40 per year thereafter unless cancelled, offer not available to current members. Savings calculated on average delivery fees for eligible items or orders below minimum spend thresholds across participating brands Kmart, Target, Officeworks, Priceline and Bunnings Warehouse. 365 day change of mind returns to the participating OnePass retailer purchased from, along with receipt, already offered to all customers at Bunnings Warehouse. You may have additional rights under the Australian Consumer Law. See each participating brands’ website for further details. The advice shared on She's On The Money is general in nature and does not consider your individual circumstances. She's On The Money exists purely for educational purposes and should not be relied upon to make an investment or financial decision. If you do choose to buy a financial product, read the PDS, TMD and obtain appropriate financial advice tailored towards your needs. Victoria Devine and She's On The Money are authorised representatives of Money Sherpa PTY LTD ABN - 321649 27708, AFSL - 451289.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

-Episode 116- This week Bryan talks about Secret Santa, retail during the holidays and paint distractions. 

On today's show, Jase has summer sorted, Mike's a strict secret Santa and Keyzie hates money. TIME-CONSCIOUS:(00:00) Intro: 3 Punch Combo(03:58) The Kids V Keyzie(09:12) The Kids V You (13:40) Secret Santa on the Big Show(18:10) Telly Time(22:21) Intro: Reburger Report(24:52) Improv Returns(28:32) The winning ticket(32:48) Summer Camping with Jizz(35:44) Cricket Chat(38:48) Intro: MOIST(40:55) What's On The Dinner?(45:11) The Fox Club(48:39) MEATPATTYNIPS69(52:07) Bye! Follow The Big Show on Instagram Subscribe to the podcast now on iHeartRadio, YouTube, or wherever you get your podcasts!Featuring Jason Hoyte, Mike Minogue, and Keyzie, "The Big Show" drive you home weekdays from 4pm on Radio Hauraki.Providing a hilarious escape from reality for those ‘backbone’ New Zealanders with plenty of laughs and out-the-gate yarns.Download the full podcast here:iHeartRadioAppleSpotifySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What can Dave get a guy he barely knows for Secret Santa? We find out the results of Emma's boxing-nickname-poll and Emma just wants to be on her phone!

Tessa Stoneman hasn't been able to get long-time friend and business partner Nicholas Boone out of her head since they shared a single kiss in college. Even when she dated Nicholas's best friend. Now that she's giving up her position at GameNerdz to strike out on her own—and now that she's single—maybe it's the right time to see if there's still something between them. Nicholas knows once Tessa leaves the company she helped found, they might drift apart. Before she starts her own company in the new year, he wants to woo the woman he fell in love with during college. So he poses as her Secret Santa, gifts her with items from the song “Santa Baby,” and plans a big reveal at the company holiday party. But when his best friend wants to rekindle his romance with Tessa, will Nicholas lose his last chance? Tessa Stoneman's been lowkey obsessed with her business partner, Nicholas Boone, since they shared a one kiss in college. Fast forward to now: she's single, leaving her job at GameNerdz, and wondering if it's time to finally see if there's still something there… Enter Nicholas. He's been in love with her since forever, and he's got one shot to make her his—posing as her Secret Santa, sending her gifts straight out of Santa Baby. But wait… her ex (and his best friend) is back and wants a second chance. Will Nicholas win her over at the company holiday party—or lose her for good? This Christmas the geek finally gets the girl… Secret Santa Baby is a second-chance, friends-to-lovers, geek-gets-the-girl romance that is guaranteed to give a little spice, a whole lot of Santa, and a happily-ever-after. Amazon: https://bit.ly/4hISvKt ♥ ♥ ♥ RMR Patreon: https://bit.ly/48uPxqg AR – Patreon: https://bit.ly/47zzd5F BRAND NEW ALEXA RILEY: https://bit.ly/3h0y68D Other Mentions Willing Prey by Ali Oleander Cowboys of Devil's Ditch Series by Vanessa Vale Chasing Ghosts by Jisa Dean ♥ ♥ ♥ RMR Website: https://bit.ly/3ifFIyw Weekly New Release: https://bit.ly/30iDete Follow Read Me Romance on Instagram: https://geni.us/uUVdVeY Join Read Me Romance Headquarters on FB: https://geni.us/IdL7B

On today’s show: Ben explains why he was carrying a stunt dummy at dawn Megan admits Formula 1 has taken over her personality… and shares a very unexpected dream! The office Secret Santa saga continues – who’s still holding last year’s gift hostage? We hear your WORST gifts ever (spoiler: one was literally a lemon). The Mariah Carey game goes international – we chat with a Canadian radio host about avoiding that song. Who’s most trusted to babysit kids? The office votes spark chaos. SailGP stars Blair Tuke & Leo Takahashi join us to talk 100km/h crashes and boat names. Megan claims credit for Liam Lawson’s new nickname “Minister of Defence.” Plus, we celebrate your little wins (and Ben’s vacuum warranty victory) Instagram: @THEHITSBREAKFASTFacebook: The Hits Breakfast with Jono, Ben & MeganSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, the guys discuss their excitement for the Dodgers' World Series run, share their recent mail days, and announce the upcoming Secret Santa event for listeners. They delve into grading updates, highlighting trends in card collecting, and explore the innovative Arena Club platform for digital card trading. The conversation emphasizes the community aspect of card collecting and the joy of attending live sports events. In this engaging conversation, the hosts reflect on their experiences at the World Series, sharing nostalgic moments, the challenges of attending games, and the emotional rollercoaster of being a fan. They discuss the significance of family bonds in sports fandom, the impact of cheating scandals on their love for baseball, and how these experiences have reignited their passion for the game. The conversation also delves into what drives their card collections, emphasizing nostalgia, community, and the evolving nature of fandom. CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction and Show Announcements 02:56 Mail Days and Recent Purchases 05:53 Secret Santa Announcement 09:53 Hobby News and Grading Updates 16:00 Arena Club Discussion 23:45 The Future of Card Collecting 29:19 Experiencing the World Series 30:14 Dodger Game Adventures 34:44 Game Day Experiences 43:50 Post-Game Reflections and Insights 50:25 The Ultimate Walking Taco Experience 51:24 Game Six Glory: Dodgers vs. Blue Jays 52:42 The Thrill of Game Seven 54:19 The Dark Side of Fandom 56:20 Heartbreak and Cheating: The Astros Controversy 01:00:11 Rediscovering the Love for Baseball 01:06:25 What Drives Our Collections? 01:17:20 The Evolution of Collecting  

In this lively season finale, we unwrap the chaos and charm of the Christmas retail season. Kicking off right after Halloween, we reflect on everything from giant spiders and creepy gingerbread men to the very first signs of Christmas fever. With years of experience in buying seasonal products, we share insider tips, stories, and laughs about when to put up the tree, the latest in festive home décor, and the ever-evolving trends in pumpkins, ghosts, and sustainable Christmas goodies.The episode dives into the art (and occasional chaos) of Christmas decorating whether at home or in the office and explores retailer strategies for Black Friday, Christmas, and beyond. We discuss themed Christmas ranges, the importance of novelty “press pieces,” and the sustainable challenges that come with the season, from glitter to recycled crackers and the push for longer-lasting products. Along the way, we share top tips for buying and planning seasonal ranges, the advent calendar craze, and the debate over experience gifts versus “stuff.” Of course, no Christmas chat would be complete without a few favorite Christmas stories, product mishaps, and the joys (and occasional pains) of Secret Santa because there's nothing quite like organised fun in the office at Christmas.Whether you're a retail insider or simply love the magic of the season, this episode is packed with trends, practical advice, and plenty of festive cheer. It's the perfect way to prepare for the busiest retail period of the year and to make sure your Christmas ranges hit the mark (this year, and next!)Key Takeaways:Christmas buying requires careful planning - timing, trends, and novelty all play a critical role in seasonal success.Sustainability is increasingly important: small choices, like recycled packaging and longer-lasting products, can make a big difference.Experience matters - creating memorable displays, themed ranges, and engaging “press pieces” helps products stand out in a crowded market.Support the showIf you've liked this episode please rate, follow, subscribe and share :) - and if you already have, thank you!Follow us @buyingandbeyond on Instagram Send us a DM or email hello@buyingandbeyond.co.uk Find out more about us www.buyingandbeyond.co.uk If you'd like to show a little more love, then head here to give us just a little bit *extra* and show us your support :) thank you! https://www.buzzsprout.com/2300060/support

Laura Dern's mother, Diane Ladd, famous from tv show 'Alice,' has passed away. Former Vice President Dick Cheney is dead at 84, as is Donna Jean, a former member of The Grateful Dead. Would a pony make a good Secret Santa present? Pink pork is apparently back! Plus, the truth about the pledge of allegiance and smoke detectors.

