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Separation and divorce do not stay neatly contained at home. They affect your concentration, decision-making, mental health, attendance and ability to perform at work.In this episode of The UK Flooring Podcast, Tom sits down with breakup and divorce coach Paul Naisbitt to discuss the personal and commercial impact of relationship breakdowns.Paul shares his own experience of leaving an abusive and controlling relationship, navigating the family court system and rebuilding his life. He also explains how that experience led him to become a qualified Breakup and Divorce Coach and McKenzie Friend, helping others find clarity during one of the most difficult periods of their lives.The conversation explores what business owners should look out for when a normally reliable team member begins acting out of character, why the traditional “pull yourself together” approach rarely works, and how compassion and flexibility can protect both the individual and the business.Paul also explains the practical realities of divorce, including mediation, court proceedings, financial disclosure, business ownership and the importance of building the right support network early.What You'll Learn in This EpisodeHow relationship breakdowns can affect productivity, attendance and decision-makingThe warning signs that someone may be struggling at homeWhy business owners need a plan for supporting employees through divorce or separationHow divorce coaching differs from legal adviceWhat a McKenzie Friend does during family court proceedingsWhy contacting a solicitor for every emotional concern can become extremely expensiveThe importance of communication, trusted support and early interventionHow abusive and controlling relationships can affect mental healthWhy separating couples should understand the process before making major decisionsHow supporting an employee properly can improve loyalty and reduce disruptionMemorable Quote“Get that support system in place as early as possible.”Speaker InformationPaul Naisbitt is a certified Breakup and Divorce Coach specialising in complex separation, family conflict, domestic abuse, coercive relationships and emotional recovery.Drawing on professional training and his own lived experience, Paul offers practical and emotional support to people navigating separation, divorce and the family court system. He also provides McKenzie Friend support for individuals representing themselves in court.Website: https://www.paulnaisbittcoaching.com/Instagram: @paulnaisbittcoachingLinkedIn: Paul NaisbittWhere to Find The UK Flooring PodcastListen on Spotify:https://open.spotify.com/show/1J0C46dPKgSic5p0n8wK5KListen on Apple Podcasts:https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-uk-flooring-podcast/id1609466551Watch on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@CockerillandCo Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you've been ordered into parenting coordination, or you're wondering whether a parenting coordinator could help your high-conflict custody case, this conversation is for you.Lisa sits down with Nicole Sodoma, a family law attorney with 26 years of experience, founding partner of Sodoma Law (seven locations across the Carolinas), and a practicing parenting coordinator since 2005. What makes Nicole's perspective uniquely powerful is that she's not just an expert — she's a targeted parent who has personally worked with three different parenting coordinators since her own separation in 2019. She knows this process from every angle.Together, they break down what a parenting coordinator actually does, who gets one (and why), what the most common and costly mistakes parents make are, and the practical communication and documentation strategies that can help you stop making them — starting today.Whether your parenting coordinator seems to be favoring your ex, you're confused about what decisions they can and can't make, or you're just trying to understand how to use this process strategically, Nicole gives you a clear, honest roadmap.

Some relationships don't fall apart overnight…they slowly reveal the truth you've been trying not to see. On this episode of The Rewrite, I sit down with Jennifer Warren Mediwn—Empowerment Strategist, Divorce Coach, and founder of JWM Coaching—for a conversation that is as honest as it is transformative. Jennifer shares her deeply personal story of staying in a 17-year marriage she knew, early on, wasn't truly aligned—and the fear, pressure, and self-doubt that kept her there. Until one day… she chose herself. We talk about:• The quiet voice we ignore—and what happens when it gets louder• Victims or Creators / Not a To Do BUT a To Be• How to rebuild self-trust after years of disconnect• What it really takes to leave—and begin again• Her I.M.P.A.C.T. Method + “Brave Bites Forward™” approach to healing • Her book Strategies & Tips from a Divorce Coach: A Roadmap to Move Forward, a practical and empowering guide for those navigating the challenges of divorce. This isn't just about divorce—it's about truth, courage, and the moment you realize you hold the key to your own freedom. If something in your life feels off… this episode will speak to you. Listen now wherever you get your podcasts@therewrite_podcastFollow Jennifer:JWM Coaching http://www.JWMCoaching.org (http://www.jwmcoaching.org/ Jennifer@JWMCoaching.org @JWMcoaching 

What does a Guardian Ad Litem really think when a 10-year-old says they want 50/50 custody?Crystal Wright has heard it hundreds of times — and she can tell instantly when a child has been coached. As a family law attorney AND a working GAL in Atlanta, Georgia, Crystal is one of the rare practitioners who has seen the custody system from every angle: as the attorney fighting for clients, as the neutral investigator protecting children, and as the professional who has had exactly one parent incarcerated for defying her court orders.In this conversation, Crystal joins Lisa Johnson to unpack one of the most contentious questions in family law: when should a child's voice be allowed to decide their custody arrangement — and when should it be completely disregarded?The answer, Crystal says, has nothing to do with how articulate or advanced your child is. It has everything to do with whether the language they're using sounds like an actual child — or like someone's lawyer.What You'll Learn in This Episode:✅ How GALs instantly detect when a child has been coached — and what specific language is a dead giveaway✅ Why "I want 50/50 custody" coming from a 10-year-old should raise immediate red flags✅ What the 'borrowed scenarios' phenomenon looks like in a real investigation✅ How Crystal visits kids at their schools — without telling the parents — and why she always gets new information✅ The real impact on children when they're put in the middle: clinical depression, self-harm, 17-year-olds calling their GAL crying at 10pm✅ At what ages (11 and 14 in Georgia) a child's preference becomes legally relevant — and why that still doesn't mean they get to choose✅ The non-negotiable case for reunification therapy — and what Crystal does to parents who try to block it✅ How to find a qualified GAL and what to look for in a mental health expert for an older, refusing child✅ What to do when your child won't see you: Crystal's direct advice to rejected parents⏱️ Timestamps:00:00 — Introduction: How Lisa and Crystal met at the Bridging the Gap conference in London01:45 — How a GAL tells the difference: coached child vs. genuine preference04:30 — Crystal's background: family law attorney, boutique firm in Atlanta, and why she loves GAL work06:00 — Advanced children vs. coached children: why intelligence isn't the issue08:15 — "I want 50/50" — why that phrase signals coaching immediately10:00 — Age and preference in Georgia: the affidavit of election at 11, determinative weight at 1413:30 — Why Crystal stopped having children sign affidavits of election15:45 — The 17-year-old: even at near-adulthood, best interest analysis still controls18:00 — Reaction to New Jersey's ruling: what does it mean for children's long-term wellbeing?21:00 — Why Crystal visits children at their schools — without telling parents — and what she learns23:30 — Children and truth-telling: parroting, fawning, and protecting a parent26:00 — Loyalty conflicts: the real emotional impact on children stuck in the middle29:00 — Clinical depression, self-harm, and older kids calling Crystal crying at 10pm32:00 — Older children refusing contact: how to make the case for intervention to the court35:00 — Reunification therapy: Crystal has never been denied an order for it — and here's why38:30 — What happens to parents who block reunification therapy: contempt motions and incarceration41:00 — What kind of expert witness to bring in for an older refusing child43:30 — False allegations and fake documents: how they're handled in investigation46:00 — How to find a good GAL and what qualifications actually matter48:30 — How to prepare your child for a GAL interview (and what NOT to say)51:00 — Advice for rejected parents: don't give up, keep reaching out, send birthday gifts54:00 — Memory, photographs, and why fighting for a child who doesn't want you right now still matters56:30 — How to find Crystal Wright and closing remarks

He hadn't heard from one of his four daughters in four years. Then she reached out. And the first thing she said changed everything.Jon McKenzie, founder of @malevictimsoffemalenarcissists (IG) and a returning BTGO guest, joins Lisa to share something that happened just two weeks before this recording: his adult daughter reached out after four years of complete silence, asked to rebuild their relationship, and opened with the words every alienated parent needs to hear: "I'm very sorry for the words I said. My words were very hurtful and disrespectful."If you've been told to "just wait," or you're wondering whether your adult children will ever come back, this conversation is the living proof that they can. And it gives you a philosophy and a framework for surviving the wait.IN THIS CONVERSATION:The two types of parental alienation — legally imposed separation vs. the quiet, psychological erosion that's often more devastatingWhy Jon chose not to divorce until his kids were out of high school — and whether, looking back, that was the right callThe prodigal son framework: how Jon made peace with not chasing his children — and what 'waiting with open arms' actually costs a parent emotionallyWhat his daughter said the moment she reached out — and why Jon didn't pull his punches in their first conversationHow reconciliation with one adult child is opening a possible door with a second — while a third may be permanently enmeshed with their motherWhy Jon refused to badmouth his ex to his children — even after years of alienation — and why he believes that was the single most important thing he didWhat he says to the client who says: 'If one more person tells me the kids will just figure it out, I'm going to lose my mind'GUEST INFO:Jon McKenzieMale Victims of Female Narcissistshttps://malevictimsoffemalenarcissists.comJon's Instagram: @malevictimsoffemalenarcissists

