Look, we all know that rude a$$ that is always saying mean AF things to us? So what do we do about it!? What should you know about it? Are you exempt from her? Hmm, let's chat. ARE WE CONNECTED?instagram.com/theamandamurphytheamandamurphy.com
When it comes to moving past fear, modern-day mystic and inspired living expert, Whitney Freya, is an expert at freeing the mind from the limitations of scarcity. In this episode, she's sharing the ways we can use courage to step into the best versions of ourselves. Whitney explains the importance of taking an honest and objective look within to see where you might be fencing yourself in and how to use your heart as an ultimate guide. Get ready for the motivational pick-me-up you didn't know you needed!
"Healing is not just about deleting a way of being, sometimes it's about opening up a choice.”The effect of disconnection and losing touch with what's most natural to us (5:02)Creating "right relationships" (10:33)Hellè's experience with breathwork (17:15)The powerful properties of breathwork (20:23)Digging deeper with trauma, somatic embodiment and the spirit world (25:28)Hellè's experience with self compassion and her healing journey (33:07)How to best show up for ourselves in our healing journey (42:12)Returning to wholeness (48:06)How to bring a practical, relevant and grounded approach to our spiritual and healing journey (54:13)Being genuine in the personal development industry (1:12:19)The tools we've used to support our healing and growth (1:19:40)Working with Hellè Weston (1:29:19)What makes a leader sacred? (1:31:05)Links mentioned in the episode:Private Initiations (1 on 1 Coaching and Mentoring) with SigridHellè's website and offerings: Owaken BreathworkHer websiteConnect:Hellè's Instagram: @helle_westonSigrid's Instagram: @sigridtasies
On this episode, we talked with Amber about:Showing up on social media and setting boundariesHer mental health journey navigating anxiety and showing up for her clients in an authentic wayThe basics of anxiety and what type of anxiety she sees most often in her practiceTangible ways to reduce anxiety and break rumination cyclesToxic positivity: what it is and why it's invalidatingCreating an anxiety management routine to help with anxious symptomsThe lack of access to therapy among different populations and more
Happy Satiated Saturday! Attachment theory explores the relationship between a parent and child and how that relationship affects future development and behavior. Insecure attachment has been found in many research studies to be connected with higher rates of disordered eating. Your attachment style can reveal itself in how you relate with others and can also show up in your relationship with food as well. There are 3 different insecure attachment styles that include: Anxious, Avoidant, and Disorganized. In this week's episode, let's dive into each insecure attachment style and how they can show up in your relationship with food.You can also read the transcript to this week's episode here: https://www.stephaniemara.com/blog/how-your-attachment-style-affects-your-relationship-with-food Having awareness of your attachment style can be empowering so that you have a deeper understanding of why you interact with your food the way you do. Change begins with cultivating awareness of what is. Awareness can create space for you to have a choice to show up in your relationship with food in a familiar way or in a new way. As a Thanksgiving treat, my Intro to Somatic Eating™ mini course is back on sale for 50% off until November 28th. If you would like more tools in your eating toolbox, this mini course will offer you three new Somatic Eating™ tools to support you with creating a new relationship with food. If you have any questions, respond back to this email anytime. https://satiated.mykajabi.com/offers/L2B45adzWith Compassion and Empathy, Stephanie Mara FoxThis episode is brought to you by Kajabi. If you're someone who has been wanting to share your wisdom in a self created online program, start your own podcast, send out emails, Kajabi is your one-stop shop. Kajabi is an all-in-one platform to create and scale your knowledge. Get a special 30 day trial here! https://app.kajabi.com/r/7zLtW92X/t/yxukwczfSpecial thanks to Bendsound for the intro music in this episode. www.bensound.comSupport the show (https://account.venmo.com/u/stephaniemara)
In this week's episode, we chat with someone who was a very big part of my coming out process when I moved to SF -- my friend and former coworker, Jimmy Long!In this episode, we cover the topic of being out in the workplace. Unbeknownst to him until we recorded this podcast, Jimmy was absolutely crucial for my coming out journey as he was the one who helped me navigate being out at work back when we both worked for Lyft.Jimmy also tells us about coming out when he was going to college in the midwest. He talks about so many good topics, including the confusion that came from having a long term girlfriend in college, coming out at the same time as his best friend and fraternity brother, and how he was able to overcome one of the most challenging hurdles in his coming out process: self-acceptance. Want to reach out to Jimmy?Instagram @jlong324Follow along with Reaching Out!Instagram @reachingoutpodTwitter @reachingoutpodHost @michaelwingsit
This week we're talking about the condition of conditional self acceptance with our just Sarah Tierney a.k.a. @thechubbycrossfitter Many of us actively avoid self acceptance thinking it will drain their motivation—when in reality it's 10X fuel and where you find all the good feelings you want to feel! Join us as we discuss how to drop the “I'll feel more confident when ___” and why it matters that you do!Where to find usInstagram @butteryourmacrosThe Internet www.butteryourmacros.comTwitter @whatsupbuttersTikTok @whatsupbuttersInbox email@example.com
We often don't realize how hard we are on ourselves and how much of an impact that can cause on our dreams, relationships, and goals. In this episode, get actionable takeaways that will help you dive deep into self-care, self-acceptance, and internal peace to create more vibrancy, joy, and positive results in your life. This week's episode is a reminder of just how much you deserve self-acceptance! On your path toward self-acceptance, consider this: “Our self-acceptance is revitalized when we commit to remaking ourselves, being intentional, and being disciplined in our activities. All of a sudden you start feeling better about yourself.” If you're needing a pep talk to get you back on track, then this episode is for you! 5 Recommendations: 1. Get the GrowthDay app for all your personal development in one place: https://growthday.com 2. Read my bestselling book, High Performance Habits: https://amzn.to/2vhf82C 3. Get the High Performance System online (the full course and assessment!): https://www.growthday.com/hps-v4 4. Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brendonburchard 5. Text me at 1-503-212-6125!
047. Why is self acceptance hard? Why do so many of us struggle with accepting ourselves? Tune in as I explore the concept of self-acceptance, why it can be challenging, and the role it plays in shaping your emotional wellbeing. Self-acceptance enables you to recognize and understand your actions, traits, and limitations, and not attach negative emotions or judgment to them. I give you 4 ways to nurture and practice self-acceptance with the goal of learning to embrace it as a core part of your belief system.Work with Alyssahttps://www.thewellnessheadquarters.com
"When we are able to move past the good girl into the empowered adult woman, we are able to access choice.”The "Good Girl" Programming (4:16)Five manifestations of the "compliant woman" programming (11:50)Ways in which women self-silence (12:00)Self-denial and how it shows up in our lives (14:31)Are you addicted to self-sacrifice? (21:27)Self-limitation no more (32:39)Why and how we women tend to play small and doubt ourselves (33:00)What you can do to step into your authentic power more fully (39:00)Self-questioning gets to stop (48:13)Different ways in which these habits might be impacting you personally, professionally and in relationship (49:15)Ways in which the personal development industry is encouraging bypassing and an over compensation that might not be necessary healthy. (1:06:29)Working with Holly Toronto (1:10:42)What makes a leader sacred? (1:12:08)Links mentioned in the episode:Private Initiations (1 on 1 Coaching and Mentoring) with Sigrid Holly's website and offerings: www.hollytoronto.comReturn to Wholeness Podcast: http://www.hollytoronto.com/podcast.htmlConnect:Holly's Instagram: @holy.torontoSigrid's Instagram: @sigridtasies
Okay, okay, hear me out first! I truly believe that there is a need for the body-positive community and all of its badass warriors. But you are so much more than a body sis! There is so much more to be talking about and I feel like it's either one or the other! This or that! No one is talking about how we have to blend the two, how they are connected!Well, I am. Let's chat!ARE WE CONNECTED?instagram.com/theamandamurphytheamandamurphy.com
How much time do you spend working on your mind? We invest our money and time on our bodies, education, finances and appearance but how much are we investing in the thing that matters most, our mental health? How we think and feel about ourselves plays a huge role in how we will treat ourselves, others and our actions. In this episode, we cover multiple topics including, self acceptance, how our inner dialogue affects us and the people around us. You'll also hear why it's important to take time to assess and reflect, along with our personal journeys of self acceptance and mental wellbeing. Update on podcast [1:30] Body image culture [2:!5] Oprah's Super Soul Podcast - Relationship Begins With Self [3:50] How Emily feels about her body while pregnant [4:40] Kelley's past and present with body image [7:00] Comparison [10:10] Hormones [11:20] Needing attention - wanting to be wanted [11:40] Reflection [13:00] Pressure to be perfect [14:40] Missing out on life due to achieve “ideal body” [17:16] Assessing yourself [18:30] How do you feel around food? [20:25] Kelley talks about how she felt during pregnancy [22:22] Social pressures [24:05] Postpartum recovery [26:00] Connection with child [27:40] Emily's journey during pregnancy [30:32] Training postpartum [33:00] Giving yourself grace [34:00] Follow us on IG: @wellness.unfiltered Follow Kelley: @kelley_bugger Follow Emily: @emilyzwilling
I had a powerful conversation with light worker + GiRLiFE Facilitator Reena all about what it takes for us to find that acceptance within ourselves to truly live our own truth. In this episode, we cover: - how we can stay open to allowing our personal truth to come to the surface - how to feel worthy of your own love - how to live your life by design - how to dissolve negative thought patterns - how to hold your own hand and truly be there for yourself her very personal journey living with psoriasis Stay connected with Reena on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psoriasis_thoughts/ Get your free ticket to our virtual launch party happening on 12/02/21! Melodypourmoradi.com/wait-list Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/girlifeempowerment/ Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/girlsempowermentbiz/ Contact: Melody@getgirlpower.com Website: www.getgirlpower.com
Happy Satiated Saturday! How old were you when you started to choose food to self soothe? Sometimes this can happen later in life and what I often hear with those that I work with is that it started very young. The overeating, emotional eating, binge eating, undereating, restriction all came into your younger you's life for a reason. And what plays out in your relationship with food during the holidays is also happening to protect and support your Inner Child in many different ways. In this week's episode, I wanted to write a love letter to your Inner Child to offer an example of what they might need to hear during this holiday season. You can also read the transcript to this week's episode here: https://www.stephaniemara.com/blog/this-is-what-your-inner-child-needs-to-hear-this-holiday-seasonYou get to decide what is going to be most supportive to you and your Inner Child in any moment. And once you make your Food Decision, you get to trust that you have made the best decision you could. With Compassion and Empathy, Stephanie Mara FoxThis episode is brought to you by Kajabi. If you're someone who has been wanting to share your wisdom in a self created online program, start your own podcast, send out emails, Kajabi is your one-stop shop. Kajabi is an all-in-one platform to create and scale your knowledge. Get a special 30 day trial here! https://app.kajabi.com/r/7zLtW92X/t/yxukwczfSpecial thanks to Bendsound for the intro music in this episode. www.bensound.comSupport the show (https://account.venmo.com/u/stephaniemara)
We should govern our lives by the 7 principles of S.U.C.C.E.S.S. When you try to escape these 7 principles, you are in violation of God's principles for success. Learn more about the importance of obeying the biblical principles of S.U.C.C.E.S.S.Support the show (http://www.fbcglenarden.org/give)
Too many of us hold ourselves hostage to love. We may feel like we are not worthy or we don't measure up to our own expectations. Be present for the good that you do. This is self-efficacy. Slow down to recognize how good you already are.
Camy Kennedy is an Intuitive Life Coach and Author of “It's Happy Now: The Happiness Handbook for High Achievers”. Camy helps perfectionists, people pleasers, and high achievers redefine success so they can release the guilt and manifest with ease. With a background in molecular biology, neuroscience & psychology she provides a framework for incremental success. It's not about being perfect, it's about practicing your potential! In this episode, Camy Kennedy joins Tricia Carr to chat about the spiritual side of narcissism/co-dependency, guilt, and chasing happiness.Tricia Carr is a spiritual teacher, empathic channel, multidimensional medium, certified hypnotherapist and animal telepath.--> The Mystical medium Workshop December 4-5, 2021 with Lightshine Spiritual Academy teacher, Tricia Carr – Register now!https://class.lightshineacademy.com/mediumship/Camy Kennedywww.camykennedy.com www.facebook.com/offiicalcamykennedy www.instagram.com/camykennedy www.facebook.com/groups/powerfulpotential FREE GIFT: www.camykennedy.com/perfect Podcast: Camy Kennedy Mindset Show on itunes & Spotify www.camykennedy.com/listen--> Mystic Arts Academy with Tricia Carr, Register or Subscribehttps://triciacarrcharm.com/mystic-arts-academy/ --> Lightshine Development Circle - A sacred place for spiritual seekers to practice giving and receiving readings.https://class.lightshineacademy.com/circle/--> Tricia Carr:www.triciacarrcharm.comhttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/charmed-life-with-tricia-carr/id1173744974https://www.facebook.com/TriciaCarrCharmhttps://www.instagram.com/triciacarrcharm/Mentioned in this episode:David Gandelmanhttps://www.meditationschool.us/--> Join the Charmed Life Mailing List for Spirit guidance, show announcements, special offers and free giftshttps://app.convertkit.com/landing_pages/444740?v=7--> Charmed Meditation Storehttps://triciacarrcharm.com/store/--> The Lightshine PodcastiTunes https://rb.gy/txw4e8YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChZ9xJNbH9NYhGhz4nVDkVgInstagram https://www.instagram.com/lightshinespiritualacademy/--> Join the Lightshine Lab!https://www.facebook.com/groups/thelightworkerslab
"When you put your money towards something that's good and right, you will get it tenfold or more.”The transition that Michael and Makenzie made in their business (6:15)Lessons that Makenzie and Michael received from pausing down their multi-million dollar company and how they have come back stronger than ever (17:53)The real cost of our daily choices and being in a Sacred Union (26:17)How Sacred Union impacted Makenzie and Michael's mission (31:47)Bringing deep intentionality to companies and products (46:29)The real cost of compromising our integrity for profit (57:41)How the product you consume make an impact in the world (1:06:38)The journey to ethical consumption (1:11:41)Alternative ways of doing business that are aligned with the values and vision behind businesses (1:16:51)Working with Makenzie and Michael and finding their amazing products (1:23:27)“What makes a leader sacred?” (1:25:36)Links mentioned in the episode:Private Initiations (1 on 1 Coaching and Mentoring) with Sigrid KAKAO Ceremonial Drinking Chocolate:USACanadaUKAustralia/NZ/Asia REQUESTbarUse code SIGRID for 20% off DELIGHTED BY DessertsUse code SIGRID for 15% off Makenzie's Book :How To Lead A Badass Business From Your Heart Michael's BookEverything You Never Learnt About SexConnect:Sigrid's Instagram: @sigridtasiesMakenzie's Instagram: @makenziemarzluffKakao's Instagram: @kakaodrinkingchocolateRequest Bar: @requestbarofficial
A couple months ago, I found myself in Mexico COVERED in bug bites! They were so bad I literally couldn't sleep. So I asked my Instagram besties for advice...like the kind you ask when you're desperate for any solution. And one girl told me to go to the Instagram account Phil's My Pharmacist to look up his bug bite hack. And the next thing I knew, I was mixing up some really random stuff in my hotel bathroom and putting this pink paste all over my body. But it worked!! So I posted a little thank you video to Phil on Instagram, and that was the start of an awesome friendship with Phil's My Pharmacist. Today I sit down with Phil to ask him all about his journey to becoming a pharmacist, why he wanted to do this as a career, and what some of the most rewarding things are about being a pharmacist. He talks to me about mental health, not judging others, how a good pharmacist will present you with over-the-counter options and education and let you decide, and some really solid advice about self-love and acceptance. He also talked to me about the best plan for taking opiates (after a surgery or when absolutely necessary) if you know you're prone to addiction, and how to safe-guard yourself from going into a dangerous situation that could lead to addiction. If you're not already Insta-friends with Phil and he's not your pharmacist yet, he probably will be by the end of this interview. Today's episode is brought to you by Troomi Wireless. Get the safe phone that grows with your kids. Go to troomi.com and enter code bf50 to get 50% off a Troomi phone. Time Stamps: [01:20] - Corrine talks about how she became friends with Phil's My Pharmacist. [02:50] - Phil says he originally pursued being a doctor. He says this incident was a sign that he should seek another path. [05:43] - Once Phil switched over to pharmacy school, did he love the programs? [07:45] - Phil values an approach of telling people “what they can do” instead of “what to do”. [10:26] - Being accessible to the community as a pharmacist helps everyone be informed. What are Phil's thoughts on the generous interactions between pharmacists and community members? [12:25] - Corrine shares a story about the time during her pregnancy where a pharmacist helped her address a bad cold. [14:11] - What are Phil's thoughts on the usage of essential oils? [15:59] - Phil shares his encouraging thoughts on why people should let go of stigmas surrounding mental health. [17:38] - Corrine opens up as she reflects on her journey of including medicine in her mental health care. [20:04] - Corrine and Phil admire the strength and courage required to take ownership of mental health. [21:48] - Different from a few decades ago, kids of today are exposed to a lot more, which impacts the mental health of youth. [23:57] - How can we help kids deal with anxiety? Can kids move past anxiety by acknowledging the feeling is there? [26:48] - Accept all feelings, and teach people to deal with the feelings. [28:08] - Connecting a mental health approach to addressing drug addiction is the way that Phil imagines we can “rehumanize” how individuals are treated. [30:56] - Addiction is more connected to escapism than euphoria. [34:11] - Phil breaks down his suggestions for painkiller management for people concerned about possible addiction. [36:34] - What is the backstory that influences painkiller usage and pain tolerance in the medical field? [39:34] - As a community pharmacist, Phil knows a lot of personal information on his community members. Does it ever get awkward with his friends? [42:34] - Did Phil figure out a new remedy for keratosis pilaris? [45:22] - Phil gives his list of items every household should have in relation to health and medicine. [48:22] - No one can like you more than you like yourself. [49:46] - Keep a look out for Phil's My Pharmacist! Supporting Resources: Phil's Pharmacy in Cache Valley Utah Pharmacist IG Phils My Pharmacist on YouTube
So we have "issues" with our bodies, with the food we eat, our size, exercise you name it. We all are working hard to re-write the narrative around these things to relieve ourselves from these issues. But what if I told you that despite it feeling like there are so many "issues" it all just comes from one place, it all has the same source? For you, for me, for all of us, it is the same source!!ARE WE CONNECTED?instagram.com/theamandamurphytheamandamurphy.com
Dr. Rhoda Lipscomb is back on Love In Brief to talk about her new book, "You're Not Broken : Dr. Rhoda's Guide to Strong Self Worth for ABDLs." It is a must-read for ABDLs, their partners, and even the parents of those who are ABDLs. The book is out now on Amazon in Kindle and Paperback forms, and is even available for free if you have a Kindle Unlimited subscription. Read it, review it, share it... it really is a remarkable work that drives straight to the heart of ABDL self-love and self-acceptance.
This week Joe welcomes Eugene Teo to the Industrial Strength Show. Eugene is a former bodybuilder turned problem-solver / muscle mechanics expert who teaches people [from all walks of life] how to build a better body in the most effective manner possible. This 90-minute conversation covers a variety of different topics. Highlights include: How the STRONG documentary impacted Eugene's teenage years; What should be the minimum 'Barrier For Entry' in order to call yourself a "professional" in the Fitness Industry?; The Importance of Self Acceptance; The Best Training Advice Eugene Ever Received; Eugene's Triggering Thoughts on Mobility...and much, Much MORE! *For a full list of Show Notes & Timestamps from this episode goto www.IndustrialStrengthShow.com IMPORTANT LINKS/PEOPLE MENTIONED Eugene Teo (@coacheugeneteo) Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell Hellowater [promo code: DEFRANCO] Four Sigmatic
Today, Dominic Enyart covers… The False Self-help Gospel: why modern day self-help content isn't working, and why despite the increased effort to improve mental health, depression and suicide rates keep climbing. What can we do as Christians to address this disaster? The Left Wants to Sexuaize Your Child: as shown by a radical, liberal, public elementary school teacher in Florida taking her class to a gay bar. Kaepernick is a Lunatic: he argues that slavery was actually pretty great. Sponsor a Show! Click here to help keep us broadcasting! (We really need it :) We have now officially begun our November 2021 telethon! We typically set a dollar goal, like 30 or 40 thousand. But this time, we're looking for 20 new monthly donors who will sponsor one show a month. Being on air isn't cheap. We run about 20 broadcasts and it costs us about $150 dollars per show. We operate on a shoestring budget, so in the past we've relied heavily on those large donations and big dollar telethons. But that was when Bob was here. Now the ministry has less security, and that makes promoting Bob's teaching a daunting task. So if just you and 19 others can help us guarantee that the show goes on, Bob's Biblically centered teachings will go out to thousands more. The ministries of so many Godly leaders, authors & preachers have been magnified tenfold, or even a hundredfold after their passing. Think of C.S. Lewis, and how he still, today, has such an impact on millions. We have no doubt Bob could have a similar impact, and your sponsorship of just one show a month will be the force to magnify this ministry, and the Gospel. So if you can help, and sponsor just one show a month, that would be a massive blessing. Thanks so much, Godspeed! ~The Bob Enyart Live Staff
Blaming and judging seem almost required to play the game of life, but the truth is that if I’m angry with you, the problem is me. Host Johnny G looks at a powerful spiritual axiom: whenever we are upset by the wrongs of another, there is a wrong in us also. Contact host Johnny G at firstname.lastname@example.org, or visit www.refractivecoaching.com for more information. For similarly-themed episodes, try Making Peace with Your Dark Side, How the 12 Steps Can Help Anyone Heal, or From Addiction to Self-Acceptance. Find an episode transcript below: Hello. Hello, everyone, and welcome to another episode of Refractive. I’m Johnny G. I was talking with a friend a few weeks ago about the space race we have today between billionaires, how Richard Branson and Jeff Bezos and Elon Musk went into this competition to see who can conquer space and how crazy it seemed that only a few decades ago, it was the world’s superpowers that were behind a space race and that today it feels like individual wealthy people can now accomplish the same things that it took countries to accomplish before. And you know, it’s easy for me to be upset about that. In fact, I was pretty disturbed by the thought of so much wealth being concentrated in the hands of a person when there are so many people who struggle. Now, as I thought, this thought and as I’m talking with my friend and complaining about these other people, you know, I realize that when I consider my spiritual values and the path that I’m on, these feelings of alarm and frustration and resentment towards these men. This doesn’t really jive with my spiritual state right now. I don’t agree with being upset about that kind of thing. It no longer serves me to wind up my anger over the behaviors of another person. Yet here I am, falling into that behavioral pattern. And as I was having this conversation, I decided to take a look within, you know, what’s really going on here? Why am I really upset about this? What is being triggered inside of me? What’s causing me to point the finger out at someone else? And, you know, in the moment of the conversation, I couldn’t come up with exactly what it might be, but I spent some time thinking about it after the fact, and I realized that there are a couple of characteristics in myself that rise to the surface when I think of this situation. There’s the idea that I have worked very hard and have wanted to be rewarded financially, and I have not achieved the wealth in my life that I one time had wanted. “And there is a disappointment around there that I worked, worked, worked and I still didn’t quite make it financially. And then there’s another part of me that wants to point my finger at these guys and say, “What are you doing to solve these issues in the world?”” When in reality, I know that I’m not doing a whole lot to resolve these issues in the world. So if I want them to do their part, what is my part and what am I doing to work towards income equality and accessibility of opportunities in all of this type of stuff that I am claiming that they contribute to as well? So there are quite a few areas of my own behavior that need some healing and nee
"Embodying your feminine is the most rebellious act that you can take.”The Feminine Rising - what is it? (2:40)The biggest challenges that get in the way of the rising of the feminine within each of us (10:00)The masculine approach to the feminine rising (18:50)What women can do to embrace and allow our inner-feminine to rise (25:25)What's possible for the world as the feminine continues to rise? (33:15)Working with Amy Natalie (39:50)What makes a leader sacred? (41:38)Links mentioned in the episode:Private Initiations (1 on 1 Coaching and Mentoring) with Sigrid Amy's website and offerings: https://amynatalieco.com/Feminine Frequency Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/4TrLDBn1Q1DP9XP9voFINBConnect:Amy's Instagram: @amynataliecoSigrid's Instagram: @sigridtasies
Okay, so every new year we all go into the new year with new goals. But are they really all that new? Also, why are you waiting until the new year to start a goal anyways? Do you know how much can happen in such a short amount of time!?I have some hard, honest truth for you sis! Let's talk!Are we connected?theamandamurphy.cominstagram.com/theamandamurphy
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Today's message is all about self-acceptance and the key to happiness. Underneath all of the science, what it comes down to is living our truth. The research is science-driven, of course, but the message here is spiritual. Look around your life and decide to choose self-acceptance and happiness.
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Check out our sponsors: Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Best Fiends: Download Best Fiends FREE on the Apple App Store or Google Play. More than 70% of people say they have regrets related to their ideal self. If you're a human, you've most likely been in relationships and situations that spark regret, shame and confusion on what to do and who to be in the moment. So often, people spend time trying to please everyone around them. The way you dress, the way you style your hair, where you sit in the meeting, all of these decisions are so easily influenced by a want and desire to be given approval from the right people. But what about you? What do you want? How often are you spending time apologizing for feeling, and even better how often are you downplaying that you even feel anything? Najwa Zebian is an activist, poet and celebrated author. She joins Lisa for a second time to discuss how she came to radical self acceptance, and share the startling fact that we may actually be gaslighting ourselves when we diminish and disregard the pain we feel when vulnerability has been betrayed in the hands of the wrong person. Najwa's Questions for Self-Acceptance: 1. Who are you? 2. Why do I believe what I believe? 3. Why do I live my life the way that I do? 4. Why am I scared of X, Y and Z? 5. Why are you so afraid of feeling pain? “When you build your home and other people you give them the power to make as homeless” -Najwa Zebian SHOW NOTES: Gaslighting Yourself | Why diminishing your painful experience lessens your self-worth [0:40] Homeless | How we build homes in others and end up homeless when they walk away [6:37] Toxic Savior | Trying to save someone doesn't mean you're owed anything, that's toxic [9:47] Proof of Love | Examining the real cost of having someone love versus what you receive [16:03] Self-Aware | The need to be aware of your triggers and the filter you've created for life [19:56] Self-Acceptance | Self-acceptance versus indifference and know who you're accepting [25:59] Identity Crisis | Najwa shares the personal crisis that made her question her identity [33:59] Being Hurt | Why you need to acknowledge the hurt and know healing in your power [39:30] Vulnerability | How to be open to vulnerability after being hurt even in protection mode [45:24] Unwinding Triggers | Finding the origin of your triggers and allow yourself to feel it [51:56] Self-Judgement | Not blaming or judging yourself for allowing things to happen [55:36] QUOTES: “You should never be okay with being treated that badly. You should never be okay with being betrayed. You should never be okay with having someone you trusted so much to turn around and treat you as if you never meant anything to them. You should never be okay with that.” Read by Lisa [0:46] “Don't push yourself to a point where you gaslight yourself out of your own pain” [2:09] “When pain knocks on your door, if you keep it out the door, yeah, it might stay there for a while, but you're adapting your life to noise in the background.” [5:45] “The foundation of your home is self acceptance and self awareness. Once you have those two elements, you can build whatever home you want within” [9:23] “Let me separate what I've chosen to give you from what you've chosen to reciprocate” [12:47] “You don't deserve someone's burdens to be placed on your back for them to believe that you actually love them.” [17:18] “Once you become aware of yourself, historically, and in the moment, you're golden” [25:49] “The one who broke you cannot heal you. You have to heal you. You can't expect the person who broke you into pieces to bring those pieces and say I'm gonna put you back together.” [42:32] “Vulnerability is beautiful, it is what's needed for connection to happen, but vulnerability [...] is being open to injury” [44:14] “Boundaries aren't about being in protection mode. Boundaries are about knowing that what you have within is so valuable that you will not allow certain people to come near it or hurt it or whatever. Boundaries stem from self worth.” [48:46] “The ending itself is not what you need to change, the storyline is what you need to change and that's in your hands.” [1:01:20] Follow Nejwa Zebian Website: https://najwazebian.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/najwazebian Twitter: https://twitter.cokkfdlk dfmlkfd m/najwazebian Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/najwazebian/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/najwazebian1 Podcast: https://najwazebian.com/stories-of-soul-podcast
This week's podcast discusses Inner Truth, the second in the series from my book Everyone Has An IT. Inner Truth is the ability to see different scenarios and the beauty of all these scenarios and being human, eternal, and soul. It is about the courage to look at IT, what you are feeling and whatever comes to your life, and about really paying attention to all of this. If you are not looking at your current situation, it will create more conflict within you. Inner truth is about being in a state of acceptance of self and all the beautiful things that go along with finding out who you are and how many IT's (short for inner truths) you have. Listen to discover more insights on this.
Do you have a dark secret that's holding you back from loving yourself? After multiple breakdowns, while managing a bipolar disorder, four kids, and trying to keep up the visage she had created, Deirdre Maloney finally felt the world crashing down on her. The skeletons in her closet were on the attack, and if she didn't deal with her past, it was going to deal with her. Sexual abuse, rape, and underage prostitution are only the beginning of Deirdre Maloney's story. She digs into her darkest secrets to release the relentless thoughts of not being good enough. Deirdre's memoir, Unfold Me is a lesson on self-acceptance in the most profound way. She believes we must face the darkest parts of ourselves to be wholehearted. The unfolding of herself, who felt so much shame for the life she led as a young adult, will help you connect with a side of yourself that will bring you home to your truth! Walking through the fire of complex emotions is the only way to move forward. Today, as layers of Deirdre's life unfolded, she is busy living her dream as the founder of High Gate Racing, Canada's largest all-female competitive cycling team. She raises money for their youth development program and advocates for women in sports. Deirdre is also the co-founder of a women's support group in her community. She believes in sharing our stories to cultivate more collective healing. She lives in Ontario, Canada, with her husband and children. Join Deirdre Maloney and me on Tuesday, October 25, 11 A.M. - 12 NOON CT US. We will be having a conversation about her remarkable life's journey and how we can all successfully unfold layers of ourselves to experience harmony and joyful living.
When you elevate your self-image, you drop the insecurities and have the courage to live life how you want to live it. Most of the thoughts you say to yourself about yourself, you repeat over and over again. When we retrain our brains and start new thought habits, we can start having thoughts that actually benefit us and will take us were we want to go...to think like a style icon. Learn more about ELEVATE here: https://www.styleguidesociety.com/elevate
"A conflict in a relationship is like a snow globe, you can't see it clearly unless you set it down and let things settle for a while”What is Sacred Union? (6:55)How Sacred Union can amplify the impact we create in the world (13:37)Challenges Christine and Stef experienced within their relationship, and how they grew through them (22:30)Learning to repair after arguments, and creating relationship agreements (32:21)How to create agreement that feel expansive and respect our individual freedom (42:00)Cultivating sacred union in an existing relationship (47:00)How to prepare ourselves for a sacred union relationship (50:12)Challenges of being a perfectionist in a relationship (53:10)Working with Christine and Stef (1:01:17)“What makes a leader sacred?” (1:05:12)Links mentioned in the episode:Private Initiations (1 on 1 Coaching and Mentoring) with SigridSacred Union Process with Christine and Stef"Be The Queen" program with Christine and StefRelationship Retreat (recorded) with Christine and StefConnect:Sigrid's Instagram: @sigridtasiesChristine's Instagram: @christinehasslerStefano's Instagram: @stefanossifandos
As long as we are at odds with reality, we will always lose. In this episode, Erin Donovan joins Dino to talk about how to get better in your own life. She shares the importance of being ok with who you are and where you are, and look at the places you want to grow but not see those as deficiencies within yourself but see them as opportunities to step into greater strengths. REFERENCE: A Happy Pocket Full of Money: Infinite Wealth and Abundance in the Here and Now by Cameron Gikandi For more information and any queries, you can contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org Website: https://www.fairytaledreamlife.com Erin has coached thousands of teens and adults since 2013. She specializes in facilitating the growth necessary for her clients to reach their highest potential. Her clients' results vary greatly because each client has his or her own vision and desires: students overcoming testing fear or stress about a specific subject, entrepreneurs increasing sales and raising prices, couples experiencing renewed love and connection, and people with anxiety and depression suddenly feeling free and happy again. All of Erin's clients experience more alignment and a happier and healthier mind. DINO'S BIO: Dino Watt is a dynamic, highly sought after keynote speaker, private practice business advisor, best selling author, and certified body language and communication expert. As a business relationship expert, Dino understands that people are the heart of any business. His interactive training style will bring your audience to roaring laughter and move them to tears. Whether he is training on C.O.R.E Culture, Sales and Sales Support, or Making love and business work, your audience will rave about Dino and the energy he brings to every event. Dino has spoken for MKS, American Association of Orthodontists, PCSO, Pitts Progressive Study Group, The Shulman Study Club, Keller Williams, Sotheby's, DentalTown, Ortho2, OrthoVoice, and many others. Out of all the accolades Dino has received, the one he is proudest of is title of PHD, Passionate Husband and Dad. Dino has been married to his wife Shannon for 24 years and together they have raised 3 amazing adults.
You know one of the main facets of the Seize the Yay philosophy is separating what you do from who you are but, naturally, our conversations still touch on “the doing” because work is inextricably related with finding your overall purpose or passion in life. Today's guest, however, has faced perhaps more upheaval in relation to “the being “– not so much in finding what you love but in finding who you are.Growing up as a Jehovah's Witness to hard-working, immigrant parents in regional Victoria, Deni Todorovič's environment didn't exactly foster the language or conversations that allowed them to fully articulate their identity until almost their 20s. But having come out not once, but TWICE since then (along with all the torment and confusion that accompanies such big shifts in identity), Deni is now living their absolute best life as a non-binary role model encouraging us all to honour who we are as well as gently and patiently helping us all learn more about the language and landscape of gender identity and sexuality.For someone who once didn't feel like they had the language to express how they felt, Deni is one of the most articulate guests I've had the pleasure of speaking with sharing so openly about even the most awkward elements of gender fluidity i.e. we learn how they pick which bathrooms to use. Sexuality aside, Deni has also had an incredible pathYAY working their way from shit kicking intern all the way up to Fashion Editor at Cosmopolitan right up until its closure in 2018.Their insights are equally as powerful in dealing with the unexpected loss of dreams embracing a giant pivot to move back to Geelong and embrace the freelance world wholeheartedly (including becoming the face of The Body Shop's Self Love Campaign - a company you know I adore working with). Their energy and passion for equality and kindness is so infectious and energising (and the gold sparkles I turned up in barely did Deni justice) – I hope that they bring your heart the warmth that mine was filled with the whole way through.+ Follow Deni here+ Announcements on Insta at @spoonful_of_sarah+ Join our Facebook community here+ Subscribe to not miss out on the next instalment of YAY!FIND OUT MORE ABOUT THE BODY SHOP YOUTH ACTIVIST SERIES
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Beth never felt quite at home in monogamous relationships and had heard of poly once upon a time, but after her second marriage didn't work out Beth decided to be intentionally single for a while and during that time she dove into polyam research and discovered Solo-Polyamory. I ask Beth about the things that she had to accept about herself and accept herself as a polyamorous woman, and she explains how she had to unlearn monogamy before she could even begin that process. As it turns out, this interview is pretty pivotal in Beth's journey as it is the first time she has disclosed polyamory as part of her identity in a public forum, and it just happens to be October 11, National Coming Out Day when this interview was recorded! After some chatting about Brene Brown's obsession with vulnerability, Beth share her thoughts on the relationship between vulnerability and self-acceptance, and oh boy did this conversation get deep! This heartfelt chat with such an awesome person was so fun and refreshing. I think a lot of people will resonate with Beth. Support Beth by going to www.singleparentsproject.com and follow her on IG: @butterflybeth ! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/practicingpolya/support
Danny Guerrero, the vice president of North America Strategy at MMGY Global, always knew he was different. But despite facing tremendous odds in his childhood — including years spent watching his father struggle with substance abuse and feeling out of place as a Latino at an all-white school in San Diego — Guerrero pushed forward on his journey of self-discovery and has since turned many of life's lemons into lemonade. Guerrero's interests and experiences in public relations, multicultural marketing and brand strategy have propelled him to prominence in the travel industry. He's active in the Diversity, Inclusion and Equity (DEI) space, (winning an Outstanding Achievement Award from the World Travel & Tourism Council for Advancing Diversity and Inclusion in the Travel Industry earlier this year), and he's pioneered research for MMGY that places a lens on the needs of underrepresented groups — most recently, Black and Latinx travelers. In this episode of Humans of Travel, Guerrero dives into his journey of cultural connection and self-acceptance. He opens up about being the first person in his family to go to a four-year university, the moment he confronted his sexuality, and how he used his interests in politics and tourism to propel his career forward. He also talks about what's needed in the travel industry to make it a more welcoming and inclusive environment for all. RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Inroads: inroads.org MMGY Travel Intelligence: www.mmgyglobal.com Future Leaders in Travel Retreat: www.futureleadersintravel.com Latinx Study: www.mmgyintel.com Danny's LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com ABOUT YOUR HOST Emma Weissmann is the Digital Managing Editor of TravelAge West, a print and online magazine for travel advisors based in the Western U.S. She is also the co-host of Trade Secrets, a podcast created with sister publication Travel Weekly. TravelAge West also produces national trade publications Explorer and Family Getaways, as well as events including the Future Leaders in Travel Retreat, Global Travel Marketplace West, the WAVE Awards gala and the Napa Valley Leadership Forum. ABOUT THE SHOW TravelAge West's podcast, “Humans of Travel,” features conversations with exceptional people who have compelling stories to tell. Listeners will hear from the travel industry's notable authorities, high-profile executives, travel advisors and rising stars as they share the experiences — the highs and the lows — that make them human. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
"There is nothing more powerful, concious, mature, evolved than fully and truly accepting yourself”Where this 7 Feminine Embodiment Principles came from (9:20)Learning to operate from a space of self-responsibility and ownership (11:46)The meaning of self-responsibility and ownership (13:18)Shadow Work and Shadow Integration (17:40)How you can embody your feminine energetics (27:17)Emotional Mastery (29:14)Activating your voice to express your truth (39:14)How to be fierce and soft at the same time (42:00)Turning On your receiver (46:00)Understanding sacredness (53:00)Asking for support (1:00:26)Embodying your truth (1:03:00)Links mentioned in the episode:6 month Sacred Embodiment Mastermind with Sigrid - THE EMBODIED WOMANShadow work and Shadow Integration Podcast EpisodeConnect with Sigrid:Instagram: @sigridtasiesEmail: email@example.com
Any issues, challenges, problems in your life can benefit from this practice and this understandingWhat is it for you, what would like to apply this to?All of things I'm going to tell you today, you already know how to do and already possessAll of the things in you are like pieces of a puzzleAll grounded in your ability and practice of noticing, collecting evidence Your brain is essentially an evidence collecting machine, it spends all it's effort, using all your senses to prove things true - what is it proving true? YOUR OWN PERCEPTIONS AND BELIEFS Neuroplasticity, Science tells us that we are literally able to rewire our brains, if fact that we're doing that every moment of everyday - with or without your INTENTION Noticing, the evidence, shows what has the volume up, what's been turned down 3 ways to rewire your brain, starting today! A.I.D.1 - Attention - You deserve your attention Noticing the story There is such an incredible depth to every human being, but we are very quick to move out of our own experience for the promise of an outside version that is “better” We grow our inner capacity when we first notice and put our attention on what is already here.Paying attention to what is here? The thoughts The feelings The desire to not feel it or to not pay attention 2 - Intention - Intentionally rewiringWhether you know it or not, you are creating and reinforcing the neural networks in your mindRemembering why we practice anything - to be intentional about creating neuro networks 3 - De-programming - Doing the workNoticing: your thoughts, your body, your reactionsWe do so much in our lives and report it as if it were absolute truth, like it's the news What if you lived this way, each day? What if you saw everything in your life as THE thing to help you grow, deepenPete's Self kindness Coaching, click here or DM to connect with me about coachingI coach one-on-one, for 6 months.We change your internal narrative intentionally from one that hurts to one that heals!What's also included : Connecting with other self kindness clients, accessing to the client portal loaded with resources to keep you going strong in your practice!!It's 1:1 coaching, with monthly group sessions, AND an online interface to with resources, worksheets, videos and more!click here or DM to connect with me about coaching@selfkindnesswithpete- Instagram sign up for the email list at petesibley.com
We all wake up and have things that make us feel anything but joy or excitement. We are also quick to blame those things on the wrong thing, we are grasping at straws trying to change it, just not getting any closer to what we want. I think I know why. let's dive on in. ARE WE CONNECTED?instagram.com/theamandamurphytheamandamurphy.com
In this episode Chris talks Self-Acceptance with new co-host, his editor, Cortney Donelson. He then talks about the opposite of that, self-critique. This is the demon that can lead you down a path of insecurities and self-destruction. He then talks about how you can learn to go from acceptance to loving yourself and how that then spills out to other people and how we treat them. Tune in to see Self-Acceptance Through a Therapist's Eyes.
This week we explore how to reframe our understanding of past challenges and use those experiences to identify positive new ways to navigate forward more empowered because of them! We welcome Isabel Chiara, creator of the “Life Actualization Process,” a guide, mentor, and leader, who brings with her a powerful message, “Your obstacles are working for you!” Isabel is also the author of the new released book, Eat Your Words, a narrative, semi-autobiographical exploration, full of life-lessons and experiences transforming self-destructive behavior into self-compassionate dialogue and ways to better understand how inherited trauma can influence our tendency to use food or other external substances for placation. Chiara shares why women are especially good at creating Food-Abusive relationships and even her historic abuse of her own physical nutritional fluctuations. Isabel also reveals how we can transform addiction through slow steps of self-compassion, the importance of self-care, gut instinct, and even imaginative muses. But most of all, she asks listeners to love NOT being there yet and even to reframe what “getting there” actually means and why we can come together to transform what success physically looks like. One thing resonates throughout the hour, failure is not an option – as long as we are trying, we are learning, growing and transforming--but not failing! Isabel has been a leader throughout her entire life, studying and working in transformational energy modalities, serving others, whether through entrepreneurial work, culinary prowess, or her professional intuitive guidance. With dedication, Isabel activates unlimited potential and empowerment for her clients, helping them to ignite their full passion and align with their most authentic life path, masterfully supporting the liberation of constricting beliefs, definitions, and self-limitations.To learn more about her or purchase her book, Eat Your Words, also available at your favorite booksellers, visit her at www.Isabel-Chiara.com. Thank you, amazing Aging Rebels, for tuning into the show from all over the world, we appreciate each of you! If you enjoy this episode and know of someone else who may, please share it with your friends and family members! Also, please leave us a positive show review on your favorite platform, we love recognizing our listeners on air who do! To connect, share, download, subscribe and find more ways to listen, visit our official host page at www.CTRNetwork.com/holleykelley or www.HolleyKelley.com. We stive to be The Listener's Show! Remember, YOU Rock and YOU Role Model!!
This episode is deeply personal where I talk about my flaws and insecurities and how owning them liberated me in a way. There are some of the powerful lessons that you can learn from this episode on owning your insecurities and becoming comfortable with who you are. Follow the Inspiring Talk on Facebook http://theinspiringtalk.com/facebook Twitter http://theinspiringtalk.com/twitter Instagram http://theinspiringtalk.com/instagram For brand collaborations and opportunities, send us an email at firstname.lastname@example.org
A Country Doctor, Part 2 of 2 A = Assessment of Resistance At the end of the moving and tearful empathy phase, we asked Jillian about her goals for the session, which included the ability to enjoy my work to give away all of my certificates set limits with my patients feel happy with what I do not have to fear my work anymore! After Jillian said she would be willing to press the Magic Button to achieve all these goals instantly if we had one, we suggested Positive Reframing first. to see what might be lost of she suddenly achieved all these goals. You can creview the Positive Reframing that we did together. Here's Jillian's Emotions table at the end of Positive Reframing, showing her goals for each emotion when we used the Magic Dial. The idea is to dial each feeling down to a lower level that would reduce your suffering while still allowing you to preserve all the awesome things about you! Emotions % Now % Goal % After Emotions % Now % Goal % After Sad, blue, down, unhappy 80 15 Embarrassed, foolish, humiliated, self-conscious 50 10 Anxious, nervous 90 20 Hopeless, discouraged, pessimistic, despairing 100 0 Bad 70 0 Frustrated, stuck, thwarted, defeated 90 5 Inferior, inadequate, incompetent 95 5 Angry, mad, resentful, annoyed, irritated, upset, furious 100 10 Jillian said that the Positive Reframing really opened her up, especially when we read the list of positives out loud. It kind of shocked her in a good way so see that her negative feelings were not really problems, defects, or symptoms of one or more “mental disorders,” but the expression of what was most beautiful and awesome about her as a human being, and as a physician. This Positive Reframing is one of the unique aspects of TEAM-CBT. Although we are encouraging the patient to keep the symptoms, rather than pressing the Magic Button that makes them disappear, it paradoxically eliminates or drastically reduces the resistance to change, and opens the door to the possibility of ultra-rapid recovery. M = Methods We asked Jillian what Negative Thought she wanted to work on first, and she chose #9: “I'm not having a big enough impact.” She believed this thought 100%. First, we asked Jillian to identify and explain the cognitive distortions in this thought, and she focused on these: Should Statement; Self-Blame, All-or-Nothing Thinking, Mental Filtering, and Discounting the Positive. In retrospect, I think I spotted two additional distortions: Emotional Reading (I feel I'm not having a positive impact, so I must not be having a positive impact) and Mind-Reading (my patients expect me to have the answers to all their problems and judge me when I don't have all the