Decoding Divorce

As the uncharted waters of the pandemic are still sending our lives spiraling into uncertainty, navigating a divorce can be doubly overwhelming.  In today’s episode, divorce coach and family law attorney Zeppy Attashian outlines a 7-step process to stop this cycle of overwhelm, push aside the guilt, and bust through the myth that you need to be superwoman.  She explains, step by step, thought work that is necessary to rewire your thinking, recognize our limitations, and plan realistically in order to tackle the giant to-do list of divorce and life without losing your sanity in the process.  Need help taking off your cape and organizing your thoughts and emotions? Book a call with one of our divorce coaches today! →  www.decodingdivorce.com/contact   

Auditing your financial estate is an arduous task. However, it is vitally important that you understand why it is necessary that you complete your financial disclosure documents. In today’s episode, divorce coach and family law attorney Zeppy Attashian explains the possible ramifications of not fully disclosing assets as you go through the divorce process. She demonstrates that failure to be completely honest, or even unintentional negligence in this matter can result in a loss of assets or having to restart your divorce process. Spending the time to put together a full financial audit, attaching statements, and being completely transparent will ensure that you only have to complete this process once. Need some one-on-one guidance as you navigate your disclosure documents? Book a free 30-minute call with one of our divorce coaches here. → www.decodingdivorce.com/contact

A divorce coach can be an invaluable asset to your support team as you go through this tremendous life change.  Carefully selecting the people in your corner can help mitigate the pitfalls, emotional ups and downs, and financial mistakes often made throughout the process. In today’s episode, we do a deep dive into divorce coaching and the difference between a divorce coach and a therapist. Divorce coach and family law attorney, Zeppy Attashian explains that while you may decide that it’s best to have both on your team, divorce coaching provides you with the essential thought work and mindset tools you need to step into your new happy.  Decoding Divorce Academy is your affordable DIY divorce system that contains all the necessary tools to complete your divorce on your own terms, in your own way.  Sign up for the waitlist here! → www.decodingdivorce.com/dda  

Financial knowledge is power, and we at Decoding Divorce want you armed with as much information as possible before each decision you’ll encounter in your divorce.  But what do you do when your soon-to-be-ex refuses to voluntarily provide his financial information? In today’s episode, divorce coach and family law attorney Zeppy Attashian walks you through the 6 step process to obtain access to your spouse’s financial information, so you can move forward requesting the support you need.  If you’re looking for hands-on guidance as you complete this process, the divorce coaches at Decoding Divorce will ensure that you receive all the support you need. Book a free 30-minute call here. → www.decodingdivorce.com/work-with-us   Sign up for the Decoding Divorce Academy wait list here! → www.decodingdivorce.com/dda   

In the wake of the celebrated author and motivational speaker Rachel Hollis’ announcement that she and her husband are pursuing divorce, they have seen an unprecedented societal pushback from their tribe.  However, it needs to be said- divorce is not failure.  In today’s episode, divorce coach and family law attorney Zeppy Attashian explains that divorce simply indicates that a relationship or marriage has come full circle. She provides perspective on why stepping into the next stage of your life should not be framed as failure, but rather a proud and daring moment of transition. If you need some hands-on help embracing this concept and moving forward from feelings of failure in your divorce, please reach out to one of our divorce coaches here. → www.decodingdivorce.com/contact

If your spouse is threatening to withhold financial support from you, it can feel as though you’re backed into a corner.  However, temporary financial hardship and struggle it does not mean that you have to walk away from what you're entitled to from the marital estate.  While it may take some time and some action steps on your part, there are laws in place to ensure that you get the financial support that your family needs.  In today’s episode, divorce coach and family law attorney Zeppy Attashian explains the legal ramifications of an ex withholding support or quitting a job out of spite. She describes the measures that the court can put into place to require your spouse to financially support your children.  Want to feel secure in the decisions you make when being faced with the financial turmoil associated with divorce? Get on the waitlist for the next opening of Decoding Divorce Academy here! → www.decodingdivorce.com/dda   

