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Wed, 03 Jun 2026 00:00:00 GMT http://relay.fm/focused/257 http://relay.fm/focused/257 David Sparks and Mike Schmitz Stephen Robles joins us to talk about reading, intentional technology use, directing AI, and the golden era of the generalist. Stephen Robles joins us to talk about reading, intentional technology use, directing AI, and the golden era of the generalist. clean 4520 Stephen Robles joins us to talk about reading, intentional technology use, directing AI, and the golden era of the generalist. This episode of Focused is sponsored by: Keeper: Get 60% off personal and family plans. Squarespace: Save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code FOCUSED. Guest Starring: Stephen Robles Links and Show Notes: Deep Focus: Extended ad-free episodes with bonus deep dive content. Focused 257 on YouTube Stephen's website Riverside.fm Stephen's YouTube channel Treo 755p | Wikipedia Engadget | Technology News & Expert Reviews Mac Power Users | Relay Range by David Epstein The Gap and The Gain by Dr. Benjamin Hardy and Dan Sullivan MKBHD on his 100th video | YouTube The Talk Show Ep. 447, with Adam Lisagor Hovercraft The Rise of the Creative Tastemaker | Practical PKM The Light Phone FL Studio The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk I Am Not a Robot by Joanna Stern Your Brain on Art by Susan Magsamen & Ivy Ross 100 Rules for Living to 100 by Dick Van Dyke Creativity by John Cleese Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman The Other Side of Sadness by George Bonanno The Violin Maker by John Marchese Foundation | IMDb Stillness Is the Key by Ryan Holiday Last Meals | YouTube Reconcilable Differences | Relay Unreasonable Hospitality by Will Guidara Unreasonable Hospitality: The Secret to an Audience That Never Leaves | Nathan Barry Show #127 On B.S. by Harry Frankfurt The Odyssey by Homer, Emily Wilson translation Shark Slider Pico | iFootage Plaud Note Pro

Wed, 03 Jun 2026 00:00:00 GMT http://relay.fm/focused/257 http://relay.fm/focused/257 I Go By Vibes, with Stephen Robles 257 David Sparks and Mike Schmitz Stephen Robles joins us to talk about reading, intentional technology use, directing AI, and the golden era of the generalist. Stephen Robles joins us to talk about reading, intentional technology use, directing AI, and the golden era of the generalist. clean 4520 Stephen Robles joins us to talk about reading, intentional technology use, directing AI, and the golden era of the generalist. This episode of Focused is sponsored by: Keeper: Get 60% off personal and family plans. Squarespace: Save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code FOCUSED. Guest Starring: Stephen Robles Links and Show Notes: Deep Focus: Extended ad-free episodes with bonus deep dive content. Focused 257 on YouTube Stephen's website Riverside.fm Stephen's YouTube channel Treo 755p | Wikipedia Engadget | Technology News & Expert Reviews Mac Power Users | Relay Range by David Epstein The Gap and The Gain by Dr. Benjamin Hardy and Dan Sullivan MKBHD on his 100th video | YouTube The Talk Show Ep. 447, with Adam Lisagor Hovercraft The Rise of the Creative Tastemaker | Practical PKM The Light Phone FL Studio The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk I Am Not a Robot by Joanna Stern Your Brain on Art by Susan Magsamen & Ivy Ross 100 Rules for Living to 100 by Dick Van Dyke Creativity by John Cleese Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman The Other Side of Sadness by George Bonanno The Violin Maker by John Marchese Foundation | IMDb Stillness Is the Key by Ryan Holiday Last Meals | YouTube Reconcilable Differences | Relay Unreasonable Hospitality by Will Guidara Unreasonable Hospitality: The Secret to an Audience That Never Leaves | Nathan Barry Show #127 On B.S. by Harry Frankfurt The Odyssey by Homer, Emily Wilson translation Shark Slider Pico | iFootage Plaud Note Pro Govee

Forgiveness has a pace of its own, and sometimes the most honest thing we can do is admit we're not there yet. This episode explores what it means to give ourselves (and each other) permission to be in process, without the pressure to be further along than we actually are.    LINKS: Book of Forgiving  |  Connect  |  YouTube  |  Coming Up   TRANSCRIPT: Brief framing before reading: We're talking about forgiveness in this series. About what happens when someone hurts us — or when we hurt someone else. And about the choices we have when that happens. I'm going to read you the first half of a book today. We're going to stop in the middle on purpose because the most important part of the story for TODAY is actually what happens right... here. And we're going to finish it next week. Read first half of Wally and Freya. Brief unpack after reading: What's happening in the story: someone got hurt. Both of them, actually. And now they have a choice. Two roads: get even, stay hurt… OR something harder, and maybe even braver. Forgiveness doesn't always happen right away. It takes practice. And the very first steps are: tell somebody you trust what happened, and then tell about what it felt like. When somebody does something that hurts me, I feel sad, and kind of mad. Sometimes it feels like I don't matter much to them. Just saying that out loud is an important thing to do! In the story, Wally and Freya are both sad. Both hurt. And now they have a choice to make. So do we. We'll find out what they choose next week. The Stone — Kids Practice Give each child a stone. This stone is like the hurt we carry when someone has hurt our feelings, or our bodies, or our hearts. It has some weight to it, just like the hurt does. You can return to your seats and work in their special kids Sunday Paper: Trace the stone on the paper. Inside the tracing, write or draw what the hurt is. Hold onto your stone. We're going to do something with it in a few minutes, everybody together. You can also listen in to what I'm saying, if you want to hear more about forgiving! Catching Everybody Up//Recap Welcome anyone who is new or wasn't here Week 1. I want to do a brief recap: We're in a series called The Book of Forgiving, drawing from Archbishop Desmond Tutu and his daughter Mpho's important work on what forgiveness actually is, and how to do it. The Tutus aren't theorists. Desmond Tutu chaired South Africa's Truth and Reconciliation Commission. Mpho lost her husband to violent crime. These are people who have earned the right to talk about this. Their framework is called the Fourfold Path: Telling the Story → Naming the Hurt → Granting Forgiveness → Renewing or Releasing the Relationship. In wk 1 we looked at the first step: Telling the Story. Today: Naming the Hurt. The big idea underneath all of it: We desperately need an imagination bigger than the revenge cycle we live inside culturally. That cycle is everywhere— in our politics, our entertainment, our instincts. The Tutus show us a different road. The Problem with How We Do Forgiveness Let's be honest about why forgiveness is so hard to practice, even for people who believe in it. We've collapsed forgiveness into remorse. Someone says "sorry!"— maybe genuinely, maybe not— and suddenly the pressure shifts entirely to the person who was hurt: Now you have to forgive. We skip the whole middle. That's not forgiveness. That's cruel urgency dressed up as something kind. We've made forgetting the goal. But the Tutus are clear: forgetting is not only impossible, it's actually counterproductive. Memory is part of how we protect ourselves. Part of how we stay honest. Forgiveness is not amnesia. We've weaponized it. In religious spaces especially, "forgive" has been used to protect people who caused harm and to silence people who were hurt. When forgiveness gets wielded as a command that bypasses accountability — when it becomes "Jesus says you have to forgive, so stop talking about what happened" — that is not sacred or faithful. That is abusive. And yet — Jesus does make forgiveness an ultimate, limitless command. Seventy times seven. God forgives without limit; our response is gratitude and extending that same grace. So how do we hold both? How do we take forgiveness seriously without letting it become a weapon? The answer is: we stop skipping the important steps. Forgiveness Cannot Be Rushed The Fourfold Path is a path…  it has an order for a reason. You cannot get to granting forgiveness without first telling the story and naming the hurt. Trying to skip there is what creates the toxic, pressured, performative version of forgiveness we've all experienced. And we'll get into this later in the series, but granting forgiveness has nothing to do with the decision to either renegotiate or release that relationship.  Forgiveness needs to be as slow as it needs to be. It has a pace of its own. That pace deserves to be honored. (Callback to the stone practice from Week 1): Did anybody actually hold that stone in their non-dominant hand for six hours this week? What was that like? [[funny?]] That's the point. Six hours felt like a lot. Some of us have been carrying something for six years. Or sixty. It deserves time. The Second Step: Naming the Hurt  So what does it actually mean to name the hurt? It starts with telling your story… to yourself? To God? To people you trust. Not to everyone. Not on social media. Not to the first person who will listen. To the right people, in a safe space. The Tutus: Tell your story first to a friend, loved one, or trusted person. That's a good place to start. There is a reason confession exists across almost every spiritual tradition. Not as a transaction, but as the practice of being heard without being fixed. What naming the hurt does: It begins to move what happened from something that is happening to you — constantly, on loop — into something that happened, that you can now begin to look at. Bessel van der Kolk: the body keeps what the mind won't name. When we give language to an experience, we move it from the body's alarm system into the part of the brain that can begin to process it. The Tutus frame it this way: Identify the feelings within the facts. The facts are WHAT HAPPENED. The feelings are what it COST you. What naming the hurt does NOT do: It does not mean what was done to you was okay. It does not mean you've forgiven anything yet. It does not mean you owe anyone resolution. But there is something that begins to shift. There is relief– which to be clear, is not the same as justice, and not the same as healing, but real relief— when the hurt stops being the main character in your story because you finally named it out loud. The Tutus again: No feeling is wrong, bad, or invalid. Move forward when you are ready. We Are Only Human With Other Humans This is why we do this together. Not because community is always safe — sometimes it isn't. But because we cannot become fully human alone. The Tutus: We do not heal in isolation. Connecting with others is how we develop compassion for others and for ourselves. What makes a good witness to someone naming their hurt? The Tutus give us a short, countercultural list: Listen. Do not try to fix the pain. Do not minimize the loss. Do not offer advice. Offer your love and your caring. That's it. Stay in the room. Don't flinch. Don't fix. That is one of the most profound gifts one human can offer another. Invitation: The Stone Practice Now we're all going to do something together— kids and adults. Invite everyone to pick up or find their stone. Walk them through the Tutus' "Clenching the Stone" practice (Book of Forgiving, Chapter 5): Take your stone in your dominant hand. Think of a hurt you are carrying right now. Name it… silently, or under your breath. As you name it, clench the stone in your fist. Now open your hand. As you release your fist, release the hurt — not forever, not resolved, just... set down for a moment. You can clench and release again for each thing you're carrying. Breathe… We're not asking you to be over it. We're not asking you to forgive it yet. We're just asking you to name it, and take the permission you can give yourself to walk the path of forgiving, at a pace that is right for you. That's enough for today. That's the work.

I've been sitting on this episode for over a year, and I'm finally ready to share it with you. This one is deeply personal, and honestly, it took me this long to have all the pieces come together before I could record it. If you've ever carried guilt or shame about who you used to be, the choices you made, or the way you showed up in your business or relationships, this episode is for you. I'm opening up about a massive realization I had watching my mom's journey with dementia, and how it completely shifted the way I see guilt, shame, and what happens when we refuse to release them. I'm talking about the version of myself I built a successful business as, the pendulum swing I made when I didn't like what I saw, and the bag of guilt I picked up along the way that was literally showing up in my body. This isn't just about my story though. It's about the pattern I see so many of us fall into where we beat ourselves up for who we were instead of taking the lesson and moving forward. I'm sharing what finally clicked for me a few months ago that changed everything, and I'm extending an invitation to you that I hope helps you step into more freedom and abundance faster than it took me to get here! If you've been feeling called to the world of fashion but aren't sure how to turn that passion into a paycheck, I've created a path just for you. Whether you're at the very beginning and need the fundamentals in Stylist School, ready to build your legal and marketing foundation with Business of Style, or looking for high-level community and up-to-date industry guides in our membership, Stylist Society, there is a place for you here. I'm obsessed with helping you get there bigger and faster than I did, because your art is worthy of massive compensation! To find the right fit for your current business stage and join our community of stylists, visit katetaylorstylist.com to get started.  Before you go, if you feel moved by this episode, or are lit up and feel connected to what I share today, I want to hear from you! You can send a DM or tag us on Instagram, @katetaylorstylist, or contact us through our podcast website at www.thekatetaylorpodcast.com. We would also be so happy if you left us a review with your thoughts on Apple Podcasts - I read and cherish every single one! What We Cover In This Episode:  The shocking awareness I had about how I'd been measuring my self-worth [6:06] Why I had to put the big launches on pause and the message I was too stubborn to see until recently [7:37] The shamanic death I didn't know was coming when I came face to face with my ego [9:45] What happened when I swung the pendulum to the opposite extreme [12:06] The unexpected guilt I carried while navigating my mom's care [16:49] My epiphany and the realization I made about what happens when guilt and shame go unprocessed for decades [23:19] The surprising way I had become allergic to my own success and what I mean when I say this [31:55] A special invitation I have for you that will help you move forward into freedom [34:43]   Links & Resources: The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.  

