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“i want to learn to be sober, but i want to drink at the same time.” there are other coaches who talk about this – about drinking and learning and drinking and learning and eventually give up the alcohol – it doesn't happen that way. ever. alcohol hijacks our ability to learn new things. i … Continue reading omm391.want.to.learn →

omm390.archiveofanger > if you have an archive of anger, then your anger will squirt out in the most inappropriate ways. and then you're mad at people who have done nothing, because it's triggered some original archived anger… [This audio clip is extracted from the archived podcast #396 – Anger & Grief > https://gumroad.com/l/sp389]   ~ … Continue reading omm390.archiveofanger →

omm389.superhighway > if you're newly sober, then it's like you're a little chick, walking around in tall grass. you are walking in a new place, unsure where to go. And all the while you are RIGHT beside a superhighway of booze that threatens to squish you. How do you move away from what you know, … Continue reading omm389.superhighway →

omm388.resistance > saturday morning. i was lounging in bed this  morning and thought, hey, i should do something productive. like get up? nah. i’ll record an audio from bed instead!  and this audio is  about feeling resistance to doing hard things, the origin of the ‘wolfie’ voice, and why you have to learn self-care (or else … Continue reading omm388.resistance →

omm387.moderation.doesnt.work > this audio is about mental health, compulsive behaviours, and how moderation doesn’t work. i share how reading an article in New York magazine about an author had me thinking the whole time: this is a story about addiction, compulsion, obsession. it’s so surprising how many times we go down the rabbit hole of … Continue reading omm387.moderation.doesnt.work →

omm386.decision.making > This audio is about how you make decisions. i talk about that feeling in the pit of your stomach when you’re trying to decide what to do. and how this is relates to quitting drinking and is maybe keeping you stuck. ~ my book > www.100daysoberchallenge.com free daily emails > https://www.tiredofthinkingaboutdrinking.com facebook > https://www.facebook.com/tiredofdrinking/ become … Continue reading omm386.decision.making →

omm385.how.proud.of.you > how proud of you must you be, for being sober, for looking at sober stuff right now? with all the things going on in the world? and you’re here, right now, working on this. isn’t that a cool thing? == this OMM is extracted from a longer podcast episode about Hope and Hopelessness … Continue reading omm385.how.proud.of.you →

omm384.dividing.line > you are in one of two camps: (1) “how can i make sure that never happens to me” or (2) “that’ll never happen to me.” there’s the line, right there. and if you think you’re in the ‘that’ll never happen to me’ camp, then you’re at risk. because the addictive voice speaks very … Continue reading omm384.dividing.line →

omm383.accidents > our head will use anything as a reason to drink. so what happens if you deny that you have a wolfie voice? well, that puts you at risk. and what if you think you drink because of external things (your spouse, the weather, the pandemic)? that puts you at risk, too. so how … Continue reading omm383.accidents →

omm382.personality.types > i received an email from penpal Romey about enneagram personality types, which i knew nothing about, so off i went researching, and came up with something super fascinating about those of us who are ‘helpers’ … oh and how if we don’t have good boundaries, this lovely trait can eat us alive! my book … Continue reading omm382.personality.types →

omm381.raking.leaves > how is raking leaves being sober? well, it’s like learning anything new. at first we don’t know anything. we do it wrong, we get blisters. and then we learn. then later it’s just normal … it’s all normal. my book > www.100daysoberchallenge.com free daily emails > https://www.tiredofthinkingaboutdrinking.com facebook > https://www.facebook.com/tiredofdrinking/ become a podcast subscriber, get all … Continue reading omm381.raking.leaves →

omm380.bit.by.bit > how do you do something large? the same way you do ANYTHING that’s large … you do it a day at a time. bit by bit. and boy, don’t we hate to hear that! but really, it’s how we’ve done this pandemic. we’ve done it day by day. nobody planned for it to … Continue reading omm380.bit.by.bit →

omm379.psychic.load > ok, a psychic load is the weight of things, in your head, like the ENERGY it takes to hold something in your mind. like when you’re drinking and trying to find a way out, the noise in your head is large. and when you’re drinking and lying about it? the psychic weight is … Continue reading omm379.psychic.load →

omm378.arguing.mean > email from Kimba (day 22): “This podcast rang true. Yesterday my husband spent time with his side of the family and came home and accusing me of hating his family (overdrinkers all). Truth was I had a repairman coming to fix a plumbing thing under the kitchen sink, and had been waiting for … Continue reading omm378.arguing.mean →

