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Kiera and Kristy share tips on having financial conversations with patients, including the type of mindset to adopt so it's not so intimidating, key language to use to get everyone on the same page, the power of a litmus test, and more. Episode resources: Subscribe to The Dental A-Team podcast Schedule a Practice Assessment Leave us a review       Kiera (00:00) Hello, Dental A Team   listeners. This is Kiera, and today's a lucky day. I'm so excited. I get one of my faves podcasting with me today. I get the one and only Kristy Treasure. If you don't know Kristy, she's one of our dynamite consultants and she just drives offices to success faster than most people I've ever met. She's absolutely dynamite. And today we're gonna be talking about how to have financial conversations with patients. This is right up her alley. Things she's obsessed about talking about. Kristy, welcome to the show. How are you today?   DAT- Kristy (00:26) Good, thank you. Pleasure pleasure to be here.   Kiera (00:29) I love it. Kristy, it's so fun to talk. You love talking all things money, numbers, metrics. Like that's your jam. How did you even get into numbers and metrics, Kristy? Like, walk us through for those of you who don't know Kristy, she was an office manager. She's been like every position in the practice. She grew this exponentially large practice. But for some reason, her niche is numbers. So, Kristy, how did you get into numbers? Like, why are you this like obsessive woman about numbers? How did that like passion and obsession come to be for you?   DAT- Kristy (00:56) It's so funny. I think at one time I actually thought about getting into accounting, but I never did. Yeah. But in the dental world, you know, really   Kiera (01:02) I could see it, I could see it.   DAT- Kristy (01:07) the numbers are really only a measure of how well we're taking care of our patients and getting them healthy. And so from the dental realm, you know, oral wellness is a passion of mine. Maybe I should have been a hygienist too in a different life. But with that being said, the numbers don't lie. And so   Kiera (01:25) Mm-hmm.   DAT- Kristy (01:26) the you know, being in OM and practice administration, it it was the guide to let me know if we were winning or not. And so it it's not so much about the number, but where is it trending, you know? And so being able sorry, Kiera, being able   Kiera (01:38) Mm-hmm. How do you no, no   DAT- Kristy (01:42) to give that back and have teams know where they stand too, I think is hugely important.   Kiera (01:49) So, how do you get teams on board with this? Like that was gonna be my follow-up when I was about to cut you off. Sorry on that. Like, I agree with you. It's ch it's shell, but how do you get your teams on board? Cause I think this is a common piece and a common like fear of offices is they don't want to tell their teams. They don't want their teams to talk about numbers. Doctors are afraid if teams look at numbers and they're gonna think they want to buy a new boat, which I'm like, go for it, buy the boat, like live your life. But how do you get teams on board to look at these numbers and doctors not to be afraid to share numbers with their with their teams?   DAT- Kristy (02:18) Yeah. I think first and foremost we start out by talking about why did we all get into dentistry? Because usually it's about caring for our patients. And Kiera, I think there's also a misunderstanding that just because a practice may be collecting six million dollars doesn't mean the practice is financially healthy. And so when teams understand there's numbers inside the practice and numbers outside of the practice, I think it helps them   understand and just like they have to manage their finances, you know, what's in the bank? How am I gonna pay my mortgage? Like getting them on board to understand that helps them also drive for the success. And I don't know, you've been in dentistry a long time too. And I truly haven't met a doctor that isn't willing to give back when the practice   Kiera (03:05) Mm-hmm.   DAT- Kristy (03:05) is profitable. So typically, you know, when teams are on board and we're rowing in the same direction for a goal, it's a win win.   Kiera (03:14) Yeah. I hope the doctors heard that. I hope the teams heard that of it is a win-win. It's a good way for us all to get aligned and be on the same page with each other. And like doctors, it is a business at the end of the day. And having a practice and having the numbers tell you, I love numbers because I feel like they're the non-emotional facts of the business. They're able to tell us, are we winning? Are we losing? It's just like a scoreboard in sports. Like it's up on the board. We know if that team is winning or if they're not winning.   and for us not to have like visibility into our business to know are we on track, are we off track? To me feels like what do we do when we're flying blind? Like I can't imagine a sports team like playing against each other and there's no score up on the board. It's just like hoops versus hoops. Like that's fun for a while, but the drive and the like, how do I protect my craft and how do I become a better player? And how do I know if we're actually playing as a team or we're just out here all open? Like those are the ways that you can actually see if you're winning or not. So   Kristy,   I'm gonna pivot us now to financial conversations with patients because it's all things money. We just gave you guys some tips on how you can talk to your teams about this, teams why you need to look at the numbers, how it is a scoreboard of the success of your practice. They don't lie. Every number tells a story, every number t ties to a system of what is broken, what can we improve, how can we improve it? It actually makes like your job easier as a team member because then we're not trying to solve the whole practice. We're just refining based on what the numbers are telling us.   So now pivoting that to patients, I think so many treatment coordinators, doctors, hygienists, like everyone in the practice is so scared to talk money with patients. So Kristy, like let's dig into that. How can people like what is that? Why are people afraid of this? Any tips on how we can have these financial conversations with patients?   DAT- Kristy (04:56) Yeah. I think first and foremost is understanding that, you know, we're in it to get patients healthy. And we   Kiera (05:04) Mm-hmm.   DAT- Kristy (05:04) all understand that if there's active infection going on, it's not gonna get any better than it is today. And so   Kiera (05:12) Right.   DAT- Kristy (05:13) coming from the you know, reframing our brains and coming from the space of taking us back to why we got into dentistry and caring for people, their oral health   equates to their overall health. And if we can get them healthy as quickly as possible, all the better. But I also like to tell my teams, we play the healthcare advocate, but it's always in the patient's hands. So when we can put it back to the patients and say, you know, I'm here for you. And truly this is your journey. You get to be in the driver's seat. And we're going to do this in your timeframe.   And within your budget. It takes that pressure off and it really makes it a relational thing. And we can be the guide to getting them healthy.   Kiera (06:03) That's amazing. And I think Kristy, as you said that, like it's just a reframe, right? Like I think we have the reframe right now. Like you you're telling yourself a story. You're telling yourself a story of, like people have to pay money and it's uncomfortable and they w but there's also another story of we're doing this amazing service and they're paying for a great service, just like Kristy. You used to cut hair. Like people, you give a good haircut, people want to pay you for a great and they even tip you.   Like no one has tipped me in my career for not sucking up their uvula. I would love to have a tip jar. Like you're welcome patients. I didn't suction that up. but like they want to, they want to pay for a service. And I think in dentistry we get kind of weird because like we are in healthcare and when we go to the doctor, but like never once have I ever gone to the doctor and been like, I'm just not gonna pay for it. Like, I know I have a copay, I know I have this.   And so I think for us to reframe it of we've done great dentistry, we've done a great service. People naturally know, like when I go to the grocery store, I buy groceries. When I get my haircut, I pay for my haircut. When I go to the dentist, I pay for my cleaning. I pay for my my care. Like that's what I pay for. And so I I love that you talk about Kristy of like this is just why we're even in dentistry. We did this to get patients back to health. We're here to serve.   I think that there's this space of having confidence in who you are and not being afraid of asking for money. Like it's okay. You did great work. You brought them back to health. Like you did something amazing for them. They are more than happy. It's the gift of reciprocity. And that worked so hard for me. But when we've done something good, people naturally, as a byproduct, want to pay for it. and so helping us, like you said, let's just do a reframe. Like, what if for the next week everybody in our practice just thought like every patient wants to pay us?   Like I promise you, it will be that you've just like activated that and you'll start to see more patients want to pay you. More patients are not having financial conversations of issues with you. It's not a conversation, like they're not rejecting you. They just want like they're just asking questions. And I think we often take those questions as rejection rather like it's confrontation rather than just conversations.   DAT- Kristy (08:11) Yeah, I love that you say that, Kiera. And I tell teams every day, number one, when you take a step back and figure out why are they here, because we all know every single patient walks in and what do they say? I hate coming to the dentist. And I'm thinking to myself, there is nobody standing outside this door with, you know, holding a gun to you saying, You have to go to the dentist. So they're   Kiera (08:32) Mm.   DAT- Kristy (08:33) here for a reason and we just need to figure out what that reason is. People's motivation can be different, you know.   We talk about wellness, longevity, cosmetic, right? And the last one on that list that we tend to shy away from is the cost. But every   Kiera (08:47) Mm-hmm.   DAT- Kristy (08:50) day I tell my teams, it truly doesn't matter if it's 6,000 or 60,000. I know I maybe exaggerated that a little bit, but it's about fitting it in their budget and finding them away. So when you take that pressure off yourself and realize we're tying it back to what they really walked in the door for.   and help them again as that guide to getting what they want. Truly the money is just about finding a way to fit it in their budget. And if we have the tools in our tool belt to do that, it makes it so easy.   Kiera (09:23) Mm-hmm. Well, and like you said, Kristy, it's it's just finding the solution, right? Everything we want in life, we figure it out. We find a way. Like people want to buy a car, so what do they do? They figure out how to pay for it. It's just tying it back to something that they want, need, and deserve. I will throw that like and deserve. I think so many patients don't feel like they deserve, they deserve to have a healthy mouth. They deserve to get this beautiful smile back. And I think actually like   Our   mouths are slightly hidden and they can be hidden. Like you can keep your mouth more closed. You don't have to smile in photos. but the confidence that you have to be able to be unapologetically smiley and to have confidence in your teeth and your smile and your breath and your health and all of that is a gift that I don't think that we realize because in dentistry we just do this day in, day out. but I was the girl who had my smile completely obliterated by someone in my life, and I didn't have that confidence anymore.   And I know what it feels like to be able to speak with confidence and to have my smile perfect and to speak where you don't feel as confident. And I will say that people might give you the push of finance at the top. And I just want to say, like, whenever, like to me, I don't know how you feel, Kristy. To me, objections are just a way for me, like, I haven't educated them enough. And there's just a question. That's all an objection is, is it's just a a a question packaged in a different way. So someone's like, it's cost. I'm like, fantastic. Let's talk about that.   Like, why am I taking this as you don't like me? Like we can make this up all day long, but instead it's just them giving me information. My job is to find the solution with them. There's always a solution. Let's talk about it. And I will promise you, every single one of you listening, and Kristy, you know this just as well as I do, it will never be cheaper or more predictable than it is today. So if it is cost, high five is the best day of your life because we get to make it like the most cost effective we possibly can.   We wait longer in dentistry, it just gets more expensive. That's how it works, that's how it operates. And also, like we lose our options and our our choice the longer we wait. And so let's take care of it now. Let's get it taken care of. And really, like you said, Kristy, they're here at the dentist. Like they chose to come. There's a reason they're here. So I think for us, like, I feel like thinking about cost as an objection is just a pair of sunglasses of a filter you choose to put on. And I'm like, what if I put on the filter of   Every patient wants to say yes to me today. What if I put on the filter of everyone's here and they want to get something done today? What if I put on the filter of everybody has like finances? I'm gonna help them find the way to make this like fit within their budget. I feel we get to choose these pairs of sunglasses, aka filters every day when we walk into the office. And for a lot of you, you might be picking up this like, people don't like insurance, people have this. Like, you're choosing to put on the black sunglasses, the dark gray sunglasses, the brown sunglasses.   Well, there's a whole other pair of sunglasses of yellow and green and pink and purple that are brighter, that are lighter, that are also available for you. And I don't think that that's just like Mary Poppins over here skipping through life. I know it's an actual fact because treatment planning and presenting and talking about finances is 80% the what you think about, 20% skill. It's not   DAT- Kristy (12:31) Yeah.   Kiera (12:31) the reverse. And I think so many people think it's 80% skill, 20% like how you think.   Kristy, break that down. Do you agree with that? 'Cause I do, but that could be Kiera's like la la land over here that I live in.   DAT- Kristy (12:41) Yeah, no, I 1000% agree with you. I'm I'm gonna age myself a little bit here, Kiera, because I remember when I first got into dentistry, crowns were three hundred and eighty-five dollars at the office hours. And yeah, I mean yeah, a hundred percent, right? But   Kiera (12:51) my gosh. It's okay. How much were haircuts, Kristy?   DAT- Kristy (12:59) with that, you know, the same patients that today when you say fifteen hundred dollars for a crown, they said the same thing back then. It's so expensive.   Kiera (13:08) Yep.   DAT- Kristy (13:09) And you said something earlier.   My favorite comeback is you are worth it. You are   Kiera (13:14) Mm-hmm.   DAT- Kristy (13:15) worth it. I I literally maybe only had one person ever tell me, No, I'm not. I'm gonna die tomorrow. But I said, But you're gonna die with a healthy smile, right? And you know, truly people will go spend three thousand dollars on a couch and not bad an eye. So   Kiera (13:29) Mm-hmm.   DAT- Kristy (13:30) when you turn it about them and what they really came in for, what they want, and find that solution to get them.   