Dein Körper spricht oft lange mit dir, bevor du wirklich hinhörst. In dieser Folge spreche ich über meine persönliche Erfahrung mit Stress, Körpersignalen, Neurodermitis, eine Panikattacke und einer blockierten Schulter, die mich damals kurz vor meiner Australien-Reise komplett gestoppt hat. Es geht um die Momente, in denen dein Körper deutlicher wird, weil du selbst längst über deine Grenzen gegangen bist. In dieser Folge geht es um: Stresssymptome und Körpersignale Neurodermitis, Erschöpfung und körperliche Reaktionen emotionale Belastung und unterdrückte Gefühle Psychosomatik und ganzheitliche Gesundheit warum reine Analyse oft nicht reicht unbequeme Entscheidungen in Beziehung, Job und Alltag Grenzen, Selbstverantwortung und ehrliches Hinsehen Manchmal braucht dein Körper keine weitere Erklärung. Manchmal braucht er, dass du endlich anders lebst. Erwähnte Podcast Episoden & Ressourcen Podcast Episode: Wie ich in einem Jahr 10.000€ gespart habe, um meine Surf-Weltreise zu finanzieren Buch: Krankheit als Symbol - Ruediger Dahlke Buch: Das Trauma in dir - Bessel van der Kolk UNTAMED – mein 1:1 Business Mentoring Wenn du nicht nur verstehen willst, was dich zurückhält, sondern es wirklich verändern willst dann ist UNTAMED dein Raum. In UNTAMED arbeiten wir nicht nur an deiner Strategie. Wir arbeiten daran, wie du denkst, entscheidest, sichtbar wirst und dich positionierst. Damit dein Business nicht nur funktioniert, sondern sich nach dir anfühlt. UNTAMED Mentoring Let's stay connected: Instagram: sabine.spallek Mehr über meine Arbeit: beuntamed.de

Imagine you and your teenager are sitting down for a nice meal and she/he asks, “What do you know about depression?” and you're stumped for an answer.Faced with that question, D. (Doug) Earl Johnston set out to find the answer and, along the way, identified 271 additional and distinct emotional states that formed the basis of his latest book, Choosing Emotions: Thinking with Your Head and Acting with Your Heart.Doug shares what he learned about the amazing array of emotions all of us feel and how they protect us this week on Spirit Gym.Learn more about Doug and his work at his website and on social media via Instagram. Timestamps4:58 Doug's daughter asked him a question he couldn't answer: What do you know about depression?10:42 Identifying 272 distinct emotional states through famous quotes.21:41 Our emotions are tools that protect us.32:15 The fundamental misunderstandings people have about emotions.43:15 A consilience.47:35 Name it, blame it and tame it.56:30 “Fear is a reaction. Courage is a decision.”1:06:35 Where do you draw the line between an emotion, mood, condition, pattern or life?1:23:54 “Can you change a default emotion?”1:33:38 Doug's reckoning with ego.1:39:05 Vocabulary and emotions.1:48:03 The domains of the head, heart and gut.1:52:55 One of Paul's guiding principles he learned from a student.ResourcesAtlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience by Brené BrownThe work of Rollo May, J.K. Rowling, Eckhart Tolle, Dr. Antonio Damasio, Jonathan Heidt, Daniel Kahneman, Niels Bohr, Ludwig Wittgenstein, Charles Kettering, Noam Chomsky, Dan Siegel, Stanley Krippner, Edgar Cayce and Sir Winston ChurchillPaul's podcast conversations with Rollin McCraty and Keith WittHow Emotions Are Made: The Secret Life of the Brain by Lisa BarrettSwitch: How to Change Things When Change is Hard by Chip and Dan HeathFeelings Buried Alive Never Die by Karol TrumanThe Body Keeps The Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk Tao Te Ching: A New English Version by Stephen MitchellThe Second Book of the Tao by Stephen MitchellFind more resources for this episode on our website.Music Credit: Meet Your Heroes (444Hz), Composed, mixed, mastered and produced by Michael RB Schwartz of Brave Bear MusicThanks to our awesome sponsors:PaleovalleyBIOptimizers US and BIOptimizers UK PAUL15Organifi CHEK20Wild PasturesPique LifeCHEK InstituteWe may earn commissions from qualifying purchases using affiliate links.

En este episodio de Leyendo con Vale seguimos con el capítulo 11 de El cuerpo lleva la cuenta de Bessel van der Kolk.Hablamos de una verdad clave: el trauma no siempre vuelve como recuerdo… vuelve como sensación.Ansiedad, pánico, cansancio, desconexión…muchas veces no estamos reaccionando al presente,sino a heridas que el cuerpo todavía recuerda.También exploramos por qué el trauma queda “congelado”, cómo se expresa en nuestra vida diariay por qué sanar no es borrar el pasado, sino dejar de vivir en alerta.Gracias por ser parte de esta comunidadSigueme en instagram @leyendoconvalepodcastEl eco de Dios en mi historia en Amazon: https://a.co/d/0j6eyzMF

In this solo episode of Perfect Prey, Dr. Christine Cocchiola explores the connection between coercive control, childhood trauma, attachment, and the growing number of children being diagnosed with ADHD and other behavioral disorders. Dr. Cocchiola challenges listeners to consider a critical question: what if many of the behaviors we label as “problematic” are actually trauma responses? What if children living within coercively controlling family systems are being misunderstood rather than truly seen?Drawing from the work of Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, Dr. Gabor Maté, Dr. Bruce Perry, and betrayal trauma theory, this episode examines how trauma can manifest as fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses in children — and how coercive control fractures attachment, identity, safety, and regulation. Dr. Cocchiola also discusses how predatory parents weaponize children, how attachment is intentionally disrupted, and why protective parents play such a critical role in healing and rebuilding safety for their children.What we coverThis episode is essential listening for protective parents, clinicians, educators, advocates, and anyone trying to better understand trauma, child behavior, and coercive control.How trauma can mimic ADHD symptomsFight, flight, freeze, and fawn trauma responses in childrenCoercive control within family systemsHow predatory parents fracture attachment intentionallyWhy dysregulated children are often misunderstoodAttachment, authenticity, and child developmentTrauma, dissociation, and emotional regulationThe impact of coercive control on school performance and behaviorWhy children exposed to abuse may appear oppositional or disengagedProtective parenting and reigniting attachmentBroken attachment, broken safety, and “broken brain”How systems often pathologize traumatized children instead of protecting themWhy listenIf you are raising a child impacted by coercive control, navigating post-separation abuse, or working professionally with children and families, this episode offers a trauma-informed framework for understanding behavior through the lens of attachment and survival.Dr. Cocchiola invites listeners to shift away from asking “What's wrong with this child?” and instead ask: “What happened to this child?” Connect with Dr. Christine:Protective Parenting Program: https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/services/for-parents/Dr. C's Community: https://go.drcocchiola.com/innercirclecommunityOfficial site: https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DrCocchiola-coercivecontrol/videosTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.c_coercivecontrolInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol/TEDxTalks: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gp2qByKOue4&t=24sBooks:https://url-shortener.me/c/FramedBookhttps://url-shortener.me/c/EveryMomentOfEveryDayIf this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who may need this conversation, subscribe to Perfect Prey, and leave a review — it helps other survivors and protective parents find support and validation.

This is not a morning routine episode. This is a therapeutic system built from years of trial, error, and paying very close attention to a body with autoimmune disease.Brandi takes you through her full day, from 6:30 AM to lights out at 11, and Dr. Desiree breaks down the biology behind every single piece of it. Not because it looks good on paper, but because the research backs it and the Oura ring data confirms it.If you are living with an autoimmune condition, or you know something is off and you cannot name it yet, this episode is the one to send to every woman in your life who needs to hear it.What You'll Learn:Why the first five minutes after you wake up are the most neuroplastic window of your entire day and how to use that on purposeWhat Brandi puts in her morning mason jar and the specific reason each ingredient is in there (lemon, apple cider vinegar, mushroom extract and why order and timing matter)The three-legged stool model of autoimmunity and how every element of Brandi's day maps directly to one of those three legsWhy meditation is not a wellness extra for someone managing autoimmune disease, and what the epigenetics research actually says about itThe difference between morning coffee and matcha for your cortisol levels, your gut lining, and your immune regulationWhat "back pocket thoughts" are and how a 10-15 minute journaling practice is physically building new neural pathways in your prefrontal cortexWhy morning light in your eyes (without sunglasses, without a window) sets your circadian rhythm for the entire day and directly affects sleep quality 14-16 hours laterThe one thing that is independently associated with increased inflammation regardless of what else you are doing (and it is not your diet)Why Brandi takes Reishi and magnesium bisglycinate every single night and what her Oura ring data shows about sleep quality when she doesHow a hot shower before bed is triggering the same nervous system wind-down signal as your evening supplementsWhat the glymphatic system does while you sleep and why no supplement or practice can replace the repair work that only happens in those hoursThe single strongest predictor of microbiome diversity, and how to hit 30 plant foods a week without overhauling your entire kitchenResources Mentioned:Eversio Wellness 5 Mushroom Blend (Metabolic / Hormone Balancing): https://www.eversiowellness.com/Eversio Wellness Lion's Mane: https://www.eversiowellness.com/Eversio Wellness Reishi: https://www.eversiowellness.com/Soar Organics Matcha (Vancouver-based, USDA and Canada Organic certified): https://www.soarorganics.com/EWG Clean 15 and Dirty Dozen (annual pesticide guide for produce): https://www.ewg.org/foodnews/Oura Ring: https://ouraring.com/The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk (referenced in context of trauma and autoimmune disease)Brandi's Book: https://www.eversiowellness.com/products/healing-your-body-mind-and-soulTake the Eversio Wellness Quiz: https://www.eversiowellness.com/pages/take-our-quizYour Next Steps:Take the Wellness Quiz to find the right mushroom for you: https://www.eversiowellness.com/pages/take-our-quizShop Eversio Wellness and save 15% with code PODCAST15: https://www.eversiowellness.com/Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eversiowellness/Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCSZdEq_Qk0SYCKCeAwuuiwListen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0cNGNkTVcgpS2an1IFy1HJ?si=673791bd190e4c33

Can nice girls win?You know her as one of the most iconic players in Survivor history, but Parvati Shallow's memoir, Nice Girls Don't Win, reveals the story behind the strategy. My friend, Diliana, joins me as we dive deep into Parvati's remarkable journey from growing up in a cult-like commune called The Ranch, to winning Survivor twice, to finally doing the hardest thing of all: healing.We explore the four Fs — fight, flight, freeze, and fawn — and how Parvati spent most of her life cycling through them without realizing it. We talk about the performance of being "the good girl," what it costs women to be likable, and why the villain edit she carried for years says so much more about our culture than it does about her.And along the way, we get personal about growing up in survival mode, about not wanting to be a burden, about the belief systems we inherit from the people who raised us, and the long, non-linear work of unlearning them.This one is for anyone who has ever shrunk themselves to be loved, wondered why they can't just get over it, or needed a reminder that the mess and the healing are both part of the win.Purchase Nice Girls Don't Win by Parvati ShallowOther books mentioned:Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete WalkerThe Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der KolkExistential Kink by Carolyn ElliottThank you for supporting the show!Xx, Alex Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Emotional Safety After Betrayal: Understanding Emotions, Trauma, and Relationship Healing Podcast Summary In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore the connection between emotional safety, betrayal trauma, emotional regulation, and relationship healing after infidelity or sexual betrayal. Many individuals struggling with betrayal trauma, anxiety, emotional disconnection, or relationship conflict often suppress their true emotions by saying “I'm fine” while internally feeling overwhelmed, hurt, angry, anxious, or emotionally exhausted. In this conversation, Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn discuss why emotional honesty and emotional congruency are essential for rebuilding trust, emotional intimacy, and healthy communication in relationships. The episode examines how shame, emotional shutdown, avoidance, and trauma responses interfere with connection and healing. Listeners will also learn about emotional contagion, nervous system regulation, co-regulation, and the importance of creating emotionally safe relationships where both partners can openly express their feelings without fear of judgment, defensiveness, or rejection. Topics discussed include: Betrayal trauma recovery Healing after infidelity Emotional regulation in relationships Relationship communication skills Emotional safety and trust rebuilding PTSD symptoms after betrayal Emotional disconnection in marriage Co-regulation and nervous system healing Shame and emotional shutdown Understanding contradictory emotions after betrayal Emotional intelligence and self-awareness How unresolved emotions impact intimacy and connection Whether you are recovering from betrayal trauma, struggling with emotional intimacy, or trying to strengthen communication in your relationship, this episode provides practical insights into understanding emotions, rebuilding trust, and creating deeper human connection. Resources Mentioned in This Episode Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman A foundational book on emotional awareness, emotional regulation, empathy, and developing healthier relationship skills. The Choice by Edith Eger Discusses emotional healing, resilience, trauma recovery, and understanding core emotional experiences. The work of Brené Brown Especially her research on vulnerability, shame, emotional connection, and authentic relationships. Stephen Porges and Polyvagal Theory Understanding nervous system regulation, emotional safety, co-regulation, and trauma responses in relationships. Thich Nhat Hanh Referenced for his teachings on deep listening, mindfulness, emotional presence, and compassionate communication. Al Siebert Concepts on resiliency, emotional flexibility, and the “both/and” approach to emotional experiences. The Intimacy Repair Method (IRM) Course A structured framework designed to help couples heal from betrayal trauma, rebuild emotional safety, improve communication, and strengthen intimacy. Human Intimacy Resources and Courses Human Intimacy Additional Resources for Betrayal Trauma & Relationship Healing Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller Understanding attachment styles, emotional needs, and relationship dynamics. The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk A leading resource on trauma, nervous system responses, emotional regulation, and healing. Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson A guide to emotional bonding, attachment, and strengthening relationships after emotional injuries. Addo Therapy & Recovery Resources Therapy, betrayal trauma recovery support, couples counseling, anxiety treatment, mindfulness resources, and emotional healing support.

