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California's Failed Addiction Policies Explained with Laurie Davies | The Hopeaholics PodcastIn this episode of the Hopeaholics Podcast, California Assemblywoman Laurie Davies joins the show for an important conversation about addiction, fentanyl, homelessness, mental health, and the policies shaping recovery across the state. Representing California's 74th Assembly District, Laurie has become a leading voice in the fight to improve treatment access, protect recovery programs, and address the devastating impact of the fentanyl crisis. She shares how personal experiences with addiction, mental illness, and loss have influenced her work and strengthened her commitment to helping vulnerable families. The conversation explores the unintended consequences of policies like Proposition 47, the challenges surrounding homelessness and accountability, and why many people seeking treatment still struggle to find available beds when they are finally ready for help. Laurie also discusses insurance fraud in the treatment industry, legislative efforts to protect patients, and the importance of expanding quality recovery resources throughout California. Throughout the episode, she offers a candid look at what is happening behind the scenes in government and what still needs to change to save lives. From mental health reform and public safety to recovery, faith, and personal responsibility, this conversation tackles some of the most urgent issues facing communities today.#thehopeaholics  #redemption #recovery #AlcoholAddiction #AddictionRecovery #wedorecover #SobrietyJourney #MyStory #Hope #wedorecover #treatmentcenter #natalieevamarieJoin our patreon to get access to an EXTRA EPISODE every week of ‘Off the Record', exclusive content, a thriving recovery community, and opportunities to be featured on the podcast. https://patreon.com/TheHopeaholics Go to www.Wolfpak.com today and support our sponsors. Don't forget to use code: HOPEAHOLICSPODCAST for 10% off!Follow the Hopeaholics on our Socials:https://www.instagram.com/thehopeaholics https://linktr.ee/thehopeaholicsBuy Merch: https://thehopeaholics.myshopify.comVisit our Treatment Centers: https://www.hopebythesea.comIf you or a loved one needs help, please call or text 949-615-8588. We have the resources to treat mental health and addiction. Sponsored by the Infiniti Group LLC:https://www.infinitigroupllc.com Timestamps:00:13:42 - Protecting Treatment Centers and Stopping Fraud00:14:52 - The Insurance Fraud Crisis Hurting Treatment Centers00:18:32 - New Legislation to Protect Addiction Treatment Patients00:22:23 - How Prop 47 Changed Addiction and Homelessness00:24:18 - Prop 36 Passes but Goes Unfunded00:28:40 - Why Consequences Can Help Save an Addict's Life00:30:52 - Homelessness, Addiction and Accountability00:35:01 - Addiction as a Spiritual Problem00:36:47 - Her Family's Experience With Severe Mental Illness00:40:56 - The Crisis of Finding Treatment Beds in California00:41:24 - Every Hour Matters When Someone Asks for Help00:42:05 - Losing a Loved One to Fentanyl00:42:49 - Why She Carries Narcan Everywhere00:52:21 - “You're Only One Person Away From a Fentanyl Death”00:56:14 - The Audit That Exposed Major Oversight Failures

Coach Blu Robinson takes the mic for a can't-look-away episode of Addict to Athlete with a story that starts as a dream and turns into a full-contact comedy of endurance. In "Party in the Back," Blu joins his co-host, Josh Hansen, to recount his 2023 experience running the Hard Rock Half in Salt Lake City, Utah, a race that served up humorous highs, tragic detours, and the kind of pain you only laugh about after you survive it. From the moment the plan met the course reality, Blu and Josh break down what it felt like to push through when everything hurts, when motivation dips, and when your mind has to work harder than your legs. Expect real talk, laugh-out-loud moments, and the behind-the-scenes perspective of what it means to show up anyway, especially when the day doesn't go according to script. Join Coach Blu and Team Addict II Athlete and begin your recovery with a tram behind you! Our online addiction and mental health program provides live group sessions with Coach Blu, our weekly Home Base recovery meeting, therapeutic assignments, and educational information at a fraction of what a therapeutic treatment program would require. Take You Mark, Get Set, Let's Go, and click the link below. https://www.skool.com/addict-ii-athlete-5988/about?ref=9090e81114674311874340c02b1095d0 Please join Addict to Athlete's Patreon support page and help us turn the mess of addiction into the message of sobriety! https://www.patreon.com/addicttoathlete Please visit our website for more information on Team Addict to Athlete and Addiction Recovery Podcasts. https://www.AddictToAthlete.org

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This episode (#337) addresses the painful experience of a betrayed partner whose husband claims he is “in recovery” after a relapse, but continues to severely lack empathy, respond defensively, withdraw emotionally, and use recovery language as an excuse to avoid caring about her pain. We make it clear that asking about his recovery, needing reassurance, and wanting emotional support are not “games” or unreasonable demands; they are baseline needs in a coupleship damaged by betrayal. When an addict listens to podcasts, finds a therapist, or checks recovery boxes but still refuses to become emotionally present and accountable, he may be doing recovery activities without actually becoming a recovering man.We also explore how recovery principles can be weaponized when an addict hides behind phrases like “everyone has their own healing journey” or “my recovery is my side of the street.” While it is true that each person must own their own healing, that truth cannot become an excuse for emotional abandonment. Healthy boundaries should serve authentic growth and relational safety, not comfort, secrecy, avoidance, or shame-based self-protection. For addicts, genuine recovery means learning to sit with their partner's pain without defending, blaming, minimizing, withdrawing, or making their own shame the center of the room.For betrayed partners, the hard reality is that they cannot make the addict change, drink from the “water trough” of empathy, or become the man he needs to become. What they can do is find and use their voice, clearly communicate the impact of his choices, define their safety needs and limits, build an outside support system, and honestly evaluate whether his pace and depth of change are compatible with their own healing. The partner's life cannot remain parked at the station indefinitely while she waits for him to decide whether he will become safe. She can love him, invite him into real recovery, and keep him informed about where the relationship stands, but she must also keep moving toward her own peace, dignity, healing, and wholeness.For a full transcript of this podcast in article format, go to:   What to Do When an Addict Uses Recovery to Avoid Caring About His Partner?Learn more about Mark and Steve's revolutionary online porn/sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing program at—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling Services

✨ Ce dimanche, je partage avec vous un extrait avec Laurent Karila sur une question aussi simple qu'essentielle : comment savoir si l'on est vraiment addict ?Avec des mots très clairs, il explique la différence entre une consommation excessive, parfois liée à une période difficile, et une véritable addiction. Un échange précieux, sans jugement, pour mieux comprendre ce qui se joue quand on sent que l'on perd le contrôle.La suite dès lundi matin !Hébergé par Audiomeans. Visitez audiomeans.fr/politique-de-confidentialite pour plus d'informations.

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Welcome to Tech Addicts! In this episode, Gareth and Ted dive into the massive £1bn Amazon UK investment, Google's AI liability, and the bizarre truth behind "Britain's biggest hole." Also, look at Lenovo's batteryless rugged tablet, the Lenovo Legion Go S, and Ted's retro review of the Pebble Time 2. If you enjoy UK tech news, reviews, and massive tech bargains, hit that subscribe button! With Gareth Myles and Ted Salmon Join us on Mewe RSS Link: https://techaddicts.libsyn.com/rss Direct Download | iTunes | YouTube Music | Stitcher | Tunein | Spotify  Amazon | Pocket Casts | Castbox | PodHubUK On the show this week: A spy in your pocket? How the UK's proposed on-device nude image blocking could work in reality Lenovo Just Built a $499 Rugged Tablet You Can Run Without a Battery Britain: biggest hole ever! Court actually holds Google responsible for everything AI Overviews get wrong Microsoft is locking Office 2019 users out of editing on Apple devices starting next month Researchers are developing textiles that can produce drinking water from the air Amazon reveals £1bn investment in the UK - 4,000 jobs set to be created, with new £500m fulfilment centre hoping to speed up deliveries across the country Banters: I bought a thing! - Lenovo Legion Go S Ted's Review - Pebble Time 2 BARGAIN BASEMENT (Best UK Tech Deals) Please note: Prices correct at time of recording. Check links for live availability. Google Pixel 10a Lisen USB-C to USB-C Cable, 60W, 4-Pack  soundcore by Anker Select 2S Bluetooth Speaker  Tecknet Wireless Ergonomic Keyboard  Anker Nano 13-in-1 Laptop Docking Station Samsung Galaxy S25 FE  Aioneus USB C Plug,40W Multi USBC Plug UK PD Power Adapter  SoundCore Motion X600 Bluetooth Speaker Main Show URL: http://www.techaddicts.uk | PodHubUK Contact:: gareth@techaddicts.uk | @techaddictsuk Gareth - @garethmyles | Mastodon | Blusky | garethmyles.com | Gareth's Ko-Fi Ted - tedsalmon.com | Ted's PayPal | Mastodon | Ted's Amazon YouTube: Tech Addicts  

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On this episode of For Mac Eyes Only: Join Mike and Darren as they provide a rundown of Apple's sharing technologies and the confusion surrounding them. What are AirPlay, AirDrop, Universal Control, and Continuity? What do they do, how can they help us, and how to make sure they're on if you'd like to take advantage of them. Mike shares a FMEO Quick Tip for removing sensitive data from your photos. The episode wraps with Mike's Essential App pick: Cats Lock!

