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Steun ons geluid via iDeal: https://bunq.me/LuMens Dank je wel. LuMens - Seizoen 4: Mijn Essentie Ontwaakt Help mee dit groeiende kanaal verder te brengen om meer mensen te inspireren. Als je waardeert wat wij maken, abonneer je dan op dit kanaal, zet de meldingen aan en verspreid onze content via je eigen socials en in je eigen familie/vriendengroepen. Heel veel dank daarvoor! Jouw steun (en financiële bijdrage) zorgt voor de voortgang, kwaliteit en groeiend bereik van LuMens. https://www.tijdboeklumens.nl LuMens #407 Ineke Visser, voormalig stervensbegeleider en auteur Seizoen 4 Aflevering 7 (S04E07) Bewustzijn over sterven is dé verrijking voor het leven In deze bijzondere aflevering gaat Ferdinand in gesprek met Ineke Visser. Ineke is oprichtster van het Landelijke Expertisecentrum Sterven, auteur van meerdere boeken en een veelgevraagd spreker en (gast)docent. Samen met de bekende Britse neuropsychiater en neurofysioloog Peter Fenwick, deed ze baanbrekend onderzoek naar levenseinde-ervaringen. Onlangs verscheen haar boek ‘Licht op sterven', een uitgebreide heruitgave van haar eerder verschenen boek ‘In het licht van sterven', met een voorwoord van auteur en cardioloog Pim van Lommel. Het is Ineke haar missie om bij te dragen aan de verruiming van ons collectieve bewustzijn over sterven. Ineke Visser heeft zich in de afgelopen 22 jaar intensief beziggehouden met sterven en de dood. Met haar diepgaande kennis en uitgebreide ervaring helpt zij zorgprofessionals, zorgvrijwilligers en iedereen die zich daartoe geroepen voelt, om beter toegerust te zijn aan het sterfbed. Tot eind jaren '90 werkte Ineke als HR manager voor een groot telecom bedrijf. Maar na een burn-out kwam ze erachter dat ze daar niet langer op haar plek was. Ze besloot te gaan studeren bij de universiteit van Humanistiek in Utrecht. Na deze studie melde ze zich in een spontane bui aan als zorgvrijwilliger bij een hospice. Ze voelde al snel aan dat het haar iets belangrijks zou brengen, maar wist toen nog niet wat dat was. Na enkele jaren gewerkt te hebben als zorgvrijwilliger, werd ze hospice-coördinator en leerde in die periode nog veel meer over het stervensproces en de dood. Ze kwam erachter dat de kennis over het sterven haar leven had verrijkt en haar naar een diepere laag van zichzelf had gebracht. Samen met neuropsychiater en neurofysioloog Peter Fenwick, deed ze onderzoek naar levenseinde-ervaringen ofwel sterfbedvisoenen. Toen ze hem in 2009 ontmoette, voelde het direct kloppend dat ze dit onderzoek voor hem ging uitvoeren in de Nederlandse hospices. Ineke beschouwt het onderzoek van Fenwick en het onderzoek naar bijna-doodervaringen (BDE) van Pim van Lommel als baanbrekend. Ook het werk van arts-psychiater Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, pionier en autoriteit op het gebied van stervensbegeleiding en verliesverwerking, is volgens haar van groot belang geweest. Geïnspireerd op Kübler-Ross haar holistische vierkwadrantentheorie, ontwikkelde Ineke haar eigen ‘zeven-lagen benadering'. Daarbij beschouwt ze de mens als een multidimensionaal wezen dat bestaat uit zeven lagen of lichamen: het fysieke, het emotionele, het mentale, het spirituele, het relationele, het goddelijke en uiteindelijk het ... .....YouTube geeft slechts 5000 karakters voor dit tekstveld. We nodigen je uit om de rest van de tekst verder te lezen op onze eigen website https://www.tijdboeklumens.nl/podcast-ineke-visser Tevens kun je je op onze site aanmelden voor onze nieuwsbrief. Zo blijven we in directer en onafhankelijker contact met elkaar. Bestel ook absoluut onze Tijdboeken om een documentatie in huis te halen van krachtige visies bij elkaar, gebundeld in een premium hardcover met goudfolie artwork en fractal imprint. https://www.tijdboeklumens.nl Tot slot: als je het waardevol vindt wat wij maken, dan vragen we je graag om een vrijblijvende vergoeding via onze site of direct via iDeal (https://bunq.me/LuMens ). Je houdt ons daarmee op de been, want we blijven dit werk enorm graag voortzetten maar daar hebben we hulp bij nodig. Enorm veel dank dus voor ieders bijdrage, al is het maar een klein gebaar, het maakt hét verschil voor onze draagkracht. Onze wens is dat het positieve, niet-polariserende en verbindende geluid van LuMens steeds meer gehoord en aangereikt kan worden, om de toename van spanning en strijd in de wereld te kanaliseren naar een constructief alternatief. Het delen van onze content wordt dan ook zeer gewaardeerd! https://www.tijdboeklumens.nl/doneren Podcast host: Ferdinand van der Neut #zielsgeluk #manifesteren #bewustzijnsontwikkeling #christusbewustzijn #floreerspiraal
My guest is John Stevenson from the British Geological Survey (BGS) and there is a lot to cover in this episode: John's switch from science to engineering; how to move from proprietary to open source software - and the hot stuff: volcanos. And what John did in volcanology. Here are a few links:https://www.bgs.ac.uk/people/stevenson-john/ John's profile at the BGS https://volcanologistsoutsideacademia.wordpress.com/2018/08/29/spotlight-john-a-stevenson-ph-d/https://all-geo.org/volcan01010/every-post-ever/ John's blog postshttps://fosstodon.org/@volcan01010 John's profile on Mastodonhttps://github.com/volcan01010/ GitHub for Johnhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elisabeth_Kübler-Ross a reference for the 5 stages of griefVolcanoshttps://icelandicvolcanos.is Iceland has a lot of volcanoshttps://rischi.protezionecivile.gov.it/en/volcanic/volcanoes-italy/ Volcanos in Italyhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2010_eruptions_of_Eyjafjallajökull the big eruption from 2010http://www.pompeii.org.uk/s.php/tour-the-two-letters-written-by-pliny-the-elder-about-the-eruption-of-vesuvius-in-79-a-d-history-of-pompeii-en-238-s.htm the letters by Pliny the Younger describing the eruption of Vesuvius in 79ADTools mentionedhttps://www.sonatype.com https://qgis.orghttps://www.geopackage.orghttps://merginmaps.comhttps://www.redhat.com/enhttps://www.debian.orghttps://www.centos.orghttps://thehackernews.com/2024/04/malicious-code-in-Get in touchThank you for listening! Merci de votre écoute! Vielen Dank für´s Zuhören! Contact Details/ Coordonnées / Kontakt: Email mailto:peter@code4thought.org UK RSE Slack (ukrse.slack.com): @code4thought or @piddie US RSE Slack (usrse.slack.com): @Peter Schmidt Mastodon: https://fosstodon.org/@code4thought or @code4thought@fosstodon.org Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/code4thought.bsky.social LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/pweschmidt/ (personal Profile)LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/codeforthought/ (Code for Thought Profile) This podcast is licensed under the Creative Commons Licence: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/4.0/
EVEN MORE about this episode!Ready to fall in love again—at any age? Join the Golden Dating Doctors, Drs. Gloria Horsley and Frank Powers, as they share heartwarming stories and powerful insights from their book Open to Love: The Secrets of Senior Dating. From Gloria's journey of healing after losing her husband of 60 years to finding love with Frank online, this episode dives deep into the emotional, spiritual, and practical sides of dating later in life.Discover how to navigate love after loss or divorce, overcome societal stigma, and integrate new relationships into existing family dynamics. Gloria and Frank's candid reflections and personal experiences illuminate the beauty of second chances, the magic of signs from loved ones on the other side (hello, dimes!), and the incredible resilience of the heart.Whether you're newly single, dating again, or simply curious about love's evolution over time, this episode offers inspiration, humor, and real-world tips—including how a “dating buddy” can boost your confidence and how online dating can lead to unexpected joy.Guest Biography:Gloria Horsley, PhD is a licensed marriage and family therapist, clinical nurse specialist, and cofounder of the Open to Hope Foundation. She co-hosts the award-winning Open to Hope podcast and has authored or co-authored 10 books on grief and healing. A former faculty member at the University of Rochester and the Academy of Intuition Medicine, Gloria also serves on advisory boards for TAPS and the Elisabeth Kübler-Ross Foundation. Widowed after 60 years of marriage, she is the mother of four (including a deceased son) and grandmother to ten. She lives between Palo Alto, CA, and Scottsdale, AZ with her partner, Dr. Frank Powers.Frank Powers, PhD is a licensed psychologist with over 30 years in private practice in Scottsdale, AZ. A former professor and chairman of Arizona's Psychiatric Security Review Board, he trained in couples' therapy with Harville Hendrix's Imago Institute and studied under pioneering sex researchers Masters and Johnson. Frank holds degrees from George Williams College, Arizona State, Columbia, and Union Institute. An award-winning sculptor, he enjoys golf, pickleball, and tennis, and is stepfather to two daughters and a step-grandson.Episode Chapters:(0:00:01) - Golden Dating Doctors Share Their Journey(0:13:28) - Navigating Divorce, Grief, and New Love(0:26:36) - Signs and Miracles(0:29:47) - Finding Love After Loss(0:43:43) - Navigating Dating (0:50:49) - Love and Relationships After Loss(0:56:35) - Intimacy in New RelationshipsSubscribe to Ask Julie Ryan YouTubeSubscribe to Ask Julie Ryan Español YouTubeSubscribe to Ask Julie Ryan Português YouTubeSubscribe to Ask Julie Ryan Deutsch YouTube✏️Ask Julie a Question!
Vivir es algo extraordinario, pero muchas veces lo olvidamos. En esta conversación reflexiono sobre el valor de estar vivos, sobre cómo incluso en los momentos más difíciles podemos encontrar motivos para celebrar la vida.Hablamos de la importancia de conectar con el presente, de no quedarnos atrapados en lo que nos falta, y de cómo nuestras emociones —ya sean de alegría o tristeza— tienen un impacto real en nuestro cuerpo y nuestra salud.También recordamos las enseñanzas de Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, que acompañó a muchas personas al final de su vida, y lo que aprendió de ellas sobre lo que realmente importa.Espero que estas reflexiones te inspiren a mirar con otros ojos tu día a día, a celebrar lo que ya tienes y a reconectar con lo esencial: el milagro de estar aquí, ahora.Ojalá este episodio te acompañe y pueda convertirse en una inspiración a la hora de despertar y florecer tu verdadero potencial.Página Web: https://marioalonsopuig.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marioalonsopuig/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@MarioAlonsoPuigOficial Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MarioAlonsoPuigOficial Entradas a la nueva conferencia 2025: https://marioalonsopuig.com/gira-2025/
[MÉTAMORPHOSE PODCAST] Anne Ghesquière reçoit Patrice van Eersel, journaliste et grand reporter. Ensemble, ils explorent le sujet de la conscience. La conscience habite-elle l'univers tout entier ? La réalité de la matière présente-t-elle des similarités avec la conscience ? Où la conscience est-elle logée ? Que nous enseignent les sagesses et les EMI ? La nature est-elle consciente ? Et les animaux ? Faut-il renouer avec une vision animiste du monde ? Le Soleil est-il conscient ? Patrice Van Eersel nous expose les résultats de sa longue enquête avec humour et légèreté. Son dernier livre est paru aux éditions Guy Trédaniel : Le Soleil est-il conscient ? Et les dauphins, et les baobabs, et le cristal, et l'IA, et nous-mêmes ? En voilà des questions étranges. Allons-nous pouvoir y répondre ? Épisode #580À réécouter :#278 Patrice Van Eersel : NoosphèreQuelques citations du podcast avec Patrice van Eersel :"Nous sommes en wifi les uns avec les autres en permanence.""Les humains ont commencé à exister quand ils ont pris conscience qu'ils allaient mourir.""Plus la plante est ancienne dans l'évolution, plus elle a un spectre de musique."Thèmes abordés lors du podcast avec Patrice van Eersel :00:00 Introduction03:43 La question essentielle de la conscience.10:47 Qu'est-ce que la conscience ? 14:52 L'enquête de Patrice Van Eersel sur les EMI.19:23 Elisabeth Kübler-Ross ou l'art d'accompagner la douleur.30:49 Le tournant de Source noire.34:22 Vers une définition restreinte de la conscience dans l'Histoire.39:23 La double révolution de la mécanique quantique et de la phénoménologie.44:41 Que nous enseignent les Indiens Kogis.51:28 La conscience animale.54:20 : La Terre a-t-elle une conscience ?01:01:16 La musique des plantes01:13:42 Le fonctionnement quantique.01:20:44 Lien entre conscience et physique quantique.01:23:06 Le soleil est-il conscient ?Avant-propos et précautions à l'écoute du podcast Découvrez Objectif Métamorphose, notre programme en 12 étapes pour partir à la rencontre de soi-même.Recevez chaque semaine l'inspirante newsletter Métamorphose par Anne GhesquièreFaites le TEST gratuit de La Roue Métamorphose avec 9 piliers de votre vie !Suivez nos RS : Insta, Facebook & TikTokAbonnez-vous sur Apple Podcast / Spotify / Deezer / CastBox/ YoutubeSoutenez Métamorphose en rejoignant la Tribu MétamorphosePhoto DR Hébergé par Acast. Visitez acast.com/privacy pour plus d'informations.
Con gran emoción les comparto el episodio de esta semana donde hablamos con Ken Ross, hijo de Elisabeth Kübler-Ross. Anécdotas, enseñanzas y mucha filosofía de vida de esta gran maestra y madre. ¡Acompáñanos!
¿Cómo fueron sus vidas? ¿Dónde nació el compromiso? ¿Qué les define mejor: lo que consiguieron o a lo que tuvieron que renunciar? ¿Dónde están hoy sus huellas? Edurne Portela ("El eco de los disparos") y José Ovejero ("Mientras estamos muertos") acaban de publicar a cuatro manos "Una belleza terrible" (Galaxia Gutenberg) la historia novelada de un puñado de revolucionarios Trotskistas que se levantaron siguiendo ese credo a lo largo del siglo XX: desde la Revolución rusa, la resistencia a la Alemania Nazi, la Guerra Civil española o las dictaduras latinoamericanas. Son los nombres de Raymond Molinier, Jeanne Martin des Pallières, Vera Lanis, Elisabeth Kässeman o Jean van Heijenoort, entre la épica, la utopía, el olvido y la desgracia más cruel.
