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In this deeply comforting episode, Keana explores one of the most vulnerable questions believers ask during painful seasons: “If God loves me, then why am I still hurting?”Instead of trying to explain suffering or offer neat answers, Keana gently reassures listeners that pain is not evidence of God's absence. Drawing from Scripture and insights from leading psychologists, she reminds us that God's love is present inside our hurt — not after it, not once we “get stronger,” but right now, in the middle of the struggle.This episode is a safe space for anyone who feels confused, overwhelmed, or spiritually discouraged. Through biblical examples, trauma‑informed wisdom, and compassionate encouragement, Keana helps listeners rediscover the truth that God is near, attentive, and tender with those who are hurting.

Author, speaker, and neuroscience educator Sarah Peyton joins me to explore what happens when attachment theory, Nonviolent Communication, and the science of resonance come together.   Together we explore:   Why feeling understood is so important for your child's developing brain, nervous system, and sense of self. The fascinating difference between empathy and resonance, and why that distinction matters in our relationships with our kids. How your own attachment history can influence the way you respond when your child is upset, reactive, or pushing your buttons. Why the same behavior from your child might barely bother you one day, and feel completely intolerable the next. How Nonviolent Communication can help you look beneath your child's behavior and get curious about the feelings and needs driving it. The surprising connection between secure attachment and independence, and why pushing children to become more independent can sometimes have the opposite effect. How becoming more resonant with your child can begin to shift your own attachment patterns too. Why changing the way you relate to your child doesn't happen overnight, but can profoundly change your relationship over time.   Whether you're trying to break patterns from your own childhood, understand why certain parenting moments feel so triggering, or simply want to feel more connected to your child, this conversation offers a fascinating new way to think about what it really means to feel seen, understood, and securely connected.     LEARN MORE ABOUT MY GUEST:

What if the one thing that could change how you show up in the courtroom is something you're already doing every single day? You're breathing, sure. But are you breathing well? In this episode of Sari Swears, Sari de la Motte welcomes Kevin de la Motte, aka Coach K, to talk about why intentional breathing matters for trial attorneys. From stressful cases and opposing counsel's bullshit to the pressure of standing in front of a jury, they explore how your breathing can affect your presence, reactions, and communication. Sari and Coach K also share practical ways to build a breathing habit, including Coach K's morning routine, meditation, exercise, and simple check-ins throughout the day. Because when everything is fucking hitting the fan, you want to be the calm presence in the courtroom. Listen to today's episode to learn: Breathing Under Pressure: Why Sari and Coach K believe intentional breathing can help you stay grounded when trial gets stressful. Being Less Reactive: How noticing your breath can create space before you respond to opposing counsel, unexpected challenges, or your own thoughts. Showing Up as a Leader: Why Sari says the way you breathe affects how you sound, move, and communicate with jurors. Building a Breathing Practice: How Coach K incorporates breathing into his daily routine and shares ways to make the practice manageable. Resources mentioned: Your Survival Instinct is Killing You by Marc Schoen, PhD  Wevana Tabs  (formerly Dharma Dr. Tabs) The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk, M.D. 

Can love survive if only one person remembers? Evann Normandin joins Book Gang to share how The Good Parts explores memory, healing, and the cost of letting go.What if you could forget your greatest heartache—would you do it? Today we're joined by Evann Normandin, whose debut, The Good Parts, is a hauntingly beautiful meditation on memory, trauma, and a love story that refuses to be erased.When Rose takes a pill to erase her most painful memories, she loses not only her grief but every trace of the love she once shared with Landon. As Landon tries to rekindle their connection, they both discover that love and memory are never so easily erased. Evann draws from her studies in traumatic memory—and a real-life love letter—to ask one unforgettable question: Can love survive if only one person remembers it?In this week's episode, we discuss:

Jala is joined by Desirée to discuss the ways in which different cultures around the world care for, honor and maintain relationships with their dead. This episode is primarily a book report of: From Here to Eternity Caitlin Doughty Related episodes: Episode 27: Death Positivity - discussion of the death positive movement, The Order of the Good Death, and that one time Cameron faceplanted directly into the chest cavity of an embalmed corpse. Episode 73: Trauma Response - discussion of types of trauma, methods of coping and more. Also discussion of the book The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, M.D. Episode 83: The Science of Grief - discussion of the science behind grief: how it registers in our brains and bodies, its potential long-term effects and how we process it. Also discussion of the books The Grieving Brain and The Grieving Body, both by Mary-Frances O'Connor. Support this show via Ko-fi! Just like Patreon, there are subscription tiers (with bonus content!) in addition to the ability to drop us a one-time donation. Every little bit helps us put out better quality content and keep the lights on, and gets a shout out in a future episode. Check out ko-fi.com/fireheartmedia for the details! Don't forget to rate & review us on your podcasting platform of choice~ Jala Prendes Bluesky - @jalachan, Bluesky - @fireheartmedia The Level Desirée Neyens Bluesky InstagramSpecial Guest: Desirée Neyens.

In this week's episode of the Finding God Podcast, Keana W. Mitchell explores what it truly means to worship without fear for those healing from religious trauma, spiritual manipulation, or environments where worship felt pressured or unsafe. This gentle, trauma‑informed conversation guides listeners back to the heart of worship: connection, honesty, and safety in God's presence.Keana begins with a grounding moment, then revisits last week's episode on reconnecting with God after religious trauma. Drawing from leading trauma researchers like Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, Dr. Stephen Porges, and Dr. Diane Langberg, she explains how trauma affects the nervous system and why worship can feel overwhelming even when the desire to connect with God is strong.Through powerful biblical examples — David, Elijah, Hagar, Mary Magdalene, and the disciples  Keana shows how God consistently meets people in fear with gentleness, not pressure. The episode then explores what worship without fear looks like in real life and offers practical steps for creating spiritually safe, grounding worship practices.This episode is a compassionate reminder that God's presence is not a place of fear, but a place of refuge.What You'll Hear in This EpisodeWhy worship can feel unsafe after religious traumaHow trauma affects the body's ability to feel spiritually safeInsights from leading trauma psychologists (van der Kolk, Porges, Langberg)Biblical stories of people who found safety in God's presenceWhat worship without fear actually looks likeGentle, practical steps to begin worshiping safely againEncouragement for reconnecting with God at your own paceKey TakeawaysGod's presence is a place of safety, not pressureTrauma can make worship feel overwhelming — and that's normalHealing requires gentleness, not spiritual performanceWorship can be quiet, slow, and deeply personalGod meets you where you are, not where others expect you to beSmall moments of connection matter and build over timeScripture ReferencesPsalm 23; Psalm 34 — David finding refuge in God1 Kings 19 — Elijah encountering God's gentle whisperGenesis 16 & 21 — Hagar meeting “El Roi,” the God who sees herJohn 20 — Mary Magdalene and the disciples finding peace in Jesus' presenceScholarly References (General Citations)van der Kolk, B. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score.Porges, S. (2011). The Polyvagal Theory.Langberg, D. (2015). Suffering and the Heart of God.Support the MinistryIf this episode encouraged you, consider supporting the Finding God Podcast through the donation button on RedCircle. Your support helps keep these spiritually grounded conversations going.

She had the career, the credentials, and a seat at Goldman Sachs she'd fought hard to earn. Then life asked her to reconsider everything.What happens when some of the hardest experiences of your life begin pointing you toward what you're meant to do next?Today, Sharon Walker Epps is CEO of the Rowan Center, supporting survivors of sexual violence and working to prevent it in the first place. But the path from Wall Street to this work was anything but linear.In this conversation, Sharon shares why she walked away from a career she loved, the deeply personal experience that eventually made this work impossible to turn away from, and how she found her second act when she had no idea what she was looking for.It's a conversation about resilience, motherhood, purpose, and trusting the pull toward something more, even before you know where it's leading.What You Will Learn[00:07:30] Sharon's first-grade teacher — and the fire it lit[00:11:30] Why Sharon chose Wall Street — it wasn't prestige[00:15:30] How 9/11 made Sharon question everything she'd built[00:23:30] How trauma quietly shapes an entire life's trajectory[00:27:00] The average age of disclosure — and why it matters[00:30:00] When Sharon simply couldn't turn away anymore[00:35:30] Why every survivor's story is a gift at their own expense[00:44:00] Sharon's advice for women waiting for their second actResources MentionedThe Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Let's Connect!Sharon EppsRowan Center | LinkedInChandler StroudWebsite | LinkedIn | InstagramFeel like life might be inviting you into something more? Take the free quiz to discover where your call may be showing up.Not sure what to do with what you're feeling? Book a free call with Chandler to talk through what's coming up—and what your next step might be.Ready to answer the call? Healing Heroines is an intimate sisterhood for women ready to actively create more meaningful lives—together.Mixing and editing provided by Next Day Podcast.Text message us questions, requests, or comments!

Welcome to The LongHer Life, formerly Biohacking with Brittany. To kick off this new era, I'm not giving you a list of supplements. I'm giving you me. These are 10 things you probably don't know about me, and some of them I've never said on the mic before. I share why I outgrew Biohacking with Brittany, and I read you the letter I wrote to my old self to close that chapter. Then we go deep: growing up in South Africa and moving to Canada at 7, my parents' divorce and caring for them as a teenager, growing up very Christian and where I stand with faith and spirituality now, my breech baby and traumatic birth, and the postpartum anxiety and intrusive thoughts I didn't recognize until I came out of them. I also open up about the hardest season of my marriage, how I pick up on energy, the signs I keep getting that I'm going to have twins, why I thought I'd never work one on one again, and what it's like being a visionary who still has mom guilt. If you want to work with me, The Spark, my new 12 week one on one program, is open now. Early bird pricing and the first edition founder's box end September 27.   I TALK ABOUT: 00:00 Welcome to The LongHer Life, and why I changed the name 08:00 The letter I wrote to my old self 11:00 I'm South African 14:20 My parents' divorce 19:20 Growing up Christian, and where I stand now 24:40 My breech baby and traumatic birth 29:00 Postpartum anxiety I didn't know I had 36:00 The hardest season of our marriage 40:40 I pick up on energy 47:00 The signs I'm having twins 56:20 Why I opened my practice again: The Spark 1:07:00 I'm a visionary, and I still have mom guilt   RESOURCES: The Spark, my 12 week one on one program The Exhale, my free masterclass (everyone who signs up gets the replay free) The LongHer Life Longevity Community My Birth Story episode (2024) How to Have a Gentle C-Section Dr. Joe Dispenza's books and meditations The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk   CONNECT: Instagram | Website   This episode is for education and connection only and is not medical or mental health advice. If you're struggling with postpartum anxiety or birth trauma, please reach out to your provider or someone you trust.

IN THIS EPISODEEveryone is saying “the body keeps the score.” The science is real: stress and trauma leave a physical mark, and OCD is some of the clearest proof there is. But, there's a half of this conversation almost nobody is having. Scripture said the body keeps the score first, and it says something the wellness world can't: the score isn't the final word. This is the story of what my OCD taught me about the brain, the body, and a God who made both and took one on.* Why OCD is some of the clearest proof that the body keeps a score (and what a brain scan actually shows)* What the science really says about trauma and the body, including the part that's overblown* Neuroplasticity: how a “renewed mind” physically rewires the brain* What Scripture said about the embodied life long before the wellness industry* Jesus, Gethsemane, and a rare stress condition only the physician-Gospel-writer recorded* The exact place the wellness world turns something true into something that will fail youTimestamps:00:00 OCD Alarm at the Sink00:59 Body Keeps Score Thesis01:54 OCD Brain Lock Science03:50 Trauma Claims Fact Check05:19 Stress Is Physical06:15 Rewiring Through Neuroplasticity08:05 Embodied Soul in Scripture09:33 Jesus and the Suffering Body11:04 Renewing Mind Meets Science11:50 Honor Body Don't Worship14:57 Resurrection and Redemption15:18 Closing Questions and Next StepsSubscribe to The Bold Life + read the companion article on renewing your mind. SOURCES / FURTHER READING - Jeffrey Schwartz, “Brain Lock” — the caudate/orbitofrontal loop, the Four Steps (Relabel, Reattribute, Refocus, Revalue), PET-scan changes after therapy.- Bessel van der Kolk, “The Body Keeps the Score” (2014) — trauma's physiological imprint.- 2025 BJPsych Bulletin review evaluating 122 claims in the book (the “overblown” caveat) — cite as “a 2025 review in a psychiatric journal.”- Established stress physiology: cortisol / HPA axis, amygdala reactivity.- Hematidrosis: rare stress-induced condition; sympathetic nervous system; Luke 22:44; Luke as physician (Colossians 4:14).- Scripture: Genesis 2:7; Psalm 6:6; Psalm 31:9-10; Psalm 32:3-4; Luke 22:44; 1 Corinthians 6:19-20; Romans 12:2; 1 Kings 19; 2 Corinthians 12:7-9; Psalm 139:14. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit emilyvermillion.substack.com/subscribe

Soft Love Is Winning: Why Emotional Safety Matters More Than ChemistryIn this week's episode of the Worth Loving Podcast, Keana explores the cultural shift happening in modern dating: people are choosing soft love, emotionally safe, consistent, mature love over intense chemistry and chaotic relationships. This episode breaks down why emotional safety matters more than the spark, how to recognize it, and how to trust yourself as you choose healthier love.Keana also revisits last week's powerful episode on relationship burnout, connecting how emotional exhaustion often comes from trying to build connection in emotionally unsafe environments. Today's conversation offers the antidote: emotional safety, clarity, and gentle connection.✨ What You'll Learn in This Episode✔ Why Emotional Safety Matters More Than ChemistryKeana explains the difference between chemistry and connection and why intense chemistry often comes from inconsistency, anxiety, or trauma patterns. Featuring insights from leading psychologists:“We confuse intensity with intimacy.” — Esther Perel“Trust is built in very small moments.” — Dr. John Gottman“We need emotional responsiveness to feel safe.” — Dr. Sue Johnson✔ Green Flags for Emotional SafetyLearn the signs of emotionally safe love, including:Consistent communicationEmotional availabilityRespect for boundariesAccountabilityPredictabilityEmotional regulationMutual vulnerabilitySafety in conflict✔ Red Flags for Emotional SafetyKeana breaks down the behaviors that signal emotional danger:InconsistencyEmotional unavailabilityBoundary violationsDefensivenessEmotional volatilityLack of repairConfusionPunishment for vulnerability✔ How to Trust Yourself When Choosing Emotionally Safe LoveDiscover how to listen to your body, honor your needs, slow down, trust patterns, and practice self‑compassion as you choose healthier relationships. Featuring insight from Dr. Bessel van der Kolk:“The body keeps the score.”✔ How to Know When to Walk AwayKeana shares the signs that a relationship cannot offer emotional safety  and how walking away becomes an act of self‑love, clarity, and courage.✔ Reflection QuestionsThought‑provoking questions to help you identify what emotional safety looks like for you and how to choose it intentionally.✨ Final EncouragementSoft love is not boring, it's secure. Emotional safety is not optional, it's foundational. Chemistry can start a relationship, but emotional safety sustains it. You deserve a relationship where your nervous system can rest, where clarity replaces confusion, and where love feels like home.

« On m'a dit que c'était facile de tout mettre sur le dos de l'enfance. Et je n'ai pas su quoi répondre. »Cet épisode est là pour répondre aux personnes qui te disent ça.En 1998, deux médecins publient une étude sur environ 17 000 adultes : l'ACE Study, sur les expériences d'adversité de l'enfance. L'étude trouve une relation directe entre ce qui s'est passé dans l'enfance et les maladies physiques plus tard dans la vie (maladies cardiaques, pulmonaires, cancer…). Dans cet épisode, Camille raconte comment cette étude est née d'un échec dans une clinique d'obésité. Elle te partage les 10 questions du score pour que tu puisses établir le tien. Et elle termine sur les facteurs de protection, ce qui fait que l'on peut changer sa trajectoire et trouver la résilience même quand notre enfance a été marquée par les traumatismes.