Laura Dern's mother, Diane Ladd, famous from tv show ‘Alice,' has passed away. Former Vice President Dick Cheney is dead at 84, as is Donna Jean, a former member of The Grateful Dead. Would a pony make a good Secret Santa present? Pink pork is apparently back! Plus, the truth about the pledge of allegiance and smoke detectors. ‘Squid Games: The Challenge' is back, and the prize is actually life changing money. Is cattiness a natural part of being a young woman? Jon Stewart has renewed for another year, once per week. Freedom of speech isn't dead yet! Charlie Sheen clarifies his relationship. Jennifer Aniston has gone public with her hypnotist boyfriend. A man gets fired after his distasteful Halloween costume. Matty reveals more troubling information from his past. Is there a reason behind the Millie Bobby Brown David Harbour allegations coming out now? People's Sexiest Man of the Year was announced, and Sarah and Bob are here for it! Macaulay Culkin reprises his role in Home Alone for a witty and nostalgic commercial. Justin Baldoni's lawsuit is officially dead. Amazon and Walmart are offering great deals for holiday dinners this year. Work relationships are dicey - especially if one of the parties is YOUR BOSS. Fostering curiosity in your kids is important, but it's exhausting after the 40th question of the day. Justin Bieber is focused 100% on Coachella - don't expect a tour. Are young people soft, or do they know better than to burnout? Lil Jon is turning bangers into meditative soundscapes. Good news might be hiding in your mom's attic! Do we spend too much time on our phones in front of our kids? Plus, how old is that guy?

The holidays should feel warm and human, not like a budgeting panic. We sat down with Casey Messer to unpack how to enjoy a generous, memorable season without waking up to a January bill spiral. From setting a clear, per-person budget to automating weekly transfers into a dedicated holiday fund, we walk through practical steps that calm the mind and protect your money.We start with planning that works even if you're late to the party: build a simple list, put numbers beside names, and track what you've already bought with photos or a quick spreadsheet. Then we move into smarter tools—goal-based budgeting, category alerts, and transaction tags—so you see spending in real time instead of guessing. Casey shares why experiences often beat piles of gifts, how a well-run Secret Santa creates intention, and where traditions like matching pajamas can be fun without the annual cost creep.Money stress often rises as the calendar fills, so we reset the mindset too. Define what the season means to you and let that guide choices about events, hosting, and gifts. If you've already overspent, skip the shame spiral and try a no-spend January while you set up next year's plan. We also cover the hidden costs between now and December—groceries, travel, and parties—and how to stagger purchases to avoid last-minute premiums. With Centric's mobile app, you can connect accounts, set budgets, tag holiday spending, and get nudges that help you stay on track.Ready to trade excess for meaning and build a holiday that actually fits your life? Press play, save your favorites, and share this episode with a friend who needs a calm, clear plan. If you found value, follow Live Better, rate the show, and leave a quick review to help others find us.

Sign up for the FREE Masterclass- How to Build a 7-Figure Group Practice → https://mccancemethod.com/webinar-free-masterclass-from-solo-to-superteam/ In this episode, I'm sharing all the juicy updates to my Holiday Party Playbook for 2025! Whether you're planning a cozy get-together, a budget-friendly potluck, or a fun night out with your team, I've got tips to help you celebrate in style. I'm giving you the exact steps to create meaningful connection, thoughtful touches, and memories your team will love.Make sure to bring your paper and pen because this episode is full of actionable tips!Here are some key points in this episode:[01:38] Why I created the Holiday Party Playbook and what's new in the 2025 version[05:41] How I make a restaurant party more dynamic with chair swaps and Secret Santa[09:17] The thoughtful gifts and surprise joy of Secret Santa using Elfster[13:26] Budgeting tips for every stage of business[21:30] Ideas for in-person and virtual holiday parties that actually build team connection[24:15] How to grab your free copy of the 2025 Holiday Party Playbook via Instagram DMLinks From The Episode:Elfster for Secret Santa → https://www.elfster.com/Want the 2025 Holiday Party Playbook? DM me @nicole.mccancemethod on Instagram with the words “Holiday Playbook” and I will send it right your way. Click here: https://www.instagram.com/nicole.mccancemethodFollow me on Instagram, @nicole.mccanncemethod. If this episode provided you with value and inspiration, please leave a review and DM to let me know. Click here: https://www.instagram.com/nicole.mccancemethod

Marcus kicks off the short week with talk on fireworks, power cut preparedness, and the dirge that is the office Secret Santa... LISTEN ABOVE See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Bryan Barrett talks with Karista Colwell and Presley Hosford with the Child Advocacy Center about the upcoming Turkey Tee Off Golf Tournament and Secret Santa.

Kelly and Lizz are still trying to get used to the news schedule and not talking about ‘Dancing with the Stars' every week. At least they'll have then highlights to devour on social media. Could one of the reasons they are so into the show is because they aren't dancers themselves? This leads the ladies into a discussion of the trauma they faced being tall girls in high school and sharing some very specific stories that left them scared. It was a party weekend for both Kelly and Lizz. Lizz went to her sourdough party and it was one of the most thoughtful parties she had ever been to. Kelly went to a fall party and enjoyed specialty sangrias and crafts. Moving on to a kid's party, it was Hattie's birthday and Kelly shared all the hacks she had to put together the perfect party. This week's advice questions all have to do with Christmas and buying presents for the kids. First, what to do when there are a lot of kid's in the family. Do you buy for each of them or try and do a Secret Santa? Plus, what are Kelly and Lizz's rules when it comes to the amount of presents they get their kid's for Christmas?   Industry News is light this week, but the Car Mom is busier than ever! They've got a new BMW vs. Mercedes comparison video you'll want to check out. In Ditch the Drive-Thru, Crocktober continues with a recipe for Jamaican pork with rice. Finally, Kelly and Lizz share the stories of the babies taken too soon in Blake's Besties. Today's episode is brought to you by ⁠⁠Clean Simple Eats⁠⁠. Use code 'Carpool20' at checkout to get 20% off your order and free shipping. ⁠⁠CleanSimpleEats.com

Wat is er nog leuker dan kerst? Secret Santa! Uitgegeven door Lind & Co Spreker: Judith Amsenga

Welcome to a look into how we do our admin - on today's agenda: organise the Secret Santa, and decide what we want to dress as for Halloween. Two VERY important decisions. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to another episode of The Witching Hour Podcast! Tonight we have Adam Marcus joining us to discuss the upcoming release of Hearts OF Darkness, the Jason Goes To Hell documentary. Adam has always been one of my favorite filmmakers (Secret Santa is one of my all time favs) and is so much fun to interview! We discuss, Jason Goes to Hell, covid, and Mental Health. This is a show you are not going to want to miss!!thanks as always for stopping by, be sure to subscribe while your here!

What do Kringlefest, a town-wide Secret Santa, and a letter that was never received have in common?We're back to recap and review another fan favorite from the Hallmark vault and we've got another special guest! This time, Cousin Chad from the Christmas Cousins Podcast joins us to gab about one of his all time favorites, Hallmark's 'Small Town Christmas'!Will we agree it's worth the watch? Check out our 'Gold or Coal' segment to find out! And -- of course -- we want to hear from you. Let us know in the comments what you thought about this one, and connect with us on our social media channels for everything to get you good to go for the upcoming 'Countdown to Christmas' season! We're online at www.DoYouWatchWhatIWatch.com!And -- as always -- may your days be merry and bright!

