Podcasts about violence from domestic abuse

Jen Warner, LICSW, LCSW, is one of those therapists, one of those individuals, who is so passionate about her work (and compassionate, as you'll hear in this interview!) that after listening to her, you walk away inspired. I certainly did.Jen is a Washington, Illinois, Oregon, and New York State licensed clinical social worker, and psychotherapist with advanced training and certification in trauma-informed care and the treatment of trauma, as well as holistic health and nutrition.Additionally, Jennifer has taught on the subject of abuse and trauma at the graduate social work schools of Portland State University and Columbia University. She has provided direct services to child and adult survivors of interpersonal violence, including domestic violence, sexual abuse, and gun violence. She has supervised clinicians and graduate students on the provision of trauma-informed care, and was the crime victim social worker at the largest public hospital in the South Bronx before moving to the Pacific Northwest.In This EpisodeJennifer's WebsiteContact JenniferTrauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence--From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror, Judith L. HermanTrauma and the Body: A Sensorimotor Approach to Psychotherapy, Pat Ogden, Kekuni Minton, Clare Pain---If you'd like to support The Trauma Therapist Podcast and the work I do you can do that here with a monthly donation of $5, $7, or $10: Donate to The Trauma Therapist Podcast.Click here to join my email list and receive podcast updates and other news.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-trauma-therapist--5739761/support.

Co-conspirator and friend of the podcast, Dr. K Hixson, returns to share some exciting news about a true labor of love.We've joined up to create The Kiln, a comprehensive supervision and training program for pre-licensed therapists in Oregon. The Kiln will also offer continuing education to practicing clinicians.This venture was born out of our mutual frustrations and concerns with the direction, trends, and tendencies in the current state of our field, and our deep dedication and commitment to our work.Today, we're going to get into why we are bringing an apprenticeship lens to postgraduate supervision, pushing back on current paradigms in trauma treatment, and how you can join our trainings or become part of our very first cohort.Listen to the full episode to hear:Why many grad schools and supervision programs fail to train great therapistsThe two fundamental philosophies that define our approach with The Kiln Why we teach exposure-based trauma therapies and push back on anti-exposure biasWhy therapists need to be able and willing to confront themselvesTrauma processing modalities that we are excited about working with and teachingLearn more about The Kiln:WebsiteLearn more about Dr. K Hixson:WebsiteLearn more about Riva Stoudt:Into the Woods CounselingInstagramResources:Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence--From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror, Judith Lewis HermanBrain Talk: How Mind Mapping Brain Science Can Change Your Life & Everyone In It, David Schnarch

I read the leading paragraph & graph from Chapter 8-Safety, of Judith Herman's book: Trauma & Recovery- The Aftermath of Violence-From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror, & share parts of my own recovery journey to help give real life examples of how these stages show up in a person's life! If you want some more background & context on this book & the main themes (at least as I learned about them in my 2020 trauma class) please go back & listen to episode 5 of this podcast: Healing During Quarantine-Sarah Ahn on Judith Herman, when I 1st introduced the power of this book for ANYONE that's recovering from trauma OR...cares about someone who is OR...simply wants to understand it better. This episode is a revisting to the book & its wisdom & where I feel like I am in my journey today! ☺️

In conversation with Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.  Horace W. Goldsmith Foundation Endowed Lecture A professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School for more than 40 years, Judith Lewis Herman, M.D., is one of the United States' foremost experts on the treatment of post-traumatic stress and incest. ''One of the most important psychiatry works to be published since Freud'' (The New York Times), her groundbreaking 1992 book Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence-From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror redefined medicine's understanding of trauma survivors. Herman is the director of training at the Victims of Violence Program at The Cambridge Hospital in Cambridge, Massachusetts and a founding member of the Women's Mental Health Collective. Her many honors include the 1996 Lifetime Achievement Award from the International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies, the 2000 American Medical Women's Association Award, and in 2003 the American Psychiatric Association bestowed upon her the title of Distinguished Life Fellow. A manifesto for a new framework of justice, Truth and Repair argues that survivors' voices should be central elements in our criminal justice system.  Bessel van der Kolk, M.D., is the author of the No. 1 New York Times bestseller The Body Keeps the Score, a watershed examination of the ways traumatic stress affects the physical health of human beings. The founder and medical director of the Trauma Center in Brookline, Massachusetts, he is a professor of psychiatry at the Boston University School of Medicine and is the director of the National Complex Trauma Treatment Network. (recorded 3/22/2023)

FEATURED GUESTS: Laury Rappaport, PhD, MFT, REAT, ATR-BC, teaches expressive arts therapies and art therapy, and has served on the faculties at Lesley University, Notre Dame de Namur University, CA , Sonoma State University, California Institute of Integral Studies, and Meridian University. She is the author of Focusing-Oriented Art Therapy: Accessing the Body's Wisdom and Creative Intelligence and editor/author of Mindfulness and the Arts Therapies. Laury is a Focusing Coordinator with The International Focusing Institute and the Founder/Director of the Focusing and Expressive Arts Institute. LISTEN & LEARN: The origins of Focusing Oriented Psychotherapy which developed from research done by Eugene Gendlin and Carl Rogers and what causes change in therapy. The process by which Laury Rappaport developed Focusing Oriented Art Therapy. What is meant by the terms the "felt sense" and the "felt shift". Why Focusing is considered to be a human process. What "Clearing the Space" is in focusing oriented and focusing oriented expressive arts therapies and why it is an effective tool for stress and pain reduction. The role of clinical sensitivity as it pertains to maintaining a safety first approach in treatment. RESOURCES MENTIONED ON THE SHOW: Laury's Session at the Expressive Therapies Summit { Virtual Session } March 23, 2023 Focusing-Oriented Expressive Arts (FOAT®) as a Trauma-Informed Approach The Focusing and Expressive Arts Institute Mindfulness & The Arts Therapies: Theory & Practice edited by Laury Rappaport Focusing-Oriented Art Therapy: Accessing the Body's Wisdom and Creative Intelligence by Laury Rappaport Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence--From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror by Judith Herman https://amzn.to/3kY5Wgz Focusing-Oriented Psychotherapy: A Manual of the Experiential Method (The Practicing Professional) by Eugene Gendlin --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/reina-lombardi5/support

“The book talks about things that society would rather not talk about.”- Dr Nivanka De Silva Ignite your ‘personal fire' in this episode of Book Club, featuring clinical psychologist, Dr Radhika Santhanam-Martin and psychiatric registrar Dr Nivanka De Silva - two migrant women of colour based in Melbourne - as they explore Judith Herman's ‘Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror' (1992). Tune in to hear Radhika and Nivanka's ‘aha moments' as they reflect on the book's powerful themes of witnessing and remembering trauma; how it has inspired a ‘new way of seeing and knowing' in their practice; and why the ideas presented are more relevant than ever for Australian society and mental health practice. Liked this episode? Stay tuned for future episodes of Book Club by following MHPN Presents. Visit the MHPN website for episode host and guest bios, recommended resources and a self-directed CPD form. Share your comments, questions and feedback about Book Club, or any of MHPN's podcast series here: https://bit.ly/3d6nFea.

The world is a mess, so let's talk about trauma. In this episode, I examine trauma in its many different forms and the ways social structures can create as well as mitigate its effects. I also ask if trauma claims can actually be good. You'll have to listen for the answer. Show Notes The Jane Addams Collective, "Mutual Aid, Trauma and Resiliency" https://www.janeaddamscollective.org/matr Jeffrey C. Alexander, Trauma: A Social Theory https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/13762975-trauma Judith Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/542700.Trauma_and_Recovery --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/sociology-ruins-evrything/support

In this episode of the MY House Podcast, Michelle sits down with Kurt and Kyra Hoenack, who both work as case managers at the MY House facilities. The three of them discuss viewing youth as assets rather than liabilities and how the MY House case management team handles the intake process for local youth in our community.Citations: Herman, J. L. (2015). Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror: With a new epilogue by the author. Basic Books.