Bessel van der Kolk groeide op in een tijd waarin over trauma nauwelijks werd gesproken. Inmiddels is hij een van de bekendste stemmen op dit gebied. Nu trauma steeds meer aandacht krijgt, waarschuwt hij voor een nieuwe valkuil: trauma mag geen „alibi” worden om verantwoordelijkheid te ontlopen.Ondanks die grote focus op trauma, is er nog altijd veel ellende in de wereld. Van der Kolk pleit ervoor om niet alleen over trauma te praten, maar ook het lichaam erbij te betrekken. Hij kijkt daarbij naar andere culturen, waar mensen na ingrijpende ervaringen het ritme opzoeken: ze zingen, dansen en oogsten samen. „Ritme laat je veilig voelen. Je weet wat er gaat gebeuren. Bij trauma weet je dat nooit.”Presentatie: Pieter van der WielenRedactie: Merel van Waalwijk van DoornProductie: Rhea StroinkMixage: AudiochefMuziek: Rufus van BaardwijkVideo: Cato VisserFoto: NRCZie het privacybeleid op https://art19.com/privacy en de privacyverklaring van Californië op https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week's episode of the Finding God Podcast, Keana dives deep into a growing struggle among believers: spiritual exhaustion. Many Christians today feel tired, disconnected, overwhelmed, or numb in their faith not because they don't love God, but because they've been carrying spiritual burdens God never asked them to carry.This teaching‑centered episode explores what spiritual burnout actually is, why it's happening at such high levels, and how to heal from it in a gentle, grace‑filled, trauma‑informed way.✨ Recap of Last Week's Episode: Breaking Free from Legalism in the ChurchKeana revisits last week's powerful conversation on legalism how it distorts our view of God, creates shame and anxiety, and replaces relationship with rules. Last week's episode reminded listeners:“If you've ever felt like you had to earn God's love, perform perfectly, or follow endless rules to be accepted, this conversation will help you breathe again.”Legalism is one of the biggest contributors to spiritual exhaustion.Healing exercises included:“God Is Love” reframingInner Child Compassion PrayerScripture DetoxNervous System ResetIdentity Rebuilding journal promptsThis week builds on that foundation by addressing the deeper exhaustion legalism creates.✨ What You'll Learn in This Episode✔ What Spiritual Burnout Actually IsA faith‑based and psychological definition of spiritual exhaustion, including symptoms like numbness, guilt, disconnection, and loss of joy.✔ Why So Many Christians Are Spiritually ExhaustedKeana breaks down the core contributors:Fear‑based theologyReligious performance cultureEmotional overloadChurch hurt & spiritual traumaLack of spiritual restDisconnection from God's true characterFeaturing insights from leading psychologists including Dr. Herbert Freudenberger, Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, and Dr. Carl Rogers.✔ How to Heal From Spiritual BurnoutGentle, practical, trauma‑informed steps to restore your spiritual life:Relearning God's characterResting your nervous systemReleasing religious performanceHealing church hurtRebuilding connection through simplicityPracticing inner compassion✔ Reflection Questions to Help You Reconnect With GodThought‑provoking questions to help listeners identify where burnout has taken root and where God is inviting them into rest.✨ Final EncouragementSpiritual exhaustion is not failure, it's a signal. God is not calling you to burnout; He is calling you to relationship, peace, and rest. You don't have to earn His love. You don't have to perform for His approval. You can breathe, slow down, and let Him restore your soul.

In this week's episode of the Worth Loving Podcast, Keana dives deep into a topic so many people are quietly struggling with: relationship burnout. Dating fatigue, emotional exhaustion, and the overwhelming nature of modern dating have become major conversations online and for good reason. People aren't giving up on love because they don't want connection. They're giving up because the process of dating feels heavy, confusing, and emotionally draining.This teaching‑centered episode breaks down the psychology behind dating burnout, why it's happening at such high levels, and what you can do to protect your emotional health while still staying open to love.In This Episode, We Cover:✔ Recap of Last Week's Episode: “Are You Ready to Date Again?”Keana revisits the signs of emotional readiness, the importance of healing before dating, and how readiness and burnout intersect.✔ What Relationship Burnout Actually IsEmotional depletion caused by repeated relational stress, disappointment, and overwhelm. Featuring insight from burnout researcher Dr. Herbert Freudenberger.✔ Dating Fatigue & Modern Dating OverloadWhy apps, situationships, and modern expectations are draining people:Choice overload (Dr. Barry Schwartz)Ambiguous relationships activating attachment anxietyEmotional labor of constant communicationGhosting, breadcrumbing, and inconsistency✔ Why We Feel Burned Out by RelationshipsThe psychological and emotional roots of burnout:Nervous system fatigue (Dr. Bessel van der Kolk)Repeated disappointmentEmotional overloadLoss of hopeAttachment activation✔ How to Prevent Dating BurnoutPractical, trauma‑informed strategies to protect your emotional energy:Setting boundariesSlowing downManaging expectationsReconnecting with your valuesHealing your nervous systemChoosing better environments for connection✔ How to Keep Love Alive (Even When You're Tired)How to stay open to healthy love without draining yourself:Focus on connection, not performanceChoose consistent partnersBuild emotional safety firstPractice self‑compassionUnderstand burnout as a signal, not a verdictFinal ThoughtBurnout doesn't mean you're not meant for love it means you're tired. You're allowed to pause without giving up. You're allowed to rest without quitting. Healthy love is still possible for you, and you deserve connection that feels safe, reciprocal, and emotionally nourishing.

You can become who you are. Which means you can also become who you're not. Recorded on location in Poland during a pilgrimage through the life of John Paul II, Dr. Greg Bottaro and Dr. Gerard McNicholas trace JP2's line "let yourself be molded by love" — and what happens in the subconscious that blocks our freedom to choose it. Key Topics: Why "become who you are" carries a hidden warning — you can also be molded into who you're not Why virtue never becomes automatic, no matter how many years you practice it How the one freedom no one can take from you is the freedom St. Maximilian Kolbe used to step forward and say "take my place" Why the buried things in your subconscious actually want to be known — and why John Paul II called surfacing them a task of morality How art slips in the back door of the subconscious and unlocks what analysis alone can't reach Learn More: Person and Act and Related Essays by Karol Wojtyła (John Paul II) — his account of conscience and the subconscious Our God's Brother — the Wojtyła play that gives us "let yourself be molded by love" Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl  The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk  John Paul II's Letter to Artists The Personalist Cure — Dr. Greg's upcoming book, launching this October at the Summit Join us at the Summit of Integration this October in Dallas — launching the Year of St. John Paul II Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

  What happens when your greatest strength in Law Enforcement isn't force, but the power of conversation? Retired Police Officer, SWAT Team Member, and veteran crisis negotiator Patty McConnell joins The Crisis Cop, Pat Doering, to reflect on her decades-long journey breaking barriers and saving lives across Northern Illinois. Patty's unique path - from the only woman on her department to a central figure training the next generation - reveals how empathy, curiosity, and active listening are true superpowers at the heart of crisis negotiation. Ready to discover why the right words can be mightier than any weapon, and how understanding and human connection can change - maybe even save - a life? It's all here in this episode of The Crisis Cop Podcast. Don't forget to Like, Subscribe, and Share this episode of The Crisis Cop Podcast on The 2GuysTalking Podcast Network via WhatCopsWatch.Com…   The Crisis Cop Podcast Podcast Links Bar:  Connect with The Host!     Subscribe to This Podcast Now! Click Here for More Ways to Subscribe and Listen to this Podcast!   Rate this podcast on Apple Podcasts. The Ultimate success for every podcaster is FEEDBACK! Not an Apple Podcasts user? No problem! Be sure to check out any of the other many growing podcast directories online to find this and many other podcasts on The 2GuysTalking Podcast Network! This program is one of the many parts of The WhatCopsWatch.Com effort. Check out more great law enforcement-based content now!     The Light Bulb Moments for This Episode of The Crisis Cop Podcast: 1. Curiosity is the Cornerstone of Effective Negotiation The discussion explored the idea that curiosity, rather than judgment, is a fundamental trait for successful crisis negotiators. The conversation highlighted that by being genuinely interested in understanding why a person is in crisis—whether due to criminal behavior or suicidal ideation—negotiators can foster real conversations that drive connection and progress. This shift from a judgmental mindset, essential on patrol for officer safety, to a curious one during negotiations is a critical and often challenging transition for police officers entering this specialized discipline 14:03. 2. Active Listening Trumps "Silver Tongue" One concept discussed was the misconception that the best negotiators are those who are great talkers with a "silver tongue." Instead, active listening emerged as a key theme, with several points raised about the importance of emotion labeling and the power of silence or effective pauses. These tools help people in crisis feel heard and understood—sometimes enabling them to express emotions or details they've never verbalized before. The conversation emphasized that truly listening, rather than focusing on what to say, often unlocks the best results in high-stakes situations 21:11. 3. Resilience and Debriefing Combat Cumulative Trauma A key theme that emerged was that negotiators and first responders must recognize and address cumulative trauma. The discussion highlighted the phenomenon of secondary traumatic stress—where hearing and witnessing repeated traumatic stories impacts responders' mental health—and the necessity of psychological resilience. Debriefings, peer support, and an evolving cultural openness toward mental health in policing were discussed as vital tools for well-being. Understanding this dynamic is crucial for law enforcement leaders and practitioners alike in sustaining long-term effectiveness and personal health 54:02.   Two Great Ways to Take In This Episode of The Crisis Cop Podcast: We are proud to provide you both a dedicated AUDIO and VIDEO presentation for this program! To Listen Now: Hit the play button in the player on this page or hit the Subscribe button on your favorite Podcast Directory to instantly get these episodes when they release! To Watch Now: Visit this program on YouTube, or hit the window located below to see the hosts, guests and light bulb moments that make this program special! https://youtu.be/8mF1yGLz_6Q   The Detailed Shownotes for This Episode of The Crisis Cop Podcast: Looking for the detailed links, information and references used inside this episode? Read on below to find them all and remember to reach out to ask if there's something else you'd like to see from this episode!   Timestamps for This Episode of The Crisis Cop Podcast: 00:00 Feeling like Benjamin Button 10:01 The influence of Harvey Schlossberg 13:04 Encouraging students to speak naturally 17:33 Negotiation mindset shift 24:44 Using silence in interrogation 31:15 Handling sensitive third-party situations 35:10 Join Two Guys Talking: Be a Reviewer 41:07 Comforting a distraught friend 49:34 Night shift stakeout experience 52:56 Psychological resilience in SWAT teams 59:37 Supporting teammates and recognizing trauma 01:06:57 Advice for aspiring law enforcement officers 01:08:09 Practicing crisis communication skills 01:13:48 Misconceptions about negotiation tactics 01:19:33 Podcast closing and call to action   Questions Answered Inside This Episode of The Crisis Cop Podcast: The conversation focused on the evolution of career paths in law enforcement, especially for women in the late 1970s. What challenges and opportunities were discussed regarding being one of the few women in policing at that time? One concept discussed was the dual-track nature of police work: investigative versus tactical (SWAT/negotiations). How did these different tracks shape professional development and skill sets? A key theme that emerged was the importance of curiosity and genuine interest in others for effective negotiations. How can cultivating curiosity improve outcomes in high-stress crisis situations? The discussion explored the process of transitioning from street patrol to becoming a crisis negotiator. What fears and misconceptions did new negotiators tend to have, and how were these addressed? Several points were raised, including the idea that being a good negotiator is more about listening than talking. What active listening skills were highlighted, and how can they be applied both in law enforcement and everyday life? The episode described a critical incident where assumptions about an individual's concerns (e.g., fear of more medical bills) affected negotiation tactics. How can law enforcement better gather and utilize intelligence to avoid missteps? One concept discussed was the use of emotion labeling and effective pauses as negotiation techniques. Why are these approaches particularly effective in crisis negotiation scenarios? A key theme that emerged was the impact of cumulative trauma and the need for psychological resilience in policing. What strategies were suggested for managing trauma and stress both individually and organizationally? The discussion explored the “triad of command” model during critical incidents. How does integrating incident, tactical, and negotiations leadership improve decision-making and outcomes? Several points were raised about advice for future negotiators, including pursuing diverse education and practicing skills outside traditional law enforcement roles. What benefits are associated with broadening one's background, and how can prospective negotiators prepare for the unique demands of the field?   Links from this Episode: -- The People Mentioned: Harvey Schlossberg - Be Sure toCheck Out Harvey's Wife's Episode of The Crisis Cop! Wikipedia – Harvey Schlossberg Gary McDougall - Be Sure to Check Out Gary's Episode of The Crisis Cop! LinkedIn – Gary McDougall (Former Calgary Police, crisis negotiations instructor and speaker.) Kevin Briggs Wikipedia – Kevin Briggs (Known as "The Guardian of the Golden Gate Bridge" for his suicide prevention work.) Gary Noesner - Be Sure to Check Out Gary's Episode of The Crisis Cop! Gary Noesner Official Website (Retired FBI negotiator, author of "Stalling for Time") Harry Drucker Los Angeles County Sheriff's Department Bio (Public information officer, often cited for negotiation expertise.) Deb McMahon LinkedIn – Deb McMahon (Crisis negotiation trainer and speaker.) Joni Birkenheier LinkedIn – Joni Birkenheier (Law enforcement negotiations team leader in Illinois.) Mike Vohling Reference: Law enforcement professional in Illinois (limited public information) (Mentioned as a negotiator and team leader with NIPAS.) Waymond Mullins Amazon – Books by Waymond C. Mullins (Author of "Crisis Negotiations: Managing Critical Incidents and Hostage Situations in Law Enforcement and Corrections") Michael McMahan Amazon – Crisis Negotiations: Managing Critical Incidents and Hostage Situations in Law Enforcement and Corrections (Co-author on premier negotiations textbook) Robert Cialdini Official Website – Robert Cialdini (Author of "Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion") Chris Voss Official Website – Chris Voss (Former FBI negotiator, author of "Never Split the Difference") Malcolm Gladwell Official Website – Malcolm Gladwell (Author of "Talking to Strangers" and other bestselling books) Bessel van der Kolk Official Website – Bessel van der Kolk, M.D. (Author of "The Body Keeps the Score") -- The Books & Authors Mentioned: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert Cialdini Talking to Strangers by Malcolm Gladwell The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Crisis Negotiation: Managing Critical Incidents and Hostage Situations in Law Enforcement and Corrections by Michael McMains -- Get All of Pat's Books on Amazon Now!: Crisis Cops: The Evolution of Crisis Negotiation in America Crisis Cop 2: More Stories from the Front Lines of Crisis Negotiation

One of the toughest challenges in a relationship is being able to forge our own individual selves. And it isn't always something that gets easier over time.  Our ability to create a strong separate self independent of a couple relationship is strongly influenced by how we grew up, and what our relationship with our parents was like. In this episode Andrew talks with psychosexual therapist Juliet Grayson about the question “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved By You? Juliet Grayson provides extensive training courses and workshops for therapists, including training in attachment informed couple therapy, creative writing in the therapeutic encounter, and the Pesso Boyden system of psychotherapy. Her website hosts many informative webinars, covering numerous topics including shame, death and relationships.    If You're Looking for More…. You can subscribe to The Meaningful Life (via Apple Podcasts, Spotify or Google Podcasts) and hear a bonus mini-episode every week. Or you can join our Supporters Club on Patreon to also access exclusive behind-the-scenes content, fan requests  and the chance to ask Andrew your own questions. Membership starts at just £4.50.  This week supporters will hear: - Three things Juliet Grayson knows to be true. - How to Feel Less Guilty - AND subscribers also access all of our previous bonus content - a rich trove of insight on love, life and meaning created by Andrew and his interviewees.   Follow Up Get Andrew's free guide to difficult conversations with your partner: How to Tell Your Partner Difficult Things  Take a look at Andrew's new online relationship course: My Best Relationship Tools   Read Juliet Grayson's book, Landscapes of the Heart . Juliet Grayson has the following websites: www.therapyandcounselling.co.uk https://jandw.thinkific.com/ www.landscapesoftheheart.co.uk www.sexuallyinappropriatebehaviour.org Read some of the books discussed in this episode: Kahlil Gibrain's The Prophet, Getting to Yes by Roger Fisher and William Ury, Getting Past No by William Ury, The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk. Learn more about the Pesso Boyden method  You might enjoy other episodes on relationship themes; including therapists Michelle Farris on Seven Signs You Might be Co-Dependent and Terry Real on The Five Traps that Undermine Your Love. Read Andrew's book I Love You But I'm Not in Love With You: Seven Steps to Saving Your Relationship  Join our Supporters Club to access exclusive behind-the-scenes content, fan requests and the chance to ask Andrew your own questions. Membership starts at just £4.50. Andrew offers regular advice on love, marriage and finding meaning in your life via his social channels. Follow him on Twitter, Facebook and YouTube @andrewgmarshall 

