How’s Your Sex Life?

Why is finding someone I’m attracted to so hard? Are we ready to adopt? I want him to be a better kisser!    This week, the one and only Bob the Drag Queen answers your questions with Myisha for our season finale! The two talk about the importance of exploring your attraction and how to ask for the perfect kiss. Plus, Bob shares how a Grindr hook up turned into an instant connection.  Follow Bob the Drag Queen: @bobthedragqueen Pre-order Bob’s new book, Harriet Tubman: Live in Concert  Stay in touch with Myisha! Read her Real Love column for TIME, explore her Better Sex E-Zine, or follow her on Instagram @myishabattle   For a transcript of this episode, visit kcrw.com/sexlife

I want to leave my partner, but I feel guilty! When will I know I’m over my breakup? How do I find monogamous relationships as a gay man?  Luke Franchina is the internet’s favorite bestie. This week, he joins Myisha to talk about knowing when to leave a relationship and healing from a breakup. Plus, Luke shares what he learned about himself through his divorce.   Resources mentioned in this episode:  Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller  The Relationship Cure by John M. Gottman and Joan DeClaire    Follow Myisha: @myishabattle  Follow Luke Franchina: @lukefranchina  

How do I leave my cheating partner? Will I ever find love? Is there intimacy in non-monogamy?  Brandon Kyle Goodman returns to the show to help us get through this messy election week and to talk about their new podcast, Tell Me Something Messy. Myisha and Brandon get into why research is your friend in non-monogamy and how sexual liberation isn’t linear. Plus, Brandon shares what non-monogamy has taught them about love.  Tell Me Something Messy is part of iHeartMedia’s Outspoken Podcast Network. New episodes air weekly on Thursdays.  

How do I talk dirty? Are people actually having safe oral sex? How can I explore dating and sexuality in my 60s? Dr. Carol Queen is an author, sex-positive activist, and the staff sexologist at Good Vibes. This week she joins Myisha to take on your questions about dirty talk, anilingus, and exploring dating and sexuality in your 60s. Plus, hear which of your dating horror stories left us truly mortified.

Does listening to music during sex actually change the experience? I’m meeting my bestie’s boyfriend for the first time! Should I give up on dating?  Dylan Tupper Rupert explores the world of the Sunset Strip's most legendary rock n’ roll groupies in the newest season of KCRW’s Lost Notes. She joins Myisha to talk sex playlists and why she says f*** the dating scene. Plus, Dylan shares the dating mishap that still haunts her.  Follow Myisha: @myishabattle  Follow Dylan: @yaydylan Check out KCRW’s Lost Notes: Groupies on your favorite podcast app!

Am I just another scary straight guy? How do I find pleasure in a world that feels devastating? I’m yearning for intimacy! adrienne maree brown is an author and activist. Their latest book Loving Corrections is about the importance of holding people and systems accountable to create honest relationships. adrienne joins Myisha to talk about why men shouldn’t solely rely on other men for dating advice and yearning for connection.   Follow Myisha: @myishabattle  Follow adrienne maree brown: @adriennemareebrown P.S. This spooky season we want to hear all about your worst dates! Drop us an email or voice memo at sexlife@kcrw.org. We might feature your story on the show, you get to vent, and we'll keep you anonymous. It's a win win! For a transcript of this episode visit kcrw.com/sexlife

My partner isn’t interested in sex. My husband’s political views turn me off! How do I explain to my family that I’m nonbinary?  Tuck Woodstock explores the vast diversity of trans experiences on his podcast Gender Reveal. He joins Myisha to talk about navigating a conversation around sex when your partner is asexual. Plus, Tuck shares all the times his crushes have fizzled out.  P.S. What's the worst date you've ever been on? This spooky season we want to hear all about your bad dates. Share your story with us by dropping an email or voice memo at sexlife@kcrw.org and we might feature it on the show. You'll get to vent and we'll keep you anonymous. It's a win win!   Follow Myisha on Instagram: @myishabattle Check out Gender Reveal on your favorite podcast app! For a full transcript of this episode visit kcrw.com/sexlife 

Have you ever been catfished on a date, ghosted, or worse? This month we want to hear your dating horror stories. Drop us an email or voice memo at sexlife@kcrw.org and we might feature it on the show. We’ll keep you anonymous.  

