Crossing Boundaries

In this episode we are talking about encouragement in relationships. We will discuss the definition of encouragement, why it's important in relationships, some of our personal stories and next steps to becoming a more encouraging partner.

In this episode, we're discussing how we've been impacted by COVID-19, some of the "issues" we've had as a couple (get ready for a few laughs), quarantine as parents of a VERY ACTIVE baby, and our next steps.We hope this episode encourages you and makes you feel a little more normal in these abnormal times!

In this episode we're discussing life with a newborn! We give a brief update of what the last 6 months as parents has been like, the adjustments we've made as a couple, and the new family dynamics we've encountered. To end the episode, we discuss our next steps, as well as encouragement to other families and couples.

In this episode, we discuss why it's been so long since we published an episode (we're having a baby!). We also talk about what pregnancy has been like so far, and how it has impacted our marriage in terms of our relationship, communication, and boundaries. We also share our journey of getting pregnant, and how we worked through the waiting process.Xavier touches on the important role of fathers, and how there's a lack of healthy resources out there for dad's-to-be.

Types of Conflict within Relationships Sin of one spouse Not just affairs. This is a true infraction, not an imagined one. (sexual sin, angry outburst, substance abuse, thievery, pride, envy, conceit, controlling behavior)Immaturity or brokenness of one personMost people get married totally unaware of their spouses shortcomings. Hurt feelings that are no one’s faultThings we are sensitive about but are not actually attacks or offenses. Conflicting desires Difference of preferences (type of movie, type of restaurant, etc) Desires of one person vs the needs of the relationshipWhen one persons desires are not beneficial for well-being the marriage Known vs Unknown problems Denial vs. Blind Spots Source: Boundaries in Marriage by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend

What is interpersonal development?Why its important in the context of relationships?Ways to develop interpersonal skills:-Gary Chapman's 5 Love Languages-Clifton Strengths FinderNext Steps

In this episode, we'll be defining love and discussing different types of love in order to set our foundation. We then talk about where most people are looking for love, and share some of our story. To end, we will discuss some next steps in healthy ways to find love and what to avoid.

In this episode we discuss how to avoid Settling for Less Than God's best by first building a foundation in what you believe and your core values. Then, we move into awareness of your individual needs and desires. Next, we discuss Comfort vs Contentment, Good vs Great Decisions and patience. Finally, we sprinkle in some examples from our lives and leave everyone with tangible and practical next steps.

In this episode, we will be referencing how to set boundaries in relationships within the context of the book, Boundaries in Marriage by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. We start by explaining what exactly a boundary is, with examples of boundaries with words, consequences, truth, emotional distance, physical distance, other people, and time.We are also going to share our story along with our values, and how having shared values helps us set boundaries in our marriage. The discussion of misuse of boundaries and what that looks like will also be discussed, as well as what leadership in relationships should look like.The episode ends with a recap of what we have talked about, along with some practical steps for setting boundaries.

In this episode, we're discussing the importance of taking care of your health, and the implications this can have on a relationship.We are both personal trainers and Elizabeth is also a Health Coach, so this episode is us speaking from years of experience in the health and fitness world. We're talking about practical steps to improve your health, how to have loving conversations with your significant other to encourage them to take better care of themselves, and some stereotypes and trends to avoid. For more info on what we do as fitness and wellness professionals, visit our websites:www.ElizabethDentonHealth.comwww.xji.space

In this episode we will be discussing the importance of understanding your money, especially in terms of money in relationships. Did you know that 78% of US households live paycheck to paycheck, and that the number one cause of divorce in North America is money fights?We're not ok with this! Especially when it's something that can be prevented with smart money management, budgeting, and living within your means.We'll be sharing some of our story about our struggles with finances, and what we're doing now. We are also talking about the program that helped us get financially fit; Financial Peace University by Dave Ramsey.For more info, visit FinancialPeace.com

Part 1:A complete person is a mature person, able to do all the things that adult life and relationship requires: give and receive love, be independent and self-sufficient, live out values honestly, be responsible, have self-confidence, deal with problems and failures, live out their talents, and have a lifeAble to ForgivePart 2:The degree that either is less than complete as a person, the oneness will suffer under the strain of that incompleteness.If you are asking the relationship to complete you, the relationship will break down. Don’t marry out of weakness, don't marry someone to make up for what you do not possess on your own, or out of your incompleteness Part 3:Take responsibility for the treasures of our soul -feelings, attitudes, behaviors, choices, limits, desires, thoughts, values, talents, love Getting the help that you needWorking on yourself for YOU, not for someone else

We’re not experts. We’re just looking to engage the community around us. We believe our world can be deeply impacted by having healthier relationships with each other.We formatted this episode in a creative way to define what healthy relationships look like. We created a Q&A with each other asking the following questions:What are some unhealthy behaviors or patterns you have observed or personally experienced? Where did your information on relationships come from? What’s a behavior you had to change to make our relationship more successful? What’s the image of a successful relationship in the past vs now? At the moment that we met, were we thinking of marriage? At the end of the episode, we talk about healthy dating. Our takeaways to healthy dating:Must be two, healthy individuals. Be comfortable with who you are, what you like about yourself as well as opportunities for growth. Chase your passion and calling instead of chasing people.When you do find that person…keep doing what you're doing! Follow the call on your life and be patient.

This podcast seeks to engage all people around the world regardless of what they believe. However, as the creators of this medium, our framework is Biblically based. We recognize that there is a lot of confusion as it relates to healthy relationships, so we are hopeful that this podcast can provide clarity and meaningful discussion. Our Mission: We aim to bring clarity to a generation that is searching for stability in an “anything goes” culture.Our Vision:We believe that through the restoration of the family, cities across the globe will be transformed to bring glory to God.Why?Marriage has gotten a bad rap lately. Divorce rates are at or above 50%. We want to re-write the script and Make Marriage Cool Again, the way we believe God intended marriage to be; with both partners giving themselves voluntarily and sacrificially to each other, with a mutual love commitment. A union based on equal and mutual sharing guided by love, with sacred vows that were never to be broken. But we can’t get here because of the noise and distractions that are clouding the way people see God and each other. So every opportunity we get to clear a pathway for people to receive the love of God, we take to put a stake in the ground.