Had the pleasure of speaking with former WWE and WCW star Jimmy Yang! On episode 232, we discussed his childhood, getting into wrestling, training, how the Jimmy Wang Yang character came about, participating in Secret Santa events, his new book Yun's Time, and more. Get a copy of Jimmy's new book here: https://www.jazzyyang.com/products/james-yun-yun-s-time Are you a pro wrestler and have done community service and/or charity work? E-mail the podcast at wrestlingwithheart@yahoo.com and tell us if you would be interested in being interviewed. Follow us on:Facebook: Wrestling with Heart with Stanley Karr Bluesky: @wrestlingwithheart.bsky.social Instagram: @wrestlingwithheart Threads: @wrestlingwithheart Hear Wrestling with Heart on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Hear Wrestling with Heart on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/46cviL5... Hear Wrestling with Heart on iHeartRadio: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-wr... Donate to my Patreon and subscribe to my content here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=84502525 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode, my guest is Stephen Jenkinson, culture activist and ceremonialist advocating a handmade life and eloquence. He is an author, a storyteller, a musician, sculptor and off-grid organic farmer. Stephen is the founder/ principal instructor of the Orphan Wisdom School in Canada, co-founded with his wife Nathalie Roy in 2010. Also a sought-after workshop leader, articulating matters of the heart, human suffering, confusions through ceremony.He is the author of several influential books, including Money and the Soul's Desires, Die Wise: A Manifesto for Sanity and Soul (2015), Come of Age: The Case for Elderhood in a Time of Trouble (2018), A Generation's Worth: Spirit Work While the Crisis Reigns (2021), and Reckoning (2022), co-written with Kimberly Ann Johnson. His most recent book, Matrimony: Ritual, Culture, and the Heart's Work, was released in August 2025. He is also involved in the musical project Nights of Grief & Mystery with singer-songwriter Gregory Hoskins, which has toured across North America, Europe, Australia, and New Zealand.Show Notes:* The Bone House of the Orphan Wisdom Enterprise* Matrimony: Ritual, Culture and the Heart's Work* The Wedding Industry* Romantic Sameness and Psychic Withering* The Two Tribes* The Roots of Hospitality* The Pompous Ending of Hospitality* Debt, And the Estrangement of the Stranger* More Than Human Hospitality* The Alchemy of the Orphan Wisdom SchoolHomework:Matrimony: Ritual, Culture, and the Heart's Work | PurchaseOrphan WisdomThe Scriptorium: Echoes of an Orphan WisdomTranscription:Chris: This is an interview that I've been wondering about for a long time in part, because Stephen was the first person I ever interviewed for the End of Tourism Podcast. In Oaxaca, Mexico, where I live Stephen and Natalie were visiting and were incredibly, incredibly generous. Stephen, in offering his voice as a way to raise up my questions to a level that deserve to be contended with.We spoke for about two and a half hours, if I remember correctly. And there was a lot in what you spoke to towards the second half of the interview that I think we're the first kind of iterations of the Matrimony book.We spoke a little bit about the stranger and trade, and it was kind of startling as someone trying to offer their first interview and suddenly hearing something [00:01:00] that I'd never heard before from Stephen. Right. And so it was quite impressive. And I'm grateful to be here now with y'all and to get to wonder about this a little more deeply with you Stephen.Stephen: Mm-hmm. Hmm.Chris: This is also a special occasion for the fact that for the first time in the history of the podcast, we have a live audience among us today. Strange doings. Some scholars and some stewards and caretakers of the Orphan Wisdom enterprise. So, thank you all as well for coming tonight and being willing to listen and put your ears to this.And so to begin, Stephen, I'm wondering if you'd be willing to let those who will be listening to this recording later on know where we're gathered in tonight?Stephen: Well, we're in... what's the name of this township?Nathalie: North Algona.Stephen: North Algona township on the borders, an eastern gate [00:02:00] of Algonquin Park. Strangely named place, given the fact that they were the first casualties of the park being established. And we're in a place that never should have been cleared - my farm. It should never have been cleared of the talls, the white pines that were here, but the admiralty was in need back in the day. And that's what happened there. And we're in a place that the Irish immigrants who came here after the famine called "Tramore," which more or less means "good-frigging luck farming."It doesn't technically mean that, but it absolutely means that. It actually means "sandy shore," which about covers the joint, and it's the only thing that covers the joint - would be sand. You have to import clay. Now, that's a joke in many farming places in the world, but if we wanted any clay, we'd have to bring it in and pay for the privilege.And the farm has been in [00:03:00] my, my responsibility for about 25 years now, pretty close to that. And the sheep, or those of them left because the coyotes have been around for the first time in their casualty-making way... They're just out here, I'm facing the field where they're milling around.And it's the very, very beginnings of the long cooling into cold, into frigid, which is our lot in this northern part of the hemisphere, even though it's still August, but it's clear that things have changed. And then, we're on a top of a little hill, which was the first place that I think that we may have convened a School here.It was a tipi, which is really worked very well considering we didn't live here, so we could put it up and put it down in the same weekend. [00:04:00] And right on this very hill, we were, in the early days, and we've replaced that tipi with another kind of wooden structure. A lot more wood in this one.This has been known as "The Teaching Hall" or "The Great Hall," or "The Hall" or "The Money Pit, as it was known for a little while, but it actually worked out pretty well. And it was I mean, people who've come from Scandinavia are knocked out by the kind of old-style, old-world visitation that the place seems to be to them.And I'd never really been before I had the idea what this should look like, but I just went from a kind of ancestral memory that was knocking about, which is a little different than your preferences, you know. You have different kinds of preferences you pass through stylistically through your life, but the ones that lay claim to you are the ones that are not interested in your [00:05:00] preferences. They're interested in your kind of inheritance and your lineage.So I'm more or less from the northern climes of Northern Europe, and so the place looks that way and I was lucky enough to still have my carving tools from the old days. And I've carved most of the beams and most of the posts that keep the place upright with a sort of sequence of beasts and dragons and ne'er-do-wells and very, very few humans, I think two, maybe, in the whole joint. Something like that. And then, mostly what festoons a deeply running human life is depicted here. And there's all kinds of stories, which I've never really sat down and spoken to at great length with anybody, but they're here.And I do deeply favour the idea that one day [00:06:00] somebody will stumble into this field, and I suppose, upon the remains of where we sit right now, and wonder "What the hell got into somebody?" That they made this mountain of timber moldering away, and that for a while what must have been, and when they finally find the footprint of, you know, its original dimensions and sort of do the wild math and what must have been going on in this sandy field, a million miles in away from its home.And wherever I am at that time, I'll be wondering the same thing.Audience: Hmm.Stephen: "What went on there?" Even though I was here for almost all of it. So, this was the home of the Orphan Wisdom School for more than a decade and still is the home of the Orphan Wisdom School, even if it's in advance, or in retreat [00:07:00] or in its doldrums. We'll see.And many things besides, we've had weddings in here, which is wherein I discovered "old-order matrimony," as I've come to call it, was having its way with me in the same way that the design of the place did. And it's also a grainery for our storage of corn. Keep it up off the ground and out of the hands of the varmints, you know, for a while.Well that's the beginning.Chris: Hmm. Hmm. Thank you Stephen.Stephen: Mm-hmm.Chris: You were mentioning the tipi where the school began. I remember sleeping in there the first time I came here. Never would I have thought for a million years that I'd be sitting here with you.Stephen: It's wild, isn't it?Chris: 12 years later.?: Yeah.Chris: And so next, I'd like to do my best in part over the course of the next perhaps hour or two to congratulate you on the release of [00:08:00] your new book, Matrimony: Ritual, Culture, and the Heart's Work.Stephen: Thank you.Chris: Mm-hmm. I'm grateful to say like many others that I've received a copy and have lent my eyes to your good words, and what is really an incredible achievement.For those who haven't had a chance to lay their eyes on it just yet, I'm wondering if you could let us in on why you wrote a book about matrimony in our time and where it stands a week out from its publication.Stephen: Well, maybe the answer begins with the question, "why did you write a book, having done so before?" And you would imagine that the stuff that goes into writing a book, you'd think that the author has hopes for some kind of redemptive, redeeming outcome, some kind of superlative that drops out the back end of the enterprise.And you know, this is [00:09:00] the seventh I've written. And I would have to say that's not really how it goes, and you don't really know what becomes of what you've written, even with the kind people who do respond, and the odd non-monetary prize that comes your way, which Die Wise gamed that.But I suppose, I wrote, at all partly to see what was there. You know, I had done these weddings and I was a little bit loathe to let go, to let the weddings turn entirely into something historical, something that was past, even though I probably sensed pretty clearly that I was at the end of my willingness to subject myself to the slings and arrows that came along with the enterprise, but it's a sweet sorrow, or there's a [00:10:00] wonder that goes along with the tangle of it all. And so, I wrote to find out what happened, as strange as that might sound to you. You can say, "well, you were there, you kind of knew what happened." But yes, I was witness to the thing, but there's the act of writing a book gives you the opportunity to sort of wonder in three-dimensions and well, the other thing I should say is I was naive and figured that the outfit who had published the, more or less prior two books to this one, would kind of inevitably be drawn to the fact that same guy. Basically, same voice, new articulation. And I was dumbfounded to find out that they weren't. And so, it's sort of smarted, you know?And I think what I did was I just set the whole [00:11:00] enterprise aside, partly to contend with the the depths of the disappointment in that regard, and also not wanting to get into the terrible fray of having to parse or paraphrase the book in some kind of elevator pitch-style to see if anybody else wanted to look at it. You know, such as my touchy sense of nobility sometimes, you know, that I just rather not be involved in the snarl of the marketplace any longer.So, I withdrew and I just set it aside but it wasn't that content to be set, set aside. And you know, to the book's credit, it bothered me every once in a while. It wasn't a book at the point where I was actually trying to engineer it, you know, and, and give it some kind of structure. I had piles of paper on the floor representing the allegation of chapters, trying to figure out what the relationship was [00:12:00] between any of these things.What conceivably should come before what. What the names of any of these things might be. Did they have an identity? Was I just imposing it? And all of that stuff I was going through at the same time as I was contending with a kind of reversal in fortune, personally. And so in part, it was a bit of a life raft to give me something to work on that I wouldn't have to research or dig around in the backyard for it and give me some sort of self-administered occupation for a while.Finally, I think there's a parallel with the Die Wise book, in that when it came to Die Wise, I came up with what I came up with largely because, in their absolute darkest, most unpromising hours, an awful lot of dying people, all of whom are dead now, [00:13:00] let me in on some sort of breach in the, the house of their lives.And I did feel that I had some obligation to them long-term, and that part of that obligation turned into writing Die Wise and touring and talking about that stuff for years and years, and making a real fuss as if I'd met them all, as if what happened is really true. Not just factually accurate, but deeply, abidingly, mandatorily true.So, although it may be the situation doesn't sound as extreme, but the truth is, when a number of younger - than me - people came to me and asked me to do their weddings, I, over the kind of medium-term thereafter, felt a not dissimilar obligation that the events that ensued from all of that not [00:14:00] be entrusted entirely to those relatively few people who attended. You know, you can call them "an audience," although I hope I changed that. Or you could call them "witnesses," which I hope I made them that.And see to it that there could be, not the authorized or official version of what happened, but to the view from here, so to speak, which is, as I sit where I am in the hall right now, I can look at the spot where I conducted much of this when I wasn't sacheting up and down the middle aisle where the trestle tables now are.And I wanted to give a kind of concerted voice to that enterprise. And I say "concerted voice" to give you a feel for the fact that I don't think this is a really an artifact. It's not a record. It's a exhortation that employs the things that happened to suggest that even though it is the way it is [00:15:00] ritually, impoverished as it is in our time and place, it has been otherwise within recoverable time and history. It has.And if that's true, and it is, then it seems to me at least is true that it could be otherwise again. And so, I made a fuss and I made a case based on that conviction.There's probably other reasons I can't think of right now. Oh, being not 25 anymore, and not having that many more books in me, the kind of wear and tear on your psyche of imposing order on the ramble, which is your recollection, which has only so many visitations available in it. Right? You can only do that so many times, I think. And I'm not a born writing person, you know, I come to it maniacally when I [00:16:00] do, and then when it's done, I don't linger over it so much.So then, when it's time to talk about it, I actually have to have a look, because the act of writing it is not the act of reading it. The act of writing is a huge delivery and deliverance at the same time. It's a huge gestation. And you can't do that to yourself, you know, over and over again, but you can take some chances, and look the thing in the eye. So, and I think some people who are there, they're kind of well-intended amongst them, will recognize themselves in the details of the book, beyond "this is what happened and so on." You know, they'll recognize themselves in the advocacy that's there, and the exhortations that are there, and the [00:17:00] case-making that I made and, and probably the praying because there's a good degree of prayerfulness in there, too.That's why.Chris: Thank you. bless this new one in the world. And what's the sense for you?Stephen: Oh, yes.Chris: It being a one-week old newborn. How's that landing in your days?Stephen: Well, it's still damp, you know. It's still squeaky, squeaky and damp. It's walking around like a newborn primate, you know, kind of swaying in the breeze and listening to port or to starboard according to whatever's going on.I don't know that it's so very self-conscious in the best sense of that term, yet. Even though I recorded the audio version, I don't think [00:18:00] it's my voice is found every nook and cranny at this point, yet. So, it's kind of new. It's not "news," but it is new to me, you know, and it's very early in terms of anybody responding to it.I mean, nobody around me has really taken me aside and say, "look, now I want to tell you about this book you wrote." It hasn't happened, and we'll see if it does, but I've done a few events on the other side of the ocean and hear so far, very few, maybe handful of interviews. And those are wonderful opportunities to hear something of what you came up with mismanaged by others, you know, misapprehend, you could say by others.No problem. I mean, it's absolutely no problem. And if you don't want that to happen, don't talk, don't write anything down. So, I don't mind a bit, you know, and the chances are very good that it'll turn into things I didn't have in mind [00:19:00] as people take it up, and regard their own weddings and marriages and plans and schemes and fears and, you know, family mishigas and all the rest of it through this particular lens, you know. They may pick up a pen or a computer (it's an odd expression, "pick up a computer"), and be in touch with me and let me know. "Yeah, that was, we tried it" or whatever they're going to do, because, I mean, maybe Die Wise provided a bit of an inkling of how one might be able to proceed otherwise in their dying time or in their families or their loved ones dying time.This is the book that most readily lends itself to people translating into something they could actually do, without a huge kind of psychic revolution or revolt stirring in them, at least not initially. This is as close as I come, probably, to writing a sequence of things [00:20:00] that could be considered "add-ons" to what people are already thinking about, that I don't force everybody else outta the house in order to make room for the ideas that are in the book. That may happen, anyway, but it wasn't really the intent. The intent was to say, you know, we are in those days when we're insanely preoccupied with the notion of a special event. We are on the receiving end of a considerable number of shards showing up without any notion really about what these shards remember or are memories of. And that's the principle contention I think that runs down the spine of the book, is that when we undertake matrimony, however indelicately, however by rote, you know, however mindlessly we may do it, [00:21:00] inadvertently, we call upon those shards nonetheless.And they're pretty unspectacular if you don't think about them very deeply, like the rice or confetti, like the aisle, like the procession up the aisle, like the giving away of someone, like the seating arrangement, like the spectacle seating arrangement rather than the ritual seating arrangement.And I mean, there's a fistful of them. And they're around and scholars aside maybe, nobody knows why they do them. Everybody just knows, "this is what a wedding is," but nobody knows why. And because nobody knows why, nobody really seems to know what a wedding is for, although they do proceed like they would know a wedding if they saw one. So, I make this a question to be really wondered about, and the shards are a way in. They're the kind of [00:22:00] breadcrumb trail through the forest. They're the little bits of broken something, which if you begin to handle just three or four of them, and kind of fit them together, and find something of the original shape and inflection of the original vessel, kind of enunciates, begins to murmur in your hands, and from it you can begin to infer some three-dimensionality to the original shape. And from the sense of the shape, you get a set sense of contour, and from the sense of contour, you get a sense of scale or size. And from that you get a sense of purpose, or function, or design. And from that you get a sense of some kind of serious magisterial insight into some of the fundament of human being that was manifest in the "old-order matrimony," [00:23:00] as I came to call it.So, who wouldn't wanna read that book?Chris: Mm-hmm.Thank you. Mm-hmm. Thank you, Stephen. Yeah. It reminds me, just before coming up here, maybe two weeks ago, I was in attending a wedding. And there was a host or mc, and initially just given what I was hearing over the microphone, it was hard to tell if he was hired or family or friends. And it turned out he was, in fact, a friend of the groom. And throughout the night he proceeded to take up that role as a kind of comedian.Audience: Mm-hmm.Chris: This was the idea, I guess. Mm-hmm. And he was buzzing and mumbling and swearing into the microphone, [00:24:00] and then finally minimizing the only remnant of traditional culture that showed up in the wedding. And his thing was, okay, so when can we get to the part where it's boom, boom, boom, right. And shot, shot, shot, whatever.Stephen: Right.Chris: There was so much that came up in my memories in part because I worked about a decade in Toronto in the wedding industry.Mm-hmm. Hospitality industry. Maybe a contradiction in terms, there. And there was one moment that really kind of summed it up. I kept coming back to this reading the book because it was everything that you wrote seemed to not only antithetical to this moment, but also an antidote.Anyways, it was in North Toronto and the [00:25:00] owner of the venue - it was a kind of movie theatre turned event venue - and there was a couple