Should I tell my friend I have feelings for them? Do I tell the guy I’m seeing that I had an OnlyFans? Is it time to leave my relationship? Jordan Gonsalves hosts But We Loved, a podcast that dives into queer history through conversations with LGBTQ+ elders. Jordan joins Myisha to talk about crushes on friends and toxic relationships. Plus, Jordan shares his dating horror story. Need sex or relationship advice? Drop Myisha an email or voice memo at sexlife@kcrw.org. We might answer your question in a future episode. Follow Myisha: @myishabattle Follow Jordan: @jor_gonsalves Check out But We Loved on your favorite podcast app. For a transcript of this episode visit kcrw.com/sexlife

I love kinky sex, but I need a break! Is faking an orgasm evil or generous? How do I get my libido back?  Author Brontez Purnell writes about sex and queerness. His book ‘100 Boyfriends’ was awarded the 2022 Lambda Literary Award in Gay Fiction. Brontez joins Myisha to talk kinky sex in midlife and if it’s ever okay to fake an orgasm. Plus, Brontez shares what he doesn’t tolerate in relationships. Need sex or relationship advice? Drop Myisha an email or voice memo at sexlife@kcrw.org. We might answer your question in a future episode. Follow Myisha: @myishabattle  Follow Brontez: @brontezpurnell For a transcript of this episode visit kcrw.com/sexlife

Why can’t people accept that you can be romantic and casual? I adore my partner, but our bedroom is dead… help! Should I tell my crush I like them or play it cool?   Dylan McKeever uses humor to talk about trans identity and queerness in her work. She joins Myisha to talk situationships and why non-monogamy isn’t for everyone. Plus, Dylan shares the best lesson she’s learned in relationships. Need sex or relationship advice? Drop Myisha an email or voice memo at sexlife@kcrw.org. We might answer your question in a future episode. Follow Myisha: @myishabattle  Follow Dylan: @deemakes For a transcript of this episode visit kcrw.com/sexlife

My ex-friend is hooking up with my brother-in-law! Will I regret having sex with only one person my whole life? Is it okay to get back in touch with an old flame? Matteo Lane and Nick Smith are comedians, frenemies, and hosts of the I Never Liked You Podcast. They join Myisha to talk about redefining monogamy and revisiting an old hookup. Plus, Matteo and Nick share their funniest sex mishaps.  Need sex or relationship advice? Drop Myisha an email or voice memo at sexlife@kcrw.org. We might answer your question in a future episode. Follow Myisha: @myishabattle  Follow Matteo: @matteolane Follow Nick: @nicksmith09 Check out I Never Liked You on your favorite podcast app!  For a transcript of this episode visit kcrw.com/sexlife 

I’m sick of dating apps but it’s hard to meet people in person! How do I talk to my partner about his porn habits without sounding like a prude? And when do I pose the infamous: ‘what are we?’  Tomás Mier, Rolling Stone journalist and pop culture content creator, talks Only Fans and queer dating with Myisha. Plus, he shares his own dating standards including when to bring a partner to family dinner.  Need sex or relationship advice? Drop Myisha an email or voice memo at sexlife@kcrw.org. We might answer your question in a future episode. Follow Myisha: @myishabattle  Follow Tomás: @tomas_mier For a transcript of this episode visit kcrw.com/sexlife

I’m new to dating other women! Is it ok to look for traits my ex had in future partners? How do I deal with an ex who keeps sending me mixed signals?    Amber Whittington, aka AmbersCloset, is a content creator and LGBTQ+ activist. This week, she joins Myisha to talk about being true to yourself as a baby gay. Plus, Amber shares how an ex helped her through her grief.    Read the full transcript kcrw.com/sexlife  Need sex or relationship advice? Drop Myisha an email or voice memo at sexlife@kcrw.org. We might answer your question in a future episode. Follow Myisha: @myishabattle  Follow Amber: @amberscloset