Send us Fan MailYou've done the work. You know it's over. So why can't you let go?If you're capable, accomplished, and still stuck in an old identity, a career, a relationship, a version of you that no longer fits, this episode names the one thing no one talks about.It isn't fear. It isn't lack of clarity. It isn't that you're not ready.It's judgment, and it's held in your body, not your mind.In this episode, Dr. Amen Kaur names why high-achieving women stay glued to the old life even when they know it's hurting them, and why "thinking your way out" doesn't work. Drawing on the neuroscience of Stephen Porges (polyvagal theory and neuroception), Bessel van der Kolk (The Body Keeps the Score), and Kristin Neff's research on self-compassion, she shows why your nervous system runs the old programme until it gets a new experience, and how compassion (not positive thinking) is the actual release.In this episode:Why "I know but I can't move" is a body problem, not a mindset problemThe two layers of judgment keeping you stuck (and which one is louder)Why affirmations don't land when your body is in survivalThe marathon analogy: why your body refuses to start a race it hasn't trained forThe handbrake metaphor: there's nothing wrong with your engineHow self-compassion lowers cortisol and brings the thinking brain back onlineOne question to ask the next time you feel that grip in your bodyFree masterclass: learn how to retrain your body to move forward. Link in the show notes below.If this episode landed, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a woman who needs to hear it.Dr. Amen KaurKey quotes"Your mind wants to do it, but your body is stuck. And they run on two completely different systems.""Judgment is the glue to the old identity.""The opposite of judgment is not positive thinking. It's compassion.""You can press the accelerator all you want. If the handbrake's on, you're not going anywhere."Mentioned in this episodeStephen Porges — Polyvagal Theory and neuroceptionBessel van der Kolk — The Body Keeps the ScoreKristin Neff — Self-compassion research (University of Texas)Free Masterclass Retrain your body to move forward, even when your mind has been ready for a long time. amenkaur.com/masterclassConnect with Dr. Amen KaurInstagram: @dramenkaurYoutube: @dramenkaurNew on Substack: https://dramenkaur.substack.com/ If this episode helped you:Subscribe so you don't miss the next oneLeave a review: it helps other women find the showShare this with the friend who's been "doing all the work"Free Masterclass: The Human Intelligence FrameworkA walkthrough of the five stage method Dr Amen Kaur uses with high achieving women who have lost themselves inside a career, role or identity that no longer fits.Watch it free at amenkaur.com/masterclassAbout Dr Amen KaurStarting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur is the podcast for high-achieving women who have been quietly losing themselves inside the life they built. Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD, is a former scientist and former Partner at a FTSE 250 company with 20+ years of corporate experience. She teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, the Five Intelligences that orbit Your Self, and how to bring the integrator back online when it has stepped away from the seat.Learn more at amenkaur.com/aboutStay CloseInstagram: @dramenkaurTikTok: @dramenkaurYouTube: @dramenkaurDisclaimer: This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not medical, psychological, or financial advice. Please consult a qualified professional for guidance specific to your situation.

Et si, parfois, la danse ne pouvait pas sauver tout de suite…Dans ce Pas de côté, Myriam Sellam prolonge la conversation avec Paloma Pradal autour d'un sujet rarement abordé dans le monde de la danse : celui du corps qui se ferme.On parle souvent du mouvement comme d'une libération.Mais que se passe-t-il lorsque le corps reste en alerte permanente ? Lorsqu'il associe certains gestes, certaines formes d'exposition ou de féminité à une mémoire douloureuse ?À travers le parcours de Paloma, cet épisode explore les liens entre danse, trauma, mémoire corporelle et reconstruction.Pourquoi certains corps n'arrivent-ils plus à bouger librement ?Pourquoi la danse, parfois, ne répare-t-elle pas immédiatement ?Et si le corps avait d'abord besoin de sécurité avant de pouvoir se remettre en mouvement ?Myriam Sellam évoque notamment les travaux du psychiatre Bessel van der Kolk, auteur de Le corps n'oublie rien, ainsi que la vision de la chorégraphe Pina Bausch, pour qui le plus important n'était pas la manière dont les gens bougent… mais ce qui les fait bouger.Un épisode intime et profondément humain sur le corps, la mémoire, la survie… et le retour possible du mouvement.✨ Si ce podcast vous touche, vous pouvez vous abonner et laisser quelques étoiles ou un avis sur votre plateforme d'écoute. Cela aide énormément Les Sens de la Danse à continuer d'exister et à toucher de nouvelles personnes.Hébergé par Ausha. Visitez ausha.co/politique-de-confidentialite pour plus d'informations.

Episode 8: The AI Therapist, the Generational Wound, and the Real Medicine The American mental health workforce is on track to be displaced by AI within ten years—and the psychiatric establishment isn't fighting it. They are welcoming it. Backed by venture capital and smoothed by insurance endorsements, AI therapy platforms are the ultimate fulfillment of what the "apparatus" has been building toward for 40 years: a delivery mechanism for psychotherapy that finally removes the unpredictable, unmeasurable human from the room. In Part 8 of this 9-part series, we expose what the AI replacement will actually do to the field of psychology, and why the variables that truly drive healing are the exact ones the industry pretends do not exist. In this episode, we explore: The AI Takeover: The meeting in San Francisco, what is actually being built, and why the psychiatric apparatus embraces the automation of therapy. The Generational Wound: How trauma shifts from the Greatest Generation to Gen Alpha, and the specific therapeutic interventions the "AI generation" is being shaped to need. The Convergent Rediscovery of Depth Psychology: How independent pioneers—including Richard Schwartz (IFS), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing), Bessel van der Kolk, Stephen Porges (Polyvagal Theory), and David Grand (Brainspotting)—all converged on the exact same picture of how trauma lives in the nervous system. The Dodo Bird Verdict & The Real Active Ingredient: Why 30 years of empirical research points to the therapist's regulated nervous system as the primary driver of successful outcomes—and why the industry ignores this. The Cost of Ignoring Culture: Groundbreaking insights from Tanya Luhrmann, Arthur Kleinman, and WHO data showing why non-Western cultures often see better long-term outcomes for schizophrenia. Beyond the DSM: Breaking down the 8 layers of human suffering, predictive processing, HiTOP, RDoC, and Karl Friston's free energy principle. Why replacing the DSM with dimensional models will still fail if we strip away the human connection. The active variables of psychological work are inherently untrackable. The industry has spent 40 years pretending that only the measurable is real, paving the way for the cold efficiency of artificial intelligence. But the real healing continues anyway, transmitted hand-to-hand in the rooms where it has always lived. About the Host Joel Blackstock is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker (LICSW), Clinical Supervisor, and the Clinical Director of Taproot Therapy Collective in Hoover, Alabama. He specializes in Brainspotting, Emotional Transformation Therapy, qEEG neurofeedback, Jungian psych, and somatic/depth approaches to trauma.

You can stack every supplement, peptide, and biohack out there. It still won't fix the one thing wearing most of us down faster than any of it: unresolved stress and trauma.Dr. Bhargav Patel has spent his career studying how that wear and tear shows up in the brain, the body, and the lifespan, none of which a standard lab test will flag. He's one of the few doctors who treat the mind as part of the body rather than something separate from it.He walks us through the framework behind trauma recovery, why SSRIs work for reasons most people get wrong, and how processing trauma can hit 75% recovery rates. AI in healthcare comes up, too, along with why hallucinations are baked into every LLM and just how wide the mental health access gap is in the U.S."Supplements aren't the core of your longevity regimen. They're the last 5 to 10%. The 90% is the core health things we all know we should do: exercise, sleep, and eat well." ~ Dr. Bhargav PatelSupport the show and get 50% off MCT oil with free shipping—just leave us a review on iTunes and Spotify and let us know! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/live-beyond-the-norms/id1714886566Resources MentionedThe Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/313183/the-body-keeps-the-score-by-bessel-van-der-kolk-md/The Hypomanic Edge by John D. Gartner: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-Hypomanic-Edge/John-D-Gartner/9780743243452MyPEAK Supplements: https://www.mypeaksupplements.com/ About Bhargav PatelDr. Bhargav Patel is a board-certified psychiatrist and NIMH-funded Child and Adolescent Psychiatry research fellow at Brown University. He's the founder of Sage Psychiatric Professionals and serves as Founding Medical Director and Director of AI Decision Support at Sully.ai. He's also the Co-Founder, CEO, and Chief Scientific Officer of MyPEAK. His upcoming book, Trauma Transformed, looks at how the brain actually heals from trauma, and what most of us get wrong about the process.Connect with Bhargav PatelWebsite: https://www.bhargavpatelmd.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bhargav-b-patel Newsletter: https://bhargavpatelmd.beehiiv.com/ Connect with Chris Burres Website: https://www.myvitalc.com/ Website: http://www.livebeyondthenorms.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chrisburres/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@myvitalc LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chrisburresDisclaimerThe content shared in this podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only. It does not constitute medical advice of any kind, nor does it include any specific claims or guarantees. The views expressed are based on personal experiences, research, and individual perspectives, and are meant to inspire and inform listeners on topics related to wellness, lifestyle, and personal development.

Episode SummaryIn this deeply compassionate episode of the Finding God Podcast, Keana explores what it truly means to rebuild your relationship with God after experiencing trauma. Whether your trauma came from childhood, relationships, church environments, or spiritual abuse, this episode offers a gentle, grounded path back to connection with God — without pressure, guilt, or shame.Keana breaks down how trauma affects your view of God, your ability to trust, and your spiritual practices. Drawing from leading trauma psychologists like Dr. Judith Herman, Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, Dr. Stephen Porges, and spiritual trauma expert Dr. Diane Langberg, she explains why trauma survivors often struggle with prayer, worship, Scripture, and spiritual identity — and why these struggles are normal.You'll also hear powerful biblical examples of people who experienced trauma — Elijah, Hagar, David, Job, and Mary Magdalene — and how God met each of them with gentleness, presence, and restoration.Finally, Keana shares trauma‑informed healing techniques to help you slowly and safely reconnect with God at your own pace.What We Cover in This Episode✨ Recap of Last Week's EpisodeHow to support survivors of childhood sexual abuseWhy spiritual bypassing harms survivorsInsights from Dr. Bessel van der Kolk & Dr. Diane LangbergHow trauma impacts safety, identity, and connection✨ How Trauma Affects Your Relationship With GodTrauma's impact on your image of GodWhy prayer, worship, or Scripture may feel triggeringHow the nervous system interprets spiritual environmentsCommon thoughts trauma survivors experience about God✨ What Trauma‑Affected Faith Looks Like in Real LifeFeeling numb during prayerAvoiding church or spiritual spacesFeeling guilty for not “feeling close to God”Internal conflict between wanting God and fearing God✨ Biblical Examples of Trauma & ReconnectionElijah's burnout and God's gentle careHagar's abandonment and God's presenceDavid's emotional honestyJob's questioning and God's responseMary Magdalene's restoration✨ Healing Techniques for Rebuilding Your Relationship With GodGentle spiritual practicesSomatic groundingReframing your image of GodNaming your truth without shameFinding safe spiritual communityTrauma‑informed therapy optionsKey TakeawaysTrauma can distort your view of God — but it does not change God's heart toward you.Your spiritual struggles are trauma responses, not spiritual failures.God meets you with gentleness, not pressure.Rebuilding your relationship with God is possible — slowly, safely, and at your own pace.Submit Your QuestionsHave a question or topic you want covered on the podcast? Email Keana at keanawmitchell@gmail.com.Share This EpisodeIf this episode encouraged you, share it with someone who may be healing from trauma and longing to reconnect with God.

