The thisis4my30s's Podcast

Welcome back! How do you feel about slapping folks or getting slapped?! Of course, we couldn't resist talking about what happened at the Oscars between Will Smith and Chris Rock. Who is in the wrong? Who is in the right? Let's discuss! We also touched on a few adult problems: 1. Getting old and falling apart. 2. Expensive Living. 3. Credit Card Theft 4. Plant Life … and Death.

In todays episode we talk/ ask questions on how to find friends. Do you think it's harder to find/make friends as an adult? What makes a friend a good friend? These are just a few questions we asked each other. 

Welcome back! Looking forward to the new year, let's talk about change! Not the kind that jingles, the kind that teaches us lessons! We talk about our move (yes, BBC moved out to new apartments! Can we get an "amen"?!), we talk about dating (and those "special pictures" sent to us), we talk about potential career changes (and the steps being taken for it), and we talk about our physical changes (how we did during the pandemic, where we are now, and what our plans are for the very near future. Do you want to do a 5k with us?).  

Oh dating ... We have been there and done that. If you haven't listened to one of our first episodes, "Dates and Dicks", check it out! But in the meantime and in between time, listen to our stories about catfishing and trophy men. These are two ends of the dating spectrum. Have you ever been catfished? I mean ... Why do it at all? What about having that one FOOOOOINE man in your arms and in your bed? Jesus talk the wheel!    Tune in to Nicki's and Carmen's stories about our catfish and trophy man experiences! 

In this episode, we talk about our experiences with paintballing! Have you tried it before? If so, what did you think of it? Was it fun? Scary? Talk about "First Player Shooter" experiences! This is the real deal Holyfield! It kind of hurts but we are going back for more!   Speaking of "MORE", Nicki and Carmen have big dreams for more! We want more time to live life, more money to fund our professional desires, more property to leave behind for the kids! How can we create generational wealth without sacrificing every ounce of our time and money?    

Welcome back to Part. 2 of our "Mentally Stimulate Me" card game! Last time, Carmen and Nicki asked and answered questions directly. On this round, Carmen and Nicki ask the question and then immediately guess what the other might answer. Find out how well do they know each other!   

How can we get to know each other better? Carmen, who is naturally an introvert, decided to buy a card game to help with ice breaker questions to get to know her friends and potential love interests.  In this episode, Carmen and Nicki play the card game called, "Mentally Stimulate Me" and ask each other some of the questions in the deck. Get to know Carmen and Nicki better as they answer the questions. Can you envision being friends with them? 

Since we are all still stuck at home, our movie nights are at the crib! We grabbed our popcorn, candy, and drinks to watch TWO movies in the comfort in our own homes. In this episode, we reviewed "One night in Miami" and "Soul".  Movie Overview: "One night in Miami" is about Cassius Clay, Malcom X, Sam Cooke, and Jim Brown coming together on February 25, 1964 to discuss black men and their responsibility during the civil rights movement. "Soul" is about a middle school band teacher whose life takes a turn ... to another realm called "The great before". In this new realm, he is in charge to help another "soul" find their passion before they can enter earth. During his time as a mentor, he discovers more about himself.    

In this episode we talk about gender roles and question if we should conform to them. We touch on what's "socially acceptable or not acceptable" when is comes to attire, behavior, and emotions between men and women. We tell our stories, share our thoughts, and experiences. Do you know what we think? Fu6K them rules!! 

On this episode, we talk about "One Main Dish and One Side Piece"! No, we are not talking about food, we talking about people. Having two different types of relationships... at the same time. Is it ok to have a side piece? Have you ever been a side piece? why would you or wouldn't you want to maintain both relationships?

Today we talk about the idea of marriage and the different roles in a wedding party. Honestly, we have little to no idea how it all goes down. We are really just theorizing and exchanging ideas. We also talk about how we envision our own weddings and marriages ... our final thought? We’re crazy. We’re in our 30s. We don’t care.

Today's episode we have a special guess to tell us all about vaginal steaming! We asked what is vaginal steaming? What dose it do? How does it work? Ladies don't be afraid to get to know your vagina, talk with your doctor first before steaming.  

As Tony! Toni! Toné! would say “Do you know what today is?! It’s our anniversary!”. Today we wanted to recap our year. We literally had freedom the first 6 months of our podcast, then COVID happened the last 6 months. WTF life? For real?! Since Nicki and Carmen have been podcasting for a year, we also wanted to check in and see where we wanted to go with the podcast, with our personal life, and our professional life. The main question is ... “What now?”.

In this episode we talk about our feelings and our relationships with our friends, the folks we are attracted to, and ourselves. Our feelings for the people that we like can be hard to talk about in person. Why is it so hard? When we say "I like you. Where do we go from here?" We either get rejected and friend-zoned OR we are able to progress to a relationship. We talk about our own experiences, both current and past. Can we keep it real? Can they keep it real? Communication is key! 

Today we thought we were going to record a mnin-sode.. Buuuut clearly it was not. We discussed what it's like getting at men we like, Do we use pick-up lines? Do we be ourselves? How do we shoot our shot?The real question is < Do men even like to be hit on by women?

In this episode, we invited some of our closest friends and relatives to talk  about Fatherhood. Our guest range in different ages and experiences regarding fatherhood. The fathers answered questions like "Did you grow up with or without a father, how did or does that effect them as father's and as men? We also asked if there were any regrets, or if they wished they would and done anything different? Take a listen to what these men have to say and their stories.

Today we talk about sex, masturbation, fetishes. We explore what we like about sex what makes us well you know climax! What are kinks are and how far are we willing to go with those kinks. 

In today's episode, we talk about "broke bitches" (aka BBs) in California. The expenses it takes to live in the bay area, price differences between states and cities, and how it effects our ability to expand our property and wealth. We're hurting out here... But it feeds our desire and fuels our fire to level up and upgrade ourselves as well as each other. One podcast partner to another... "Partner let me upgrade you"-Queen B

Today we had some special guests join us to talk about parenthood, childhood, and our relationships within our parents and children. We talk about cultural, religious, and parental differences as mother's to our children.

We literally painted my room lol! As we painted we talked about life and what has changed since the last time we talked. We had straight up girl talk!

Describing what our love languages are and some riffing.

Today we talked about how our holiday went this year, our past holidays, any new traditions we started with family, and passing on traditions.

We talk about our experience with school, who we were as kids, disabilities, bullying, and cheating. We also touch on Home, Personal, and Professional education.

Personal goals, professional goals, financial goals honey! We have goals to reach! (Tongue click)

We need to reflect every once in a while and check in with ourselves. We have to have purpose and know who we are. We share our thoughts and ideas about our: “Ah ha moments”, men, what we need to improve on, our goals, and who we are as women.

Dating in our 30s is tough ... So is getting good dick!! We’re not trying to waste time but ... you know. Send that photo over! Just know, it doesn’t guarantee some p*ssy.

In today’s episode, we get into hard to talk about subjects including sexuality, sexual assault, and how we got to these issues.

Intro of who we are and how we started this podcast.