Kelly Myers has been on Divorce and Beyond twice before. Once to talk about Divorce Day One. Once to help listeners avoid the divorce hangover that follows too many people into their new life. This time, she comes back to share something she has never spoken about publicly: what the loss of her son Jack taught her about years of high-conflict co-parenting, and her hope that every parent still in the middle of it will find a way through differently. In June of 2024, Kelly lost her son Jack at the age of 23. In the year that followed, she found herself looking back at the years of high-conflict co-parenting that had defined her children's childhoods, and asking questions she could not stop asking. What role did the conflict play? What did her children carry because of it? What would she have done differently if she had known what she knows now? Kelly reached out and asked to have this conversation here, because she believes that what she learned at great cost is something other parents can still choose to learn a different way. This is one of the most generous conversations this show has ever had. Susan Guthrie and Kelly explore the real cost of co-parenting conflict on children, what it actually looks like to drop the rope after years of high-conflict engagement, how the ecosystem around a divorce often makes things worse, and what repair looks like when you still have years ahead to offer it. Covered in this episode: Why dropping the rope has to start with you, and why waiting for your co-parent to change first means waiting forever How the divorce ecosystem, including attorneys, family, and friends, can fan the flames of conflict without anyone asking what you actually want to protect What high-conflict co-parenting looks like through the eyes of the children living inside it, and why each child carries it differently How the BIFF communication method helped shift a years-long dynamic, and what that looked like in practice Why it is never too late to begin repair, and what choosing differently right now can mean for the moments still ahead Referenced Episodes from the Archive: Day One with a Divorce Coach: First Steps with Kelly Myers Avoiding the Divorce Hangover From the Start with Kelly Myers ______________________________________________________________________ This week's guest: Kelly Myers Kelly understands that divorce is one of life's most challenging transitions. She's a divorce and co-parenting coach, mediator, and communication specialist passionate about supporting individuals and families as they move through the complexities of divorce and co-parenting. She partners with clients to understand the divorce process, manage emotional and financial stress, and make strategic decisions throughout their divorce. Her work helps clients stay focused on what matters most while making choices that align with their long-term goals. Kelly specializes in supporting parents as they discover how to become strong co-parenting partners, even when the romantic relationship has ended. She helps parents see their relationship through a new lens-as partners in raising their children-guiding them to create respectful communication patterns and develop comprehensive, child-centered parenting plans that go far beyond custody schedules. Her approach centers on what children need emotionally and developmentally during this transition, while helping parents maintain a healthy family dynamic across two homes. In addition to her direct work with clients, Kelly loves mentoring other professionals. She serves as a co-trainer for the Co-Parenting Specialist® Training Program and provides professional development to divorce professionals seeking to use a more client-centered approach. Kelly's deepest commitment is to help families-both the ones she works with directly and those served by the professionals she trains-have less conflict, more cooperation, and real hope for their futures. Website: http://www.firststepsdivorce.com LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/kellymyerscoach Instagram: http://instagram.comfirststeps_divorce ______________________________________________________________________ If This Episode Helped You Subscribe to Divorce & Beyond so you never miss an episode. Share it with someone who needs clear, reliable guidance right now. And if you have a moment, leaving a five-star review makes a real difference in helping this show reach the people who need it most. Follow Divorce & Beyond Website: divorceandbeyondpod.com Instagram: instagram.com/divorceandbeyondpod ______________________________________________________________________ About Our Host: Susan E. Guthrie, Esq. Susan E. Guthrie is one of the nation's leading family law and mediation attorneys, with more than 35 years of experience helping individuals navigate divorce with clarity and strategy. She is the Immediate Past Chair of the American Bar Association Section of Dispute Resolution, a best-selling author, and a sought-after speaker and trainer. Susan recently appeared as the featured expert on The Oprah Podcast and has been cited in The Wall Street Journal, Forbes, The Washington Post, NewsNation, and NBC Chicago Today, among others. As the creator and host of Divorce & Beyond, ranked in the top 1% of all podcasts worldwide with millions of downloads and an Apple Top 100 Self-Help designation, Susan brings together top legal and mental health experts to help listeners move through divorce and into what comes next. Learn more at https://divorceandbeyondpod.com/about Disclaimer: The commentary and opinions shared on this podcast are for informational and entertainment purposes only and do not constitute legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your state regarding your specific situation.

Facing a negotiation with your high-conflict ex can feel like showing up to a battle already defeated — especially when they have more money, more confidence, or a better attorney. But corporate negotiation expert Lynn Price says the power imbalance you're feeling may be less real than you think. What IS real is whether you make the ask.Lynn spent 25 years as in-house corporate counsel and completed over 11,000 negotiations. In this conversation with Lisa Johnson, she breaks down her Three Rs Framework — Ready, Relatable, and Reasonable — and explains exactly how to apply it when you're co-parenting with someone determined to make your life miserable.In this episode, you'll learn:- The one mindset shift that lets you make the ask even when you feel powerless- How to use the 'have to haves / helpful haves / hopeful haves' system to walk into mediation with a clear, strategic game plan- Why you must stop talking after you make a request — and how to handle the silence- The acting technique that protects your most important priorities (your ex will never see it coming)- How to build enough rapport with a difficult person to actually move the negotiation forward- A general rule from a retired army general that will keep you out of trouble in every difficult conversation- Why practicing out loud — even to your mirror or your dog — can change how you show up in mediation- How to use AI to prepare for your next difficult conversation with your co-parentLisa and Lynn also explore the difference between negotiation and mediation, the psychology of letting the other side 'win' things that don't actually matter, and why knowing your 'walk-away' point before you sit down is one of the most powerful moves you can make.This isn't just theory — Lynn spent nearly 14 years in the construction industry, where her company had no leverage, going up against huge players and still getting what they needed. Her approach works on everyone from Fortune 500 executives to toxic co-parents. And it can work for you.If you're heading into custody mediation, a co-parenting negotiation, or just trying to get your ex to switch a weekend, this conversation will change how you approach it.About Lynn Price:Lynn Price is a negotiation speaker, trainer, and attorney. She spent over 25 years as in-house corporate counsel, completing more than 11,000 negotiations.Website: lynnpriceconsulting.comBook: 'Negotiate It!' on Amazon

What does a family court judge actually think when you walk through those courtroom doors?If you have ever walked out of a hearing asking "why did the judge do THAT?" — this conversation is for you.Peggy Walsh spent 18 years as a family court judge — after first building her career representing parents, caregivers, and children as a family law attorney. Then she took off her robe. Not because she stopped caring, but because she believed that the people who love a child should be the ones making decisions for that child — not a stranger, however well-intentioned, in a black robe.Today, Peggy works as a co-parenting coach, helping parents stay out of court altogether — or, when court is unavoidable, understand exactly what to expect and how to show up effectively.In this conversation, Lisa and Peggy go deep on what family court actually looks like from the inside — and what most attorneys never tell their clients before they walk into that hearing.WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS INTERVIEW:✅ Why judges assume BOTH parents are high conflict — and how that shapes everything they observe✅ What judges really notice about demeanor (and why the person blurting things out in court isn't necessarily the problem outside of court)✅ The one question you should always ask your attorney before your first court appearance — and why most attorneys forget to answer it✅ What "forced resolution" vs. "compromised resolution" actually means — and why Peggy always preferred to help parents reach their own agreements✅ The specific things only you know about your family that no judge ever could — and why that makes negotiated parenting plans almost always better✅ What status conferences are, why Peggy loved using them, and how they can reduce conflict over time✅ Why appearing to "want it all your way" in front of a judge rarely ends well — and what to do instead✅ How to think about co-parenting communication as modeling behavior for your children — not just logistics management✅ Why your child hears your tone of voice even when they are upstairs and cannot hear your words✅ What it looks like to stop making your ex the "star of your show" — and why that shift changes everythingTHIS INTERVIEW IS ESSENTIAL IF YOU:- Are going to court and do not know what to expect- Are frustrated by a custody decision you do not understand- Are trying to build a parenting plan and wondering whether to negotiate or let the judge decide- Keep getting pulled back to court by a high-conflict co-parent- Want to understand what judges actually value — not what TV court dramas portray- Are ready to shift from reactive victim to proactive problem-solver in your caseABOUT PEGGY WALSH:Peggy Walsh is a retired family court judge who served for 18 years, primarily handling divorce and family law matters. Prior to her time on the bench, she represented parents, caregivers, and children as a family law attorney. She is now a co-parenting coach, helping parents navigate high-conflict situations, create workable parenting plans, and stay out of court whenever possible.Connect with Peggy Walsh: https://peggywalsh.com/