Why reading, and consuming content, can be a tool for gently connecting with your body and creating a felt sense of safety. The 3rd of a series of 3 episodes on gentle ways to connect with your body. Show Notes FREE RESOURCE: My favorite books on body-based healing and transformation Gabor Mate The Body Keeps The Score by Bessel van der Kolk Cracked Up: The Darrell Hammond Story Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror by Judith Herman In An Unspoken Voice: How The Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness by Peter Levine Interpersonal Neurobiology Stephen Porges' Polyvagal Theory The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy by Deb Dana

Summary: In this episode, we gain a deeper understanding of the experience of trauma, the impact of trauma. we clarify definitions of different aspects of trauma, various categories of trauma, the immediate and delayed signs and symptoms of trauma, and the effects of trauma.  Then I share an experiential exercise with you to help you discover potential areas that might be fruitful for future exploration of your own internal experience.   Opening Dramatic Short Brief descriptions of the experience of trauma  “Outside, the sun shines. Inside, there's only darkness. The blackness is hard to describe, as it's more than symptoms. It's a nothing that becomes everything there is. And what one sees is only a fraction of the trauma inflicted.”  ― Justin Ordoñez “My current life, I realized, was constructed around an absence; for all its richness I still felt as if the floors might give way, as if its core were only a covering of leaves, and I would slip through, falling endlessly, never to get my footing.” ― Esi Edugyan, Washington Black “I wish I'd fallen softly. Light and graceful like a feather drifting slowly to the earth on a warm and dreamy summer's day. I wish that I'd landed softly too. But there is nothing soft or graceful about that devastating moment when the worst has come to pass. The unavoidable truth is that it is hard, cold and brutal. All that you know to be true and good in life shatters in an instant. You feel like a delicate pottery bowl violently tossed from your place of rest, watching yourself crash and scatter across the hostile dark earth. The sound is deafening. Time stops. Inside, the quiet ache of shock and heartbreak slowly makes its grip known. They cut deep, these jagged edges of broken sherds. You gasp for air hungrily, yet somehow forget how to breathe.”― Jodi Sky Rogers Introduction We are born into a not only a fallen world, but a traumatized world  We not only share in a fallen human condition, but a traumatized condition.   “No matter what kind of childhood we've had, nobody escapes trauma while growing up.”― Kenny Weiss The Fall goes way back, before the world was even created, to the fall of the Lucifer, the light-bearer, the morning star and his angels -- and then the fallenness entered our world through original sin, the sin of Adam and Eve, and these are the original traumas, the fall of the angels and original sin.   You and I are together in the adventure of this podcast, Interior Integration for Catholics, we are journeying together, and I am thankful to be with you.   I am Dr. Peter Malinoski, clinical psychologist and passionate Catholic and together, We bring the best of psychology and human formation and harmonize it with the perennial truths of the Catholic Faith.  This podcast, Interior Integration for Catholics is part of our broader outreach, Souls and Hearts bringing the best of psychology grounded in a Catholic worldview to you and the rest of the world through our website soulsandhearts.com.   Trauma.  We are just beginning a whole series of episodes on trauma.  You've been asking for this -- so many requests for us to address trauma head on.  It's such a tough topic and such an important topic, and we are taking on the tough and important topics that matter to you. Really important to understand the inner experience of trauma -- so you can recognize it in your own life and recognize it an empathetic and attuned way in others' loves.  Part of loving them.   Today, we're going to get an overview of the best of the secular understandings of trauma.  So much has changed since I entered graduate school in 1993 -- back then there was one seminal text on trauma, Judith Herman's Trauma and Recovery.  Now, especially in the last 10-15 years, there has been an upsurge of new, fresh and much better ways of understanding trauma.   Outline Impact of Trauma   Definitions of terms Definition of  trauma  Definition of Attachment injury  Definition of relational hurt  Definition of adverse experience.  Categories of Trauma  Recognizing Trauma from the Reactions, signs and symptoms.   Discuss commonly accepted effects of trauma  Go over the traumatic effects of what didn't happen, what was missing  Experiential exercise to help you identify areas of your internal experience that are impacted by trauma   Impact of Trauma From the North Dakota Department of Human Services Fact Sheet   • People who have experienced trauma are:◉ 15 times more likely to attempt suicide◉ 4 times more likely to abuse alcohol◉ 4 times more likely to develop a sexually transmitted disease ◉ 4 times more likely to inject drugs◉ 3 times more likely to use antidepressant medication◉ 3 times more likely to be absent from work◉ 3 times more likely to experience depression◉ 3 times more likely to have serious job problems◉ 2.5 times more likely to smoke◉ 2 times more likely to develop chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD)◉ 2 times more likely to have serious financial problems 16-minute TED MED talk from How childhood trauma affects health across a lifetime | Pediatrician Nadine Burke Harris  September 2014 Definitions of Trauma Lots of confusion   Briere & Scott (2006) Principles of Trauma Therapy: people use the term trauma to refer to  either a traumatic experience or event  the resulting injury or stress,  or the longer-term impacts and consequences  American Psychological Association Website: Trauma is an emotional response to a terrible event like an accident, rape or natural disaster. Immediately after the event, shock and denial are typical. Longer term reactions include unpredictable emotions, flashbacks, strained relationships and even physical symptoms like headaches or nausea. Problem in emphasizing the emotional aspects. It's much more than that  Misses the overwhelming aspect.   Does get the "response" part right.   Integrated Listening Systems website:  Trauma is the response to a deeply distressing or disturbing event that overwhelms an individual's ability to cope, causes feelings of helplessness, diminishes their sense of self and their ability to feel a full range of emotions and experiences.   DSM-5  PTSD, Acute Stress Disorder.  Not going to address those here, not worth the time. Highly criticized by many professionals for being very limited and behind the curve, not recognizing the nuances and categories of trauma responses.   Attachment Injury  Definition: Dr. Sue Johnson defines an attachment injury as “a feeling of betrayal or abandonment during a critical time of need.” Very relational.   Uniformed Services University Human Performance Resources sheet:  An attachment injury is an emotional wound to an intimate, interdependent relationship. It usually happens after a breach of trust—particularly in a time of need or a moment of loss or transition. Once an attachment injury occurs, it can leave one or both partners feeling betrayed or abandoned. Examples of causes of attachment injuries from John Gottman "What Makes Love Last: How to build trust and avoid betrayal" Conditional Commitment:  You or your partner are one the lookout for someone more attractive, more desirable, someone who is a better soul mate.   A Nonsexual Affair: sometimes emotional affairs - emotional connection in an exclusive relationship with someone else.   Lying: Deception, dishonesty, little white lies.   Forming a Coalition Against the Partner:  Pulling the kids in, trying to isolate the other person.  No longer collaborative.   Absenteeism or Coldness: Not prioritizing each other at a time of need -- distancing instead -- can have a devastating impact. Whether failing to support during highly stressful events or consistently missing opportunities to turn towards each other during the rigors of life, both are destructive.  Withdrawal of Sexual Interest: This can really be wounding.  Sometimes one spouse is ok with this and the other is not.   Disrespect:  quote by John Gottman… “A loving relationship is not about one person having the upper hand – it's about holding hands.” This includes refusing to acknowledge hurting your partner and a lack of willingness to apologize to your partner.  Unfairness: Dishonesty. Lack of balance in housework, lack of collaboration on finances.   Selfishness: When one partner lives mostly in a self-focused way; behaviors driven by self-absorption can be very wearing on relationship.  Breaking Promises:  Repeated disappointments around broken or unfulfilled promises results in disillusionment and undercuts trust between the spouses. The one breaking promises can unwittingly communicate the message, “You don't matter.”   Additional examples from Lana Isaacson abuse (emotional- gaslighting, power and control, economic, verbal, physical, or sexual),  refusal to forgive or accept partner or let go of resentments (includes excessive criticism, moving out of your home and refusing to return, etc.) after your partner has done significant personal and relational growth work and demonstrating change. Relational Hurts  - Lori Epting at GoodTherapy.org Relational Hurt or Attachment Injury? How to Tell the Difference April 5, 2018  Painful experiences in an attachment relationship inflicted by the other person, but that don't lead to rupture of the relationship Still a sense of love and connection between the people  Still trust and mutuality.   Still a capacity for the couple to move forward  Does the other spouse still love and care for you?  Answer:  Yes.   Examples: forgotten anniversaries, insults, or intense arguments.     Adverse Experiences:  Adverse Childhood Experiences Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) cover a wide range of difficult situations that children either directly face or witness while growing up, before they have developed effective coping skills. ACEs can disrupt the normal course of development and the emotional injury can last long into adulthood. The loss of a parent; neglect; emotional, physical, or sexual abuse; and divorce are among the most common types of Adverse Childhood Experiences.   Prevalence of Adverse Childhood Experiences:  Mental Health Connection of Tarrant County fact sheet -- with studies documenting each statistics.   Four of every 10 children in American say they experienced a physical assault during the past year, with one in 10 receiving an assault-related injury. (2) 2% of all children experienced sexual assault or sexual abuse during the past year, with the rate at nearly 11% for girls aged 14 to 17. (2) Nearly 14% of children repeatedly experienced maltreatment by a caregiver, including nearly 4% who experienced physical abuse. (2) 1 in 4 children was the victim of robbery, vandalism or theft during the previous year. (2) More than 13% of children reported being physically bullied, while more than 1 in 3 said they had been emotionally bullied. (2) 1 in 5 children witnessed violence in their family or the neighborhood during the previous year. (2) In one year, 39% of children between the ages of 12 and 17 reported witnessing violence, 17% reported being a victim of physical assault and 8% reported being the victim of sexual assault. (3) More than 60% of youth age 17 and younger have been exposed to crime, violence and abuse either directly or indirectly. (4 More than 10% of youth age 17 and younger reported five or more exposures to violence. (4) About 10% of children suffered from child maltreatment, were injured in an assault, or witnessed a family member assault another family member. (4) About 25% of youth age 17 and younger were victims of robbery or witnessed a violent act. (4) Nearly half of children and adolescents were assaulted at least once in the past year. (4) Among 536 elementary and middle school children surveyed in an inner city community, 30% had witnessed a stabbing and 26% had witnessed a shooting. (5) Young children exposed to five or more significant adverse experiences in the first three years of childhood face a 76% likelihood of having one or more delays in their language, emotional or brain development. (6) As the number of traumatic events experienced during childhood increases, the risk for the following health problems in adulthood increases: depression; alcoholism; drug abuse; suicide attempts; heart and liver diseases; pregnancy problems; high stress; uncontrollable anger; and family, financial, and job problems. (6) According to the Centers for Disease Control -- root causes of many chronic diseases, most mental illnesses, and most violence.       