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Amy Reichanadter, Chief People Officer at Databricks, joined us on The Modern People Leader to discuss her upskilling journey throughout her career, creating consumer-grade employee experiences, and leading through rapid technological change. ---- Sponsor Links:
A few months ago, I interviewed Brené Brown for TODAY.com, and one thing she said stuck with me: "Communication doesn't solve loneliness. Connection does." The very next day, I posted a simple question in a local moms Facebook group: Would anyone want to start a running group? What happened next surprised me. In this personal episode, I'm sharing how one small act of vulnerability led to new friendships, a stronger sense of community, and one of the best decisions I've made since becoming a parent.Apply to work with Natalie for 1-on-1 nutrition coaching! Have questions or want to request a show topic? DM us @greenletesCheck out Natalie's book
Today's guest is someone whose story and message deeply touched me. As a volunteer clergy member at our local jail, I have the privilege of working one-on-one with inmates to help them discover hope, healing, and the belief that no matter what mistakes they've made, their past does not have to define their future.Recently, I attended a district conference with other volunteers and several former inmates who have completely turned their lives around. It was there that I had the privilege of hearing Tony Taylor speak and sing. His story was powerful, honest, heartbreaking, and inspiring—and I immediately thought, “More people need to hear Tony's story.”Tony shares his journey of growing up feeling like he didn't belong. Born to a Black father and Native American mother, he struggled deeply with identity, racism, bullying, and trauma from a very young age. His childhood was filled with instability, abuse, addiction, violence, abandonment, and unimaginable pain. He experienced sexual abuse as a child, exposure to drugs and domestic violence, and by his teenage years he was already battling alcoholism, drug addiction, and destructive coping mechanisms.In this episode, we talk openly about trauma, Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs), generational pain, and how unresolved wounds can shape behavior. Tony explains that while trauma does not excuse harmful actions, understanding the roots of pain can help us better understand ourselves and begin the healing process.Despite the chaos surrounding him, Tony graduated from high school, attended college, played football, and started a family. But the trauma he carried inside eventually caught up with him. In a tragic situation, Tony took another person's life and was sentenced to prison.What happened next is what makes Tony's story so remarkable.While in court, the victim's family challenged Tony to do something good with his life. Those words changed him. Instead of surrendering to hopelessness, Tony committed himself to growth, accountability, education, and personal transformation. During his 29 years in prison, he immersed himself in self-improvement programs, life skills classes, and college education. He eventually went from student to teacher, helping mentor and teach fellow inmates. He earned his bachelor's degree and is close to completing his master's degree.We also discuss the important distinction between guilt and shame, inspired by the work of Brené Brown. Guilt says, “I did something bad,” while shame says, “I am bad.” Shame leads to hopelessness, but healthy guilt can motivate change, growth, and accountability.Tony shares how difficult it is to pursue healing and self-improvement in prison, where negativity often dominates the environment. Yet he also shares how faith transformed his life. He credits God and the healing power of Jesus Christ with changing his heart, giving him hope, and teaching him humility, accountability, forgiveness, resilience, and love.Tony openly acknowledges the pain he caused and the years he spent in prison. But instead of wasting that time, he chose to become a better man. Today, he and his son are building a new future together through a fantasy sports business venture with the goal of creating positive impact and giving back to charitable causes like St. Jude Children's Research Hospital.One of Tony's favorite scriptures is Ephesians 3:20:“Now to Him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we can ask or imagine according to His power at work within us.”In closing, I shared a story from former prison warden Clinton Duffy. When one critic told him, “Leopards don't change their spots,” Duffy replied:“I don't work with leopards. I work with men, and men change every day.”This episode is a powerful reminder that no one is beyond hope, healing, redemption, or transformation.In This EpisodeHow childhood trauma and ACEs impact behaviorThe connection between pain, addiction, and destructive choicesGenerational trauma and breaking unhealthy cyclesThe difference between guilt and shameFaith, accountability, and personal transformationFinding purpose and healing after devastating mistakesEducation, mentorship, and growth in prisonWhy people are capable of real change and redemptionBuilding a meaningful future after prisonListen, Share, and SupportIf this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who may need hope today.Be sure to subscribe, leave a rating and review, and help us spread more healing and inspiration to the world.Free Resource for HealingIf you're ready to release stress, calm your mind, and begin healing from within, visit:
After my conversation with Sheryl Robinson in Episode 293, I found myself sitting with an unexpected feeling:Hope.Not because everything is suddenly okay.Not because the challenges facing our communities have disappeared.And not because the future comes with guarantees.Instead, I found myself wondering:What exactly is hope?Is it optimism?Is it trust?Or is it something else entirely?In This Sound BiteIn this Sound Bite, I reflect on the work of Brené Brown and psychologist C.R. Snyder, whose research suggests that hope is not simply an emotion but a way of thinking—one that involves goals, pathways, and agency.I also explore the connection between hope and trust, why it's easy to focus on what's declining as we grow older, and the question that stayed with me after talking with Sheryl:What's still growing?What if hope isn't about ignoring reality?What if hope is seeing evidence that people are still learning how to care, contribute, and lead?And what if trust is what allows us to invest in that future?Hope versus optimismThe difference between hope and trustBrené Brown's discussion of Hope TheoryWhy agency mattersWhat gives us confidence in future generationsThe leadership lessons hidden inside the Girl Scout Gold AwardWhy "The leaders are coming" became my takeaway from Episode 293Inspired ByEpisode 293:
