Podcast appearances and mentions of carolyn yates

At least one-third of women report to experiencing birth trauma. Traumatic experiences can be trapped in the physical body and manifest as post-traumatic stress disorder, easily triggered by everyday events and preventing us from fully embracing our experience as a mothers. Talk therapy can be helpful but often is not sufficient to fully resolve trauma, because trauma causes our brains to become wired to focus on repetitive thoughts, creating a maladaptive circuit.  Fortunately, when we sleep, our brains process our emotions and release negative associations, but it takes many weeks or even years for trauma to fully process in our sleep. EMDR works to accelerate this process through specific, guided eye movement therapy, and has been shown to be extremely effective at quickly and successfully releasing trauma. In the United States, the Department of Veterans Affairs and Department of Defense have cited EMDR as a “best practice” in treating veterans with PTSD. Research demonstrating the effectiveness of EMDR includes dozens of clinical trials, research studies and academic papers. It has been approved by the World Health Organization (WHO) and multiple other governmental and/or health organizations. Carolyn Yates, LMFT and EMDR practitioner joins us today to explain how and why EMDR is a revolutionary treatment for not only birth trauma but any traumatic event. For more about EMDR visit:https://www.emdria.org/about-emdr-therapy/Carolyn Yates, LMFTDown to Birth is sponsored by:Needed -- Optimal nutritional products to nourish yourself before, during, and after pregnancy DrinkLMNT -- Purchase LMNT today and receive a free sample kit. Stay salty.Love Majka Products -- Support your milk supply with nourishing protein powder, hydration boosters and lactation bites.Silverette Nursing Cups -- Soothe and heal sore nipples with 925 silver nursing cups.Postpartum Soothe -- Herbs and padsicles to heal and comfort after vaginal birth.  Connect with us on Patreon for our exclusive content.Email Contact@DownToBirthShow.comInstagram @downtobirthshowCall us at 802-GET-DOWN Work with Cynthia: 203-952-7299 HypnoBirthingCT.com Work with Trisha: 734-649-6294 Please remember we don't provide medical advice. Speak to your licensed medical provider for all your healthcare matters.

The time used to invest in yourself reflects on the quality of relationships you engage in.  In this episode, Carolyn Yates shares her expertise and advice for people struggling with their mental health. Our mental health condition is often affected by a lot of factors; the people around us, social media, and personal pressures but the best way to deal with this is to prioritize self-care. WHAT DID YOUNG CAROLYN WANT TO BE WHEN SHE GREW UP? Carolyn wasn't sure what she wanted to be when she grew up. But as a young kid, she's always been fascinated with how people think and behave. She explored a few different routes, but eventually, she became a psychology major in college.  Through this, her interest in the human personality further developed. Then she finished her grad school and became a therapist. Although her journey started out with not being sure about what to be when she becomes older, there was a specific interest she kept in her heart that lead her to who she is today. Carolyn's advice for people who are afraid of making a pivot in their lives, “be open-minded to different ideas.” When she graduated in 2008, she entered the workforce but unfortunately, the economy collapsed. Our situations may seem like adversity initially, but they can become a blessing in the end. Because of the economic crisis, she decided to go back to school and explored new ways of life. TWEETS “Be open-minded to different ideas.” #chasingdreams QUOTES "Things that feel like adversity in your path may ultimately be blessings in the long term." GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF Most of us are raised to believe that we always have to put the needs of others first. This notion is deeply embedded in our culture that we think that by putting ourselves first, we are committing a crime.  This thinking made some of us resentful toward life. There's lingering guilt of not being able to do what we've always wanted to because we put others first. When Carolyn was asked if it's possible for us to take care of ourselves first, she answered, “it's about giving yourself the permission to take care of yourself.”  She adds, “to have a bit of time for yourself means you can show up in better ways.” There may be a lot of guilt involved in doing this, but this is actually not a bad thing.  Some people may label this as being selfish but Carolyn reframes this. She makes people understand that spending time on yourself is always a worthy investment.  When you prioritize yourself, you also get to evaluate how you are towards others and how you treat yourself. It allows you to be more patient and present.  TWEETS "Take time for yourself." #chasingdreams  QUOTES “To have a little bit of time for yourself means you can show up in better ways.” WAYS TO PERFORM SELF-CARE Your self-care methods don't have to be grand and expensive. When people think of self-care, they equate it with going on splendid vacations, spas, or shopping. These can be forms of self-care, but they can also be meditating, going for a walk, enjoying nature, journaling, exercising, or nourishing your body with a healthy meal. https://www.verywellmind.com/self-care-strategies-overall-stress-reduction-3144729 (Self-care) can be the simple things you do that give you joy, help you calm down, and re-center. It doesn't have to break the bank. It's not always a one-size-fits-all, so you have to explore what self-care methods work for you. As you engage in self-care, you see the world from a different perspective. You become more in tune with your thoughts, and emotions and begin to understand what it is that you need. You learn that you can be capable of achieving things if you nurture yourself first. TWEETS "Take some time to go outside, there's something about it that's calming and soothing." #chasingdreams QUOTES “Self-care is a way to manage stress.” WHY YOU NEED TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR MENTAL HEALTH The

