Podcasts about licensed marriage

Whitney answers two listener questions this week: one from a woman who's been cut off by her parents because of her marriage and another from a woman who found her family badmouthing her, her marriage, and her parenting in a separate family group text.Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Content warning: This episode contains descriptions of domestic violence, violence against women, and past abuse.Whitney talks with Dr. Shefali Tsabary, author of the twin books Raising Conscious Sons and Raising Conscious Daughters, about what boys and girls each need to thrive right now in our current society. The through-line: you can't hand your child a self you haven't worked on, and it is never too late to start.Connect with Dr. Shefali Tsabary Website: https://www.drshefali.com/Raising Conscious Sons: www.drshefali.com/raisingconscious-daughters-sons/Raising Conscious Daughters: www.drshefali.com/raisingconscious-daughters-sons/Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You already know what Bill does. This episode is about what's underneath it: the stories he tells himself, the things he keeps quiet, and the beliefs he never chose. You'll learn what a cognitive adaptation is, how the same mental habit sounds completely different depending on the state you're in, why humans isolate and keep secrets when animals don't, and how the beliefs handed to you can block the very pulls that would bring you toward safety. It ends with one question for you: how do you keep yourself stuck?A note before you listen: from about 5:42 to 9:52, this episode talks in general terms about abuse, perpetrators, and victim-blaming.

Do you feel lonely in your marriage? Marriage and family therapist, Nikki Harmon, explains how loneliness typically creeps into a partnership not through one big event, but through "a thousand little misses" over time: the bids for connection you were too distracted to notice, the resentment that simmers when you're doing the dishes and he's resting, the arguments about the dishwasher that were never really about the dishwasher. She reframes what most couples think is a communication problem as something deeper—an emotional safety problem—and reveals why the way you try to fix disconnection is often the very thing keeping you stuck. The hopeful truth? It only takes one person to begin to shift a pattern. With a simple three-part framework, this session gives you a real starting place if you've ever thought "I'm carrying everything, including this marriage." FREEBIE for all: The Relationship Reset Workbook   Nikki is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist & Supervisor. She has been seeing clients for over 16 years and specializes in relationships, attachment and trauma. Nikki has worked in a variety of clinical settings including community clinics, an inpatient psychiatric hospital and private practice. She is the owner of The Family Therapy Clinic in American Fork. She's been through her own hard relationships, has struggled through grief, and is working on healing. She distracts herself with her 5 kids and 3 dogs and sometimes with French fries and a good ugly cry. FOLLOW ON IG WEBSITE   OTHER LINKS UPGRADE to the All-Access pass for lifetime access, special bonuses, and a private, ad-free podcast feed PARTICIPATE in the private Facebook group (+vote for your daily favorite speaker) CHECK OUT our Sponsors, who made 7 free days and an affordable All-Access pass possible Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols  In this episode of Feel to Heal, Sharyn introduces The Fifth Agreement by Don Miguel Ruiz and Don Jose Ruiz: Be skeptical, but learn to listen. After exploring The Four Agreements, this episode invites listeners to go one step deeper by questioning the beliefs, stories, and inner voices they have inherited. So many of the thoughts we carry about ourselves were never consciously chosen. They were learned, absorbed, repeated, and eventually mistaken for truth. Sharyn explores how healthy skepticism can help us loosen our grip on old conditioning without becoming cynical or closed off. She also explains why deep listening is essential: listening to ourselves, to others, and to life with curiosity instead of judgment. This episode is a gentle invitation to stop believing every thought, question the stories that limit you, and listen for the truth beneath the noise. 5 Key Takeaways Many beliefs about your worth, needs and identity were absorbed from family, culture and past experiences rather than consciously chosen. Healthy skepticism is not cynical or dismissive; it is a gentle curiosity that asks whether an old story is actually the whole truth. Words, gestures and other symbols are interpreted through personal history, which is why two people can experience the same conversation very differently. Your inner critic may be an outdated recording shaped by people who carried their own fears, wounds and judgments. Healing begins when you create space between yourself and the story by remembering that you do not have to believe everything you think.   Feel To Heal: A Guide to Feeling, Healing, and Living from the Truth of Who You Are    Author Sharyn Nichols   Amazon.com – https://www.amazon.com/dp/1997615312 Amazon.ca – https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1997615312     ~ More About Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols ~  Sharyn Nichols is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Speaker, and Wellness Practitioner with more than 30 years of experience helping individuals create lasting emotional well-being. By combining evidence-based therapy, mindfulness, somatic practices, and Human Design, she empowers clients to regulate their nervous systems, break unhealthy patterns, and cultivate greater self-awareness, resilience, and inner peace. Known for her compassionate, grounded approach, Sharyn creates a safe space for healing, growth, and transformation. She helps clients move beyond stress, emotional overwhelm, and survival mode to build deeper self-trust, healthier relationships, and a life guided by intention rather than reaction. If you're ready to reconnect with your authentic self and experience lasting change, Sharyn will help you discover what's truly possible.    FeelToHeal.com   https://feeltoheal.com/    Email   sharynnichols@feeltoheal.com    YouTube   www.youtube.com/@sharynnicholsFeelToHeal    LinkedIn   www.linkedin.com/in/sharyn-nichols-20526a95/    Instagram   www.instagram.com/feeltohealwithsharyn_    Facebook   www.facebook.com/FeelToHealwithSharyn       TikTok   www.tiktok.com/@sharynnichols   Feel To Heal with Sharyn Nichols: https://www.inspiredchoicesnetwork.com/podcast/feel-to-heal-with-sharyn-nichols/

Whitney answers questions from listeners. The first from a woman who despite living blocks from her aging father can't seem to connect with him. The second question is from a mother planning for the day her estranged mother tries to contact her kids.Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Content warning: This episode contains descriptions of childhood physical and emotional abuse, neglect, and the death of a parent. Psychologist Dr. Sherrie Campbell, creator of the viral TikTok series on "low effort families”, joins Whitney to unpack what it looks like to show up just enough to avoid blame while giving almost nothing that children really need.Connect with Dr. Sherrie Campbell Website: https://drsherriecampbell.comBuy Dr. Campbell's Book: You Are Home: https://drsherriecampbell.com/self-esteem-relationship-counseling-in-yorba-linda/Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles. Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.co Join the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.co Follow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhit Follow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmft Order Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivity Sign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0o This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Wild animals live with danger every day and don't get traumatized. So why do you stay stuck? In this episode, you'll meet Bill, a father, husband, and business owner who can't see what's driving him. You'll also learn the two ways we keep ourselves stuck without noticing: we ignore the body's self-regulation impulses, and we reach for behaviors that let us avoid feeling what's actually there. Part 2 picks up the stories we tell ourselves.Chapters0:00 Why Wild Animals Don't Stay Traumatized0:41 Meet Justin & About This Audiobook1:43 Last Time: Co-Regulation2:02 Why Humans Stay Stuck in Trauma4:10 Meet Bill5:52 Bill, All Grown Up8:25 Ignoring Self-Regulation Impulses10:25 The Impulses Bill Ignores12:26 Behavioral Adaptations Keep You Stuck14:42 Bill's Behavioral Adaptation: Overworking15:15 Next Time: The Stories We Tell Ourselves