  What happens when your greatest strength in Law Enforcement isn't force, but the power of conversation? Retired Police Officer, SWAT Team Member, and veteran crisis negotiator Patty McConnell joins The Crisis Cop, Pat Doering, to reflect on her decades-long journey breaking barriers and saving lives across Northern Illinois. Patty's unique path - from the only woman on her department to a central figure training the next generation - reveals how empathy, curiosity, and active listening are true superpowers at the heart of crisis negotiation. Ready to discover why the right words can be mightier than any weapon, and how understanding and human connection can change - maybe even save - a life? It's all here in this episode of The Crisis Cop Podcast. Don't forget to Like, Subscribe, and Share this episode of The Crisis Cop Podcast on The 2GuysTalking Podcast Network via WhatCopsWatch.Com…   The Crisis Cop Podcast Podcast Links Bar:  Connect with The Host!     Subscribe to This Podcast Now! Click Here for More Ways to Subscribe and Listen to this Podcast!   Rate this podcast on Apple Podcasts. The Ultimate success for every podcaster is FEEDBACK! Not an Apple Podcasts user? No problem! Be sure to check out any of the other many growing podcast directories online to find this and many other podcasts on The 2GuysTalking Podcast Network! This program is one of the many parts of The WhatCopsWatch.Com effort. Check out more great law enforcement-based content now!     The Light Bulb Moments for This Episode of The Crisis Cop Podcast: 1. Curiosity is the Cornerstone of Effective Negotiation The discussion explored the idea that curiosity, rather than judgment, is a fundamental trait for successful crisis negotiators. The conversation highlighted that by being genuinely interested in understanding why a person is in crisis—whether due to criminal behavior or suicidal ideation—negotiators can foster real conversations that drive connection and progress. This shift from a judgmental mindset, essential on patrol for officer safety, to a curious one during negotiations is a critical and often challenging transition for police officers entering this specialized discipline 14:03. 2. Active Listening Trumps "Silver Tongue" One concept discussed was the misconception that the best negotiators are those who are great talkers with a "silver tongue." Instead, active listening emerged as a key theme, with several points raised about the importance of emotion labeling and the power of silence or effective pauses. These tools help people in crisis feel heard and understood—sometimes enabling them to express emotions or details they've never verbalized before. The conversation emphasized that truly listening, rather than focusing on what to say, often unlocks the best results in high-stakes situations 21:11. 3. Resilience and Debriefing Combat Cumulative Trauma A key theme that emerged was that negotiators and first responders must recognize and address cumulative trauma. The discussion highlighted the phenomenon of secondary traumatic stress—where hearing and witnessing repeated traumatic stories impacts responders' mental health—and the necessity of psychological resilience. Debriefings, peer support, and an evolving cultural openness toward mental health in policing were discussed as vital tools for well-being. Understanding this dynamic is crucial for law enforcement leaders and practitioners alike in sustaining long-term effectiveness and personal health 54:02.   Two Great Ways to Take In This Episode of The Crisis Cop Podcast: We are proud to provide you both a dedicated AUDIO and VIDEO presentation for this program! To Listen Now: Hit the play button in the player on this page or hit the Subscribe button on your favorite Podcast Directory to instantly get these episodes when they release! To Watch Now: Visit this program on YouTube, or hit the window located below to see the hosts, guests and light bulb moments that make this program special! https://youtu.be/8mF1yGLz_6Q   The Detailed Shownotes for This Episode of The Crisis Cop Podcast: Looking for the detailed links, information and references used inside this episode? Read on below to find them all and remember to reach out to ask if there's something else you'd like to see from this episode!   Timestamps for This Episode of The Crisis Cop Podcast: 00:00 Feeling like Benjamin Button 10:01 The influence of Harvey Schlossberg 13:04 Encouraging students to speak naturally 17:33 Negotiation mindset shift 24:44 Using silence in interrogation 31:15 Handling sensitive third-party situations 35:10 Join Two Guys Talking: Be a Reviewer 41:07 Comforting a distraught friend 49:34 Night shift stakeout experience 52:56 Psychological resilience in SWAT teams 59:37 Supporting teammates and recognizing trauma 01:06:57 Advice for aspiring law enforcement officers 01:08:09 Practicing crisis communication skills 01:13:48 Misconceptions about negotiation tactics 01:19:33 Podcast closing and call to action   Questions Answered Inside This Episode of The Crisis Cop Podcast: The conversation focused on the evolution of career paths in law enforcement, especially for women in the late 1970s. What challenges and opportunities were discussed regarding being one of the few women in policing at that time? One concept discussed was the dual-track nature of police work: investigative versus tactical (SWAT/negotiations). How did these different tracks shape professional development and skill sets? A key theme that emerged was the importance of curiosity and genuine interest in others for effective negotiations. How can cultivating curiosity improve outcomes in high-stress crisis situations? The discussion explored the process of transitioning from street patrol to becoming a crisis negotiator. What fears and misconceptions did new negotiators tend to have, and how were these addressed? Several points were raised, including the idea that being a good negotiator is more about listening than talking. What active listening skills were highlighted, and how can they be applied both in law enforcement and everyday life? The episode described a critical incident where assumptions about an individual's concerns (e.g., fear of more medical bills) affected negotiation tactics. How can law enforcement better gather and utilize intelligence to avoid missteps? One concept discussed was the use of emotion labeling and effective pauses as negotiation techniques. Why are these approaches particularly effective in crisis negotiation scenarios? A key theme that emerged was the impact of cumulative trauma and the need for psychological resilience in policing. What strategies were suggested for managing trauma and stress both individually and organizationally? The discussion explored the “triad of command” model during critical incidents. How does integrating incident, tactical, and negotiations leadership improve decision-making and outcomes? Several points were raised about advice for future negotiators, including pursuing diverse education and practicing skills outside traditional law enforcement roles. What benefits are associated with broadening one's background, and how can prospective negotiators prepare for the unique demands of the field?   Links from this Episode: -- The People Mentioned: Harvey Schlossberg - Be Sure toCheck Out Harvey's Wife's Episode of The Crisis Cop! Wikipedia – Harvey Schlossberg Gary McDougall - Be Sure to Check Out Gary's Episode of The Crisis Cop! LinkedIn – Gary McDougall (Former Calgary Police, crisis negotiations instructor and speaker.) Kevin Briggs Wikipedia – Kevin Briggs (Known as "The Guardian of the Golden Gate Bridge" for his suicide prevention work.) Gary Noesner - Be Sure to Check Out Gary's Episode of The Crisis Cop! Gary Noesner Official Website (Retired FBI negotiator, author of "Stalling for Time") Harry Drucker Los Angeles County Sheriff's Department Bio (Public information officer, often cited for negotiation expertise.) Deb McMahon LinkedIn – Deb McMahon (Crisis negotiation trainer and speaker.) Joni Birkenheier LinkedIn – Joni Birkenheier (Law enforcement negotiations team leader in Illinois.) Mike Vohling Reference: Law enforcement professional in Illinois (limited public information) (Mentioned as a negotiator and team leader with NIPAS.) Waymond Mullins Amazon – Books by Waymond C. Mullins (Author of "Crisis Negotiations: Managing Critical Incidents and Hostage Situations in Law Enforcement and Corrections") Michael McMahan Amazon – Crisis Negotiations: Managing Critical Incidents and Hostage Situations in Law Enforcement and Corrections (Co-author on premier negotiations textbook) Robert Cialdini Official Website – Robert Cialdini (Author of "Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion") Chris Voss Official Website – Chris Voss (Former FBI negotiator, author of "Never Split the Difference") Malcolm Gladwell Official Website – Malcolm Gladwell (Author of "Talking to Strangers" and other bestselling books) Bessel van der Kolk Official Website – Bessel van der Kolk, M.D. (Author of "The Body Keeps the Score") -- The Books & Authors Mentioned: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert Cialdini Talking to Strangers by Malcolm Gladwell The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Crisis Negotiation: Managing Critical Incidents and Hostage Situations in Law Enforcement and Corrections by Michael McMains -- Get All of Pat's Books on Amazon Now!: Crisis Cops: The Evolution of Crisis Negotiation in America Crisis Cop 2: More Stories from the Front Lines of Crisis Negotiation

There are two maps of the same body that almost never get laid on top of each other. One is over a thousand years old and runs up your midline naming energy centers. One is about a hundred years old and runs up the same midline naming glands. In this episode I put them on top of each other, and then I add the peptides. I go center by center, all eight of them, and for each one I give you what the ancient text actually says, what the modern reading says, the gland that lives there, what shows up in women's health at that center, the peptides that run it with honest evidence strength, and then a practice: an affirmation, a meditation, a visualization, and three questions to sit with. I promise you there is not another podcast episode on this. The idea came to me in a meditation. If you want me to build this with you, my new one on one longevity program opens in September and the waitlist is live now. I am at capacity and my 1:1 consults are closed, so the waitlist is the only way in, and spots go first come first serve: https://biohackingbrittany.com/pages/waitlist I also share what is changing behind the scenes: the September rebrand, the new program structure that my A4M peptide therapy certification confirmed for me, the planner, the deck I am designing, and the psychic reading that I am not ready to share yet. WHAT I COVER Why my one on one consults are closed, and what is replacing them in September The peptide certification moment: you cannot out-peptide a dysregulated nervous system Two maps of the same body, 1577 and 1927, and why neither one wins The classical colors are not the rainbow, and what they actually are Root and the adrenals: the CRH to ACTH to cortisol cascade, HPA dysregulation, and Selank Sacral and the ovaries: kisspeptin as the master switch, PMOS, MOTS-c and mitochondrial density Why a 16th century text called a woman's body cyclical, and research did not include us until 1993 What can sit in the second chakra for women, said as gently as I know how Solar plexus and the pancreas: the most peptide dense place in your body, and why you have to ask for fasting insulin Heart and the thymus: the organ that teaches your body the difference between you and not you, and why roughly 80 percent of autoimmunity is female Throat and the thyroid: Hashimoto's, the full panel to ask for, and postpartum thyroiditis Third eye and the pituitary: growth hormone secretagogues, and the KNDy neuron circuit behind hot flashes Crown and the pineal: melatonin is not a peptide, most people take far too much, and Epitalon The 8th chakra: the aura, the soul star, and why the women who burn out are the ones holding the most people I TALK ABOUT: 00:00 - What is changing in September, and why my 1:1 consults are closed 08:27 - The planner, the deck, and what a psychic told me 12:23 - Peptides and chakras: two maps of the same body 15:38 - The 1577 lineage versus the 1927 rainbow 18:23 - Root: the adrenals, HPA dysregulation, and Selank 27:24 - Sacral: the ovaries, kisspeptin, PMOS, and MOTS-c 37:40 - Solar plexus: the pancreas, insulin resistance, and fasting insulin 43:03 - Heart: the thymus, autoimmunity in women, and thymosin alpha 1 49:10 - Throat: the thyroid, Hashimoto's, and the full panel to ask for 54:57 - Third eye: the pituitary, growth hormone peptides, and hot flashes 1:00:57 - Crown: the pineal, melatonin truths, and Epitalon 1:05:45 - The 8th chakra: the aura, the soul star, and what you carry out of a room RESOURCES: The waitlist for my new one on one longevity program, opening September 2026: https://biohackingbrittany.com/pages/waitlist The LongHer Life Longevity Community, including the full fertility suite and the peptide suite: https://biohackingbrittany.com/pages/longherlife The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Dr. Joe Dispenza's books, mentioned throughout   CONNECT Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/biohackingbrittany/ Website: https://biohackingbrittany.com This episode is for education only and is not medical advice. I do not prescribe. Talk to your own provider about your labs, your symptoms and any treatment decisions.

We weren't planning to rebrand. That is, until Chandler received an unexpected email during a recent family vacation. But what started as an inconvenient problem turned into something she couldn't ignore, and ultimately, a profound realization over breakfast in her kitchen that brought her to tears in the best possible way.What if the disruption you didn't ask for is actually pointing you in the right direction?Introducing The Healing Heroines Podcast—a place to discover what your own heroine story might look like. You'll still hear the true stories of women who have moved through life-changing experiences and the trusted guides who've helped shape those journeys. But the Healing Heroines is becoming something more: a place for women who've built lives they're grateful for, and still feel the pull toward something more.Listen to this solo episode for the full story behind the rebrand—and what's ahead in this next chapter.What You Will Learn[00:09:30] Chandler's trademark challenge and what it really forced her to see[00:12:00] Why Healing Heroines wasn't plan B but the real name all along[00:13:30] The heroines were always the center, not a subset[00:15:30] Why Chandler's heart wasn't fully in the membership relaunch[00:16:00] The hero's journey and where the guides really fit[00:19:00] Creating spaces where women can write and share their own story[00:22:30] The reel that stopped Chandler cold and the deep remembering it unlocked[00:26:30] How Homecoming was born and what it's meant to give womenResources MentionedThe Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der KolkLet's Connect!Chandler StroudWebsite | LinkedIn | InstagramFeel like life might be inviting you into something more? Take the free quiz to discover where your call may be showing up.Not sure what to do with what you're feeling? Book a free call with Chandler to talk through what's coming up—and what your next step might be.Ready to answer the call? Healing Heroines is an intimate sisterhood for women ready to actively create more meaningful lives—together.Mixing and editing provided by Next Day Podcast.Text message us questions, requests, or comments!

Why Is Healing Taking So Long? Navigating Trust, Setbacks, and Different Paces After Betrayal Healing after betrayal rarely follows a straight path. Even when both partners are trying, progress can feel slow, uneven, and difficult to recognize. In this listener-question episode, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explain why recovery requires more than simply stopping the behavior. Lasting healing involves creating new emotional and relational patterns while allowing the nervous system time to experience safety again. They also explore how couples can distinguish between ordinary human mistakes, recovery slips, and a return to the patterns that made betrayal possible. The response often reveals as much as the mistake itself: defensiveness and minimization deepen uncertainty, while ownership, empathy, and meaningful course correction help restore trust. Additional questions addressed include: Why does healing take so long, even when both partners are working? How should couples define slips, relapses, and recovery expectations? Why can seemingly small inconsistencies feel so threatening after betrayal? How should a partner respond when the same questions keep returning? What happens when one partner wants connection and the other is not ready? How can couples determine whether they still share the same values and desire for reconciliation? Healing cannot be forced or rushed. It develops through honesty, consistent follow-through, patient responses to difficult questions, and repeated experiences that allow both the mind and body to recognize that something is genuinely changing. Resources Intimacy Repair Method — Learn about a structured approach to rebuilding safety, trust, and connection after sexual betrayal. IRM for Couples Intensive — Explore focused support for couples working toward relational repair. RISE: Hope and Healing from Sexual Betrayal — A guided healing course for betrayed partners. Treating Trauma from Sexual Betrayal by Dr. Kevin Skinner Rebuilding Your Relationship After Sexual Betrayal by Dr. Kevin Skinner The Developing Mind by Dr. Daniel J. Siegel — A resource for understanding how relationships and experience influence the brain. The Body Keeps the Score by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk — An exploration of how trauma affects the brain, body, and nervous system. Learn more and find additional courses at Human Intimacy. Have a question you would like addressed in a future episode? Email info@humanintimacy.com.

