The Safe Enough Podcast

The critical ingredient that makes magical healing relationships, but is often missed. The last of a series of 3 episodes on working with healing providers.

When evaluation of you is inaccurate. The 2nd of a series of 3 episodes on working with healing providers.

Working with professional providers during a healing process is a tricky thing. What evaluation and assessment have to do with it. The 1st of a series of 3 episodes on working with healing providers. Deepak Chopra The Book of Secrets

Everyone deserves genuine love, but you can't do it without safety. How to bring safety into love. The 3rd of a series of 3 episodes on love. Show Notes: Lisa Feldman Barrett - How Emotions Are Made bell hooks - all about love The Polyvagal Theory Additional episodes in this series: Ep 17 - Love Is Not A Feeling Ep 18 - Learning Loving

Genuine love requires learning how to put the intention into action. How to unlearn love as a feeling, and learn the “love ethic.” The 2nd of a series of 3 episodes on love. Show Notes: bell hooks - all about love Additional episodes in this series: Ep 17 - Love Is Not A Feeling Ep 19 - Without Safety There Can Be No Love

What if genuine love had nothing to do with a feeling? I propose a more concrete definition. The 1st of a series of 3 episodes on love. Show Notes M Scott Peck -The Road Less Travelled bell hooks - all about love Additional episodes in this series: Ep 18 - Learning Loving Ep 19 - Without Safety There Can Be No Love

Why reading, and consuming content, can be a tool for gently connecting with your body and creating a felt sense of safety. The 3rd of a series of 3 episodes on gentle ways to connect with your body. Show Notes FREE RESOURCE: My favorite books on body-based healing and transformation Gabor Mate The Body Keeps The Score by Bessel van der Kolk Cracked Up: The Darrell Hammond Story Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror by Judith Herman In An Unspoken Voice: How The Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness by Peter Levine Interpersonal Neurobiology Stephen Porges' Polyvagal Theory The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy by Deb Dana

How a special kind of journaling can be a tool for gently connecting with your body and creating a felt sense of safety. The 2nd of a series of 3 episodes on gentle ways to connect with your body. Show Notes: FREE RESOURCE: 3 Journal Prompts For Gently Connecting With Your Body The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron

How a special kind of movement can be a tool for gently connecting with your body and creating a felt sense of safety. The 1st of a series of 3 episodes on gentle ways to connect with your body. Show Notes Download Free Resource: This Movement Can Help You Gently Connect With Your Body

How do you grow your sense of worth and value? Some folks have higher amounts of self-worth, and some folks have lower amounts, so how do you grow yours? This is the 2nd of a 2 episode series on self-worth. Brene Brown The Gifts of Imperfection Brene Brown Braving The Wilderness Stephen Porges The Polyvagal Theory

What is self-worth? Don't you need it first, in order to grow it? In this short 2 episode series on self-worth, I'll be talking about what self-worth actually is, and how to grow it. Brene Brown The Gifts of Imperfection Online Etymology Dictionary - definition of worth Online Etymology Dictionary - definition of value Online Etymology Dictionary - definition of strength

What's at the heart of safety when using a nervous system informed approach. This is the last of 4 episodes on the basics of feeling safe enough to heal and make changes towards a life that is full of love, connection, belonging and purpose. The Polyvagal Theory via Stephen Porges Maurice Merleau-Ponty Other Episodes In Basics of Safety Series: Ep 8: What Is Safety? Ep 9: Beyond Trauma-Informed Ep 10: All For Naught

All about how to make real, lasting change in a way that is the most effective and also happens to be gentle. This is the 3rd of 4 episodes on the basics of feeling safe enough to heal and make changes towards a life that is full of love, connection, belonging and purpose. The Polyvagal Theory via Dr Stephen Porges The Polyvagal Theory via Deb Dana Other Episodes In Basics of Safety Series: Ep 8: What Is Safety? Ep 9: Beyond Trauma-Informed Ep 11: It's All About You!

Why I think it's time to go beyond trauma-informed approaches. This is the 2nd of 4 episodes on the basics of feeling safe enough to heal and make changes towards a life that is full of love, connection, belonging and purpose. When The Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress by Dr Gabor Mate Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence-From Domestic Abuse To Political Terror by Dr Judith Herman Dr Bessel van der Kolk The Gifts of Imperfection: To Let Go Of Who You Think You're Supposed To Be And Be Who You Are by Dr Brene Brown Other Episodes In The Basics of Safety Series: Ep 8: What Is Safety? Ep 10: All For Naught Ep 11: It's All About You!

What is safety really? If we're going to talk about safety, we have to define what it is. This is the 1st in a series of 4 episodes on the basics of feeling safe enough to heal and make changes towards a life that is full of love, connection, belonging and purpose. Dr Gabor Mate Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence-From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror by Dr Judith Herman Dr Stephen Porges Cracked Up: The Darell Hammond Story The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go Of Who You Think You're Supposed To Be And Be Who You Are by Dr Brene Brown Deb Dana Other Episodes In Basics of Safety Series: Ep 9: Beyond Trauma-Informed Ep 10: All For Naught Ep 11: It's All About You!

In this final episode in the series on The Felt Sense and relating, I talk about how to have fulfilling relationships, because that's really what we all crave! Thomas Hanna book "Bodies In Revolt" Ep 6: What You Can't "Just Let It Go" Eugene (Gene) Gendlin Dan Siegel - Interpersonal Neurobiology course FREE workshop - Together: The Felt Sense While Relating

In the 2nd episode in the series on The Felt Sense and Relating, I'll talk about why it can seem like common methods for connecting just aren't working. Brene Brown on vulnerability Brene Brown on shame Ep 5: The Wonderful Part of Relating Ep 7: How Do You Make Relationships Fulfilling?

In this first episode of the series on the felt sense during relating, I'll talk about what's possible when relating feels safe, and why relating can feel so dangerous. What is Complex Trauma? (Article) Episode 4: What Friendliness Leaves You With Episode 6: Why You Can't “Just Let It Go”

When you're struggling or experiencing emotional pain, this can be the most helpful thing. This is the 3rd of 4 episodes in a series on Befriending Yourself. In this episode, I talk about what makes something unbearable, less unbearable. "How can we learn to treat other people with this kind of affirming respect, or know that we CAN actually expect it from others in return, if this isn't demonstrated to us?" The 4 parts of empathy What emotional pain needs What happens when emotional pain gets what it needs

Why attachment, attunement, empathy and friendliness alter your brain and body chemistry. What modern neuroscience demonstrates occurs when you receive friendly regard, validation, affirmation and space for your experience. This is the final episode in a series on Befriending Yourself. Self-confidence is the feeling of “I trust myself to be able to figure it out” Self-determination is the feeling of “I know that I have the power to make choices about what happens to me" Resilience is the feeling of “even if it's hard and doesn't work out, I'm going to be okay”

What do you need to feel really good in someone's friendly company? This is the 2nd of 4 episodes in a series on Befriending Yourself. In this episode, I talk about why friendly space is needed, and how to create it. "I think that the greatest feat of humanity, is for two people with differing needs and perspectives to be fully open to the other, curious and respectful and engaging, but without dominating or giving in"

What's the difference between a true friend, and any other person? Actually, it's in the word "regard," which means: to take notice of. This is the first of a month-long series on Befriending Yourself.