SHOW NOTES: What if the thing you've been searching for isn't missing at all? What if it's waiting in the one place you've been unwilling to look? In this episode, we explore why we avoid certain conversations, decisions, emotions, and opportunities, and how that avoidance often costs us more energy than facing the issue itself. Together, we'll look at the stories we tell ourselves, the fears that keep us circling the same challenges, and the surprising possibility that what we've been avoiding may actually be pointing us toward growth, clarity, and freedom. Here is what we unpack together: Why the place you least want to look may hold the answer you've been searching for. How avoidance disguises itself as busyness, research, preparation, and waiting for the "right time." The hidden emotional cost of carrying unresolved issues in the background of your life. Why "it's complicated" is often another way of saying "it's hard." Carl Jung's insight about making the darkness conscious and what that means for personal growth. How Steven Pressfield's concept of Resistance can help identify what matters most. The difference between facts and the stories we create about our fears. A simple flashlight exercise to help identify the area of life that may need your attention. Why discomfort isn't always a warning sign and may actually be evidence of growth. The surprising B-side perspective that what you're avoiding may not be an obstacle at all, but a teacher, a lesson, or even an opportunity. Resources Mentioned The War of Art by Steven Pressfield Insights from Carl Jung on self-awareness and personal growth Brené Brown's work on vulnerability, courage, and the stories we tell ourselves CHALLENGE: Identify one thing you've been walking around instead of through. Shine a flashlight on it, tell yourself the truth about it, and take a single step toward addressing it this week. The place you least want to look may be holding the clarity, freedom, or growth you've been searching for all along. I Know YOU Can Do It!
Send us Fan MailFor too long, work and leadership advice has focused on beginnings – how to make a great first impression, nail a new job, or start projects on the right foot. But what about endings – how can we successfully lead through messy transitions like redundancies, retirement or mergers? In the current global environment of mass layoffs, ‘Good Bye: Leading Change Better by Attending to Endings' is brilliantly timely, revealing how leaders can manage endings with care, respect and emotional agility. Our guests today is the dynamic author duo behind this book – top leadership coaches, Lizzie Bentley Bowers and Alison Lucas. Distilled from two decades of working with leaders in transition, and born out of practice, this highly practical book guides readers in navigating the four steps of endings – Reality, Emotion, Accomplishment and Ritual – offering a powerful framework for working through past, present, and future endings.Vinay traces Alison and Lizzie's incredible journey to ‘Good Bye'. Hit play for the low down! [4:30s] Their journey into coaching [10:31s] Genesis of their book ‘Good Bye'[17:29s] The need to attend to endings during transitions [24:06s] Slowing down, breaking the ‘cycle' [40:01s] Managing ‘goodbyes' in the age of AI[47:46s] RWL Read: Alison and Lizzie's book, ‘Good Bye: Leading Change Better by Attending to Endings' Alison and Lizzie's recommendation to READ: ‘Transitions' by William Bridges, ‘Daring Greatly' by Brené Brown; ‘Emotional Agility' by Susan David; Connect with Alison on LinkedIn Connect with Lizzie on LinkedIn Connect with Vinay on LinkedIn What did you think about this episode? What would you like to hear more about? Or simply, write in and say hello! podcast@c2cod.comSubscribe to us on your favorite platforms – Google Podcasts, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Overcast, Tune In Alexa, Amazon Music, Pandora, TuneIn + Alexa, Stitcher, Jio Saavn and more. This podcast is sponsored by C2C-OD, your Organizational Development consulting partner ‘Bringing People and Strategy Together'. Follow @c2cod on Twitter, LinkedIn, Instagram, Facebook
Jowita Bydlowska is the author of Unshaming (March 2026). She is also the author of Monster (September 2024), Possessed, the best-selling memoir Drunk Mom, and the best-selling novel GUY. She's also a prolific short-story writer, journalist and a mentor. Her favourite review on Goodreads is a review of Possessed, which reads, "Jesus Christ." Her other favourite review is a one-star review of Monster, "If someone is interested in the sexual adventures of a mentally ill woman, this book is for them." Instagram: @jowitabot www.jowitabydlowska.com The author of Drunk Mom continues her "bravely and beautifully told" story of alcohol addiction in this raw, unsparing memoir about shame and relapse (Lena Dunham) Honest and grimly funny—with actionable advice for readers of addiction memoirs like Brené Brown's Daring Greatly and Sarah Hepola's Blackout It's been over a decade since Jowita Bydlowska published her lightning rod of a memoir on overcoming alcohol addiction as a young mother. Both hailed and criticized for its no-holds-barred transparency, Drunk Mom was—and continues to be—refreshing and revelatory in its gritty exploration of addiction recovery and relapse in the context of new motherhood. But what happens after the last page is turned, after the "happy ending" of an addiction the world assumes is safely in the rearview? When Bydlowska relapses after the success of her book, her overwhelming sense is one of shame. She struggles to reconcile the knowledge that she's helped bring comfort and hope to countless readers with her own frustration and mounting fear that the truth will only let others down. In prose that's by turns harsh and beautiful, tender and devastating, she writes about her ensuing spiral into alcoholism—and the climb back up and out. With the same generosity and grim humor that made Drunk Mom a standout, Bydlowska uses her own story as a vehicle to interrogate and challenge the narrative surrounding addiction, exploring the ways in which the conversation has both evolved and stayed the same over the last decade.
