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What if the way your needs were met in infancy still shapes your ability to feel safe, seen, and supported today?Welcome to the end-of-year challenge: The Return to Magic. Today, Lacy, Jessica, and EMDR-certified LMFT Janelle dive deep into the foundation of all manifestation work: your earliest subconscious blueprint set in childhood. This episode explores the powerful programming from ages zero to 18 months. It's a period most people don't remember, but it's when your soul touched down into your human body—and profoundly shapes who you are today. This early stage is where safety, secure relationships, and boundaries are formed, and Janelle helps us understand how the presence (or absence) of these things can leave us feeling out of balance.This conversation is a reminder that our TBM practice is here to bring us back to our most whole selves. We are not destined to stay stuck in old patterns or loops that don't serve us. We can start from the very beginning and manifest the lives we're meant to embody. This is the work that changes everything. It's time to return to your magic.Find the complete show notes here -> https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast Resources: Big End of Year SALE - 30% off Annual and Monthly Subscriptions Return to Magic - 15 Day Manifestation ChallengeA 15-day guided journey to reparent your inner child, reconnect with your magic, and step into this new year as your most confident, regulated, and magnetic self yet. Join our membership to access! (pre-week Dec 1st, kickoff Dec 8th!) The Pathway Membership gives you unlimited access to all of our manifestation workshops—including How to Manifest, Unblocking Your Inner Child, Shadow, Love, Money, Rock Bottoms, Ruts, and Energetic Updates —plus 70+ self-hypnosis tracks designed to unlock your full potential.LEARN MORE HERE Get the latest from TBMJoin us at the How To Manifest Speaking Tour - LA 12/6 (Early Bird Discount available) Join our HTM Book Club! Walk step by step through the TBM Manifestation Process with Lacy and Jessica as we read HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips Join the Pathway now - NEW End of Year Challenge launching Dec 1st! Big End of Year SALE - 30% off New to TBM? Free Offerings to Get You StartedLearn the Process! Expanded Podcast - How to Manifest Anything You Desire Get Expanded! The Motivation - Testimonial LibraryReady to find out what's holding you back? Try our Free Clarity Exercise Be an EXPANDER! 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Share a voice note of your question, block, or Process to be featured in an episode! This Episode is brought to you by: ARMRA - Use code TBM for 15% off Colostrum: Immune Revival - Immune barrier superfood  Fatty15 - go to fatty15.com/TBM use code TBM at checkout to get an additional 15% off your 90-day subscription Starter Kit In this episode we talk about:The real reason your manifestations feel stuck — and how early unmet needs are the causeWhy the most formative manifestation blueprint is set between 0–18 monthsThe power of skin-to-skin contact and early co-regulation with caregiversHealing the nervous system through somatic reparenting and new DI'sHow trauma from inconsistency or neglect creates current-day self-worth blocksCreating secure attachment with the universe — the TBM method's deeper layerReclaiming trust, touch, routine, and reliability through new subconscious experiencesOverwriting your origin story through the reparenting processWhy boundaries, autonomy, and safe exploration matter so deeplyReleasing perfectionism, people-pleasing, and rebellion patterns from toddler yearsRediscovering intuition, creativity, and authenticity buried beneath early shameHow to self-soothe as an adult by attuning to your inner child's unmet needsRecognizing that your inner child is your spiritual guide back to wholenessMentioned In the Episode: Expanded x Ep. 383 - The Return to Magic: How to Cut Through the Noise and Get Your Spark BackExpanded x Ep. 186 - The Difference Between Fear & Intuition with Taylor Paige - Angel Reader & Intuitive242 Manifestation Blocks, Navigating The Unknown, And Creating Our Most Magical Lives with Jessica Gill of TBMJoin our HTM Book Club! Walk step by step through the TBM Manifestation Process with Lacy and Jessica as we read HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips Find our Money Challenge plus all our workshops and all workshops mentioned inside our Pathway Membership! (Including the Shadow DI, Safe DI, and Purpose & Soul's Essence DI) Join us at the How To Manifest Book Tour!LA 12/6Limited VIP & Early Bird Discount available HOW TO MANIFEST by Lacy Phillips (with exercises by Jessica Gill) Pre-Order NOW The Expanded Podcast, from To Be Magnetic™ (TBM), is the leading manifestation podcast rooted in neuroscience, psychology, and energetics. Hosted by TBM's Chief Content Officer Jessica Gill, with monthly appearances from founder Lacy Phillips, Expanded is where science and the mystical meet to help you manifest in the most grounded, practical, and life-changing way.At TBM, we've redefined manifestation through Neural Manifestation™—our proven, science-backed method developed with neuroscientist Dr. Tara Swart. This process helps you reprogram limiting beliefs at the subconscious level so you can create the life most aligned with your authenticity.Each week, we take you inside the TBM practice to help you expand your subconscious to believe what you desire is possible. Through expert interviews, thought leader conversations, TBM teachings, and real member success stories, you'll learn how to: – Rewire your subconscious mind and step into your worth – Heal your inner child and integrate shadow work – Set boundaries, strengthen intuition, and reclaim self-worth – Manifest relationships, careers, abundance, and experiences that align with your true selfWith over than 40 million downloads and a global community in over 100 countries, Expanded has become the gold standard in manifestation content. Think of it as your weekly practice for expanding your mind, believing what you want is possible, and manifesting the life you're meant to live.Past guests include leading voices such as Mel Robbins, Lewis Howes, Jenna Zoe, Martha Beck, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Dr. Gabor Maté, Mark Groves, and Brianna Wiest. Where To Find Us!@tobemagnetic (IG)@LacyannephillipsLacy Launched a Substack! - By Candlelight - Join Here@Jessicaashleygill@tobemagnetic (youtube)@expandedpodcast

Andrea Leeb is the author of Such a Pretty Picture, a debut memoir about childhood trauma, dissociation, and the long road to healing. Abused before the age of five and raised in a home of denial and silence, Andrea grew up to look “fine”—a successful attorney, wife, and high-functioning perfectionist. But when she was assaulted in her 30s, the façade cracked, and repressed memories, panic, and PTSD surfaced, forcing her into a profound journey of recovery.Through inpatient trauma therapy, EMDR, yoga, journaling, and boundary work, Andrea experienced what she calls a psychological rebirth. She now speaks with raw honesty about the hidden impact of childhood abuse, the myth of “I'm fine,” and why healing, though nonlinear, is always possible.Andrea brings a gentle yet unflinching presence, offering audiences validation, hope, and the reminder that it's never too late to tell the truth—or to reclaim who you were meant to be before the pain.In This EpisodeAndrea's websiteSuch a Pretty PictureRAINAndrea on IGBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-trauma-therapist--5739761/support.You can learn more about what I do here:The Trauma Therapist Newsletter: celebrates the people and voices in the mental health profession. And it's free! Check it out here: https://bit.ly/4jGBeSa———If you'd like to support The Trauma Therapist Podcast and the work I do you can do that here with a monthly donation of $5, $7, or $10: Donate to The Trauma Therapist Podcast.Click here to join my email list and receive podcast updates and other news.Thank you to our Sponsors:Incogni - Use code [traumatherapist] and get 60% off annual plans: https://incogni.com/traumatherapistJane App - use code GUY1MO at https://jane.app/book_a_demoJourney Clinical - visit https://join.journeyclinical/trauma for 1 month off your membershipTherapy Wisdom - https://therapywisdom.com/jan/

In this episode of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast, Kayleigh sits down with Kelsea, a mom of three, to share the emotional, terrifying, and deeply transformative story of her son Oliver's birth and NICU journey a birth she hoped would finally be a peaceful experience after two difficult deliveries, but instead became her most traumatic one yet.Scheduled for a repeat C-section at 37 weeks due to rising blood pressures and a history of preeclampsia, Kelsea entered the hospital with a pit in her stomach,  a feeling she now knows was intuition. The days that followed were filled with fear and uncertainty. Oliver deteriorated quickly, and for 24 hours, doctors weren't sure what was wrong. Finally, a NICU physician discovered that he had a pneumothorax, a collapsed left lung, and early signs of sepsis. He was intubated, placed on chest tubes, and put under strict no-hold restrictions leading to a heartbreaking stretch where Kelsea couldn't touch, comfort, or even pick up her newborn son.Together, Kayleigh and Kelsea talk through:

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Letting go after divorce isn't about willpower.It's about physiology.Your body won't release someone until it feels anchored somewhere safer than the place it's been clinging.And that's why cord-cutting rituals, no-contact declarations, and “I'm done for real this time” moments almost never stick.In this guided premium episode, we're not letting go into emptiness...we're letting go into self-belonging, the only place your nervous system actually trusts.Inside this practice, you'll experience:a guided drop-in to help your body feel held enough to releasewhy your system keeps reaching for someone who once felt like safetythe subtle shift that makes letting go feel possible, not terrifyinga “My Body Said No” moment that clarifies what part of you is resistingone sentence to use when you feel the urge to reach back outThis is the deeper work:not forcing yourself to let go...but giving your nervous system a safer place to land.Press play when you're ready to feel a real shift, not just think about one.Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MyCoachDawnInstagram: (@dawnwiggins)Instagram: (@coachtiffini)On the Web: https://www.mycoachdawn.comA podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.Support the show✨Join the Cocoon Community - your people are waiting! ✨

We share a response to the current news cycle.Our website is HERE:  System Speak Podcast.You can submit an email to the podcast HERE.You can JOIN THE COMMUNITY HERE.  Once you are in, you can use a non-Apple device or non-safari browser to join groups HERE. Once you are set up, then the website and app work on any device just fine.  We have peer support check-in groups, an art group, movie groups, social events, and classes.  Additional zoom groups are optional, but only available by joining the groups. Join us!Content Note: Content on this website and in the podcasts is assumed to be trauma and/or dissociative related due to the nature of what is being shared here in general.  Content descriptors are generally given in each episode.  Specific trigger warnings are not given due to research reporting this makes triggers worse.  Please use appropriate self-care and your own safety plan while exploring this website and during your listening experience.  Natural pauses due to dissociation have not been edited out of the podcast, and have been left for authenticity.  While some professional material may be referenced for educational purposes, Emma and her system are not your therapist nor offering professional advice.  Any informational material shared or referenced is simply part of our own learning process, and not guaranteed to be the latest research or best method for you.  Please contact your therapist or nearest emergency room in case of any emergency.  This website does not provide any medical, mental health, or social support services. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

If you've ever wondered why you feel stuck, why traditional therapy didn't go deep enough, or why your body reacts even when your mind says you're fine—this episode will finally make things click.We're breaking down two of the most powerful trauma-healing approaches, EMDR and Internal Family Systems (IFS), in a way that actually makes sense. We explore how trauma lives in the nervous system, how to know whether you need medication or trauma work, and what healing looks like for people carrying spiritual, identity-based, or emotional wounds.What you will learn:How EMDR processes and heals traumaIFS principles and understanding your inner partsTherapy and medication working togetherImportance of affirming care for LGBTQ+ clientsA holistic, whole-person approach to psychiatryEpisode Resources:⁠⁠⁠⁠Carter ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Carter ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Welcome to the Complex Trauma Podcast, formerly Reclaim You. If you've been minimizing your experiences as “not that bad,” holding it together for everyone else because you don't know another way, or you're finally ready to understand why you are the way you are in the world, you're in the right place.Host Sarah Herstich shares the story behind the rebrand, her journey from treating eating disorders to specializing in complex trauma, and what's coming next.What You'll Learn:• Why the podcast evolved from Reclaim You to the Complex Trauma Podcast• The connection between eating disorders and complex trauma that kept showing up in practice• How becoming a parent (especially to a neurodivergent child) deepened Sarah's understanding of trauma and the nervous system• What complex trauma actually looks like in daily life beyond the symptoms• Why so many survivors say “it wasn't that bad” and minimize their experiences• What to expect from upcoming solo episodes and expert interviews• How having language for complex trauma can change everything about your healingWhat's Coming:• The critical difference between PTSD and CPTSD• Expert conversations with Janina Fisher, Dr. Judith Herman, and Thomas Zimmerman• Deep dives into how trauma lives in your body and nervous system• Understanding overlooked childhood experiences that shape who you are todayWho This Podcast Is For:Cycle breakers. People re-parenting themselves. People who've been holding it together for everyone else because they don't know another way. People who feel numb or dissociated. There are really good reasons for the way you are in the world.New here? Subscribe to the Complex Trauma Podcast and join a community where you can feel seen, understood, and less alone.Been here since Reclaim You? Thank you for walking alongside us through every version of this work. Same heart, same mission, new name.If this episode resonated, leave a review to help other complex trauma survivors find this podcast when they need it mostThanks for listening to The Complex Trauma Podcast! Be sure to follow, share and give us a review on your favorite podcast platform. Follow on Instagram: @sarahherstichlcsw Learn more about EMDR & trauma therapy in Pennsylvania with Reclaim Therapy This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for professional medical, psychological, or nutritional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Remember, I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. Nothing in this podcast is meant to replace actual therapy or treatment. If you're in crisis or things feel really unsafe right now, please reach out to someone. You can call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, text them, or head to your nearest ER. The views expressed by the host and guests are their own and do not represent the opinions of any organizations or institutions. Reliance on any information provided by this podcast is solely at your own risk.

If you've been diagnosed with anxiety, depression, borderline personality disorder, or bipolar - but nothing quite fits - you might actually be dealing with Complex PTSD. In this episode, I break down the crucial differences between PTSD and CPTSD, why so many trauma survivors get misdiagnosed, and why traditional therapy approaches often miss the mark for complex trauma. Be sure to listen to my interview with Dr. Judith Herman next!Thanks for listening to The Complex Trauma Podcast! Be sure to follow, share and give us a review on your favorite podcast platform. Follow on Instagram: @sarahherstichlcsw Learn more about EMDR & trauma therapy in Pennsylvania with Reclaim Therapy This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for professional medical, psychological, or nutritional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Remember, I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. Nothing in this podcast is meant to replace actual therapy or treatment. If you're in crisis or things feel really unsafe right now, please reach out to someone. You can call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, text them, or head to your nearest ER. The views expressed by the host and guests are their own and do not represent the opinions of any organizations or institutions. Reliance on any information provided by this podcast is solely at your own risk.

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Judith Herman, author of the groundbreaking book Trauma and Recovery, to talk about complex PTSD, trauma recovery, and what justice actually means to survivors.Dr. Herman explains why complex trauma is still overlooked in mental health training, what the three stages of trauma recovery really look like in practice, and why isolation is one of the biggest predictors of poor outcomes. We also dig into her latest book, Truth and Repair, where she interviewed 30 survivors about what they actually want when it comes to accountability and healing.This conversation challenges everything you think you know about justice, punishment, and what it takes to move forward after trauma. If you've ever felt invisible, unheard, or like the system wasn't built for you, this episode will validate every single thing you've been feeling.Topics covered:The three stages of trauma recovery: safety, remembrance and mourning, and reconnectionWhy complex PTSD still isn't recognized in the DSMWhat survivors want more than anything (acknowledgment and vindication)Why most survivors don't want punishment or even apology from their abusersThe role of bystanders in healing and harmHow isolation impacts recovery and why finding your people mattersDr. Herman's one message to trauma survivorsIf this episode resonates with you, please share it with someone who needs to hear it.Thanks for listening to The Complex Trauma Podcast! Be sure to follow, share and give us a review on your favorite podcast platform. Follow on Instagram: @sarahherstichlcsw Learn more about EMDR & trauma therapy in Pennsylvania with Reclaim Therapy This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended as a substitute for professional medical, psychological, or nutritional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Remember, I'm a therapist, but I'm not your therapist. Nothing in this podcast is meant to replace actual therapy or treatment. If you're in crisis or things feel really unsafe right now, please reach out to someone. You can call 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, text them, or head to your nearest ER. The views expressed by the host and guests are their own and do not represent the opinions of any organizations or institutions. Reliance on any information provided by this podcast is solely at your own risk.

This week I talk with IFS therapist and teacher, Kendhal Hart, about the real-world practice of IFS, how she integrates it with EMDR, and her view of IFS as a neurodivergent clinician. Kendhal is the author of Treating Trauma with EMDR and IFS, a new book that offers clinicians a practical and compassionate guide to integrating the two models. She shares openly about her recent autism diagnosis and how her neurodifferences shapes the way she understands, lives, and teaches Internal Family Systems. We explore what it looks like to practice IFS in real time, outside of demos, outside of formal training, and inside the small everyday moments where our parts and Self show up. We discuss: Practical IFS steps tailored for neurodivergent minds What's missing in many IFS trainings How EMDR complements the IFS healing steps Befriending parts before moving to Phase 4 of EMDR How to track our internal systems throughout the day How to reflect parts and Self back to clients in simple terms IFS as a lifestyle I didn't want this conversation to end. If you love IFS and want a fresh take on living and embodying it every day, in the real world, this episode is for you. Kendhal's book: Treating Trauma with EMDR and IFS: A Clinician's Guide to Integrating Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Therapy with Internal Family Systems About Kendhal Dr. Kendhal Hart is a trainer, consultant, and trauma educator who helps therapists integrate IFS and EMDR. She is known for her nuanced, experiential approach to teaching and for supporting clinicians in developing confidence, clinical intuition, and sustainable practice. About The One Inside I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Seven years later, that's still at the heart of all we do.  Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, extended interviews, meditations, and more. Find Self-Led merch at The One Inside store. Listen to episodes and watch clips on YouTube. Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger. I co-create The One Inside with Jeff Schrum, a Level 2 IFS practitioner and coach. Resources New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start. Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get "Get to Know a Should Part" right away. Sponsorship Want to sponsor an episode of The One Inside? Email Tammy. 

This episode with Beatriz Victoria Albina, NP MPH SEP, author of End Emotional Outsourcing, comes at a pivotal time in our culture's search for real self-worth and belonging. So many people today struggle with perfectionism, codependency, and people-pleasing, often because of pressures from work, social media, and our fast-paced world. Dr. Nicole, Hadlee, and Beatriz talk honestly about why these habits actually helped us cope and get by, how they're shaped by our nervous system and culture, and share simple ways to build real self-worth and stronger, healthier connections. We are launching this episode right around the holidays because this is a time when social pressure grows and many people experience emotional triggers or old patterns resurfacing. The end of the year can make feelings of loneliness, stress, or wanting to fit in feel stronger, especially with all the seasonal gatherings and expectations. This message, airing now, gives listeners tools and encouragement to reclaim agency and inner authority so they can face the holidays with more confidence and healthier boundaries. It arrives just when support and practical strategies are needed most. Check out her new book: End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits Follow her on social media:  https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp https://www.youtube.com/@beavictoriaalbina   Additional Resources:

If you've ever felt that tug toward your ex...not the man, but the idea of him...we've got you. That pull is your nervous system trying to finish a story it never got closure on. And after divorce, that pull gets loud.In this episode, we break down why trauma bonds feel like soul ties and why your body keeps reaching for someone who couldn't give you safety. You'll learn what's actually happening in your brain, why familiar pain feels magnetic, and how to interrupt the urge to text him back.We also give you a simple sentence you can use the second your spiral starts, and we help you begin separating trauma from truth—because those two feel identical when you're hurting.And inside Cocoon this week, we're celebrating wins, joy, and nervous-system rehab with this month's Magic Drop giveaway. (If you're not in the community yet… get in there.)If peace feels unfamiliar, if chaos feels like home, if your body keeps wanting what your mind already left—this one's for you.Don't miss Thursday's premium episode. Dawn is guiding you through a nervous-system visualization designed to soften the cord where it actually lives—in your body. It's how you break the loop for real.The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships Paperbackby Patrick Carnes PhDFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/MyCoachDawnInstagram: (@dawnwiggins)Instagram: (@coachtiffini)On the Web: https://www.mycoachdawn.comA podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.Support the show✨Join the Coccoon Community - your people are waiting! ✨

Welcome to the Love, Honor, and Asperger's Podcast! In this episode, host April Anderson welcomes back Dr. Cathryn Rench, author of When Eros Meets Atos, for one of the most direct and uncompromising conversations yet. They break down the five behaviors Cassandra partners most often rationalize and why Dr. Rench insists these patterns should no longer be dismissed as mere neurology. Together, they explore the darker realities hidden behind media myths, how masking and manipulation show intentional control, and why many partners mistake trauma-driven fawning for love. Dr. Rench also shares why facing the truth is essential for safety and healing and how trauma therapies like EMDR can help Cassandra sisters finally break free from denial. Tune in for blunt insight, validating clarity, and the courage every Cassandra needs to hear in order to reclaim her wellbeing.

Travmanın Nörobiyolojisi: Travmada Zaman Mefhumu 00:00 – Travmada Bedenin Tepkileri 01:40 – İçe Dönüş ve Değişim 02:05 – Talamus ve Flashback Mekanizması 04:36 – Nöroplastisite ve Meditasyon 07:30 – Savaş, Kaç, Don Tepkileri 11:14 – Çocukluk, Bağlanma ve Travma 15:24 – İçimizdeki Korkmuş Hayvan 20:37 – EMDR'nin Bilimsel Etkileri 23:52 – İlişkisel Nörobiyoloji 26:55 – Meditasyon: 5 Aşamalı Nefes Farkındalığı Travma yaşandığında beynimizde zaman âdeta donar. Zeynep Aksoy, travmanın nörobiyolojisini herkesin anlayabileceği bir dille açıklarken; yoga, nefes, mindfulness ve EMDR gibi yöntemlerin beyni nasıl yeniden organize ettiğini, nöroplastisite sayesinde değişimin neden mümkün olduğunu anlatıyor. Bessel van der Kolk'un araştırmalarından yola çıkarak, tetiklenme anında bedenimizin neden aşırı tepki verdiğini, talamusun nasıl devre dışı kaldığını ve flashback'lerin bilimsel mekanizmasını açıklıyor. Bilimsel araştırmalarla desteklenen bu anlatım, aynı zamanda içe dönme, beden farkındalığı ve şefkatli bir gözlem geliştirme süreçlerini de derinlemesine inceliyor. Tetiklenmeler, yoğun duygular, donma tepkileri veya geçmişten gelen izlerle ilgileniyorsanız, bu bölüm size hem perspektif hem de umut verecek. Zeynep Aksoy, saygın bir yoga eğitmeni ve Reset platformunun kurucusudur. Web sitesi üzerinden canlı ve kayıttan izlenebilen dersler, üyelik programları ve profesyonel eğitimler sunmaktadır. Online Stüdyo üyeliği ile günlük çevrim içi derslere, geniş bir arşive ve topluluk desteğine erişim imkânı sağlar. Ayrıca Zeynep, katılımcıların hareket, anatomi ve farkındalık konularında bilgilerini derinleştirmelerine yardımcı olmak için yenilikçi Fasyal Yoga Uzmanlık Programı'nı yürütmektedir. Daha fazla bilgi almak ve sertifikalı eğitimlere katılmak için: www.zeynepaksoyreset.com

"You cannot have meaningful change and integration if you do not bring your nervous system with you." – Dr. Stacy Ellis Dr. Stacy Ellis is a trauma-informed psychologist and group facilitator who bridges clinical rigor with deep, embodied transformation. With over fifteen years of clinical practice, a decade of ongoing group work, and training in modalities like EMDR, somatic therapies, TRE, IFS, breathwork and sound healing, she helps people reprogram childhood imprints in the nervous system so they can live as their authentic adult selves. In her work, Stacy weaves science, insight and somatic practice to create spaces where inner child work, group healing and nervous system literacy come together. She has a particular gift for helping people understand why they are the way they are, and then offering real, embodied pathways toward wholeness. In this episode, Stacy shares: How her own journey from people-pleasing and caretaking into wholeness led her from conventional therapy into inner child and group work The story of a four-day intensive that "updated" her nervous system and transformed her relationship with her mother What actually happens inside well-held group containers, and why collective mirroring and co-regulation can create change that one-on-one work alone often cannot How she designs inner child workshops to keep the nervous system online, weaving teaching, tools, play and ritual for real integration Her working definitions of psychological safety and trauma-informed facilitation, and why they are about empowerment and depth, not coddling   Listener Survey! https://podcastsurvey.paperform.co/   Connect with Stacy Stacy's Website: drstacyellis.com Connect with Rachel Rachel's Email List: subscribe Rachel's Website: rachelrickards.com The Field Facilitator Training: www.the-field.com Find us on Instagram The Field Facilitator Training: instagram.com/thefieldfacilitation Rachel Rickards: instagram.com/rachel.rickards/ Our Cover Art was Designed by Oana Serbana Instagram: Oana_flowingart Etsy:  Oana Flowing Art Etsy  

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What exactly is arousal? Is it more than just sexual? In this episode, you'll learn the four types of arousal (uppers, downers, all-arounders, and deprivation) and how we use addiction to avoid intimacy ("into messy"). Along the way, you'll also find out why recovery is not a "don't touch your penis" program and how the skill of "tension holding" can transform your relationships. Great conversation!Chris Chandler (LMHC, LPCC, EMDR, CSAT-S) is a licensed therapist, coach, and Clinical Advisor at Relay Health. He is also the founder of Christian Recovery Groups LLC, a national program helping men and women heal from compulsive and addictive behaviors through faith, community, and neuroscience-informed recovery practices. Over the past 20 years, Chris has led thousands through individual and group recovery experiences. His mission is simple: to restore people to wholeness by integrating clinical insight with authentic, Spirit-filled community because true recovery happens in relationship.Schedule a 30-minute consultation with Chris here.Andrew Engstrom is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with Seattle Christian Counseling, where he helps individuals and couples heal by understanding themselves better first. Andrew is certified in MDFT (a holistic approach to counseling treatment) and uses PREPARE/ENRICH in pre-marital and marital counseling. He offers support and insight for overcoming obstacles that stand in the way of forming lasting, fulfilling relationships with others and God.Learn more and connect with Andrew here.See a preview of Chris and Andrew's intensives here.Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

277. Breaking Through Addiction in Marriage with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith   *DISCLAIMER* This episode is intended for adults.   1 John 1:9 AMP "If we [freely] admit that we have sinned and confess our sins, He is faithful and just [true to His own nature and promises], and will forgive our sins and cleanse us continually from all unrighteousness [our wrongdoing, everything not in conformity with His will and purpose].”   *Transcription Below*   Thank You to Our Sponsor: Leman Property Management Company   Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith are clinicians, speakers, and authors with over 20 years of combined experience in counseling, coaching, and guiding couples toward healing and transformation. Their mission is to help couples navigate the complexities of relational challenges, particularly in the aftermath of sexual addiction and betrayal trauma, fostering deep restoration and growth.   Matthew is a Professional Certified Coach (ICF) with a background in pastoral leadership, while Joanna is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, EMDR practitioner, and Certified Clinical Partner Specialist through APSATS. Both hold Master of Divinity degrees and have served together on multiple church leadership teams. Currently, they co-lead their private practice, The Raabsmith Team, where they specialize in helping couples rebuild connection, trust, and intimacy.   Their passion for this work stems from their own journey of restoration. After experiencing the devastating effects of sexual addiction and betrayal in their marriage, Matthew and Joanna embarked on a years-long pursuit of reconciliation. This transformative experience led to the creation of tools like The Intimacy Pyramid™, a practical model for relational restoration and growth co-created with colleague Dan Drake.    Their first book, Building True Intimacy (2023), has sold over 1,000 copies and provides practical guidance for couples to use the Intimacy Pyramid to create enduring connections. They also founded Renewing Us Recovery™, a comprehensive program designed to support couples in the later stages of relational restoration. In November 2025, they will host the inaugural Renewing Us Couples Retreat, offering workshops and connection opportunities for couples on similar paths of recovery and growth.   Matthew and Joanna live in Memphis, Tennessee with their three young children. They prioritize self-care through shared adventures, new experiences, and a weekly game of pickleball.   Free Resource Mentioned in Episode   Building True Intimacy book   Questions and Topics Discussed: What were the warning signs that you noticed when you were newlyweds that tipped you off to believing things weren't quite as they seemed? Are there any common life circumstances, whether nature or nurture, that predispose someone to be more likely to struggle with a sexual addiction? As couples seek to thrive in marriage, will you give us an overview of the intimacy pyramid you wrote a book about?   Other Episodes Mentioned During Episode: Pornography: Protecting Children, Personal Healing, Recovery, and Victory in Christ with Sam Black Pornography Addiction and Helpful Recovery with Crystal Renaud Day   Additional Related Episodes on The Savvy Sauce: Anatomy of an Affair with Dave Carder Protecting Your Marriage Against Unfaithfulness with Dave Carder Stories Series: Recovery From Sexual Sin in Marriage with Garrett and Brenna Naufel Supernatural Restoration Story with Bob and Audrey Meisner Special Patreon Re-Release Wholehearted Quiet Time with Naomi Vacaro   Gospel Scripture: (all NIV) Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,”   Romans 3:24 “and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.”   Romans 3:25 (a) “God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.”   Hebrews 9:22 (b) “without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.”    Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”    Romans 5:11 “Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.”   John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”   Romans 10:9 “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”    Luke 15:10 says “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.”   Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus”   Ephesians 1:13–14 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.”   Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.”   Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“   Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ.“   Philippians 1:6 “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”   *Transcription*   Music: (0:00 – 0:12)   Laura Dugger: (0:13 - 1:38) Welcome to The Savvy Sauce, where we have practical chats for intentional living. I'm your host, Laura Dugger, and I'm so glad you're here.   Today's message is not intended for little ears. We'll be discussing some adult themes, and I want you to be aware before you listen to this message.   Leman Property Management Company has the apartment you will be able to call home, with over 1,700 apartment units available in Central Illinois. Visit them today at lemanproperties.com, or connect with them on Facebook.   Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith are my guests today. They are clinicians, speakers, and authors with over 20 years of combined experience in counseling, coaching, and guiding couples toward healing and transformation. Our conversation takes a few turns, from getting to hear their incredible and vulnerable story of healing and then getting tips for talking to our children about topics like sex, and also even receiving some practical wisdom and tips for enhancing our own marital enjoyment.   Here's our chat. Welcome to The Savvy Sauce, Matthew and Joanna.   Matthew Raabsmith: (1:39 - 1:40) So good to be here.   Joanna Raabsmith: (1:40 - 1:42) So glad to be here. Thanks for having us.   Laura Dugger: (1:42 - 1:51) Oh, truly my pleasure. And let's just start here. Can you share your story going back to meeting and falling in love and your first part of marriage?   Matthew Raabsmith: (1:53 - 2:17) Sure, yeah. It was a little bumpy at first, actually. So, I knew Joanna through her brother. Joanna's brother was one of my best friends, and I got to meet her whenever she would come in town and visit, and she would invade guy night. He would usually bring her along to like a Lord of the Rings movie or something, and I would be a little frustrated because I would be like, oh, you brought your sister. Great. That's wonderful.   Joanna Raabsmith: (2:18 - 2:24) A little off-putting, not super friendly. And I was like, your friend's kind of a jerk. We did not like each other at all in the beginning.   Matthew Raabsmith: (2:24 - 2:54) Not big fans. And eventually over some time, we started to realize we had a lot in common. We liked to do a lot of the same things.   And one summer that Joanna was in town, we started hanging out, started doing more and more together, and really just kind of developed a friendship, which was really fun. And at the very end of the summer, realized that there was something between us. And so, we went on one date.   Our first date, we entered a golf tournament. We won it, and that was a good sign.   Joanna Raabsmith: (2:54 - 2:55) That's a pretty good sign.   Matthew Raabsmith: (2:55 - 3:02) And we went on three more dates over the course of two months and got engaged.   Joanna Raabsmith: (3:03 - 3:07) And then two months after that, we got married.   Matthew Raabsmith: (3:07 - 3:16) Yeah. So, her brother went from like, yeah, it's cool you date my sister, to like, you're not ready to get married. But he's come around now.   Joanna Raabsmith: (3:17 - 3:19) 15 years later. Yeah.   Matthew Raabsmith: (3:19 - 3:40) And, you know, a lot of it was, I think we had a definite sense of being kind of called together, being, you know, something special about who we were as a couple. And also, a recognition that we wanted to figure out what a good marriage looked like. We were really excited about marriage, but we didn't really know what we were doing.   Joanna Raabsmith: (3:41 - 4:15) Yeah, I've had a really great model of healthy relationship. My parents have a wonderful marriage. They work really well as a team.   And so, I knew, like, I want something like that. But as soon as we got married, we realized, but how do you actually build that? There's no, like, instruction manual for, okay, here are the things to do to have a great relationship.   And so, we read books. We went to conferences. You know, we did what we could, but we still found ourselves getting stuck, not able to really create, like, that deep sense of, like, connection intimacy that we really wanted.   Matthew Raabsmith: (4:15 - 5:17) And we started kind of hunting more and more for resources. We found some incredible resources that really changed our understanding of the way relationships work, the way people work, and really, for us, shifted our entire focus of kind of what we wanted to do, even with our life. And as we started to do that, though, we still kind of found ourselves at this kind of glass wall.   We felt like no matter what we tried, there was always this kind of distance between us. And that started to grow kind of over the years that we were together. It wasn't getting better.   It was actually kind of getting worse and worse and worse. And so, Joanna had actually decided to, after we finished our first grad degree together, the idea was we were going to go be pastors. And so, we had finished our kind of theological training.   Joanna decided she wanted to get a master's in marriage and family therapy so we could do some work around marriages and ministry in that way. And her very first-class kind of just set our life in a completely different direction.   Joanna Raabsmith: (5:17 - 6:26) Yes. So, my first class in the MFT program was a two-week intensive called Shame and Guilt. So, that's a really fun two-week intensive to be a part of. And as a part of that, though, they had an anonymous pastor come and share his testimony of struggling with sex addiction, becoming sober, getting into good recovery, healing and restoration in his marriage, kind of like that whole journey. And as he was talking, something inside of me started stirring. And I knew, OK, what he's saying is resonating way too much with me right now.   I think this is the thing. This is what is keeping us stuck, not able to really create the relationship we want. And so, that day I went home and first I just kind of started talking about my class, what I learned, what this pastor had shared.   Right. And nothing. Right.   We're just kind of talking generally about it. And so, finally I couldn't do it anymore. And I just stopped and I looked him square in the eyes and I said, “Are you struggling with this in our marriage right now?”   Matthew Raabsmith: (6:26 - 8:03) Yeah. And for the first time in my life, 20 years, I had been struggling with pornography, sexual addiction, and acting out in our marriage. And for the first time in my life, I was honest.   I had lied for years, both with Joanna and everyone else. And the kind of floodgates just kind of opened up. And I finally said yes.   And it was really hearing the story, I think, is what did it for me. I think it was knowing that somebody else had made it, that their life hadn't come crashing down because that was the greatest fear for me. That the moment anyone found this out, everything in my life would be over. Everything that I loved would be gone.   And so, this kind of story of hope gave me a little bit of courage that day, to be honest. But that started a really long journey for us because there was a lot of damage that was done in both of my hiding. And now kind of this revelation, all the pain kind of came crashing down on Joanna and kind of her shoulders.   And so, we started a quite intensive recovery process. We talked about it being kind of a full-time job. I went to recovery for my addiction and for kind of my acting out behaviors. Joanna had to begin a process of healing from the trauma of this discovery. And that process took us a number of years. It really was a long kind of arduous journey, but one that we ultimately survived and now thrive in our marriage and get the incredible luxury and the kind of gift of helping other couples do that.   So, that's kind of where we find ourselves.   Laura Dugger: (8:04 - 8:30) That is incredible. I just really appreciate you sharing your story. Clearly, stories are so powerful and that's what led to some healing for you and hopefully can open the floodgates for somebody else listening.   So, if we go back in your story, then, Joanna, I'd love to start with you. What were some of those red flags in early marriage that things aren't quite as they seem?   Joanna Raabsmith: (8:31 - 10:28) Yeah, there are a few. You know, I think that, you know, one of the pieces we kind of talked about, like, OK, we knew we're still getting stuck because there's 90 percent that felt really good. But then 10 percent that was extremely chaotic, really destructive.   Right. We would get we call the pain cycles when we get emotionally dysregulated. And there would be some things that, right.   Sometimes we would get into pain cycles, get dysregulated. And I kind of understand why. Right.   Like something happened. There was the disagreement. But other times I couldn't put my finger on it.   Right. Matthew would just get really angry and really shut down. And I wouldn't be able to connect it to anything that had happened in our life.   And so, it was very confusing. It was really hard to understand what was going on. And I think kind of in the same way, when I would pull too close into that connection, that intimacy, he would pull back.   Right. And it felt like even though we both named this goal and this desire, he would never actually partner with me in it. And so, again, that was really confusing because the actions were not matching up with reality and what was happening.   And I think the other piece that was kind of true for us and true for a lot of other people is that our own sexual relationship was fraught with pain. And so, there was, again, a lot that was really good, but also a lot that was really painful and confusing. And some of the pieces just didn't connect.   Right. And I would wonder, OK, what's going on? Well, I guess this is just the reality that like this is how much we get to expect in this area of our life, right.   In our relationship. And so, it was when the pastor started describing his life and addiction and what that looked like emotionally, sexually, relationally. I was like, oh, those are all the things that I'm currently experiencing.   Here's one thing that would answer all those questions that I have. And so, I think that was part of it. He kind of told me, like, OK, this is it.   Laura Dugger: (10:28 - 11:00) That would be so eye opening. And my heart's going out to the couple who is maybe starting to identify with this. Was it and share whatever you're comfortable with from your story or the person's story who opened things up to you?   So, sexually, I'm wondering if it was for you, Joanna, if you were hoping to connect sexually and that wasn't happening and that was confusing. You didn't feel pursued. But I don't want to fill in the blanks.   So, could you elaborate?   Joanna Raabsmith: (11:00 - 12:03) Absolutely. Yeah. And we find it a lot of different ways than couples that we work with.   Right. And so, it can be sometimes on either side of the extreme. And so, for us, it was where there would be kind of times when he'd be fully present and interested and engaged. Right. And then all of a sudden, kind of like I described emotionally, he would just withdraw and not be there. And I would reach out to connect.   And that was this like non-response. And which, again, didn't match up with those other times when he was engaged and wanting to connect. And he would give some sort of excuse that didn't totally make sense.   Right. But I was kind of like, what else? What was I left with except that?   So, I would kind of believe that and go with it, even though it didn't sit right. And so, yeah, I think that was part of it. We will see on the other side for some other couples.   It's the opposite. And maybe that spouse is hypersexual in the relationship. Right.   To the point where there might be pressure, even pressure to do things sexually that people aren't comfortable with. And so, yeah, it can look a lot of different ways. But that was kind of what our disconnect looked like.   Laura Dugger: (12:04 - 12:33) That's so helpful. And there's two different directions I want to go, Matthew. So, I'll set it up.   I guess I'm thinking of the guilt and shame and how those are usually so present. So, I have two questions. Were you when Joanna came to you, were you at a point where you recognize something was off and you wanted freedom from this and or had tried freedom before?   Let's start with that and then I'll go into the other one.   Matthew Raabsmith: (12:34 - 14:40) Yeah, it really was holy timing in a lot of ways. I, you know, for a lot of years I had I hated what I did. I didn't feel like I could stop it, but didn't have a lot of interest in kind of doing anything to stop it.   I kind of just like would just say, “OK, this is going to be the last time.” And then, you know, of course it would come back. But I think at this point I had really started to see the damage that was happening to our relationship.   I could feel us growing close, growing further apart. I could see kind of Joanna and the confusion that she was having. And like she couldn't understand things.   She would ask me a lot of questions that I didn't have answers to. And so, I actually a couple of months earlier, we were at a worship service, and they had said like, “hey, if you are ready to give something up, if you feel like there's something holding you back, come forward and confess it.” And Joanna and I were sitting next to each other, and I remember feeling like the Holy Spirit just like pulling me to like get up out of my seat and I wouldn't move.   I was like, no, because she's going to ask me what I went down for. I'm going there's you know, there's a random kind of prayer partner at the front. I'm like, I'm not going and confessing this to some random person.   And so, I was ready. But I think like I said, I think there was no path forward. It was kind of confess this and everything stops and ends.   But everything like marriage ends, life ends. And so, when she when she brought this, it really did feel like God had kind of been answering a prayer that I've been praying of like, if you give me a way out, I'll take it. I'm desperate.   I want it to stop. And it felt like that. I think it was both this kind of terror and this hope that day.   And even when I said, yes, it was a little bit like, what have I done? Like, could this have been different? Should I have just gone and told someone else privately?   Right. But I think ultimately that it was out between the two of us and that we kind of knew it. We knew what we were dealing with made a huge difference.   But I mean, God had been working in my life, offering opportunities for so long. I just been saying no, no, no. And then finally, you know, I think my heart just broke and it was like, yes, OK, I'm ready for this.   Laura Dugger: (14:40 - 15:14) I love how the Holy Spirit equipped you with that humility and courage to be brave in that moment. And it's such a blessing for all of us to get to see the end or I guess not the end of the story, but you at this point in your story where you're thriving. And so, I hope that offers a lot of hope to people listening.   But let's also pause. And so, going back further in time, Matthew, this was the other part of my question. What was life and attachment and your growing up journey like?   Matthew Raabsmith: (15:15 - 18:09) Yeah, I didn't know that at the time. Right. I a lot of this I figured out in the last couple of years of recovery.   You know, if you would have asked me, you know, as I was growing up about my life, I would have told you I had the perfect family. I had the perfect life. I think I did not realize that some of the things that I was going through weren't perfect, were harder.   And part of that was because I think the way my family dynamic worked was we just swept everything under the rug. You know, whatever happened, we just kind of went, OK, and moved on from. And I learned to do that as a kid.   And that meant a lot of emotional chaos. There was a lot of physical chaos and kind of volatility in our house growing up. And even though I had parents who are still married to this day, have stayed together and have tried to create kind of a stable life.   There was a lot of emotional and kind of relational instability. We moved around a lot. And then once we started moving, I found myself more and more kind of isolated at school. I started dealing with bullying and some things that really kind of left me not knowing how to deal with the pain that I was going through. And so, my way of stuffing things under the rug was getting, you know, escaping, you know, kind of escaping into anything that I could. I watched a lot of TV.   I was a latchkey kid, so I would come home. I'd watch TV a lot in the afternoon and then TV kind of just turned to more and more. And I was exposed pretty young to pornography, actually at a church camp.   I was at a summer church camp. Someone brought a Playboy magazine, and I was exposed to pornography. And I kind of felt that high, that rush.   And that just became kind of a mode of my escape. Right. Of whatever I could do to engage sexually, whether with my mind or with others.   That's how I could get out of the pain I was in. That's how I could stop feeling kind of the chaos that I was having and not realizing that it was becoming this kind of adaptive habit, that it would just be this thing I would go back to more and more. And I grew up at a time that technology was still emerging.   So, I can remember when we got our first computer and no one was talking about safeguards or anything. And so, it was just kind of exposure. Here you go.   Here's everything you could ever want and don't need. And that really became my life. And the more and more that I did, the better and better I got at lying and hiding and even being kind of vulnerable in kind of fake ways.   I would mention things like, yeah, we all have this struggle. And even Joanna, I had told like, you know, that was a struggle of mine in the past, but I've moved on from it. Right.   I told myself and other people just kind of lie after lie after lie so that I could have really this double life. I could appear one way and then I could be acting a completely different way, kind of in the dark.   Laura Dugger: (18:10 - 20:41) Yeah. And that makes sense. I'm thinking back to two episodes.   We did one with a male, Sam Black from Covenant Eyes, and he speaks so much of the origins of pornography and that foothold that Satan gets. And so many times it is in childhood, unwittingly you're exposed and then what it can turn into. And then Crystal Renaud Day came on to share a lot of females struggle with this as well.   And so, I'll link to those if those are a help.   And now a brief message from our sponsor. 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For me, I had to figure out what had really gone on in my life and what was really happening.   Because, like I said, I had become such an expert at hiding from myself and others that I didn't really know how to live any other way. And so, I, you know, Joanna kind of handed me a list of everything this pastor had done. She was like, here you go.   Right. She kind of handed me that list and was like, good luck. And so, I dove in.   I went to a men's intensive. And I think that was probably one of the key places for me to tell my story for the first time. I really took a look at my life and had some people help me take a look and recognize the trauma that I had as a kid exposure that I had experienced and what that really meant to me and helped me understand what I was doing.   But also, kind of what I was doing to myself, how I was really kind of killing myself from the inside out and preventing myself from having the kind of relationship I wanted with God and other people. And so, that discovery was in really ways kind of invigorating for me. I felt like I was living for the first time.   I think I had started to kind of get out of this kind of burden, this fear of always being caught. I told Joanna kind of the history of everything that had happened in my life and our relationship. And so, I was feeling this kind of renewed sense of like energy and excitement of like, this is good.   I want this life. I want the life there that I'm not in constant kind of fear and in constant kind of connection to this thing I hate. And so, which is really different than what Joanna was experiencing.   Joanna Raabsmith: (22:30 - 25:07) Yeah. So, for me, it was very jarring in the beginning. Everything I thought was real came crashing down around me.   And that was especially jarring because I had left kind of the direction, the path that I was on. Right. We talked about our story earlier.   It included two months of dating, two months of engagement before we got married. And that also included me dropping out of law school, getting married and moving to California to pursue a ministry degree so we could work as pastors together or do something together. And so, in that moment, all of that came crashing down.   And I kind of was very lost, not just in our relationship, but in kind of what in the world am I even doing here? What am I going to do moving forward if he doesn't choose recovery? Right.   And so, just all of those question marks, all in that one moment of him answering that question affirmative. And so, so there was like that heaviness on one side and then on the other side was this relief of finally everything I've been experiencing makes sense. Right. Finally, I feel like I actually know what's going on. And because of that, there could maybe be a path forward for us as well. So, is this very, very weird dichotomy in that moment? And so, but I think I knew right away, like, I can't be vulnerable. I can't be intimate with him anymore. Right.   I have to step back in our relationship and wait and see what he chooses to do. Is he going to choose to do the work of recovery and get healthy and start to be honest and safe or not? And so, that's so we kind of did kind of there's some space for a very long period of time while we focused on our own individual recoveries.   And that, again, was a little bumpy for me. This is over a decade ago. And so, there is very little information about what partners experience.   We call it betrayal trauma, and that just wasn't a very common word at the time. And so, some of the resources I plugged into came from a more we would call it codependent, co-addict focus, which just really didn't fit. So, I struggled to find resources that felt like they fit for my journey.   But once I did, it all again, my own healing process started to make sense. And it was so like freeing and liberating to understand. Like, oh, OK, this is what I'm going through. This is why I feel this way.   This is what it looks like to heal and move forward. And so, kind of beginning that process was so important because then when Matthew was kind of in a healthy, safe place, I was as well, and we can start to step in towards each other on that kind of more couples' journey at that point.   Laura Dugger: (25:07 - 25:17) I love how you did that wisely, though, separate first, not rushing into couples at that time. Absolutely.   Matthew Raabsmith: (25:18 - 26:33) Appreciate you calling it wise. I think we were terrified. Yeah, we'll take God's help.   I think he was like, you guys just work on your own stuff for a while. And in some ways, like I said, it was we didn't know what we were doing. But I think we knew we wanted there to be a future between the two of us.   But we knew it had to be completely different in some ways than what we had before, which was scary because we liked what we had before. Like we had a really great marriage in many ways. Right.   There was this portion of it, this hidden portion that was really infecting and killing it all. But what we did have together, we didn't want to totally lose. It just was really hard to know, especially early on, what's going to come forward.   Like, who are we still going to be as we go forward? Are we still going to be a couple who does things together? Right. Who works together? Or is that all kind of going to have to be different? Is that the only way that we have kind of moving forward?   And so, that was that was probably the hardest part was having like this sense of like not wanting to lose us. We were like, if we lost that, that was going to be miserable. And I think a lot of our work was about how do we eventually reclaim this marriage that we want, that we love?   Laura Dugger: (26:34 - 27:04) Yes, because from what I'm sensing, you're friends with each other, you're on purpose or on mission with God. He did a course correction change, putting you on this path to help couples. But your desire to work together, it's like He still honored that in the ministry of reconciliation.   And I'm assuming abundantly blessed it beyond what you could ever dreamed up what we're doing now.   Joanna Raabsmith: (27:04 - 27:42) Right. It's been amazing to see what God has done, how he's used our story, which is so fitting because it was someone sharing their story that brought our healing. And I think because of that and it wasn't right away; it took some time to get to the place where we felt open to God using our story to bring healing to others. But we found as we stepped into that, that we have received such a blessing.   Right. And just being able to sit with other couples in that journey and see them go from that place of pain and confusion to this place of restoration and thriving. Like there is no better work that we could have imagined for ourselves.   Laura Dugger: (27:42 - 28:09) Love that. And really, you did have to pioneer a path. There weren't many resources at that time.   So, that's another reason I'm grateful you can share your story, because I hope it unlocks freedom for others. So, if we're turning more outward now and you're helping as you work with couples, how do you help them identify the difference between sexual struggles and sexual addiction?   Matthew Raabsmith: (28:10 - 30:15) Yeah, that's a great question. And I think that it really kind of exists on a spectrum. And so, everything kind of exists under what we call problematic sexual behavior or unwanted sexual behavior.   Whenever someone is acting in a way sexually that doesn't align with their values. And then the question is, is how often, how compulsive, right? How habituated, right?   How really embedded is that practice? Because the more and more embedded it is and the more and more that I continue to act on that, seeing the damage that it's doing, that's really what qualifies as the addiction. The addiction is when I know that this is causing harm and I and I feel that even though I want to stop it and I've tried to stop.   Right. I can't stop the 12 steps has a great line. They say addicts, you know, addicts have no problem stopping.   It's staying stopped. That's hard for an addict. Right.   And so, that's usually a sign that there's an addiction. And really what that means is that just means that I'm going to have to be even more kind of thorough and scrupulous in my willingness to change a lot. Because if I have built an addictive lifestyle, that means everything I do kind of functions to support that lifestyle.   Right. And so, my part of that was this hiding. I lied about everything.   I would lie about anything just to make sure that I was in control of the narrative. And so, for me, it was recognizing that if I was going to move forward free of my addiction, then it had to begin with honesty, with this kind of radical honesty and transparency and growing in that consistently, because that was the way that I manifested this addiction and kind of kept it going. And so, that's really what the addiction is about, is recognizing what are the kind of pieces in my life that are supporting this addiction to continue to exist?   And how is God going to dismantle those things? Right. And how am I going to be a part of that dismantling?   Laura Dugger: (30:16 - 30:33) That's well said. And also, I'm curious, are there any common life circumstances, whether that's nature or nurture, that are more likely to predispose someone to more likely have this struggle with sexual addiction?   Matthew Raabsmith: (30:34 - 32:30) I mean, there are, I think, you know, the things that we tend to look for are trauma and trauma comes in so many different forms. So, trauma is more it's rare that it's a single event. It's often more a kind of consistent occurrences.   As I mentioned, you know, I can't speak to kind of one event in my life that I say this was the traumatic moment in which everything changed. But it was more of the chaos. And so, I grew up in a family that could be really, really, really loving and incredibly encouraging and fun and silly and in a heartbeat switch into one that was verbally and physically just chaotic and terrifying.   And it was that chaos that kept me on edge. What it did was it created in me kind of a system of always wanting to be on high alert. And that would exhaust me.   That would kind of wear me out. And I would want to kind of numb that kind of feeling away. And so, I think those traumas, I do think early exposure.   Right. I mean, I was exposed early before my brain was ready to really understand what it was dealing with. And I think the third component that we often see is a low level or a kind of really a void of sexual education.   There was I'm sure I had a small talk with my dad at some point, but we were not talking about pornography. We weren't talking about bodies. We weren't talking about sex from a kind of healthy, good way.   I grew up in the church, and it was kind of don't do this until you're married and then you'll be fine. Right. That was the sexual education message.   And so, those things, right, trauma, exposure and lack of kind of education usually forms in someone a difficulty of knowing what they're doing, knowing that it's destroying them before it's really kind of gotten a deep hole.   Joanna Raabsmith: (32:30 - 33:20) I think like the brain. The brain aspect to when we talk about addiction, there are usually chemicals involved in addiction being formed, being created. And so, I think also co-occurring disorders, right, that emotional pain, also things like anxiety, depression, ADHD, where my brain really likes the dopamine it gets from sexual acting out. Right.   And you can actually need it to feel OK. That can also be a factor in kind of especially that addictive side of these behaviors. When my brain gets really attached to that dopamine release that it's getting because maybe I have some other things going on or I just have emotional pain.   I don't know what to deal with, how to handle it, how to regulate that in a healthy way.   Laura Dugger: (33:20 - 34:30) There's so many good points there. I'll just highlight one because there's a profound piece that you were talking about with early exposure to evil and the corruption of it is extremely harmful. And yet not being exposed to God's good design for sex and hopefully being coached by our parents, that is both of those play a part in the addiction. And so, I'm thinking even as we shift to think about parents, I know I've had parents come to me and just say, I don't want to talk about this with my kids.   I don't want to rob their innocence. And my approach is if God made it, this is good. We can talk to them.   You're not robbing their innocence when you're sharing the good age-appropriate parts of sex. And it's so great to be that first one to share with them. And I think it does the opposite of what we would expect.   We're afraid that that might make them hyper sexualized. But would you speak to that? Any encouragement for parents?   Matthew Raabsmith: (34:30 - 36:37) Yeah, it's tricky. I mean, even as parents, we've got kids and its still kind of navigating it. But I do think what it does is it lets someone learn the things they need to in the timeline they need to.   I think part of one of the things is that, you know, really good sexual education starts young. I mean, they start six and seven years old or even younger, just talking about our bodies. Right.   Because I think that's part of it. Really, this is about understanding the goodness of our bodies. This body was created by God, the maker of heaven and earth, and he called it good.   And so, I think part of a good sexual education begins with that. And then, what's really nice is once you've started the conversation, that means if your children are exposed or if they're presented with things that don't line up with what they've been hearing, they now feel safe to come and talk about that. Because that's really what this was about.   I didn't feel safe to talk about what I was exposed to, what people were doing. Right. And what people were encouraging me to engage in.   And so, you know, my parents would ask me how it's going. I would not tell them anything because it wasn't a conversation that they were having with me. And so, I didn't think it was a conversation I was going to have with them.   And so, that meant that as I found myself further and further away from my values, I felt like, who am I going to share this with? And so, part of having the conversation is it normalizes with our kids that this is OK to talk about, which is actually what adults need. I mean, part of our work with couples as adults, we have to get them talking about sex and body parts.   I mean, it's amazing to have 30, 40, and 50-year-olds in our offices and in our sessions. And they're so uncomfortable. Right.   They don't want to talk about sex. They don't want to talk about their bodies. They don't want to talk about what their bodies do.   Right. And we keep being like, this is God's good stuff. Right.   There is goodness here. But you have to begin by talking about it. Right.   Having these conversations.   Joanna Raabsmith: (36:38 - 37:54) I tell all the parents I work with, your kids are going to pick up a narrative about what sex is and what sexuality is, whether you want them to or not. And so, would you rather be the first person to step in and give them a healthy view, a healthy narrative to understand? Right.   And this is beyond kind of the nuts and bolts that everything our kids are learning. They're trying to find a deeper meaning. They don't think it's unconscious when they're young. Right. But they're taking it and they're going, what meaning does this have for me? How does this inform my self-worth, my view of my own value as a human in my body?   And how does it inform my experience of the world and my safety in the world? And am I empowered to make decisions? Am I connected?   Do I belong? Right. All of those questions are asking.   And so, as they're confronted with issues of sexuality, it's going to inform those things. And the world will not give them a healthy narrative about it. Right.   And so, being able as a parent to step in and give them that healthy meaning, that narrative, that understanding of their worth and their safety as they're piecing together kind of sexuality, again, at that age-appropriate level is so important.   Laura Dugger: (37:54 - 38:30) Guess what? We are no longer an audio only podcast. We now have video included as well.   If you want to view the conversation each week, make sure you watch our videos. We're on YouTube and you can access videos or find answers to any of your other questions about the podcast when you visit thesavvysauce.com. And I love that you're talking about this with couples you work with.   So, will you give us an overview of the intimacy pyramid that you actually wrote a book about and you teach to couples?   Joanna Raabsmith: (38:30 - 38:31) Absolutely.   Matthew Raabsmith: (38:31 - 39:15) Yeah. I mean, it was born out of our journey because, as you said, we wandered for a while and we felt a little bit like Israel, just kind of, you know, knowing that the Promised Land was out there, but never really feeling like we could find it. And when we started to piece together, I think the kind of relationship that we had dreamed of reclaiming, we really ask ourselves, how can we make this a more direct, a simpler process, not just for couples who went through what we went through, but really for any couple who's hungry for this, for the couple like us when we were first starting.   It really wants an amazing marriage. And so, we really focused on a kind of simplistic idea of what are the core kind of foundational levels of building really healthy intimacy.   Joanna Raabsmith: (39:16 - 40:10) Yeah. So, the intimacy pyramid, it's actually a triangle. There's a visual that goes along with it.   So, if you imagine the different levels of the triangle, very similar to Maslow's hierarchy of needs, starting at the bottom, you have to start with honesty. And so, we definitely experienced that reality in our own relationship. Right.   This is something we learned from Couples in Betrayal, but like Matthew said, we realized this is where every couple starts. Am I willing to be fully open, fully honest and transparent in this relationship? Am I being my authentic self?   Right. And after that level of honesty, that's when we start to build safety. And that has to do with our ability to communicate in really healthy, constructive ways.   Even when it's hard, even when we're disagreeing, even when we feel like yelling at each other. Are we able to show up with that belief that we both have the same goal? We're trying to build something together.   Matthew Raabsmith: (40:10 - 41:57) And with honesty and safety, that's where we get to work on trust as a couple. That's that next level. And trust is where we start to be more partners, where we're really starting to kind of lean in, work together, kind of be courageous and saying, “Hey, this isn't just my life anymore, right?”   This is our life together. And as that trust is established, this is what allows for the incredible work of vulnerability. And there's been all these studies about vulnerability over the last few years and how important it is.   What we recognize, though, is vulnerability on top of nothing is actually really risky and kind of even dangerous. It's vulnerability that's built on healthy trust where we step in and we do share some of those deeper pains in those wounds, those fears. We start to really heal some of those kind of early traumas that we experience.   It's in that vulnerability. That's what allows a couple to be truly intimate. And it's when they've worked through each of these levels, what we find is these couples, when they reach this kind of this intimacy level, they're passionate about who they are as a couple. They love kind of their relationship itself. They have a purpose to it. They have a sense that like our marriage, our relationship exists for a reason, but they're also really playful.   They're silly. They're really kind of comfortable in their own skin. And it's those five levels really working together that allows them to experience a relationship that gives life. I think one of the things we know is that when God creates, it gives life. And so, God created marriage not to burden us, right? Not to kind of, you know, not even just to get us through, you know, kind of surviving life, but actually to bring more life.   Right. And not just life within the relationship itself, but life outside of it.   Laura Dugger: (41:58 - 42:22) Oh, I love it. And you're also working with couples. I've heard you speak before about the working on offering your spouse the gift of self-awareness. And so, what could couples expect? How do you actually work with them to grow in self-awareness and recognize things like the emotional process they go through in marriage?   Joanna Raabsmith: (42:22 - 43:48) Absolutely. So, awareness. So, in our book, we obviously detail the intimacy period much more.   And that's Building True Intimacy is the name of the book. But each of those levels we just walked through have different components that go into that. And awareness is kind of like one of the most important components of that honesty foundation.   So, we have to start with awareness and we can't really build anything if there's a lack of self-awareness. And so, when we work with couples, one of the first places we start is we kind of look at the past. Are they aware of what they've been through, what those experiences are, and how those experiences have shaped them into the person that is now in the present, showing up with their spouse.   Right. And so, once I start to have that insight from my past, from those experiences, how they shape me, I can better understand my present. What are the things that I feel and why do I feel those things in particular?   Right. And then when I feel those things in a relationship, and these are typically those kind of heavier, more challenging, more painful emotions. How do I respond?   How am I showing up? Because the reality is that all of us cope with emotional pain the same way we cope with physical pain. We go into fight or flight.   That part of our brain gets triggered and we respond with these kind of destructive relational coping behaviors that then hurt my partner.   Matthew Raabsmith: (43:48 - 46:22) Yeah. Like, for example, I told you about that chaos I experienced as a kid. And so, those would always happen around conflicts.   My parents would disagree about something. There would be some type of argument about, you know, and it could be anything where we were going for dinner or what color the curtains were. Right.   But it would create this chaotic environment. So, as I got married, the thing that I didn't like the least was any type of conflict. Joanna and I would get in when I could sense us disagreeing and we are both passionate.   We have opinions and we believe things and we get into this kind of disagreement and argument. It would freak my system out. And I didn't realize that because I didn't really know my past.   I didn't know what was going on. I would just really do anything to shut it down. I get angry and I try to get loud, or I just walk away in the middle of a conversation.   As Joanna was talking, I would just leave the room and my acting out was just a further manifestation of that kind of leaving the relationship. And so, part of my healing journey was to learn about my story and recognize, oh, OK, I can see what's happening. And what's really interesting is it still happens in our life today.   I've been in recovery for 12 years. I still feel the same things. Now it's more like when my kids are getting involved.   Right. And there's energy in the room and people are online. And then I go, oh, yeah, there it is.   There's my system again. It's starting to feel unsafe. It's starting to feel alone. And I know what it wants to do. It wants to get angry, or it wants to just shut down and walk away. And what's incredible is that we've learned the ability to see where we're at but also speak directly to that.   And so, what I get to do for myself now is I get to go, “OK, I know I'm feeling unsafe and I know I'm feeling alone. And I know I want to get angry to solve it, but it won't do it. But here's the truth. The truth is that I'm safe in God's economy. I'm empowered. I have an incredible partner in my life. I've never been alone. I've always had someone there for me. And Joanna is the perfect example of that.”   And that totally changes my sense of really kind of where I am. And it changes how I show up. I tend to be much more calm.   I ask questions rather than make demands. And it's that ability to kind of see where we're at and shift. That's just been such a game changer for our family and just for our own relationship.   We still have to work on it. You know, it doesn't always look that pretty. Right.   But when we do, it's amazing how different it goes.   Laura Dugger: (46:24 - 46:44) And then I just think of the generational impacts that has when people are willing to do the work. And so, if there's a brave couple out there who wants to seek their own help and healing, can you share where they can go for help, including the Raabsmith team and all that you have to offer?   Matthew Raabsmith: (46:46 - 47:30) Yeah, you know, we would love them to connect with us because I think one of the things we recognize was having guides along the way. I mean, we had to figure a lot out ourselves, but we also had some really incredible guides, some mentors, some coaches, some therapists. And so, we always just say, hey, connect with us.   You can find us at raabsmithteam.com. We have a heart for couples who want restoration and reconciliation because that's what we're getting to live and experience. And what's cool is our whole team, they're couples who've been through this work, but who also have been professionally trained to help other couples to just continue to guide and to grow relationships so that they're thriving and they're kind of giving that life.   Joanna Raabsmith: (47:30 - 48:10) Absolutely. We also love to give out resources. And so, we have the kind of we call it the honest connection.   And so, again, if you're starting this journey or even this is for any couple who wants deeper connection, deeper intimacy, learning how to do that on a daily basis in small ways is so important. And so, we have a worksheet that couples can take and use. We're happy to provide that for them for free and kind of try this for 30 days and notice the changes that you experience in your relationship.   And so, that's a great starting point wherever you are in relationship to begin that journey of connection.   Matthew Raabsmith: (48:10 - 48:14) And you just go to raabsmithteam.com/free and that resource is all yours.   Laura Dugger: (48:15 - 48:26) Wonderful. Add links for that in the show notes for today's episode. And is this then for any couple worldwide, nationwide?   Can you work with people?   Matthew Raabsmith: (48:27 - 48:55) We have we've got couples across the world, which is really fun. It's been really neat just to see the way that God has used our work. One of the things when we first started this journey, we started getting couples calling us saying, “Hey, I don't have anybody in my area that specializes in this, that understands this journey. Can I work with you?” And so, we kind of felt a calling to say we want to make sure that we connect with people wherever they are. And so, absolutely.   If you can hear our voice, you can work with us.   Laura Dugger: (48:55 - 49:14) I love that. And just as a little bonus practical tip, you kind of mentioned being proactive to thriving in marriage. Is there any encouragement that you could share or a specific practical tip that anybody could start to incorporate if they want to take their marriage to that thriving level?   Matthew Raabsmith: (49:15 - 50:12) Yeah, I think just the ability to slow down. We have a  nine, seven and six-year-old. We own our own business, and we like life and life can get incredibly fast.   And I think what we have found is when, as I was mentioning, when I learned the ability just to slow down, even if I don't fully just know myself slowing down and checking in, just where am I at right now? Where's my heart? Right. Where do I want to be?   I think I realize that so often my values and my actions aren't aligned when I'm moving too quickly. I'm not being the person that I want to be. And we see that in so many couples. We meet so many couples and there are two really great people who have a hard time working together. They have a hard time kind of being a team.   And it's usually because they're working so fast. They don't realize they're kind of working against each other. So, slowing down, I think, is such a big thing.   Joanna Raabsmith: (50:12 - 51:18) Another piece that's, again, really easy to start right away. A lot of couples we work with, and I think probably even us when we start a relationship, was there were two individuals in a relationship, and it was kind of either me or you. And starting to understand there's this third thing between you, the relationship. There's a third almost entity that really needs care. It needs nurture. It needs you to focus on its needs from time to time.   And so, beginning to approach the day, even approach conversations with this question of like, what does our relationship need right now? And even as you're trying to make decisions, what is the way we can decide this in a way that's good for our relationship or what decision benefits our relationship rather than does it benefit you or me? Because when you get into that struggle, it can become a competition.   It can become transactional really quickly. So, starting to ask that question, starting to talk about the needs and caring for the relationship very intentionally can be a way to shift that.   Laura Dugger: (51:20 - 51:38) Thank you for sharing that. I think that leads into my last question, because you already know we're called The Savvy Sauce because savvy is synonymous with practical knowledge. And so, as my final question for both of you, Matthew and Joanna, what is your savvy sauce?   Matthew Raabsmith: (51:39 - 52:22) I kind of mentioned this, but I think it's the willingness to be honest. I was so willing to lie to myself and kind of really hide from other people. And I didn't even know that I was doing it.   But as I have learned to be more honest in really kind of healthy ways, right. You can dump, you can whine, you can complain, you can get angry. But truly being honest meant just looking at what I was feeling and trying to kind of figure that out and name that.   As I have learned that ability to be honest with myself and with others, it has just opened up a new world of possibilities. And it has shown me how many people care for me; how much God cares for me. So, I think that honesty is something I just want to practice more and more every day.   Joanna Raabsmith: (52:22 - 53:30) I think for me, just in my own journey and working with so many partners, that importance of being able to make empowered decisions in my life. Right. That I am really intentionally choosing the direction I'm going in life.   Realizing that instead of going into this more helpless, powerless victim stance is such a difference. And really the only thing that changes a lot of times is mindset. You don't have to overhaul your entire life.   Right. You have to add in like four hours of self-care and all of these things. But starting to shift that mindset into, wait, I have power in the decisions I make.   And one of the ways that's really important to do that is growing that self-awareness. I cannot make empowered decisions if I'm not aware of where I'm at emotionally, physically, spiritually. Right.   If I'm not aware of my needs on a regular basis. And so, slowing down to check those things in, sometimes even multiple times in the day if you're not used to that. So, you're more connected to yourself, to what you need, what you want.   So, you can start making those empowered decisions.   Laura Dugger: (53:32 - 54:00) I love that. It's just so enjoyable to host a very lively couple who's humble and you've done your work. And then you're willing to share all this overflow of goodness with all of us.   So, I think my prayer is that the Lord would richly bless you for this open-handed generosity of wisdom and your story and experience that you've shared with us and modeled for us today. So, thank you to both of you for being my guest.   Joanna Raabsmith: (54:00 - 54:03) Thank you so much. It's a joy being here.   Laura Dugger: (54:05 - 57:47) One more thing before you go, have you heard the term gospel before? It simply means good news. And I want to share the best news with you, but it starts with the bad news.   Every single one of us were born sinners, but Christ desires to rescue us from our sin, which is something we cannot do for ourselves. This means there's absolutely no chance we can make it to heaven on our own. So, for you and for me, it means we deserve death, and we can never pay back the sacrifice we owe to be saved.   We need a savior, but God loved us so much. He made a way for his only son to willingly die in our place as the perfect substitute. This gives us hope of life forever in right relationship with him.   That is good news. Jesus lived the perfect life. We could never live and died in our place for our sin.   This was God's plan to make a way to reconcile with us so that God can look at us and see Jesus. We can be covered and justified through the work Jesus finished. If we choose to receive what he has done for us, Romans 10:9 says, “that if you confess with your mouth, Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”   So, you pray with me now. Heavenly father, thank you for sending Jesus to take our place. I pray someone today right now is touched and chooses to turn their life over to you.   Will you clearly guide them and help them take their next step in faith to declare you as Lord of their life? We trust you to work and change lives now for eternity. In Jesus name we pray.   Amen. If you prayed that prayer, you are declaring him for me. So, me for him, you get the opportunity to live your life for him.   And at this podcast, we're called The Savvy Sauce for a reason. We want to give you practical tools to implement the knowledge you have learned. So, you're ready to get started.   First, tell someone, say it out loud, get a Bible. The first day I made this decision, my parents took me to Barnes and Noble and let me choose my own Bible. I selected the Quest NIV Bible and I love it.   You can start by reading the book of John. Also get connected locally, which just means tell someone who's a part of a church in your community that you made a decision to follow Christ. I'm assuming they will be thrilled to talk with you about further steps such as going to church and getting connected to other believers to encourage you.   We want to celebrate with you too. So, feel free to leave a comment for us here. If you did make a decision to follow Christ, we also have show notes included where you can read scripture that describes this process.   And finally, be encouraged. Luke 15:10 says, “in the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.” The heavens are praising with you for your decision today.   And if you've already received this good news, I pray you have someone to share it with. You are loved and I look forward to meeting you here next time.

We speak with Matt Robinson & Milissa Kaufman from McLean.Our website is HERE:  System Speak Podcast.You can submit an email to the podcast HERE.You can JOIN THE COMMUNITY HERE.  Once you are in, you can use a non-Apple device or non-safari browser to join groups HERE. Once you are set up, then the website and app work on any device just fine.  We have peer support check-in groups, an art group, movie groups, social events, and classes.  Additional zoom groups are optional, but only available by joining the groups. Join us!Content Note: Content on this website and in the podcasts is assumed to be trauma and/or dissociative related due to the nature of what is being shared here in general.  Content descriptors are generally given in each episode.  Specific trigger warnings are not given due to research reporting this makes triggers worse.  Please use appropriate self-care and your own safety plan while exploring this website and during your listening experience.  Natural pauses due to dissociation have not been edited out of the podcast, and have been left for authenticity.  While some professional material may be referenced for educational purposes, Emma and her system are not your therapist nor offering professional advice.  Any informational material shared or referenced is simply part of our own learning process, and not guaranteed to be the latest research or best method for you.  Please contact your therapist or nearest emergency room in case of any emergency.  This website does not provide any medical, mental health, or social support services. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Join Dr. David and MTC as we interview Dr. Otto Dueno of Dayton Behavioral Care. Dr. Dueno's practice specializesin advanced interventions for treatment-resistant depression, including rTMS and Spravato (the new FDA-approved nasal formulation of Esketamine). We also provide a complete array of psychotherapy services, including EMDR, for patients with trauma-related needs. 

Come Back to Love® Radio: How Therapy Tools Strengthen Love: Practicing Compassion in Partnership In this heartfelt episode of Come Back to Love with Robyn Vogel, Robyn sits down with therapists and life partners Heather and David Polidi, co-founders of Empowered Through Compassion, LLC. Together, they explore how therapeutic practices like Internal Family Systems (IFS) and EMDR not only transform clients' healing but also nurture connection within their own marriage. Through honest reflections and real-life insights, Heather and David share how slowing down, pausing, and speaking “for” our emotions and not “from” them, can shift conflict into compassion. This conversation is a gentle invitation to bring self-awareness, curiosity, and love into every relationship. Topics Covered: How IFS and EMDR help couples navigate conflict and emotional triggers The power of pausing and self-reflection in moments of tension Speaking for your emotions instead of from them to deepen connection Balancing partnership, personal healing, and professional practice Using compassion and curiosity as tools for lasting relationship growth Bio: David Polidi, LMHC is a licensed therapist and co-founder of Empowered Through Compassion, LLC, where he specializes in trauma-informed therapy integrating Internal Family Systems (IFS) and EMDR. With a deep commitment to helping clients find healing and wholeness, he works with individuals, couples, and families navigating trauma, neurodiversity, anxiety, and relational challenges. David is the author of IFS Informed EMDR: Creative and Collaborative Approaches (2025), offering innovative insights into blending these modalities in clinical practice. Grounded in compassion and self-leadership, his work bridges emotional and spiritual well-being to foster authentic, lasting transformation. Heather Polidi, LMHC is a licensed therapist and co-founder of Empowered Through Compassion, LLC, where she supports women, parents, and couples in healing from trauma and reclaiming their inner strength. Blending Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, and trauma-informed approaches, she creates a safe, nurturing space for exploration and growth. Heather's work is rooted in empathy, authenticity, and a deep belief in the human capacity for resilience and transformation. Through her integrative and heart-centered approach, she helps clients cultivate self-compassion, deepen connection, and create healing that ripples through their families and communities. Website: www.empoweredthroughcompassion.com Learn more about Robyn here: https://www.comebacktolove.com

Ja persona ir atzīta par cietušo kriminālprocesā, noziedzīgais nodarījums kvalificēts kā tīšs un ir iestājušās kādas no likumā noteiktām sekām, cietušais var saņemt valsts kompensāciju. Raidījumā Kā labā dzīvot skaidrojam, kā iespējams pieteikties un saņemt kompensāciju. Stāsta Tiesu administrācijas direktora vietniece juridiskās palīdzības un valsts kompensācijas cietušajiem jautājumos Jeļena Bārbale, Tiesu administrācijas Valsts kompensācijas cietušajiem nodaļas vadītāja Inga Ozola un biedrības "Skalbes" valdes locekle, klīniskā un veselības psiholoģe, militārā psiholoģe, EMDR terapeite apmācībā Santa Laimiņa-Rubene. "Valsts ir izveidojusi sistēmu, atbalstot noteiktos noziedzīgos nodarījumos cietušos. Valsts kompensāciju maksā, lai persona varētu pēc iespējas ātrāk segt savus zaudējumus, izmantot rehabilitācijas pakalpojumiem un tamlīdzīgi," skaidro Jeļena Bārbale. "Valsts kompensāciju maksā noziedzīgos nodarījumos cietušajiem, kuri ir ieguvuši statusu kriminālprocesā, un šie noziegumi ir ar smagām sekām. Kompensācija tiek maksāta, ja ir iestājusies personas nāve; ja ir nodarīti vidēja smaguma vai smagi miesas bojājumi; ja ir aizskarta cietušā tikumība vai dzimumneaizskaramība;, ja persona ir cilvēku tirdzniecības upuris vai arī persona ir tīši inficēta ar B vai C hepatītu vai HIV." Cilvēks par iespējam gūt kompensāciju var interesēties brīdi, kad ir ierosināts kriminālprocess, notiek aktīva izmeklēšana un persona ar procesa virzītāja lēmumu ir atzīta par cietušo. No tā brīža cilvēkam ir tiesības pieprasīt valsts kompensāciju.  "Latvija ir viena no retajām valstīm Eiropas Savienībā, kura maksā valsts kompensāciju vēl nepabeigtā kriminālprocesā. Tas ir saistīts ar to, ka mēs maksimāli radām pamatu personām jau tajā brīdī, kad tas ir nepieciešams, šo kompensāciju saņemt. Daudzās Eiropas valstīs šī kompensācija ir iespējama tikai pēc tam, kad kriminālprocess ir pabeigts, kad visi apstākļi kriminālprocesa ietvaros ir noskaidroti," norāda Jeļena Bārbale.

You probably didn't expect this… but SURPRISE I'm back!  After the hardest, most transformative season of my entire life, I'm finally sitting down to share where I've been, what this year cracked open inside me, what life has looked like behind the scenes, and how I'm alchemizing the deepest pain into the brightest gold as we enter 2026. This isn't just a life update, it's a transmission. A reminder that even in the darkest seasons, you are being reshaped, re-forged, and prepared for a quantum leap you can't yet see. If 2025 stretched you… if it felt like a slingshot pulling you back farther than ever before… if you've been grieving, questioning who you are, navigating identity shifts, or trying to find your footing in the unknown, this episode is for you. I'm sharing the truth. The rawness. The lessons. And the spiritual principles that carried me through the most painful era of my life, and the exact alchemy I'm using to rise from it. KEY EPISODE INSIGHTS: Deeper insights behind why I stepped away… and why I'm here again The slingshot energy of 2025 and why so many of us felt pulled back  My grandmother's passing, the spiritual lessons in grief, and what witnessing death taught me about life How I held my business, marriage, pregnancy, finances, and family through months of chaos The most powerful lessons I learned during the darkest year of my life What true alchemy looks like and how to turn pain into purpose, clarity, and power The tools that kept me sane (EMDR, EFT, hypnosis, somatic work, IFS, God, and more) Why documenting your life is sacred and why I'm vlogging again Why grief is NOT a manifestation blocker, and the spiritual law that protects you during your hardest seasons PLUS: the first details about my new live program: The Limitless Year RESOURCES MENTIONED: Join The Limitless Year (formerly Epically Aligned): manifestationbabe.com/limitless   Watch this episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ManifestationBabe   Follow for life + personal updates: @kathrinzenkina   Follow the Manifestation Babe community: @manifestationbabe Download the transcript HERE  

We talk with clinician Wendy Lemke about hypnosis.Our website is HERE:  System Speak Podcast.You can submit an email to the podcast HERE.You can JOIN THE COMMUNITY HERE.  Once you are in, you can use a non-Apple device or non-safari browser to join groups HERE. Once you are set up, then the website and app work on any device just fine.  We have peer support check-in groups, an art group, movie groups, social events, and classes.  Additional zoom groups are optional, but only available by joining the groups. Join us!Content Note: Content on this website and in the podcasts is assumed to be trauma and/or dissociative related due to the nature of what is being shared here in general.  Content descriptors are generally given in each episode.  Specific trigger warnings are not given due to research reporting this makes triggers worse.  Please use appropriate self-care and your own safety plan while exploring this website and during your listening experience.  Natural pauses due to dissociation have not been edited out of the podcast, and have been left for authenticity.  While some professional material may be referenced for educational purposes, Emma and her system are not your therapist nor offering professional advice.  Any informational material shared or referenced is simply part of our own learning process, and not guaranteed to be the latest research or best method for you.  Please contact your therapist or nearest emergency room in case of any emergency.  This website does not provide any medical, mental health, or social support services. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Sigue este enlace para ver la primera parte: https://youtube.com/live/5mV37RFINoY ¿Sabías que tu cuerpo y tu mente están más conectados de lo que imaginas? En esta mesa redonda, psicólogos y especialistas en alimentación consciente nos muestran cómo depurar el cuerpo puede limpiar también pensamientos, emociones y creencias limitantes. Hablaremos de gestión emocional, desintoxicación, microbiota, manejo del estrés y neurociencia aplicada al bienestar. Descubre cómo una limpieza física puede abrirte la puerta a una mente clara, creativa y libre pensamientos negativos o incluso obsesivos. Teba Valme Nutricionista experta Microbiota, Inteligencia Emocional, Coaching, PNL, Mindfulness y Gestión Emocional. Máster de Medicina Ambiental. https://www.instagram.com/tebavalme/ Lola Gómez Licenciada en Psicología con 26 años de experiencia y 4000 casos de éxito. Introduce el cuerpo en el trabajo terapéutico; especialmente en el emocional y de trauma. https://lolagomez.es/ https://www.instagram.com/lolagomez.psicologa/ Rosa Medina Psicóloga y Psicoterapeuta Gestalt, EMDR, PNL y Coaching. Integra la voz y el canto libre en la terapia. Imparte formación de Canto Terapéutico en España e Italia. https://www.lavozcurandera.com/ https://www.instagram.com/rosamedina_cantoterapeutico/ Cecilia Chiarpotti ClariVidente, Médica intuitiva, médium, y sanadora Ancestral. Dedicada hace más de 20 años a Terapias Holísticas. https://espacioceciliachiarpotti.com.ar/ https://www.instagram.com/ceciliachiarpotti José Zulatto Psicólogo y profesor de enseñanza de Psicología y Filosofía. Terapeuta Akáshico con método propio. https://terapiabioenergetica.org/ https://www.instagram.com/josezulattook/ Más información en: https://www.mindaliatelevision.com PARTICIPA CON TUS COMENTARIOS EN ESTE VÍDEO. ------------ INFORMACIÓN SOBRE MINDALIA ----------DPM Mindalia.com es una ONG internacional, sin ánimo de lucro, que difunde universalmente contenidos sobre espiritualidad y bienestar para la mejora de la consciencia del mundo. Apóyanos con tu donación en: https://www.mindalia.com/donar/ - Suscríbete, comenta positivamente y comparte nuestros vídeos para difundir este conocimiento a miles de personas. Nuestro sitio web: https://www.mindalia.com SÍGUENOS TAMBIÉN EN NUESTRAS PLATAFORMAS https://www.mindalia.com/plataformas/ *Mindalia.com no se hace responsable de las opiniones vertidas en este vídeo, ni necesariamente participa de ellas. #Desintoxicación #AlimentaciónConsciente #BienestarIntegral

We share about the Canoe Journey with our tribe.More information about the history of Two Spirit:From The Indigenous FoundationFrom Diverse EldersFrom WikipediaOur website is HERE:  System Speak Podcast.You can submit an email to the podcast HERE.You can JOIN THE COMMUNITY HERE.  Once you are in, you can use a non-Apple device or non-safari browser to join groups HERE. Once you are set up, then the website and app work on any device just fine.  We have peer support check-in groups, an art group, movie groups, social events, and classes.  Additional zoom groups are optional, but only available by joining the groups. Join us!Content Note: Content on this website and in the podcasts is assumed to be trauma and/or dissociative related due to the nature of what is being shared here in general.  Content descriptors are generally given in each episode.  Specific trigger warnings are not given due to research reporting this makes triggers worse.  Please use appropriate self-care and your own safety plan while exploring this website and during your listening experience.  Natural pauses due to dissociation have not been edited out of the podcast, and have been left for authenticity.  While some professional material may be referenced for educational purposes, Emma and her system are not your therapist nor offering professional advice.  Any informational material shared or referenced is simply part of our own learning process, and not guaranteed to be the latest research or best method for you.  Please contact your therapist or nearest emergency room in case of any emergency.  This website does not provide any medical, mental health, or social support services. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Louise O'Sullivan spent 10 years with the ADF, including deployments with the Special Forces in Afghanistan which eventually left her with PTSD, but a bigger battle lay ahead, the fight to save her premature twins.After leaving the military, Louise wanted to begin a family but cancer treatment had left her unable to carry her own children so she found a surrogate in Ukraine.But when her twins were born prematurely, she spent months living and caring for them in a Ukranian hospital.Eventually Louise had to begin her own process of healing, which included a life changing course of ketamine therapy.The episode of Conversations was produced by Jen Leake and the Executive Producer was Nicola Harrison.It covers topics including psychology, trauma, Australian Defence Force, Afghanistan, women in the military, army training, physical and mental endurance, helicopter crash, fatalities, injury, ripping out, trauma response, PTSD, cervical cancer, chemotherapy, radiation, hysterectomy, international surrogacy, premature babies, health care in Ukraine, divorces, EMDR, ketamine therapyTo binge even more great episodes of the Conversations podcast with Richard Fidler and Sarah Kanowski go the ABC listen app (Australia) or wherever you get your podcasts. There you'll find hundreds of the best thought-provoking interviews with authors, writers, artists, politicians, psychologists, musicians, and celebrities.The most shared episode of Conversations in 2025 was Sarah's interview with social psychologist Jonathan Hait on 'attention fracking' and how to stop tech companies stealing your focus.Sarah's interview with Jonathan Haidt

Sometimes panic doesn't wait for privacy.It hits in the grocery store aisle, the Target parking lot, or right between the pasta sauce and the paper towels — the places where your body finally says, “No. I can't hold this alone anymore.”This premium episode is your real-time grounding track for those moments.A full nervous-system reset you can use while you're actively panicking — not later, not in hindsight, but right there, in public, while your heart is racing and your manager parts are trying to keep it all together.Inside, Dawn guides you through:A My Body Said No moment — how to recognize it and respond without shameA sensory grounding ritual you can use anywhere (yes, even aisle 7)Gentle IFS language for your Manager, Firefighter, and Exile partsA somatic breath pattern (“baking bread + blowing on soup”) that brings your body back onlineA quiet reconnection to the truth: you belong to yourself, even while you're not okayThis is your pocket guide for public panic — steadying, human, and deeply regulating. Come back to it anytime your nervous system needs someone to sit with you and help you breathe again.Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MyCoachDawnInstagram: (@dawnwiggins)Instagram: (@coachtiffini)On the Web: https://www.mycoachdawn.comA podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.Support the showPost Divorce Road Map : 21 Days of Journaling Promo Code: MAGICDROP

Send us a textIn this deeply moving episode, Joey Pinz sits down with Erica Bonham, a trauma recovery therapist, EMDR clinician, and author of Always Enough, Never Done. Together, they explore how healing doesn't happen through willpower or “positive thinking”—it begins in the body.Erica reveals the difference between “big T” and “little t” trauma, how experiences get stored in the nervous system, and why self-compassion is a biological necessity, not a luxury. She opens up about her own story of adoption, identity, and transformation—showing that what breaks us can also become the soil for growth.You'll learn how to calm your body's alarm system, regulate your vagus nerve, and approach personal change with both structure and softness. Erica and Joey discuss how modern society confuses discipline with punishment, and how true strength comes from balance, not burnout.

In this powerful conversation, Michele Lamoureux sits down with manifestation expert and best-selling author Emma Mumford, to explore the inner work behind creating aligned abundance. Emma opens up about her transformative healing journey—from trauma, anxiety, and burnout to discovering the energetic laws that changed her life. They dive into clearing subconscious blocks, regulating the nervous system, trusting intuition, and manifesting from authentic alignment rather than force or "faking it." If you're ready for grounded manifestation wisdom, practical tools like EFT and EMDR, and a deeper understanding of how to call in what's truly meant for you, this episode will leave you inspired and expanded. You'll also learn Emma's 5-step process to manifest what you desire. Be sure to share this episode with a friend.   KEY TOPICS Discover Emma Mumford's Aligned Abundance (0:00) From Trauma to Manifestation: Emma's Story (2:33) Uncovering Childhood Trauma and Finding Peace (8:36) Why Manifestation Doesn't Exempt You From Life (16:55) Manifesting Desires in True Soul Alignment (19:36) Rewiring Mindset and Nervous System for Abundance (22:58) Powerful Therapies for Releasing Limiting Beliefs (26:31) Why Faking It Doesn't Work for Manifestation (33:48) Ask, Believe, Trust, Let Go, and Receive (40:26) Why Receiving is Key to Manifestation (46:37) How to Listen to Your Authentic Intuition (49:51) Where to Find More Aligned Abundance Wisdom (54:41)   Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/@herstarringrole Follow + Listen, + Review: APPLE PODCASTS Follow + Listen, + Review: SPOTIFY PODCASTS   ·       Join Michele's Newsletter + Get a List of 52-Selfcare Tips ·       Website: www.emmamumford.co.uk ·       IG: https://www.instagram.com/iamemmamumford/ ·       Book: Aligned Abundance: Release Expectations, Become Magnetic and Manifest the Life of Your Dreams   Guest Bio: Emma Mumford is the UK's leading manifestation expert, a four-time bestselling author, and a renowned speaker. If you enjoyed this interview, please take a moment to rate and review it on Apple Podcasts or other podcast player.   *The Good Life with Michele Lamoureux podcast and content provided by Michele Lamoureux is for educational and entertainment purposes only. It does NOT constitute medical, mental health, professional, personal, or any kind of advice or serve as a substitute for such advice. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user's own risk. Always consult a qualified healthcare or trusted provider for any decisions regarding your health and wellbeing. This episode may contain affiliate links.

Unlocking the Subconscious with EMDR: "It's not just eye movement that we now know allows us to get into that subconscious in that way. It's any bilateral stimulation, both sides of the body." - Anita RitcheyI sit down with returning guest Anita Ritchey, MA, LPCC, for a powerful conversation about how our core beliefs shape our emotional health and daily lives. Anita shares her expertise on how core beliefs are formed—starting from infancy and early childhood through experiences, observations, and what we're taught. We explore how these often subconscious beliefs impact behavior, relationships, and self-worth well into adulthood.We talk about the importance of examining and challenging longstanding beliefs, especially when they no longer serve us. Anita explains how therapy, including approaches like EMDR, can help us uncover, process, and even rewire these deep-seated patterns—offering hope and practical insight for anyone looking to grow, heal, and understand themselves better.Whether you're just starting to think about your own core beliefs or you're well along that journey, this episode is full of relatable stories, clinical wisdom, and a reminder of the power of self-awareness. If you're curious about why you react the way you do—or if you've ever wondered where certain feelings come from—this conversation will resonate. Moments00:00 Early Childhood Memory Formation04:15 "Perceived Beliefs About Dog Danger"07:47 Childhood Observations Shape Beliefs13:01 Challenging Core Beliefs14:58 Core Beliefs in Relationships18:33 Therapy: Growth and Self-Discovery22:27 Rewiring the Brain Takes Effort26:00 EMDR and Subconscious Clarity27:48 "EMDR: Enhanced REM for Stress Processing"32:24 Positive EMDR Outcomes Discussed34:15 Rising Demand for EMDR Therapy37:42 Exploring EMDR for Emotional Distress43:20 Unresolved Childhood Trauma's Adult Impact44:50 Emotional Intelligence and Retirement Concerns49:28 Pros and Cons of AI Therapy51:50 "Music's Emotional Impact Explored"Here are 3 key takeaways from our conversation:Core beliefs start young and run deep. Most of our core beliefs are formed in childhood—often before the age of 7—through what we're taught, what we observe, and how we interpret our experiences. These beliefs get “written into” our subconscious and influence adult relationships, work, and self-worth.Awareness leads to growth. Re-examining those early beliefs isn't just about fixing problems; it's about ongoing self-discovery. Whether things are going “fine” or you're feeling stuck, proactively reflecting on core beliefs (with a counselor or through journaling) helps you identify outdated narratives and sparks personal growth.There are effective tools for change. Techniques like EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) can help address distress from past traumas and beliefs that hold us back. Anita shared how EMDR facilitates healing by unlocking and reprocessing those deeply stored memories—something an AI chatbot just can't replicate.In each episode, Jeff and Eric will talk about what emotional intelligence, or understanding your emotions, can do for you in your daily and work life. For more information, contact Eric or Jeff at info@spiritofeq.com, or go to their website, Spirit of EQ.You can follow The Spirit of EQ Podcast on Apple Podcasts,

In this episode of the VSC Podcast, host Olivia Oropeza introduces a new program that VSC has launched in partnership with Orlando Ballet. This initiative uses the power of movement and dance to promote healing, empowerment and reconnection for survivors of violence, abuse and trauma. Guests interviewed include Co-creators Brandi Godbee and Shane Bland and Emotions in Motion participant Renzo. Brandi Godbee, Lead Therapist/Clinical Manager at Victim Service Center, Co-creator of Emotions in Motion - Brandi is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Qualified Supervisor. Education: Master's degree with Honors in Mental Health Counseling from Rollins College and a Bachelor's degree in English. Trained in EMDR & DBT.Shane Bland, Head of Community Enrichment at Orlando Ballet and Co-creator of Emotions in Motions - As head of Orlando Ballet's Community Enrichment Division, Shane is a dynamic theater artist with an accomplished career spanning Broadway, national tours, regional theater, television, choreography, and directing. His Broadway credits include Bombay Dreams, Show Boat (Harold Prince), and Disney's The Lion King. In Orlando, Shane has starred in Ain't Misbehavin', Cabaret (as the Emcee at Orlando Shakes), and Beauty and the Beast (as The Beast at the Garden Theatre). His choreography credits include Frozen Jr., Matilda (Broadway World Nominee), and Hairspray. Shane also serves as an adjudicator for the Applause Awards, supporting young performers across the region.Below are hotlines we recommend:VSC Helpline: (407) 500-4325National Sexual Assault Helpline (RAINN): 1-800-656-4673Florida Abuse Hotline: 1-800-962-2873 OR visit ⁠⁠⁠myflfamilies.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to report online.Victim Service Center of Central Florida, Inc.2111 East Michigan Street, Suite 210Orlando, Florida 32806Marketing@VictimServiceCenter.org⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this follow-up to our conversation on divorce and healing, Dr. Meg Meeker sits down with therapist and integrative healer Dawn Wiggins to talk about what it really takes to recover from any kind of trauma — whether it's divorce, loss, or years of emotional stress. Wiggins explains how trauma shapes our nervous system, thoughts, and relationships — and how real healing happens when we reconnect body, mind, and spirit. Together, they unpack practical ways to calm the body, release old pain, and create safety from the inside out.

Send us a textIn this special mental health episode of The Day's Grimm, hosts Brian Michael Day and Thomas Grimm welcome back Licensed Clinical Social Worker Lori Riley of Blue Skies Mindfulness to take a deep dive into EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) therapy! Brian shares his personal journey of finally committing to therapy and his initial, intense experience with the first stages of EMDR, including the crucial process of building a mental "safe space".Lori Riley, LCSW, breaks down everything you need to know about this powerful trauma treatment modality:What is EMDR? Defining Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing as psychotherapy that helps heal emotional distress from disturbing life experiences by using bilateral stimulation.Bilateral Stimulation: Discussing the different tools used for bilateral stimulation, such as eye movements, the "buzzies" (vibrating eggs), or tapping.The Safe Space & Container Technique: Explaining the importance of building a mental "safe space" as a pausing mechanism during sessions, and the "container" technique for temporarily putting away triggering thoughts, people, or nightmares.Managing Intensity: Lori explains that EMDR can be intense and draining, and emphasizes the need for a therapist to allow time for processing after each session, rather than immediately ending the appointment.Coping Skills: Discussing practical, in-the-moment coping skills like grounding (focusing on the tangible environment) to manage fear-driven anxiety cycles and developing a personal mantra to combat intrusive thoughts.The History & Stigma of EMDR: Lori recounts how EMDR was once dismissed by professors as a "fallacy" in the early 2000s and why the training is so intensive.Overcoming Barriers to Therapy: The hosts and guest discuss the hurdles of seeking help, such as embarrassment, the "manly man" complex, and the frustration of having to "shop around" to find the right therapist.If you're curious about EMDR, seeking therapy, or looking for new mental health coping skills, this episode is a must-watch!GUEST INFO Lori Riley, LCSW Blue Skies Mindfulness https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/lori-riley-evansville-in/290090TIMESTAMPS 00:00 - Episode Start & Guest Intro (Lori Riley, LCSW) 03:13 - Lori's Practice: Blue Skies Mindfulness 03:34 - What is "Grounding"? 05:56 - Brian's Therapy Journey & A Therapist Crying 07:09 - Introduction to EMDR Therapy 08:30 - Building a Mental "Safe Space" 13:17 - The Container Technique & Four Square Breathing 17:35 - How EMDR was viewed 20 Years Ago (A "Fallacy") 26:42 - Official Definition of EMDR 35:20 - The Power of a Mantra/Saying to Combat Anxiety 1:05:20 - Overcoming Barriers to Seeking Therapy (Embarrassment, Manliness) #EMDR #EMDRTherapy #MentalHealth #TraumaTherapy #TheDaysGrimm #LoriRileyLCSW #SafeSpace #AnxietyRelief #CopingSkills #GroundingTechnique #Therap[The Days Grimm Podcast Links]- YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheDaysGrimm- Our link tree: linktr.ee/Thedaysgrimm- GoFundMe account for The Days Grimm: https://gofund.me/02527e7c [The Days Grimm is brought to you by]Sadness & ADHD (non-medicated)

...and then there's the moment you're just standing in the pasta sauce aisle, realizing your life doesn't come in a set of two anymore.No one warns you about that part of life after divorce.The everyday grief. The way your stomach drops when you reach for a family-size anything and remember: it's just me now.In this episode, Dawn, Joy, and Tiff unpack why the tiny, ordinary moments hit harder than the big ones — and why the grocery store aisle can feel like a spiritual breakdown near the beans.You'll learn:why these moments have little to do with missing himwhat's actually happening in your nervous system when that wave hitsthe parts of you (IFS) that come online in grocery-store griefwhy your identity feels shaky, young, or overwhelmedthe difference between the “old hard” and the “new hard” of healingwhy your body says no long before your mind catches onhow to honor your capacity during the holidaysthe sentence that will ground you instantly when the grief sneaks upAnd later, in our My Body Said No segment, we share the real, raw ways our bodies are setting boundaries this season — and how honoring those no's is a core part of healing divorce grief.If you've ever pretended to compare marinara jars just to get a second to breathe… this episode will feel like someone finally naming what you've been carrying.Love you. See you Thursday for the grounding ritual inside our premium episode.Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MyCoachDawnInstagram: (@dawnwiggins)Instagram: (@coachtiffini)On the Web: https://www.mycoachdawn.comA podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.Support the showPost Divorce Road Map : 21 Days of Journaling Promo Code: MAGICDROP

I denne episoden møter jeg terapeut, sexolog og forfatter Anders Røyneberg. Han er kjent for sitt engasjement for seksuell helse og sin evne til å skape åpne, ærlige samtaler om kropp, lyst og relasjoner. Vi snakker om hvordan stress, skam og kroppens eget minne kan påvirke seksualiteten vår og hvordan vi kan frigjøre oss fra det som holder oss tilbake.Anders deler kunnskap om hvorfor et godt seksualliv kan være viktig for både fysisk og psykisk helse, hva som skjer når sexlysten forsvinner, og hvordan verdensbildet, hverdagen og prestasjonsidealer kan påvirke oss. Vi kommer også inn på forskjeller mellom menn og kvinner, hvordan helsepersonell kan møte temaet på en god måte, og hvorfor seksualitet er viktig også for dem som er single.Vi snakker om reguleringsteknikker som kan skape mer ro, EMDR-terapi som verktøy for å bearbeide skam, og hvordan vi som samfunn kan legge bedre til rette for åpenhet og trygghet rundt seksuell helse.For mer fra Anders:instagram.com/arcticgardenersexologiogterapi.noA magasinet spalten: sexlivetTusen takk til månedens sponsor Northern Playground. Med rabattkoden Legeromlivet10 får du 10% rabatt på hele nettbutikken: https://www.northernplayground.no/nbOg om du ønsker deg litt inspirasjon til jul:Du kan nå få signert utgave av boken min Hele deg – veien til bedre helse på Norli.no.Ønsker deg en nydelig uke!AnnetteFølg meg gjerne på:Instagram.com/dr.annettedraglandFacebook.com/drannettedraglandhttps://youtube.com/@drannetteDisclaimer: Innholdet i podcasten og på denne nettsiden er ikke ment å utgjøre eller være en erstatning for profesjonell medisinsk rådgivning, diagnose eller behandling. Søk alltid råd fra legen din eller annet kvalifisert helsepersonell hvis du har spørsmål angående en medisinsk tilstand. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We speak with lived experience guest, Sandra Simpson.https://www.traumacontinuum.org/leap/Our website is HERE:  System Speak Podcast.You can submit an email to the podcast HERE.You can JOIN THE COMMUNITY HERE.  Once you are in, you can use a non-Apple device or non-safari browser to join groups HERE. Once you are set up, then the website and app work on any device just fine.  We have peer support check-in groups, an art group, movie groups, social events, and classes.  Additional zoom groups are optional, but only available by joining the groups. Join us! Content Note: Content on this website and in the podcasts is assumed to be trauma and/or dissociative related due to the nature of what is being shared here in general.  Content descriptors are generally given in each episode.  Specific trigger warnings are not given due to research reporting this makes triggers worse.  Please use appropriate self-care and your own safety plan while exploring this website and during your listening experience.  Natural pauses due to dissociation have not been edited out of the podcast, and have been left for authenticity.  While some professional material may be referenced for educational purposes, Emma and her system are not your therapist nor offering professional advice.  Any informational material shared or referenced is simply part of our own learning process, and not guaranteed to be the latest research or best method for you.  Please contact your therapist or nearest emergency room in case of any emergency.  This website does not provide any medical, mental health, or social support services. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Send me a text! I'd LOVE to hear your feedback on this episode!What if the missing link in your wellness routine isn't another supplement or protocol, but the way you listen to your inner world? In this episode, I unpack doing the inner work with practical, honest tools that help midlife feel grounded, creative, and genuinely healthy - far beyond hacks, quick fixes, and trends.I share the turning points that moved me from chasing answers outside to building strength inside, and why presence beats perfection every time. Learn simple, transformative anchors:30 minutes walking in nature without headphones“I feel / I choose” prompts to rewire negative beliefsGratitude walks that calm a reactive nervous systemFrom there, I explore:Stream-of-consciousness journaling to hear your higher selfForgiveness work to release shameTrauma-informed approaches like EMDR for when thoughts alone won't release emotional chargeEnergy practices—sound, breath, subtle clearing—without outsourcing your powerCreative rituals like memory jars, seasonal practices, dance, storytelling, and writing that awaken the soulRelationships get a deep, nuanced look, too. I discuss boundaries, renegotiating sacred contracts, and how dynamics shift when you change your side of the pattern.Finally, I share daily micro-practices, ways to read symbols in nature, and a careful approach to retreats and plant medicine and why your higher self should set the pace.Whether you're interested in inner work, holistic wellness, emotional healing, mindset transformation, or longevity practices, this episode gives practical, actionable tools to help you feel alive, present, and deeply aligned.Follow, subscribe, and share with a friend, and leave a rating to help more people discover the show. What's the first small practice you'll commit to this week?Email me your questions, topics, or comments to be featured on my show - whether anonymous or not - your choice.  sandy@sandyknutrition.ca.Follow me on all of my socials - @sandyknutrition everywhere.  Get in touch with Brenda Farrugia for deep, transformative energy work https://www.sobrilliant.ca/Who am I? I went back to college, became a Registered Holistic Nutritionist, earned numerous certifications, and started this podcast just before the pandemic. I come to you not only as a practitioner and a podcaster, but as a woman who's lived it, someone driven by passion over profit, and a genuine desire to help others heal, grow, Support the showPlease rate & review my podcast with a few kind words on Apple or Spotify. Subscribe wherever you listen, share this episode with a friend, and follow me below. This truly gives back & helps me keep bringing amazing guests & topics every week.Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sandyknutrition/Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/sandyknutritionTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sandyknutritionYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIh48ov-SgbSUXsVeLL2qAgRumble: https://rumble.com/c/c-5461001Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sandyknutrition/Substack: https://sandykruse.substack.com/Podcast Website: https://sandykruse.ca

The holiday sale on hypnosis downloads is still going on until 12/31/2025. Get 30% off with code HOLIDAYS. See them here >>> http://bit.ly/HypnosisMP3Downloads You can now support the podcast through Buy Me a Coffee! https://buymeacoffee.com/drlizbonet Our guest this week is Jules Jean-Pierre. She took a winding path to being a therapist specializing in healing generational trauma. We talk about what "generational trauma" is, how it develops, and how to heal it. We really get deep into EMDR, Tapping, and soothing the vagus nerve. Jules is a dual-licensed clinician (Marriage & Family Therapist and Mental Health Counselor) and a state-qualified supervisor for both fields. With over a decade of experience in trauma and integrative mental health, she is a Certified EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA Consultant-in-Training and Certified Sound Healer. Jules takes a holistic, relationship-focused approach to therapy, drawing from her identity as a 1st-generation Haitian-American to encourage cultural exploration and self-acceptance. She owns a group practice, "Therapeutic hope Counseling" located in the Jacksonville, Florida area. See more about Jules at https://www.therapeutichopecounseling.com IG:  @traumapro1 -------------- You can now support the podcast through Buy Me a Coffee! If the podcast has helped you or someone you love, give whatever amount feels good to you! https://buymeacoffee.com/drlizbonet Support the Podcast & Help yourself with Hypnosis Downloads by Dr. Liz! http://bit.ly/HypnosisMP3Downloads Do you have Chronic Insomnia? Find out more about Dr. Liz's Better Sleep Program at https://bit.ly/sleepbetterfeelbetter Search episodes at the Podcast Page http://bit.ly/HM-podcast --------- About Dr. Liz Interested in hypnosis with Dr. Liz? Schedule your free consultation at https://www.drlizhypnosis.com Winner of numerous awards including Top 100 Moms in Business, Dr. Liz provides psychotherapy, hypnotherapy, and hypnosis to people wanting a fast, easy way to transform all around the world. She has a PhD in Clinical Psychology, is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) and has special certification in Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy. Specialty areas include Anxiety, Insomnia, and Deeper Emotional Healing. A problem shared is a problem halved. In person and online hypnosis and CBT for healing and transformation.  Listened to in over 140 countries, Hypnotize Me is the podcast about hypnosis, transformation, and healing. Certified hypnotherapist and Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Dr. Liz Bonet, discusses hypnosis and interviews professionals doing transformational work. Thank you for tuning in!

In this episode of Resilient and Rowdy, Jess sits down with Olivera—a licensed therapist, yoga teacher, and business owner—to explore her path to opening a private practice and her holistic approach to mental health. Olivera reflects on how her passion for psychology began in high school and shares her experience working in addiction treatment and psychiatric settings. She breaks down her somatic, mindfulness-based style of therapy and explains how she uses Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) alongside yoga and trauma-informed practices. Olivera also compares ART to EMDR, emphasizing its efficiency and impact. The conversation wraps with insights on resilience, individualized care, and the power of a strong therapeutic relationship.Disclaimer: This episode features general education only. It doesn't create a therapist-client relationship and isn't a substitute for professional mental health care. For personal care, please consult a licensed clinician. If you're in crisis, contact 988 or 911. instagram.com/oliveracounseling https://www.oliveracounseling.com/https://acceleratedresolutiontherapy.com/therapist-directory/Follow & Connect: www.instagram.com/resilientandrowdywww.youtube.com/@resilientandrowdy   www.tiktok.com/resilientandrowdywww.resilientandrowdy.comGive us a holler at Jess@resilientandrowdy.com :)

In this episode, I speak with Matt about his work with veterans, PTSD and his research on AI's ability to diagnose mental health disorders. Matt explained that he got into the field of psychotherapy after being a patient, working through his own issues after being in the Marines. He found the process very helpful and went on to become a therapist and initially worked with unhoused populations, psychosis and gang young, but wanted to go into working with veterans and first responders, treating PTSD. He shared that he never intended to go into research, but after doing his dissertation, he thought he might as well publish it, and then was invited to be part of a research group. Matt shared that most of the treatment for veterans is provided by the Veteran's Administration, although they did not hire clinicians with his licensure. He explained that he was fortunate to get connected with an organization called the Head Strong Project that provides services to active duty military and veterans addressing PTSD and suicide prevention. He said that many of his clients often have a history of trauma, in addition to their experience in the military, as well as around 50% of his clients also have comorbid ADHD. Matt discusses the three major evidence based approaches to treating trauma: Prolonged Exposure (PE), Cognitive Processing Therapy, & Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing. He shares how the dropout rate for PE is 40% and EMDR is not always successful, which might be due to the eye movements and that not being as effective with those in the military, although he doesn't know any research backing that up. Matt explained that he uses CPT and in the approach, the focus is on beliefs or what they refer to as “stuck points”. There may be assimilated “stuck points" that the person has taken from the traumatic experience and over accommodated "stuck points”< which are things that the person now believes and has adjusted their thinking patters as a result of the trauma. He explains the treatment starts off with psycheducation and teaching coping skills, then addressing the “stuck points”. He explained that they help the clients break down thinking patterns from events, then usechallenging questions, identify cognitive distortions, use cognitive reframing, and put this all together into a challenging questions worksheet. He shared that once you have that framework in place, then you follow up on five themes which include: Safety, Trust, Power & Control, Esteem, and Intimacy, then work through stuck points in each of those areas. Finally, you work through the traumatic narrative and what you believed before and what you believe now. We discussed the five themes and how particularly discussed an intervention called the Trust Star, where the person picks aspects of someone's personality, and rates how that leads them to be more trusting of them or less. The breaks out of the all or none thinking around trust. Lastly, we discuss Matt's research into linguistic patterns in different DMS disorders throughout the various editions of the DSM. He also discusses his work group's research into having AI review vignettes and try to arrive at a diagnosis. He reported that Chat GPT did worse than chance, Claude was about as good as chance, and Gemini had a 97% rate of accuracy. We discuss AI and its use related to therapy. Matt Rensi, Ph.D., LPCC, is a licensed counselor in California, Oregon, and Idaho. He holds a Ph.D. in counselor education and supervision, often teaching at various universities. He currently works primarily with law enforcement, veterans, firefighters, and active duty military personnel. His primary focuses are PTSD, substance use, ADHD, marital or couples issues, and anything that may be associated with that cluster of struggles. Matt conducts research on various topics as part of an independent research team. He is a clinical partner with The Headstrong Project and the SOF Network. Matt is also a clinician at the Institute for the Advancement of Psychotherapy and its specialty center, the Bay Area Center for ADHD.

EMDR: A 21st-Century Approach to Trauma – AI and Plagiarism in Counselling Training In Episode 356 of the Counselling Tutor Podcast, your hosts Rory Lees-Oakes and Ken Kelly take us through this week's three topics: Firstly, in ‘Ethical, Sustainable Practice', they explore the sensitive topic of lying in therapy, examining why clients may lie or conceal information through a trauma-informed perspective and how therapists can respond with compassion. Then in ‘Practice Matters', Rory speaks with Andrew Kidd about EMDR therapy - what it is, how it works, and why it's considered a cutting-edge 21st-century therapeutic intervention. And finally, in ‘Student Services', Rory and Ken discuss the rising concern of AI and plagiarism in counselling training, including guidance for ethical use and how assessment may evolve. Lying in Therapy [starts at 03:11 mins] In this section, Rory and Ken examine lying in therapy, unpacking the nuances behind client dishonesty and offering guidance on how therapists can navigate concealment with empathy. Key points discussed include: Lying in therapy is common and often rooted in past trauma or a need to protect the self. Concealment may serve as a survival mechanism shaped by earlier life experiences. Incongruence between a client's words and behaviours can be gently explored without judgement. Strong therapeutic relationships and non-judgemental approaches create safety for honesty to emerge. Therapists are often not adept at detecting lies - emphasis should be placed on understanding behaviour rather than catching deception. Dishonesty can signal areas of deep pain; responding with curiosity rather than confrontation is key. EMDR: A 21st-Century Approach to Trauma [starts at 23:40 mins] In this week's ‘Practice Matters', Rory speaks with Andrew Kidd, BACP senior accredited counsellor and EMDR Europe accredited practitioner, about EMDR as a powerful method for trauma reprocessing. Key points from this conversation include: EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing) originated in 1987 and integrates neurobiological and relational approaches. It is not a talk therapy but an experiential, highly structured method using bilateral stimulation (e.g. eye movements). The eight-phase protocol includes history taking, preparation, activation, desensitisation, installation, body scan, closure, and re-evaluation. EMDR enables clients to process traumatic memories without needing to disclose every detail to the therapist. Training is intensive and requires therapists to already be accredited and trauma-informed. Andrew will be offering an EMDR overview lecture inside the Counsellor CPD Library soon. EMDR Association UK AI and Plagiarism in Counselling Training [starts at 52:34 mins] In this section, Rory and Ken discuss the impact of AI tools like ChatGPT on assignment writing and how to ethically and responsibly integrate technology into counselling education. Key points include: Assignments must be students' own work - AI-generated content must be clearly acknowledged and referenced. AI can be used as a planning or brainstorming tool, not as a substitute for personal reflection or lived experience. Joint Council for Qualifications (JCQ) guidance outlines AI use as malpractice if not transparently declared. Reflective and experiential elements of counselling training cannot be replicated by AI. Tutors are encouraged to explore diverse assessment methods beyond written essays to evaluate learning authentically. Academic correspondent Sarah Henry shares how relational, discussion-based, and observational assessment can complement or replace traditional formats. Links and Resources Counselling Skills Academy Advanced Certificate in Counselling Supervision Basic Counselling Skills: A Student Guide Counsellor CPD Counselling Study Resource Counselling Theory in Practice: A Student Guide Counselling Tutor Training and CPD Facebook group Website Online and Telephone Counselling: A Practitioner's Guide Online and Telephone Counselling Course

Tammy Gustafson is a licensed professional counselor and coach who focused on trauma, PTSD, and EMDR before her own marriage imploded. She now works with others who are facing betrayal, focusing on women who have been betrayed to help them find their worth and strength again. Together, she and Dr. Rob discuss healing after betrayal and regaining trust in your partner, but more importantly, in yourself.   TAKEAWAYS: [2:00] Tammy's reluctant, and now passionate journey toward betrayal counseling. [4:30] The personal element of Tammy's services. [6:05] Growing into the best version of yourself after betrayal. [9:03] What if I can't feel my feelings? [11:20] The process of healing requires the help of others. [12:52] It is never your fault that your partner betrayed you. [15:30] What if my anger is directed at the other woman? [17:25] Rebuilding trust after betrayal.  [21:07] How can I trust myself again? [25:00] Resetting the nervous system.   RESOURCES: Sex and Relationship Healing @RobWeissMSW Sex Addiction 101 Seeking Integrity Free Sexual Addiction Screening Assessment Partner Sexuality Survey Tammy Gustafson   Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.   QUOTES: ● “We can't hide from our emotions and heal.” ● “The grieving process is the healing process.” ● “Healing is a thousand times easier with the help of other people.” ● “Power is the ability to influence, or to resist influence.”

We explain about euphoric recall.Our website is HERE:  System Speak Podcast.You can submit an email to the podcast HERE.You can JOIN THE COMMUNITY HERE.  Once you are in, you can use a non-Apple device or non-safari browser to join groups HERE. Once you are set up, then the website and app work on any device just fine.  We have peer support check-in groups, an art group, movie groups, social events, and classes.  Additional zoom groups are optional, but only available by joining the groups. Join us!Content Note: Content on this website and in the podcasts is assumed to be trauma and/or dissociative related due to the nature of what is being shared here in general.  Content descriptors are generally given in each episode.  Specific trigger warnings are not given due to research reporting this makes triggers worse.  Please use appropriate self-care and your own safety plan while exploring this website and during your listening experience.  Natural pauses due to dissociation have not been edited out of the podcast, and have been left for authenticity.  While some professional material may be referenced for educational purposes, Emma and her system are not your therapist nor offering professional advice.  Any informational material shared or referenced is simply part of our own learning process, and not guaranteed to be the latest research or best method for you.  Please contact your therapist or nearest emergency room in case of any emergency.  This website does not provide any medical, mental health, or social support services. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

“A compelling, radical exploration of psychedelics' healing potential.”—Kirkus ReviewsExplains how psychedelic experiences offer a way to reconnect with the body, reclaim pleasure, rekindle joy, and reawaken to loveExplores how psychedelics can support our sexual healing and offers a range of psychedelic integration techniques and somatic exercises to help release trauma and foster insightShares recent research on trauma and case studies from more than a decade of professional clinical work as well as lessons from the author's own healing journey from sexual trauma and PTSDIn this groundbreaking book, psychotherapist and psychedelic integration expert Dee Dee Goldpaugh shows how the profound healing and restorative effects of psychedelics can help us heal our sexuality, reconnect with pleasure, find wholeness, and feel good again.Sharing recent research on trauma and case studies from more than a decade of professional clinical work, Goldpaugh explores specific ways psychedelics can heal sexual trauma, enhance sexual pleasure, and deepen our interpersonal connections. Goldpaugh looks at MDMA, psilocybin, ayahuasca, mescaline, 5-MeO-DMT, and other psychedelics and offers a range of integration techniques as well as somatic exercises to help foster insight and apply the lessons learned during psychedelic experiences to everyday life. Goldpaugh also examines the methodology behind psychedelic-assisted therapy and how readers can safely navigate risks and explore their own healing at home.Revealing the transformative power of embracing pleasure for healing sexual trauma, this book provides an essential guide to psychedelic sexuality as a path to healing and love.Dee Dee (they/them/theirs) is a psychotherapist, educator, consultant, clinical supervisor, author, and activist. They are the Clinical Director of Chrysalis Integrative Psychotherapy. Dee Dee has taught and published widely on the topics of psychedelics, sexuality, trauma, gender, and spirituality. They have been a leading voice in the development of Psychedelic Integration Psychotherapy techniques, specifically with survivors of trauma and have published the first article to appear in an academic journal, Sexual and Relationship Therapy, exploring the intersection of sexuality, spirituality, and psychedelic healing. Dee Dee is a clinical supervisor for the EMBARK psychedelic-assisted therapy approach. They offer Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy as part of the team at the Woodstock Therapy Center and facilitate ketamine-assisted psychotherapy retreats. They have also completed the MAPS training in MDMA-assisted psychotherapy. Dee Dee is the author of the forthcoming book Embrace Pleasure: How Psychedelics Can Heal Our Sexuality being published by Inner Traditions in Summer 2025. The are a member of the Chacruna Institute for Psychedelic Plant Medicine's working group for Women, Gender-Diversity, and Sexual Minorities. Dee Dee has been a presenter in the Sex Therapy Collaborative and a faculty instructor in the Trauma Therapy program at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy. They have presented at the Interdisciplinary Conference on Psychedelic Research (ICPR), The Alt Sex Conference Speaker's Series, The Center for Optimal Living, Ante Up! and are contributing author in the book Queering Psychedelics. They have been featured in articles by Vice Magazine, Chacruna, The Albany Times Union, Medium, Brides, Psymposia, Refinery 29, and Psychology Today. Dee Dee runs therapist consultation groups in Psychedelic Integration Therapy. Dee Dee holds a Master's Degree from the Hunter College School of Social Work. They have received training at the C.J. Jung Foundation and the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy. They are fully trained in EMDR through the Parnell Institute and offer EMDR in their practice and have additional training in Internal Family Systems Psychotherapy. They have years of professional experience in the LGBTQ community and in community mental health in Brooklyn, NY working with an extremely diverse client population.  Dee Dee has additional training in shamanic healing, bioregional herbal medicine and has attended intensive guide training through the Association of Nature and Forest Therapy guides. When not in the office, Dee Dee is a painter, musician, activist, hiker, meditator, and voracious reader (in no particular order!)https://www.deedeegoldpaugh.com/Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/earth-ancients--2790919/support.

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Many of us move through life repeating the same painful relationship patterns—feeling unsafe, unseen, or disconnected, even when we're trying our hardest to "do everything right." Invisible wounds from early experiences quietly shape the ways we love, cope, and relate as adults. Instead of recognizing these patterns as natural adaptations, we often turn the blame inward, not realizing that our attachment styles and protective behaviors are rooted in the body and nervous system as much as the mind. Real healing isn't about forcing change or consuming endless self-help advice—it's about reshaping your internal sense of safety on a deeply felt, embodied level. In this episode, we explore how secure, nourishing relationships begin with understanding the implicit memories, sensations, and patterns that live inside us. Learn how to meet old wounds with compassion, honor the protective parts that once kept you safe, and gently build new internal anchors of stability and trust. Using tools like the Wheel of Attachment and the practice of "finding your anchors," this episode offers both a clear roadmap and grounded encouragement for anyone ready to move beyond survival mode and experience connection that feels authentic, spacious, and truly supportive. Jessica Baum is a licensed psychotherapist, certified addiction specialist, and Imago couples therapist with advanced training in EMDR, CBT, DBT, and experiential therapy. She founded the Relationship Institute of Palm Beach and leads a global coaching company supporting clients worldwide. Passionate about trauma, attachment, and interpersonal neurobiology, Jessica helps individuals and couples heal and reconnect. Her bestselling book, Anxiously Attached, has made her a respected voice in nurturing secure, fulfilling relationships.   Episode Highlights 05:55 How early experiences shape our sense of safety. 07:48 Implicit memories and relationship patterns. 11:09 The importance of somatic (body-based) memory. 13:14 Reconnecting with the body for healing. 18:42 Understanding and honoring protective behaviors. 21:40 Building trust in healthier relationship dynamics. 25:00 The essential role of anchors in healing. 26:06 Why healing requires relationships, not willpower. 31:43 Finding and cultivating emotional anchors. 35:05 The Wheel of Attachment: A nuanced approach. 37:45 Earning security through supportive experiences. 40:31 Moving toward fulfillment: Real connection and support.   Your Check List of Actions to Take Slow down and take mindful pauses to help connect with your body and increase present-moment awareness. Notice physical sensations during interactions, especially in moments of emotional intensity, to access implicit memories and attachment wounds. Practice developing interoception—your ability to sense internal bodily states—to better understand your emotional responses in relationships. Identify and honor your protective patterns ("protectors") rather than judging them; acknowledge they were there to support you. Seek out safe "anchors" or individuals who can offer emotional co-regulation and support your healing process. Use the "Wheel of Attachment" framework to explore how your early relational dynamics show up in current relationships. If you lack supportive anchors, resource from memories of secure figures (e.g., a teacher, grandparent) or pursue professional support. Engage in relationships and healing spaces where vulnerability, witnessing, and somatic attunement are encouraged, facilitating earned secure attachment over time.   Mentioned Safe: An Attachment-Informed Guide to Building More Secure Relationships Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love SAFE (Interview and freebies link) Nurturing the Heart (Dr. Bonnie Badenoch's website) Conscious Relationship Group (Facebook group) (link) Relationship Institute of Palm Beach ERP 342: How Love Transforms Our Nervous System — An Interview With Jessica Baum ERP 276: Understanding The Need For Both Self-Regulation And Co-Regulation In Relationship – An interview With Deb Dana ERP 261: How To Strengthen Your Relationship From A Polyvagal Perspective – An Interview with Dr. Stephen Porges ERP 423: How To Transcend Trauma (And The Effects Experience In Relationship) — An Interview With Dr. Frank Anderson 12 Relationship Principles to Strengthen Your Love (free guide)   Connect with Jessica Baum Websites: beselffull.com Facebook: facebook.com/consciousrelationshipgroup YouTube: youtube.com/@jessicabaumlmhc Instagram: instagram.com/jessicabaumlmhc  

In this week's episode, Rusty sits down with counselor and coach Leah A. Ondiek to break down EMDR and mindfulness in a clear, accessible way. Leah explains how these practices help us process stress, calm our minds, and stay grounded in our faith—without overwhelming terminology.If you're curious about mental health tools that actually make a daily difference, this episode offers simple steps and encouraging insight.