The Lost Child

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What would it mean if we were already perfect? What would it look like if we stopped trying to be “better” and just tended to who we already are? And, if the future doesn't exist yet, why are we trying to improve it? And, how do our judgments of self and others create a desire to punish when others do us wrong? Holy moly, those are some big questions! Luckily, Beck and Court are ready to dive right in. They discuss the sticky concept of perfection, considering how it might shift if they chose to focus on the only reality that truly exists: the present moment. With a charming dose of gusto, they explore how family patterns of behavior and coping styles are passed down to us, and how understanding these patterns can point us in the direction of our ultimate healing and the release of our desire to punish.

Have you ever felt a dark cloud hangin around? Have you ever wanted a Food Forest? What about negative emotions; have you ever tried to cauterize those bad boys? Yep! Us too! And we're trying to find some different ways…(except the food forest, Beck wants her food forest). In this episode, Beck and Court talk their best and worst strategies for wellness, as well as the fears they share with marriage, whether or not God ever feels alone, and what it actually means when someone says to live for today. Beck also talks about the book, The Power of Now, and how it influenced a different response to her dark cloud, as Court shares the messy truths of losing her family of origin.

There's no question that Beck and Court love to call out a contradiction or two from their Christian upbringing. You might even call it their love language. In this episode, Beck and Court remember how the church helped them make a mess of their spiritual paths and self-esteem by telling them to be good all the time. Hear their personal takes as they share some of their favorite readings or quotes, and discuss the beautiful spiritual messages that can be found in tarot cards, the Bible, other ancient writings, and yes, even textbooks.

*Trigger Warning* It's so very important to us that our conversations don't catch you off guard. This episode contains content related to childhood trauma, domestic violence and abuse. Please listen with care as Beck so bravely shares how one emotion called Hurt has rippled through and affected her thoughts, behaviors, and bodily sensations. Beck and Court refer to individual exercises in the Self-Therapy Workbook of the Internal Family Systems Process, written by Bonnie J. Weiss, LCSW (This is not a sponsorship, we just love the concepts from this book).

Mirror, Mirror on the wall, what the hell, sis? All this time, we thought you were here to tell us how lovely we are, but as it turns out, that's not what you're here to do at all. So in this episode, Beck and Court talk about the challenges of looking our true selves in the mirror, and how the picture perfect stories of princess tales and puppy dog tails have done a major disservice to marriages everywhere.

Oh, Humility. You are often referred to as the value that is most important among us humans, yet utilized the least. You're a real Ego buzzkill, but you also hold the key to connection and relationships. In this episode, Beck and Court talk about their recent helpings of Humble Pie, and the bitter after taste that they won't be able to ignore…ever again.

In this episode, Beck and Court start talking toxic behaviors and the effect it can have on highly sensitive people. Listen in as they recount some of their own experiences as highly sensitive people and how they have endured the toxic people in their lives. They begin to examine how these toxic behaviors have not only shaped their identities, but also how they have come to recognize these behaviors, because well, they can be a little toxic too.

Highly Sensitive. When being described this way, why does it feel so awful? Why should highly sensitive people ever aspire to be less sensitive? What does that accomplish? Well, Beck and Court don't believe there's even one reasonable answer to these questions, and they've decided it's time to set the story straight. In this episode, they explore the scientific evidence behind the very real experiences of highly sensitive people. As they look back on their lives, they start to put the pieces together, noticing how their high sensitivity made their adverse childhoods even more complex. But the message doesn't end there, because they also know that those very same qualities can be their guide to a life of Truth. Oh hell yeah. So, if you're the kind of person who is highly attuned to the energies and emotions of those around you; is emotionally and physically responsive to the experiences happening to other people; or become easily overwhelmed by excessive stimulation, then please join in as they explore and celebrate what it means to be highly sensitive.

A PSA from The Lost Child: Do not, I repeat, DO NOT listen to to this episode (actually, all the 'sodes) if you fit any of the descriptions below: 1. If you refer to any human beings as sinners because it lets you feel like you're doing Life better than other people, this is not for you.   2. If you find yourself starting conversations with, "I am the way, the truth, and the light," because your ego has morphed into some strange being that somehow thinks it knows what's best for everyone, then you can get to steppin'.  3. If you find comfort in believing that anyone doing Life differently than you has simply made a deal with the devil himself that will ultimately leave them burning in a pit of fire, well, this might not be for you.   Everyone else? Come on in, and hear how Beck and Court feel about judgments and belief systems that were clearly created with with the help of the abusive duo, power and control. You'll also get to find out what happens to the world when an artist takes the liberty of submerging a religious relic into his own piss. Woah. I bet ya didn't see that comin'.  

What does Christianity and Wiccan have in common? Not a whole lot other than they are both talked about in this episode, as Beck and Court reflect on some of the follow-up questions they've come up with since being thrown into the Lion's Den of religion. Now, don't think for a second that these two religious escapees can't respect the beauty of what religion has to offer. Believe it or not, they thank Christianity for being their training wheels for their spiritual adventure, but make no mistake. Anyone who gets in the business of downplaying a woman's power and degrading the first doctors for the sake of benefiting the opposite sex, well, that's where they draw the line. So here's your warning: listener discretion is advised. 

It's true that Beck and Court may laugh in the face of trauma, and they may be terrified to tell you the truth for a year, but they're starting to see that radical self-acceptance just might be the road to freedom. And who doesn't love freedom?

Beck and Courtney are not against unconditional love. Jaded? Maybe. But truthfully, they think the idea of loving without conditions sounds peachy. Take a listen to this episode and hear how these sassy Southern women take a step back to challenge if unconditional love is real…or even possible. But first, they may need a minute to vent about cats and social media and the art of being domestic, which is clearly lost on them, despite being raised by a brood of other sassy Southern women.

In this wildly riveting episode, Beck and Court take a walk down a dark alley of…gasp!…more difficult childhood memories. But they don't stop there. Because next they talk about some emotional beliefs that were established as a result (maladaptive schemas), and the effects trauma can have on our memories. And they do it all with a splash of humor and undeniable charm.

Julia Child may not be knocking on their door anytime soon, but in this episode Beck and Court talk about what makes the perfect recipe for a toxic relationship. Their captivating insight gives you a real taste of what it means to live boundary-less, yet full of insecurities. These two share more than just a great-grandmother as they connect on (and vent about) the resentment of leaving behind money and careers for the most undervalued role in the American family: full time motherhood.

Was your daddy your hero? Yeah? That must feel so great. No? Then you're in the right place. That's because in this episode Court shares a family secret that she discovered when cleaning out her family home, and how her father, a veteran of the US Navy, went from hero to zero in a narcissist minute.

Beck and Courtney kick off their second episode by talking about two things everyone wants to hear about (hey, lucky you!), but folks rarely want to talk about. That's right. This hilarious duo is bringing you, for the first time in the history of ever, their first-hand knowledge on how to survive the feelings of Disappointment in marriage (with a capital D), and how practicing crappy parenting can actually set you free.

Beck and Court have something to say! No really, they love talking. And in their podcasting debut, they cast their sail in hopes of finding what the cards said they would. Their plan is simple. They aren't here to be perfect and they aren't here to work too hard. They are here to look at Life's hardest lessons, talk about them, make fun of them, get angry at them, and maybe even accept them. They are here not to make sense of the entire world, but of their own worlds. They like to use profanity and they like to talk about how they broke free from Evangelism to find God. They also like to laugh because they're funny. And funny people like to laugh.