Traumas de infância não precisam ser dramáticos para deixar marcas profundas. A necessidade de agradar todo mundo, o medo de abandono nos relacionamentos, o perfeccionismo extremo, a sensação de nunca ser suficiente, a dificuldade de mostrar emoções — tudo isso pode ter raiz em experiências que você viveu muito antes de ter palavras para descrevê-las.Neste episódio, Thais Galassi explora como a psicologia do desenvolvimento e a neurociência explicam por que mulheres adultas continuam reagindo a padrões emocionais criados na infância — e o que é possível fazer a partir de hoje para interromper esse ciclo.Você vai entender: por que seu cérebro ainda age em modo de sobrevivência | como o trauma molda relacionamentos e autoestima | o que a ciência diz sobre apego ansioso, fawn response e perfeccionismo | e uma técnica prática validada pela neurociência para começar a se libertar desses padrões agora.Baseado em estudos do JAMA Pediatrics, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology e nas obras de Bessel van der Kolk, Pete Walker e Kristin Neff.Se você já sentiu que nunca é suficiente, que tem medo de perder as pessoas que ama ou que precisa agradar todo mundo pra ser amada — esse episódio foi feito pra você.00:00 — A descoberta de Harvard que vai mudar como você se vê02:30 — Como o cérebro grava traumas antes de você ter palavras06:00 — A menina que aprendeu que precisava ser boa para ser amada10:30 — Fawn response: a raiz da necessidade de agradar14:00 — Medo de abandono e apego ansioso nos relacionamentos19:00 — Perfeccionismo: quando a ferida usa a produtividade como disfarce24:00 — A mulher forte que chora sozinha no chuveiro28:30 — Técnica STOP: como interromper padrões automáticos hoje33:00 — Dor não tem ranking — o começo da cura

74% of American adults are overweight. 42% are clinically obese. And almost every one of them can list the foods they shouldn't be eating. So, what's actually going on?That's what started bugging Matty Lansdown when he was working as a cancer researcher and noticed something weird: 80% of the patients walking through the door were overweight, and every one of them already knew their diet was a mess. Knowing clearly wasn't the problem, but something was. That something pulled him out of the lab and into a completely different career.Today, Matty unpacks why diets keep failing people over and over, how the stuff that happens to us as kids shows up later as the food we can't put down, and why there's a little rebel inside all of us that will burn down anything good unless we give it somewhere to play. "Food is often used as a distraction or a suppressant, to be able to avoid feeling feelings that are heavy that we don't know what to do with." ~ Matty LansdownSupport the show and get 50% off MCT oil with free shipping—just leave us a review on iTunes and Spotify and let us know! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/live-beyond-the-norms/id1714886566Resources MentionedThe Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/313183/the-body-keeps-the-score-by-bessel-van-der-kolk-md/ The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks: https://www.amazon.com/Big-Leap-Conquer-Hidden-Level/dp/0061735361About Matty LansdownMatty Lansdown is a scientist, nutritionist, and emotional and binge eating coach with over 10 years of experience. After working in a nutritional epigenetics lab servicing elite athletes and spending years on cancer research teams, he left corporate science to focus on the real driver behind weight loss: emotional patterns and mindset. He's worked with 200+ clients and hosts The Real Weight Loss Coach podcast.Connect with Matty LansdownWebsite: https://mattylansdown.com/ Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-real-weight-loss-coach/id1450212088 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.real.weight.loss.coach/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@therealweightlosscoach Connect with Chris Burres Website: https://www.myvitalc.com/ Website: http://www.livebeyondthenorms.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chrisburres/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@myvitalc LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chrisburresDisclaimerThe content shared in this podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only. It does not constitute medical advice of any kind, nor does it include any specific claims or guarantees. The views expressed are based on personal experiences, research, and individual perspectives, and are meant to inspire and inform listeners on topics related to wellness, lifestyle, and personal development.

Why Can't I Stop Thinking About the Affair? Understanding Rumination, Triggers, and Healing After Betrayal In this important episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore one of the most common and painful questions after betrayal: “Why can't I stop thinking about it?” Together, they unpack the neuroscience and emotional reality behind rumination, intrusive thoughts, PTSD responses, triggers, and nervous system dysregulation after sexual betrayal and affairs. The conversation helps both betrayed and betraying partners understand why the mind and body struggle to “move on,” even when logic says the relationship may be improving. Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn discuss how betrayal disrupts safety, attachment, and reality itself, often leaving the betrayed partner feeling emotionally flooded, hypervigilant, and stuck in repetitive thoughts. They also explain how healing requires more than simply stopping behaviors—it involves nervous system regulation, emotional attunement, compassion, consistency, and deeper relational repair. Listeners will also learn practical tools for responding to triggers, including grounding exercises, journaling, movement-based trauma release, self-attunement, parts work, emotional regulation, and therapeutic approaches such as EMDR and ART. This episode offers hope, validation, and practical guidance for anyone struggling with intrusive thoughts after betrayal trauma. Key Topics Covered Why betrayed partners experience rumination and intrusive thoughts PTSD and betrayal trauma responses The difference between logical understanding and nervous system safety Why triggers continue even after behavior stops Emotional flooding and nervous system dysregulation How betraying partners can respond in healing ways Self-compassion and trauma recovery Tools for emotional regulation and trauma release Parts work and self-attunement EMDR, ART, and trauma-informed healing approaches Recovery capital and building support systems Resources Mentioned The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Brené Brown – research on exhaustion and uncertainty Jill Bolte Taylor – emotional processing concepts Calming the Emotional Storm by Sheri Van Dijk EMDR Therapy (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) ART (Accelerated Resolution Therapy) Polyvagal Theory by Stephen Porges Internal Parts Work / Self-Attunement Approaches Recovery Capital framework Human Intimacy Podcast episode on Empathy vs. Compassion Upcoming Course Intimacy Repair Method (IRM) — 12 Week Course Join Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis for the upcoming Intimacy Repair Method (IRM) course beginning May 7th. The course is designed to help couples heal from betrayal trauma through a structured process focused on: Safety Emotional regulation Accountability How to measure and create relational repair Compassion Rebuilding intimacy Learn More & Register: The Intimacy Repair Method (12-Week Online Course)  

In today's episode of The Worth Loving Podcast, Keana explores one of the most confusing and emotionally loaded questions people face after heartbreak or betrayal: How do you know if you're truly ready to date again?Using insights from leading psychologists like Dr. John Gottman, Dr. Sue Johnson, Dr. Judith Herman, Dr. Gary Lewandowski, Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, and Dr. Peter Levine, Keana breaks down what emotional readiness really looks like — and what it doesn't.This episode helps listeners understand the difference between wanting connection and wanting distraction, how the body signals readiness, and why healing must come before new relationships. Keana also shares practical questions to help listeners evaluate their emotional capacity and readiness with honesty and compassion.This Episode Covers:✨ Recap of Last Week's EpisodeA brief review of last week's conversation on How to Heal From an Affair, including the emotional stages of healing, rebuilding trust within yourself, and reclaiming your identity after betrayal.✨ What “Readiness” Actually MeansKeana explains emotional readiness through the lens of relationship psychology and trauma research — including emotional regulation, secure attachment behaviors, and reclaiming personal agency.✨ Signs You Are Ready to Date AgainLearn the key indicators of readiness, such as emotional stability, clarity about your needs, groundedness, and the ability to communicate boundaries.✨ Signs You're Not Ready YetKeana outlines the red flags that signal you need more healing time — including emotional entanglement with an ex, avoidance behaviors, numbness, survival mode, and lack of clarity.✨ How Long Should You Wait? (Research‑Backed)A breakdown of what relationship science says about timelines for healing after breakups, betrayal, and emotional trauma.✨ How Your Body Tells You the TruthSomatic cues from Dr. Peter Levine's work that reveal whether your nervous system feels safe enough for dating — or not.✨ The Healing Work That Must Come FirstEmotional clarity, nervous system regulation, identity rebuilding, boundary strengthening, and relearning trust.✨ Practical Self‑Reflection QuestionsA set of grounding questions to help listeners assess their emotional readiness with honesty and compassion.Key TakeawaysReadiness is not about time — it's about emotional capacity.Your body often knows the truth before your mind does.Healing is not linear, and there's no shame in needing more time.You deserve to date from a place of clarity, not loneliness.Trusting yourself is the foundation of choosing healthy relationships.

Self-sabotage is not a willpower problem. It is the most loyal thing you have ever done, and it was installed in childhood. This video names the actual mechanism every other framework misses.If you have read every limiting belief book, tried every inner critic worksheet, and still keep destroying the relationship, the career, the body, or the bank account the second things start working, this video is going to make sense of it differently than anyone else has explained it. You will see the exact chain that turns a moment of success into the urge to burn it down, and you will see why willpower has never been able to touch this thing.You will get the full mechanism behind the Worst Day Cycle™, the Authentic Self Cycle™, and the Emotional Authenticity Method™. You will see the three internal voices that fight for the microphone every time you get triggered. You will hear why nobody on the planet is actually afraid of failure, and why what you call self-sabotage is really the survival persona panicking at the edge of success. And you will get the six-step somatic and emotional process that interrupts the loop in real time and rewires the blueprint underneath it.Self-sabotage is the collision between the Authentic Self and the shame-based survival persona. The survival persona was built in childhood to maintain attachment with caregivers who could not see who you actually were. When the adult begins to succeed, the survival persona reads success as separation from the family system and pulls the person back into the Worst Day Cycle™ to preserve the only identity that ever felt safe.The reason most people stay stuck is not lack of insight. It is that the brain and body cannot tell the difference between fear and excitement. The chemical signature is identical. When success approaches, the nervous system reads the surge of excitement as danger and pulls the emergency brake. Bessel van der Kolk and the broader repetition compulsion research have pointed at this for decades, but the culture turned it into a slogan instead of a doorway.The Emotional Authenticity Method™ is a six-step process that interrupts the sabotage impulse and rewires the emotional blueprint at the source. Step one is somatic down regulation through hearing. Step two is emotional granularity. Step three is somatic location. Step four is the earliest memory. Step five is the identity question of who you would be without this feeling. Step six is Feelization, the practice of building a new emotional chemical addiction to replace the old one.00:00 — Why Every Self-Help Book Lied About Self-Sabotage01:15 — The Moment You Watch Yourself Do It03:00 — Kenny's Marathon, Hockey, and the Island05:30 — The Childhood Power Reclamation You Never Saw08:00 — The Worst Day Cycle™ Inside the Sabotage Loop10:30 — Why Nobody Is Actually Afraid to Fail13:00 — The Collision Between Authentic Self and Survival Persona15:30 — The Three Voices Fighting for the Microphone17:30 — The Six-Step Emotional Authenticity Method™ in Real Time20:30 — The File Cabinet Reach22:00 — Why Limiting Belief Frameworks Cannot Touch This

Unlocking Inner Safety and Embodiment: A Deep Dive with Narayani Gaia and Alison Cross Prepare to be blown away by a raw, honest conversation that cuts through the noise as Narayani and Alison Cross talk about the lifeline of safety, self-worth, and embodied healing in a world that often feels unsafe.  Alison  shares her profound insights on trauma, culture, and reclaiming our power to create a life rooted in genuine safety, trust, and authenticity. This isn't just talk—it's a call to ignite your inner fire and step into your full potential.   In this episode: The core link between safety, self-worth, and emotional resilience How childhood experiences shape our nervous system and beliefs about safety The collective impact of generational trauma on modern cultures and personal healing Practical tools like grounding and the Safe and Sound Protocol to regulate your nervous system The importance of agency, micro-consent, and sovereignty in healing and relationships so. much.. more....!!! esources & Links: Safe and Sound Protocol – Learn about this gentle EEG-based music therapy that soothes your vagus nerve The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk – Rediscover how trauma resides in the body Embodied Recovery Method by Paula Scatalone and Rachel Lewis Marlowe – Break free from disembodiment and reconnect with your true self Understanding Polyvagal Theory – Reclaim your nervous system's natural rhythm Connect with Alison Cross: Website Work with Narayani Are you ready to turn your wounds into your greatest work? Awakening is not escaping the body. It is inhabiting it. ✨ Awakening Map Course www.Narayanigaia.com/course ✨ Start Meditating Now – 3 Day Mini Course https://www.awakenedlifeschool.com/meditate-now-3-day-mini-course ✨ Reach out to Narayani www.Narayanigaia.com/contact ✨ Awakening Map Book www.Narayanigaia.com/book/  

What if the key to calming your anxiety isn't a new coping tool, but a conversation with a younger version of yourself? In this episode, Alison digs into two of the most powerful (and underrated) pieces of the anxiety healing puzzle: inner child work and emotionally safe relationships. Whether you've felt stuck in anxious patterns you can't explain, or you keep showing up for people who don't really show up for you, this one's going to hit home. Alison shares practical insights on why healing the wounds of your younger self can create real, lasting relief from anxiety and why the people you surround yourself with are either helping your nervous system settle or keeping it on edge. In this episode, you'll hear about: What inner child healing actually looks like (and why it matters for anxiety) How to recognize emotionally safe vs. emotionally draining relationships The connection between self-compassion and genuine anxiety relief Small, practical ways to start this work, even if it feels uncomfortable Resources: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Neuroplasticity explanation Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week's episode is one of the most important and tender conversations we've ever had on the Finding God Podcast. We're talking about how to support survivors of child sexual abuse in the church with honesty, compassion, and a trauma‑informed, faith‑centered lens.This episode is for survivors, parents, church leaders, and anyone who wants to help create safer, healthier, more accountable faith communities. We explore the emotional, psychological, and spiritual impact of abuse, how to respond when a child discloses, and what true support looks like in the eyes of God.✨ Episode OverviewIn this episode, Keana breaks down:The long‑term effects of child sexual abuseHow abuse in the church creates “double trauma”The A.R.E.S. framework (Adverse Religious Experiences Scale) created by Dr. Laura Anderson and Kyle J. HowardHow ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences) impact a child's health, relationships, and spiritual developmentWhat survivors need most from parents, churches, and communitiesHow to support healing on both a personal and spiritual levelWhat to do when a child discloses abuseHow to make a report and protect the child moving forwardThis episode is gentle, non‑graphic, and deeply validating.

