Podcasts about emdr

Have you ever felt overwhelmed by your own emotions as an adoptive parent — unsure how to calm yourself down or pick yourself back up when the weight feels like too much? Hi Neighbor, For many Christian adoptive parents, the challenge goes beyond supporting a child through trauma; it's learning how to regulate yourself when the demands of parenting feel overwhelming

We share words in response to what happened last weekend.CLICK HERE to see the names of known people who died in 2025.I would add the name of Roxsana Hernandez, a trans woman from Honduras who died by medical neglect in custody in 2018.Song is a compilation of songs learned in my tribal experiences, originals by Carliza and Jesse. Duet sung with Kim Skeesick.Our website is HERE:  System Speak Podcast.You can submit an email to the podcast HERE.You can JOIN THE COMMUNITY HERE.  Once you are in, you can use a non-Apple device or non-safari browser to join groups HERE. Once you are set up, then the website and app work on any device just fine.  We have peer support check-in groups, an art group, movie groups, social events, and classes.  Additional zoom groups are optional, but only available by joining the groups. Join us!Content Note: Content on this website and in the podcasts is assumed to be trauma and/or dissociative related due to the nature of what is being shared here in general.  Content descriptors are generally given in each episode.  Specific trigger warnings are not given due to research reporting this makes triggers worse.  Please use appropriate self-care and your own safety plan while exploring this website and during your listening experience.  Natural pauses due to dissociation have not been edited out of the podcast, and have been left for authenticity.  While some professional material may be referenced for educational purposes, Emma and her system are not your therapist nor offering professional advice.  Any informational material shared or referenced is simply part of our own learning process, and not guaranteed to be the latest research or best method for you.  Please contact your therapist or nearest emergency room in case of any emergency.  This website does not provide any medical, mental health, or social support services. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Have you found yourself fine one minute and completely blindsided by your reactions the next?  Today, Michelle shares 1 huge way to tell if you have unresolved trauma hiding in your nervous system.  Listen in!   FREE RESOURCE: If this episode resonated, you might be interested in my free resource.   I created a free, faith-honoring guide that gently explains how healing happens in the body and why you're not failing.  Free Trauma Healing Resource Guide   WORK WITH MICHELLE CROYLE, LPC: If you are a Christian woman who feels ready for deeper, focused trauma healing than typical weekly talk therapy can offer, you may want to consider an EMDR-based Therapeutic Intensive with me.  I clear my schedule to work with you over the course of one to three days for three to six hours per day on a focus target of your choosing.  Intensives are designed to support meaningful change in the way the nervous system feels safest, not rushed into an hour here and there.  Ready for deeper healing?  If you live in Pennsylvania or are willing to travel to Pennsylvania for a therapy intensive, you can learn more or schedule a reserve a free consultation by clicking here: Learn More or Reserve a Free Consultation

Thursday episodes are for when your body won't do what your mind understands.If you're exhausted after divorce but still feel like you can't drop the ball… If rest makes you anxious instead of relieved… If part of you believes that if you stop managing everything, it will all fall apart…This episode gives you something to do in that moment.Not a mindset shift. Not a pep talk. Not “just rest more.”In this premium episode of Dear Divorce Diary, Dawn guides you through a body-based reset designed to interrupt the overfunctioning loop that so many women get stuck in during and after divorce.Because divorce exhaustion isn't a motivation problem — It's a nervous system survival pattern built on the belief:“If I don't carry everything, nothing will hold.”In this episode, you'll:Locate where the “I have to handle this” response lives in your bodyIdentify the belief that keeps you overcontrolling even when you're depletedWork with the part of you that learned effort = safetyPractice a guided tapping sequence to test a new experience of supportBegin loosening the reflex to chase, force, or overextend yourselfThis is especially for you if:You're doing everything “right” but still feel bracedYou don't trust help yet — or feel safer relying only on yourselfYou're tired but can't relaxYou feel hyper-vigilant, responsible, or on edge when you try to slow downCoaching, therapy, or insight hasn't translated into relief in your bodyYou don't have to believe anything new for this to work.You just need to notice what your body does when effort stops being the only way you feel safe.

De macht van PSYCHOPATEN in onze samenleving | Jan Storms | The Trueman Show #262   Deze week in The Trueman Show: Jan Storms   Deze week verwelkomen we een oude bekende bij The Trueman Show: Jan Storms! Hij is bewustzijnsdeskundige, auteur en onderzoeker van trauma, bewustzijn en menselijke ontwikkeling, en voor de derde keer bij ons om zijn licht te laten schijnen op deze onderwerpen.   Jan houdt zich al decennialang bezig met één fundamentele vraag: waarom blijven mensen, relaties én samenlevingen vastlopen in dezelfde patronen? In deze aflevering gaan we diep in op wat trauma werkelijk is, hoe het zich vastzet in lichaam en zenuwstelsel, hoe het generaties lang wordt doorgegeven en hoe het volgens Jan zelfs aan de basis ligt van oorlogen, machtsstructuren en politieke ontsporing.   We spreken over vroegkinderlijke traumatisering, opvoeding zonder tederheid, waarom veel therapievormen tekortschieten, en wat volgens Jan wél werkt als het gaat om echte heling. Ook hebben we het over de coronaperiode als collectief trauma, over psychopathie en macht, en over waarom harmonie voor sommige mensen ondraaglijk is.   In deze podcast: Wat trauma écht is (en wat niet) Individueel versus collectief trauma Hoe trauma generaties lang wordt doorgegeven Vroegkinderlijke imprint & opvoeding Waarom oorlogen en machtsmisbruik blijven terugkeren Psychopathie, moral injury & geweten Kritiek op EMDR en symptoombestrijding Wat volgens Jan de weg naar echte heling is Spiritualiteit, bewustzijn & genieten van het leven   Word Member en bekijk Uncensored op That's The Spirit: https://thatsthespirit.nu/in   Volg ons op: Instagram: / thetruemanshowpodcast Facebook: / thetruemanshowpodcast Telegram: https://t.me/s/jornluka?before=217 X: / TruemanshowNL   Wekelijks op de hoogte blijven van alle afleveringen, updates, boekentips en de blogs van onze gasten? Schrijf je in voor de nieuwsbrief: https://thetruemanshow.com/nieuwsbrief/    Samenwerken met de Trueman Show? Stuur een mail naar partners@thetruemanshow.com   Deze podcast wordt mede mogelijk gemaakt door de volgende sponsoren:   MODERN NATIVE Geef je lijf wat het écht nodig heeft met de natuurlijke orgaansupplementen van Modern Native. Gebruik code TMS voor 10% korting: https://modernnative.nl/orgaanmix   AMARAPURE Geef jezelf meer energie en een betere nachtrust met de Roodlicht-Lamp van Amarapure. Bestel via https://amarapure.com en ontvang 10% korting met code TMS.

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This episode is a bit different. If it's not for you, that's okay.Right now, a lot of us are struggling. The anxiety that won't quit, the rage that scares you, the numbness that makes you wonder what's wrong with you, the exhaustion that feels bone-deep. You're not overreacting. Your nervous system is responding to real threat.In this episode, we talk about what happens in your body when threat is ongoing and there's no clear way to resolve it. We look at vicarious trauma, suppressed anger, grief that doesn't feel like sadness, and the shame of struggling when you think you should be stronger.If you're trying to figure out how to care without being destroyed by it, how to stay engaged without depleting yourself completely, this one's for you.Thanks for listening to The Complex Trauma Podcast! Be sure to follow, share and give us a review on your favorite podcast platform. Follow on Instagram: @sarahherstichlcsw Follow on TikTok: @sarahherstichlcsw Learn more about EMDR & trauma therapy in Pennsylvania with Reclaim Therapy This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for professional medical, psychological, or nutritional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Remember, I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. Nothing in this podcast is meant to replace actual therapy or treatment. If you're in crisis or things feel really unsafe right now, please reach out to someone. You can call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, text them, or head to your nearest ER. The views expressed by the host and guests are their own and do not represent the opinions of any organizations or institutions. Reliance on any information provided by this podcast is solely at your own risk.

After divorce, women are often told to “step into their masculine energy” — be strong, decisive, productive, self-sufficient.But what if you're not choosing strength at all?What if your body simply doesn't expect help to arrive? And, do you know what to do about this?In this episode of Dear Divorce Diary, we talk about why so many women feel stuck in over-functioning after divorce — and why what looks like competence is often a nervous system stuck in survival mode.You'll learn:Why safety must come before softnessHow over-functioning becomes a substitute for trustWhy feminine energy doesn't show up just because you tell yourself to relaxHow childhood beliefs quietly shape the partners we attractWhy receiving help can trigger guilt, shame, or emotional shutdownThe difference between true support and trying to be “held” before you feel safeWe also share insights from hundreds of women who've taken our Divorce Recovery Nervous System Quiz, revealing how most women actually feel when someone tries to help them — and why that reaction keeps them stuck in burnout.And stay until the end for My Body Said No, where we each share a real moment when honoring a physical “no” — instead of pushing through — changed everything.If you're exhausted, capable, and secretly wondering why rest feels impossible… this episode will name what your body has been trying to tell you.

Hello beautiful ones! I'm really thrilled to share this interview with my friend and colleague Kate Robson with you today. Kate and I got the opportunity to meet this Spring at a workshop I facilitated in her home city of Toronto – but, as it turns out, we have a web of connections both personal and professional that go way back!  It has been really cool to get to know Kate and her work this year, and I'm so thrilled to be able to uplift and support her excellent new book, Something to Hold Onto. First, though, let me tell you a little bit more about Kate: Kate Robson is a registered psychotherapist in Toronto, Ontario. Inspired by her own experiences with her children in a neonatal intensive care unit, she worked with babies, parents, and families for more than twelve years as a NICU family support specialist. She's travelled all over the world educating parents and clinicians about family-centred care and trauma informed care practices. Her workshops focus on cultivating attachment in relationships and creating emotion-friendly homes and workplaces. In her private practice she supports individuals and couples experiencing infertility, high risk pregnancies, NICU hospitalizations, major life transitions, and bereavement. She has degrees from McGill University and OISE/UT, completed her psychotherapy training at the Toronto Institute for Relational Psychotherapy, and has also studied modalities such as ACT, the Internal Family Systems Model, EMDR, PACT, and Somatic Embodiment. Her first book, Something to Hold Onto, is a collection of the most inspiring images and experiences from her time in the NICU and in private practice.   Here's some of what we talk about in this episode: ✔️ How a mother's matrescence experience is impacted by a NICU stay, including the challenges of holding both joy and fear at the same time, and how it can take time to recalibrate and find your own path upon returning home. ✔️ How Kate's new book, Something to Hold Onto, uses metaphor and imagery to help us with some of our most common human struggles – and in a way that doesn't require mental gymnastics, memorizing affirmations, or changing everything about our lives ✔️ Two of the metaphors in Kate's book that I think will resonate with you, dear listener, most deeply:  the ladder and the scaffolding.  Tune in to find out how these metaphors can support you, especially when you're experiencing a transition that's happening to you, or if you're overwhelmed right now with everything that is changing. ✔️ The metaphor that Kate is working with right now.  This was such a great example of how powerful this practice of working with metaphor and imagery can provide really tangible support – in other words, something to hold on to.   Show Notes Kate's Website Kate's Instagram Kate's new book, Something to Hold On To Mothermorphosis Retreat at Kripalu

Everyone deserves a safe and dignified birth, but when Louise Thompson gave birth to son Leo, she was left with post-traumatic stress disorder.In this chat with Fearne, Louise talks through how her PTSD manifests, the way she disassociates, and the therapies she's tried to work through it, including CBT and EMDR.She explains why her own experience has led her to petition the government. She wants to appoint a Maternity Commissioner to improve maternity care for mums and babies in the UK.Four years post-birth, Louise is reflecting on the ways she's grown from her trauma, and is exploring how she can allow herself to slow down while maintaining her ambitious nature.Louise and Fearne also both share how they use busyness as a distraction from their uncomfortable thoughts, and wonder what being ‘likeable' even means...Sign Louise's Maternity Commissioner petition here If you liked this episode of Happy Place, you might also like: Davina McCall Liberty Mills Ellie Simmonds Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever felt like you've talked about your anxiety until you're blue in the face, yet the panic still feels "stuck" in your body?In this episode, I'm joined by Lilly Risch, an expert EMDR therapist and consultant. We're moving beyond traditional talk therapy to explore Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)—a body-based modality specifically designed to target the root of panic and anxiety disorders."EMDR is a really powerful way to look at symptoms and help people make progress a lot quicker than traditional talk therapy... because our brains and our nervous systems are complex." — Lilly RischJOIN PANIC TO PEACE HERE: https://www.ahealthypush.com/live-panic-to-peaceTAKE MY FREE QUIZ AND FIND OUT WHAT'S CAUSING YOU TO STAY STUCK: https://www.ahealthypush.com/blocking-quizA HEALTHY PUSH INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/ahealthypush/GET THIS EPISODE'S SHOW NOTES: https://www.ahealthypush.com/post/emdr-therapy

