Giuliana Hazelwood's Bedside Manner

Welcome back to the Bedside Manner Universe! After a long break and a little redecorating, we are back in action with a format change! Inspired by my studies in Narrative Medicine at Columbia University, I'm asking my guests to step into the BMU to discuss a piece of art that inspires a little humanity in their clinical work. Each episode we'll unpack the movies, books, movies, artistic tropes, and iconic artists that influence the way we practice medicine. Today we're talking about Tracy Chapman with the legendary Seanna Sifflet, LAc, MSW. I met Seanna in acupuncture school, where she supervised me as an intern during the height of the pandemic. Week after week, I watched Seanna show up for us with the salt-of-the-earth kind of warmth and understanding that leaves you feeling like an angel just handed you a big bowl of chicken soup with a hefty side order of belly laughs and a huge hug. In this episode: caregiver burnout lack of supervision in the acupuncture world making mistakes and saying sorry how music helps us be better clinicians Show Notes: Seanna's Tracy Chapman Playlist Seanna's Virtual Office Hours Seanna's CEU Courses: The Compassionate Provider: A Compassionate Approach to Connection and Communication in the Therapeutic Relationship BONUS: Forgiveness Practice for Caregivers Meditation & Worksheet (FREE!)

hey cutie. it's my absolute pleasure to bring Jake Ernst onto the Bedside Manner stage today, as he's one of my favorite public voices in healthcare right now. I knew I loved Jake while listening to Episode 2 of his fabulous podcast This Isn't Therapy, when he and his co-host Simon took the time to celebrate the work and contributions of Carly Rae Jepsen in the same breath as laying down some serious insight on the inner workings of human relational dynamics. in short, Jake is my kind of person, and i have a feeling he will be your kind of person by the end of this dream of an episode. you'll love this ep if you like talking about: balancing how much of your personal self you bring into your profession the Instagram of it all our personal discomforts as entry points to helping others in clinical practice the freedom of not diagnosing patients what grown ups can learn from kids the intersection of art and health working in a feelings-phobic society embracing softness, complexity, and nuance as an antidote to hardness doing the work that once was seen as a community's worth of care how we learn and heal in relationship to one other the secret competitive interior design fiend that apparently lives within all of us Jake's Soft Powers: refusing to be just one thing // embracing the moment // kindness + compassion On Jake's Nightstand: The Redecor App Clubhouse ~ CONTACT INFO ~ Jake: IG // @mswjake PODCAST // This Isn't Therapy WEB // mswjake.com Moi: IG // @bedside.manner WEB // bedsidemannerunniverse.com TW // @bedsidemannerxo if you feel like it, i'd love to know more about your crush, your soft powers, and who you'd like to hear from in upcoming episodes. drop me a line! i'm an extrovert in lockdown and i always love hearing from you. and, lastly, if you feel so inclined by all means leave a 5-star review for this podcast on Apple Podcasts x

hello there! enchanté, sweet, lovely listeners. it's my sincere pleasure to present you this episode, which is all about my favorite thing: BEAUTY. the star of today's show visited us from Heaven (yes, *the* Heaven) to talk about how skincare and beauty can transform us on the very deepest level. that heavenly star goes by the name Sandra Lanshin Chiu, who you might know as a renowned acupuncturist and herbalist specializing in skin conditions. we talked for nearly three hours, and covered so much ground, so i think there's something in here for everyone. the first half of the episode focuses on the nuts-and-bolts of Sandra's treatment and diagnostic process, and then we get more esoteric as we pivot into the second half, where we talk more broadly about beauty as an ethos, appropriation of Chinese Medicine, and the way we talk to ourselves. ps: Sandra even has a very gracious and hopeful take on influencers, which makes me feel a little less bad about the internet, which is a task only few have managed to pull off, and further proof that we are dealing with the realest of real ones today. heads up, there's another long intro to this episode, so if you want to cut straight to Sandra's brilliance, the interview starts at around 18:00. but if you stick around for the intro, you'll have the pleasure of listening to me fumble around with a metaphor linking beauty routines to beans. yep! beans. you'll love this episode if you are interested in: how the profession forces us to stay inside a place of personal reflection developing a specialty within the field of acupuncture skincare as a gateway for taking care of your body, and beauty as a gateway for….everythinnnnng