In this second session, Pastors Clint and Michael introduce and explore Elisabeth Kübler-Ross' stages of grief. Tune in for a succinct overview of some of the common experiences of grief, including some aspects that may surprise you.
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In this second session, Pastors Clint and Michael introduce and explore Elisabeth Kübler-Ross' stages of grief. Tune in for a succinct overview of some of the common experiences of grief, including some aspects that may surprise you.
A node of sanity in these challenging times.Bill Weir is America's leading climate reporter. His new book is a celebration of our planet and human brilliance. It is a hopeful plea for communities to rally around nature, new ideas and each other, to create the kind of resilience that lasts generations.In this episode we talk about:How a hotter earth is increasingly changing our livesWhy some experts say the climate issue is half physics, half psychologyHow to work with feelings like rage and despairWhy so many of us look away from the climate crisisWhy acceptance is not surrenderAnd the utility of class psychological frameworks, including Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs and Elisabeth Kübler-Ross' Five Stages of GriefRelated Episodes:What to do About Eco-Anxiety | Jay MichaelsonSign up for Dan's newsletter hereFollow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTokTen Percent Happier online bookstoreSubscribe to our YouTube ChannelOur favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular EpisodesFull Shownotes: https://meditatehappier.com/podcast/tph/bill-weirAdditional Resources:Order Life as We Know It (Can Be)See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Grief is something we all experience, yet most of us don't know how to talk about it, process it, or support others through it. In light of the recent LA wildfires and devastating tragedies, this conversation is more important than ever. Today, we're diving deep into grief, trauma, and healing with licensed grief and trauma therapist Gina Moffa, who has spent over 20 years helping individuals and families navigate loss. Gina is the author of the bestselling book Moving On Doesn't Mean Letting Go and a leading voice in grief literacy. In this episode, she breaks down why society is often “grief illiterate” and how we can shift the way we approach loss. We also explore how families can grieve together, how to help children process loss in an age-appropriate way, and what it truly means to heal. Gina shares invaluable insights on self-care during grief, why healing doesn't mean forgetting, and how to support loved ones without unintentionally causing harm. Whether you're navigating a personal loss, supporting someone through grief, or simply want to better understand how loss shapes us all, this episode will change the way you think about grief. Mentioned in the Episode: Gina Moffa's Website Grief Coaching with Gina Moffa Moving On Doesn't Mean Letting Go: A Modern Guide to Navigating Loss by Gina Moffa On Death and Dying: What the Dying Have to Teach Doctors, Nurses, Clergy and Their Own Families by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross QuakeFeed You've Got Mail (movie) All Fours: A Novel by Miranda July A Sony Music Entertainment production. Find more great podcasts from Sony Music Entertainment at sonymusic.com/podcasts and follow us at @sonypodcasts To bring your brand to life in this podcast, email podcastadsales@sonymusic.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
In this episode, I'm joined by Ken Ross, son of the legendary Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, whose groundbreaking work revolutionized the field of end-of-life care. Ken shares insights into his mother's contributions, including the true meaning and intentions behind the “5 stages” model which is so commonly associated with her name. We also explore his ongoing work with the Elisabeth Kübler-Ross Foundation to expand access to palliative and hospice care worldwide. Ken reflects on the complexities of grief, the evolution of global hospice care, and his journey as a photographer, shaped by his extensive travels. This episode offers a heartfelt tribute to Elisabeth Kübler-Ross's legacy and Ken's passionate mission to continue spreading her teachings. https://www.instagram.com/elisabethkublerrossfoundation/ https://www.facebook.com/ekublerross/ https://www.youtube.com/@ElisabethKublerRossFoundation
Niptech et les shorts - stratégie qui fonctionne Clip Opus :: www.opus.pro Syde's test with GROK from X https://x.com/i/grok NewsThe end of human fact checking - bien ou mal ? https://x.com/i/grok/share/0u8NE8Z7lU3z6XgBjBr8kWYkd https://about.fb.com/news/2025/01/meta-more-speech-fewer-mistakes/ https://www.nbcnews.com/tech/social-media/meta-ends-fact-checking-program-community-notes-x-rcna186468 Trump Stargate Project announcement https://x.com/i/grok/share/5mzDcPh9vnAwwt9mriovjLCXR https://www.cnbc.com/2025/01/21/trump-ai-openai-oracle-softbank.html How Democrats Drove Silicon Valley Into Trump's Arms with Marc Andreessen https://www.nytimes.com/2025/01/17/opinion/marc-andreessen-trump-silicon-valley.html Inspiration#BLOG :: Here's how Iceland radically cut teenage drug use https://www.weforum.org/stories/2018/10/iceland-knows-how-to-stop-teen-substance-abuse-but-the-rest-of-the-world-isn-t-listening/ / https://x.com/i/grok/share/TGBE2WKaSBd3JNf1GA9PhJJ5Y #BOOK :: Recoding America: Why Government Is Failing in the Digital Age and How We Can Do Better https://www.amazon.com/Recoding-America-Government-Failing-Digital/dp/1250266777 #AUDIOBOOK :: On Death and Dying: What the Dying Have to Teach Doctors, Nurses, Clergy and Their Own Families by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross https://www.amazon.com/Death-Dying-Doctors-Nurses-Families/dp/1476775540 / https://fr.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elisabeth_K%C3%BCbler-Ross #QUOTE :: "When we face the worst that can happen in any situation, we grow. When circumstances are at their worst, we can find our best." Elisabeth Kübler-Ross Hébergé par Acast. Visitez acast.com/privacy pour plus d'informations.
Bienvenidos al episodio #200 de Después de la pérdida, un podcast sobre Tanatología, pero ¿Qué es la Tanatología? Con mucho cariño les compartimos un poco sobre su origen y su fundadora Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, así como nuestra pasión por esta forma de entender la vida.
In this talk from the 1980s, Ram Dass and Stephen Levine come together to explore the heart of healing and encourage us to look with clarity and compassion at the issues of pain and death.Ram Dass Here & Now is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/ramdass and get on your way to being your best self.This show is also sponsored by Magic Mind, a matcha-based energy shot infused with nootropics and adaptogens designed to crush procrastination, brain fog, & fatigue. Use the code RAMDASS at checkout to get up to 50% off your subscription: Magic MindThis episode of Here and Now is part one of a talk Ram Dass and his good friend Stephen Levine gave in San Francisco in the 1980s. Check back soon for more of this recording.Stephen begins by talking about how this event came to be. He explores the heart of healing and how it can occur on more than just the physical level. The body might not always reflect the healing, but the healing is happening nonetheless.Ram Dass wants this to be a gathering that can reach for truth. Feeling touched by his stepmother's recent passing, he shares the beauty of the process they just went through together. He tells the story about being on LSD during his mother's funeral and explores some of the issues of burnout that are commonplace for people who are caregivers. Stephen talks about teaching with Elisabeth Küblar-Ross and how he learned to let go of his roles when sharing space with people who are facing pain and death. He tells the story of a woman who used her pain to push past her separateness and into a place of collective being. Healing doesn't have to do with life and death, it has to do with the heart of the moment.About Stephen Levine:Stephen Levine was an American poet, author and Buddhist teacher best known for his work on death and dying. He was a friend and colleague to many Be Here Now Network Teachers. Along with Jack Kornfield, Joseph Goldstein and Sharon Salzberg, Stephen is responsible for making the teachings of Theravada Buddhism more widely available to students in the West. Find more talks and writings from Stephen at levinetalks.com.“Those people we know who are working with healing the body often seem to come to the place where they recognize that there is no such thing as just healing ‘my' body, it is healing the body we all share. Entering the shared heart to experience the shared pain in the body we all share.” – Stephen LevineSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Grief is a deeply personal and often messy journey—one that isn't confined to the loss of a loved one. It can stem from the end of a relationship, career changes, health challenges, or even letting go of a version of ourselves. And with everything happening currently in the world, aren't we all just living with grief at this point?? In this episode, we deep dive into the 7 Stages of Grief and take a real and honest look at how they may show up in any of our lives. While grief is unique to each individual, the common “stages” most of us find ourselves moving through draw from Elisabeth Kübler-Ross's groundbreaking work, On Death and Dying, which introduced the now-famous “Stages of Grief.” These stages, though insightful, have been both widely taught and criticized over the years- I'll spill the tea on what her critics say too! We'll talk through the expanded “7 stages of grief”—Shock, Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Testing, and Acceptance—highlighting their value as a flexible framework rather than a strict GPS roadmap.Even though grief can be a challenging subject to talk about, it happens to be one of the things that connects us as human beings. A common thread of our human experience. It is one of those threads of shared humanity that connects us all. Show notes:Sources: “Stages of Grief”: Attributed to: Elisabeth Kubler-Ross. in her 1969 book, On Death and Dying.https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK507885/https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0030222817691870https://www.health.com/stages-of-grief-7482658
A especialista em morte morreu há 20 anos, e o fim do Vamos Todos Morrer.
I shared in my last podcast my own experience with death and dying and how this helped me to be more comfortable approaching this topic. One of my profound encounters with death I briefly discussed was as a volunteer in hospice care. "The vast majority of people die gradually, as most deaths occur due to chronic illnesses that progress over time, meaning the body slowly shuts down rather than experiencing a sudden, immediate death; this is especially true for elderly individuals where age-related complications can lead to a prolonged dying process." (Google AI). Hospice care organizations provide a more humane environment for those dying. Based on my own experience as a volunteer in hospice, we provided the "human touch and care" that families often could not provide in large part due to their own discomfort with death. The unfortunate nature of this is that family members and friends can miss out on the plethora of life's learnings and lessons one can have with those that are on the way out. In this episode I will share some of these profound learnings and how they influenced my life and choices I made while I was living my life. Let's begin with a quote from a guide provided by St. Clare Hospice in their guide titled, "How to talk about death and dying". You can access this document at: https://stclarehospice.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/How-to-talk-about-death-and-dying-Guide-Ver-2.pdf "We believe that when we are able to face death openly, and approach it peacefully and positively as a natural part of life, we will feel empowered to live our days to the fullest. Talking about death and dying is the first step towards that reality, planning for life, and supporting ourselves and our loved ones." My podcast is all about "Inspiring our Growth in order to Ignite our Potential". As noted in the quote above, "...we will feel empowered to live our days to the fullest." Confronting death has a huge benefit to how we live our life. We recognize that death is a part of life, and therefore a motivation to make the most out of our life. I would also add that it provides a motivation to understand death as a part of life, and what lies beyond. This was the cornerstone of my own journey, to come to understand death which further prompted the contemplation of the meaning of life. Confronting our mortality and experiencing our own death is one of the most powerful stages of growth. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, author of "Death: The Final Stage of Growth". Her book was used for our hospice care training. Elisabeth came to her own conclusion: "Death is simply a shedding of the physical body like the butterfly shedding its cocoon. It is a transition to a higher state of consciousness where you continue to perceive, to understand, to laugh, and to be able to grow.". Imagine the benefits of coming to this conclusion for how you live your life along with confronting our own mortality. My views and conclusions are very similar to these which has made a huge difference in how I approach the topics of death and dying, along with viewing my own mortality. Another great resource I would recommend is "Nurse Julie" and her channel on YouTube. She is a "Licensed Hospice Nurse teaching about Death, Dying and Hospice. Helping understand death to live better and die better." https://www.youtube.com/@hospicenursejulie
How do you move from feeling stuck to finding meaning and healing in your grief? In today's episode, I'm honored to speak with David Kessler, one of the world's foremost experts on grief and the author who expanded Elisabeth Kübler-Ross's original five stages of grief by adding a sixth stage: meaning. We explore how common reactions like avoidance, blame, and bargaining are a normal part of the grieving process, and how finding meaning can be a transformative step toward healing. Whether you're grieving a loss or supporting someone who is, this conversation will help you better understand the continuum of grief and the power of creating meaning. Here's what we cover: * The 5 stages of grief and how different parts of us experience loss * David's 6th stage of grief and how it developed out of his own story * The most important question to ask someone who is grieving * David's 7 guidelines for creating meaning after loss * Why grief is intimately linked to joy Have a question for Dr. Alison? Leave it here. Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here. If you enjoyed this episode, you'll love: Episode 98: I Shouldn't Feel Alone in My Grief—Why Your Grief Matters & the #1 Most Important Support For Those Who Are Grieving Thanks to our sponsors: Go to www.organifi.com/bestofyou today and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today. Get 40% off your first order of Sundays. Go to SundaysForDogs.com/BESTOFYOU or use code BESTOFYOU at checkout. Go to AquaTru.com and enter code BESTOFYOU at checkout to get 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier! Right now get up to 60% off your Babbel subscription - but only for our listeners - at Babbel.com/BESTOFYOU. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/BESTOFYOU and get on your way to being your best self. Music by Andy Luiten Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Healthcare providers and the public had no education about how to conduct end of life grieving until 1969 when Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross published her experiences with hospice patients who were at the end of their life. She was a Swiss-American psychiatrist, a pioneer in near-death studies, and author of the internationally best-selling book, On Death and Dying (1969). […] The post Grief, Forgiveness, Acceptance, and Rejection by Dr. Daniel Brubaker appeared first on WebTalkRadio.net.