It it's just a win win and it's so rewarding as a treatment coordinator to have that relationship with the patient because once you do it one time, they come back to you, they look for you, they know your name, they know you're gonna help them get what what they want in the end.   Kiera (13:54) Mm-hmm. You're exactly right. And I think Kristy, like so many people don't realize that they're worth it. And like you said, like people are willing to shell out money left and right. Like it's wild. I don't know if people have seen the memes, they or the reels. They make me giggle when it's like the patient who's asking for the discount and they're driving like all these amazing, like beautiful cars, huge house. And I like to me that just like that cracks the code of our limiting beliefs.   Their beliefs   DAT- Kristy (14:19) Yeah.   Kiera (14:20) that we've chosen to pick up. Like I feel like they're pebbles in my pocket, their beliefs in my pocket. What beliefs am I putting in? Because it's a lot of times like I'm I'm projecting, I'm putting my own assumptions on other people when that's not real. I have a friend going through a pretty severe medical situation and we were talking about it. And one of our other friends was just like a hot mess express. And my friend was like who's going through the actual medical issue, she's like, That friend's projecting on me. Like   I actually don't feel any of that. But that friend saying, like, I'm sure you're so scared, or I'm sure you're so this or that. And she's like, I'm none of those, but she's projecting on me. And I think going into our financial pieces, how many times are we projecting our own limiting beliefs? Like you might think that Starbucks is expensive, but for someone, Starbucks is just part of their daily budget. Like that's that's that's just it's like brushing our teeth. They don't even bat an eye at it. Like you said, they're willing to drop money on a couch, they're willing to do this. It's the value of what people value. And so   For me, it'd be another question of how can you create more value of dentistry? I will tell you as a girl who's had her smile be available and not available, it is one of the greatest gifts you can ever give a patient. And maybe that's why I'm so like passionate about this topic, is because I'm like, I know what that feels like to not feel confident, to not feel like your smile is your own, to not feel comfortable talking to people, to not like I'm modeled for half of my life. Like, you want to believe like.   I I very uncomfortable in my own skin. And so to have that taken away and stripped away is something that I feel we don't if you've never had that taken away from you, you don't even know the gift you're able to give somebody, but I do. And so it's like, let's give that value of the health, like whatever it is. For some people, it's health. For some people, it's guys, I want to look really good in my coffin. Like I'm not gonna lie to you. I am such a vain human. Like I want my teeth to be pretty. I want to look gorgeous. I'd be your 90-year-old, like getting like veneers, braces.   Please don't limit that because you wouldn't pay for it. Like, if that's not your job, but your job is to present it to me. Your job is to find solutions with me. And your job is to help me see the value and what this is. And like Kristy said, to show me that I'm worth it, that I'm deserving of that. And that I agree, Kristy, is the best comeback. Like, no person is going to deny that. And that's probably one of the few places that they've heard that they're worth this treatment. And I also just want to break down like such a limiting belief.   Dentistry, we think is so expensive. Like when you said $1,500, I'm do you want to know how much it is to get Scorpion anti-venom serum? Like that stuff is like, I think it's $10,000 a teeny tiny vial. And you have to have three of those minimum. That's $30,000. That's expensive. Like, let's please put into like the scale of expense. Like medical   DAT- Kristy (17:01) Mm-hmm.   Kiera (17:01) bills are very expensive. $1,500 for a crown that's gonna last you for the next, I don't know, five, 10, 15 years.   That is a very low cost to be able to eat great subsidence for our body. Like, so again, please just please just also put that out there. There's financing options. You can do care credit. You can have other things. Please don't give them a smorgasborg. Like less is more. Let's make decisions very easy for them. Like, are we doing personal savings or do we want to talk financing options? Like, don't project and dump on them. Like let them choose from what it is. Perfect. Let's talk through this. Let's see where we're at. Let's come up with solutions that way you can afford this.   But I'm not going to project that onto them. I'm going to make them ask the questions. And I'm going to assume that they freaking just want dentistry done. Like, why not assume that? Like, I know this sounds so silly and Kristy and I are having a good giggle over here. But Kristy, I really think it's that black and white. Like you said, no one forces person to come to the dentist. They're at the dentist. They clearly want something done. Let's just find the solution to help them get it done. And to be confident and to assume they want to do that, finding the solutions, building the value, teaching them that they are worth it.   And   then putting on those sunglasses of those filters of that you're able you're able to get the dentistry done and let's just find the solution together. Those are my thoughts, Kristy. What are yours? I know this is my rant.   DAT- Kristy (18:17) Yeah, I agree with you, Kiera.   Yeah. I 100% agree with you. And I also challenge people to start at the comprehensive level. Cause many times we tap our patients out. We we say, we're gonna scare them with the number. We don't wanna like show everything up front. And we'll just find a financial solution for this first phase. Sometimes you tap them out and they never come back for the rest. So again, if we put our advocate hat on and we go with the intent, like   purely in our heart. Our intent is to get you healthy and well. If you start at the hole, you can always go backward, but it's really hard to start with one tooth or one procedure and then go up comprehensively. I'll never forget, Kiera, the day I had a elderly lady come up and tell me about her fixed budget. I'm sure we've all heard those, right? And she had to have four   Kiera (19:07) Yes.   DAT- Kristy (19:09) crowns, one in every quadrant. And I was like, boy, how am I gonna fit this in $200 a month?   And you know, in the long run, I would have been better to find a solution to fix all four than to just start with the broken one. Because literally one month later, after we found the solution for the one, all I was doing was eating bread. Kristy and I was like, gosh, what am I gonna do? It's gonna be another payment,   Kiera (19:31) Mm.   DAT- Kristy (19:34) you know? So I also challenge people start at the hole and work backward. Cause again   As a advocate, our job is to help them get healthy. And if we can do it quicker, why would we not? You know, then   Kiera (19:49) Mm-hmm.   DAT- Kristy (19:49) then we've achieved and I always like to use a litmus test. What's best for the practice, best for the patient? If you can answer   Kiera (19:55) Mm-hmm. I agree.   DAT- Kristy (19:56) yes to that, we've done well.   Kiera (19:58) Mm-hmm. And I think people often get a little funny on that. And they think, like, if it's best for the practice, then it's not best for the patient. And I'm like, no, there is a world where it's both. It's an and, not an or. It's best for both of us. It's best for each other. And I just I agree with you, Kristy. I throw this out of I do believe it's our moral obligation to tell patients really what's going on, not what we think   DAT- Kristy (20:20) Mm-hmm.   Kiera (20:20) they want to hear. Like I would be so angry, and I am still angry. Do you know how many hygienists never offered me fluoride?   Like I'm still angry about it to this day because I'm like, that's the most proactive preventative thing that I can ever do for my mouth. And you chose because you didn't think I'd want it or you was afraid to talk money to me, that you never offered it to me. Like, how many other times do we just not offer to people that we don't tell them what's really going on? Like you said, give them the comprehensive plan. Now, with that said, dentists, when you're doing a comprehensive plan, please don't   Don't talk so many words that they get lost. And there's there's an art of being comprehensive and using it in patient jargon that they can understand. So being very clear of perfect, here's everything going on. Your next visit's going to be this. This is when I want to see you back. Like this is the whole plan for treatment coordinators. Here's the whole plan. We're going to start with phase one. We're going to schedule out phase one, phase two, phase three, phase four. Like, let's make it very simple for them. Please don't get into the like.   All right, we're gonna do like seven crowns and it's gonna take 17 hours. Like they they don't need to know all that. They just need to know like where do we start? What's what does what does complete look like? also when they know about what the total is going to be, but also that we're able to break it down if they need to. Like, let's break it down. We're we're gonna do this in chunks. I do the same thing with implants, like our implants are 25, 70 grand. Like we have an office that does 150,000 per like full mouth, so it's 75,000 per arch.   some of you might be listening, like, my gosh, like, yes, guys, this is real. Like they really can do this. And they really do. And they have several patients that say yes to them. Again, I think it's your value. I think it's your confidence. I want people to realize they're buying your confidence. So you being confident in your treatment planning where you're doing it out of moral obligation and what's ultimately best for the patient. Patients trust, they believe, and they know you're genuine. That's how this doctor's able to charge 75 grand per arch for doing it.   He's a phenomenal dentist. Like I would trust him too. I'd pay for him over several others that are much cheaper than him. People, there are some that want to go for the cheapest. but I think that most people, when they look at their mouths, they recognize that it is an investment. They recognize that it is a and I think if you can present it that way and you can show them that this is long term preventative for you and it's long term care for you. I think people are able to see that. It's much better than even like your couch analogy. Couches like wear out.   And you have to replace them. Your teeth do   DAT- Kristy (22:42) Sure.   Kiera (22:43) wear out, but they have a lot longer lifespan on them than others. So, Kristy, I think it's a brilliant way to talk about comprehensive as well.   DAT- Kristy (22:50) thank you. And you know, true truly, Kiera, it it is an investment in their health. And I hope that and I challenge people to even speak that way, you know, use use power words instead of out of pocket. And I always share with my teams, like I literally see a guy with his pocket hanging out. Like   Kiera (23:07) Right.   DAT- Kristy (23:08) you're sending a negative connotation. Say, you know, and and the total is this.   Kiera (23:14) Mm-hmm.   DAT- Kristy (23:15) It's an investment into your health, you know.   Kiera (23:17) Mm-hmm.   DAT- Kristy (23:18) And   I'm here to find a solution with you. So I I love it. It it definitely is a passion. And like I said, when you can meet the patient where they are, find what they want and tie it back, it's always a win. I was gonna share with you when you were talking earlier, you and people don't forget about the cosmetic things, just like the fluoride. I'm with you, Kiera. I don't have a problem with decay, but if they don't offer me, I'm not coming back because I feel like you haven't really treated me, you know. But I was   Kiera (23:46) Mm-hmm.   DAT- Kristy (23:47) gonna share.   My mother-in-law, she was playing cards and she had always come to the office that I worked at. And and one day she left and came back for the hygienist because she loved the hygienist. And doctor comes in my office like, and I'm like, What? You never offered, you never asked her. She had this bright, sparkly front bridge, and nobody ever stopped, even when they got her healthy, to say, Hey, what you're doing at home's great. Now's the time to ask.   Is there anything you'd like to change about the shape, size, and color for your teeth? So going back to what you said, it's our job to share the possibilities. And again, it takes the pressure off of us because the patient's always in the driver's seat. They get to say   Kiera (24:30) Mm-hmm.   DAT- Kristy (24:30) yes or no. And it's okay.   Kiera (24:32) Mm-hmm. Kristy, I love that. I love that it's why are we not sharing more? I think people are so afraid that you're going to overwhelm. And I'm like, whatever you think is what people will feel. So if you think you're   DAT- Kristy (24:43) Mm-hmm.   Kiera (24:44) going to overwhelm them, you're going to overwhelm them. If you think you're pushing on them, you're going to. There is another pair of sunglasses, aka filter, if you want to. Like Kristy said, like, give them the options. Do you know how many people I wish would just fix my lateral for me? Like now, all of you are going to look at it. Don't worry. I'm taking contributions. You want to like.   Fix my ortho for me. I will happily be your patient. No one talks to me about it. Cause they assume Kiera's teeth are beautiful. She works in dentistry. I do love my teeth, but I would love to just do a slight correction on that, but no one asks. And so again, like talking to them about possibilities, just letting them know like patients in the driver's seat, they don't have to, but if they never know what it is, right? To me, it's almost like dreams and goals and and big ideas.   The reason we achieve things is because we've seen them from someone else. We've seen that someone has the house or the car or the life or the kids or the nanny or the healthy fitness or the whatever it is. We've all seen somebody that has it and therefore we want to achieve it. If we don't even know it exists and we don't know it's a possibility, guess what? They'll be talking to their friends and then they come back and they're like, Dr. Johns did my like whole mouth. And you're like, Well, we do that too. You didn't choose to share. So when it comes to finances, when it comes to talking these things, I think my whole overarching thing is like,   Let's put on the filters and assume the best. Let's share with people. Kristy, it was absolutely a fantastic podcast. There were so many nuggets in here. Kristy, you're so easy for me to podcast with because you and I just have so much passion for it. So we just rally. But Kristy, I just want to say thank you for sharing your perspectives. And I hope everybody picks up one or two nuggets, one or two perspectives, one or two beliefs, and you implement today. You can sit here all day long. You might have heard this before, but you can pick up one of these tools, try it out today, try it on for size, like get a little uncomfortable in the in the new realm.   And try it out because I promise you, those patients need you, they're coming to you, they trust you, and you have a moral obligation to help and serve them. Kristy, any last thoughts as we wrap up today?   DAT- Kristy (26:35) No, the only thing I say is please share your wins. We want to hear your stories.   Kiera (26:39) Absolutely.   Reach out Hello@TheDentalATeam.com if you need help getting your team on board. Kristy's a freaking dynamite, amazing at doing this. Our consulting team is absolutely incredible. So reach out Hello@TheDentalATeam.com. As always, thank you, Kristy. Thank you all. Thanks for listening. And I'll catch you next time on the Dental A Team Podcast.  