Physical abuse    Sexual abuse    Verbal abuse    Physical neglect    Emotional neglect    A family member who is depressed or diagnosed with other mental illness    A family member who is addicted to alcohol or another substance    A family member who is in prison    Witnessing a mother being abused    Losing a parent to separation, divorce or death 61% of adults across 25 states experienced oat least one ACE --  Nearly one in six American adults experienced four or more.   Lead to increases in adulthood -- years down the road.   Physical injuries TBI  Fractures  Burns   Mental Health problems Depression  Anxiety  Suicide  PTSD   Maternal Health Unintended pregnancy  Complications in pregnancy  Miscarriage   Infectious Disease HIV  STDs   Chronic disease Cancer  Diabetes   Risky Behaviors Alcohol and Drug abuse  Sexual acting out   Loss of opportunities Education  Occupation  Income   Categories of Trauma Acute vs. Chronic, Causes:  Natural vs. Human, Big T trauma vs. little t trauma, Secondary Trauma, Acknowledged vs. Unacknowledged.   Acute vs. Chronic vs. Complex Trauma Acute Trauma: Psychology Today article Acute trauma reflects intense distress in the immediate aftermath of a one-time event and the reaction is of short duration. Common examples include a car crash, physical or sexual assault, or the sudden death of a loved one.  Chronic Trauma:   can arise from harmful events that are repeated or prolonged. It can develop in response to persistent bullying, neglect, abuse (emotional, physical, or sexual), and domestic violence.  Complex Trauma: can arise from experiencing repeated or multiple traumatic events from which there is no possibility of escape. The sense of being trapped is a feature of the experience. Like other types of trauma, it can undermine a sense of safety in the world and beget hypervigilance, constant (and exhausting!) monitoring of the environment for the possibility of threat.  Big T trauma vs. little t trauma  Trauma here is used to describe the adverse experience Big T Trauma -- Big T Trauma is a reaction to a deeply disturbing, life-threatening event or situation  Powerlessness or helplessness is also a key factor of large ‘T' traumas, Examples of Big T Trauma Violent crime  natural disaster  terrorist attack  sexual assault  Combat  a car or plane accident  Death of a parent for a child   Little T Trauma: Little 't' traumas are described as smaller, more personal distressing events that disrupt our functioning and compromise our capacity to cope. These distressing events are not inherently life or bodily-integrity threatening,Examples of Little T Trauma Interpersonal conflict  Infidelity  Conflict with a boss  Job change  Geographic relocation -- moving to a new part of the country  Romantic breakup  Abrupt or extended relocation  Death of a Pet  Legal trouble  Financial worries or difficulty   Problems -- these describe the event -- as though the event measures the experience.  Not so.  Originally had some support and still do, because of the emphasis on the importance of less obvious events.     Natural vs. Human Causes  Naturally Caused (so called "Acts of God") Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) is the agency within the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services Separated into the four elements Earth, Water, Air and Fire   Earth Earthquakes  Landslides  fallen boulders  Meteorites   Water Floods  Tsunamis  Avalanches  Blizzards   Air Tornadoes  Cyclones  Typhoons  Hurricanes  dust storms  fallen trees   Fire volcanic eruptions  Lightning Strikes  Wildfires   Health physical ailments or diseases  Epidemics  Famines   Human Caused -- Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) is the agency within the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services  Accidental Acts Train derailment, roofing fall, structural collapse, mountaineering accident, aircraft crash, car accident due to malfunction, mine collapse or fire, radiation leak, crane collapse, gas explosion, electrocution, machinery-related accident, oil spill, maritime accident, accidental gun shooting, and sports-related death.   Intentional Acts arson, terrorism, sexual assault and abuse,(see three episode IIC series on Rape, Incest, Shame and Silence, episodes 40, 43,and 44) homicides or suicides, mob violence or rioting, physical abuse and neglect, stabbing or shooting, warfare, domestic violence, poisoned water supply, human trafficking, school violence, torture, home invasion, bank robbery, genocide, and medical or food tampering, harassment, street violence, and bullying   Actions vs. Omissions e.g. abuse vs. neglect   Secondary Trauma:  Psychology Today Article:  Secondary or vicarious trauma arises from exposure to other people's suffering and can strike those in professions that are called on to respond to injury and mayhem, notably physicians, first responders, and law enforcement. Over time, such individuals are at risk for compassion fatigue, whereby they avoid investing emotionally in other people in an attempt to protect themselves from experiencing distress. Acknowledged vs. unacknowledged trauma Frame of reference -- that just how it was  Defining trauma away -- Just because my Dad was a raging unemployed alcoholic and Mom was stressed out with her job and all the housework and we struggled financially and my parents fought all the time, that wasn't trauma, that was just normal.  I never was hit or nothing.   Not like my classmate Billy.  Billy suffered trauma.  His Dad used to hit him with a golf club and he came to school with bruises.  Now that's trauma.  Or the kids that were sexually abused.  That never happened to me.  I just had a rough childhood, but I've moved on, it's all in the past.   Recognizing Trauma from the Signs and Symptoms  -- So important.   Drawing from many sources here, but Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration. Trauma-Informed Care in Behavioral Health Services. HHS Publication No. (SMA) 13-4801 2014.   Chapter 3 of Understanding the Impact of Trauma  Emotional & psychological Symptoms of Trauma:  Immediate  Emotional overwhelm Characteristic of trauma   Shock  Denial, disbelief  Feeling disconnected or numb or detached  Anxiety or severe fear, even panic attacks  Guilt -- including survivor guilt  Anger, rage  Sadness  Helplessness  Mood swings -- exhilaration about surviving then survivor guilt  Emotional Constriction, Shutdown   Delayed Emotional Signs Irritability, hostility, edginess  Depression  Mood swings  Anxiety  Phobia Generalized anxiety Fears of trauma happening again  Grief  Shame  Feeling very fragile, vulnerable  Emotional detachment, disconnection -- in relationships  Hopelessness, despair  Anhedonia -- inability to enjoy anything  Difficulty experiencing positive emotions     Cognitive Symptoms of Trauma  Immediate Cognitive Reactions Disorientation  Difficulty concentrating  Ruminating, obsessing  Racing thoughts  Intrusive thoughts -- e.g. Replaying the traumatic event over and over again  Visualizations of the event.   Time Distortion  Space Distortion  Extreme alertness; always on the lookout for warnings of potential danger   New sensitivity to loud noises, smells, or other things around you  Memory problems -- unable to remember the event  Feeling out of control  Feeling unreal, depersonalized, not yourself, like you are watching someone else. Depersonalization: Persistent or recurrent experiences of feeling detached from, and as if one were an outside observer of, one's mental processes or body (e.g., feeling as though one were in a dream; feeling a sense of unreality of self or body or of time moving slowly).  Derealization: Persistent or recurrent experiences of unreality of surroundings (e.g., the world around the individual is experienced as unreal, dreamlike, distant, or distorted).  Delayed Cognitive Signs  Dissociation is a mental process of disconnecting from one's thoughts, feelings, body, from memories or sense of identity. This disconnection is automatic and completely out of the person's control.x Amnesia: Often described as "gaps" in memory that can range from minutes to years  Depersonalization: Feeling disconnected from your body or thoughts  Derealization: Feeling disconnected from the world around you  Identity alteration: The sense of being markedly different from another part of yourself  Identity confusion: A sense of confusion about who you really are   we will have a lot more to say about dissociation in future episodes, but for now -- disconnection.   Alexithymia the inability to recognize or describe one's own emotions. -- Can't put my feelings into words.  The experience of trauma can initially defy speech.   “People who suffer from alexithymia tend to feel physically uncomfortable but cannot describe exactly what the problem is. As a result they often have multiple vague and distressing physical complaints that doctors can't diagnose. In addition, they can't figure out for themselves what they're really feeling about any given situation or what makes them feel better or worse. This is the result of numbing, which keeps them from anticipating and responding to the ordinary demands of their bodies in quiet, mindful ways. If you are not aware of what your body needs, you can't take care of it. If you don't feel hunger, you can't nourish yourself. If you mistake anxiety for hunger, you may eat too much. And if you can't feel when you're satiated, you'll keep eating.”  ― Bessel A. van der Kolk  Intrusive memories -- keep coming and coming Reactivation of previous traumatic events -- those from before the most recent trauma Nightmares Confusion, distractions Highly critical of self -- blaming the self, what I could have done better Preoccupation with the event -- all I can think about Denial of the event  “The conflict between the will to deny horrible events and the will to proclaim them aloud is the central dialectic of psychological trauma.” ― Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror  Difficulty with decision making Magical thinking that certain behaviors (including avoidance) will protect me against future harm Suicidal ideation, fantasies Physical symptoms:  Quotes “Traumatized people chronically feel unsafe inside their bodies: The past is alive in the form of gnawing interior discomfort. Their bodies are constantly bombarded by visceral warning signs, and, in an attempt to control these processes, they often become expert at ignoring their gut feelings and in numbing awareness of what is played out inside. They learn to hide from their selves.” (p.97)” ― Bessel A. van der Kolk,    Immediate physical reactions Nausea, gastrointestinal distress  Sweating, shivering  Fainting  Muscle tremors, uncontrollable shaking  Racing heart, fast breathing, elevated blood pressure  Physical agitation  Extreme fatigue, exhaustion  Exaggerated startle responses  Headaches  Ringing in the ears   Delayed Physical symptoms Sleep disturbances, insomnia  Aches, pains, somatization of psychological distress  Appetite change  Difficult with digestion  Persistent fatigue  Elevated cortisol levels  Hyperarousal  Chronic muscle tension  Long-term health problems -- heart, liver, adrenal glands, autoimmune problems, COPD   Behavioral Symptoms:  Immediate Behavioral Reactions Exaggerated startle responses  Restlessness  Argumentative behavior  Increased use of alcohol, drugs, and tobacco  Social withdrawal and relational apathy  Avoidant behaviors   Delayed Behavioral symptoms Avoidance of activities or places that trigger memories of the even  Social relationship disturbances  Decreased activity level  Engagement in high-risk behaviors  Increased use of alcohol and drugs  Impulse control problems  Social withdrawal, which can lead to isolation   “Over time as most people fail the survivor's exacting test of trustworthiness, she tends to withdraw from relationships. The isolation of the survivor thus persists even after she is free.” ― Judith Lewis Herman Difficulty maintaining close relationships Sexual dysfunction Existential Symptoms  Immediate Existential Reactions Intense use of prayer  Restoration of faith in the goodness of others (e.g., receiving help from others)  Loss of self-efficacy   Despair about humanity, particularly if the event was intentional  Negative thoughts about yourself, other people or the world   Immediate disruption of life assumptions (e.g., fairness, safety, goodness, predictability of life)     Delayed Existential Reactions Feeling as though one is permanently damaged  Questioning (e.g., “Why me?”)   Increased cynicism, disillusionment, about the future, about humankind “Unlike simple stress, trauma changes your view of your life and yourself. It shatters your most basic assumptions about yourself and your world — “Life is good,” “I'm safe,” “People are kind,” “I can trust others,” “The future is likely to be good” — and replaces them with feelings like “The world is dangerous,” “I can't win,” “I can't trust other people,” or “There's no hope.”  ― Mark Goulston MD, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder For Dummies     Increased self-confidence (e.g., “If I can survive this, I can survive anything”) Loss of purpose Renewed faith Hopelessness Reestablishing priorities Redefining meaning and importance of life Reworking life's assumptions to accommodate the trauma (e.g., taking a self-defense class to reestablish a sense of safety) Effects of Trauma -- Going beyond the surface level, what is more readily observable in self or others suffering from trauma  Going into survival mode  Necessity of coming out of this alive.  