Wait... Am I Toxic?

We're baaaackkk! Please excuse our oopsie in ghosting ya'll like that, we've very much missed you! Join us this week to hear the very unexciting reason for our break LOL and for a lil chat chat about money, men, and everything in between as per

This week's submitter finds herself in a tricky situation with her best friend. Her best friend says that she's forgiven her for a falling out they had a few years ago, but our toxic submitter is still feeling resentment from her friend lurking! Join Fola & Rukiya to talk about forgiveness, and how not dealing with disappointment in relationships properly can often turn the tables and make you the bad guy! Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this week's episode, Fola and Rukiya help a listener decide whether to take a well-deserved holiday after a tough year or save instead. They dive into the emotional side of spending and why those from less privileged backgrounds shouldn't limit what they can achieve financially in the future. Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The line between recreational weed smoker and functioning drug addict is super fine, and this week's submitter fears her boyfriend has crossed it. Join Fola & Rukiya to chat about the complex narrative around weed for Black Brits, and the sometimes overlooked side effects of cannabis use in the UK and our community. Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week's submitter has been with her online boyfriend for a year now... but the gag is, they've never met! Join Fola & Rukiya to chat about whether or not they think her friends' concerns are valid, and their views on finding love online! Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we dive deep into our relationship with alcohol—why we reach for it, how it shapes our social lives, and what it really means to us. We're joined by special guest Amelia Poamz, who opens up about her four month journey without drinking. Together, we unpack the highs and lows of going booze-free, question the role of alcohol in our lives, and explore how choosing not to drink can impact identity, friendships, and fun. Amelia's social handles: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ameliapoamz TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@ameliapoamz Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Fola's gained another year of wisdom, Rukiya has started a new business called Bloom Creations and we've hit episode 134. With lots to celebrate, in this week's episode the girls have decided to give themselves a break and have a free flowing convo without any "toxicity" this week- enjoy! Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's pretty much the norm to hear women complain about how awful it seems men are in today's society, but this week's submitter is concerned their disdain for men may have become more dangerous than the flippant "men are trash" rhetoric on social media. Join Fola and Rukiya to unpack this week's submitter's concerns about potentially being a femcel... Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week's toxic submitter is a successful Black woman in the corporate world, who is beginning to question if she can truly have it all—a thriving career and a fulfilling family life with a partner who isn't intimidated by her success. Join Fola and Rukiya as they dive into the challenges Black women face when striving to "have it all." Protect Black Women UK Website- https://protectblackwomen.com IG-https://www.instagram.com/protectblackwomenuk Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Yes, we're all worthy of love, but how many of us actually believe it? This week we forgot to do our toxic thought, whoops! But we did have an interesting conversation about our experiences with love, the great, the bad and the fugly... as well as our feelings of inferiority sometimes when it comes to receiving love. Join us for a cheeky chinwag that as always, will hopefully make you feel seen! Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever heard the phrase, 'I'm not racist, I have a Black friend'? Well the same logic may just apply to colourism too! Join Fola and Rukiya as they explore the complexities of colourism, discussing how some men who befriend dark-skinned women may still hold colourist views. And together, they unpack why proximity to dark-skinned women doesn't necessarily mean a man is free from the biases and preferences that fuel colourism. Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Does having loads of casual sex mean you're unlikely to find a partner!? This week we help our submitter out with our thoughts on the connection (or lack thereof) between our sexual activity and morals, and our desires to find a partner. Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Interracial couples are becoming more common, but are we truly embracing them in all their complexity? Join Fola and Rukiya as they dive into this week's dilemma from a listener—a proud Nigerian woman—who is navigating concerns about having mixed-race children with her white partner. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week's submitter is wondering if she's wrong for being upset about a friend who she spends a lot of money on, claiming she can't afford to return the favour for her birthday. Is questioning other people's finances a losing game? Let's get into it! Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this week's episode a listener bravely shares her deepest secret—she knows her fiancé is cheating on her. Join Fola and Rukiya as they unpack the difficult realities of infidelity and explore the importance of self-respect and healing. Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

With a week of racist riots, someone scratching Fola's car and Rukiya sleeping 3 hours last night, do we even need a toxic submission?? We decided some random chit chat might be what we all need to keep us going this week, enjoy! Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week's submitter shares her apprehension about influencers suddenly turning to Christ and wonders whether it's just another fad. Join Fola and Rukiya as they discuss the importance of understanding that no journey with faith is the same, and that God is not to be gatekept. Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week's submitter is having a hard time believing their partner loves them, no matter how many times they say it. Join Fola and Rukiya to chat about how much the amount of love we feel lies within ourselves vs with our partners! Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most of us have an ex right, but how often do you think about them and is it even a concern if you do? Join Fola and Rukiya discuss how normal it is to think of an ex and why this week's submitter isn't necessarily still in love with her ex even if he does weigh on her mind. Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As promised, join us for a cheeky chinwag about what we think settling in a relationship actually means, the age-old debate of settling vs compromising, and some uncomfortable truths around how we think we should choose our partners! Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join Fola and Rukiya this week as they delve into the candid truth about how loneliness impacts Black women in the UK, and the importance of creating spaces where vulnerabilities can be openly shared. Tune in for an honest and empowering conversation about the taboo we call loneliness! Follow Us: Home At Last Instagram: @newhomeatlast Home At Last Website: https://www.newhomeatlast.com/ Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week's submitter is feeling disheartened by their (lack of) prospects for ever buying a house in this crazy climate, and thinks most of us need to accept we'll probably be renting forever at best. To talk through their concerns, we're joined by none other than Dani, founder of Home at Last to debunk all of the myths around home-buying for regular people who are clueless about their options, finding it hard to save money, and have counted themselves out of the house-buying race. Follow Us: Home At Last Instagram: @newhomeatlast Home At Last Website: https://www.newhomeatlast.com/ Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There's no denying relationships require maintenance, but how much effort should a partner put in to ensure they're still physically attractive for their partner? Join Fola and Rukiya discuss this week's dilemma whilst they give super wise advice (we hope). Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What a crazy time to be us! We're sorry for the impromptu break, but we promise we had our reasons. Lock in for an explanation for why we needed some time to ourselves. Anyway, we're very happy to announce that we're back! Thanks for rocking with us lovers