answers.) Then we challenged the Negative Thought, and Jillian she was able, with a little help and a role reversal, to crush it, as you can see here. Usually, crushing one Negative Thought is about all you really have to do, because once the patient blows one Negative Thought out of the water, there is usually a kind of “cognitive click,” and the brain suddenly changes, and all the positive circuits suddenly get fired up. It's amazing to behold, and you will hear it for yourself! The damn did suddenly break, and Jillian could clobber the rest of her Negative Thoughts fairly easily, using a combination of Self-Defense, Self-Acceptance, and a lot of the CAT technique. She suddenly appeared to be a radically and delightfully different person during the Externalization of Voices. You can see her final Daily Mood Log here. You can see her feelings on the Emotions table at the end of the session. Emotions % Now % Goal % After Emotions % Now % Goal % After Sad, blue, down, unhappy 80 15 0 Embarrassed, foolish, humiliated, self-conscious 50 10 0 Anxious, nervous 90 20 0 Hopeless, discouraged, pessimistic, despairing 100 0 0 Bad 70 0 0 Frustrated, stuck, thwarted, defeated 90 5 0 Inferior, inadequate, incompetent 95 5 0 Angry, mad, resentful, annoyed, irritated, upset, furious 100 10 0 Jillian's scores on my Happiness Test on the Brief Mood Survey also soared to 100% and her ratings of Jill and David on Empathy and Helpfulness tests were also perfect. After the workshop, Jillian sent this email. Hi Jill and David, As I drove home tonight from my office, I actually felt like my heart had been opened. My chest didn't feel as tight and locked-up like it normally does. It felt so relaxed. I put my baseball cap on, rolled the windows down, and listened to 90's country music (my favorite) on my drive and sang loudly. I have spent the last hour checking my new superpowers. There have been negative thoughts, but telling them to "shut the heck up. I am not listening to you" has been quite liberating. I even was greeted by my 4 year old when I got out of the car. I knelt down and hugged her without the worry of being a rotten mom, but rather one of feeling like I am the perfect mom for her, flaws and all. Thank you for this opportunity. I took a chance to email you in the first place after listening to a podcast weeks ago. I thought there would be no chance in heck that I would be selected. I am glad I had this remarkable opportunity and grateful to have worked with both of you. Much love and admiration, Jillian I hope you enjoy it as much as we did. Again, a big hug and thanks to the star or our podcast, Dr. Jillian Scherer who gave us all an incredible gift today! Thanks for listening. I hope you learned a ton and were moved emotionally. Write and let us know what you think! Jillian and Jill joined Rhonda and me for a two plus month follow-up at the end of the recording of part 2. She is still glowing and doing great, and emphasized the three main experiences that led to her amazing breakthrough: 1. When we did the Downward Arrow, she discovered that she had an underlying belief that she "should" or "must" make some kind of enormous, amazing contribution through her clinical work. Letting go of that internal demand was an enormous relief. I (David) think of this as one of the four "Great Deaths" of the "self," or "ego." 2. Learning to talk back to the relentless inner chatter that is always saying, "you're not good enough," using the CAT (Counter Attack Technique.) 3. Reframing the negative thoughts and feelings, and seeing the inner beauty in her suffering. David again emphasized that TEAM-CBT is not just about improvement, or feeling less depressed, but magic, and enlightenment. Jill summarized her new 11-hour home study course in TEAM-CBT with video and audio illustrating and teaching the four components of TEAM-CBT, Testing, Empathy, Assessment of Resistance, and Methods. This class sells for $187 and is suitable for therapists as well as the general public, and offers continuing education credit as well as certification credits in TEAM-CBT. I (David) believe that Jill is one of the truly great psychotherapy teachers, and urge you to check it out if you'd like to hear more! Rhonda, Jill, Jillian, and David
A Country Doctor, Part 1 of 2: "Nothing I do makes a difference!" This is the first of two podcasts on one of the live therapy demonstrations that Dr. Jill Levitt and I did at our psychotherapy workshop on Sunday, May 16th, 2021. I think you will find the session interesting and incredibly inspiring! Our patient is a physician in a small town in the mid-west. I want to thank Dr. Scherer for her tremendous courage in sharing this very personal experience with all of us. Dr. Levitt practices at the Feeling Good Institute in Mountain View, California, where she also serves as Director of Clinical Training. She also teaches at our weekly TEAM-CBT training group as Stanford. I am thrilled to share the audio of Jillian's live session as a two-part podcast, since only mental health professionals are allowed to attend the workshops sponsored by the Feeling Good Institute. Many non-therapists were eager to attend, and disappointed when they learned that only shrinks could attend. But this gives all of you the chance to hear what you missed, and I think you will NOT be disappointed! When Jill and I asked for volunteers for the live demonstrations in the workshop, Jillian was the first to respond with an offer to volunteer. This was her email, describing her situation.. Hi Dr. Burns, I am writing to you offering to be a volunteer for the live demonstrations in the workshop on 5/16, if you need one. I am learning TEAM CBT, and have been enjoying it personally as well as trying to do more of it professionally. I am a family medicine physician, but I have my own direct primary care clinic. This means that I can spend 1-2 hours with a patient if needed. I have been slowly offering this to patients who want to do the work to improve their mood or anxiety. As for why I am writing, my anxiety and need to please people is huge and disruptive to my enjoyment of life. I keep striving and achieving things likely to get the attention of others. I fear not knowing the answer and making a mistake with my patients. This had caused me to develop anxiety and insomnia at my last job. I sought counseling and physician coaching, but ultimately I wound up leaving that job, moving to another state [due to intense stress and demands of that job], and starting my own practice. My current practice is going well, but I am annoyed when patients come in or call with questions I don't know the answer to. I constantly worry that I will not be able to figure something out by myself and that the patients will leave me. In addition, I continually strive for [yet another] training certificate. As you know, I did medical school, residency, and fellowship, but I also have a lactation consultant certificate, training in lifestyle medicine, and now a Level 1 TEAM-CBT certificate with enough hours for Level 2, and most recently I started a 3-year program to become a pastor for our church. And I realize that I will not have the time to sustain all of these. It is as if I love the journey of getting the certificates, but I am not great at implementing them, so I move on to something else. As for the rest of life, I have a great life, but I am melancholy most of the time. My husband is terrific, sensitive, understanding, loving, and yet, I am constantly reading marriage books because I think it could be better. My 2 children, aged 8 and 4, are smart and funny, but I live constantly thinking I am going to screw them up and so I read even more parenting books. My family medicine practice is thriving and offers me part-time work at great pay with autonomy, yet I dread Monday mornings. Overall, my life should be an A+ and enjoyable, but somehow I make it seem like everything is going wrong all the time. I have sought counseling and even TEAM-CBT earlier this year via teletherapy from FGI. I continue to do a Daily Mood Log about 3-4 times a week. I feel like we got so far, but not to complete recovery. My FGI therapist was the eighth therapist I have been to, but the others were mainly talk therapists. I just thought I would reach out in the hope that maybe you need a volunteer, and maybe I would have the opportunity to work with you live. It would be nice if my anxiety and faulty core beliefs didn't steal my joy. Sincerely, Jillian As you can see, Jillian is an incredibly dedicated physician, but feels like she is never doing enough for her patients. At the start of her session, she described her incredibly stressful previous job, when she was often on call for 72 hours at a time, often going long hours without sleep. She said, “I used to walk to work, hoping I'd get hit by a car.” Although, as you saw in her email, she finally quit, and set up her own practice in another state, she continued to struggle with depression and the belief that she wasn't doing enough. Her constant self-criticisms robbed her of happiness, in spite of the fact that she had a fabulous practice, superb medical and human skills, and a wonderful husband and children. Her unhappiness confirms what Epictetus taught us nearly 2,000 years ago: we are upset, not by things, or events, but by our views of them. In this case, the facts of Jillian's life are all stellar. In fact, she rates her life and practice as A+. And yet, she was still lacking in the most important dimension: happiness and self-esteem. Because of her constant and intense feelings of insecurity, Jillian heroically pursued more and more specialty trainings and certifications, thinking that eventually she would develop feelings of competence, confidence, and happiness. She even enrolled in a three-year training program