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My life's research on the topics of Human Development and Human Potential culminated in the above framework. It has been nationally recognized for its simplicity and providing a structure for those aspiring to become their full potential. The 3 stages of growth are outlined in the above image. This was the topic of my initial podcasts, providing an overview of the stages to becoming our full potential. We initially come to understand our personality and identify those aspects of self that need to be addressed so that we can survive and then thrive with the everyday roles and responsibilities we have in life. This is the 1st stage of "Personal Growth". The 2nd stage, "Self-Discovery", allows us to take that hard look in the mirror to question who we want to be in this life, along with our beliefs and values that we want to stand for. The 3rd stage, for those called to understand the deeper meaning of life and beyond, and how they fit in, is the 3rd stage of growth, "Enlightenment" or "Self-Transcendence". This podcast is a great follow to my recent series on retirement, which is the stage where we more actively confront death and our own mortality. Here we confront our mortality, an essential ingredient to remind ourselves that time is our precious resource that will indeed run out and becomes our motivation to strive to be all we can be. Only a handful out of every hundred or so individuals muster up the courage and drive to enter the 3rd stage of development. However, everyone will enter this stage as we confront the end of our life, our death. This was captured well in Elisabeth Kübler-Ross' book, "Death: The Final Stage of Growth". Unfortunately our societal attitude towards death is largely avoidance, which limits the most amazing growth opportunity for those dying along with their friends and family. According to Psychology Today: "Whether we like it or not one of the only sure fire things in life is that we are all going die. It is one of the subjects that we in the West are discomforted by, embarrassed about and that many of us avoid and this includes avoiding the people who are experiencing grief or who are dying. We don't talk about death. We talk about sex, drugs and money. We teach our children about these subjects but we don't talk about death and dying. Death was so common in the 19th century that it was readily addressed. People wore black if they were in mourning and were treated accordingly. If people were dying they planned their funerals with their family and everyone knew to express their condolences if they came across someone who was bereaved. It seems we've got out of the habit and the subject has become taboo." https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/handy-hints-for-humans/201703/we-need-to-talk-about-death Is this a key reason that we find so few enlightened individuals here in the US as compared to places like India, where death is not hidden, but instead revered and celebrated? What is the benefit you ask to be talking about death? That we accept it as a part of life and come to understand it so that we can better deal with these times with our loved ones and ultimately our own demise. And with the resources available to us today on this topic, we can find peace, comfort, and even an understanding of death so that we are no longer afraid. This is the ultimate growth we can experience as a part of the Enlightenment stage! I experienced death at a young age when my mother died from cancer when I was only 14. No one helped me to deal with this traumatic ordeal at such a young age. I returned to school only to experience everyone avoiding me. I felt lost and confused. It was an incredibly lonely experience. Years later I was drawn to volunteer opportunities that all shared death in common. I volunteered at a children's oncology camp, as an Emergency Medical Technician on a volunteer ambulance, overseas in areas where mortality rates were very high, and in the most profound experience in all, as a hospice care provider. Another profound opportunity to learn about death came from a close friend being crushed under his truck and pronounced dead on the scene, only to revive once he arrived at the hospital and having a most incredible near-death experience. I began to learn about death from multiple perspectives which healed the pain from my childhood experience and mostly, gave me peace and comfort about death and my own mortality. I wish that everyone could share these experiences and conclusions! Otherwise, our fear of death and our mortality has a profound impact on our life and can hold us back from fully experiencing life and becoming our own full potential. Confronting death can have this profound motivation. In this podcast, I expand on these experiences and what I learned. This will set the stage to begin conversation about death and our mortality from various perspectives to hopefully help you to reconsider death and open yourself to more conversation about the death of others and considering your own mortality!! With love, Michael
Johannes Frischmann war einer der Sprecher von ÖVP- und Regierungschef Sebastian Kurz. Nach Jahren des Aufstieg und im "Maschinenraum der Macht" bringt eine Hausdurchsuchung seinen tiefen Fall. Er wird als Beschuldigter in der ÖVP-Korruptionsaffäre geführt. Wie der dreifache Familienvater heute wie die Message Control unter Türkis-Blau sieht und warum er weiterhin mit Kurz, Elisabeth Köstinger und Gernot Blümel ein Büro teilt, das erzählt er im Studio KURIER.Alles klar? “Studio KURIER” - überall wo es Podcasts gibt und auch auf Youtube als Video-Podcast. Abonniert unseren Podcast auf Apple Podcasts oder Spotify und hinterlasst uns eine Bewertung, wenn euch der Podcast gefällt. Mehr Podcasts gibt es auch unter kurier.at/podcasts. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Listen along as we continue our series through the book of Philippians. Notes//Quotes: Philippians 2:19-30 1 Cor 12:21-26 “The Christian community demonstrates the effectiveness of the gospel. We are the living proof that the gospel is not an empty word but a powerful word that takes men and women who are lovers of self and transforms them by grace through the Spirit into people who love God and others. We are the living proof that the death of Jesus was not just a vain expression of God's love but an effective death that achieved the salvation of a people who now love one another sincerely from a pure heart” - Tim Chester 1 Peter 2:9-10 John20:21) “The Swiss psychologist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross once wrote, "Beautiful people do not just happen." Do you know any of these beautiful people? People who shine with an inner luminescence, who radiate a kind of moral beauty? These kinds of people don't "just happen" by accident; they are formed, or forged, often in the fire of suffering and pain, over a long period of time, into people of love.” - John Mark Comer Almost anything in life that truly matters will require you to do small, mostly overlooked things, over a long period of time with him - Eswine
Navigating Loss: Stories and Strategies for Coping with GriefIn this episode of Sixtysometing, your host, Grace Taylor Segal, delves into the profound subject of grief, particularly as experienced in our sixties. Grace shares personal stories and those of her friends, addressing various types of losses such as the death of parents, estrangement from family, and losing beloved pets. Through heartfelt narratives, the episode explores how writing, creating memorial gardens, seeking professional grief counseling, and maintaining old friendships or making new ones can help manage grief. Grace encourages listeners to embrace new ways of coping, the importance of gratitude, and reaching out to community and professional support for navigating through the tough times.* * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * Hey Friends! It's me, Grace! I just want to thank you for listening. I hope you'll let me know what you think about the podcast and if any particular episodes resonate with you. Listed just below here is my contact information and all of the social channels where you can find me, as well as the link to our Facebook Group. Contact InfoGrace Taylor SegalEmail: grace@gracetaylorsegal.comFacebook: 60something Page (https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61553062496332)Instagram: @60somethingpodFacebook Group: 60Something Podhttps://www.facebook.com/groups/1665326354000332RESOURCES1. Grief and Loss Resources from the Hospice Foundation of America (HFA)The HFA offers a wide range of resources, including articles, webinars, and support groups for those dealing with loss. They also provide a free downloadable booklet, Journeys with Grief, which covers various aspects of the grieving process.Website: Hospice Foundation of America2. Grief.com by David KesslerDavid Kessler, a renowned grief expert, offers articles, online courses, and virtual support groups. He worked with Elisabeth Kübler-Ross on the classic Five Stages of Grief and has since expanded on these concepts.Website: Grief.com3. The National Alliance for Grieving Children (NAGC)NAGC provides resources and support groups specifically for grandparents who may be helping grandchildren process the loss of a parent or another close family member. They offer grief-focused activities and information for all ages.Website: Childrengrieve.org4. Modern LossModern Loss offers a more contemporary and inclusive take on grief support, with articles, storytelling events, and community forums. Their approach is candid, and they cover various types of loss, including friendships and relationships.Website: Modern Loss5. The Dougy Center: National Grief Center for Children and FamiliesThe Dougy Center provides podcasts, webinars, and other resources to support those experiencing grief. Though focused...
Send me a Text MessageIn this deeply insightful episode of Grief 2 Growth, host Brian Smith welcomes the world's foremost grief expert, David Kessler, to explore how we can find meaning in grief. David, a grief counselor and author of Finding Meaning: The Grief Workbook, shares his personal experience of losing his son and provides practical tools for processing grief. Brian and David dive into the emotional, spiritual, and psychological aspects of healing after profound loss.David has worked alongside iconic figures in the grief field like Elisabeth Kübler-Ross and Louise Hay, and his experience as a grief educator and counselor offers invaluable wisdom to anyone seeking hope in their grief journey.What You'll Learn in This Episode:- How to move from feeling "buried" by grief to feeling "planted" for growth
Join Sandra as she brings to light the groundbreaking work of this Swiss-born psychiatrist who researched 20,000 near-death experiences and end-of-life visions.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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David Kessler discusses grief and loss and how it's not that bad and why Jay is reluctant to grieve. We talk about accepting the end of our lives, how children deal with death, and why we are triggered to feel loss in the strangest moments. We talk about being honest with loved ones and not overreacting, and the value of using the ticking clock of death to live better today. We take listener questions and get ready for the best end we can create for ourselves. Bio: David Kessler is one of the world's foremost experts on grief and loss. He is the author of seven books, including his latest bestselling book, Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief, as well as a new Finding Meaning companion workbook. He co-authored two books with Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, Life Lessons and On Grief and Grieving. He co-wrote You Can Heal Your Heart with Louise Hay and also wrote Visions, Trips and Crowded Rooms. His first book, The Needs of The Dying received praise from Saint (Mother) Teresa. His new online model of grief support, Tender Hearts, offers over twenty-five groups. Additionally, David leads one of the most respected Grief Educator Certification programs. He is the founder of Grief.com
In today's episode, Gina provides a helpful guide for how to navigate social media and discussions with others, especially in regard to the topic of politics. Politics is a divisive topic, especially in our present day information environment. Use these techniques to become more resilient to the stress of navigating this difficult environment and eliminate the related anxiety and worry. Please visit our Sponsor Page to find all the links and codes for our awesome sponsors! https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.com/sponsors/ Thank you for supporting The Anxiety Coaches Podcast. FREE MUST-HAVE RESOURCE FOR Calming Your Anxious Mind 10-Minute Body-Scan Meditation for Anxiety Anxiety Coaches Podcast Group Coaching link ACPGroupCoaching.com To learn more, go to: Website https://www.theanxietycoachespodcast.com Join our Group Coaching Full or Mini Membership Program Learn more about our One-on-One Coaching What is anxiety? Find even more peace and calm with our Supercast premium access membership: For $5 a month, all episodes are ad-free! https://anxietycoaches.supercast.com/ Here's what's included for $5/month: ❤ New Ad-Free episodes every Sunday and Wednesday ❤ Access to the entire Ad-free back-catalog with over 600 episodes ❤ Premium meditations recorded with you in mind ❤ And more fun surprises along the way! All this in your favorite podcast app! Quote: The opinion which other people have of you is their problem, not yours. -Elisabeth Kübler-Ross Chapters 0:23 Welcome to Anxiety-Proof Politics 3:44 Practical Strategies for Managing Anxiety 10:56 Coping Strategies for Healthy Engagement 15:48 Practicing Self-Compassion in Discussions 18:03 Final Thoughts and Reflections Summary In today's episode, I explore the pressing topic of "anxiety-proof politics" and the importance of building resilience in an era filled with charged political discussions. The anxieties we face in our current political landscape can stem from the overwhelming barrage of opinions we encounter daily, particularly through social media. As we scroll through our feeds or engage in conversations, the differing viewpoints can spark a visceral response, often feeling like a personal attack on our beliefs and values. This state of heightened anxiety arises from the intricate relationship between our identities and the political discussions we navigate. What makes this exploration particularly vital is the profound impact that such discussions can have on our mental health, relationships, and personal growth. Many individuals find themselves struggling to process differing opinions, with the constant exposure to conflict and emotional investment leading to stress and even physical symptoms. As we dive deeper, I illuminate the significance of recognizing seven key triggers that contribute to anxiety in political dialogue: core values, emotional investment, fear of conflict, cognitive dissonance, social pressure, complexity, and personal experiences. Understanding these triggers lays the groundwork for managing the anxiety these conversations can induce. The role of social media is a predominant theme in our discussion, as it has transformed our engagement with political content. The relentless flow of differing opinions often creates an echo chamber that heightens polarization, complicating our ability to engage meaningfully with those who hold differing views. I examine how the social dynamics online foster a constant state of anxiety, fueled by misinformation, performative activism, and the fear of missing out on critical discussions. This cultural shift necessitates a reevaluation of how we interact with political content and one another. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Have you ever wondered why some incredibly talented people seem to struggle while others, who might not appear as gifted, seem to effortlessly thrive? Is it really just luck, or is there a deeper secret behind their success? In this episode of the Productivity Smarts Podcast, host Gerald J. Leonard engages in a thought-provoking conversation with Dr. Allen Lycka, a renowned productivity expert and life coach. Dr. Lycka, who overcame a misdiagnosis of ALS in 2003, draws from his book, The Secrets to Living A Fantastic Life, which forms the heart of their discussion. Dr. Lycka introduces his "Golden Pearls of Wisdom," offering practical advice that can lead to significant personal growth and enhanced productivity. He delves into the concept of ikigai—the Japanese principle of finding purpose in what you love, excel at, what the world needs, and what you can be compensated for. Alongside this, he highlights the transformative power of gratitude, revealing that businesses with high gratitude levels are up to 10 times more productive. From actionable strategies for setting and reviewing daily goals to the role of exercise in battling depression, Dr. Lycka provides valuable insights that can reshape your approach to success. Tune in now to uncover how Dr. Lycka's secrets can help you unlock your true potential and live a fantastic life! What We Discuss [02:02] Introduction to Dr. Allen Lycka [06:27] What is Ikigai? [11:43] Impact of gratitude on productivity [13:07] Strategies for maintaining productivity during adversity [19:50] Impactful habits and mindsets one can develop [20:46] Dealing with distractions Notable Quotes [04:27] “I attribute my success to drive. I also call it hunger. It's something that we have deep down in our sides that pushes us to the next level." - Dr. Allen Lycka [06:00] “To me, drive comes from a why, and sometimes it comes from a why deep in our gut, and it could be innate” - Gerald J. Leonard [10:10] “When I wake up, I think about all the good things that are going to happen to me today, and I write them down.” - Dr. Allen Lycka [13:08] “It's not what happens to you, it's what you do with what happens that is so important, that is really what my book is all about.” - Dr. Allen Lycka Resources Dr. Allen Lycka Website - https://drallenlycka.com/ LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/allenelycka/ Instagram -https://www.instagram.com/drallenlycka/ Book - The Secrets to Living A Fantastic Life Productivity Smarts Podcast Website - productivitysmartspodcast.com Gerald J. Leonard Website - geraldjleonard.com Turnberry Premiere website - turnberrypremiere.com Scheduler - vcita.com/v/geraldjleonard Other Mentioned Books: Chicken Soup for the Soul The Success Principles On Death and Dying by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross Kiva is a loan, not a donation, allowing you to cycle your money and create a personal impact worldwide. https://www.kiva.org/lender/topmindshelpingtopminds