A Fortune 250 company's Salesman of the Year. Devoted husband. Faithful Catholic father and a 17-year addiction no one knew about, including his wife. John Edwards spent nearly two decades living two lives at once. He closed sales by day, chased down his dealer by afternoon, and kept the mask on at home so well that no one knew. It held together right up until the morning he sat in a jail cell on Good Friday with nothing left to control. This is the story of how a man hits the absolute bottom and finds out it was never the end of his story. Today, John Heinen and Devin Schadt sit down with John to talk about what actually drives addiction, why isolation is the devil's first move on a man, and how the wound of "am I enough" sends so many men looking for affirmation in all the wrong places. John Edwards is the founder of Pew Ministries and host of the Just a Guy in the Pew podcast. Get a signed copy of John Edwards' book: https://store.justaguyinthepew.com/collections/frontpage/products/power-made-perfect-finding-true-strength-in-christ-autographed-book Learn more - https://justaguyinthepew.com

Thu, 11 Jun 2026 14:45:00 GMT http://relay.fm/penaddict/720 http://relay.fm/penaddict/720 Brad Dowdy and Myke Hurley Brad is joined this week by Toni Palumbo of Feed Your Creativity. Toni has been making the pen and stationery show rounds over the past few years, and has been documenting it all for her YouTube Channel. Listen in for fun adventures! Brad is joined this week by Toni Palumbo of Feed Your Creativity. Toni has been making the pen and stationery show rounds over the past few years, and has been documenting it all for her YouTube Channel. Listen in for fun adventures! clean 3397 Brad is joined this week by Toni Palumbo of Feed Your Creativity. Toni has been making the pen and stationery show rounds over the past few years, and has been documenting it all for her YouTube Channel. Listen in for fun adventures! This episode of The Pen Addict is sponsored by: Enigma Stationery: Unique items, top brands and hard-to-find imports. Get $10 off. Squarespace: Save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code PENADDICT. Guest Starring: Toni Palumbo Links and Show Notes: Support The Pen Addict with a Relay Membership Submit Feedback Feed Your Creativity on YouTube Feed Your Creativity on Instagram Feed Your Creativity: Papier Plume Feed Your Creativity: DC SUPERSHOW 2025 Little Hollow Customs Monster Finger Tombow Mono Sand Eraser Kaleidocraft Washi Wallet The Crop Adopt a Pals

1. Crazibiza & Dave Aude Hustlin' (feat. Vassy) [Club Mix]2. Francesco Capodaglio Love Is Life (Extended Mix)3. Stacy Kidd, Tiffany Jenkins Fallin (Remix) (Main Remix)4. Bobby D'Ambrosio Testify (Sing) [Sacred Monster Original Mix] [feat. Leah Joy]5. Chocolate Dice I'm An Addict (4 Ur Love) (Original Mix)6. Loose Change, Joey Negro Straight From The Heart (Joey Negro Straight To The Groove Mix)7. Jay Vegas Break Ya Down (Original Mix)8. Hatiras No Worries9. Re-Tide The Power (Original Mix)10. Portia Monique, The Layabouts Ecstasy (The Layabouts Vocal Mix)11. Junior Sanchez The Love Within (Original)12. Joey Negro I Can Feel Your Body Rock (JN Extended Mix)13. Re-Tide Let Me Know Something (Original Mix)14. Karen Pollard Reach Out To Me (DJ Spen & Soulfuledge Remix)15. Teddy Douglas Feel It (Teddy's Feelin It Mix)

My Music with Graham Coath talks to Luke from The Radio AddictsWhat happens when a 15-year-old musician starts questioning the very technology his generation is supposed to be addicted to?In this episode of My Music, Graham Coath sits down with Luke from The Radio Addicts for a fascinating conversation about music, creativity, radio, social media, and why young people may be craving something more real than endless scrolling.Luke shares the story behind The Radio Addicts, how a love of Oasis, live music and songwriting led to a rapidly growing band, and why vinyl records, local radio and genuine human connection still matter in a digital world.The conversation explores everything from TikTok and attention spans to the return of physical music, the challenges facing young artists, and why Luke believes his generation wants more than life through a screen.Along the way, you'll hear about the band's journey from school friends to thousands of streams, sold-out vinyl releases, headline shows, and their ambitious new single, "Let's Party Like It's The '90s'."A thoughtful, funny and surprisingly deep conversation about music, identity, creativity and what comes next for a band determined to do things their own way.The Radio Addicts are proving that great music, passion and authenticity still cut through the noise.Listen now and discover why this is a band worth watching.

Tennessee gave Brendan Sorsby a sniff. LSU heavily courted the Cincinnati transfer. Sorsby chose Texas Tech, as one of the most premier transfers of the winter shopping season. Then, the floor fell out. The NCAA learned Sorsby placed thousands of bets on sports and declared him ineligible. Now, a Texas judge has granted Sorsby an injunction that’ll block the NCAA from enforcing its gambling rules and allow Sorsby to play this season. Will SEC teams regret missing out on Sorsby, or did they dodge a troublesome situation? On today’s episode, hosts Blake Toppmeyer and John Adams weigh in on the Sorsby saga and the reverberations of the judge’s ruling. They also debate whether LSU or Tennessee would be better served with Sorsby than their current quarterback situations. Later in the episode, the hosts react to Athlon’s top-25 rankings. Eight SEC teams are ranked, and Toppmeyer and Adams earmark a few as being overrated, while they highlight one unranked SEC team as being worth a top-25 look.

In this episode of the Addict II Athlete Podcast Coach Blu talks to Cliff McDonald. Cliff's story is a recovery "origin + engine" narrative: he connects the early, hard-won decision to get sober with the ongoing, daily work that keeps him there. The episode frames recovery not as a finish line, but as a lifestyle built through connection, practical support systems, and meaningful contribution to other people. Cliff describes recovery as something he had to build, not something that simply "happened" after a final decision. He shares the personal turning points that brought him from isolation and chaos to stability, then he broadens the focus to what sustained progress actually requires. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Recovery and Movement 02:52 Cliff's Journey to Recovery 06:08 The Importance of Accessible Care 08:59 The Impact of Alcoholism on Families 12:02 Finding Purpose in Recovery 15:05 The Role of Service in Recovery 17:53 The Struggles of Relapse and Recovery 23:32 Cliff's Struggles with Addiction 29:10 Moments of Clarity and Turning Points 37:11 The Power of Vulnerability and Surrender 44:59 The Hero's Journey in Recovery 51:02 Embracing Multiple Pathways to Recovery Resources Recovery.com - https://recovery.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/cliffmcdonald/ Join Coach Blu and Team Addict II Athlete and begin your recovery with a tram behind you! Our online addiction and mental health program provides live group sessions with Coach Blu, our weekly Home Base, recovery meeting, therapeutic assignments, and educational information at a fraction of what a therapeutic treatment program would require. Take You Mark, Get Set, Let's Go and click the link below. https://www.skool.com/addict-ii-athlete-5988/about?ref=9090e81114674311874340c02b1095d0 Please join Addict to Athlete's Patreon support page and help us turn the mess of addiction into the message of sobriety! https://www.patreon.com/addicttoathlete Please visit our website for more information on Team Addict to Athlete and Addiction Recovery Podcasts. https://www.AddictToAthlete.org    

In 1927, the Nehru family was invited as Soviet Russia's state guests to witness and participate in a celebration to commemorate one decade of the Great October Communist Revolution of 1917.When the whole world was bitterly critical of Russia's massive shortages and unemployment, Nawab Nehru didn't seem surprised that he was provided a luxury class train compartment all sponsored by the USSR.For four days, the Russian government lavishly wined and dined and entertained Nawab Nehru. By the time he returned to India, he was transformed into an incurable Soviet addict.Do listen to this full story which does not find mention in any mainstream narratives about the Congress party and the Nehru dynasty.Support Our PodcastsIf you enjoyed this episode, please consider supporting The Dharma Dispatch podcast so we can offer more such interesting, informative and educational content related to Indian History, Sanatana Dharma, Hindu Culture and current affairs. It takes us months of rigorous research, writing and editing and significant costs to offer this labour of love.Ways you can Support The Dharma Podcast:* UPI: ddispatch@axl* Wallets, Netbanking, etc.* Click the button below to take a paid subscription. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thedharmadispatch.substack.com/subscribe