who was eventually going to get married there. They came in to do their tasting menu to see what they wanted to put on the menu for the dinner, for their wedding.And the owner was kind of this mafioso type. And he comes in and he sees them and he walks over and he says, "so, you're gonna get married at my wedding factory."Audience: Mm-hmm.Chris: In all sincerity.Stephen: Mm-hmm.Chris: Right.Without skipping a beat. Could you imagine?Stephen: Yeah.I could. I sure could.Chris: Yeah. Yeah.Stephen: I mean, don't forget, if these people weren't doing what the people wanted, they'd be outta business.Audience: Mm-hmm.Stephen: No, that's the thing. This is aiding and abetting. This is sleeping with the enemy, stylistically-speaking. [00:26:00] The fact that people "settle" (that's the term I would use for it), settle for this, the idea being that this somehow constitutes the most honest and authentic through line available to us is just jaw dropping. When you consider what allegedly this thing is supposed to be for. I mean, maybe we'll get into this, but I'll just leave this as a question for now. What is that moment allegedly doing?Not, what are the people in it allegedly doing? The moment itself, what is it? How is it different from us sitting here now talking about it? And how is it different from the gory frigging jet-fuelled aftermath of excess. And how's it different from the cursing alleged master of ceremonies? How can you [00:27:00] tell none of those things belong to this thing?And why do you have such a hard time imagining what doesAudience: Hmm mmChris: Well that leads me to my next question.Stephen: Ah, you're welcome.Chris: So, I've pulled a number of quotes from the book to read from over the course of the interview. And this one for anyone who's listening is on page 150. And you write Stephen,"Spiritually-speaking, most of the weddings in our corner of the world are endogamous affairs, inward-looking. What is, to me, most unnerving is that they can be spiritually-incestuous. The withering of psychic difference between people is the program of globalization. It is in the architecture of most things partaking of the internet, and it is in the homogeneity of our matrimony. [00:28:00] It is this very incestuous that matrimony was once crafted and entered into to avoid and subvert. Now, it grinds upon our differences until they are details.And so, this paragraph reminded me of a time in my youth when I seemed to be meeting couples who very eerily looked like each other. No blood or extended kin relation whatsoever, and yet they had very similar faces. And so as I get older, this kind of face fidelity aside, I continue to notice that people looking for companionship tend to base their search on similitude, on shared interests, customs, experiences, shared anything and everything. This, specifically, in opposition to those on the other side of the aisle or spectrum, to difference or divergence. And so, opposites don't attract anymore. I'm curious what you think this psychic [00:29:00] withering does to an achieve understanding of matrimony.Stephen: Well, I mean, let's wonder what it does to us, generally, first before we get to matrimony, let's say. It demonizes. Maybe that's too strong, but it certainly reconstitutes difference as some kind of affliction, some kind of not quite good enough, some kind of something that has to be overcome or overwhelmed on the road to, to what? On the road to sameness? So, if that's the goal, then are all of the differences between us, aberrations of some kind, if that's the goal? If that's the goal, are all the [00:30:00] differences between us, not God-given, but humanly misconstrued or worse? Humanly wrought? Do the differences between us conceivably then belong at all? Or is the principle object of the entire endeavor to marry yourself, trying to put up with the vague differences that the other person represents to you?I mean, I not very jokingly said years ago, that I coined a phrase that went something like "the compromise of infinity, which is other people." What does that mean? "The compromise of infinity, which is other people." Not to mention it's a pretty nice T-shirt. But what I meant by the [00:31:00] phrase is this: when you demonize difference in this fashion or when you go the other direction and lionize sameness, then one of the things that happens is that compromise becomes demonized, too. Compromise, by definition, is something you never should have done, right? Compromise is how much you surrender of yourself in order to get by. That's what all these things become. And before you know it, you're just beaten about the head and shoulders about "codependence" and you know, not being "true to yourself" as if being true to yourself is some kind of magic.I mean, the notion that "yourself is the best part of you" is just hilarious. I mean, when you think about it, like who's running amuck if yourself is what you're supposed to be? I ask you. Like, who's [00:32:00] doing the harm? Who's going mental if the self is such a good idea? So, of course, I'm maintaining here that I'm not persuaded that there is such a thing.I think it's a momentary lapse in judgment to have a self and to stick to it. That's the point I'm really making to kind of reify it until it turns ossified and dusty and bizarrely adamant like that estranged relative that lives in the basement of your house. Bizarrely, foreignly adamant, right? Like the house guest who just won't f**k off kind of thing.Okay, so "to thine own self be true," is it? Well, try being true to somebody else's self for ten minutes. Try that. [00:33:00] That's good at exercise for matrimony - being true to somebody else's self. You'll discover that their selves are not made in heaven, either. Either. I underscore it - either. I've completely lost track of the question you asked me.Chris: What are the consequences of the sameness on this anti-cultural sameness, and the program of it for an achieved understanding of matrimony.Stephen: Thank you. Well, I will fess up right now. I do so in the book. That's a terrible phrase. I swear I'd never say such a thing. "In my book... I say the following," but in this case, it's true. I did say this. I realized during the writing of it that I had made a tremendous tactical error in the convening of the event as I did it over the years, [00:34:00] and this is what it came to.I was very persuaded at the time of the story that appears in the chapter called "Salt and Indigo" in the book. I was very, very persuaded. I mean, listen, I made up the story (for what it's worth), okay, but I didn't make it up out of nothing. I made it up out of a kind of tribal memory that wouldn't quite let go.And in it, I was basically saying, here's these two tribes known principally for what they trade in and what they love most emphatically. They turn out to be the same thing. And I describe a circumstance in which they exchange things in a trade scenario, not a commerce scenario. And I'm using the chapter basically to make the case that matrimony's architecture derives in large measure from the sacraments of trade as manifest in that story. [00:35:00] Okay. And this is gonna sound obvious, but the fundamental requirement of the whole conceit that I came up with is that there are two tribes. Well, I thought to myself, "of course, there's always two tribes" at the time. And the two tribe-ness is reflected in when you come to the wedding site, you're typically asked (I hope you're still asked) " Are you family or friend of the groom or friend of the bride?" And you're seated "accordingly," right? That's the nominal, vestigial shard of this old tribal affiliation, that people came from over the rise, basically unknown to each other, to arrive at the kind of no man's land of matrimony, and proceeded accordingly. So, I put these things into motion in this very room and I sat people accordingly facing each other, not facing the alleged front of the room. [00:36:00] And of course, man, nobody knew where to look, because you raised your eyes and s**t. There's just humans across from you, just scads of them who you don't freaking know. And there's something about doing that to North Americas that just throws them. So, they're just looking at each other and then looking away, and looking at each other and looking away, and wondering what they're doing here and what it's for. And I'm going back and forth for three hours, orienting them as to what is is coming.Okay, so what's the miscalculation that I make? The miscalculation I made was assuming that by virtue of the seating arrangement, by virtue of me reminding them of the salt and indigo times, by virtue of the fact that they had a kind of allegiance of some sort or another to the people who are, for the moment, betrothed, that those distinctions and those affiliations together would congeal them, and constitute a [00:37:00] kind of tribal affiliation that they would intuitively be drawn towards as you would be drawn to heat on a cold winter's night.Only to discover, as I put the thing into motion that I was completely wrong about everything I just told you about. The nature of my error was this, virtually all of those people on one side of the room were fundamentally of the same tribe as the people on the other side of the room, apropos of your question, you see. They were card carrying members of the gray dominant culture of North America. Wow. The bleached, kind of amorphous, kind of rootless, ancestor-free... even regardless of whether their people came over in the last generation from the alleged old country. It doesn't really claim them.[00:38:00]There were two tribes, but I was wrong about who they were. That was one tribe. Virtually everybody sitting in the room was one tribe.So, who's the other tribe? Answer is: me and the four or five people who were in on the structural delivery of this endeavour with me. We were the other tribe.We didn't stand a chance, you see?And I didn't pick up on that, and I didn't cast it accordingly and employ that, instead. I employed the conceit that I insisted was manifest and mobilized in the thing, instead of the manifest dilemma, which is that everybody who came knew what a wedding was, and me and four or five other people were yet to know if this could be one. That was the tribal difference, if you [00:39:00] will.So, it was kind of invisible, wasn't it? Even to me at the time. Or, I say, maybe especially to me at the time. And so, things often went the way they went, which was for however much fascination and willingness to consider that there might have been in the room, there was quite a bit more either flat affect and kind of lack of real fascination, or curiosity, or sometimes downright hostility and pushback. Yeah.So, all of that comes from the fact that I didn't credit as thoroughly as I should have done, the persistence in Anglo-North America of a kind of generic sameness that turned out to be what most people came here ancestrally to become. "Starting again" is recipe for culture [00:40:00] loss of a catastrophic order. The fantasy of starting again. Right?And we've talked about that in your podcast, and you and I have talked about it privately, apropos of your own family and everybody's sitting in this room knows what I'm talking about. And when does this show up? Does it show up, oh, when you're walking down the street? Does it show up when you're on the mountaintop? Does it show up in your peak experiences? And the answer is "maybe." It probably shows up most emphatically in those times when you have a feeling that something special is supposed to be so, and all you can get from the "supposed to" is the allegation of specialness.Audience: Mm-hmm.Stephen: And then, you look around in the context of matrimony and you see a kind of febral, kind of strained, the famous bridezilla stuff, all of that stuff. [00:41:00] You saw it in the hospitality industry, no doubt. You know, the kind of mania for perfection, as if perfection constitutes culture. Right? With every detail checked off in the checkbox, that's culture. You know, as if everything goes off without a hitch and there's no guffaws. And in fact, anybody could reasonably make the case, "Where do you think culture appears when the script finally goes f*****g sideways?" That's when. And when you find out what you're capable of, ceremonially.And generally speaking, I think most people discovered that their ceremonial illiteracy bordered on the bottomless.That's when you find out. Hmm.Chris: Wow.Stephen: Yeah. And that's why people, you know, in speech time, they reach in there and get that piece of paper, and just look at it. Mm-hmm. They don't even look up, terrified that they're gonna go off script for a minute as [00:42:00] if the Gods of Matrimony are a scripted proposition.Chris: Mm-hmm. Yeah. Thank you for sharing that with us, that degree of deep reflection and humility that I'm sure comes with it.Stephen: Mea Culpa, baby. Yeah, I was, I got that one totally wrong. Mm-hmm. And I didn't know it at the time. Meanwhile, like, how much can you transgress and have the consequences of doing so like spill out across the floor like a broken thermometer's mercury and not wise up.But of course, I was as driven as anybody. I was as driven to see if I could come through with what I promised to do the year before. And keeping your promise can make you into a maniac.Audience: Hmm hmm.Chris: But I imagine that, you [00:43:00] know, you wouldn't have been able to see that even years later if you didn't say yes in the first place.Stephen: Oh, yeah. Yeah. And I wouldn't have been able to make the errors.Chris: Right.Stephen: Right. Yeah. I mean, as errors go, this is not a mortal sin. Right, right. And you could chalk it up to being a legitimate miscalculation. Well, so? All I'm saying is, it turns out I was there too, and it turns out, even though I was allegedly the circus master of the enterprise, I wasn't free and clear of the things we were all contending with, the kind of mortality and sort of cultural ricketiness that were all heirs to. That's how I translated it, as it turns out.So, PS there was a moment, [00:44:00] which I don't remember which setting it was now, but there was a moment when the "maybe we'll see if she becomes a bride" bride's mother slid up to me during the course of the proceedings, and in a kind of stage whisper more or less hissed me as follows."Is this a real wedding?"I mean, that's not a question. Not in that setting, obviously not. That is an accusation. Right. And a withering one at that. And there was a tremendous amount of throw-down involved.So, was it? I mean, what we do know is that she did not go to any of the weddings [00:45:00] that she was thinking of at the time, and go to the front of the room where the celebrant is austerely standing there with the book, or the script, or the well-intentioned, or the self-penned vows and never hissed at him or her, "is this a real wedding?"Never once did she do that. We know that.Right.And I think we know why. But she was fairly persuaded she knew what a real wedding was. And all she was really persuaded by was the poverty of the weddings that she'd attended before that one. Well, I was as informed in that respect as she was, wasn't I? I just probably hadn't gone to as many reprobate weddings as she had, so she had more to deal with than I did, even though I was in the position of the line of fire.And I didn't respond too well to the question, I have to say. At the moment, I was rather combative. But I mean, you try to do [00:46:00] what I tried to do and not have a degree of fierceness to go along with your discernment, you know, just to see if you can drag this carcass across the threshold. Anyway, that happened too.Chris: Wow. Yeah. Dominant culture of North America.Stephen: Heard of it.Chris: Yeah. Well, in Matrimony, there's quite a bit in which you write about hospitality and radical hospitality. And I wanted to move in that direction a little bit, because in terms of these kind of marketplace rituals or ceremonies that you were mentioning you know, it's something that we might wonder, I think, as you have, how did it come to be this [00:47:00] way?And so I'd like to, if I can once again, quote from matrimony in which you speak to the etymology of hospitality. And so for those interested on page 88,"the word hospitality comes from hospitaller, meaning 'one who cares for the afflicted, the infirm, the needy.' There's that thread of our misgivings about being on the receiving end of hospitality. Pull on it. For the written history of the word, at least, it has meant, 'being on the receiving end of a kind of care you'd rather not need.'"End quote.Stephen: That's so great. I mean, before you go on with the quote. It's so great to know that the word, unexamined, just kind of leaks upside, doesn't it? Hospitality, I mean, nobody goes "Hospitality, ew." [00:48:00] And then, if you just quietly do the obvious math to yourself, there's so much awkwardness around hospitality.This awkwardness must have an origin, have a home. There must be some misgiving that goes along with the giving of hospitality, mustn't there be? How else to understand where that kind of ickiness is to be found. Right? And it turns out that the etymology is giving you the beginnings of a way of figuring it out what it is that you're on the receiving end of - a kind of succor that you wish you didn't need, which is why it's the root word for "hospital."Chris: Hmm hmm. Wow.Audience: Hmm.Chris: May I repeat that sentence please? Once more."For the written history of the word, at least, it has meant, [00:49:00] 'being on the receiving end of a kind of care you'd rather not need.'"And so this last part hits home for me as I imagine it does for many.And it feels like the orthodoxy of hospitality in our time is one based not only in transaction, but in debt. And if you offer hospitality to me, then I owe you hospitality.Stephen: Right.Chris: I'm indebted to you. And we are taught, in our time, that the worst thing to be in is in debt.Stephen: Right?Chris: And so people refuse both the desire to give as well as the learning skill of receiving. And this is continuing on page 88 now."But there's mystery afoot with this word. In its old Latin form, hospice meant both 'host' and 'guest.'"Stephen: Amazing. One. Either one, This is absolutely amazing. We're fairly sure that there's a [00:50:00] acres of difference between the giver of hospitality and the receiver that the repertoire is entirely different, that the skew between them is almost insurmountable, that they're not interchangeable in any way. But the history of the word immediately says, "really?" The history of the word, without question, says that "host" and "guest" are virtually the same, sitting in different places, being different people, more or less joined at the hip. I'll say more, but you go ahead with what you were gonna do. Sure.Chris: "In it's proto Indo-European origins, hospitality and hospice is a compound word: gosh + pot. And it meant something like [00:51:00] 'stranger/guest/host + powerful Lord.'It is amazing to me that ancestrally, the old word for guest, host, and stranger were all the same word. Potent ceremonial business, this is. In those days, the server and the serve were partners in something mysterious. This could be confusing, but only if you think of guest, host, and stranger as fixed identities.If you think of them as functions, as verbs, the confusion softens and begins to clear. The word hospice in its ancient root is telling us that each of the people gathered together in hospitality is bound to the others by formal etiquette, yes, but the bond is transacted through a subtle scheme of graces.Hospitality, it tells us, is a web of longing and belonging that binds people for a time, some hithereto unknown to each other is a clutch of mutually-binding elegances, you could say. In its ancient practice, [00:52:00] hospitality was a covenant. According to that accord, however we were with each other. That was how the Gods would be with us. We learn our hospitality by being on the receiving end of Godly administration. That's what giving thanks for members. We proceed with our kin in imitation of that example and in gratitude for it."Mm-hmm.And so today, among "secular" people, with the Gods ignored, this old-time hospitality seems endangered, if not fugitive. I'm curious how you imagine that this rupture arose, the ones that separated and commercialized the radical relationships between hosts and guests, that turned them from verbs to nouns and something like strangers to marketplace functions.[00:53:00]Stephen: Well, of course this is a huge question you've asked, and I'll see if I can unhuge it a bit.Chris: Uhhuh.Stephen: Let's go right to the heart of what happened. Just no preliminaries, just right to it.So, to underscore again, the beauty of the etymology. I've told you over and over again, the words will not fail you. And this is just a shining example, isn't it? That the fraternization is a matter of ceremonial alacrity that the affiliation between host and guest, which makes them partners in something, that something is the [00:54:00] evocation of a third thing that's neither one of them. It's the thing they've lent themselves to by virtue of submitting to being either a host or a guest. One.Two. You could say that in circumstances of high culture or highly-functioning culture, one of the principle attributes of that culture is that the fundament of its understanding, is that only with the advent of the stranger in their midst that the best of them comes forward.Okay, follow that. Yeah.So, this is a little counterintuitive for those of us who don't come from such places. We imagine that the advent of strangers in the midst of the people I'm describing would be an occasion where people hide their [00:55:00] best stuff away until the stranger disappears, and upon the disappearance of the stranger, the good stuff comes out again.You know?So, I'm just remembering just now, there's a moment in the New Testament where Jesus says something about the best wine and he's coming from exactly this page that we're talking about - not the page in the book, but this understanding. He said, you know, "serve your best wine first," unlike the standard, that prevails, right?So again, what a stranger does in real culture is call upon the cultural treasure of the host's culture, and provides the opportunity for that to come forward, right? By which you can understand... Let's say for simplicity's sake, there's two kinds of hospitality. There's probably all kinds of gradations, [00:56:00] but for the purposes of responding to what you've asked, there's two.One of them is based on kinship. Okay? So, family meal. So, everybody knows whose place is whose around the table, or it doesn't matter - you sit wherever you want. Or, when we're together, we speak shorthand. That's the shorthand of familiarity and affinity, right?Everybody knows what everybody's talking about. A lot of things get half-said or less, isn't it? And there's a certain fineness, isn't it? That comes with that kind of affinity. Of course, there is, and I'm not diminishing it at all. I'm just characterizing it as being of a certain frequency or calibre or charge. And the charge is that it trades on familiarity. It requires that. There's that kind of hospitality."Oh, sit wherever you want."Remember this one?