Episode SummaryIn today's episode of The Worth Loving Podcast, Keana explores one of the most confusing and emotionally loaded questions people face after heartbreak or betrayal: How do you know if you're truly ready to date again?Using insights from leading psychologists like Dr. John Gottman, Dr. Sue Johnson, Dr. Judith Herman, Dr. Gary Lewandowski, Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, and Dr. Peter Levine, Keana breaks down what emotional readiness really looks like  and what it doesn't.This episode helps listeners understand the difference between wanting connection and wanting distraction, how the body signals readiness, and why healing must come before new relationships. Keana also shares practical questions to help listeners evaluate their emotional capacity and readiness with honesty and compassion.This Episode Covers:✨ Recap of Last Week's EpisodeA brief review of last week's conversation on How to Heal From an Affair, including the emotional stages of healing, rebuilding trust within yourself, and reclaiming your identity after betrayal.✨ What “Readiness” Actually MeansKeana explains emotional readiness through the lens of relationship psychology and trauma research  including emotional regulation, secure attachment behaviors, and reclaiming personal agency.✨ Signs You Are Ready to Date AgainLearn the key indicators of readiness, such as emotional stability, clarity about your needs, groundedness, and the ability to communicate boundaries.✨ Signs You're Not Ready YetKeana outlines the red flags that signal you need more healing time including emotional entanglement with an ex, avoidance behaviors, numbness, survival mode, and lack of clarity.✨ How Long Should You Wait? (Research‑Backed)A breakdown of what relationship science says about timelines for healing after breakups, betrayal, and emotional trauma.✨ How Your Body Tells You the TruthSomatic cues from Dr. Peter Levine's work that reveals whether your nervous system feels safe enough for dating or not.✨ The Healing Work That Must Come FirstEmotional clarity, nervous system regulation, identity rebuilding, boundary strengthening, and relearning trust.✨ Practical Self‑Reflection QuestionsA set of grounding questions to help listeners assess their emotional readiness with honesty and compassion.Key TakeawaysReadiness is not about time, it's about emotional capacity.Your body often knows the truth before your mind does.Healing is not linear, and there's no shame in needing more time.You deserve to date from a place of clarity, not loneliness.Trusting yourself is the foundation of choosing healthy relationships.

Show Notes In Today's Episode In this episode of the Table Talk Podcast, Melody sits down with Kristen Wooten, a licensed professional clinical counselor and brain health coach, to explore the connection between trauma, brain health, ADHD, head injuries, and emotional well-being. Kristen explains how therapies and approaches such as EMDR, neurofeedback, the DART method, and brain-injury recovery protocols can support nervous-system regulation, resilience, and overall brain function. Key Take Aways EMDR can help reduce the emotional charge associated with traumatic memories. Kristen explains how bilateral stimulation allows clients to process traumatic memories in a more grounded way rather than simply retelling the story cognitively. Neurofeedback focuses on training and regulating the brain and nervous system. Kristen describes how neurofeedback may help with resilience, calmness, sleep, emotional regulation, focus, and the intensity and frequency of meltdowns. Brain injuries can sometimes present as mood or behavioral issues. The conversation highlights why asking about concussions, whiplash, and other head injuries can be important when evaluating symptoms such as depression, anxiety, ADHD, or addiction. Building resilience can be an important step before trauma processing. For people who aren't ready for EMDR, Kristen discusses neurofeedback, grounding, mindfulness, and other resilience-building skills that may help the nervous system become more regulated. Lifestyle factors matter for brain health. Nutrition, exercise, and other lifestyle choices are discussed as important components of supporting the brain and maintaining the benefits of brain-focused therapies. Topics Discussed 00:00 – Welcome to Table Talk: Brain Health Melody introduces Kristen Wooten and her work in clinical counseling, trauma, brain health, EMDR, DART, and neurofeedback. 01:00 – Kristen's Journey Into Trauma Therapy How Kristen transitioned from general clinical counseling into trauma-focused work after recognizing the limitations of traditional approaches. 03:00 – Understanding EMDR and Trauma Processing What EMDR is, how bilateral stimulation works, and how it can help reduce the emotional charge associated with traumatic memories. 06:00 – How Neurofeedback Supports the Nervous System An introduction to neurofeedback and how brain training can support nervous-system regulation, resilience, sleep, focus, and emotional regulation. 08:00 – Neurofeedback, ADHD, and a Personal Story Kristen shares her experience discovering neurofeedback through her son's ADHD symptoms and how it changed their family dynamic. 11:00 – Building Resilience Before Processing Trauma Why some clients may need to develop regulation and resilience skills before they are ready to work directly with traumatic memories. 13:00 – Neurofeedback for Children and Babies Exploring how neurofeedback can be used across different ages, including young children and infants struggling with sleep. 14:00 – Understanding Developmental Trauma and the DART Method Kristen explains the DART method, attachment, developmental trauma, and the healing process surrounding childhood experiences and relationships. 17:00 – The Connection Between Head Injuries and Mental Health Why concussions, whiplash, and other head injuries can sometimes contribute to anxiety, depression, ADHD symptoms, and other changes in behavior or mood. 20:00 – Supporting Recovery After Brain Injury A look at hyperbaric oxygen, nutrition, supplements, and neurofeedback as potential components of a brain injury recovery approach. 22:00 – ADHD, Addiction, and Brain Function How ADHD and brain function may relate to impulse control and addiction, and why understanding the brain can help reduce shame around these struggles. 24:00 – Brain Injury Recovery and Hyperbaric Oxygen Discussing research, blood flow, hyperbaric oxygen, neurofeedback, and nutritional support in the context of brain injury recovery. 25:00 – Hyperbarics, Parkinson's, and Dementia Exploring the potential role of hyperbaric oxygen in neurological conditions and why ongoing support may vary depending on the condition and individual. 27:00 – Lifestyle Choices That Support Brain Health Why nutrition, exercise, and everyday habits can influence the effectiveness and longevity of brain health treatments. 30:00 – Nutrition, Movement, and Mental Health Practical ways to connect food, exercise, supplements, and daily routines with mood, energy, and overall brain health. 32:00 – Collaboration and a Whole-Person Approach to Brain Health Closing thoughts on combining different specialties, tools, and approaches to better support patients and address underlying factors affecting health. Resources Mentioned The PharmToTable Team – Functional Medicine Providers People Melody Kristen Wooten Francine Shapiro Bessel van der Kolk Dr. Daniel Amen Rick Butts Scott (Genesis Hyperbarics) Places & Organizations Freedom Counseling Services Amen Clinic Genesis Hyperbarics American Academy of Anti-Aging Medicine (A4M) Health Topics Brain Health Trauma & PTSD EMDR Neurofeedback ADHD Head Injuries & Concussions Addiction Nervous System Regulation Mental Health Developmental Trauma Attachment Sleep Hyperbaric Oxygen Therapy Nutrition & Lifestyle Brain Injury Recovery Therapies, Tools & Approaches EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) Bilateral Stimulation / Tappers Neurofeedback DART Method Breath Work Mindfulness & Grounding Hyperbaric Oxygen Therapy Red Light Therapy Nutrition & Supplements Exercise Books & Resources The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Amen Clinic brain health research and protocols Resources Freedom Counseling Services Genesis Hyperbarics Amen Clinic American Academy of Anti-Aging Medicine (A4M) Supplement Spotlight Vitamin D / K2 Liquid - 1 fl oz Purchase Today D3 5000 with K2 60 Softgels Purchase Today

We are so privileged to have had the opportunity to speak with author and scholar Kate Price after her reading at Booktenders in Barboursville earlier this month. Join us as we discuss the dynamics of gender-based violence in Appalachia and explore some of the ways resilience blooms in unlikely places. Kate Price is an associate research scientist at the Wellesley Centers for Women, a research institute at Wellesley College. She is also an advisor for the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children's Child Sex Trafficking Expert Working Group and Global Platform for Child Exploitation Policy, and an alumni scholar at the Brandeis University Women's Studies Research Center. An internationally recognized child sex trafficking expert and lecturer, Price has influenced the passage of state-level children's human rights legislation and United Nations policy. Price is the recipient of a My Life, My Choice Beacon of Light Award, a Conrad N. Hilton Humanitarian Prize medal, a Mariam K. Chamberlain Dissertation Award from the International Centers for Research on Women, and an American Association of University Women Dissertation Fellowship. She has worked extensively with trauma pioneers Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, author of the New York Times bestselling book, The Body Keeps the Score, in which Price is featured, and Dr. Judith Herman. Price received her MA in gender/cultural studies from Simmons College and earned her PhD in sociology from the University of Massachusetts Boston. She lives in Massachusetts with her family.Branches Domestic Violence Shelter has been providing services to victims of domestic violence in the Appalachian communities of Cabell, Lincoln, Mason, Putnam, and Wayne counties in West Virginia.Let's Be Friends! On FacebookOn InstagramSign up for our NewsletterOr Donate.

In this powerful and emotionally resonant episode of Finding God, Keana dives deep into one of the most confusing and transformative experiences in the Christian walk: when God removes people from your life.We explore how to discern the difference between God-led separation, natural life transitions, self-sabotage, and unhealed emotional patterns. This episode blends Scripture, psychology, and trauma-informed insight to help you understand what's happening beneath the surface spiritually, emotionally, and relationally.In This Episode, We Cover:The difference between God removing someone and life circumstances shiftingHow God protects you from relationships that block purpose, clarity, and spiritual growthTrauma-informed insight on why losing someone triggers abandonment woundsWhy separation can feel spiritual even when it's emotionalHow to discern if a relational shift is God-led, self-sabotage, or a repeated patternBiblical examples including:Abraham & LotPaul & BarnabasJoseph & his brothersRuth leaving MoabHealing steps: acceptance, grief, identity rebuilding, and spiritual clarityWhy this topic aligns perfectly with Keana's trauma-informed relationship coaching and the mission of Worth Loving + Finding GodScriptures Mentioned:John 15:2John 13:7Psalm 34:18Psychological Insights Referenced:Dr. Dan Siegel — neural pathways & emotional interpretationDr. Sue Johnson — attachment theoryDr. Bessel van der Kolk — trauma memory (“the body keeps the score”)Dr. Carl Jung — unconscious patterns

Dèy by acclaimed writer Edwidge Danticat is multigenerational story of family, resilience, and hope in the wake of an unexpected tragedy. Edwidge joins us to talk about evolving ideas of the American Dream, the Haitian diaspora, ghost stories and expanding canon with host Miwa Messer. This episode of Poured Over was hosted by Miwa Messer and mixed by Harry Liang. New episodes land Tuesdays and Thursdays (with occasional Saturdays) here and on your favorite podcast app.   Featured Books: Dèy by Edwidge Danticat Breath, Eyes, Memory by Edwidge Danticat Brother, I'm Dying by Edwidge Danticat Claire of the Sea Light by Edwidge Danticat Everything Inside by Edwidge Danticat Wave by Sonali Deraniyagala The Art of Death by Edwidge Danticat The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk My Brother by Jamaica Kincaid Annie John by Jamaica Kincaid Bridge of San Luis Rey by Thornton Wilder Love, Anger, Madness: A Haitian Triptych by Marie Vieux-Chauvet Paule Marshall: A Writer's Life by Mary Helen Washington Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen Moderation by Elaine Castillo Windward Heights by Maryse Condé Wuthering Heights by Emily Brontë Wide Sargasso Sea by Jean Rhys Jane Eyre by Charlotte Brontë Krik? Krack! by Edwidge Danticat

Author and ministry leader Michelle Thooft returns this week to share more of her journey toward freedom from shame and self-hatred. After years of allowing painful thoughts and regrets to shape how she saw herself, Michelle realized that healing would require a change in mindset. She could no longer remain focused on the past, leaning into regret and grief. Instead, she began learning to practice the discipline described in 2 Corinthians 10:5, taking her thoughts captive and bringing them into alignment with the truth of Christ. In this episode, Michelle shares how choosing truth over the lies of shame transformed her life, health, and relationships. She learned that without intentionally focusing on what is true, her thoughts could easily spiral back into old patterns of self-condemnation. Her story is a powerful reminder that healing often involves a daily choice to believe what God says rather than what shame tells us. As Michelle embraced truth, healthy living began to take root where shame had once dwelled, offering hope to anyone longing for freedom from destructive thoughts.   Connect with Michelle:  https://www.michellethooft.com/ https://www.facebook.com/MichelleThooftAuthor/ https://www.instagram.com/michellethooft/   Links Mentioned: Book: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, MD Registration for Lifted from Shame Workbook small groups: https://www.louisesedgwick.com/zoomsmallgroups  Questions about small groups: Louise@louisesedgwick.com   Scripture mentioned:  2 Corinthians 10:5   To inquire about counseling, email Louise at Louise@louisesedgwick.com.

My guest, Michelle Thooft, shares a powerful story of discovering the hidden shame she had carried over past mistakes. From the outside, Michelle appeared capable, accomplished, and spiritually influential, but beneath the surface she was carrying messages of self-hatred that she had never fully recognized. Eventually, the emotional turmoil began to take a toll on her body, and significant illness forced her to slow down and face the painful beliefs she had been carrying about herself. Michelle's journey toward healing began through prayer and the willingness to bring those hidden messages into the light. In this episode, she shares how God began to meet her in those wounded places and reveal a different way of seeing herself. Her story is an encouraging reminder that shame can remain hidden beneath even a strong exterior, but God sees what is beneath the surface and lovingly invites us into truth, grace, and healing.   Connect with Michelle:  https://www.michellethooft.com/ https://www.facebook.com/MichelleThooftAuthor/ https://www.instagram.com/michellethooft/   Links Mentioned: https://www.louisesedgwick.com/zoomsmallgroups (for small group registration) Book: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, MD   To inquire about counseling, email Louise at Louise@louisesedgwick.com.  

¿Qué pasa cuando el pasado terminó… pero nuestro cuerpo sigue reaccionando como si todavía estuviera allí?En este episodio de Leyendo con Vale exploramos el EMDR (Desensibilización y Reprocesamiento por Movimientos Oculares), una terapia utilizada para ayudar a procesar recuerdos traumáticos y reducir el impacto que continúan teniendo en el presente.Porque sanar no siempre significa olvidar. A veces significa poder recordar sin volver a revivir. ❤️

In Part 2 of the Clean Pain Series, Kari Schneider explores the hidden cost of emotional suppression — and why avoiding difficult emotions may be creating more suffering, stress, and even physical illness than we realize. Drawing from personal experience, leadership coaching, neuroscience, and the work of researchers like Dr. Susan David, Brené Brown, and Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, Kari breaks down the difference between clean emotional pain and the unnecessary suffering we create when we resist what we feel. This episode dives into: The cultural conditioning that teaches us to avoid emotional pain Why toxic positivity and emotional suppression don't work How unresolved emotions show up in the body The connection between emotional pain, anxiety, stress, and autoimmune illness Why high achievers often become emotionally numb How emotions serve as valuable data — not weakness Practical ways to process difficult emotions in healthy ways The leadership, resilience, and empathy built through emotional honesty Kari also shares deeply personal reflections on grief, divorce, healing from Graves Disease, and learning how to process emotions after years of pushing through pain. Key Takeaways: Emotional pain is information, not dysfunction You cannot selectively numb negative emotions without also numbing joy Unprocessed emotions eventually surface physically or emotionally Naming emotions helps regulate the nervous system Emotional resilience comes from feeling — not avoiding If you're a leader, high achiever, entrepreneur, athlete, or someone who's exhausted from “holding it together,” this episode offers a new framework for emotional strength and authentic fulfillment. Memorable Quote: “The emotions we most want to avoid are often the emotions that contain the greatest wisdom.” #EmotionalIntelligence #LeadershipDevelopment #SelfMastery #MentalHealth #EmotionalResilience #EmpoweredTeamPodcast #KariSchneider #CleanPain

In this episode, I explore a recent paper published in Frontiers in Systems Neuroscience titled "The Body Does Not Keep Score: Trauma, Predictive Coding, and the Restoration of Metastability." I break down how this research challenges Bessel van der Kolk's famous metaphor that the body "stores" trauma, offering instead a neuroscience lens focused on prediction error and brain flexibility. Rather than viewing trauma as something physically trapped in fascia or muscle, we look at how the brain becomes rigidly fixed in predicting danger—and what it actually takes to update those predictions. I also connect these scientific concepts directly to what I see clinically in my biomechanics and yoga therapy practice. I share how introducing small, objective movement changes creates a "prediction interruption" that helps clients break out of binary thinking around pain and relief. By acting as a movement detective and tuning into the body's subtle "yellow lights" and "whispers," you can create novel sensorimotor experiences that give the nervous system the concrete evidence it needs to move from persistent pain into real possibility.