Is the Samsung Galaxy Book6 Ultra just a flawed MacBook Pro clone? In this episode of the Tech Addicts Podcast, Gareth Myles and Ted Salmon break down Samsung's latest flagship laptop, debate Lenovo's controversial Game Boy-inspired handheld gaming console, and question if Google Drive is actually secure for your sensitive files. Subscribe to Tech Addicts for weekly tech reviews and industry debates: https://www.youtube.com/TechAddicts  SHOW NOTES & TOPICS DISCUSSED The Floating City: A look at the ambitious Freedom Ship habitat designed for international waters. Samsung Galaxy Book6 Ultra: Why Samsung's premium laptop misses the mark trying to compete with Apple's MacBook Pro. Beelink 10GbE Mini PC: Beelink makes history by bringing lightning-fast 10GbE LAN ports to budget mini PCs. Asus 12.2-inch Pad: Asus makes a long-awaited return to the Android/Windows tablet space. Chinese Audio Amp Clones: How factories are legally replicating legendary $95,000 audiophile equipment for a fraction of the price. Cloud Storage Privacy: Why relying entirely on Google Drive for your most sensitive documents might be a mistake. Lenovo Handheld Gaming: The truth behind Lenovo's retro Game Boy device and its shady pre-installed games. BARGAIN BASEMENT (Best UK Tech Deals & Discounts) UGREEN Nexode Power Bank (25000mAh)  [Deal: £58.97, Was £89.99] Elgato Wave Neo USB Condenser Microphone  [Deal: £45, Was £65] ASUS Prime Radeon RX 9070 OC Edition GPU  [Deal: £499.99, Was £599.99] UGreen USB-C GaN Charger (65W, Foldable) + Free Cable  [Deal: £21, Was £35] DJI Osmo Nano Standard Combo Camera  [Deal: £251.10 with voucher] Tessan Tower Extension Lead (10 Metres, Surge Protected) [Deal: £33, Was £43] UGREEN USB C Hub (4-in-1 Magnetic 4K@60Hz)  [Deal: £14.98, Was £24.99] Jisulife Portable Handheld Fan (100 Speed, 9000mAh Power Bank)  [Deal: £99, Was £109] LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE Main Show Website: http://www.techaddicts.uk RSS Feed: https://techaddicts.libsyn.com/rss Stream on the go: YouTube Music | Spotify | Apple Podcasts | Amazon Music | Pocket Casts | Castbox | Stitcher | TuneIn CONNECT WITH THE HOSTS Join the Community on MeWe: [Insert MeWe Link] Contact the Show: gareth@techaddicts.uk | @techaddictsuk Gareth Myles: Website & Merch: https://garethmyles.com | https://garethmyles.com/ko-fi Socials: Mastodon | BlueSky Ted Salmon: Website & Support: https://tedsalmon.com | https://tedsalmon.com/paypal Socials: Mastodon | Ted's Amazon Page Networked via PodHubUK #TechAddicts #GalaxyBook6Ultra #LenovoGameBoy #GoogleDrive #MiniPC #TechDeals #AudioClones #AsusTablet

Thu, 04 Jun 2026 14:15:00 GMT http://relay.fm/penaddict/719 http://relay.fm/penaddict/719 Brad Dowdy and Myke Hurley LAMY did the thing! Brad and Myke break down the AL-Star Disco release, revisit the new Sailor Realo through Fudefan's video, and pay respects to the Platinum Curidas. LAMY did the thing! Brad and Myke break down the AL-Star Disco release, revisit the new Sailor Realo through Fudefan's video, and pay respects to the Platinum Curidas. clean 3312 LAMY did the thing! Brad and Myke break down the AL-Star Disco release, revisit the new Sailor Realo through Fudefan's video, and pay respects to the Platinum Curidas. This episode of The Pen Addict is sponsored by: Pen Chalet: Check out this week's special offer, and to get your code for 10% off. Factor: Healthy, fully-prepared food delivered to your door. Use code penaddict50off Links and Show Notes: Support The Pen Addict with a Relay Membership Submit Feedback Lamy AL-Star Special Edition – Pen Chalet LAMY AL-Star Disco – Instagram Disco Photoshoot BTS – Instagram Lamy Special Edition Safari Fountain Pens – Pen Chalet Visconti Homo Sapiens Nebula Fountain Pen – Limited Edition (Only 388 Made) – Pen Chalet Designed in California – Kickstarter Campaign Sailor Finally Fixed the Realo (But Made It Weird) - Fudefan - YouTube Pilot Capless/Vanishing Point Digital Tech – Instagram In Memoriam: Platinum Curidas, 2020-2026 — The Pen Addict Midori Carton Opener - Khaki | JetPens rOtring 600 Ballpoint Pen Review — The Pen Addict Rotring 600 3-in-1 Multi Pen Review — The Pen Addict Makar Tools Tactile Turn Parker Jotter | Bond Lifestyle Pilot Custom 823 Fountain Pen - A Fresh Look — The Pen Addict

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Four and a half years ago, I tried Kratom leaf extract.     I then progressed to using the 7-OH extract for a performance boost in my training.  From there, the issue spiraled out of control.     I know there are many of you out there struggling with this poison right now, but don't lose hope.     I was hesitant to make this episode because of what I do for a living but this is one of the reasons I struggled with 7-OH I believe…to help others going through their own addiction to it right now.     Take a listen and see if anything resonates with you.     Feel free to drop a comment or question below.     If you have a win you'd like to share, share it.  If you are struggling, let us know.     The first step is to break the hold of guilt and shame that comes with any addiction.     Be Unconventional,   Kyle Newell aka Panda Man   Reach out if you need my help: 908-229-6666

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When it's extremely difficult to make up your mind.  Having the power of choice can actually weaken someone.  On this episode we're going to explore the choice to drink or not to drink, how many people fall off the wagon and why?  Plus…while choosing your addiction, are those in need approachable? I'm Arroe.  Life is a series of choices.  Who decides when you're not making it the right choice?  Is it the fear of going wrong?  The greatest lessons in life are often lost inside hidden away attempts and concepts.  It's time to reopen your heart. Having a choice is a daily gift.  On this highway we learn to trust mirages… What is the choice?  Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/arroe-collins-unplugged-totally-uncut--994165/support.

Sean Willers was homeless as a teenager, served in Afghanistan, became an international DJ playing some of the biggest clubs in the world, and then woke up in a hospital bed with no memory of how he got there. That moment didn't just end a night out, it ended an entire identity. In this episode of School of Rock Bottom, we explore what happens when success and self-destruction start to overlap, and the point where you're forced to choose between continuing the cycle or rebuilding everything from scratch.Sean's life moves through homelessness, early alcohol use, military service, the fitness industry, and a high-flying DJ career that gradually became dominated by cocaine and alcohol. What begins as escapism turns into dependency, shaped further by a nightlife culture where excess is normalised and boundaries slowly disappear.He breaks down the pivotal night in 2021 when a set in Nottingham, intended to mark a reset, spiralled into blackout, hospitalisation, and police involvement. That moment became the final breaking point with the music industry and the start of sobriety.From there, the conversation moves beyond the headline of addiction and into the mechanics of recovery itself. Sean challenges the usefulness of labels, questions whether traditional frameworks like AA work for everyone, and argues that long-term change is built less on willpower and more on structure, identity, and discipline.They also explore the often overlooked reality of early recovery: the substitution of one compulsion for another, the role of dopamine-driven behaviours, and the slow process of building stability without relying on extremes for regulation.At its core, this is a conversation about control. Not just stopping drugs and alcohol, but learning how to build a life that no longer requires them.Sean is now a high-performance life and wellness coach, working with people who look like they've got it all together on the outside but know something isn't right underneath, helping them get in shape, quit drinking, and take back control. He has worked with over 500 clients across 15 countries.Oliver is an ambassador for Alcohol Change UK and you can access support here - https://tinyurl.com/5dt5773eThank you to Gavin Sisters for sponsoring this episode! Visit -www.gavinsisters.co.ukand use promo code SCHOOLOFROCKBOTTOM for 10% off!Podcasting is an expensive passion. To help me keep going, I'd really appreciate it if you could buy me a coffee, thank you!https://buymeacoffee.com/olivermason1Or via PayPal - https://www.paypal.me/olivermason1paypalTopics -0:00 Trailer & Intro 2:45 A rock bottom moment6:00 Homeless at 158:15 Why Sean isn't a victim11:00 The gym helps Sean as a teenager12:40 Joining the army to straighten out15:30 Was trauma the reason addictions increased?17:00 DJ'ing and drugs20:15 Why alcohol and cocaine had to go together 21:30 Why Cocaethylene is dangerous23:45 Addicted to the coke persona25:00 Coke leads to heavy porn use30:00 Cross addiction32:00 How Sean got clean and sober35:45 Many paths to the top of them mountain42:00 Willpower is for weak men!44:00 Does moderation work?46:30 Playing the tape forward!49:45 Why Sean isn't perfect or doing it one day at a time52:45 Remove yourself from your triggersFollow SeanInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sean_willerscoachingFollow OliverInstagram - https://tinyurl.com/2vt29sjvFacebook - https://tinyurl.com/34cwz59rTikTok - https://tinyurl.com/ujw4vxn9LinkedIn - https://tinyurl.com/yuemhnd7Threads - https://tinyurl.com/yk7vdeahX - https://tinyurl.com/3u5mnpdsPlease subscribe, follow, like, leave a review and comment!YouTube - https://tinyurl.com/y3ez4ssuSpotify - https://tinyurl.com/3tjemyxxApple - https://tinyurl.com/y3n2chk3 #AddictionRecovery#SobrietyJourney#Sober

When it's extremely difficult to make up your mind.  Having the power of choice can actually weaken someone.  On this episode we're going to explore the choice to drink or not to drink, how many people fall off the wagon and why?  Plus…while choosing your addiction, are those in need approachable? I'm Arroe.  Life is a series of choices.  Who decides when you're not making it the right choice?  Is it the fear of going wrong?  The greatest lessons in life are often lost inside hidden away attempts and concepts.  It's time to reopen your heart. Having a choice is a daily gift.  On this highway we learn to trust mirages… What is the choice?  Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/arroe-collins-like-it-s-live--4113802/support.