In today's episode, we're having one of the most tender and necessary conversations we've ever had on the podcast. If you're navigating the aftermath of an affair whether emotional, physical, or somewhere in between this episode is a safe place for you to land. We're talking about what healing looks like, what leading psychologists say about betrayal trauma, and how to move forward with clarity, compassion, and emotional grounding.✨ Episode OverviewHealing after an affair is not simple. It's not linear. And it's not something you “just get over.” In this episode, Keana walks you through the five stages of healing, how betrayal impacts your mind and body, and what it looks like to rebuild your life whether you choose to stay or go.This episode blends trauma‑informed insight, psychological research, and gentle, practical tools to help you reconnect with yourself and begin the slow, steady process of becoming whole again.

What we are obsessed with! We are OBSESSED with all things self-care and the wonderful products at COZY EARTH- that include the best bed sheets ever (JULIE IS OBSESSED) and the warmest, most indulgent robes (MIKA IS OBSESSED). Visit their website http://www.cozyearth.com use the code OBSESSED, and save 20%. — — — In this episode of the Get Obsessed podcast, Silvia Araya joins hosts Julie Lokun and Mika Altidor in a deeply personal and insightful conversation where numerology, anxiety, and panic attacks intersect, revealing how emotional patterns, sensitivity, and lived experiences shape the way we respond to the world. As a trauma-informed practitioner and numerologist, Silvia shares how decoding these patterns can open the door to healing and self-understanding. This conversation moves beyond surface-level explanations of anxiety, uncovering how trauma, emotional triggers, and sensitivity influence the nervous system and daily behaviors. Silvia explains how tendencies like overthinking and control or rigidity are not flaws but learned responses that can be softened through awareness and nervous system regulation. By reframing panic attacks as signals rather than threats, she offers a grounded and compassionate path toward healing and long-term emotional balance. In this episode, we discuss: How numerology reveals patterns in sensitivity and emotional triggers that influence anxiety The connection between sensitivity and the onset of anxiety and panic attacks Understanding numerology as both a scientific and intuitive tool for self-discovery How numerology provides clarity and helps reduce overthinking by making patterns visible The role of nervous system regulation in managing anxiety and preventing panic responses How control or rigidity and overthinking contribute to anxiety when patterns become unbalanced Reframing panic attacks as non-dangerous experiences and part of a deeper healing process ABOUT THE GUEST Silvia Araya is a trauma-informed practitioner, numerologist, and Internal Family Systems practitioner who helps individuals understand and heal the root causes of anxiety and panic attacks. Her work is deeply shaped by her own journey of overcoming debilitating anxiety, which once limited her daily life. Through years of therapy, self-discovery, and holistic practices, she discovered that unresolved trauma often sits at the core of these experiences. She integrates numerology with trauma-informed care and nervous system awareness to help clients uncover emotional patterns, reduce overthinking, and create lasting change. Today, Silvia guides individuals toward greater self-understanding, emotional balance, and a deeper sense of inner safety.   MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE: (Book) The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk - https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748 CONNECT WITH SILVIA ARAYA: Website: https://silviaaraya.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/silvia.araya.psy LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/silviafischerpmpcsm/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/silvia_araya_psy Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@silviaaraya.com X (Twitter): https://x.com/TrustAndNoPanic YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@silviaaraya Pinterest: https://cl.pinterest.com/silviaaraya/ ABOUT GET OBSESSED Website: www.getobsessedpodcast.com Be a Guest! http://www.getobsessedguest.com Partner With US! http://www.getobsessedpod.com The Get Obsessed podcast is dedicated to exploring the passions, mindsets, and habits that drive high performers. We believe that what you obsess over defines your future. LISTEN, RATE, REVIEW AND SUBSCRIBE - Get Obsessed : With Living Your Best Life - Podcast - Apple Podcasts Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Episode Highlights With PaulWhat horizontal relationships are and why they matterHow vertical dynamics create shame and resistanceThe nervous system connection in parenting and how this can help us be more connected and effective in relationship with our children How Freud and Richard Adler differed on the topic of horizontal relationships and traumaPractical examples for shifting into horizontal parentingThe flaw with superior positions in relationships and how this robs us of our confidence and autonomy “Self sacrifice” and how it's a nobler term for self abandonment and how we program this into our kidsHow the vertical side uses extreme circumstances to argue for vertical relationshipsWhy connection > control in raising autonomous adultsHow repair builds lifelong trustHow this approach makes you a better leader everywhere else in your lifeUtility verticality vs relational verticality Reputation and the puppet strings it has on us as human beings and how this comes into play in parentingIt isn't that the strong survive.. It is the connected that survive Punishment: So much of punishment is laziness on the parents part and the fear of reputationIt isn't about just changing the behavior but addressing the underlying reason and capacity Forgiveness isn't the letting go of what happened but the softening of the blame There are over 400 unique characteristics that will emerge in your child regardless of how you parent themHow this can create space for a both/and instead of an either/or in parenting Guilt perpetuated by reputation and verticality After age 7, our role as a parent is to be a safe place for a child's exploration of themselvesResources MentionedPaul's website and his InstagramWhat Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and HealingThe Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma by Paul LevineKiss Me Like a Stranger: My Search for Love and Art by Gene WilderBioptimizersI love and use so many products from them, but I especially love the magnesium and digestive enzymes. Visit bioptimizers.com/wellnessmama and use wellnessmama15 at checkout to get the best dealBONCHARGEI like so many of their products - from their red light products to their sauna blankets. Red light has been so helpful for me during my recovery from Hashimoto's. To find out more, go to boncharge.com/wellnessmama and use code wellnessmama for 20% off!

In today's episode of The Worth Loving Podcast, we explore what it truly means to date with confidence after experiencing emotional abuse. Healing from emotional manipulation, gaslighting, or chronic invalidation changes the way you see yourself, your relationships, and your ability to trust. Dating again can feel overwhelming, but it can also be a powerful opportunity to reconnect with your intuition, your boundaries, and your worth.Drawing from the work of leading trauma and attachment researchers like Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, Dr. Judith Herman, Dr. Sue Johnson, and Dr. Kristin Neff, this episode breaks down why dating feels different after emotional abuse and how to rebuild the internal safety you need to choose healthy love.We'll talk about rebuilding self‑trust, recognizing red and green flags, moving at your own pace, and honoring your emotional needs without guilt. You'll also receive reflective questions to help you deepen your healing and approach dating with clarity and confidence.And don't forget be on the lookout for a special mini‑drop from our podcast artist Emory Rose, coming soon to all streaming platforms.In This Episode, You'll Learn:Why dating after emotional abuse feels overwhelming — and why that's normalHow trauma impacts your nervous system, intuition, and sense of safetyWhat rebuilding self‑trust looks like in practical, everyday waysHow to date at a pace that honors your healingThe difference between healthy attention and love bombingRed flags to watch for in early datingGreen flags that signal emotional safety and maturityHow to listen to your body and intuition while datingReflective questions to help you date with confidenceReflective Questions from Today's Episode:What does emotional safety feel like in my body?What are my non‑negotiables in dating?What red flags have I ignored in the past, and why?What green flags do I want to pay more attention to?How can I honor my pace in dating?What boundaries do I want to set early?How can I practice self‑trust this week?Coaching Program MentionedIf you're ready to go deeper in your healing journey, my 12‑week trauma‑informed coaching program You Are Worth Loving™ is designed to help you rebuild self‑trust, break unhealthy patterns, and choose relationships that feel safe and aligned. Enrollment opens soon — stay tuned.Submit Your Questions for Thursday's Q&A EpisodeEvery Thursday, we release a Q&A episode shaped entirely by your questions. If you'd like your question featured, email me at:

Send us Fan Mail"I've lost myself." Maybe you've thought it in the supermarket, the car park, or your own kitchen. This episode is the question nobody has asked you."I've lost myself." Maybe you've thought it in your own kitchen at 9.47 on a Wednesday morning, holding a cup of tea you don't remember making. You walk upstairs to find something and forget what you came for. Something in you has been quietly slipping for a while.You're intelligent. You're capable. You've read the books. You've done the therapy. Maybe the coaching. Maybe the courses, the retreats, the breath work, the parts work. You know your patterns. And you still cannot make yourself move forward the way you used to.You're probably wondering what is wrong with you. But that's the wrong question.In this first episode of the show's new era, Dr. Amen Kaur introduces the question that actually matters. Not "what is wrong with me" but "who is in charge of my life right now?" Because the Self at the centre of your intelligence system has stepped back from the seat, and your thinking mind has stepped in to cover. It cannot. Not because you are not clever enough. Because thinking was never designed to run the whole system.Drawing on the work of Manos Tsakiris at Royal Holloway, Antonio Damasio's research on the Self as an integrator, Sarah Garfinkel and Hugo Critchley on interoception, Eckhart Tolle, and Bessel van der Kolk's neuroimaging findings on trauma and the brain, this episode names what has been happening under the surface and offers one small practice you can carry for the week.THIS EPISODE COVERS:Why the woman you used to be feels out of reach, and what is actually happening underneathThe Self as an integrator, not a place in the brain (Tsakiris, Damasio)The sun and the rays: a new way to understand your intelligence systemThe Einstein principle applied to your overthinkingThe part of you currently in charge is not your enemy. It is scared.One question to carry with you every day for the next seven daysThis is the first episode of the show's new era. If you have been listening for a while, welcome back. If you are new, welcome. What we do here is return, not reinvention.The full Human Intelligence Framework lives inside the free masterclass at amenkaur.com/masterclass. It is where starting over actually startsFree Masterclass: The Human Intelligence FrameworkA walkthrough of the five stage method Dr Amen Kaur uses with high achieving women who have lost themselves inside a career, role or identity that no longer fits.Watch it free at amenkaur.com/masterclassAbout Dr Amen KaurStarting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur is the podcast for high-achieving women who have been quietly losing themselves inside the life they built. Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD, is a former scientist and former Partner at a FTSE 250 company with 20+ years of corporate experience. She teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, the Five Intelligences that orbit Your Self, and how to bring the integrator back online when it has stepped away from the seat.Learn more at amenkaur.com/aboutStay CloseInstagram: @dramenkaurTikTok: @dramenkaurYouTube: @dramenkaurDisclaimer: This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not medical, psychological, or financial advice. Please consult a qualified professional for guidance specific to your situation.

Send us Fan MailYou didn't do anything wrong. Your brain just got there first.That's the thing about automatic negative thoughts: they don't wait for evidence. They don't ask permission. Something happens, and before you've had a single conscious thought about it, your brain has already decided: of course this went sideways. Nobody ever comes through. Something is wrong with me. And then you feel bad about feeling bad, which is its own whole thing.In this episode, Sami and Angela wrap up an accidental three-part series on how your brain actually works, following conversations on metacognition and cognitive distortions, by landing on the concept that ties it all together. We dig into:What an automatic negative thought actually is (and why it's not the same as pessimism)Where these thoughts come from and what seeds themWhy "just choose a better thought" is not as easy as it sounds (and what to do instead)How to recognize when your brain is jumping to a conclusion that isn't yoursWhat it actually looks like to interrupt the pattern without judging yourself for having itAngela breaks down how these thoughts grow from deeper core beliefs, the weed whacker vs. the root analogy is going to stick with you. Sami brings her factory metaphor to explain why the machine itself shapes the output, and why understanding that changes everything. They also talk about the spotlight effect, a story about a speaker who got a standing ovation and still thought she bombed, and the one thing that actually interrupts an automatic negative thought in someone else.You're going to walk away with language for something you've probably experienced a hundred times and never had a name for. That's half the work. Once you can call it out, you're already ahead of it.Press play. Your brain is not broken. It's just been running the same loop for a while, and this episode is a good place to start changing that.Mentioned in this episode:The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk - besselvanderkolk.comAtlas of the Heart by Brene Brown - brenebrown.com/book/atlas-of-the-heartBe Freaking Awesome by Angela Belford - bfreakingawesome.comLoving What Is by Byron Katie (The Work / four questions) -- thework.comThe 3rd Annual Family Business Forum is May 19 in Springdale, AR. A day built for family-owned businesses who want to communicate better, lead stronger, and actually enjoy working together. Sessions on communication, AI, and high performance, plus a panel, awards, and networking. Early bird tickets are $75 through April 30, then the price goes up. Grab your spot before May 1 at familybusinessnow.com. Support the showSign up at bfreakingawesome.com to get the latest news, insights, and episodes straight to your inbox.Follow Be Freaking Awesome on Facebook, LinkedIn, Youtube, and Instagram.Let us know what questions you want to be answered and discussed by emailing us at podcast@bfreakingawesome.com.