(00:00-2:00) Little quick hitter before we do day 3 of the EMOTD.(2:08-17:48) Design Aire Heating & Cooling EMOTD.(17:58-33:14) Joined by Cardinal broadcaster, Brad Thompson. Cardinals picking up two straight against the Dodgers. Leo Bernal looking impressive in his first few games with the team. A Jim Dandy some might say. He could be next year's Opening Day catcher. Projecting Gordon Graceffo for next season and beyond. Has Brad heard much postseason talk around the team? Focusing on each individual day. A favorable schedule down the stretch.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

At the Court of Liang at the period of Yang Chu, about 300 B.C., the philosophers were treated as guests of the reigning king, who reserved for them lodging and maintenance, and encouraged all who had any pretence to the pursuit of truth and wisdom. Whether or not Yang Chu was actually a native of the Wei State, or whether he came there drawn by the attraction of a critical and unrivalled audience, it is at least certain that he settled there as small proprietor, probably in the reign of King Hwei, and continued there till his death, about 250 B.C.One may imagine a condition of life in many respects somewhat analogous to the life of Epicurus in his famous Athenian Garden. To the philosopher of pleasure and contentment came pupils and disciples, discourses were held in much the same way as at an identical period discourses were held in the garden at Athens, and it is to these discourses, memorised and recorded by his favourite pupil Meng-sun-Yang, that we most probably owe the single fragment of the teaching of Yang Chu that remains, a fragment complete and explicit enough to enable us to form a clear estimate of his teaching and philosophy. - (from the Introduction by Hugh Cranmer-Byng)Translated by Anton Forke.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

At the Court of Liang at the period of Yang Chu, about 300 B.C., the philosophers were treated as guests of the reigning king, who reserved for them lodging and maintenance, and encouraged all who had any pretence to the pursuit of truth and wisdom. Whether or not Yang Chu was actually a native of the Wei State, or whether he came there drawn by the attraction of a critical and unrivalled audience, it is at least certain that he settled there as small proprietor, probably in the reign of King Hwei, and continued there till his death, about 250 B.C.One may imagine a condition of life in many respects somewhat analogous to the life of Epicurus in his famous Athenian Garden. To the philosopher of pleasure and contentment came pupils and disciples, discourses were held in much the same way as at an identical period discourses were held in the garden at Athens, and it is to these discourses, memorised and recorded by his favourite pupil Meng-sun-Yang, that we most probably owe the single fragment of the teaching of Yang Chu that remains, a fragment complete and explicit enough to enable us to form a clear estimate of his teaching and philosophy. - (from the Introduction by Hugh Cranmer-Byng)Translated by Anton Forke.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This week I talk about two books I've reread because I love to do that: Chasing Savannah by Dria Andersen and Hostage to Pleasure by Nalini Singh. Dria's book is a standalone and Nalini's is book 5 in the series. If you're looking for shifters and a paranormal world either book is a great option and Chasing Savannah has a throuple (a trio) while Hostage to Pleasure is an enemies to lovers!Thanks for listening

Orson Welles as The Third Man with Anton Karas on zither The Lives Of Harry Lime "Pleasure Before Business" March 28, 1952 Syndicated, WRVR-FM, New York aircheck The Lives Of Harry Lime  "The Third Woman"  December 07, 1951 for Lang-Worth syndication

Growth doesn't happen by accident. The life God is calling you to requires intentionality, discipline, obedience, and a willingness to choose purpose over pleasure.In this episode, we unpack what it means for Christian men and women to stop living for temporary comfort and start intentionally pursuing God's purpose for their lives. Pleasure isn't always sinful—but when comfort, entertainment, distraction, and instant gratification begin controlling your decisions, they can keep you from becoming who God created you to be.Real Christian growth requires intentional choices. Your spiritual life, marriage, health, family, leadership, business, and relationship with God will rarely grow beyond the level of intentionality you bring to them.We discuss how to develop biblical discipline, overcome complacency, eliminate distractions, build godly habits, pursue spiritual growth, and become more intentional with your time, relationships, and calling.You weren't created simply to be comfortable. You were created for purpose.Desire to become a High Level Husband? Click the link below?https://www.highlevelhusband.com/bmr-blueprint

Why does healthy eating feel so hard—even when we know exactly what to do? Dr. Doug Lisle joins Chuck Carroll on The Exam Room to explain the psychology behind The Pleasure Trap and why today's food environment may be even more difficult to navigate than it was two decades ago. Dr. Lisle is the co-author of The Pleasure Trap and a longtime voice in evolutionary psychology. In this conversation, he shares his perspective on why highly processed foods can be so alluring, why shame and willpower are not enough, and how people can build a more sustainable whole-food plant-based way of eating. In this episode: Why the modern food environment can feel impossible to escape The psychology of pleasure, pain avoidance, and habit Why healthy diets can fail when they feel too restrictive Dr. Lisle's "vegan Bushman" approach to calorie density and satisfaction What he thinks about GLP-1 weight-loss medications How to judge dietary progress without obsessing over daily scale changes A preview of his upcoming book, Sherlock Holmes and the Secret of Life   Dr. Lisle will also be joining Chuck at the Plant Powered Party in Las Vegas, September 4–6. Chef AJ, Dr. Michael Greger, Dr. Brooke Goldner, Dr. Joel Fuhrman, Dr. Columbus Batiste, and many more will be there, too. Can't make it to Vegas? Watch all three days live from anywhere with replay access for a full year. This is Chef AJ's last event for a long while, so don't miss it.  Exam Roomies of the Week Evan Haas Lucy EverHope   Make a gift to support The Exam Room Podcast and the life-changing work of the Physicians Committee.

In this episode, Jonathan Graf shares insights from his book The Power of Personal Prayer, exploring how to deepen and sustain a vibrant prayer life. We discuss practical tips, different types of prayer, and how to lead others in prayer effectively.

Our website - www.perksofbeingabooklover.com. Instagram - @perksofbeingabookloverpod Facebook - Perks of Being a Book Lover. To send us a message go to our website and click the Contact button.   You can find Marian Yee at marianyee.com or on IG at @mariangyee   Remember the 1996 film Jerry Maguire and its famous line, “You had me at hello?” Well, our guest this week, Marian Yee, had me at hello with her novel 4 Janes, which is a genre- and time-bending re-imagining of Charlotte Bronte's Jane Eyre. It is a novel that you'll want to read a second time (or even a third) and discuss with others because there are so many layers.    And our book rec segment features female authors in translation. August was Women in Translation month and yes we missed it by a few days, but we still have some great suggestions to last you all year long. We've got historical fiction set in a brothel in early 20th century Japan, a fantasy filled with Norse mythology, a psychological thriller set in Iceland, a family saga set in early 20th century Mexico filled with magical realism, the story of an old woman and her neighbors living outside Chernobyl, and the plight of young women in a mental asylum in Paris.   Books Mentioned in This Episode:   1- 4 Janes: A Novel by Marian Yee  2- Jane Eyre by Charlotte Brontë  3- The Lioness of Boston by Emily Franklin  4- Love and Other Monsters by Emily Franklin  5- Thirteen Perfect Fugitives: The True Story of the Mob, Murder, and the World's Largest Art Heist by Geoffrey Kelly  6- One Hundred Years of Solitude by Gabriel García Márquez  7- The Whisper Man by Alex North  8- War and Peace by Leo Tolstoy  9- War and Peace: The Graphic Novel by Leo Tolstoy, Alexandr Poltorak, and Dmitry Chukhrai 10- The Ministry of Time by Kaliane Bradley  11- Say Hello to My Little Friend by Jennie Capo Crucet  12- Sister Novelists: The Trailblazing Porter Sisters Who Paved the Way for Austen and the Brontës by Devoney Looser  13- Snap by Susin Nielsen 14- 5 Star Read by Fellow Book Lover Brenna Julian - Echo by Pam Muñoz Ryan  15- The Murmur of Bees by Sofía Segovia, translated from Spanish by Simon Bruni 16- The Mad Women's Ball by Victoria Mad, translated from French by Frank Wynne  17- Baba Dunja's Last Love by Alina Bronsky, translated from German by Tim Mohr  18- A Woman of Pleasure by Kiyoko Murata, translated from Japanese by Juliet Winters Carpenter  19- The Night Guest by Hilda Knutsdottir, translated from Icelandic by Mary Robinette Kowal  20- Odin's Child by Siri Pettersen, translated from Norwegian by Siân Mackie and Paul Russell   Media Mentioned: 1- The Last Seen Podcast - https://www.wbur.org/podcasts/lastseen/last-seen-season-one 2- One Hundred Years of Solitude (Netflix, 2024 - present) 3- The Whisper Man (Netflix, 2026) 4- The Mad Women's Ball (Amazon Prime, 2021)      

Send us Fan MailLeola shares the birth story of her daughter, Lilith Leola "Billie" Watkins. She walks through the full journey, from her final days of pregnancy through hours in the birth pool, an unexpected dance party, a heart rate scare, and the golden hour that followed. Leola unpacks what an empowered birth truly means to her, explaining why she chose that word over "orgasmic" and why presence, trust, and surrender mattered more than comfort or ease.You're invited… Orgasmic Leader Playshop - FREE live event Wanna seduce the world into a greater good? Join us in the Pleasure Priestess Initiation.Purchase Leola's book, “Sacred Sex Ed”, & claim FREE offers!Use code LEOLA for 15% off at WAANDS.comPleasure Power Quiz & more FREE offers.Join Business & Pleasure to make income & impact with ease…Get access today: The Higher Love Club Vault | A Transformational LibraryLet's connect IRL. Check out all upcoming events and offerings here.Find and follow Leola...www.talktantratome.comIG: @talktantratomeTwitter: @talktantratome 

Kirt & Mr. Sal discuss Season 1 of Maximum Pleasure Guaranteed in which Kirt enjoy a diet, caffeine-free Pepsi. Shoe Hammer some Show Hoppers into your day! Website: showhoppers.com Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShowHoppers Contact Us: showhopperspodcast@gmail.com Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

What makes a dance feel good when we willingly let go of control?In this episode, I sit down with David Kaminsky, dancer, musician, researcher, and professor, based in California.We talk about: ​ How David first entered dance through Swedish folk music and Polska​ The connection between Aikido and leading in a partner dance​ Playing live music for dancers and the unique conversations that happen through music​ A magical memory of dancing in a forest surrounded by light at Recess​ What it means to lead, follow, and take care of a partnerDavid shares ideas that come from years of research, but always connects them back to real experiences on the dance floor.If you have ever wondered why certain dances feel so comfortable, why connection matters, or why dancing can change how we move through the world, this conversation offers plenty to reflect on.______________________________________________​Subscribe & review the podcast to help me grow