We go back to the DMV.  Twice.Our website is HERE:  System Speak Podcast.You can submit an email to the podcast HERE.Content Note: Content on this website and in the podcasts is assumed to be trauma and/or dissociative related due to the nature of what is being shared here in general.  Content descriptors are generally given in each episode.  Specific trigger warnings are not given due to research reporting this makes triggers worse.  Please use appropriate self-care and your own safety plan while exploring this website and during your listening experience.  Natural pauses due to dissociation have not been edited out of the podcast, and have been left for authenticity.  While some professional material may be referenced for educational purposes, Emma and her system are not your therapist nor offering professional advice.  Any informational material shared or referenced is simply part of our own learning process, and not guaranteed to be the latest research or best method for you.  Please contact your therapist or nearest emergency room in case of any emergency.  This website does not provide any medical, mental health, or social support services. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Colette Jane Fehr a marriage counselor, EMDR therapist, and author of "The Cost of Quiet." With over two decades of experience helping individuals and couples navigate relationship challenges, Colette specializes in teaching people how to communicate vulnerably and assertively in their most important relationships.  Episode Overview  In this powerful conversation, Dr. Debi Silber sits down with therapist and author Colette Fehr to explore why speaking up in relationships is essential for healing, growth, and genuine connection—especially after betrayal. Colette shares her personal journey from childhood trauma to relationship betrayal, and how these experiences shaped her understanding of healthy communication and the devastating cost of staying quiet.  Key Topics Discussed  The Origins of Conflict Avoidance  How childhood experiences with parental conflict shape our relationship patterns  The difference between destructive conflict (screaming, fighting) and constructive conflict (honest, vulnerable communication)  Why some people mistake silence and "keeping the peace" for relationship health  The concept of parentification and how it impacts adult relationships  Understanding "The Cost of Quiet"  Quiet as a euphemism for conflict avoidance  Different forms of conflict avoidance that people don't recognize:  Self-silencing and sweeping things under the rug  Criticism disguised as "expressing feelings"  Bickering about surface issues instead of deeper needs  Why avoiding vulnerability doesn't actually protect you from pain  The Four Bad Communication Report Card Responses (The Four D's and an F)  Dismissiveness - "It's no big deal, why are you so upset?"  Defensiveness - Getting reactive instead of receptive  Distancing - Shutting down, stonewalling, pulling away  Fixing - Problem-solving instead of listening and connecting  Vulnerability as Strength  Why vulnerability is actually the strongest choice you can make  How to build the courage to be vulnerable after betrayal  Connecting with your inner child before difficult conversations  The only way through fear is action—building the vulnerability muscle  Self-Connected Communication  The importance of I-statements over you-statements  Connecting to deeper emotional needs beyond surface complaints  Speaking from your "core sage self" (wise, loving adult) rather than reactive parts  The distinction between being nice (self-abandoning) and being kind (self-honoring)  When to Speak Up  Why waiting longer than 24 hours allows resentment to grow  Common excuses that keep us from addressing issues (wrong time, they're tired, etc.)  Most conversations don't need to be long—short, clear, vulnerable statements work best  You can't control your partner's response, but you can control showing up for yourself  Building the Assertiveness Muscle  Why successful women often struggle with assertiveness in intimate relationships  Starting small with low-stakes vulnerable moments  The confidence boost that comes from speaking your truth  How assertiveness differs from aggressiveness  The Meta-Conversation Strategy When your partner repeatedly responds poorly to vulnerability: "I notice that I try to bring up things and share my feelings. I'm taking great effort to say things in a way that's tactful and diplomatic, but honest, and it seems like when I do, I get a defensive or dismissive response. I don't really know where to go from here. Have you noticed that? What's going on with you? Are you willing to work on this with me?"  Signs It's Working  Reduction in fear when bringing up difficult topics  Growing confidence in expressing yourself  Your partner responding with openness rather than defensiveness  Feeling closer and more connected after vulnerable conversations  Even if they don't respond well—you're getting information faster and can make empowered choices  After Betrayal: Special Considerations  Why vulnerability feels especially terrifying after intimate partner betrayal  The connection to Stage 3 of the Five Stages from Betrayal to Breakthrough (doing the same thing expecting different results)  How moving into Stages 4 and 5 requires having uncomfortable conversations  Being vulnerable doesn't guarantee you won't get hurt, but not being vulnerable guarantees disconnection  Vulnerability helps you discover more quickly what a relationship will or won't give you  Powerful Quotes from the Episode  "Being in a relationship is inherently unsafe. It is a risk. But if you're willing to be vulnerable, you're going to find out more quickly what a relationship will and will not give you, and you can make choices that empower and serve your needs."  "It's actually not about the coffee cup. It's about the fact that lately I feel like I'm communicating with you and you're not hearing me, and that makes me feel inside—my vulnerable part feels like I'm not important to you."  "You've got to speak up no matter what. I don't care how you were raised, what part of the country, what your personality was, who your partner is. This is something you do for you."  "Vulnerability is strength, but it is very, very scary. We could be rejected or abandoned. But the only way through fear is by doing—action in the face of fear is what develops the muscle."  "If your partner is repeatedly not listening, being dismissive, being defensive, then maybe that tells you something about, 'Do I want to invest in this relationship?' But if you're not being vulnerable and clear, then you're contributing to what's not working."  "The point of feelings, the point of emotion, is that they're information processing signals that point us to our needs."  "If you're going to bother to try to improve this relationship, we can't have anything better based on just fear of even speaking up."  Colette's Personal Journey  Childhood Experience:  Idyllic childhood until age 10 when parents' marriage began deteriorating  Parents (lawyer mother, doctor father) engaged in epic daily fighting  Dealt with parental infidelity and eventual divorce  Became parentified—taking on emotional mediator role inappropriate for her age  Made meaning that she had to rely on herself because adults couldn't care for her properly  Rebelled against Catholic school environment as a way of coping  First Marriage:  Married someone from a conflict-avoidant Southern family  Partner was emotionally unavailable and disconnected  When she tried to express feelings, received dismissive, defensive, or distancing responses  Learned to silence herself to "keep the peace"  Marriage failed after having children, leading her to return to graduate school  Path to Her Work:  Bad experience in marriage counseling inspired her to become a marriage counselor  Spent 11 years between marriages dating and experiencing significant betrayals  Been cheated on by two partners in ways that "gutted" her  Now in second marriage of 9 years (together 12 years)  Uses EMDR therapy in her practice  Wrote "The Cost of Quiet" to provide a preventative roadmap for others  Practical Takeaways  Connect with your inner child before vulnerable conversations - Acknowledge the fear, reassure yourself you've got your own back no matter the outcome  Use the template for vulnerable communication:  Start small with low-stakes topics  Use I-statements, not you-statements  Speak to deeper needs, not just surface complaints  Be specific about what you need  Address issues within 24 hours - Don't let resentment build by waiting for the "perfect time"  Watch for your own conflict avoidance patterns:  Are you criticizing instead of being vulnerable?  Are you bickering about surface issues?  Are you staying silent to keep the peace?  Remember: Vulnerability invites vulnerability - When you show up authentically, you often get authenticity back  Let go of trying to control your partner's response - You can't manage how they'll react, but you can show up for yourself  Apply this skill everywhere - Practice assertive, vulnerable communication in all relationships, not just romantic ones  Resources  Connect with Colette Fehr:  Website: ColetteFehr.com   Instagram: @ColetteJaneFehr  TikTok: @ColetteJaneFehr  Book: "The Cost of Quiet" (available on her website and wherever books are sold)  Podcasts:  "Insights from the Couch" (for women at midlife)  "Love Thy Neighbor" (all about relationships)  For Post Betrayal Syndrome® Recovery:  Learn more about the Five Stages from Betrayal to Breakthrough™  Visit The PBT Institute for resources on healing from betrayal and becoming a Certified PBT Coach or Practitioner  Episode Themes  #Communication #VulnerabilityIsStrength #BetrayalRecovery #HealthyRelationships #ConflictResolution #EmotionalIntelligence #Assertiveness #InnerChildWork #RelationshipHealing #SelfAdvocacy #TheCostOfQuiet 

What do ghrelin, cortisol, insulin, and female sex hormones all have in common? In this episode, you'll discover the fascinating relationship between your emotions, hormones, and eating patterns—and how understanding this connection can open the door to true healing and freedom. Amber Romaniuk is an Emotional Eating, Digestive and Hormone Expert, with 12 years experience helping high achieving women create a level of body confidence, intuition and optimal health through powerful mindset healing, self-care and overcoming self-sabotage with food. Having personally overcome a long battle with emotional eating—including gaining and losing over 1,000 pounds, spending more than $50,000 on binge foods, and dedicating five years to restoring her hormones and digestion—Amber has intimately dismantled the limiting beliefs and patterns that once kept her stuck. Today, she empowers others to experience life-changing breakthroughs and achieve what she calls “Body Freedom™”—the confidence, health, and vitality to create amazing lives. Follow her socials: https://amberapproved.ca/ https://www.instagram.com/amberromaniuk   Additional Resources:

What was your biggest Takeaway from this Episode! I would Love to hear from you!In this powerful Part 1 conversation, Empowering Women in Conversations host Anita Sandoval, LPC, is joined by Gladys A. Cortez, MS, LPC-S, RPT, CRC, TF-CBT, EMDR-Trained, to explore the hidden cost of people-pleasing in parenting — especially when advocating for neurodivergent children within school systems.Many parents stay quiet in IEP, ARD, and 504 meetings because they don't want to be labeled “difficult,” “emotional,” or “that parent.” But what happens when silence costs a child the support they are legally entitled to?In this episode, Anita and Gladys unpack how people-pleasing shows up in advocacy, why guilt and fear keep parents silent, and how education — not confrontation — is the foundation of effective advocacy. This conversation centers on shifting from emotional reactivity to informed, values-based advocacy that protects children and empowers families.This episode is especially for:Parents navigating IEP, ARD, or 504 meetingsPeople-pleasers who struggle to speak up in systems of authorityFamilies raising neurodivergent childrenParents wanting to model healthy self-advocacy for their children✨ In This Episode, You'll Learn:Why people-pleasing can unintentionally harm childrenThe difference between emotional reactivity and effective advocacyHow guilt, fear, and social conditioning silence parentsWhy advocacy is rooted in education, not confrontationHow knowing your rights changes the power dynamic in school systemsWhy advocacy is about long-term impact — not short-term comfort

This week I had the pleasure of sitting down with the founder and director of Throttle & Thrive, A first responder and veteran, male only, recovery center located in the beautiful neighborhood of Palos Verdes Estates out in Cali. Shavon and I discussed her calling to establish this program and just as important the mission of saving lives within a community she and her staff care deeply about. Something she said to me really hit home. "We aren't just saving men from themselves, we are giving families back their fathers and husbands. If you or someone you know is struggling to get back to the man you once were, share this episode, give us a call and let's get it done! https://throttleandthrive.com/tel:805.701.1309More info on Shavon and Throttle & ThriveThrottle & Thrive is a men's only, 6-bed detox and residential (inpatient) substance misuse treatment program exclusively for First Responders and Veterans. We are a 12-step program and place emphasis on processing trauma through a variety of different modalities including EMDR. Throttle & Thrive is licensed by the Department of Health Care Services (DHCS) as a dual-diagnosis facility for Substance Use Disorder and Mental Health. We are accredited by the Joint Commission and accept most medical insurance policies.Thank you for taking the time to give this podcast a listen. If you would like more information on other Law enforcement Life Coach initiatives, our "Sometimes Heroes Need Help" wellness seminar or our One-On-One life coaching please visit :www.lawenforcementlifecoach.comJohn@lawenforcementlifecoach.comAnd if you would like to watch the interview you can view it in it's entirety on the Law Enforcement Life Coach YouTube Channel : https://studio.youtube.com/channel/UCib6HRqAFO08gAkZQ-B9Ajw/videos/upload?filter=%5B%5D&sort=%7B%22columnType%22%3A%22date%22%2C%22sortOrder%22%3A%22DESCENDING%22%7D

In this episode, David speaks with Tina Taylor, a Syzygy trainer, IFS Institute assistant trainer, and contributor to IFS Informed EMDR. Together, they explore the intersection of IFS, EMDR, pain, dissociation, and safety in trauma healing. Tina shares how EMDR was instrumental in addressing her social anxiety, and how IFS later helped her heal legacy burdens connected to that anxiety. This layered healing highlights how different models can work together to address both symptoms and deeper roots. Tina offers a powerful theme when working with pain:  “Pain is communication.” Rather than something to eliminate or override, pain can be understood as a message from parts of the system. Some parts may amplify pain to be heard, while others attempt to suppress or escape it. IFS allows us to slow down and listen to what pain is asking for. The conversation also explores dissociation and Dissociative Identity Disorder. Tina reflects on how IFS can look different when working with highly dissociative systems and why goals and pacing matter deeply in this work. While there are clinicians integrating IFS with dissociation, there is currently no dedicated IFS Institute training focused specifically on DID, beyond the Level 2 trauma track. David and Tina discuss how dissociation itself can be understood as a meaningful communication from the system. The work begins not with pushing toward exiles, but with safety, stability, and strengthening managers so the system can regulate more evenly. A key takeaway is the importance of cultivating Self energy as a form of resourcing. Tina notes that the amount of Self needed, the “critical mass of Self,” is relative to the intensity of the burden being held. Protectors often know what the system is ready for, and IFS invites us to trust them. As Tina emphasizes, IFS gives us a simple but profound instruction: “Just ask.”

Health Challenges for Her From Trauma and Recovery: How One Child Abuse Investigator Turned Pain Into Purpose. For more than two decades, she stood on the front lines of child protection in California, investigating some of the most disturbing cases of abuse and neglect imaginable. As a seasoned Child Abuse Investigator, she bore witness to the darkest corners of humanity, stories most people never hear, and few could carry without consequence. The Law Enforcement Talk Radio Show and Podcast social media like their Facebook , Instagram , LinkedIn , Medium and other social media platforms. Those consequences eventually arrived. Check out Her Podcast appearance, and content shared for free on the Law Enforcement Talk Radio Show and Podcast website, also on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube and most major podcast platforms. In the final year of her investigative career, Brandy Krueg was diagnosed with PTSD. The diagnosis forced her to confront a truth she had long postponed: the emotional weight of trauma does not disappear simply because the job is done. Supporting articles about this and much more from Law Enforcement Talk Radio Show and Podcast in platforms like Medium , Blogspot and Linkedin . “I was trained to protect children, not myself,” Brandy has said. “For years, I believed strength meant pushing through. I didn't realize how much I was carrying until my body and mind finally said, ‘Enough.'” Two Cases That Changed Everything Among the many investigations Brandy handled, two child abuse cases left an indelible mark on her mental health and recovery. One of those cases escalated into a devastating homicide, a tragedy that still echoes through her work today. Health Challenges for Her From Trauma and Recovery: How One Child Abuse Investigator Turned Pain Into Purpose. Available for free on the Law Enforcement Talk Radio Show and Podcast website, also on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Youtube and most major Podcast networks. “When a case ends in murder, it doesn't just close,” she explains. “It lives with you. You replay every decision, every report, every moment you wonder if something, anything, could have changed the outcome.” The emotional toll of repeated exposure to violence, abuse, and loss is well-documented among frontline professionals, yet often minimized. Brandy's experience highlights the health challenges for her from trauma and recovery, a reality shared by many investigators, first responders, and healthcare workers who silently shoulder cumulative trauma. From Investigator to Therapist Following her PTSD diagnosis, Brandy made a life-altering transition. Today, she is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) and practicing therapist, specializing in trauma recovery for frontline professionals and their families. Look for The Law Enforcement Talk Radio Show and Podcast on social media like their Facebook , Instagram , LinkedIn , Medium and other social media platforms. Based in California, Brandy now helps others navigate the very terrain she once crossed alone. “Healing didn't mean leaving my past behind,” she says. “It meant understanding it, and using it to help others survive theirs.” Health Challenges for Her From Trauma and Recovery. Her work as an in-house therapist with the Stockton Police Department places her alongside officers coping with stress, addiction, critical incidents, and cumulative trauma. Certified in First Responder Counseling, Critical Incident Stress Management (CCISM), and EMDR, Brandy delivers evidence-based care tailored to high-risk professions. A Childhood Marked by Abuse, and Survival Brandy's professional journey cannot be separated from her personal story. Raised by a teenage mother battling bipolar disorder and addiction, her childhood was marked by instability, emotional neglect, violent outbursts, and repeated abuse by trusted family friends. Available for free on their website and streaming on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Youtube and other podcast platforms. Her experiences reflect a painful reality often hidden behind closed doors, one that shapes both victims and the professionals who later serve them. “I didn't just investigate abuse,” Brandy writes. “I understood it.” That understanding would later become the foundation of her memoir, Turning Pain Into Purpose. Turning Pain Into Purpose: A Memoir of Trauma and Redemption In Turning Pain Into Purpose, Brandy chronicles her journey from a childhood defined by abuse, to a career immersed in trauma, and finally to a life rooted in healing and advocacy. The book is unflinching, deeply human, and profoundly hopeful. Health Challenges for Her From Trauma and Recovery. The Law Enforcement Talk Radio Show and Podcast episode is available for free on their website , Apple Podcasts , Spotify and most major podcast platforms. As she navigates unimaginable loss, the death of loved ones, and her sister's battle with addiction, Brandy becomes the protector she never had, first for herself, then for her children, and ultimately for others. “Trauma may shape us,” she writes, “but it does not get to define us.” The book has resonated widely across Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn, and has been featured in conversations spanning News outlets, The Law Enforcement Talk Radio Show and Podcast interview, and their platforms like Apple, Spotify, Youtube, Facebook, where Brandy speaks openly about trauma, recovery, and resilience. Advocacy, Education, and Healing Today, through Krueg Therapy Services, Brandy empowers individuals and organizations with trauma counseling, wellness training, leadership coaching, and education for frontline staff and supervisors. She also serves as a Trauma Social Worker in a Level 2 trauma emergency room and as an Emergency Response Social Worker with Sacramento County's Children's Protective Services. Her programs emphasize work-life balance, recovery, and sustainable resilience, tools she believes are essential for long-term survival in high-pressure careers. Health Challenges for Her From Trauma and Recovery. More information and the interview with him is available on the Law Enforcement Talk Radio Show and Podcast website also on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Youtube and other major platforms “We can't keep asking people to run into fires without teaching them how to recover from the burns,” Brandy says. A Voice for the Voiceless More than a memoir, Turning Pain Into Purpose is a beacon for those who feel broken, lost, or unheard. It speaks not only to survivors of abuse, but to professionals who carry trauma in silence, and to anyone searching for meaning after suffering. Brandy Krueg's story is proof that while trauma leaves scars, it can also create clarity, compassion, and purpose. Her life's work stands as a reminder that healing is possible, and that sometimes, the most powerful way forward is to turn pain into a platform for hope. You can find the show on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, X (formerly Twitter), and LinkedIn, as well as read companion articles and updates on Medium, Blogspot, YouTube, and even IMDB. Be sure to check out our website . Be sure to follow us on X , Instagram , Facebook, Pinterest, Linkedin and other social media platforms for the latest episodes and news. Background song Hurricane is used with permission from the band Dark Horse Flyer. You can contact John J. “Jay” Wiley by email at Jay@letradio.com , or learn more about him on their website . Find a wide variety of great podcasts online at The Podcast Zone Facebook Page , look for the one with the bright green logo. Health Challenges for Her From Trauma and Recovery: How One Child Abuse Investigator Turned Pain Into Purpose. Attributions Amazon Brandy Krueg Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Send us a textIn this New Year's episode, I explore the very real consequences of last year's Past Year Review. Most notably, I decided to retire from a beloved community mental health clinic and launch Park West Integrative Psychiatry — sparked by a desire for creativity, continued learning, and a growing belief in integrative trauma-informed approaches such as EMDR, Internal Family Systems, ketamine-assisted therapy, hypnosis, and breath-based practices.This episode reflects on how intentionally examining meaning and purpose can lead to significant life changes — changes that invite both opportunity and risk, excitement and fear.To close the episode, I share a recording of my retirement speech from the clinic, which turns into an unexpected sing-along and a fitting ritual for marking the end of one chapter and the beginning of another.Chapters0:13 — Nerves and a Big Career Pivot 0:52 — Last Year's Review and 2025 Intentions 1:46 — Leaving a Beloved Community Clinic 2:46 — Why Change Now, and What's Next 3:09 — New Directions in Trauma Treatment and Psychiatry 4:05 — Building Park West Integrative Psychiatry 5:02 — Fear, Complexity, and Finding Balance 6:00 — A Cautious Note on Year-End Reviews 6:20 — Reflections on Podcast Growth 7:06 — Upcoming Group Therapies and Retreats 7:54 — Yellowstone Lessons and Old Friends 8:40 — Gratitude, Global Listeners, and What's Next 9:11 — Retirement Speech and Sing-AlongSign up for the Developing Meaning Substack newsletter for updates and behind-the-scenes reflections.Theme music by The Thrashing Skumz. Developing Meaning is produced by Consilient Mind LLC.

Jan 23, 2026 - Brett HarppBrett Harpp, LMHC-D, known as The Haunted Therapist, is a licensed mental health counselor and trauma therapist who helps people heal from emotional “haunts”—the lingering memories, experiences, and unresolved trauma that continue to influence us long after they have passed. With a compassionate, grounded approach, Brett works with clients to safely explore the internal landscapes shaped by past experiences, offering tools to bring understanding, relief, and lasting emotional healing.Blending evidence-based therapies such as EMDR and parts work with powerful paranormal metaphors, Brett uniquely reframes trauma as something that can be acknowledged rather than feared. By exploring how the “ghosts” of the past show up in thoughts, behaviors, and emotional responses, she helps clients integrate these experiences instead of being controlled by them. Her work bridges psychology and symbolism, empowering people to reclaim their lives, find meaning in their stories, and move forward with strength and clarity.Spaced Out Radio is your nightly source for alternative information, starting at 9pm Pacific, 12am Eastern.  We broadcast LIVE every night. -------------------------------------------------------You can now join the Space Traveler's Club;Join us at  https://www.patreon.com/sor_space_travelers_club  --------------------------------------------------------Grab Our Latest Spaced Out Radio Gear At:http://spacedoutradio.com/shop  It's a great way to support our show!--------------------------------------------------------OUR LINKS:TWITTER: https://www.twitter.com/spacedoutradio   FACEBOOK:https://www.facebook.com/spacedoutradioshow  SPACED OUT RADIO - INSTAGRAM:https://www.instagram.com/spacedoutradioshow  DAVE SCOTT - INSTAGRAM:https://www.instagram.com/davescottsor   TWITCH: https://www.twitch.com/spacedoutradioshow  WEBSITE: http://www.spacedoutradio.comGUEST IDEAS OR QUESTIONS FOR SOR?Contact Klaus at bookings@spacedoutradio.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/spaced-out-radio--1657874/support.

Send us a textThe calls keep coming, but the solutions don't. We sit down with crisis clinician and EMDR therapist Morgan Yaskus to trace how a frayed safety net pushes first responders into impossible roles—and how that mismatch breeds moral injury. From long drives to the nearest DMV or ER to midnight discharges with no plan, we map the structural barriers that turn compassion into exhaustion and good intentions into public criticism.Morgan shares what mobile crisis teams can do well—resolving most calls on scene, staying with families after deaths, and offering a humane handoff—and where policy still ties everyone's hands. We talk about the revolving door of brief psychiatric evaluations, the bureaucratic maze of IDs and benefits, and the social media spotlight that amplifies one bad moment over a hundred quiet saves. Small towns feel this even harder: everyone knows everyone, scanners travel fast, and rumors outrun the facts.We also get practical. Morgan explains how EMDR intensives can speed recovery from single‑incident trauma, why embedded wellness trainings reduce stigma, and how family wellness programs give spouses and kids tools to navigate shift work, hypervigilance, and communication breakdowns. The theme isn't “do more with less.” It's “build a system that holds what responders are asked to carry,” with warm handoffs, guaranteed short holds, transport support, and streamlined ID recovery to break the cycle.If you care about first responder mental health, this conversation is a map and a motivator. Listen, share with your team, and send this to someone who thinks burnout is a willpower issue. Then tap follow, leave a quick review to help others find the show, and tell us: what single policy change would make the biggest difference where you live?To contact Morgan, go to her website at www.bewildandrooted.comFreed.ai: We'll Do Your SOAP Notes!Freed AI converts conversations into SOAP note.Use code Steve50 for $50 off the 1st month!Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the showYouTube Channel For The Podcast

In this powerful Listener Series episode of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast, Kayleigh is joined by Andrea, who shares her story of an unexpected pregnancy complicated by severe placenta accreta, a nine-hour delivery surgery, massive hemorrhage, ICU recovery, and a long, complex postpartum healing journey.Andrea walks listeners through receiving a terrifying accreta diagnosis at her anatomy scan, navigating the fear of life-threatening hemorrhage, and making the critical decision to transfer care to a specialized accreta center. Her story highlights the importance of self-advocacy, multidisciplinary care, and listening to your instincts, especially when your life is on the line.This episode also tenderly explores the emotional aftermath of survival: delayed bonding after general anesthesia, prolonged separation from her baby, months of physical complications, depression, and the long road to processing trauma once the body finally stabilizes.In this episode, we discuss:

Join us for an insightful conversation with Amy Moore, the clinic director at the Steven A. Cohen Military Family Clinic at Red Rock. In this episode, Cam and Otis explore Amy's dedication to supporting military families through trauma-informed care and her leadership in clinical programming."Find out who you are and do it on purpose," Amy shares, reflecting on her journey from a military family background to leading a clinic dedicated to veterans and their families. With expertise in cognitive processing therapy and EMDR, Amy discusses the unique challenges faced by service members and the importance of empathy and resilience in behavioral health.Whether you're interested in mental health, leadership, or veteran support, Amy's insights offer valuable lessons on compassion and purposeful living.Amy Moore is the clinic director at the Steven A. Cohen Military Family Clinic at Red Rock in Colorado Springs. She is responsible for overseeing all clinical programming and operations. Amy is a Licensed Professional Counselor. She graduated from The University of Colorado, Colorado Springs with an M.A. in Counseling and Human Services. Amy completed her B.A. in Pastoral Care at Oral Roberts University in Tulsa, OK.Amy has experience providing therapy to people across the life span, from ages 5-75. She specializes in trauma-informed care and is trained in cognitive processing therapy and EMDR. Prior to coming on board with CVN, Amy was the manager of behavioral health case management for Colorado's Medicaid contract. Amy was also previously a Clinical Supervisor for Diversus Behavioral Health at their Child and Family Outpatient Clinic.Amy's father is a retired Air Force member, and she has been fortunate enough to live across the world before her family settled in Colorado Springs, CO. She has lived in the Colorado Springs community for over 20 years and has seen the hardships that veterans, service members, and their families have had to face. She is so grateful and excited to be a part of this incredible mission to serve them. In her free time, Amy enjoys skiing, hiking, cooking, lifting weights at the gy,m and earning massive eye rolls at her terrible “dad jokes”. (Just ask her team!)Her favorite quote is “Find out who you are and do it on purpose” – Dolly Parton#10xyourteam #VeteranSupport #MilitaryFamilies #TraumaInformedCare #BehavioralHealth #MentalHealthLeadership #PurposeDrivenLeadership #ServingThoseWhoServe #ResilientLeaders #ClinicalLeadership #CompassionInActionChapter Times and Titles:Introduction to Amy Moore and Her Mission [00:00 - 08:30]Overview of Amy's background and role at the clinicThe mission of the Steven A. Cohen Military Family ClinicUnderstanding Trauma-Informed Care [08:31 - 22:15]Defining trauma-informed care in clinical settingsThe role of EMDR and cognitive processing therapyLeading a Clinical Team with Empathy [22:16 - 35:40]Overseeing clinical programming and operationsThe importance of team cohesion and supportFinding Identity and Purpose [35:41 - 48:20]Applying Dolly Parton's wisdom to leadershipBalancing professional responsibilities with personal passionsClosing Thoughts and Key Takeaways [48:21 - End]Supporting the mission of the Cohen ClinicFinal leadership insights and how to connect with AmyConnect with Sean Garnerhttps://www.cohenveteransnetwork.org/

Andrea is a mother of two and a therapist with 11 years of experience. She specializes in working with people in pregnancy, postpartum, and early parenthood, specifically in using EMDR and IFS to help empower them on their journeys toward healing from trauma and finding peace in their relationships with food and body. Andrea has her own private psychotherapy practice, Wetterau Wellness, provides IFS-informed EMDR consultation to fellow therapists, and loves spending her free time with friends and family. CONNECT WITH DVORA ENTIN: Website: https://www.dvoraentin.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dvoraentin YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@misconceptionspodcast  

Heal Trauma & Receive Blessings from Your Ancestors via Dreams. Imagine a dreamscape where you can connect with your ancestors, identify inherited patterns that cause you pain, and heal them while also gaining ancestral blessings. With this first-of-its-kind book, it's possible to do all that and more. Featuring dozens of exercises and personal stories that enhance your understanding, this book takes you on a healing journey from grief to peace and healthy connection with your departed loved ones. You can even pass healing energy to future generations.Linda Yael Schiller teaches you how to tap into the consciousness of your dreams―both in sleep and sleep-adjacent practices such as trance, meditation, and guided imagery. Whether you practice alone or with a group, this book helps you dream the world you hope for into being.Linda Yael Schiller, MSW, LICSW, (Watertown, MA) is a mind-body and spiritual psychotherapist, consultant, author, and international teacher. She is the author of Modern Dreamwork and PTSDreams. Linda facilitates group dream circles, provides individual, group and corporate consultation, and trains professionals on working with dreams. She has designed several innovative methods for dreamwork. Linda is trained in numerous mind-body methods such as EMDR, EFT, energy psychology, Enneagram, and integrated trauma treatments. In addition to her professional work with dreams, she has been involved with her own dream-sharing group for more than forty years.https://lindayaelschiller.com/Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/earth-ancients--2790919/support.

Today I welcome David Politi, Bruce Hersey, and Joanne Twombly on the podcast to talk about their new book, IFS-Informed EMDR: Creative and Collaborative Appraoches. We talk about why this book is needed, what it took to bring together more than 20 contributors, and why integrating these models can create more options, more flexibility, and more hope for clients.  We talk about: Bringing together 21 contributors and creating a true community project Why integration can help when clients get stuck in one modality The idea that there is a natural, underlying healing process beyond any single model  Coping skills, resourcing, and the diverging views on when and how to use them  Joanne's "fire drill" and using IFS to work with therapist countertransference  Why strong foundational training in both IFS and EMDR matters before integrating them  The belief that there is no "perfect model," and that relationship and Self Energy matter most  There's a lot of heart here, a lot of theory, and a lot of love for clients, the field, and each other. I'm excited for you to listen, and be sure to catch my extended interview with them over on Substack. About the Guests Bruce Hersey, LCSW is widely recognized for his work integrating EMDR and IFS. Together with Michelle Richardson, he created the Syzygy Institute, which offers training and certification in IIE. Bruce is an Approved Consultant in EMDR and an IFS Approved Clinical Consultant, providing individual and group IFS and IIE consultation. He has led numerous IFS workshops and presented at the IFS International Conference, as well as EMDRIA and international EMDR conferences.  www.syzygyinstitute.com, www.brucehersey.com, and www.emdrifs.com. David Polidi, LICSW, M.Ed. is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker and a Certified EMDR Consultant in Training, and has also been trained in IFS. He has worked with children and families since 2000 and has been in private practice for the past five years. David developed and facilitates the online couples workshop Deepen the Conversation, and hosts the podcast Empowered Through Compassion, where he speaks with innovators in psychology about integrating EMDR, IFS, and other trauma-healing approaches. www.empoweredthroughcompassion.com. Joanne H. Twombly, LICSW is a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker with over thirty years of experience working with Complex PTSD and Dissociative Disorders. She is a Certified EMDR Consultant and an IFS Certified Therapist. Joanne is a Trauma and Recovery Humanitarian Assistance Program Facilitator and a Clinical Hypnosis Consultant. She is the past president of the New England Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation and has received a Distinguished Achievement Award from the International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation, where she is also an ISSTD Fellow. Joanne recently published Trauma and Dissociation Informed Internal Family Systems: How to Successfully Treat Complex PTSD and Dissociative Disorders. www.joannetwombly.net. About The One Inside I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Seven years later, that's still at the heart of all we do.  Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, extended interviews, meditations, and more. Find Self-Led merch at The One Inside store. Listen to episodes and watch clips on YouTube. Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger. I co-create The One Inside with Jeff Schrum, a Level 2 IFS practitioner and coach. Resources New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start. Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get "Get to Know a Should Part" right away. Sponsorship Want to sponsor an episode of The One Inside? Email Tammy. 

We look at trying to see ourselves accurately using step four from recovery.Our website is HERE:  System Speak Podcast.You can submit an email to the podcast HERE.Content Note: Content on this website and in the podcasts is assumed to be trauma and/or dissociative related due to the nature of what is being shared here in general.  Content descriptors are generally given in each episode.  Specific trigger warnings are not given due to research reporting this makes triggers worse.  Please use appropriate self-care and your own safety plan while exploring this website and during your listening experience.  Natural pauses due to dissociation have not been edited out of the podcast, and have been left for authenticity.  While some professional material may be referenced for educational purposes, Emma and her system are not your therapist nor offering professional advice.  Any informational material shared or referenced is simply part of our own learning process, and not guaranteed to be the latest research or best method for you.  Please contact your therapist or nearest emergency room in case of any emergency.  This website does not provide any medical, mental health, or social support services. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Behind the Mic is where we slow the conversation down.In this premium episode, we speak candidly about dissociation during and after divorce—not in clinical terms, and not from a distance, but from inside our own lived experience.This is a quieter, more intimate conversation about the ways women cope when life becomes overwhelming… and how easy it is to miss what's really happening while you're busy surviving.We talk about:The moment you realize something has been operating under the surfaceWhy certain habits, patterns, and “coping strategies” feel hard to changeThe difference between functioning and actually being presentHow the body protects us long before the mind understands what's happeningThis episode isn't about fixing anything or tying it up neatly.It's about noticing.Getting curious.And letting yourself hear something you may not have had words for yet.If you've ever felt like you're doing all the right things after divorce but still feel oddly disconnected… If you've ever wondered why certain patterns keep repeating… If you sense there's more happening beneath the surface than you've been able to name…This conversation is for you.As always, Behind the Mic is raw, personal, and meant to be experienced—not skimmed.

Kelly Nenezian is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, EMDR Certified Therapist, and Bioenergetic Trainer who helps clients move beyond surface-level coping into deep, embodied healing. She is the founder and president of Gainesville Healing House, a thriving somatic psychotherapy practice where she also supervises and mentors emerging clinicians.Kelly integrates EMDR, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, and Bioenergetic Analysis in her work with adolescents, adults, and seniors. She also serves as a trainer and director with the Florida Society of Bioenergetic Analysis. The author of Raised to be a Soldier, Kelly explores how childhood trauma can armor us for survival—and how we can learn to live, feel, and connect again.In This EpisodeKelly's websiteKelly in IGRaised to be a SoldierBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-trauma-therapist--5739761/support.You can learn more about what I do here:The Trauma Therapist Newsletter: celebrates the people and voices in the mental health profession. And it's free! Check it out here: https://bit.ly/4jGBeSa———If you'd like to support The Trauma Therapist Podcast and the work I do you can do that here with a monthly donation of $5, $7, or $10: Donate to The Trauma Therapist Podcast.Click here to join my email list and receive podcast updates and other news.Thank you to our Sponsors:Jane App - use code GUY1MO at https://jane.appArizona Trauma Institute at https://aztrauma.org/

Welcome to a powerful episode of Strong Mind, Strong Body hosted by Angie Miller! This week, Angie is joined by trauma therapist and EMDR specialist Suzanne Wiseman to unpack the *real* meaning of trauma—and explore effective, science-backed approaches to healing.

Birth is good.And birth is not tame.Birth is holy and wild. It is powerful, unpredictable, and not something we can fully control or make “safe” in the way modern culture often promises. When we forget that, we can be left confused or unprepared for how deeply a birth experience might impact us—even when everything looks fine from the outside.In this episode, we're talking about the difference between disappointment and trauma in birth. Disappointment often comes from unmet hopes or expectations. Trauma goes deeper. Trauma is a deeply distressing experience—or series of experiences—that overwhelms the nervous system and leaves a lasting imprint on the body, the mind, and our sense of safety.And trauma is not defined by what happened on a chart.It's defined by how the experience was received in the body.We talk about why it's so important to process hard or intense birth experiences, and why this work should be done with someone who understands both birth and trauma. Not someone who rushes to silver linings or spiritual bypassing—but someone who knows how to sit with the body's story and help it integrate what happened.We share supportive tools that can help the nervous system come back into regulation, including:Bilateral stimulation (EMDR, binaural tracks, walking, brainspotting, butterfly hug/tapping)Shaking and gentle movement to release stored stressEFT / tappingSimple supports like nourishment, warm baths, flower essences, rest, and deep gentleness with yourselfWe also touch on surprisingly practical tools like playing Tetris in the early aftermath of a hard experience, which has been shown to support memory integration.This conversation includes pieces of our own stories:Lauren's interrupted third stageBrooke's manual placenta removalBoth moments where necessary intervention still left an imprint that required care, time, and compassion to heal.We also talk about prevention—how having the right team, realistic expectations, and emotional support can cushion the wildness of birth. Birth does not need to be controlled to be held well. But it does need to be witnessed, respected, and supported.This episode is an invitation to approach birth honestly:to honor it as good, holy, and life-giving—and to acknowledge that its wildness sometimes leaves tender places that deserve gentleness, care, and wise support.Connect:Email us to say hi: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠holywildbirth@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Put in a request for future topics and/or submit a question for future Q&A episodes: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out the form⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apply to tell your birth story on the podcast: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Holy Wild Birth Podcast : Guest Application⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Hang out with us and other Holy Wild Women in our private community (off Facebook): ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rooted in Eden PMA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Become a holy, wild birthkeeper with us inside ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Hearthmother Journey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠From Lauren:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Midwifery consults: Email  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠rootedinedenpma@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠From Brooke:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Trust God, Trust Birth Workshop⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ - a 5-part high-level roadmap to a confident home birth (pay what you can)⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Faith-Filled Home Birth Workshop ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠- a free, 3-part video series delivered to your inbox⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Embrace Birth Journey ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠- comprehensive and holistic faith-based home birth preparation (courses + private community)Intro and Outra Music Credit -Betty Dear By ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Blue Dot Sessions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ is licensed under a ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Creative Commons License⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

In this episode, I sit down with Cassidy DuHadway, author of "Becoming Me," to talk about religious trauma as complex trauma. We dig into how growing up in systems that demand you not be yourself creates deep attachment wounds, shame spirals, and an outsourcing of your internal knowing.Cassidy breaks down what religious trauma actually is, how it shows up in adult relationships, and why leaving or deconstructing your faith creates such profound grief and identity loss. We talk about the cost of purity culture, the weight of intergenerational patterns, and what it takes to rebuild when everything you knew gets questioned.This conversation is for anyone who's felt the quiet pressure to conform, who's carried shame that never quite made sense, or who's grieving what could have been if they'd had different choices earlier in life.About Cassidy DuHadway: Cassidy DuHadway, LCSW, is a trauma therapist, EMDR Approved Trainer, and author of "Becoming Me: Unraveling and Healing the Sacred Wounds of Religious Trauma." She specializes in complex trauma and emotional neglect and is the CEO of Purple Sky Counseling in Utah.Connect with Cassidy:Follow Cassidy on Instagram: @therapywithcassidyCheck out her website: cassidyduhadway.comPurchase her book: "Becoming Me: Unraveling and Healing The Sacred Wounds of Religious TraumaLearn more about her Utah therapy practice and work with her team: Purple Sky CounselingThanks for listening to The Complex Trauma Podcast! Be sure to follow, share and give us a review on your favorite podcast platform. Follow on Instagram: @sarahherstichlcsw Follow on TikTok: @sarahherstichlcsw Learn more about EMDR & trauma therapy in Pennsylvania with Reclaim Therapy This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for professional medical, psychological, or nutritional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Remember, I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. Nothing in this podcast is meant to replace actual therapy or treatment. If you're in crisis or things feel really unsafe right now, please reach out to someone. You can call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, text them, or head to your nearest ER. The views expressed by the host and guests are their own and do not represent the opinions of any organizations or institutions. Reliance on any information provided by this podcast is solely at your own risk.

If you're in divorce recovery and keep reaching for food, screens, or emotional numbness, it's easy to assume the problem is discipline.It's not.In today's episode, we talk about what's actually running underneath those patterns: everyday dissociation — the high-functioning, easy-to-miss kind that hides inside coping, productivity, and “getting through the day.” Divorce doesn't just end a relationship; it changes how present you are able to stay with your own life.This matters because dissociation doesn't feel dramatic...it feels normal. And when it's running, healing stays intellectual instead of embodied. You can understand your patterns, do the work, and still feel stuck because the part of you that needs to feel and integrate isn't fully online.We unpack how dissociation shows up as overeating, doom scrolling, brain fog, emotional flatness, and burnout — and why learning to spot what happens before those behaviors is often the difference between staying in cycles and actually moving forward.We also share practical ways to recognize dissociation in real time, plus listener Small Wins, Big Shifts that show what changes when you stop managing your healing and start experiencing it.Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MyCoachDawnInstagram: (@dawnwiggins)Instagram: (@coachtiffini)On the Web: https://www.mycoachdawn.comA podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.Support the show✨Join the Cocoon Community - your people are waiting! ✨ Stress-Less Flower Essence

In today's episode, Trisha and I answer three powerful listener questions that so many women quietly struggle with. We talk about family estrangement — what's really happening when an adult child cuts off communication, the deep hurt and confusion it causes on all sides, and whether these breakdowns can be prevented or gently repaired. We also dive into long-term social anxiety. One listener shares her experience of living with anxiety since her teens, how bullying shaped her fear of speaking up, and the toll it's taking on a job she genuinely loves. We explore why “just pushing yourself” often makes things worse, what's happening in the nervous system, and what can actually help when anxiety feels overwhelming and ingrained. Finally, we look at people-pleasing and over-performing in conversations — the urge to say the right thing, be liked, keep the peace, and carry the emotional load — and why these patterns are so hard to break, even when you're aware of them. As always, Trisha McHale brings a compassionate, practical psychotherapist lens to each question, helping you understand what's really going on beneath the surface — and where real change starts. If you've ever felt stuck in patterns that feel exhausting, confusing, or out of your control, click play and let's dive in.   To apply for membership to Jessica's Thrive Academy go to www.jessicacooke.ie/apply To contact Trisha for more information on Therapy and Counselling services: galway@mindandbodyworks.com 091 725 750 About Trisha MacHale: Trisha is a Psychotherapist and Director of Mind & Body Works Counselling and Psychotherapy Centre, based in Galway, with centres in Galway and Dublin. Their team of over 50 Psychotherapists and Psychologists work with adults, couples, adolescents, and children, offering therapies including CBT, EMDR, and Art Therapy. They also run a low-cost counselling service. Click play and let's dive in.

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Episode Notes This week on Live Like the World is Dying, we have another re-run episode. Margaret and Smokey talk about ways to go about mental first aid, how to alter responses to trauma for you self and as a community, different paths to resiliency, and why friendship and community are truly the best medicine. Host Info Margaret can be found on twitter @magpiekilljoy or instagram at @margaretkilljoy. Publisher Info This show is published by Strangers in A Tangled Wilderness. We can be found at www.tangledwilderness.org, or on Twitter @TangledWild and Instagram @Tangled_Wilderness. You can support the show on Patreon at www.patreon.com/strangersinatangledwilderness. Transcript LLWD:Smokey on Mental First Aid Margaret 00:15 Hello and welcome to Live Like the World is Dying, your podcast are what feels like the end times. I'm your host, Margaret killjoy. And, this week or month...or let's just go with 'episode'. This episode is going to be all about mental health and mental health first aid and ways to take care of your mental health and ways to help your community and your friends take care of their mental health, and I think you'll like it. But first, this podcast is a proud member of the Channel Zero network of anarchists podcasts. And here's a jingle from another show on the network. Margaret 01:52 Okay, with me today is Smokey. Smokey, could you introduce yourself with your your name, your pronouns, and I guess a little bit about your background about mental health stuff? Smokey 02:04 Sure, I'm Smokey. I live and work in New York City. My pronouns are 'he' and 'him.' For 23 years, I've been working with people managing serious mental illness in an intentional community, I have a degree in psychology, I have taught psychology at the University level, I have been doing social work for a long time, but I've been an anarchist longer. Margaret 02:43 So so the reason I want to have you on is I want to talk about mental health first aid, or I don't know if that's the way it normally gets expressed, but that's the way I see it in my head. Like how are...I guess it's a big question, but I'm interested in exploring ways that we can, as bad things happen that we experience, like some of the best practices we can do in order to not have that cause lasting mental harm to us. Which is a big question. But maybe that's my first question anyway. Smokey 03:12 I mean, the, the truth is bad things will happen to us. It's part of living in the world, and if you are a person that is heavily engaged in the world, meaning, you know, you're involved in politics, or activism, or even just curious about the world, you will probably be exposed on a more regular basis to things that are bad, that can traumatize us. But even if you're not involved in any of those things, you're going to go through life and have really difficult things happen to you. Now, the good news is, that's always been the case for people. We've always done this. And the good news is, we actually know a lot about what goes into resilience. So, how do you bounce back quickly and hopefully thrive after these experiences? I think that is an area that's only now being really examined in depth. But, we have lots of stories and some research to show that actually when bad things happen to us, there is an approach that actually can help catalyst really impressive strength and move...change our life in a really positive direction. We also know that for most people, they have enough reserve of resiliency that....and they can draw upon other resiliency that they're not chronically affected by it, however, and I would argue how our society is kind of structured, we're seeing more and more people that are suffering from very serious chronic effects of, what you said, bad things happening, or what is often traumatic things but it's not just traumatic things that cause chronic problems for us. But, that is the most kind of common understanding so, so while most people with most events will not have a chronic problem, and you can actually really use those problems, those I'm sorry, those events, let's call them traumatic events, those traumatic events they'll really actually improve your thriving, improve your life and your relationship to others in the world. The fact is, currently, it's an ever growing number of people that are having chronic problems. And that's because of the system. Margaret 06:19 Yeah, there's this like, there was an essay a while ago about it, I don't remember it very well, but it's called "We Are Also Very Anxious," and it it was claiming that anxiety is one of the general affects of society today, because of kind of what you're talking about, about systems that set us up to be anxious all the time and handle things in... Smokey 06:42 I think what most people don't understand is, it is consciously, in the sense that it's not that necessarily it's the desire to have the end goal of people being anxious, and people being traumatized, but it is conscious in that we know this will be the collateral outcome of how we set up the systems. That I think is fairly unique and and really kind of pernicious. Margaret 07:17 What are some of the systems that are setting us up to be anxious or traumatized? Smokey 07:23 Well, I'm gonna reverse it a little bit, Margaret. I'm going to talk about what are the things we need to bounce back or have what has been called 'resilience,' and then you and I can explore how our different systems actually make us being able to access that much more difficult. Margaret 07:47 Okay. Oh, that makes sense. Smokey 07:49 The hallmark of resiliency, ironically, is that it's not individual. Margaret 07:57 Okay. Smokey 07:57 In fact, if you look at the research, there are very few, there's going to be a couple, there's gonna be three of them, but very few qualities of an individual psychology or makeup that is a high predictor of resiliency. Margaret 08:20 Okay. Smokey 08:21 And these three are kind of, kind of vague in the sense they're not, they're not terribly dramatic, in a sense. One is, people that tend to score higher on appreciation of humor, tends to be a moderate predictor of resiliency. Margaret 08:46 I like that one. Smokey 08:47 You don't have to be funny yourself. But you can appreciate humor. Seems to be a....and this is tends to be a cross cultural thing. It's pretty low. There are plenty of people that that score very low on that, that also have resiliency. That's the other thing, I'll say that these three personality traits are actually low predictors of resiliency. Margaret 09:13 Compared to the immunity ones that you're gonna talk about? Smokey 09:16 So one is appreciation of humor seems to be one. So, these are intrinsic things that, you know, maybe we got from our family, but but we hold them in ourselves, right? The second one is usually kind of put down as 'education.' And there tends to be a reverse bell curve. If you've had very, very low education, you tend to be more resilient. If you've had extreme professionalization, you know, being a doctor, being a lawyer, well, not even being a lawyer, because that's the only...but many, many years of schooling, PhD things like that, it's not what you study. There's something about... Smokey 10:10 Yeah, or that you didn't. They're almost equal predictors of who gets traumatized. And then the the last one is kind of a 'sense of self' in that it's not an ego strength as we kind of understand it, but it is an understanding of yourself. The people that take the surveys, that they score fairly high....So I give you a survey and say, "What do you think about Smokey on these different attributes?" You give me a survey and say, "Smokey, how would you rate yourself on these different attributes?" Margaret 10:11 It's that you studied. Margaret 10:32 Okay. Smokey 10:59 So, it's suggesting that I have some self-reflexivity about what my strengths and weaknesses are. I can only know that because they're married by these also. Margaret 11:11 Okay. So it's, it's not about you rating yourself high that makes you resilient, it's you rating yourself accurately tohow other people see you. Smokey 11:18 And again, I want to stress that these are fairly low predictors. Now, you'll read a million books, kind of pop like, or the, these other ones. But when you actually look at the research, it's not, you know, it's not that great. So those..however, the ones that are big are things like 'robustness of the social network.' So how many relations and then even more, if you go into depth, 'what are those relationships' and quantity does actually create a certain level of quality, interestingly, especially around things called 'micro-social interactions,' which are these interactions that we don't even think of as relationships, maybe with storepersons, how many of these we have, and then certain in depth, having that combined with a ring of kind of meaningful relationships. And meaningful meaning not necessarily who is most important to me, but how I share and, and share my emotions and my thoughts and things like that. So, there's a lot on that. That is probably the strongest predictor of resilience. Another big predictor of resilience is access to diversity in our social networks. So, having diverse individuals tend to give us more resiliency, and having 'time,' processing time, also gives us more...are high predictors of resiliency, the largest is a 'sense of belonging.' Margaret 13:14 Okay. Smokey 13:15 So that trauma...events that affect our sense of belonging, and this is why children who have very limited opportunities to feel a sense of belonging, which are almost always completely limited, especially for very young children to the family, if that is cut off due to the trauma, or it's already dysfunctional and has nothing to do with the trauma, that sense of belonging, that lack of sense of belonging makes it very difficult to maintain resilience. So. So those are the things that, in a nutshell, we're going to be talking about later about 'How do we improve these?' and 'How do we maximize?' And 'How do we leverage these for Mental Health First Aid?' We can see how things like the internet, social media, capitalism, you know, kind of nation state building, especially as we understand it today, all these kinds of things errode a lot of those things that we would want to see in building resilient people. Margaret 14:28 Right. Smokey 14:28 And, you know, making it more difficult to access those things that we would need. Margaret 14:34 No, that's...this...Okay, yeah, that makes it obvious that the answer to my question of "What are the systems that deny us resiliency?" are just all of this. Yeah, because we're like....most people don't have...there's that really depressing statistic or the series of statistics about the number of friends that adults have in our society, and how it keeps going down every couple of decades. Like, adults just have fewer and fewer friends. And that... Smokey 15:00 The number, the number is the same for children, though too. Margaret 15:05 Is also going down, is what you're saying? Smokey 15:07 Yes. They have more than adults. But compared to earlier times, they have less. So, the trend is not as steep as a trendline. But, but it is still going down. And more importantly, there was a big change with children at one point, and I'm not sure when it historically happened. But, the number of people they interacted with, was much more diverse around age. Margaret 15:39 Oh, interesting. Smokey 15:40 So they had access to more diversity. Margaret 15:43 Yeah, yeah. When you talk about access to diversity, I assume that's diversity in like a lot of different axis, right? I assume that's diversity around like people's like cultural backgrounds, ethnic backgrounds, age. Like, but even like... Smokey 15:56 Modes of thought. Margaret 15:58 Yeah, well, that's is my guess, is that if you're around more people, you have more of an understanding that like, reality is complicated, and like different people see things in different ways. And so therefore, you have a maybe a less rigid idea of what should happen. So, then if something happens outside of that, you're more able to cope, or is this...does... like, because I look at each of these things and I can say why I assume they affect resiliency, but obviously, that's not what you're presenting, you're not presenting how they affect resiliency, merely that they seem to? Smokey 16:34 Yeah, and I don't know, if we know exactly how they affect, and we don't know how they...the effect of them together, you know, social sciences, still pretty primitive. So they, they need to look at single variables, often. But you know, we know with chemistry and biology and ecology, which I think are a little more sophisticated...and physics, which is more sophisticated. The real interesting stuff is in the combinations. Margaret 17:09 Yeah. Okay. Smokey 17:10 So what happens when you have, you know, diversity, but also this diverse and robust social network? Is that really an addition? Or is that a multiplication moment? For resiliency. Margaret 17:23 Right. And then how does that affect like, if that comes at the expense of...well, it probably wouldn't, but if it came at the expense of processing time or something. Smokey 17:33 Exactly. Margaret 17:35 Or, like, you know, okay, I could see how it would balance with education in that, like, I think for a lot of people the access to diversity that they encounter first is like going off to college, right, like meeting people from like, different parts of the world, or whatever. Smokey 17:49 I forgot to mention one other one, but it is, 'meaning.' Meaning is very important. People that score high, or report, meaning deep, kind of core meaning also tend to have higher resiliency. That being said, they...and don't, don't ever confuse resiliency with like, happiness or contentment. It just means that the dysfunction or how far you're knocked off track due to trauma, and we're, we're using trauma in the larger sense of the word, you know, how long it takes you to get back on track, or whether you can even get back on track to where you were prior to the event is what we're talking about. So it's not, this is not a guide to happiness or living a fulfilled life. It's just a guide to avoid the damage. Margaret 19:01 But if we made one that was a specifically a 'How to have a happy life,' I feel like we could sell it and then have a lot of money.Have you considered that? [lauging] Smokey 19:11 Well one could argue whether that's even desirable to have a happy life. That's a whole philosophical thing. That's well beyond my paygrade Margaret 19:22 Yeah, every now and then I have this moment, where I realized I'm in this very melancholy mood, and I'm getting kind of kind of happy about it. And I'm like, "Oh, I'm pretty comfortable with this. This is a nice spot for me." I mean, I also like happiness, too, but you know. Okay, so, this certainly implies that the, the way forward for anyone who's attempting to build resiliency, the sort of holistic solution is building community. Like in terms of as bad stuff happens. Is that... Smokey 19:58 Community that's...and community not being just groups. Okay, so you can, I think, you know, the Internet has become an expert at creating groups. There lots of groups. But community, or communitas or the sense of belonging is more than just a shared interest and a shared knowledge that there's other like-minded people. You'll hear the internet was great for like minded people to get together. But, the early internet was really about people that were sharing and creating meaning together. And I think that was very powerful. That, you know, that seems harder to access on today's Internet, and certainly the large social media platforms are consciously designed to achieve certain modes of experience, which do not lend themselves to that. Margaret 21:06 Right, because it's like the...I don't know the word for this. Smokey 21:10 It's Capitalism. Like, yeah, we're hiding the ball. The ball is Capitalism. Margaret 21:14 Yeah. Smokey 21:14 And how they decided to go with an advertising model as opposed to any other model, and that requires attention. Margaret 21:21 Yeah. Because it seems like when you talk about a robust social network, I mean, you know, theoretically, social network, like social networks, you know, Twitter calls itself a social network, right? And is there anything in the micro social interactions that one has online? Is there value in that? Or do you think that the overall...I mean, okay, because even like looking at... Smokey 21:46 I think there has to be value, I think, yeah, they did. I was reading just today, actually, about research, it was in England, with...this one hospital decided to send postcards to people who had been hospitalized for suicidal attempts. Margaret 22:09 Okay. Smokey 22:10 Most of them ended up in the mental health thing, some of them didn't, because they they left beyond, you know, against medical advice, or whatever. But, anyone that came in presenting with that a month, and then three months later, they sent another postcard just saying, "You know, we're all thinking about you, we're hoping you're all you're doing, alright. We have faith in you," that kind of thing like that, right. Nice postcard, purposely chosen to have a nice scene, sent it out. And they followed up, and they found a significant reduction in further attempts, rehospitalizations of these people, so that's a very, you know, there's no, it's a one way communication, it's not person-to-person, and it had some impact on I would guess one could argue the resiliency of those people from giving into suicidal ideation. Right. Margaret 23:13 Yeah. Smokey 23:14 So I think this is to say that, you know, we'd be...unplugging the internet, you know, that kind of Luddite approach doesn't make sense. There is a value to answer your question to the the internet's micro social interactions. It's just we...it's complicated, because you can't just have micro-social interactions unfortunately, but you need them. Margaret 23:44 Yeah. No, that that's really interesting to me, because yeah, so there's, there is a lot of value that is coming from these things, but then the overall effect is this like, like, for example, even like access to diversity, right? In a lot of ways, theoretically, the Internet gives you access to like everything. But then, instead, it's really designed to create echo chambers in the way that the algorithms and stuff feed people information. And echo chambers of thought is the opposite of diversity, even if the echo chamber of thought is like about diversity. Smokey 24:16 Yeah, I mean, it's set up again, almost as if it were to kind of naturally organically grow, we would probably have just as chaotic and and people would still just be as angry at the Internet, but it probably would develop more resilience in people. Because it wouldn't be stunted by this need to attract attention. The easiest way to do that is through outrage. Easiest way to do that is quickly and fast, so it takes care of your processing time. And relative anonymity is the coin of these kinds of things, you know, that's why bots and things like that, you know, they're not even humans, right? You know, they're just...so all these kinds of things stunt and deform, what could potentially be useful, not a silver bullet, and certainly not necessary to develop resiliency, strong resiliency. You don't need the internet to do that. And there are certain...using the internet, you know, there's going to be certain serious limitations because of the design, how it's designed. Margaret 25:42 Okay, well, so hear me out. If the internet really started coming in latter half of the 20th century, that kind of lines up to when cloaks went out of style.... Smokey 25:54 Absolutely, that's our big problem. And they haven't done any research on cloak and resiliency. Margaret 26:00 I feel that everyone who wears a cloak either has a sense of belonging, or a distinct lack of a sense of belonging. Probably start off with a lack of sense of belonging, but you end up with a sense of belonging So, okay, okay. Smokey 26:15 So I want to say that there's two things that people confuse and a very important. One, is how to prevent chronic effects from traumatic experiences. And then one is how to take care of, if you already have or you you develop a chronic effect of traumatic experiences. Nothing in the psychology literature, sociology literature, anthropology literature, obviously, keeps you from having traumatic experiences. Margaret 26:52 Right. Smokey 26:54 So one is how to prevent it from becoming chronic, and one is how to deal with chronic and they're not the same, they're quite, quite different. So you know, if you already have a chronic traumatic response of some sort, post traumatic stress syndrome, or any of the other related phenomena, you will approach that quite differently than building resilience, which doesn't protect you from having trauma, a traumatic experience. It just allows you to frame it, understand it, maybe if you're lucky, thrive and grow from it. But at worst, get you back on track in not having any chronic problems. Margaret 27:48 Okay, so it seems like there's three things, there's the holistic, building a stronger base of having a community, being more resilient in general. And then there's the like direct first aid to crisis and trauma, and then there's the long term care for the impacts of trauma. Okay, so if so, we've talked a bit about the holistic part of it, you want to talk about the the crisis, the thing to do in the immediate sense as it's happening or whatever? Smokey 28:15 For yourself or for somebody else? Margaret 28:18 Let's start with self. Smokey 28:20 So, self is go out and connect to your social network as much as you can, which is the opposite of what your mind and body is telling you. And that's why I think so much of the quote unquote, "self-care" movement is so wrong. You kind of retreat from your social network, things are too intense, I'm going to retreat from your social network. The research suggests that's the opposite of what you should be doing, you should connect. Now, if you find yourself in an unenviable situation where you don't have a social network, then you need to connect to professionals, because they, they can kind of fill in for that social Network. Therapists, social workers, peer groups, support groups, things like that they can kind of fill in for that. The problem is you don't have that sense of belonging. Well, with support groups, you might. You see this often in AA groups or other support groups. You don't really get that in therapy or or group therapy so much. But that is the first thing and so connect to your group. Obviously on the other side, if you're trying to help your community, your group, you need to actively engage that person who has been traumatized. Margaret 29:33 Yeah, okay. Smokey 29:35 And it's going to be hard. And you need to keep engaging them and engaging them in what? Not distractions: Let's go to a movie, get some ice cream, let's have a good time. And not going into the details of the traumatic experience so much as reconnecting them to the belonging, our friendship, if that. Our political movement, if that. Our religious movement, if that. Whatever that...whatever brought you two together. And that could be you being the community in this person, or could be you as Margaret in this person connecting on that, doubling down on that, and often I see people do things like, "Okay, let's do some self care, or let's, let's do the opposite of whatever the traumatic experience was," if it came from, say oppression, either vicarious or direct through political involvement let's, let's really connect on a non-political kind of way. Margaret 31:19 Ah I see! Smokey 31:21 And I'm saying, "No, you should double down on the politics," reminding them of right what you're doing. Not the trauma necessarily not like, "Oh, remember when you got beaten up, or your, your significant other got arrested or got killed by the police," but it's connecting to meaning, and bringing the community together. Showing the resiliency of the community will vicariously and contagiously affect the individual. And again, doesn't have to be political could be anything. Margaret 32:01 Yeah. Is that? How does that that feels a little bit like the sort of 'get right back on the horse kind of thing.' But then like, in terms of like, socially, rather than, because we 'get back on the horse,' might mean might imply, "Oh, you got beat up at a riot. So go out to the next riot." And that's what you're saying instead is so "Involve you in the fundraising drive for the people who are dealing with this including you," or like... Smokey 32:28 And allowing an expectation that the individual who's been traumatized, might be having a crisis of meaning. And allowing that conversation, to flow and helping that person reconnect to what they found meaningful to start with. So getting right back on the horse again, it's reminding them why they love horses. Margaret 33:02 Yeah. Okay, that makes sense. Okay, I have another question about the the crisis first aid thing, because there's something that, you know, something that you talked to me about a long time ago, when I was working on a lot of like reframing. I was working on coping with trauma. And so maybe this actually relates instead to long term care for trauma. And I, I thought of this as a crisis first aid kind of thing, is I'll use a like, low key example. When I was building my cabin, I'm slightly afraid of heights, not terribly, but slightly. And so I'm on a ladder in the middle of nowhere with no one around and I'm like climbing up the ladder, and I'm nailing in boards. And I found myself saying, "Oh, well, I only have three more boards. And then I'm done. I can get off the ladder. "And then I was like, "No, what I need to do is say, it's actually fine, I am fine. And I can do this," rather than like counting down until I can get off the ladder. And so this is like a way that I've been working on trying to build resiliency, you can apply this to lots of things like if I'm on an airplane, and I'm afraid of flying or something I can, instead of being like, "Five more hours and then we're there. Four more hours and then we're there," instead of being like, "It's actually totally chill that I'm on an airplane. This is fine." And basically like telling myself that to reframe that. Is this....Am I off base with this? Is this tie into this, there's just a different framework? Smokey 34:27 That is what the individual should be trying to do is connect the three different things, keeping it simple. One, is to the community which gives them nourishment. On a plane or on your roof, that's not going to happen. Margaret 34:44 Yeah. Smokey 34:45 Though, actually, to be honest. If you're nervous and you have...go back to your roof example, which I think is a pretty good one. Let's say that you had more than three boards. Let's say it was gonna take you a couple hours to do that. But it's something you're nervous about, connecting to somebody in your social network, whether you, you have your earphones on, and you're just talking to them before or during...after doesn't help. That does one way. Or the other is connecting to what you were doing, which is connecting to kind of reframing or your own internal resilience. I've done something similar like this before. This is not something that is going to need to throw me, it is what's called pocketing the anxiety. Margaret 35:45 Okay. Smokey 35:45 Where you're other-izing it, being like, it's coming from you too, right? being like, "Hey, you could fall. This plane could go down," right? That that's still you, you're generating that. You're not hearing that over to, and you're saying, "Okay, but I'm going to try, you know, give primacy to this other voice in my head. That is saying, "You've got this, it's all right, you've done things like this before."" So that's the second thing. And that's what you were doing. So you could connect to your community, you could connect to kind of a reserve of resiliency. And to do that is allow that one to be pocketed. But be like, "Hey, I want to hear from what this core thing has to say. I want to hear from what the positive person on the front row has to say." You're not arguing with that one. You're just listening. You're changing your, your, what you're attuned to. And then the third one is, if you can, you connect to the meaning. What is the meaning of building the house for you? Where are you going on your flight? And why is it important? Margaret 37:03 Yeah. Okay, Smokey 37:05 And that anxiety and the fact that you're doing it, you want to give again, the primacy to the importance, that "Yeah, I'm really nervous, I'm really freaked out about this, but this thing is so important, or so good for me, or so healthy for me to do this. This must mean it's going to be really important. And I'm connecting to why it's important and focusing on that. So those are the three things that the individual can do. The helping person or community is engagement. The second one is the same, reconnecting to the meaning. Why did you love horses in the first place? Okay, don't have to get back on the horse. But let's not forget horses are awesome. Margaret 37:58 Yeah. Smokey 37:58 And Horseback riding is awesome. Margaret 38:01 Yeah. Smokey 38:01 And you were really good at it before you got thrown. But you know, you don't have to do it now, but let's, let's just let's just share our love of horses for a moment and see how that makes you feel. And then the third one is that kind of drawing upon, instead of drawing upon the individual resilience, which you were doing, like, "Hey, I got this," or the plane, you know, you were, you're hearing from other people, you're drawing upon their individual resilience. "Smokey, tell me about the time you did this thing that was hard." And I tell ya, you're like, "Well, Smokey can fucking do that I can do it. You don't even think...it doesn't even work necessarily consciously. Margaret 38:50 Right. Smokey 38:51 So you could see that what you're doing individually, the helper or the community is doing complementary. Margaret 38:59 Yeah. Smokey 39:00 And now you can see why a lot of self care narrative, a lot of taking a break a lot of burnout narrative, all these things, at best aren't going to help you and at worst, in my opinion, are kind of counterproductive. Margaret 39:17 Well, and that's the, to go to the, you know, working on my roof thing I think about...because I've had some success with this. I've had some success where I....there's certain fears that I have, like, suppressed or something like I've stopped being as afraid of...the fear is no longer a deciding factor in my decision making, because of this kind of reframing this kind of like, yeah, pocketing like...And it's probably always useful to have the like, I don't want to reframe so completely that I just walk around on a roof all the time, without paying attention to what I'm doing, right?Because people do that and then they fall and the reason that there's a reason that roofing is one of the most dangerous jobs in America. So a, I don't know I yeah, I, I appreciate that, that you can do that. And then if it's a thing you're going to keep doing anyway, it becomes easier if you start handling it like, carefully, you know? Smokey 40:17 Well, you don't want to give it too much. So why do we? Why is it natural for us to take anxiety or fear and focus on it? It's somewhat evolutionary, right? It's a threat, right? It's supposed to draw your attention, right? It's supposed to draw your attention. And if you're not careful, it will draw your attention away from other things that are quieter that like that resiliency in the front row you need to call on, because they're not as flashy, right? So I don't think you have to worry about threat....You're right. You don't want to get to the point where you and that's why I say 'pocket it,' as opposed to 'deny it, suppress it, argue with it. demolish it.' I think it's good to have that little, "Beep, beep, beep there's a threat," and then being like, "Okay, but I want to continue to do this. Let's hear from resiliency in the front row. What? What do you have to tell me too?" You have to not...what happens is we go into the weeds of the threat. Oh, so what? "Oh, I fall off and I compound fracture, and I'm way out here in the woods, and no one's going to get me. My phone isn't charged." That's not what the original beep was. Original beep like, "You're high up on a ladder, seems unstable. This seems sketchy," right? Okay. Got that. And then resilience is, "Yeah, you've done lots of sketchy stuff. You've written in the back of a pickup truck. That's sketchy, so seatbelt there, nothing, you know, let me remind you that that you can overcome." And, but by going into the anxiety, going into the fear, you're forcing yourself to justify the thing. And then it becomes more and more elaborate, and it gets crazier and crazier very quickly. You know, all of sudden, you're bleeding out and you're cutting your leg off with a pen knife. It's like, "Wow, how did all this happen?" Margaret 42:38 Yeah, well, and that's actually something that comes up a lot in terms of people interacting with the show and about like preparedness in general. Because in my mind, the point of paying attention to how to deal with forest fire while I live in the woods, is not to then spend all of my time fantasizing and worrying about forest fire. But instead, to compare it to this ladder, if I get this "Beep, beep, the ladder is unstable." I climb down, I stabilize the ladder as best as I can. And then I climb back up and I do the thing. And then when I think about like, with fire, I'm like, "Okay, I have done the work to minimize the risk of fire. And so now I can stop thinking about it." Like, I can listen to the little beep, beep noise and do the thing. And now I can ignore the beep beep because just like literally, when you're backing up a truck and it goes beep, beep, you're like, yeah, no, I know, I'm backing up. Thanks. You know, like, Smokey 43:35 Yeah, it's good to know, it's good to know, you're not going forward. Margaret 43:39 Yeah, no. No, okay. That's interesting. And then the other thing that's really interesting about this, the thing that you're presenting, is it means that in some ways, work that we present as very individual in our society, even in radical society, is actually community based on this idea, like so conquering phobias is something that we help one another do, it seems like, Smokey 44:02 Absolutely. I mean, the best stuff on all this stuff is that people reverse engineering it to make people do dangerous, bad things. The military. Margaret 44:18 Yeah, they're probably pretty good at getting people to conquer phobias. Yep. Smokey 44:21 They have a great sense of belonging. They have a great sense of pulling in internal resilient, group resilient, connecting to meaning even when it's absolutely meaningless what you're doing. It's all the dark side of what we're talking about, but it's quite effective and it literally wins wars. Margaret 44:47 Yeah, that makes sense. Because you have this whole... Smokey 44:50 Literally it changes history. And so, the good news is, we can kind of reclaim that for what I think it was originally purposed to do, which is to protect us from the traumas that we had to go through in our evolutionary existence. So we couldn't afford to have a whole bunch of us chronically disabled. Meaning unable to function, you know, they've just taken it and, and bent it a little bit, and learned very deeply about it, how to how to use it for the things that really cause, you know, physical death and injury. And, and, you know, obviously, they're not perfect, you have a lot of trauma, but not, not as much as you would expect for what they do. And every year they get better and better. Margaret 45:51 Hooray. Smokey 45:53 We have to get on top of our game. Margaret 45:56 Yeah. Smokey 45:57 And get people not to do what they do. I'm not suggesting reading...well maybe reading military, but not...you can't use those tools to make people truly free and resilient. Margaret 46:17 Yeah. Smokey 46:18 In the healthy kind of way. Yeah. Margaret 46:22 Okay, so in our three things, there's the holistic, prepared resiliency thing, then there's the immediate, the bad thing is happening first aid. Should we talk about what to do when the thing has, when you have the like, the injury, the mental injury of the trauma? Smokey 46:42 Like with most injuries, it's rehab, right? Margaret 46:45 Yeah. No, no, you just keep doing the thing, and then hope it fixes itself. [laughs] Smokey 46:53 My approach to most medical oddities that happen as I get older, it's like, "It'll fix itself, this tooth will grow back, right? The pain will go away, right?" Yeah, just like physical rehab, it does require two important aspects for all physical, what we think of when someone says I have to go to rehab, physical rehab, not not alcohol rehab, or psych rehab, is that there's two things that are happening. One, is a understanding, a deep understanding of the injury, often not by the person, but by the physical therapist. Right? That if they know, okay, this is torn meniscus, or this is this and I, okay, so I understand the anatomy, I understand the surgery that happened. Okay. And then the second is, short term, not lifelong therapy, not lifelong this or that. Short term techniques to usually strengthen muscles and other joints and things around the injury. Okay. And that's what, what I would call good recovery after you already have the injury. It's not after you've had the traumatic experience, because traumatic experience doesn't necessarily cause a chronic injury, and we're trying to reduce the number of chronic injuries, but chronic injuries are going to happen. chronic injuries already exist today. A lot of the people we know are walking around with chronic injuries that are impacting their ability to do what they want to do and what in my opinion, we need them to do, because there's so much change that needs to happen. We need everybody as much as possible to be working at their ability. So wherever we can fix injury, we should. So so one is where do I get an understanding of how this injury impacts my life? And I think different cognitive psychology, I think CBT, DBT, these things are very, very good in general. Margaret 49:22 I know what those are, but can you explain. Smokey 49:22 Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. These all come out of cognitive psychology from the 50s. Our techniques, but most therapists use versions of this anyway. So just going to therapy, what it is doing initially, is trying to, like the physical therapist, tell you, "This is the injury you have. This is why it's causing you to limp, or why you have weakness in your arm and wrist. And what we're going to do is we're going to give you some techniques to build up, usually the muscles, or whatever else needs to be built up around it so that you will be able to get more use out of your hand." And that is what we need to do with people that have this chronic injury. So, one, is you need to find out how the injury is impacting. So, I'm drinking more, I'm getting angry more, or I'm having trouble making relationships, or I'm having, and there's a series of, you know, 50 year old techniques to really kind of get down and see, okay, this injury is causing these things, that's how it's impacting me, and I don't want to drink more, or I want to be able to sleep better, or I want to be able to focus, or I want to be able to have meaningful relationship with my partner or my children or whatever, whatever that is, right? And then there are techniques, and they're developing new techniques, all the time, there's like EMDR, which is an eye thing that I don't fully understand. There DBT, dialectical behavioral therapy, has a lot of techniques that you kind of practice in groups. As you know, we have mutual aid cell therapy, MAST, which is also a group where you're sharing techniques to build up these different things and resilience. So, community, and meaning, and all those...reframing all those kinds of things. So, but they shouldn't, despite the length of the injury, how long you've been injured, how long you've been limping, and how much it's affected other parts of your psychic body in a way. These are things that still should be able to be remediated relatively quickly. Smokey 49:31 That's exciting. Yeah. Smokey 50:10 But this is not a lifelong thing. Now, that doesn't mean, if you're traumatized as a child for example, it's sort of like if you've completely shattered your wrist bone, and they've put in pins and things like that, that wrist, may never have the flexibility, it did, the actual wrist bone, you know, the bones in the wrist. But by building muscles, and other things around it, you could then theoretically have full flexibility that you had before, right? But it's not the actual wrist bone, but that that injury is still there. You've built up...Sometimes it's called strength-based approach or model where you're building up other strengths, you have to relieve the impact that that injury, so like, a common thing with with trauma is trust. My trust is very damaged. My ability to trust others, or trust certain environments, or maybe trust myself, right, is completely damaged. So if, if my...and that may never fully heal, that's like my shattered wrist bone. So then, by building up, let's say, I don't trust myself, I did something, really fucked up myself, you know, psychologically, traumatically, but by building up trust in others, and then in the environment, or other things, that can mediate that damage or vice versa. Margaret 53:53 You mean vice versa, like if you? Smokey 53:59 Like, if my problem is a trust of others, or trust with strangers, or trust with friends, you know, I've been betrayed in a really traumatic way by my mother, or my father or uncle or something like that then, you know, building up my friendships to a really strong degree will reduce and eventually eliminate, hopefully erase the impact of that injury on the rest of my life. I'm not doomed to have dysfunctional relationships, lack of sleep, alcoholism or whatever are the symptoms of that traumatic event, that chronic traumatic event. Margaret 54:54 Okay, so my next question is, and it's sort of a leading question, you mentioned MAST earlier and I kind of want to ask, like, do we need specialists for all of this? Do we have people who both generalize and specialize in this kind of thing? Are there ways that, you know, we as a community can, like, get better at most of this stuff while then some of it like, you know, obviously people specialize in and this remains useful? Like... Smokey 55:22 You need. I wouldn't say...You need, you do need specialists, not for their knowledge, per se so much as they're there for people that the injury has gone on so long that the resiliency, all those other things, they don't have a social network, they haven't had time, because the damage happened so early to build up those reserves, that that person in the front row, the front row, the seats are empty. That is, it's really great we live...Now, in other cultures, the specialists were probably shamans, religious people, mentors, things like that, that said, "Okay, my role is to," all therapy is self therapy. That was Carl Rogers, he was quite correct about that. The specialist you're talking about are the kind of stand in for people who don't have people to do that. I would argue all real therapy is probably community therapy. It's relational. So if you have friends, if you have community, if you have a place, or places you find belonging, then theoretically, no, I don't think you need....I think those groups, and I think most specialists would agree to actually, those groups, if they're doing this can actually do a much better job for that individual. They know that individual and there's a natural affinity. And there there are other non specifically therapeutic benefits for engaging in re engaging in these things that have nothing to do with the injury that are just healthy, and good to you. So sort of like taking Ensure, Ensure will keep you alive when you're you've had some surgery, you've had some really bad injury, or if you need saline solution, right? But we're not suggesting people walk around with saline bags. There are better ways to get that, more natural ways to get that. I'm not talking alternative, psychiatric or, you know, take herbs instead of psychiatric medication. But there are better ways to do that. And I think, but I'm glad we have saline. Margaret 58:08 Yeah, Smokey 58:08 I think it saves a lot of people's lives. But, we would never give up the other ways to get nutrients because of other benefits to it. You know, sharing a meal with people is also a really good thing. Margaret 58:21 And then even like from a, you know, the advantages of community, etc. I'm guessing it's not something that's like magically imbued in community. It's like can be something that communities need to actually learn these skills and develop like, I mean, there's a reason that well, you know, I guess I'm reasonably open about this. I used to have like fairly paralyzing panic attacks, and then it started generalizing. And then, you know, a very good cognitive behavioral therapist gave me the tools with which to start addressing that. And that wasn't something I was getting from....I didn't get it from my community in the end, but I got it from a specific person in the community, rather than like, everyone already knows this or something. Smokey 59:03 Well, I think what we're doing right here is, is....I mean, people don't know. So they read....People were trying to help you from your community. Undoubtedly, with the right. intentions, and the right motives, but without the information on what actually works. Margaret 59:27 Yep. Smokey 59:28 And that's all that was happening there. Margaret 59:30 Yeah, totally. Smokey 59:31 So, it's really, you know, as cliche as it sound. It's really about just giving people some basic tools that we already had at one time. Margaret 59:44 Yeah. Smokey 59:45 Forgot, became specialized. So you know, I'm throwing around CBT, DBT, EMDR. None of that people can keep in their head. They will....The audience listening today are not going to remember all those things. And nor do they have to. But they have to know that, you know, reconnecting to the horse, but not telling people to get back on the horse, that kind of tough love kind of thing isn't going to work, but neither is the self care, take a bubble bath... Margaret 1:00:19 Never see a horse again, run from a horse. Smokey 1:00:21 Never see a horse, again, we're not even going to talk about horses, let's go do something else, isn't going to work either. And I think once we...you know, it's not brain science...Though it is. [laughs] It is pretty, you know, these are, and you look at how religions do this, you know, you look at how the military does this, you look at how like, fascists do this, you know, all sorts of groups, communities can do this fairly effectively. And it doesn't cost money. It's not expensive. You don't have to be highly educated or read all the science to be able to do that. And people naturally try, but I think a lot of the self help kind of gets in the way. And some people think they know. "Okay, well, this is what needs to happen, because I saw on Oprah." That kind of thing. " Margaret 1:01:26 Yeah, Well, I mean, actually, that's one of the main takeaways that's coming from me is I've been, I've been thinking a lot about my own mental health first aid on a fairly individual basis, right? You know, even though it was community, that helped me find the means by which to pull myself out of a very bad mental space in that I was in for a lot of years. But I still, in the end was kind of viewing it as, like, "Ah, someone else gave me the tools. And now it's on me." It's like this individual responsibility to take care of myself. And, and so that's like, one of the things that I'm taking as a takeaway from this is learning to be inter-reliant. Smokey 1:02:06 There isn't enough research on it, again, because of our individualistic nature, and probably because of variables. But there's certainly tons of anecdotal evidence, and having done this for a long time talking to people and how the place I work is particularly set up, helping others is a really great way to help yourself. Margaret 1:02:30 Yeah. Smokey 1:02:31 it really works. It's very, I mean, obviously, in the Greeks, you know, you have the 'wounded healer,' kind of concept. Many indigenous traditions have said this much better than the Western. And I believe they have...and they needed to, but they had a much better kind of understanding of these things that we're we're talking about. You know, it. So, where people can...and I've heard this podcast, your podcast too, talking about this ability to be, you know, have self efficacy. But it's more than self efficacy. It's really helping others. Margaret 1:03:22 Yeah. Smokey 1:03:23 And that, that is really powerful. And there's not enough research on that. And I think that's why support groups, I think that's why, you know, AA, despite all its problems, has spread all over the world and has been around for, you know, 75 years, and is not going to go away anytime soon. Despite some obvious problems, is there's that there's that... they hit upon that they they re discovered something that we always kind of knew. Margaret 1:03:59 Yeah. Okay, well, we're coming out of time. We're running out of time. Are there any last thoughts, things that I should have asked you? I mean, there's a ton we can talk about this, and I'll probably try and have you on to talk about more specifics in the near future. But, is there anything anything I'm missing? Smokey 1:04:15 No, I think I think just re emphasizing the end piece that you know, for people that have resources, communities, meaning, social network, you know, that is worth investing your time and your energy into because that's going to build your...if you want to get psychologically strong, that is the easiest and the best investment, Put down the self help book. Call your friend. You know, don't search Google for the symptoms of this, that, or the other thing. Connect to what's important to you. And then lastly, try to help others or help the world in some way. And those are going to be profound and effective ways to build long lasting resilience as an individual. As a community, we should design our communities around that. Margaret 1:05:35 Yeah. All right. Well, that seems like a good thing to end on. Do you have anything that you want to plug like, I don't know books about mutual aid self therapy or anything like that? Smokey 1:05:46 I want to plug community. 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I recently sat down with my dear friend and author, John Loxley to discuss the fundamentals of sobriety. John is 15 years sober and works in mental health services in the UK. We weren't talking about shiny breakthroughs or dramatic transformations. We were talking about the basics — the things that quietly keep sobriety intact, year after year. Because here's the truth: most people don't relapse because they don't know enough. They relapse because they slowly stop doing the things that keep them emotionally regulated, supported, and self-aware. This episode was a reminder of what really matters.     Lesson #1: Early Sobriety Is a Learning Phase — Listening Matters One of the first things we talked about was listening. When people are new to sobriety, there's often a strong urge to explain themselves, justify their story, or be understood. I remember feeling that way myself — desperate to make sure someone got me. But recovery starts to shift when listening becomes the priority. Listening to people who've been there. Listening to patterns. Listening instead of reacting. There's a time to talk — especially with sponsors, therapists, or trusted friends — but meetings and early recovery spaces are often best used as classrooms, not stages. Takeaway: You don't need to have the answers. You just need to be willing to learn.     Lesson #2: You Can't Do Sobriety Alone (No Matter How Independent You Are) A lot of people want to get sober "on their own." Not because they're lazy — but because they're private, capable, or burned by past systems. But isolation is where addiction thrives. Whether it's 12-step programs, SMART Recovery, therapy, coaching, or peer support — connection isn't optional. You don't need everyone. You need someone. And just as important: those people aren't there to fix you. They're there to walk with you.     Lesson #3: Sobriety Has to Stay the Top Priority This might be the most important lesson from the episode. Anytime sobriety stops being the priority — even years in — things start to unravel. Not always dramatically. Often quietly. You stop meditating. You stop checking in. You stop telling the truth. You stop doing the practices. And slowly… your nervous system takes over. John shared a powerful story about going on vacation, feeling great, and unintentionally leaving his recovery behind — only to realize how quickly emotional chaos can return when the practices stop. Sobriety isn't something you "graduate" from. It's something you maintain.     Lesson #4: Identity Drives Behavior One thing I'm passionate about is identity. You're not trying to get sober. If you didn't drink today, you are sober. Every sober action is a vote for the kind of person you're becoming. Instead of obsessing over what's wrong with you, it can be incredibly powerful to ask: Who do I admire? What traits do they embody? What small actions would reinforce those traits? Sobriety is the foundation — not the finish line.     Lesson #5: Triggers Are Teachers (Even Though We Hate That) We talked a lot about triggers — emotional reactions that feel bigger than the situation in front of us. If a response feels disproportionate, it's almost always about the past. Triggers aren't signs that you're failing. They're invitations to heal. When something activates fear, shame, or rage, there's usually something unresolved underneath. And once you work through it — whether through therapy, journaling, EMDR, or self-inquiry — that trigger loses its grip. There's often real growth hiding underneath discomfort.     Lesson #6: You Don't Need to Win — You Need to Understand One of the most relatable moments in the conversation was about conflict. Many of us learned early on that arguments are about winning. But there are no winners in emotional battles — only distance. A simple shift like: "Help me understand how you feel" "This is what I'm hearing — is that right?" can completely change the outcome of a conversation. Feeling understood often dissolves the fight entirely.     Action Steps You Can Take This Week If you want to apply what we talked about, start here: Choose one daily recovery practice Meditation, journaling, meetings, movement — consistency matters more than intensity. Check your priority list Ask honestly: Is sobriety still at the top — or has it slipped? Identify one trigger When you feel emotionally hijacked, ask: What does this remind me of? Clarify your identity Write down 5 character traits you want to embody — then choose one small daily action that supports them. Strengthen accountability Make sure there's at least one person you can be fully honest with — without editing yourself.     Resources Mentioned in This Episode 12-Step Recovery Programs – For connection, structure, and accountability SMART Recovery – A non-12-step alternative focused on tools and self-management Atomic Habits by James Clear – Identity-based behavior change Unwinding Anxiety by Dr. Judson Brewer – Understanding habit loops and emotional patterns Meditation & Journaling – Daily practices for emotional regulation EMDR Therapy – Trauma-focused healing for emotional triggers Guest Contact Info: 

