Ruby Slipper Syndrome

During this episode of Ruby Slipper Syndrome, Charity and Toni simply check-in and check-up with one another while discussing their current state of mind and how they've seen growth in their spiritual walk and everyday lives, while navigating through the recent trials of life with a commitment to keeping a positive mindset. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Toni might be missing in action this week, but in this episode Charity interviews Jared Crowley about his past dating history and the proactive steps he's currently taking to break the cycle of running to relationships for affirmation... straight up Ruby Slipper Syndrome stuff. Jared gives us hope that their are good men out there, willing to do the tough business of addressing their destructive dating habits. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Before Charity and Toni met the men of their dreams they participated in what their dad calls "divorce practice", or more commonly known as dating. They had some really interesting relationships that taught them A LOT. In this multiple episode series they discuss three specific types of dating relationships - Destructos, Good Not Greats, and the ONE(s). In covering this topic we're hoping that someone, somewhere can learn from our mistakes and find some wisdom in navigating the mental and emotional mind-field of dating. In this episode Charity and Toni recall the relationships that were good, but not God. And though these relationships may not have bee obviously wrong, these were the ones the could have sneakily destroyed God's destiny and promise for their lives. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

WE'RE BACK!!!!! And we got a good one for you! Before we met the men of our dreams we participated in what our dad calls "divorce practice", or more commonly known as dating. We had some really interesting relationships that taught us A LOT. In this multiple episode series we will discuss three specific types of dating relationships - Destructos, Good Not Greats, and the ONE(s). In covering this topic we're hoping that someone, somewhere can learn from our mistakes and find some wisdom in navigating the mental and emotional mind-field of dating. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Today we interview one of our favorites, Barbara Benigno.  Yes, she's a few years older than us, but so what?!?!  It's good to have friends in all age ranges, as it widens your gaze and gives you greater perspective.  And boy we can learn a lot from Barb.  She's been through the Ruby Slipper Syndrome a time or two, but she keeps on trucking.  She's proof that to stay forever young you just gotta keep on growing.  #goals --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

No one likes to talk about sin, but honestly it's what defines the state of humanity.  We are a bunch of broken beings in desperate need of help.  Sometimes sin is a hard one to pin down, as it's a slippery slope that starts out as fun and games and eventually turns to terrible. But, the good news is that there is a way of redemption for us all.  In this episode we talk about some of the sin that has been problematic for us and the root sources of that sinful actions.  Sounds like fun, right? 1 John 1:9 |  Romans 3:23-24 | Matthew 7:3 | Psalm 51:1-2 | Luke 6:45 | 1 John 1:6 | 1 Peter 2:24 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Everyone needs a check up from time to time. You know... to see where you're at, how much progress you've made, and to investigate alternate treatment plans if necessary.  Well, this is our check up. We've come to realize we don't have this whole Ruby Slipper Syndrome thing figured out yet, despite having made great progress.  So it's good to check and let you all know where we are at.  And while discussing our progress we decided to take a look at one of our favorite Biblical examples for trail and error - Joshua and the people of Isreal making their way in the promise land.  They had some major victories and some set backs while working there way into their promise, so why wouldn't we look to them as a source of information.  So much to glean from them - Joshua 3-8.   --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

One of the Prime Ruby Slipper Syndrome “symptoms” is adding and adding and adding to your life when what you already had was plenty, maybe even too much already.  Whether that addition is people, projects, or possessions RSS makes us believe we need more.  So we stack on, until we can't manage and we collapse under the weight of it.  Don't get us wrong, there are times when doing extra is necessary but that extra, better lead to a time of rest and peace.  Toni and Charity discuss how they are CURRENTLY dealing with this, as this might just be one of the symptoms that will never leave them.   ***And in the spirit of doing too much... if you'd like to contact us and possibly be featured on the show leave us a Voicemail at (913) 717-6140.  Or shoot us an email - contactus@rubyslippersyndrome.com.  We want to hear from you about possible episodes and how the Ruby Slipper Syndrome has effected you (the actual syndrome not the show).   --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

When dealing with the Ruby Slipper Syndrome, one can find that negativity seems to rule.  It rules the heart, mind, thoughts, and eventually that negative comes oozing out somehow and that somehow is usually through words.  And despite the initial relief of a good “word vomit” eventually those words come back to bite! Charity & Toni are by no means master tongue tamers, but they are trying their best.  And in their effort, they've learned some things that you might just find helpful. So let's tackle this ugly symptom together.  Book Reference - The Bait of Satan: Living Free from the Deadly Trap of Offense by John Bevere Proverbs 18:21 | Romans 1:28-31 | 1 Peter 3:10 | Colossians 4:6 | Ephesians 4:29 | Proverbs 10:19 | Proverbs 15:28 | James 1:19-26 | James  3:5-10 | Proverbs 15:1-2 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Let's be real, marriage is too important to only have one episode, so yeah we're talking Marriage again.  This time we're talking about some of best practices - like prayer and devotion time as a couple, knowing your spouses love language, practicing love and respect and everyone's favorite topic... SEX.  I know!  So if you're married, plan on getting married, wish you were married, or just want to hear about this topic from a married person's perspective, this is the episode for you! Book References: The 5 Love Languages:  The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman Love & Respect:  The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs by Emerson Eggerichs Sheet Music:  Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage by Kevin Leman (Haven't read this yet, but we've heard great things). 1 Corinthians 7:5 | 1 Corinthians 7:9 | Ephesians 5:22-17 | Matthew 19:4-6 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Marriage... Marriage is what brings us together today (think Princess Bride)... But, yeah that's what we're talking on this episode. This ride is a thing of beauty and struggle, especially when you're trying to do it right but, it's a ride we'll never get off. Toni & Charity talk about what they have learned in their marriages and how they've worked to grow, accept, and appreciate this blessed covenant between God and man. Book Reference - Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas Genesis 2:24 | 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 | Provers 21:9 | Colossians 3:14 | Ephesians 5:25 | Ephesians 5:33 | Colossians 3:18-19 | Mark 10:6-9 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Parents - for some they are the worst and for others they are the best.  But regardless of whether you love 'em or hate 'em, your being an adult doesn't mean they vanish.  Parents are ALWAYS a part of our lives to some degree and we've come to find that how you respond, relate, and understand them will determine whether your days are rough or wondrous.  Charity & Toni talk about how their relationship with their parents evolved over the years and how that relationship might have been one of the most integral in getting them through the Ruby Slipper Syndrome.  So let's dig up some memories shall we? Book Reference - Boundaries:  When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud & John Townsend Exodus 20:12 | Ephesians 6:1-24 | Provers 29:15 | Provers 1:8-9 | Hebrews 12:7-11 | Malachi 4:6 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