[00:57:00]"We don't stand on ceremony here.""Oh, you're one of the family now." I just got here. What, what?But, of course, you can hear in the protestations the understanding, in that circumstance, that formality is an enemy to feeling good in this moment, isn't it? It feels stiff and starched and uncalled for or worse.It feels imported from elsewhere. It doesn't feel friendly. So, I'm giving you now beginnings of a differentiation between how cultures who really function as cultures understand what it means to be hospitable and what often prevails today, trading is a kind of low-grade warfare conducted against the strangeness of the stranger.The whole purpose of treating somebody like their family is to mitigate, and finally neutralize their [00:58:00] strangeness, so that for the purposes of the few hours in front of us all, there are no strangers here. Right? Okay.Then there's another kind, and intuitively you can feel what I'm saying. You've been there, you know exactly what I mean.There's another kind of circumstance where the etiquette that prevails is almost more emphatic, more tangible to you than the familiar one. That's the one where your mother or your weird aunt or whoever she might be, brings out certain kind of stuff that doesn't come out every day. And maybe you sit in a room that you don't often sit in. And maybe what gets cooked is stuff you haven't seen in a long time. And some part of you might be thinking, "What the hell is all this about?" And the answer is: it's about that guy in the [00:59:00] corner that you don't know.And your own ancestral culture told acres of stories whose central purpose was to convey to outsiders their understanding of what hospitality was. That is fundamentally what The Iliad and The Odyssey are often returning to and returning to and returning to.They even had a word for the ending of the formal hospitality that accrued, that arose around the care and treatment of strangers. It was called pomp or pompe, from which we get the word "pompous." And you think about what the word "pompous" means today.It means "nose in the air," doesn't it? Mm-hmm. It means "thinks really highly of oneself," isn't it? And it means "useless, encumbering, kind of [01:00:00] artificial kind of going through the motions stuff with a kind of aggrandizement for fun." That's what "pompous" means. Well, the people who gave us the word didn't mean that at all. This word was the word they used to describe the particular moment of hospitality when it was time for the stranger to leave.And when it was mutually acknowledged that the time for hospitality has come to an end, and the final act of hospitality is to accompany the stranger out of the house, out of the compound, out into the street, and provision them accordingly, and wish them well, and as is oftentimes practiced around here, standing in the street and waving them long after they disappear from view.This is pompous. This is what it actually means. Pretty frigging cool when you get corrected once in a while, isn't it? [01:01:00] Yeah.So, as I said, to be simplistic about it, there's at least a couple of kinds, and one of them treasures the advent of the stranger, understanding it to be the detonation point for the most elegant part of us to come forward.Now, those of us who don't come from such a place, we're just bamboozled and Shanghai'ed by the notion of formality, which we kind of eschew. You don't like formality when it comes to celebration, as if these two things are hostile, one to the other. But I'd like you to consider the real possibility that formality is grace under pressure, and that formality is there to give you a repertoire of response that rescues you from the gross limitations of your autobiography.[01:02:00]Next question. I mean, that's the beginning.Chris: Absolutely. Absolutely. Mm-hmm. Thank you once again, Stephen. So alongside the term or concept of "pompe," in which the the guest or stranger was led out of the house or to the entrance of the village, there was also the consideration around the enforcement of hospitality, which you write about in the book. And you write that"the enforcement of hospitality runs the palpable risk of violating or undoing the cultural value it is there to advocate for. Forcing people to share their good fortune with the less fortunate stretches, to the point of undoing the generosity of spirit that the culture holds dear. Enforcement of hospitality is a sign of the eclipse of hospitality, typically spawned by insecurity, contracted self-definition, and the darkening of the [01:03:00] stranger at the door.Instead, such places and times are more likely to encourage the practice of hospitality in subtle generous ways, often by generously treating the ungenerous."And so there seems to be a need for limits placed on hospitality, in terms of the "pompe," the maximum three days in which a stranger can be given hospitality, and concurrently a need to resist enforcing hospitality. This seems like a kind of high-wire act that hospitable cultures have to balance in order to recognize and realize an honorable way of being with a stranger. And so I'm wondering if you could speak to the possibility of how these limits might be practiced without being enforced. What might that look like in a culture that engages with, with such limits, but without prohibitions?Stephen: Mm-hmm. That's a very good question. [01:04:00] Well, I think your previous question was what happened? I think, in a nutshell, and I didn't really answer that, so maybe see how I can use this question to answer the one that you asked before: what happened? So, there's no doubt in my mind that something happened that it's kind of demonstrable, if only with the benefit of hindsight.Audience: Right.Stephen: Or we can feel our way around the edges of the absence of the goneness of that thing that gives us some feel for the original shape of that thing.So you could say I'm trafficking in "ideals," here, and after a fashion, maybe, yeah. But the notion of "ideals," when it's used in this slanderous way suggests that "it was never like that."Chris: Mm-hmm.Stephen: And I suggest to you it's been like that in a lot of places, and there's a lot of places where it's still like that, although globalization [01:05:00] may be the coup de grâce performed upon this capacity. Okay. But anyway.Okay. So what happened? Well, you see in the circumstance that I described, apropos of the stranger, the stranger is in on it. The stranger's principle responsibility is to be the vector for this sort of grandiose generosity coming forward, and to experience that in a burdensome and unreciprocated fashion, until you realize that their willingness to do that is their reciprocity. Everybody doesn't get to do everything at once. You can't give and receive at the same time. You know what that's called? "Secret Santa at school," isn't it?That's where nobody owes nobody nothing at the end. That's what we're all after. I mean, one of your questions, you know, pointed to that, that there's a kind of, [01:06:00] what do you call that, teeter-totter balance between what people did for each other and what they received for each other. Right. And nobody feels slighted in any way, perfect balance, et cetera.Well, the circumstance here has nothing of the kind going with it. The circumstance we're describing now is one in which the hospitality is clearly unequal in terms of who's eating whose food, for example, in terms of the absolutely frustrated notion of reciprocity, that in fact you undo your end of the hospitality by trying to pay back, or give back, or pay at all, or break even, or not feel the burden of "God, you've been on the take for fricking hours here now." And if you really look in the face of the host, I mean, they're just getting started and you can't, you can't take it anymore.[01:07:00]So, one of the ways that we contend with this is through habits of speech. So, if somebody comes around with seconds. They say, "would you like a little more?"And you say, "I'm good. I'm good. I'm good." You see, "I'm good" is code for what? "F**k off." That's what it's code for. It's a little strong. It's a little strong. What I mean is, when "I'm good" comes to town, it means I don't need you and what you have. Good God, you're not there because you need it you knucklehead. You're there because they need it, because their culture needs an opportunity to remember itself. Right?Okay. So what happened? Because you're making it sound like a pretty good thing, really. Like who would say, "I think we've had enough of this hospitality thing, don't you? Let's try, oh, [01:08:00] keeping our s**t to ourselves. That sounds like a good alternative. Let's give it a week or two, see how it rolls." Never happened. Nobody decided to do this - this change, I don't think. I think the change happened, and sometime long after people realized that the change had had taken place. And it's very simple. The change, I think, went something like this.As long as the guest is in on it, there's a shared and mutually-held understanding that doesn't make them the same. It makes them to use the quote from the book "partners," okay, with different tasks to bring this thing to light, to make it so. What does that require? A mutually-held understanding in vivo as it's happening, what it is.Okay. [01:09:00] So, that the stranger who's not part of the host culture... sorry, let me say this differently.The culture of the stranger has made the culture of the host available to the stranger no matter how personally adept he or she may be at receiving. Did you follow that?Audience: A little.Stephen: Okay. Say it again?Audience: Yes, please.Stephen: Okay. The acculturation, the cultured sophistication of the stranger is at work in his or her strangerhood. Okay. He or she's not at home, but their cultural training helps them understand what their obligations are in terms of this arrangement we've been describing here.Okay, so I think the rupture takes place [01:10:00] when the culturation of one side or the other fails to make the other discernible to the one.One more time?When something happens whereby the acculturation of one of the partners makes the identity, the presence, and the valence of the other one untranslatable. Untranslatable.I could give you an example from what I call " the etiquette of trade," or the... what was the word? Not etiquette. What's the other word?Chris: The covenant?Stephen: Okay, " covenant of trade" we'll call it. So, imagine that people are sitting across from each other, two partners in a trade. Okay? [01:11:00] Imagine that they have one thing to sell or move or exchange and somebody has something else.How does this work? Not "what are the mechanics?" That can be another discussion, but, if this works, how does it work? Not "how does it happen?" How does it actually achieve what they're after? Maybe it's something like this.I have this pottery, and even though you're not a potter, but somebody in your extended family back home was, and you watched what they went through to make a fricking pot, okay?You watched how their hands seized up, because the clay leached all the moisture out of the hands. You distinctly remember that - how the old lady's hands looked cracked and worn, and so from the work of making vessels of hospitality, okay? [01:12:00] It doesn't matter that you didn't make it yourself. The point is you recognize in the item something we could call "cultural patrimony."You recognize the deep-runningness of the culture opposite you as manifest and embodied in this item for trade. Okay? So, the person doesn't have to "sell you" because your cultural sophistication makes this pot on the other side available to you for the deeply venerable thing that it is. Follow what I'm saying?Okay. So, you know what I'm gonna say next? When something happens, the items across from you cease to speak, cease to have their stories come along with them, cease to be available. There's something about your cultural atrophy that you project onto the [01:13:00] item that you don't recognize.You don't recognize it's valence, it's proprieties, it's value, it's deep-running worth and so on. Something happened, okay? And because you're not making your own stuff back home or any part of it. And so now, when you're in a circumstance like this and you're just trying to get this pot, but you know nothing about it, then the enterprise becomes, "Okay, so what do you have to part with to obtain the pot?"And the next thing is, you pretend you're not interested in obtaining the pot to obtain the pot. That becomes part of the deal. And then, the person on the making end feels the deep running slight of your disinterest, or your vague involvement in the proceedings, or maybe the worst: when it's not things you're going back and forth with, but there's a third thing called money, which nobody makes, [01:14:00] which you're not reminded of your grandma or anyone else's with the money. And then, money becomes the ghost of the original understanding of the cultural patrimony that sat between you. That's what happened, I'm fairly sure: the advent, the estrangement that comes with the stranger, instead of the opportunity to be your cultural best when the stranger comes.And then of course, it bleeds through all kinds of transactions beyond the "obvious material ones." So, it's a rupture in translatability, isn't it?Chris: You understand this to happen or have happened historically, culturally, et cetera, with matrimony as well?Stephen: Oh, absolutely. Yeah.Yeah. This is why, for example, things like the fetishization of virginity.Audience: Mm-hmm. [01:15:00]Stephen: I think it's traceable directly to what we're talking about. How so? Oh, this is a whole other long thing, but the very short version would be this.Do you really believe that through all of human history until the recent liberation, that people have forever fetishized the virginity of a young woman and jealously defended it, the "men" in particular, and that it became a commodity to trade back and forth in, and that it had to be prodded and poked at to determine its intactness? And this was deemed to be, you know, honourable behavior?Do you really think that's the people you come from, that they would've do that to the most cherished of their [01:16:00] own, barely pubescent girls? Come on now. I'm not saying it didn't happen and doesn't still happen. I'm not saying that. I'm saying, God almighty, something happened for that to be so.And I'm trying to allude to you now what I think took place. Then all of a sudden, the hymen takes the place of the pottery, doesn't it? And it becomes universally translatable. Doesn't it? It becomes a kind of a ghosted artifact of a culturally-intact time. It's as close as you can get.Hence, this allegation of its purity, or the association with purity, and so on. [01:17:00] I mean, there's lots to say, but that gives you a feel for what might have happened there.Chris: Thank you, Stephen. Thank you for being so generous with your considerations here.Stephen: You see why I had to write a book, eh?Audience: Mm-hmm.Stephen: There was too much bouncing around. Like I had to just keep track of my own thoughts on the matter.But can you imagine all of this at play in the year, oh, I don't know, 2022, trying to put into motion a redemptive passion play called "matrimony," with all of this at play? Not with all of this in my mind, but with all of this actually disfiguring the anticipation of the proceedings for the people who came.Can you imagine? Can you imagine trying to pull it off, and [01:18:00] contending overtly with all these things and trying to make room for them in a moment that's supposed to be allegedly - get ready for it - happy.I should have raised my rates on the first day, trying to pull that off.But anyway.Okay, you go now,Chris: Maybe now you'll have the opportunity.Stephen: No, man. No. I'm out of the running for that. "Pompe" has come and come and gone. Mm.Chris: So, in matrimony, Stephen, you write that"the brevity, the brevity of modern ceremonies is really there to make sure that nothing happens, nothing of substance, nothing of consequence, no alchemy, no mystery, no crazy other world stuff. That overreach there in its scripted heart tells me that deep in the rayon-wrapped bosom of that special day, the modern wedding is scared [01:19:00] silly of something happening. That's because it has an ages-old abandoned memory of a time when a wedding was a place where the Gods came around, where human testing and trying and making was at hand, when the dead lingered in the wings awaiting their turn to testify and inveigh."Gorgeous. Gorgeous.Audience: Mm-hmm.Chris: And so I'm curious ifStephen: "Rayon-wrapped bosom." That's not, that's not shabby.Chris: "Rayon-wrapped bosom of that special day." Yeah.So, I'm curious do you think the more-than-human world practices matrimony, and if so, what, if anything, might you have learned about matrimony from the more-than-human world?Stephen: I would say the reverse. I would say, we practice the more-than-human world in matrimony, not that the more-than-human world practices matrimony. We practice them, [01:20:00] matrimonially.Next. Okay. Or no? I just gonna say that, that's pretty good.Well, where do we get our best stuff from? Let's just wonder that. Do we get our best stuff from being our best? Well, where does that come from? And this is a bit of a barbershop mirrors situation here, isn't it? To, to back, back, back, back.If you're thinking of time, you can kind of get lost in that generation before, or before, before, before. And it starts to sound like one of them biblical genealogies. But if you think of it as sort of the flash point of multiple presences, if you think of it that way, then you come to [01:21:00] credit the real possibility that your best stuff comes from you being remembered by those who came before you.Audience: Hmm.Stephen: Now just let that sit for a second, because what I just said is logically-incompatible.Okay? You're being remembered by people who came before you. That's not supposed to work. It doesn't work that way. Right?"Anticipated," maybe, but "remembered?" How? Well, if you credit the possibility of multiple beginnings, that's how. Okay. I'm saying that your best stuff, your best thoughts, not the most noble necessarily. I would mean the most timely, [01:22:00] the ones that seem most needed, suddenly.You could take credit and sure. Why, why not? Because ostensibly, it arrives here through you, but if you're frank with yourself, you know that you didn't do that on command, right? I mean, you could say, I just thought of it, but you know in your heart that it was thought of and came to you.I don't think there's any difference between saying that and saying you were thought of.Audience: Mm-hmm.Stephen: So, that's what I think the rudiments of old-order matrimony are. They are old people and their benefactors in the food chain and spiritually speaking. Old people and their benefactors, the best part of them [01:23:00] willed to us, entrusted and willed to us. So, when you are willing to enter into the notion that old-order matrimony is older than you, older than your feelings for the other person, older than your love, and your commitment, and your willingness to make the vows and all that stuff, then you're crediting the possibility that your love is not the beginning of anything.You see. Your love is the advent of something, and I use that word deliberately in its Christian notion, right? It's the oncomingness, the eruption into the present day of something, which turns out to be hugely needed and deeply unsuspected at the same time.I used to ask in the school, "can you [01:24:00] have a memory of something you have no lived experience of?" I think that's what the best part of you is. I'm not saying the rest of you is shite. I'm not saying that. You could say that, but I am saying that when I say "the best part of you," that needs a lot of translating, doesn't it?But the gist of it is that the best part of you is entrusted to you. It's not your creation, it's your burden, your obligation, your best chance to get it right. And that's who we are to those who came before us. We are their chance to get it right, and matrimony is one of the places where you practice the gentle art of getting it right.[01:25:00] Another decent reason to write a book.Chris: So, gorgeous. Wow. Thank you Stephen. I might have one more question.Stephen: Okay. I might have one more answer. Let's see.Chris: Alright. Would I be able to ask if dear Nathalie Roy could join us up here alongside your good man.So, returning to Matrimony: Ritual, Culture and the Heart's Work. On page 94, [01:26:00] Stephen, you write that"hospitality of the radical kind is