In this week's episode of the Finding God Podcast, Keana W. Mitchell breaks down one of the most misunderstood and overlooked aspects of child protection in faith communities: grooming and manipulation tactics. These behaviors are often subtle, strategic, and wrapped in kindness, spirituality, or trust — which is exactly why they go unnoticed until harm has already occurred.Building on last week's episode about preventing child sexual abuse in the church, Keana explains what grooming is, what manipulation is, how they differ, and how they work together to create access, secrecy, and control. Drawing from leading psychologists such as Dr. Anna Salter, Dr. David Finkelhor, Dr. Diane Langberg, and Dr. Wade Mullen, this episode offers a clear, research‑based understanding of how predators operate — especially in faith‑based environments.Listeners will learn how to recognize red flags, how adults can be groomed without realizing it, what grooming and manipulation look like inside a church setting, and how these tactics impact victims emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually. Keana also provides guidance on how to respond if a child discloses abuse or if you suspect something is happening — with a strong emphasis on following state law and reporting immediately to the proper legal authorities.This episode is gentle, educational, and empowering — offering clarity without fear and equipping believers to protect children with wisdom, courage, and compassion.✨ In This Episode, We Cover:

Iain Dale interviews author Paul Bessel about his new book FINDING DAD, a memoir-investigation into the life of Paul's father, Peter Bessel: a Liberal MP (1964-1970), close friend of Jeremy Thorpe, later a key prosecution witness in the 1979 Thorpe conspiracy-to-murder trial. Bessel explains why he delayed writing for decades, what triggered the book, and how fearful he was of uncovering painful truths in his parents' archives. The conversation traces Peter Bessel's rise as a respected Cornish MP, his later financial collapse, a dramatic disappearance in 1974 that left his family suddenly impoverished, and the complicated, sometimes clandestine life he led (including secret “work” Bessel suspects may have involved US national security).

This week's episode takes us into a part of the healing conversation that doesn't get talked about nearly enough. I sit down with Sara Perry, founder of Haven Space (https://havenspacecoaching.com/) in Houston, Texas, to explore what it means to approach trauma and intimacy through the body—not just the mind. Sara is a somatic sex educator and sexological bodyworker who works with individuals and couples to reconnect with themselves after experiences of disconnection, shame, or trauma. Her work blends coaching, somatic practices, and body awareness to help people understand how their nervous system responds to stress, touch, and intimacy. It's grounded in consent, safety, and the understanding that the body holds onto more than we often realize. The body keeps the score…remember? (Thanks, Bessel van der Kolk!) What stood out in this conversation is how much this aligns with what we already know about trauma. Survivors don't just carry memories—they carry physical responses, tension, and patterns that don't always make sense until you start looking at the body as part of the story. Sara breaks that down in a way that's accessible without oversimplifying it. This episode might stretch your perspective a bit, and that's okay. If nothing else, I hope it opens the door to thinking about healing in a broader way—and reminds you that there is more than one path forward. An important side note: if you're finding value in this show and these conversations, please consider leaving a 5-star rating on your podcast platform—it truly helps more people find these stories. You can also follow Sexual Assault Survivor Stories on Instagram and send me a note of support. I can't tell you how much your emails mean to me—they fuel my passion to keep this podcast going. And if you're a victim or survivor and you feel like you might be ready to share your story—whether for your own healing or to help someone else—reach out to me. We can start a conversation, with no pressure and no expectations. You can email me directly at dave@sasstories.com. Please include a phone number where I can reach you, because I genuinely prefer to talk with people who are considering guesting. Thank you to everyone who has already reached out—and please keep those emails coming. I truly look forward to hearing from you. Here are some critically important links that I hope you'll take the time to explore. Where a contribution is requested, please consider doing so. Thank you—for listening, for believing survivors, and for being part of this community. https://havenspacecoaching.com https://documenttheabuse.org https://hassl.uk/ https://saprea.org/ https://whattheydontsay.com https://1in6.org/ https://time.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/repeat_rape.pdf?utm_source=chatgpt.com https://soulwisesolutions.com https://safeinharmsway.org https://startbybelieving.org https://evawintl.org/ As mentioned, and emphasized, it's time to Normalize the Conversation.™ And please remember to Start by Believing…because we all know someone whose life has been impacted by rape or sexual assault. (Check out https://evawintl.org/ & https://startbybelieving.org for more information on "Start By Believing"!) Thank you for tuning in. --Dave

Dawn Maynor shares her insights on the healing power of yoga, breathwork, and community for managing stress, trauma, and anxiety. She emphasizes the importance of inward self-care, releasing stored energy, and using simple tools like affirmations and visualization to enhance well-being.Key Topics:Trauma responses and body memoryThe role of yoga in emotional detoxificationTools for managing anxiety and stressThe importance of community in healingOur body stores stress and trauma, which can be released through movement and breath.Yoga is a powerful detox for mind, body, and spirit.Simple tools like affirmations and visualization can help manage anxiety.Community support enhances the healing process.Services Offered By DawnDawn offers a range of services designed to help individuals harness the power of manifestation:​1:1 Coaching: Personalized sessions to help women connect with their inner selves, prioritize emotions, and embrace their new manifested selves with love and peace.​Reiki and Sound Healing: Energy healing sessions to balance emotions and promote holistic well-being.​Workshops and Activations: Group activities that provide practical tools and techniques for effective manifestation.​Yoga and Meditation: Practices aimed at enhancing mindfulness and relaxation, aiding the manifestation process.Connect with DawnFor more information or to schedule a session, reach out to Dawn at dawn@manifestmorewithdawnmaynor.com. Join the community and explore free resources available on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and TikTok.Share the LoveIf you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend or on social media. Your support helps spread the message of peace, purpose, and passion.Thank you for tuning in!Sending you all Love and Light, and remember to Manifest More with Dawn Maynor.LINKS:⁠⁠⁠⁠Dotterra Greens⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Doterra Electrolytes⁠⁠⁠⁠The Rest of the Water Fast Supplements ⁠⁠⁠⁠here on my Amazon ⁠⁠⁠⁠List!You don't have to do this alone.

What happens when the life you've built—your identity, your direction, your sense of control—changes in an instant?In this conversation, Reino Gevers speaks with Dr. Tom Dutta, known as The Quiet Warrior, about a journey that moves far beyond success, resilience, or recovery.After rising to the highest levels of corporate leadership as a CEO, Tom came to a quiet but decisive realisation: leadership is not about authority, but authenticity—and the courage to lift others.Then everything changed.A severe brain injury disrupted not only his career, but his sense of self—forcing him into a far deeper confrontation with identity, limitation, and what truly endures when life no longer follows the expected path.What emerges from this conversation is not a story of overcoming in the conventional sense, but something more demanding:What remains when control is taken awayHow identity is reshaped through lossWhy resilience alone is not enough without inner transformationThrough his work—including best-selling books, The Quiet Warrior Podcast, and doctoral research into mental health and generational trauma—Tom continues to explore what it means to live with depth, awareness, and purpose after everything has been tested.This episode speaks directly to anyone who has faced a moment where life no longer fits the story they were living—and is searching for what comes next.#Resilience #MentalHealth #Leadership #PersonalGrowth#SelfDevelopment #OvercomingAdversity #LifeLessons #WhenFaithStopsWorking #LivingToBe #ReinoGevers #TomDutta #thequietwarriorMore Information: Public work at www.kreat.cahttps://www.thequietrevelationinstitute.org/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tomdutta/Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/thequietwarrioreats/Podcast:  The Quiet Warrior Show YouTube: @tomduttaAdverse Childhood Experience Test for AdultsLink: ACE TestDefining TraumaFrom the Greek word for wound — trauma is not just a terrible thing that happens to you. It is what happens inside you when an experience is so painful or frighteningthat your mind and body cannot make sense of it at the time.It gets stored in your body and your feelings, not just your memories. It is the pain left behind whensomething bad happened that was too big to deal with aloneIt can be passed from parent to child, through behaviour, silence, and the way families treat each other —often without anyone realising it.Literature:Book: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk 

Stephanie Weaver MPH joins Let's Talk Memoir for a conversation about family estrangement, gaslighting, her recovered memories of childhood sexual abuse, chronic illness, not wanting a book to be about revenge, reframing a memoir around a larger cultural moment to resonate with more people, stepping away from our memoir projects to take care of ourselves, avoiding traumatizing the reader, knowing when a structure has clicked in place, discovering the complex heart of your story, the querying process, when you don't have a big platform but have lots of connections, and her new memoir Bitter, Sweet: How to Heal Yourself When Your Family is Broken.   Stephanie Weaver on The Body Myth: Loving Our Bodies When They've Been a Source of Pain https://ronitplank.com/2022/06/14/the-body-myth-loving-our-bodies-when-theyve-been-a-source-of-pain-ft-stephanie-weaver/   Ronit's Fall Workshop - Writing Dynamic Memoir: From Lived Experience to Gripping Story     https://www.lmcmurtrylitcenter.org/workshops/writing-dynamic-memoir-from-lived-experience-to-gripping-story   Also in this episode: -Beta readers -removing tags in dialogue -how our brains record memories   Books mentioned in this episode: -Glass Castle by Jeannette Walls -Educated by Tara Westover -The Courage to Heal by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis -When Longing Becomes Your Lover by Amanda J. McCracken -The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk -Wild by Cheryl Strayed -This Boy's Life by Tobias Wolff -Homebaked by Alia Volz -Madman in the Woods by Jamie Gehring   Stephanie Weaver MPH is an experienced curator and storytelling strategist. With a rich career spanning museum storytelling, public health, and speaker coaching, she has worked at a range of iconic institutions – from The San Diego Zoo to The White House. A world traveler who embarked on a solo journey through Southeast Asia at 28, Weaver has curated TEDxSanDiego, coached hundreds of speakers, and authored five books that illuminate the power of personal narrative. A survivor and advocate, she's transformed personal battles with childhood sexual abuse and chronic illness into a mission of helping others heal.    After living in Cleveland, Connecticut, and Chicago, Stephanie has been a happy Southern Californian for thirty years, where she and her husband wait hand and foot on their golden retriever.   Sign up for her free newsletter Fun to Be Around at stephanieweaver.com   Connect with Stephanie Weaver, MPH on: Website: https://stephanieweaver.com Substack https://sweavermph.substack.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sweavermph/ TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sweavermph Threads https://www.threads.com/@sweavermph   Purchase book:  Bitter, Sweet: How to Heal Yourself When Your Family Is Broken (Amazon) https://www.amazon.com/Bitter-Sweet-Yourself-Family-Broken/dp/1960456377/ Bitter, Sweet (Bookshop) https://bookshop.org/p/books/bitter-sweet-how-to-heal-yourself-when-your-family-is-broken-stephanie-weaver/ff5eb4fcdc02b083 Bitter, Sweet (Barnes and Noble) https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/bitter-sweet-stephanie-weaver/1148895292?ean=9781960456373 Professional beta reads & TED-talk speaker coaching https://experienceology.com/writing-coach/   – Ronit's writing has appeared in The Atlantic, The Rumpus, The New York Times, Poets & Writers, The Iowa Review, Hippocampus, The Washington Post, Writer's Digest, American Literary Review, and elsewhere. Her memoir WHEN SHE COMES BACK about the loss of her mother to the guru Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh and their eventual reconciliation was named Finalist in the 2021 Housatonic Awards Awards, the 2021 Indie Excellence Awards, and was a 2021 Book Riot Best True Crime Book. Her short story collection HOME IS A MADE-UP PLACE won Hidden River Arts' 2020 Eludia Award and the 2023 Page Turner Awards for Short Stories.  She earned an MFA in Nonfiction Writing at Pacific University, is Creative Nonfiction Editor at The Citron Review, and teaches memoir through the University of Washington's Online Continuum Program and also independently. She launched Let's Talk Memoir in 2022, lives in Seattle with her family of people and dogs, and is at work on her next book. More about Ronit: https://ronitplank.com Subscribe to Ronit's Substack: https://substack.com/@ronitplank   Follow Ronit: https://www.instagram.com/ronitplank/ https://www.facebook.com/RonitPlank https://bsky.app/profile/ronitplank.bsky.social

Welcome to our Spring Re-Release Series!We're turning two this July, and to celebrate we're going back to the beginning. Over the next few months, we're revisiting our first conversations with each Healing Hero through the lens of our Past, Present, and Possible Framework. Think of it as a guided return: releasing what no longer serves you, reconnecting with where you are now, and opening to what's waiting on the other side. And trust us, something big is coming this summer. Grab the Healing Roadmap in the show notes below to follow along.This is the perfect time to go back to basics before everything that's coming. Up first, Hero Jen is walking us through the benefits of EMDR.------Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a psychotherapeutic approach designed to help process past traumatic events. It involves recalling distressing experiences while simultaneously undergoing bilateral stimulation, such as guided eye movements, tapping, or auditory tones. This dual attention process helps to desensitize and reprocess the traumatic memory, transforming it from a vivid, emotionally charged recollection to a more neutral and manageable story.In this episode, we talk about EMDR and how it can help you process past traumatic events, remove obstacles, and reclaim your healing with Hero Jen Baumgold. Jen is a licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist who specializes in trauma treatment. She is certified in EMDR and works with clients to help untangle the knots of trauma while finding a path toward healing and resilience. She began her career at the New York Fire Department counseling service unit, where she worked until 2016.What You Will Learn[06:22] What psychotherapy is and the work that Jen does[08:02] EMDR and why people reach out to Jen for this sort of treatment [10:23] How EMDR works in practice[17:01] Indicators of trauma and where EMDR can help [20:12] How EMDR has helped Jen's patients and why it's effective  [22:04] How Jen's work at the New York Fire Department led her to EMDR[30:06] How EMDR helps people reconnect with themselves on a deeper level[35:13] How trauma can be passed from parents to children[37:04] Common Fears about EMDR and Why Give it a Try[42:26] Resources Jen recommends for EMDR Resources MentionedThe Body Keeps The Score by Bessel van der KolkLet's Connect!Jennifer BaumgoldWebsite | LinkedIn Chandler StroudWebsite | LinkedIn | InstagramHappiness Academy is now Healing Heroines, a signature space for women who are ready to feel more grounded, more peaceful, and more aligned — inside and out. Download a complimentary Healing Roadmap to discover our Past, Present, and Possible framework.Want personalized guidance for your healing journey? Book a call with Chandler!Mixing and editing provided by Next Day Podcast.Text message us questions, requests, or comments!