On this episode of The Rewrite, I'm joined by Beth Kraszewski—Founder of Purposeful Wealth Advisors, CFP®, CDFA®, and one of the country's leading experts in divorce financial strategy. Her message is clear—you are stronger than you know. Beth is also the author of Stronger Than You Know—a must-read for any woman navigating divorce and financial independence.Beth has worked behind the scenes of high-asset, high-conflict divorces—where emotions run high, assets can be hidden, and the wrong financial decision can impact your future for decades.But what makes this conversation so powerful… is how she brings humanity into the numbers.We talk about: - Why fear, grief, and urgency should never drive financial decisions - What really happens behind the scenes in complex divorces - How to protect yourself when assets aren't fully transparent - Why the “day after divorce” isn't the transformation—but the beginning of it Beth also shares a deeply moving client story that perfectly captures what The Rewrite is all about: Sometimes life doesn't go as planned… but what unfolds can be even more aligned, peaceful, and true. Connect with Beth: Websites: www.bethkraszewski.com and www.purposefulwealthadvisors.comInstagramFacebookLinkedIn Book: Stronger Than You Know (available on Amazon)

If you have a court date coming up, a difficult phone call with your ex on the calendar, or you're just sick and tired of going blank exactly when you need to be sharp, this conversation is for you.Lisa sits down with Annie Brook, a body-centered somatic psychologist who has trained therapists for decades and spent time in courtrooms testifying for children. Annie brings something genuinely different to this conversation: not just the why behind the freeze, the anger, and the exhaustion you've been feeling, but practical, body-based tools you can use covertly, right now, even with a judge watching.In this episode, Annie explains:- Why hopelessness after a toxic relationship is neurological, not a character flaw- How your birth experience and earliest attachment moments may have shaped the "blind spots" your ex exploited- The science behind why you freeze when you're attacked in conversation or in court, and how to break it- Four covert grounding techniques you can use during a custody hearing without anyone knowing- The "hula hoop" exercise that rebuilds your sense of personal space and power- What "middle tone" is and why it's the secret to staying credible and relational under pressure- How self-attack thinking is not just emotionally exhausting — it may be affecting your physical healthAnnie Brook's website: https://www.anniebrook.com#NarcissisticAbuse #NervousSystemHealing #SomaticTherapy #FamilyCourt #HighConflictDivorce #ParentalAlienation #TraumaHealing #CoParenting #CustodyBattle #AnnieBrook #BeenThereGotOut 

Finding the right therapist for your child during a high-conflict divorce is one of the most important and misunderstood decisions you'll make.Most parents want immediate results. They want their child to sit down in session one and start processing everything that's been happening at home. But experienced art therapist Ahimsa Luciano has seen this expectation backfire again and again, and she has a more effective approach to share.In this conversation, Ahimsa breaks down what effective therapy for children in high-conflict situations actually looks like, why it takes longer than parents expect, and why that's not a bad thing. She explains how to match your child's personality to a therapeutic style, what to say when the other parent has told your child therapy means something is wrong with them, and exactly why the therapist can't be your source of custody intel, even when you desperately want updates.WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:- Why AI will never replace a human therapist, and what the 7-38-55 communication rule reveals about what's really missing- What makes an experienced intake truly different and why this first step is the most important one- How to give a resistant child space to open up, even when their world feels like it's in chaos- Why it can take months (or longer) before a child talks, and why that's not failure- How to handle a child who's been told therapy means they're damaged - a trauma-informed response that actually works- The truth about "parentification" in high-conflict families and its long-term impact on relationships and boundaries- Why children tell each parent something different and why that doesn't mean anyone is lying- What 'your child is fine with both parents' in an evaluation actually means, and why it's not the betrayal it feels like- Why custody exchanges are a major anxiety trigger for children and the specific harm of using kids as tools at handoffs- Questions to ask when choosing a therapist for your child including how to match personality type to therapeutic style- Why your child's therapy space must be private and what the therapist will and won't share with youABOUT AHIMSA LUCIANO:Ahimsa Luciano is an art therapist licensed in New York State and the co-founder and co-owner of Pleasantville Wellness Group, a multidisciplinary therapy practice in Pleasantville, NY serving children through adults, couples, and families. She began her career at a domestic violence and sexual assault agency as the children's therapist — an experience that gave her deep roots in working with kids navigating high-conflict separations, divorce, and trauma. Pleasantville Wellness Group offers a broad range of therapeutic modalities including art therapy, play therapy, and individual and group services, and is currently in-network with NYSHIP, United Healthcare, and Oxford for New York State clients. Some therapists in the practice are also licensed in additional states.  https://www.pleasantvillewellnessgroup.com/home#highconflictdivorce #childtherapy #parentalalienation #coparenting #arttherapy #custodybattle #parentification #divorceandkids #traumainformedparenting #beentheregotout #kidsanddivorce #therapyforchildren

If your child just told you something terrible — or if you're afraid they're trying to — this conversation is for you.Lisa sits down with Julia Hochstadt, a licensed clinical social worker specializing in trauma, childhood sexual abuse, sexual assault, and domestic violence. Julia works with adolescents (15+) and adults, including many parents navigating high-conflict custody situations where their children may be in danger. She also testifies as an expert witness in DV and intimate partner violence cases.This interview was recorded during Sexual Assault Awareness Month — but Julia's guidance is something every protective parent needs to hear, no matter what month it is.In this conversation, you'll hear:→ The #1 thing Julia urges parents to do immediately when a child discloses abuse — and the exact words to say→ Why disclosures can sound unbelievable — and why that doesn't mean they're not true→ How years of gaslighting from an abusive partner erode your ability to trust your own instincts (and what to do about it)→ The behavioral signs that should prompt a protective parent to lean in — not wait and watch→ A practical, age-appropriate framework for building a child's safety plan — including how to plan for different times of day, different scenarios, and changing circumstances→ Why Julia compares child safety planning to how the fire department talks about home fire safety — and why you should revisit it every time life transitions happen→ What research says about the #1 protective factor for a child whose abuse was not properly addressed by the legal system→ How to comfort a terrified child when you have to send them on a court-ordered exchange you know is unsafeLisa also shares a real situation she encountered that same morning: a mother whose child disclosed the worst kind of abuse, survived two investigations that were not acted upon, and is now being forced into a form of reunification therapy that's making things dramatically worse. Julia's guidance for this mother, and for the many parents in this community who are living this nightmare, is both clinically grounded and deeply human.ABOUT JULIA HOCHSTADT, LCSWJulia is a licensed clinical social worker licensed to practice in New York and New Jersey. She specializes in primary and secondary survivors of childhood sexual abuse, sexual assault, and domestic violence. She does training, education, and outreach nationally, and testifies as an expert witness in DV and IPV cases. She is also available for consultation to individuals and clinicians nationwide.Website: https://therapywithjulia.com#ChildAbuse #ChildSafety #ParentalAlienation #HighConflictDivorce #ProtectiveParent #DomesticViolence #SafetyPlanning #ChildDisclosure #SexualAssaultAwarenessMonth #CustodyBattle #CoParenting #TraumaTherapist #BeenThereGotOut

If you've ever sat in a courtroom waiting for a judge to address what your ex is doing... and walked out with nothing... AGAIN, you already know this truth in your bones: justice delayed is justice denied.Criminal defense attorney, legal analyst, and law professor James Porfido has spent more than 35 years watching the American legal system from every angle: as a prosecutor in the Morris County Prosecutor's Office, as a certified criminal trial attorney, and as a defense attorney for people caught in a system that often seemed designed to work against them. His book, Unequal Justice, is a frank accounting of what he witnessed.In this conversation with Lisa, James brings that rare "both sides of the courtroom" perspective to the world of high-conflict divorce and custody — and what he sees mirrors exactly what our community lives every day.In this episode, you'll learn:- Why family court cases drag on for months and years, and why judges often feel they have no choice- How a toxic ex uses court delays strategically to wear you down, separate you from your children, and drain your finances- What "parental alienation" looks like through the eyes of a criminal attorney who has represented falsely accused parents- How coached child testimony works and what it means for your case- The single most important thing to look for when hiring an attorney (hint: it's not their fees)- Why knowing the "lay of the land" in your local court system is as important as knowing the law- How court staff relationships can quietly determine whether your case moves forward... or stalls- James's framework for what questions to ask when interviewing a potential attorneyAbout James Porfido James Porfido is a New Jersey-based attorney with over 35 years of experience as both a prosecutor and criminal defense attorney. He is a Certified Criminal Trial Attorney, certified by the Supreme Court of New Jersey. He is currently of counsel at a 65-attorney New Jersey firm, an adjunct law professor teaching advocacy and persuasion at Seattle Law School, and a legal analyst who has provided commentary on high-profile cases including OJ Simpson, the Menendez brothers, and Scott Peterson. His book, Unequal Justice, is available on Amazon and Barnes & Noble.#HighConflictDivorce #FamilyCourt #ParentalAlienation #JusticeDelayed #CustodyBattle #FalseAllegations #DomesticViolence #CoerciveControl #BeenThereGotOut #UnequalJustice 

"The 5 Love Languages" is a famous book by Gary Chapman. In this episode, my guest, Divorce Coach, Justin Milrad and I talk about the 5 love languages, as they pertain to your divorce. Our discussion might help you feel validated, and understand what went wrong, and what you can do to make your future relationships better!