Fall is here! There is so much to do in fall in Kansas City that sometimes it's hard to know where to begin. We discuss something new we plan to try, something we always do, and something we plan to do at home with our families. Something Old Sarah and her family always get the Johnson Farms season pass. She loves being able to pop over there for an hour and not feel the need to make it an entire day (which is easy to do there!) Megan and her family love attending Deanna Rose Farmstead's Night of the Living Farm. Her kids are almost 8 and 11 and still love this great event. Buy tickets in advance! The Coffeys also love the Jack's Hollow spooky drive through in Gardner. Sign up for a spot online- it's free but they accept donations of unwrapped gifts for the charitable organization Secret Santa. Something New Before kids, Megan and her husband would frequent this awesome annual event but then... kids. This year they are planning to take their kids down to the Plaza Art Fair. It runs Friday, September 19 through Sunday, September 21. More information can be found here! Megan also hopes to take her Dogman-loving son to Dogman the Musical at the Folly Theater! Tickets are on sale now. Sarah is going to try out the Renaissance Festival, as well as attend Beauty and the Beast at Music Hall. Check out our Renaissance Festival guide here! At Home Simmer pots are something that Sarah has been wanting to try out for awhile and this is her year to shine. Send all good-smelling simmer recipes her way! Megan has never been able to figure out a fall front porch display due to paralyzing indecision. This year she plans to keep her mums alive and add a little more decor! Be sure to check out our 101 Things to Do This Fall list, as well- lots of free options there! Tag us at @kansascitymomcollective and tell us what fall things you're up to! What catches their eye could make them cry! Survey your kid's play area for liquids like fingernail polish or colorful cleaning products they may mistake as a beverage. To avoid this, we suggest storing these products out of sight and reach of children as well as keeping potent liquid in their original container. An additional precaution is to never set an item like this on a table where it could mistakenly be forgotten. Children's Mercy Kansas City is built for kids. That's why we have been taking care of the kids in the community for more than 125 years. Learn more.  Connect with Megan and Sarah We would love to hear from you! Send us an e-mail or find us on Instagram or Facebook!        