Very primitive, basic responses.  Drive to survive. “We don't learn things that help us to thrive when we are in survival mode. It's only when we are in sensual mode that we do.” ― Lebo Grand   Many, many people live chronically in  Increasing fragmentation -- decreasing integration Overwhelming intensity of experience.  Overwhelming Grief -- episodes 81-83 Integration much more difficult, even impossible in the current conditions  We need disconnects -- we need to not know that if A=B and B=C, then A=C, because A=C is too threatening for us Example of little girl with a sexually abusive father -- can't come to the full implications of that without being overwhelmed.  Loss of a sense of time “When something reminds traumatized people of the past, their right brain reacts as if the traumatic event were happening in the present. But because their left brain is not working very well, they may not be aware that they are re-experiencing and reenacting the past - they are just furious, terrified, enraged, ashamed, or frozen.”  ― Bessel Van Der Kolk  Identity issues  Who am I? “I felt as though everything inside me had been obliterated.   However much I tried, however much I wanted to go back to being who I was before, it was impossible--all that was left was an empty husk of my former self.” ― Shiori Itō, Black Box Shame (episodes 37-49) Trauma generates and activates and exacerbates and perpetuates shame.   Generates Shame “Shame is internalized when one is abandoned. Abandonment is the precise term to describe how one loses one's authentic self and ceases to exist psychologically.”  ― John Bradshaw, Healing the Shame that Binds You  Genesis 3   Activates Shame Preexisting, unresolved shame can come up.  A plausible explanation for why the adverse event happened or is happening.   Deep sense of not being loved, not being lovable -- often denied, because it's so painful.   “...one of the hardest things to admit is that we weren't loved when we needed it most. It's a terrible feeling, the pain of not being loved.” She was right. I had been groping for the right words to express that murky feeling of betrayal inside, the horrible hollow ache, and to hear Ruth say it—“the pain of not being loved”—I saw how it pervaded my entire consciousness and was at once the story of my past, present, and future.” ― Alex Michaelides  Decreased capacity for relationships Decreasing vulnerability within the self or with others  Out of touch with so much of ourselves.   Lack of Trust “The words "I love you," used to be enough for me. They used to mean the world to me, today they don't mean shit. Oh you love me? Really? Why? How? When did it start? Why? Give me reasons, show me behaviors that PROVE you love me, or get the fuck out of my way. I am not interested in diamonds and platitudes, I want to know that I GENUINELY matter to you, because I don't have time to waste on pretty lies that are ugly beneath the surface.”  ― Devon J Hall  Desperation Can lead to suicidal impulses.  Episodes 76-80.  Spiritual Effects God image issues -- episodes 23-29.   Unconscious and conscious  Problem of evil.   What didn't happen  Attunement  - Daniel Brown and David Elliott Feeling safe and protected afterward    Feeling seen, heard, known, and understood -- someone else making sense of the adverse experience “Trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one held captive. When someone enters the pain and hears the screams healing can begin.”  ― Danielle Bernock, “To survive trauma one must be able to tell a story about it.” ― Natasha Trethewey, Memorial Drive: A Daughter's Memoir   Feeling comforted, soothed, calmed, reassured “Feeling listened to and understood changes our physiology. Being able to articulate a complex feeling and having our feelings recognised lights up our Limbic brain, and creates an ‘ah-ha' moment. In contrast, being met by silence and incomprehension kills the spirit.” ― Bessel van der Kolk     Feeling cherished, treasured, loved, delighted in Feeling that someone had my best interests in mind.   Experiential Exercise -- No-Go Zones.  Not therapy Pencil or pen and paper -- some way to record -- could be your phone.   Safety issues Zone of tolerance  If this doesn't suit you, don't do it.   Can stop at any time.  Take what is helpful to you.  No driving, can stop the recording until you're in a good place for it.   Asking that no part of you overwhelm you.   Not going to open up any traumatic place.  We are focused on delineating where those places are within you.   Going to the lowest place within us.   Really slowing it down Notice what is going on inside you right now.  Can you be curious Can you have a big open heart Can you accept what you find if it's not overwhelming Can you be receptive to new ways of understanding yourself.   Notice the reactions Body Sensations  Emotions  Visual Images  Memories  Inner voice  Thoughts or Beliefs or Assumptions  Impulses  Desires  Fantasies   Any concerns about this so far?  Is it OK?  If not discontinue.  Not the time.  If it's OK, then continue.   Word list -- noticing the reactions to 30 words -- write down any words that you notice reactions to and the reactions if you wish -- body sensations, especially, but also the rest of the list.  Again, we're not trying to explore any areas of trauma, but if you parts are willing, to understand a bit more about your internal world, your inner experience.   School Love Body Not being seen or heard Playground Loneliness Arguing Sickness Alcohol, Drugs Fear Safety Chaos Sex Escape Mom Help Shame Protection Pain Distress Trust Dad Wound Abandonment Abuse Sadness Nothing Guilt Anger Survival Any other words or images or thoughts or anything else in your experience.   Gratitude.     Future Directions -- where we will be zeroing in This episode was bringing to you the conventional secular understandings of trauma.  But there are two area in the secular conceptualizations of trauma that really warrant much deeper exploration.   Physiological or bodily response to trauma -- that's the next episode, episode 89  Not just about memories -- not just about psychology  Trauma involves the whole person. Trauma victims cannot recover until they become familiar with and befriend the sensations in their bodies. Being frightened means that you live in a body that is always on guard. Angry people live in angry bodies. The bodies of child-abuse victims are tense and defensive until they find a way to relax and feel safe. In order to change, people need to become aware of their sensations and the way that their bodies interact with the world around them. Physical self-awareness is the first step in releasing the tyranny of the past. Bessel Van der Kolk   So much happens in our bodies with trauma -- and so much of that is beyond our capacity to control by sheer willpower in the moment.  “PTSD is a whole-body tragedy, an integral human event of enormous proportions with massive repercussions.”  ― Susan Pease Banitt The Body Keeps the Score -- by Bessel Van der Kolk Polyvagal theory -- Steven Porges.  Recovery “We cannot outrun our past trauma. We can't bury it and think that we will be fine. We cannot skip the essential stage of processing, accepting, and doing the hard, yet necessary trauma recovery work. There's a body-mind connection. Trauma can manifest itself into chronic physical pain, cancer, inflammation, auto-immune conditions, depression, anxiety, PTSD, Complex PTSD, addictions, and ongoing medical conditions.”  ― Dana Arcuri   Common treatment modalities -- EMDR and other ways of treating trauma Then we will get into an Internal Family Systems approach to trauma -- episode 90 Then we will bring all this groundwork on trauma together to address the spiritual dimensions of trauma Really neglected area  So important.  How trauma impacts the spiritual life.     You are a listener to this podcast, and in that sense, you are with me.  I am also with you!  Remember, can call me on my cell any Tuesday or Thursday from 4:30 PM to 5:30 PM for our regular conversation hours.  I've set that time aside for you.  317.567.9594.  (repeat) or email me at crisis@soulsandhearts.com.  Time is running out -- opportunity available only until January 15. The Resilient Catholics Community at Soulsandhearts.com/rcc.  So much information there and videos.   How did you respond to that experiential exercise?  What did you learn?  Was that interesting to you?  Can you see the potential for doing more of that kind of work?  I want to invite you to the Resilient Catholics Community  The Why of the RCC --  It's all about loving with your whole heart -- all of your being.  Getting over all the natural level issues that hold you back from tolerating being loved and from loving God and others.  It's all about your human formation, informed by Internal Family Systems and grounded in our Catholic Faith.   If you really are into this podcast, if these ways of conceptualizing the human person and integration and human formation and resilience are appealing to you, then the Resilient Catholics community, the RCC may be for you.   What of the RCC $99 nonrefundable registration fee gets you The Initial Measures Kit -- which generates a 5 page report, all about your parts  Weekly premium Inner Connections podcast, just for RCC community members --Lots of experiential exercises.   A complete course for working on your human formation 44 weekly sessions over the course of a year for $99 per month subscription  Check it out -- discernment Process   The When of the RCC We open twice per year, next time will be in June 2022, --we've extended the enrollment as far as we can, until January 15.  We are open now.  Soulsandhearts.com/rcc to register.  Call me with questions!    317.567.9594.  (repeat) or email me at crisis@soulsandhearts.com.  So sign up Soulsandhearts.com/rcc. 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We welcome back Shulamit ber Levtov, the Entrepreneur's Therapist for a deep dive into individual, organizational, and systemic abuse. Shulamit is a resilience and mindset consultant who uses her background as a trauma therapist to help women identifying entrepreneurs manage their mindset and pilot their emotions so they can overcome the anxiety and isolation of running a business. You may remember Shulamit from our conversation in Episode 88: Cult Dynamics and Abusive, Intimate Relationships. When we finished, it felt like there was a lot more to cover. So here we are. My hope for this episode is that it gives you context for your own experience, for the experience of someone you care for, and for the abusive culture and systems we are immersed in, whether we are conscious of it or not. Before we go any further, I don't think I've ever given a trigger warning before, and I don't like them for a couple of reasons. First of all, they can be triggering in and of themselves and put us into a heightened state where we expect to be triggered. And so then we're triggered. It's that good, old self fulfilling prophecy. Secondly, I'm not your parent here to protect you from challenging topics. Otherwise nobody learns and this podcast wouldn't exist. However, this is an episode that might best be consumed in a quiet place with a warm tea or coffee and a journal nearby, or on a quiet walk, so that you can absorb and reflect at your own rate and pace. I'm told that this is how many of you listen to this podcast. I'm not saying this to turn you off. I just want you to know, because I became emotional midway through and we had to take a little break before guiding the conversation into reflecting on what it's like to wake up to abusive relationships in our life. And how to use self compassion to self-regulate so we can engage our creative problem solving and ask for help. I think this is a serious but hopeful conversation. And I want to be thoughtful about what your experience may be when you consume it. So I guess I am invoking my protective super power after all. Like always, if you receive value from this episode, please leave a review and sharing it with others. Follow @freeyourinnerguru and @the_entrepreneurs_therapist on Instagram and consider supporting the podcast on Patreon, where you'll have access to the ongoing conversation in our Discourse community for as little as $5 a month. Mentioned in this episode: Episode 88: Cult Dynamics and Abusive Intimate Relationships with Shulamit ber Levtov Duluth Wheel of Power and Control Duluth Wheel of Culture Article: Nine Perfect Strangers Made Me a Punchline and Now I'm Punching Back Judith Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence--From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror Connect with Shulamit: websiteInstagram Support Free Your Inner Guru: Become a Patreon Supporter – patreon.com/freeyourinnerguruCheck out the Leadership Community – freeyourinnerguru.com/communityShop the merchandise – freeyourinnerguru.com/shop Stay in touch: Subscribe to the Free Your Inner Guru newsletterInstagram – @freeyourinnnerguru