In this episode of the Mom on Purpose book club, we're going to dive into the book "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie. I think so much of us as Christian women, as mothers, we can find and see ourselves a lot in this definition she lists as being a codependent or struggling with codependency. So, listen in as we recognize and overcome the traits of codependency, focusing on how caretaking and low self-esteem play significant roles.We also address the emotional journey of detaching from adult children, the importance of setting boundaries, and fostering independence. Through this book, I share strategies for mothers transitioning from being deeply involved in their children's lives to allowing them more independence. Reclaim your self-worth and emotional healing, as we discuss the effects of self-criticism and the path to self-acceptance.What you'll learn:How codependency can manifest even in the absence of substance abuseHow to step out of the drama triangle and foster healthier interactionsStrategies for mothers to transition from controlling to guiding as their children grow more independentShifting focus from fixing others to managing one's own emotionsSigns of being codependent based on the book "Codependent No More" by Melody BeattieFeatured on the Show: Codependent No More by Melody BeattieHonoring the Self: Self-Esteem and Personal Transformation by Nathaniel BrandenOn Death and Dying: What the Dying Have to Teach Doctors, Nurses, Clergy and Their Own Families by Elisabeth Kübler-RossClick HERE to watch this video to learn The 3 Things to Avoid When Reading Self-Help BooksHow to Connect with Lara: Web: www.larajohnsoncoaching.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/j.lara.johnson/ Facebook: www.facebook.com/larajohnsoncoaching Work with Lara: www.larajohnsoncoaching.com/work-with-me/
How do you navigate grief in the workplace in an empathic and supportive way? We all experience loss, and we might default to assuming the only place for grief is in the home. The truth is that a loss permeates every aspect of our lives, sometimes for years or even decades, and it certainly crosses into the workplace. Krista St-Germain experienced a devastating loss in 2016 when her husband was killed by an impaired driver. That trauma propelled her into grief, then therapy, then research. Today, she is the founder of the Mom Goes On group coaching program and the host of the Widowed Mom podcast. She shares her hard-won wisdom on what we need to know about grief and how to navigate it in the workplace, both for ourselves and in support of others.Question your assumptions about grief and learn to better support yourself or others who are navigating it, including:How we've come to misunderstand the grieving process;The role time plays when we are healing from a loss;How to navigate interactions with grieving coworkers;The possibilities of life beyond grieving and post-traumatic growth.Related Links:Learn more about Krista's work - https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/Follow Krista on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachkrista/Connect with Krista on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/coachingwithkristaThe Widowed Mom Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-widowed-mom-podcast/id1468127632The Grieving Brain by Mary-Frances O'Connor - https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-grieving-brain-the-surprising-science-of-how-we-learn-from-love-and-loss-mary-frances-o-connor/16976128?ean=9780062946249Report from the Death Studies Journal on the Dual Process Model - https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/10848151/Brené Brown - Silver Linings Clip - https://brenebrown.com/videos/rsa-short-empathy/On Death & Dying: What the Dying Have to Teach Doctors, Nurses, Clergy & Their Own Families by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross - https://bookshop.org/p/books/on-death-dying-what-the-dying-have-to-teach-doctors-nurses-clergy-their-own-families-elisabeth-kubler-ross/9165298?ean=9781476775548On Grief & Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross - https://bookshop.org/p/books/on-grief-grieving-finding-the-meaning-of-grief-through-the-five-stages-of-loss-david-kessler/6699869?ean=9781476775555Episode 468: Disrupting Elder Care: We Need To Talk More About Working Daughters - https://www.bossedup.org/podcast/episode468LEVEL UP: a Leadership Accelerator for Women on the Rise - https://www.bossedup.org/levelupBossed Up Courage Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/927776673968737/Bossed Up LinkedIn Group - https://www.linkedin.com/groups/7071888/Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/emiliearies
Ep Resources:Mental Health/PsychologyParenting from the Inside Out by Dan Siegel and Mary HartzellOn Grief and Grieving by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross and David KesslerShe Deserves Better by Sheila Wray Gregoire, Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach, and Joanna SawatskyWorthy by Elyse Fitzpatrick and Eric Schumacher (this is the book I couldn't remember in the podcast!)The Body Keeps the Score by Bessell van der KolkRedeeming Power by Diane LangbergSet Boundaries, Find Peace and Drama Free by Nedra Glover Tawwab (These also have workbooks sold separately)Deconstruction/ReconstructionJesus and John Wayne by Kristen Kobez du MezThe Making of Biblical Womanhood by Beth Allison BarrThe Bible vs. Biblical Womanhood by Philip PayneUntwisting Scriptures series by Rebecca DavisGaslighted by God by Tiffany Yecke BrooksSupport the Show.
Dr. Katie Eastman joins Elizabeth Hamilton-Guarino to share the five best books Dr. Eastman recommends to recreate your life after loss. Grief and loss are profound emotional experiences that everyone encounters at some point in life. They can stem from the death of a loved one, the end of a significant relationship, loss of a job, or even changes in life circumstances. Understanding and managing grief is crucial for emotional well-being. The books are: The Wheel of Life: A Memoir of Living and Dying by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, MD UPLIFTING: Inspiring Stories of Loss, Change, and Growth Inspirited by the work of Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross by Dr. Katie Eastman Man's Search for Meaning by Victor Frankyl Good Grief: A Companion for Every Loss by Granger E. Westberg Percolate: Let Your Best Self Filter Through by Elizabeth Hamilton-Guarino and Dr. Katie Eastman
Elisabeth K Scott, founder of Running Explained shares her journey from passionate runner to successful entrepreneur, recounting her humble beginnings with a small coaching challenge that kickstarted her business. Despite initial setbacks, Elisabeth's commitment to empowering runners through personalized coaching and training plans has made Running Explained a beacon for fitness enthusiasts seeking both physical and mental endurance. Elisabeth dives into the pivotal role of pricing in her business strategy, emphasizing the importance of valuing one's time and expertise. She discusses the evolution of Running Explained, highlighting the recent launch of their innovative training app. This app not only provides access to diverse training plans and strength programs but also empowers runners to customize their fitness journey according to their evolving goals and lifestyles. Elisabeth's entrepreneurial spirit shines through as she shares her vision to expand Running Explained into a leading competitor in the training app space. Her approach goes beyond traditional coaching, incorporating life lessons and fostering a community that encourages runners to push boundaries and embrace their full potential. Website- runningexplained.co https://www.instagram.com/runningexplained
In this session, Mike compares the five stages of grief originally taught by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross to the grieving process outlined in the Book of Job.
When doing research for my last post about models of grief, it became clear that I needed to talk to an expert. Luckily, I knew just the one. In my first podcast episode, I talk with Dr. Saren Seeley about the neuroscience of grief. How does the brain adapt after loss? We discuss the “Gone but Everlasting” theory, how grieving is a learning process, and the surprisingly contentious climate around the study of grief. I so appreciate the humanity she brings to science and hope you'll enjoy her company too. The lightly edited transcript of our conversation is below.Chrissy Sandman (CS): Hello, Saren! Thank you for talking with me.Saren Seeley (SS): Of course, I'm so happy to do this.CS: Me too! I am so excited to talk with you. In particular, we have several interesting points of connection over the last nine or so years. So I'll go ahead and introduce you and then we can get into it.So, Dr. Saren Seeley is here with me today. She's a postdoctoral research fellow in the psychiatry department at Mount Sinai's Icahn School of Medicine. She completed her PhD in Clinical Psychology at the University of Arizona under the mentorship of Dr. Mary-Frances O'Connor, where she conducted research on neuroscience of grief and trained as a clinician. She completed her clinical internship at the Pittsburgh VA Medical Center (my hometown!). And before then, she did her undergraduate studies at CUNY Hunter College in New York, which is where we met when I took over her job as a research assistant in the Regulation of Emotion of Anxiety and Depression (READ) lab there. And since then, we have sort of stayed in touch over email, usually when I was bugging you about different fMRI scanning methods and analysis over the years, and you've always been so generous to reply with such helpful and detailed responses. And then more recently, with the grief that I've been going through, I just so happened to pick up the book that was written by your grad school advisor that you are mentioned in the acknowledgement section of and I imagine some of the work you were doing in grad school is woven throughout the book. So I just thought that you would be the perfect person to talk to as I am getting interested in how we understand grief. What are the models that are out there, both in terms of what's empirically supported, and what we know about how people adapt and change after a loss of a loved one, but also what people resonate with and what's useful for people who are going through it themselves, which might be in a clinical setting, or just how people make sense of their experience. And the other aspect of what I wanted to talk with you about today is just how I feel you weave yourself into the work. And in some of the popular science communications I've read of yours, I just really admire how you've brought your own lived experience and perspective into understanding how we are humans studying the things that we go through, which I think - there's been a shift - but in my experience, there's been a bit of a stigma or taboo about acknowledging that we as humans go through some of the things related to mental health, but we're also studying or are working with us as therapists.SS: Absolutely. And that's one of the things that's been so nice for me by reading your Substack is a seeing how these ideas resonate with, you know, people who are not people in this very specific niche area, people are just coming to these ideas in the midst of having their own experiences of loss and grief. And then also, you know, the way that you can your writing connects your understanding of the science with what you're going through at that moment. That's been really beautiful to read. So I'm glad you're sharing that with the world.CS: Thank you. Yeah, I think in particular, the the book I was referencing by Mary-Frances, as you call her, Dr. O'Connor is the the grieving brain which sort of came out right when I was going through it or, and so I think a lot of the concepts as I was reading the book about just the freshness of the loss, and I guess the befuddlement or like disbelief, or just like sort of confusion about you know that someone's no longer here and yet, there's some process that goes on that was like nothing I had experienced quite in that way before about the searching. And I just couldn't believe that that exact experience was being described in this book about how our brain continues to search for people that are no longer here. And exactly why that is based on different aspects of memory and learning, which I know is is a big part of your research right about about learning and grieving.SS: Yeah, Mary-Frances and I have been working on our "Gone but also Everlasting" theory. That's kind of been our focus. I get to still work with her. Even since I've graduated, we're very close collaborators, which has been wonderful. We're both focusing on a little bit different things, aspects of this model. But really thinking about: Why do we have these weird experiences? Why does it feel like when we lose someone, we're kind of straddling these two worlds, one in which they exist, and one in which they don't? And how does our brain makes sense of that? And, you know, thinking about what do we know about attachment and how our brain encodes those attachments with people who are important to us? That's one of the questions you'd asked is like, what, what is useful about, you know, this lens of understanding grief through the lens of the brain, and I certainly don't think it's the old way or even the best way. But it happens to be the way that A) I'm interested in and B) I actually have skills to do something about. But I think one of the things that offers is that it can help people understand some of these very weird, disorienting, bewildering experiences that they have. And often feeling like, "Is this happening just to me, is this you know, is this normal? Why am I having this experience, even though the logical part of my brain knows different information?" And I think that can at least hopefully offer some way of, I don't know, having a little bit more of a roadmap and way to orient to the world while you're having this really this experience of upheaval, in so many different ways.CS: Yes. So I believe, like you mentioned, you and Dr. O'Connor put out this theory paper on grieving as a form of learning. So you just mentioned, there's a part of our brain that logically understands and then there's another part that maybe takes time to update. Could you tell us a little bit more about how grieving is learning?SS: Yeah, absolutely. So this theory is really trying to address the big questions like: Why does grieving take so long? Why is it so painful? Why do we continue to yearn for someone who has died even long after we know they're gone, and, you know, our brain may make predictions that they are still here that they're coming back.And, and one of the key aspects of this theory in particular is that adaptation requires a person to reconcile these two conflicting streams of information that I mentioned, like this really firmly entrenched understanding and belief about the person as being alive and existing even when they're not in our immediate presence. And so that means the best prediction about them is when they're not here is that they're just somewhere else. They're coming back, we can go out and find them. But we also have these episodic memories or specific knowledge of the fact of their deaths. So I'm really curious about how do we learn over time to wait, the predictions based on this new model, this new information that we have more heavily than those based on the first model, the old model, given that the left given that that old model has been so strongly reinforced for so long, and that the new information that we have is usually information that we don't want things to be this way. So it can be really hard. It can be a very painful thing to accept the fact that those changes have occurred.And so we're curious about what's happening in the brain when we successfully do manage to reconcile those two streams of information and, you know, integrate grief, which, ultimately allows us to create this meaningful life that honors our relationship with a person who died. But we're no longer stuck in that wanting something we can't have and then continually slamming up against the fact that they're not here. And so yeah, so this idea of greeting is a learning process is that we have to learn at multiple levels. And three of the ones that are important are that, you know, there's a lot of habit learning that has to be overcome. We have to develop the ability to predict the absence of the person who died as opposed to their presence, at least sort of in this physical plane.And also developing ways to get your attachment and social support needs met, particularly when the person who died played a significant role in your life was as someone close to you. And so my interests in the of past couple of years - because I get very focused on details of things - Is like, okay, we're talking about learning, but like, that's like attention. In cognitive neuroscience, there's a million different types of learning. It's not a very specific term. And so what gets in the way of that? And so one of the directions that we're taking this "Gone but also Everlasting" theory that we've been working on is trying to use computational psychiatry or mathematical modeling of brain and behavior to try to use established formal models of learning that we have from cognitive neuroscience that are very well developed, like reinforcement learning. And can we use those to test out some of these ideas about what's happening in grief?CS: Gone but everlasting.SS: Yeah, "Gone but also Everlasting" is the name that - actually Mary-Frances came up with that. All credit goes to her for that one. Yeah, but it speaks to those dual streams of like: they're not here anymore, but their memory lives on and their impact lives on.CS: Right.SS: And we think that happens in that it's not just sort of a metaphor. I mean, our brains are changed by every experience that we have, and loving someone being loved by someone is an experience that changes our brain. We can't really cut open human brains, but some of the prairie vole research shows that there are specific neurons that fire specifically when the vole is approaching their partner that they're pair bonded to. And so that bond is literally encoded in our brains, which in some ways, is kind of a nice way to think about it. That is still there.CS: And for anyone who hasn't taken Intro to Psychology classes, the way that a lot of the research on bonding and pair bonding and connection, is based on these cute prairie voles who have lifelong relationships with their partners.SS: They are absolutely adorable. But my prairie vole colleagues tell me they also bite a lot.CS: Yeah, but I mean, that's incredible, I think, that the physical matter changes as a result of the experience of being loved and loving. And when you were describing the grieving as a form of learning, I was just jotting down a couple of other things that stood out to me. You said, part of the the habit learning, I imagine would be.... just as you're going about your day, the ways that you might interact with someone who's gone. Those are automatic. And so when you think about, "This is the typical time on the weekend that I usually