So excited to share one of our “lifers”with you today - Bernie! He's one of Charity & Toni's shared “lifers” so we thought he could give a lot of thought and insight into the importance of the lifer role. We've know Bern for over 20 years, and in those years we have all grown up and changed, yet we've maintained the depth of our relationship despite distance, death, marriage, and children because we were willing to allow our relationship to evolve. When you find the real thing, hang on to it! Check us out on Instagram & Facebook for some pics of us growing up with Bern (he's single ladies)! Charity - @charitymozafari & Toni - @toni_poston --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

There is a time and place for everything, and sometimes that includes friendships. Not all friendships are meant to last forever. Embracing that reality will help us better respect and love the people placed in our life for specific seasons. Despite the fact that some relationships are seasonal, their worth and value is still great. In this episode we talk through knowing when a seasonal relationship is good, bad, timely or really eternal. Proverbs 22:24-25 | Proverbs 13:20 | Colossians 3:12-14 | John 15:12-15 | Proverbs 27:17 | Proverbs 12:26 | Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

No one can go through the Ruby Slipper Syndrome alone, and if you think you can, your kidding yourself. Relationships are a remedy! In this episode we focus on the type of ride-or-die relationships we call "Lifers" - those that withstand the test of time and that you know will always be in your corner. The people that you don't even have talk to often, but you consider them your people until the end of time. We've found that these critical relationships have some specific traits in common and that they all avoid some specific attitudes. Hats off to the Lifers, as we talk through what makes them, what breaks them, and keeps them. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 | Ecclesiastes | Proverbs 17:9 | Provers 18:24 | Provers 27:9 | Romans 12:10 | 1 Peter 4:8-10 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

With a brand new year (FINALLY) coming our way, we thought it keen to discuss how the Ruby Slipper Syndrome affects goal setting and resolutions. Charity and Toni talk through the positives and negatives of the "hyperactive planning" approach and the "let it ride" approach. And of course, come to the conclusion that balance is best when it comes to the New Year. Books Referenced: How People Grow by Henry Cloud & John Townsend Your Best Year Ever by Michael Hyatt THE BEST PLANNER EVER (if you're anything like Charity) - Full Focus Planner by Michael Hyatt Proverbs 21:5 | Luke 14:28-33 | Proverbs 16:9 | Proverbs 3:5-6 | Habakkuk 2:2 | Matthew 6:34 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

This is a fun one, let's be honest. Who doesn't enjoy a shopping spree when you're feeling down? Lord knows we have engaged in this behavior a time or two... or three... or four. And if we're to be honest it's usually because we were trying to self-medicate a larger issue, generally discontentment or insecurity. Regardless of how fun it is, it can really be an incredibly destructive symptom of the Ruby Slipper Syndrome. If you want to overcome this sucker check out: https://www.daveramsey.com/fpu Hebrews 13:5 | Proverbs 22:7 | Proverbs 13:11 | Luke 12:15 | 1 Timothy 6:17-19 If you want to see pictures of Toni's dreaded Mustang, or Charity's $3K extensions check us out on Instagram. @charitymozafari & @toniposton --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Depression... does anyone really like to talk about it? NO! But we're going to, as it's one of the worst symptoms of the Ruby Slipper Syndrome. We're gonna share what started us down that slippery, dark road of depression, what kept us there, how we finally got out, and how we've managed to stay out. It's a constant battle but it can be won, day by day, through some simple practices - correct expectations, getting out of your own head, community, and thanksgiving. If you would like help getting through yourself, here is a great resource for you... https://www.vulnerablechoicecounseling.com Psalm 34:17-18 | Psalm 40:2 | Matthew 11:28-30 | 1 Peter 5:7 | Proverbs 3:5-6 | Proverbs 3:5-6 | Philippians 4:6-8 | John 10:10 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

The Ruby Slipper Syndrome? What are we talking about here? Host, Charity Mozafari, breaks down that this foe syndrome is, how we came to the conclusion that we had it, and how we're going to treat it. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Hosts, Charity Mozafari & Toni Poston, discuss their personal journeys to diagnosing and discovering this fictitious Ruby Slipper Syndrome and how it was effecting their lives. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app