Attention ladies currently in the Broken Hearts Club… At Decoding Divorce, we know how difficult it is to think clearly and make the best decisions for you and your future if you are stuck in an endless whirlwind of romanticizing and missing your soon-to-be-ex. Some individuals have such a hard time letting go, it completely halts all of their divorce progress and keeps them from moving on to a bigger and better life. In today’s episode, divorce coach and family law attorney Zeppy Attashian explains the science behind why you’re feeling heartbroken over the loss of your spouse, and three action steps that you can start taking today to push through your sadness and move on to your new happy.  Implementing these steps will help to protect your peace of mind, put you in control, and give you back your future.  Need a solid, patient support circle grounded in research-based practices for getting through the heartbreak? Book a call with one of our divorce coaches today! → www.decodingdivorce.com/contact  

When it comes to finances in your divorce, knowledge is where your power lies. You may wish to pass off the responsibility of making decisions to a financial advisor or an attorney, but staying in the dark can be extremely detrimental to your financial future. While there are many financial aspects to consider when going through a divorce, in today’s episode, divorce coach and family law attorney Zeppy Attashian takes an in-depth look at retirement accounts.  She highlights the difference between a defined contribution account and a defined benefit account, along with the logistics and law behind dividing the funds in your divorce. Need to know your date of separation to get started? Find your date of separation here! If you have questions, or require hands-on, focused guidance as you navigate your retirement accounts, book a call with one of our divorce coaches today.  

When going through a divorce, your children’s emotions may feel impossible to navigate and even more difficult for them to understand themselves. You want what's best for your kids, but how do you help them through this change? In today’s episode, Divorce coach and family law attorney Zeppy Attashian explains an emotional awareness and coping tool called the Zones of Regulation. She explains how zones of emotions are categorized by color, how to identify your family’s feelings each day, and how to use this information to know when to have important conversations.  She also provides actionable, in-home steps that you can take to implement this mindfulness tool. You can lead by example and help your children recognize that all emotions are human, and help them redirect themselves with intention.  To download your copy of the Zones of Regulation to use with your family, please go to → www.decodingdivorce.com/38 Need one-on-one help with emotional regulation for yourself or your children? Book a free 30-minute call with one of our divorce coaches here. → www.decodingdivorce.com/contact  

While you may feel deeply convicted about your requests in divorce negotiations, it is vitally important to your happiness and your future that you are able to remain flexible in your mindset.   At Decoding Divorce, we often discuss the importance of entering into negotiations with at least three possible outcomes that would be acceptable to you.   In today’s episode, divorce coach and family law attorney Zeppy Attashian explores the concept of considering multiple professional perspectives to help you envision alternate outcomes for success- particularly in keeping or selling the marital home.  Referencing a powerful professional article, Zeppy discusses the benefits of consulting with a lawyer, a financial analyst, and a psychologist to create a well-rounded approach for making the best decisions for you and your family through your divorce.

If you are faced with speaking to a judge about your case, a powerful declaration can make all the difference in receiving the outcome you desire in your DIY divorce.  But it’s not a document you should rush to complete. Balancing factual events while eliciting emotion can be a dynamite combination that will help you actually get heard by your judge as you tell your story.  In today’s episode, divorce coach and family law attorney Zeppy Attashian defines a declaration document, outlines the circumstances under which a declaration would be completed, and gives practical examples and tips for writing a winning declaration.  Get your guide to filling out your declaration here!

Find yourself stuck in a regret loop or feeling shame about the events that lead to your marriage ending?  In today's episode, divorce coach and family law attorney Zeppy Attashian uncovers why we feel regret when we get divorced. She discusses why it is so important that you understand this part of the grief cycle and acknowledge your emotions through this thought work.  Decoding Divorce provides you with the 7-step process for working through your regret in a way that helps you use your emotions for growth, not for self-destruction.  Even in this difficult season of your life, you can absolutely become the happiest, most fulfilled version of yourself.  For more information about dealing with grief about your divorce, go back and listen to Ep 5: Divorce Grief. . . How to Survive It! Feel like you need some guidance to finally break the haunting cycle of regret? Book a free call with one of our divorce coaches today! → www.decodingdivorce.com/contact