call my dad" or whatever that might be cued by things in your environment, such as, I don't know, Saturday morning coffee, or whatever the case is, and then that doesn't happen anymore. And so, just as you were saying, predicting absence. It's like, instead of predicting or expecting their presence, the thing to learn is their absence. Or expecting the absence. Is that one way of understanding it?SS: Yeah, definitely. And so in terms like putting that in neuroscience terms, we can use the idea of prediction errors and how those help us learn. So, you know, when we're making decisions about things, we get feedback about the outcome. So we chose to go on this route versus this other route. Is the outcome of our choice, is that better or worse than expected? And so negative prediction errors are when something that is worse than expected. So you know if we reach for the phone expecting to call our loved one who died and then have that moment of realization, "Oh, that door is shut. I can't do that anymore." That's a big negative prediction error. And potentially that can be when those waves of grief occur that you experience. You're really confronted with that reality. Interestingly enough, the salience - or the sort of the strength and emotional content of a prediction error - can drive learning. So when something is really acute and obvious. That is a big signal to us that we need to change our predictions, because this one is no longer working. And so the interesting thing about grief is, you know, it doesn't just take one time to have that prediction error and wave of grief. It really is something that you participate in, over and over and over again. And it's not necessarily a perfectly linear trajectory of like, those waves getting less over time. Sometimes they can be more, sometimes they can be less. But overall, most people do kind of integrate that new knowledge of the loss.CS: Yeah, I think I'm almost imagining, like the process of learning over time, and then different knobs that might assist that learning that you can turn up or different knobs that you can turn down that might hinder the learning.SS: Oh, I love that!CS: And I think acceptance, like you mentioned, or in other words, allowing that emotional wave of grief to actually be felt and acknowledged and attended to. You're absorbing that learning. SS: Yeah, I love that idea of like knobs that turn up or down your, you know, things that facilitate or inhibit your learning. I think that's actually how I've really been coming to think about this. You know, I really try to... Grief is already so stigmatized, I really tried to be very careful in my language. Psychologists are sometimes bad about this. Like saying, like, "Oh, this person is failing to adapt." Like, that's, that's very...CS: Not very compassionate.SS: And yeah, I think that terminology of like… so if we assume that grieving is this process of learning that unfolds over time, there are things that can get in the way of that and there are things that can make that easier. So, yeah, I like that.CS: Maybe this is a good segue into kind of the climate around the study of grief. So as I was mentioning to Saren, why I originally wanted to speak with you is to kind of check the temperature about what's going on amongst researchers in terms of how we talk about models of grief. I originally was sitting down to write my next post about models of grief and was interested in the most famous one that persists today, which is the Five-Stage Model of grief, developed by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, who actually studied people who were about to die of terminal illness themselves and the stages that they went through. So these common stages, which I actually don't have memorized fully in order. So I think that's another interesting thing to note is just like: okay, people are familiar with that there are stages of grief - they probably involve anger, denial, bargaining, depression, acceptance. I think those are the ones, maybe in that order. I can fact check this later. But that idea to me never, just as a person, seemed all that controversial until I started really diving into the literature and how people have absolutely torn down this model in some pretty strongly worded academic papers by proponents of other models, which seem well- supported by science and have good stuff to offer too. But I just noticed, aside from the content of the actual models of grief, that there seems to be like a lot of contention or intensity around the debates about what models should we be using to understand grief. SS: We see that same level of contention and the debates that have been ongoing for years now about grief related disorders. And is there is there a place that we can say that this is a clinical disorder that's related to grief? Or is that medicalizing normal human experience? And I think a lot of these debates about prolonged grief disorder, about five stages, really taps into a the impact that grief has on us, and the fact that everybody probably has their own experience of grief that may be shaping how they're coming to this debate, either through themselves or someone that they're close to. And also that a lot of these debates come down to what is normal and human experience? And how do we define normal grief? And so a lot of the debates are coming out of saying, "This is helpful because it is a way that people can understand their experiences better or that we can support people better," versus, you know, saying, "No, that drawing this really clear boundary doesn't adequately capture the diversity and variability of grief experiences that people have and is too prescriptive."So that is one of the concerns with the Five-Stage Model is that it presents people with this idea that in order to properly grieve, they must go through these stages in order. And that I don't think is helpful. But what I do think is helpful, and one of the reasons that this model is so sticky. I've worked in hospitals, and this is very popular with social workers, it seems like because A) like that roadmap, I mentioned. During a really weird, disconcerting, disorienting experience, it says, "This is what you're going to experience, then you're going to experience this, then you're going to experience this." And so you know, like, Okay, I have to get through this stage, this stage and this stage, and then there will be an end to that, and I know what's going to happen. And it also, I think, really allows people to feel validated and and experiencing some emotions, like anger or relief, that are very stigmatized, and not seen as acceptable. So I think, you know, thinking about not just like, what is the content or scientific premise of these models, but like, what function are these models serving in the lives of people who are grieving and the people who are trying to help them? There's like multiple layers going on.CS: Yes! I remember, in grad school, one of our professors saying, "A model is only as good as it is useful." And that really stuck with me, because no theory or kind of abstraction is perfect is going to capture everyone's experience. It's just not. And I think that's what I was most interested in is like, what do people connect with? Like, why has this model hung around? And I enjoyed that part of The Grieving Brain book that kind of talks about one reason why this model has - why the Five-Stage Model is so popular - is because it gives people that roadmap. And also related to the heroic cycle, which I hadn't thought about that since middle school English class or whatever. Going through like a heroic Odyssey where you have, you know, trials and tribulations that you overcome, and then ultimately, succeed. And wouldn't that be nice if we could have something like that for grief? I think that is what people long for is a way to navigate it and come out victorious, almost. But it's perhaps not exactly like that. It's not something that can be finished.SS: Yeah, I think it can set up expectations for what grief is going to look like or what it's going to feel like that then when those expectations are not met, can make someone feel like "Oh, I'm not doing this right." For some reason, at least in US Western culture, there are a lot of myths and like about what it looks like to "do grief right." There's one paper that is a survey showing that people think that expressing positive emotion within, I think it's one or two months of the loss, is inappropriate. But then like when you get to six months, expressing negative emotions is inappropriate. So it's just like grieving people can't win.CS: Yeah.SS: But yeah, what you were saying about models and their utility. As we were meeting with this researcher who published this preprint recently, a computational neuroscientist, who is getting into the area of grief. And I was, you know, making a reference to that statement, “All models are wrong, but some are useful.” He was saying, "I really like to put a spin on that and say: ‘All models are right, but some are useless.'" So it's really the idea of our models are not going to perfectly capture, especially in experience like grief. I mean, humans, for one thing, we're not just like six foot prairie voles. We have all this other stuff happening. And particularly when it comes to computational psychiatry, and we're trying to distill these experiences down to mathematical models and equations, this is not going to... like we're never going to come up with an equation that captures all of the different parameters and influences on grief. But I think, scientifically, where having a really well specified model can come in is it allows us to falsify our ideas and make more specific predictions, see if those predictions hold, see if they don't hold. A lot of ideas or theories and in psychology, you know, it's a lot of like, sort of fuzzy verbal descriptions.And so in some ways, the work with the "Gone-But-Also-Everlasting" theory that I'm interested in is like: Okay, how do we make this really, like, testable? And so maybe we can that can help us distill down to like: Okay, this is the essential part of the model like, this other part of the model might be interesting or useful in some ways, but might not be essential to our understanding of some of the core processes that are going on. It's something I'm always thinking about when I'm doing this work is like, how is this going to be perceived by people who are going through grief or know, people are going through grief? And how could this be used or interpreted by, you know, people who are not necessarily in science or people who are in science?I mean, I hope what people get out of this focus on learning in the brain is that grieving is a learning process that requires time and experience and a lot of both of those things. And it's really hard. And we need to respect and honor the effort that that takes and the time that that takes, and be compassionate with ourselves and with other people. For that time and experience that's needed. And, you know, it's something that you have to... yeah, it's, it's just going to take time. And it can't necessarily be like a one and done thing. One of the things I hear from participants most commonly that's really painful for them is like, feeling like people in their lives have expected them to move on. And they don't feel like moving on...that that is a thing. Like, how could they move on from this important thing that's had such an impact on their lives, both through the relationship and also the event of the death?CS: Yeah, time and experience. And I think that if we're not interested in a one-size-fits-all prescriptive model of grief....It's complicated, right? Because we want to capture the varied human experience and it's not gonna look the same for everyone. But are there still commonalities and principles? And I think what you just said is it: We need experience and time. I've talked with family members about this, the sort of like "Everyone keeps telling me that there's no one way to grieve and it looks differently for everyone," which, at times, I've personally found both comforting, and a little bit frustrating, because it's sort of like, well, what am I supposed to do then? Or like, what does it look like? I think it's both. I think it's a dialectic of both, right? There probably are some commonalities, and it is gonna look different for everyone. And that is hard to hold both. SS: Yeah, I can see in some ways, I would feel like, you know, just being told, like, "Well go figure it out for yourself!"CS: Yeah. But I guess that brings me to the Dual Process Model. I think it's one that is an alternative to the Five-Stage Model that has been more recently supported by research and is consistent with this idea of needing learning. And I think learning is almost like synonymous in a way with experience, like getting experience. Living. Continuing to live your life and experience your life. And I think there is something in there too. I mean, maybe this is my bias in terms of like, my own personal and research interests in acceptance and mindfulness-based approaches and compassion-based approaches of sort of allowing emotion to unfold even if it's uncomfortable. There's something about that, that seems important. So a long winded way of saying, Could you explain the Dual Process Model for us?SS: Yeah! So there's a lot of different models that people have developed to try to understand and provide a framework for organizing grief and the experience of grief. There's also a Meaning-Making model by Robert Niemeyer, which has been pretty influential in some circles. But the Dual Process Model of coping with bereavement. This was developed by Margaret Stroebe and Hank Schut to describe how people come to terms with the death of a loved one. It really comes out of Cognitive Stress Theory. But it's also one of the first models to emphasize that healthy grief is variable across time. And also it needs to address these two different sources of stress, loss-oriented stressors and restoration-oriented stressors. So loss-oriented stressors, these are things that require a focus on the loss experience. So the process of thinking about and coming to terms with the reality of the loss, dealing with ruminations and intrusive thoughts, but also positive reminiscing and participating in personal or communal rituals to remain close to them. And like this idea that there are these stressors that you have to tackle that are related to loss, this comes from the idea of like this older idea of of grief work and tasks of grieving. The idea that somebody has to actively participate in confronting the reality that loss in order to adapt.CS: So being in it? "Grief work" meaning you "should" be really reflecting on the person and like feeling sad. SS: Exactly, yeah. So you know, having emotions from loss is healthy. You need to have those. There are different ways to have them, but they serve a purpose. Even the ones that are really painful and may feel, you know, pretty debilitating, especially early on. Another loss oriented stressor is you also need to take time off from grief. So, grief is not only really taxing on your emotions and your mental health, but also physically on your body. There's cardiovascular stress, inflammatory and immune changes that are related to acute loss. So, you know, needing some times of avoidance or denial of that loss to give yourself a little bit of a break. So you can come back to the work of grief later. So you have these loss oriented stressors on one hand, and then the other hand you have these restoration oriented stressors, which role are things related to the process of reorienting to changes in the world that have occurred secondary to the bereavement so for example, common one is like interpersonal conflict. So family arguments or disagreement over what to do with a loved one stuff specifically like a parent when they have died, or like how funeral or burial arrangements should be handled. So having to navigate that conflict, that's a restoration-oriented stressor. Also, practical matters, like if the loved one was some was the person who handled the finances, or they were a caregiver or somebody who are major emotional support. One of the stressors is that you have to figure out what to do with the fact that they're no longer fulfilling that role that might require you to take on new responsibilities, learn new skills, cultivate other relationships where you can get those needs for closeness or support met. And then another sort of task on the restoration-oriented side could be thinking about how the absence of that person has changed your identity and like what that means for you going forward.So I think one of the advantages of the Dual Process Model is that it captures stressors on both the looking back and looking forward side of things. And so key to the Dual Process Model is that both of these are important, and we need both in order to adjust to this world. So how do we attend to both? Well, the Dual Process Model says that we oscillate or move back and forth flexibly between these two. Sometimes we are crying, thinking about the loss and how much we miss the person. Sometimes we are, you know, figuring out like, "Okay, what do I do with all of these financial documents?" or "I used to be a daughter, like, who am I now that I no longer have a parent?" So this moving back and forth, this experience over time is what facilitates integrated grief or the ability to hold that both the past and the present. And things that might inhibit learning is getting really stuck on one of those sides or the other. And I can explain a little bit about that, but so I'm not monologuing, I'd love to hear your reflections.CS: There's so much there. I think for me it's helpful to imagine the visual that goes along with this, which is a box on the left hand side, which is related to the loss-oriented, which my shorthand for understanding this is looking back for the past. And then on the right hand side, a box for restoration-oriented. Or kind of like, "What now, what next?" - forward oriented. And then in between those two boxes, there's a bunch of jagged lines back and forth, back and forth, back and forth. And the oscillation between those two states is really central to the model, it seems. And it's so hard. So if anything, I think it's a little confusing, you know, it's a little less clear cut than like, oh, the five stages because it is messy in reality.SS: Right! What is the timescale of the oscillations? How fast are you supposed to like, go back and forth? How much time do you spend in one versus the other? Do you have to have that, like an even 50/50 split? This is a beautiful model, but like, what does this actually look like for someone to try to apply it to their life? I think having your reflections that is is really interesting hearing what that's like.CS: I think one beautiful thing about it is the idea that we don't have to be really immersing ourselves or don't need to be or you know, the "shoulds" come in about how you should be grieving. You don't need to lock yourself away and like really