How can lawyers build genuine trust, stand out through strategic thought leadership, and future‑proof their practices with value-based fees and AI—all without burning out on marketing? Learn in this episode how you can move from winging it to working with a clear, repeatable plan for visibility, credibility, and consistent growth.   In this episode, Steve Fretzin and Susan Guthrie discuss: Strategic planning vs. “winging it” in legal careers Building trust and brand through targeted thought leadership Consistency and content repurposing across platforms Flat-fee and value-based billing as trust builders Using AI tools for marketing, planning, and efficiency   Key Takeaways: Trust is the “golden thread” that should run through every interaction, from networking to content creation, and it must often be rebuilt when a lawyer shifts roles or practice areas. Thought leadership only works when it's strategic—aimed at the right decision-makers, on the right platforms, with a clear message about what you do and who you help. Consistency in showing up, even on just one or two platforms, beats a scattered “spaghetti on the wall” approach to marketing every time. Moving from hourly billing to flat-fee or value-based models can dramatically increase client trust by reducing uncertainty and aligning incentives. AI can act as a behind‑the‑scenes collaborator for planning, branding, content, and even websites, helping lawyers amplify their expertise without compromising ethics.   "Simplicity actually is much more effective as long as what you're doing is consistent." — Susan Guthrie   Check out my new show, Be That Lawyer Coaches Corner, and get the strategies I use with my clients to win more business and love your career again.   Ready to go from good to GOAT in your legal marketing game? Don't miss PIMCON—where the brightest minds in professional services gather to share what really works. Lock in your spot now: https://www.pimcon.org/   Thank you to our Sponsor! Rankings.io: https://rankings.io/ Lawyer.com: https://www.lawyer.com/   Ready to grow your law practice without selling or chasing? Book your free 30-minute strategy session now—let's make this your breakout year: https://fretzin.com/   About Susan Guthrie: Susan Guthrie is a nationally recognized family law attorney, mediator, and legal tech innovator with over 30 years of experience helping individuals navigate divorce and family transitions. Known as “The Divorce Coach,” she focuses on empowering clients through education, mediation, and more peaceful, cost-effective alternatives to litigation. Susan is the host of the award-winning Divorce & Beyond podcast and a leading voice in the intersection of family law and technology. She is a strong advocate for online dispute resolution and innovative legal solutions that make legal services more accessible and client-centered. In addition to her work with clients, Susan is a speaker, trainer, and consultant, helping legal professionals modernize their practices and better serve today's evolving needs.   Connect with Susan Guthrie:   Website: https://susaneguthrie.com/home Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susaneguthrie LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/susaneguthrie/ Twitter: https://www.x.com/susan4biz   Connect with Steve Fretzin: LinkedIn: Steve Fretzin Twitter: @stevefretzin Instagram: @fretzinsteve Facebook: Fretzin, Inc. Website: Fretzin.com Email: Steve@Fretzin.com Book: Legal Business Development Isn't Rocket Science and more! YouTube: Steve Fretzin Call Steve directly at 847-602-6911   Audio production by Turnkey Podcast Productions. You're the expert. Your podcast will prove it. 

You pick your child up from their other parent's, and within minutes, the screaming starts. Maybe they're throwing things. Maybe they're kicking you. Maybe they're saying things you never imagined hearing from your own kid's mouth - things that sound frighteningly like your ex.You're doing everything you can think of. Talking. Reasoning. Setting consequences. Nothing works. And you're starting to wonder if your child is broken... or if you are.You're not. And neither is your child.In this episode, we welcome back Tosha Schore, founder of Parenting Boys Peacefully and co-author of the book "Listen: 5 Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges." Tosha has been a trusted voice in the BTGO community for years, and this conversation may be the most important thing she's shared with us.Here's what she wants you to understand: when your child comes home from the other household and erupts, that behavior is almost never about you. Their limbic system, the emotional brain, has been flooded by stress, fear, and unpredictability. Their prefrontal cortex, the part of the brain responsible for reasoning, self-regulation, and respect, is offline. You can't talk them out of it. You can't punish them out of it. And time-outs make it worse.What you can do - what actually works - is exactly what Tosha walks us through in this conversation.In this episode, you'll learn:→ Why children in high-conflict divorce situations are wired for aggression, and why it's a fear response, not a character flaw→ The one thing you should do first when your child is escalating (hint: it's not talking)→ Why consequences and time-outs create the exact opposite of what you need in these moments→ The stay-listening technique and why staying quiet and present is the most powerful tool you have→ What to say (and what NOT to say) when your child is in a rage spiral→ The note-under-the-door strategy that has helped hundreds of parents reconnect with an escalating child→ The surprising reason why your child's laughter after hurting you doesn't mean they don't care→ How to use "special time" to rebuild connection — and why it creates a window into your child's inner world when nothing else will→ The difference between a stress-driven outburst and a chronic pattern that needs more support→ Why the fastest way to earn respect from your dysregulated child is to stop demanding it in that momentTosha also shares what she calls "good enough parenting shape," and why what you need most before your child gets home is to take care of yourself first, so you can show up fully for them.If your child seems to become a different person after exchanges - angrier, crueler, more out of control - you need to hear this conversation. And if you've ever felt your ex's voice coming out of your child's mouth while they're screaming at you, that's not your imagination. Tosha has words for that too.

Feeling like your kids are blaming you for the divorce? Feel like they think Dad can do no wrong? My guest in this episode is Kristen Noel, Divorce Coach and Co-founder of The Intuitive Divorce. We talk about how you might be feeling and what you can do. 

In Episode of The Divorce Hour, Ilyssa Welcomes Founder of The Law Firm of Anthony Diaz, Anthony "The Peacemaker" Diaz on Tips To Avoid Going Back to Court. Mardi Winder of DivorceCoach4women on How To Embrace The New You Post Divorce. Divorce Coach, Attorney, and Consultant Karen Covy on "Grey" Divorce. . The Divorce Hour with Ilyssa Panitz is a safe and comfortable place for listeners to put their feet up and escape from the daily grind while we offer you comfort and advice during a challenging and often isolating time in your life. It is hard to turn to friends and family who don't understand what you are going through emotionally, mentally, or economically but we do and there is nothing to feel ashamed about! While the topics and guests will vary every week – the messaging is always the same: we are going to help you get through this dark period and despite how bleak you may think things look. If you cannot see the audio controls,

On this episode of The Rewrite, I'm joined by Taylor Beck, divorce coach and founder of Revive & Rise Coaching. Taylor's story is raw, real, and still unfolding. From being a “married single parent,” to navigating a relationship impacted by substance abuse, to finding the strength to leave and advocate for herself through ongoing legal battles—her journey is one so many women will see themselves in. Now remarried, raising two children, and continuing to co-parent, Taylor is helping women move through divorce with strategy, confidence, and clarity—especially when everything feels uncertain. We talk about:Choosing yourself—even when it's hardNavigating the legal and emotional chaos of divorceSetting boundaries and protecting your peaceRewriting your life in real timeWhat is DR Divorce Coaching This conversation is for anyone in the trenches—or finding their way out. Follow Taylor: @reviveandrisecoaching   

If seeing your ex, even from across a parking lot, sends your body into overdrive, you're not overreacting. You're experiencing a trauma response. And it has a name.In this episode, Lisa sits down with Dr. Andrea DePetris, a clinical psychologist at Yale School of Medicine and private practice therapist, for a conversation that will genuinely change how you understand yourself in these moments.We start with something that gets thrown around a lot - the word "trigger" - and Dr. DePetris explains precisely what it means in a trauma context: a stimulus that activates your trauma memory network and makes your brain and body feel like the danger is happening right now. Not overreaction. Biology.From there, we dig into the window of tolerance, a concept developed by psychiatrist Dan Siegel that describes the range in which we can think clearly, connect with our kids, and respond (rather than react) to what's in front of us. Trauma narrows that window. Chronic high-conflict divorce narrows it even further. And when something pushes us outside that window, our nervous system responds in one of two ways: it speeds everything up (hyperarousal: fast talking, heat in the body, urgency, needing to win), or it slows everything down (hypoarousal: going quiet, shrinking, emotional flatness, checking out).Both responses make complete sense. Both were designed to protect you. And both can absolutely get in the way of the parent you want to be in that moment.he good news (and Dr. DePetris is practical and clear about this) is that these patterns are learnable and changeable. In this conversation, she walks you through exactly what to do in the moment and how to build the self-regulation muscle when you're not activated, so it's available to you when you are.What you'll take away from this episode:→ The clinical definition of a trigger — and why trigger warnings may not work the way we think→ How to recognize whether you tend toward hyperarousal or hypoarousal when you encounter your ex→ The single best thing to do in any activation moment (spoiler: it's a pause — but Dr. DePetris shows you exactly what that looks like for each response type)→ A breathing technique you can practice with your children right now: breathe in like you're smelling flowers, exhale long like you're blowing out birthday candles→ The '5 neutral things' grounding exercise and why naming them moves you from feeling to observation→ Why stepping away isn't avoiding — it's modeling self-regulation for your kids→ How to repair with your children after a hard moment, and why kids don't need perfect parents — they need present onesDr. Andrea DePetris is a clinical psychologist at Yale School of Medicine and works with adults in private practice. She specializes in helping people understand the internal patterns — shaped by early life and relationship history — that drive how they feel and respond, and supports them in updating those patterns to feel more integrated and at peace.#CoParenting #HighConflictDivorce #WindowOfTolerance #Triggers #EmotionalRegulation #NarcissisticEx #CustodyExchange #TraumaResponse #HighConflictCoParenting #ParentalAlienation #DivorceRecovery #ToxicEx #GroundingTechniques #MentalHealth #BeenThereGotOut