Welcome to Country Proud Living "Where Nurturing Spaces Empower Your Life and Everyday Feels a Little More Like Home." Friendship in midlife can feel different than it once did.As our lives evolve, children grow up, careers shift, and responsibilities change, many women find themselves longing for deeper connection and meaningful friendships. In this heartfelt episode of Country Proud Living, LoriLynn explores why friendship matters more than ever in this season of life and how creating intentional community can support our emotional, mental, and physical well-being.Through personal stories, research-backed insights, and an exciting announcement about her new Coffee Klatch Connection gatherings, LoriLynn offers gentle encouragement to reach out, gather around the table, and create the kind of friendships that help us feel seen, supported, and understood.
Many leaders and teams are not always aware of what is getting in their way and what opportunities exist to improve their culture and performance. Tools help us see more clearly. For Full Show Notes and Links Visit: https://www.jasonvbarger.com/podcast/self-awareness-tools-with-jason-p-carroll/ Jason is joined by his friend, Jason P. Carroll, the founder of Aptive Index, for an insightful conversation about leveraging self-awareness tools to remove leadership obstacles and build high-performance teams. Please rate and review the podcast to help amplify these messages to others! Summary: With employee engagement hitting a ten-year low and only 23% of workers trusting their organization's direction, how can executives build an environment where teams truly thrive? In this episode of The Thermostat, Jason V Barger sits down with behavioral intelligence specialist, TEDx speaker, and certified Dare to Lead facilitator Jason P. Carroll. Together, they explore the profound intersection of psychometric science, data-driven self-awareness, and strategic culture shaping. This conversation moves beyond generic motivational advice to break down the mechanics of human hardwiring in the workplace. Jason and Jason examine the hidden traps of leadership habits, highlighting how executives often inadvertently erode trust through micro-doses of misaligned communication. They analyze real-world case studies of behavioral clashes, emphasizing that true self-awareness isn't just about collecting personality data—it's about understanding your systemic impact and knowing how to dial in your personal strengths with precision. Essential listening for C-Suite executives, founders, and managers committed to mastering corporate culture, this episode offers a practical blueprint on leveraging AI-powered behavioral intelligence, navigating cultural dissonance, and deploying the core drivers of organizational trust to enhance leadership in teams. Episode Notes & Timestamps: Intro: Jason Barger introduces Jason P. Carroll, founder of Aptive Index, setting up a conversation on self-awareness tools and removing leadership obstacles. Meet Jason P. Carroll: A look into Carroll's background, including scaling a previous company from $20M to $80M through people decisions, training with Brené Brown, and playing sandlot baseball. Running Hot: Analyzing the cartoon imagery of running at maximum temperature and the difficulty high-performing leaders face when trying to slow down. The Evolution of Culture: Observations on how economic uncertainty, work-from-home shifts, and AI require leaders to reframe people leadership with deep intentionality. The Trust Crisis: Discussing the Gallup data hitting a 10-year low in employee engagement and the reality that only 23% of workers trust their leadership. The Data vs. Self-Awareness Trap: Why listing personal tendencies on a spreadsheet isn't true self-awareness, and the necessity of understanding your behavioral impact on a team. The Cowboy Hat Case Study: A narrative about a high-energy CEO learning that he can't expect a structured accounting department to adapt to his chaotic executive style. Misaligned Hardwiring: Jason P. Carroll shares a story from his previous company where clashing behavioral needs created an operational chasm between visionaries and operators. Dialing in Strengths: Why self-awareness doesn't mean becoming a chameleon, but rather finding the proper execution balance without losing your executive edge. Cultural Dissonance & Lingering Habits: Jason Barger unpacks why "what we allow lingers and what we teach triggers," and the leadership obligation to protect the culture of "we." The Trust Drivers: A comparison of the HBR trust drivers (logic, empathy, authenticity) and the Aptive Index metrics (character, competence, compassion). Psychometrics & The AI "Now What?": How the AI system Aria converts dusty, one-time personality data into continuous, real-time workplace conflict guides. Outro: Jason outlines steps for leaders to calibrate their thermostat by proactively shifting behaviors to shape culture. Key Takeaways for Leaders: Systemic Impact Mapping: Move past simple personality test checklists; true self-awareness requires evaluating how your hardwired tendencies alter team dynamics. Dial, Don't Discard: Refining your leadership style is not about erasing your natural strengths, but dialing back over-indexing tendencies (like steamrolling) to allow for team autonomy. Address the Dissonance: Guard your culture fiercely by refusing to let misaligned behaviors linger, actively teaching back to your core operational values. Listen to the full episode and access show notes at: https://jasonvbarger.com/podcast/self-awareness-tools-jason-p-carroll/ Bio: Jason Barger is a husband, father, speaker, and author who is passionate about business leadership and corporate culture. He believes that corporate culture is the "thermostat" of an organization, and that it can be used to drive performance, innovation, and engagement. The show features interviews with business leaders from a variety of industries, as well as solo episodes where Barger shares his own insights and advice. Connect: Subscribe to our channel: https://www.youtube.com/@JasonVBarger Make Your 2026 Effective! 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Cameron Price, Head of People & Talent at Medium, joined us on The Modern People Leader to discuss how people teams can lead AI change management through trust, curiosity, and human-centered design. We talked about AI fluency, balancing innovation with authenticity, measuring employee sentiment around AI adoption, and why humans-first leadership matters more than ever. ---- Sponsor Links:
Nir Leibovich, Product Executive at QuickBooks Workforce, joined us on The Modern People Leader to discuss why HR and finance teams struggle when data lives in silos and how unified systems create better business decisions. Downloadable PDF with top takeaways: https://modernpeopleleader.kit.com/episode306---- Sponsor Links:
Are Occupational Therapists being protected by their communities, or are they being held back by them? In this thought-provoking episode of the OT Yourself to Freedom Podcast, Beki explores a controversial topic that many Occupational Therapists experience but few openly discuss: the culture of fear surrounding business, money, entrepreneurship, coaching programmes, and alternative career paths within the OT profession. If you've ever considered starting an online business, launching a private practice, creating a course, offering coaching, or building additional income streams as an Occupational Therapist, you've probably heard the warnings: "Be careful." "Sounds like a scam." "Don't trust anyone selling a dream." But where do these beliefs come from, and are they actually helping Occupational Therapists create better lives? In this episode, Beki unpacks the psychological, cultural, and societal forces that shape how OTs think about risk, money, success, and professional growth. Drawing on research from Daniel Kahneman, Brené Brown, Seth Godin, Nassim Nicholas Taleb, Robert Cialdini, and Lynne Twist, she explores why fear often masquerades as wisdom and how inherited beliefs can quietly keep Occupational Therapists stuck in careers they desperately want to change. Whether you're an Occupational Therapist experiencing burnout, exploring private practice, considering online business opportunities, or simply questioning what's possible for your future, this episode will challenge the assumptions that may be limiting your growth. Key Takeaway Fear is not the same as wisdom. The loudest voices in a community are not always the most informed voices. Occupational Therapists are trained to see possibility and potential in others every day. This episode invites you to apply that same belief to yourself and question whether the stories you've inherited about money, business, success, and risk are actually serving you. The question is not whether opportunities exist. The question is whether you're willing to evaluate them for yourself. Connect with Beki Are you ready to leave the whinger mindset behind and embrace your inner go-getter? Beki helps OTs worldwide design, launch, and scale their online business Free Resource: Download Beki's free overnight mindset meditation for free to help you build confidence, overcome money mindset challenges, and develop self-belief. Join OT Yourself To Freedom Membership: Discover the only membership designed specifically for OTs to create freedom-based businesses by leveraging the skills you already have. Learn to design and sell offers, market effectively, and align your work with your purpose. Follow Beki: Website: www.bekieakins.com Instagram: OT Yourself to Freedom Facebook Group: OT Freedom Community LinkedIn: Beki Eakins Book an Inspiration Call: Click here About the Host Beki Eakins is a business mindset and lifestyle coach for occupational therapists. After leaving traditional OT practice, she has helped hundreds of OTs worldwide design aligned online businesses that support freedom, income, and purpose, without burning out.
Trevor and Eugene sit down with professor, author, and The Curiosity Shop co-host Brené Brown for a conversation about connection in an age of constant connectivity. From parasocial relationships and modern media to friendship, community, and the universal desire to feel like we belong, Brené brings her trademark mix of insight, honesty, and humor. Together, the three explore why genuine human connection can feel harder to find than ever — and why it remains one of the most important things we have. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
✨ Episode SummaryIn this week's Q&A episode, Keana answers powerful listener questions about how self‑worth shapes your dating life, your patterns, and the partners you choose. Building on the main episode, “Why Your Self‑Worth Determines Your Love Life,” this conversation dives deeper into the psychology behind attraction, boundaries, healing, and emotional alignment.If you've ever wondered why you repeat certain patterns, why you settle, or how to date from a healthier place, this episode gives you clarity, compassion, and practical tools to shift your love life from the inside out.
Meghan Hickman has spent over three years as our EOS implementer at Poe Group Advisors, and this conversation is one we have been looking forward to sharing. Meghan works with entrepreneurial leadership teams to help them build structure, create accountability, and scale with intention. She has helped over 40 organizations do exactly that, including ours.The conversation covers:How a career in politics taught Meghan to recognize when your work is bringing out the worst in youWhy the "right person, right seat" framework gives leaders language for decisions they already sense but can't articulateHow the Accountability Chart reveals the structure a firm actually needs vs. the one it has outgrownWhy the Vision Traction Organizer works where traditional strategic plans fail, because it evolves every 90 daysHow to distinguish between head signals and heart signals when deciding whether to restructure or exitWhy the companies that scale fastest are the ones willing to run toward hard problems and simplify relentlesslyHow vulnerability-based trust separates teams that break through from teams that stay stuckTimestamps:00:36 - Meghan's background: from US Senate press secretary to entrepreneur 01:26 - How a copy of "Traction" in 2014 changed the direction of Meghan's career 01:52 - Growing an EOS company by 62% in five years and launching her own practice 03:12 - Starting in the least entrepreneurial environment possible: bureaucracy vs. the private sector 04:43 - The moment Meghan knew it was time to leave: the night Osama bin Laden was captured 06:09 - Sending out resumes at 1:00 in the morning and the one that changed everything 07:48 - Effective self vs. destructive self activity: the exercise that explained everything 09:28 - What working in the private sector revealed about her unique abilities 11:14 - Core value alignment: using values to attract the right people like a magnet 13:04 - Why the press secretary seat was the wrong one and what EOS language helped her understand 15:21 - Burnout vs. readiness to sell: how to tell the difference 17:04 - Head signals: the business is running you, things feel harder than they should 19:14 - The prescription for heart signals: a leap, whether that is a transition, a sale, or a new chapter 22:02 - Meghan's own red flags: road rage, everyone seems difficult, an unmade bed 25:37 - What the Accountability Chart actually does and why it matters past five or ten employees 28:08 - The value of an outside perspective: seeing the game when you cannot see it from the field 30:22 - The Vision Traction Organizer: a two-page strategic plan that actually gets used 33:17 - How your ideal clients evolve as your firm evolves, and why revisiting matters every 90 days 37:20 - Why firms that obsess over simplification and say no more than yes scale the fastest 40:05 - Meghan's memorable career story: getting her senator to the Today show in the nick of time 45:06 - There is no learning in the comfort zone, and no comfort in the learning zone 45:48 - Book recommendations: "Traction," The Five Minute Journal, and "The Gifts of Imperfection."
✨ Episode SummaryIn this week's episode, Keana breaks down one of the most important and most overlooked factors shaping your dating life: your self‑worth.Self‑worth isn't just about confidence or self‑esteem. It's the internal belief that determines what you tolerate, what you expect, and who you choose. Whether you're dating after a breakup, navigating situationships, or trying to break old patterns, this episode explains the psychology behind why your sense of worth influences every romantic decision you make.Keana uses trauma‑informed insights and research from leading psychologists to help you understand how low self‑worth creates unhealthy patterns — and how strengthening your self‑worth can completely transform your love life.
What if your imperfections are not your greatest problem?In this teaching on Psalm 138, John Ortberg explores the difference between perfection and perfectionism, the beauty of human weakness, and why God has so much compassion for imperfect people.Drawing from Psalm 138, Psalm 103, the Japanese concept of wabi-sabi, and the image of cracked pottery repaired with gold, John shows how God often creates beauty through what we would rather hide.This episode explores:- The difference between perfection and perfectionism- Why God remembers we are dust- Fear, anxiety, and self-worth- Wabi-sabi and the beauty of imperfection- Jesus retaining His scars after resurrection- Learning to accept imperfect peopleFeaturing reflections on:- Brené Brown- Gordon Flett- Psalm 138- Psalm 103Scriptures:- Psalm 138- Psalm 103:13–14- Isaiah 53#Psalm138 #JohnOrtberg #Perfectionism #Grace #WabiSabi #SpiritualFormation #ChristianFaith #Prayer #BibleStudy #Psalms
Amy Schwartz, Chief People Officer at Wiz, joined us on The Modern People Leader. We talked about why HR alone can't create a high-performance culture, why relationships and influence matter more than HR systems, and why "picking up the trash" - a leadership philosophy she picked up working in casinos - has stuck with her ever since.---- Sponsor Links:
“Şişşşt… Aramızda kalsın, yiyip yiyip kusuyormuş.”Bulimiya hakkında konuşurken çoğu zaman sadece iki davranıştan bahsediyoruz: yemek ve kusmak.Ama işin görünmeyen tarafı çok daha büyük.Yemekten keyif alamamak.Sürekli yemek düşünmek.Kusmak için uygun zamanı kollamak.Yakalanmamaya çalışmak.Kokuyu gizlemek.Yüzündeki kızarıklığı saklamak.Ve en önemlisi…UTANMAK. Bu bölümde bulimiyanın DSM-5 tanımını konuşuyoruz ama orada kalmıyoruz.Bulimiyanın psikolojik ve fizyolojik sebeplerinden, binge eating ile olan ilişkisinden, Brené Brown'ın utanç araştırmalarından ve iyileşmenin nasıl mümkün olduğundan bahsediyoruz.Eğer siz ya da sevdiğiniz biri bulimiya ile mücadele ediyorsa, bu bölüm size yalnız olmadığınızı hatırlatmak için burada.
Grace & Grit Podcast: Helping Women Everywhere Live Happier, Healthier and More Fit Lives
Every woman I have ever worked with carries a story about why she can't — can't change, can't sustain it, can't trust herself, can't start over at this point. Those stories feel like facts. They are not facts. Our brains construct narratives around painful experiences and encode them as truth — running quietly in the background, limiting what we attempt and what we believe is possible. Drawing on Brené Brown's Rising Strong, Courtney teaches a three-step framework to name the story, examine how old it actually is, and replace it with one that's more accurate than it is positive. Get your free chapter of The Consistency Code at https://theconsistencycode.com/freechapter #limitingbeliefsmidlifewomen #brenebrownrisingstrong #storyitellmyself #thoughtmanagementwomenover40 #selflimitingbeliefshealth #identityandchangemidlife #thoughtpatternswomen #howtochangeyourmindset #beliefsystemsmidlife #innernarrativewomen #growthmindsetover40 #rewritingyourstorymidlife
Send us Fan MailThat title too much for you spacemen? Well, don't worry--we're just as nonsensical in this episode as we are in every episode, with just a touch of meaningful thoughts. Listen in and be more vulnerable. Keywordsmen's emotional health, vulnerability, emotional hiding, mental health, communication, relationships, self-awareness, coping mechanisms Key TopicsWhy men hide their feelingsPatterns of emotional hiding in menPractical strategies to stop hiding and foster vulnerability sound bites"Trust and safety are key to opening up.""Expressing feelings reduces the need to hide.""Practice makes vulnerability easier."Chapters00:00 Understanding Men's Hiding Behaviors05:41 The Spectrum of Hiding and Coping Mechanisms11:24 Understanding Emotional Hiding14:25 The Complexity of Asking for Help18:31 Patterns of Hiding and Coping Mechanisms22:16 The Importance of Emotional Expression29:18 Reframing Reactions and Building Confidence35:15 Steps to Overcome Hiding and Embrace Vulnerability44:49 IntroSHORT.mp4 resourcesTerry Real's Work on Emotional Connection - https://www.amazon.com/s?k=Terry+RealThe Power of Vulnerability by Brené Brown - https://www.amazon.com/s?k=Brene+Brown+The+Power+of+VulnerabilityEmotion Processing Techniques - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-moment-youth/201911/how-process-emotions-effectivelyMen's Emotional Health Resources - https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/publications/men-and-mental-healthEffective Communication Strategies for Men - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/men-and-emotions/202001/men-need-know-how-ask-for-helpSpread the word! The Manspace is Rad!!
Leadership isn't about having all the answers. This audiobook summary reveals the surprising truth about strength and vulnerability.
We all have gaps in our leadership skills and capabilities that can be tough to spot on our own. But once seen, we cannot unsee these gaps, and we know we must take responsibility for our own growth and development. In this episode, I'm digging into Brené Brown's framework of Armored Leadership versus Daring Leadership from her book Strong Ground, with the hope that you will be able to spot some of your gaps in your leadership habits. I break down the 11 aspects of armored leadership, those self-protective behaviors that feel like safety but actually keep us stuck, and explore what shifts when you choose daring leadership instead: vulnerability, authenticity, and real growth. We talk about what drives armored leadership in the first place, from scarcity mindset and social conditioning to past trauma, and how those patterns show up in organizational culture without us even realizing it. Then we flip the lens to daring leadership, where leading proactively and strategically rather than reactively becomes possible. We talk about values in leadership, the role of failure, and how building a belonging culture starts with the willingness to be vulnerable as a leader. This is leadership development that meets you where you actually are, for better or worse. This is an invitation to take an honest look at where armor and your need for self-protection are costing you. As I share in the episode, leadership is an act of service, and daring leadership asks you to show up fully, armor down, and lead from a place ot humility, curiosity, and authenticity. Links Mentioned: Hire Sara to speak: saradean.com/speaking Coach with Sara: https://saradean.com/executive-coaching-services Connect with Sara on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/saradeanspeaks Watch Shameless Leadership episodes on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@saradeanspeaks Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Laura Tomaino, Chief People Officer at Glooko, joined us on The Modern People Leader. We talked about why “People-First” leadership feels harder in 2026 and what it actually looks like to live up to that today.---- Sponsor Links:
We're now covering the ninth and tenth guideposts to wholehearted living – cultivating meaningful work, and cultivating laughter, song and dance. I hope you enjoy this episode. Please subscribe to us wherever you get your podcasts, and share this episode widely. If you have questions or comments, please send them to me at meanderingswithtrudy@gmail.com. I will address them in the next episode. Episode links: The 2010 TedTalk that started Brené's rise to international helper Biography Brené Brown podcast “Dare To Lead” with Adam Grant on her new book We did another deep dive into Martha Beck's “The Joy Diet: Ten Daily Practices for a Happier Life.” You can find the first episode here. The rest unfold after that. Gordon Lightfood's “Song for a Winter's Night” is my favourite; and “The Last Farewell” is my favourite by Roger Whitaker As always, this podcast is sponsored by the guests who give of their time, and by my company, Chapman Coaching Inc.Royalty free music is gratefully received and is called Sunday Stroll – by Huma-HumaLive life joyfully, and always let kindness guide you.