Are you managing your life rather than living it? In this episode, Augustine sits down with Kristen Brickl, an intuitive licensed professional counselor, to explore the transformative journey of women in midlife. They dive deep into the "Good Girl" arc—how childhood conditioning leads to adult over-functioning, people-pleasing, and eventually, physical and emotional burnout.Specifically tailored for midwives and high-pressure caregivers, this conversation explores why "self-care" isn't just a luxury but a professional necessity. Kristen shares how our nervous systems impact not just our own health, but the way we co-regulate with the families we serve. If you've ever felt like you're "giving from an empty cup" or losing your passion for your calling, this episode is a permission slip to stop, breathe, and reclaim your joy.Key HighlightsThe Evolution of the Martyr: How the "Good Girl" of childhood becomes the "People Pleaser" of young adulthood and the "Over-functioning Martyr" of midlife.The Power of the Whisper: Recognizing the subtle signs of burnout before they turn into a "cosmic two-by-four" (health crises or autoimmune issues).The "Pause" Practice: A simple, transformative tool to reset your nervous system in the middle of a chaotic day or between client calls.Reparenting Your Inner Mean Girl: Shifting your internal monologue from criticism to the "loving bosom" of the Wise Adult.The Liminal Space: Navigating the "cringey" discomfort of transition—that moment in the birth canal of your own life where you can't go back, but can't yet see the way forward.Channel vs. Source: A revolutionary mindset shift for caregivers: how to be a channel for service without becoming the depleted source of it.Perinatal Psychology & Attachment: How a caregiver's distracted or overwhelmed state affects a newborn's ability to form secure attachments.Resources MentionedBook: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk.Course: Boundaries for BirthworkersConnect with Kristen BricklWebsite: KristenBrickl.comInstagram: @kristen.bricklWant more? Join our Skool community to access 90% of our CEU courses and more!MWC Spring Break Sale! Course Bundles, Midwifery Equipment and more - upto 80% off!

What if your past isn't just remembered—but physically carried with you every day?In Episode 285, Mike and Mark dive into The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, a transformative exploration of how trauma shapes the brain, body, and our perception of the world.This episode challenges the idea that trauma is “just a story” and instead reveals how deeply it influences our reactions, relationships, and sense of self. From understanding your personal “map of the world” to learning how to release stored stress through movement, imagination, and even body positioning—this conversation is both eye-opening and practical.If you've ever felt stuck in patterns you can't explain, or sensed that something from the past is still holding you back, this episode offers a powerful framework for awareness, healing, and forward momentum.Now more than ever, understanding how to process and release what we carry is essential—not just for growth, but for living fully.Key ThemesTrauma as perception, not just memoryThe “map of the world” shaped by past experiencesHow trauma physically alters the brain and bodyEmotional pain as a full-body experienceGetting “stuck” in patterns of thought and behaviorHealing through movement, imagination, and creativityThe power of body language and posture in emotional statesAwareness and choice as tools for transformationConcepts & BreakthroughsOne of the most profound ideas in this episode is that trauma is not simply an event—it is the way the brain adapts to that event. As Bessel explains, our minds construct a “map of the world” based on past experiences, and that map determines how we interpret everything that follows. Two people can experience the same situation and walk away with completely different realities.This becomes especially important when trauma is unresolved. It doesn't stay in the past—it shows up in present reactions, often disproportionate to the situation. As discussed in the episode, someone may react strongly not because of what's happening now, but because of what happened years ago.Another key breakthrough is the understanding that trauma lives in the body. Feelings like anxiety, dread, or stress are not abstract—they manifest physically: tight shoulders, shallow breathing, or a clenched gut. As highlighted in the transcript, “heartbreak” and “gut-wrenching” are not just metaphors—they are literal bodily experiences .Healing, therefore, cannot be purely intellectual. It must involve the body. Movement, breathwork, and physical awareness become essential tools for releasing stored trauma. Even posture plays a role—standing upright, opening the chest, and adopting a “position of joy” can directly influence emotional state.Perhaps the most liberating idea explored is the concept of breaking out of the “trauma trap.” Through imagination, creativity, and even theatrical expression, we can step into new roles and identities. This creates distance from old patterns and opens the door to new ways of being.Habits, Tools & Mental Models1. The “Map of the World” CheckRegularly question your interpretation of events. Ask: Is this reality, or my past shaping my perception?2. Trauma Detox PracticeJust like physical detox, emotional detox requires intentional effort—through journaling, movement, or conversation.3. Body Awareness ScansNotice where stress lives in your body. Shoulders, neck, and gut are common signals of unresolved tension.4. Intercept the Thought LoopWhen revisiting past pain, consciously interrupt the pattern. Redirect attention before it spirals.Become a Member of the Moonshots Podcast:https://www.patreon.com/Moonshots

Send us Fan MailYou have done the coaching, the therapy. Read the books. Done the mindset work. You know your patterns better than anyone.And you are still stuck.This is the episode that explains why. And it is not what you think.In this episode Dr. Amen Kaur, Human Intelligence Architect and founder of BEYOND - breaks down the real reason so many driven, self-aware women cannot move forward no matter what they try. Drawing on the research of Dr Bessel van der Kolk, Dr Joe Dispenza, Professor Stephen Porges and Dr Peter Levine, she explains why the answer is not in your mindset, not in your strategy, and not in anything your thinking mind can reach.You will discover:Why Dr Bessel van der Kolk's research shows your patterns are stored in your body, not your mindWhy Dr Joe Dispenza says 95% of who you are by 35 is unconscious programming your thinking mind cannot overrideWhy nervous system regulation - the work of Professor Stephen Porges,  is the missing piece every coach and therapist has skippedThe one shift that changes everything  and what you can do todayThis episode is for you if you have ever thought - I know exactly what I need to do. I just cannot make myself do it.You are not the problem. And this episode will show you why.Subscribe to the show, Because You've Outgrown Who You Were - with Dr. Amen Kaur.Topics: nervous system regulation, behaviour change, self sabotage, stuck patterns, identity transformation, women leadership, human intelligence, body stores trauma, why therapy isn't enough, mindset not enough, Dr Bessel van der Kolk, Dr Joe Dispenza, Stephen Porges, Peter Levine, somatic healing, success ceiling, women successFree Masterclass: The Human Intelligence FrameworkA walkthrough of the five stage method Dr Amen Kaur uses with high achieving women who have lost themselves inside a career, role or identity that no longer fits.Watch it free at amenkaur.com/masterclassAbout Dr Amen KaurDr Amen Kaur holds a PhD and spent over twenty years in corporate, including time as a Partner at a FTSE 250 company focused on business growth. She now teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, a five stage method that helps women stop performing and come home to who they actually are.Learn more at amenkaur.com/aboutStay CloseInstagram: @dramenkaurTikTok: @dramenkaurYouTube: @dramenkaurDisclaimer: This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not medical, psychological, or financial advice. Please consult a qualified professional for guidance specific to your situation.

Understanding Your Pain: How Childhood Experiences Shape Your Life and Relationships Episode Summary In this deeply honest and meaningful conversation, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaels explore one of the most important—and often avoided—topics in healing: personal pain. Whether that pain feels overwhelming and present, or buried and difficult to access, it plays a powerful role in shaping how we think, feel, and connect with others. In this episode, we examine how early life experiences—especially Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs)—can influence emotional health, physical well-being, and relationship patterns later in life. Dr. Skinner shares both clinical insights and personal experiences to illustrate how unresolved pain can remain stored in the body for years, quietly influencing behavior and perception. Together, we discuss why some experiences are difficult to recall, how trauma impacts the brain and nervous system, and why having a safe, supportive environment is essential for healing. This episode also offers hope. Through the concept of Benevolent Childhood Experiences (BCEs), we explore how even one positive, supportive relationship can shift outcomes and foster resilience. Healing is possible—and it often begins with awareness, compassion, and a willingness to gently explore your story. If you've ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure why certain patterns keep repeating, this episode is an invitation to better understand yourself—and to take the next step toward healing.

What if trauma healing isn't just about talking about the past, but helping the body feel safe again?   In this episode of The Healing + Human Potential Podcast, I sit down with Bessel van der Kolk, one of the world's leading trauma experts, to explore 7 powerful ways to heal trauma without medication.   Bessel shares why trauma is not just a story from the past, but a pattern the body and nervous system keep replaying in the present. We talk about why true healing often requires more than talk therapy, and how approaches like EMDR, yoga, breathwork, neurofeedback, movement, community + psychedelics can help people process trauma in a deeper way.   If you've ever wondered why trauma can still live in the body, why certain patterns keep repeating, or what actually helps people heal, this episode offers a much more hopeful + expanded path forward.   ===   Guest Bio: Bessel van der Kolk MD is one of the world's leading trauma experts and author of The Body Keeps the Score. He has spent his career studying how trauma impacts the brain and body and developing treatments that help people heal from traumatic stress.     ====   Connect with Guest: Website:  https://www.besselvanderkolk.com   ===   Want 3 Life-Changing Tools you can use on yourself (or your clients) from inside our Accredited Coaching Certification? Click here to get them for Free:  https://www.alyssanobriga.com/tools   ===   Want one of the most Powerful Tools to Support you in Awakening & Manifesting Your Dream Life from the Inside Out (for Free)?   Learn how to live to your full potential without letting fear get in the way of your dreams.   ✨ Here's How to Get Your Gift: ✨   Step 1: Just head over to Apple Podcast or Spotify + leave a review now   Step 2: Take a screenshot before hitting submit   Step 3: Then go to alyssanobriga.com/podcast to upload it!   ===   Website: alyssanobriga.com Instagram: @alyssanobriga TikTok: @alyssanobriga Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6b5s2xbA2d3pETSvYBZ9YR Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/healing-human-potential/id1705626495   === Alyssa Nobriga International, LLC - Disclaimer This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or any other qualified professional. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this video. Copyright 2023, Alyssa Nobriga International, LLC - All rights reserved

Author and New Zealander Carolyn Deck returns this week to share the rest of her story and how God brought purpose out of her painful past. After a turbulent childhood marked by neglect and abandonment, Carolyn could have remained stuck in the patterns and wounds of her early years. Instead, through coming to know and trust God, she began a journey of healing that included forgiveness and the courage to make healthy, life-giving choices. In this episode, Carolyn reflects on how even her years working as a travel agent became part of God's greater plan, shaping the message of her life and her book, Above the Turbulence. What once threatened to keep her grounded became the very place from which she learned to rise. Her story is a powerful testimony of God's grace, showing how He can redeem the hardest beginnings and lead us into purpose, freedom, and hope. Connect with Carolyn:  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carolyn.deck Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolyn.deck/   Links Mentioned:  Book: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kold, MD   Carolyn's books: Above the Turbulence: Your Ticket Out of Pain to Purpose Christian Marriage: Devotionals From Both Perspectives (Christian Devotional Collaborations)   All proceeds from Carolyn's book goes to the ministry, Faces with Names. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_k4MriY50rQ   To inquire about counseling, email Louise at Louise@louisesedgwick.com.  