Is there a faster, quicker, easier way to get a divorce? In today’s episode, divorce coach and family law attorney Zeppy Attashian responds to this frequently asked question. Of course, as with any area of the law, it is not always a cut and dry answer.  Zeppy outlines the process of Summary of Dissolution (a quickie divorce) in order to decide if this is the right route for you and your soon-to-be-ex. She also defines the ten criteria you need to meet to qualify in order to file. You will learn how to determine if this really is a quicker fix for you and your family, as well as how to take the next step.    Access the California Self-Help Guide to get started. → https://www.courts.ca.gov/selfhelp.htm Calculate your date of separation by listening to episode 4 of the podcast here.  

In today’s episode, divorce coach and family law attorney Zeppy Attashian shines a light on one of the most difficult shifts your divorce will cause you to make- finding your authentic self.  Referencing Jen Hatmaker’s incredible book Fierce, Free, Fire, Zeppy explores why we lose our identities, compromise our personalities, ideas, and convictions in a marriage. She details how to get out of the mindset of shape-shifting into who your spouse wants you to be, and rediscovering and reclaiming who you truly are.  We at Decoding Divorce want to help give you a roadmap for giving back the titles that others have given to you, stop fitting into a mold, and start living according to what lights you up and gives you true courage through your divorce. Book a call with one of our divorce coaches today to rediscover who you are. Check out Jen’s book here!

In today’s episode, divorce coach and family law attorney Zeppy Attashian discusses a vital emotional and practical preparation you need to make regarding your children before you leave your marriage. The hard truth is, your divorce does not automatically grant you the freedom to parent your children the way you want to parent them. In fact, there are more restrictions placed on you as a parent when you leave a relationship then there are when you remain in your relationship. Zeppy provides an in-depth explanation as to why it is imperative that you pause before you start the process of leaving so you can understand the limits to freedom when it comes to children and custody. You can create a preparedness plan for communication and negotiation with your soon-to-be-ex to ensure that you do what is best for your children while still reclaiming your independence.  Book a call with one of our divorce coaches today to make your plan below!  www.decodingdivorce.com/contact    If you have any questions you would like us to address on the podcast, please reach out to us at hello@decodingdivorce.com.

In today’s episode, family law attorney and divorce coach Zeppy Attashian explains that it is more common than not for couples to leave a marriage in debt, especially credit card debt.  If you are still moving forward with your divorce at this time, it is vitally important that you understand that the terms of reimbursements and obligations can drastically change over the delay between your separation to the finalization of your divorce. In order to help you understand your credit card debt, we at Decoding Divorce have created a 7-step, question and answer process that will help you figure out where you stand in relation to a reimbursement right or obligation. By answering these questions, you will be able to discern between individual and community debt and how to proceed in the way that serves you best in divorce negotiations.  Determine your Date of Separation → http://decodingdivorce.com/index.php/2019/10/04/04-your-date-of-separation-whats-the-big-deal/ Book a free 30-minute consultation with one of our divorce coaches → www.decodingdivorce.com/contact   

With the world slowed down and the worries piling high, we have received a number of questions regarding how the day-by-day changes will affect divorce proceedings and custody orders.  In today’s episode, family law attorney and divorce coach Zeppy Attashian addresses four essential updates of which you must be aware due to COVID-19 and the current stay-in-place orders issued in California. She explains, in-depth, the state of the court system and its effort to maintain the balance between your legal rights and your safety.  We aim to provide you with the correct, most up-to-date information and requirements for:  Navigating child custody visitation obligations  Domestic restraining orders  Requesting modifications to child support orders Homeschooling your children If we can help you in any way during this difficult time, please reach out to us!  www.decodingdivorce.com/contact   