In this episode of The Builder's Bookshelf, we break down Brené Brown's Dare to Lead and translate courageous leadership into the real world of construction, where avoided conversations, weak trust, and vague values can quietly create major project risk. You'll learn how to rumble with vulnerability, live values visibly, build trust through specific behaviors, and lead teams that can tell the truth, recover from mistakes, and do hard things together.Enjoy Episode 21 and #BeNEXT
Every system we move through runs on norms: rules and agreements that are both explicit and implicit. And nowhere are they more powerful–or more invisible–than in how we lead and how we build our businesses. In fact, sociologists have consistently found that norms don't announce themselves. They travel through families, schools, workplaces, and entire cultures through repetition and imitation, often persisting long after the conditions that created them have changed. We absorb them before we can name them. And once they are inside us, they feel like “just the way things are.”In leadership development the norms run so deep we have mistaken them for truth. As a result, the model leader–despite decades of language to the contrary–still looks and sounds like a very particular kind of person.My guest today offers that leadership development has been trying to make better leaders for a broken system, rather than questioning whether the system itself needs to change. Nilofer Merchant has spent her career making the invisible visible–naming the norms, the systems, the daily routines that keep us collectively stuck. In this conversation, we go deep on the difference between caring and caretaking, what it means to trust yourself when the ground keeps disappearing, and what it actually takes to stop trying to fix what is not working and become someone who builds what is needed, right where you are.Nilofer Merchant is the co-founder of Intangible Labs. She spent over 25 years leading technology companies (Apple, Autodesk, GoLive/Adobe) and personally launched over 100 products and services, netting $18 billion in revenues. She is ranked among the top 50 influential management thinkers in the world (one of her TED Talks has been referenced 300 million times). Our Best Work is her 4th book.Listen to the full episode to hear:Why accepting our current norms won't get leaders where they want to goHow what we call personal agency is in reality socially constructed and drivenWhy we need more real care and less caretaking in our relationships at work and in lifeHow teams can shift towards situational leadership and recentering how we think about the unique value and capabilities individuals bringHow ownership, shared purpose, and co-creation help us build new systems, unstuck from the status quoNilofer's lessons about self-trust, taking risks, and approaching the future of work with hopeLearn more about Nilofer Merchant:WebsiteThe Intangible LabsInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/nilofer/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nilofer.merchantConnect on LinkedInOur Best Work: Break Free from the 24 Invisible Norms That Limit UsLearn more about Rebecca:rebeccaching.comWork With RebeccaThe Unburdened Leader on SubstackSign up for the weekly Unburdened Leader EmailResources:The Power of Onlyness: Make Your Wild Ideas Mighty Enough to Dent the WorldMary Parker FollettMother Mary Comes to Me, Arundhati RoyThe God of Small Things, Arundhati RoyPrizefighter - Mumford & SonsLaw & OrderDire Straits - Money For NothingDuran Duran - Hungry like the WolfThe Curiosity Shop with Brené Brown and Adam GrantChapters:(00:07) - Introduction (12:12) - Why Norms Persist (15:17) - Making the Hard Changes (16:42) - Personal Agency is Not Persona (19:31) - Servant to Situational Leadership (23:44) - Care vs Caretaking (32:37) - Making it Practical: Power of Onlines (39:38) - Uncertainty and Control (43:20) - AI, Layoffs, and Control (46:33) - Build The New Village (48:29) - Ownership Over Accountability (53:03) - Trusting Your Instinct (57:29) - Walking Toward Yourself (01:01:06) - Hope As Liberation (01:04:06) - Quickfire Questions (01:10:44) - How To Connect (01:11:33) - Closing Thoughts
Jevan Lenox, Chief People Officer at Writer, joined us on The Modern People Leader. We talked about why AI adoption alone is not enough, how companies can use “directed innovation” to drive real business outcomes with AI, and what high performance looks like in the AI era.---- Sponsor Links:
Brené Brown and Adam Grant have devoted much of their work to helping people better understand conflict, communication, and human behavior. Nevertheless, the two spent years estranged after a 2016 article Grant wrote led to a falling out between them. Now, they've reunited for a new podcast, The Curiosity Shop, where they explore complicated and often polarizing questions with humility, nuance, and a willingness to challenge each other in real time. Katie talks with them about repairing their relationship, why so many people struggle to have honest conversations, the impact of social media and outrage culture, and what it takes to stay open-minded in an increasingly divided world. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Send us Fan MailWhat does it take to walk into a room full of strangers and walk out with real connections? In this episode of Navigating the Customer Experience, host Yanique Grant sits down with Alexandra Silva Labarr, internationally recognized speaker, author, and founder of Xandra Marketing and PR. Known as the Networking Queen, Alexandra brings over 25 years of experience in marketing, business development, and sales to a conversation that is practical, personal, and deeply inspiring.Alexandra's journey is one of remarkable resilience. After decades in corporate America, she bet on herself and launched her own marketing firm just before COVID hit, shutting down the in person networking she had built her reputation on. Instead of retreating, she pivoted, went digital, gave back to her community, and emerged stronger. Today, Xandra Marketing and PR helps businesses take full ownership of their marketing, from social media and branding to digital presence and messaging strategy.Her story starts at 13 years old, when she lost her mother. That experience taught her that finding the right people and leaning on them is not weakness, it is strategy. That understanding became the foundation for everything she has built since, including her Power of Networking Community, now with 15 chapters across South Florida. She is also the author of three books: The Power of Networking, Show Up Scared, and Show Up Scared: Teen Edition, which became an Amazon bestseller and has taken her into schools and universities across the country.In this episode Alexandra walks us through her Seven Essential C's of Networking and highlights the two people struggle with most: Courage and Common Ground. She explains why most people have courage and confidence backwards, and why showing up scared is the only real path to confidence. She also gets practical, giving you a step by step approach for exactly what to say at a networking event, how to approach a group already in conversation, how to introduce yourself without leading with a pitch, and how to craft a 30 second commercial built around the pain you solve.Alexandra also shares her thoughts on follow up, encouraging listeners to pick up the phone and let people hear their voice, because authenticity lives in your voice and people do business with people they can feel.Topics covered include the Seven C's of Networking, courage vs confidence, building common ground, crafting your 30 second commercial, follow up strategy, AI tools for entrepreneurs, and details on the Show Up Scared teen event at the Mayfair Hotel in Coconut Grove on June 23rd.Featured Resources:The Power of Networking by Alexandra Silva Labarr available on AmazonShow Up Scared by Alexandra Silva Labarr available on AmazonShow Up Scared: Teen Edition by Alexandra Silva Labarr available on AmazonHow to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie available on AmazonIt's Not Who You Know, It's Who Knows You available on AmazonBooks by John C. Maxwell available on AmazonBooks by Brené Brown available on AmazonClaude AI: claude.aiShow Up Scared Teen Event: June 23rd at the Mayfair Hotel, Coconut Grove, FL. Visit alexandrasilvabar.com for full event details and tickets.Connect with Alexandra Silva Labarr:Google her name and everything will appear including her website, social media profiles, upcoming events, and speaking opportunities. She is especially active on LinkedIn and responds to every message personally.Website: alexandrasilvalabarr.comConnect with Navigating the Customer Experience:Follow us on X @NavigatingCX and join our private Facebook group, Navigating the Customer Experience Community. You can also find us on LinkedIn and at yaniquegrant.com.If this episode added value to you, please share it with a fellow business owner, leave us a review, and subscribe so you never miss a new episode. Thank you for listening and until next time, keep navigating forward.