Is my sex vanilla just because I don’t want a threesome? My ‘no strings attached’ sex life is not as fulfilling as I thought. I don’t want to be a sex doll! How do I navigate external validation and what I really want? Tracy Clark-Flory explores desire in her book Want Me and weekly newsletter. This week, she joins Myisha in tackling personal versus external desires. Plus, Tracy gives advice to her younger self.  Need sex or relationship advice? Drop Myisha an email or voice memo at sexlife@kcrw.org. We might answer your question in a future episode. Follow Myisha: @myishabattle  Follow Tracy: @tracyclarkflory Read the full transcript on our website: kcrw.com/sexlife

I don’t see my friends unless I organize the hangout and I’m over it! How can I rebuild my connection to my long-distance bestie? My friend thinks I betrayed them, help!  This week we’re answering your friendship dilemmas with Ann Friedman, co-author of Big Friendship: How We Keep Each Other Close. Plus, Ann shares ways to support your friends who are in lousy relationships.  Read the full transcript here.  Need sex or relationship advice? Drop Myisha an email or voice memo at sexlife@kcrw.org.  We might answer your question in a future episode.

Author and activist Virgie Tovar is back with her own questions about sex dreams, perimenopause, and masturbating in the sun. Plus, Virgie shares how she got over her sexual hang ups. Visit the podcast feed for part one of our conversation with Virgie about dating cis men, fatphobia, and unrequited crushes.  Need sex or relationship advice? Drop Myisha an email or voice memo at sexlife@kcrw.org. We might answer your question in a future episode. Follow Myisha: @myishabattle Follow Virgie Tovar: @virgietovar For a transcript of this episode visit our website: kcrw.com/sexlife

How do I get over someone I never dated? I date cis men and fatphobia is our unwelcome third wheel.  Virgie Tovar (author, activist, and weight-based discrimination expert) gives advice in the first of this two part episode! We talk about the pain of unrequited crushes and setting boundaries as a plus-size dater. Need sex or relationship advice? Drop Myisha an email or voice memo at sexlife@kcrw.org. We might answer your question in a future episode. Follow Myisha: @myishabattle Follow Virgie Tovar: @virgietovar For a transcript of this episode visit our website: kcrw.com/sexlife 

I want to be more than friends with benefits! How do I keep things romantic with my spouse? Is pegging in my future?  KCRW DJ Rocio ‘Wyldeflower’ Contreras dishes advice. We talk about when to walk away from being friends with benefits, the importance of setting aside one-on-one time with your spouse, and one listener’s pegging guilt. Plus, Ro shares why she appreciated her single era.  P.S. We’re taping a special friendship episode of the podcast. What advice do you need about the friendships in your life? Drop us an email at sexlife@kcrw.org with friendship in the subject line. We'll keep you anonymous.  Follow Myisha: @myishabattle  Follow Ro aka Wyldeflower: @wyldeflower For a transcript of this episode visit our website: kcrw.com/sexlife 

Is there such a thing as too much masturbation? How can I talk to my partner about reigniting our intimacy? My husband’s sex drive is gone and he doesn’t want to talk about it! Cindy Gallop, founder of Make Love Not Porn, gives advice. We talk about the panic people feel when it comes to masturbation, how intimacy is about more than having sex, and how sex changes as you get older. Plus, Cindy shares her go-to sexual fantasy.   Need sex or relationship advice? Drop Myisha an email or voice memo at sexlife@kcrw.org. We might answer your question in a future episode.   Follow Myisha: @myishabattle  Follow Cindy Gallop: @cindygallop Follow Make Love Not Porn: @makelovenotporn   For a transcript of this episode visit our website: kcrw.com/sexlife   

Today we’re sharing an episode from our friends at Dear Prudence, Slate’s advice podcast. In this episode, host Jenée Desmond-Harris is joined by Dan Savage, host of the Savage Lovecast. The two get into how to tell your sibling you think they’re in an emotionally abusive marriage, how to share with your parents you’re omnisexual, and how to approach a serious relationship with someone who lets her pre-teens sleep in her bed.   