As we all navigate the challenges and uncertainties surrounding world events, today’s episode is meant to be a message of hope in the storm.  We at Decoding Divorce understand the exacerbated struggle you may be facing, stuck at home with your spouse while experiencing building resentment with each passing hour. But you are not alone. Divorce coach and family law attorney Zeppy Attashian walks you through a self-assessment designed to determine what kind of support team may benefit you the most as you walk through your divorce process.  Zeppy discusses the innumerable advantages of getting your team in place now to keep you on track, give you a sounding board early on, and create a long term strategy for maintaining your physical and mental health.  We want you to know that even though you may think you are ready to jump ship and move forward with your divorce quickly, it is more important than ever to make sure that you pause and prepare. We’re here to help you do just that. Book a free 30-minute call with one of our divorce coaches, and get on the right track ahead of time.  www.decodingdivorce.com/contact   Download your Pre-Divorce Action Guide:  www.decodingdivorce.com/2

In today’s episode, divorce coach and family law attorney Zeppy Attashian explains how unpredictable and stressful circumstances (such as COVID-19) can affect your divorce and custody agreements.  At this point in time, courts are scaling back and only hearing urgent family law cases. We seek to provide you with an action plan, as your hearing or trial dates may be put off for an unknown period of time.  Zeppy provides strategies for remaining child-focused as a family unit, how to discuss conducting exchanges, as well as how financial support requirements will be affected at this time. No court order will make arrangements for every possible circumstance your family will face. Here at Decoding Divorce, we encourage you to maintain open communication with the other parent if possible and use this extra time to explore alternate avenues for pursuing your divorce. For updated information on Corona and the Courts, visit- https://www.ncsc.org/newsroom/public-health-emergency.aspx  

In today's episode, certified divorce coach and family law attorney Zeppy Attashian addresses the second biggest mistake you can make when negotiating the terms of your divorce- adopting the "My Way or the Highway" mindset.    Navigating your difficult emotions during this time can lead to acting out of frustration, anger, and anxiety for your future. Even if you force your way into litigation over a contentious issue, it may not always work out in your favor.    Zeppy does a deep dive into why this is such a dangerous (and often costly) line of thought. She provides you with the four steps to reframe this mindset, evaluate your emotions, and approach your negotiations with a clear head and a variety of perspectives. You'll learn how to ultimately come to a compromise that really works for you and your soon-to-be-ex.    For further one-on-one guidance, take advantage of our FREE 30-minute consultations with one of our divorce coaches here! www.decodingdivorce.com/contact 

In today’s episode, divorce coach and California Family Law attorney Zeppy Attashian answers a frequently posed question by listeners:  What do I do after I’ve filed my divorce paperwork and served my spouse? Here at Decoding Divorce, we want to shed light on the fact that your divorce is not automatically finalized simply by waiting for the six-month cool-off period to pass.  We break down the divorce process into an 8-step roadmap in order to be sure that you can officially claim your single status, understand what’s required of you, and prepare yourself for your specific case.  For a deep dive into each of these steps guided by a team of professionals who will support and ensure your understanding of the process, visit www.decodingdivorce.com/dda to sign up for Decoding Divorce Academy today! 

In today’s episode, divorce coach Zeppy Attashian addresses the self-discovery process, and how it can drastically affect the outcome of your divorce. Knowing yourself is one of the most useful tools you can have at your disposal to help you navigate the difficult decisions, negotiations, and discussions that you will encounter.  Zeppy provides the four actionable steps necessary for creating an audacious and happy life using self-awareness. She gives you a strong starting point for taking intentional action that will benefit you as you move through your divorce and onto the next chapter.  If you’d like step-by-step guidance to confidently move through the divorce process legally and emotionally, Decoding Divorce Academy may be a great fit for you.  Sign up for the waitlist here! → www.decodingdivorce.com/dda  Check out Scott's TedTalk here! → https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8pq_tCgDkT4&t=14s  

