Mind Islands Podcast With Paul Ryder

Free Coaching Planner: How To Discover What You Really Want - Download Here: https://bit.ly/2wOqc7E Free Check Sheet – How to discover emotional control dramas from challenging people. Download here… https://bit.ly/2WJULuu Co-dependent relationships and the drama triangle Have you ever found yourself in a toxic situation with people and do not understand how it is happening? Very often when emotions are high situations can get tangled and twisted and it is hard to see the wood for the trees. The drama triangle is a very powerful model to clearly explain how three different personality types can become co-dependently linked and control each other with the result of keeping each other stuck in place. The difference of co-dependency and inter-dependence For the purpose of his explanation I will be using the following (but each person has their own explanation.) Co-dependency This is where two or more people are clinging to each other keeping themselves trapped in a lack or a victim mindset of control. One feels they cannot survive without the other Inter-dependency This is where people will work together to support each other (or one supports the other) to a pattern of growth and forward movement The drama triangle Personalities (co-dependency) In this model there are 3 personalities. The victim, the persecutor and the rescuer The victim This is the poor me wo wants to stay stuck and claim how hard everything is because they want other people to feel sorry for them. To play this role they need to have something attack them…hence they need a bully. They cannot be the victim without the persecutor (or bully) The persecutor (or bully) The persecutor is the attacker. However this does not need to be a person, it can be the victims job, health or financial situation. But if it is a person who attacks then the persecutor and victim will now be co-dependently linked. The persecutor needs and victim and the victim needs a persecutor. The rescuer The rescuer although can seem like a good guy is actually also very toxic. To perform a rescuer role the person needs a victim. So the rescuer is actually an enabler. They can trigger the victim into feeling more poor me and that they cant cope so they turn to the rescuer for support…giving the rescuer a role to perform. Conclusion These three roles can be performed within one person or with groups of people and all perform their roles to have a connection with each other. Although it is a toxic co-dependent connection it is still a connection. A person will often rather a toxic connection than no connection at all. The test for the drama triangle is to go out into society and see how many of these personalities you can recognise. Start today and put them in the comments below Say hi on social: Mind Islands Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/mindislands Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/howtocommunicatewithchallengingpeople Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mindislands_coaching/ Website www.mindislands.com

IMPORTANT NOTE: This video is very blunt and to the point. Its not my poinion...its the truth... so only watch this if your serious about taking action...if you want a nice comfortable message for motivation...look elsewhere! Free Coaching Planner: How To Discover What You Really Want - Download Here: https://bit.ly/2wOqc7E The Most Motivational Message You Will Ever Hear is right here in this video. Do you ever ask yourself why am I afraid to take action? Do you find it difficult to stay focused during hard times? Are you looking for a blunt way on how to Overcome Anxiety, Depression and Fear? Free Coaching Planner: How To Discover What You Really Want - Download Here: https://bit.ly/2wOqc7E This video explains the 4 parts of why it is essential that you start taking action NOW! No amount of excuses or procrastination can EVER change the fact that I share in this video…so listen up and take action NOW!. Click to tweet https://ctt.ac/D4amf Say hi on social: Mind Islands Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/mindislands Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/mindislandsgroup/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mindislands_coaching/ Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/mindislands/

Getting to sleep with high anxiety hiding in the background of your mind can literally be a nightmare. Have you ever had the situation where you are led there constantly going over the same thoughts in your mind over and over and they seem to get progressively worse as the clock ticks round? Not only that…you know that its pretty much a guarantee that you will wake up exhausted and no energy for the next day…but what if the next day is a busy work day or a day out with the family that you really want to enjoy? Millions of people suffer from insomnia from anxiety and it turns their life upside down…but what if there is a way you could get soundly to sleep even though you may have worries? In this video il share a technique that has help a great many people get the night rest back for good or at least under their control! If you have any questions get in touch Free Coaching Planner: How To Discover What You Really Want - Download Here: https://bit.ly/2wOqc7E Say hi on social: Mind Islands Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/mindislands Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/howtocommunicatewithchallengingpeople Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mindislands_coaching/ Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/mindislands/ Website www.mindislands.com