If your ex keeps dragging you back to court - filing motion after motion just to control, harass, and drain you, you already know how the legal system can become the abuser's most powerful weapon. What you might not know is that California is on the verge of changing that.In this episode, Lisa sits down with Monique, one of BTGO's own success stories. After years of navigating the family court system herself, Monique went to law school and founded the Women's Healing Resource Clinic SoCal, a grassroots domestic violence advocacy organization. And she's here to break down a bill that has us genuinely excited: California Senate Bill 1192, known as the RECLAIM Act.This legislation is designed specifically to address post-separation abuse through vexatious litigation — the pattern of filing frivolous court motions not because the filer expects to win, but because being in court means being close to you. It means draining your money, disrupting your work, and reminding you who still holds power over your life.Here's what SB 1192 would actually do, in plain language:- The three-part framework of SB 1192: how to qualify as a victim of litigation abuse, what the affidavit process looks like, and what protections kick in once you do.- Who can write your affidavit: certified domestic violence advocates with 40 hours of DV training under California Evidence Code 1037.1, as well as mental health professionals who know your case.- What "frivolous litigation" actually means under the law, and why the bill's updated language (removing the word "abusive" and leaving just "frivolous") may actually make it easier for survivors to qualify.- The most stunning piece: if approved, all future court filing fees could be waived, and you may be entitled to legal representation at no charge.- How to support the bill right now, including how to contact Senator Rubio's office, how to share your survivor story in a way that makes the most impact, and what Lisa learned from giving live testimony for Connecticut's Jennifer's Law.- What the national coercive control law landscape looks like, from California to Connecticut to Utah to the UK, and how to push for similar legislation in your own state.- The role of domestic violence resource centers in your area (and why so many survivors never think to call them).PLUS: Monique shares her incredible personal journey — from being a client of Lisa and Chris's coaching practice, to representing just 2% of Latina women who go on to become attorneys. Her story is a powerful reminder that people do rebuild, and that sometimes, that rebuilt life becomes a force for change.ADVOCATE FOR SB 1192:- Contact Senator Susan Rubio's office: sd22.senate.ca.gov- Co-sponsor: Family Violence Appellate Project (Oakland, CA)

What if the moment your child starts pulling away isn't a sign of failure, but the beginning of a chapter you can still write?Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst has spent 50 years as a psychologist inside divorce cases, family courts, and the offices of struggling parents. What she's learned might change the way you see everything.In this powerful conversation, Lisa sits down with Dr. Vanderhorst to explore the real psychology behind parental alienation - how it starts, why children pull away, what's actually happening inside your child's developing mind, and what you can do right now to protect and rebuild your relationship with them.Dr. Vanderhorst introduces a framework that most parents have never heard: divorce doesn't just disrupt your child's relationship with you, it disrupts their sense of place and their attachment to the world itself. When children lose two of their three core attachments simultaneously, their behavior shifts in ways that look like alienation but are rooted in survival. Understanding this changes everything.She also offers a deeply compassionate reframe for parents whose children are actively refusing contact: treat your child like a traumatized rescue animal who needs to earn safety at their own pace, not a family member who owes you time. Set your ego aside. Give them space. Stay consistent. That patience, she explains, is what eventually brings children back - and she has decades of cases to prove it.If your relationship with your child has been damaged by a toxic co-parent, this conversation gives you both the psychological foundation for understanding what's happening and the practical strategies for responding with patience, dignity, and hope.WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE✅ Why divorce disrupts a child's three core attachments — and what that means for their behavior✅ The subtle, nonverbal ways alienation happens without any spoken words✅ How to talk about your ex's traits in ways that help your child without harming yourself✅ What to do when your child's alienation is getting worse, not better✅ Why age 14 is the most critical and dangerous period for refusal behavior✅ The 'letter strategy' that kept one father connected across years of complete estrangement — and resulted in every one of his children returning✅ How to survive the shame and social isolation that comes with being a rejected parent✅ A simple feelings vocabulary tool that can help you and your children rebuild emotional connectionABOUT DR. GLORIA VANDERHORSTDr. Gloria Vanderhorst is a licensed psychologist with 50 years of clinical experience spanning the full human lifespan. She began her practice with preschool children and has worked with individuals and families through every stage of development. Dr. Vanderhorst has extensive experience in divorce-related psychological work, including court testimony, child and adult evaluations, and post-divorce parenting support. Her website offers a range of downloadable resources, including her highly regarded feelings vocabulary sheet.Website: www.drgvanderhorst.com

Kristen Crabtree is an author and Certified Divorce Coach whose work is grounded in lived experience — not theory. She's the creator of Paramour Paradox, a self-recovery ecosystem helping seekers rediscover who they are, and a Divorce Coaching practice, where she supports people before, during, or post-divorce. Through her journey of self-recovery, Kristen helps others move from invisibility to authenticity, from adaption to truth—reminding us it's never too late to feel alive again.https://www.paramourparadox.com/

What CPS Is Actually Looking For When They Knock on Your DoorWhen Child Protective Services shows up during a high-conflict divorce or custody battle, the fear can be overwhelming. You might be terrified of losing your children, furious at your ex for weaponizing the system, and completely in the dark about what happens next.In this episode, Lisa sits down with Sara Vandenberg, a trauma psychotherapist and former CPS caseworker in Texas, for one of the most practical, fear-reducing conversations we've ever had about what CPS investigations actually look like from the inside.Here's what Sara wants you to know before anything else: about 6-7 million children are investigated by CPS each year in the United States. Only about 5% are ever removed from the home. CPS is not a custody agency, and they cannot take your children and give them to your ex. That's not how the system works.Sara pulls back the curtain on the risk-versus-danger framework that CPS workers use when they walk into your home. Risk is the deer crossing sign on the road at night. Danger is the deer standing in the middle of the road. CPS is concerned with danger, not with judging you as a parent.She also shares something critical that surprises most parents: CPS is not looking to see if you are a good or bad parent. They are looking to see if your child is safe. Understanding this distinction can completely change how you approach a CPS investigation and how the investigator perceives you.

Have you ever looked back at your relationship with your ex and wondered: how did I get here? Why did I choose someone who would eventually turn the courts, the kids, maybe even your own family against you? Why did this feel so normal... at first? The answer might be encoded in your DNA. In this conversation, Lisa sits down with Dr. Sylvia Kalachinsky — a PhD family therapist with 21 years of clinical experience, a faculty career that took her from Mount Sinai Medical Center to working with migrant families in the California fields, and a newly released book called “Lonely AF.” She is also someone who grew up with a narcissistic father and learned, in adulthood, to trace her own relational patterns back to their roots. Together, they unpack intergenerational trauma — not as a heavy clinical term, but as the lived experience of patterns passed down through families across at least three generations. Patterns encoded not just in behavior but, according to the science of epigenetics, in your actual DNA. In this episode, you'll discover: - Why we are often unconsciously attracted to partners who mirror how we felt emotionally with our primary caregivers, even if that feeling was painful - The science behind “your nervous system will reject what's unfamiliar, even if it feels good,” and why a healthy relationship can feel suspiciously boring at first - Big T vs. little t trauma - why your pain counts even if it “didn't seem that bad” - How to do a genogram to identify the patterns your own family has been running for generations - The BODY Skill: a 90-second grounding technique you can use silently in mediation, at a deposition, or while waiting for a call from your lawyer - Why your healing is the single most powerful gift you can give your children and how modeling emotional regulation stops the cycle of transmission Lisa also shares her own story about how, after 20 years in a high-conflict marriage, a loving, stable relationship initially felt “too boring.” Her nervous system had been conditioned to chaos. The moment you hear Dr. Sylvia's response to that story might be the thing you share with a friend today. Whether you're in the middle of a custody battle, co-parenting with someone you can't trust, or already on the other side and trying to make sure the cycle ends with you — this conversation is going to give you something you've been looking for. Dr. Sylvia's new book “Lonely AF: A Therapist's No-B.S. Guide to Feeling Less Alone” is available now. Find Dr. Sylvia at: Instagram @doctorsylviak | drsylviak.com | The Doctor Sylvia K Show podcast