Carolyn Yates is a healer - of an area that many women are afraid to talk about - pelvic floors. When we first chatted about the upcoming interview, she said, "Women should not have to suffer in silence about their pelvic floors." I agree - time to end the suffering! The only way to do that is to have open, candid conversations about body parts that can be very uncomfortable to discuss. It's funny - I've always had a bit of an aversion to using medical terms for various body parts and functions. Today we get into all of them: Vaginas, the uterus, rectums, feces, orgasms, urine, you name it. The pelvic floor is the the center of the conversation, and as it turns out, our bodies! Carolyn gives a visual demo of how to locate your pelvic floor during the conversation and we say kegel a lot which will make you feel like you're getting a workout just listening, because who doesn't immediately kegel when you hear the word kegel? Today we cover: How Carolyn became a Pelvic Floor Therapist : the crazy nature of group classes with student exams The Obtrator Internus: A hip stabilizer that can only be accessed internally (vaginally or rectally) What pelvic floor therapy (PFT) is: What you can expect if you go to a PFT Who can benefit from PFT: It's not just for old women or women who have given birth Athletes and pregnancy: How to prep your body for birth from a pelvic floor perspective After birth: How to get rolling again - check out her Return to Run Program here Prolapse: What it is and how to treat it Orgasms: How pelvic floor therapy can make your orgasms better Periods: Ways to limit the discomfort through PFT Incontinence: Stress, Urge and Mixed And a bunch of prying questions about Carolyn's personal life: Relationships, running, dancing, and more To get some more of Carolyn, check out: Her website veritypt.org Instagram @verity_ptw Facebook @verityptw Her Youtube channel

In the season two finale, Gaby talks to a range of people from the parts of American financial culture the system would rather not think about: queer, black, gender non-conforming thinkers like Alaina Monts, former sex workers like Chris Zeishchegg (aka Danny Wylde), trans financial advisers like Natalie Miller, and proud polyamorous writers like Carolyn Yates and Erin Judge.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the season two finale, Gaby talks to a range of people from the parts of American financial culture the system would rather not think about: queer, black, gender non-conforming thinkers like Alaina Monts, former sex workers like Chris Zeishchegg (aka Danny Wylde), trans financial advisers like Natalie Miller, and proud polyamorous writers like Carolyn Yates and Erin Judge. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoicesOur Sponsors:* Check out Arena Club: arenaclub.com/badmoney* Check out Chime: chime.com/BADMONEY* Check out Claritin: www.claritin.com* Check out Indeed: indeed.com/BADWITHMONEY* Check out Monarch Money: monarchmoney.com/BADMONEY* Check out NetSuite: NetSuite.com/BADWITHMONEYAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

SOMETHING BIG HAPPENS IN THIS EPISODE and no we don't mean the exchange of claddagh rings omfgaskfadjfdaffjadhfgjf!!!!!!! There's *so* much to deal with here, and we're thrilled that special guest Carolyn Yates stopped by to help us sort through it. I can't tell you what she's an expert in because SPOILERS. This week we're discussing s2e13: Surprise. Jenny Owen Youngs is @jennyowenyoungs on twitter, and you can check out some of her non-Buffy songs at jennyowenyoungs.com/buffering. Kristin Russo is @kristinnoeline on twitter. Learn more about the resources she creates for LGBTQ individuals and their families at everyoneisgay.com and mykidisgay.com. Get to know more about Carolyn Yates at carolynyates.com, or give her a shout on twitter @c_yates! Follow Buffering the Vampire Slayer on twitter (@bufferingcast) and on facebook (facebook.com/bufferingcast)! You can now support the show on Patreon, at patreon.com/bufferingcast. We've got SMASH THE DEMON LIZARD PATRIARCHY shirts and so much more over at bufferingthevampireslayer.bigcartel.com. Also! Buffering the Vampire Slayer: Songs From Season One is available now on iTunes, or wherever you get your digital music. Logo: Kristine Thune (kristinethune.com)

SOMETHING BIG HAPPENS IN THIS EPISODE and no we don't mean the exchange of claddagh rings omfgaskfadjfdaffjadhfgjf!!!!!!! There's so much to deal with here, and we're thrilled that special guest Carolyn Yates stopped by to help us sort through it. I can't tell you what she's an expert in because SPOILERS. This week we're discussing s2e13: Surprise.Jenny Owen Youngs is @jennyowenyoungs on twitter, and you can check out some of her non-Buffy songs at jennyowenyoungs.com/buffering. Kristin Russo is @kristinnoeline on twitter. Learn more about the resources she creates for LGBTQ individuals and their families at everyoneisgay.com and mykidisgay.com.Get to know more about Carolyn Yates at carolynyates.com, or give her a shout on twitter @c_yates!Follow Buffering the Vampire Slayer on twitter (@bufferingcast) and on facebook (facebook.com/bufferingcast)!You can now support the show on Patreon, at patreon.com/bufferingcast.We've got SMASH THE DEMON LIZARD PATRIARCHY shirts and so much more over at bufferingthevampireslayer.bigcartel.com. Also! Buffering the Vampire Slayer: Songs From Season One is available now on iTunes, or wherever you get your digital music.Logo: Kristine Thune (kristinethune.com) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Carolyn Yates joins us to talk about Autostraddle's massive recent data analysis, which found period sex to be "the ultimate lesbian sexual indicator," among many other things. We also talk about a new study about just when you hit your sexual peak, and when you're happiest in a relationship (turns out, at frustratingly different ages). With Allison P. Davis, Maureen O'Connor, and David Wallace-Wells

This week's question: What’s the worst sex you’ve ever had? This week's quote: “I was cuddled for hours. It wasn’t consensual cuddling.” Autostraddle’s NSFW editor talks bad sex, good sex, kinkiness, the importance or lack thereof of dental dams, and even chucks in a few vibrator recommendations for y’all. Meanwhile, I get shy. Would I call this episode essential listening? I would. I just did. Enjoy. Oh, and go get Lesbian Sexting the zine: lesbiansexting.bigcartel.com.