Send us Fan MailOn-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreGrab your popcorn, peanuts and a drink, this is a long episode. It is a bonus episode, bringing it all together in one episode.I was interviewed by Seen&heard (an organisation supporting those traumatised by boarding school attendance) - for whom I am one of their Directory of experienced Therapists working with those different Traumas.In this very personal and up close interview of me and my journey through childhood, adulthood and life, I look at various issues, including Insecure Attachment and its significant impact on me; transitioning from being the Solicitor, career changing to become the Therapist; title 't' Traumas & big 'T' Traumas.Intergenerational scripts from past family which adversely impacts us and sets up subsequent family members towards a trajectory; training to counsel Singles, Couples, Partners, Marrieds; me becoming a Psychosexual/Sex Therapist; then a specialist trained Sex, Porn & Love Addiction Therapist - where each of those Addictions are quite distinct from each other; specialist support for impacted partners - separate from the Addict - (particularly female partners traumatised by learning about the Sex/Porn/Love Addiction); Co-addictions and what is waiting in the wings when you try to get rid of Porn or Sex Addiction.Eye Movement Desensitisation Repossessing (EMDR); SHAME+ NARCISSISM = SEX/PORN ADDICTION; need for a 12 Steps Support Group; need to Diagnose the childhood development issues first - before a Recovery Programme; my Diagnostic sessions & the world's first Video-on-Demand (pre-recorded videos with workbooks) Recovery Programme; what is 'Love Addiction'.It is not weakness to need help from others at some point in our lives; it may be counselling for mental health issues. Compulsions get passed on to the next generation - the children; becoming sensitised to partner's body; Therapy with The Kairos Centre is about moving as much insights from the Unconscious into the Conscious.Get some help from The Kairos Centre. See what you cannot see. Begin to change that which you begin to better understand.Bringing colour back to life - without Shame.Key words: sex addiction, addicted, partner, porn addiction, recovery, sex drive, therapy, sex therapy, podcast, relationships, relationship counseling, relationship advice, addiction, couples, couples therapy, sex therapy, emdr, love addiction, behavior,Support the show

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Thu, 28 May 2026 13:15:00 GMT http://relay.fm/penaddict/718 http://relay.fm/penaddict/718 Brad Dowdy and Myke Hurley Brad is joined this week by Derek DeWeese of the DWRDNET Stationery Feed to talk all things stationery. Derek is relatively new to the scene, but things have escalated quickly to say the least. Also, have you seen his Zento Signature? Brad is joined this week by Derek DeWeese of the DWRDNET Stationery Feed to talk all things stationery. Derek is relatively new to the scene, but things have escalated quickly to say the least. Also, have you seen his Zento Signature? clean 3909 Brad is joined this week by Derek DeWeese of the DWRDNET Stationery Feed to talk all things stationery. Derek is relatively new to the scene, but things have escalated quickly to say the least. Also, have you seen his Zento Signature? This episode of The Pen Addict is sponsored by: St Louis Pen Show: Join us June 25-28. Tickets on sale now! Enigma Stationery: Unique items, top brands and hard-to-find imports. Get $10 off. Squarespace: Save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code PENADDICT. Guest Starring: Derek DeWeese Links and Show Notes: Support The Pen Addict with a Relay Membership Submit Feedback DWRDNET DWRDNET YouTube Derek on Instagram Derek's Typewriters The DWRDNET Stationery Feed 0211 With Michelle Geffken The Gentleman Stationer Olive Octopus The DWRDNET Stationery Feed 0207 With Richard Polt Author Of The Typewriter Revolution On The Paper Trail

What happens when the therapist treating addicts IS the addict? Psychotherapist Daniel Rubin opens up about battling active addiction — including 13 felony charges — while simultaneously building a 15-year career helping thousands of men overcome theirs. This is one of the most honest conversations about men's mental health, addiction, and recovery you'll hear anywhere. We go deep on the hidden addictions most men don't think they have (work, porn, gambling), why 99% of men wait until they hit rock bottom before asking for help, the real reason relationships fall apart, and what it actually takes to rebuild your identity from scratch.

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On this episode of For Mac Eyes Only: Join Mike, Eric, and Darren as they review changes Apple is making to mac OS to keep users safer, debate the merits and safety of 3rd party app stores, and share the latest social engineering attack and ways to protect yourself from it. Mike shares a FMEO Quick Tip for getting your photos back to the time they were taken. The episode wraps with Darren's Essential App pick: BetterZip!

Cain Kellerman became addicted to heroin as a 10-year-old boy and saw his life quickly spiral out of control. He had no hope for his future and he simply stopped caring about anything. And even if his life did have a purpose, how could he break free from his addictions? Show notes @ https://compelledpodcast.com/episodes/cain-kellerman The Kellermans are in need of a new septic drain field. It will cost them $8,000. Will you pray about contributing toward their need here? https://www.givesendgo.com/kellerman-septic-fund ++++++++++++ Compelled is a seasonal podcast using gripping, immersive storytelling to celebrate the powerful ways God is transforming Christians around the world. These Christian testimonies are raw, true, and powerful. Be encouraged and let your faith be strengthened! Want to help make new episodes? Either make a one-time gift, or become a Monthly Partner at: https://compelledpodcast.com/donate Perks of being a Monthly Partner include: EARLY ACCESS to each new Compelled episode 1 week early! FULL LIBRARY of our unedited, behind-the-scenes interviews with each guest... over 100+ hours of additional stories and takeaways! Become a Monthly Partner by selecting the "Monthly" option during check-out.  Show notes, emails, and more at: https://compelledpodcast.com Buy the Compelled book of testimonies, endorsed by Lee Strobel, Marvin Olasky, and more: ⁠https://compelledpodcast.com/book Compelled is a member of the Proclaim Podcast Network: https://proclaim.fm Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Rob and Tami answer participant questions about boundaries, chronic betrayal, and recovery timelines. They address the pregnant partner, the betrayed spouse with an STD, and the mother of teens who wants to keep her children from following down the path of addiction and betrayal.    TAKEAWAYS: [1:30] Can ketamine EMDR help my betrayed wife?  [7:10] I'm pregnant. Should I stop checking in on his recovery?  [14:35] Boundaries are set to keep you safe.  [16:58] Why should he stop acting out when it has increased the intensity of our sex life?  [24:09] Can an addict like me actually come out of this on the other side?  [34:10] Am I really the victim?  [36:52] How can I build trust after chronic betrayal?  [40:26] He acted out in my one deal-breaker way. Now what?  [47:30] How do couples recovery from sexual betrayal and compromised health?  [50:48] How can I talk to my boys so they don't go down the same path as their father?    RESOURCES: Seekingintegrity.com Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com Sexandrelationshiphealing.com Intherooms.com Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.    QUOTES "He should be showing you with his actions when his recovery is solid."  "He's going to do what he's going to do whether you ask or you don't."  "You have to do what you need to do to take care of you regardless of what he does."  "Addicts are always either moving forward in recovery or sliding back."   

Thu, 21 May 2026 14:00:00 GMT http://relay.fm/penaddict/717 http://relay.fm/penaddict/717 Brad Dowdy and Myke Hurley Myke is back from vacation, and wow is there follow-up to be had. Our friend Air Steppy makes a triumphant return, Brad gets LAMY closure, and Sailor does what with the new Realo? Plus, is there a new Scribble pen out there? Myke is back from vacation, and wow is there follow-up to be had. Our friend Air Steppy makes a triumphant return, Brad gets LAMY closure, and Sailor does what with the new Realo? Plus, is there a new Scribble pen out there? clean 3184 Myke is back from vacation, and wow is there follow-up to be had. Our friend Air Steppy makes a triumphant return, Brad gets LAMY closure, and Sailor does what with the new Realo? Plus, is there a new Scribble pen out there? This episode of The Pen Addict is sponsored by: St Louis Pen Show: Join us June 25-28. Tickets on sale now! Pen Chalet: Check out this week's special offer, and to get your code for 10% off. Links and Show Notes: Support The Pen Addict with a Relay Membership Submit Feedback The Pen Addict #716: Good Times - Relay Midori Carton Openers | JetPens AIRSTEP LAMY Safari neonpink – Instagram LAMY Safari neonyellow – Instagram Stylo Art – Instagram CL Finesse Capless Clipless Fountain Pen – Stylo Art – Instagram Scribe Tool Design - Design - Yamaha Corporation Scribble - Stationery Wiki Lamy Special Edition Safari Fountain Pens – Pen Chalet Kyokuhaku Flap 4 Pen Carrying Cases – Pen Chalet The New Sailor 1911 Realo – Instagram Sailor 1911 Realo 18k Clear Black | Piston Filler Fountain Pen – Stilo & Style Visconti Mirage Mythos Persephone Fountain Pen Review — The Pen Addict Visconti Mirage Myt

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Everyone tells you to set boundaries. What nobody talks about is how to know when those boundaries are no longer working and when you've reached the point where nothing is changing no matter how much love, patience, support, or sacrifice you give. In this episode, Amber dives into one of the hardest and most emotionally loaded questions families face when dealing with addiction or destructive behavior: How do you know when it's truly time to walk away? This is not a conversation built on guilt, anger, or fear. It's about understanding the clearest sign that tells you the relationship dynamic has crossed into a place where cutting ties may be the only healthy option left. Amber explains why so many people stay stuck in the waiting phase, hoping for a breakthrough, searching for the “right” answer, or waiting for permission to finally let go. You'll also hear why the things you've done up until now were not weakness or failure. They were survival strategies that made sense based on the information, hope, and emotional reality you were living in at the time. Amber breaks down how people slowly reach the point where boundaries stop creating change and start becoming empty lines that only drain your emotional energy. This episode is for the people carrying the weight of impossible decisions. The ones wondering if they are giving up too soon, staying too long, or losing themselves in the process of trying to save someone else. If you've been searching for clarity, this conversation will help you better understand the difference between healthy hope and painful denial. Additional Resources:

Los Angeles Mayor Karen Bass (D) is under fire after suggesting that taxpayers should fund dental care for meth users so they can “succeed” and get jobs. During a candidate forum on homelessness, Bass said: “How many people that you meet that are unhoused don't have teeth at all? Because meth rots your teeth. You can't succeed without teeth.” She called for “comprehensive health care” — meaning your tax dollars fixing the damage from drug abuse. This comes as Los Angeles continues to struggle with one of the worst homelessness crises in America, with over 43,000 people on the streets, rampant open drug use, and failing public safety under Bass' leadership. We also cover: Trans couple shoot Islamic center?  Mamdani disagrees with Reagan.  Update on Iran war.  AOC's “opening silo” moment.  If you're tired of taxpayer-funded nonsense and want real accountability in government, smash that LIKE button

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Ethan welcomes author, meditator, entrepreneur and organic farmer Bryan Welch for a heart-opening conversation about grief, loss, and loving someone who can't be saved. In his gripping new memoir, The Gift of a Broken Heart, Bryan movingly recounts his own journey through deep grief at the loss of his 25-year-old son to addiction. The book describes, in searing detail, the pain of parents grappling with an adult child's mental illness and, finally, his death in the throes of the disease. As Bryan begins to recover from devastating parental grief, he becomes aware that his new vulnerability gives him unexpected feelings of warmth, kinship and compassion toward his fellow human beings. Check out this insightful and inspiring conversation wherever you get your podcasts. Bryan's substack is here. His book can be ordered here. (episode available here now, or wherever you get your "pods," Apple, Ethan's Website, etc after 3pm ET on Wednesday April 29th). Last year, with your subscriptions, we were able to release more episodes than any previous year. This was only possible with your support. Please consider becoming a free or paid subscriber here. Show Notes and More cool resources: The piece Ethan wrote about losing his childhood friend to addiction is here. Check out our sponsor platform, A Mindful World! A new free video course from Ethan on Metta (lovingkindness) meditation is now available at this link. Sign up for Ethans May 2nd Windhorse Meditation workshop at this link. Paid subscribers to The Road Home will receive occasional extras like guided meditations, extra podcast episodes and more! The Thursday Meditation Group happens each week at 8am ET on Thursdays, and guided audio meditations are released monthly. Another bonus podcast for paid subscribers discussed the obstacle of resistance to meditation practice, and Ethan also offered instruction in Metta meditation toward yourself. These are all available to paid subscribers. You can also subscribe to The Road Home podcast wherever you get your pods (Apple, Ethan's Website, etc). You can now order personally signed copies of Ethan's books at his website. You can also subscribe to The Road Home podcast wherever you get your pods (Apple, Ethan's Website, etc).

Top 5 Pixar Animation Films So the last time I did one of these "Top 5" lists, it was for my Top 5 Disney Animation studios without Pixar. I received several messages and a couple of comments on the post wanting to see my Top 5 Pixar movies... So, here it is. This is my Top 5 Disney / Pixar movies, along with two honorable mentions. I guess it's more of a Top 7, but we will survive the confusion. Let me know in the comments what you think ... did I miss a movie? Would you rank the movies I selected differently? LET ME KNOW! Pop Culture Addicts Theme song "Racing in Darkness" by Nautilus '54 - https://nautilus54.bandcamp.com/album/the-fell-star-2 For more on our show partners - Level Up Sabers - https://bit.ly/LevelUpFSF Once Upon a Tee - https://www.onceuponatee.net/?ref=pcapod Sign Up for Free Loot here - www.pcapod.com/contact For more on our Show - Join our Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/c/popcultureaddicts Join our Discord! https://discord.gg/cpry4fCDTq Visit our website: https://www.pcapod.com PCA on Instagram, and Threads - @pcapodshow This podcast is powered by Pinecast.

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Thu, 14 May 2026 12:00:00 GMT http://relay.fm/penaddict/716 http://relay.fm/penaddict/716 Brad Dowdy and Myke Hurley Brad is joined this week by April Wu from Designphil to discuss all things TRAVELER'S COMPANY USA, PLOTTER USA, MD PRODUCT USA, and of course her own writing over at The Penguin Post. We cover a lot of ground in this episode, so get comfy, grab a beverage Brad is joined this week by April Wu from Designphil to discuss all things TRAVELER'S COMPANY USA, PLOTTER USA, MD PRODUCT USA, and of course her own writing over at The Penguin Post. We cover a lot of ground in this episode, so get comfy, grab a beverage clean 4376 Brad is joined this week by April Wu from Designphil to discuss all things TRAVELER'S COMPANY USA, PLOTTER USA, MD PRODUCT USA, and of course her own writing over at The Penguin Post. We cover a lot of ground in this episode, so get comfy, grab a beverage This episode of The Pen Addict is sponsored by: St Louis Pen Show: Join us June 25-28. Tickets on sale now! Enigma Stationery: Unique items, top brands and hard-to-find imports. Get $10 off. Squarespace: Save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain using code PENADDICT. Guest Starring: April Wu Links and Show Notes: Support The Pen Addict with a Relay Membership Submit Feedback Designphil TRAVELER'S COMPANY USA PLOTTER USA MD PRODUCT USA The Penguins Post Midori History Midori Carton Opener Creative Refills S2E5: Using PLOTTER as a Tool with Brad Dowdy The Pen Addict

On this episode of For Mac Eyes Only: Join Mike and Darren as they discuss a listener question from Lisa about the new Firefox Free VPN. How does it work in practice and why should you use it? How does the new free VPN in Firefox compare to paid services, Apple's Private Relay, or even free VPNs that can be found in other browsers like Opera? Darren questions how VPNs are being used in conjunction with new age verification laws and shares a Quick Tip on selecting a VPN that has your interests at heart, not their wallets. The episode wraps with Mike's Essential App pick: Mappa Mini!