Content warning: This episode contains descriptions of emotional abuse, ongoing harassment, and a mention of suicidal ideation.In this Q&A episode, Whitney answers a woman whose parents keep sending guilt-laden texts and showing up uninvited. In the second question, a listener's therapist keeps telling her to decide what she wants from her parents before she feels ready.Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Shirley Dvir, PhD, is the founder and lead teacher of Relational Somatic Healing and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She earned her PhD in Somatic Psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies, where her dissertation explored relational touch in psychotherapy for healing relational developmental trauma. Shirley has practiced psychotherapy since 1997, working with families, children, couples, and individuals, and spent more than 10 years teaching as a Certified Hakomi Teacher. Her training includes attachment, EMDR, Sensorimotor Trauma Therapy, Hakomi, family therapy, Craniosacral Therapy, and Body-Mind Centering.In This EpisodeDr. Shirley Dvir at Relational Somatic HealingRelational Somatic HealingRelational Somatic Healing TrainingsFoundations of RSH: The Art of Healthy RelatingBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-trauma-therapist--5739761/support.---Thank you to our Sponsors: Jane App - use code GUY1MO at https://janesoftware.partnerlinks.io/ngvcwcxqt2jx-4afv8i (https://jane.app/book_a_demo)Beducated - Complete the quiz for one month free https://beduc.at/pd2640-traumatherapist

Content warning: This episode contains descriptions of child abuse and corporal punishment. Stephanie Warren was taught that her parents beating her was proof of their love, because in the fundamentalist Christian world she grew up in, that was what love was allowed to look like. She and Whitney talk through how her parents rationalized the abuse, why she eventually went no contact, and what it took to build a life and an education she was never supposed to have. Connect with Stephanie Warren: https://thestrongwilledchild.substack.com/ Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Your nervous system doesn't just calm down on its own — more often than you realize, it borrows the calm from somebody else. This episode covers co-regulation: the specific cues your body sends and reads without you ever thinking about it, eye contact, tone of voice, the tilt of a head, what it means if you don't have a self-regulated person in every part of your life, and what actually happened, biologically, in the room with Maria before her hands ever moved.

Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols  In this episode of Feel to Heal, Sharyn continues the Fourth Agreement from Don Miguel Ruiz's The Four Agreements: Always Do Your Best. This episode explores why the Fourth Agreement is the one that makes the first three agreements sustainable. Without compassion, “Be impeccable with your word,” “Don't take anything personally,” and “Don't make assumptions” can become another way to judge ourselves. Listeners are invited to practice growth without punishment, accountability without shame, and reflection without self-attack. This episode reminds us that healing is not about doing the agreements perfectly. It is about noticing, returning, and doing our honest best. 5 Key Takeaways The Fourth Agreement holds the other three together. “Always do your best” makes the other agreements sustainable without turning them into another reason to punish yourself. Doing your best means practicing imperfectly. You will sometimes say the wrong thing, take something personally, make assumptions, react from old wounds, or fall back into old patterns. There is a difference between reflection and punishment. Reflection asks what you can learn, repair, or support differently; punishment turns the experience into something wrong with you. Progress does not mean you never repeat an old pattern. Progress can mean noticing sooner, repairing faster, pausing before reacting, asking instead of assuming, or coming back to yourself more quickly. Doing your best is responsibility without shame. It includes apologizing, listening, repairing, getting support, and changing patterns without using mistakes as a reason to destroy yourself. Feel To Heal: A Guide to Feeling, Healing, and Living from the Truth of Who You Are    Author Sharyn Nichols   Amazon.com – https://www.amazon.com/dp/1997615312 Amazon.ca – https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1997615312     ~ More About Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols ~  Sharyn Nichols is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Speaker, and Wellness Practitioner with more than 30 years of experience helping individuals create lasting emotional well-being. By combining evidence-based therapy, mindfulness, somatic practices, and Human Design, she empowers clients to regulate their nervous systems, break unhealthy patterns, and cultivate greater self-awareness, resilience, and inner peace. Known for her compassionate, grounded approach, Sharyn creates a safe space for healing, growth, and transformation. She helps clients move beyond stress, emotional overwhelm, and survival mode to build deeper self-trust, healthier relationships, and a life guided by intention rather than reaction. If you're ready to reconnect with your authentic self and experience lasting change, Sharyn will help you discover what's truly possible.    FeelToHeal.com   https://feeltoheal.com/    Email   sharynnichols@feeltoheal.com    YouTube   www.youtube.com/@sharynnicholsFeelToHeal    LinkedIn   www.linkedin.com/in/sharyn-nichols-20526a95/    Instagram   www.instagram.com/feeltohealwithsharyn_    Facebook   www.facebook.com/FeelToHealwithSharyn       TikTok   www.tiktok.com/@sharynnichols   Fell To Heal with Sharyn Nichols: https://www.inspiredchoicesnetwork.com/podcast/feel-to-heal-with-sharyn-nichols/