Send us Fan MailWhat if the parts of yourself you struggle with most are not meant to be destroyed, but redirected?In Lesson 13 of Kabbalah for Everyone, Rabbi Yisroel Bernath moves beyond simply identifying the Nefesh HaBahamit, the animal soul and discovers the deeper Kabbalistic vision: the goal is not to become less human, less passionate, less ambitious, or less emotional. The goal is to educate the enormous energy already inside us.Drawing from Tanya, we explore itkafya, the ability to create space between an impulse and our response; the inner “courtroom” of the beinoni, where a feeling may make its argument without being allowed to issue the verdict; and ultimately the possibility of redirecting the animal soul itself toward holiness.The ox is powerful. Unharnessed, it can destroy a field. Harnessed, that very same strength can produce a harvest. Your stubbornness can become loyalty. Your ambition can become service. Your sensitivity can become compassion. Your appetite for life can itself become part of your relationship with G-d.The goal is not spirituality despite being human. It is spirituality through being human.Key PointsA voice is not a verdict. An impulse, emotion, or thought may speak loudly without being given authority over what you think, say, or do.The beinoni is not someone without struggle. Spiritual greatness can exist right in the middle of an ongoing inner battle.Itkafya creates freedom. Sometimes holiness begins with the ability to say, “I want this, but I do not have to obey it right now.”Don't kill the ox. Harness it. The raw energy behind difficult traits may contain tremendous spiritual power.Same ox. Different plow. Stubbornness can become persistence. Competition can become self-improvement. Pleasure can become beautiful Shabbat. Ambition can become service.The Nefesh HaSichlit is the translator. Our rational mind can help translate the G-dly soul's truths into language the animal soul can actually understand.Dirah BiTachtonim happens inside us too. G-d wants a dwelling not only in the obviously holy parts of life, but in our bodies, appetites, personalities, passions, and physical energy.Transformation does not mean sanctifying harmful behavior. We reject what is destructive while asking what healthy, holy power may exist underneath it.Do not confuse recurring struggle with failure. Needing to choose again today does not erase yesterday's victory.The ultimate question is not, “Why am I not somebody else?” It is: “What am I going to do with the soul and temperament G-d gave me?”Tonight Wednesday September 2 at 7:30pm EST on Zoomhttps://www.jewishndg.com/civicrm/event/register?reset=1&id=110September 16th at 7:30pm EST on ZoomThe Forgiveness Experiment: LIVEhttps://www.jewishndg.com/civicrm/event/register?id=109The School for Sensitive Soulshttps://www.kabbalah4everyone.com/checkout/sensitive-souls#Kabbalah #kabala #Jewish #Judaism #KabbalahForEveryone #Rabbiyisroelbernath #Tanya #chassidus #chabad #ChabadChassidus #JewishWisdom #NefeshHaBahamis #AnimalSoul #Beinoni #Itkafya #DirahBiTachtonim #JewishSpirituality #SelfMastery #Transformation #purpose Rabbi Yisroel Bernath's New Book The Forgiveness Experiment is Available now:Paperback: https://www.amazon.com/Forgiveness-Experiment-What-Would-Your/dp/1069217638Kindle: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FR2QNJL6Audiobook: https://bit.ly/4tPFZhVSupport the showGot your own question for Rabbi Bernath? He can be reached at rabbi@jewishndg.com or http://www.theloverabbi.comSingle? You can make a profile on www.JMontreal.com and Rabbi Bernath will help you find that special someone.Donate and support Rabbi Bernath's work http://www.jewishndg.com/donateFollow Rabbi Bernath's YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/user/ybernathAccess Rabbi Bernath's Articles on Relationships https://medium.com/@loverabbi

Welcome to episode one of Wife School, a five-part series on everything no one tells you before you say "I do." Today's professor is Tilly Dillehay — author, pastor's wife, homeschooling mom of four, and one of the most requested guests in Culture Apothecary history after her last episode exploded. This one is almost entirely driven by your questions: how to stop comparing your husband to other men, what submission actually looks like day to day, sexless marriages, difficult in-laws, rebuilding trust after betrayal, and what to do when you wake up feeling more like roommates than lovers.Thank you to our sponsors!GEVITI: Use code "ALEX" to get 20% off of your first purchaseMASA CHIPS: Use code "ALEXCLARK" for 25% OFFPRIMA: Use code "ALEXCLARK20" for 20% off a one-time purchaseWOOLSHIRE: Use code 'ALEX10' for 10% offVMA: Use code "ALEX" for 20% off each month you are enrolledVOTE ONLINE:Our Guest:Tilly DillehayTilly's Links:WebsiteXInstagramFaceBookFOLLOW ALEX:Instagram |⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @realalexclark⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram |⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@cultureapothecary⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠X |⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @yoalexrapz⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube |⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @RealAlexClark⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcast |⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Culture Apothecary with Alex Clark⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to ‘Culture Apothecary' on⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. New episodes drop 6pm PST/ 9pm EST every Monday and Thursday.DISCLAIMER: This content is for informational purposes only and is not medical advice. Always talk to a qualified healthcare professional for any health-related questions or decisions.

If anal play sounds like something you'd have to grit your teeth through, I want to change your mind about one thing first: a painful first try isn't your body's final answer. It's usually a sign something was rushed, unprepared, or out of your control, not proof this isn't for you. In this episode, I'm walking through my five-step, comfort-first framework for exploring anal: getting a real yes before anything starts, setting yourself up for success, warming your whole body up first, moving in layers instead of straight to penetration, and learning to actually read your body's feedback. I'm also busting a few myths along the way, including the one that penetration is the goal at all. Pleasure, not performance. Let's get into it. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠ X: ⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠ TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠ Threads: ⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠ WANT MORE? Visit the Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠ Text With Me: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠ Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠ Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to ⁠http://sexwithemily.com/coaching⁠ to apply! This episode is sponsored by: Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! ⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast⁠ ============================= Chapters: 00:00 Cold Open / Welcome to Sex with Emily 01:24 Why Your First Time May Have Hurt 02:08 The Five Step Framework (Meet Dr. Emily) 02:56 Anal Isn't All or Nothing 03:44 Your Nervous System Is the Real Sex Organ 04:07 The Two Rings of Muscle, Explained 04:49 Step 1: Start With a Real Yes 05:28 The Receiving Partner Is Always in Charge 06:00 Step 2: Set Yourself Up for Success (Hygiene) 06:41 Lube, Toys, and the Pre-Talk 07:17 Step 3: Warm Up Your Whole Body 08:22 Step 4: Move in Layers, Not Pressure 09:59 Step 5: Listen to Your Body and Talk About It 10:51 Busting the Biggest Anal Myths 11:11 Recap: The Five Steps to Try Anal Comfortably 11:58 Outro & Where to Find More Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I'm joined by repeat guests Danielle Harel, Ph.D., and Celeste Hirschman, M.A., founders of the Somatica® Institute and creators of the Somatica® Method of sex and relationship coaching. Danielle and Celeste are thought leaders in the world of sex and relationships and have trained more than 1,000 coaches in their groundbreaking approach, which helps people get out of their heads and into their bodies so they can build confidence, feel empowered to be themselves, and go after what they truly want in dating, sex, and relationships. They're also the lead sexologists on the UK's award-winning TV show Virgin Island, bringing their expertise to a global audience. In this episode, we dive into what Virgin Island is really about, how Danielle and Celeste became the show's lead sexologists, and what they learned from working with people who feel inexperienced, insecure, or disconnected when it comes to sex. We talk about the fears and challenges that come with sexual inexperience—whether you've never had sex, have had very little experience, or have been with the same partner for 20 years. We explore the tools Danielle and Celeste use to create powerful shifts in confidence and connection, why understanding your Core Desires can transform your dating and sex life, and how you can uncover your own. We also get into practical advice for men and women who are dating without much sexual experience, including how to move past shame and insecurity, build confidence, and become more comfortable asking for what you want. Whether you consider yourself sexually inexperienced, struggle with confidence, or simply want a deeper understanding of your desires and how to communicate them, this conversation offers practical tools for becoming more embodied, confident, and connected in your relationships. To learn more go to https://www.somaticainstitute.com Take their quiz here: https://www.celesteanddanielle.com/at-your-core-quiz/ Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠our book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ now! Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shamelesssex.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Wish List⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow us on IG ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@shamelesssexpodcast ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Other links: Get 10% off boosting your load with code SHAMELESS at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://loadboost.com⁠⁠⁠ Get 45% off our favorite ethical (and educatonal) porn with code PLEASURE at ⁠⁠http://erikalust.com ⁠⁠— that's Erika with a K Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://uberlube.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get 15% off the best sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://purepleasureshop.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Work with some of our favorite sexual health and hormone specialists at ⁠⁠⁠https://swanmd.com⁠⁠⁠ + mention Shameless Sex for a discount. And ⁠⁠click here ⁠⁠to set up a free 15 minute consult to discover if you are in menopause