force yourself to sit in this pool of grief all the time. That actually it is healthy and adaptive to give yourself a break. That's okay, too. And it's such a fine line, I think in all of psychology and in my own life and in clinical work with clients. It's just a fine line between avoidance that is pretty inflexible and can cause problems, so like totally avoiding any reminders of the loved one and like not talking about them or mentioning their name at family gatherings. You know, it can look like that a little bit. That might not be the type of avoidance you want to be engaging in. But on the other hand, that it is okay to dip your toe into it, and then allow yourself to like, watch a silly movie or like, do something new just randomly. You know, start a new tradition is okay. It doesn't have to always be what you did. But I think the balancing act of that...it is hard to imagine, in a way, it's like, it's very tricky, because you have to be present and constantly like sort of monitoring like, what is working and what is not working?SS: Yeah, and I think what you're attending to at any given moment is also heavily influenced, like how adaptive that is, is heavily influenced by how attuned to your current context is it. So avoidance may be particularly helpful, like you might have times at work where you really need to shut it off and just not think about that so you can get other things that are important to you done. Another issue that the Stroebe and Schut address in some of their later publications on the Dual Process Model, that I think is useful when we're thinking about how do we apply this to actual humans, is this concept of overload. So these loss and restoration-oriented stressors are not the only stressors that we have going on in our life. And often, bereavement-related stressors can happen on top of a bunch of other unrelated life stressors. This could be like additional losses, it could be major life changes, a job that's already stressful, a move that had been planned. And any other kind of contexts that is putting stress in your life. There's at least one review paper that found that financial stress is actually a predictor of having a harder time adapting to a loss and potentially developing a grief related disorder. And so they make the good point that oscillation is not necessarily going to help with overload. And so when you are feeling overloaded, you have more of these stressors than you can handle. Those probably need a different approach.CS: Right. In a way, it's a luxury to be able to let yourself fall apart in the more loss-oriented kind of way.CS: A I think context is another major, major, major thing that probably influences so much very variability in terms of how grieving looks in the context of the death. I think that was something that I was thinking about when learning about the trajectories research. So to my understanding, this is a lot of the work that comes from George Bonanno's lab at Columbia, who really examined a lot of the work about how resilient people are on the whole after really terrible things happen. Whether it is a loss of a loved one, or I think a lot of the research that perhaps you know and are involved with since you're in New York, has come from what happened after 911 and how people responded to that event, for example. So if you could maybe fill us in a little bit more on that world of research: the trajectories. What does it mean to have a trajectory of grief or recovery?SS: What does grief or trauma, post-traumatic responses, what do those look like over time? And there have been a number of studies in you know, in grief, in different disorders. George Bananno's work was really influential in that his work was one of the first to really emphasize that....Okay, in psychology, we focus a lot on what's going wrong. So a lot of our focus has been on, "Oh, look at all of the terrible things that can happen to someone after they experience trauma," but not taking into account that actually the modal response to really devastating events is that people are okay, over time. And even in that short term, not everybody develops PTSD. Most people go on to, you know, they still experience grief, but it's not debilitating in their lives and they're still able to do things that they want and need to. I think that is where we get some of that perspective about like, "Okay, this is this learning and healing." This is a natural process that happens for most people. But there are places where it can get stuck, or there are things that can happen on top of it that inhibit it.And so in grief research, one of the first, I believe to look at trajectories... It's very helpful in this work to have a group of people who've all been through the same event at the same time. So the Coconut Grove Fire was a fire at a nightclub in the early 1900s. And the researcher followed people who were in this or experienced the death of a loved one from it over time. And this was one of the first papers to show that people have very different, like, if you were to sort of draw out how they're doing over time, those lines look very different. Some look flat, some go down, and then go back up, and some go down and stay down. I think a lot of the trajectories research tends to find like three groups. My brain likes to call them mild, medium, and spicy. I think I got that from researcher. But essentially, that there's one group that does not have a severe psychological impact of whatever that event was. So they do okay in the short term and they continue doing okay in the long term. There's a group that's initially severely affected, but they do sort of rebound over time, they return to their normal baseline functioning. And there is a group that experiences a really hard time in the short term. And they continue to experience a really hard time.One of the more recent papers looking at prolonged grief symptoms, after loss, looked up to over two years. And they found in that group of people whose functioning goes down and stays down, there's a subgroup of those who do slowly, very slowly get better. Like at 12 months, you can't see a difference, but at 27 months, you can. You get two classes of people. And so that [study] came out a few years ago, and that sort of made people think about: Okay, so if we're saying that you can diagnose grief-related disorder, which we're currently calling prolonged grief, I have thoughts on that. It's another topic. You know, maybe we need to ask is 12 months and appropriate timeframe? Do we need to look a little further out? So yeah, I think just you know, this trajectories work helps us understand the real variability that we see in individual responses after loss. And that sometimes that has to do with what you're seeing in the short term. But also sometimes that what you're seeing in the short term doesn't predict how someone's going to do in the long term.CS: Yeah, and I think one study on trajectories was in the Lives of Older Couples dataset. So looking at mainly old white people in I think the Midwest.SS: The majority of our populations in grief studies, very sadly.CS: Yes...after the loss of a spouse. I found it very surprising that in addition to the three trajectories that you described, there was also a group in that particular study, where one spouse after the other one died, got better! They had been depressed, and then they were no depressed. And I think in that particular study, I was shocked at the percentages, it was like 10% of people. So you know, it's a particular sample that doesn't generalize to everyone. But I just found that to be really surprising. And I think I find the trajectories research on the whole very surprising because it's the vast majority of people, about I think over 60% in that particular study, who fit the more resilient trajectory where over time, they they didn't have long term, debilitating, I think depressive symptoms was the main way they measured that in that particular study. But I couldn't I kind of couldn't believe that.SS: Yeah, I think that, you know, that goes back to context. Like I can imagine, you know, I don't recall or know exactly why people were doing better but you can certainly imagine If somebody's in a really bad relationship, or if somebody has a lot of really heavy duty caregiving responsibilities, that is severely impacting their mental health, then things could get better after that loss. Yeah, I think it's good to examine some of the assumptions we have about what we expect people to look like and how we expect them to react after loss.CS: Yeah, so I think the heartening takeaway is that like, most people are adaptable and can change. And even for those, like you mentioned that maybe two years, it took two years like that's, you know, time and experience that they needed to then recover and adapt. And I think so much of it is cultural, too, because it reminds me, you know, I think just the messaging, we get around it is a whole other voice in the room. And we don't, typically in America, at least have traditions where you wear all black for a year, or have you know, that designated timeframe or space to do it. So then all those other questions creep in about, like, how should this be affecting me? And how for how long?SS: And you had asked about clinical work in grief. And, you know, one of the things thinking about is, is some of that one question I get sometimes is, does everybody need therapy after grief? It might seem like that would be a good thing. This is a distressing experience, maybe you need professional help. But we actually find that what's really critical is social support. Some people might need to get through that through therapy. Like you mentioned, being able to validate people in experiences that are very normal, but can be not talked about or stigmatized, that they're experiencing or emotions that might seem unacceptable. For a lot of people, they might get that social support through existing relationships that they have.But grief also changes our social network, the social environment we're in. So I had a research participant once who told me that like one of the really painful things for her about losing her husband was, she had this group of friends that used to like they were all couples, they would all go out on like this double or triple date, like once a week, and once her husband died, they stopped inviting her. And she was saying, like, "I think they're doing it because they think it would be too hard for me to sit there with other couples," or, you know, "It might be painful to talk about, but I actually really miss that. I would love to be there. I would love to, you know, be around other people who knew my husband and be able to talk about him and remember him." And it's unfortunate that there is so much discomfort about grief, both wanting to just and potentially wanting to distance yourself from someone who's going through something so hard, or, you know, in this in this case, like maybe thinking about the fact that their own husbands might die in the case of these couples and not wanting to think about that. But but also not knowing what to say or feeling like, I don't want to bring it up, because I don't want to make it worse. You're not going to remind the person that their loved one has died, they are probably very aware of that. It's not like they just forget, if you don't talk about it. I forget where I was going with that. Yeah, so the idea that, you know, the event of bereavement can ironically distance us from some of our social supports at the time that we need it most.And that can be where therapy can be helpful. Either strategizing, like how do I talk to people in my life and let them know what how to support me better, or getting support if you don't have support from other contexts or, you know, learning to deal with thoughts that might get in the way of that experience. Like, a common thought is like, "If I allow myself to feel happy if I allow myself to stop grieving, it means I'm being disrespectful or disloyal, or somehow trivializing my relationship with that person. Like, if they really mattered to me, wouldn't I be upset all the time?" So, using CBT techniques can sort of challenge some of the thoughts, or how do you accept really difficult emotions without avoiding them and continue to do do things that are important to you? CS: Yeah. That's really interesting there about this idea of like an attachment to like, being actively grieving - not that grieving stops - but this idea of being in distress of mourning, and that that maintains your relationship to the person or loyalty to them. That is something I've also encountered clinically. And it's interesting. I think a lot of people's actually helpful response from friends and family is like, “Oh, well, that person that you lost would want you to be happy and would want you to move on.” And I actually think that's meaningful. It's like, okay, your joy that you're still living out can be a dedication to the person you lost. And I think that's a part of the restoration-oriented end of things that I wanted to come back to about identity, and how figuring out who you are now in the absence of this other person is a process of, of creating again, or making meaning out of it. One thing that I have personally found helpful for that is sort of thinking about, like, you know, over the holidays and noticing the absence of my dad, who is a very fun loving, like, gregarious person, like, he would be the person like, you know, you walk in the door, and he asks, If you want, like some champagne, or you know, is very welcoming, and that way. And over Christmas, all of us were kind of like, obviously, down in the dumps, it was pretty fresh. But just noticing there wasn't someone to like usher along the events of the evening, as much. It wasn't like, okay, let's have like, drinks now. And like, cheers. And like, then we'll like have dinner like it like the just the transitions of the evening, I noticed were a little bit absent. And I was like, "I can do this!" I can be the person to like, not exactly fill his shoes, but like to step up in this moment and try to embody that quality of like, "Let's toast to being together and like everything we've been through" or you know, just like trying take on those qualities that I miss about him, myself. SS: That's such a lovely way to really bring the things that you learned from him in your relationship from him into the present and into your current relationships.CS: Yeah, it's a work in progress, for sure. But I think that idea that like, joy or positive emotions... giving yourself permission to continue on with that is part of the grieving process too.SS: Reminiscing is really important. Being able to share remembrances and revisit those times, not in the hopes that if we spend enough time there that somehow we will get into that counterfactual reality where the death didn't happen. But really saying this happened, this matters. I'm going to spend time thinking about and enjoying that this happened.CS: Totally. I mean, there's been so many things that like... one thing that I do appreciate when I've been with my family since my dad died is that there have been times when someone but usually my sister or me or my mom would have said like, "Dad would have loved this thing." And like, of course, that put paints like a really bittersweet tone to it, but it's sort of just like, oh, that's what things feel like now. And like, I would rather feel all of it rather than like not doing anything that reminds me of him anymore. These are the examples that are coming to mind as I think about like what this oscillation means or like, I don't know think feel different, for sure. It's more mixed emotions a lot of the time.SS: Yeah, it's that that flipside, like pain is the other side of love. You can't really have one without having the other.CS: Well, this has been a lot of food for thought. Maybe I'll kind of move us into final thoughts. So I suppose, are there any other aspects of these models that you would want people to carry with them? Aside from what we've talked about - or even from what we've talked about - what are the takeaways? SS: I think one of the takeaways for me is just thinking about how learning happens. We don't unlearn things. Actually, Mary-Frances and I talk a lot about your your grad mentor's Inhibitory Learning [theory]. Like, you don't you don't unlearn things, but new learning has to happen on top of it. So I think that's, that's one important piece for me. And that really challenges the idea that in order to be healthy after loss or healthy adaptation means that you're detaching or that you're moving on.Somehow, I think other aspects of models that I appreciate are, I think a lot of them converge on the idea that you don't have to lose your relationship or give up your relationship with that person. But the relationship has to change in a way that allows it to accommodate what is currently happening. And when that model cannot change, that's where we see problems. But you don't have to throw out your relationship with that person. You just need to... It needs to be a little bit different than it has been before.CS: Yeah, so I'm just letting that sink in. That's a really nice connection to my own research in grad school. And I just think that's worth repeating: we don't unlearn things. We have to learn new things if we want to change. And so some some of that idea comes from my graduate mentor, Michelle Craske, who's done a lot of work on how do we overcome fears and anxiety disorders in particular. And how she has adapted exposure therapy to be consistent with the ways that we know that our brains learn best. And specifically that if we're not erasing our old fears, we actually can't get rid of them, we just have to learn enough new experiences to soak that in so that we can continue to move forward. Which I think is really interesting and I think has made me think of like other metaphors that are similar to this, that I've just, like, popped up through my mind about like, just in my own experience of when I've been feeling the worst, and like thinking about, like plants that I've forgotten to water, and how like, yeah, there will be like, you know, a part of the plant that then like looks a little scraggly for a time, but then you can water it again, and the new part on top will continue to grow. So it doesn't get rid of the part that has been through that really hard experience. But you have to kind of build on top of that or keep going. That was just one image that came to mind. I was also thinking of like, I don't know, just going to nature for other ideas like lizards who can regrow their tails. How does that work? Does it does the tail grow back in the same exact way? No! It probably will be a little smaller and like there's going to be evidence of what has happened to it still. But does that new new tail help it balance or do whatever tails do? Sure. So you can't erase what's happened, but you have to figure out how to continue. The new learning that has to occur.SS: Absolutely. What is it been like for you reading all of these sort of like scientific potentially sort of dispassionate and debates about something that you are personally going through. Like at that moment? That might be a hard question.CS: Well, I think it intersects with how I cope with things. Going an intellectual route is natural for me. And it's easier in some ways to be in that headspace. I think I have an insatiable curiosity for things. So I think a big part of me was like, this is interesting. And that made me want to read more about it. And I would say I didn't necessarily feel invalidated reading about all these different models. Moreso I was just sort of like, "Whoa, like, I'm stepping into a whole swirling, intense realm." And I think then at that point, I was, I was kind of like, okay, like, I want to take a step back now, because this is getting in the weeds of what I ultimately don't love about academia is like getting too carried away with like, what's "right" and kind of losing sight of like, what matters, at times. But like, I think it's, I'm most interested in marrying the two: What can we learn and study? And then what can we kind of take away that like, actually has heart to it? So that was my experience reading through the literature on this. And I appreciated how you mentioned earlier, and so does Dr. Mary-Frances O'Connor, that neuroscience is one lens through which you can understand grief. It's certainly an interesting one. Like, that's kind of how I also got into [research]. Originally, I did more like fMRI research and have gone on to other ways of looking at psychology, but I just find it interesting. But it's certainly not the only or not the best way. It's one lens.So I think it's so important to just be like, humble. I like have a really strong value of humility that I think I've developed - and I didn't always - but through the study of such heavy topics, I guess I would say that really like impact people's lives. It's like I think that's so important.SS: Yeah, I really feel that especially coming to grief research as.... I have lived experiences of a whole lot of other things. Grief is like the one thing that significant loss is not something I actually have personal lived experience of contrary to like, a million other things I could be studying right now. So it's been really interesting to me to try to keep that humility in mind. I get a lot out of, you know, what do research participants say like, how do they describe their experience? How do people that I talk to describe their experience the philosophy like phenomenology papers about first person subjective nature of grief? Yeah, really coming to that and trying to think, at the end of the day, like all of this brain stuff is really cool. I think it's, I think it's interesting. I think it's useful. Not only just because the pursuit of knowledge and knowing stuff about the world is useful, but I think there are ways that it can be helpful. Especially because grief is this pretty small research area, at least in the neuroscience like relative to depression and or PTSD, being really like okay, what I say is going to probably be pretty influential. Because there's not a lot of like other voices and so really trying to I don't know hold all of my ideas lightly and be open to other perspectives.CS: Yes, I think more more voices like that in the field of psychology or anything related to mental health is very needed. Well, it's been so lovely to talk with you about this. I found it very validating for you to email me and say like, yeah, it is complicated, like, thinking about all of these things. And I think like talking with you helped me understand. I think so many things, but I think I'm just left with like this idea of like, time and experience. “Time and new experience” is one of the phrases that's hanging around right now.SS: Yeah, this has been so much fun to connect with you about this and about something that is not about fMRI troubleshooting! That's been especially fun. But also, yeah, just really, as I said before, I really value your your perspective as a scientist and a human being going through this.CS: Thank you.Thank you again to my guest Saren Seeley. You can find her work at sarenseeley.github.io including some really great science writing that she's done. This podcast is for informational and educational purposes and is not intended to replace professional medical advice. Thank you to Grant Carey for helping to mix and edit this episode. Music is the song "Escape" by Sandwoman, which you can find on your favorite streaming services. Thank you so much for listening, and see you next time. Get full access to Emotion Lotion at emotionlotion.substack.com/subscribe
We had the pleasure of interviewing Judah & the Lion over Zoom video!“Floating in the Night,” the follow-up to “Great Decisions,” Nashville crossover folk heroes Judah & the Lion (Judah Akers and Brian Macdonald) double down on the post break-up anger – but stretch towards forgiveness. The soul-baring new single is from their forthcoming album, The Process, which will be released on May 10 via Cletus the Van / Downtown Artist & Label Services.Judah says, “Anger was something I wasn't allowed to feel growing up. The notion that everything had to be “okay” and not be justifiably angry only hurt me and my chronic back pain. When people who hurt you don't take your pain seriously. That fucking sucks. I won't let that happen again.” The Process, their fifth studio album, was inspired by singer Judah's personal life and struggles. Both he and Brian are sons of therapists, so groundbreaking psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross' five stages of grief came to mind – Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance – as they began work on the album. Interludes set the tone for song suites dedicated to each of the five stages. Leading up to release of “Floating in the Night,” Judah & the Lion teased the single and shared about the role anger plays in the healing process in a series of short videos. Influencer jordanbyrness amplified the message with her “YALL. AREN'T. HEARING. HIM.” post.Judah & the Lion will be performing some of the new songs on tour this spring. The extensive North American run will kick off on April 25 at PNC Music Pavilion in Charlotte, NC and include shows at Colorado's Red Rocks Amphitheatre (May 19) and The Rooftop at Pier 17 in NYC (May 31).The Process is buoyant, impassioned and emotionally connective. The band has a reinvigorated sense of purpose with its aim to create music that resonates deeply, believing in music's power to connect people and make them feel less alone in life's journey.The band began releasing songs from The Process last year. The new material has racked up nearly 10 million combined global streams to date and earned spots on numerous playlists across all DSPs, including Spotify's New Music Friday, Apple Music's New Music Daily and Amazon Music's Alternative Hits, with additional support from SiriusXM Alt Nation's “Advanced Placement,” Pandora, YouTube, SoundCloud, Tidal, Audiomack and Deezer.Since their 2012 debut EP, Judah & the Lion have earned widespread acclaim for their genre-bending music, received Platinum/Gold certifications, amassed over one billion career streams and sold over 500 million tickets. Six of their hit singles have gone Top 15 on Alternative radio and the band won an iHeart Music Award for Best New Alt Rock Band of 2018. The Process is the follow-up to 2022's Revival, which Atwood Magazine praised as an “electric embrace of what it means to be alive: Soaring through limitless euphoric highs, dwelling in gut-wrenching lows, and soaking up all the feeling in between.”We want to hear from you! Please email Hello@BringinitBackwards.comwww.BringinitBackwards.com#podcast #interview #bringinbackpod #JudahandtheLion #NewMusic #ZoomListen & Subscribe to BiBhttps://www.bringinitbackwards.com/followFollow our podcast on Instagram and Twitter!https://www.facebook.com/groups/bringinbackpod
I think we all know that life can be a bit bumpy, I think all of us hope that our life path looks maybe a bit rocky or bumpy, maybe a little rustic, but fairly flat, straight and really beautiful. So what happens when the life path actually looks more like hanging from a cliff from our fingertips? We are literally holding on for dear life. That's not what most of us expected in life! Today's episode we are talking about grieving what happens when life looks vastly different than we expected. What grief might look like in your life and how to embrace the messy, uncomfortable and difficult emotions that surface. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, the expert on grief, who created the 5 stages said, that grief is the healing process to get to comfort. What a profound statement and a perspective shift on grief. We must go through the often uncomfortable, painful process to heal and to find peace.
Mass suicide. It’s a rare event, something unique, like an uncommonly beautiful woman – it commands our attention. Using the methods developed by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, this podcast is an in-depth analysis of the phenomenon of mass suicide through he lens of three case studies – one ancient, and two modern. The Siege of Masada 73… Continue reading An Audio Guide to Mass Suicide: Masada, Cowra, Jonestown /// 88
====================================================SUSCRIBETEhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNpffyr-7_zP1x1lS89ByaQ?sub_confirmation=1=======================================================================VIRTUOSADevoción Matutina Para Mujeres 2024Narrado por: Sirley DelgadilloDesde: Bucaramanga, Colombia===================|| www.drministries.org ||===================11 DE ABRILANTE EL DOLOR AJENO«El Señor está cerca, para salvar a los que tienen el corazón hecho pedazos y han perdido la esperanza» (Sal. 34:18).Recientemente, una amiga mía perdió a su padre. Yo estaba con ella cuando el pastor de la iglesia llego y, al verla llorar, la regaño diciendo: «No llores. Llorar por la muerte de alguien no tiene sentido para quienes tenemos esperanza». Si aquel comentario me dolió a mí, no quiero imaginar cuánto le dolió a ella. Nunca me comentó nada al respecto, pero el hecho de que, ante aquella frase, ella se echara a llorar todavía más, lo dice todo.Esas palabras no me parecieron oportunas por varias razones, pero mencionaré solo tres. 1) Porque Jesús lloró tras la muerte de Lázaro (Juan 11: 35), y nadie diría que Jesús no tenía esperanza. Jesús no solo tenía esperanza, sino también poder para resucitar a su amigo de la muerte; pero también tenía emociones. Negar las emociones humanas sería como negar nuestra humanidad misma. 2) Porque el dolor de una pérdida es inevitable. Cuando hemos tenido tal conexión con alguien que nos generó felicidad, sufrir es la respuesta natural de nuestro cerebro al perder esa fuente de felicidad (esa fuente de liberación de dos hormonas de la felicidad llamadas oxitocina y dopamina). 3) Porque llevan implícito un juicio de valor, y acompañar a alguien en su peor momento, requiere que lo hagamos sin juzgarlo, sin pretender comprender lo que está pasando. Cada sufrimiento es único, ¿quién soy yo para erigirme en juez del sufrimiento ajeno?En Sobre el duelo y el dolor, * Elisabeth Kübler-Ross comenta: «Si pedimos a las personas que superen las etapas del duelo demasiado deprisa, lo único que conseguimos es alejarlas de nosotros. Siempre que pedimos a los demás que sean distintos a como son, o que sientan algo diferente, no los estamos aceptando como son, ni aceptamos dónde se encuentran. A nadie le gusta que le pidan que cambie y nos disgusta todavía más cuando estamos de duelo».Cuando perdemos a alguien, el mundo se detiene y todo parece irreal. No es el mejor momento para que nos den consejos, porque el cerebro no está preparado para absorberlos. Lo único que se consigue es alejar a la persona y perder su confianza. Dos tragedias en un solo día.¿Quieres ayudar ante el dolor ajeno? Las palabras apenas son necesarias; se trata de aliviar con un abrazo y con nuestra simple presencia, dispuesta a hacer lo que deba hacerse.«El dolor de ahora es parte de la felicidad de antes. Esa es la cuestión».C. S. Lewis.*(Buenos Aires: Oniro, 2017), p. 30.
In this episode, Leah explores the concept of visitation dreams, where individuals feel they are visited by deceased loved ones. She shares her own experiences and discusses various theories, offering insight into the potential meanings and therapeutic benefits of these dreams. Hear about the spiritual significance of such encounters and get tips for how you may encourage your own dream connections.The phenomenon of visitation dreams (00:00:00) Leah Bolen discusses the concept of visitation dreams and their significance for individuals who have lost loved ones.Personal experience with visitation dreams (00:01:15) Leah shares her personal experiences with visitation dreams, including a heartfelt encounter with her great grandmother and her uncle.Scientific perspective and spiritual beliefs (00:03:38) Leah explores the scientific and spiritual perspectives on visitation dreams, discussing the potential for continued connections with deceased loved ones.Therapeutic and healing aspects of visitation dreams (00:09:51) Leah delves into the therapeutic and healing nature of visitation dreams, discussing how they can aid in the grieving process and provide comfort.Famous individuals' experiences with visitation dreams (00:12:36) Leah shares accounts of famous individuals, including Martin Luther King, Jr. and Paul McCartney, who have had meaningful visitation dreams.Encouraging visitation dreams (00:15:06) Leah provides tips for encouraging visitation dreams, including setting intentions, creating a peaceful environment, and practicing patience.Spiritual connections beyond human loved ones (00:16:22) Leah discusses the potential for connecting with deceased pets and spirit animals through visitation dreams.Reflections on the significance of visitation dreams (00:17:35) Leah reflects on the profound meaning and comfort that visitation dreams offer, transcending physical boundaries and providing hope in the face of loss.REFERENCES:Barrett, D. (1992). "Through a Glass Darkly: Images of the Dead in Dreams." Omega: Journal of Death and Dying, 24(2), 97-108. Hollan, D. (2003). "Dreams and the Dead: A Comparison of American and Indonesian Cultural Models." Ethos, 31(2), 173-195. Kübler-Ross, E., & Wessler, S. (1975). "On Death and Dying." In this seminal work, Elisabeth Kübler-Ross discusses various aspects of death and dying, including the role of visitation dreams in the grieving process.Streit-Horn, J. (2011). "A Quantitative Study of Grief Dreams in the Bereaved." Omega: Journal of Death and Dying, 63(2), 161-179. Wright, J. (2016). "Visitation Dreams: An Exploration of Their Healing Potential for the Bereaved." Omega: Journal of Death and Dying, 74(2), 148-175. Dreams and Premonitions | Chicken Soup for the SoulSoulPhone Foundation | Bringing Spirit Communication Technology to Life To submit your comments, questions, or topic requests, email Leah at: LeahAnnBolen@comcast.net and visit Leah online at: www.leahannbolen.comLeah Bolen helps people improve their sleep and connect with the power of dreams, to enhance their waking lives. Within her private practice and as the Sleep & Dream Specialist for Miraval Resort & Spa, Leah provides workshops, lectures, and private consultations. She's a certified dreamwork practitioner, and an active member of The International Association for the Study of Dreams. Leah's work has been seen in Forbes.com, Women's World Magazine, The Suitest Magazine, and WellSpa360.com.
Hay que dejar morir para dejar nacer y la muerte solo duele si pones resistencia, Hay muertes físicas como muertes de identidad, personalidad etc. ¿Que tan difícil o fácil es para ti hablar sobre la muerte? ¿Que tanto le huyes o que tanto integras la idea de morir? ¿Qué tanta resistencia o aceptación le pones a la muerte? En este episodio tenemos una super invitada que nos hace confortar la muerte desde todos los sentidos no solo literal pero metafórica. Wilka es dula de muerte y si quieres saber más que significa ser dula de muerte tienes que escuchar el episodio completo. Wilka desde muy chica tuvo la muerte muy de cerca sin embargo siempre la asimilo de una forma muy diferente a como la asimilamos el común denominador. Wilka desde su papel de terapista transcendental empezó a tener que atender diferentes pacientes que estaban pasando por un proceso físico de muerte y básicamente eso la llevo a conectar con la necesidad de expandir un poco más en el tema y ofrecer hoy día un servicio al mundo que sin lugar a duda nos aporta mucha evolución. Wilka nos pone en frente una realidad que a muchos nos da miedo pero que al final si no lo reconocemos y lo integramos nos la vamos a pasar toda la vida huyéndole a la muerte en lugar de vivir la vida. Más información dé Wilka: Mtra. Psic. Wilka Roig es co-fundadora y presidente de la Fundación Elisabeth Kübler-Ross México Centro, subdirectora de educación de Elisabeth Kübler-Ross Foundation Global, co-fundadora y administradora de la Red Latinoamericana de Acompañamiento en la Muerte y el Duelo, educadora y asesora internacional de la International End-of-Life Doula Association (INELDA), docente del programa de tanatología integrativa del Art of Dying Institute, docente y coordinadora curricular para el programa internacional del Institute for the Study of Birth, Breath, and Death, y activista y colaboradora en el movimiento de Doulas de Muerte globalmente. Wilka es psicóloga transpersonal, doula de muerte, consejera de duelo, trabajadora de sueños y mitos, ministra ordenada, docente, facilitadora, escritora, instructora de artes taoístas, música, fotógrafa, artista de performance, joyera y panadera. Sus intereses incluyen la neurobiología del trauma, la pérdida, el duelo y las relaciones, la vida y la muerte conscientes, las artes de la repostería y la cultura del vino. Wilka M. Roig Rivera, MTP, MFA, PLC Founder & President, Elisabeth Kübler-Ross Foundation México Centro www.ekrmexico.org Transpersonal Psychologist · Professional Dream Worker End-of-Life Doula · Ordained Minister · Spiritual DirectorIntegrative Grief Therapy www.linktr.ee/wilkaroig www.wilkaroig.com Y si quieres seguir al tanto de otros episodios como también contenido de valor que te puede ayudar en tú proceso de transformación y conexión sígueme en: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/valedery/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dementepodcast/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXqa... Tiktok: @valedery111 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/de-mente/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/de-mente/support
Elisabeth König hat das Leben ihres schwerbehinderten Sohnes Tobias viele Jahre lang in einem Tagebuch dokumentiert. Diese Geschichten teilt sie nun in ihrem Buch "Tobias - der kleine König", auch um zu zeigen, wie bereichernd das Leben mit einem behinderten Kind sein kann. Ihr christlicher Glaube war ihr und ihrer Familie dabei eine große Stütze.