What is safety really? If we're going to talk about safety, we have to define what it is. This is the 1st in a series of 4 episodes on the basics of feeling safe enough to heal and make changes towards a life that is full of love, connection, belonging and purpose. Dr Gabor Mate Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence-From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror by Dr Judith Herman Dr Stephen Porges Cracked Up: The Darell Hammond Story The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go Of Who You Think You're Supposed To Be And Be Who You Are by Dr Brene Brown Deb Dana Other Episodes In Basics of Safety Series: Ep 9: Beyond Trauma-Informed Ep 10: All For Naught Ep 11: It's All About You!

• The word so͞opərˈsilēəs• Fun statistics about Black Canadians. the total population, the regions and more. • Thousands of books, including Tintin and Asterix, destroyed in schools in Canada: "We bury the ashes of racism" - NewsWep• Steve from Blue's Clues is sorry he abandoned us as kids (avclub.com)• So about that time Steve went off to college… #BluesClues25 | Twitter• Someone Just Played A Hilarious 'Simpsons' Prank On A Virginia School Board | HuffPost• The Players: Nathan, David 2nd Book of Samuel Chapter 12 - "It's cool, I'm over it.""In order to escape accountability for his crimes, the perpetrator does everything in his power to promote forgetting. If secrecy fails, the perpetrator attacks the credibility of his victim. If he cannot silence her absolutely, he tries to make sure no one listens." ― Judith Lewis Herman M.D. in their book Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror. Thank you for listening to S1 – Ep.54 ▶️ http://bit.ly/chonillanetwork | Remember to Pass the plate & donate to https://bit.ly/passtheplatedonate ☻Tweet https://twitter.com/tsacpod and use the hashtag #TSACP while listening. – Join the Sherley & Clove podcast community on FB – Have a question or feedback; submit a five-star review on Apple Podcasts or Podchaser. You never know; we may read or play your msg on the show! – Email us: tsacpodcast@gmail.com☺