Today we are talking about something that I think we all need to know about…  How to reset your dopamine. And before you think this is going to be one of those extreme episodes where I tell you to throw your phone into the ocean, stop drinking coffee, sit in a dark room for three days and eliminate everything fun from your life… That is absolutely not what we are doing. Because dopamine isn't bad. We need dopamine. Dopamine is part of what makes us want things. Pursue things. Work toward goals. Get up and go. The problem is that we are living in an environment where we can get enormous amounts of stimulation with almost zero effort. Open Instagram. Refresh your email. Check likes. Open TikTok. Eat something hyper-palatable. Buy something. Get a notification. Watch another episode. Click another video. Check your texts. Pick up your phone because you have 17 seconds with nothing to do. We have essentially eliminated boredom. And I think we need to talk about what that is doing to us. Because I don't think most people have a motivation problem. I think some people have made normal life too boring compared to the stimulation they consume all day long.   Think about this. Working toward a goal is slow. Building a business is slow. Getting stronger is slow. Improving a relationship is slow. Reading a book is slow. Learning something difficult is slow.     But your phone can give you novelty every half second. So what happens when your brain gets accustomed to incredibly stimulating rewards that require almost no effort? The things that actually build an awesome life can start feeling painfully boring.   And THAT is what I want to change today. I've been going deep into what Andrew Huberman, Chris Williamson, Stanford addiction psychiatrist Anna Lembke, Peter Attia and Gary Brecka have discussed around dopamine, reward, pleasure, discomfort and motivation. And there is one massive theme that keeps coming up: We need to stop getting so many rewards without earning them.   We need less cheap dopamine… And more earned dopamine. More accomplishment dopamine. More anticipation. More effort. More challenge. More doing hard things and feeling awesome afterward.   So today we're going to talk about what dopamine actually does, why our modern environment can completely screw with our motivation, what people mean by a dopamine reset, and most importantly… How we actually do it. Not forever. Not perfectly. But intentionally enough that normal life starts feeling interesting again.       Because imagine waking up and actually WANTING to work on your goals. Imagine sitting in your car without immediately opening your phone. Imagine finishing a workout and letting that accomplishment be the reward instead of instantly needing another stimulus. Imagine being fully engaged in dinner. Or a conversation. Or a walk. Or your kids. Or your work. That's what we're after. Not less enjoyment. More enjoyment from the things that actually matter. FIRST… WHAT IS DOPAMINE? Dopamine isn't simply the "pleasure chemical" This is probably the biggest misunderstanding. Dopamine plays a huge role in motivation, pursuit, learning, reinforcement and determining what your brain decides is worth pursuing again. Think less "this makes me happy" and more: "Go get that again." It's a molecule heavily involved in wanting and pursuing. Huberman explains dopamine in terms of baseline and peaks You have a baseline level of dopamine. Then certain experiences generate temporary increases above that baseline. The important part is what happens afterward. A big dopamine peak can be followed by a period where dopamine activity falls below where it was previously. This is part of why something incredible can sometimes leave you feeling strangely flat afterward. The higher and more frequently we chase enormous peaks, the more ordinary activities can start losing their appeal. Think about it like contrast If you eat incredibly sweet processed foods all day… A blueberry doesn't taste very sweet. There isn't anything wrong with the blueberry. Your reference point changed. The same general concept applies here. When your environment becomes filled with intense stimulation… Quiet feels boring. Reading feels boring. Work feels boring. Walking feels boring. A normal conversation feels boring. Your life didn't necessarily become boring. Your stimulation threshold changed. WHAT I MEAN BY "CHEAP DOPAMINE" I'm going to use the phrase cheap dopamine throughout this episode even though scientifically dopamine itself isn't cheap or expensive. What I mean is: A high-reward experience requiring very little effort. Things like: Endless short-form videos Constant social media refreshing Notifications Online shopping Gambling Highly processed foods Video games for hours and hours Constant snacking Drinking Continually checking texts Refreshing email Internet rabbit holes Watching episode after episode after episode Constant novelty And here's the key… None of those things has to be inherently evil. It's the dose. The frequency. And whether you've lost control over your consumption. There's a massive difference between choosing to watch a movie on Saturday night… And being literally unable to stand in an elevator for 25 seconds without checking your phone. That's the part I want us to notice. THE WORLD HAS REMOVED THE WAITING This might be one of the biggest problems. Almost everything used to have some friction. You wanted food? You cooked it. You wanted entertainment? You waited until your show came on. You wanted to talk to your friend? You called them. Maybe they weren't home. You wanted to buy something? You drove somewhere. You wanted information? You found a book. Now? Everything is immediate. Food. Entertainment. Shopping. Attention. Validation. Communication. Information. Novelty. Almost every human desire has an app attached to it. And our brains evolved in an environment where rewards generally required work. Now we can receive reward after reward while lying horizontally on the couch. That is a massive mismatch. THE PLEASURE-PAIN SEESAW One of my favorite explanations comes from Dr. Anna Lembke. She describes pleasure and pain almost like opposite sides of a balance. When we repeatedly push hard toward pleasure… Our brain tries to restore balance. And over time, you may need more of the stimulus just to experience the same effect. This is incredibly obvious with severe addiction. But I think it's useful to recognize much milder versions in ourselves. Have you ever: Opened Instagram for five minutes and 45 minutes disappeared? Finished a show and immediately needed another episode? Finished dessert and started looking for something else sweet? Checked one notification and then somehow checked four different apps? Picked up your phone without consciously deciding to? That automatic reaching is important. You aren't necessarily choosing anymore. You're responding. And I want us to get back into choosing. WHY NOTHING FEELS EXCITING ANYMORE Sometimes people say: "I'm unmotivated." "I don't feel like working." "I can't concentrate." "I'm bored." "I don't really feel excited about anything." Obviously there can be many medical, psychological and situational reasons for those feelings. But there is another question worth asking: How much stimulation are you consuming? Because if you're exposing yourself to novelty constantly… Your brain never gets a chance to be bored enough to create. Never bored enough to think. Never bored enough to solve a problem. Never bored enough to decide what you actually want. We're treating boredom like an emergency. I actually think boredom is incredibly productive. Some of my best ideas happen when there's nothing else coming into my brain. And we are filling every single empty pocket.   DOPAMINE STACKING Huberman talks about something that I think is fascinating: stacking multiple dopamine-producing experiences together. Think about a workout. Exercise itself can be rewarding. But now we add: Pre-workout. Favorite playlist. Phone. Texts. Social media. Energy drink. Maybe stimulants. Maybe a reward meal afterward. Maybe we post the workout and check responses. We've taken one intrinsically rewarding activity and stacked reward upon reward upon reward. And his point isn't that you can never do those things. It's that you don't necessarily want every good experience in life turned up to 100 every single time. Sometimes train without the perfect playlist. Sometimes walk without the podcast. Sometimes drink the coffee without simultaneously scrolling Instagram. Sometimes eat without watching television. Separate the rewards. You don't have to eliminate pleasure. Stop supercharging every experience. LEARN TO LOVE EFFORT This might be my favorite part of the entire episode. We need to stop making the reward exclusively something that comes AFTER the work. "I'll work out and then I can have this." "I'll finish this project and then I'll reward myself." "I'll complete my work and then I'll scroll." There's nothing wrong with celebrating accomplishments. But we also want to train ourselves to associate the effort itself with something positive. Because if the entire purpose of doing something difficult is the reward waiting at the end… The work becomes something you're trying to escape. Instead: "This discomfort means I'm getting stronger." "This is hard because I'm growing." "I'm proud of myself for doing this when I don't feel like doing it." "This is what keeping promises to myself feels like." "This is who I am." That shift is huge. The workout becomes the win. Doing the work becomes the win. Keeping the promise becomes the win. USE DISCOMFORT ON PURPOSE This theme comes up across a lot of these conversations. We're living in an unbelievably comfortable world. Temperature-controlled houses. Food everywhere. Cars. Couches. Entertainment. Delivery. Escalators. Amazon. Everything is optimized to eliminate friction. But voluntary discomfort can be incredibly valuable. Exercise. Walking. Strength training. Running. Sauna. Cold exposure when appropriate and done safely. Doing something physically difficult. Getting outside when conditions aren't perfect. Taking the stairs. Having the difficult conversation. Doing the work you're avoiding. The idea isn't: "Suffering is good." The idea is: Stop organizing your entire life around avoiding discomfort. Because challenge followed by satisfaction is very different from pleasure followed by emptiness. One you earned. One you consumed. We need both fun and hard things. But modern life has heavily tilted us toward consumption. DON'T START YOUR DAY WITH OTHER PEOPLE'S DOPAMINE Here's something I think would change a lot of people's lives. Do not roll over and immediately hand your brain to your phone. Because instantly you've got: Texts. News. Instagram. Email. TikTok. Other people's emergencies. Other people's opinions. Other people's lives. Other people's accomplishments. Other people's bodies. Other people's vacations. Other people's businesses. Other people's problems. Before you've even decided what YOU want your day to look like. I would rather protect that first part of the morning. Wake up. Water. Sunlight. Walk. Workout. Journal. Think. Plan. Work. Whatever your routine is. Just don't immediately flood your brain with novelty. You should decide the direction of your day before an algorithm decides it for you. THE 2.0 DOPAMINE RESET Okay. Here is what I would actually do. Not some insane internet detox. A realistic reset. RULE #1: Identify YOUR cheap dopamine Ask yourself: What do I compulsively reach for? Not what does the internet tell me is bad. What has control over ME? Maybe yours is: Instagram. TikTok. Shopping. Sugar. Video games. News. YouTube. Email. Texting. Something else. Identify the top one or two. Don't try to become a monk overnight. RULE #2: Take a meaningful break from the biggest offender If something truly feels compulsive, consider taking a real period away from it rather than constantly trying to moderate it. Try deleting it for a week. Maybe two. Maybe 30 days. See what happens. You might be shocked by how often your hand reaches for an app that isn't there. That's valuable information. RULE #3: Stop filling every gap This is a HUGE one. We're bringing back empty space. Stand in line. Just stand there. Drive five minutes. No podcast. Walk around the block. No headphones. Sit outside. Do nothing. Take a shower without content playing. Cook dinner without a video. You are retraining yourself to tolerate a lower level of stimulation. And here's the funny thing… After a while it doesn't feel low stimulation. It feels peaceful. RULE #4: Create phone-free zones Pick places where your phone does not belong. Examples: Bedroom Dinner table Gym Family time Bathroom First hour of the morning Last hour before bed Don't rely purely on willpower. Change your environment. Leave the phone somewhere else. Make the bad habit inconvenient. RULE #5: Turn off almost every notification Notifications are someone else deciding when your attention moves. Think about that. Unless something legitimately requires immediate attention… Turn it off. RULE #6: Stop stacking everything Coffee + Instagram + television + food + texting? No. Pick one. Workout + podcast + scrolling between sets + energy drink + Instagram? Simplify it. Let an experience stand alone. Food can just be food. Coffee can just be coffee. A walk can just be a walk. A conversation can just be a conversation. RULE #7: Get your dopamine through pursuit This is the big replacement strategy. You can't just remove things. You need better things to move toward. Exercise. Building something. Learning. Working. Creating. Sports. Relationships. Adventure. Goals. Competition. Skill. Experiences. Meaningful challenges. Get obsessed with something difficult. That is completely different than being addicted to consumption. RULE #8: Do one hard thing every day I love this rule. Every day, intentionally do something that you'd rather avoid. Workout hard. Make the phone call. Send the proposal. Clean the closet. Have the conversation. Finish the project. Run the hill. Get into the cold water if that's safe for you. Walk when you'd rather sit. Do the thing you've been procrastinating. You start creating evidence: "I don't have to feel like doing something in order to do it." That is power. RULE #9: Prioritize sleep Your brain isn't operating independently of your body. If you're chronically sleep-deprived, everything becomes harder. Motivation. Impulse control. Training. Food choices. Emotional regulation. Focus. Peter Attia and Huberman both hammer sleep for a reason. If we're trying to optimize our brain while sleeping five hours… We're focusing on the wrong end of the problem. RULE #10: Morning sunlight and movement Huberman talks frequently about getting outdoor light early in the day to anchor your circadian system. I love pairing that with movement. Outside. Walk. Light. No Instagram. Let your nervous system wake up naturally. It's incredibly simple. And simple things done repeatedly tend to beat complicated hacks. THE 24-HOUR CHALLENGE Here is your challenge. For the next 24 hours: No phone for the first 30 minutes after waking. No social media until you've completed something productive. Turn off unnecessary notifications. No phone while eating. Take one walk without headphones. Do one difficult thing you've been avoiding. No double-screening. If you're watching TV, you're not also scrolling. Put your phone outside your bedroom tonight. Let yourself experience boredom. Notice every time you instinctively reach for stimulation. Don't judge yourself. Observe yourself. Because awareness is the beginning of changing anything. THEN TRY SEVEN DAYS Now let's level it up. For seven days: Reduce your biggest cheap-dopamine behavior dramatically. You don't need to eliminate all pleasure. In fact, please don't. Go to dinner. Laugh. Drink your coffee. Listen to music. Hang with friends. Enjoy your life. This isn't punishment. We're trying to reclaim our ability to enjoy NORMAL things. That's the goal. Less artificial stimulation. More real life. ASK YOURSELF THIS QUESTION Before you reach for something, ask: Am I choosing this, or am I escaping something? That question can completely change things. Why am I opening Instagram? Because I intentionally decided to spend 15 minutes enjoying it? Fine. Or because this task got difficult? Why am I eating this? Because I'm hungry and I want it? Fine. Or because I'm uncomfortable? Why am I drinking? Because I'm celebrating with friends? Or because I can't tolerate sitting with how I feel? Why am I checking email for the 47th time? Because I'm waiting for something important? Or because working on the project in front of me is harder? That pause between impulse and behavior… That's where your power is. CHEAP DOPAMINE VS EARNED DOPAMINE This is the easiest way I can summarize the episode. Cheap dopamine: Consume. Scroll. Click. Watch. Refresh. Snack. Buy. Escape. Earned dopamine: Build. Train. Create. Learn. Connect. Explore. Compete. Finish. Accomplish. The first category isn't evil. But if the balance of your life is overwhelmingly consumption… Don't be surprised when your motivation disappears. Shift the ratio. More creating. Less consuming. More doing. Less watching. More participating. Less observing. More real life. Less digital life. WE NEED ANTICIPATION BACK I think anticipation is disappearing. When everything is immediately available… There's nothing to look forward to. And looking forward to something is part of the fun. Plan the trip. Wait for Friday night. Save the amazing dessert for dinner. Don't buy everything the second you want it. Put the concert on the calendar. Build toward the race. Earn the reward. Delay things intentionally sometimes. The waiting isn't ruining the experience. The waiting IS part of the experience. YOUR LIFE SHOULD NOT NEED CONSTANT ENTERTAINMENT This might be the line I want you to remember. You should not need to be entertained every minute in order to enjoy your life. Your kids shouldn't either. We need boring car rides. We need afternoons with nothing scheduled. We need conversations without phones. We need walks. We need staring out the freaking window. We need thinking. We need daydreaming. We need opportunities for our brains to say: "Okay… what should we do?" Creativity often appears after the stimulation disappears. THE GOAL IS NOT LOWER DOPAMINE This is important. We're not trying to crush dopamine. We're not trying to become emotionless. We're not trying to avoid things that make us feel amazing. We're trying to protect our ability to feel amazing. That's different. We want the vacation to feel incredible. The concert. The accomplishment. The amazing dinner. The business win. The race. The adventure. The hug. The goal. The experience. We just don't need to manufacture an artificial mini-version of that feeling 800 times between breakfast and lunch. Leave some room. Let your baseline exist without constantly smashing the stimulation button.   Here's what I think is so interesting about all of this. We have designed a world where almost everything that used to require effort can now be accessed instantly. And that sounds like freedom. But if we're not careful… Convenience becomes dependence. Entertainment becomes distraction. Pleasure becomes compulsion. And access becomes addiction. The answer isn't to reject modern life. I'm certainly not giving up my phone. I'm not giving up coffee. I'm not giving up Instagram. I'm not giving up amazing food or concerts or trips or all the fun things. I want MORE life. That's actually the entire point. I don't want to spend my life looking down at a screen getting tiny rewards when there are enormous rewards available by actually participating in life. I want the dopamine from doing the workout I didn't want to do. Building the business. Taking the trip. Making the memory. Trying something new. Getting really freaking good at something. Having an amazing conversation. Being completely present with my kids. Creating something I'm proud of. Doing something hard. That's the dopamine I want more of. And maybe the simplest takeaway from this whole episode is this: Stop making pleasure so easy and effort so optional. Let yourself work for things. Let yourself wait for things. Let yourself be bored. Let yourself struggle. Let yourself anticipate. Let yourself earn some of the really good feelings. Because when we stop trying to make every moment maximally stimulating… Something really cool happens. Normal life starts becoming awesome again. And that is how to be awesome at resetting your dopamine.