In our last episode of the three-part series How to Get Divorced Without Going Broke, our divorce coach and family law attorney Zeppy Attashian provides more real-life examples of Melissa’s, Shannon’s, and Steve’s divorce budgets.  Zeppy does a deep dive into how each of these clients used spot advice and an online divorce course, like Decoding Divorce Academy, to complete his or her divorce as independently as possible.  By doing so, each client managed to minimize expenses, stay within their personal budget, and get his or her divorce completed on their own terms- and you can do the same. You are able to maintain control of the process of your divorce, and not let the price tag control you. Grab the budget worksheets here! → www.decodingdivorce.com/budgetworksheetpart3 Sign up for the Decoding Divorce Academy Waitlist! → www.decodingdivorce.com/dda   

Today, in part two of the three-part series How to Get Divorced Without Going Broke, our divorce coach Zeppy Attashian addresses the question- how do I negotiate the terms of my divorce?  We provide you with a breakdown of the various routes you can take to negotiate, as well as an explanation of when these particular methods may apply to you.  Also, in this episode, Zeppy gives a real-life example of the financial investments made by Cora, outlining the cost of a divorce with a full-service attorney and a highly litigated case.  You can see Cora’s example here, and plug in your own estimates to calculate how much your divorce may cost you. → www.decodingdivorce.com/cora  Sign up for the Decoding Divorce Academy Waitlist here! → www.decodingdivorce.com/dda   

In today’s episode, our divorce coach Zeppy Attashian hosts part one of a three-part series that will do a deep dive into how to get divorced without going broke.  Zeppy discusses the importance of creating a budget for your divorce to empower you to be your own decision-maker and arm yourself with knowledge so that you can design a process that you know you can afford.   She also covers four different options for representation and advice, as well as the average costs for each service.  We’re about 30 days out from launching the Decoding Divorce Academy, providing you with affordable legal advice with a personal touch along with a supportive community. You will get access to- Reliable education on the background of the law and the process  Step by step instructions on how to complete your documents  A study hall Q&A with a divorce attorney  A study hall Q&A with a legal document assistant  A study hall Q&A sessions with a divorce coach  Sign up for the waitlist here! → www.decodingdivorce.com/dda  Grab your budget worksheet here! → www.decodingdivorce.com/divorcebudgetworksheet   

In today’s episode, our divorce coach Zeppy Attashian approaches the topic of acceptance- accepting yourself, right where you are emotionally in your divorce process.  It can feel overwhelming and frustrating to not be able to identify as the person you once were as a spouse, a parent, or a friend. However, it is absolutely possible to move forward in a new direction and set yourself up for success.  Whether you’re finding that you can’t get out of bed or get dressed, or you’re feeling isolated and like no one understands- this episode is for you.  Zeppy walks you through the three most important action steps to begin the process of owning your life, creating a new you, and taking life one day at a time, despite your divorce. Want access to real-time, real-life legal and emotional guidance?  Sign up for the Decoding Divorce Academy Waitlist → www.decodingdivorce.com/dda Get the step-by-step Pre-Divorce Action Guide → www.decodingdivorce.com/2  

In today’s episode, our divorce coach Zeppy Attashian provides valuable insight about when to seek out and consult with an attorney, and how to find the right one for you as you begin your divorce. It is vitally important to prepare ahead of time when it comes to your divorce. Zeppy explains the benefits of obtaining a relationship and support team comprised of both a divorce coach and an attorney during these influential beginning stages. If you don’t want to learn the rules as you go, and want to avoid the financial and emotional pitfalls that occur all too commonly in divorce, now is the time to get on the waitlist for the Decoding Divorce Academy launching in March! You’ll learn, step-by-step, how to begin, navigate, and complete your divorce independently, as well as build an invaluable community of support along the way. Sign up for the waitlist here- www.decodingdivorce.com/dda

In today’s episode, our divorce coach, Zeppy Attashian discusses identity crisis and divorce and drops some powerful truth bombs. Women often feel frustrated, stripped of their various titles and identity due to divorce. They often struggle to remember who they once were, let alone set out on a path to rediscover themselves.  But the truth is, you are so much more than your marriage.  We aim to arm you with strength in today’s episode by providing you with action steps you can take today to begin to build your roadmap back to YOU.  We want to help you build the bridge from anger to forgiveness, using your emotions as a source of power, not destruction.  At Decoding Divorce, our coaches help you with this rediscovery process every step of the way. Whether through 1-on-1 sessions or in our Decoding Divorce Academy, you will rediscover your unique core values for life and learn how to lean into them as you navigate your divorce from start to finish.  Sign up for the Decoding Divorce Academy Waitlist here- www.decodingdivorce.com/dda Book your free call with our divorce coaches here- www.decodingdivorce.com/contact  