Why is it that can we get stuck in relationships when we want to break free? It doesn’t make sense to so many people who look from the outside in…they may say things like ‘just leave’. Or ‘stop putting up with the abuse’ yet the structure of how to break free from a controlling narcissist or controlling person is sometimes easier said than done. Here we are going to look at the attention powerplay and how a narcissist who is supposed to be all about themselves, turns the tables and makes it all about you, they want to know what you are doing and why and how…soon enough they may isolate you from your friends and family and its just you and them. How to break free from a controlling person or narcissist when they focus all their attention on you to make you feel special is more than just walking away, if your hooked in…your addicted…in this video il show you the reason why you get addicted and what fear or anxiety of yours the narcissist or manipulator is using against you. Free Check Sheet – How to check if somebody is abusing you. Download here… https://bit.ly/2WJULuu

Anger can happen to anyone at any time and is a natural reaction to defend ourselves if we are feeling overwhelmed, but when is it too much. For general health and well being it is important to learn about anger and the effect it is having on the emotional and physical body. Anger is a release of energy but what about when we need to control it to stop ourselves from getting angry? Here we will look at how to ask yourself a powerful question to stop anger in its tracks to bring you back to the present moment so you can gain control. If you have any questions get in touch Free Coaching Planner: How To Discover What You Really Want - Download Here: https://bit.ly/2wOqc7E Say hi on social: Mind Islands Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/mindislands Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/howtocommunicatewithchallengingpeople Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mindislands_coaching/ Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/mindislands/ Website www.mindislands.com

Have you ever tried to argue online with a online troll or a person who just wants to be abusive and watched the hours go by just getting more and more frustrated? However, what about when other people join in? When do you stop the debate? Well the truth is the internet trolls and abusive people have no intention of coming to a conclusion as they want attention any way they can source it and the more they can get under your skin the more they will come at you. Trolls are people with low self esteem and are aiming to attack you so you fight back. There is only one way to win and here is what we discuss If you have any questions get in touch Free Coaching Planner: How To Discover What You Really Want - Download Here: https://bit.ly/2wOqc7E Free Check Sheet – How to check if somebody is abusing you. Download here… https://bit.ly/2WJULuu Say hi on social: Mind Islands Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/mindislands Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/howtocommunicatewithchallengingpeople Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mindislands_coaching/ Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/mindislands/ Website www.mindislands.com

Have you ever been in a relationship that feels like a continual roller-coaster and you feel like your just rolling the dice, hoping for the best and it is always hit or miss? If yes, the question is...why do you stay in it? Well its for the payoff, just like gambling there is always the potential of a big win and the sometimes the other can keep you just on the edge at all times until your spirit breaks as they just need that complete control to feel safe. If you have any questions get in touch Free Coaching Planner: How To Discover What You Really Want - Download Here: https://bit.ly/2wOqc7E Free Check Sheet – How to check if somebody is abusing you. Download here… https://bit.ly/2WJULuu Say hi on social: Mind Islands Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/mindislands Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/howtocommunicatewithchallengingpeople Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mindislands_coaching/ Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/mindislands/ Website www.mindislands.com

Have you ever been caught by a moaning person who drains the life from you but you don’t know what to say to get them to stop or you feel rude by walking away? Well ...Use These 8 Words To Stop Somebody From Complaining! Guaranteed ! If you have any questions get in touch Free Coaching Planner: How To Discover What You Really Want - Download Here: https://bit.ly/2wOqc7E Free Check Sheet – How to check if somebody is abusing you. Download here… https://bit.ly/2WJULuu Say hi on social: Mind Islands Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/mindislands Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/howtocommunicatewithchallengingpeople Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mindislands_coaching/ Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/mindislands/ Website www.mindislands.com

IMPORTANT: READ BEFORE COMMENTING. I made this with the utmost respect for anybody out the who is suffering addiction. I myself in the past was addicted to partying, gambling, anger, victim attitude, sugar and caffeine all of which nearly ruined my life and I had to work through them all in order that I could become a therapist. I have since worked with hundreds of people on addictions and sometimes they can be immensely difficult to break and need a lot of time and support. This is an overview though to get you started. If your currently working through addictions. I hope this video supports your journey and I wish you all the best. If you have any other areas of addiction you would like to know about, please ask below. Free Coaching Planner: How To Discover What You Really Want - Download Here: https://bit.ly/2wOqc7E Free Check Sheet – How to check if somebody is abusing you. Download here… https://bit.ly/2WJULuu Say hi on social: Mind Islands Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/mindislands Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/howtocommunicatewithchallengingpeople Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mindislands_coaching/ Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/mindislands/ Website www.mindislands.com