Whether you're in a relationship or a single pringle, you'll know that getting into and maintaining romantic relationships can be difficult. This week's toxic submitter plans on settling with their current partner, in the hopes that something better eventually will come their way. Join Fola and Rukiya discuss the importance of "Loving yourz" a word to J.Cole, again x Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we gave our toxic submitters a break from the heat and focused on some of our own toxicities!! Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Supporting a loved one with depression can be difficult, but what happens when their poor mental health starts to impact your joy? This week's toxic submitter is struggling to support her friend who is struggling with her mental health. Join Fola and Rukiya as they discuss the difficulties poor mental has on the individual and their loved ones Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

According to this week's submitter, people of today aren't worthy of being role models to anyone. Between aunties who culturally don't seem to get it, and everyone else just being "basic" our toxic submitter fears they'll never have luck in finding people to look up to in their adult years. Do we think they're being harsh or can you relate? Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week's toxic submitter is worried her boyfriend may not be able to meet her lifestyle needs as he prepares to become an entrepreneur. Join Fola and Rukiya discuss the difficulties that may arise in a relationship when a partner decides to change their circumstances. Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Should interracial dating come with so many complications!? This week's submitter is concerned that her best friend seems to think she's earned a "Black card" because of the man she's dating, and feels she is overstepping on some cultural barriers as a result. Join Rukiya & Fola to chat about the nuances to interracial dating and the difficulties that come with gatekeeping when it comes to culture. Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all know how important attraction is when dating, but are we blocking our blessings by being too shallow, or even potentially problematic? This week's toxic submitter has met a lovely guy, but is struggling to get past his high pitched voice. Join Fola and Rukiya discussion how important attraction is when dating and how as women we may be feeding into toxic masculinity. Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

International Women's Day has just passed and while it'll always be an amazing prospect at to celebrate women at its core, Rukiya has realised she's always felt disconnected from the holiday. Join us to chat about why we think days like IWD can feel a little exclusive, and things we can do to better include ourselves! Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Surprise, surprise women cheat too! In this week's episode Fola and Rukiya discuss the importance of honesty when being unfaithful in a relationship and whether the ex Love Islander, Marcel Somerville should forgive his wife Rebecca Vieira for cheating. Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're joined by the award-winning Medical Doctor Dr. Jessica Katanga to talk about all of the nuances to health for Black people of our generation. We get into everything from uncle "wake the fack up" Eddie's controversial tips for healthy diet, to the history of why we can internalise self-hate when it comes to traditional African and Caribbean dishes. Follow Us: Dr Jess' Instagram: @drjessicakatanga Dr Jess' TikTok: @drjessicakatanga Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join Fola and Rukiya this week as they discuss all things about SEX! From practical tips (from non experts), to insecurities that may arise during sexual intercourse with your partners or f buddy. Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join Fola and Rukiya discuss why busy Brits are becoming more and more lonely despite living in one of the most fast paced countries in the world! Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this week's episode Fola and Rukiya discuss the role Black women are expected to play in protecting, nurturing and uplifting others all whilst sacrificing their own safety, prospects and well-being. Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week's submitter is feeling an imbalance of love in their relationship and is convinced her boyfriend doesn't love her as much as she loves him. Is it possible for love to be equal between partners, or is it a sign that it's time to leave the relationship? Let's get into it! Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The tendency to compare ourselves to others is natural, but in a time where everyone's posting the glossiest versions of themselves online, it's easy to forget the reality of life... s**t happens to everyone! Join Fola and Rukiya this week open up about some personal things they've been experience whilst living a fruitful and prosperous life! Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we attempt to approach the controversial topic of big age gaps in relationships with less of the instant outrage and a little more compassion than you might expect! Our submitter is considering dating a man 15 years older than her, who is related to a family member... let's get into it- how old is too old to consider someone as a love interest? Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Maternal anxiety is expected when raising children, but should there be a cap on a parents anxiety once a child becomes a full grown adult? This week's toxic submitter is sick of her mother using anxiety as an excuse to stop her from going out and enjoying life, post dropping 4 stone and finding her sauce! Join Fola and Rukiya discuss their experiences with their mums' anxiety and what you can do to improve your relationship with an anxious parent. Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Competing with a mother-in-law for your husband's attention doesn't just happen in the movies, it's a real life struggle for many women out there! This week's submitter is in a silent feud with her husband's mother for his love, as her mother-in-law is doing her very best to pull sly power moves to take over Christmas. Let's get into mothers who have unhealthily obsessive relationships with their sons (and who may secretly want their sons to double up as their partners), and sons who enable their mothers' behaviour... Follow Us: Instagram: @waitamitoxic Twitter: @waitamitoxic TikTok: @waitamitoxic Fola's IG: @folashade Fola's Twitter: @fola_shade Rukiya's IG: @rukiya_newts Artwork by @WhyZedStudio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices