Lies About Sex

How can people be better at penetrative sex? Because it is absolutely true that a lot of people are having really bad, penetrative sex, and I think it gets a bad rep. Yes, I do believe that more people with vaginas can have vaginal orgasms, But I do think that the people with penises, I need to do it slightly differently, and we need to talk about it differently. So here's my multiparty serious on how to have better penetrative sex with someone with a vagina. Okay, my tip number one Is this all about positions and whether you're with a partner or whether you're with different partners, everybody is going to like a different position because, especially when you have a vagina, we have quite different vaginas, right? We have different lengths. We have different, you know, needs. We have different preferences on. Those are things that you need to talk about with your partner. So if you like something different in your partner, let's say you like doggy, but they like missionary. I prefer, and I personally recommend to start with position that they like Maura and I mean the person of the China, because it's just better if the orgasm first, since they can orgasm multiple times right and the Penis will probably need to have a little bit of brake afterwards if it comes down to positions. I also prefer to do things that give more pressure on the cliff, so I love her on top. But I mean the vagina on top, because they can really control where the pressure on the clip goes. I also love spooning because you can squeeze your legs together and you can use your hand. So this is just part well, because it's a huge episode, Syria.Check out the replies and reactions on Beams.fm

Let's talk about squirting. It's a super hot topic and It seems to be pretty hot to watch, right? It's like really popular in porn. But the question is, is squirting just pee, or is it something different? That is today's question in Lies About Sex with cat from UNGIRL. Yeah, well, it's a difficult question to answer. It's a yes and a no. So basically there have been some studies, probably not enough. But squirting usually contains urea, which is kind of like pee and also ejaculate kind of fluid. So it's sort of like hybrid between cumming and peeing, which makes it something completely different in its own. So I don't think anybody should be ashamed or think Oh my God, I'm peeing myself or peeing the bed. No, you're just having a normal sexual response and apparently it's pretty fun to do! Also, I think that people enjoy having it happen to their partners, So really, it's not something to be ashamed of, but had you squirt in the first place? Basically, it's all about the G-spot stimulation, which is really just on the kind of first entry point and curved upwards in the vagina. Stimulate that and you're gonna stimulate the urethral sponge. That's going to help you release and just feel super amazing. So try to relax, get a towel down and feel good about yourself. Feel super sexy and get that, g-spot stimulation and join me next time!Check out the replies and reactions on Beams.fm

We all want multiple orgasms, right? Well, what if I told you that everybody can actually experience it even if you have a penis? Well, that's today's episode on Lies About Sex with Cat from UNGIRL, and if you're like me and you've never heard of multiple male orgasms, then listen up. Basically, the orgasm is separate from ejaculation, so if that's new to you, that basically means you can orgasm without cumming. I know it sounds weird because we kind of associate orgasm with come right, but it's actually the ejaculate that stops people from having multiple orgasms. It's the orgasm that's kind of the fun one and also less messy. But but how do you actually do it? Well, number 1 is, and I know you're going to hate me when I say it. It's to try to stop yourself from ejaculating, which actually comes a few seconds after the orgasm so you can have the orgasm and then stop yourself from ejaculating. But it takes a little practice. You have to train your pelvic floor muscles, and that is going to take some time, and it basically is a dry orgasm. The second option is, and it's probably the more fun option, is stimulate other areas, especially your prostate, because that's essentially the Male G-spot . A lot of people do this. They have dry orgasms, and it means you can have multiple orgasms, have more sex, have longer sex and have more fulfilling sex. So if you like that tip, join me my next episode because I have so many more.Check out the replies and reactions on Beams.fm

Does the vagina become loose the more sex you have? Well, the vagina does become wider and it does actually become longer, which is super cool! Like the cervix moves when you're aroused and the vagina expands up to 200% because the vagina wants you to have pleasurable sex! It doesn't want you to be uncomfortable and feel super tight when you're putting something in it. But what happens to after sex? That is the question in today's episode of Lies about Sex with Cat from on. So I think everybody's heard of this loose vagina myth, right? But luckily, the vagina is much more advanced than this. Basically, when you start becoming aroused, lots of things start changing in your body. So blood flows to the genitals , the cervix retracts and lubricant starts becoming produced by your body. That's what makes sex enjoyable, and that's what makes it much more comfortable to insert something into the vagina. But after sex and after usually orgasm, your body goes into rest mode and those functions and those states go back to normal, which includes the size, thankfully! Also, having a tight vagina is not usually a good sign. It usually means either you're not aroused, or maybe you have something like vaginismus, which is a painful condition about the vagina. And it's not something to aim for! Sex is about pleasure not pain, so I hope you join me next time to learn more.Check out the replies and reactions on Beams.fm

How can you give better oral sex to somebody with a vulva? Well, because trust me when I say not, everyone is good at it. Actually, a lot of people don't really enjoy getting head! And I know that's a bit surprising, especially maybe for people with penises, because yeah, like getting oral sex is like effin amazing. Trust me, I love getting oral sex too, but a lot of people don't do that well! First of all, a lot of people they find the touch a little bit like too light, and it's like super tickly sometimes. So I would recommend that if you're with somebody who feels that way in the introduce in harder touch like your fingers or well, like, level it up, bring a sex toy into it like get a vibrator or if they're into it like a little bit of vaginal stimulation, like something like a small dildo, though, are yeah, I just use your fingers because trust me when that, like, levels up that feeling I am not lying. It feels so much more amazing. At least to me. Secondly, I think this is the better tip. Actually, make your partner feel like they're the most beautiful thing you've ever set your eyes on And make them know how delicious god damn delicious they are! Because a lot of us feel shame and embarrassment about our vulva. A lot of people make some horrible comments about vulvas. So if you can make them know how much of an absolute snackkk they are, you are going to be a better lover. Trust me when I tell you so I hope you enjoy.Check out the replies and reactions on Beams.fm

Dear UNGIRL. My boyfriend hasn't gone down on me. We've been together for three years and I think he's done it like three times. I'm starting to feel really self conscious. Like the vulva smells bad. Is there something wrong with me? What should I do? Okay, welcome back to dear. UNGIRL. The sex and relationship advice show with Cat. Trust me when I say this, you are a snack. Oh, my God. A tasty snack! The amount of people who would be willing and so goddamn happy to eat you out. This is not on you, I think your boyfriend is valid if he just is not into giving head because, actually, you know, we can't expect these things of our partners. Not Everyone is going to like this doing the same thing, and we can't force each other to sort of, like, fulfil our sexual needs. However, if he is expecting you to do it to him, none other than that I'm sorry, but like if he's expecting something that he can't give you in return, unless that's something that you kind of have already negotiated and discussed. That's just not all right. And if he is in any way making you feel bad and making you feel self conscious about your smell, your taste or whatever, That's another no. Your sexual satisfaction is entirely valid in your relationship, and quite honestly, you would find a million people who would be more than happy to fulfil your needs. So I think, have a conversation and put your sexual needs first, because trust me, you're worth it!Check out the replies and reactions on Beams.fm

Sex is so much more than penetration, and I think these underrated sex experiences are actually going to make your sex life so much better. So here's the list of things that don't involve penetration. Number one grinding. Oh my God, it's not just for teens. Grinding is so hot like you're basically riding each other, snogging each other's faces off. It's so intimate and also kind of like cute at the same time. Plus, when you're riding somebody, your stimulating the clitoral network by putting pressure on the pubic mound. So it's a win-win Number two massage. Like if somebody is good at massage, I am basically like Okay, I've just died & gone to heaven like I am. I'll do anything for you. A really good massage, especially if you level up and you bring some massage oil into it. You put on some candles. It's just like so orgasm. I don't know if anyone's looked at massage like, if you haven't, we'll look at it as a whole as fuck seriously. Number three. Mutual masturbation. Like I think this is totally underrated, and I think it should get way, way will be more popular than it is because there's nothing hotter than looking at your partner and just showing this totally vulnerable but like intimate and sexy thing that you're doing together but also individually. Number four nipples, everybody, everybody can come through nipple stimulation. Isn't that amazing? So think outside the box and you'll have much better sex!Check out the replies and reactions on Beams.fm

So how can you have more sex in a relationship when you're past that spontaneous arousal stage and things are starting to get a little bit harder to have sex. Okay, I know you're going to hate me when I say it, but planning! Planning is really it's a key to having sex. And when I say planning, I don't mean like, get your calendar out and say Right. Okay, darling, we're gonna have sex on Tuesday afternoon. I hope you're home. It's actually much deeper than that. Like, firstly needed a bit of research into yourselves as a couple. So for me& my partner, we realised that both of us, we need a long period of time to build up to sex. Neither one of us is great at kind of just being like, Hey, I'm horny, let's fuck! We kind of both like two kiss and cuddle and just have this intimate time together and warm up to it. But when life is super busy and you don't have that much time and your work schedules are kind of complete different, we were struggling to find that time space to make that moment happen. So planning comes into it by saying, Hey, I am going to take a period of time where I'm not gonna have any distractions and we're going to sit and watch a movie together because then we're on the sofa. We can cuddle, We can, spoon, we can kiss, or we're going to wake up. We're gonna have lie in or, you know, a sex lie in on on a Saturday morning. So planning is key. Find what makes it work for both of you and make this space in your life to have more sex! Trust me when it works and join me next time.Check out the replies and reactions on Beams.fm

welcome back to Lies About Sex with cat from UNGIRL. And the lie of today's episode is that sex is always spontaneous and that if you're not feeling, you know, horny anymore in your relationship it it must mean something's wrong. Well, I'm sure I have felt this. I'm sure pretty much everyone in relationship has felt this, particularly men because men have this pressure to be sexually driven much more. But the reality is when you're with somebody in the initial stage of a relationship, your body and your hormones are different. Your bodies are telling you both to have sex with each other. They want you to get together. They want you to probably have a baby. Sex is also a way for both of you to communicate that you have an attraction towards each other because we use sex as validation. When you've been together for longer, your body actually changes. Those hormones drop and things like bonding hormones like oxytocin actually increase, so your body has a different set of priorities Now it's not saying Hey, fuck each other and have as many babies as possible. It's saying, Why don't you build a home together. Why don't you bring some security to the relationship? So it doesn't mean that you don't have sex or that you don't have any sexual drive anymore. But it means that you have to be proactive about it. So if you've only been in short term relationships where you've always been, you know, horny, it actually feels totally different to have to be actively trying to put yourself in the mood. But join me, that my next episode because this is a big topic. And I've got I've got some tips to make you have better and more fulfilling sex!Check out the replies and reactions on Beams.fm

Dear UNGIRL. My partner says, condoms dont feel good. What can I do to make them feel better? Well, thanks for asking and welcome back to Lies Abour Sex with cat from UNGIRL. And today's is all about condoms. I'm sure we've probably heard from probably multiple people that condoms just don't feel good. Well, I mean, first of all, your partner should be a lot more proactive and willing to do something about it. I mean, especially since people with vulvas are actually more likely to guess an STI due to the skin around the vagina being a little bit thinner, and bacteria can actually transfer through that easier. Of course, add on to the fact that you know many people with vaginas could get pregnant. So it's just an all around there, like not great . I mean condoms get a bad rap, which maybe was fine when they were made from sheep skin or something, but now there's so many to choose from, I kind of just roll my eyes when I hear this because, you know, why don't you just go condom shopping together? You can make it a really fun and kind of sexy trip together, you can choose some exciting lube to go with it. Plus, you can even buy some sex toys and just indulge and get excited about the night! You know, secondly measure, the penis, because a lot of people complain about the feeling when actually, it's usually due to the condom being a bit too long so it rolls up too much in the end. The point is, you can find a condom that really feels good for both of you !Check out the replies and reactions on Beams.fm

Welcome back to lies about Sex with cat from UNGIRL! The lie today is that everybody loves 69 ing and the 69 feels amazing. Okay, I will admit that It does look hot. And it is quite a fun position, right? Like just physically. But the reality is. Oh, it's so hard to get right and I think it's just really awkward, like you're kind of like you're licking you're doing stuff. But then you're also experiencing pleasure, so your body just is completely confused. Also, when I've got something in my mouth like and I'm about to orgasm like I don't know, I'm scared. what might happen if I closed my mouth? I don't know, but 69 is a really great position, especially because it's open to all bodies, especially if you're having sex without a penis. So I think it really is a good position and has good potential. So here's some tips to making 69 better. Number one, get comfy and think about it in the long term because you could be there for a while. So get pillows make sure your neck is well rested. You make sure it feels good. Number two is you don't just have your mouth. Get your toys out. Get your hands out as well, you know, use a vibrator, even use masturbator. Anything. It adds to it. Number three. Just take it easy. Go slow. It's not a race to like making to them cum. It's a way to just explore your body and loving & pleasuring each other. Number four, find that good position for you. You might have different heights, so find something that works. And number five join me next time.Check out the replies and reactions on Beams.fm

Welcome back to Lies About Sex with cat from UNGIRL. In today's episode we're talking about, is penetration the best kind of sex? Well, if you ask me, probably not. I mean, the reality is lots of people don't orgasm vaginally, and that's okay. Some just don't like penetration or can't have penetration. Plus, there's lots of different couples of different sexualities who won't ever have penetrative sex. So I actually think that fingering wins the sex competition. I mean, everybody can finger, well, unless you don't have plans. But yeah, if you have hands you can finger. And if you are fingering somebody, I think you have to really learn to do it well, because lots of people finger without really having any idea what they're doing. They sort of just shove their hand in there and they don't even know what they're touching, and the kind of just expect you to cum. So here's some tips. If you like pleasuring somebody with fingering. Okay, Number one get to know what you're touching. If you're touching the vulva, actually learn about it like, where's the clit , learn about the labia, The vaginal opening, etcetera. Number two, please wash your hands on my God. And please use lube! Number three, get into a nice position. Like sit behind your partner so you can fully access the clit. Number four is, get the rhythm right. Stick to a position for a while. See how that goes and then move to something else. So a nice scrolling motion is a good way to start! Number five - join me in the next episode for more tips!Check out the replies and reactions on Beams.fm

We've probably all been there. You're having amazing sex. Everything's great. And then you realise Oh, my God, I didn't take my pill today. Or, shit. did the condom break? Yeah, trust me, we've all been there. But you have the morning after pill, right? Well, maybe not, But welcome back to lies about sex with cat from ungirl. In today's episode, it's all about, Does the morning after pill always work? Well, unfortunately it doesn't. Although it is super effective, it's about 89% effective if you take it within 72 hours. The problem is, it doesn't work so well. If you are of a high B M I. Which sounds incredibly vague. I had to actually find out this information because there was no specific number. Wherever I looked. It turns out I had to get really deep in the information manual from ellaOne, which is a brand and turns out anyone over 165lb, which is just measly. 74 kg for anyone in Europe, You are recommended to take two because one probably won't work. However, the problem is, one, like a huge majority of the world's population is over that weight. Number two. Why is this information not clearer? So, unfortunately, always have to protect yourselves first. So make sure you take the pill within 72 hours. Don't vomit. Don't drink alcohol. And if you are over that weight. make sure you take two & just talk to your pharmacist Plus you can always get the copper IUD and join me nextCheck out the replies and reactions on Beams.fm

Dear UNGIRL. How can I arouse and excite my partner more so we create more sexual intimacy., Okay, welcome back to the Dear UNGIRL show. It's the sex and relationship advice serious. And in this episode, I want to help you understand your partner's arousal style because that's the key to understanding how to kind of initiate and trigger that sexual desire within them. We all have a different kind of way of becoming aroused and understanding how they work and how you work is the key. So a lot of us can be turned on by physical touch that maybe is quite a common one. It could be something like massage. It could be something as simple as it may be. Just that physical intimacy, being close to each other, cuddling or even something like play fighting or tickling. A lot of us need mental arousal, so understanding maybe what their fantasies are. Have they ever wanted to try a role play? Can you add an element of risk or more adventure to your sexual experiences that can kind of arouse their brain a little bit more? Also, don't forget that many of us need emotional connection and maybe that's missing. You know, we need to feel heard. We need to feel understood. We need to feel safe in order to be turned on, especially for a lot of women, because sex is vulnerable. So building that emotional intimacy between you two is definitely going to help allow for sex to happen more naturally. But if this is something you're enjoying and your during the tips, join me my next episode.Check out the replies and reactions on Beams.fm

Dear Ungirl. I feel like I want more sex than my partner. What can I do about it? Okay. Welcome back to Dear UNGIRL. The sex and relationship advice show. So number one don't stress about it because actually is very common. Okay. And number two is don't feel bad that you want more sex! Sexual satisfaction is a super important part of a relationship. And it's true. If you want more, or you want less? You don't have to have put up with a relationship where you're feeling continually, sexually unsatisfied. But there are some things you could do about it, thankfully, So don't just run to break up just yet. Number one is. You have to talk about it because you might be missing each other's sexual signals. For example, I've been in relationships where I felt like I want more than them. It just turned out they were not expressing their sexual desire in the same way that I was. So first, make sure that you actually know what they want sexually and get specific about it. Like, you know, maybe you you say you want, more sex, and maybe they just don't want penetration for example, maybe they would be happy just to cuddle in case and do some. You know, some like touching and maybe. that's enough for you to feel. you know, the intimacy and connection so you can get some points where you can connect and make. it work for each other without kind of pressure and expectation. Number two is making sure that you understand their arousal style, so if you can arouse them, then it's going to lead to more sex. But if you don't know that, then you gotta join me in the next episode !Check out the replies and reactions on Beams.fm

Dear Ungirl. I've been dating my boyfriend for a few months now, and I just found out that I am the other woman. What should I do? Should I break up? I kind of still love him. Oh, yeah. Okay. I feel this one &. First of all, welcome back!. Thank you for joining me on Dear UNGIRL, the sex & relationship advice show. But secondly, you are not the other woman. I really hate this. I hate this phrase because it's not your fault. You're not, like part of the problem. He's the problem, right? You are a woman, not the ‘other' women. And you're a victim in this as well. I mean, from your perspective, you've been in a relationship with somebody you know honestly, openly, you know, without any distrust. And I hate that because maybe he's been with the other person first. That maybe you feel in part guilty or like you're not able to grieve this relationship as much as he is or sorry, the first person is, but secondly, Yeah, I mean, of course I want to be I have to tell you, like you deserve much better than this. You know, I think you know that. And even if maybe he loves you, more, maybe he just couldn't break up with other person. I think I would always have it back in my mind. Like, Can he do this again? And can you do it to me?? At the end of the day? The point is you are somebody's one. Somebody's number one!, not somebody's ‘other', so I hope you can heal & Join me next time.Check out the replies and reactions on Beams.fm

Dear Ungirl. How can I sexually satisfy a woman? I'm pretty new to sex, and I just really want to make sure that my partner enjoys it too. Well, I'm so glad you asked and Hey and welcome to my new show, Dear Ungirl. It's like a sex advice show. So please, send me a question If you have any, I actually love this question. And although it's hard to answer, I think what first came into my mind was kind of like the basics, you know, like, you know, you know, if she has a clit touch that, you know, because not touching it is basically like not touching the Penis. And, you know, it's not impossible to make them come without that. But it is very hard. So, you know, get those basic fundamentals down. But actually, then I started thinking about more about it, and I realise like one thing that a lot of men fail to do in sex is actually turn us on. You know, they come in 100% right, because they may be, you know, the initiator in that situation, and they're super horny, and they just expect you know to touch a button and we orgasm. You know, that is just not true. It's not true even if we are turned on. But what you can really do to sexually satisfy women is get in her mind, understand what turns her on. Fulfil her fantasies like Does she like it in the shower? Does she? Are you making her feel desired enough like get in her mind and you will be about like, let's say, 80% there. Sex is in the brain. So although the physical part is important, the mental part is super important, so join me next time!.Check out the replies and reactions on Beams.fm

So men always want. more sex, than woman, right? And if your boyfriend doesn't want more sex than you then it probably means something's wrong, right? Well, that's today's lie. So hey, and welcome back. It's cat from Ungirl and this is the Lies about Sex series and this lie. I really, really hate it because I feel like it breaks up couples, and it just makes everybody really insecure. I have spoken to so many women who, you know, they're really, like upset because they think their partner, it doesn't love them, doesn't find them sexy or they think they're cheating on them and to the point where they actually often break up. I have also spoken to guys who felt unmasculine because, you know, they're the girlfriend wants more sex on them, and sometimes they just want to cuddle, you know, And it's just that we have this really outdated view on gender and sexuality, you know? And when you start to question these kind of like stereotypes, they kind of breakdown. I mean, not only do they not take into account any other sexualities or, you know, non binary or trans people, they just don't stand up in general. They're there to make men feel unmanly when they don't really want to fuck 10 random girls at a house party. And they're there to make women feel, you know, unfeminine and like a bad woman because they want to have sex. But is there actually any truth to it? Do men want more sex than women? And what's going on biologically? Well, that's a big question. So you have to join me in my next episode as I explore further.Check out the replies and reactions on Beams.fm

Hey, and welcome back to lies about sex with Cat from Ungirl. So today's lie is, is bigger always better? Well, when it comes to Penis size, I'm really not sure that's true. Actually, you know, I have received so many dick pic in my life I actually had people sending them asking or, to be honest, actually begging me to review their Penis like they were so worried. They wanted me to tell them it was a nice Penis. It was a big Penis. It was a pretty Penis. And I got to the point thinking, like Who are obsessed with penises? Because I don't think it's the heterosexual woman here I think, is the men. So I get this question a lot. Like what do people at least having sex with people with penises think? Do they really think that bigger is better? Is that what they're interested in? I got these from my experience. No, they're much more interested in the personality of the person who owns the Penis and the way we behave, the way they make them feel the skill, the knowledge. And, you know, if you want to come down to it like gurth is better than length. Let's just be real. I don't really want something touching my like cervix, but not the wall of the v*gina. So I mean being good at sex is very little to do with your Penis size and much more about what you do with it. So I also think you should be more realistic about what is an average and what's the big Penis? The average is actually on the five ft one inches, so, you know, I think to sum up, stop comparing you to excise and start thinking about what you could do with it.Check out the replies and reactions on Beams.fm

Hi and welcome to lies about sex with Cat from UNGIRL. Welcome to our new series. We're gonna hopefully uncover some truths about sex, not just lies. And in today's episode, I want to talk about one that is close to my heart and really pisses me off. Is that sex should hurt. And I'm talking particularly penetrative sex for people vaginas. Yeah, if you're like me and you heard Oh, my God, you're first time, is going to hurt. And you're going to bleed on the sheets like you experience the pain and the fear and the awkwardness that came with that. Well, yeah, this is going out to you because it is not true. Penetrative sex does not and should not have to hurt. But why do we keep telling this lie and why does it perpetuate? Like all things we hear about sex? Well, I think because we literally just ignore female pleasure, we ignore the part that's super important. Before you have penetrative sex, which is actually get turned on, give her some pleasure, or at least use lube. I mean, dry sex equals painful sex that ‘s just it doesn't matter what age you are. The myth also makes people with penises think they should make their partner. Because if they didn't, do they have a small penis? or oh, their partner's vaginas is loose, obviously. Right. Don't get me started on that. I know it doesn't need to hurt. My first time ended up actually been quite pleasurable, to be honest. And it was probably because I really knew my body. and I got really, really wet. So I just I want this lie to end and I want you to join me in my next episode.Check out the replies and reactions on Beams.fm