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If you're typing “Celebrate Recovery near me” into Google because you’re desperate for help after discovering that your husband has been lying to you about his infidelity or his use of inappropriate material, you're not alone. BEFORE GOING TO CELEBRATE RECOVERY NEAR ME, CONSIDER THIS: 1. Recovery Programs Only work If He's Honest A recovery environment only works if your husband is completely honest about his behavior. Even in cases where he’s willing to attend a program, some women discover their husband takes “chips,” confesses slips, or shares breakthroughs in group without ever telling her. Not because he's changing, but because he's using the system to make it look like he's changing. 2. celebrate recovery near me Can't Fix Emotional Abuse When women search “Celebrate Recovery near me,” they often think the program will help heal their marriage by helping their husbands understand the root causes of their addiction and behaviors, especially if he seems willing to go meetings. But the root issue isn't addiction, it's entitlement, control, and dishonesty. Most recovery programs aren't designed to assess or confront coercive control. So instead of getting safer, some women end up feeling more confused. Before you invest your hope in any program, you deserve to understand the full picture. To discover if your husband is emotionally abusive, take this free emotional abuse quiz. 3. Some Men Use Recovery or Language as a Shield Many women report that once their husband joined a recovery group like Celebrate Recovery near me, he just learned to speak the language of recovery without actually changing. Instead of becoming more honest, some men become more skilled at hiding, using the right words, sharing at the right times, and appearing accountable…while the underlying patterns stay the same. This isn't necessarily the program's fault. Recovery culture tends to take disclosures at face value. But for some men, it becomes a stage rather than a mirror. 4. If He Gets Praise in Group but You Get Hurt at Home, Pay Attention The applause of a group like Celebrate Recovery near me can unintentionally reward performance. Your lived experience matters more than his report. If his recovery looks great publicly, but privately you feel scared, confused, dismissed, or blamed, that's a sign to step back and observe what’s happening. You don’t have to announce this to anyone 5. RECOVERY Programs Don't Replace Betrayal Trauma Support A program like Celebrate Recovery near me often uses a model that focuses on his trauma from childhood or his triggers. They may encourage couples to build routines that reduce his stress or triggers, sometimes placing more responsibility on her to monitor or support his progress. These might be good tools for people who genuinely want to heal. But they don't address lying, manipulation and entitlement. A woman in an emotionally abusive marriage needs support that centers her emotional safety, not his recovery timeline. 6. If You Feel Worse After the Program Starts, That Matters Many women assume feeling worse is a sign that they're a part of “the problem,” or they need to be “more supportive.” When his patterns of behavior become a shared problem…something you're both expected to manage…it often creates more emotional chaos for her. Her emotional safety needs to be addressed separately, not tied to how well he's doing or how much effort he appears to be making. Feeling confused, blamed, responsible for his recovery, or pressured to forgive and move forward…is a sign something else is happening. 7. Your EMOTIONAL SAFETY COMES BEFORE HIS RECOVERY STORY If you’re searching “Celebrate Recovery near me” to save your marriage, here's the most important thing: his recovery is not the foundation of your emotional safety. Your clarity is. It’s important to have your own support community in place that is educated in the dynamics of emotional and psychological abuse and can help you decide what you need for emotional safety. If you need support in addressing what's really happening, and whether a recovery program can help, you can start with the Living Free Workshop or BTR Group Sessions. They're designed to give you immediate clarity. Transcript: What Happened When I Googled “Celebrate Recovery Near Me” Anne: I’ve talked to hundreds of women who have typed things like “Celebrate Recovery near me”, or “addiction recovery program” into Google. Especially when their husband said he was an addict and he is willing to go to a program. So if he’s willing and goes to this program, it’s totally normal for a woman to think that things are gonna get better. But over the years, I’ve interviewed countless women who tell me things actually got worse. And I’m interviewing one of those women today. We’re gonna call her. Nancy. Here’s part of her story. Nancy: His coworker called me. She told me she was out with some friends. And he flirted with her and tried to pick her up. We were Going to Celebrate Recovery. He supposedly had been sober for months. Anne: We’re gonna get to her whole story, but before we do, I wanna stress that it’s important to understand that a manipulative man can use anything, a recovery program, therapy, even meeting with clergy to manipulate a woman further, and that causes a lot more harm and trauma. So before you start searching for a recovery program for your husband, it is important to consider what his recovery would be for and how abusers manipulate their victims. Most of the time, the therapist will say something like childhood wounds or addiction recovery. When really what you’re actually experiencing is emotional and psychological abuse. And I’ve even interviewed women who have tried to find an abuse program for their husband, and they still tell me the same things. So as you listen to Nancy’s story, I think it will help put into perspective what’s really going on and what steps you wanna take next. When I met him I thought he was a good guy Anne: That’s why I created the Living Free Workshop. It helps women know what’s going on, if he’s really abusive or not. Some women find out he’s not. And then what steps to take to create emotional safety in your life. It’s much faster to figure that out first, before spending tons of time and money in therapy or a recovery or Celebrate Recovery near me program. Living Free total run time is about two hours and 50 minutes, which is much shorter than three or four years to find out it’s not working. So Nancy, thank you so much for sharing your story today. Welcome, can you tell us how you met? Nancy: When I met him, he went to church. He served on the worship team, and he could talk like a preacher. So I thought he was a good guy. It was confusing, because we were play wrestling, and I wouldn’t have remembered this except I had written in a journal and I read it after everything fell apart. He held me down and said some things like, did you think you were stronger than me? Did you think I would let you go? It really scared me. I was very close to breaking up with him, but he actually cried and apologized. So I thought, he’s sorry. It’s not gonna happen again, and that sort of thing never happened again. He realized he had to be more subtle. He did tell me about his past sexual history. Mirroring my desire to serve missions Nancy: He was in the Navy and with several prostitutes. And he was honest, it felt like to me at the time. That he struggled with porn. I thought after we married, that wouldn’t be an issue. And honestly, I don’t know that anyone would’ve told me anything different. I wanted to serve in medical missions. He didn’t seem interested in this, so I prayed and left the relationship in God’s hands. I told him about how I prayed. And the next time we got together, he said, “He had been thinking and praying, and he really felt God moving his heart to missions. That everyone always thought he should be a missionary. It really blew me away, because I thought God had answered my prayer really fast. He knew that he was not only lying to me, he was also lying about God, and he chose it. Which makes him a really evil person. In pre-marital counseling, I was clear that I didn’t see myself as a housewife. I wanted things to be equal, and I didn’t plan to stop working. He acted like he was on the same page and that he was fine with this. So we married. Things were not good. In less than a year, he turned me down for sexual intimacy. Which was surprising and incredibly hurtful. Especially when I realized he was looking at porn. We went to see the movie Fireproof, and afterwards he admitted he was taking off his ring to flirt with people. I was trying to be very understanding, but I did feel hurt, and he got angry at me. He said this was the thanks he gets for staying away from porn for a couple weeks, which is not funny, but I’m laughing at the audacity. He Pushed Me to Quit Working While Avoiding Any Real Recovery or Celebrate Recovery Near Me Programs Nancy: I think I blocked a lot of it out, because somehow things were good enough back and forth between nice, the Christian thing, and when he would be not so nice. I didn’t recognize abuse. The only thing I could put my finger on was the sexual things. We never could solve how things were to be run. And now that we had children, he could step away and I would be forced to do more house duties, cooking, cleaning, et cetera. Because someone had to do all the things for the children. I would tell him what we had agreed before marriage, and he said, “Yeah, but I thought you would change after we had kids.” Anne: I said the same thing. I said, I’m not gonna cook. And he was like, no problem. Then later told me, I thought you would change. And I’m like, I was so clear. Nancy: Exactly, we’re both honest and open. It’s like, that doesn’t mean I have to change, just ’cause you thought I would change. Well, it did because we had children now that needed to be taken care of. Anne: Right. Nancy: The same thing I said, I didn’t wanna stop working.” And he would constantly try to get me to stop working. I was only working part-time. He wanted me to not have an escape route. We separated, but I was so exhausted and overwhelmed with a baby, 2-year-old, and a 5-year-old. We got back together pretty quickly. Discovering he was flirting with coworker Nancy: A year later, we separated again and went to couples counseling, ’cause I still had not seen how that was harmful. I was really hopeful, which seems funny after just like a week or two of separation. But his coworker called me and told me she had been out with some friends, and he was flirting with her and trying to pick her up. I thought this would be his rock bottom, because he’s almost lost his family. Anyway, we got back together and things were up and down. I was dealing with a lot of anger and depression, social anxiety. At the time, I thought I needed counseling to deal with my issues. We were going to Celebrate Recovery near me. His stated problems in Celebrate Recovery were sex addiction and anger. It’s so crazy knowing that, how could everybody there not believe anything I was saying? He supposedly had been sober for months because of all the addiction model stuff. We agreed that he would tell me if he ever had a slip within a certain amount of time. So at Celebrate Recovery, he went forward for a one-day chip, and that really shocked me because he wasn’t ever gonna tell me. When we agreed that he would. After that we had sex that was definitely, obviously coercive. I don’t think I had the words at the time, but I definitely felt that way because we had an agreement and he didn’t follow it. That was the last time we ever were together. He said he would throw me a 30th birthday party Nancy: I took a step back, and I was observing him because I felt like we were at the best place, and I’m actually an okay person. That means there’s nothing I’ve done wrong, literally. And there’s nothing I can do to change this. It just became increasingly clear to me. So I started looking for more information and came across BTR, but I didn’t listen to the episodes because I saw the word abuse. And thought that doesn’t apply to me. And I found a couple other podcasts. They didn’t fully explain everything, and then a really bad incident happened when I turned 30, a big birthday. Anne: They always do it on birthdays and holidays. Nancy: I know, I had always thrown him birthday parties. He’s an extrovert and that was something that he enjoyed and I didn’t mind, he didn’t throw me anything because I’m more of an introvert. So when I was going to turn 30, I told him that I’d like a birthday party and would like him to throw it for me. I said if he didn’t want to, let me know. ‘Cause it was important enough to me that I would throw it for myself. He said he would throw me the birthday party. But when I wasn’t seeing any preparations, I checked in with him. And the motions he made came across like he was planning a surprise birthday party. Anne: Like, let’s not talk about it. Or you might ruin your