Kimberley Quinlan, a returning guest, is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) who specializes in anxiety disorders and OCD and the host of the Your Anxiety Toolkit podcast. She and Paul discuss moving through anxiety, the benefits of exposure therapy, and then share a good old-fashioned fears & loves swap. More about Kimberley:https://kimberleyquinlan-lmft.com/Check out her Your Anxiety Toolkit podcast https://kimberleyquinlan-lmft.com/category/podcast/IG https://www.instagram.com/youranxietytoolkit/FB https://www.facebook.com/KimberleyQuinlanCBTschool?ref=aymt_homepage_panel#This episode is sponsored Quince. Go to www.Quince.com/mental for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too.This episode is sponsored by Alma. Search their directory of over 20,000 therapists with different specialities, life experiences, and identities, and 99% of them take insurance. Go to www.HelloAlma.com/happyhourThis episode is sponsored by Timeline. Timeline's clinically proven formula is now available at a new, lower price . Mitopure now starts at $99, with the exact same science and formula and listeners can still get 20% off when they go to www.timeline.com/MENTALIf you're interested in seeing or buying the furniture that Paul designs and makes follow his IG @ShapedFurniture or visit the website www.shapedfurniture.comWAYS TO HELP THE MIHH PODCASTSubscribe via Apple Podcasts (or whatever player you use). It costs nothing. It's extremely helpful to have your subscription set to download all episodes automatically. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mental-illness-happy-hour/id427377900?mt=2Spread the word via social media. It costs nothing.Our website is www.mentalpod.com our FB is www.Facebook.com/mentalpod and our Twitter and Instagram are both @Mentalpod Become a much-needed Patreon monthly-donor (with occasional rewards) for as little as $1/month at www.Patreon.com/mentalpod Become a one-time or monthly donor via PayPal at https://mentalpod.com/donateYou can also donate via Zelle (make payment to mentalpod@gmail.com) To donate via Venmo make payment to @Mentalpod See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Content warning: This episode contains descriptions of child abuse and domestic violence.In this Q&A episode, answers a question from a woman whose parents responded to her request for space by suing her for access to her children. In the second question, from a man whose mother stayed with an abusive partner and is still with him today. He asks what to make of a parent who chose someone else over her kids.Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Whole Mother welcomes Moni Tang, M.A., Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Texas and Oregon, LMFT Supervisor in Texas, and Certified Perinatal Mental Health Professional (PMH-C) to introduce the Houston Moms Collective and discuss ways parents can set themselves up … Continue reading →

People don't walk into a therapist's office and say they're having a differentiation problem. They say they feel like a different person around their family, or that they have a whole life their parents know nothing about. Whitney walks through what differentiation actually is, and the four very different situations people are in when they can't be themselves around family.In this episode, you'll learn:- What differentiation means in Bowen family systems, and the three ways it commonly goes wrong- The difference between a family that disagrees with you and one that targets who you are- Why going no contact doesn't automatically differentiate you from your familyWhitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sometimes the most useful information in the therapy room isn't in what someone says; it's in their hands. This episode breaks down self-regulation on a nervous system level: the two main ways we do it, top-down (thoughts) and bottom-up (body), why top-down tricks work in the moment but don't solve anything on their own, and a session with a client whose hands were saying something her voice wasn't.

Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols  In this episode of Feel to Heal, Sharyn begins the Fourth Agreement from Don Miguel Ruiz's The Four Agreements: Always Do Your Best. This episode explores what “doing your best” really means, and what it does not mean. Many of us were taught that our best should be the same every day, no matter what we are carrying. But our best changes depending on our energy, health, emotions, grief, responsibilities, and season of life. Listeners are invited to release the harsh version of “doing your best” and replace it with something more honest, compassionate, and sustainable: doing what is truly possible today, no more and no less. 5 Key Takeaways Doing your best does not mean being perfect. It means doing the best you can with what you actually have today—your current energy, responsibilities, nervous system, and capacity. Your best will change from moment to moment. What you can give when healthy, rested, and peaceful may be completely different from what you can give when exhausted, grieving, or struggling. Stop measuring a hard time by an easy time's standard. When life changes, your capacity changes, and that does not automatically mean you are failing. Doing your best does not mean doing the most. Sometimes your best means doing less, choosing sustainability over performance, resting, or honoring your limits. Ask yourself, “What is my honest best today?” Showing up honestly with what you truly have—no more and no less—creates less regret and unnecessary self-judgment. Feel To Heal: A Guide to Feeling, Healing, and Living from the Truth of Who You Are    Author Sharyn Nichols   Amazon.com – https://www.amazon.com/dp/1997615312 Amazon.ca – https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1997615312     ~ More About Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols ~  Sharyn Nichols is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Speaker, and Wellness Practitioner with more than 30 years of experience helping individuals create lasting emotional well-being. By combining evidence-based therapy, mindfulness, somatic practices, and Human Design, she empowers clients to regulate their nervous systems, break unhealthy patterns, and cultivate greater self-awareness, resilience, and inner peace. Known for her compassionate, grounded approach, Sharyn creates a safe space for healing, growth, and transformation. She helps clients move beyond stress, emotional overwhelm, and survival mode to build deeper self-trust, healthier relationships, and a life guided by intention rather than reaction. If you're ready to reconnect with your authentic self and experience lasting change, Sharyn will help you discover what's truly possible.    FeelToHeal.com   https://feeltoheal.com/    Email   sharynnichols@feeltoheal.com    YouTube   www.youtube.com/@sharynnicholsFeelToHeal    LinkedIn   www.linkedin.com/in/sharyn-nichols-20526a95/    Instagram   www.instagram.com/feeltohealwithsharyn_    Facebook   www.facebook.com/FeelToHealwithSharyn       TikTok   www.tiktok.com/@sharynnichols   Fell To Heal with Sharyn Nichols: https://www.inspiredchoicesnetwork.com/podcast/feel-to-heal-with-sharyn-nichols/

In this Q&A episode, Whitney answers two questions from listening asking what their responsibility is to people who aren't going to change. In question one: a stepmom asks how much to intervene with a 19 year old stepson who is getting pulled back into a controlling household. In question two: a woman who seeks advice about parents who give her migraines and stomachaches every time they call.Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Content warning: This episode discusses suicide, postpartum psychosis, and the deaths of children, and includes detailed discussion of the Lindsay Clancy case.The Lindsay Clancy trial revealed a family that was educated, involved, genuinely, and yet still could not see how much danger their family member was in. This is not an episode about what the Clancys did wrong. It's about why people conceal what they're going through even from the people closest to them, and what questions actually work when you're worried about someone you love.In this episode, you'll learn:- The research on which question phrasings actually produce honest disclosure, and which shut it down- What HIPAA does and does not prevent you from telling a family member's provider- How to follow up after the first conversation, and what to observe when the answers don't match what you're seeingResources Whitney recommends:988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline (call or text 988)Postpartum Support International Helpline: 1-800-944-4773Postpartum Support International: https://www.postpartum.netThe Columbia Protocol for families, friends, and neighbors is available free onlineWhitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You can't just decide to calm down, but you can strengthen the thing that makes calming down possible. The vagal brake isn't a body part, it's the influence of your safety state on your heart, and it's what lets you move between mobility and stillness without dropping into full defense. Here's what it actually is, how to start strengthening it even if "feeling safe" is a foreign concept, and the two skills, pendulation and titration, that come out of a strong one.

Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols  In this episode of Feel to Heal, Sharyn concludes the three-part exploration of the Third Agreement from Don Miguel Ruiz's The Four Agreements: Don't Make Assumptions. This episode focuses on the daily practice of living with more clarity, emotional maturity, and tolerance for uncertainty. Sharyn explores how assumptions show up not only in relationships, but also in the way we judge ourselves, predict the future, and interpret our own healing journey. Listeners are guided through practical tools for separating facts from stories, asking direct questions, tolerating not knowing, and replacing fear-based assumptions with grounded truth. This episode is a compassionate reminder that peace often begins when we stop treating our guesses as facts. 5 Key Takeaways The goal is not to never make assumptions. The practice is to notice when you are assuming and choose clarity over fear. Separate what you know from the story you created. Ask yourself what is actually true, then identify what meaning you added on top of it. Ask direct questions instead of filling in the blanks. Clarifying what someone meant can interrupt anxiety, resentment, and the stories your mind creates. Learn to tolerate not knowing. You do not have to fill uncertainty with your worst fear; sometimes the most honest answer is simply, “I do not know yet.” Pause, name it, check, and choose. Notice the assumption, identify what you actually know, decide what you can ask, and then choose whether to wait, clarify, soothe yourself, or speak directly. Feel To Heal: A Guide to Feeling, Healing, and Living from the Truth of Who You Are    Author Sharyn Nichols   Amazon.com – https://www.amazon.com/dp/1997615312 Amazon.ca – https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1997615312     ~ More About Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols ~  Sharyn Nichols is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Speaker, and Wellness Practitioner with more than 30 years of experience helping individuals create lasting emotional well-being. By combining evidence-based therapy, mindfulness, somatic practices, and Human Design, she empowers clients to regulate their nervous systems, break unhealthy patterns, and cultivate greater self-awareness, resilience, and inner peace. Known for her compassionate, grounded approach, Sharyn creates a safe space for healing, growth, and transformation. She helps clients move beyond stress, emotional overwhelm, and survival mode to build deeper self-trust, healthier relationships, and a life guided by intention rather than reaction. If you're ready to reconnect with your authentic self and experience lasting change, Sharyn will help you discover what's truly possible.    FeelToHeal.com   https://feeltoheal.com/    Email   sharynnichols@feeltoheal.com    YouTube   www.youtube.com/@sharynnicholsFeelToHeal    LinkedIn   www.linkedin.com/in/sharyn-nichols-20526a95/    Instagram   www.instagram.com/feeltohealwithsharyn_    Facebook   www.facebook.com/FeelToHealwithSharyn       TikTok   www.tiktok.com/@sharynnichols   Fell To Heal with Sharyn Nichols: https://www.inspiredchoicesnetwork.com/podcast/feel-to-heal-with-sharyn-nichols/

In this Q&A episode, Whitney answers questions about parents who pull back instead of facing accountability. In question one: a father goes silent for a year after his daughter discovers he secretly bought her sister a house. In question two: a mother wants a third family therapy session, after quitting the last two the moment the therapist named something she didn't like. Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles. Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.co Join the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhit Follow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmft Order Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Content warning: This episode contains descriptions of child abuse and references to sexual abuse.Kreed, host of the Estranged Heart Podcast, shares her perspective as both a formerly estranged adult daughter and a formerly estranged mother, now reconciled with her daughters. Kreed and Whitney cover the common mistakes parents make when first reconnecting with children and what their children actually need from them instead.In this episode, you'll learn:- Why reconciliation is an ongoing process, not a one-time repair- Why "defending, justifying, and explaining" backfires with an estranged child- Why rushing contact after reconciliation often causes a relapse into estrangement- Why "what is within your control" matters more than trying to get the other person to changeConnect with CreedWebsite: https://theestrangedheart.com/podcastWhitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Trauma isn't the event. It's what happens afterward, when your nervous system gets stuck defending against something that's already over. This episode breaks down the two distinct paths that lead there: one from a single overwhelming moment, the other from years of disrupted connection, and what separates someone with one specific trigger from someone who's never had access to safety at all.

How often do you take care of yourself? In this episode, I talk with Angelique Foye-Fletcher, LMFT, RPT about breaking the cycle of self-sacrifice and:How your cultural upbringing shapes your identity as an HSPLearning to take care of yourself when you grew up in an environment or culture that didn't have room for your sensitivityWhy simple acts of mindfulness are deeply healing and can change the way you parentAngelique Foye-Fletcher (she/her) is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Registered Play Therapist who helps sensitive, neurodivergent adults and caregivers heal through her four pillars of Books, Nature, Play, and Connection. An INFJ, HSP, and Enneagram 4, Angelique brings curiosity, ritual, and deep empathy into her work—often lighting incense or walking in nature as part of her own healing practice.Keep in touch with Angelique:Website: https://foyefletchertherapy.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/foyefletchertherapyTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@foyefletcherllcResources Mentioned:Parent/Caregiver Support: https://foyefletchertherapy.com/parentcaregiver-support-coachingReconnect + Rejuvenate Support: https://foyefletchertherapy.com/coachingtherapy-packagesFor more deep conversations like this, join me in Sensitive Circles - a cozy online community for highly sensitive people to find meaningful connection and deepen self-awareness at their own pace. More details: https://www.sensitivecircles.com Thanks for listening! You can read the full show notes and sign up for my email list to get new episode announcements and other resources at: https://www.sensitivestories.comYou can also follow "SensitiveStrengths" for behind-the-scenes content plus more educational and inspirational HSP resources: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sensitivestrengths TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sensitivestrengthsYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/@sensitivestrengthsAnd for more support, attend a Sensitive Sessions monthly workshop: https://www.sensitivesessions.com. Use code PODCAST for 25% off. If you have a moment, please rate and review the podcast, it helps Sensitive Stories reach more HSPs! This episode is for educational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment with a mental health or medical professional.  Some links are affiliate links. You are under no obligation to purchase any book, product or service. I am not responsible for the quality or satisfaction of any purchase.  

Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols  In this episode of Feel to Heal, Sharyn continues the Third Agreement from The Four Agreements: Don't Make Assumptions. This episode focuses on how assumptions quietly create conflict in relationships. From assuming we know what someone meant, to assuming others should know what we need, to turning one moment into a fixed story about someone's character, assumptions can create distance, resentment, and misunderstanding. Through relatable examples and therapeutic reflection, this episode invites listeners to practice asking direct, gentle questions instead of reacting to unverified stories. It is a reminder that clarity is often more loving than certainty, and that many relationship conflicts soften when we are brave enough to ask instead of assume. 5 Key Takeaways Assumptions can do serious damage in relationships. Conflict begins when we respond to the meaning we assigned instead of what the other person actually meant. Our wounds can translate neutral words into painful meanings. Pause long enough to separate what was actually said from the story you created about it. People cannot read your mind—even when they love you. Clearly communicating what you need gives the relationship a better chance than hinting, hoping, testing, or expecting. Hidden tests create hidden resentment. Instead of testing whether someone cares, bring your needs into the open and give them the opportunity to respond. Don't treat unverified guesses as confirmed truth. Stay curious and communicate directly while still recognizing genuine patterns, red flags, and repeated behavior. Feel To Heal: A Guide to Feeling, Healing, and Living from the Truth of Who You Are    Author Sharyn Nichols   Amazon.com – https://www.amazon.com/dp/1997615312 Amazon.ca – https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1997615312     ~ More About Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols ~  Sharyn Nichols is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Speaker, and Wellness Practitioner with more than 30 years of experience helping individuals create lasting emotional well-being. By combining evidence-based therapy, mindfulness, somatic practices, and Human Design, she empowers clients to regulate their nervous systems, break unhealthy patterns, and cultivate greater self-awareness, resilience, and inner peace. Known for her compassionate, grounded approach, Sharyn creates a safe space for healing, growth, and transformation. She helps clients move beyond stress, emotional overwhelm, and survival mode to build deeper self-trust, healthier relationships, and a life guided by intention rather than reaction. If you're ready to reconnect with your authentic self and experience lasting change, Sharyn will help you discover what's truly possible.    FeelToHeal.com   https://feeltoheal.com/    Email   sharynnichols@feeltoheal.com    YouTube   www.youtube.com/@sharynnicholsFeelToHeal    LinkedIn   www.linkedin.com/in/sharyn-nichols-20526a95/    Instagram   www.instagram.com/feeltohealwithsharyn_    Facebook   www.facebook.com/FeelToHealwithSharyn       TikTok   www.tiktok.com/@sharynnichols   Fell To Heal with Sharyn Nichols: https://www.inspiredchoicesnetwork.com/podcast/feel-to-heal-with-sharyn-nichols/

In this episode of the Holistic Healers Community Podcast, Crystal sits down with Dr. Zerri Gross - a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Reiki Master, crystal and sound healer, trauma-informed yoga instructor, Goddess Temple Priestess, author, retired veteran, and holistic life coach - for a deeply honest conversation about transformation, burnout, spirituality, and learning to make space for every part of ourselves.Dr. Z shares her journey from the military into the mental health field, the early experiences that challenged her to reflect on her own growth as a therapist, and the gradual shift toward holistic healing that initially began as something she pursued for herself. She opens up about the internal and religious beliefs she had to work through in order to make space for these modalities, as well as the barriers that kept her from believing her trainings and gifts were meant to be shared with others.Eventually, burnout and life's challenges pushed Dr. Z toward opening her own private practice, only to reveal a whole new layer of healing around money, visibility, social expectations, and the narratives we inherit about what we're “supposed” to do. Together, Crystal and Dr. Z explore what happens when the person who has spent years caring for everyone else finally gives herself permission to be cared for, too.Dr. Z also shares about her upcoming Disconnect to Reconnect event at HHC on August 29th, created specifically for the teachers, therapists, healers, and “strong friends” who are so accustomed to being the ones everyone else relies on.And in one of the most memorable parts of the conversation, Dr. Z introduces a powerful reframe for working with the inner child: Instead of making our inner child responsible for healing us, what if we fired them from the role of “healer” and hired them as a consultant? Someone whose experiences, needs, creativity, and wisdom can inform the way we move forward.This episode is an invitation to reconsider what healing, spirituality, success, and self-care can look like when we stop abandoning parts of ourselves in order to become who we think we're supposed to be. Have a listen & don't forget to follow the podcast to stay up to date on episodes! You can also leave feedback on the episode over at HHC's Instagram @holistichealerscommunity or find out more about Dr. Z and how to work with her on her website & IG.IG: @greaterself_dr.zWebsite: www.greaterself.orgMusic credit: Blind Love by TuneTrove

Content warning: This episode contains descriptions of domestic violence, child abuse, and suicidal ideation.In this Q&A episode, Whitney answers questions about families who respond with denial when being called out. In question one: a parent threatens suicide to shut down an argument. In question two: two parents shield each other instead of the kids.Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When we talk about betrayal trauma, the picture most people carry is of a betrayed woman. But men experience betrayal too — and their pain often goes unseen, misread as anger, or dismissed entirely. In this episode, Dr. Laney Knowlton joins us to look honestly at what betrayal trauma looks like for men.We talk about the support gap, look at the cultural messages men carry, and how those make healing challenging.Most importantly, we talk about what actually helps and what genuine healing looks like whether a man chooses to stay or leave. Dr. Laney Knowlton is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Supervisor and clinical sexologist with a PhD in Clinical Sexology. She maintains a private practice, Knowlton Counseling with physical offices in TX and UT and is licensed across more than a dozen states. She specializes in sexual abuse, betrayal, and problematic sexual behavior. Dr. Knowlton is the author of Healing from Betrayal, Infidelity, and Problematic Sexual Behaviors (Routledge, 2025) and the developer of the Connected Recovery® framework. She currently serves as President of the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health (SASH). KnowltonCounseling.com & ConnectedRecoveryTraining.comLaney@KnowltonCounseling.comlinktr.ee/connectedrecoveryFree Handouts Most Recent BookSASH podcast Other Resources in this Episode: Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual AddictionHelping Couples Heal From Infidelity and Find Love AgainThe Intimacy PyramidThe Betrayal ShrinkEnjoyed This Episode?Here are three ways you can support the show:⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave a Review

Rin Reczek spent two decades studying families before she turned her research toward estrangement. What she found in the data took her by complete surprise. In this conversation, the sociologist and author of Families We Lose explains why the estrangement rate probably isn't actually rising, why the language of "honor thy father and mother" shows up even in nonreligious families, and why grandparent estrangement is almost never the selfish, spiteful choice it gets painted as online.In this episode, you'll learn:- What "compulsory kinship" means, and how biology-based language like "step" and "half" quietly signals hierarchy in families- Why religious phrases about honoring parents show up in estrangement stories even among people who aren't religious- Why the data doesn't support the idea that adult children are cutting off grandparents to be controlling or spitefulConnect with Rin ReczekWebsite: www.rinreczek.comBuy Rin's Book: https://amzn.to/4guKWI2Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0o This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Not every survival strategy looks like fighting back or running away. Sometimes it looks like befriending the person who's hurting you.This episode covers the last two mixed states: appease (safety plus flight/fight plus shutdown — all three primary states at once) and fawn (flight/fight plus shutdown, but without safety). What separates a hostage using social skills to stay alive from someone disappearing inside an abusive home. Why both states likely require significant dissociation to survive. And where I personally land on how much weight these two deserve as actual Polyvagal Theory mixed states, versus maybe something else entirely.This is Episode 13 of the Stuck Not Broken audiobook — Book 1, Trauma & the Polyvagal Paradigm; full series in the playlist.