What dating app should I use? How do I talk to my partner about using sex toys together? How can I explore my sexuality as someone who had no sex ed?  Anna Lee, co-founder and CEO of Lioness, takes a break from engineering smart vibrators to dish advice. We talk about why you should see sex toys as collaborators, not competitors and how to move past sexual mishaps. Plus, Anna shares how her career has helped her learn to enjoy her body.  Read the full transcript on our website. Need sex or relationship advice? Drop Myisha an email or voice memo at sexlife@kcrw.org. We might answer your question in a future episode.    Follow Myisha on IG: @myishabattle  Anna Lee: @annaisaverage Lioness Health: @lionesshealth  

I'm scared to date women my age! Is zodiac compatibility real? My partner isn't into astrology like I am, are we a bad match? Astrologer Isa Nakazawa weighs in.  

Can women initiate sex? I'm thinking of breaking my celibacy, but men scare me. How do I set boundaries with my parents about my sex life?

How can I get my husband to do foreplay? I'm tired of my wife turning me down for sex. Is squirting real? Sex educator Emily Nagoski answers your questions. 

How do I get more comfortable with dirty talk? What type of person ghosts someone? What type of person gaslights? And I can only orgasm with a vibrator — am I alone?  Comedian Heather Chelan gives advice and talks about choosing honesty over ghosting, learning not everyone comes from penetrative sex, and how she's finally having shame free sex.  Read the full transcript here. Need advice for your love life? Send Myisha an email or voice memo at sexlife@kcrw.org. You'll be kept anonymous.  

How do I talk to my wife about my desires? I'm a 51-year-old virgin and I don't know where to start! And is there sex after divorce? 

This week Myisha and Jonathan Bastian, host of KCRW's Life Examined, dig into the science of love and heartbreak.  

Is monogamy or my sexual fantasy the problem? How common is a sexless marriage? I'm Gen X, why are young people trying to date me? 

How do I stop dating avoidant people? I'm grieving the death of my partner. Will I connect with someone sexually ever again? And the art of sex magic. 

Hormone therapy has tanked my libido, but I'm hornier than ever! How can I stay creative in my kinky relationship? 

How to deal with trust issues? Am I terrible for thinking my partner isn't hot anymore? How do I tell someone I hooked up with that I just want to be friends?

How to enjoy intimacy again after a miscarriage? How to handle mismatched libidos in long term relationships? And getting turned off by messy sex. 

How can I nurture my bisexuality in a straight passing relationship? How do I reconcile my sexual fantasies with my beliefs? Plus learning new bedroom skills.

How do I navigate casual dating? How do I get over my ex? And is dating possible when I'm asexual?

How to deal with sex and chronic pain? When to bring up a mental health condition in a relationship? And the best and worst parts of dating with a disability. 

Where to watch feminist porn? Do women actually like roleplay? Holly Randall, host of the Holly Randall Unfiltered podcast, talks porn literacy and shares her hot takes on porn tropes. 

How to deal with a bad kisser? How soon is too soon to take a relationship exclusive? And how to stay close with long distance friends. KCRW DJ Tyler Boudreaux joins us to dish advice and share her Top 3 love songs.

Sam Sanders, co-host of Vibe Check, drops in for our final episode of the season! Sam gives advice on disclosing STIs, separating sex from your self-worth, and he chats with Myisha about what he's tired of hearing on first dates.  We'll be back in the new year! Be sure to follow the show to be notified when new episodes drop. Got questions about solo sex, finding your sexual self, relationships, or friendship woes? Drop us an email at sexlife@kcrw.org. Be sure to include some background info and your question may be answered on the show.

Damona Hoffman, host of the Dates & Mates podcast, drops by to answer your questions alongside Myisha. Should you lie about your age on dating apps? What are the pros and cons of changing your last name when getting remarried as a widow? Plus we dig into Bumble's list of dating trends to expect in 2024! 

Why isn't there a Viagra type drug for women? What happens when your porn habits impact your dating life? When it comes to sex the answers aren't always so simple. 

How do you explore a nature kink? Why does playing hard to get work? How do you talk to your partner about unprotected sex? This week Myisha answers questions speed round style at On Air Fest!  Read the full transcript here.  Got a question for Myisha? Send an email or voice memo to sexlife@kcrw.org with some background info and your question may be answered on the show.