Your child cried at your house about how much they hate going to their other parent's home. Then you found out they had a great time. Or they came home from your ex's house perfectly happy, when you expected them to be upset. Or they told you one thing — and told your ex something completely different. It can feel like a betrayal. Or proof that something is wrong at the other house. Or maybe it makes you doubt your own perception of what's happening. Here's what's actually going on — and it's less alarming than you might think. Dr. Jill Leibowitz is a clinical psychologist and play therapist in New York City who works with children and families navigating high-conflict divorce and co-parenting situations. In her third conversation with Lisa and Been There Got Out, Dr. Jill unpacks one of the most confusing and emotionally loaded experiences in shared custody: why children behave so differently depending on which parent they're with — and what it means for you as the parent trying to protect them. This conversation also addresses what happens when parents respond to the "two-faced" experience in ways that escalate conflict — even when they mean well. From reporting back what the kids said, to demanding consistency in rules, to getting pulled into a group text where the kids are being used to pressure a decision, Dr. Jill walks through the specific behaviors that keep the conflict burning and the concrete steps parents can take instead.  In this conversation: - Why kids bring different emotional parts of themselves to each parent — and why that's developmentally normal - What it means when your child complains about the other parent's home (and what it doesn't mean) - The "code switching" concept: how kids adapt to different homes the same way they adapt to different classrooms - Why demanding the same bedtime, diet, and screen time rules in both homes creates more conflict than it solves - The group text trap: what your ex is doing and the precise way to step out of it - Why children who seem to want decision-making power are often overwhelmed by it — and what to do instead - How to be the parent your child brings their full self to, not just the brave parts or the scared parts  If you've been confused, hurt, or worried by your child's behavior between homes, this is the conversation that will finally make sense of it.  CONNECT WITH DR. JILL LEIBOWITZ: Website: https://realtkseveryday.com Instagram: @realtkseveryday Facebook: Real Talks Everyday  #KidsBehavior #CoParentingHelp #HighConflictCustody #ChildTherapist #DivorceKids #ParentingAfterDivorce #CoParenting #ParallelParenting #NarcissisticEx #FamilyLaw 

Things don't always work out like you planned. You know, they just don't. Nobody gets married planning to one day get divorced. But, somehow, around 40% of people who get married for the first time find themselves at some point in that position. For people who get married a second time, 60% of those end in divorce. And if you’re brave enough to try it a third time, your chances of getting divorced go up to 70%. Add ‘em all up and that’s a lot of people. It may well include you. If not, it has almost certainly included either your parents, your kids, or somebody close to you. So, you probably know how difficult it can be to navigate this period of your life. One thing everybody in this situation has in common is, they need advice. Who do you turn to for help? You could ask a friend who’s been through it. You could Google “Divorce attorney near me.” Or, you could get yourself a Divorce Coach at a website called Divorce Plus. Divorce Plus has been around since 2023 and they cover every possible angle you could think of – as well as a few angles you may have never considered. Like, “Building Mental Strategies For a Healthier Divorce Process” and “Am I Married to a Narcissist and How To Cope.” The Co-Founder and CEO of Divorce Plus is New Orleanian, Richard Perque. Whether you’re married, single, divorced, or any variety of parent with young kids, you need help. Whether it’s every day or just occasionally, if you don’t have a built-in helper in the form of a family member, you’re going to need daycare. And if you happen to be a daycare provider, you’re going to need kid clients. For both parties, what would be the simplest possible solution to this? And I mean the absolute simplest. Could it possibly be, do you think, Daycare.com? It couldn’t be that easy, could it? Yep, it sure could. And it is. Daycare.com has over 250,000 daycare providers across the country. They’ve been dedicated to matching parents with daycare providers since 1997. The Co-Founder and President of Daycare.com is New Orleanian, Ryan North. One lesson most of us learn at some point in our life, is humility. No matter how smart, accomplished, good-looking or even rich and famous we are, we can’t do everything alone. Every single one of us needs help at one time or another. You can be the nicest, kindest, most generous, loving and caring person – or at least you can think you are – and still end up in a marriage that doesn’t work, for any number of reasons. You can be the most devoted parent, but have no alternative but to depend on daycare. Neither of these observations are all that revelatory. What is surprising, though, is that the solutions to both of these universal issues are coming out of New Orleans. Out to Lunch was recorded live over lunch at Columns in Uptown New Orleans. Andrew Ward sits in as host for Peter Ricchiuti. You can find photos from this show by Jill Lafleur at itsneworleans.com.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

"I can't meet anyone." "There are no good guys out there." "I hate dating." These are things I hear from divorced women way too often! Well, listen to this episode and things might change! My guest is Dating after Divorce Coach, Laurie Gerber, who offers 5 ways to increase your chances of finding love.

When Kasia Bukowska's horses refused to cooperate, she thought she was failing. What she discovered instead changed everything she understood about trauma, healing, and why we stay stuck. Kasia is a Polish equine-assisted therapist, equestrian coach, and artist who has spent years learning how to use horses as healing partners for clients working through deep emotional pain - including survivors of narcissistic abuse, people in the middle of high-conflict divorces, and anyone whose nervous system has been shattered by years of coercive control. But here's the most important thing she says right at the start of this conversation: you don't need a horse. The lessons horses teach — about nervous system regulation, about authenticity, about the way your energy affects everyone around you — apply to your dog, your cat, a rabbit, even a tree. If you've ever wondered why you can't seem to calm down no matter how hard you try, or why you walk into a custody evaluation dysregulated even though you desperately want to present well, this conversation is going to give you a completely different lens for understanding what's happening in your body. Lisa and Kasia go deep on how horses act as biological mirrors — literally responding to your internal state in real time — and what that reveals about the patterns keeping you stuck. Including a story about a giant shire horse and a little wooden pole that will stay with you. In this episode: 00:00 - Introduction: Who is Kasia Bukowska and why horses?01:45 - The one thing Kasia says immediately: you don't need a horse!03:30 - Kasia's background: equestrian coach, equine-assisted therapist, and artist05:20 - How she discovered the connection between her paintings and her horses' messages08:10 - What actually happens in an equine-assisted therapy session12:00 - Why Kasia works with horses at liberty (no halters, no riding) and what that makes possible16:30 - How a horse responds when you're reliving trauma vs. when you're regulated19:45 - "The way you do one thing is the way you do everything" - what this means for your healing24:00 - The cavaletti story: what a ton of horse taught one client about softening instead of pushing30:15 - How addiction, self-harm, and deep shame show up in equine sessions33:40 - What to do if you see horses on the side of the road and can't stop36:20 - How to use any animal (or a tree!) as a grounding tool right now40:10 - Can you do equine therapy online? Kasia explains how44:30 - How to find equine-assisted learning and equine gestalt practitioners near you47:00 - Where to find Kasia: Instagram, websites, and upcoming webinars Find Kasia Bukowska:Instagram (coaching): @equestrian_kasha_bukowskaInstagram (art): @kasha_bukowska_artCoaching & therapy: hearthorseexperience.comArtwork: kashabukowska.com Been There Got Out:We are Lisa Johnson and Chris Barry: veteran high-conflict divorce, custody, and co-parenting strategists who help targeted parents navigate one of the most painful experiences a person can face. We fill the gap between what family law attorneys are trained to do and what therapists understand about the legal system. If your ex has a personality disorder, if you're fighting to protect your relationship with your children, or if you're trying to rebuild your life after years of coercive control, you are in the right place! #equinetherapy #traumahealing #narcissisticabuserecovery #nervousystemregulation #highconflictdivorce #equineасsistedtherapy #healingafterabuse #beentheregotout 

No one believes you.  You've said it in every room. To every professional. To the judge, the GAL, the CPS worker. You didn't do this. The allegations are false. And yet — somehow — your children are not with you.  There's a tool that most people in your situation have never heard of. It's not new. It's not experimental. It's legally recognized, it produces a certified written report within 24 hours, and it has caused CPS cases to be dropped and charges dismissed before parents ever set foot in a courtroom.  It's a polygraph — and not the made-for-TV version you're thinking of.  Lisa brought polygraph examiner David Goldberg onto the show specifically because false allegations are one of the most devastating — and most common — tactics used by toxic co-parents in high-conflict custody battles. David has administered more than 20,000 tests over 25 years, many of them for parents exactly like you: falsely accused, emotionally overwhelmed, and desperately looking for something concrete to fight back with.  This conversation covers the practical reality of polygraph testing in custody situations: what it actually costs in time and emotion, what the report contains, how attorneys and judges interact with it, and — perhaps most surprisingly — how many people find the experience therapeutically transformative, not just legally valuable.  About David Goldberg: David Goldberg is a state-licensed, advanced board-certified polygraph examiner based in Virginia. He spent the early part of his career in law enforcement, where he watched innocent people struggle to prove their innocence in a system that defaulted to suspicion. That experience drove him to open his private practice, where he now serves individuals outside the criminal system — people dealing with custody battles, workplace conflicts, past trauma, and more. With nearly 25 years of practice and more than 20,000 examinations behind him, David is also a court-certified expert witness. He is one of the few examiners in the country who takes a full-day approach to each client — never watching the clock, never rushing to the next appointment — because he understands that the conversations that happen before the test determine the accuracy and usefulness of everything that follows.  