The Pleasure Zone with Milica Jelenic - Diamond Host Toying with better sex can transform the way couples experience pleasure, connection, and intimacy. Toying with sex isn't just about adding gadgets to the bedroom—it can be about discovering what your body wants, communicating desires, and making sex more playful. Toying with better sex can also help break routines, spark curiosity, and create new opportunities for pleasure and connection. In this episode, we'll explore five provocative talking points: Why Toys Can Make Sex Better Toys, Communication & Consent When One Partner Isn't Into Toys Solo Pleasure Meets Partnered Sex From Routine to Adventure 5 Key Takeaways Sex toys can be tools for self-exploration. Learning what you enjoy can make it easier to communicate your preferences and desires with a partner. Adding toys can create more pleasure, connection, and intimacy. Curiosity and play can help move sex beyond routines that have become predictable or stagnant. Consent and communication are essential. Regardless of how long you have been together, introducing or using a toy requires conversation and consent. Choose what works for your body—not what is popular. Different bodies enjoy different types and levels of stimulation, so the most talked-about toy may not be the right one for you. Solo pleasure can become part of partnered pleasure. Exploring a toy yourself and then showing your partner what works can open communication and create new opportunities for play together. Join Milica Jelenic, Sex & Intimacy Coach and Holistic Health Practitioner on this episode of The Pleasure Zone where we will be "Toying With Better Sex". Grab your Yes, No, Maybe list - all about Playful Tips for Pleasure here    The Pleasure Zone – A Guide For Curioius Pleasure Seekers Inspired Choices Network Hosts Author Milica Jelenic   Amazon.com – https://www.amazon.com/dp/1997615401 Amazon.ca – https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1997615401     ~ More About The Pleasure Zone ~ Milica Jelenic is a Sex & Intimacy Coach, Speaker, and Pleasure Advocate who empowers individuals and couples to cultivate deeper intimacy, authentic connection, and greater vitality. Through her intuitive, playful, and compassionate approach, she helps clients release judgment, embrace their bodies, and discover how pleasure can become a powerful catalyst for healing, confidence, and a more fulfilling life. Known for creating a safe, engaging, and transformative space, Milica combines insight, curiosity, and practical guidance to inspire meaningful change. She invites people to explore new possibilities, reconnect with themselves, and experience the joy, ease, and aliveness that come from living with greater pleasure, presence, and self-acceptance.    MilicaJelenic.com   www.milicajelenic.com/    Email   milica.jelenic.mj@gmail.com    YouTube   www.youtube.com/@thepleasurezone    LinkedIn   www.linkedin.com/pub/milica-jelenic/37/349/772    Instagram   www.instagram.com/thepleasurezoneradio/    Facebook   www.facebook.com/MilicaPZ       TikTok   www.tiktok.com/@milicajelenic1 The Pleasure Zone with Milica Jelenic: https://www.inspiredchoicesnetwork.com/podcast/the-pleasure-zone-milica-jelenic/

The LORD Taketh Pleasure In Them That Fear Him: Psalm 145-147 & Proverbs 5 by Shawn Ozbun

This week we begin our new series, "Seven Deadly Sins." Join us as we learn that greed and lust always lead to death.

Starting Friday's show with Double Thumbs Up before checking in on a surprisingly zen Pete, fresh from a hypnosis session designed to calm his nerves ahead of this weekend's Sydney Marathon. Plus, we celebrate your wonderfully Useless Superpowers, build a People's Playlist featuring songs with names in the title, and continue the Sponsor a KM campaign for Pete's marathon challenge. And of course, there's a huge At Work Time Waster packed with marathon-themed band namesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Pleasure, Autonomy, and WorthinessAt its core, this conversation comes back to one question: who gets to decide what you're worthy of? In this segment, Ebonie Michelle closes with the message she most wants women living with cancer or chronic illness to hear — that pleasure isn't a privilege reserved for the "fully healed," and their body, however changed, still belongs to them. It's a powerful affirmation of autonomy and self-worth, and a reminder that reclaiming pleasure is its own act of healing.Resources: Follow our guest Ebonie Michelle MPH on: Socials: @prowlthelabEmail: eboniemichelle@prowlthelab.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

This week Scott and Joe are joined by former pro Brian McColligan to talk Celtic in the last two weeks mainly. It's no picnic. Hail Hail!!

What happens when you stop shrinking, stop pretending you're “fine,” and start listening to what your body is actually trying to tell you? In this Level Up episode, Lo sits down with New York Times bestselling author, teacher, and founder of the School of Womanly Arts, Regina Thomashauer, better known to the world as Mama Gena, for an unfiltered conversation about feminine energy, pleasure, power, grief, spirituality, motherhood, sexuality, and the courage it takes to become fully alive.Mama Gena opens up about overcoming a painful childhood, searching for the divine, finding her voice, and building a movement that has impacted thousands of women. Together, they explore why we disconnect from ourselves, what happens when we finally allow ourselves to feel the emotions we've been taught to suppress, and why pleasure can be about so much more than sex. If you've been playing small, craving a deeper connection to yourself, or simply want to feel more alive in your own life, this episode is for you!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sanjana and Tyler saw One Night Only, and, listener, they loved it. More on that before Business or Pleasure and Extracurricular author Rachel Lynn Solomon joins to talk about the fantasy and complications of celebrity romance. Plus: what our hosts read and watched in August (shoutout Scandal). The One Night Only verdict: Give yourself over to the premise, support theatrical rom-com releases, and acknowledge that—spoiler—they probably should have had sex. Rachel Lynn Solomon is the author of Business or Pleasure and Extracurricular, two fresh takes on celeb/norm romance. Sanj’s recent cultural consumption: Sterling Point, Scandal, and C.R. Jane’s The Wrong Player series. Tyler’s latest: Brooke Averick’s Phoebe Berman’s Gonna Lose It, Ann Patchett’s Whistler, and Jenny Jackson’s The Shampoo Effect. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Many people don't take ownership of their own pleasure. Whether you don't feel deserving, feel like it's a partner's responsibility, were taught it's selfish, or just never thought about it in this way - my guest Brooke Bralove wants you to know you deserve pleasure. Join us as we delve into taking ownership of your own pleasure and the steps to get you there.Visit our episode sponsor Uberlube and use discount code CINDYFind Brooke BraloveMentioned in this episode:Mindfulness with Dr. Lori BrottoWhat are you saying with your touch with Dr. Sara NasserzadehEmbracing your desire and sexual agencyThe pleasure crisis and why good sex mattersORDER my Book: Permission for Pleasure: Tending Your Sexual GardenJOIN my Newsletter: Good Education for Good SexFOLLOW on Instagram @cindyscharkeyVISIT my website and blog

Many people believe they need to completely heal before they can experience deep intimacy, joy, or desire. But what if waiting until you're "fixed" keeps you from the very experiences that help you heal?In this conversation, Alexandra Stockwell, MD welcomes intimacy coach and trauma-informed educator Dr. Kimberly Pendleton for a compassionate discussion about the relationship between trauma, pleasure, and lasting intimacy. Together, they explore why healing isn't a linear journey, how reconnecting with your senses can restore your sense of self, and why flirtation, confidence, and playfulness aren't frivolous—they're powerful expressions of feeling fully alive.Whether you're navigating the effects of past trauma, supporting a loved one through their healing, or simply longing for a more vibrant relationship with yourself and your partner, this episode offers a hopeful perspective on what's possible.In this episode, you'll discover:• Why pleasure can be an essential part of healing rather than something to postpone• How trauma impacts identity, desire, and emotional connection• Practical ways couples can create safer conversations around past experiences• Why flirtation is really about confidence, aliveness, and enjoying yourself in the presence of another• Small, intentional practices that help you reconnect with your body and your joyHealing isn't about becoming someone new. It's about reclaiming the parts of yourself that have always deserved love, pleasure, and connection.Connect with Dr. Kimberly Pendleton:Website: www.kimberlyrosependleton.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/drkimberlyrosependletonFree Pleasure Bundle: https://www.kimberlyrosependleton.com/offers/LeK3pvdA/checkout?coupon_code=BRAVOBRAVOBRAVO

Let's do some HAIR STUDIES! How does blondeness recruit and convey power? When is curly hair a signifier of unruliness — and when does it say Cool Girl? Will we ever be free of the tyranny of the beachy wave? What's the New Karen Cut? Should we talk about Julia Roberts' hair in Pretty Woman for a solid 10 minutes? (Yes!) Sarah Mesle joins the pod to talk about her new book, Tangled: Seven Iconic Moments in White Women's Hair and What They Tell Us About Power, Pleasure, and Complicity, parse "good" blonde dye-jobs, wonder what happened to the Old Lady cut, and answer all of your questions about the politics of white lady hair. Thanks to the sponsors of today's episode: Machine Washable Rugs, Made Better. For a limited time only, our listeners get 10% off + free shipping at tumbleliving.com/CULTURE Use code CULTURE at jonesroadbeauty.com to get a free gift with your first purchase! Get $35 off your first box of wild-caught, sustainable seafood—delivered right to your door. Go to:  https://www.wildalaskan.com/CULTURE Ollie. Feed the Obsession. Go to ollie.com/culture and use code CULTURE to get 70% off your first box! Show Notes: Follow Sarah on Instagram here Buy Tangled!!!!!!! It's so good! How to submit your hair studies pitch to Avidly A great short piece by Sarah on why hair studies matters Tressie McMillan Cottom on blondeness The episode of the Amy Poehler podcast I reference about blondes — with Leanne Morgan And also the episode of Amy Poehler I reference re: Paula Pell and her beautiful hair Sarah mentions the Dragon Prince series by Melanie Rawn Sarah also references Sabrina Strings' excellent book Fearing the Black Body Sarah also cites this article from Helana Darwin The Dolly Parton and Miley in 2010 (!) singing Jolene (I also love this one that's part of Miley's Backyard Sessions) We're currently looking for your questions on the following topics: WHAT'S GOING ON INFLUENCER CULTURE? with Katie Sturino — what's going on with privacy, spon, monetization, politics, algorithm fatigue — anything you want to ask someone who's watched the influencing world transform from inside THE LATEST IN BOOK TRENDS with Alyssa Morris (from our very popular BookTok episode!). Ask Alyssa about whatever you're seeing in the book world: covers, genres, how it's handling fan-fic, BookTok trends..... JOURNO-INFLUENCERS with s.e. smith — yep, another episode on influencers, this time on how they're changing the norms of journalism. What journo-influencers do you follow and what makes them compelling? What's the future of journalism when it's wed to this style of promotion? Is it actually anything new? Ask away! Anything you need advice for/want musings about for the AAA segment. You can ask about anything — it's literally the name of the segment.   Join the ranks of paid subscribers and get bonus content, access to the discussion threads, ad-free episodes, and the knowledge that you're supporting an indie pod trying to make its way in the world.Got a question to submit, a prompt for Ask Anne Anything, or an idea for a future episode? Tell us here.Catch up on everything else happening in the Culture Study universe here.Transcripts will be available here within 24 hours of publishing. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Brian pays tribute to the passing of Dolly Parton at 80, reflecting on her decades-long marriage, her genuine kindness, and closing the hour with nine of her most striking public statements about prayer, faith, and heaven. He shares a bizarre and troubling story of four Georgia pastors publicly apologizing after sending anonymous packets falsely accusing another pastor of plagiarism, reflecting on the need for churches to hold themselves to a higher standard. Brian digs into John Piper's teaching on "the pleasure trap" — how earthly pleasures are meant to point our hearts toward God rather than become idols — and shares Alan Noble's Gospel Coalition piece arguing that a Christian's suffering, while mysterious, is never meaningless. He closes reflecting on financial anxiety and contentment after reading about a Michael Jordan jersey expected to sell for $10 million alongside rising healthcare cost anxiety among ordinary Americans, along with the surprising power of nostalgic worship music to remind us of God's faithfulness over time.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kirt & Mr. Sal discuss Season 1 Episode 10 of Maximum Pleasure Guaranteed in which Hazel wins the race to the cupcakes. Shoe Hammer some Show Hoppers into your day! Website: showhoppers.com Twitter: https://twitter.com/ShowHoppers Contact Us: showhopperspodcast@gmail.com Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