Tyana Tavakol (@uncoveringyoutherapy) is a Licensed Marriage and Family therapist and trauma specialist with a virtual practice where she sees clients across California and Florida, along with her two cats who pop in and out of the camera. She is passionate about helping people process and heal from past traumas, so they can start to uncover the awesome and amazing self they are.   We discuss what trauma is, how it effects you and what can you do about it; to either process what's happened or limit the impact it has on your future. You can find out more about Tyana over at https://www.uncovering-you.com     Join the FREE Facebook group for The Michael Brian Show at https://www.facebook.com/groups/themichaelbrianshow   Follow Mike on Facebook Instagram & X  

Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols  In this episode of Feel to Heal, Sharyn begins the Third Agreement from Don Miguel Ruiz's The Four Agreements: Don't Make Assumptions. This episode explores why the mind creates stories when there is missing information, especially in moments of silence, uncertainty, or emotional vulnerability. Whether it is an unanswered text, a change in someone's tone, or a look we interpret as rejection, assumptions can quickly turn uncertainty into suffering. Listeners are invited to notice the difference between what actually happened and the story they built on top of it. This episode offers a compassionate look at why we assume, how assumptions connect to old wounds, and how healing begins when we learn to pause before believing every story our mind creates. 5 Key Takeaways Assumptions turn missing information into stories. We often react as though those stories are facts, even when the original situation may be simple. The mind assumes because it wants certainty and safety. It fills gaps using past fears, old wounds, and expectations. Pause between the trigger and the story. Ask what you actually know, what you are guessing, and what else could be true. Assumptions can become self-fulfilling prophecies. A defensive reaction to an unverified belief can create the very conflict you feared. Separate facts from assumptions. You do not need to punish yourself with worst-case guesses or treat fear as fact. Feel To Heal: A Guide to Feeling, Healing, and Living from the Truth of Who You Are    Author Sharyn Nichols   Amazon.com – https://www.amazon.com/dp/1997615312 Amazon.ca – https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1997615312     ~ More About Feel to Heal with Sharyn Nichols ~  Sharyn Nichols is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Speaker, and Wellness Practitioner with more than 30 years of experience helping individuals create lasting emotional well-being. By combining evidence-based therapy, mindfulness, somatic practices, and Human Design, she empowers clients to regulate their nervous systems, break unhealthy patterns, and cultivate greater self-awareness, resilience, and inner peace. Known for her compassionate, grounded approach, Sharyn creates a safe space for healing, growth, and transformation. She helps clients move beyond stress, emotional overwhelm, and survival mode to build deeper self-trust, healthier relationships, and a life guided by intention rather than reaction. If you're ready to reconnect with your authentic self and experience lasting change, Sharyn will help you discover what's truly possible.    FeelToHeal.com   https://feeltoheal.com/    Email   sharynnichols@feeltoheal.com    YouTube   www.youtube.com/@sharynnicholsFeelToHeal    LinkedIn   www.linkedin.com/in/sharyn-nichols-20526a95/    Instagram   www.instagram.com/feeltohealwithsharyn_    Facebook   www.facebook.com/FeelToHealwithSharyn       TikTok   www.tiktok.com/@sharynnichols   Fell To Heal with Sharyn Nichols: https://www.inspiredchoicesnetwork.com/podcast/feel-to-heal-with-sharyn-nichols/

Content warning: This episode contains descriptions of self-harm, physical and emotional abuse, and a parent expressing suicidal ideation.We spend a lot of time talking about the person who decides to go no contact, and much less about everyone else who ends up living with that decision. In this Q&A episode, Whitney answers a woman in her 30s who inherited and is now dealing with the consequences of her mother's estrangement from her side of the family. Second, a listener six months no contact with an abusive mother, asking the question: who is responsible for her now?In this episode, you'll learn:- How to build your own relationships without betraying a parent's decision to go no contact- Scripts for handling the question "how's your mom?" without becoming the family messenger- How to separate compassion from obligation with a parent in crisisWhitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Kristen talks with Amber Trejo, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in complex trauma and CPTSD, about how complex childhood trauma can resurface in adult relationships and parenting, shaping attachment, emotional responses, and the healing journey. You'll Learn: How childhood trauma can shape adult relationships and attachment Why trauma responses can resurface when you get married or become a parent What spiritual bypassing is and how it can interfere with healing How reconnecting with your body and internal needs can support healing Why self-compassion, community, and repair are important in breaking the cycle of trauma Connect with Amber: www.theintegrativetraumatherapist.com When you purchase Amber Trejo's recommended books through these Amazon affiliate links, you're helping support the podcast at no extra cost to you:    1. What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma: https://amzn.to/4groOgh 2. Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving: A Guide and Map for Recovering from Childhood Trauma: https://amzn.to/3I0jpjB 3. The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma: https://amzn.to/47GBu0r 4. Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma: https://amzn.to/47KHB3V   Subscribe HERE and get a free 5-day journal to begin closing the chapter on what doesn't serve you and open the door to the real you. Connect with Kristen: Get Kristen's newsletter, packed with tangible tools, resources, and inspiration Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Kristen on Instagram   Kristen's TikTok   Have Kristen Speak at Your Event  Disclaimer This information is being provided to you for educational and informational purposes only. It is being provided to you to educate you about ideas on stress management and as a self-help tool for your own use. It is not psychotherapy/counseling in any form. This information is to be used at your own risk based on your own judgment. For counseling services near Indianapolis, IN, visit www.pathwaystohealingcounseling.com. Pathways to Healing Counseling's vision is to provide warm, caring, compassionate and life-changing counseling services and educational programs to individuals, couples and families in order to create learning, healing and growth.    