omm377.things.that.improve > If you keep going, moving away from day 1, then what kinds of things will improve? If you remove the booze, and allow for the transition time for things to get better, then what changes might you expect? What can you do NOW that you can’t do when you’re drinking? We get fixated on … Continue reading omm377.things.that.improve →

omm376.juggling.knives > we’re looking for a little boost, a bit of  dopamine, an adrenaline rush. and then we stack those on top of each other, push-push-push (up-up-up) and then we fall over into alcohol. not you. not you, of course. you’re here, doing this. [this 3-minute is an extract from a longer podcast called “Juggling Knives.”] ~ my … Continue reading omm376.juggling.knives →

omm375.truth > what happens when we’re not truthful about our drinking. we tell ourselves stories about being ‘not that bad’ or ‘it’s only on weekends’. and yet, we know something isn’t quite right. how does that kind of thinking affect us over time? the disconnect between what we want, and what we’re actually doing … … Continue reading omm375.truth →

omm374.rebuild > When we’re tired, then it’s easy to think that things are hopeless — so the question then becomes: how do you spend your limited emotional energy in any given day? This one-minute message (actually it’s more like three minutes) is an extract from Sober Podcast #383 “How to Rebuild Your Life.” hugs hugs … Continue reading omm374.rebuild →

omm373.husband.part.5 > i’ve been recording the AUDIO version of the amazon best selling mini-course about ‘how to quit drinking if your husband still drinks ($2 PDF version / $10 print version) > https://www.tiredofthinkingaboutdrinking.com/husband.htm. For today’s one minute message, you’re going to hear an extract from Part 5. if you are a podcast subscriber, you will … Continue reading omm373.husband.part.5 →

omm372.husband.part.2 > last week i started to record the AUDIO version of the amazon best selling mini-course about ‘how to quit drinking if your husband still drinks ($2 PDF version / $10 print version) > https://www.tiredofthinkingaboutdrinking.com/husband.htm. For today’s one minute message, you’re going to hear an extract from Part 2. if you are a podcast … Continue reading omm372.husband.part.2 →

omm371.husband.part.1 > i wrote an amazon best selling mini-course about ‘how to quit drinking if your husband still drinks’ ($2 PDF version / $10 print version) > https://www.tiredofthinkingaboutdrinking.com/husband.htm.  And i have just started to record the AUDIO version of the mini-course (on the hottest day of the year, with a lot of construction noise outside!). … Continue reading omm371.husband.part.1 →

omm369.socially.acceptable > why isn’t quitting drinking more socially acceptable? you don’t have to have lung cancer to quit cigarettes. you don’t have to declare bankruptcy to change your money stuff. == happy sober thursday to you. it is warm and summery here, not quite enough rain (brown grass), but not too hot (land of no … Continue reading omm369.socially.acceptable →

omm297.what.you.think.of.you > You can’t be so interested in what other people think of you, that you stop caring about what YOU think of you … so i sent out an email and said, “want to record an audio for me so I can put them all together so we can sound great?” and i got … Continue reading omm297.what.you.think.of.you →

omm368.sleep.food.bathing > any voice that isn’t saying ‘take good care of you’ is wolfie. and i recorded this one-minute message in response to this question: “How to hear the wolfie voice when you don’t think you can …” == happy sober monday. i had a busy catering weekend and today feels like sunday (slow getting … Continue reading omm368.sleep.food.bathing →

omm367.sober.supports.categories > we tend to pick ONE kind of support, and ignore other kinds. “why isn’t journaling and yoga enough?” you will ask. When really, you need some tools in each category. so what are the categories? ha. you thought i’d tell you here? I list them in this one-minute message (which is really more … Continue reading omm367.sober.supports.categories →

omm366.continuous.days.sober > if you fuck with your day count, your head knows that. there’s a little niggling voice in there that will give you a lot of grief. if you’re drinking ‘here and there’ then you’re not getting the benefits of sobriety. == happy sober Monday. we had our first in-a-restaurant meal today, with food … Continue reading omm366.continuous.days.sober →

omm365.new.radio.station > if you hear a voice in your head saying that you’re bad, lazy, worthless, a problem … it’s possible to get that voice to stop. when we’re sober, we can learn reframing skills. we can learn to hear new things, and to change the channel when the old radio station starts blaring its … Continue reading omm365.new.radio.station →