In The Lady's Handbook for Her Mysterious Illness, Sarah Ramey shares her journey through chronic illness and the medical system's blind spots. This week, we're bringing forward a powerful 2022 conversation with Sarah Ramey, author of The Lady's Handbook for Her Mysterious Illness, whose novel was selected as a MomAdvice Book Club Book the year that this conversation was recorded. This discussion remains as urgent and resonant today as when it first aired, offering an unflinching look at chronic illness, medical bias, and the stories women are too often forced to carry alone. In this episode, we also discuss the complexities of the mind-body connection, the role of privilege in accessing care, and the turning point that led Sarah toward healing through functional medicine. Anne Patchett featured The Lady's Handbook for Her Mysterious Illness in her "If You Haven't Read This Book, It's New to You" series for Parnassus Books. She described it as crackling, electrifying, funny, and fast-paced—a book that will outrage you and one you won't be able to put down.  I co-sign this recommendation and am proud to pull this out from our studio vault as we celebrate this month's book club book, The Mad Wife, and the ways women's health has been so misunderstood.   In this spoiler-filled conversation:

Science journalist Sadie Dingfelder is back with "Is That Bullshit?" — this time investigating the yoga-class truism that trauma lives in your hips, and the broader claim behind Bessel van der Kolk's massively influential book The Body Keeps the Score. Also: Kash Patel, Tulsi Gabbard, and John Ratcliffe testified before Congress on election security, and the numbers on non-citizen voting are in.  WIll it reach low double digits?  Stay tuned! Produced by Corey Wara Video and Social Media by Geoff Craig Do you have questions or comments, or just want to say hello? Email us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠thegist@mikepesca.com For full Pesca content and updates, check out our website at https://www.mikepesca.com/⁠ For ad-free content or to become a Pesca Plus subscriber, check out ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://subscribe.mikepesca.com/ For Mike's daily takes on Substack, subscribe to The Gist List https://mikepesca.substack.com/ Follow us on Social Media:⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4_bh0wHgk2YfpKf4rg40_g⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/pescagist/ X https://x.com/pescami TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@pescagist To advertise on the show, contact ⁠⁠⁠⁠ad-sales@libsyn.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://advertising.libsyn.com/TheGist

¿Sientes que por más que visualizas y afirmas, tu realidad no cambia? En el episodio de hoy, vamos a ir mucho más profundo en el proceso de manifestación consciente. No solo queremos manifestar cosas, queremos diseñar una vida a nuestra medida.   En este episodio aprenderás: La Paradoja de la Manifestación: Por qué necesitas sentirte en paz y abundancia antes de tener el dinero o la pareja, y por qué esto no es una injusticia, sino una liberación. El Cuerpo Lleva la Cuenta: Cómo el trauma infantil y las heridas del pasado actúan como "plomo" que te impide flotar hacia la superficie de tus sueños. Más allá del Psicoanálisis: Por qué entender tus problemas mentalmente no es suficiente y por qué el trabajo somático es la clave para liberar emociones atoradas en tu cuerpo. Tus Centros Energéticos: Un recorrido por tus chakras y cómo los bloqueos en lugares como el sacro o la garganta detienen tu flujo creativo y tu capacidad de decir tu verdad. Manifestación y Salud: La conexión entre tus emociones no expresadas y síntomas físicos como contracturas, insomnio o problemas de tiroides. Los libros que se mencionan son: The Body Keeps the Score (El cuerpo lleva la cuenta) de Bessel van der Kolk. Síndrome de un Corazón Roto de Esther Iturralde: https://www.amazon.com.mx/dp/6073807902  ¡Inscríbete a Self Masters! Si estás listo para convertirte en el maestro de tu propia realidad y aprender técnicas avanzadas de manifestación y sanación somática, únete a mi próximo programa.

Theologian Bo Karen Lee joins Ryan McAnnally-Linz to explore how the multiple layers of trauma—pandemic grief, racialized violence, intergenerational wounding, vicarious suffering—can be met by the resources of Ignatian spirituality and contemplative prayer. Writing and teaching at the intersection of Christian formation and social justice, Lee brings both scholarly precision and uncommon personal candor to one of the most urgent conversations in theology today. "Trauma tends to isolate and alienate us from our siblings, our human siblings. But ironically, this witnessing of one another's pain is the source of healing. So it has the very opposite effect of what is needed for it to be healed." In this conversation, Lee reflects on the spiritual journey from what one author calls "alarmed aloneness" toward becoming beloved—seen, held, and gazed upon with love. Together they discuss the overlapping layers of collective, personal, racialized, and intergenerational trauma shaping contemporary life; attachment theory and its parallels with spiritual formation; the Ignatian tradition of imaginative, contemplative prayer; the still face experiment and the theology of the loving gaze; and why the church has something singular to offer the trauma crisis of our time. Episode Highlights "We are quite sure we're alone in the world and no one really sees us, no one truly cares and no one can be trusted. You're alone, overwhelmed, and helpless." "Trauma tends to isolate and alienate us from our siblings, our human siblings. But ironically, this witnessing of one another's pain is the source of healing. So it has the very opposite effect of what is needed for it to be healed." "I need to be held, but it's this illusory figure that holds me, because I have shut myself off to the very things that could help me, because no one is to be trusted." "I've seen too much hope, and too much beauty, and too much healing walking through the spiritual exercises that I can no longer despair that trauma has the final word." "Gazing upon the God who gazes upon me with love. That is contemplative prayer." About Bo Karen Lee Bo Karen Lee is Associate Professor of Spiritual Theology and Christian Formation at Princeton Theological Seminary, where she teaches contemplative theology, Ignatian spirituality, and the relationship between prayer and social justice. A leading voice in the integration of trauma studies and Christian formation, she brings the Ignatian tradition into conversation with psychology, attachment theory, and the lived experience of racialized communities. Her work draws on the Spiritual Exercises of Ignatius of Loyola to offer resources for healing that are both theologically grounded and pastorally immediate. She directs retreatants in the nineteenth annotation of the Spiritual Exercises and works regularly with spiritual directors trained in the Ignatian tradition. Helpful Links and Resources Bessel van der Kolk, Traumatic Stress: The Effects of Overwhelming Experience on Mind, Body, and Society https://www.amazon.com/Traumatic-Stress-Overwhelming-Experience-Society/dp/1572300485 Bessel van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/resources/the-body-keeps-the-score Resmaa Menakem, My Grandmother's Hands https://www.resmaa.com/resources Kathy Weingarten, Common Shock: Witnessing Violence Every Day https://www.kathyweingarten.com David Fleming SJ, Draw Me Into Your Friendship https://www.amazon.com/Draw-Me-Into-Your-Friendship/dp/0912422904 Ignatius of Loyola, The Spiritual Exercises https://www.ignatianspirituality.com/ignatian-prayer/the-spiritual-exercises/ Edward Tronick, Still Face Experiment https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=apzXGEbZht0 Find a Spiritual Director https://www.ignatianspirituality.com/making-good-decisions/find-a-spiritual-director/ Show Notes Trauma defined: "terror triggered by an inescapably stressful event that overwhelms existing coping mechanisms" — Bessel van der Kolk Layers of trauma: collective pandemic grief, personal wounding, racialized violence, intergenerational encoding, vicarious/secondary trauma Global pandemic as collective trauma — threat of death, forced isolation, planetary-scale overwhelm Racialized trauma and AAPI hate incidents — one in five AAPI individuals reported a hate incident in the U.S. in a 15-month window (as of late 2021) My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menakem — racialized trauma encoded in bodies and communities https://www.resmaa.com/resources Cumulative microaggressions — daily small injuries can produce PTSD-level effects over time; growing body of clinical literature Secondary/vicarious trauma — hearing others' suffering reactivates unresolved wounds in caregivers and companions "Double jeopardy" — Kathy Weingarten's term for caregivers whose own past traumas are reactivated while supporting others Five professions at highest risk: clergy, health workers, teachers, police, journalists — context for the Great Resignation "Alarmed aloneness" — the net effect of trauma: certainty that no one sees you, no one cares, no one can be trusted "Trauma tends to isolate and alienate us from our siblings, our human siblings. But ironically, this witnessing of one another's pain is the source of healing." The orphan image: a girl in a Middle Eastern orphanage draws a chalk mother around her fetal body — illusory comfort as portrait of traumatic isolation Intergenerational trauma — encoded in DNA; personal testimony about learning her own mother was nearly killed as an infant, its echo across generations Kintsugi as healing metaphor — the Japanese art of mending broken pottery with gold; grief before repair, not a race to be fixed Robert Stolorow's concept: finding a "relational home" for traumatic suffering — the necessity of being witnessed Ignatius of Loyola — 16th-century Spanish soldier wounded by cannonball; encountered the living Christ through Ludolph of Saxony's Vita Christi during convalescence The Spiritual Exercises: a four-week manual for imaginative prayer — beloved and broken, walking with Christ through ministry, suffering, resurrection https://www.ignatianspirituality.com/ignatian-prayer/the-spiritual-exercises/ Ignatian contemplative prayer defined: "gazing upon the God who gazes upon me with love" — kataphatic, embodied, not requiring stillness or silence Still Face Experiment (Edward Tronick) — infant distress when a loving mother goes blank; evidence that the gaze of love is neurologically and psychologically foundational https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=apzXGEbZht0 Attachment theory and spiritual formation — earned secure attachment: what unhealthy early bonding cannot provide, sustained relationship with God can "I've seen too much hope, and too much beauty, and too much healing walking through the spiritual exercises that I can no longer despair that trauma has the final word." Personal testimony: AAPI hate crimes, night terrors, contemplative prayer with a spiritual director; a vision of Mary, the wailing women, and the crucified Christ "Bo, they killed me too" — Christ's words in a contemplative vision; solidarity as the beginning of bearable grief Sartre's "hell is other people" reframed — parasitic dependence on others' approval vs. the freedom of knowing how God gazes upon you Resources for beginning: David Fleming's Draw Me Into Your Friendship; finding a spiritual director trained in Ignatian spirituality; Jesuit retreat centers #TraumaHealing #IgnatianSpirituality #ContemplativePrayer #ChristianFormation #SpiritualTheology #MentalHealthAndFaith #RacializedTrauma #AttachmentTheory #ForTheLifeOfTheWorld #YaleDivinity Production Notes This podcast featured Bo Karen Lee Edited and Produced by Evan Rosa Hosted by Evan Rosa Production Assistance by Annie Trowbridge and Luke Stringer A Production of the Yale Center for Faith & Culture at Yale Divinity School https://faith.yale.edu/about Support For the Life of the World podcast by giving to the Yale Center for Faith & Culture: https://faith.yale.edu/give

En este episodio exploramos una pregunta muy importante: ¿por qué reaccionamos de la manera en que reaccionamos? Muchas veces nuestras respuestas emocionales parecen desproporcionadas, confusas o incluso fuera de nuestro control. Pero la realidad es que muchas de estas reacciones están profundamente conectadas con nuestra historia, nuestras experiencias pasadas y la manera en que nuestro sistema nervioso aprendió a protegernos. A lo largo de este episodio hablamos sobre cómo nuestras experiencias pueden moldear nuestras respuestas, cómo el cuerpo guarda memoria de lo que hemos vivido y por qué comprender esto puede ser el primer paso hacia la sanidad. También hacemos referencia al libro The Body Keeps the Score de Bessel van der Kolk, una obra muy reconocida que explora cómo el trauma y las experiencias difíciles pueden quedar registradas en el cuerpo y cómo es posible comenzar un proceso de sanidad desde un entendimiento más profundo. Porque la verdadera transformación no comienza con simplemente cambiar nuestro comportamiento, sino con entender lo que sucede dentro de nosotros. Si tienes preguntas o quieres compartir tu experiencia, puedes escribirnos en anatomyofchangeofficial.com o en Instagram @_stillwaters365. Esperamos que el Señor te hable a través de este mensaje. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the places where you feel the most emotionally reactive are actually invitations to grow? In today's workout, Alisa Keeton, founder and CEO of Revelation Wellness, invites you to move your body while engaging the Word of God—not just hearing it, but living it. Because Scripture calls us to be doers of the Word, not just hearers. So get your good body moving. However you choose to move today—walking, jogging, stretching, or simply breathing deeply—remember this: movement helps your body do what God designed it to do. Today's Scripture: Numbers 20:1–13 The Body and Our Emotions Our bodies are emotional places. Trauma expert Bessel van der Kolk famously wrote The Body Keeps the Score, reminding us that emotions live in our bodies. No emotion is off the table. At their core, emotions are childlike signals. Your brain is simply trying to keep you safe. But emotional reactivity can reveal something deeper. Our emotional instability can show us the places where we're still growing. The places where we're still immature. The places where we need God's presence most. Questions to Reflect On While You Move As you get the blood flowing and settle into your movement today, consider: What have you seen God do in your life? What miracles has He already performed? Where might you be trying to fix things in your own strength? Emotional maturity isn't achieved through willpower. The cure is His presence. So today, breathe deep. Relax your shoulders. Keep moving. Let God meet you in your body, your breath, and your emotions. Playlist: Thankful by Lukas Gross & Martna Valeikaitė Matter of Time by Vandelux You're Gonna Be OK by Rave Jesus & son Ordinary by Alex Warren holy bounce by Bonafyde Thank God I'm Free by Elevation Rhythm Mighty Name of Jesus by Hope Darst Don't Give Up On Me by Brandon Lake Ready to Go Deeper?

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