De Regreso a La Fuente: Desarrollo Personal y Crecimiento Espiritual
El juego es una parte importante de la vida, no sólo durante la infancia, sino también en la adultez y aún más tarde en la vida. Necesitamos entender que el juego es salud y un fundamento humano básico digno de desarrollar para poder ser personas alegres, curiosas y creativas. Además permite un desarrollo óptimo del bienestar y una mejor calidad de vida. Fuente- “Lecciones de Vida” de Elisabeth Kübler- Ross y David Kessler https://a.co/d/akoLTzM Sígueme en Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kio_colon/ Suscríbete al canal de YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@kiocolon/about BLOG: https://kiocolon.com/blog Un abrazo, Kio
Friends, we're so excited to have licensed therapist and grief expert, Claire Bidwell Smith on the show to give us some tools and resources for coping with the grief that comes with a Down syndrome diagnosis. Led by her own experiences with grief, and fueled by her work in hospice and private practice, Claire strives to provide support for all kinds of people experiencing grief and is devoted to expanding the conversation around grief and loss. We're chatting about tools and strategies for grief around a diagnosis, grieving a life we'd imagined for our loved one, managing anxiety around medical issues that can come with a Down syndrome diagnosis, and so much more. No matter where you are in your journey, we want you to know, that you're not alone. We hope this episode provides some helpful tools, strategies, and support. --- SHOW NOTES Learn more about Claire Bidwell Smith Order a copy of Claire's book: Anxiety The Missing Stage of Grief Check out Claire's Podcast A New Day Learn more about Elisabeth Kübler-Ross When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chödrön Check out our episodes with Lindsey Strickland: 36. A Tough Conversation About Sexual Abuse in the Down Syndrome Community w/Lindsey Strickland 142. Our Kids are #WorthTheConversation (Sexual Abuse, Safety, & Body Autonomy in the DS Community) DISCOUNT CODE Friends, grab your narrative shifting gear over on The Lucky Few Merch Shop and use code PODCAST for 10% off! THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSOR: Thank you, ABLEnow for sponsoring this episode! 115. How The ABLE Act Supports Your Child's Future (ft. Catherine Beck) HELP US SHIFT THE NARRATIVE Interested in partnering with The Lucky Few Podcast as a sponsor? Email hello@theluckyfewpodcast.com for more information! LET'S CHATEmail hello@theluckyfewpodcast.com with your questions and Good News for future episodes. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theluckyfewpod/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theluckyfewpod/support
When there's a loss like the death of a loved one, there's a cultural acknowledgement of that loss that gives us the time and space to grieve and to heal. But we experience grief in so many other situations, outside of death. Grief is something that helps us to process changes, like the death of an idea of the life we thought we'd have. We can never fully imagine how change and grief hits us because of illness, a move, or job loss. Life changes all the time and we often grieve those changes. But we don't get the same response from the world around us as we do when someone passes away. This week, I'm sharing how we all go through the traditional grief cycle during times of change. I want to illuminate the grief cycle and help you to feel like what you're experiencing is totally normal. I get it. I've been there. Let's embrace EMDR to help process grief, in whatever form it finds us, and help to speed up the process of integration to create neutrality in our bodies. Listen in this week, and be sure to share the episode with someone who might need it to understand themselves and hear some comforting words of reassurance. When something traumatic happens to us, it can be healing to have a therapist listen to and/or validate our horrible experience, especially if no one else has before. However, rehashing the details of that traumatic event can be retraumatizing. Brain-based therapies like EMDR teach us that we don't have to talk about the trauma or the details if we don't want to because the real healing doesn't focus on the traumatic event itself. The Zero Disturbance podcast is for educational purposes and is not a replacement for a therapeutic relationship or individualized mental health or medical care. Mentioned in This Episode: * On Death and Dying by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, MD * Learn more about Lisa Larson Come learn with us at Zero Disturbance: Want to learn more about empowering yourself to experience therapy on your terms? Get access to our free client resource library for the most up-to-date tools and resources for your own journey. Therapists, access our favorite free resources in The Zero Disturbance Welcome Bundle, full of free videos and downloads to help you develop your clinical reasoning skills, as well as ways to feel like an intentional designer of high-value offerings like intensives and passive income. Use these free resources to make the seemingly impossible feel absolutely accessible! With a Masters in Education from Vanderbilt, Kambria has been creating trainings and teaching adult learners for over 20 years. As the Director of Education and Quality Improvement at Stanford Medical School, she created ease in complex systems, thereby giving medical trainees successful learning experiences. Now, as a dedicated mom, therapist, and EMDR Consultant, Kambria knows what it means to do things efficiently, effectively, and in a learner-centered way. When she isn't podcasting or creating online courses, you can find Kambria playing with her twins on a beach in California. Need help with bilateral stimulation? I use TouchPoint for myself, my kids, and in my practice. They're both affordable and discreet! Shop here and use the coupon code ZERODISTURBANCE for 12% off. Disclosure: Some of the links provided are affiliate links. If you choose to make a purchase through these links, I may receive a small commission at no extra cost to you. This helps support my work.
Notes and Links to David Mura's Work For Episode 206, Pete welcomes David Mura, and the two discuss, among other topics, his early reading and writing and the ways in which his parents' imprisonment as Japanese-Americans affected their and his views of being an American, his more expansive reading as he matured that changed world views, the prescience and fullness and profundity of James Baldwin's writing, ideas of shame/guilt and white supremacy, the stories told about ”great” white men, and blind spots-unintentional and intentional-that have led to racism in policing, schooling, medical care, and so many other parts of American life. David Mura's memoirs, poems, essays, plays and performances have won wide critical praise and numerous awards. Their topics range from contemporary Japan to the legacy of the internment camps and the history of Japanese Americans to critical explorations of an increasingly diverse America. He gives presentations at educational institutions, businesses and other organizations throughout the country. David's Website David's Wikipedia Page Buy The Stories Whiteness Tells Itself Review for The Stories Whiteness Tells Itself from The Star Tribune At about 1:45, David discusses the ways in which Japanese-American concentration camps, language and ethnicity shaped his reading and family's life At about 6:30, David discusses the ways in which he now looks back at work that was trumpeted as about “great (white) Americans” that he read in the past, including a sharper view of Abraham Lincoln At about 11:00, David talks about the ways in which white Americans have failed to learn from past wrongdoing At about 13:00, David expands upon a meaningful and emblematic meeting between James Baldwin, Lorraine Hansberry, Robert F. Kennedy, and others At about 14:55, David describes the ways in which James Baldwin was prophetic in his depiction of the moral/spiritual emptiness of white racism At about 16:55, David responds to Pete's question about texts and quotes and passages and writers that thrilled and challenged him-he quotes (verbatim!) from an excerpt of a profound text from Baldwin-"The Devil Finds Work" At about 21:45, David recounts racist and transformative experiences that shaped James Baldwin's world view At about 24:35, David reflects on ideas of forgiveness and how Baldwin's views on Black and white people and myths and stories were shaped by experiences in New Jersey, the American South, and elsewhere At about 28:25, Pete details a memorable example of hypocrisy involving Tom Tancredo and past guest Gustavo Arellano At about 29:30, Pete asks David to further explain shame/guilt as it mentioned with regards to white racism in David's book At about 30:35, David reads a telling passage from his book related to the above question, and he references Tom Cotton and Ron DeSantis as two of many examples of denial of racism and white backlash At about 33:15, David continues talking about shame and guilt and likens reactions to Elisabeth Kübler-Ross' work At about 37:00, David deals with the hypocrisy and white supremacy shown by Ron DeSantis' takedown of AP African-American history and ideas of white validation At about 40:00, Pete wonders if David sees any improvements and hope coming with younger generations and a more inclusive story; he brings up the ways in which Ruby Bridges' story is emblematic of conservative, Moms for Liberty backlash At about 44:45, The two discuss an infamous photo featuring Jerry Jones, and Pete cites a stunning story from the book involving Kiese Laymon and a racist incident with a future politician At about 47:30, David provides historical background on “blackness” and “whiteness” and the ways in which the white elite has promoted these ideas to working-class whites At about 49:40, Pete talks about ideas of reading and empathy, and he asks David about burdens and learning and working against ignorance At about 52:30, David tells a story of learning about different perspectives from Alexs Pate and from Black artists “laughing with pain” from DWB (Driving While Black) experiences At about 55:20, David relates a telling anecdote related to the movie and novelization of Amistad and the ways in which these two works of art showed disparate understandings of race and racism At about 1:00:30, David describes the potency of Chinua Achebe's Things Fall Apart At about 1:03:15, Pete cites a moving specific and universal story from Douglas Kearney in the book, and David homes in on ideas of “what American means” to students of color in the Minneapolis area and connections to Black men killed by police and systemic racism At about 1:09:40, David cites medical racism and ignorant and regressive ideas cited in a 2016 study of white medical students; he cites connections At about 1:12:05, Pete and David wonder about the NRA's lack of action in support of the Black Panthers and Philando Castile At about 1:13:40, Moon Palace, Birchwood Books, and Magers & Quinn as good places to buy his book You can now subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts, and leave me a five-star review. 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New York Times bestselling author Hadley Vlahos, RN is known as @nursehadley to her 1.6 million TikTok followers. She joins Patrick to discuss her book, The In-Between: Unforgettable Encounters During Life's Final Moments. Hear touching stories from hospice, the lessons she's learned from her patients, the beautiful story of how she obtained a top secret red beans and rice recipe, and the legacy she aspires to be known for. Visit BigSeance.com/230 for more info. Other Listening Options Direct Download Link In this episode: Intro :00 Who is Nurse Hadley Vlahos? :46 Patrick read Hadley's book, The In-Between: Unforgettable Encounters During Life's Final Moments, and cried every five pages! 3:14 Patrick's experiences with hospice care, and a BIG thank you to Nurse Hadley and those in the field! 4:13 The fear of dying in pain. 6:08 The difference between dying in a hospital and dying under the care of hospice. 7:20 Hadley's first experiences, what she's learned, and how she's grown since! “I was so shocked [when] I got into hospice! It is such a whole person experience. We really are making sure that not only the patient is taken care of, their mind/body/spirit, but their family as well. And I was not taught that in nursing school.” 8:31 “If you have religious trauma, maybe you don't want to read some of these things. But I've been really shocked about the amount of people who say that this helped them with religious trauma. And they loved reading a book that says, ‘yes I was raised in the church, but I have now taken care of people from all backgrounds, all denominations, and I see that it can be beautiful and peaceful no matter what', and they said that it has helped them.” 10:25 Hallucination vs. truly seeing dead loved ones. 11:58 Who are we to correct a dying loved one by telling them that they're hallucinating and no one is in the room?! 14:40 Hadley hasn't witnessed a patient who has had a bad experience when it comes to seeing dead loved ones at the end of life. 16:41 Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, Christopher Kerr, and seeing a mist at the time of death. 17:49 Hospice isn't in the business of speeding up death. Some patients actually live longer than expected once they're comfortable and out of pain. 19:08 The “Surge of Energy” that some hospice patients experience before they die. 20:08 People who are described by loved ones as stoic, reserved, and introverted tend to wait to pass alone. People described by loved ones as open and extroverted tend to wait and pass with loved ones by their side. 22:49 Burnout, boundaries, and the struggle hospice nurses have of getting attached to their dying patients. 25:18 When caregiving is new. Choosing hospice care. 26:51 The lessons Nurse Hadley has learned about the way to treat people! 28:57 How do medical schools and nursing schools need to change in order to adequately prepare our nurses and doctors for end-of-life treatment? 30:52 “I'm going on a trip.” Nurse Hadley's thoughts on what happens once we die and get to the Other Side. “Whatever is next is something that cannot be explained using the language we have, the references of our world that we have. It is just something that we cannot understand.” 34:41 “You cannot bring your own beliefs to the room. You need to leave them at the door.” 37:05 The story of the special, top secret red beans and rice recipe that a former patient shared with Hadley. 37:41 The Hadley House, Hadley's nonprofit family-centered hospice house that facilitates meaningful gatherings, allowing patients to celebrate their lives with loved ones. 40:05 Final thoughts from Nurse Hadley and other details about the book. 43:37 Outro 45:00 A special THANK YOU to Patreon supporters at the Super Paranerd and Parlor Guest level! 46:18 For more on Nurse Hadley Vlahos NurseHadley.com HadleyHouse.org The In-Between on Amazon TikTok: @nursehadley Instagram: @nurse.hadley Facebook: @nursehadley The Big Seance Podcast can be found right here, on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Pandora, Spotify, TuneIn Radio, Amazon Music, and iHeart Radio. Please subscribe and share with a fellow paranerd! Do you have any comments or feedback? Please contact me at Patrick@BigSeance.com. Consider recording your voice feedback directly from your device on my SpeakPipe page! You can also call the show and leave feedback at (775) 583-5563 (or 7755-TELL-ME). I would love to include your voice feedback in a future show. The candles are already lit, so come on in and join the séance!
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