surprise. Nancy: Exactly, I had said, “I will throw it for myself.” I repeated that again, that time. He knew. He Claimed He ‘Forgot' My Birthday While Pretending Recovery Through SAA and Celebrate Recovery Near Me Groups Nancy: So my birthday comes up. I expect a surprise party around any corner. I come to the end of the day and nothing happened, nothing. And his excuse was forgetfulness. Anne: I never gave you the impression I was gonna throw you a party. Nancy: Yeah, It was always that gaslighting and blame shifting. I feel like I dissociated a little bit around that time. ‘Cause it was really hurtful, because I would have thrown it for myself. Anne: And he knew that and he gave you the impression that he was throwing you a party on purpose to ensure that you didn’t have a party. Nancy: Exactly, I actually believed him that it was on accident, but that was just as hurtful. Now, I believe it was fully on purpose. At the time I was going to COSA and he was going to an SAA group. Anne: When she says COSA or SAA, she’s talking about 12-Step recovery for pornography addicts or sexual addicts. There are other programs like Celebrate Recovery near me. And the COSA is a co sex addict’s 12-Step for a wife of an addict, where she basically does the same program he does and tries to fix her character defects. Nancy: Yeah, I’d been talking about giving him another chance to throw me a party, and they said if he already didn’t do it, you should not do that. So I ended up throwing myself a party. After that 30th birthday, I would get down around my birthday every year. I ended up telling him that, not in a way to blame him, because like I said, I didn’t think he had done it on purpose. I just thought I should let him know I wasn’t myself. Recognizing Gaslighting in real time Nancy: And it was the first time I recognized what he was doing in the moment, he started to say. “That had not happened. That didn’t sound like something he would’ve done, that my memory must be a little off.” So many different ways he was trying to convince me that it hadn’t happened, and he couldn’t convince me because I knew it had happened. So he switched tactics and said that maybe he should get counseling for being abused. Anne: He’s claiming that you’re abusing him. Nancy: Exactly, I was so confused. I asked him, “Abuse, what are you talking about? Am I being abusive right now?” And he goes, “No, the abuse I’ve had to endure for the last how many years.” And then I realized oh, that was gaslighting. That’s blame shifting, and I ended up leaving the room and cried on my own. It shook me up that he could take something very vulnerable and turn it on me like that. I was talking about that incident and how he was saying I was abusive and I heard myself saying, “It was surprising he would call me abusive when he’s been so much worse.” And that was the first time I thought maybe he is abusive, and that reminded me about BTR. I thought, let me listen to that, ’cause maybe I can get some insight. That brought me back to listening to the BTR podcast. And I vividly remember I was binging all these episodes, hearing women’s stories. It felt like my life. And it just blew my mind to realize I’ve been abused this whole time. Anne: I’m so sorry. You were experiencing Betrayal Trauma and were not aware that recovery or Celebrate Recovery near me programs wouldn’t help you. Addict model says he’s struggling, he’s not in control Nancy: It made sense. It felt like everything clicked into place. Everything else I was told didn’t make sense. I always talked about stuff. I was always looking for answers. And I never felt like I was codependent or that I needed codependents anonymous. None of that stuff seemed to fit. In fact, the advice I was given, “Don’t pay attention to what he’s doing. Only work on yourself.” While they’re also saying, “Don’t be codependent, ignore what he’s doing,” which just doesn’t work. The addict model, like he’s struggling, he’s trying, he’s not in control. I mean, that’s like step one. You’re powerless to control your behavior. He accepted the addiction model early on, and we were in and out of groups the whole time. But I don’t believe now that he’s an addict, and I don’t think he even thinks he’s an addict. It’s a great excuse to keep doing what you’re doing. Because there’s no accountability, and everyone applauds your efforts. Even if you’re not reaching the goal, you actually have a choice. He would say to me that he could not promise that he would never do any of the sexual stuff again. So it was like basically just saying, I’m gonna be doing this my whole life. Anne: My ex wouldn’t promise either. He said if I promised, “I wouldn’t be on my toes. Like I don’t want to think I couldn’t do that, because then maybe I would be in danger of doing it.” Which doesn’t even make sense. Like I can legit say, I will never have an affair. finding BTR helped me wrap my head around the abuse, Celebrate Recovery near me didn’t Nancy: Right, yeah. I found BTR. And the abuse model is they have a choice, and they’re choosing to be harmful and abusive. All these years he had been a liar. I stepped back and observed behavior for me to fully wrap my head around it. I believe he feels entitled to do what he wants. He doesn’t see people as people. Or maybe it’s just women as women. Objectification is a huge thing. I don’t think he ever saw me as an equal partner or a person. And I don’t believe he ever loved me. I was a desirable object he acquired, and that was it. When I started listening to BTR, it helped me understand abuse and the subtleties of it. Because before, I had only been thinking physical abuse or yelling insults, which my ex did not do. Listening to the stories helped me see how this plays out in marriage, even in a Christian marriage. It was helpful to see the ways men could twist faith things, because many of these men and my ex are very manipulative. Like it has to slowly play out over time to see what they’re doing. And a lot of it goes back to intent, and it’s hard to see intent. It was hard for me to imagine my husband is lying to me. So that was a shift too, to start looking at actions instead of words. BTR gave me a lot of insight into what I was living through and what was helpful, especially getting into the BTR groups. Celebrate Recovery near me didn’t do that. It helps build you up so that you can go through the hard stuff. We were going to counseling around the time I started going to BTR group. Going to couple counseling Nancy: Because of BTR, I had the words for it. I was able to express better what was happening. The counselor didn’t help my situation, of course. Individual counseling and couple counseling are unhelpful, because an abuser’s goal, my ex’s goal, was not to get better. His goal is to get whatever he wants. He’ll say whatever he needs to say to get what he needs from the counselor. We’ve gone to quite a few couple counselors. We would go into a new counselor, and he would bring up a new issue. He had never told me about me. Anne: Suddenly you’re a kleptomaniac or something. Nancy: Yeah, things that he thought I did that were hurtful to him, that I had never heard of before. But I felt so bad that I was hurting him without knowing it. What a callous person I am. Anne: Not knowing he was bearing false witness and that he literally made it up. Nancy: Yeah, completely distracted from why we went to counseling in the first place is sexual issues. Like I would have to be a safe person so he could be honest with me. Because I’m an actual caring person, I would feel like this was an actual issue that I needed to fix. And that is the part about the psychological abuse that is hard to describe. Because a lot of it could sound valid, and I thought these things were valid. But later realizing they were lies. They were lies, because he would’ve said them before. Anne: Exactly. creepy experience with new counselor Nancy: We did an in-home separation, At first. His abuse escalated the freer that I was getting. I never completely stopped working. I got a job and started after the in-home separation. He actually shut off the internet. Luckily, I prepared ahead of time. I had my own phone plan with the hotspot, So I could just switch over and just didn’t even engage with him. It has been a process of combing through my life, and I have wondered that how many lies I won’t even know about or remember. Because, I believed him and he was so good at lying. One of the new things he said was I wasn’t being vocal enough in bed. It felt so humiliating for him to say that to the new counselor. When he had never said that before. This male counselor wanted us to do an exercise right then on the sofa in front of him. He wanted my ex to touch like my foot or my leg, and then slowly move closer to my private areas. And as he moved closer. I was supposed to make more and more noise. Anne: No. Nancy: Isn’t that crazy? Anne: That’s so creepy. Nancy: I did feel incredibly creeped out, and I refused to do it. Anne: Good for you. He said there would be no equality in our marriage – Celebrate Recovery near me didn’t help with that Nancy: I wish I had just walked out, But after we left, I said, “I will never go back to that counselor again.” And we never did. I said, “What I would need to continue in the marriage was for him to be seeing his own personal counselor, to have a full disclosure with a lie detector test.” Which he said no to. And I know now it wouldn’t have been helpful. Just like Celebrate Recovery near me wasn’t helpful. Anne: I know, thank goodness. Nancy: Right. Anne: Mine never did that either. And I think I would’ve just been in the abuse for so much longer had he said yes. Nancy: Right, and then the second thing I said is that, “I wanted equality in our marriage.” And he said no. Anne: He said no, he didn’t want equality? Nancy: Correct. Anne: Wow. Nancy: So I was like, then literally that’s the end of it. And I was going to BTR group. I remember one of the coaches said to me, “It was a blessing that he actually had been honest.” At the time, I didn’t understand, now I do. And I’m so glad I asked those questions. I don’t know why he was honest. There are two possibilities. He didn’t think I would leave, because I hadn’t yet. We’d been married for almost 14 years, and he was only saying what was already true. You don’t need to be perfect to be loved Nancy: I just didn’t realize it was true. Or maybe he did want me to leave. I had some conversations with his mom. Because I found BTR, and surprisingly, she said it made her realize she was in an abusive relationship with my ex’s dad. However, she still felt like I should stay. Because she felt like the Lord had taught her so much and she had grown through all these trials. I have sympathy for her, but it’s so wrong. All of a sudden it just became very clear to me that if I stayed for the kids, it was actually putting them more at risk. And honestly, that conversation solidified that I had to leave for the kids. If you’re not sure yet if your partner is abusive, Just listen to some BTR stories and see what jumps out at you. You are a worthy human being that does not have to be perfect to be loved and treated with respect. Reconciliation is not necessary for forgiveness, and you don’t have to forgive anyone. It’s more of a process that can happen on its own time, and no one should force it. Pay much closer attention to someone’s actions over time than the words they say. And it’s never too late to make different choices when you learn or understand new information. I feel like having to make a choice that is wildly unpopular with people around you. Church, that I had to learn in a new way. Maybe for the first time, to not let what people thought about me affect the decisions that I make that part has been really hard because a church we were going to was not supportive at first. Call from somebody in Celebrate Recovery near me group Nancy: Some of them seemed supportive, and even the ones I thought were supportive, in the end weren’t. I actually got a phone call from somebody in my Celebrate Recovery near me group. She called me up to ask me if I was seeing a counselor. Because I still seemed angry. I was speechless, of course I’m angry. Anne: Yeah Nancy: I didn’t even know how to respond to her. I just told her yes, I’m in BTR group and got off the phone. There’s nothing wrong with being angry about the situation. I feel like church tells women they shouldn’t be angry. But Jesus was angry. There’s nothing wrong with being angry. Anne: Yeah, I feel like if you’re not angry, something’s wrong. Nancy: Right. Anne: I mean, nothing is wrong with you. You might be numb, you might be sad. I went through periods where I wasn’t super angry. I was just really depressed, but on the whole oppressed, abused, exploited people, their anger is from God to help liberate themselves from the oppression. But of course, the abuser does not want you to liberate yourself. He said flat out he didn’t want you to be equal. That is infuriating. Nancy: And now he wanted 50/50 