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In this deeply comforting episode, Keana explores one of the most vulnerable questions believers ask during painful seasons: “If God loves me, then why am I still hurting?”Instead of trying to explain suffering or offer neat answers, Keana gently reassures listeners that pain is not evidence of God's absence. Drawing from Scripture and insights from leading psychologists, she reminds us that God's love is present inside our hurt — not after it, not once we “get stronger,” but right now, in the middle of the struggle.This episode is a safe space for anyone who feels confused, overwhelmed, or spiritually discouraged. Through biblical examples, trauma‑informed wisdom, and compassionate encouragement, Keana helps listeners rediscover the truth that God is near, attentive, and tender with those who are hurting.
The Body Keeps the Score که در فارسی معمولاً با عنوان بدن فراموش نمیکند شناخته می‌شود، کتابی بسیار معروف از Bessel van der Kolk است و درباره تروما (آسیب روانی) و اثر آن بر ذهن و بدن صحبت می‌کند.پیام مرکزی کتاب این است:اتفاقات دردناک گذشته فقط در ذهن نمی‌مانند، بلکه در بدن هم ثبت می‌شوند.یعنی تجربه‌هایی مثل:کودک‌آزاریخشونت خانوادگیجنگتصادفخیانت شدیداسترس مزمنمی‌توانند سال‌ها بعد به شکل‌های مختلف ظاهر شوند.ممکن است فرد دچار این موارد شود:اضطراب شدیدحمله پانیکبی‌خوابیدردهای بدنی بدون علت مشخصخشم ناگهانیبی‌حسی احساسیمشکل در اعتماد و رابطهاحساس ناامنی دائمینویسنده می‌گوید فقط حرف زدن درباره گذشته همیشه کافی نیست؛ بدن هم باید درمان شود.به همین دلیل از روش‌هایی مثل:روان‌درمانی تخصصیEMDRیوگامدیتیشنتنفس آگاهانهحرکت درمانیایجاد حس امنیت در بدنصحبت می‌کند.چون به خیلی‌ها کمک می‌کند بفهمند:مشکل من ضعف شخصیت نیست؛ شاید زخمی درمان‌نشده است.این کتاب برای کسانی که گذشته سخت، اضطراب مزمن، رابطه‌های آسیب‌زا یا احساس گیر افتادگی دارند بسیار ارزشمند است.اگر تروما شدید داری، خواندن کتاب به‌تنهایی کافی نیست و بهتر است با درمانگر متخصص کار شود.
What if the one thing that could change how you show up in the courtroom is something you're already doing every single day? You're breathing, sure. But are you breathing well? In this episode of Sari Swears, Sari de la Motte welcomes Kevin de la Motte, aka Coach K, to talk about why intentional breathing matters for trial attorneys. From stressful cases and opposing counsel's bullshit to the pressure of standing in front of a jury, they explore how your breathing can affect your presence, reactions, and communication. Sari and Coach K also share practical ways to build a breathing habit, including Coach K's morning routine, meditation, exercise, and simple check-ins throughout the day. Because when everything is fucking hitting the fan, you want to be the calm presence in the courtroom. Listen to today's episode to learn: Breathing Under Pressure: Why Sari and Coach K believe intentional breathing can help you stay grounded when trial gets stressful. Being Less Reactive: How noticing your breath can create space before you respond to opposing counsel, unexpected challenges, or your own thoughts. Showing Up as a Leader: Why Sari says the way you breathe affects how you sound, move, and communicate with jurors. Building a Breathing Practice: How Coach K incorporates breathing into his daily routine and shares ways to make the practice manageable. Resources mentioned: Your Survival Instinct is Killing You by Marc Schoen, PhD Wevana Tabs (formerly Dharma Dr. Tabs) The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.
Jala is joined by Desirée to discuss the ways in which different cultures around the world care for, honor and maintain relationships with their dead. This episode is primarily a book report of: From Here to Eternity Caitlin Doughty Related episodes: Episode 27: Death Positivity - discussion of the death positive movement, The Order of the Good Death, and that one time Cameron faceplanted directly into the chest cavity of an embalmed corpse. Episode 73: Trauma Response - discussion of types of trauma, methods of coping and more. Also discussion of the book The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, M.D. Episode 83: The Science of Grief - discussion of the science behind grief: how it registers in our brains and bodies, its potential long-term effects and how we process it. Also discussion of the books The Grieving Brain and The Grieving Body, both by Mary-Frances O'Connor. Support this show via Ko-fi! Just like Patreon, there are subscription tiers (with bonus content!) in addition to the ability to drop us a one-time donation. Every little bit helps us put out better quality content and keep the lights on, and gets a shout out in a future episode. Check out ko-fi.com/fireheartmedia for the details! Don't forget to rate & review us on your podcasting platform of choice~ Jala Prendes Bluesky - @jalachan, Bluesky - @fireheartmedia The Level Desirée Neyens Bluesky InstagramSpecial Guest: Desirée Neyens.
The Body Keeps the Score که در فارسی معمولاً با عنوان بدن فراموش نمیکند شناخته می‌شود، کتابی بسیار معروف از Bessel van der Kolk است و درباره تروما (آسیب روانی) و اثر آن بر ذهن و بدن صحبت می‌کند.پیام مرکزی کتاب این است:اتفاقات دردناک گذشته فقط در ذهن نمی‌مانند، بلکه در بدن هم ثبت می‌شوند.یعنی تجربه‌هایی مثل:کودک‌آزاریخشونت خانوادگیجنگتصادفخیانت شدیداسترس مزمنمی‌توانند سال‌ها بعد به شکل‌های مختلف ظاهر شوند.ممکن است فرد دچار این موارد شود:اضطراب شدیدحمله پانیکبی‌خوابیدردهای بدنی بدون علت مشخصخشم ناگهانیبی‌حسی احساسیمشکل در اعتماد و رابطهاحساس ناامنی دائمینویسنده می‌گوید فقط حرف زدن درباره گذشته همیشه کافی نیست؛ بدن هم باید درمان شود.به همین دلیل از روش‌هایی مثل:روان‌درمانی تخصصیEMDRیوگامدیتیشنتنفس آگاهانهحرکت درمانیایجاد حس امنیت در بدنصحبت می‌کند.چون به خیلی‌ها کمک می‌کند بفهمند:مشکل من ضعف شخصیت نیست؛ شاید زخمی درمان‌نشده است.این کتاب برای کسانی که گذشته سخت، اضطراب مزمن، رابطه‌های آسیب‌زا یا احساس گیر افتادگی دارند بسیار ارزشمند است.اگر تروما شدید داری، خواندن کتاب به‌تنهایی کافی نیست و بهتر است با درمانگر متخصص کار شود.
In this week's episode of the Finding God Podcast, Keana W. Mitchell explores what it truly means to worship without fear for those healing from religious trauma, spiritual manipulation, or environments where worship felt pressured or unsafe. This gentle, trauma‑informed conversation guides listeners back to the heart of worship: connection, honesty, and safety in God's presence.Keana begins with a grounding moment, then revisits last week's episode on reconnecting with God after religious trauma. Drawing from leading trauma researchers like Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, Dr. Stephen Porges, and Dr. Diane Langberg, she explains how trauma affects the nervous system and why worship can feel overwhelming even when the desire to connect with God is strong.Through powerful biblical examples — David, Elijah, Hagar, Mary Magdalene, and the disciples Keana shows how God consistently meets people in fear with gentleness, not pressure. The episode then explores what worship without fear looks like in real life and offers practical steps for creating spiritually safe, grounding worship practices.This episode is a compassionate reminder that God's presence is not a place of fear, but a place of refuge.What You'll Hear in This EpisodeWhy worship can feel unsafe after religious traumaHow trauma affects the body's ability to feel spiritually safeInsights from leading trauma psychologists (van der Kolk, Porges, Langberg)Biblical stories of people who found safety in God's presenceWhat worship without fear actually looks likeGentle, practical steps to begin worshiping safely againEncouragement for reconnecting with God at your own paceKey TakeawaysGod's presence is a place of safety, not pressureTrauma can make worship feel overwhelming — and that's normalHealing requires gentleness, not spiritual performanceWorship can be quiet, slow, and deeply personalGod meets you where you are, not where others expect you to beSmall moments of connection matter and build over timeScripture ReferencesPsalm 23; Psalm 34 — David finding refuge in God1 Kings 19 — Elijah encountering God's gentle whisperGenesis 16 & 21 — Hagar meeting “El Roi,” the God who sees herJohn 20 — Mary Magdalene and the disciples finding peace in Jesus' presenceScholarly References (General Citations)van der Kolk, B. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score.Porges, S. (2011). The Polyvagal Theory.Langberg, D. (2015). Suffering and the Heart of God.Support the MinistryIf this episode encouraged you, consider supporting the Finding God Podcast through the donation button on RedCircle. Your support helps keep these spiritually grounded conversations going.
Send us Fan MailYou know the feeling of finally setting a boundary and immediately regretting how good it feels, mixed with the guilt of knowing someone you love is annoyed with you over it. Or maybe you've never let yourself get there, because disappointing people you love has always felt like the one thing you're not allowed to do.This week Sami brings a book to the table she hasn't been able to stop talking about since she read it, The Courage to Be Disliked, and it cracks open the difference between two schools of psychological thought that quietly shape how most of us explain our own lives. Freud's theory says you are who you are because of what happened to you. Adler's theory says you are who you are because of what you're moving toward, the goals underneath your behavior right now. It sounds academic until you feel how much weight it takes off, or how much responsibility it hands back to you, depending on the day. In this episode, we dig into:Permission to let your past explain you without letting it define what happens nextA new way to think about why a hard childhood trained you instead of ruining youClarity on the difference between the goal you think you're chasing and the one you're actually chasingLanguage for setting a boundary that will disappoint people who are used to you always saying yesA simple daily question that shifts you from chasing everyone's approval to chasing your ownAngela traces her own theory in real time, from living in four different family situations and attending eight schools by second grade, to deciding that becoming excellent at making friends, reading people, and living an unmistakably good life was the best answer she had for anyone who'd ever hurt her. She and Sami test Adler's harder claim, that every problem is fundamentally an interpersonal problem, against something as personal as feeling inferior and something as heavy as hunger. Angela also shares a conversation with a friend who grew up the way she did, about giving your own kids a safety net neither of you ever had, and why that deserves to feel good instead of guilty. And Sami gets honest about the moment she realized Be Freaking Awesome had technically already met her stated goal of bringing in income, without that goal actually being the real one, and how naming the true goal underneath it changed her motivation overnight. She also shares the very current example of finally telling her extended family she's done being the one who plans every trip, and choosing peace over everyone's approval.If you've spent years explaining yourself by what happened to you, this conversation offers a gentler and more useful question: what are you actually trying to become? And if disappointing someone you love has felt like proof you did something wrong, this episode makes the case that it might just be proof you finally started living for your own approval instead of everyone else's.Press play on this one, especially if you're in the middle of deciding whether to keep doing something out of habit, or to finally name what you actually want instead.Related EpisodesEP236 — When the People Who Loved the Old You Don't Like the New You: Angela references this one directly in the episode. Same throughline, continued: growing into a new version of yourself will cost you some relationships, and that's survivable.EP211 — Disappointing Met Expectations: The other side of Sami's realization this week. What happens when you technically hit your stated goal and it still feels hollow, because it was never actually the real goal.EP148 — Setting Personal Boundaries: The fuller toolkit behind Sami's decision to stop being the default planner for her family's trip.Mentioned in this episode:The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga — https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-Courage-to-Be-Disliked/Ichiro-Kishimi/9781668065969Bessel van der Kolk, quoted on trauma in this episode, author of The Body Keeps the Score — https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/resources/the-body-keeps-the-scoreByron Katie, The Work and Loving What Is — https://thework.com/loving-what-is-revised-edition/Angela's book, The Invisible Edge, referenced as a comparable leadership fable — https://bfreakingawesome.com/the-invisible-edge-preorder/You've done the work. The retreats, the books, the coaching. And the pattern is still there. The Invisible Edge Foundation 1:1 Coaching is where that changes. Six sessions, one-on-one, body-based belief work that gets underneath what nothing else has touched. bfreakingawesome.com/podcast-coachingSupport the showSign up at bfreakingawesome.com to get the latest news, insights, and episodes straight to your inbox.Follow Be Freaking Awesome on Facebook, LinkedIn, Youtube, and Instagram.Let us know what questions you want to be answered and discussed by emailing us at podcast@bfreakingawesome.com.
The Body Keeps the Score که در فارسی معمولاً با عنوان بدن فراموش نمیکند شناخته می‌شود، کتابی بسیار معروف از Bessel van der Kolk است و درباره تروما (آسیب روانی) و اثر آن بر ذهن و بدن صحبت می‌کند.پیام مرکزی کتاب این است:اتفاقات دردناک گذشته فقط در ذهن نمی‌مانند، بلکه در بدن هم ثبت می‌شوند.یعنی تجربه‌هایی مثل:کودک‌آزاریخشونت خانوادگیجنگتصادفخیانت شدیداسترس مزمنمی‌توانند سال‌ها بعد به شکل‌های مختلف ظاهر شوند.ممکن است فرد دچار این موارد شود:اضطراب شدیدحمله پانیکبی‌خوابیدردهای بدنی بدون علت مشخصخشم ناگهانیبی‌حسی احساسیمشکل در اعتماد و رابطهاحساس ناامنی دائمینویسنده می‌گوید فقط حرف زدن درباره گذشته همیشه کافی نیست؛ بدن هم باید درمان شود.به همین دلیل از روش‌هایی مثل:روان‌درمانی تخصصیEMDRیوگامدیتیشنتنفس آگاهانهحرکت درمانیایجاد حس امنیت در بدنصحبت می‌کند.چون به خیلی‌ها کمک می‌کند بفهمند:مشکل من ضعف شخصیت نیست؛ شاید زخمی درمان‌نشده است.این کتاب برای کسانی که گذشته سخت، اضطراب مزمن، رابطه‌های آسیب‌زا یا احساس گیر افتادگی دارند بسیار ارزشمند است.اگر تروما شدید داری، خواندن کتاب به‌تنهایی کافی نیست و بهتر است با درمانگر متخصص کار شود.
The Body Keeps the Score که در فارسی معمولاً با عنوان بدن فراموش نمیکند شناخته می‌شود، کتابی بسیار معروف از Bessel van der Kolk است و درباره تروما (آسیب روانی) و اثر آن بر ذهن و بدن صحبت می‌کند.پیام مرکزی کتاب این است:اتفاقات دردناک گذشته فقط در ذهن نمی‌مانند، بلکه در بدن هم ثبت می‌شوند.یعنی تجربه‌هایی مثل:کودک‌آزاریخشونت خانوادگیجنگتصادفخیانت شدیداسترس مزمنمی‌توانند سال‌ها بعد به شکل‌های مختلف ظاهر شوند.ممکن است فرد دچار این موارد شود:اضطراب شدیدحمله پانیکبی‌خوابیدردهای بدنی بدون علت مشخصخشم ناگهانیبی‌حسی احساسیمشکل در اعتماد و رابطهاحساس ناامنی دائمینویسنده می‌گوید فقط حرف زدن درباره گذشته همیشه کافی نیست؛ بدن هم باید درمان شود.به همین دلیل از روش‌هایی مثل:روان‌درمانی تخصصیEMDRیوگامدیتیشنتنفس آگاهانهحرکت درمانیایجاد حس امنیت در بدنصحبت می‌کند.چون به خیلی‌ها کمک می‌کند بفهمند:مشکل من ضعف شخصیت نیست؛ شاید زخمی درمان‌نشده است.این کتاب برای کسانی که گذشته سخت، اضطراب مزمن، رابطه‌های آسیب‌زا یا احساس گیر افتادگی دارند بسیار ارزشمند است.اگر تروما شدید داری، خواندن کتاب به‌تنهایی کافی نیست و بهتر است با درمانگر متخصص کار شود.
IN THIS EPISODEEveryone is saying “the body keeps the score.” The science is real: stress and trauma leave a physical mark, and OCD is some of the clearest proof there is. But, there's a half of this conversation almost nobody is having. Scripture said the body keeps the score first, and it says something the wellness world can't: the score isn't the final word. This is the story of what my OCD taught me about the brain, the body, and a God who made both and took one on.* Why OCD is some of the clearest proof that the body keeps a score (and what a brain scan actually shows)* What the science really says about trauma and the body, including the part that's overblown* Neuroplasticity: how a “renewed mind” physically rewires the brain* What Scripture said about the embodied life long before the wellness industry* Jesus, Gethsemane, and a rare stress condition only the physician-Gospel-writer recorded* The exact place the wellness world turns something true into something that will fail youTimestamps:00:00 OCD Alarm at the Sink00:59 Body Keeps Score Thesis01:54 OCD Brain Lock Science03:50 Trauma Claims Fact Check05:19 Stress Is Physical06:15 Rewiring Through Neuroplasticity08:05 Embodied Soul in Scripture09:33 Jesus and the Suffering Body11:04 Renewing Mind Meets Science11:50 Honor Body Don't Worship14:57 Resurrection and Redemption15:18 Closing Questions and Next StepsSubscribe to The Bold Life + read the companion article on renewing your mind. SOURCES / FURTHER READING - Jeffrey Schwartz, “Brain Lock” — the caudate/orbitofrontal loop, the Four Steps (Relabel, Reattribute, Refocus, Revalue), PET-scan changes after therapy.- Bessel van der Kolk, “The Body Keeps the Score” (2014) — trauma's physiological imprint.- 2025 BJPsych Bulletin review evaluating 122 claims in the book (the “overblown” caveat) — cite as “a 2025 review in a psychiatric journal.”- Established stress physiology: cortisol / HPA axis, amygdala reactivity.- Hematidrosis: rare stress-induced condition; sympathetic nervous system; Luke 22:44; Luke as physician (Colossians 4:14).- Scripture: Genesis 2:7; Psalm 6:6; Psalm 31:9-10; Psalm 32:3-4; Luke 22:44; 1 Corinthians 6:19-20; Romans 12:2; 1 Kings 19; 2 Corinthians 12:7-9; Psalm 139:14. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit emilyvermillion.substack.com/subscribe
The Body Keeps the Score که در فارسی معمولاً با عنوان بدن فراموش نمیکند شناخته می‌شود، کتابی بسیار معروف از Bessel van der Kolk است و درباره تروما (آسیب روانی) و اثر آن بر ذهن و بدن صحبت می‌کند.پیام مرکزی کتاب این است:اتفاقات دردناک گذشته فقط در ذهن نمی‌مانند، بلکه در بدن هم ثبت می‌شوند.یعنی تجربه‌هایی مثل:کودک‌آزاریخشونت خانوادگیجنگتصادفخیانت شدیداسترس مزمنمی‌توانند سال‌ها بعد به شکل‌های مختلف ظاهر شوند.ممکن است فرد دچار این موارد شود:اضطراب شدیدحمله پانیکبی‌خوابیدردهای بدنی بدون علت مشخصخشم ناگهانیبی‌حسی احساسیمشکل در اعتماد و رابطهاحساس ناامنی دائمینویسنده می‌گوید فقط حرف زدن درباره گذشته همیشه کافی نیست؛ بدن هم باید درمان شود.به همین دلیل از روش‌هایی مثل:روان‌درمانی تخصصیEMDRیوگامدیتیشنتنفس آگاهانهحرکت درمانیایجاد حس امنیت در بدنصحبت می‌کند.چون به خیلی‌ها کمک می‌کند بفهمند:مشکل من ضعف شخصیت نیست؛ شاید زخمی درمان‌نشده است.این کتاب برای کسانی که گذشته سخت، اضطراب مزمن، رابطه‌های آسیب‌زا یا احساس گیر افتادگی دارند بسیار ارزشمند است.اگر تروما شدید داری، خواندن کتاب به‌تنهایی کافی نیست و بهتر است با درمانگر متخصص کار شود.
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Bessel van der Kolk groeide op in een tijd waarin over trauma nauwelijks werd gesproken. Inmiddels is hij een van de bekendste stemmen op dit gebied. Nu trauma steeds meer aandacht krijgt, waarschuwt hij voor een nieuwe valkuil: trauma mag geen „alibi” worden om verantwoordelijkheid te ontlopen.Ondanks die grote focus op trauma, is er nog altijd veel ellende in de wereld. Van der Kolk pleit ervoor om niet alleen over trauma te praten, maar ook het lichaam erbij te betrekken. Hij kijkt daarbij naar andere culturen, waar mensen na ingrijpende ervaringen het ritme opzoeken: ze zingen, dansen en oogsten samen. „Ritme laat je veilig voelen. Je weet wat er gaat gebeuren. Bij trauma weet je dat nooit.”Presentatie: Pieter van der WielenRedactie: Merel van Waalwijk van DoornProductie: Rhea StroinkMixage: AudiochefMuziek: Rufus van BaardwijkVideo: Cato VisserFoto: NRCZie het privacybeleid op https://art19.com/privacy en de privacyverklaring van Californië op https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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In this week's episode of the Finding God Podcast, Keana dives deep into a growing struggle among believers: spiritual exhaustion. Many Christians today feel tired, disconnected, overwhelmed, or numb in their faith not because they don't love God, but because they've been carrying spiritual burdens God never asked them to carry.This teaching‑centered episode explores what spiritual burnout actually is, why it's happening at such high levels, and how to heal from it in a gentle, grace‑filled, trauma‑informed way.✨ Recap of Last Week's Episode: Breaking Free from Legalism in the ChurchKeana revisits last week's powerful conversation on legalism how it distorts our view of God, creates shame and anxiety, and replaces relationship with rules. Last week's episode reminded listeners:“If you've ever felt like you had to earn God's love, perform perfectly, or follow endless rules to be accepted, this conversation will help you breathe again.”Legalism is one of the biggest contributors to spiritual exhaustion.Healing exercises included:“God Is Love” reframingInner Child Compassion PrayerScripture DetoxNervous System ResetIdentity Rebuilding journal promptsThis week builds on that foundation by addressing the deeper exhaustion legalism creates.✨ What You'll Learn in This Episode✔ What Spiritual Burnout Actually IsA faith‑based and psychological definition of spiritual exhaustion, including symptoms like numbness, guilt, disconnection, and loss of joy.✔ Why So Many Christians Are Spiritually ExhaustedKeana breaks down the core contributors:Fear‑based theologyReligious performance cultureEmotional overloadChurch hurt & spiritual traumaLack of spiritual restDisconnection from God's true characterFeaturing insights from leading psychologists including Dr. Herbert Freudenberger, Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, and Dr. Carl Rogers.✔ How to Heal From Spiritual BurnoutGentle, practical, trauma‑informed steps to restore your spiritual life:Relearning God's characterResting your nervous systemReleasing religious performanceHealing church hurtRebuilding connection through simplicityPracticing inner compassion✔ Reflection Questions to Help You Reconnect With GodThought‑provoking questions to help listeners identify where burnout has taken root and where God is inviting them into rest.✨ Final EncouragementSpiritual exhaustion is not failure, it's a signal. God is not calling you to burnout; He is calling you to relationship, peace, and rest. You don't have to earn His love. You don't have to perform for His approval. You can breathe, slow down, and let Him restore your soul.
DescriptionWhen we face challenges, grief, frustration, trauma, and sadness, as Christians, we're often taught to pray, trust God, and move on so quickly that we never actually have space to grieve what we've experienced. But the Bible gives us another way: lament. This is especially important for trauma survivors. Scripture shows us that bringing our deepest pain, questions, and even anguish to God is not a failure of faith; it is part of our faith and full experience. In this episode, we'll explore what lament is, why it is different from complaining or giving up on God, and how it can help us process emotions rather than suppressing or spiritually bypassing them. We'll also look at how lament can create a pathway from honest grief toward trust, and I'll share practical ways you can begin writing, praying, and expressing your own lament without staying stuck there. If you've ever wondered whether God can handle your anger, grief, questions, or disappointment, this episode is an invitation to stop hiding your pain and discover that you can bring all of it into the presence of a God, who is big enough to handle your emotions.Breakdown of Episode1:17 Intro and Update on Channel6:30 Why Lament Is Not the Same as Complaining13:51 Why Does Lament Matter for Trauma Healing? 16:24 Examples of Lament in Scripture 22:44 Lament Versus Spiritual Bypassing25:59 Concrete Practices: How Do We Practice Lament? 31:41 The Psychological and Research Side of LamentSources American Psychological Association. (2022). Publication manual of the American Psychological Association (7th ed.). American Psychological Association.Gross, J. J. (1998). Antecedent- and response-focused emotion regulation: Divergent consequences for experience, expression, and physiology. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 74(1), 224–237. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.74.1.224Gross, J. J. (2015). Emotion regulation: Current status and future prospects. Psychological Inquiry, 26(1), 1–26. https://doi.org/10.1080/1047840X.2014.940781Holy Bible, New International Version. (2011). Zondervan. (Original work published 1978)(For podcast citations, you may also cite specific passages in-text, such as Psalm 13; Psalm 34:18; Lamentations 3:22–23; Matthew 27:46.)Lieberman, M. D., Eisenberger, N. I., Crockett, M. J., Tom, S. M., Pfeifer, J. H., & Way, B. M. (2007). Putting feelings into words: Affect labeling disrupts amygdala activity in response to affective stimuli. Psychological Science, 18(5), 421–428. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1467-9280.2007.01916.xLinehan, M. M. (1993). Cognitive-behavioral treatment of borderline personality disorder. Guilford Press.Neimeyer, R. A. (2001). Meaning reconstruction & the experience of loss. American Psychological Association. https://doi.org/10.1037/10397-000Park, C. L. (2010). Making sense of the meaning literature: An integrative review of meaning-making and its effects on adjustment to stressful life events. Psychological Bulletin, 136(2), 257–301. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0018301Pennebaker, J. W. (1997). Opening up: The healing power of expressing emotions (Rev. ed.). Guilford Press.Porges, S. W. (2011). The polyvagal theory: Neurophysiological foundations of emotions, attachment, communication, and self-regulation. W. W. Norton & Company.Shalev, A. Y., Bonne, O., & Eth, S. (1996). Treatment of posttraumatic stress disorder: A review. Psychosomatic Medicine, 58(2), 165–182. https://doi.org/10.1097/00006842-199603000-00010Stroebe, M., & Schut, H. (1999). The dual process model of coping with bereavement: Rationale and description. Death Studies, 23(3), 197–224. https://doi.org/10.1080/074811899201046van der Kolk, B. A. (2014). The body keeps the score: Brain, mind, and body in the healing of trauma. Viking.Additional Biblical/Theological Sources (Helpful for a Christian Audience)Brueggemann, W. (1984). The message of the Psalms: A theological commentary. Augsburg Publishing House.Lamentations. In Holy Bible, New International Version. (2011). Zondervan.Psalms. In Holy Bible, New International Version. (2011). Zondervan.Wright, N. T. (2006). Simply Christian: Why Christianity makes sense. HarperOne. Christian Emotional Recovery ResourcesPodcast WebsiteAccess Episodes, Get Free Resources, and MoreFacebook GroupJoin Community, Get Support, and Get Weekly EncouragementYouTube ChannelSubscribe for Exclusive Material Not on PodcastChristian Emotional Recovery StoreGet meditations, infographics, journals, and other resources for your healing journeyTrauma SurvivorsCheck out Resources Page for Trauma SurvivorsEmail ListGet updates on episodes, platform, resources, and productsFree ResourceFree Visual A.C.O.R.N Resource to Heal Difficult EmotionsDonate Monthly Through PatreonHelp More Trauma Survivors Through This Ministry ...
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What happens when your greatest strength in Law Enforcement isn't force, but the power of conversation? Retired Police Officer, SWAT Team Member, and veteran crisis negotiator Patty McConnell joins The Crisis Cop, Pat Doering, to reflect on her decades-long journey breaking barriers and saving lives across Northern Illinois. Patty's unique path - from the only woman on her department to a central figure training the next generation - reveals how empathy, curiosity, and active listening are true superpowers at the heart of crisis negotiation. Ready to discover why the right words can be mightier than any weapon, and how understanding and human connection can change - maybe even save - a life? It's all here in this episode of The Crisis Cop Podcast. Don't forget to Like, Subscribe, and Share this episode of The Crisis Cop Podcast on The 2GuysTalking Podcast Network via WhatCopsWatch.Com… The Crisis Cop Podcast Podcast Links Bar: Connect with The Host! Subscribe to This Podcast Now! Click Here for More Ways to Subscribe and Listen to this Podcast! Rate this podcast on Apple Podcasts. The Ultimate success for every podcaster is FEEDBACK! Not an Apple Podcasts user? No problem! Be sure to check out any of the other many growing podcast directories online to find this and many other podcasts on The 2GuysTalking Podcast Network! This program is one of the many parts of The WhatCopsWatch.Com effort. Check out more great law enforcement-based content now! The Light Bulb Moments for This Episode of The Crisis Cop Podcast: 1. Curiosity is the Cornerstone of Effective Negotiation The discussion explored the idea that curiosity, rather than judgment, is a fundamental trait for successful crisis negotiators. The conversation highlighted that by being genuinely interested in understanding why a person is in crisis—whether due to criminal behavior or suicidal ideation—negotiators can foster real conversations that drive connection and progress. This shift from a judgmental mindset, essential on patrol for officer safety, to a curious one during negotiations is a critical and often challenging transition for police officers entering this specialized discipline 14:03. 2. Active Listening Trumps "Silver Tongue" One concept discussed was the misconception that the best negotiators are those who are great talkers with a "silver tongue." Instead, active listening emerged as a key theme, with several points raised about the importance of emotion labeling and the power of silence or effective pauses. These tools help people in crisis feel heard and understood—sometimes enabling them to express emotions or details they've never verbalized before. The conversation emphasized that truly listening, rather than focusing on what to say, often unlocks the best results in high-stakes situations 21:11. 3. Resilience and Debriefing Combat Cumulative Trauma A key theme that emerged was that negotiators and first responders must recognize and address cumulative trauma. The discussion highlighted the phenomenon of secondary traumatic stress—where hearing and witnessing repeated traumatic stories impacts responders' mental health—and the necessity of psychological resilience. Debriefings, peer support, and an evolving cultural openness toward mental health in policing were discussed as vital tools for well-being. Understanding this dynamic is crucial for law enforcement leaders and practitioners alike in sustaining long-term effectiveness and personal health 54:02. Two Great Ways to Take In This Episode of The Crisis Cop Podcast: We are proud to provide you both a dedicated AUDIO and VIDEO presentation for this program! To Listen Now: Hit the play button in the player on this page or hit the Subscribe button on your favorite Podcast Directory to instantly get these episodes when they release! To Watch Now: Visit this program on YouTube, or hit the window located below to see the hosts, guests and light bulb moments that make this program special! https://youtu.be/8mF1yGLz_6Q The Detailed Shownotes for This Episode of The Crisis Cop Podcast: Looking for the detailed links, information and references used inside this episode? Read on below to find them all and remember to reach out to ask if there's something else you'd like to see from this episode! Timestamps for This Episode of The Crisis Cop Podcast: 00:00 Feeling like Benjamin Button 10:01 The influence of Harvey Schlossberg 13:04 Encouraging students to speak naturally 17:33 Negotiation mindset shift 24:44 Using silence in interrogation 31:15 Handling sensitive third-party situations 35:10 Join Two Guys Talking: Be a Reviewer 41:07 Comforting a distraught friend 49:34 Night shift stakeout experience 52:56 Psychological resilience in SWAT teams 59:37 Supporting teammates and recognizing trauma 01:06:57 Advice for aspiring law enforcement officers 01:08:09 Practicing crisis communication skills 01:13:48 Misconceptions about negotiation tactics 01:19:33 Podcast closing and call to action Questions Answered Inside This Episode of The Crisis Cop Podcast: The conversation focused on the evolution of career paths in law enforcement, especially for women in the late 1970s. What challenges and opportunities were discussed regarding being one of the few women in policing at that time? One concept discussed was the dual-track nature of police work: investigative versus tactical (SWAT/negotiations). How did these different tracks shape professional development and skill sets? A key theme that emerged was the importance of curiosity and genuine interest in others for effective negotiations. How can cultivating curiosity improve outcomes in high-stress crisis situations? The discussion explored the process of transitioning from street patrol to becoming a crisis negotiator. What fears and misconceptions did new negotiators tend to have, and how were these addressed? Several points were raised, including the idea that being a good negotiator is more about listening than talking. What active listening skills were highlighted, and how can they be applied both in law enforcement and everyday life? The episode described a critical incident where assumptions about an individual's concerns (e.g., fear of more medical bills) affected negotiation tactics. How can law enforcement better gather and utilize intelligence to avoid missteps? One concept discussed was the use of emotion labeling and effective pauses as negotiation techniques. Why are these approaches particularly effective in crisis negotiation scenarios? A key theme that emerged was the impact of cumulative trauma and the need for psychological resilience in policing. What strategies were suggested for managing trauma and stress both individually and organizationally? The discussion explored the “triad of command” model during critical incidents. How does integrating incident, tactical, and negotiations leadership improve decision-making and outcomes? Several points were raised about advice for future negotiators, including pursuing diverse education and practicing skills outside traditional law enforcement roles. What benefits are associated with broadening one's background, and how can prospective negotiators prepare for the unique demands of the field? Links from this Episode: -- The People Mentioned: Harvey Schlossberg - Be Sure toCheck Out Harvey's Wife's Episode of The Crisis Cop! Wikipedia – Harvey Schlossberg Gary McDougall - Be Sure to Check Out Gary's Episode of The Crisis Cop! LinkedIn – Gary McDougall (Former Calgary Police, crisis negotiations instructor and speaker.) Kevin Briggs Wikipedia – Kevin Briggs (Known as "The Guardian of the Golden Gate Bridge" for his suicide prevention work.) Gary Noesner - Be Sure to Check Out Gary's Episode of The Crisis Cop! Gary Noesner Official Website (Retired FBI negotiator, author of "Stalling for Time") Harry Drucker Los Angeles County Sheriff's Department Bio (Public information officer, often cited for negotiation expertise.) Deb McMahon LinkedIn – Deb McMahon (Crisis negotiation trainer and speaker.) Joni Birkenheier LinkedIn – Joni Birkenheier (Law enforcement negotiations team leader in Illinois.) Mike Vohling Reference: Law enforcement professional in Illinois (limited public information) (Mentioned as a negotiator and team leader with NIPAS.) Waymond Mullins Amazon – Books by Waymond C. Mullins (Author of "Crisis Negotiations: Managing Critical Incidents and Hostage Situations in Law Enforcement and Corrections") Michael McMahan Amazon – Crisis Negotiations: Managing Critical Incidents and Hostage Situations in Law Enforcement and Corrections (Co-author on premier negotiations textbook) Robert Cialdini Official Website – Robert Cialdini (Author of "Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion") Chris Voss Official Website – Chris Voss (Former FBI negotiator, author of "Never Split the Difference") Malcolm Gladwell Official Website – Malcolm Gladwell (Author of "Talking to Strangers" and other bestselling books) Bessel van der Kolk Official Website – Bessel van der Kolk, M.D. (Author of "The Body Keeps the Score") -- The Books & Authors Mentioned: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert Cialdini Talking to Strangers by Malcolm Gladwell The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Crisis Negotiation: Managing Critical Incidents and Hostage Situations in Law Enforcement and Corrections by Michael McMains -- Get All of Pat's Books on Amazon Now!: Crisis Cops: The Evolution of Crisis Negotiation in America Crisis Cop 2: More Stories from the Front Lines of Crisis Negotiation
One of the toughest challenges in a relationship is being able to forge our own individual selves. And it isn't always something that gets easier over time. Our ability to create a strong separate self independent of a couple relationship is strongly influenced by how we grew up, and what our relationship with our parents was like. In this episode Andrew talks with psychosexual therapist Juliet Grayson about the question “Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved By You? Juliet Grayson provides extensive training courses and workshops for therapists, including training in attachment informed couple therapy, creative writing in the therapeutic encounter, and the Pesso Boyden system of psychotherapy. Her website hosts many informative webinars, covering numerous topics including shame, death and relationships. If You're Looking for More…. You can subscribe to The Meaningful Life (via Apple Podcasts, Spotify or Google Podcasts) and hear a bonus mini-episode every week. Or you can join our Supporters Club on Patreon to also access exclusive behind-the-scenes content, fan requests and the chance to ask Andrew your own questions. Membership starts at just £4.50. This week supporters will hear: - Three things Juliet Grayson knows to be true. - How to Feel Less Guilty - AND subscribers also access all of our previous bonus content - a rich trove of insight on love, life and meaning created by Andrew and his interviewees. Follow Up Get Andrew's free guide to difficult conversations with your partner: How to Tell Your Partner Difficult Things Take a look at Andrew's new online relationship course: My Best Relationship Tools Read Juliet Grayson's book, Landscapes of the Heart . Juliet Grayson has the following websites: www.therapyandcounselling.co.uk https://jandw.thinkific.com/ www.landscapesoftheheart.co.uk www.sexuallyinappropriatebehaviour.org Read some of the books discussed in this episode: Kahlil Gibrain's The Prophet, Getting to Yes by Roger Fisher and William Ury, Getting Past No by William Ury, The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk. Learn more about the Pesso Boyden method You might enjoy other episodes on relationship themes; including therapists Michelle Farris on Seven Signs You Might be Co-Dependent and Terry Real on The Five Traps that Undermine Your Love. Read Andrew's book I Love You But I'm Not in Love With You: Seven Steps to Saving Your Relationship Join our Supporters Club to access exclusive behind-the-scenes content, fan requests and the chance to ask Andrew your own questions. Membership starts at just £4.50. Andrew offers regular advice on love, marriage and finding meaning in your life via his social channels. Follow him on Twitter, Facebook and YouTube @andrewgmarshall
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What happens when your greatest strength in Law Enforcement isn't force, but the power of conversation? Retired Police Officer, SWAT Team Member, and veteran crisis negotiator Patty McConnell joins The Crisis Cop, Pat Doering, to reflect on her decades-long journey breaking barriers and saving lives across Northern Illinois. Patty's unique path - from the only woman on her department to a central figure training the next generation - reveals how empathy, curiosity, and active listening are true superpowers at the heart of crisis negotiation. Ready to discover why the right words can be mightier than any weapon, and how understanding and human connection can change - maybe even save - a life? It's all here in this episode of The Crisis Cop Podcast. Don't forget to Like, Subscribe, and Share this episode of The Crisis Cop Podcast on The 2GuysTalking Podcast Network via WhatCopsWatch.Com… The Crisis Cop Podcast Podcast Links Bar: Connect with The Host! Subscribe to This Podcast Now! Click Here for More Ways to Subscribe and Listen to this Podcast! Rate this podcast on Apple Podcasts. The Ultimate success for every podcaster is FEEDBACK! Not an Apple Podcasts user? No problem! Be sure to check out any of the other many growing podcast directories online to find this and many other podcasts on The 2GuysTalking Podcast Network! This program is one of the many parts of The WhatCopsWatch.Com effort. Check out more great law enforcement-based content now! The Light Bulb Moments for This Episode of The Crisis Cop Podcast: 1. Curiosity is the Cornerstone of Effective Negotiation The discussion explored the idea that curiosity, rather than judgment, is a fundamental trait for successful crisis negotiators. The conversation highlighted that by being genuinely interested in understanding why a person is in crisis—whether due to criminal behavior or suicidal ideation—negotiators can foster real conversations that drive connection and progress. This shift from a judgmental mindset, essential on patrol for officer safety, to a curious one during negotiations is a critical and often challenging transition for police officers entering this specialized discipline 14:03. 2. Active Listening Trumps "Silver Tongue" One concept discussed was the misconception that the best negotiators are those who are great talkers with a "silver tongue." Instead, active listening emerged as a key theme, with several points raised about the importance of emotion labeling and the power of silence or effective pauses. These tools help people in crisis feel heard and understood—sometimes enabling them to express emotions or details they've never verbalized before. The conversation emphasized that truly listening, rather than focusing on what to say, often unlocks the best results in high-stakes situations 21:11. 3. Resilience and Debriefing Combat Cumulative Trauma A key theme that emerged was that negotiators and first responders must recognize and address cumulative trauma. The discussion highlighted the phenomenon of secondary traumatic stress—where hearing and witnessing repeated traumatic stories impacts responders' mental health—and the necessity of psychological resilience. Debriefings, peer support, and an evolving cultural openness toward mental health in policing were discussed as vital tools for well-being. Understanding this dynamic is crucial for law enforcement leaders and practitioners alike in sustaining long-term effectiveness and personal health 54:02. Two Great Ways to Take In This Episode of The Crisis Cop Podcast: We are proud to provide you both a dedicated AUDIO and VIDEO presentation for this program! To Listen Now: Hit the play button in the player on this page or hit the Subscribe button on your favorite Podcast Directory to instantly get these episodes when they release! To Watch Now: Visit this program on YouTube, or hit the window located below to see the hosts, guests and light bulb moments that make this program special! https://youtu.be/8mF1yGLz_6Q The Detailed Shownotes for This Episode of The Crisis Cop Podcast: Looking for the detailed links, information and references used inside this episode? Read on below to find them all and remember to reach out to ask if there's something else you'd like to see from this episode! Timestamps for This Episode of The Crisis Cop Podcast: 00:00 Feeling like Benjamin Button 10:01 The influence of Harvey Schlossberg 13:04 Encouraging students to speak naturally 17:33 Negotiation mindset shift 24:44 Using silence in interrogation 31:15 Handling sensitive third-party situations 35:10 Join Two Guys Talking: Be a Reviewer 41:07 Comforting a distraught friend 49:34 Night shift stakeout experience 52:56 Psychological resilience in SWAT teams 59:37 Supporting teammates and recognizing trauma 01:06:57 Advice for aspiring law enforcement officers 01:08:09 Practicing crisis communication skills 01:13:48 Misconceptions about negotiation tactics 01:19:33 Podcast closing and call to action Questions Answered Inside This Episode of The Crisis Cop Podcast: The conversation focused on the evolution of career paths in law enforcement, especially for women in the late 1970s. What challenges and opportunities were discussed regarding being one of the few women in policing at that time? One concept discussed was the dual-track nature of police work: investigative versus tactical (SWAT/negotiations). How did these different tracks shape professional development and skill sets? A key theme that emerged was the importance of curiosity and genuine interest in others for effective negotiations. How can cultivating curiosity improve outcomes in high-stress crisis situations? The discussion explored the process of transitioning from street patrol to becoming a crisis negotiator. What fears and misconceptions did new negotiators tend to have, and how were these addressed? Several points were raised, including the idea that being a good negotiator is more about listening than talking. What active listening skills were highlighted, and how can they be applied both in law enforcement and everyday life? The episode described a critical incident where assumptions about an individual's concerns (e.g., fear of more medical bills) affected negotiation tactics. How can law enforcement better gather and utilize intelligence to avoid missteps? One concept discussed was the use of emotion labeling and effective pauses as negotiation techniques. Why are these approaches particularly effective in crisis negotiation scenarios? A key theme that emerged was the impact of cumulative trauma and the need for psychological resilience in policing. What strategies were suggested for managing trauma and stress both individually and organizationally? The discussion explored the “triad of command” model during critical incidents. How does integrating incident, tactical, and negotiations leadership improve decision-making and outcomes? Several points were raised about advice for future negotiators, including pursuing diverse education and practicing skills outside traditional law enforcement roles. What benefits are associated with broadening one's background, and how can prospective negotiators prepare for the unique demands of the field? Links from this Episode: -- The People Mentioned: Harvey Schlossberg - Be Sure toCheck Out Harvey's Wife's Episode of The Crisis Cop! Wikipedia – Harvey Schlossberg Gary McDougall - Be Sure to Check Out Gary's Episode of The Crisis Cop! LinkedIn – Gary McDougall (Former Calgary Police, crisis negotiations instructor and speaker.) Kevin Briggs Wikipedia – Kevin Briggs (Known as "The Guardian of the Golden Gate Bridge" for his suicide prevention work.) Gary Noesner - Be Sure to Check Out Gary's Episode of The Crisis Cop! Gary Noesner Official Website (Retired FBI negotiator, author of "Stalling for Time") Harry Drucker Los Angeles County Sheriff's Department Bio (Public information officer, often cited for negotiation expertise.) Deb McMahon LinkedIn – Deb McMahon (Crisis negotiation trainer and speaker.) Joni Birkenheier LinkedIn – Joni Birkenheier (Law enforcement negotiations team leader in Illinois.) Mike Vohling Reference: Law enforcement professional in Illinois (limited public information) (Mentioned as a negotiator and team leader with NIPAS.) Waymond Mullins Amazon – Books by Waymond C. Mullins (Author of "Crisis Negotiations: Managing Critical Incidents and Hostage Situations in Law Enforcement and Corrections") Michael McMahan Amazon – Crisis Negotiations: Managing Critical Incidents and Hostage Situations in Law Enforcement and Corrections (Co-author on premier negotiations textbook) Robert Cialdini Official Website – Robert Cialdini (Author of "Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion") Chris Voss Official Website – Chris Voss (Former FBI negotiator, author of "Never Split the Difference") Malcolm Gladwell Official Website – Malcolm Gladwell (Author of "Talking to Strangers" and other bestselling books) Bessel van der Kolk Official Website – Bessel van der Kolk, M.D. (Author of "The Body Keeps the Score") -- The Books & Authors Mentioned: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert Cialdini Talking to Strangers by Malcolm Gladwell The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Crisis Negotiation: Managing Critical Incidents and Hostage Situations in Law Enforcement and Corrections by Michael McMains -- Get All of Pat's Books on Amazon Now!: Crisis Cops: The Evolution of Crisis Negotiation in America Crisis Cop 2: More Stories from the Front Lines of Crisis Negotiation
Geoscience needs more people who can solve problems across energy, water, climate, critical minerals, and the subsurface, yet departments are losing students, funding, and in some cases the field experiences that help build strong geologists. Esther Oyedele and Dolores van der Kolk discuss what they heard across IMAGE about that disconnect and why solving it will take more than recruitment. Students need to see a wider range of geoscience careers, universities need flexibility without weakening the fundamentals, and industry and professional societies need to help support the training, field work, and access that make those careers possible. The workforce problem is visible. Many of the solutions are visible too. The question is whether the geoscience community is willing to support them. Listen to the complete Inside IMAGE Podcast Series at https://www.imageevent.org/podcast.
Episode SummaryIn today's episode of The Worth Loving Podcast, Keana explores one of the most confusing and emotionally loaded questions people face after heartbreak or betrayal: How do you know if you're truly ready to date again?Using insights from leading psychologists like Dr. John Gottman, Dr. Sue Johnson, Dr. Judith Herman, Dr. Gary Lewandowski, Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, and Dr. Peter Levine, Keana breaks down what emotional readiness really looks like and what it doesn't.This episode helps listeners understand the difference between wanting connection and wanting distraction, how the body signals readiness, and why healing must come before new relationships. Keana also shares practical questions to help listeners evaluate their emotional capacity and readiness with honesty and compassion.This Episode Covers:✨ Recap of Last Week's EpisodeA brief review of last week's conversation on How to Heal From an Affair, including the emotional stages of healing, rebuilding trust within yourself, and reclaiming your identity after betrayal.✨ What “Readiness” Actually MeansKeana explains emotional readiness through the lens of relationship psychology and trauma research including emotional regulation, secure attachment behaviors, and reclaiming personal agency.✨ Signs You Are Ready to Date AgainLearn the key indicators of readiness, such as emotional stability, clarity about your needs, groundedness, and the ability to communicate boundaries.✨ Signs You're Not Ready YetKeana outlines the red flags that signal you need more healing time including emotional entanglement with an ex, avoidance behaviors, numbness, survival mode, and lack of clarity.✨ How Long Should You Wait? (Research‑Backed)A breakdown of what relationship science says about timelines for healing after breakups, betrayal, and emotional trauma.✨ How Your Body Tells You the TruthSomatic cues from Dr. Peter Levine's work that reveals whether your nervous system feels safe enough for dating or not.✨ The Healing Work That Must Come FirstEmotional clarity, nervous system regulation, identity rebuilding, boundary strengthening, and relearning trust.✨ Practical Self‑Reflection QuestionsA set of grounding questions to help listeners assess their emotional readiness with honesty and compassion.Key TakeawaysReadiness is not about time, it's about emotional capacity.Your body often knows the truth before your mind does.Healing is not linear, and there's no shame in needing more time.You deserve to date from a place of clarity, not loneliness.Trusting yourself is the foundation of choosing healthy relationships.
In dieser Folge von Psycho-Logisch spricht Thomas Schnura mit der Heilpraktikerin für Psychotherapie und Yogalehrerin Gabi Rummel-Patscheider über die Frage, warum uns alte, traumabedingte Muster oft ein Leben lang begleiten – und wie Veränderung dennoch möglich wird. Gemeinsam beleuchten Thomas und Gabi, worin sich traumasensibles Yoga vom gängigen „westlichen" Yoga unterscheidet. Außerdem erklärt Gabi, wie das autonome Nervensystem auf Bedrohung mit Kampf, Flucht oder Freeze reagiert, warum gerade Kinder dauerhaft im Stressmodus stecken bleiben können und wie Innenwahrnehmung, Atem und eine verlängerte Ausatmung über den Vagusnerv wieder zu mehr Selbstregulation führen. Dabei kommen die Traumaforschung von Bessel van der Kolk und Peter Levine ebenso zur Sprache wie die Polyvagal-Theorie von Stephen Porges. Offen sprechen die beiden auch über transgenerationale Traumatisierung – über eine Kriegs- und Nachkriegsgeneration, die schwieg, funktionierte und Gefühle unterdrückte – und darüber, wie sich diese Prägungen bis heute fortsetzen.Links:https://www.praxis-gabirummel.com/Bessel van der Kolk – „Verkörperter Schrecken" (Original: The Body Keeps the Score), Originalverlag G.P. Probst: https://www.gp-probst.de/buecher/van-der-kolk-verkoerperter-schrecken/van-der-kolk-der-verkoerperter-schrecken.htmlPSYCHO, LOGISCH! Der Podcast des Verbandes Freier Psychotherapeuten, Heilpraktiker für Psychotherapie und Psychologischer Berater. In unseren Folgen erwarten Sie spannende Interviews, Fachgespräche und jede Menge Wissen rund um Psychologie und Psychotherapie. Mit dem 14-tägigen Rhythmus der Veröffentlichung neuer Ausgaben haben wir die Möglichkeit, auf brandaktuelle Themen einzugehen. Wir freuen uns auf zahlreiche VFP-Mitglieder und Gäste, die ihr Wissen mit uns teilen. Jetzt reinhören!Links:VFP - Verband Freier Psychotherapeuten, Heilpraktiker für Psychotherapie und Psychologischer Berater e.V.WebseiteInfos zum PodcastMitglied werdenFacebookYouTubeKontakt:Tel: 05021-8650320Mail: service@vfp.dePostadresse:Friedrich-Ludwig-Jahn-Straße 1431582 Nienburg/Weser
Må man egentlig tilgi for å finne fred? Dette spørsmålet åpner for mange tanker hos oss, og vi er innom flere temaer. Vi svarer på for oss et lytterspørsmål fra en som føler på skam, raseri og et svik - etter å ha fått høre at hun «må tilgi for å gå videre». Hun sitter med en følelse av at det er noe galt med henne - som ikke klarer å tilgi ennå. Sannheten er at reaksjonen ikke betyr at det er noe galt med deg – det betyr at nervesystemet ditt og din egen verdighet passer på deg.I denne episoden utforsker vi:Fred versus tilgivelse: Hvorfor du ikke trenger å si at en urett var «greit» for å finne indre ro.Det indre rettsmøtet: Hvordan uforløst bitterhet fører til kronisk kamp/flukt-modus i kroppen, mental utmattelse og «brain fog».4 ting vi må slutte å blande sammen: Forskjellen på å høre en unnskyldning, tro på den, tilgi, og det å velge å fortsette relasjonen.Når unnskyldningen endelig kommer: Hvorfor en god beklagelse ofte utløser dyp sorg heller enn umiddelbar glede.Fra tilgivelse til forsoning: Psykologiske og eksistensielle perspektiver (fra Bessel van der Kolk og Marsha Linehan) på radikal aksept og hvordan kroppen husker urett.Du har ingen moralsk plikt til å tilgi!Men du har en mulighet til å forsone deg med det som har skjedd, legge vekk kassen med beviser, sette sunne grenser fremover, og gå ut i solen igjen. Leve livet og legge ifra deg smerten - uten at du glemmer...
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Mohnish Pabrai's Interview with Brandon van der Kolk at New Money on July 21, 2026. (00:00:00) - Introduction (00:00:35) - Investing in Berkshire Hathaway Class B shares (00:03:02) - Berkshire Hathaway: Handling a trillion-dollar portfolio (00:06:19) - Berkshire's investment in Google (00:09:36) - The gold rush: Memory businesses; Micron (00:12:36) - Kaspi (00:16:19) - Your deepest desire is your destiny; Finding stocks on Value Investors Club (00:22:15) - Invest in your highest conviction bets (00:25:50) - How to decide about investing in a stock; Adobe vs. Kaspi (00:28:44) - SpaceX; Elon Musk (00:32:54) - The too hard pile (00:35:59) - Evaluating the management; NVR (00:39:55) - Focus: The most important mental model (00:41:20) - When to exit from a position; Impact of business moats The contents of this website are for educational and entertainment purposes only, and do not purport to be, and are not intended to be, financial, legal, accounting, tax or investment advice. Investments or strategies that are discussed may not be suitable for you, do not take into account your particular investment objectives, financial situation or needs and are not intended to provide investment advice or recommendations appropriate for you. Before making any investment or trade, consider whether it is suitable for you and consider seeking advice from your own financial or investment adviser. Views expressed on Chai with Pabrai are exclusively those of Mohnish Pabrai and not of any affiliated firm or organization.
We are so privileged to have had the opportunity to speak with author and scholar Kate Price after her reading at Booktenders in Barboursville earlier this month. Join us as we discuss the dynamics of gender-based violence in Appalachia and explore some of the ways resilience blooms in unlikely places. Kate Price is an associate research scientist at the Wellesley Centers for Women, a research institute at Wellesley College. She is also an advisor for the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children's Child Sex Trafficking Expert Working Group and Global Platform for Child Exploitation Policy, and an alumni scholar at the Brandeis University Women's Studies Research Center. An internationally recognized child sex trafficking expert and lecturer, Price has influenced the passage of state-level children's human rights legislation and United Nations policy. Price is the recipient of a My Life, My Choice Beacon of Light Award, a Conrad N. Hilton Humanitarian Prize medal, a Mariam K. Chamberlain Dissertation Award from the International Centers for Research on Women, and an American Association of University Women Dissertation Fellowship. She has worked extensively with trauma pioneers Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, author of the New York Times bestselling book, The Body Keeps the Score, in which Price is featured, and Dr. Judith Herman. Price received her MA in gender/cultural studies from Simmons College and earned her PhD in sociology from the University of Massachusetts Boston. She lives in Massachusetts with her family.Branches Domestic Violence Shelter has been providing services to victims of domestic violence in the Appalachian communities of Cabell, Lincoln, Mason, Putnam, and Wayne counties in West Virginia.Let's Be Friends! On FacebookOn InstagramSign up for our NewsletterOr Donate.
In this powerful and emotionally resonant episode of Finding God, Keana dives deep into one of the most confusing and transformative experiences in the Christian walk: when God removes people from your life.We explore how to discern the difference between God-led separation, natural life transitions, self-sabotage, and unhealed emotional patterns. This episode blends Scripture, psychology, and trauma-informed insight to help you understand what's happening beneath the surface spiritually, emotionally, and relationally.In This Episode, We Cover:The difference between God removing someone and life circumstances shiftingHow God protects you from relationships that block purpose, clarity, and spiritual growthTrauma-informed insight on why losing someone triggers abandonment woundsWhy separation can feel spiritual even when it's emotionalHow to discern if a relational shift is God-led, self-sabotage, or a repeated patternBiblical examples including:Abraham & LotPaul & BarnabasJoseph & his brothersRuth leaving MoabHealing steps: acceptance, grief, identity rebuilding, and spiritual clarityWhy this topic aligns perfectly with Keana's trauma-informed relationship coaching and the mission of Worth Loving + Finding GodScriptures Mentioned:John 15:2John 13:7Psalm 34:18Psychological Insights Referenced:Dr. Dan Siegel — neural pathways & emotional interpretationDr. Sue Johnson — attachment theoryDr. Bessel van der Kolk — trauma memory (“the body keeps the score”)Dr. Carl Jung — unconscious patterns
Author and ministry leader Michelle Thooft returns this week to share more of her journey toward freedom from shame and self-hatred. After years of allowing painful thoughts and regrets to shape how she saw herself, Michelle realized that healing would require a change in mindset. She could no longer remain focused on the past, leaning into regret and grief. Instead, she began learning to practice the discipline described in 2 Corinthians 10:5, taking her thoughts captive and bringing them into alignment with the truth of Christ. In this episode, Michelle shares how choosing truth over the lies of shame transformed her life, health, and relationships. She learned that without intentionally focusing on what is true, her thoughts could easily spiral back into old patterns of self-condemnation. Her story is a powerful reminder that healing often involves a daily choice to believe what God says rather than what shame tells us. As Michelle embraced truth, healthy living began to take root where shame had once dwelled, offering hope to anyone longing for freedom from destructive thoughts. Connect with Michelle: https://www.michellethooft.com/ https://www.facebook.com/MichelleThooftAuthor/ https://www.instagram.com/michellethooft/ Links Mentioned: Book: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, MD Registration for Lifted from Shame Workbook small groups: https://www.louisesedgwick.com/zoomsmallgroups Questions about small groups: Louise@louisesedgwick.com Scripture mentioned: 2 Corinthians 10:5 To inquire about counseling, email Louise at Louise@louisesedgwick.com.
My guest, Michelle Thooft, shares a powerful story of discovering the hidden shame she had carried over past mistakes. From the outside, Michelle appeared capable, accomplished, and spiritually influential, but beneath the surface she was carrying messages of self-hatred that she had never fully recognized. Eventually, the emotional turmoil began to take a toll on her body, and significant illness forced her to slow down and face the painful beliefs she had been carrying about herself. Michelle's journey toward healing began through prayer and the willingness to bring those hidden messages into the light. In this episode, she shares how God began to meet her in those wounded places and reveal a different way of seeing herself. Her story is an encouraging reminder that shame can remain hidden beneath even a strong exterior, but God sees what is beneath the surface and lovingly invites us into truth, grace, and healing. Connect with Michelle: https://www.michellethooft.com/ https://www.facebook.com/MichelleThooftAuthor/ https://www.instagram.com/michellethooft/ Links Mentioned: https://www.louisesedgwick.com/zoomsmallgroups (for small group registration) Book: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, MD To inquire about counseling, email Louise at Louise@louisesedgwick.com.
¿Qué pasa cuando el pasado terminó… pero nuestro cuerpo sigue reaccionando como si todavía estuviera allí?En este episodio de Leyendo con Vale exploramos el EMDR (Desensibilización y Reprocesamiento por Movimientos Oculares), una terapia utilizada para ayudar a procesar recuerdos traumáticos y reducir el impacto que continúan teniendo en el presente.Porque sanar no siempre significa olvidar. A veces significa poder recordar sin volver a revivir. ❤️
In Part 2 of the Clean Pain Series, Kari Schneider explores the hidden cost of emotional suppression — and why avoiding difficult emotions may be creating more suffering, stress, and even physical illness than we realize. Drawing from personal experience, leadership coaching, neuroscience, and the work of researchers like Dr. Susan David, Brené Brown, and Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, Kari breaks down the difference between clean emotional pain and the unnecessary suffering we create when we resist what we feel. This episode dives into: The cultural conditioning that teaches us to avoid emotional pain Why toxic positivity and emotional suppression don't work How unresolved emotions show up in the body The connection between emotional pain, anxiety, stress, and autoimmune illness Why high achievers often become emotionally numb How emotions serve as valuable data — not weakness Practical ways to process difficult emotions in healthy ways The leadership, resilience, and empathy built through emotional honesty Kari also shares deeply personal reflections on grief, divorce, healing from Graves Disease, and learning how to process emotions after years of pushing through pain. Key Takeaways: Emotional pain is information, not dysfunction You cannot selectively numb negative emotions without also numbing joy Unprocessed emotions eventually surface physically or emotionally Naming emotions helps regulate the nervous system Emotional resilience comes from feeling — not avoiding If you're a leader, high achiever, entrepreneur, athlete, or someone who's exhausted from “holding it together,” this episode offers a new framework for emotional strength and authentic fulfillment. Memorable Quote: “The emotions we most want to avoid are often the emotions that contain the greatest wisdom.” #EmotionalIntelligence #LeadershipDevelopment #SelfMastery #MentalHealth #EmotionalResilience #EmpoweredTeamPodcast #KariSchneider #CleanPain
In this episode, I explore a recent paper published in Frontiers in Systems Neuroscience titled "The Body Does Not Keep Score: Trauma, Predictive Coding, and the Restoration of Metastability." I break down how this research challenges Bessel van der Kolk's famous metaphor that the body "stores" trauma, offering instead a neuroscience lens focused on prediction error and brain flexibility. Rather than viewing trauma as something physically trapped in fascia or muscle, we look at how the brain becomes rigidly fixed in predicting danger—and what it actually takes to update those predictions. I also connect these scientific concepts directly to what I see clinically in my biomechanics and yoga therapy practice. I share how introducing small, objective movement changes creates a "prediction interruption" that helps clients break out of binary thinking around pain and relief. By acting as a movement detective and tuning into the body's subtle "yellow lights" and "whispers," you can create novel sensorimotor experiences that give the nervous system the concrete evidence it needs to move from persistent pain into real possibility.
What Trading Can Learn From The Body Keeps the Scorewith Steven Goldstein and Mark RandallA trader knows the right move — and physically can't make it. This episode is about why, and what trauma research reveals about performing under financial risk.Bessel van der Kolk's The Body Keeps the Score has become required reading in trading circles — not because trading is trauma, but because the same nervous system mechanics trauma research has mapped in detail also govern how traders behave under pressure. Steven Goldstein and Mark Randall break down five lessons from the book and translate each one directly into the language of risk, drawdowns, and decision-making under threat.What you'll learn• Why the rational, decision-making part of the brain goes offline under perceived threat — and why “just follow the plan” fails in the moment• How neuroception, the nervous system's unconscious scanning for danger, shows up as physical sensation before a trade goes wrong• Why a single catastrophic loss can fragment a trader's whole sense of self, not just their P&L• Why journaling and post-mortem analysis alone rarely change behavior — and what bottom-up, body-based work adds• Why co-regulation with another person, not solo reflection, is often what lets a dysregulated nervous system reset“The market doesn't care about your story, but your body is keeping score whether you're listening to it or not.”Timestamps0:07 — Cold open — welcome back1:00 — Setting up the book & Lesson 1: The rational brain goes offline under threat13:38 — Lesson 2: The body knows before you do30:13 — Lesson 3: One bad hit can fragment the whole story41:20 — Lesson 4: Talking about it isn't enough on its own50:53 — Lesson 5: Safety in relationship is what lets the system recalibrate1:02:54 — Close & sign-offResources mentioned• The Body Keeps the Score: Mind, Brain and Body in the Transformation of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk• thealphamindpodcast.com — full back catalog and where to subscribeThe AlphaMind Podcast explores the behavioral and human side of taking and managing risk, hosted by Steven Goldstein with Mark Randall. New episodes and the full back catalog at thealphamindpodcast.com.AlphaMind: Powering Performance in Global MarketsAlphaMind brings powerful change, growth and development to people and businesses within global markets.Driven by a deep understanding of how markets work, and how people and businesses function within them, we partner with clients to create personal performance improvements that elevate returns across their trading activities.Go to the AlphaMind website to know more.