Cult survivors make great little worker bees (and I say this with a lot of love, respect, and a huge dose of sarcasm), at least in the minds of bosses; especially second and multi-generational survivors. But this is because we spent years working in an exploitative and abusive system that formed the basis for our work ethics. While I think that many bosses probably do admire the work ethic of their survivor employees (and they usually are not made aware of the employee's survivor status, because we often keep it hidden for fear of stigma), I think that there is little recognition of how the culture of the American workplace taps into and triggers the old wiring of survivors. So I wanted to do a post that explores and examines these things. Some resources mentioned: Investigative journalist and Conspirituality podcast cohost Matthew Remski's post The Goodness of a Cult Comes from Those it Abuses. Alissa A. Leisure Whitlatch, Ph.D.'s dissertation The Impact of Cult Membership on Career Development and Employment. Dr. Margaret Singer and Dr. Janja Lalich's book Cults in Our Midst: The Continuing Fight Against Their Hidden Menace. Edwin Herr and Stanley Cramer's book Career guidance and counseling through the lifespan: Systematic approaches. Dr. Janja Lalich and Madeline Tobais's book Take Back Your Life: Recovering from Cults and Abusive Relationships. Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence--From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror by Judith Herman. Complex PTSD: A syndrome in survivors of prolonged and repeated trauma by Judith Herman. A study called Posttraumatic stress disability after motor vehicle accidents: Impact on productivity and employment. A study called Independent living skills and posttraumatic stress disorder in women who are homeless: implications for future practice. Amanda Montell's book Cultish: The Language of Fanaticism. A 2019 Forbes article entitled, The Turbulent And Toxic State Of The Nation's Work Culture: What You Absolutely Must Know And Do. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/jen-kiaba/message

In Episode 16, we break down the basics of attachment theory and the various attachment styles. We discuss the difficulty of developing secure attachment within the Nexus, the role of disorganized attachment in fundamentalism, and the importance of understanding attachment needs for socialists.   SHOW NOTES Clementine's Substack Hand-Holding “Supportive Touch” Leads to Less Pain Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving, by Pete Walker The Traumatic Impact of Media Humiliation, Misrepresentation and Victim-Shaming on Narrative Identity and Well-Being, by Dr Christine Marie Terror, Love and Brainwashing Attachment in Cults and Totalitarian Systems, By Alexandra Stein The possibility of political pleasure: David Graeber In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, by Gabor Maté S3E2 of Groundings - 'The Revolution Can't Be Quarantined' with Steven Powers Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence -- From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror, by Judith Lewis Herman   extras on this topic: The Power of Attachment: How to Create Deep and Lasting Intimate Relationships, by Diane Poole Heller Attached: The New Science Of Adult Attachment And How It Can Help You Find--and Keep-- Love, by Amir Levine, Rachel Heller The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma, by Bessel van der Kolk, M.D. Disorganized Attachment is a Fucking Trip By Clementine Morrigan Anxious4Avoidant by Clementine Morrigan   Follow Fucking Cancelled on Patreon. Also check out Clementine's Patreon & Clementine's website. Theme song by ST x LIAM. Mixing and editing by Charlotte Dora. Free transcripts are added on Patreon as they become available. Send us hate mail at fckingcancelled@gmail.com.

This is part two of the fantastic interview with Professor Sam Vaknin. In this episode we talk about narcissistic abuse from a social perspective, and how we, as society members, deal with abusers and victims. We dive deep into the danger of labelling people, and discuss the idea of fluidity between the roles of victims and abusers.  What You Will Learn In This Episode: - The counterproductive tendency of isolating trait behaviours, labelling and medicalising - Regarding narcissism as a positive adaptation that has helped a child to survive - Are we all a part of a colossal victim community? - The differences in a relationship between narcissists and healthy people, and narcissists and codependents - How the confirmation bias and the saviour mentality affects the victims of narcissist abuse Accepting that many victims are never likely to abandon their abusers, Doctor Vaknin believes that people should be educated on self-defence, on how to create boundaries and react to abusive situations. Both the victim and abuser share the same source - they are children with wounded inner parts, utilising their survival tools.  Resources: -  Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence--From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror by Judith Lewis Herman - Malignant Self-Love: Narcissism Revisited by Sam Vaknin - Connect with Professor Sam Vaknin on LinkedIn, Instagram, and YouTube - Join my Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse   - Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/

Guest: Judith Herman, MD, formerly a full-time Professor in the Department of Psychiatry, at Harvard Medical School; and co-founder former Director of Training at the Victims of Violence Program in the Department of Psychiatry, at Cambridge Hospital, Cambridge, Massachusetts. She is the author of several books, including the groundbreaking book, Trauma and Recovery, The Aftermath of Violence – From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror.Discussion on the insidiousness and pervasiveness of domestic abuse – and the mistreatment of victims by the very people and institutions that should be protecting them. How these institutions have functioned for generations with impunity, including the Catholic Church, Hollywood, government and even the private sector. She explores what it is like for victims who suffer repeated abuse as well as institutional bias – where victims are treated with contempt by society, by the judicial system and even their own families.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-legal-edition/donations