'ask dorothy' Wanting to Want It Understanding Desire ~ and Creating More Room for Pleasure The WISDOM Podcast with Dorothy Zennuriye Juno   scroll to bottom to listen   What happens when you love your partner... but don't particularly feel like having sex? Or when you miss wanting sex — perhaps even more than you miss sex itself? In this episode of The WISDOM podcast, we explore one of the most tender and often misunderstood experiences within long-term relationships: the changing nature of sexual desire. Desire doesn't always arrive spontaneously. Sometimes it emerges through closeness, touch, pleasure, emotional safety and the experience of beginning. And when two people experience desire differently, an unexpected relational conundrum can appear: one person may seek sexual intimacy as a way of feeling emotionally connected, while the other may need emotional connection before sexual desire has room to emerge. Neither experience is inherently wrong. But without understanding the difference, couples can begin interpreting each other's behaviour as rejection, pressure, indifference or lack of love. Together, we'll explore spontaneous and responsive desire, desire discrepancy, the relationship between emotional and sexual connection, and why pleasure itself can become an important pathway back to wanting. Most importantly, this conversation invites us away from the question: “What's wrong with my desire?” and toward something far more compassionate and useful: “What are the conditions in which my desire comes alive?” Because sometimes wanting doesn't begin with desire. Sometimes it begins with closeness. With feeling understood. With affection. With touch. With pleasure. With allowing the body enough time to discover what it wants. A conversation about sex, yes. But perhaps even more... a conversation about how we find our way toward one another.

In this episode, we're joined by Regena Thomashauer—better known as Mama Gena—to explore the transformative power of surrender, pleasure, and living fully on your own terms. Regena is the founder of the School of Womanly Arts and the author of the New York Times bestseller Pussy: A Reclamation. For more than 25 years, she has taught hundreds of thousands of women around the world to reclaim pleasure, desire, and sovereign power as the foundation of a fully lived life. Her newest book, On Our Knees, invites us to reconsider surrender—not as submission or giving away our power, but as a radical way of reclaiming it. We talk about what surrender really means, why it can be especially powerful for women, and how it differs from silence, submission, or simply giving in. Regena shares practical advice for anyone who struggles to surrender, along with simple ways to reconnect with yourself when life feels overwhelming. We also explore her idea of “hard milestones”—the divorce, heartbreak, illness, and other experiences we often interpret as failures, but that can instead become profound turning points. Along the way, we discuss why pleasure isn't frivolous or indulgent, but part of the real work of creating a meaningful life. Regena offers five ways women can feel more at home in their own lives, practical strategies for getting through the worst possible day, and her thoughts on whether these lessons apply to men, too. We also unpack her distinction between becoming “The Courtesan” rather than “The Seductress,” and what can happen when women stop performing for others and begin living from their own desire and authority. Regena Thomashauer is an icon, teacher, author, mother, and one of the pioneers in the study and practice of pleasure. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, The Times of London, Good Morning America, and The Today Show. On Our Knees is her fifth book, published by Hay House on August 25, 2026. Prepare for a conversation about surrender, resilience, pleasure, power, and what it means to truly feel at home in your own life. Learn more about Regena aka Mama Gena and her work at http://mamagenas.com Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠our book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ now! Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shamelesssex.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Wish List⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow us on IG ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@shamelesssexpodcast ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Other links: Get 10% off getting turned on by Drive Boost with code SHAMELESS at ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://vb.health⁠⁠⁠ Get 15% off OneSkin with the code SHAMELESS at https://www.oneskin.co/shameless Get 45% off our favorite ethical (and educatonal) porn with code PLEASURE at ⁠⁠⁠http://erikalust.com ⁠⁠⁠— that's Erika with a K Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://uberlube.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get 15% off the best sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://purepleasureshop.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Work with some of our favorite sexual health and hormone specialists at ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://swanmd.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ + mention Shameless Sex for a discount

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “I miss me”? Somewhere between taking care of everyone else, keeping life moving, and getting everything done, it's easy to lose touch with the parts of yourself that make you feel creative, connected, joyful, and fully alive. In this deeply personal conversation, Dr. Mariza sits down with one of her best friends, artist, jewelry designer, and Fully Expressed co-host Samantha Hollingsworth, to explore female friendship, creativity, and what it means to become fully expressed. They talk about why women need friendships where they can stop performing and feel completely seen, what makes a relationship feel safe and reciprocal, and why deeper connections become especially meaningful in midlife. Samantha also shares her unconventional journey through multiple careers and creative pursuits, and why women don't have to choose one passion or stay on one path forever. Plus, she and Dr. Mariza dive into their shared love of fiction and how books can reconnect us with imagination, possibility, and joy. If you're craving deeper friendships, more creativity, or simply want to feel more like you again, this episode is for you. Listen now for a heartfelt conversation about friendship, creativity, and finding your way back to yourself. SAMANTHA HOLLINGSWORTH Samantha Hollingsworth is an artist, creative, jewelry designer, Pilates instructor, and co-host of the Fully Expressed podcast and community. After exploring careers in film, movement, voiceover, and other creative fields, Samantha found her way into jewelry design and now creates custom pieces while preparing to launch her own line, Slater by Samantha. At the heart of her work is a passion for storytelling, creativity, deep female friendship, and creating spaces where women feel truly seen. IN THIS EPISODE What it actually means to live a fully expressed life Why you don't have to choose just one passion or path How safe female friendships help us become more ourselves What to look for when building deeper friendships in midlife Why friendship requires vulnerability, discernment, and accountability How books can provide escape, imagination, and connection Why creativity belongs to everyone, not just artists Giving yourself permission to start over and write a new story at any age QUOTES“Women need women. Like, that's how we thrive.” “Friendship is messy.” “You can make whatever life you want.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Find inspiration, connection, and meaningful reads. Join the Book Club now! https://drmariza.com/bookclub Use code DRMARIZA and get 10% off on your Womeness Order https://www.womaness.com/DRMARIZA The Fully Expressed Website The Fully Expressed Community The Fully Expressed Podcast Samantha Hollingsworth Instagram Samantha Hollingsworth Website RELATED EPISODES  766: The Weight You Lose Isn't Always the Biggest Transformation: The Part of GLP-1s Nobody Talks About with Dr. Alexandra Sowa 765: How Do You Hold It Together When You're Falling Apart Inside with Amy Morin 764: Why Your Nervous System Feels Dysregulated (Even When You're Doing Everything Right) with Roseann Capanna-Hodge 761: Finding Your Way Back to Pleasure and Feeling Fully Alive with Gabriella Espinosa

In this episode Jeremy Gilbert talks to David Wilkinson about his article 'Mark E. Smith, Brexit Britain and the Aesthetics and Politics of the Working Class Weird' and his book Post-Punk, Politics and Pleasure in Britain.

The Pleasure Zone with Milica Jelenic - Diamond Host Whether you are craving a person that is unavailable or an experience that is unavailable, what is it about the unavailable that has it be so much more interesting? People often have a craving for the unavailable and it can be for many different reasons. In this episode we will explore: The neuroscience behind cravings Do people just like having a craving, or does it need to be fulfilled When can a craving become an obsession How to stop craving the unavailable Join Milica Jelenic, Sex & Intimacy Coach, Holistic Health Practitioner on this episode of The Pleasure Zone where we will discuss, "Craving The Unavailable". 5 Key Takeaways Craving the unavailable can feel safer than having a real relationship. Fantasy allows you to desire someone without facing the vulnerability, responsibility, and effort of actually being together. Inconsistent attention can intensify craving. Small moments of attention or affection can create powerful dopamine highs that keep you wanting the next interaction. Ask whether you're craving the person or the feeling they give you. You may actually be seeking the attention, validation, excitement, connection, or emotional high associated with them. Separate the fantasy from the reality. Ask whether you would genuinely want the relationship—with its incompatibilities, expectations, vulnerabilities, and everyday realities—if that person suddenly became available. Choose yourself first. Identify what you believe this person will give you and begin fulfilling those needs within yourself instead of making them responsible for filling the void. Grab your Yes, No, Maybe list - all about Playful Tips for Pleasure here    The Pleasure Zone – A Guide For Curioius Pleasure Seekers Inspired Choices Network Hosts Author Milica Jelenic   Amazon.com – https://www.amazon.com/dp/1997615401 Amazon.ca – https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1997615401     ~ More About The Pleasure Zone ~ Milica Jelenic is a Sex & Intimacy Coach, Speaker, and Pleasure Advocate who empowers individuals and couples to cultivate deeper intimacy, authentic connection, and greater vitality. Through her intuitive, playful, and compassionate approach, she helps clients release judgment, embrace their bodies, and discover how pleasure can become a powerful catalyst for healing, confidence, and a more fulfilling life. Known for creating a safe, engaging, and transformative space, Milica combines insight, curiosity, and practical guidance to inspire meaningful change. She invites people to explore new possibilities, reconnect with themselves, and experience the joy, ease, and aliveness that come from living with greater pleasure, presence, and self-acceptance.    MilicaJelenic.com   www.milicajelenic.com/    Email   milica.jelenic.mj@gmail.com    YouTube   www.youtube.com/@thepleasurezone    LinkedIn   www.linkedin.com/pub/milica-jelenic/37/349/772    Instagram   www.instagram.com/thepleasurezoneradio/    Facebook   www.facebook.com/MilicaPZ       TikTok   www.tiktok.com/@milicajelenic1 The Pleasure Zone with Milica Jelenic: https://www.inspiredchoicesnetwork.com/podcast/the-pleasure-zone-milica-jelenic/