✨ Join the FREE Masterclass: The Mental Health Care Gap for Bereaved Mothers If you support women and have ever wondered “What am I missing?” after pregnancy loss, this training is for you. Discover what standard frameworks can overlook and leave knowing what to look for, what questions to ask, and where your role fits in supporting the whole woman after loss. Join the free masterclass here → https://www.facebook.com/groups/thereproductivelossleadershipnetwork There is a moment that Atara Parkinson describes in this episode that will stop you in your tracks. She has just given birth after 32 hours of labour. Third degree tears. A baby in the NICU. And a security guard who tells her — as her husband attempts to wheel her out of the hospital — that she cannot take the wheelchair. It can't leave hospital grounds. Figure it out. That moment, she says, became the image that defined her entire career. Because once the baby is out, it is as though the mother disappears. Atara is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with 14 years in the mental health field, a certified integrative practitioner, and a mother of four — three of whom were NICU babies. Her work sits at the intersection of holistic healing, nervous system regulation, minerals and brain health, and postpartum support. She is also one of the most articulate voices I have encountered on what is actually happening inside the body when a woman cannot seem to move through her grief — and why. This conversation goes somewhere most conversations don't. We talk about the biochemistry of getting stuck. About what happens at a cellular level when trauma enters the body and the nervous system decides it is not yet safe to let the guard down. About why the calcium spikes. Why the magnesium can't get in. Why your body is not failing you — it is protecting you. And what it actually takes to move through that, not just talk about it. We also talk about the gap between what the medical system offers and what women actually need. About why talk therapy, as valuable as it is, is only ever engaging one part of the brain. And about why the body is sending 80% of the signals in this conversation — not the brain. If you have ever felt stuck in your grief and wondered why — this episode is for you. In this episode we cover: Atara's own story — three NICU babies, a gap in postpartum care, and the moment that shaped her life's work Why our culture treats the mother as invisible once the baby arrives — and how that plays out in pregnancy loss The shame–isolation loop and why connection (the right kind) is not optional in healing Why talk therapy alone cannot access where reproductive trauma is stored in the body The biochemistry of staying stuck — what happens when calcium spikes after trauma, why the protective shell forms, and what needs to shift for the body to feel safe again The role of magnesium and potassium in emotional regulation and nervous system calm How physical symptoms — disrupted sleep, shallow breathing, altered posture, blunted affect — are expressions of biochemical dysregulation, not separate problems The 80/20 communication ratio: why the body sends more signals to the brain than the brain sends to the body Why you cannot detox, heal, or regulate from inside a chronic stress state The 1% shift — how Atara approaches change with clients who are already overwhelmed Connect with Atara: Instagram: @atara.parkinson NICU & birth trauma focus: @nicufreedom Website: https://www.ataraparkinson.com/ Resources mentioned: The Body Keeps the Score — Bessel van der Kolk (heads up: it's a heavy read, but an important one) Connect with Sharna Find me here: @reproductivelossleadership If today's conversation resonated with you, I'd love to stay connected. My mission is to help change the landscape of pregnancy loss care through education, advocacy, research, and evidence-informed, trauma-informed support. Whether you're navigating your own loss, supporting someone you love, or you're a healthcare professional wanting to improve the care you provide, there's a place for you here. You can follow my work, explore educational resources, listen to more podcast episodes, or learn about the Pregnancy loss recovery method & Integrated Pregnancy Loss Care framework Or the Pregnancy Loss & Trauma-Informed Specialist Certification. Together, we're creating a future where every pregnancy loss is acknowledged, every family is supported, and every practitioner feels confident to provide compassionate, person-centred care. I'd love to hear what resonated with you from today's episode. Share your thoughts, leave a review, or connect with me on social media—your voice helps shape this conversation and reach more families who need it. Thank you for being part of this community. Together, we're changing the future of pregnancy loss care. Follow the podcast page: @pregnancyloss_podcast If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who needs to hear it. And if you are a practitioner supporting women through reproductive loss and want to go deeper on the neuroscience and body-based frameworks behind this work — the Pregnancy Loss & Trauma-Informed Specialist Certification is where we take all of this further.
Allen hosts an episode of "Hope for the Agora" exploring the connection between faith, mental health, and neuroplasticity, the brain's ability to change. He discussed how repeated thoughts and experiences form neural pathways, and how trauma can shape these patterns, referencing works by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk and Dr. Carolyn Leaf. Allen explained that while old pathways exist, new, healthier ones can be formed through deliberate practice and therapy, such as EMDR. He drew parallels between neuroscience and biblical teachings on transformation, citing scriptures that emphasize renewing the mind. Allen outlined practical steps for rewiring the mind, including identifying lies, comparing them with scripture, engaging the body, and inviting the Holy Spirit into the process. He concluded by affirming that change is possible through God's design and the work of the Holy Spirit.https://hopefortheagora.comhttps://agoranetworkministries.comKey References:Scientific- van der Kolk, B. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma.- Hebb, D. O. (1949). The Organization of Behavior.- Doidge, N. (2007). The Brain That Changes Itself.- Kolb, B., & Gibb, R. (2014). Brain plasticity and behaviour in the developing brain.- Merzenich, M. (2013). Soft-Wired.Christian / Neuroscience- Leaf, C. (2013). Switch On Your Brain.- Leaf, C. (2021). Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess.Scriptures:Romans 12:2Philippians 4:82 Corinthians 10:5Ephesians 4:22–24John 8:31–32Galatians 5:22–23Proverbs 23:7 (NKJV; often translated differently in modern versions)Isaiah 26:3Colossians 3:1–17Psalm 1:1–3
As the summer hits the beginning of the end, we're taking a few minutes to reflect on all of our vacation fun. And what better way to share one of our favorite 2026 vacations than to do an entire bonus episode reviewing our trip to Utica, New York. More specifically, our trip to the Compassionate Care Conference hosted by Upstate Caring Partners. And, for ABA Inside Track, nothing says vacation like amazing speakers, street audio poster sessions, and scintillating conversations about the state of behavioral treatment. Next, we supplement your beach reading time with last year's Book Club episode on the trauma treatment bestseller "The Body Keeps the Score", unlocked for all. And, Dr. Bill Ahearn takes a trip back to our show to discuss a Listener's Choice pick of updated legislative policies regarding behavior analysis. Just the kind of topic to enjoy during a Red Sox rain delay! Articles for August 2026 (UNLOCKED) The Body Keeps the Score Book Club Van der Kolk, B. (2015). The body keeps the score: Brain, mind, and body in the healing of trauma. Penguin Books. Nietfeld, E. (2025, January/February). What the most famous book about trauma gets wrong. Mother Jones. https://www.motherjones.com/media/2024/12/trauma-body-keeps-the-score-van-der-kolk-psychology-therapy-ptsd/ Legislative Policy in Behavior Analysis w/ Dr. Bill Ahearn De la Cruz, B., Bourland, G., Johnson-Patagoc, K. M., Dillen, J., Fritz, J. N., & Crone, R. (2025). The road to licensure of behavior analysts in Texas: History and lessons learned. Behavior Analysis in Practice, 18, 505-518. doi: 10.1007/s40617-024-01030-z Bourland, G., Wilczynski, S., Guercio, J., Scibak, J., & Gautreaux, G. (2025). We have a behavior analyst licensure law. Can't we relax now? Behavior Analysis in Practice, 18, 530-542. doi: 10.1007/s40617-024-01013-0
SYNOPSIS:What does it mean to experience yourself as a fertile body? And what happens when your body doesn't seem to be cooperating with your deepest hopes?In this wide-ranging conversation, Ali speaks with Harvard-awarded fertility specialist Gabriela Rosa about fertility as far more than a medical diagnosis. Together they explore the meaning we attach to parenthood, the relationship between fertility and creativity, the impact of trauma and relationships on reproductive health, and why infertility is never simply "a women's issue."Gabriela shares her evidence-based, integrative approach to fertility, explaining how removing obstacles to health often allows the body's innate intelligence to do what it already knows how to do. Along the way, they discuss IVF, implantation, sperm health, miscarriage, Family Constellation Work, embodiment, and the profound question of how we learn to trust the intelligence of our bodies – even when it seems to be saying "not yet."Whether you're navigating fertility challenges, considering parenthood, or simply curious about the body's remarkable capacity for intelligence and healing, this conversation offers a deeply humane perspective on one of life's most meaningful journeys.Ultimately, this episode is an invitation to reconsider one of the podcast's central questions: What becomes possible when we stop treating the body as a problem to solve and begin discovering the body's innate intelligence?To subscribe now, click hereTo be an angel to the podcast, click here To read more about the podcast, click here FOR MORE ALI MEZEY:Website: https://www.alimezey.comPersonal Geometry® and the Magic of Mat Work Course information:FREE Guided Body Mapping Taster: Heart/Sexuality SplitFive-films series (made by Ali Mezey) on renowned Family Constellation Facilitator, Stephan Hausner's work with transgenerational influences on illnessFOR MORE GABRIELA ROSA: BIO:Gabriela Rosa, DrPH (Candidate, Harvard), is a Harvard-awarded fertility specialist, founder of The Rosa Institute, and author of Fertility Breakthrough: Overcoming Infertility and Recurrent Miscarriage When Other Treatments Have Failed. She is a pioneer in telehealth-based integrative fertility care, bringing evidence-based reproductive solutions to individuals and couples around the world.Gabriela is also the creator and host of The Fertility Challenge, a free global online program that supports tens of thousands of participants each year. Through her proprietary F.E.R.T.I.L.E. Method®, she has helped more than 204,000 people across 111 countries. Published research on her signature program shows a 78.8% live birth rate among patients—even after years of infertility, recurrent miscarriage, and unsuccessful treatments.SOCIALS:Website: https://fertilitybreakthrough.com/Socials: FACEBOOKINSTAGRAMXTIKTOKRESOURCES, DEFINITIONS & INSPIRATION:Tara BrachBuddhist meditation teacher, psychologist, and bestselling author known for her work on mindfulness, self-compassion, and emotional healing.https://www.tarabrach.comMartha BeckHarvard-trained sociologist, bestselling author, and life coach whose work explores personal transformation, purpose, and living in alignment with one's deepest values.https://marthabeck.comThe Body Keeps the Score – Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.A groundbreaking book exploring how trauma affects the brain, body, and nervous system, and why healing often requires body-based as well as psychological approaches.https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/resources/the-body-keeps-the-scoreJohn GottmanPsychologist and relationship researcher whose decades of research have transformed our understanding of what helps couples build lasting, healthy relationships. He is co-founder of The Gottman Institute.https://www.gottman.comFamily Constellation WorkAn experiential therapeutic approach developed by Bert Hellinger that reveals unconscious family and relational dynamics through spatial representation. It is used worldwide to explore patterns of trauma, belonging, and connection that may influence present-day relationships and well-being.Corpus luteumA temporary hormone-producing structure that forms in the ovary after ovulation. It secretes progesterone, which prepares the uterus for pregnancy.EndometriosisA chronic condition in which tissue similar to the uterine lining grows outside the uterus, often causing pelvic pain, painful periods, and fertility challenges.Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS)A common hormonal condition that can affect ovulation, menstrual cycles, fertility, metabolism, and hormone balance.ICSI (Intracytoplasmic Sperm Injection)A specialized IVF procedure in which a single sperm is injected directly into an egg to achieve fertilization, often used in cases of male-factor infertility.Sperm parametersThe characteristics measured during a semen analysis, including sperm count, motility (movement), morphology (shape), and vitality, which help assess male fertility.Can eggs repair sperm DNA fragmentation?Healthy eggs possess natural DNA repair mechanisms that can repair some damage in sperm DNA after fertilization. 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We often treat physical intimacy as something that happens only in the moment, but the body carries far more than the moment. It carries our history, our stress, and our old wounds, everything it has learned about whether it is safe to open. Drawing on Bessel van der Kolk's landmark work, The Body Keeps the Score, Christa explores how stress and trauma live not just in the mind but in the body itself, and how, when a person who has been hurt tries to be close, the body can tense, freeze, or flood with anxiety before the mind ever gets a vote. She gently unpacks why couples so often misread this as rejection when it is really the nervous system keeping the score of something old, why pushing through only re-teaches the body that intimacy is unsafe, and how the body comes back online, slowly, through safety, patience, warm touch, and the freedom to stop. Most of all, she offers a word of hope: a body that protects itself is one that once needed protecting, and it can learn a new score, written in the language of safety rather than force. If this is your story or your spouse's, this episode will meet you with real gentleness. Listen here! Watch on YouTube! Get the Awakening Intimacy Journal here! Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Take the E + M Quiz at www.QuizforCouples.com Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too here! Get Christa's Best-Selling Book, The Enneagram in Marriage, here! https://a.co/d/df8SxVx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
What if leaving a toxic belief system triggered a full-body health crisis and your doctor missed it entirely? In this episode, Dr. Deb breaks down something she’s been seeing in her clinic for over 20 years: women who escape high-control religious environments and, within months, develop autoimmune disease, hormonal collapse, and chronic fatigue. Their labs look “normal.” Their doctors hand them an antidepressant. And nobody asks why. Dr. Deb does. Drawing on the work of Dr. Daniel Amen, Dr. Datis Kharrazian, Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, and Dr. Uzzi Reiss, she walks through the clinical reality of what religious trauma does to your nervous system, your immune system, and your hormones, and exactly what it takes to heal at the root cause. This isn’t therapy talk. This is biology. In this episode: Why purity culture dysregulates your HPA axis and ovarian function The autoimmune cascade that follows prolonged psychological trauma What conventional medicine gets wrong — and what functional medicine does instead The clinical protocols Dr. Deb actually uses with these patients If your body has been in revolt since leaving a controlling environment, this episode was made for you. Connect with us:Website: https://www.letstalkwellness.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/letstalk_wellnessnow/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LetsTalkWellnessNowPodcastLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/lets-talk-wellness-now/ Subscribe to Let’s Talk Wellness Now so you never miss an episode, and if this one opened your eyes, share it with someone who needs to hear it.The post Episode 275: Religious Trauma Is Destroying Your Hormones. Here's Why. first appeared on Let's Talk Wellness Now.
This week, Bridgette and Lindsey ask: why does our society find it hard to trust and believe survivors? What do we misunderstand about “credibility?” Finally, how can we show survivors that we do support them? We're breaking down popular media, legal history, and more all contribute to our society's aversion to believing survivors.Key TakeawaysMemory recall after trauma is often tangled and difficult to remember chronologically.Differences in recall and reactions to remembering trauma widely vary.In the United States, our legal history surrounding crime, especially sexual assault, has conditioned us to be skeptical of survivors' stories.Education on trauma recall and memory are essential to debunk common beliefs on credibility.Believing survivors critically impacts every aspect of their healing journey.Resources MentionedThe Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, MDDr. Rebecca Campbell's research on the neurobiology of traumaSaleem Reshamwala, “Peanut Butter, Jelly and Racism”, New York Times, 16 December 2016.Connect and Learn More☑️ Bridgette Stumpf | LinkedIn☑️ Lindsey Silverberg | LinkedIn ☑️ Volare | LinkedIn | Instagram | Facebook☑️ TraumaTies Website | Instagram | TikTok | YouTube☑️ Subscribe Apple Podcasts | Spotify Brought to you by Volare, TraumaTies: Untangling Societal Harm & Healing After Crime is a podcast that creates space and conversations to dissect the structural and systemic knots that keep us from addressing trauma.Rooted in a belief that survivors of crime deserve respect for their dignity in the aftermath of victimization, Volare seeks to empower survivors by informing them of all of the options available and working to transform existing response systems to be more inclusive of the diverse needs that survivors often have after crime.Volare also provides free, holistic, and comprehensive advocacy, therapeutic, and legal services to survivors of all crime types. Visit our website to learn more about how to access our trauma-informed education training and how to partner with us to expand survivor-defined justice.