This week on the show: some seriously cutting-edge territory. George A talks about what he saw at the Love and Sex with Robots conference in Montreal. Then George K and George A discuss AI companions, embodied LLMs, and the wild intersection of technology and human intimacy.This isn't just about sex robots - it's about the broader question of how AI is reshaping fundamental human experiences. The reality check: If you think this stuff is too niche or weird to matter, give it 5 years. This technology is going to be everywhere - in education, therapy, companionship. The question isn't whether it's coming, it's whether we'll think through the implications before it's too late.This might be one of the most uncomfortable (and important) tech conversation we're not having as a society.Fair warning: This episode gets real, fast. But if you work in tech, security, or just want to understand where we're heading as a species, it's worth your time.Stay tuned to the end to hear about the "door prize" George A from the conference that is gonna make the office Secret Santa…interesting.Mentioned this episode: Our Season 4 opener with Savannah Sly Gov Pritzker Signs Legislation Prohibiting AI Therapy in Illinois Parents of teenager who took his own life sue OpenAI You can read the full text of the lawsuit here Scene from Interstellar that George K references

This week on Bone to Pick, Robert Kelly and Paul Virzi dive headfirst into some of the funniest, most painfully relatable gripes you've ever heard. From the chaos of parents pushing baby strollers while wrangling dogs, to the rage-inducing mystery of why clothing sizes are never actually true to size, to a mailman's scorched-earth rant about clueless small talk in 100° heat—this episode is a rollercoaster of comedy and catharsis. You'll hear about benefits gone wrong, scammers faking cancer for cash, Secret Santa disasters, and the eternal battle between “one more drink” guys and those who know when the night's over.   Join us on Patreon at www.patreon.com/bonetopickcast