I recently sat down with my dear friend and author, John Loxley to discuss the fundamentals of sobriety. John is 15 years sober and works in mental health services in the UK. We weren't talking about shiny breakthroughs or dramatic transformations. We were talking about the basics — the things that quietly keep sobriety intact, year after year. Because here's the truth: most people don't relapse because they don't know enough. They relapse because they slowly stop doing the things that keep them emotionally regulated, supported, and self-aware. This episode was a reminder of what really matters.     Lesson #1: Early Sobriety Is a Learning Phase — Listening Matters One of the first things we talked about was listening. When people are new to sobriety, there's often a strong urge to explain themselves, justify their story, or be understood. I remember feeling that way myself — desperate to make sure someone got me. But recovery starts to shift when listening becomes the priority. Listening to people who've been there. Listening to patterns. Listening instead of reacting. There's a time to talk — especially with sponsors, therapists, or trusted friends — but meetings and early recovery spaces are often best used as classrooms, not stages. Takeaway: You don't need to have the answers. You just need to be willing to learn.     Lesson #2: You Can't Do Sobriety Alone (No Matter How Independent You Are) A lot of people want to get sober "on their own." Not because they're lazy — but because they're private, capable, or burned by past systems. But isolation is where addiction thrives. Whether it's 12-step programs, SMART Recovery, therapy, coaching, or peer support — connection isn't optional. You don't need everyone. You need someone. And just as important: those people aren't there to fix you. They're there to walk with you.     Lesson #3: Sobriety Has to Stay the Top Priority This might be the most important lesson from the episode. Anytime sobriety stops being the priority — even years in — things start to unravel. Not always dramatically. Often quietly. You stop meditating. You stop checking in. You stop telling the truth. You stop doing the practices. And slowly… your nervous system takes over. John shared a powerful story about going on vacation, feeling great, and unintentionally leaving his recovery behind — only to realize how quickly emotional chaos can return when the practices stop. Sobriety isn't something you "graduate" from. It's something you maintain.     Lesson #4: Identity Drives Behavior One thing I'm passionate about is identity. You're not trying to get sober. If you didn't drink today, you are sober. Every sober action is a vote for the kind of person you're becoming. Instead of obsessing over what's wrong with you, it can be incredibly powerful to ask: Who do I admire? What traits do they embody? What small actions would reinforce those traits? Sobriety is the foundation — not the finish line.     Lesson #5: Triggers Are Teachers (Even Though We Hate That) We talked a lot about triggers — emotional reactions that feel bigger than the situation in front of us. If a response feels disproportionate, it's almost always about the past. Triggers aren't signs that you're failing. They're invitations to heal. When something activates fear, shame, or rage, there's usually something unresolved underneath. And once you work through it — whether through therapy, journaling, EMDR, or self-inquiry — that trigger loses its grip. There's often real growth hiding underneath discomfort.     Lesson #6: You Don't Need to Win — You Need to Understand One of the most relatable moments in the conversation was about conflict. Many of us learned early on that arguments are about winning. But there are no winners in emotional battles — only distance. A simple shift like: "Help me understand how you feel" "This is what I'm hearing — is that right?" can completely change the outcome of a conversation. Feeling understood often dissolves the fight entirely.     Action Steps You Can Take This Week If you want to apply what we talked about, start here: Choose one daily recovery practice Meditation, journaling, meetings, movement — consistency matters more than intensity. Check your priority list Ask honestly: Is sobriety still at the top — or has it slipped? Identify one trigger When you feel emotionally hijacked, ask: What does this remind me of? Clarify your identity Write down 5 character traits you want to embody — then choose one small daily action that supports them. Strengthen accountability Make sure there's at least one person you can be fully honest with — without editing yourself.     Resources Mentioned in This Episode 12-Step Recovery Programs – For connection, structure, and accountability SMART Recovery – A non-12-step alternative focused on tools and self-management Atomic Habits by James Clear – Identity-based behavior change Unwinding Anxiety by Dr. Judson Brewer – Understanding habit loops and emotional patterns Meditation & Journaling – Daily practices for emotional regulation EMDR Therapy – Trauma-focused healing for emotional triggers Guest Contact Info: 

In today's episode, I'm joined by Marie Lasron Bursch, a Christian practitioner who specializes in brainspotting—a powerful, body-based therapeutic approach that helps access and heal trauma stored deep in the nervous system.If you've ever felt like you know the truth in your head but your body and emotions won't catch up, this conversation is for you.Together, we explore:What brainspotting actually is and how you can use it to unlock traumaHow brainspotting differs from EMDR, talk therapy, and traditional counseling, and why it can be so effective when words fall shortThe connection between trauma, the body, and the brain, and how brainspotting helps release emotional patterns that have been “stuck” for yearsIntegrating faith and neuroscience—how prayer, the Holy Spirit, and biblical truth work beautifully alongside brainspotting for deeper emotional and spiritual healingThis episode is especially powerful for believers who desire freedom not just intellectually, but somatically—in their bodies, emotions, and spirit. Healing is not only possible… it's available.Connect with Marie: Marie (Larson) BurschLife Consultant/BrainspotterMarie@vibrantlifeconsulting.comwww.vibrantlifeconsulting.com651-324-4799

Have you ever struggled with thoughts you don't want, don't believe in, and wish would go away and leave you alone but the more you try to stop thinking them the worse the looping thought gets?  Today, Michelle shares her tip for how to deal with intrusive thoughts with God's help.  Listen in!   FREE RESOURCE: If this episode resonated, you might be interested in my free resource.   I created a free, faith-honoring guide that gently explains how healing happens in the body and why you're not failing.  Free Trauma Healing Resource Guide   WORK WITH MICHELLE CROYLE, LPC: If you are a Christian woman who feels ready for deeper, focused trauma healing than typical weekly talk therapy can offer, you may want to consider an EMDR-based Therapeutic Intensive with me.  I clear my schedule to work with you over the course of one to three days for three to six hours per day on a focus target of your choosing.  Intensives are designed to support meaningful change in the way the nervous system feels safest, not rushed into an hour here and there.  Ready for deeper healing?  If you live in Pennsylvania or are willing to travel to Pennsylvania for a therapy intensive, you can learn more or schedule a reserve a free consultation by clicking here: Learn More or Reserve a Free Consultation

If you've been holding yourself together because it feels like the only way to stay functional, this guided reset is for you.Divorce anxiety and overwhelm don't come from weakness or lack of coping skills....they come from carrying too much responsibility for too long (often without enough support).This Thursday, Premium Healing Tool offers a gentle, body-based reset designed to help you release internal pressure without forcing calm, bypassing fear, or risking emotional collapse.You won't be asked to relax.You won't be asked to stop worrying.And nothing needs to be “fixed.”Instead, you'll be guided through a slow, contained experience that helps your body learn something new:What it feels like to let go a little without falling apart.In this episode, you'll be supported to:Stay with anxiety without fighting it or trying to push it awayWork with overwhelm in a paced, grounded way that respects your nervous systemUse a simple butterfly tap to reduce bracing and internal tensionExplore—without pressure—what your system believes would happen if you stopped holding everything togetherExperience relief while staying intact, present, and in control of your own paceThis is not about calming down or making anxiety disappear. It's about helping your body recognize that you are SAFE TO HEAL.Even a few minutes of this kind of contact can soften the grip of overwhelm and change how much your system believes it has to carry.You can return to this reset anytime anxiety spikes, responsibility feels heavy, or rest feels unsafe.Nothing needs to resolve.Nothing needs to be perfect.Staying with yourself is the work.We're with you.Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MyCoachDawnInstagram: (@dawnwiggins)Instagram: (@coachtiffini)On the Web: https://www.mycoachdawn.comA podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.Support the show✨Join the Cocoon Community - your people are waiting! ✨ Stress-Less Flower Essence

We are joined today by a beautiful soul, Eliza Czander, a Somatic Practitioner and Yoga Therapist.  She is a guide who works at the intersection of trauma, anxiety and the nervous system helping clients rediscover their intuitiveness, cultivate deeper self-trust, and move more freely through life's challenges.  At the core of her work is the philosophy, you can't heal what you can't feel.  Her work invites us to slow down, and listen to our bodies and what's beneath the surface.  This conversation, to kick off 2026, is about building the inner conditions that allow true forward motion and honoring what we have stored inside.Eliza Czander is a Somatic Practitioner and Yoga Therapist specializing in trauma, anxiety, and tension release. With certifications in EMDR, Parts Work Therapy, and Breathwork, she brings a multifaceted somatic approach to healing and nervous system regulation. Eliza believes deeply that we all have the innate ability to come home to our bodies and rebuild connection—not just with ourselves, but with the wisdom our bodies hold. Through this connection and embodiment, she helps clients feel regulated, rediscover their intuitiveness, cultivate deeper self-trust, and move more freely through life's challenges. In her work, Eliza creates a safe, compassionate space for clients to release what no longer serves them and rediscover a sense of groundedness, presence, and wholeness.(2:58) What led Eliza to choose a career in trauma and healing?(6:05) How can we define trauma?  Eliza helps us to understand the experience.(11:15) What are some of the patterns of trauma and how it manifests?(14:26) Eliza shares some of her methods to help people heal from trauma through breath work, meditations and more.(17:01) What does it mean to regulate our nervous system and how can we achieve this?  Eliza also takes us through a quick method to help ground ourselves and relieve tension.(22:01) Eliza's shares her philosophy, sharing that our body knows how to heal, and shows us what this means.(25:18) Why are people afraid of silence, and allowing ourselves to sit with the discomfort we feel?(26:50) Eliza shares with us how we can communicate with others when we feel heightened emotions and “need space”.(30:00) What does is look and feel like when we find balance and are in a regulated embodied state.(33:42) Eliza shares experiences from her journey that were instrumental in her work and why she chose it.(35:18) We learn about Eliza's practice and what helps her to continue to explore this work.Connect with Eliza Czanderhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/eliza-czander-91071a55/ https://movethroughtrauma.com/Subscribe: Warriors At Work Podcasts Website: https://jeaniecoomber.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/986666321719033/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeanie_coomber/Twitter: https://twitter.com/jeanie_coomber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeanie-coomber-90973b4/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbMZ2HyNNyPoeCSqKClBC_w

"What counts as a trigger for CPTSD? And why do I get triggered by everyday stuff that shouldn't feel threatening?"If you've ever found yourself completely activated by something that seems small to everyone else (a text message, a tone of voice, someone's silence), this episode is for you.I'm breaking down what triggers actually are in complex trauma, why your body responds to threat cues that your conscious mind doesn't recognize, and what to do when you feel like you're walking around with an invisible tripwire system.What we cover:Why triggers are often reminders of a state rather than a specific eventThe neuroscience behind why your body can hold trauma even when you don't have clear memoriesHow to tell the difference between being triggered and being overloadedSeven practical steps to work with your triggers without turning life into a self-monitoring projectWhy the whole "I shouldn't be triggered because I don't remember anything" mindset is keeping you stuck.Download my FREE Dysregulation Toolkit Here! Thanks for listening to The Complex Trauma Podcast! Be sure to follow, share and give us a review on your favorite podcast platform. Follow on Instagram: @sarahherstichlcsw Follow on TikTok: @sarahherstichlcsw Learn more about EMDR & trauma therapy in Pennsylvania with Reclaim Therapy This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for professional medical, psychological, or nutritional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Remember, I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. Nothing in this podcast is meant to replace actual therapy or treatment. If you're in crisis or things feel really unsafe right now, please reach out to someone. You can call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, text them, or head to your nearest ER. The views expressed by the host and guests are their own and do not represent the opinions of any organizations or institutions. Reliance on any information provided by this podcast is solely at your own risk.

Dr. James Greenblatt, MD, is more than a dual board-certified psychiatrist; he is a pioneer of hope and a tireless advocate for the integration of soul and science. For over 30 years, Dr. Greenblatt has looked beyond the traditional "checklist" of symptoms to uncover the vibrant, biochemical story beneath. As the leading global expert on the clinical application of low-dose lithium and a pioneer in functional psychiatry, he has dedicated his career to a singular, transformative mission: healing the root cause so the spirit can flourish. From his academic roots at Johns Hopkins and George Washington University to his current faculty roles at Tufts and Dartmouth, Dr. Greenblatt bridges the gap between clinical excellence and compassionate, precision-based care. Through his educational platform, Psychiatry Redefined, he is shifting the global landscape of mental health—empowering a new generation of clinicians to treat the whole person rather than just the diagnosis. A prolific voice in the holistic movement, Dr. Greenblatt has authored nine life-changing books, including the bestsellers Finally Focused and Nutritional Lithium. His work invites us to reimagine what is possible for our mental well-being, moving away from temporary fixes toward a state of true, sustainable inner balance. Whether through his writing or his upcoming 2026 release, Finally Hopeful, Dr. Greenblatt continues to light the path for those seeking to reclaim their health, their clarity, and their lives.

Send me a text! I'd LOVE to hear your feedback on this episode!Many women experience rising anxiety in midlife as menopause and hormonal brain changes reshape fear circuits, confidence, sleep, motivation, and emotional resilience. In this episode, I explore why women often feel more fear in midlife - how biology, culture, and lived experience quietly rewire the nervous system - and how to expand again instead of shrinking.This science-meets-soul episode unpacks the menopause brain, nervous system conditioning, and the emotional load women carry, including the effects of estrogen, progesterone, testosterone, dopamine, blood sugar, vision changes, and sleep disruption on anxiety, cognition, and confidence.I also explore how trauma, grief, chronic responsibility, and cultural scripts shape risk sensitivity over time, often creating the feeling that you're “pulling back” from life even when your true capacity is still there.This episode includes a grounded, practical roadmap to rebuild emotional safety and confidence, including:• Menopause brain changes and midlife anxiety• Dopamine shifts, cognition, and eyesight changes affecting confidence• Cultural load and narrowing tolerance• Trauma, grief, and nervous system conditioning• Hormones and fear circuits: estrogen, progesterone, testosterone• Sleep, blood sugar, and hormone-support foundations• Micro-exposures to safely expand capacity• Specific breathwork, EMDR, and BEAM Therapy• Strength training, novelty, identity reinvention, and community• A daily, weekly, and quarterly protocol for personal expansionIf you're in midlife and wondering why fear feels louder, and how to turn this chapter into power instead of contraction, this episode brings both the biology and the path forward.Please share this episode with a woman who needs it.Follow Sandy K Nutrition on all platforms, and if this resonated, leave a rating or review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts as it truly helps the show reach more.Support the showPlease rate & review my podcast with a few kind words on Apple or Spotify. Subscribe wherever you listen, share this episode with a friend, and follow me below. This truly gives back & helps me keep bringing amazing guests & topics every week.Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sandyknutrition/Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/sandyknutritionTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sandyknutritionYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIh48ov-SgbSUXsVeLL2qAgRumble: https://rumble.com/c/c-5461001Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sandyknutrition/Substack: https://sandykruse.substack.com/Podcast Website: https://sandykruse.ca

Caffeinators, Vet Tech Cafe is Australian for podcast. If you're vintage like us, you may remember that Foster's beer commercial and when you hear this episode, it'll make more sense. We're headed back down under to check in again with Cat Walker! You may know her as Radio Vet Nurse, but she's launched a veterinary mediation business as she has a law background, and as you know, we always want to talk to those that are blazing their own path! This was a fascinating discussion about mediation and what that looks like and how it applies to our field, and we also covered a lot of other ground as well. You don't want to miss this one-if nothing else, for her accent!   Show Links: "Generations" by Jean Twenge: https://www.jeantwenge.com/generations-book-by-dr-jean-twenge/   "The Anxious Generation" by Jonathan Haidt https://www.anxiousgeneration.com/book   EMDR therapy for PTSD https://www.amazon.com.au/EMDR-Breakthrough-Therapy-Overcoming-Anxiety/dp/0465096743   Our Links: Check out our sponsor https://betterhelp.com/vettechcafe for 10% off your first month of therapy Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vettechcafe Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vettechcafepodcast Follow us on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/vet-tech-cafe Like and Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCMDTKdfOaqSW0Mv3Uoi33qg Our website: https://www.vettechcafe.com/ Vet Tech Cafe Merch: https://www.vettechcafe.com/merch If you would like to help us cover our podcast expenses, we'd appreciate any support you give through Patreon. We do this podcast and our YouTube channel content to support the veterinary technicians out there and do not expect anything in return! We thank you for all you do.

Welcome to another episode of the Sustainable Clinical Medicine Podcast! In this episode, the host welcomes Dr. Claire Plumbly, a clinical psychologist from the UK, to discuss her work and insights into managing burnout and trauma. Dr. Plumbly shares her background and journey into clinical psychology, highlighting her work in private practice and her recent book, 'The Trauma of Burnout'. The conversation delves into signs and symptoms of burnout, practical advice for managing it, and the importance of understanding one's nervous system. Dr. Plumbly also emphasizes the need for compassionate self-care, regular check-ins throughout the day, and has suggestions for winding down to improve sleep. She further discusses ways to prevent burnout and introduces the concept of intensive therapy sessions for those who find weekly sessions challenging. The episode provides valuable insights and strategies for recognizing and dealing with burnout effectively. Here are 3 key takeaways from this episode: Understand Your Nervous System States Burnout involves getting stuck in two problematic nervous system states: "Amber" (sympathetic overdrive - constant rushing, can't slow down) and "Red" (dorsal shutdown - autopilot, disconnected, people-pleasing). You need different strategies for each: discharge excess energy when in Amber through movement, and gently thaw out when in Red through soothing touch and connection. Recognize the Four Warning Signs Watch for burnout signals across four areas: Physical (aches, tension, frequent illness), Cognitive (rigid thinking, decision fatigue, making mistakes), Emotional (limited emotional range - stuck in overwhelmed/anxious/flat), and Behavioral (numbing behaviors like extra drinking, doom scrolling, or impulse purchases). Use Transition Points as Check-In Opportunities Don't wait until end of day to address burnout. Use every transition between tasks as a mini pause to check: "What does my body need right now? What gear am I in?" This prevents accumulation of stress and makes winding down at night actually possible - you can't crash from sixth gear into sleep. Meet Dr. Claire Plumbly: Dr Claire Plumbly is a clinical psychologist, EMDR consultant & founder of Plum Psychology - a team of trauma-specialists who offer intensive therapy packages for burnout and trauma in the UK. She is the author of The Trauma of Burnout - which shows us how to navigate out of overwhelm tapping into the power of your nervous system Connect with Dr. Claire Plemby:

Dr. Shahrzad Jalali is a licensed clinical psychologist, executive coach, and trauma specialist whose work bridges neuroscience, somatic psychology, and mindfulness. She is the author of The Fire That Makes Us (Greenleaf Book Group, Sept 2025), which reframes emotional pain as fuel for transformation, and the creator of Regulate to Rise™, an eight-module program for emotional regulation and resilience. As founder of Align Remedy and Dr. Jalali & Associates, she and her team help clients move beyond coping toward meaningful change using EMDR, somatic experiencing, brainspotting, and Jungian dream work. With a multicultural lens and a rare gift for making mental health deeply human, Dr. Jalali guides high-achievers, women in transition, and trauma survivors from survival to expansion.In This EpisodeShahrzad's websiteShahrzad's book: The Fire That Makes Us LinkedinInstagramTikTokBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-trauma-therapist--5739761/support.You can learn more about what I do here:The Trauma Therapist Newsletter: celebrates the people and voices in the mental health profession. And it's free! Check it out here: https://bit.ly/4jGBeSa———If you'd like to support The Trauma Therapist Podcast and the work I do you can do that here with a monthly donation of $5, $7, or $10: Donate to The Trauma Therapist Podcast.Click here to join my email list and receive podcast updates and other news.Thank you to our Sponsors:Jane App - use code GUY1MO at https://jane.appArizona Trauma Institute at https://aztrauma.org/

What if the symptoms you've been battling are your body's way of asking for a different story? We sit down with Shannon—a wife, mom of three, nurse turned functional medicine coach—to trace a path from postpartum autoimmunity and burnout to gut healing, sobriety, and a faith-fueled life that actually works. Her journey starts with a doctor who asked better questions and a decision to believe the process could work. From there, everything shifted: inflammation dropped, brain fog cleared, weight released, and joy came back online.We unpack why gut health is the master key—how removing inflammatory triggers, treating infections like H. pylori, and restoring minerals can resolve skin flares (including hidradenitis), balance hormones, and steady mood. Shannon shares how quitting alcohol was less about deprivation and more about reclaiming her nervous system, her marriage, and her spiritual clarity. Alcohol is a toxin and a microbiome disruptor; letting it go created space for genuine healing and a clear mind. AA, community, and surrender to God anchored the change and gave her a roadmap that holds during vacations, busy seasons, and life's mess.Trauma weaves through this conversation with honesty and care. We explore how the body keeps the score, why fear blocks healing, and how tools like EMDR and somatic work help release stuck patterns. Most of all, we keep it simple: belief plus action beats perfection. Start with hydration, protein, fiber, sleep, and one courageous step—remove the thing you know is hurting you. Our coaching sisterhood brings structure, testing, IV nutrient therapy, and weekly support so you're never alone. If you're tired of trying to out-supplement exhaustion, this story will show you a kinder, proven way back to energy, confidence, and faith.If this resonates, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs hope, and leave a review to help more women find a path to real healing.If you're ready to move beyond trying harder and start living more aligned, you're invited to join Empowered by Faith — LIVE, a guided 5-day reset led by Dr. Tabatha that helps women reset body, mind, and spirit through simple, faith-centered rhythms.

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