What You'll Hear in This Episode✨ Recap of Last Week's EpisodeA brief reflection on When Praying Feels Hard, exploring how to pray when you're angry, hurt, or numb and how God meets you in emotional honesty.✨ How Mental Health Impacts Your Life and FaithKeana explains how anxiety, depression, trauma, and emotional overwhelm affect your mind, body, relationships, and spiritual connection. You'll learn why mental health struggles can make God feel distant even when He's close.✨ Insights From Psychologists on Faith & Mental HealthThis episode includes research‑based insights from experts like Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, Dr. Lisa Miller, and Dr. Kristin Neff, showing how trauma affects the brain, how spirituality strengthens resilience, and why compassion is essential for healing.✨ Myths About Mental Health in the ChurchKeana addresses harmful beliefs such as “If you had more faith, you wouldn't feel this way” or “Prayer alone should fix everything,” and replaces them with biblical truth and emotional clarity.✨ Why Getting Help Is BiblicalYou'll hear why therapy, counseling, and mental health support are not signs of weak faith — they are acts of wisdom and stewardship. Scriptures like Proverbs 11:14, Psalm 34:18, and Matthew 11:28 remind us that God uses both prayer and practical support to bring healing.✨ Biblical Examples of Emotional StruggleFrom Elijah's depression to David's anxiety, Hannah's grief, Job's anguish, and Jesus' sorrow in Gethsemane, this episode shows how God met His people in their emotional pain — and how He meets you today.✨ How God Supports You in Your Mental Health JourneyKeana shares how God brings peace, strength, and comfort through His presence, His Word, community, therapy, rest, and spiritual practices that ground your mind and spirit.Episode TakeawayYou can love God and still struggle with your mental health. You can trust God and still need therapy. You can be a believer and still feel anxious, overwhelmed, or numb. None of these things separate you from God's love. He is near, He is compassionate, and He walks with you through every emotional valley.Connect with KeanaIf this episode encouraged you, share it with someone who may be struggling silently.Send in your questions for next week's episode, and stay connected for more faith‑centered conversations on healing, mental health, and spiritual growth.
From our friends at Love and Radio, the groundbreaking new series Blood Memory. In this first episode, two women meet the same man in prison and walk away with decidedly different impressions of him.“Sometimes, if you want something great, you have to make a lot of sacrifices.”You can listen to the rest of the series over at the Love and Radio podcast! Stay tuned after the episode for an interview with Love and Radio creator Nick van der Kolk and Snap Producer John Fecile.This episode featured the voices of Ariel, Heather Brown and Michael Thompson. The series producer is Meera Kumar. Rrobin Amer is the Managing Editor with additional reporting by Brian Krans and Anya Schultz. Fact checking by Nicole Pasulka. Bill Rohlfing provided the voice of the radio announcer.This episode featured music from:The Lighthouse Trembles – Natalia Beylis – MermaidsMind Shifts – Michel Banabila – The Unreal RealmAcqua – Las Olas – Las OlasNot In Our Name – Pierre Bastien & Michel Banabila – Nuits Sans NuitVertigo – Zoroxxe – ZoroxxeMermaids – Natalia Beylis – MermaidsAprès La Pluie – Memory Scale – And All Things Begin to DriftRevoluciones (mirco) – Zoroxxe – ZoroxxeGood Grief – Sereptie – Sulpher's EndIntemperie – Glitch Bird – IntemperieA Listening Voice – Russ Young – CloakLa Inmanencia del Ser – Interspecifics – ReducciónTigre de Papel (feat. King Klavé) – Quixosis – Zen & CaroChanclas de Mercurio – Quixosis – Zen & CaroSentimental, Sedimentary – Dialect – Under~BetweenVertigo – Zoroxxe – ZoroxxeLágrimas de Sangre II – Ezmeralda -Patrimonio Inmaterial de la NadaThe Process from Birth – Michel Banabil – The Unreal RealmPaisaje Oblícuo – Zoroxxe – ZoroxxeWe'll Find Out – Timber Timbre – Timber Timbre
For years we've been told that healing trauma means talking about it. But what if talking isn't enough?In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Harvard-trained psychiatrist and world-renowned trauma expert Dr. Frank Anderson to explore why trauma isn't simply stored in your memories. It's stored in your body.We discuss why so many women find old wounds resurfacing during perimenopause and menopause, why food often becomes a coping mechanism for unresolved trauma, and why traditional talk therapy doesn't always create lasting healing.Dr. Anderson shares the science behind trauma, nervous system regulation, EMDR, Internal Family Systems, psychedelics, and the small daily experiences that help your brain and body finally feel safe again.If you've ever wondered why you keep reacting the same way despite years of personal growth, this conversation will help you understand what your body has been trying to tell you all along.In this episode you'll learn:• Why talking about trauma doesn't always heal it• How trauma becomes stored inside the body• The surprising reason menopause often brings unresolved trauma to the surface• Why emotional eating is often a protective response• How fasting reveals hidden emotional patterns around food• Why triggers are valuable clues instead of something to fear• The role of EMDR, Internal Family Systems, somatic therapies, and psychedelics in trauma recovery• Simple daily practices that begin creating lasting healingResources MentionedThe Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der KolkTranscending Trauma by Dr. Frank AndersonTo Be Loved by Dr. Frank AndersonInternal Family Systems (IFS)More on Dr. Frank AndersonDr. Frank Anderson is a Harvard-trained psychiatrist, internationally recognized trauma expert, and author of Transcending Trauma and To Be Loved. He trained alongside trauma pioneer Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, serves on the board of the Trauma Research Foundation, and has spent decades helping people heal through an integrative approach that combines neuroscience, Internal Family Systems, attachment theory, and body-based therapies.Website: frankandersonmd.comInstagram: @frank_andersonmdDr. Frank Anderson's BooksFor more resources related to today's episode, visit the podcast episode page: https://www.drmindypelz.com/ep33XConnect with Dr. Mindy:Join Reset AcademyWatch the episodes on YouTubeFollow Dr. Mindy on InstagramSubscribe to Dr. Mindy's newsletterDisclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice. Always consult a qualified healthcare professional before making changes to your diet, fasting routine, or lifestyle.
Dr. Bessel van der Kolk discusses the intersection of trauma therapy and yoga, emphasizing the importance of body awareness, the role of the therapist, and how movement can aid healing. Main Topics: · The limitations of talking and drug therapies for trauma · The importance of body sensations and interoception in healing · The role of yoga and movement in trauma recovery · The significance of the therapist's relationship and cues · The impact of polyvagal theory and brain science on trauma treatment · The importance of safety, trust, and relationship in movement therapy · The use of video feedback and observation in yoga therapy · Cultural differences in trauma expression and healing practices Key Points · Traumatized individuals often shut down physically and emotionally, requiring gentle, safe approaches. · Body awareness and interoception are crucial for accessing and influencing the core survival brain. · The relationship and tone set by the yoga teacher significantly affect healing outcomes. · Movement modalities should be tailored to individual safety and comfort levels. · Understanding brain science, like polyvagal theory, can inform more effective trauma interventions. · Yoga and movement are parts of a larger puzzle, not standalone solutions. · Trauma survivors are among the most courageous people, deserving respect and support. Website: https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/ Instagram: @thebodykeepsthescore SUPPORT KEEN ON YOGA Become a Patron: https://www.keenonyoga.com/patrons/ Buy us a coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/infoR FULL PODCAST LIST https://www.keenonyoga.com/keen-on-yoga-podcast-guests/ CONNECT WITH ADAM https://linktr.ee/Keenonyoga WATCH: https://www.youtube.com/@keenonyoga LISTEN Apple podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/keen-on-yoga-podcast/id1509303411 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5iM9lcw52JskHUZ2eFvVxN
This week on the Worth Loving Podcast, we're revisiting an episode where I break down how to stop attracting toxic partners and begin choosing healthier relationships.If you've ever felt stuck in a loop of choosing partners who drain you, confuse you, or make you question your worth, this episode will help you understand the deeper emotional patterns at play and guide you toward healing, clarity, and healthier love.What You'll Learn in This EpisodeWhy we're drawn to familiar emotional patterns even when they're unhealthyHow attachment styles influence partner selection (Ainsworth, 1978; Mikulincer & Shaver, 2007)The role of trauma, repetition compulsion, and nervous system conditioning (Freud, 1920; van der Kolk, 2014)Why intensity is often mistaken for love (Carnes, 1997)Signs you may be attracting toxic partnersHow to build emotional intimacy with yourselfHow to rewire your nervous system to recognize healthy love (Porges, 2011)Practical steps to break the cycle and move toward secure attachment (Siegel, 2012)Green flags to look for in emotionally safe partnersKey TakeawaysYou don't choose toxic partners because you're broken, you choose what feels familiar.Emotional intimacy not physical intensity is the foundation of secure connection.Healing your attachment wounds changes who you're attracted to and who you allow into your life.Healthy love feels steady, consistent, and safe not chaotic or confusing.You can absolutely break the cycle and move toward relationships that honor your worth.Referenced Psychologists & ResearchJohn Bowlby (Attachment Theory)Mary Ainsworth (Attachment Styles)Hazan & Shaver (Romantic Attachment)Dr. Sue Johnson (Emotional Bonding)Dr. Bessel van der Kolk (Trauma & the Body)Dr. Judith Herman (Trauma & Recovery)Dr. Patrick Carnes (Trauma Bonding)Dr. Kristin Neff (Self‑Compassion)Dr. Stephen Porges (Polyvagal Theory)Dr. Daniel Siegel (Attachment & Neurobiology)Dr. John Gottman (Relationship Stability)Listener Reflection QuestionsWhat relationship patterns have you noticed repeating in your life?How does your body respond to emotional safety vs. emotional intensity?Which green flags do you want to prioritize moving forward?What boundaries or self‑compassion practices can support your healing?
Dr. Deb Muth 00:03What if your diagnosis isn’t actually your diagnosis? What if the fatigue, brain fog, anxiety, and inflammation you’ve been told are normal are actually signals your body is reacting to something in your environment? Something no one ever tested.What if the reason you’re not getting better is because no one is asking the right questions?Today, we’re exposing one of the most overlooked drivers of chronic illness, and why so many people are being dismissed, misdiagnosed, and left without answers.You guys can insert, one of our ads in here, that’d be great.Welcome back to Let’s Talk Wellness Now, the show where we uncover the root causes of chronic illness, explore cutting-edge regenerative medicine, and empower you with the tools to heal. I’m Dr. Deb, your medical detective. And today, we’re diving into the hidden drivers of chronic illness through the lens of functional and environmental medicine.If you or someone you love has been diagnosed with a chronic condition or is struggling with unexplained neurological symptoms, like fatigue, brain fog, numbness, or chronic pain. This episode is for you. So, grab your cup of coffee, tea, or whatever helps you unwind.Settle in, and let’s get started on your journey to deeper healing.Today, I’m joined by Dr. Kelly McCann. A board-certified physician in internal medicine and pediatrics, with advanced training in functional, integrative, and environmental medicine. She’s known for her work in mold illness, chronic infections, MCAS, and complex chronic conditions And for helping patients who have been told everything looks normal. She helps them finally get real answers. Dr. Kelly, welcome to the show. I’m so excited to have you here. Share a little bit about what you’re doing these days, and who you are, and who you’re serving with us. Kelly McCann 02:42Thank you. So, my favorite patient population is patients who deal with complex chronic illness, and I didn’t set out to deal with these kinds of patients, but I kept… needing to be able to solve the puzzles, right? So they would come in, and there would be so many things that just didn’t add up and didn’t make sense, and it started with,it started with just doing functional and integrative medicine, and GI issues, and hormone issues, and autoimmune issues, and then it was mold as a driver, and then it was Lyme disease and the other tick-borne infections, and then all of those patients, many of those patients developed mast cell activation syndrome.Which I’ve now gone on and become an expert in, because they all have it.And all the related conditions with MCAS, the Ehlers-Danlos, hypermobility syndrome, POTS, postural orthostatic tachycardic syndrome, and… The one thing that really stuck out to me over the years of treating these patients is the ones who were willing to take a deep look inside. And see how their… their belief patterns, how their thoughts how they perceived themselves, different traumas that they experienced. If they were able to reframe some of the ways that they were thinking about their illness, about themselves, their relationship to themselves, they were the ones who really healed.And not only did they heal physically, they healed emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually. I have some patients who started out disabled, and now are running their own companies. One who, again, same thing, terribly disabled, lots of emotional issues, lots of ups and downs, food sensitivities, oxalate issues, and now she’s a medical intuitive. And she’s just doing fabulously, and has blossomed, right? So, this is a missing piece that we’re not really talking about. Dr. Deb Muth 05:04Yeah, I so agree with you. I see the same thing in my practice, and I treat a lot of the same people you do, and you are so right. Like, if we can get down to a deeper level with them, and address the trauma that happened.And it may be a trauma they never even remembered, right? It could be something that’s just seated in their cells and they don’t remember it. And you don’t directly think it’s causing the illness, but it is getting in the way of them healing. If you can address those things, those are the people that tend to do so much better, I think, versus the people who are getting some mileage out of their illness. That there’s a reason they stay stuck, there’s a reason they stay sick, they’re getting something from it, even though they don’t realize it in the moment.So let’s talk a little bit, before we hopped on the recording, you and I were talking about body, emotion, spirit. A little different than what we’re used to hearing with mind, body, spirit. Talk about your philosophy on this. Kelly McCann 06:01So what I’ve really come to realize is that the mind is getting in the way. And we have this perception that our mind is who we are. Right? We really think that who I am are the thoughts that I have every day. That’s me. And when I’m not getting better, it’s because my body is not… Falling in line with what my mind and my will want to do. So we set up this adversarial relationship. And this has been the philosophy in Western culture since Descartes said, I think therefore I am. Where the mind is supreme, and it is the all-knowing, and the body is just a vehicle for the mind. And every… Therapeutic intervention, from trauma-informed therapy, from, you know, wonderful people who have committed a lot of help and given great information. Bessel van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score, Gabor Mate, you know, all of these folks who have done such great work in us understanding trauma I think… The next phase is really recognizing that the body is actually not against us. It is not our enemy. In fact, it is… The body that is speaking to us as the voice piece of our souls and our spirits, that is saying to us, hey. you’re not listening. The path that you are walking down and the way that you are being in the world is not really working for you. It’s not who you are. It’s not who you’re supposed to be on the planet. And we’re trying to get your attention, right? Dr. Deb Muth 07:59Yeah. Kelly McCann 07:59I mean… Dr. Deb Muth 08:00this thing, so I’m gonna talk louder. Kelly McCann 08:02Exactly, exactly! It’s like a little toddler who only can speak in so many words, right? There’s only so many ways that a younger version of ourselves, or our bodies, like, how do our bodies communicate to us? Symptoms and sensations. That’s it. Those are the ways that our bodies communicate. And if we don’t listen to sensations, well, it’s gotta turn it up, it’s gotta turn up the volume, and then we have more symptoms. And then if we’re still like, no, it’s gonna do it my way, it turns up the symptoms some more. And when… We are in this adversarial relationship, we can’t bridge that gap. Can’t bridge that gap, so… What… what happens is thatUnderneath the symptoms and the sensations are emotions. Emotions that have not been processed. Because we’ve been stuffing them down, we believe that they shouldn’t exist, we don’t want to face them, we’re afraid of them, they’re not acceptable, we’re ashamed of them, whatever the reason may be, and they’re stuck in the body. And so the way through is to actually just feel our feelings. Dr. Deb Muth 09:26That’s kind of scary for some people. Kelly McCann 09:28It’s… it’s scary for the… it’s scary for the whole planet! Dr. Deb Muth 09:32For all of this, right? Kelly McCann 09:33For all of us. When we start to feel our feelings, we don’t like it. We’ve been taught it’s not okay. Boys, it’s not okay to cry. Girls, don’t be loud, don’t be angry. You’re a B-I-T-C-H if you do that, right? So there’s so many taboos about feeling our feelings. I have patients who say, I can’t be mad at my father or my mother because I was taught to honor thy father and thy mother. Like, yes, but you’re angry, and guess what?] That ain’t going nowhere until you express it, so… you have a choice. Express it, or hold onto it, and then you just kind of stay here in this space where it’s never expressed. Dr. Deb Muth 10:19Yeah, except in your body, in your physical being, right? Kelly McCann 10:22Except in your physical being. And here’s the magic. Emotions are meant to move through us, right? Emotion. They don’t last for that long!60 to 90 seconds, really? Maybe a couple minutes? Yeah. You really, really feel them. Right? Dr. Deb Muth 10:44Yeah. Kelly McCann 10:46And we’re terrified of that 60 to 90 seconds. Dr. Deb Muth 10:50What might we do to ourselves or to someone in that 60 to 90 seconds, right? I may scream, I may cry, I may not be this person that everybody thinks I’m supposed to be. That person that holds it all together is there for everybody, holds everybody else’s space. So well put together, right? If you’re not that person, then who are you? Are you human? Kelly McCann 11:16Oh, you’re more than human. Yeah, I mean, the way that I would look at it is, I would say, well, you don’t have to put on a show, right? This is really for you. Close the door, lock the… close the windows, get out your pillow. Whatever you need to do. I mean, I have some patients who will write it out. There’s a way to just, like, freeform write, where you don’t actually read it, you just write it out, scribble it out, get it all out on paper, and then burn it, or shred it, or something like that. you can pound a pillow, you can, you know, scream, whatever it is, you can cry. I mean, I think crying is, at least for… for me. Crying is the easiest way to think about it. So, you start crying, you’ve got a few little tears, you know, it’s not too bad, and then it’s a full-on sob, and then at some point, you’re like, okay, I think I need a tissue, right? But it doesn’t last forever Dr. Deb Muth 12:22No, it really doesn’t. I had a physical therapy friend who, when I started my practice, and you know, you start your business, and everything’s just chaotic, because you don’t know what you’re doing, and you have all kinds of people that don’t know what they’re doing, and there’s always a problem. Computer, the phone, the this, the that, blah blah blah. And she brought me what was called a Dammit doll. And I had never seen one, I didn’t know what it was, and it was this really… sturdy doll that didn’t look like anything, that had two legs that you could grab onto, that you could just beat at the table whenever you needed to. And she’s like, this is how you do it. And I was like. oh my god, that’s amazing! And I would use it every couple of hours sometimes, sometimes every day, and I would just be like. And then it was over.Yeah, sure, but it was over, instead of me walking around all day long, carrying all this frustration and not having anybody to talk to about it, because you’re busy during the day. And then if you keep talking about it, it just gets worse. But I could do that, and then I’d be done, and I’d be like, okay, I got it out, let’s find the solution, now let’s move on. Kelly McCann 13:28Exactly! Dr. Deb Muth 13:29Coolest thing! Kelly McCann 13:31Exactly! That is exactly what I’m talking about, Deb. Exactly, that’s so cool. I love that. Yeah, I mean, anger is really taboo in our society. Very taboo. And, And, you know, I have a couple patients that struggle so much with expressing their anger, but it’s important. It’s important. We’ve all had so, so many instances. You know, and… of being disappointed. Dr. Deb Muth 14:08Yeah. Kelly McCann 14:08from our… from… All sorts of situations in our lives. And, you know, nobody gets out of life without any trauma. you know, little T traumas. Everybody’s got some. Even if you have the most wonderful, well-meaning parents, something’s gonna happen, and it might be the parents, it could be just life, but things happen that we misinterpret. And then we think.We make decisions about ourselves, or about our families, or about what’s okay and what’s not okay, and those things cause us to forget who we really are. Dr. Deb Muth 14:53That’s okay. Kelly McCann 14:55Because when you look at a 1-year-old or an 18-month-old, they are joy and love incarnate, right? Dr. Deb Muth 15:03Yeah, they are. Kelly McCann 15:05That’s who we are. That’s who we really are. But we forget. We forget, because of all the rules, and all the expectations, and all the disappointment, and all the misinterpretations, we forget who we really are. And… I think… A life journey, especially a health journey, is a way back to who we really are. Dr. Deb Muth 15:32It’s interesting, as we’re talking about this, because I think about people who have really traumatic life events, like life and death. They are so lucky that they’re alive. They were in an accident, or, you know, they had this horrible cancer that they survived, and they weren’t supposed to. And they come out very differently, oftentimes. Because they realize how precious life is, and it’s… they look at life now as a gift instead of whatever else we were looking at it before that time, right? But they do truly look at life differently. I… I’m curious always, like, how do they… how do they do that? But yet, if we have a chronic illness.It’s so much harder to do that same thing when there’s a chronic illness versus an acute thing, and you’ve got this second chance. Kelly McCann 16:20Right? I see it as, The chronic illness is this slow decline, right? And because it’s a slow decline, there’s never that. Wake-up call. Which people get in a car accident, in a cancer diagnosis, where all of a sudden, your life changes in front of you, and you have to really reflect. Where I think with chronic illness, it’s like, oh, this isn’t great, I don’t love this. Oh, this is a little worse. But we keep hoping… which is the part that’s connected to who we really are, right? We keep hoping it’s gonna get better. Keep hoping it’s gonna get better, but it’s getting worse, and it’s getting worse. And… And we… as a… again, as a culture, have an expectation that somebody is gonna throw us a bone or a line, and we’re… they’re gonna pull us back out. We’re gonna find the right protocol, we’re gonna find the right practitioner, we’re gonna get… have somebody else help us get out. And… As healthcare practitioners, we can help people get 50% better, 80% better, you know, sometimes 100% better, but not all the time, because it’s an inside job. Dr. Deb Muth 17:42Well, and I like to tell people, too, like, you’re never 100%, 100% of the time. there’s always going to be something that you’re not gonna like. You wake up, you’re a little more tired, you know, you slept wrong, you got a kink in your neck, whatever it is. But I think you’re really on to something here, too, because if you don’t deal with the emotional baggage, the trauma. the person who said something to you in high school. If you don’t deal with that, and you carry that around forever. you kind of keep inviting the same people into your lives to treat you the exact same way. So then you just kind of keep that same pattern going over and over and over again, and you just keep thinking, why am I the doormat? Why does everybody keep kicking me? And when we truly start to deal with what happened, you start to attract those people differently in your lives, and people aren’t walking all over you anymore. Kelly McCann 18:35Right. And… It’s very easy to get caught up in the whys. And that keeps us up here. Right, and what I’ve found with myself and, you know, many of my patients is that We have to stay in the body long enough with the sensations and the emotions to have it, you know, crescendo on the emotion, and then decrescendo. But when we pop out, and we start asking, well, why did this happen, and why am I a doormat, and why am I a victim, and why, why, why, or… or analyzing, or what have you, we… We stop the emotive process. Which halts the resolution, and we don’t actually get to where we want to be. So, you know, I was just talking to a patient today. She’s like, well, I’ve been feeling my feelings, and I’ve been feeling the fear. I’m like, yes, but did you actually stick with it the entire time, or did you start thinking about it? Because we do this, we pop into our thoughts, and we’re like… oh, yeah, I was emoting. You know, like, oh, that made me sad. And then come back up here, and then we realize, oh, we gotta, we gotta… we’re still stuck in it, we’re still stuck in it. And I’m like. Dr. Deb Muth 19:56Like, when we’re… annotate. Kelly McCann 19:59Exactly! Exactly! It’s kind of like that, yeah. And so we stay on this little, hamster wheel. Because we don’t recognize it. The solution is in the emotion. Dr. Deb Muth 20:15So how do people stay in the feeling instead of letting their mind escape to the grocery list, the kid’s to-do list, dot dot dot dot dot? How do we stay in that emotion long enough to kind of work through it? Kelly McCann 20:30It’s a good question. I think… Having the awareness that that’s what you need to do. is the first step, right? Is to really say, okay, I’m gonna, like, put my mind outside of the door, say I’ll be back in 20 minutes, and then really just give yourself the permission to stay with whatever emotion that’s coming up. And it’s practice. It is a lot of practice. This is not… it’s very, very simple. It is not easy for the vast majority of people, and especially if we’re really patterned. So, I actually started an online program to help people learn how to do this. Because it is… not easy. Dr. Deb Muth 21:16If it was easy, we wouldn’t have so many problems, right? We would just move on and keep going, but that’s where we got ourselves into a lot of trouble, is we just recognize, acknowledge, move on, and say, okay, I’m out of it, good, let’s go, next thing, next thing. Kelly McCann 21:32Yeah, which doesn’t work. Like, oh, I dealt with that. I, you know, talked to my parents before they passed, and we came to an understanding. Like, that’s not the same thing as feeling your feelings, because that 10-year-old, that 5-year-old who felt abandoned, or felt… Abused, or whatever it is that you’re feeling, they’re still in there. The adult you made this agreement with your parents that you’re gonna be okay, right? But that kid you still is upset. So…I think the first… the first thing is recognizing that emotions and thoughts are very different, and to learn the difference. So if I say, I feel like blah blah blah blah blah, that’s not a feeling, that’s a thought. Dr. Deb Muth 22:26Hmm. Kelly McCann 22:27Right? I feel like, this. I’m in… I feel embarrassed. No, that’s the thought. Dr. Deb Muth 22:34That’s not… Kelly McCann 22:35the actual feeling. Feelings are really often located in the emotions. They’re very simple. I’m afraid. I’m sad. I feel terror. I’m angry. I’m enraged. Those are feelings. I… I am mad that blah blah blah blah blah. You know, we don’t necessarily have to know why we feel the feelings. Eventually, we will understand where they’re coming from. But it’s actually just feeling the feelings, and then… oh, I love this one, too. It’s like, well, I’ve forgiven them. I’ve forgiven them for, you know, what they did to me. That’s here. Yeah. If you’ve really forgiven them. it comes from here, and it comes after the feelings. So, we still have to feel our feelings if we’re angry or upset about something, if we’re sad about something, we have to feel them first, and then the beauty is in what’s underneath the emotions. It’s quiet, it’s calm, it’s soft, it’s connected to who you really are. And at that point, then you have a much broader worldview and understanding of things, and you can have compassion for yourself. You can have compassion for other people and their choices. And when I… when it’s… when it’s held in that space, it’s… it’s such a different experience. Yeah. Dr. Deb Muth 24:18Do you think people can have compassion for others if they don’t deal with their own things? Kelly McCann 24:24It’s, again, it’s… it’s from the head, right? Dr. Deb Muth 24:28Not from the heart. Kelly McCann 24:29It’s not from the heart. It’s not from the heart. And it’s a good try, but it’s, like, a carbon copy of the real thing. It’s not really the thing. Dr. Deb Muth 24:39Hmm. What happens if people walk around thinking that they have all this, you know, great compassion and love for the world,but it is truly just coming from the head and not the heart? Kelly McCann 24:54Then, you know, they’re kind of circling and circling, and they’ll find that the thoughts and the beliefs and the things that cause them to be upset will still be there. Right? There’s a… I mean, I have to admit, I don’t really watch the news, because it is upsetting, right? Dr. Deb Muth 25:14I am. Kelly McCann 25:15And I have a number of patients who are very, very distraught about the state of the world.That’s… not seeing the bigger picture. It’s coming from here. Rather than here. And this is a really hard thing for people to grasp. But when we are triggered, By something outside of ourselves. That is because that upset exists inside of ourselves. So, for example, if I call you stupid, Deb, and there’s no part of you believes that you are stupid, it will bounce off you. You know, like you’re a rubber ball, right? Because it’s not true. It doesn’t resonate anywhere in you, so you can’t possibly be triggered by that.But if I say to you something that, you find hurtful, it’s not because of what I’ve said. It’s because that hurt, that upset, is still alive in you. And that… Opportunity, then, Is there for you to say, hmm… Clearly, there’s something inside of me that needs some attention about this.we’ve… we don’t really think about life that way. Right. We think… That person made me mad. Nobody makes you mad. It’s you. That inside of you. Right? I was talking on the phone last night with one of my colleagues whose daughter is in the hospital, and she’s been in the hospital in, like, the best Children’s Hospital, in Chicago for 2 months. Two months with gastrointestinal issues. And… They haven’t done a CT scan yet. Dr. Deb Muth 27:24What? Kelly McCann 27:25I know. I was talking with another, physician colleague of… colleague of mine last night, or this morning, at the time. How… that should have been done in the ER! Dr. Deb Muth 27:38Yeah! Kelly McCann 27:39At least… At least, or maybe the first day of the hospitalization, they didn’t do an endoscopy until Last week. 7 weeks in the hospital with an NJ tube. Dr. Deb Muth 27:53Oh my god. Kelly McCann 27:54Tube feeds. like, what is wrong with these people, right? So, I was so mad on her behalf. And of course, what I realized, too, is then, okay, well, there’s stuff inside of me, like, I have really… I have some stuff about… what is expected of other people in the world, what is expected of other physicians in the world. Like, these are the worst physicians on the planet. They clearly don’t care. They should all be fired. But there’s stuff in me that is really being triggered by this, that I have… I have work to do about. And I still think it’s wrong. Dr. Deb Muth 28:36I had that same experience last week. I had a pharmacist tell my patient they didn’t need a prescription that I had ordered, because she… didn’t fill it frequently enough because she was using it differently than what we wrote it, which so many of our patients do. It’s a hormone, it’s not a big deal, right? Kelly McCann 28:53Yeah, right. Dr. Deb Muth 28:54And… and he said to her, well, I don’t think you need this anymore. Yes. Kelly McCann 29:00choice. Dr. Deb Muth 29:01Right, and that’s what I said, I’m like… I said, who the F is he? To tell you that he thinks you need this or not? He doesn’t know you, he doesn’t know your labs, he hasn’t been taking care of you for 20 years. I have, and you’ve clearly been using it. And so I called the pharmacy, and the conversation went a little differently on his side, of course, than what the patient explained to me, but I had to sit back, too, and I looked at that, and I was like, why was I so angry that he said this to her? And I understand, it was, you know, he was undermining my authority, my knowledge base, and I knew that right away, but I was still so triggered by it, and… and she was just kind of like. Yeah, I was really surprised he said that, but I figured he knew more than me, and I’m like, so I was coming to see you, I would just tell you, and you would tell me if it was right or wrong, and I’m like. okay, that was a good way to take it, but boy, that instantly triggered for me. But again, I recognized exactly why I was triggered with that, and had to calm down a little bit and all of that, but… I think there’s a lot of that that happens. And, you know, when you work hard to know what you know, and I work hard, and we see other people doing not even the basics, it’s kind of like, what is wrong with the world? Kelly McCann 30:18Yes, yeah, yeah, yeah, and there’s stuff there, right? So why is it that I worked so hard to become the best doctor that I could? Because I didn’t feel adequate. And so, when somebody else shows up as inadequate, or I perceive them to be inadequate, that triggers that… my own inadequacy, right? Especially since it was a man, so there’s a man under my your authority. Yeah, that would just really get to me. Yeah, so there’s something around that, so I know that, you know, for me, that might be where I explore it, but yeah, it’s, Life is a journey. Dr. Deb Muth 31:00Yeah, it really is. And I think, too, from a practitioner standpoint, like, we take so many of our patients home with us, like, it’s our job to be the medical detective, figure them out.Help them find the answers, make them feel better. And not that we do it from an eco perspective, because I think most practitioners don’t. They truly do it because they care and they want to make people better, and we have this knowledge and this expertise that other people don’t have. But, boy, it gets harder and harder and harder when you get more and more chronically ill people to help them find the answers and help them be well, especially if they don’t deal with their own house, right? We don’t… if they don’t deal with their house, it’s hard for us to come in and say, let me help you deal with your house. Right. So, how does that fit into some of this? Kelly McCann 31:51You know, that’s a really good question. I had to learn that over time to be able to use my own intuition to say, how much is this person willing to do? And really evaluate their… their willingness to change, their willingness to do the hard work. And… And I… and I had to hone my intuition in order to do that, and now I see… I will see there are people that… they’re happy. in their little merry-go-round, in their whack-a-mole game. And I will do my best, and I will kind of, you know, nudge where I think it’s appropriate, but when they push back, I gotta let that go. I gotta let that go, and recognize that it’s their journey, it’s their life, and I can’t be more attached to their healing than they are. Dr. Deb Muth 32:49That’s what I’ve done, too. That’s what I tell my practitioners, my young practitioners that come in by me, too. I say the same thing. Like, I have some that are really young, and we’re all green, right? And we want to just fix the world, and I’ve got so much I can give you, and so much you can do, and then when they don’t do it, you’re like. what did I do wrong that they’re not doing it? And I have to go back and tell them the same thing. This is their journey, not yours. You’re just here to give knowledge and hold space. And they get to pick and choose what they want to do, and if it’s not exactly what we want them to do, that’s okay, it’s their journey. And every time… and I laugh because I always see my younger self in them, too, but why don’t they want to do it? This is gonna make them so much better! We have this tool! And it’s like… they’re not ready yet. It’s okay for them not to be ready yet. We have to be okay with the fact that they’re not ready yet. And I think as a provider and a practitioner, that is one of the hardest things to do, is to sit back and go, okay, you’re just not ready yet. When you’re ready, we’ll be here to hold you and hold space. But right now, you’re not there, it’s okay. Kelly McCann 33:52Yeah, it is okay. Yeah, actually, one of the women that I mentioned earlier, earlier in the podcast, it took her 18 months to get to the point where I felt like she was ready, and it was one of those things, like. You’re ready! I got so excited, and that’s exactly what I said to her. I was like, okay, here, I want you to read this book. Dr. Deb Muth 34:14And he was. Kelly McCann 34:14finally ready, and I gave her the book called How to Heal Yourself When No One Else Can by Amy B. Share, which is just so awesome. And she took that book, and she was like, I am going to do this. And she wrote out journals and journals and journals, and… did lists, and then she would clear them, and then she would clear them. She got so much better, and then it was, like. Biofield tuning, and she did, Gupta, and Amya Piggin’s work, and, you know, so many other things. And then she was doing really well, 80% better, eating all sorts of foods, and there was still this little, like. Mmm, something’s still missing. Something’s still missing. Not quite where I want to be. I still have some mood issues. And then she came and joined my Unforgetting Project program. And that was the missing piece for her. This… whole thing that we’re talking about, like, just feeling the feelings was really her missing piece, because she was clearing, you know, with using EFT, but it wasn’t working anymore, because she actually was bypassing feeling her feelings. Dr. Deb Muth 35:38Hmm. Kelly McCann 35:39So I, you know, these programs, the nervous system programs, the limbic system programs, they are fantastic, and they’re super, super helpful. And then there comes a point in time where we have to shift gears, and we have to go deeper. But it… all of those programs get people, if they’re willing to put in the time and effort, get people to the place where, like, okay, now I gotta go in. Even deeper. Yeah. Dr. Deb Muth 36:07And that can be scary for people. That can be really frightening. I did a 10-day women’s retreat in Spain, with a priestess program, and I had no clue what I was doing. I was going to my first women’s retreat in Spain, no clue, but I had to do. Kelly McCann 36:23It sounds fantastic. Dr. Deb Muth 36:25Fantastic, right? And and when I got there, it was a lot of shamanic work, deep work, and, as we’re all… there’s, like, 30 of us women going through, and all different ages, going through things. And reliving our past as a child, and reliving all these different pieces of us as women that we’ve left behind someplace else. We’ve lost. And, And just sitting in… I still remember it to this day, you know, the crying, the sobbing, the anger, the screaming, the stomping. the silence. Like, everybody had a different way of dealing with those emotions coming out, and we had to be silent from, 10 at night till 10 in the morning. You couldn’t say anything to anybody. And, and that was a little challenging for a lot of us. But it gave you that time that after you went through one of these processes. you could process. You could just sit with those feelings, sit with what came up for you, journal. And it was a really incredible time to watch a lot of women just blossom into a new version of themselves, you know? Their old version, but a new version. A healed version of themselves, in a lot of ways, yeah. Kelly McCann 37:45So what… in the languaging that I’ve come up with, it’s the, unforgetting, right? So it’s actually the remembered self, because we have let go of the things that caused us to forget. So we have unforgotten who we really are, because As you’re right, it’s… it is not new, it’s just remembered, or unforgotten. Dr. Deb Muth 38:12Yeah. Yeah. That’s really awesome. For somebody that’s listening to us have this conversation, and they’re kind of thinking, this all sounds great, but I have no clue where to start with something like this, what kind of recommendations would you give to them? Kelly McCann 38:29Well, I actually have an online program. And… it’s, it’s a 9-week online program, and…What you’re doing in community is learning how to Feel your feelings, and how to understand them, and different access points in to them, and doing it in a community, which is terrifying for some people when they start, but at the same time, it is the most loving container Because these people are also on their complex chronic illness healing journey. And they have chosen themselves, and chosen to show up, and chosen to show up for 9 weeks, which is a long time, but it’s also this beautiful, sacred time. And, half of the class is lecture, sharing, and then half of the class we spend in trios. Which means, my staff divvy up people into groups of three, and then there… each trio goes through a process. They all do the same process.And you do it 3 times, so you have a chance to be, a different role in each iteration that you go through. So one role is the explorer. Those are the people who are actually just feeling the feelings. And exploring what’s going on inside of them. One person is what we call the companion, they’re kind of like the… the, not really the guide or the therapist, but they’re just holding space with them, maybe giving some prompts to help them work through the process. And there’s a handout that works through the process, and then there’s the third person whom is the anchor. And the anchor is holding that loving battery. And it just sets up this…situation where you’re held in such an embrace that you’re able to express your feelings. And one of the things I learned early on was that vulnerability leads to intimacy. And so, when you’re vulnerable with somebody else, they feel… closer to you, and they feel more capable of being vulnerable with you, because you’ve trusted them, right? So, it builds this level of vulnerability, intimacy, and trust in the community, and then each time you do your trio with somebody, with new people, often. Dr. Deb Muth 41:16time. Kelly McCann 41:17And it’s a really, really special program where you’re practicing this, and you’re doing homework, so you take the things that you learned from the class, and then you go home and you practice it with yourself. So that’s what I have come up with to help people start to really learn how to do this. And then it’s gonna grow from there. So I have a foundational class right now. We’re on… we just started our second cohort, And then eventually there will be a second-tier class, and workshops, and the other thing that I’m doing is one-on-one, trainings with… what one-on-one… I call them unforgetting journeys with people. So, you know how you go to a therapist, and you’re in the middle of a story, in the middle of sobbing, and they’re like, oh, well, that’s 50 minutes, it’s Here’s your tissue, we’ll see you next week. Dr. Deb Muth 42:12Yes. Kelly McCann 42:13Yeah, so painful. Dr. Deb Muth 42:16Oh, bad. Kelly McCann 42:16So painful, and I understand, like, we have the same thing, too, as physicians, like, oh, I’m so sorry, your time is up, I gotta go, I have more patients waiting. The unforgetting journey, I don’t have a clock. Dr. Deb Muth 42:29Mmm. Kelly McCann 42:30It’s… we go until you feel complete. And for most people, it’s two and a half, three hours. Dr. Deb Muth 42:37Wow. Kelly McCann 42:37To really process through the emotions that are coming up. Dr. Deb Muth 42:43to get… Kelly McCann 42:43To the point where you’re… they feel… Okay. I feel… I feel complete for today. Dr. Deb Muth 42:52For now. Kelly McCann 42:53For now. Dr. Deb Muth 42:54So the next layer, kind of. shows itself, right? Yeah. Kelly McCann 42:59Yeah, yeah. And for now, the Unforgetting Journeys are for people who have gone through the program, or are in the program, because you really need to… you have to have the skills. Dr. Deb Muth 43:11So, if somebody’s interested in your online program, how do they get in touch with you? Kelly McCann 43:17The website is unforgettingproject.com. And you can sign up right there. The next cohort will start May 20th. It’ll be a Wednesday evening. From 4.30 to 6.30 Pacific time, so I tried to make it so as many people on both sides of the continent could make it. I know it’s a little late for East Coast, but, yeah. And then, you know, every month or two, we’ll start a new cohort, so if you’re interested, and if those… that time doesn’t work for you. You know, I did Fridays initially, I’m doing Mondays, this iteration. We’ll try, other dates and times for people, and try and get a few more dates, on the calendar, so that people have some options. But yeah, that would be my suggestion. You can sign up for our email list, and we’ll be sure to let you know all the happenings at the Unforgetting Project. Dr. Deb Muth 44:17That’s awesome. And for those of you who might be driving or didn’t catch that, we will have it in the show notes as well, so that you can jot it down, check it out, if it sounds like it’s something that really resonates with you. Dr. Kelly, thank you so much for your time tonight. Is there any last words you want to leave with our listeners? Kelly McCann 44:35Of course, of course. There’s always hope. And that hope that burns inside you, that…There is a different life… a different life waiting for you. That is your spirit. That is your soul. Talking to you, and spurring you on. And my encouragement is to really listen to that. Because then you will find your way to people like Dr. Deb, and other practitioners who have heart, who have the tools and the capacity to help you on the physical world journey, and then… You know, my other encouragement would be, really listen to your body. Consider the possibility with curiosity that it is on your side. And if it’s on your side, and it’s talking to you and communicating to you, what might it be saying that it needs from you? Dr. Deb Muth 45:43I love that, that’s awesome. Thank you so much for your time today. Kelly McCann 45:47You’re welcome, my pleasure. I’m so happy to speak with you and to talk with your, audience. I think it’s wonderful. Dr. Deb Muth 45:54Thank you. Boom. Wow, what an episode we just had with Dr. Kelly McCann. This is incredible. It’s a completely different way for us to think about chronic illness, and think about what our body’s actually going through, and how we can repair it from a different aspect. So, thank you for joining me today on Let’s Talk Wellness Now. If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who’s been searching for answers and hasn’t found them yet. And if you’re enjoying our episodes of Let’s Talk Wellness now, we would love to ask the biggest favor you could do for us, which is like and subscribe and share. It goes a long way for us getting our podcasts and our episodes out into the hands of so many people Who need to hear these messages. So, if you’re feeling inclined to do that, we would love that, that affirmation from you guys. So, remember, wellness isn’t just about feeling good, it’s about thriving in every area of your life. If you’re ready to explore the root cause medicine. We can help you. Visit serenityHealthCarecenter.com or Dr. Kelly McCann, and until next time, I’m Dr. Deb, reminding you to take care of your body, mind, and spirit. Be well, and we will see you on the next episode. The post Episode 270 – Chronic Symptoms Are a Hidden Message: How to Listen and Finally Heal | Dr. Kelly McCann first appeared on Let's Talk Wellness Now.
What if the anxiety, overthinking, people pleasing, emotional shutdown, hypervigilance, burnout, and relationship struggles you experience today… were never actually "you" to begin with? In this deeply personal and profoundly eye-opening solo episode, Darin Olien dives into the hidden nervous system programming formed between the ages of 0 and 8 that silently shapes our adult lives. Drawing from neuroscience, trauma research, attachment theory, epigenetics, somatic healing, and his own emotional breakthroughs, Darin explores how childhood experiences become subconscious operating systems that influence everything from relationships and stress responses to chronic disease and self-worth. This episode is a powerful roadmap toward healing. Darin breaks down the science behind trauma, the ACE study, nervous system dysregulation, emotional patterning, and neuroplasticity, while also sharing practical tools like somatic experiencing, expressive writing, EMDR, and Internal Family Systems to help listeners begin rewiring their emotional lives from the inside out. What You'll Learn How childhood experiences program the nervous system Why most adult emotional reactions are subconscious survival patterns The connection between trauma, stress hormones, and chronic disease How the nervous system stores emotional experiences in the body Why people pleasing, hypervigilance, burnout, and emotional shutdown develop The science behind neuroplasticity and rewiring the brain What the ACE Study revealed about childhood trauma and adult health How trauma impacts the amygdala, hippocampus, and stress-response systems Why emotional patterns are adaptations, not character flaws How epigenetics can pass trauma responses across generations The role of somatic experiencing in trauma healing Practical tools for emotional regulation and nervous system repair Chapters 00:00:03 – Welcome to SuperLife 00:00:32 – Sponsor: Bite Toothpaste and eliminating toxic plastic exposure 00:02:47 – Darin introduces emotional reactions and nervous system triggers 00:03:15 – A personal story about reacting vs responding in conflict 00:03:50 – Emotional shutdowns, rage, withdrawal, people pleasing, and overcorrection 00:04:19 – Darin's physical pain journey and emotional discoveries in 2025 00:04:42 – Birth trauma, childhood conditioning, and nervous system programming 00:05:04 – Why the ages of 0–8 are the most neurologically influential years 00:05:18 – Theta and delta brainwave states during childhood 00:05:55 – How children absorb emotional patterns without filters 00:06:22 – Childhood experiences becoming subconscious operating systems 00:06:44 – Adults unknowingly living through a 5-year-old nervous system 00:07:12 – Why this episode became deeply personal for Darin 00:07:35 – The neuroscience behind stress responses and emotional conditioning 00:08:17 – Brain development, neuroplasticity, and subconscious programming 00:09:13 – How the HPA axis, amygdala, and prefrontal cortex are shaped early in life 00:09:45 – Core childhood questions that program the nervous system 00:10:29 – Why adult stress responses originate in childhood environments 00:11:05 – Research showing childhood adversity alters brain structure and chemistry 00:11:18 – The ACE Study explained 00:11:49 – Why patients losing weight became emotionally overwhelmed 00:12:18 – The ten categories of adverse childhood experiences 00:13:02 – "The health crisis of America begins in childhood" 00:13:36 – How adverse childhood experiences increase disease risk 00:14:03 – Suicide, alcoholism, autoimmune disease, depression, and trauma correlations 00:14:37 – Chronic disease as a nervous system issue 00:15:04 – Survival mode, inflammation, hormonal dysregulation, and emotional scarcity 00:15:42 – Self-sabotage and emotional coping patterns explained 00:16:02 – Why your emotional patterns are not character flaws 00:16:22 – Childhood survival adaptations and nervous system intelligence 00:16:52 – Hypervigilance, people pleasing, rage, emotional shutdown, and fear 00:17:05 – Sponsor: Manna Vitality and frequency-based wellness 00:18:59 – Epigenetics and inherited trauma responses 00:19:22 – Cortisol regulation genes and hyperactive stress responses 00:19:51 – Holocaust survivors, inherited trauma, and generational nervous systems 00:20:19 – Why healing requires nervous system awareness—not just intellectual understanding 00:20:45 – "You were never supposed to get over it—you were supposed to heal from it" 00:21:01 – Real-life examples of subconscious nervous system programming 00:21:16 – Why receiving compliments can feel unsafe 00:21:30 – Darin's personal struggle with overachievement and scarcity programming 00:22:03 – Emotional neglect, chronic striving, and feeling "not enough" 00:22:16 – The nervous system roots of burnout and exhaustion 00:22:23 – Hair-trigger emotional reactions and hyperactive amygdala responses 00:22:38 – Chronic self-abandonment and losing personal boundaries 00:22:52 – Fear of intimacy, trust issues, and emotional safety 00:23:02 – "The body keeps the score" explained 00:23:22 – Trauma stored in posture, breath, digestion, immunity, and emotional regulation 00:23:43 – Harvard research on trauma-related brain changes 00:24:19 – The radical power of neuroplasticity and nervous system rewiring 00:24:48 – Why healing requires conscious participation 00:25:01 – Darin shares how healing changed decades of emotional pain 00:25:33 – Somatic Experiencing and Peter Levine's trauma work 00:25:57 – How animals discharge stress naturally 00:26:23 – Trauma as incomplete physiological responses frozen in the body 00:26:42 – Why humans suppress emotional discharge 00:27:16 – PTSD research and the effectiveness of somatic experiencing 00:27:41 – A step-by-step somatic grounding practice 00:28:14 – Why healing is more powerful with a regulated person beside you 00:28:38 – EMDR and reprocessing traumatic experiences 00:28:55 – Internal Family Systems and the "parts" inside the psyche 00:29:13 – Inner critics, overachievers, and nervous system adaptations 00:29:39 – Compassionately listening to emotional parts instead of suppressing them 00:29:51 – Expressive writing as a trauma healing practice 00:30:22 – The neuroscience behind emotional journaling 00:30:48 – A four-day expressive writing protocol for healing 00:31:05 – "You are not broken" 00:31:16 – Reprogramming the nervous system through love and safety 00:31:37 – Why deep healing happens in the presence of another regulated person 00:31:52 – Darin considers creating a future healing workshop 00:32:04 – Final reflections: "You are not what happened to you" 00:32:12 – Peace. 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