EPISODE 180 – WHITE HOUSE DOWN “It stars Channing Tatum as a guy who's going above and beyond to be a good dad. Isn't that like a wild sexual fantasy for you?”It's Brian's Secret Santa gift to Brandon: the non-Fallen White House takeover, White House Down! This week, Ashley remembers when we rooted for the President; Chris imagines a grifter in the White House; Brandon pitches a new season of The West Wing; and Brian stands up and cheers. BTW: An absolutely unhinged Parents Guide entry! Starring: Channing Tatum, Jamie Foxx, Maggie Gyllenhaal, Jason Clarke, Richard Jenkins, Joey King, James Woods, Nicolas Wright, Jimmi Simpson, and Lance Reddick Directed by Roland Emmerich FOLLOW US:Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/trashwatch)Instagram (@trashwatchpodcast)TikTok (@trashwatchpodcast)YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5YpPcNIBmqNvvLvxa3WTLA)Email (trashwatchpodcast@gmail.com)Listen to Brian's music at (https://www.brianhorne.com)Support the show

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Watch on Philo! - Philo.tv/DTHWe meet The Balsano family. They are all getting together at the old family home. It's a huge family gathering, complete with dads talking about robots, baking, grandma, and kids playing video games. We see in the basement, there is a "for sale" sign that's kind of been put in a corner. They all rush outside to cheer as firetrucks speed down the streets, all decked out in Christmas lights. And, of course, Santa Claus. Afterwards, we find out that not only are the parents secretly selling the house, but it's already done. They come back inside, eat dinner , and do Secret Santa. As the rest of the family sits down to watch old home videos, two of the teenage girls, Emily & Michelle, sneak out to hang out with their friends. As they speed down the back roads, we see some police officers going full speed gun mode on Christmas Eve. But they don't care. They don't do anything.They meet up with some other teenagers. They all meet up at a diner and then go get some beers. One of the dumb boys ends up throwing one of the beers which lands on a windshield in the parking lot that shatters. The cops are called but they're too busy talking about their hypothetical feelings for one another to do anything about it. The teenagers scatter and go to make-out point where they all just kind of pair off into the back of cars. Emily grabs her bag of bagels and heads home as one of the family members falls asleep on the piano.