to become a minister, in addition to enrolling in the certification and training program for TEAM-CBT, and more. But nothing was ever enough. That's because, as the sages have taught through the ages, the answer is within. No amount of expertise or accomplishments will ever solve Jillian's problem. Jillian's life was perhaps like trying to get the elusive brass ring on the Merry Go Round, except her ride was far from merry. She told us that she sometimes had fantasies of escaping to a remote tropical island. Perhaps you, too, have sometimes felt like you're not good enough, or that you or your accomplishments are just not good enough. Let us know what you think about the answer that Jillian found in front of a live audience that day, and whether it might apply to you as well. In today's podcast, you will hear the first portion of her session (T = Testing and E = Empathy), and next week you will hear the fantastic conclusion (A = Assessment of Resistance) and M = Methods.) T = Testing To get started, take a look at the Daily Mood Log that Jillian shared with us at the start of her session. As you can see, Jillian's negative feelings were all intense. You would not have known how powerful her suffering was if you had met her in her daily life. In person, she comes across as you might expect from her email: exceptionally warm, thoughtful, human, conscientious and likeable. That's one of the really important reasons for Testing. You can see exactly what you're dealing with, in terms of the type and severity of negative feelings. In addition, we'll ask Jillian to rate her feelings again at the end of the session. That way, we'll know how effective—or ineffective—the session was. This information can sometimes be humbling, but it is always illuminating. Neither Jill nor I could conceive of doing therapy without the Testing! At the end, we'll also ask her to rate us on Empathy, Helpfulness and other dimensions using exceptionally sensitive scales that can highlight even the smallest therapeutic errors that the therapist would not otherwise be aware of. E = Empathy During the empathy phase of the session, Jill and I empathized while Jillian described her struggles with negative feelings and a lack of happiness and self-confidence. During the empathy portion, I did the downward arrow technique to learn more about Jillian's fears and Self-Defeating Beliefs. The goal was not to change Jillian, but simply to understand the root of her suffering at a deeper level. We started with the thought, “I should know how to fix people who come to me with a problem like depression, anxiety, headaches, or headaches, or even the lack of money to pay for the medications I prescribe.” Here's how the Downward Arrow dialogue evolved: David: And if you sometimes do not have the solution for your patients, what does that mean to you? Why is that upsetting to you? Jillian: Then people will be disappointed and leave me. David: And then what? What are you the most afraid of? Jillian: My practice will deteriorate. David: And then? Jillian: My patients will think I'm a failure. David: What would happen then? What are you the most afraid of? Jillian: Then the whole town will think I'm a failure. David: Of course, no one would want something like that to happen, but we might all experience it differently? What would that mean to you if the whole town thought you were a failure? Why would that be upsetting to you? Jillian: That would mean I'm a loser. David: And if that were true, what would that mean to you? Jillian: That would mean that I don't mean anything to anybody. David: And then? What would happen if you didn't mean anything to anybody? Jillian: Then there'd be no point in life. That was pretty much the bottom of the barrel. The purpose of the Downward Arrow Technique is to uncover the Self-Defeating Beliefs at the root of your suffering. Once you've generated your Downward Arrow list, all you have to do is review it, and then look at my list of 23 Common Self-Defeating Beliefs and circle all the ones that seem to fit. As an exercise, you might want to take a look at the list and see how many you can find before you see the ones that Jillian found! Here's Jillian's list: Perfectionism Perceived Perfectionism Achievement Addiction Approval Addiction Fear of Rejection Pleasing Others (Submissiveness) Worthlessness Spotlight Fallacy Brushfire Fallacy Superwoman A Country Doctor, Part 2 of 2 A = Assessment of Resistance At the end of the moving and tearful empathy phase, we asked Jillian about her goals for the session, which included the ability to enjoy my work to give away all of my certificates set limits with my patients feel happy with what I do not have to fear my work anymore! After Jillian said she would be willing to press the Magic Button to achieve all these goals instantly if we had one, we suggested Positive Reframing first. to see what might be lost of she suddenly achieved all these goals. You can creview the Positive Reframing that we did together. Here's Jillian's Emotions table at the end of Positive Reframing, showing her goals for each emotion when we used the Magic Dial. The idea is to dial each feeling down to a lower level that would reduce your suffering while still allowing you to preserve all the awesome things about you! Emotions % Now % Goal % After Emotions % Now % Goal % After Sad, blue, down, unhappy 80 15 Embarrassed, foolish, humiliated, self-conscious 50 10 Anxious, nervous 90 20 Hopeless, discouraged, pessimistic, despairing 100 0 Bad 70 0 Frustrated, stuck, thwarted, defeated 90 5 Inferior, inadequate, incompetent 95 5 Angry, mad, resentful, annoyed, irritated, upset, furious 100 10 Jillian said that the Positive Reframing really opened her up, especially when we read the list of positives out loud. It kind of shocked her in a good way so see that her negative feelings were not really problems, defects, or symptoms of one or more “mental disorders,” but the expression of what was most beautiful and awesome about her as a human being, and as a physician. This Positive Reframing is one of the unique aspects of TEAM-CBT. Although we are encouraging the patient to keep the symptoms, rather than pressing the Magic Button that makes them disappear, it paradoxically eliminates or drastically reduces the resistance to change, and opens the door to the possibility of ultra-rapid recovery. M = Methods We asked Jillian what Negative Thought she wanted to work on first, and she chose #9: “I'm not having a big enough impact.” She believed this thought 100%. First, we asked Jillian to identify and explain the cognitive distortions in this thought, and she focused on these: Should Statement; Self-Blame, All-or-Nothing Thinking, Mental Filtering, and Discounting the Positive. In retrospect, I think I spotted two additional distortions: Emotional Reading (I feel I'm not having a positive impact, so I must not be having a positive impact) and Mind-Reading (my patients expect me to have the answers to all their problems and judge me when I don't have all the answers.) Then we challenged the Negative Thought, and Jillian she was able, with a little help and a role reversal, to crush it, as you can see here. Usually, crushing one Negative Thought is about all you really have to do, because once the patient blows one Negative Thought out of the water, there is usually a kind of “cognitive click,” and the brain suddenly changes, and all the positive circuits suddenly get fired up. It's amazing to behold, and you will hear it for yourself! The dam did suddenly break, and Jillian could clobber the rest of her Negative Thoughts fairly easily, using a combination of Self-Defense, Self-Acceptance, and a lot of the CAT technique. She suddenly appeared to be a radically and delightfully different person during the Externalization of Voices. You can see her feelings on the Emotions table at the end of the session. Emotions % Now % Goal % After Emotions % Now % Goal % After Sad, blue, down, unhappy 80 15 0 Embarrassed, foolish, humiliated, self-conscious 50 10 0 Anxious, nervous 90 20 0 Hopeless, discouraged, pessimistic, despairing 100 0 0 Bad 70 0 0 Frustrated, stuck, thwarted, defeated 90 5 0 Inferior, inadequate, incompetent 95 5 0 Angry, mad, resentful, annoyed, irritated, upset, furious 100 10 0 Jillian's scores on my Happiness Test on the Brief Mood Survey also soared to 100% and her ratings of Jill and David on Empathy and Helpfulness tests were also perfect. After the workshop, Jillian sent this email. Hi Jill and David, As I drove home tonight from my office, I actually felt like my heart had been opened. My chest didn't feel as tight and locked-up like it normally does. It felt so relaxed. I put my baseball cap on, rolled the windows down, and listened to 90's country music (my favorite) on my drive and sang loudly. I have spent the last hour checking my new superpowers. There have been negative thoughts, but telling them to "shut the heck up. I am not listening to you" has been quite liberating. I even was greeted by my 4 year old when I got out of the car. I knelt down and hugged her without the worry of being a rotten mom, but rather one of feeling like I am the perfect mom for her, flaws and all. Thank you for this opportunity. I took a chance to email you in the first place after listening to a podcast weeks ago. I thought there would be no chance in heck that I would be selected. I am glad I had this remarkable opportunity and grateful to have worked with both of you. Much love and admiration, Jillian I hope you enjoy it as much as we did. Again, a big hug and thanks to the star or our podcast, Dr. Jillian Scherer who gave us all an incredible gift today! Thanks for listening. I hope you learned a ton and were moved emotionally. Write and let us know what you think! Rhonda, Jill, Jillian, and David