On today’s episode, our divorce coach and attorney Zeppy Attashian gives insight on the different routes you can take to either pause, end, or unwind your marriage.  Based on a high volume of questions, we do a deep dive and provide you with valuable information on the law regarding: What may (or may not) qualify you for an annulment What it means to be legally separated The finality of a judgment of dissolution We will arm you with the knowledge that you need in order to take the mystery out of this process, help you choose the best avenue for you and your family, and step into a new, happier life as you complete your divorce.   Schedule a call with one of our divorce coaches! Get on the Decoding Divorce Academy waitlist here! You can sign up for the Pre-Divorce Action Guide at www.DecodingDivorce.com/2. The action guide details the 15 things you must consider and do before filing for your divorce. www.DecodingDivorce.com

In today’s episode, our divorce coach Zeppy Attashian discusses the ever-elusive topics of self-care, self-love, and self-respect when going through a divorce.  Often ridden with guilt, we put off taking care of ourselves and tear ourselves down through the extreme emotions and changes of divorce. We provide you with actionable steps for starting with a process of self-respect and reaching out for help, so you can begin to rediscover your worth, and move forward toward your new life.  Book your free consultation with one of our divorce coaches here: www.decodingdivorce.com/contact

In today's episode, we discuss the four main Automatic Temporary Restraining Orders (ATROS) that immediately affect you once you file for divorce.  These are not the type of restraining orders regarding domestic violence, but rather the restrictions associated with traveling out of state with your children and the money and credit available to you after your filing for divorce.  While they are put into place to keep both parties secure during the divorce, it is vitally important for you to prepare for these restrictions before you file and have a thorough understanding of how they impact your children, your finances, and your next steps.  If you want to master the terms and conditions that apply to your life once a divorce is filed, join the waitlist for Decoding Divorce Academy where you will receive- Reliable legal education  Step-by-step instructionals on how to get your divorce started and completed  A helpful and encouraging community so you can create your tribe while going through the changes of your divorce Get on the waitlist here- http://decodingdivorce.com/work-with-us/ Download the Pre-Divorce Action Guide  

In today’s episode, we address an important, yet often unexpected outcome of divorce.  While you may expect the loss of money or having to share your kids, you need to be prepared for the major impact that divorce has on your and your family’s social life.  Our divorce coach, Zeppy Attashian discusses why this phenomenon occurs, as well as action steps that you can take to surround yourself with an understanding, knowledgeable, and supportive tribe as you navigate your divorce.  No matter what stage you are at in your divorce, a divorce coach can be your greatest asset for combating the loneliness and building your support system the right way. We're ready when you're ready. Schedule your 30-minute consultation here: www.decodingdivorce.com/contact  You can sign up for the Pre-Divorce Action Guide at www.decodingdivorce.com/2. The action guide details the 15 things you must consider and do before filing for your divorce. www.decodingdivorce.com

In today’s episode, our team at Decoding Divorce sheds some light on one of the most important, and often misinterpreted laws that impacts your divorce case- the law that governs when your divorce can be finalized. As with most areas of the law, it is not always straightforward. We aim to prepare you with the knowledge of the law and the factors that are considered when determining the time it may take to complete your divorce.  We discuss how to have realistic expectations in regards to time, how to avoid frustration with the length of your case, and actionable steps to begin living your life during the in-between.    Schedule a call with one of our divorce coaches Get on the Decoding Divorce Academy waitlist here! You can sign up for the Pre-Divorce Action Guide at www.DecodingDivorce.com/2. The action guide details the 15 things you must consider and do before filing for your divorce. www.DecodingDivorce.com

In today’s episode, we define the single biggest obstacle that you face in your divorce - your own thoughts, fears, and beliefs. The real truth is, these beliefs and fears are not grounded in any truth. Our divorce coach, Zeppy Attashian does a deep dive into the limiting belief system that has been holding you back from moving forward on to your new and happier life. We explore how consulting with a divorce coach is essential for teaching you how to put an end to your perceived limitations and set yourself up for success. A well-vetted divorce coach will help you work through these emotions and faulty beliefs before you even step foot in an attorney's office, helping you feel prepared and confident as you embrace all your new life has to offer. Schedule a call with one of our divorce coaches Get on the Decoding Divorce Academy waitlist here! You can sign up for the Pre-Divorce Action Guide at www.DecodingDivorce.com/2. The action guide details the 15 things you must consider and do before filing for your divorce. www.DecodingDivorce.com

In all areas of the divorce process, knowledge and preparation are key. But what is the most crucially important way you can prepare before you go to court? You need to know your judge. Learning ahead of time about the primary judge assigned to your case allows you to approach your case with confidence. You can be aware of how to best frame your negotiations based on previous patterns. Join us today as we outline strategies for getting to know your judge and determine how he or she will influence your divorce. You can sign up for the Pre-Divorce Action Guide at www.DecodingDivorce.com/2. The action guide details the 15 things you must consider and do before filing for your divorce. www.DecodingDivorce.com

During the holiday season, going through a divorce can feel especially trying.  If you’re in the throes of the divorce process during this time, you may be processing heavy emotions, learning to share your kids, and even spending time alone for the first time.  In today’s episode, we give you insight into an invaluable concept for taking back your happiness and designing a life you’re excited about.   Gratitude.  While it may seem a little repetitive or insensitive, scientific research has concluded that establishing a gratitude practice can get you through the holidays with your sanity intact. Join us today to learn how to establish a consistent and helpful gratitude practice through your divorce. Need some guidance in this area?   A Divorce Coach can help you escape the negative thought loops that are holding you hostage this holiday season.  You can sign up for the Pre-Divorce Action Guide at www.DecodingDivorce.com/2. The action guide details the 15 things you must consider and do before filing for your divorce. www.DecodingDivorce.com

Is filing for a Child Support Order the best decision for you and your children?  Child Support is not a simple or straightforward area of the law.  Often, there are unintended financial and emotional ramifications when the household turns from child-focused to money-focused. In today’s episode, we will Give insight into the child support laws  Shine the light on a few myths  Discuss the five main considerations that determine what you may receive or have to pay  Join us on the podcast today so that you can start to figure out whether or not filing for child support is worth it for you. California Guidelines Child Support Calculator: https://gc.cse.ca.gov/ChildSupport/cse/guidelineCalculator BONUS: We’ve assembled all the forms you need to file for child support, and will send them directly to your inbox.  Get the forms here! 

What is the biggest mistake you can make when going through a divorce?  Throwing in the towel...  Some individuals decide that the effort, the confusion, the difficult conversations, the negotiations to litigation, the delays... it's all simply not worth it. They just want their divorce and they want out no matter the cost.  And I see it often, especially during the emotional holiday season. Some people are willing to forgo all future security, just to find temporary relief when the going gets tough.  However, individuals who stay focused, in spite of hardship, often go on to live financially and emotionally secure, fulfilling lives after their divorce. They don’t let fear or difficult conversations hold them back from the life they deserve. They get through their divorce with their sanity intact, grateful that they put in the work.  They have resilience. They stay the course, no matter the obstacles.   Join us today as we discuss how to build your own resilience to help you stay dedicated to the process, and make the best decisions for yourself in your divorce.  We also discuss how a Divorce Coach can be a trusted partner who helps arm you with the tools and direction you need to find your inner strength as you step into your new life.  You can sign up for the Pre-Divorce Action Guide at www.DecodingDivorce.com/2. The action guide details the 15 things you must consider and do before filing for your divorce. www.DecodingDivorce.com

Can you still get divorced if you have been separated for some time, but have no knowledge of your spouse’s whereabouts and no way to contact him or her? Yes, you absolutely can. I have often encountered individuals who are misguided into thinking that they are stuck in their marriage, although separated because they cannot locate their spouse. They are afraid to begin their new lives, paralyzed, remaining married to an illusion.  Listen in today as we discuss the ways you can get divorced, even if your spouse is MIA. It is not a step-by-step process, but you do have options. We are going to cover: Possible avenues for getting divorced that you may not be aware of Walkthrough of the forms and what they mean Actions to take Documentation that you will need to provide  You can sign up for the Pre-Divorce Action Guide at  www.decodingdivorce.com/2 The action guide details the 15 things you must consider and do before filing for your divorce. www.DecodingDivorce.com 

We often encounter (and sometimes intentionally avoid) difficult conversations in our daily lives. However, when it comes to divorce, there is no way around it. You must have these conversations in order to come through to the other side with an agreement and a life with which you are content. Whether you're discussing finances, who gets what, or parenting, all of these logistical, often uncomfortable or potentially explosive conversations are necessary to help you move forward. Join us today as we talk about Jody Moore’s seven steps to reign in your emotions, feel prepared, and tackle challenging discussions successfully. If you embrace these conversations, you will master a skill that will serve you in every aspect of your life. Need one-on-one support in preparing to address these topics with your soon-to-be-ex? We also chat about how our Divorce Coaches can help you set goals, manage emotions, and help you feel prepared every step of the way. You can sign up for the Pre-Divorce Action Guide at  www.DecodingDivorce.com/2. The action guide details the 15 things you must consider and do before filing for your divorce. www.DecodingDivorce.com 

There are many options for negotiating your divorce, and it can be extremely overwhelming. The new trend of mediation often seems like the quickest, easiest, and cheapest route to take. However, without a plan, confidence, and intention, mediation can quickly turn into a chaotic mess with unexpected or unintended consequences. In today's podcast, we highlight the six keys to successfully navigating divorce mediation so you can feel prepared, knowledgeable, and ultimately successful as you move forward. In addition, we cover why it is vital that you find reliable and credible support as you prepare. A Divorce Coach can provide you with a wealth of knowledge and insight, helping you shape a life you're excited to step into. You can sign up for the Pre-Divorce Action Guide at  www.DecodingDivorce.com/2. The action guide details the 15 things you must consider and do before filing for your divorce.

There is no guidebook or linear structure for navigating the tornado of emotions that come with divorce. It’s easy to fall prey to your own judgments (and the opinions of those around you) about where you should be in the process. Join us as we debunk three common myths surrounding the grief process and learn how to set goals to confidently take action and make big moves toward your new happy. If you find you need additional, one-on-one support through understanding these complicated emotions and how they can influence your divorce, you’re not alone! We also explore how a Divorce Coach can provide guidance and direction in the way that works best for you, your life, and your divorce. You can sign up for the Pre-Divorce Action Guide at  www.DecodingDivorce.com/2. The action guide details the 15 things you must consider and do before filing for your divorce. www.DecodingDivorce.com   

What is one of the very first questions I ask my clients? When did you separate? I ask them to go into detail over their separation- not because I want to hear the details of their story, but it is actually extremely relevant to the legal analysis. Join us to find out how your official Date of Separation can influence the trajectory of your divorce. If you need direction for figuring out how to choose your Date of Separation, we've made an easy-to-follow questionnaire to help you navigate the details. Download the guide here!  www.decodingdivorce.com/4   www.DecodingDivorce.com

What is a divorce coach and why should you hire one?? You can sign up for the Pre-Divorce Action Guide at www.decodingdivorce.com/2. The action guide details the 15 things you must consider and do before filing for your divorce. www.DecodingDivorce.com 

Explore with us: Should you plan your leaving before filing for divorce. Why or why not? Are there benefits to a planned leaving? Join us to find out. You can sign up for the Pre-Divorce Action Guide at www.DecodingDivorce.com/2. The action guide details the 15 things you must consider and do before filing for your divorce.   www.DecodingDivorce.com 

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