What Trading Can Learn From The Body Keeps the Scorewith Steven Goldstein and Mark RandallA trader knows the right move — and physically can't make it. This episode is about why, and what trauma research reveals about performing under financial risk.Bessel van der Kolk's The Body Keeps the Score has become required reading in trading circles — not because trading is trauma, but because the same nervous system mechanics trauma research has mapped in detail also govern how traders behave under pressure. Steven Goldstein and Mark Randall break down five lessons from the book and translate each one directly into the language of risk, drawdowns, and decision-making under threat.What you'll learn•     Why the rational, decision-making part of the brain goes offline under perceived threat — and why “just follow the plan” fails in the moment•     How neuroception, the nervous system's unconscious scanning for danger, shows up as physical sensation before a trade goes wrong•     Why a single catastrophic loss can fragment a trader's whole sense of self, not just their P&L•     Why journaling and post-mortem analysis alone rarely change behavior — and what bottom-up, body-based work adds•     Why co-regulation with another person, not solo reflection, is often what lets a dysregulated nervous system reset“The market doesn't care about your story, but your body is keeping score whether you're listening to it or not.”Timestamps0:07  —  Cold open — welcome back1:00  —  Setting up the book & Lesson 1: The rational brain goes offline under threat13:38  —  Lesson 2: The body knows before you do30:13  —  Lesson 3: One bad hit can fragment the whole story41:20  —  Lesson 4: Talking about it isn't enough on its own50:53  —  Lesson 5: Safety in relationship is what lets the system recalibrate1:02:54  —  Close & sign-offResources mentioned•     The Body Keeps the Score: Mind, Brain and Body in the Transformation of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk•     thealphamindpodcast.com — full back catalog and where to subscribeThe AlphaMind Podcast explores the behavioral and human side of taking and managing risk, hosted by Steven Goldstein with Mark Randall. New episodes and the full back catalog at thealphamindpodcast.com.AlphaMind: Powering Performance in Global MarketsAlphaMind brings powerful change, growth and development to people and businesses within global markets.Driven by a deep understanding of how markets work, and how people and businesses function within them, we partner with clients to create personal performance improvements that elevate returns across their trading activities.Go to the AlphaMind website to know more.

We are joined by spiritual director and trainer, Marty Boller, discussing the intersection of Internal Family Systems and spiritual direction.  IFS has been a helpful tool in therapy and Marty explores ways it can be beneficial in a contemplative context.Mentioned in this episode:https://contemplative-activist.com/ifs/https://www.centerforengagedcompassion.com/Movies: Inside Out and Inside Out 2The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. Introduction to Internal Family Systems by Richard SchwartzSign up for our newsletter: https://thecontemplativelife.substack.com/subscribeSome of our show notes contain affiliate links.    We want to save you the effort of looking up resources + we get a small commission at no extra cost to you.  Thanks for your support.

In this deeply personal and eye-opening solo episode of the Empowered Team Podcast, host Kari Schneider shares a harrowing experience after being kicked by a horse—and the profound lessons it revealed about pain, awareness, and self-leadership. Drawing from both lived experience and her background in athletic therapy and physiology, Kari unpacks the true role of physical pain—not as something to avoid, but as critical data your body is trying to communicate. In this episode, you'll learn: Why pain is your body's most powerful communication system—not a punishment The difference between clean pain (necessary and informative) and suffering (what we add on top) How ignoring pain can lead to bigger health consequences The neuroscience behind pain perception and nervous system signaling The “READ Method” to interpret and respond to pain effectively: Recognize Explore Accept Decide Kari also shares the shocking reality of her misdiagnosis, internal injuries, and how tuning into her body ultimately protected her life. Key takeaway: Pain is not the enemy—it's a question. Your job is to get curious enough to answer it. This episode kicks off a powerful 3-part series exploring: Physical Pain (this episode) Emotional Pain Suffering If you've ever pushed through pain, ignored your body, or felt disconnected from what it's trying to tell you—this episode is your wake-up call.

Allen hosts an episode of "Hope for the Agora" exploring the connection between faith, mental health, and neuroplasticity, the brain's ability to change. He discussed how repeated thoughts and experiences form neural pathways, and how trauma can shape these patterns, referencing works by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk and Dr. Carolyn Leaf. Allen explained that while old pathways exist, new, healthier ones can be formed through deliberate practice and therapy, such as EMDR. He drew parallels between neuroscience and biblical teachings on transformation, citing scriptures that emphasize renewing the mind. Allen outlined practical steps for rewiring the mind, including identifying lies, comparing them with scripture, engaging the body, and inviting the Holy Spirit into the process. He concluded by affirming that change is possible through God's design and the work of the Holy Spirit.https://hopefortheagora.comhttps://agoranetworkministries.comKey References:Scientific- van der Kolk, B. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma.- Hebb, D. O. (1949). The Organization of Behavior.- Doidge, N. (2007). The Brain That Changes Itself.- Kolb, B., & Gibb, R. (2014). Brain plasticity and behaviour in the developing brain.- Merzenich, M. (2013). Soft-Wired.Christian / Neuroscience- Leaf, C. (2013). Switch On Your Brain.- Leaf, C. (2021). Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess.Scriptures:Romans 12:2Philippians 4:82 Corinthians 10:5Ephesians 4:22–24John 8:31–32Galatians 5:22–23Proverbs 23:7 (NKJV; often translated differently in modern versions)Isaiah 26:3Colossians 3:1–17Psalm 1:1–3

You don't have a manifestation problem. You have a belonging problem. Seven lessons on why your nervous system rejects the success you keep asking for, and how to finally move forward.If you've been secretly trying to manifest more in your life, a new you, a new life, that job, that business, that bigger reach, and you're still stuck in exactly the same place, this episode offers a different explanation, one that starts in your nervous system, not your mindset.I spent my early career as a scientist and over twenty years helping people build careers and businesses before becoming a trauma informed somatic coach, so everything in this episode sits on the bridge between science and spirituality. We go deep into the mechanics of why putting something out there isn't bringing back what you truly want, and what your nervous system has to do with it.I share seven lessons, in three parts:Feeling lost doesn't mean you're off your pathYou can't think your way out, because the block was never in your thinkingEverything is energy, and you belong to it by defaultYour brain is a filter, built from every moment you learned you didn't belongYour body isn't failing to attract success, it's rejecting itYour place in the puzzle exists by design, you don't have to earn itBelonging comes first, not after successEach lesson comes with one small action you can take this week, including the ninety second practice for finally letting an emotion move through your body.Mentioned in this episodeThe Body Keeps the Score by Dr. Bessel van der KolkDr. David Hawkins and his map of consciousnessNeuroscientist Jill Bolte Taylor's observation that an emotion moves through the body in about ninety secondsPhysicists John Wheeler and Richard Feynman on the energy contained in empty spaceFree masterclass If this episode stirred something in you and you'd like support finding your value, releasing your limitations, and creating what you came here to do, my free masterclass is at https://amenkaur.com/masterclassLet's connect Tell me which of the seven lessons landed hardest for you, I genuinely want to know, and it helps me decide what to go deeper on next time. And if this show is useful to you, a rating or review makes a real difference in helping it reach the women who need it.manifestation, why manifestation isn't working, nervous system, nervous system regulation, survival mode, somatic coaching, somatic healing, trauma informed, feeling stuck, feeling lost, self-worth, self-trust, self-love, belonging, purpose, life transition, starting over, career change, visibility, women in midlife, neuroscience, emotional intelligence, intuition, The Body Keeps the Score, spiritual growth

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We often treat physical intimacy as something that happens only in the moment, but the body carries far more than the moment. It carries our history, our stress, and our old wounds, everything it has learned about whether it is safe to open. Drawing on Bessel van der Kolk's landmark work, The Body Keeps the Score, Christa explores how stress and trauma live not just in the mind but in the body itself, and how, when a person who has been hurt tries to be close, the body can tense, freeze, or flood with anxiety before the mind ever gets a vote. She gently unpacks why couples so often misread this as rejection when it is really the nervous system keeping the score of something old, why pushing through only re-teaches the body that intimacy is unsafe, and how the body comes back online, slowly, through safety, patience, warm touch, and the freedom to stop. Most of all, she offers a word of hope: a body that protects itself is one that once needed protecting, and it can learn a new score, written in the language of safety rather than force. If this is your story or your spouse's, this episode will meet you with real gentleness. Listen here! Watch on YouTube! Get the Awakening Intimacy Journal here!⁠⁠⁠ Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.EnneagramandMarriage.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Take the E + M Quiz at www.QuizforCouples.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Christa's Best-Selling Book, The Enneagram in Marriage, here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/df8SxVx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What if leaving a toxic belief system triggered a full-body health crisis and your doctor missed it entirely? In this episode, Dr. Deb breaks down something she’s been seeing in her clinic for over 20 years: women who escape high-control religious environments and, within months, develop autoimmune disease, hormonal collapse, and chronic fatigue. Their labs look “normal.” Their doctors hand them an antidepressant. And nobody asks why. Dr. Deb does. Drawing on the work of Dr. Daniel Amen, Dr. Datis Kharrazian, Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, and Dr. Uzzi Reiss, she walks through the clinical reality of what religious trauma does to your nervous system, your immune system, and your hormones, and exactly what it takes to heal at the root cause. This isn’t therapy talk. This is biology. In this episode: Why purity culture dysregulates your HPA axis and ovarian function The autoimmune cascade that follows prolonged psychological trauma What conventional medicine gets wrong — and what functional medicine does instead The clinical protocols Dr. Deb actually uses with these patients If your body has been in revolt since leaving a controlling environment, this episode was made for you. Connect with us:Website: https://www.letstalkwellness.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/letstalk_wellnessnow/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LetsTalkWellnessNowPodcastLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/lets-talk-wellness-now/ Subscribe to Let’s Talk Wellness Now so you never miss an episode, and if this one opened your eyes, share it with someone who needs to hear it.The post Episode 275: Religious Trauma Is Destroying Your Hormones. Here's Why. first appeared on Let's Talk Wellness Now.

Tatyana Norman Webler graduated nursing school in May 2020 — straight into the COVID pandemic. She spent three years as an ICU nurse watching the healthcare system fail patients in real time, asking why the left hand never talked to the right hand, and wondering if there was a way to fix it. Then she went to law school.She graduated — in labor — passed the bar with a newborn at home, and landed in big law. Eight months later, she was gone.This is the story of what happened in between. And what the blood work proved.In this episode we talk about the moment Tatyana realized big law wasn't just misaligned with her values — it was bad for her biology. We talk about high functioning depression, the Body Keeps the Score, and what it actually looks like to climb out of survival mode and build a life from scratch that actually fits who you are.In this episode we cover:How a single moment on a hospital ethics committee made Tatyana want to go to law schoolGraduating law school in active labor — and walking across that stage anywayPassing the bar with a newborn and four hours of study time a dayWhat eight months in big law actually cost her — and how her biomarkers told the whole storyThe week she didn't nurse her daughter once because of an artificial deadline — and the rage that followedWhy she left and what happened to her blood work six months laterHigh functioning depression: what it is, how it's different from burnout, and why so many lawyers are living in it without knowing"You can't outthink your way out of depression" — and what she's doing insteadHow coaching helped her stop strategizing and start actually doingThe portfolio career she's building: Lucid Edge Advising, the Ohio Brain Capital Alliance, and her podcast Lucid CommonsWhy two things can be true at the same time — and why that's the permission slip most of us needBooks mentioned:Becoming You by Suzy WelchHigh Functioning Depression by Dr. Judith JosephThe Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der KolkConnect with Tatyana Norman Webler:LinkedIn: Tatyana Norman WeblerPodcast: Lucid Commons (Spotify, Apple, YouTube)Advising: Lucid Edge AdvisingNonprofit: Ohio Brain Capital AllianceWork with Erin Gerner: Erin coaches high-achieving female attorneys who are successful on paper but struggling with burnout, identity, and what's next — helping them redefine success on their own terms.

The ability to channel isn't a superpower, although many would argue that recognizing and embracing that gift, living it fully and sharing it with others may be one…Barbara With wanted to be a rock star and spent nearly two decades pursuing it until one day she spontaneously began to write for no reason. And, when she wrote the question, “Who are you?” the answer was Sound.Barbara shares her experiences as a psychic and channel, connecting with Albert Einstein and The Party from the Afterlife to provide a better understanding of the operating system of life based on working with three dimensions — emotion, intuition and intellect — that help us align as humans with compassion this week on Spirit Gym.Learn more about Barbara and her work at her website, Synergy Alliance and The Music of Barbara With. Look for her on social media via Facebook, YouTube and Instagram.For Spirit Gym listeners: Save 40 percent on a 1-hour reading with Barbara, Albert Einstein and the Party by going to this link and using the promo code EINSTEIN. (Special offers from Spirit Gym guests are time-sensitive and at their discretion to top redeem after 30 days.)Timestamps4:02 Barbara's first experience with channeling in high school showed her how to love herself better.10:29 A lot of cool things happen in the afterlife.22:10 Three human dimensions: Emotion, intuition and intellect.27:32 What Compassion does.31:19 “God is the name of the blanket that wraps the mystery.”37:48 “Is everyone a reflection of you, including whomever you are channeling?”45:44 Healing old wounds.1:02:55 The hardest thing for most people to do: Stop and take care of themselves.1:09:49 “Synergy: One plus one equals three.”1:16:09 Separate your fears and handle them differently, not as one whole thing.1:26:25 You can't cheat or fake empathy and compassion.1:38:55 Know that emotions like anger and sadness can fuel thoughts of joy, happiness and peace too.1:47:38 The Psychic Sorority.1:54:10 The first baby steps toward self-love and its reciprocal responses.2:05:05 Conflict REVOLUTION.2:08:38 “No one is going to save me.”2:15:35 “We work for the good of the whole.”ResourcesDiaries of a Psychic Sorority: Talking With the Angels by Kimberly Lilith Phelps, Barbara With and Teresa McMillianConflict REVOLUTION: The Workbook by Barbara WithSound: Native Teachings and Visionary Art by Joseph RaelThe Ojibwe/Anishinaabe/Chippewa Indigenous tribeBarbara's appearance on the Metaphysical Hippie Chicks 2.0 podcastThe Serenity PrayerThe work of Jean HoustonPaul's podcast conversations with James Carse and Anne HelferThe Body Keeps The Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Dr. Bessel van der KolkVoices of the First Day by Robert LawlorHealing With Haiku: A Poetic Exploration of Self by Anne HelferFind more resources for this episode on our website.Music Credit: Meet Your Heroes (444Hz), Composed, mixed, mastered and produced by Michael RB Schwartz of Brave Bear MusicThanks to our awesome sponsors:PaleovalleyBIOptimizers US and BIOptimizers UK PAUL15Organifi CHEK20Wild PasturesSpirit GymCHEK InstituteWe may earn commissions from qualifying purchases using affiliate links.

Host Evan Semanco is joined today by Care Pastor Bryan Reed to discuss Evan's message from Sunday in the Chill series, about stress. Evan and Bryan talk about parenting stress with school projects, how they relieve stress in their own lives, and answer a listener question about grief and stress and how to work through the loss of a loved one. Join us each Monday on Facebook Live at 3:30 pm via The Simple Church Facebook Page to ask your questions in real time, or email us Podcast@thesimplechurch.tv   LINKS FROM THE EPISODE Full Message from Sunday Family Fun Night August 7th Stress Less Reading Plan The Road Back to You by Ian Morgan Cron I Said This, You Heard That (Colors)  The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Francis Chan Rope Illustration Tony Evans Podcast Wim Hof Email Prayer@thesimplechurch.tv Download The Simple Church App If you have feedback for the podcast, have a guest suggestion of who we should talk to next, or just want to chat, e-mail us Podcast@thesimplechurch.tv.   You can also find out more about the Simple Church at www.theSimpleChurch.tv.

In this episode, Simone sits down with Robbie Jan — Australian entrepreneur, creator, and host of Robbie on the Record — for a candid conversation about body image, diet culture, social media, and the difference between discipline and obsession. Robbie, a former oral health therapist turned entrepreneur with an audience of over 1.8 million, opens up about her personal history with disordered eating, how she rebuilt her sense of identity, and her perspective on the risks and pressures surrounding GLP-1 medications today. This episode is shared as a testimony of recovery, and touches on themes of shame, faith, and self-worth.In This Episode, You'll Hear About:Robbie's background as a clinical oral health therapist and what it taught her about the gap between looking healthy and being healthyHow "wellness" can become another form of performance on social media, and what real rest and recovery look likeRobbie's personal history with disordered eating during a high-stress period in university, and the process of recognizing and naming the problemThe role that shame plays in silence around eating disorders, and how speaking openly can loosen its gripRobbie's faith journey and how reframing her identity helped her separate self-worth from appearance, achievement, and follower countsThe connection between chronic stress, an autoimmune diagnosis (Hashimoto's), and the mind-body link — including a nod to The Body Keeps the ScoreA practical tool Robbie uses: writing down negative self-talk to interrupt automatic thought patternsThe distinction between discipline (rooted in identity) versus obsession (rooted in control)A candid discussion of GLP-1 medications — concerns about off-label prescribing, long-term unknowns, muscle loss, and lesser-known side effects like "Ozempic mouth"Robbie's closing encouragement to women comparing themselves to others: you're on your own timelineA Note on This Episode: This conversation includes a personal account of past disordered eating. It's shared from a place of recovery and reflection, not instruction. If anything in this episode resonates with you personally, please know you don't have to navigate it alone — reaching out to a therapist, doctor, or a helpline like the National Alliance for Eating Disorders can be a good first step.Resources & Links:Follow Robbie Jan https://www.instagram.com/robbijan// Robbie on the Record: https://www.instagram.com/robbiontherecord/Book mentioned: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der KolkIf this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend who needs to hear it, and subscribe for more honest conversations on She's Leveling Up.

This week, Bridgette and Lindsey ask: why does our society find it hard to trust and believe survivors? What do we misunderstand about “credibility?” Finally, how can we show survivors that we do support them? We're breaking down popular media, legal history, and more all contribute to our society's aversion to believing survivors.Key TakeawaysMemory recall after trauma is often tangled and difficult to remember chronologically.Differences in recall and reactions to remembering trauma widely vary.In the United States, our legal history surrounding crime, especially sexual assault, has conditioned us to be skeptical of survivors' stories.Education on trauma recall and memory are essential to debunk common beliefs on credibility.Believing survivors critically impacts every aspect of their healing journey.Resources MentionedThe Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, MDDr. Rebecca Campbell's research on the neurobiology of traumaSaleem Reshamwala, “Peanut Butter, Jelly and Racism”, New York Times, 16 December 2016.Connect and Learn More☑️ Bridgette Stumpf | LinkedIn☑️ Lindsey Silverberg | LinkedIn ☑️ Volare | LinkedIn | Instagram | Facebook☑️ TraumaTies Website | Instagram | TikTok | YouTube☑️ Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Spotify Brought to you by Volare, TraumaTies: Untangling Societal Harm & Healing After Crime is a podcast that creates space and conversations to dissect the structural and systemic knots that keep us from addressing trauma.Rooted in a belief that survivors of crime deserve respect for their dignity in the aftermath of victimization, Volare seeks to empower survivors by informing them of all of the options available and working to transform existing response systems to be more inclusive of the diverse needs that survivors often have after crime.Volare also provides free, holistic, and comprehensive advocacy, therapeutic, and legal services to survivors of all crime types. Visit our website to learn more about how to access our trauma-informed education training and how to partner with us to expand survivor-defined justice.

For years we've been told that healing trauma means talking about it. But what if talking isn't enough?In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Harvard-trained psychiatrist and world-renowned trauma expert Dr. Frank Anderson to explore why trauma isn't simply stored in your memories. It's stored in your body.We discuss why so many women find old wounds resurfacing during perimenopause and menopause, why food often becomes a coping mechanism for unresolved trauma, and why traditional talk therapy doesn't always create lasting healing.Dr. Anderson shares the science behind trauma, nervous system regulation, EMDR, Internal Family Systems, psychedelics, and the small daily experiences that help your brain and body finally feel safe again.If you've ever wondered why you keep reacting the same way despite years of personal growth, this conversation will help you understand what your body has been trying to tell you all along.In this episode you'll learn:• Why talking about trauma doesn't always heal it• How trauma becomes stored inside the body• The surprising reason menopause often brings unresolved trauma to the surface• Why emotional eating is often a protective response• How fasting reveals hidden emotional patterns around food• Why triggers are valuable clues instead of something to fear• The role of EMDR, Internal Family Systems, somatic therapies, and psychedelics in trauma recovery• Simple daily practices that begin creating lasting healingResources MentionedThe Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der KolkTranscending Trauma by Dr. Frank AndersonTo Be Loved by Dr. Frank AndersonInternal Family Systems (IFS)More on Dr. Frank AndersonDr. Frank Anderson is a Harvard-trained psychiatrist, internationally recognized trauma expert, and author of Transcending Trauma and To Be Loved. He trained alongside trauma pioneer Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, serves on the board of the Trauma Research Foundation, and has spent decades helping people heal through an integrative approach that combines neuroscience, Internal Family Systems, attachment theory, and body-based therapies.Website: frankandersonmd.comInstagram: @frank_andersonmdDr. Frank Anderson's BooksFor more resources related to today's episode, visit the podcast episode page: https://www.drmindypelz.com/ep33XConnect with Dr. Mindy:Join Reset AcademyWatch the episodes on YouTubeFollow Dr. Mindy on InstagramSubscribe to Dr. Mindy's newsletterDisclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice. Always consult a qualified healthcare professional before making changes to your diet, fasting routine, or lifestyle.

Have you seen videos of people experiencing a dramatic emotional release and wondered, "Do I need that to heal?" The conversation around trauma, somatic healing, and nervous system regulation has exploded in recent years. Many point to the bestselling book The Body Keeps the Score and the idea that trauma is stored in the body. Others argue that trauma isn't stored in the body at all, but rather in the brain's predictive patterns and responses. So what's true? In this episode, Alisa explores this important conversation through both science and Scripture, examining where biology and theology meet. Together we'll consider what trauma does to the brain and body, why healing requires more than information alone, and how God's design for our minds and bodies points us toward lasting freedom. You'll discover: What somatic release is The difference between trauma being "stored" in the body versus encoded in the brain How trauma can impact our ability to shift from fear, anxiety, and hypervigilance into peace and safety Why tending to the body can help us tend to the mind What Romans 12:2 and 2 Corinthians 10:5 teach us about renewing our minds Why healing happens in connection, not isolation How the compassion of Christ invites us into true restoration Alisa also unpacks Jesus' encounter with the man at the pool in John 5, asking a powerful question: Do we truly want to be healed, even when healing requires discomfort, surrender, and change? Practical Ways to Participate in Healing Get close to Jesus Spend time in God's Word until your heart is awakened to His truth and love. Stay connected to God's people Healing happens in relationships with people who embody the love and truth of Christ. Practice daily sacrifice Learn to become comfortable with healthy discomfort. These practices are more than spiritual disciplines—they are psycho-neuro-biological pathways that help align our minds, bodies, and spirits with God's design for wholeness. Scriptures Referenced Romans 12:2 2 Corinthians 10:5 John 5:1-15 Resources Mentioned The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Kotler S, Mannino M, Fox G and Friston K (2026) The body does not keep the score: trauma, predictive coding, and the restoration of metastability. Front. Syst. Neurosci. 20:1812957. doi: 10.3389/fnsys.2026.1812957 Connect With Us If this episode encouraged you, share it with a friend and leave a review. Your support helps more people discover the freedom and wholeness found in Christ. We'd love to hear from you: What is one way God is inviting you to participate in your healing journey today? Ready to Go Deeper?

Dr. Deb Muth 00:03What if your diagnosis isn’t actually your diagnosis? What if the fatigue, brain fog, anxiety, and inflammation you’ve been told are normal are actually signals your body is reacting to something in your environment? Something no one ever tested.What if the reason you’re not getting better is because no one is asking the right questions?Today, we’re exposing one of the most overlooked drivers of chronic illness, and why so many people are being dismissed, misdiagnosed, and left without answers.You guys can insert, one of our ads in here, that’d be great.Welcome back to Let’s Talk Wellness Now, the show where we uncover the root causes of chronic illness, explore cutting-edge regenerative medicine, and empower you with the tools to heal. I’m Dr. Deb, your medical detective. And today, we’re diving into the hidden drivers of chronic illness through the lens of functional and environmental medicine.If you or someone you love has been diagnosed with a chronic condition or is struggling with unexplained neurological symptoms, like fatigue, brain fog, numbness, or chronic pain. This episode is for you. So, grab your cup of coffee, tea, or whatever helps you unwind.Settle in, and let’s get started on your journey to deeper healing.Today, I’m joined by Dr. Kelly McCann. A board-certified physician in internal medicine and pediatrics, with advanced training in functional, integrative, and environmental medicine. She’s known for her work in mold illness, chronic infections, MCAS, and complex chronic conditions And for helping patients who have been told everything looks normal. She helps them finally get real answers. Dr. Kelly, welcome to the show. I’m so excited to have you here. Share a little bit about what you’re doing these days, and who you are, and who you’re serving with us. Kelly McCann 02:42Thank you. So, my favorite patient population is patients who deal with complex chronic illness, and I didn’t set out to deal with these kinds of patients, but I kept… needing to be able to solve the puzzles, right? So they would come in, and there would be so many things that just didn’t add up and didn’t make sense, and it started with,it started with just doing functional and integrative medicine, and GI issues, and hormone issues, and autoimmune issues, and then it was mold as a driver, and then it was Lyme disease and the other tick-borne infections, and then all of those patients, many of those patients developed mast cell activation syndrome.Which I’ve now gone on and become an expert in, because they all have it.And all the related conditions with MCAS, the Ehlers-Danlos, hypermobility syndrome, POTS, postural orthostatic tachycardic syndrome, and… The one thing that really stuck out to me over the years of treating these patients is the ones who were willing to take a deep look inside. And see how their… their belief patterns, how their thoughts how they perceived themselves, different traumas that they experienced. If they were able to reframe some of the ways that they were thinking about their illness, about themselves, their relationship to themselves, they were the ones who really healed.And not only did they heal physically, they healed emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually. I have some patients who started out disabled, and now are running their own companies. One who, again, same thing, terribly disabled, lots of emotional issues, lots of ups and downs, food sensitivities, oxalate issues, and now she’s a medical intuitive. And she’s just doing fabulously, and has blossomed, right? So, this is a missing piece that we’re not really talking about. Dr. Deb Muth 05:04Yeah, I so agree with you. I see the same thing in my practice, and I treat a lot of the same people you do, and you are so right. Like, if we can get down to a deeper level with them, and address the trauma that happened.And it may be a trauma they never even remembered, right? It could be something that’s just seated in their cells and they don’t remember it. And you don’t directly think it’s causing the illness, but it is getting in the way of them healing. If you can address those things, those are the people that tend to do so much better, I think, versus the people who are getting some mileage out of their illness. That there’s a reason they stay stuck, there’s a reason they stay sick, they’re getting something from it, even though they don’t realize it in the moment.So let’s talk a little bit, before we hopped on the recording, you and I were talking about body, emotion, spirit. A little different than what we’re used to hearing with mind, body, spirit. Talk about your philosophy on this. Kelly McCann 06:01So what I’ve really come to realize is that the mind is getting in the way. And we have this perception that our mind is who we are. Right? We really think that who I am are the thoughts that I have every day. That’s me. And when I’m not getting better, it’s because my body is not… Falling in line with what my mind and my will want to do. So we set up this adversarial relationship. And this has been the philosophy in Western culture since Descartes said, I think therefore I am. Where the mind is supreme, and it is the all-knowing, and the body is just a vehicle for the mind. And every… Therapeutic intervention, from trauma-informed therapy, from, you know, wonderful people who have committed a lot of help and given great information. Bessel van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score, Gabor Mate, you know, all of these folks who have done such great work in us understanding trauma I think… The next phase is really recognizing that the body is actually not against us. It is not our enemy. In fact, it is… The body that is speaking to us as the voice piece of our souls and our spirits, that is saying to us, hey. you’re not listening. The path that you are walking down and the way that you are being in the world is not really working for you. It’s not who you are. It’s not who you’re supposed to be on the planet. And we’re trying to get your attention, right? Dr. Deb Muth 07:59Yeah. Kelly McCann 07:59I mean… Dr. Deb Muth 08:00this thing, so I’m gonna talk louder. Kelly McCann 08:02Exactly, exactly! It’s like a little toddler who only can speak in so many words, right? There’s only so many ways that a younger version of ourselves, or our bodies, like, how do our bodies communicate to us? Symptoms and sensations. That’s it. Those are the ways that our bodies communicate. And if we don’t listen to sensations, well, it’s gotta turn it up, it’s gotta turn up the volume, and then we have more symptoms. And then if we’re still like, no, it’s gonna do it my way, it turns up the symptoms some more. And when… We are in this adversarial relationship, we can’t bridge that gap. Can’t bridge that gap, so… What… what happens is thatUnderneath the symptoms and the sensations are emotions. Emotions that have not been processed. Because we’ve been stuffing them down, we believe that they shouldn’t exist, we don’t want to face them, we’re afraid of them, they’re not acceptable, we’re ashamed of them, whatever the reason may be, and they’re stuck in the body. And so the way through is to actually just feel our feelings. Dr. Deb Muth 09:26That’s kind of scary for some people. Kelly McCann 09:28It’s… it’s scary for the… it’s scary for the whole planet! Dr. Deb Muth 09:32For all of this, right? Kelly McCann 09:33For all of us. When we start to feel our feelings, we don’t like it. We’ve been taught it’s not okay. Boys, it’s not okay to cry. Girls, don’t be loud, don’t be angry. You’re a B-I-T-C-H if you do that, right? So there’s so many taboos about feeling our feelings. I have patients who say, I can’t be mad at my father or my mother because I was taught to honor thy father and thy mother. Like, yes, but you’re angry, and guess what?] That ain’t going nowhere until you express it, so… you have a choice. Express it, or hold onto it, and then you just kind of stay here in this space where it’s never expressed. Dr. Deb Muth 10:19Yeah, except in your body, in your physical being, right? Kelly McCann 10:22Except in your physical being. And here’s the magic. Emotions are meant to move through us, right? Emotion. They don’t last for that long!60 to 90 seconds, really? Maybe a couple minutes? Yeah. You really, really feel them. Right? Dr. Deb Muth 10:44Yeah. Kelly McCann 10:46And we’re terrified of that 60 to 90 seconds. Dr. Deb Muth 10:50What might we do to ourselves or to someone in that 60 to 90 seconds, right? I may scream, I may cry, I may not be this person that everybody thinks I’m supposed to be. That person that holds it all together is there for everybody, holds everybody else’s space. So well put together, right? If you’re not that person, then who are you? Are you human? Kelly McCann 11:16Oh, you’re more than human. Yeah, I mean, the way that I would look at it is, I would say, well, you don’t have to put on a show, right? This is really for you. Close the door, lock the… close the windows, get out your pillow. Whatever you need to do. I mean, I have some patients who will write it out. There’s a way to just, like, freeform write, where you don’t actually read it, you just write it out, scribble it out, get it all out on paper, and then burn it, or shred it, or something like that. you can pound a pillow, you can, you know, scream, whatever it is, you can cry. I mean, I think crying is, at least for… for me. Crying is the easiest way to think about it. So, you start crying, you’ve got a few little tears, you know, it’s not too bad, and then it’s a full-on sob, and then at some point, you’re like, okay, I think I need a tissue, right? But it doesn’t last forever Dr. Deb Muth 12:22No, it really doesn’t. I had a physical therapy friend who, when I started my practice, and you know, you start your business, and everything’s just chaotic, because you don’t know what you’re doing, and you have all kinds of people that don’t know what they’re doing, and there’s always a problem. Computer, the phone, the this, the that, blah blah blah. And she brought me what was called a Dammit doll. And I had never seen one, I didn’t know what it was, and it was this really… sturdy doll that didn’t look like anything, that had two legs that you could grab onto, that you could just beat at the table whenever you needed to. And she’s like, this is how you do it. And I was like. oh my god, that’s amazing! And I would use it every couple of hours sometimes, sometimes every day, and I would just be like. And then it was over.Yeah, sure, but it was over, instead of me walking around all day long, carrying all this frustration and not having anybody to talk to about it, because you’re busy during the day. And then if you keep talking about it, it just gets worse. But I could do that, and then I’d be done, and I’d be like, okay, I got it out, let’s find the solution, now let’s move on. Kelly McCann 13:28Exactly! Dr. Deb Muth 13:29Coolest thing! Kelly McCann 13:31Exactly! That is exactly what I’m talking about, Deb. Exactly, that’s so cool. I love that. Yeah, I mean, anger is really taboo in our society. Very taboo. And, And, you know, I have a couple patients that struggle so much with expressing their anger, but it’s important. It’s important. We’ve all had so, so many instances. You know, and… of being disappointed. Dr. Deb Muth 14:08Yeah. Kelly McCann 14:08from our… from… All sorts of situations in our lives. And, you know, nobody gets out of life without any trauma. you know, little T traumas. Everybody’s got some. Even if you have the most wonderful, well-meaning parents, something’s gonna happen, and it might be the parents, it could be just life, but things happen that we misinterpret. And then we think.We make decisions about ourselves, or about our families, or about what’s okay and what’s not okay, and those things cause us to forget who we really are. Dr. Deb Muth 14:53That’s okay. Kelly McCann 14:55Because when you look at a 1-year-old or an 18-month-old, they are joy and love incarnate, right? Dr. Deb Muth 15:03Yeah, they are. Kelly McCann 15:05That’s who we are. That’s who we really are. But we forget. We forget, because of all the rules, and all the expectations, and all the disappointment, and all the misinterpretations, we forget who we really are. And… I think… A life journey, especially a health journey, is a way back to who we really are. Dr. Deb Muth 15:32It’s interesting, as we’re talking about this, because I think about people who have really traumatic life events, like life and death. They are so lucky that they’re alive. They were in an accident, or, you know, they had this horrible cancer that they survived, and they weren’t supposed to. And they come out very differently, oftentimes. Because they realize how precious life is, and it’s… they look at life now as a gift instead of whatever else we were looking at it before that time, right? But they do truly look at life differently. I… I’m curious always, like, how do they… how do they do that? But yet, if we have a chronic illness.It’s so much harder to do that same thing when there’s a chronic illness versus an acute thing, and you’ve got this second chance. Kelly McCann 16:20Right? I see it as, The chronic illness is this slow decline, right? And because it’s a slow decline, there’s never that. Wake-up call. Which people get in a car accident, in a cancer diagnosis, where all of a sudden, your life changes in front of you, and you have to really reflect. Where I think with chronic illness, it’s like, oh, this isn’t great, I don’t love this. Oh, this is a little worse. But we keep hoping… which is the part that’s connected to who we really are, right? We keep hoping it’s gonna get better. Keep hoping it’s gonna get better, but it’s getting worse, and it’s getting worse. And… And we… as a… again, as a culture, have an expectation that somebody is gonna throw us a bone or a line, and we’re… they’re gonna pull us back out. We’re gonna find the right protocol, we’re gonna find the right practitioner, we’re gonna get… have somebody else help us get out. And… As healthcare practitioners, we can help people get 50% better, 80% better, you know, sometimes 100% better, but not all the time, because it’s an inside job. Dr. Deb Muth 17:42Well, and I like to tell people, too, like, you’re never 100%, 100% of the time. there’s always going to be something that you’re not gonna like. You wake up, you’re a little more tired, you know, you slept wrong, you got a kink in your neck, whatever it is. But I think you’re really on to something here, too, because if you don’t deal with the emotional baggage, the trauma. the person who said something to you in high school. If you don’t deal with that, and you carry that around forever. you kind of keep inviting the same people into your lives to treat you the exact same way. So then you just kind of keep that same pattern going over and over and over again, and you just keep thinking, why am I the doormat? Why does everybody keep kicking me? And when we truly start to deal with what happened, you start to attract those people differently in your lives, and people aren’t walking all over you anymore. Kelly McCann 18:35Right. And… It’s very easy to get caught up in the whys. And that keeps us up here. Right, and what I’ve found with myself and, you know, many of my patients is that We have to stay in the body long enough with the sensations and the emotions to have it, you know, crescendo on the emotion, and then decrescendo. But when we pop out, and we start asking, well, why did this happen, and why am I a doormat, and why am I a victim, and why, why, why, or… or analyzing, or what have you, we… We stop the emotive process. Which halts the resolution, and we don’t actually get to where we want to be. So, you know, I was just talking to a patient today. She’s like, well, I’ve been feeling my feelings, and I’ve been feeling the fear. I’m like, yes, but did you actually stick with it the entire time, or did you start thinking about it? Because we do this, we pop into our thoughts, and we’re like… oh, yeah, I was emoting. You know, like, oh, that made me sad. And then come back up here, and then we realize, oh, we gotta, we gotta… we’re still stuck in it, we’re still stuck in it. And I’m like. Dr. Deb Muth 19:56Like, when we’re… annotate. Kelly McCann 19:59Exactly! Exactly! It’s kind of like that, yeah. And so we stay on this little, hamster wheel. Because we don’t recognize it. The solution is in the emotion. Dr. Deb Muth 20:15So how do people stay in the feeling instead of letting their mind escape to the grocery list, the kid’s to-do list, dot dot dot dot dot? How do we stay in that emotion long enough to kind of work through it? Kelly McCann 20:30It’s a good question. I think… Having the awareness that that’s what you need to do. is the first step, right? Is to really say, okay, I’m gonna, like, put my mind outside of the door, say I’ll be back in 20 minutes, and then really just give yourself the permission to stay with whatever emotion that’s coming up. And it’s practice. It is a lot of practice. This is not… it’s very, very simple. It is not easy for the vast majority of people, and especially if we’re really patterned. So, I actually started an online program to help people learn how to do this. Because it is… not easy. Dr. Deb Muth 21:16If it was easy, we wouldn’t have so many problems, right? We would just move on and keep going, but that’s where we got ourselves into a lot of trouble, is we just recognize, acknowledge, move on, and say, okay, I’m out of it, good, let’s go, next thing, next thing. Kelly McCann 21:32Yeah, which doesn’t work. Like, oh, I dealt with that. I, you know, talked to my parents before they passed, and we came to an understanding. Like, that’s not the same thing as feeling your feelings, because that 10-year-old, that 5-year-old who felt abandoned, or felt… Abused, or whatever it is that you’re feeling, they’re still in there. The adult you made this agreement with your parents that you’re gonna be okay, right? But that kid you still is upset. So…I think the first… the first thing is recognizing that emotions and thoughts are very different, and to learn the difference. So if I say, I feel like blah blah blah blah blah, that’s not a feeling, that’s a thought. Dr. Deb Muth 22:26Hmm. Kelly McCann 22:27Right? I feel like, this. I’m in… I feel embarrassed. No, that’s the thought. Dr. Deb Muth 22:34That’s not… Kelly McCann 22:35the actual feeling. Feelings are really often located in the emotions. They’re very simple. I’m afraid. I’m sad. I feel terror. I’m angry. I’m enraged. Those are feelings. I… I am mad that blah blah blah blah blah. You know, we don’t necessarily have to know why we feel the feelings. Eventually, we will understand where they’re coming from. But it’s actually just feeling the feelings, and then… oh, I love this one, too. It’s like, well, I’ve forgiven them. I’ve forgiven them for, you know, what they did to me. That’s here. Yeah. If you’ve really forgiven them. it comes from here, and it comes after the feelings. So, we still have to feel our feelings if we’re angry or upset about something, if we’re sad about something, we have to feel them first, and then the beauty is in what’s underneath the emotions. It’s quiet, it’s calm, it’s soft, it’s connected to who you really are. And at that point, then you have a much broader worldview and understanding of things, and you can have compassion for yourself. You can have compassion for other people and their choices. And when I… when it’s… when it’s held in that space, it’s… it’s such a different experience. Yeah. Dr. Deb Muth 24:18Do you think people can have compassion for others if they don’t deal with their own things? Kelly McCann 24:24It’s, again, it’s… it’s from the head, right? Dr. Deb Muth 24:28Not from the heart. Kelly McCann 24:29It’s not from the heart. It’s not from the heart. And it’s a good try, but it’s, like, a carbon copy of the real thing. It’s not really the thing. Dr. Deb Muth 24:39Hmm. What happens if people walk around thinking that they have all this, you know, great compassion and love for the world,but it is truly just coming from the head and not the heart? Kelly McCann 24:54Then, you know, they’re kind of circling and circling, and they’ll find that the thoughts and the beliefs and the things that cause them to be upset will still be there. Right? There’s a… I mean, I have to admit, I don’t really watch the news, because it is upsetting, right? Dr. Deb Muth 25:14I am. Kelly McCann 25:15And I have a number of patients who are very, very distraught about the state of the world.That’s… not seeing the bigger picture. It’s coming from here. Rather than here. And this is a really hard thing for people to grasp. But when we are triggered, By something outside of ourselves. That is because that upset exists inside of ourselves. So, for example, if I call you stupid, Deb, and there’s no part of you believes that you are stupid, it will bounce off you. You know, like you’re a rubber ball, right? Because it’s not true. It doesn’t resonate anywhere in you, so you can’t possibly be triggered by that.But if I say to you something that, you find hurtful, it’s not because of what I’ve said. It’s because that hurt, that upset, is still alive in you. And that… Opportunity, then, Is there for you to say, hmm… Clearly, there’s something inside of me that needs some attention about this.we’ve… we don’t really think about life that way. Right. We think… That person made me mad. Nobody makes you mad. It’s you. That inside of you. Right? I was talking on the phone last night with one of my colleagues whose daughter is in the hospital, and she’s been in the hospital in, like, the best Children’s Hospital, in Chicago for 2 months. Two months with gastrointestinal issues. And… They haven’t done a CT scan yet. Dr. Deb Muth 27:24What? Kelly McCann 27:25I know. I was talking with another, physician colleague of… colleague of mine last night, or this morning, at the time. How… that should have been done in the ER! Dr. Deb Muth 27:38Yeah! Kelly McCann 27:39At least… At least, or maybe the first day of the hospitalization, they didn’t do an endoscopy until Last week. 7 weeks in the hospital with an NJ tube. Dr. Deb Muth 27:53Oh my god. Kelly McCann 27:54Tube feeds. like, what is wrong with these people, right? So, I was so mad on her behalf. And of course, what I realized, too, is then, okay, well, there’s stuff inside of me, like, I have really… I have some stuff about… what is expected of other people in the world, what is expected of other physicians in the world. Like, these are the worst physicians on the planet. They clearly don’t care. They should all be fired. But there’s stuff in me that is really being triggered by this, that I have… I have work to do about. And I still think it’s wrong. Dr. Deb Muth 28:36I had that same experience last week. I had a pharmacist tell my patient they didn’t need a prescription that I had ordered, because she… didn’t fill it frequently enough because she was using it differently than what we wrote it, which so many of our patients do. It’s a hormone, it’s not a big deal, right? Kelly McCann 28:53Yeah, right. Dr. Deb Muth 28:54And… and he said to her, well, I don’t think you need this anymore. Yes. Kelly McCann 29:00choice. Dr. Deb Muth 29:01Right, and that’s what I said, I’m like… I said, who the F is he? To tell you that he thinks you need this or not? He doesn’t know you, he doesn’t know your labs, he hasn’t been taking care of you for 20 years. I have, and you’ve clearly been using it. And so I called the pharmacy, and the conversation went a little differently on his side, of course, than what the patient explained to me, but I had to sit back, too, and I looked at that, and I was like, why was I so angry that he said this to her? And I understand, it was, you know, he was undermining my authority, my knowledge base, and I knew that right away, but I was still so triggered by it, and… and she was just kind of like. Yeah, I was really surprised he said that, but I figured he knew more than me, and I’m like, so I was coming to see you, I would just tell you, and you would tell me if it was right or wrong, and I’m like. okay, that was a good way to take it, but boy, that instantly triggered for me. But again, I recognized exactly why I was triggered with that, and had to calm down a little bit and all of that, but… I think there’s a lot of that that happens. And, you know, when you work hard to know what you know, and I work hard, and we see other people doing not even the basics, it’s kind of like, what is wrong with the world? Kelly McCann 30:18Yes, yeah, yeah, yeah, and there’s stuff there, right? So why is it that I worked so hard to become the best doctor that I could? Because I didn’t feel adequate. And so, when somebody else shows up as inadequate, or I perceive them to be inadequate, that triggers that… my own inadequacy, right? Especially since it was a man, so there’s a man under my your authority. Yeah, that would just really get to me. Yeah, so there’s something around that, so I know that, you know, for me, that might be where I explore it, but yeah, it’s, Life is a journey. Dr. Deb Muth 31:00Yeah, it really is. And I think, too, from a practitioner standpoint, like, we take so many of our patients home with us, like, it’s our job to be the medical detective, figure them out.Help them find the answers, make them feel better. And not that we do it from an eco perspective, because I think most practitioners don’t. They truly do it because they care and they want to make people better, and we have this knowledge and this expertise that other people don’t have. But, boy, it gets harder and harder and harder when you get more and more chronically ill people to help them find the answers and help them be well, especially if they don’t deal with their own house, right? We don’t… if they don’t deal with their house, it’s hard for us to come in and say, let me help you deal with your house. Right. So, how does that fit into some of this? Kelly McCann 31:51You know, that’s a really good question. I had to learn that over time to be able to use my own intuition to say, how much is this person willing to do? And really evaluate their… their willingness to change, their willingness to do the hard work. And… And I… and I had to hone my intuition in order to do that, and now I see… I will see there are people that… they’re happy. in their little merry-go-round, in their whack-a-mole game. And I will do my best, and I will kind of, you know, nudge where I think it’s appropriate, but when they push back, I gotta let that go. I gotta let that go, and recognize that it’s their journey, it’s their life, and I can’t be more attached to their healing than they are. Dr. Deb Muth 32:49That’s what I’ve done, too. That’s what I tell my practitioners, my young practitioners that come in by me, too. I say the same thing. Like, I have some that are really young, and we’re all green, right? And we want to just fix the world, and I’ve got so much I can give you, and so much you can do, and then when they don’t do it, you’re like. what did I do wrong that they’re not doing it? And I have to go back and tell them the same thing. This is their journey, not yours. You’re just here to give knowledge and hold space. And they get to pick and choose what they want to do, and if it’s not exactly what we want them to do, that’s okay, it’s their journey. And every time… and I laugh because I always see my younger self in them, too, but why don’t they want to do it? This is gonna make them so much better! We have this tool! And it’s like… they’re not ready yet. It’s okay for them not to be ready yet. We have to be okay with the fact that they’re not ready yet. And I think as a provider and a practitioner, that is one of the hardest things to do, is to sit back and go, okay, you’re just not ready yet. When you’re ready, we’ll be here to hold you and hold space. But right now, you’re not there, it’s okay. Kelly McCann 33:52Yeah, it is okay. Yeah, actually, one of the women that I mentioned earlier, earlier in the podcast, it took her 18 months to get to the point where I felt like she was ready, and it was one of those things, like. You’re ready! I got so excited, and that’s exactly what I said to her. I was like, okay, here, I want you to read this book. Dr. Deb Muth 34:14And he was. Kelly McCann 34:14finally ready, and I gave her the book called How to Heal Yourself When No One Else Can by Amy B. Share, which is just so awesome. And she took that book, and she was like, I am going to do this. And she wrote out journals and journals and journals, and… did lists, and then she would clear them, and then she would clear them. She got so much better, and then it was, like. Biofield tuning, and she did, Gupta, and Amya Piggin’s work, and, you know, so many other things. And then she was doing really well, 80% better, eating all sorts of foods, and there was still this little, like. Mmm, something’s still missing. Something’s still missing. Not quite where I want to be. I still have some mood issues. And then she came and joined my Unforgetting Project program. And that was the missing piece for her. This… whole thing that we’re talking about, like, just feeling the feelings was really her missing piece, because she was clearing, you know, with using EFT, but it wasn’t working anymore, because she actually was bypassing feeling her feelings. Dr. Deb Muth 35:38Hmm. Kelly McCann 35:39So I, you know, these programs, the nervous system programs, the limbic system programs, they are fantastic, and they’re super, super helpful. And then there comes a point in time where we have to shift gears, and we have to go deeper. But it… all of those programs get people, if they’re willing to put in the time and effort, get people to the place where, like, okay, now I gotta go in. Even deeper. Yeah. Dr. Deb Muth 36:07And that can be scary for people. That can be really frightening. I did a 10-day women’s retreat in Spain, with a priestess program, and I had no clue what I was doing. I was going to my first women’s retreat in Spain, no clue, but I had to do. Kelly McCann 36:23It sounds fantastic. Dr. Deb Muth 36:25Fantastic, right? And and when I got there, it was a lot of shamanic work, deep work, and, as we’re all… there’s, like, 30 of us women going through, and all different ages, going through things. And reliving our past as a child, and reliving all these different pieces of us as women that we’ve left behind someplace else. We’ve lost. And, And just sitting in… I still remember it to this day, you know, the crying, the sobbing, the anger, the screaming, the stomping. the silence. Like, everybody had a different way of dealing with those emotions coming out, and we had to be silent from, 10 at night till 10 in the morning. You couldn’t say anything to anybody. And, and that was a little challenging for a lot of us. But it gave you that time that after you went through one of these processes. you could process. You could just sit with those feelings, sit with what came up for you, journal. And it was a really incredible time to watch a lot of women just blossom into a new version of themselves, you know? Their old version, but a new version. A healed version of themselves, in a lot of ways, yeah. Kelly McCann 37:45So what… in the languaging that I’ve come up with, it’s the, unforgetting, right? So it’s actually the remembered self, because we have let go of the things that caused us to forget. So we have unforgotten who we really are, because As you’re right, it’s… it is not new, it’s just remembered, or unforgotten. Dr. Deb Muth 38:12Yeah. Yeah. That’s really awesome. For somebody that’s listening to us have this conversation, and they’re kind of thinking, this all sounds great, but I have no clue where to start with something like this, what kind of recommendations would you give to them? Kelly McCann 38:29Well, I actually have an online program. And… it’s, it’s a 9-week online program, and…What you’re doing in community is learning how to Feel your feelings, and how to understand them, and different access points in to them, and doing it in a community, which is terrifying for some people when they start, but at the same time, it is the most loving container Because these people are also on their complex chronic illness healing journey. And they have chosen themselves, and chosen to show up, and chosen to show up for 9 weeks, which is a long time, but it’s also this beautiful, sacred time. And, half of the class is lecture, sharing, and then half of the class we spend in trios. Which means, my staff divvy up people into groups of three, and then there… each trio goes through a process. They all do the same process.And you do it 3 times, so you have a chance to be, a different role in each iteration that you go through. So one role is the explorer. Those are the people who are actually just feeling the feelings. And exploring what’s going on inside of them. One person is what we call the companion, they’re kind of like the… the, not really the guide or the therapist, but they’re just holding space with them, maybe giving some prompts to help them work through the process. And there’s a handout that works through the process, and then there’s the third person whom is the anchor. And the anchor is holding that loving battery. And it just sets up this…situation where you’re held in such an embrace that you’re able to express your feelings. And one of the things I learned early on was that vulnerability leads to intimacy. And so, when you’re vulnerable with somebody else, they feel… closer to you, and they feel more capable of being vulnerable with you, because you’ve trusted them, right? So, it builds this level of vulnerability, intimacy, and trust in the community, and then each time you do your trio with somebody, with new people, often. Dr. Deb Muth 41:16time. Kelly McCann 41:17And it’s a really, really special program where you’re practicing this, and you’re doing homework, so you take the things that you learned from the class, and then you go home and you practice it with yourself. So that’s what I have come up with to help people start to really learn how to do this. And then it’s gonna grow from there. So I have a foundational class right now. We’re on… we just started our second cohort, And then eventually there will be a second-tier class, and workshops, and the other thing that I’m doing is one-on-one, trainings with… what one-on-one… I call them unforgetting journeys with people. So, you know how you go to a therapist, and you’re in the middle of a story, in the middle of sobbing, and they’re like, oh, well, that’s 50 minutes, it’s Here’s your tissue, we’ll see you next week. Dr. Deb Muth 42:12Yes. Kelly McCann 42:13Yeah, so painful. Dr. Deb Muth 42:16Oh, bad. Kelly McCann 42:16So painful, and I understand, like, we have the same thing, too, as physicians, like, oh, I’m so sorry, your time is up, I gotta go, I have more patients waiting. The unforgetting journey, I don’t have a clock. Dr. Deb Muth 42:29Mmm. Kelly McCann 42:30It’s… we go until you feel complete. And for most people, it’s two and a half, three hours. Dr. Deb Muth 42:37Wow. Kelly McCann 42:37To really process through the emotions that are coming up. Dr. Deb Muth 42:43to get… Kelly McCann 42:43To the point where you’re… they feel… Okay. I feel… I feel complete for today. Dr. Deb Muth 42:52For now. Kelly McCann 42:53For now. Dr. Deb Muth 42:54So the next layer, kind of. shows itself, right? Yeah. Kelly McCann 42:59Yeah, yeah. And for now, the Unforgetting Journeys are for people who have gone through the program, or are in the program, because you really need to… you have to have the skills. Dr. Deb Muth 43:11So, if somebody’s interested in your online program, how do they get in touch with you? Kelly McCann 43:17The website is unforgettingproject.com. And you can sign up right there. The next cohort will start May 20th. It’ll be a Wednesday evening. From 4.30 to 6.30 Pacific time, so I tried to make it so as many people on both sides of the continent could make it. I know it’s a little late for East Coast, but, yeah. And then, you know, every month or two, we’ll start a new cohort, so if you’re interested, and if those… that time doesn’t work for you. You know, I did Fridays initially, I’m doing Mondays, this iteration. We’ll try, other dates and times for people, and try and get a few more dates, on the calendar, so that people have some options. But yeah, that would be my suggestion. You can sign up for our email list, and we’ll be sure to let you know all the happenings at the Unforgetting Project. Dr. Deb Muth 44:17That’s awesome. And for those of you who might be driving or didn’t catch that, we will have it in the show notes as well, so that you can jot it down, check it out, if it sounds like it’s something that really resonates with you. Dr. Kelly, thank you so much for your time tonight. Is there any last words you want to leave with our listeners? Kelly McCann 44:35Of course, of course. There’s always hope. And that hope that burns inside you, that…There is a different life… a different life waiting for you. That is your spirit. That is your soul. Talking to you, and spurring you on. And my encouragement is to really listen to that. Because then you will find your way to people like Dr. Deb, and other practitioners who have heart, who have the tools and the capacity to help you on the physical world journey, and then… You know, my other encouragement would be, really listen to your body. Consider the possibility with curiosity that it is on your side. And if it’s on your side, and it’s talking to you and communicating to you, what might it be saying that it needs from you? Dr. Deb Muth 45:43I love that, that’s awesome. Thank you so much for your time today. Kelly McCann 45:47You’re welcome, my pleasure. I’m so happy to speak with you and to talk with your, audience. I think it’s wonderful. Dr. Deb Muth 45:54Thank you. Boom. Wow, what an episode we just had with Dr. Kelly McCann. This is incredible. It’s a completely different way for us to think about chronic illness, and think about what our body’s actually going through, and how we can repair it from a different aspect. So, thank you for joining me today on Let’s Talk Wellness Now. If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who’s been searching for answers and hasn’t found them yet. And if you’re enjoying our episodes of Let’s Talk Wellness now, we would love to ask the biggest favor you could do for us, which is like and subscribe and share. It goes a long way for us getting our podcasts and our episodes out into the hands of so many people Who need to hear these messages. So, if you’re feeling inclined to do that, we would love that, that affirmation from you guys. So, remember, wellness isn’t just about feeling good, it’s about thriving in every area of your life. If you’re ready to explore the root cause medicine. We can help you. Visit serenityHealthCarecenter.com or Dr. Kelly McCann, and until next time, I’m Dr. Deb, reminding you to take care of your body, mind, and spirit. Be well, and we will see you on the next episode. The post Episode 270 – Chronic Symptoms Are a Hidden Message: How to Listen and Finally Heal | Dr. Kelly McCann first appeared on Let's Talk Wellness Now.