You know you shouldn't react. You know exactly what your ex is doing when they push, bait, violate the court order, or put the kids in the middle. You've read the articles. You've heard about grey rock. You're smart — you've built a career, raised children, solved genuinely complex problems.And you still react. Every time.This is not a character flaw. This is your nervous system doing exactly what years of coercive control trained it to do — and no amount of willpower changes a nervous system. You have to work with it.Dr. Jordin Wiggins is a naturopathic doctor, author of The Pink Canary, and fellow survivor who has spent years studying exactly this: why the people least likely to be fooled are the ones most likely to be targeted, what coercive control does to the body at a physiological level, and how to start reclaiming your regulation — and your identity — one small pleasure at a time.Dr. Wiggins' clinical work began at the intersection of women's health and sexual dysfunction — and she quickly realized that a significant portion of the women she was seeing with libido issues were also living with coercive control and abuse. That professional observation, combined with her own experience as a survivor who didn't recognize her abusive relationship until the damage was deep, shaped an entirely new area of practice. She developed a healing model rooted in pleasure — not as a luxury, but as a physiologically grounded return to the self that coercive control erases. Through her book The Pink Canary, her Pleasure Collective community (founded in 2018), and her Pleasure Principles Podcast, she has supported thousands of survivors in reclaiming their sense of self from the inside out. She works with high-functioning, high-achieving survivors who carry the double burden of 'I should have known better' — and she has a particular gift for helping them understand why their very excellence made them a target.00:00 — Introduction: The impossible co-parenting situation — and why smart people keep getting baited01:45 — How Dr. Wiggins discovered the coercive control connection through clinical work in women's health04:20 — Super traits: the qualities that make you exceptional — and that make you a target07:10 — The professional's shame: 'I counsel people on abuse and I didn't see it in my own home'09:30 — The boiled frog analogy: how coercive control escalates in ways that are impossible to detect in real time11:45 — Why the violent incident model of abuse completely misses coercive control — and leaves survivors unprotected14:00 — How small moments of deference establish power dynamics long before abuse is recognizable17:20 — When the erosion is complete: Dr. Wiggins' personal turning point — 'I didn't know what food I liked'20:10 — What chronic hypervigilance does to the body — sleep, weight, immunity, mood, thought clarity23:30 — The MRI research on pleasure centers: abuse literally turns off your brain's capacity for desire27:45 — Pleasure research: how discovering what you want — even in tiny ways — starts rebuilding identity31:00 — Emotional baiting decoded: what it does to your nervous system and why your response is predictable35:20 — A real case study: a male client being deliberately baited through court order violations in front of the children39:00 — The wise owl, watchdog, possum model: how to identify where your brain is in a triggered moment42:30 — Overexplaining — the most expensive mistake in co-parenting with a toxic ex, and how to stop46:00 — Learning to feel your feelings: why victims of coercive control lose access to their own emotional experience50:15 — The feelings wheel and why naming the precise emotion is the first step to regaining power53:40 — Holding rage at an unjust system while still functioning — and not getting stuck in it57:00 — The lotion challenge: five minutes,

If you're getting divorced, don't call a lawyer until you watch this…Getting divorced without destroying your family is possible, and most people are never told about it.In this episode of the Health Pioneers Podcast, Jim Rohr head of marketing at Healthpreneur, talks to Karen McNenny who explains why the divorce system is built for conflict and how families can take a completely different path.Karen is a divorce consultant with 25 years of experience in corporate mediation and human behavior.She is the host of The Good Divorce Show, founder of The Good Divorce Academy, and author of the book The Good Divorce: How to End Your Marriage Without Ending Your Family.She guides couples from the day they decide to divorce through the final decree with less debt and less damage than the traditional process.In this conversation, Karen shares why calling a lawyer should not be your first step.She explains how to tell your kids, how to handle living arrangements, when to start dating, and how to keep your co-parenting relationship strong for years to come.She also breaks down why most couples spend $20,000 to $30,000 per spouse on legal fees when her clients typically spend less than $5,000 total.What we cover in this episode:00:00 Why the divorce system is designed to hurt your family02:13 Why lawyers are built for conflict not cooperation05:25 How to protect your co-parenting relationship long term06:30 How business consulting skills fix broken divorce processes07:58 Why divorce is not covered under family medical leave11:55 Warning signs your marriage is already over16:00 The grief of divorce no one talks about18:36 How to tell your kids about divorce the right way22:36 Why you should not rush to tell the kids25:35 When to start dating during a divorce29:49 How to split assets without destroying each other39:40 Why you should stop saying mom's house and dad's house41:19 Best tips for kids transitioning between two homes44:13 How to get divorced without expensive lawyers49:37 Divorce is a tool of transformation not a weapon50:23 What the Good Divorce Academy offers parentsAnswered In This Episode:Should I call a lawyer first when getting divorced?How do you tell your kids about divorce?What is a good divorce?Find Karen McNinney:Podcast: The Good Divorce ShowBook (2026): The Good Divorce, How to End Your Marriage Without Ending Your Family (Wiley Press)Website: https://www.karenmcnenny.com/Health Pioneers PodcastIf you've ever left a medical appointment feeling rushed, dismissed, or more confused than when you walked in, you're not alone.Health Pioneers is a podcast featuring clinicians and health practitioners who looked at the conventional system and decided to do things differently.Each episode highlights a practitioner who stepped off the beaten path to build a better way of helping patients…one focused on root causes, deeper thinking, and care that actually makes sense.These are thoughtful conversations about how great practitioners think, what they see that others miss, and why they chose a different path.Health Pioneers is a Healthpreneur production hosted by Jim Rohr, our head of marketing at Healthpreneur. Healthpreneur is on a mission to help the best health experts serve the most people, and Jim has spent the past 20 years as a practitioner, author, and advocate for root-cause medicine.

There's a moment most people in our community know well. Your phone lights up with a message from your ex. Or you're sitting in the parking lot outside the courthouse. Or you're on the phone with your attorney and your voice starts shaking.You know the response you want to give. You know the person you want to be in that moment. And then something happens — a thought spiral, a surge of adrenaline, a reaction you didn't plan — and afterward, you're sitting there wondering what just happened.That's not a character flaw. That's dysregulation. And it is absolutely something you can learn to change.Our guest today, Bonnie Butler, knows this from two directions: as someone who lived through her own version of emotional chaos — adopting six traumatized teenagers at once after years of fostering — and as a certified emotional regulation coach who has helped hundreds of clients transform the way they respond to stress, conflict, and the impossible situations life throws at them.This conversation with Lisa is one of those episodes where you'll want to stop and take notes. Or maybe you'll just find yourself nodding along, because finally someone is naming what you've been experiencing.Timestamps:00:00 — Opening: the problem of knee-jerk reactions with a toxic ex01:20 — Bonnie defines emotional regulation in plain language03:45 — The pause technique: interrupting the thought spiral with a physical cue07:10 — Why holding your breath makes rational thought impossible09:30 — Bonnie introduces herself: from overwhelmed foster/adoptive mom to regulation coach14:00 — The turning point: hitting a wall and learning the hard way18:20 — Why no one ever teaches us to manage our emotions21:40 — Her 12-week program and what transformation actually looks like25:00 — Why clients resist the tools at first — and what happens when they try anyway29:15 — Self-regulation explained: what it feels like when you've got it33:00 — Co-regulation: how your state spreads to everyone around you37:20 — The heartbreaking thing that happens when kids try to regulate their parents40:45 — How modeling regulation teaches your kids to regulate themselves43:00 — "Name it to tame it": why naming an emotion is the first step to releasing it46:15 — "The anxiety I'm feeling" vs. "my anxiety": a small shift, a big door48:30 — Meet Jim: how one client made friends with their anxiety to stop being controlled by it51:00 — Our thoughts are not facts — and you don't have to keep every thought you have54:20 — The thought closet: choosing what you keep and what you let go57:00 — Change, loss, and grief — why healing always has a harder side01:01:00 — "Paddles in the canoe": taking back the steering wheel of your life01:04:30 — What you focus on grows: the profound shift in how Bonnie saw her own life01:08:00 — From "what might have been" to "what could be"01:12:00 — How to connect with BonnieConnect with Bonnie Butler:Website & booking: bonniebutlercoaching.comInstagram: @bonniebutlercoachingFacebook: Bonnie Butler CoachingEmail: bonnie@bonniebutlercoaching.com#EmotionalRegulation #HighConflictDivorce #CustodyBattle #CoParentingHelp #NarcissistEx #DivorceCoach #BonnieButler #BeenThereGotOut

If your spouse owns a business — or if you co-own one together — your divorce just got significantly more complicated. The business isn't just a job. It's potentially a marital asset, a hidden income source, and a leverage point all at once. And if your ex controls the books? You may have no idea what it's actually worth.In this episode, we sit down with Sara Nanchanatt, a forensic accountant and founder of SN Forensics in New York City, to break down exactly what a business valuation is, why it matters so much in divorce, and what you can actually do — right now, and often for free — to start building your financial picture even when your ex isn't cooperating.About Sara Nanchanatt:Sara Nanchanatt is a forensic accountant and the founder of SN Forensics, a forensic accounting firm based in New York City that works remotely with clients across the United States. Sara and her team specialize in divorce-related financial analysis, including business valuations, income available for support calculations, and uncovering financial manipulation by business-owning spouses. Sara brings a practical, cost-conscious approach to forensic accounting — her firm offers multiple levels of service, from streamlined "indication of value" analyses used in mediation all the way to full court-ready expert reports. Her goal is always to make sure that whatever you spend on financial analysis actually makes sense given the value of what's at stake.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - Introduction: Business and divorce — why it's uniquely complicated01:20 - Sara introduces herself and SN Forensics02:05 - When one spouse doesn't have access to the business financials: what to do03:10 - The "check your mail" strategy for identifying unknown financial accounts03:45 - What IRS tax transcripts are, how to get them, and why they matter05:00 - What a business valuation is and why courts care about it05:50 - How forensic accountants identify income hidden in business expenses06:40 - "Instant poverty syndrome": when the business mysteriously loses money before divorce07:30 - What happens when tax fraud surfaces in a divorce proceeding08:20 - Using business valuations as leverage to push your ex toward settlement09:10 - Service businesses and the "discount for lack of marketability"09:50 - Free spousal labor in a business — and why it may not protect you in court11:00 - Types of valuation: back of the envelope, indication of value, and full expert report12:00 - How to find Sara Nanchanatt and SN ForensicsConnect with Sara Nanchanatt:

Send a textWhen your life splits open, clarity can feel like a luxury. We sit down with Meg the Divorce Coach—single mom of three and strategist for people navigating separation—to map a steadier path: name what you truly want, rebuild confidence through self-trust, and decide whether to stay or go without bargaining away your worth.We start where most of us stall: desire. In crisis, it's easy to answer “what do you want?” with a reel of don'ts. Meg shares simple ways to reawaken preference—micro-experiments, borrowed ideas, and daily check-ins—so you stop scanning the past for safety and start building a future that fits. From there, we dig into confidence after sustained criticism. Meg's triad—kindness, trust, confidence—turns into practice with a two-minute mirror ritual that anchors pride and presence. We also name the harm of rigid gender roles and comparison, and how adding purpose outside the home can actually refill your parenting energy.The heart of our talk is a decision framework for marriage and divorce. Two questions lead: What do you think will be different if you leave? And does staying make it too hard to love yourself? We examine safety, patterns, and the truth that people show you who they are. Sometimes staying is growth; sometimes leaving is the ground where healing can happen. Either way, choose the hard that aligns with self-respect.Meg shares how she works: private coaching, free Tuesday consults, a monthly webinar for her email list, and content across Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, and her own podcast. www.megthedivorcecoach.com @megthedivorcecoach If you're navigating betrayal, separation, or a shaken identity, this conversation offers practical tools and a kind mirror.If this resonated, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs courage today, and leave a review so more people can find the show. Your happily even after starts with one brave step.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 45 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com take the Free Quiz to find out how- How healed you are?

Send a textIn this episode, divorce coach Kerstin Thode shares how to regain control during separation, avoid fear-based decisions, and explore the benefits of collaborative law.Connect with Kerstin: https://www.recharge-divorcecoach.com/Support the showFind more information and resources here: http://saradavison.com/Follow me on social media►Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saradavisondivorcecoach/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SaraDavisonDivorceCoachTwitter: https://twitter.com/SDDivorceCoachLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sara-davison-742b453/

One of the most painful questions people ask after becoming separated is: How can I ever learn to trust again after being betrayed? My guest in this episode is Divorce Coach, Jenine Marie Powell, who address the question and offers advice on how to get to a place of peace, and move on to healthy relationships in the future.

In this powerful episode with Divorce Coach, Mardi Winder, we explore how NLP

Send us a textDivorce coach Jennie Sutton shares how to move from indecision to clarity, plan the divorce conversation, and stay calm under pressure using practical grounding tools. Plus, a clear look at domestic abuse beyond physical violence and the warning signs people often miss.Find out more about Jennie Sutton: https://untyingtheknot.me/Support the showFind more information and resources here: http://saradavison.com/Follow me on social media►Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saradavisondivorcecoach/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SaraDavisonDivorceCoachTwitter: https://twitter.com/SDDivorceCoachLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sara-davison-742b453/

Send us a textIn this episdoe, the conclusion of the dating chronicles, I discuss how dating has gone in the last few month, which is the 6th year since my ex-wife left. Support the showhttps://www.risingphoenixpodcast.com

Send us a textThis is a continuation of the previous episode.  I discuss what dating was like in the 5th year since my ex-wife left. Support the showhttps://www.risingphoenixpodcast.com

Send us a textThis is a continuation of the previous episode.  I discuss what dating was like 3 adn 4 years after my ex-wife left. Support the showhttps://www.risingphoenixpodcast.com

Send us a textIn this episode, the first in a 3 part series, I discuss my dating journey since my ex-wife left.   Support the showhttps://www.risingphoenixpodcast.com

On today's Practicing Love podcast, Shana James is joined by divorce coach and NLP practitioner Rachael Sloan for a powerful conversation about how relationships break down — and how they can be repaired before it's too late. Rachael works primarily with men navigating separation and divorce and is the creator of the Better Beyond Divorce program. Together, Shana and Rachael explore emotional regulation, conflict, boundaries, survival responses, and the unconscious patterns that couples bring into relationships. This episode is for anyone who wants to communicate more effectively, stay connected during conflict, and build a relationship that can weather hard moments with greater compassion and clarity. It's a hopeful conversation about staying in love longer, even when things get hard, and how to stop the downward spirals that couples get stuck in.   Find out how to have the best love and sex of your life!     Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):https://uppbeat.io/t/prigida/burbleLicense code: 3XO0LDATK42BXEXU

Send us a textIn this episode, we sit down with Dr. Greg Matos, a board-certified couple and family psychologist and author of the viral Psychology Today article on the "Rise of Lonely, Single Men." We dive deep into the current state of modern dating and why it feels so "damn hard" for men right now.  Support the showhttps://www.risingphoenixpodcast.com

"The Good Divorce Coach" mediator Karen McNenny on how to be divorced after the papers are signed, best practices for co-parenting, introducing new partners and how to have a good divorce.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode of 5 Fresh Tips, certified divorce coach, licensed clinical social worker, and co-parenting specialist Sheri Davis shares clear, compassionate strategies to help listeners stay grounded during divorce and other major life transitions. Drawing from her extensive clinical background, Sheri explains why moments of upheaval require slowing down, tuning into your internal cues, and allowing space to process the emotional impact of change. Her advice is rooted in emotional resilience, trauma-informed care, and practical divorce recovery tips that empower listeners to take manageable steps forward.Sheri emphasizes the importance of building a reliable support system—whether through trusted friends, a therapist, or a divorce coach—to help navigate uncertainty and reduce overwhelm. She breaks down key co-parenting strategies, mindset shifts, and self-care practices that strengthen mental clarity and emotional stability during separation or single parenting. Her guidance helps listeners understand the difference between avoidance and grounding, and encourages them to create daily habits that support consistent regulation and connection.Finally, Sheri offers her most powerful reminder: self-compassion is not optional—it's a necessity when starting over after divorce. She introduces simple tools for reframing self-criticism, accepting what you can and cannot control, and approaching yourself with the same generosity you offer others. This episode is filled with expert-led, actionable insight for anyone seeking practical support during divorce recovery, family restructuring, or a major life transition.

Divorce is difficult, no matter how you look at it. But what if you could come out of the process with a positivity and an outlook that would put you in a better place for both financial and emotional success? That's what Meagan Norris is offering. Meagan is a divorce coach. And she's been helping women reshape the narrative and succeed. For more information, you can check out her website, or follow her on Instagram.