Narcissists can be very erratic to be around at times, but what exactly is a narcissist? A narcissist is a person who is actually struggling emotionally and is trying to control everything so they feel safe. Although at times it may feel like a person with narcissistic personality disorder is highly confident and powerful they are doing it to intimidate others or control through fear. In this video I cover how to identify a narcissist, why they are being so controlling and also what to do if you have triggered the narcissist into a fury. Stay safe! Free Coaching Planner: How To Discover What You Really Want - Download Here: https://bit.ly/2wOqc7E Free Check Sheet – How to check if somebody is abusing you. Download here… https://bit.ly/2WJULuu Say hi on social: Mind Islands Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/mindislands Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/howtocommunicatewithchallengingpeople Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mindislands_coaching/ Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/mindislands/ Website www.mindislands.com

What Is my Gut Feeling and can I trust it in relationships? ? What is the difference between the gut feeling and anxiety? Have you ever felt drawn to people or repelled from people and you do not know why? Your gut feeling is always working away in the background but if it is to help you it is essential to learn to tune into it. This gut feeling when you recognise it can help you make the right decisions in your home, relationships and future goals. Free Coaching Planner: How To Discover What You Really Want - Download Here: https://bit.ly/2wOqc7E Free Check Sheet – How to discover emotional control dramas from challenging people. Download here… https://bit.ly/2WJULuu Say hi on social: Mind Islands Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/mindislands Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/howtocommunicatewithchallengingpeople Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mindislands_coaching/ Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/mindislands/ Website www.mindislands.com

Have you ever said to yourself that you cannot forgive somebody for what they have done or said until they apologise to you. How to let go of resentment, letting go of loss, grief and anger when getting over abuse is a strong path towards making up after a fight, love, and compassion. How to forgive and learning forgiveness is much more that simply saying I forgive its about learning mindfulness and understanding the expectations you place on them and life. Free Check Sheet – How to discover emotional control dramas from challenging people. Download here… https://bit.ly/2WJULuu Free Check Sheet – How to check if somebody is abusing you. Download here… https://mindislands.com/the-narcissists-power-plays-checklist-free-download/ Say hi on social: Mind Islands Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/mindislands Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/howtocommunicatewithchallengingpeople Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mindislands_coaching/ Website www.mindislands.com Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/mindislands/

How To Easily Remember a Task List in Any Order is an essential skill if you are busy and trying to fit lots into a busy day. In this video you will learn… How To Easily Remember a Task List in Any Order, this may be for your daily tasks, educations or general lists. We are going to work with your visual memory to remember 10 things in any order. With this technique you will know a cast iron way to remember things easily whether that be for your work, home or education life. Free Coaching Planner: How To Discover What You Really Want - Download Here: https://bit.ly/2wOqc7E Free Check Sheet – How to discover emotional control dramas from challenging people. Download here… https://bit.ly/2WJULuu Say hi on social: Mind Islands Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/mindislands Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/howtocommunicatewithchallengingpeople Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mindislands_coaching/ Website www.mindislands.com Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/mindislands/

Fat people are just lazy is a phrase that is said millions of times a day to insult people who have a body that is apparently not fitting into what society says is perfect. By this we are not talking about other people wanting the best for their health, but just body shaming them because they want to bully other people to try to raise their own self worth. Body shaming is rampant in some area and being made worse by online bullying and social media body shaming. Do you you ever feel ashamed of yourself because of body dysmorphia? Or have you ever been shamed for being overweight? If you have then it is important to watch this video as I could 3 powerful tips to boost self esteem and confidence to help reduce the stress and anxiety of body shaming. Free Coaching Planner: How To Discover What You Really Want - Download Here: https://bit.ly/2wOqc7E Free Check Sheet – How to discover emotional control dramas from challenging people. Download here… https://bit.ly/2WJULuu Say hi on social: Mind Islands Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/mindislands Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/howtocommunicatewithchallengingpeople Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mindislands_coaching/ Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/mindislands/ Website www.mindislands.com