we are back in business BABE! after my dramatic medical leave, i have a lovely show for you, starring psychotherapist and queer icon Asher Pandjiris. we get right into it re: eating disorder treatment, queering the dogmatic paradigms that do ED patients more harm than good (ugh, gonna be a pass from me honey!), and i share a bit more about my own eating disorder recovery. (i.e. looooong intro alert) you will love this epi if you are interested in: improving eating disorder treatment art as a gateway drug for investigating people's interior worlds how art-making itself mirrors the non-linear process of healing relational psychology exploring barriers to embodiment helping others when you have a chronic illness Asher's fabulous podcast Living In This Queer Body Asher's Soft Powers: humor & levity // being able to see and integrate multiplicity // curiosity On Asher's Nightstand: Marlee Grace's Getting to Center Ssdiya Hartman's Wayward Lives, Beautiful Experiments: Intimate Histories of Riotous Black Girls, Troublesome Women and Queer Radicals Dean Spade's MUTUAL AID: BUILDING SOLIDARITY DURING THIS CRISIS (AND THE NEXT) Esther Rashkin's Family Secrets and the Psychoanalysis of Narrative Billy-Ray Belcourt's A History of My Brief Body Jenna Wortham and Kimberly Drew's Black Futures ~ CONTACT INFO ~ Asher: IG // @livinginthisqueerbody WEB // www.asherpandjiris.com Moi: IG // @bedside.manner WEB // bedsidemannerunniverse.com TW // @bedsidemannerxo if you feel like it, i'd love to know more about your crush, your soft powers, and who you'd like to hear from in upcoming episodes. drop me a line! and by all means leave a 5-star review for this podcast on Apple Podcasts x

it's my absolute pleasure to welcome Colin Bedell to the stage today, and boy oh BOY has he illuminated Bedside Manner Universe with his signature eloquence, warmth, and intellectual generosity. Colin (who you may know as QueerCosmos) is my favorite astrologer, and an astute academic who infuses relational dialectic theory, psychological literature, queer theory (and much, much more) into his masterful teachings of astrology. if you love Esther Perel, Brené Brown, Judith Butler, or Britney Spears, then honey you are going to love this show! his insights on human nature are so relevant to all of us in caregiving roles, and he delivers them with his signature eloquence and grace from start to absolute finish. In this episode, we discuss: how Colin put the Queer in QueerCosmos pulling from “unrelated” parts of your former lives/education and applying it to your approach in caregiver the right we have as caregivers to question existing paradigms how astrology can contextualize relationships using the transformational power of polarity dialectics proving theory with data the evidence i ALWAYS wanted for how morning routines can determines the quality of our relationships power within/power with/power over/power to why i, personally, am not doomed bc of my natal chart the power of not leaning on certainty, and practitioners weaponizing certainty how Colin transformed his self-deception what queerness teaches us about the complexity of relationships and compatibility historical preservation and queer icons deficit vs. strength methodology Colin's Soft Powers: levity // curiosity // responsibility ~ SHOW NOTES ~ Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence Esther Perel on Soft Skills Judith Butler's Gender Trouble On Colin's Nightstand: Relating: Dialogue and Dialectics by Leslie A. Baxter and Barbara M. Montgomery ~ CONTACT INFO ~ Colin: IG // @queercosmos WEB // queercosmos.com Moi: IG // @bedside.manner WEB // bedsidemannerunniverse.com TW // @bedsidemannerxo if you feel like it, i'd love to know more about your crush, your soft powers, and who you'd like to hear from in upcoming episodes. drop me a line! and by all means leave a 5-star review for this podcast on Apple Podcasts x

my darlings, it's gonna be a quickie from me this week, since i'm still in full-on prep mode for the big scary exams i have in a week's time. today's mini episode (calling it a quick cuddle is just more fun, isn't it?), is a chance to ask YOU (yes, you!) one of my favorite questions. and you'll just have to listen to see what it is! i'll meet you back here -- same time same place -- on 12/21 after these godforsaken tests have become but a distant memory, and we can enjoy new, full-length episode with a super special guest x ~ SHOW NOTES ~ The Soft Power Nightstand (leave us a recommendation!) Soft Power Playlist (add a song!) ~ CONTACT INFO ~ Moi: IG // @bedside.manner TW // @bedsidemannerxo WEB // bedsidemanneruniverse.com ps: if you feel so inclined, please subscribe and review giuliana hazelwood's bedside manner on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and other less famous places to listen to podcasts. please note i only accept 5 stars. and, as always, let me know if you need anything x

just between us girls? i have a capital-S SHOW for you this week! and the star of said show is Michael McMahon, a multidisciplinary clinician, educator, and founder of Moving Mountain Institute. he was kind enough to pop into the Bedside Manner Universe to have a little chat about my favorite things: the human body, touch, connection, art, and the imagination. this is a little extra-long, extra special eppy to tide you over before i go on my self-induced mini hiatus to find love once and for all. oops, i mean study for my 2nd year comps exams. see you in a few weeks honey! xoxo mike's osteopathic roots and his long windy road of being on “the helper path” polyvagal theory!! (this comes in at the end) touch and listening hands, baby the clinical and practical power of the imagination mixing modalities in practice feeling like a poser at school when it seems like everyone else has way more experience than you do going to massage school and fighting cancer…at the same time honey!! touch communicating awareness thinking artistically even if you're not an artist relational neurobiology setting up our classrooms to support what's going on in clinic ‘holy insecurity” and letting things make meaning for you Mike's intake and what a typical sesh is like (and how he's adjusted in COVID times when you can't see people's faces) if where it is, it isn't, how do we find out where it is, then? working with resistance and when spicy stuff come up for patients in a session being responsive to the tissue vs directive to the tissue safety IS the treatment, sweetie the student expérience, and the spectre of evaluation the opportunity to go deep and shift our teaching/practicing in a COVID world ~ SHOW NOTES ~ Michael will soon be launching courses in their new blended format, which you can attend from afar for lecture content and then get your cute little butt to PDX to do the technique portions of the courses en vivo. On Michael's Nightstand: Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory (instead of the regular text. Porges himself says that the main text was never intended for a large audience and it is not very readable unless one is a neurophysiologist) Being a Brainwise Therapist by Bonnie Badencoch The Pocket Guide to Interpersonal Neurobiology by Dan Siegel The podcast Therapist Uncensored Rilke & Emily Dickinson (aka Michael's "oracle." his words, not mine!) Hunger Mountain by David Hinton Existence, a Story also by David Hinton ~ CONTACT INFO ~ Michael: IG // @movingmountaininstitute WEB // movingmountaininstitute.com EMAIL // michael@movingmountaininstitute.com Moi: IG // @bedside.manner TW // @bedsidemannerxo WEB // bedsidemanneruniverse.com ps: if you feel so inclined, please subscribe and review giuliana hazelwood's bedside manner on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and other less famous places to listen to podcasts. please note i only accept 5 stars. and, as always, let me know if you need anything x

they say don't meet your heroes, babe, but i've never been one to follow the rules! the star of today's show is one of my acupuncture inspirations, the inimitable Ann Cecil Sterman! in this episode, we discuss: how ann defines listening her origin story and meeting jeffery yuen setting up your physical space (and body) in a position of humility as a practitioner the trap of sympathizing with your patient skipping small talk why "i'm so sorry that happened" might be the worst thing to say to a patient ann's definition of a successful treatment when patients "misbehave" practicing acupuncture like you're a teacher or an artist (spoiler alert: you're both!) and much, much more! ~ SHOW NOTES ~ On Ann's Nightstand: Nigel Kennedy playing Vivaldi's Four Seasons Prince playing While My Guitar Gently Weeps @ George Harrison's tribute Jacqueline du Pre playing Elgar Cello concerto (Daniel Barenboim conducting) The Wizard of Oz & Other Narcissists - book by Eleanor D. Payson Emotions Revealed - book by Paul Ekman The Most Important Spiritual Decision - video by Matt Kahn The Path to Peace - music by Andrew Sterman A Year With Rumi Visual Art: the paintings of Mark Rothko (INCRED in real life), and Brice Marden's later paintings The End of Quantum Reality ~ CONTACT INFO ~ Ann: IG // @anncecilsterman TW // @anncecilsterman WEB // anncecilsterman.com // EMAIL: info@anncecilsterman.com Moi: IG // @bedside.manner WEB // bedsidemanneruniverse.com ps: if you feel so inclined, please subscribe and review giuliana hazelwood's bedside manner on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and other less famous places to listen to podcasts. and, as always, let me know if you need anything x

yoohoo honey!!!! well? hi. what a week, what a time, what a SHOW! i'm thrilled to be the one to tell you the news that the absolute star of today's show is the incomparable teacher/writer/coach Ally Bogard. i know her mostly as a meditation teacher, but the scope of Ally's work, mind, and presence extends far beyond that. her insights and warmth are simply breathtaking, and i hope this episode serves as a little breath of fresh air for you, your loved ones, and maybe even your crush. in this episode, we talk about: being with people without dissolving ourselves codependency, codependency, codependency why the convo about bedside manner is never about empathy what is going on when you simply “can't care” making yourself your own client/patient/student the tale as old as time, honey: when caregivers become martyrs or victims in order to feel a sense of self identifying which “self” we're bringing to our work and relationships the interplay of meditation and personal work (spoiler alert, not the same thing) the clean-up work when you choose a caregiving profession from an early age the relationship between boundaries and integrity the cruelty of not giving people their own chance to be autonomous ...and honey, that's just the tip of the iceberg! enjoy the show, and thanks for being here x ~ SHOW NOTES ~ Ally's Meditation Training @ The Studio (Nov 14 - 15) Ally's yoga classes @ SkyTing TV Ally's FABULOUS Upwards.gold program On Ally's Nightstand: Byron Katie's daily BK At Home calls ~ CONTACT INFO ~ Ally: IG // @allybogard WEB // www.allybogard.com Moi: IG // @bedside.manner WEB // bedsidemanneruniverse.com ps: if you feel so inclined, please subscribe and review giuliana hazelwood's bedside manner on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and other less famous places to listen to podcasts. and, as always, let me know if you need anything x