omm364.darkness > there is a hopelessness that can descend on us, like we’re trapped in a dark room and the windows have thick curtains and the doors are nailed shut. now, what if i told you that drinking MAKES this darkness happen? and when you remove the booze? you can begin to look around … … Continue reading omm364.darkness →

omm363.there.is.no.amount > there’s no amount of booze that’s worth a new day 1. you’ve worked hard to get yourself here. to give that up for a new day 1 means that you have to repeat all these days again. == happy sober thursday to you. today is a tuna sandwich for lunch day, followed by … Continue reading omm363.there.is.no.amount →

omm362.how.many.tools > “why do I have to use these sober tools when other people don’t have to?” To get the result you want, you’re going to use *whatever* it takes to get there, including sober tools you’ve dismissed up to now. you want the goal. you do the things. == happy sober wednesday. husband and … Continue reading omm362.how.many.tools →

omm.361.relapse.or.slip > does it matter what you call it? a relapse or a slip or a blip? our head can play lots of games with things like this. (at the end of this message, if you keep listening, I start laughing at the end.) == happy sober Tuesday to you. today is the first day … Continue reading omm361.relapse.or.slip →

omm358.news > ok, this one-minute message might not work. i mean the subject might not work. this seems like a risky thing for me to be saying… so as an experiment, i’m sending it to you. then based on feedback i’ll decide whether to release or not. listen and let me know. hugs, belle xo … Continue reading omm358.news →

omm357.gratitude > it could be worse, right? think of your ex-partner and then listen to this one-minute message. == happy sober friday from me. there is black forest cake in my future, you? hugs, belle xo ~ my book > www.100daysoberchallenge.com free daily emails > https://www.tiredofthinkingaboutdrinking.com facebook > https://www.facebook.com/tiredofdrinking/ become a podcast subscriber, get all the NEW audios … Continue reading omm357.gratitude →

This is my third official audio check-in from paris during the corona virus. This audio was recorded at the duckpond on my Sunday run, on March 29th, 2020. It’s about resilience, remembering the long game, doing what’s best for you, and impermanence… I’ll also send it also to podcast subscribers. If you’d like to see … Continue reading Sober Podcast 361 – Resilience →

Lydster asked me to talk about this: “Why does alcohol so darkly affect our mood. It fascinates me how having even one tiny drink would open just a teeny bit the can of extremely angry worms that live inside. Sometimes I wonder if I need them to all come out because that can must still … Continue reading Sober Podcast 088 – Angry Worms →

omm356.eliminate > so if you’re feeling wacky and wound up, especially in times like this, then what can you ELIMINATE that’ll make you feel better. alcohol, for sure, but what else? i share some suggestions in this one-minute message. == happy sober wednesday to you, thanks for being here, thanks for listening to the one-minute … Continue reading omm356.eliminate →

You know the wolfie voice, he says ‘drink, drink now.’ but what about the other voices? the ones that say “this is too hard” or “wah this isn’t worth it.” What happens when you realize that wolfie, the lying bastard, is really behind all of those voices. le sigh. then what? then we unload the … Continue reading Sober Podcast 035 – Everything Else is Wolfie →

it’s not your job to test your sobriety, to put yourself in weird situations, to “see if you’ll be ok.” it’s your job to keep your chick from getting squished. well that’ll make more sense when you listen to the audio ! == happy sober saturday. hugs, belle xo ~ my book > www.100daysoberchallenge.com free daily … Continue reading omm164.test.or.protect →

This podcast is about change. When we first quit drinking everything seems raw and wacky. And then over time, we change. The problem is, we can’t always see the changes. It’d be like trying to watch grass grow. Or watching flowers open. Or watching my hair turn grey strand by strand. Here’s what Cricket has … Continue reading Sober Podcast 100 – Oh Look You’ve Evolved →

This one is about longing for food, longing for crushes, longing to go home, and yearning for alcohol. I start by talking about a longing for a hot turkey sandwich and how that relates to being sober. COMMENTS: Jaded (Day 105): “I’m still amazed at this “longing” podcast. I can now put a name to that … Continue reading Sober Podcast 140 – Longing →

It’s been a while since I spoke with penpal #128, Kristi Coulter. At the time of this recording, she had a new book coming out (“Nothing Good Can Come From This” > https://amzn.to/2KmRaYa ) but the story of how she got to here has a lot to teach us sober folks … like, how do you deal … Continue reading Sober Podcast 260 – Kristi Coulter (2018) →