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Changes...as Tupac rightly says, that's just the way it is. It happens all day, every day. From little changes in our every day routine to big changes, like moving countries. Change evokes all the feels in us and sometimes can even signify beginnings and endings. In our latest episode, we explore how change affects us; whether we thrive with change or whether anxiety sets in. We look at the rituals we have around change and how best to come to terms with losing control in the face of change, be both big and small.

In this episode we explore who much of who we are is caught up in the work we do. We ask questions about work life balance, how gender impacts on the value attributed to work and how healthy our relationship to work is. We wonder if we've all just swallowed the capitalist dream pill and explore how closely our output is linked to self worth....but mostly we rage about how much we hate being asked the question 'what do you do' and try to figure out a better conversation starter .....we might need your help on this one because we don't get very far! 

In this new episode, we are talking happiness...and why are we talking happiness?!? Because you asked us to! In response to a listener's request, we sat down and talked about what happiness is and if it's something we aspire too. We explore our changing relationship to the idea of happy as we've got older, and ask whether anyone can really be happy when faced with capitalism and social media. Listen now to see if we've uncovered the secret to happiness or if we're still in pursuit...Interested in knowing more? Here are some links to the people and media we refer to in this episode:Books:Brene Brown - Atlas of the Heart Gabor Matel - When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress Film: Inside Out 

In this episode we explore friendships and wonder why we don't celebrate them, mourn them and make films about them the way we do about intimate partner relationships. Join us as we navigate friendships as love affairs, acts of anti-capitalist and anti-patriarchal protest and as attachment healing. We also learn about Lucy's secret poetry writing habit and why Mariam was so bloody difficult to be friends with! During these unknown times, a special shout-out to all our friends around the world: past, present and future....we love you

In this episode we explore and LOL our way through questioning what Spirituality means to us. Is it the same as being religious? Can it relate to how we feel in nature and our astrological understandings of the world? Is it all a fad and has the Spirituality industry been co-opted by Capitalism? And what about religious wars?! So many questions! Spolier alert: we certainly don't arrive at any definitive answers but we have a good go at unpacking what the Universe, God and being in relation with the world means to us.And then there's the bonus surprise reveal of the episode: who is the most likely to join a cult?! 

In today's episode we explore our experiences of death; the loss of loved ones, existential fears and the journeying and transitioning of life. We delve into waves of grief, affirmations of life and questions of personal and collective legacies. We don't have many answers, but do unravel many thoughts!

Today's episode explores our relationship to anger; what does it mean to feel angry and how do we embody it? We dive into stereotypes of how the 'angry woman' is depicted in popular media and how such stereotypes are further racialised for WOC. Today's episode also tracks our personal journeys with anger and questions how we can use anger as a transformative and empowering force. We unpack how anger is part of moving towards an integrated understanding of self - appreciating both the lightness and darkness we all house within us. Finally we also make time to fan girl AOC, cos why not?!Interested to know more? Here are some links to things we mentioned in Episode 6: Book - Harriet Lerner, "The Dance of Anger"TED Talk - Soraya Chemaly, "The Power of Women's Anger"Person - AOC 

In our episode this week, we are asking the question: what does it mean to belong? Why do we yearn for it? What makes it so hard to achieve and what does it feel like in those moments when you've found your tribe?Today's conversation was recorded a little while ago (which explains the slightly unideal sound quality). Whilst we were still very early on our podcasting journey, we really wanted to share it with you all and hope it sparks some conversations.

In this week's episode, we explore what the term ‘mothering' means to us:  if and how we can reimagine it for ourselves. We explore the concept as one that is more encompassing than the act of biologically mothering and delve into themes of nurture, community and care. We question the capitalist patriarchy and how it enables society to have a say in decisions concerning our bodies and rights. We uncover feelings that run deep about not being able to biologically have children and what society makes of people who choose to be child-free. Thanks for listening!Interested to know more? Here are some links to people, books and articles we mentioned in Episode 4. Articles and Essays: "The mothers who regret having children" - BBC “Unmothering Essay” by Mona Eltahawy “I may not be a mother - but I'm still a person” Helen Carroll, The Guardian "Birth-strikers: meet the women who refuse to have children until climate change ends." The Guardian. "Gay Dads' Brains Develop Just Like Those of Straight Parents, Study Finds" TIMEBooks:‘A Brief History of Misogyny' by Jack Holland.‘A Handmaid's Tale' by Margaret Atwood.

Some listeners wanted to know more about us. So we made this! Listen in to find out how very sensitive we are, and which of us are secret lovers of lockdown, amongst other nonsense....

 In today's episode we create some space to have honest conversations exploring the impact of sexual and gender-based violence . We explore what silences us, how we carry guilt and shame, whose stories the public imagination and ask how we can all be better allies. Interested to know more? Here are some links to people and events we mentioned in Episode 2. Tarana Burke, activist and founder of the #MeToo movement. bell hooks, professor, activist and author. Swedish men-only supper club for feministsUgesex (Sex week - Information in Danish only) 

Our first episode, ‘ The A word: is it really so bad to age?' explores the theme of ageing, revealing our biggest bugbears of ageing, questioning how we can grow old proudly and with a bold feminist spirit, and ultimately questions what the fuss about getting old is really all about. Did you hear something you want to know more about? Check out these people, books and characters we mentioned in Episode 1. Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman ArchetypeGrace and FrankieGramma Tala | Moana Wikia | FandomFran Lebowitz.