my sweet sweet darlings, do i have a show for you! the *star* of today's show is researcher erica bailey, who focuses her research on organizational behavior and authenticity. in this little epi we unpack some BIG questions, including but not limited to: is the internet ruining all of our relationships?
 why does authenticity matter in therapeutic relationships?
 how do we as caregivers use social media to foster therapeutic relationships?
 what is authenticity, even?
 what does it feel like to be a person?
 what does it feel to have a self?
 how cute is it that we understand ourselves and also don't?
 and isn't it kind of adorable that human beings even wanted to invent social media in the first place?
 is Gen X actually immune from our millennial bullshit on the internet?
 how do we maintain boundaries and sense of self online?
 what is so therapeutic about posting glitter makeup selfies online? 
 and we answer the defining question of our time:
 ARE YOU DOING THE WORK?!?!
 and the pillars of erica bailey's bedside manner: // creating a space where people can be seen
 // express themselves
 // be connected


hi my pretty babies. i hope your week was phenomenal on all levels. creatively, romantically, digestively, even! i have wonderful news for you: i've made you a new episode! the *star* of this week's show is Applied Behavioral Analysis (ABA) therapist Drew Belsinger, and i think you'll just love him. honestly, i *know* you will. i had the good fortune of meeting Drew completely by chance at a grocery store while visiting my hometown over the summer, and within minutes i knew he was part of the fam. his honesty, personal integrity, and humility are striking, as is the fact that he remains so supremely chill about his insanely stressful job helping children in schools overcome behavioral challenges. In this episode we discuss: tuning in to many people's needs at once how to set boundaries (he's really good at this) knowing the limits of your job the double-edged sword of working on an interdisciplinary care team building trust with your coworkers the importance of data and framework knowing thyself, taking naps, and crying at work sometimes la résistance, darling recognizing when we don't "need" to change someone the MAGICAL phrase he uses in testy work encounters thanks so much for coming to the show. enjoy *every* minute! ~ SHOW NOTES ~ on Drew's nightstand: Beautiful Humans: The Social ChangeCast Dance Moms ~ CONTACT INFO ~ Drew: dmbelsinger@gmail.com Moi: @bedside.manner // bedsidemanneruniverse.com sign up for the Dispatches from Bedside Manner Universe newsletter here, and please remember that the internet is an illusion and of course -- as always -- let me know if you need anything x

well honey it's not every day you are graced by the presence of a literal angel, but i'm here to tell you that today is that day. it's my absolute pleasure to present to you Alex Sharry, a Katonah Yoga® teacher and absolute icon. In this episode we discuss: how we use language in therapeutic relationships being a teachable teacher embodying what you teach going to therapy working with resistance codependency you're in for a real treat. thanks so much for coming to the show. ~ SHOW NOTES ~ On Alex's nightstand: Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl Homegoing by Yaa Gyasi ~ CONTACT INFO ~ Alex: @alexsharry // alexsharry@gmail.com // www.alexsharry.com The Studio: @thestudio.yoga // thestudio.yoga Katonah Yoga Center: @katonahyogacenter // katonahyoga.com Moi: @bedside.manner // bedsidemanneruniverse.com sign up for the Dispatches from Bedside Manner Universe newsletter here, and please remember that the internet is an illusion and of course -- as always.... let me know if you need anything x

~ welcome to the bedside manner universe ~ this is a podcast about the human side of helping people. join me (Giuliana Hazelwood) on a dreamy little stroll through the world of caregiving as i get to the bottom of what it means to have "good bedside manner." i've asked all my favorite people about how they've honed this skill, and their answers were too iconic not to share. so i've created this space as a little audio diary of these conversations, so we can keep the diary on a collective nightstand together. here in the bedside manner universe, we're obsessed to exploring the can't-put-your-finger-on-it, implicit space that exists between two people in a therapeutic relationship. it's a podcast for people in "helping" professions, caregivers of all ilks. and it's a podcast for people who get helped by these aforementioned helping people; a peak under the hood to see how our favorite acupuncturists, therapists, coaches, teachers, doctors, nurses, and personal superheroes go about their business. this is a soft and gentle space for soft and gentle humans. you're part of the fam now. thanks for being here. all my love, Giuliana x follow me on @bedside.manner but please remember that the internet is a vast illusion.