After five years as The Resetter Podcast, everything changes. Welcome to Live Like a Girl.In this first episode, Dr. Mindy Pelz explains why she retired a name she loved and what she's building in its place. The truth driving it all: women aren't thriving, and most of the health advice out there was never written for us to begin with.She opens with the numbers on Alzheimer's, depression, anxiety, cancer, and heart disease, then digs into why the science behind "evidence-based" wellness has left women out, and why fifteen-minute doctor visits and almost no nutrition training can't fix it. From there she lays out the five principles that shape this whole new season: mindset matters, regulate first, honor your rhythms, everything is health, and collaboration over competition.It's a conversation about the body, but also about culture, conditioning, and finally taking up space. A preview of what's coming this season, including Suze Orman on money and wellbeing and Frank Anderson on trauma and metabolism.If it resonates, share it with a woman who needs to hear it, and subscribe so you don't miss what's next.For more resources related to today's episode, visit the podcast episode page: drmindypelz.com/ep344Resources Mentioned in this Episode:Fast Like a Girl: https://www.drmindypelz.com/booksThe Obesity Code by Jason FungIn a Different Voice by Carol GilliganThe Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der KolkBurn Fat Like a Girl: Your Natural GLP-1 Reset: https://bit.ly/4eUUB8yNervous System Reset Guide: https://bit.ly/3QOcQEWConnect with Dr. Mindy:Join Reset AcademyWatch the episodes on YouTubeFollow Dr. Mindy on InstagramSubscribe to Dr. Mindy's newsletterDisclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice. Always consult a qualified healthcare professional before making changes to your diet, fasting routine, or lifestyle.

Imagine you and your teenager are sitting down for a nice meal and she/he asks, “What do you know about depression?” and you're stumped for an answer.Faced with that question, D. (Doug) Earl Johnston set out to find the answer and, along the way, identified 271 additional and distinct emotional states that formed the basis of his latest book, Choosing Emotions: Thinking with Your Head and Acting with Your Heart.Doug shares what he learned about the amazing array of emotions all of us feel and how they protect us this week on Spirit Gym.Learn more about Doug and his work at his website and on social media via Instagram. Timestamps4:58 Doug's daughter asked him a question he couldn't answer: What do you know about depression?10:42 Identifying 272 distinct emotional states through famous quotes.21:41 Our emotions are tools that protect us.32:15 The fundamental misunderstandings people have about emotions.43:15 A consilience.47:35 Name it, blame it and tame it.56:30 “Fear is a reaction. Courage is a decision.”1:06:35 Where do you draw the line between an emotion, mood, condition, pattern or life?1:23:54 “Can you change a default emotion?”1:33:38 Doug's reckoning with ego.1:39:05 Vocabulary and emotions.1:48:03 The domains of the head, heart and gut.1:52:55 One of Paul's guiding principles he learned from a student.ResourcesAtlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience by Brené BrownThe work of Rollo May, J.K. Rowling, Eckhart Tolle, Dr. Antonio Damasio, Jonathan Heidt, Daniel Kahneman, Niels Bohr, Ludwig Wittgenstein, Charles Kettering, Noam Chomsky, Dan Siegel, Stanley Krippner, Edgar Cayce and Sir Winston ChurchillPaul's podcast conversations with Rollin McCraty and Keith WittHow Emotions Are Made: The Secret Life of the Brain by Lisa BarrettSwitch: How to Change Things When Change is Hard by Chip and Dan HeathFeelings Buried Alive Never Die by Karol TrumanThe Body Keeps The Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk Tao Te Ching: A New English Version by Stephen MitchellThe Second Book of the Tao by Stephen MitchellFind more resources for this episode on our website.Music Credit: Meet Your Heroes (444Hz), Composed, mixed, mastered and produced by Michael RB Schwartz of Brave Bear MusicThanks to our awesome sponsors:PaleovalleyBIOptimizers US and BIOptimizers UK PAUL15Organifi CHEK20Wild PasturesPique LifeCHEK InstituteWe may earn commissions from qualifying purchases using affiliate links.

Episode Highlights With PaulWhat horizontal relationships are and why they matterHow vertical dynamics create shame and resistanceThe nervous system connection in parenting and how this can help us be more connected and effective in relationship with our children How Freud and Richard Adler differed on the topic of horizontal relationships and traumaPractical examples for shifting into horizontal parentingThe flaw with superior positions in relationships and how this robs us of our confidence and autonomy “Self sacrifice” and how it's a nobler term for self abandonment and how we program this into our kidsHow the vertical side uses extreme circumstances to argue for vertical relationshipsWhy connection > control in raising autonomous adultsHow repair builds lifelong trustHow this approach makes you a better leader everywhere else in your lifeUtility verticality vs relational verticality Reputation and the puppet strings it has on us as human beings and how this comes into play in parentingIt isn't that the strong survive.. It is the connected that survive Punishment: So much of punishment is laziness on the parents part and the fear of reputationIt isn't about just changing the behavior but addressing the underlying reason and capacity Forgiveness isn't the letting go of what happened but the softening of the blame There are over 400 unique characteristics that will emerge in your child regardless of how you parent themHow this can create space for a both/and instead of an either/or in parenting Guilt perpetuated by reputation and verticality After age 7, our role as a parent is to be a safe place for a child's exploration of themselvesResources MentionedPaul's website and his InstagramWhat Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and HealingThe Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma by Paul LevineKiss Me Like a Stranger: My Search for Love and Art by Gene WilderBioptimizersI love and use so many products from them, but I especially love the magnesium and digestive enzymes. Visit bioptimizers.com/wellnessmama and use wellnessmama15 at checkout to get the best dealBONCHARGEI like so many of their products - from their red light products to their sauna blankets. Red light has been so helpful for me during my recovery from Hashimoto's. To find out more, go to boncharge.com/wellnessmama and use code wellnessmama for 20% off!