— Why do we keep repeating the same painful relationship patterns, even when we desperately want things to be different? Why do some people fear abandonment, while others pull away when relationships become too close? And how much of our ability to love, trust, and feel emotionally safe is shaped by the experiences we had long before we entered our first romantic relationship? Attachment theory suggests that our earliest relationships create a blueprint for how we connect with others throughout life. These unconscious patterns can influence everything from our communication style and conflict resolution to our sense of self-worth, emotional security, and capacity for intimacy. The encouraging news is that these patterns are not fixed. With awareness, compassion, and intentional effort, it is possible to heal old wounds, develop greater emotional resilience, and create relationships built on trust, safety, and genuine connectionIn today's conversation, we'll explore the fascinating world of attachment styles, how they shape our inner lives and relationships, why so many of us get stuck in predictable cycles of conflict and disconnection, and what it takes to move toward more secure, healthy, and fulfilling connections—with others and with ourselves. Because at the heart of every human being is a desire to feel seen, understood, accepted, and loved. Valeria interviews  Marc Cameron — He is the author of  "Understanding Your Attachment Style: The Path to Overcoming Unhelpful Patterns and Building Healthy, Secure Relationships." Marc Cameron is an author, speaker, and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based in Newport Beach, California specializing in couple's therapy. Alongside his private practice, Marc and his wife, Amy, lead How We Love, an organization founded by Milan and Kay Yerkovich birthed from their groundbreaking book on attachment by the same name.  Marc firmly believes that developing secure attachments is the key to creating strong and fulfilling connections between couples and within families. He guides people in enhancing communication, building trust, and deepening emotional bonds by helping them understand how insecure attachment styles create predictable dysfunctional relationship cycles—and how these patterns can be overcome. His book, Understanding Your Attachment Style (2025), outlines this approach in detail. In addition, Marc is certified in EMDR therapy, an evidence-based treatment for PTSD and trauma and is a regular co-host on New Life Live!, America's top Christian counseling call-in radio program with a weekly audience of over 2 million listeners. Learn more about Marc Cameron and his work!

We have the cure for estrangement: just see your parents as children too. Easy. Case closed. [Read: sarcasm] In this episode, Whitney traces where this sometimes helpful and sometimes very unhelpful idea came from and shows how something genuinely useful got turned into a permanent exit ramp from accountability.In this episode, you'll learn:- How "your parents were children too" worked its way into self-help- Why unfinished business has to move upward or outward, never down to your own children- What defensiveness in a parent is usually protectingWhitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sitting still should be the easiest thing in the world, right? But for a lot of people, it's maybe the hardest.This episode moves into the third mixed state: stillness and intimacy — safety plus shutdown, immobility without fear. What actually makes it safe to sit still, use the restroom, or fall asleep at night. Why meditation, yoga, and even bedtime can feel dangerous for someone who lives in flight, fight, or freeze. And what changes the moment a safe person joins you in stillness.This is Episode 12 of the Stuck Not Broken audiobook — Book 1, Trauma & the Polyvagal Paradigm.

In this final to our 3-part series on Pastoral Counseling, Olatunde Howard returns to discuss premarital counseling and what so many Christians struggle with regarding how they approach marriage conflicts to begin with. Olatunde is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Cary, NC. He can be reached at: https://one-eightycounseling.com/olatunde-howard/ More episodes with Olatunde can be found in our Counseling & Therapy playlist at: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL4bbdsVUgfc6Y3fPvCqWfepUlSJ-HkV3k Olatunde's worksheets: PDF worksheets: * Premarital Counseling outline for Pastors - https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/mb78jwsx79x6br3qygebz/PREMARITAL-COUNSELING.pdf?rlkey=w9620v4j0sx2wfd9x8cbsbu6n&dl=0 * The ABCs of CBT - https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/eipzf7l53jfxhvbhzn5g9/THE-ABC-S-OF-CBT.pdf?rlkey=65muk6fdv11mx42d7oecq3pip&dl=0 * The 3 C's of CBT - https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/hgzrf71ltyg2mn7lemubx/THE-3-C-S-OF-CBT.pdf?rlkey=q877tq0b81g3ml0446popwx8m&dl=0 * Identifying ANTs - https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/lipw497v0jn425q7aykfw/AUTOMATIC-NEGATIVE-THOUGHTS-ANTs.pdf?rlkey=kn25jcy9ovcfrqs5o8g8j3vyo&dl=0 * Adjusting Negative Core Beliefs - https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/n6kxxv0s8epwy9cy4nyrl/Adjusting-Negative-Core-beliefs.pdf?rlkey=s7i0jkyx8rk4ti0l8b2420byn&dl=0 ***Disciple Dojo shirts and other gifts are available over in our online store! - https://www.zazzle.com/discipledojo ***Become a monthly Dojo Donor and help keep us going! - https://www.discipledojo.org/donate ***Dojo Donor Patches: If you are a monthly donor and would like an iron-on DiscipleDojo patch, supplies are limited so message JM directly via the contact page at https://www.discipledojo.org/contact ***If you are an unmarried Christian looking for community, check out our Facebook group “The Grownup's Table” over at www.facebook.com/groups/grownupstable (We also have a group for both married and unmarried Christians: www.facebook.com/groups/grownupfriends ) ------ Go deeper at www.discipledojo.org

Krissy Johnson is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and devoted MIHH listener. She opens up about escaping a manipulative relationship, shedding her secrecy and shame, and what led her to become a therapist. More about Krissy:www.inthelifetherapy.comIG handle: @inthelifetherapyFB: In the Life TherapyThis episode is sponsored Quince. Go to www.Quince.com/mental for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too.This episode is sponsored by Alma. Search their directory of over 20,000 therapists with different specialities, life experiences, and identities, and 99% of them take insurance. Go to www.HelloAlma.com/happyhourThis episode is sponsored by Timeline. Timeline's clinically proven formula is now available at a new, lower price . Mitopure now starts at $99, with the exact same science and formula and listeners can still get 20% off when they go to www.timeline.com/MENTALIf you're interested in seeing or buying the furniture that Paul designs and makes follow his IG @ShapedFurniture or visit the website www.shapedfurniture.comWAYS TO HELP THE MIHH PODCASTSubscribe via Apple Podcasts (or whatever player you use). It costs nothing. It's extremely helpful to have your subscription set to download all episodes automatically. https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mental-illness-happy-hour/id427377900?mt=2Spread the word via social media. It costs nothing.Our website is www.mentalpod.com our FB is www.Facebook.com/mentalpod and our Twitter and Instagram are both @Mentalpod Become a much-needed Patreon monthly-donor (with occasional rewards) for as little as $1/month at www.Patreon.com/mentalpod Become a one-time or monthly donor via PayPal at https://mentalpod.com/donateYou can also donate via Zelle (make payment to mentalpod@gmail.com) To donate via Venmo make payment to @Mentalpod See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Mark Odland is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified EMDR Therapist, and faith-based counselor on a mission to help men break free from the cages holding them back and step into the strength and purpose they were created for. Over the last 15 years, he's conducted over 15,000 therapy sessions, trained over 1,000 therapists, and helped over 1,000 clients, with a particular focus on supporting high-achieving men through individual EMDR therapy and marriage counseling. As an Approved EMDR Consultant and Continuing Education Provider through EMDRIA, he's trained therapists around the world through his consultation, books, and online courses. He also offers executive coaching for business leaders and mental coaching for athletes. To learn more about Mark, go to escapethecagenow.com Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Content warning: This episode contains descriptions of suicidal ideation, child abuse and neglect, childhood sexual abuse, and abortion.Whitney answers two questions about accepting a family situation you never chose and never asked for. First, a mother whose family just lost a three year grandparent visitation case. She is being mandated by family court to send her children on unsupervised monthly visits with a grandmother she doesn't believe is safe. Second, a listener who has been 15 years no contact asking the question: should the adult child be apologizing for how they behaved as a kid?In this episode, you'll learn:- How to separate what the court controls from what you actually control as a parent- How to prepare a child for time with someone you don't trust, without making them afraid- Why a child's behavior during abuse is never something to apologize for- When accountability between an adult child and a parent is genuinely useful, and who has to go firstWhitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you've spent time in the estrangement conversation online, you've noticed how fast it flattens into two camps: the people who cut off and the people who got cut off. Ashley and Jon Lefrandt have lived on both sides of that line. The couple behind Leave Then Cleave joins Whitney to talk about what happened when they asked for space from one family member and ended up estranged from 40 family members. Together they explore what it looks like to hold onto your faith when your faith is the thing being used against you.In this episode, you'll learn:- How honor thy father and mother gets used to override every other thing a person believes- Why a family system escalates when one person stops complying- What words like grace, forgiveness, and reconciliation actually mean, and who tends to be the one insisting on them- How to keep a faith that has been weaponized against youConnect with Ashley and Jon LefrandtLeave Then Cleave: https://www.leavethencleave.com/Jon and Ashley's Book: https://amzn.to/4fUGi4JWhitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Wrestling with your kids. Trash-talking during a pickup game. Screaming through a game of tag. On paper, those look like danger cues, so why do they feel so good? Play is what happens when your safety state and your fight-or-flight mobility switch on at the same time. Here's what's actually happening in your nervous system when you play, why the game changes the moment it moves from the living room to online voice chat, and what it looks like when a kid mobilizes with no safety behind it at all.

Content warning: This episode contains a description of a traumatic birth, postpartum complications, and abuse.Before the Q&A, Whitney opens with an unscripted reflection on taking a break from Instagram. She then moves into two listener questions from people who have stopped waiting for an apology and are asking what comes after you finally see your family clearly.In this episode, you'll learn:- How to handle being the only person in your family willing to talk about the past- What to do when you've accepted a parent won't change but they still expect the same closeness and access- How to think about titrating contact- Why the fantasy that a parent will soften at your lowest moment is so commonWhitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“He's been hard since the day he was born.” “Something in her is just off, and always has been.” “Is there something broken with my child?” Whitney traces questions and the fears beneath them to a centuries old belief that some people are simply born bad. It's a belief that has changed costumes across religion, science, and psychology but never fully gone away. Whitney brings questions like these into the present for the parents living with a child with a mental illness, an addiction, or a disability they can't fix.In this episode, you'll learn:- How the "born bad" idea traveled across history- Why temperament is real but more complicated than you think- How to recognize these fears if you were the "problem child" so you don't hand it downWhitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.Have a question for Whitney? Send a voice memo or email to whitney@callinghome.coJoin the Family Cyclebreakers Club: https://callinghome.coFollow Whitney on Instagram | sitwithwhitFollow Whitney on YouTube | @whitneygoodmanlmftOrder Whitney's book, Toxic Positivity: https://sitwithwhit.com/toxic-positivitySign up for updates on Whitney's new book: https://cmnyyv4kpyt.typeform.com/to/PHMzjy0oThis podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Freeze is not the same as shutdown, even though people use the words like they mean the same thing. Shutdown is a limp collapse. Freeze is tense: all the energy to run or fight, with a body that can't move. It's the gas and the brake at the same time, and it's underneath panic, phobias, and that flash of rage that comes out of nowhere. Here's what's actually happening in a freeze, how to come out of one in the moment, and why a long-held freeze has to be thawed slowly rather than forced.

Chad Hyams and Bob Stewart discuss the concept of restlessness with licensed marriage and family therapist Kristen Mosier. The conversation delves into how restlessness affects personal and professional lives, and Kristen shares insights from her book, "Restless: How to Stop Living an If Only Life." Key themes include identifying and aligning with personal values, the impact of restlessness in relationships, and practical steps for being more present. Kristen also explores how to channel restlessness positively and achieve satisfaction by making value-aligned decisions. This episode is insightful for entrepreneurs and anyone seeking personal growth. Connect with Kristen at https://www.kristenmosierlmft.com/ Get her Book: Restless: How to Stop Living an If-Only Life ---------- Connect with the hosts: •    Ben Kinney: https://www.BenKinney.com/ •    Bob Stewart: https://www.linkedin.com/in/activebob •    Chad Hyams: https://ChadHyams.com/ •    Book one of our co-hosts for your next event: https://WinMakeGive.com/speakers/   More ways to connect: •    Join our Facebook group at www.facebook.com/groups/winmakegive •     Sign up for our weekly newsletter: https://WinMakeGive.com/sign-up •     Explore the Win Make Give Podcast Network: https://WinMakeGive.com/ Part of the Win Make Give Podcast Network   00:00 Insights from a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist 03:26 Understanding Restlessness and Aligning Life with Personal Values 09:02 The Importance of Singular Focus for Being Present 10:51 Balancing Restlessness and Satisfaction in Personal Growth 16:51 Understanding and Practicing Personal and Business Values 19:24 Understanding Relational Restlessness and Self-Evaluation in Relationships 23:18 Technical Glitches and Bob's Eventful Podcast Experience 25:13 Embracing Acceptance Over Control in Emotional Challenges 29:36 Balancing Personal Growth and Career Focus with ADHD 32:17 Embrace Personal Satisfaction Over Constantly Optimizing Your Life