custody. It was very upsetting, because my ex had been very non-helpful around the house and with the kids. It was hard to think that he would want 50/50. Anne: But of course he did. Nancy: I didn’t see that coming, and I wish I had been more prepared and could have been more strategic. Listening to him lie in the courtroom Nancy: I could not wrap my mind around that at the time. I had seen more and more abuse as my eyes were open. So I couldn’t wrap my mind around 50/50 custody. I was under the delusion that justice was in the court system. I found out, even though I know he lies, it was a big shock to listen to him lying in the Courtroom. It’s hard to witness. It’s something I wish I had processed before, because I’m sure that was pointed out to me. But I couldn’t process that as a reality back then. The Living Free Workshop was so helpful. And going to group and getting help constantly. The Living Free Workshop is so different than anything you’ve ever been taught. I don’t know how I would’ve made it through this, honestly. That was another thing that was really helpful. There were some scripts in Living Free to get him on Our Family Wizard, and he actually got on it easily. I was surprised. I didn’t think he would get on as easily as he did, and just not responding in any other way. Anne: That’s the thing, they’re desperate to talk to you. With the workshop, everybody says, how am I gonna make him go on OFW? And if you do the script and stick to it and do not deviate. Legit, don’t deviate. Once you’re on Our Family Wizard, literally block him on your phone, so he has no other way of contacting you. He is desperate to get your attention and your belief, like Living Free says, yeah, they’re so transactional. And if you respond through Our Family Wizard, he will find a way to do it. he performs for others in groups like Celebrate Recovery near me and in court Anne: They’re like, well, this is what I gotta do to talk to her, because I’m blocked otherwise. They will move. It might take a month. I’ve had it take the longest six weeks with one woman that I was working with. Every single time he texted, she said, “Hey, I’ve responded on Our Family Wizard.” Nancy: Right. It felt overwhelming, because he kept sending me long, manipulative messages, but I responded on Our Family Wizard. It only took me once for him to switch. Being on OFW was better. Oh, one of the books BTR recommends, The Woman They Could Not Silence. I read it and that was awesome. It helped open up my mind to spiritual abuse. It’s been inspiring to me this whole time. What she went through being separated from her children. That book has been really inspiring. The thought of leaving them with him, terrifying to me. We went through two rounds of court. He would make it sound like I was controlling and not letting him do things. Like why wouldn’t I let him take the kids to half of the doctor’s appointments when he never came to a pregnancy appointment? And same with field trips. He’ll go on field trips now, and I feel like it’s just to keep me from going. It. He never wanted to before. Anne: If he was actually a good dad, he would’ve been doing it before, but since he’s only doing it now, he is just performing. Nancy: Yes, it’s a performance because he’s getting something out of it from other people, like in in celebrate recovery near me, and it’s punishment for me because he knows how much I like being there for the kids. Reluctance to support anything he can’t control Nancy: When we married, he didn’t want us to do extracurricular activities. He didn’t even want free after school activities, much less anything you would have to pay for. He was only okay with youth group attached to his job, not the free after school activities. But since we’ve been divorced, he has them interested in hockey, which is one of the most expensive and time consuming sports there is. It’s very strange from my entire experience with him. He never talked about hockey, and he never wanted them involved. At the same time, he is not wanting to pay half of necessary expenses, like medical or orchestra uniforms. For a long time, I was not asking for half of necessary expenses. Because I didn’t wanna have to deal with him because he makes it such a struggle. Anne: My ex is exactly like that, exactly. When my book comes out, I’m anxious for you to read it, because it was all about control. Like, if I’m paying you anything or if I’m involved in any way, I have to control it. Nancy: Yeah, like my youngest wanted to do karate. His dad would not participate even when I offered to pay the whole thing. Other son was invited to concert band, and his dad said no. Anne: Think about the power trip that gives him that he’s able to manipulate them away from their natural interests. And maybe hockey is something that he wants to do. Like he thinks karate’s dumb, but he thinks hockey’s interesting. Draining my bank account and controlling my time Nancy: It is a huge expense that is very draining. When he won’t even pay half of an AP test. Anne: And that might be part of it. He’s, let’s pick the most expensive thing to drain her bank account. Nancy: Yeah, it was a double bind to drain my bank account and control my time. And at the same time, if I have to back out of it. He’ll say, sorry, kids, Mom won’t let us go to hockey. Anne: He’s calculating ways to set you up to be the bad guy. Nancy: Yes, he is an expert at setting up situations, so my bank account is being drained, and I cover a hundred percent of their insurance. Anne: With a lot of these post-separation abuse situations. They get the benefits, but they don’t have any of the responsibilities, and they can use it against you, but it never works for you. They can bend the rules in order to benefit them, but you can’t bend the rules. Nancy: In the Living Free Workshop. It was helpful to see how to deal with narcissistic abuse in marriage and how it plays out in separation, to find a way out of it. There was one thing you said, and this is when you’re moving away from his harm. You said, “If he escalates, remember that protecting yourself from the harm is not the cause of the harm. Just like evacuating a building was not the cause of the exploding gas lines.” He still wants to get together Nancy: That really hit me. One of the things that keeps haunting me is did I do the right thing? He still tries to get together personally with me. It constantly comes up that he wants to get together for coffee, or would I go to counseling with him, co-parenting counseling. I mostly ignore it at this point because he’s asked so many times. I don’t even answer him. Then if something goes wrong with the money situations or if there’s a point of disagreement, he will say, if you would’ve only met with me like I’ve asked, then this would’ve already been stopped. Anne: Yeah, we could’ve worked it out somehow, no. He would still lie. Nancy: It’s a trap. There’s that little 2% of me left that feels like, well, maybe I should meet with him, but no, it’s a trap. Anne: Yeah, no. Nancy: Because he never intends to do a nice thing. He just wants to get me in front of him again. I don’t think any good would come of it. Anne: A hundred percent, no. It might seem good, ’cause once you get there, it might seem good. He might like to turn on the manipulative lies to make you feel like he cares. I think one of the most abusive things people can say is, I love you or that I care. So manipulating you in that way is actually dangerous, and that’s probably what would happen. Nancy: I don’t think I could keep a straight face. It would skive me out so bad to be around him and hear stuff like that. Everything he says is the opposite of the truth Anne: Well, it’s just further evidence of his controlling nature, because he desperately wants to hang on to control. And so he’s increasing his lies because it’s getting away from him. That’s definitely a sign that he’s been lying the whole time. Nancy: I completely agree. I know that this is better for them in the long run, but in the short run, that sentence helps me right now. That was probably one of the hardest things for me to come to terms with, is that he never loved me. He doesn’t love the children. None of it’s real. It’s all lies, and he still does it. It’s mind-boggling. Everything he says is the opposite of what the truth is. He continues lying as he did in programs like Celebrate Recovery near me. As we were moving through the separation process, the boys did not want to leave and crying and like holding onto the car seats. It was horrible. I knew if I said anything to him, he wouldn’t care. Any altercation would be scary for the kids. So I started getting third party exchange people through a new church. I actually found a church with a woman pastor, which is quite lovely. The new church was helpful and supportive, and there were several people that would help me with exchanges. And things changed, like taking the Living Free Workshop, and suddenly I felt a lot stronger. I had a new understanding and confidence, so I stopped doing the third party exchanges. He actually met with the principal to try to get the principal to agree with him that I’m not allowed to go into the school on his parenting weeks. like in celebrate recovery near me, A clear example of him lying, controlling and abusing Nancy: Which isn’t true. You’re allowed to visit your kid in the school. Anne: Absolutely. Nancy: Unless there’s a restraining order, which there’s not. We have shared custody, but he made it sound like the principal agreed with him. I didn’t think it was the truth, but it scared me at the time. And we were about to have a party, and I signed up to bring food, so I worried I would be kicked out. But the principal didn’t say anything. Isn’t that a clear example of parental alienation? Anne: It’s a clear way of him undermining your relationship with your kids, lying, controlling, and abusing you. This is how he’s literally abusing you and your children. Nancy: Everybody heard about this incident, and it didn’t matter. He made it sound like he had just been concerned for the children’s wellbeing. Anne: Yeah, no. Nancy: My being around them upset them. Anne: Lies. That’s the issue they lie in programs like Celebrate Recovery near me and fool the leaders. Nancy: It’s lies at times it is possible that they might be upset, but it’s not because they’re scared of me. It’s more that they’re sad about the situation. My one son, he told me, it makes him sad to see me when he knows he has to go back to his dad’s. My daughter had a phone before we separated, but he wouldn’t allow communication between the boys and me ever. Once, my son called me using his sister’s phone. He was crying. I was only on the phone for about two or three minutes, and then the phone cut off. And they told me when they came back that he had been mad at them for calling me. Even if there is a court order they will find away around it Nancy: He wouldn’t allow them to have a watch phones either. That’s one of the reasons we went back to court. Anne: That’s the problem with court. You think if we get it in writing, then he’ll do it, but it doesn’t matter. He is not gonna do it no matter what. Nancy: This is what I have learned. I don’t ever wanna go back to court again, because it doesn’t help. No matter what you do, they’ll find a new way to cause harm. So there’s no point in any kind of new order. ‘Cause then they’ll find a new way around it. Anne: Exactly. Nancy: I’m still glad I went, because before I had been worried I had to do everything exactly perfectly or something would go wrong. And then I realized he’s doing wrong things on purpose. He just says stuff to get what he wants and nobody cares. So that has relieved a lot of fear. Anne: What would you share with listeners about what you’ve learned so far about finding help, maybe from Celebrate Recovery near me or elsewhere? Nancy: You know, hearing other people’s stories have meant so much to me, Living Free and the BTR coaches set me up for success. They told me to transfer half of our money to a separate bank account before I even told him that I might be leaving. That was incredibly helpful because I’m not sure if it would’ve been easy for me to get the money. I never used the word abuse or narcissism to him. That played out well, because he would’ve twisted it against me. Anne: A hundred percent. Kids need to know what a safe place feels like Nancy: Getting on the parenting app, super helpful, third parties for switches. Finding people to help with the things you need is just a lifesaver. I do feel like it will be better for the kids in the future, because they can be in a peaceful setting that’s not manipulative. So when they’re making decisions. About how they want to live and their future partners, that they know what it feels like to be in a safe place and being able to have discussions with them about men’s and women’s roles. Anne: Nancy, thank you so much for sharing your story today. And helping others who are searching, to find something truly helpful. Nancy: Thank you.