In her early twenties, Michelle got involved with a charming guy who grew progressively controlling, abusive and physically violent. When she finally freed herself eight years later, her ordeal still wasn't over: another abusive relationship, sex trafficking and substance addiction lay ahead.  Today Michelle has a loving family and a thriving writing career. In this episode we talk about different types of safety, why leaving an abusive relationship is often a process of trial and error and about the importance of responsibilities in recovery. The book: Judith Herman's Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror We also mentioned Besser van der Kolk's The Body Keeps the Score: Mind, Brain and Body in the Transformation of Trauma and The Freedom Programme by Pat Craven Follow Michelle on Twitter @MKellyx81 If you enjoy the podcast, don't forget to subscribe, share and review. Follow us on Twitter @toughlovepc or on Instagram @missleonardis  

In this episode, we mentioned the following:Here's a bit more about trauma-sensitive yoga if you're interested in a quick overview: Trauma-Sensitive Yoga (Social Work Today Magazine)Michele's Trauma Sensitive Training 2020 (Livestream) beginning October 30, 2020The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk, MDA Pocket Guide to Polyvagal Theory by Stephen PorgesTrauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror by Judith Herman (Content Warning - Michele noted this text can be triggering to some)Waking the Tiger by Peter LevineMore about Dr. Peter Levine at the Somatic Experiencing® Trauma InstituteMy Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies by Resmaa MenakemThe Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World by Dalai Lama and Desmond Tutu

In which Carla talks about where she has been--in complex PTSD therapy and in major EDS flareup--and reviews the very best books she has read this year, in therapy and, of course, for fun. Much horror and true crime was enjoyed. Referenced Episodes: This Girl Just Had A Bad Date A Different World The Mill Girl Recommended Reading: CPTSD: Traumatic Stress: The Effects of Overwhelming Experience on Mind, Body, and Society by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk  The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk  The Trauma Tool Kit: Healing PTSD from the Inside Out by Susan Pease Banitt  Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror by Judith Lewis Herman  My five-star reading this year so far: Dream Work by Mary Oliver (poetry)  Three Early Stories by J. D. Salinger (short stories)  Hannah-Beast by Jennifer McMahon (horror—audio)  The Last Days of August by Jon Ronson (true crime—audio)  Possessed: The Infamous Texas Stiletto Murder by Kathryn Casey (true crime)  Amy: My Search for Her Killer by James Renner (true crime)  Come Closer by Sara Gran (horror)  The Perfect Child by Lucinda Berry (horror)  Please Don’t Go Before I Get Better by Madisen Kuhn (poetry)  I Thought It Was Just Me: Women Reclaiming Power and Courage in a Culture of Shame by Brené Brown (psychology: updated edition title: I Thought It Was Just Me (But It Isn't): Making the Journey From "What Will People Think?" to "I Am Enough")  How to Support Cupcakes: Sponsor: Audible Sponsor: Birchbox https://www.birchbox.com/invite/cupcakes Sponsor: Care/Of Vitamins https://takecareof.com/invites/chr4bw Patreon: Cupcakes Where to Find Cupcakes: Facebook Page: theremightbecupcakes Facebook Group: There Might Be Cupcakes Twitter: mightbecupcakes Instagram: theremightbecupcakes Host: theremightbecupcakes.podbean Goodreads: Goodreads podcast bookshelf. add Carla as a friend

In today's #WiseGirl podcast, I have the privilege of interviewing psychiatrist Dr. Judith Herman, incest and trauma expert. During our wide-ranging interview, Dr. Herman discusses how she first came to studying incest and trauma (believing her patients), Freud and psychiatry's history regarding women and incest, statistics around childhood sexual abuse, the importance of (survivors) being and feeling safe, what justice would ideally look like from the survivor/victim's perspective, and more. What's more, we talk about individual and collective trauma, the #MeToo and #TimesUp, feminism, and the culture of silence and what bystanders -- especially men who want to be allies -- can do to help. Dr. Herman is the author of Father-Daughter Incest; Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence--From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror; as well as her recent contribution to The Dangerous Case of Donald Trump: 27 Psychiatrists and Mental Health Experts Assess a President, released in 2017. More on Dr. Herman's work can be found here https://www.challiance.org/cha-services/victims-of-violence Dr. Herman's books on group work with survivors, can be found here: https://www.guilford.com/author/Judith-Lewis-Herman *** Dr. Herman's partial bio, excerpted from Wikipedia, is here: Judith Lewis Herman (born 1942) is an American psychiatrist, researcher, teacher, and author who has focused on the understanding and treatment of incestand traumatic stress. Herman is Professor of clinical psychiatry at Harvard University Medical School and Director of Training at the Victims of Violence Program in the Department of Psychiatry at the Cambridge Health Alliance in Cambridge, Massachusetts, and a founding member of the Women's Mental Health Collective.

RubyConf 2018 - Retrospectives for Humans by Courtney Eckhardt (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s7R7V5wC0wA) 01:16 – Courtney’s Superpower: Explaining things. 06:50 – Incident Response: How we talk to people how are are affected by incidents Other Great Incident Response GTC Episodes! * 088: The Safety 2 Dance with Steven Shorrock (https://www.greaterthancode.com/2018/07/11/088-the-safety-2-dance-with-steven-shorrock/) * 096: Resilience Engineering with John Allspaw (http://www.greaterthancode.com/2018/09/05/096-resilience-engineering-with-john-allspaw/) 13:52 – Disabilities in the Workplace and Professional Spaces 20:25 – The Tension Between Accessibility and Security 23:20 – Developing Coping Skills in Response to a Troubled Childhood / Combatting the Feeling of Being Othered 29:16 – Incident Retrospectives and Defensiveness as a Natural Instinct to Feedback 35:29 – Showing Vulnerability "In order to understand what another person is saying, you must assume it is true and try to imagine what it could be true of." - George Armitage Miller 43:56 – Emotional Response Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence--From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0465061710/ref=as_li_qf_asin_il_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=therubyrep-20&creative=9325&linkCode=as2&creativeASIN=0465061710&linkId=b3f61caa5c87c1f98f62945ec2d4a75c) Mental Health First Aid (https://www.mentalhealthfirstaid.org/) Reflections: John: Trauma doesn’t stay in the past. Trauma has a continuous effect on our lives. Coraline: Thinking about therapy and frame it as a blameless retrospective. Sam: Referring to “post mortems” as “retrospectives” and buying the book Agile Retrospectives. (Future book club episode?!) Jamey: Even if you’re not changing things in a higher level, you can still help on a direct level. Courtney: Group therapy and handling retrospectives. This episode was brought to you by @therubyrep (https://twitter.com/therubyrep) of DevReps, LLC (http://www.devreps.com/). To pledge your support and to join our awesome Slack community, visit patreon.com/greaterthancode (https://www.patreon.com/greaterthancode). To make a one-time donation so that we can continue to bring you more content and transcripts like this, please do so at paypal.me/devreps (https://www.paypal.me/devreps). You will also get an invitation to our Slack community this way as well. Amazon links may be affiliate links, which means you’re supporting the show when you purchase our recommendations. Thanks! Special Guest: Courtney Eckhardt.

In this episode of Birth Allowed Radio, we talk about obstetric violence, aggressive court orders, and the special trauma of early separation. My special guest is Lindsay Askins, a birth doula and birth photographer, and my partner in Exposing the Silence, a photography and interview project about birth trauma and obstetric violence. www.exposingthesilenceproject.com/ > The journey from doula to obstetric violence activist While acting in the role of birth photographer, Lindsay watched a mother fight to see her newborn baby after it was immediately taken from her by the medical staff. "She never even looked at the baby’s face. They just took it." Recently, a doula client had been given a court order to comply with a caesarean, despite having no medical indications that it was necessary. So many ethical and legal issues are raised when you witness birth. Sometimes mothers are not told anything about the procedures that are performed on them; informed consent is often not even an option. > What does obstetric violence and birth trauma look like? The common theme, when talking to women who have been subjected to obstetric violence, is the idea that they have no voice; they feel like no one is listening to them or including them in the discussion about their own birth. Another prominent theme in birth trauma has to do with separation of moms and babies at birth. Mothers want to be next to their babies – it is instinctual. Suppression of that biological urge can create very real bonding trauma. When breeding horses, it is well known that you would never touch a foal for at least 15 minutes post birth, unless absolutely necessary, to allow for proper bonding. Yet we don’t allow that same opportunity to human mothers. Lastly, there is a strong theme of objectification in these stories. Women feel like they are being acted upon, as if they are an inanimate object. They feel manhandled and as if things are happening to them without their knowledge or consent. Resources mentioned: Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence--From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror by Judith L. Herman WANT TO LEARN MORE? Go to www.birthmonopoly.com WANT TO CONNECT? Email: birthallowedradio@gmail.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/birthmonopoly Twitter: www.twitter.com/birthmonopoly Instagram: www.instagram.com/birthmonopoly WANT TO SUPPORT US? Review us on iTunes, SoundCloud, or wherever you listen to the podcast. Businesses and organizations: Underwrite the show! For more information, contact us at birthallowedradio@gmail.com We would love to thank attorney Susan Jenkins for her support in this podcast. Susan is a national advocate for midwives and birth activists. Susan can be reached at (866)686-1348.

Stamping Out the Stigma of Dissociative Identity DisorderDissociation appears to be... the internal mechanism by which terrorized people are silenced.~ Judith Lewis HermanShirley Davis - A client with significant emotional issues provides a first person account of her unusual recovery: She lives with a condition known as Dissociative Identity Disorder [DID] and today continues in therapy for almost three decades. She published three books on the subject and is an accomplished blogger as well as an acclaimed speaker. Her goal is to provide information for both the public and mental health professionals to raise awareness of the validity of DID and to help stamp out the stigma attached to it due to negative facts propagated by the media. Listen up as she also tells us about her daily struggles to connect, coalesce and manage her striking abundance of multiple personalities in the context of daily life. Dissociative Identity Disorder - NoteworthyThose who suffer from a dissociative identity disorder escape reality in ways that are involuntary and unhealthy. The person with a dissociative identity disorder experiences a disconnection and lack of continuity between thoughts, memories, surroundings, actions, and identity. Supportive References:http://geni.us/davis (Dissociative Identity Disorder In A Nutshell) by Shirley Davis, Global Amazon Link http://geni.us/bvanderkolk (The Body Keeps Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma), Bessel van der Kolk, Global Amazon Link http://geni.us/haddock (The Dissociative Identity Disorder Sourcebook) by Deborah Bray Haddock, Global Amazon http://geni.us/boon (Coping with Trauma-Related Dissociation: Skills Training for Patients and Therapists ) by Suzette Boon, Kathy Steele & Onno van der Hart, Global Amazon Link http://geni.us/paulsen (Looking Through The Eyes Of Trauma And Dissociation: An Illustrated Guide for EMDR Therapists and Clients) by Sandra Paulsen, Global Amazon Link Dissociative Identity Disorder - A Controversial Diagnosis, by Paulette Marie Gillig, Corresponding Author, https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2719457/ (PubMed Reference) http://geni.us/jherman (Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror)  by Judith Lewis Herman Global Amazon Link ---------- Connected CBJ Guest Interviews | Perspective & RecoveryMindset: http://corebrainjournal.com/mindset (http://corebrainjournal.com/mindset) ------------ Forward This Audio Message Link To a Friendhttp://corebrainjournal.com/144 (http://corebrainjournal.com/144) ----------- Davis Book Drawing ~ Dissociative Identity Disorder In A Nutshell: A First-Hand Account - Closed Sept. 6, '17https://corebrain.lpages.co/cbj-book-drawing-144-davis/ (- Drawing Here -)----------- ThanksUntil next time, thanks for joining us here at CBJ again to review this unusual clinical DID challenge - so often misunderstood. Have some feedback you'd like to share? Leave a note in the comment section below. If you enjoyed this episode, please share it using the social media buttons you see at the bottom of the post. Also, https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/corebrain-journal/id1102718140?mt=2 (please leave an honest review for the CoreBrain Journal Podcast on iTunes). Ratings and reviews are extremely helpful and greatly appreciated. Reviews do matter in the rankings of the show, and I read each one of them. If this post with these several references is helpful, please take a moment to pass it on. QuestionsIn closing, if you have any questions, drop a comment on any posting here at CBJ, and I'll get back to you. This discerning show of world-class experts is here for you, your families, and your clients - to tighten our collective dialogue for more precise answers. And finally, don't forget to subscribe to the show on http://corebrainjournal.com/itunes (iTunes )to get...

Anna Holtzman and Donna Jenson are the creators of Healing Feelings: Reconnecting Mind, Body and Voice – a writing workshop for survivors of incest and sexual abuse who experience chronic pain and other syndromesAnna Holtzman is a trauma-informed psychotherapist who helps clients repair the relationship between mind and body so they can release chronic pain and other syndromes for good. She uses her training in Somatic Experiencing, Nonviolent Communication, and the mind-body approach for healing chronic pain that was pioneered by Dr. John Sarno. Anna has been a facilitator for Curable Groups, a 12-week educational and support group program for chronic pain recovery. Her writing appears on The Good Men Project, Medium, and Mad in America and you can find her at www.annaholtzman.com . Donna Jenson is Founder and Director of Time To Tell – with a mission to spark stories from lives affected by incest and sexual abuse to be told and heard. Donna wrote and performs her one-woman play, What She Knows: One Woman's Way Through Incest to Joy, which is based on her own experience of surviving incest. She leads writing/mindfulness workshops for survivors interested in finding their voice and using it. She has performed her play and led workshops at correctional facilities, colleges, police departments, conferences for mental health professionals and sexual assault advocates, community organizations, and facilities with people in need of healing. Her book, Healing My Life from Incest to Joy, is a memoir of the choices she made and experiences she had that helped her heal from her childhood trauma. For more information go to www.timetotell.org In This EpisodeAnna's WebsiteDonna's WebsiteThe Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse, 20th Anniversary Edition, Ellen Bass, Laura DavisTrauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence--From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror, Judith HermanUnlearn Your Pain, third edition, Howard Schubiner,  Michael Betzold Healing My Life: from Incest to Joy, Donna JensonSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-trauma-therapist-podcast-with-guy-macpherson-phd-inspiring-interviews-with-thought-leaders-in-the-field-of-trauma/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Jen Warner, LICSW, LCSW, is my guest today. Jen is one of those therapists, one of those individuals, who is so passionate about her work (and compassionate, as you'll hear in this interview!), that after listening to her you walk away inspired. I certainly did. Jen is a Washington, Oregon, and New York State licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist with advanced training and certification in trauma-informed care and the treatment of trauma, as well as holistic health and nutrition. Additionally, Jennifer has taught on the subject of abuse and trauma at the graduate social work schools of Portland State University and Columbia University and has provided direct services to child and adult survivors of interpersonal violence including domestic violence, sexual abuse, and gun violence; supervised clinicians and graduate students on the provision of trauma-informed care; and was the crime victim social worker at the largest public hospital in the South Bronx before moving to the Pacific Northwest. *In This Episode* * Jennifer's Website ( http://www.jenwarnerhealth.com/ ) * Contact Jennifer ( http://www.jenwarnerhealth.com/contact-me1.html ) * Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence--From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror ( https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0465061710/ref=as_li_qf_asin_il_tl?creative=9325&creativeASIN=0465061710&ie=UTF8&linkCode=as2&linkId=2f68388dc7adc1c2933f6a20e3429eb4&tag=wescoatrapro-20 ) , Judith L. Herman * Trauma and the Body: A Sensorimotor Approach to Psychotherapy ( https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0393704572/ref=as_li_qf_asin_il_tl?creative=9325&creativeASIN=0393704572&ie=UTF8&linkCode=as2&linkId=9bb6ad3d95395665c05bfbb61cf8e334&tag=wescoatrapro-20 ) , Pat Ogden, Kekuni Minton, Clare Pain Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-trauma-therapist-podcast-with-guy-macpherson-phd-inspiring-interviews-with-thought-leaders-in-the-field-of-trauma/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands