I Didn't Sign up for This

In the last episode of Series 1, Jade and Alison talk about growth in relationships - what kind of changes you might see in different relationships and how to navigate and manage them. NOTES: "O is for Opportunity" article: https://www.gottman.com/blog/o-is-for-opportunity/

In Episode 4, Jade and Alison talk about boundaries what boundaries are, how you can identify them, why they're important and how to hold them.

In the third episode of season 1, Jade and Alison get into the differences between internal validation and external validation, as well as some topics around co-dependency.

Jade and Alison dive into how to differentiate between romantic and platonic love, as well as how to navigate being "friend-zoned"

In this episode, Jade and Alison chat about different types of relationships, including monogomous, polygamous, open and more.

We're back with a quick and completely unedited episode on COVID-19. In this episode, we're talking about what we're seeing professionally and personally, as well as how to cope through all this!

In this episode, we discuss how to care for yourself when physically injured. Listen in for the difference between self care and coping, how to engage in self care when you're injured and how we personally self care when we can't engage in our regular routines due to injury!

In Episode 12, Part 2, we discussed physical injuries and the different ways it may effect mood and even result in personality changes.

In Episode 12, we chat about how physical injury can effect our mental health, and how to cope! This is an area Alison and I have experienced in our practice as well as in our own personal lives, so we're excited to jump into this topic! We have also taken into account some listener feedback and have greatly shortened our episode length. Let us know what you think!

In this episode, we talk about what communication really entails, and some do's and don'ts to help you have a more meaningful, productive conversation!

In this episode, we chat with Mayra Vargas, LMFT about her work with youth in the Juvenile Justice System.

In our third part to the Understanding Trauma series, we look at some of the different treatments used in therapy to address trauma, we take a better look at things you can do on your own, and we talk about why these approaches can be effective. SHOW NOTES/LINKS: One treatment approach we didn't discuss, but is often used is called "Seeking Safety". If you'd like to find more information about Seeking Safety, you do that here: https://www.treatment-innovations.org/faq-ss.html ________________________________________________________________________ BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, MD - https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748/ref=sr_1_2?keywords=the+body+keeps+the+score&qid=1551903867&s=gateway&sr=8-2 ________________________________________________________________________ The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog: And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist's Notebook--What Traumatized Children Can Teach Us About Loss, Love, and Healing by Bruce Perry, M.D., Ph.D:- https://www.amazon.com/Boy-Who-Raised-Psychiatrists-Notebook-What/dp/0465094457/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3IFHRL3DJ2ARW&keywords=the+boy+who+was+raised+as+a+dog+by+bruce+perry&qid=1551902530&s=gateway&sprefix=the+boy+who+was%2Caps%2C219&sr=8-1 ________________________________________________________________________ Born for Love: Why Empathy Is Essential-and Endangered by Bruce Perry, M.D., Ph.D- https://www.amazon.com/Born-Love-Empathy-Essential-Endangered/dp/0061656798/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3MZ8S2P5WV010&keywords=born+for+love+bruce+perry&qid=1551902602&s=gateway&sprefix=born+for+love+bruce+%2Caps%2C209&sr=8-1 ________________________________________________________________________ The Whole-Brain Child Workbook: Practical Exercises, Worksheets and Activities to Nurture Developing Minds by Daniel J. Siegal, M.D. and Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D - https://www.amazon.com/dp/1936128748/ref=sspa_dk_detail_0?psc=1

In Part 2 of our Understanding Trauma episode, we get deeper into what trauma actually looks like, situations that can be traumatic that are often overlooked, ways to help manage symptoms and how to help reduce the effects trauma has on others around you and your relationships. **After reviewing this episode, we have determined that we'd like to add additional information and provide further clarification on certain points. With that being said, we have decided to add a part 3, which will be released on Monday, March 4, 2019. IMPORTANT NOTE: This is a complex topic, and our podcast does not allow enough time to cover everything that understanding trauma entails. Please remember that this podcast is not a replacement for seeking appropriate care, and to please contact a mental health provider or your primary care physician if needed. Please feel free to contact Alison or myself should you be interested in therapy, or are in need of resources to find a provider. jsiaolmft@gmail.com info@alisonsilviuslmft.com

Trauma - Something so many of have heard about, and probably experienced, but aren't sure what to make of it. In part one of or two part episode on understanding trauma, we will start to unpack this very complex issue, and the impact it can have on our lives. Show Notes/Links: SAMHSA - https://www.samhsa.gov/trauma-violence To learn more about the ACE study - https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/acestudy/index.html Traumatic Stress: effects on the brain - https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3181836/

It's no secret that living in a place like the Bay Area is expensive, and causes financial hardships. It's probably no secret that that's a top reason for people's high stress levels, either. But what other effects are we really facing by living in a high-cost, go-go-go environment? In Episode 8, we discuss the tolls our bodies and minds are facing in such a financially difficult place to live. Show Notes/Links: 1. "Is Silicon Valley Bad for Your Health?" fortune.com/2015/10/23/is-silic…ad-for-your-health/ 2. "Californians: Here's why your housing costs are so high" (Ths is the article that features the "Rents vs. Renter's Income" graph we reference. calmatters.org/articles/housing-…-high-california/ 3. "Homelessness in the Bay Area" www.spur.org/publications/urban…elessness-bay-area 4. Zillow, San Jose: www.zillow.com/san-jose-ca/home-values/ 5. Zillow, San Francisco: www.zillow.com/san-francisco-ca/home-values/ 6. "Thousands of Californians are working while homeless, and many don't want their boss to know"www.scpr.org/news/2018/08/31/85…king-while-homele/