In this episode, Vanessa sits down with Ailey Jolie, Chartered Psychologist, somatic psychologist, certified sex therapist, and creator of INBODY, for a conversation about what embodiment actually means beyond the performance of being calm, sensual, regulated, or healed. Together they explore why disembodiment and dissociation can be intelligent survival strategies, how food and sexuality both ask us to reconnect with hunger, desire, permission, disgust, control, pleasure, and shame, and why the body cannot be separated from the larger cultural systems that taught us to leave it. This conversation moves through eating disorder recovery, sexual trauma, chronic illness, pleasure, sensuality, intergenerational stories, and the body as a doorway into the unconscious. The invitation is not to force yourself back into the body, but to bring mind and body back into relationship with more consciousness, safety, and truth.Applications are now open to the public for Cohort 4 of Inner Compass Academy.ICA is Vanessa's 10-week depth psychology training for therapists, coaches, space holders, creatives, seekers, and anyone who wants to go beyond surface-level self-help and learn how to work more deeply with shadow, the unconscious, embodiment, relational patterns, dreams, archetypes, and the symbolic life.This is not a program promising quick formulas or coaching scripts. It is a certificate training rooted in depth, Jungian theory, relationship, liberation psychology, and the kind of inner work that changes how we hold ourselves and others.Cohort 4 begins September 13.Learn more and apply here:https://www.vanessabennett.com/inner-compass-academyFor educational purposes only. This isn't therapy.Resources & ReferencesAiley JolieWebsite: https://www.aileyjolie.com/INBODY MethodLearn more about Ailey's body-based healing work and 14-week INBODY program: https://www.inbodymethod.com/About Ailey Jolie & INBODY https://www.inbodymethod.com/aboutApple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/in-this-body/id1749208603Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aileyjolie/Substack: https://aileyjolie.substack.com/In This Body Podcast https://in-this-body.com/Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/in-this-body/id1749208603Gabor Matéhttps://drgabormate.com/Marion Woodman — Addiction to Perfectionhttps://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/330307/addiction-to-perfection-by-marion-woodman/C. G. Jung / Jungian AnalysisInternational Association for Analytical Psychology: https://iaap.org/jung-analytical-psychology/Pacifica Graduate Institutehttps://www.pacifica.edu/If you want to go deeper, check out the written companion on Substack and explore community + training at https://www.vanessaBennett.com.Additional ResourcesExplore: VanessaBennett.comBook: The Motherhood MythCommunity: Inner Compass CollectiveTraining: Inner Compass AcademyConnect with Inner CompassFollow on InstagramConnect with Vanessa Bennett:Follow on InstagramFollow on TikTokLearn more on SubstackConnect with Vanessa Bennett on LinkedInSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This ladies-only Q&A gets practical fast. You'll hear encouragement for retraining your brain to see sex as good, not dirty, plus what to do when arousal disappears on the pill, why penetration is not enough for orgasm, and how to stop feeling like your pleasure is a burden to your husband! Ladies, tune in!! Watch the episode on YouTube!! Our Episodes: Birds & Bees Episode The Higher Desire Wife Menstrual Cycle Episode Thoughts During Sex episode Our Products: Figuring Out What I Like Guide Resources: Orgasm Course Waitlist KS Sex Challenges Married Dance: Use the code KINGDOMSEXUALITY for 10% off Birds and Bees Courses: Use code KINGDOM20 for 20% off the course Awaken Love  Cycle Syncing Resource The Eden Feeling Sexy book ⁠My Counselor Online⁠ ⁠Better Help⁠ ⁠⁠Join Unite & Ignite ⁠⁠ Want more from Kingdom Sexuality? Come hang out! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Approximate Time Stamps: 0:01 — Intro / ladies' Q&A setup 0:59 — Verse of the day 1:23 — Topic overview: purity culture, pleasure, and random questions 1:56 — How to retrain your brain to enjoy sex instead of seeing it as dirty 4:14 — Resource: Hannah Ward / The Eden 4:59 — Feeling sexy for my husband feels sinful 8:13 — How to talk to your kids about sex 9:30 — Married a year and still don't know what I like 10:45 — Retraining your brain after purity culture 11:03 — Not seeing my pleasure as a burden to my husband 14:18 — Shame about having desire at all 16:28 — Wanting lovemaking to be more interesting 18:07 — Loss of arousal on the pill 18:46 — How to tell my husband I've been faking it 20:07 — Orgasm only on top / grinding 20:30 — Types of touch based on your cycle 22:01 — Why penetration alone doesn't lead to orgasm 23:17 — Is it lust to want pleasure? 25:06 — How to stay present and not let your mind wander 26:40 — Closing prayer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

2 Timothy 3:1-9 (ESV)Andrew and Edwin discuss the last days and the times of difficulty Timothy will face within them.Read the written devo that goes along with this episode by clicking here.    Let us know what you are learning or any questions you have. Email us at TextTalk@ChristiansMeetHere.org.    Join the Facebook community and join the conversation by clicking here. We'd love to meet you. Be a guest among the Christians who meet on Livingston Avenue. Click here to find out more. Michael Eldridge sang all four parts of our theme song. Find more from him by clicking here.   Thanks for talking about the text with us today.________________________________________________If the hyperlinks do not work, copy the following addresses and paste them into the URL bar of your web browser: Daily Written Devo: https://readthebiblemakedisciples.wordpress.com/?p=26586The Christians Who Meet on Livingston Avenue: http://www.christiansmeethere.org/Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/TalkAboutTheTextFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/texttalkMichael Eldridge: https://acapeldridge.com/ 

In this passage, God's pleasure is mentioned twice, but in both cases, it's things He has no pleasure in. What DOES God take pleasure in? That's in this passage as well. God takes most pleasure in the obedience of His Son. And God takes great pleasure in us when we are like Him. (Hebrews 10:1-10)

Everyone has at least one bad habit. You can blame stress or anxiety, but Dr David Courtwright thinks capitalism has a lot to answer for. It's a system that's really good at making us want things we don't really need like ultra-processed food or social media. Dr Courtwright is an historian of drugs and addiction. He argues that our desire for pleasure has become a business model. Industries are exploiting the way our brains seek reward to keep us coming back for more even when we know it's not good for us. His book is The Age of Addiction: How Bad Habits Became Big Business. [picture id="4JJEE2G_David_Courtwright_Headshot_731x1024_jpg" crop="16x10" layout="full"]

What happens when you go to the embodiment & pleasure 'gym'? While you might not leave with toned glutes…  You will fill your sacred well & expand your pleasure (even when life's got you doing some heavy lifting). Today I'm joined on the podcast by Jasmine Kali, a 2021 graduate of our coaching certification, who built an embodied movement ritual that carried her through one of the most harrowing periods of her life & that she's gone on to share in more than 100+ classes. During today's episode we explore: Are you fixing or completing your hard emotions - why undesirable feelings aren't a problem to solve, but something to let move through and finish "Pleasure is a muscle" - how the capacity for pleasure and aliveness can be built with repetition, not something you either have or don't What embodied movement practices feels like - this convo is rich in tips, insights & suggestions for how to weave more embodiment into your own devotional practices Why pleasure doesn't require ease & how to access it even mid-grief, mid-conflict, or mid-hard-season   Resources mentioned:  Jasmine Kali - Website | Instagram Jenna Ward - Website | Instagram  Feminine Embodiment Coaching Certification - professional training  Graduate Spotlight - more stories from past graduates

Rediscovering Your Pleasure MapYour body has changed — so the old rules of pleasure might not apply anymore, and that's okay. In this segment, Ebonie Michelle walks through what the "re-introduction" to pleasure actually looks like after cancer or chronic illness treatment, from practical entry points to addressing physical realities like dryness, pain, or loss of sensation. It's a grounded, hopeful guide to redrawing the map of what feels good, at whatever pace your body needs.Resources: Follow our guest Ebonie Michelle MPH on: Socials: @prowlthelabEmail: eboniemichelle@prowlthelab.com⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠ Follow Dr. Cara and Viva La Vulva on socials: @vivalavulvala and @drcaraquant

We talk a lot about long-term couples growing together emotionally—but what happens when their physical selves begin to change, too? As we age, our bodies change, and those changes can have a real impact on intimacy, confidence, sexual function, and relationships. In this episode, we take an honest and often lighthearted look at what happens to both women and men as they grow older—and why these changes are something couples should face together, rather than allowing them to create insecurity, doubt, or blame. We're joined by Dr. Castillo, a fellowship-trained Female Pelvic Medicine specialist and the founder and director of Swan Medical Intimate Wellness in Los Gatos, California. Dr. Castillo brings extensive expertise in the changes that can occur as a consequence of childbirth, aging, and menopause, as well as the emerging treatments designed to improve sexual health and overall quality of life. We start with women, exploring some of the most common changes in sexual function that occur with age, including the impact of menopause and shifting hormones. We also talk about the enormous beauty standards women face—and whether men might need to start “playing the game” a little more when it comes to maintaining their physical health and appearance. Then we turn the conversation toward men. What changes can they expect as they age? What treatments and options are available? And, yes, we even ask the question you may have been wondering about: Are penile fillers for increased girth actually a thing? Most importantly, this conversation is about removing the shame and stigma surrounding sexual health. Aging doesn't have to mean giving up intimacy, confidence, or connection. Understanding what is happening to our bodies—and knowing that there are options—can help couples approach these changes with compassion, humor, and a willingness to work through them together. About our guest: Dr. Castillo completed his OB/GYN residency at St. Barnabas Medical Center in New Jersey before completing a three-year fellowship in Reconstructive Pelvic Surgery and Female Pelvic Medicine at the Cleveland Clinic Foundation. After five years of clinical practice at Kaiser Permanente, where he oversaw resident research and education and taught medical students as an Assistant Clinical Professor at Stanford University, he founded the first private Intimate Wellness Center in the San Francisco Bay Area. Dr. Castillo remains actively involved in clinical research and serves on several women's health advisory boards, helping shape emerging therapies and advanced treatment protocols for conditions that affect intimacy and quality of life. His mission is to address the root causes of common symptoms associated with aging while empowering women to embrace longevity and helping erase the stigma surrounding female sexual health through education, seminars, and compassionate care. To learn more go to https://swanmd.com, and mention Shameless Sex for a special gift. And click here to set up a free 15 minute consult to discover if you are in menopause Come to our October 2026 Couple's retreats! Learn more and reserve your spot here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.shamelesssex.com/retreat⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠our book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ now! Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shamelesssex.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Wish List⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow us on IG ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@shamelesssexpodcast ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Other links: Get 10% off getting soaking wet with code SHAMELESS at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://soakingwet.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get 45% off our favorite ethical (and educatonal) porn with code PLEASURE at ⁠⁠http://erikalust.com ⁠⁠— that's Erika with a K Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://uberlube.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get 15% off the best sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://purepleasureshop.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Work with some of our favorite sexual health and hormone specialists at ⁠⁠⁠https://swanmd.com⁠⁠⁠ + mention Shameless Sex for a discount

Most people chase happiness as a feeling and wait for certainty before making big decisions, and both instincts quietly backfire. Dr. Arthur Brooks joins Dr. Gabrielle Lyon to break down what happiness is and how to act on it.In this episode, Dr. Gabrielle Lyon and Dr. Arthur Brooks discuss:The three "macronutrients" of happiness - enjoyment, satisfaction, and meaning, and why pursuing pleasure alone leads to detox, not happinessA usable rule for any hard decision: aim for roughly 80% excitement, 20% fear, and near-zero "deadness" once you have about 80% situational awarenessWhy solo pleasures don't stick if you're doing it alone, you're probably doing it wrong, and how enjoyment requires people plus memoryHow GLP-1s, SSRIs, and hormonal shifts can dull motivation, reward, and desire, and why knowing this gives you power over itSimple tech protocols: phone-free first hour, meals, and last hour that protect oxytocin, meaning, and connectionUnderstand happiness as something you build rather than something you wait to feel, and you walk away with concrete tools to decide better, connect deeper, and stop mistaking achievement for love.Want ad-free episodes? Subscribe to Forever Strong Insider: https://bit.ly/4u5VSReListen to “Office Hours” on all your favorite platforms!YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLDksUNNE9g_ZC6YJ3eG9lhZrMOG6IVuGRApple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/no/podcast/office-hours-with-arthur-brooks/id1832119842Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3fT0FLFsPgV2mbVjuOo3JV?si=e4d69f6725194d48Get Dr. Arthur Brooks' books here: https://www.arthurbrooks.com/books

How can Christians avoid placing a relationship or hobby over a desire for God? Pastor John calls us to let earthly delights turn us Godward.

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Remember the old hotel ice machines? The kind where you'd slide your bucket under the chute and hear the avalanche of cubes crashing into it? There was something so fun and strangely gratifying about that thing.Or think about breaking an icicle off the edge of a roof. Such a gratifying feeling from such a small act.My guest has written an ode to the outsized pleasures that arise from these kinds of everyday interactions with the physical world. His name is Ian Bogost, and his new book is The Small Stuff. Today on the show, Ian argues that a fulfilling life isn't built solely by chasing the big components of happiness but also by embracing the small moments of gratification that are woven throughout ordinary life. We discuss how those moments can be found in tactile experiences like shifting a manual transmission, turning a well-made knob, or flipping through the pages of a real menu. We explore how these small opportunities for engagement — for contact, connection, and control— have been disappearing as the world becomes more digitized and automated and everything becomes a touchscreen. And Ian shares how opportunities for "sensory enchantment" can still be found in our increasingly dematerialized world.Resources Related to the PodcastIan's previous appearance on the AoM Podcast: Episode #247 — The Pleasure of Limits, the Uses of Boredom, and the Antidote to Excessive IronyIan's Atlantic article "The End of Manual Transmission"Andy Rooney compilationConnect With Ian BogostThe Small Stuff websiteIan's websiteIan's faculty page0:00 Introduction0:40 Ian Bogost and 'The Small Stuff'2:25 What Kickstarted This Book6:38 Happiness, Satisfaction, and Gratification14:58 Gratification Is Everywhere — But Disappearing18:28 Dematerialization: How the World Is Losing Sensory Richness26:41 How Work Has Become Less Gratifying33:09 How to Reclaim Your Sensory Life38:35 Keep More Junk Around44:38 Talk About Small Pleasures48:17 Living Life Sideways (Orthogonality)50:03 Wrap-UpSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.