Lifing-it

Marisa opens up about her secondary infertility journey and the internal battle to hold on to hope. 

In this epiosde Eli and Marisa explain why they took a much needed break,  how they knew it was time to return and preview upcoming episodes for the new season. 

Eli and Marisa discuss common types of toxic behavior and identify the patterns (and insecurities) that keep them engaged in cycles of toxicity with others. =======================================================Honest conversations. Straight talking. Transparency. Humor. Insight. These are all things that you can expect from the Lifing-it Podcast. Eli and Marisa are about discussing life in all its facets. The good, the bad and the ugly. They understand that life is not one size fits all and it's important to talk about this as much as possible because this is where the beauty lies. Sharing life experiences and different perspectives with the aim of inspiring growth within themselves and others, this is what the Lifing-it women bring to the table in every exciting episode.

Fear to be loved, fear to succeed or just fear of not being enough. The ladies discuss how these and other limiting beliefs have kept them from moving forward in life and dig deep to try to figure out where they originated and how to rewire their brains so they can start taking action.   ===================================================== Honest conversations. Straight talking. Transparency. Humor. Insight. These are all things that you can expect from the Lifing-it Podcast. Eli and Marisa are about discussing life in all its facets. The good, the bad and the ugly. They understand that life is not one size fits all and it's important to talk about this as much as possible because this is where the beauty lies. Sharing life experiences and different perspectives with the aim of inspiring growth within themselves and others, this is what the Lifing-it women bring to the table in every exciting episode.

In this episode Eli and Marisa practice manifesting their happiness and turning their dreams into reality but old habits are hard to break. 

Eli and Marisa discuss how they plan to turn criticism into motivation while confronting the realization that they are sometimes their worst critics.  

Death is hard and the feelings that follow are unavoidable. In this episode Eli opens up about the loss of a loved one and the journey of trying to navigate the inner turmoil created by grief—the sadness, regret, anger, love and acceptance. The ladies also try to put things into perspective as they discuss grieving the loss of relationships and reconsider mending broken ones before its' too late.

Who knew toxic positivity was a thing? In this episode, Eli and Marisa discuss toxic positivity what it is, how it shows up in their everyday lives and how they were conditioned to be toxic positive adults.  They are done with unintentionally spreading toxic positivity and giving themselves and others the right to feel how they want to feel at any given time and not be forced to feel good—all feelings are valid, so turn that frown upside down!   As always, make sure to rate comment and subscribe!

Fatigue, hot flashes, sleep disruption, and low libido, ahh the joys of being  perimenopausal…not! In this episode Eli and Marisa start the conversation about perimenopause-- the symptoms, the stigma, all of it and try to understand why most women have been conditioned to not talk about…until now.  

Eli and Marisa discuss the details and their opinions around Britney Spears' conservatorship. While they don't agree with the rules of the conservatorship, as parents, they can't help but question how far would they would go to protect their children.  

Off the heels of social media backlash around Mo'Nique's comments about black women and bonnets, Eli and Marisa discuss the pivotal questions: do what women wear in public reflect how they feel about themselves? When a woman wears a bonnet in public is she "blocking her beauty?" Should black women even care about society's thoughts on their appearance? Does the previous generation hold onto traditional ideals  of "supposed -to- bes" that they project on today's generation? The ladies dive into the conversation and it is apparent that they are on different sides. 

Ever feel like you're on this treadmill called LIFE where everything feels important all of the time and the demands never end? Ever shame yourself into being “busy”? When was the last time you picked up a hobby just for the sake of bringing yourself pleasure? Recently, Eli and Marisa forced thmeselves to unplug (to address all the questions mentioned) and get out of hustle mode. It was the best thing that could have happened…find out why...

In this episode, Eli and Marisa discuss the blindfolded journey they are on called motherhood.   Exploring their personal definitions of motherhood and juxtaposing it to traditional views is the thread that runs through this episode.  Sprinkled with their trademark honesty, they share their daily challenges and celebrations and try to create a new definition of momlife--one that fits their life. 

Are you healed or just trying not to think about it? What does it mean to be truly healed? In this episode Eli and Marisa get deep and vulnerable to unpack this question and try to figure out who and what is interfering with their healing process.  Be ready to tap into all the feels as they learn that the only way to get to the other side of the healing process is to go through it.

It's easier to make a bad choice then to live with regret...or is it? In this episode Eli and Marisa discuss the tough decisions and life choices they have had to make without always knowing the outcome. Dive into the conversation as they share how it currently feels to sit with the results of thier past decisions and the lessons they have learned along the way about making head versus heart choices. If they had to choose all over again, would they make the same decisions?  Would you make the same decisions? One thing is for certain...it's never too late to make a choice!

What is a people pleaser? How do you know if you are a people pleaser? Is it better to be selfish? Eli and Marisa try to figure out if they are poeple pleasers and diagnose where they fall on the scale. Are you in a people pleasing predicament right now? Then listen up!

In this episode Eli and Marisa continue their series of We The Women  and chat with Tirzah Evora, Editor-in-Chief and Djamila Evora, Editor of Kriolada Magazine.  Hear the story of how Tirzah's and Djamila's childhood In Cape Verde and the Netherlands and lack of representation in the modeling and fashion industries ultimately led them to carve out a space for themselves and give birth to the inaugural issue Kriolada Magazine.  Kriolada Magazine is a dream turned into pages of reality and proof of the power women have when they unite. 

Are you more likely to collaborate or compete with others? Do you "send the elevator back down" to help others succeed? Do you judge others for choices you wouldn't personally make? In honor of Women's History Month, Eli and Marisa are pulling out all the feels in this episode as they reflect on the meaning of sisterhood and examine their relationships with women.

Is there a difference between saying "I'm sorry" versus "I apologize"? The Lifing-it Ladies think so! What do you want people to say and do when apologizing to you? What happens if you never receive an apology you believe you are entitled to, how do you forgive and move on? If you don't know the answers to these questions, this episode is for you!

Has your back ever been against the wall forcing you to make a life changing decision? Have you been thinking about leaping into the unknown but are scared you won't land on your feet? This episode is for you! Get comfortable as we listen to Quintin's story. As the owner of Fitness by Q, Quintin discusses his path to becoming a successful trainer, the role martial arts and self defense plays in building confidence and why it's important to push past the unknown.  

How often do you feel as if you display an act of love only to realize that it may have been received the wrong way? Are you speaking the same love language as your partner? In this episode you will hear Eli and Marisa discuss the book The Five Love Languages by author Dr. Gary Chapman. Along with their usual conversations about self-love, they discover their own love language and how their experiences contribute to the language they speak--and maybe, just maybe, they will be willing to learn a new way of demonstrating love. 

The Lifing-it Ladies, Eli and Marisa, grapple with why they always dress rehearse tragedy and sabotage their own joy.

How honest are you? Are you one of those people who "shave" the truth? Does it depend on the situation? How honest are you with yourself? All this and more will be discussed--promise!

Eli and Marisa discuss how at the age when most people are secure in who they are and what they want in life somehow it becomes more difficult to create and cultivate genuine friendships...or does it?  Is it the process of making and keeping friendships that has changed or is it the mindset and approach to making friends that has changed? 

In this episode, Eli and Marisa ditch their scripts in lieu of playing the game We're Not Really Strangers. Listen and laugh as the two ask each other questions they thought they knew the answers to. 

When was the last time you said "I love you" to yourself? In this episode Eli and Marisa share a poem by Dr. Maya Angelou to help them peel back the layers of self acceptance and create thier own definition. 

In this episode Eli and Marisa share a little about themselves, the background story of how they met and and why they cretated the Lifing-it podcast .