Hello everyone! If you've been following the podcast, you know that my co-host and I talk quite a bit about self-care (even outside of our last episode!) That being said, we had planned to post this episode last week on New Year's Eve. Low and behold I couldn't manage to fit in the things I need to do while keeping up with the Holiday things that were coming up. Full disclosure, I was stressed, and I was pushing myself and worrying I wouldn't get this episode out in time. My wonderful co-host, Alison Casanova, and I chatted and remembered that, basically, we should practice what we preach - instead of stressing over this deadline we had set for ourselves, we took the time to breathe and enjoy the Holidays. I apologize this episode is posted late, but I hope you enjoy it none-the-less. Let's all start the new year, first and foremost, remembering to take care of ourselves and give ourselves grace. In this episode, we talk about New Year's Resolutions, figuring out if you really even need one, how to set yourself up for success and what to do if you "fall off" and want to get back on track! Thanks for listening, please feel free to leave comments or questions, and have a Happy New Year!! Show Notes/Links: Holiday Ride Share Program/Tipsy Tow Service: newsroom.aaa.com/safety/holiday-safe-ride-program/

Okay, okay! We know self care is something that is talked about often, and maybe you are tired of hearing about it, but don't skip this episode! We talk about why it's important, we'll give you some inexpensive or free self-care ideas and go over how to recognize if you're burnt out. Got some self-care ideas you love already? Please share them! We love new ideas :)

In Episode 5, we dive into a tough topic - grief and loss. We openly discuss the process following the death of a loved one, as well as loss beyond the physical. We then look at some things to expect if you or someone you know are going through the grieving process, different ways to cope and how to support somebody else. Show Notes: The Grief Cycle, developed by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross and David Kessler: grief.com/the-five-stages-of-grief/ A few of the coping skills we talk about. -Be patient with yourself! -Listen to yourself. Listen to your body! -Identify a few good support people and ALLOW them to help you. -Don't forget to eat. Identify things you still have control over and take advantage of those.

Join us for Episode 4 as we go over the different types of wellness and mental health providers and how to find the right one for you! This episode is a bit more information based and is helpful for potential clients seeking a provider as well as those interested in a career in mental health. Enjoy! Show Notes/Links: What is a Life Coach: www.lifecoach.com/what-is-a-life-coach Requirements to Becoming a Life Coach: work.chron.com/legal-requirement…aching-26795.html International Coaching Federation website: coachfederation.org/ Becoming a Counselor in California: counselor-license.com/counselor-cert…or-california/ Board of Behavioral Sciences, Licensed Professioal Clinical Counselor: www.bbs.ca.gov/applicants/lpcc.html Human Services Edu: www.humanservicesedu.org/california-s…unselor.html What Do Social Workers Do?: www.humanservicesedu.org/what-do-soci…kers-do.html Board of Behavioral Sciences, Social Worker Requirements in California: www.bbs.ca.gov/applicants/lcsw.html Board of Behavioral Sciences, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Requirements in California: www.bbs.ca.gov/applicants/lmft.html Department of Consumer Affairs: Qualifications for Licensure as a Psychologist: www.psychology.ca.gov/applicants/license.shtml Careers in Psychology: How to Become a Psychologist in California: careersinpsychology.org/how-to-become…n-california/ Learn.org - How to Become a Psychiatrist in California: learn.org/articles/Psychiatris…_a_Psychiatrist.html

In Episode 3, we discuss different transitions that people may experience, some things to expect during those transitions and how to approach them to help make these inevitable experiences a little more manageable. Tune in to this relatable episode as Jade discloses some very real (and slightly embarrassing) experiences of her own life transitions. Show notes/links: California Community Foundation Wildlife Relief Fund: www.calfund.org/wildfire-relief-fund/ California Fire Foundation: www.cafirefoundation.org/ Airbnb: www.airbnb.com/welcome/evacuees/…orniafireevacuees Charity Navigator (find out a little more about places to donate to before you donate): www.charitynavigator.org/index.cfm?ba…ew&cpid=5456 Other places to get more information on where to donate: www.nytimes.com/2018/11/11/reader…-how-to-help.html www.refinery29.com/en-us/2018/11/2…dise-malibu-aid

In Episode 2 we discuss the similarities and differences between ghosting and boundaries. We also dive into difficult situations that come up during the Holidays and how to recognize and maintain your boundaries. Also included in today's episode: a little hint at something Jade is working on adding to her repertoire for future work with clients! ;)Enjoy!

In this first episode of "I Didn't Sign up for This", Jade Siao, LMFT and Alison Casanova, LMFT launch into introductions and what to expect from therapy. Join us as we chat about who we are, what we do, what a first session can look like, and what the therapy process is like (as well as clearing up some possible misconceptions). Also as a bonus, you'll get to learn a fun, somewhat unknown, fact about us :) Notes and Links: 1. Kristen Bell's hilarious "Love Ballad to Your Therapist" video -(Warning: she does swear once in this song): youtu.be/co3-PZ8vs-8