What does it mean to be an alpha male or a real man? Is it the huge muscle bound guy who can punch through walls, rich, tall, good looking and knows more than other men? How to be an alpha male is much more than being in control of other people. In this video we are going to look at how Daniel Craig who plays James Bond is personifying both roles of an alpha male and a scared boy. A real man never stand so tall as to when he kneels to help a child! Free Coaching Planner: How To Discover What You Really Want - Download Here: https://bit.ly/2wOqc7E Free Check Sheet – How to discover emotional control dramas from challenging people. Download here… https://bit.ly/2WJULuu Say hi on social: Mind Islands Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/mindislands Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/howtocommunicatewithchallengingpeople Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mindislands_coaching/ Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/mindislands/ Website www.mindislands.com

Can narcissisms be cured or is it an incurable disease? What is narcissism and how do you know if somebody is a narcissist? To call somebody a narcissist is a grave insult and will only create disconnection. The question also has to be asked, is the victim actually being the bully calling somebody a narcissist? In this video we will look at 1. What is a narcissist 2. What causes narcissism 3. Do you think narcissism can be cured based on the information out there? If you have any questions get in touch or download the check sheet below Free Coaching Planner: How To Discover What You Really Want - Download Here: https://bit.ly/2wOqc7E Free Check Sheet – How to discover emotional control dramas from challenging people. Download here… https://bit.ly/2WJULuu Say hi on social: Mind Islands Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/mindislands Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/howtocommunicatewithchallengingpeople Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mindislands_coaching/ Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/mindislands/ Website www.mindislands.com

Why do people gossip and how to stop it is an essential thing to know as gossip creates divide and destroys connections. So why do people gossip and is there a purpose? What about gossip in the workplace and how to stop gossip and rumours in the workplace? Or what about how to stop gossip about you? Or what if you are a gossip yourself? In this video I cover 3 areas 1. What is gossip? 2. Why do people gossip? 3. How to stop gossip Gossip can be tiring and exhausting so if you are getting overwhelmed by it and do not know how people are getting at you…download the checksheet below If you have any questions get in touch Free Coaching Planner: How To Discover What You Really Want - Download Here: https://bit.ly/2wOqc7E Free Check Sheet – How to discover emotional control dramas from challenging people. Download here… https://bit.ly/2WJULuu Say hi on social: Mind Islands Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/mindislands Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/howtocommunicatewithchallengingpeople Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mindislands_coaching/ Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/mindislands/ Website www.mindislands.com

Free Check Sheet – How to check if somebody is abusing you. Download here… https://bit.ly/2WJULuu Sometimes we can find ourselves in toxic situations with toxic people and because we are just trying to constantly smooth things over the situation gets harder and harder until it feels unbreakable. It is your responsibility to be around the right people to live the life you want and deserve! So many people can end up staying in friendships, relationships or work places that are turning their life upside down because they are not sure what to do. The only thing is though...very often if no action is taken the situation will only get worse as no if boundaries are not expresses it can let the abuser/narcissist/ manipulator know that they can carry on. We all know people who experience this on both sides....are you one of them? How To Exit a Toxic Relationship in 4 Stages (AND WHY YOU SHOULD) Have you ever been in a situation where you ask yourself how do I get the motivation to leave a toxic relationship? Or do you have toxic people in your life and want to know how to remove them? Or what if it is somebody close to you and you want to know how to distance myself from somebody I love? It is your responsibility to remove toxic people and narcissists who abuse you. In this video I will show you 4 powerful stages that can walk you through step by step of how to break free from a narcissistic relationship. TWEET THIS VIDEO: https://ctt.ac/O7ffH Say hi on social: Mind Islands Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/mindislands Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/mindislandsgroup/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mindislands_coaching/ Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/mindislands/

When your anxiety arises are you feeling tired and unmotivated or feeling tired and lazy all the time? Sometimes anxiety can get out of hand and feel like your mind is saying anxiety is taking over my life. When all you really want is to create high energy and feel confident in yourself but it can feel like there are negative thoughts all the time. In this video I will cover the difference between anxiety and a stress reaction and how anxiety is not actually draining your energy but your reaction to anxiety is causing your tiredness. We are going to cover how to create high energy by asking yourself and important question and if asked often enough can reduce your anxiety at bedtime to give you a sound nights sleep and help you feel more confident in yourself. Full blog post https://mindislands.com/are-you-tired-and-exhausted-of-anxiety Say hi on social: Mind Islands Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/mindislands Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/mindislandsgroup/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mindislands_coaching/ Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/in/mindislands/