Welcome to Country Proud Living "Where Nurturing Spaces Empower Your Life and Everyday Feels a Little More Like Home." In a world filled with surface-level interaction, many women are quietly longing for something deeper—true connection + friendship.In this heartfelt episode of Country Proud Living, LoriLynn shares why meaningful friendships and honest conversations matter so much in midlife. From coffee around the kitchen table to encouraging friendships, this episode explores how women can create more connection, belonging, and support in everyday life.Because sometimes the life-changing invitation is as simple as: “Would you like to come over for coffee?”
Send me a text! I'd LOVE to hear your feedback on this episode!If women are wired for connection, why do some of our worst social pains come from other women? This episode unpacks the biology, psychology, and social conditioning behind female competition and what to do about it.I explore the tend-and-befriend stress response, oxytocin, cortisol, and nervous system safety, and then connect the quality of female friendship directly to midlife health, cognitive protection, and healthy aging. High-strain relationships aren't just emotionally exhausting — they carry a measurable physical health toll.I name what rarely gets named: scarcity conditioning, the patriarchal bargain, tall poppy syndrome, social media's strategic withholding, and how shame — as Brené Brown's research shows — spills outward as blame, silencing, and social coalitions. Attachment theory and the norm of reciprocity round out the picture.You'll leave knowing the clear signs of an unsafe friendship and three grounded ways to protect your energy without compromising your integrity.Topics covered:The "tend and befriend" response and female bonding hormonesHow friendship quality drives midlife wellness and brain healthShame resilience and why women sometimes wound the people closest to themTall poppy syndrome, exclusion, and reputation managementPractical boundaries for navigating toxic female dynamicsJoin here: Sandy K Inner Circle Join me here: Sandy K Inner CircleSupport the showJoin The Sandy K Inner Circle -- my private women-only subscription community where we go deeper than the podcast ever could.Every month you get:A live Q&A with Sandy on ZoomAn exclusive podcast episode nobody else hearsA practical curated downloadAccess to our private women-only Facebook community for wide open discussions on all topicsNo agendas. No noise. No bias. No trendy health advice from those who pay for their platforms. No medical advice. Real conversations you will not find anywhere else.Founding member spots are limited at $47 CAD/month.Join us here: sandykruse.substack.comFor women only. By invitation.Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sandyknutrition/Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/sandyknutritionTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sandyknutritionYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIh48ov-SgbSUXsVeLL2qAgRumble: https://rumble.com/c/c-5461001Linkedin: ...
When a client's motivation dips, nothing else survives the fall. Compliance drops. Consistency disappears. Effort fades. And without those three things, results become impossible — which circles right back to episode one's core fear: the client who isn't getting results.But here's what doesn't work: yelling louder. Making the program harder. Wondering why a fully employed adult with a family, a mortgage, and a calendar full of obligations isn't matching the energy you bring to the gym floor every day. We can't force motivation. What we can do is get curious, get empathetic, and get strategic.Big THANK YOU to our sponsors:- CoachRX - Hands down, the best platform for coaches. From building your intake & assessment processes to individual program design, invoicing and education, CoachRX has you covered. Get your first 30 days FREE - Try CoachRX- Performance Supplements - go to www.performance-supp.com & use the code smarterstrength at checkout to save 15% on your entire order (I'm a big fan of their Krea-Grow - everything you need to support high quality training sessions!)- AbMat - go to www.abmat.com & use the code drdavid at checkout to save 10% of your entire order (get a Zercher Pad - your elbows will thank you!)THE SOLUTION: THE THREE C'SDr. David Skolnik introduces a practical three-part framework for coaches dealing with unmotivated clients.Capacity — Before you adjust the program, adjust your lens. What does this client's life actually allow right now? Work stress, family obligations, sleep quality, caregiving responsibilities — all of it affects how much a person can bring to their training. Their capacity this month may look nothing like it did six months ago, and that's not failure. That's life. Your job is to meet them where they are.Clarity — Are you and your client still on the same page about what they're working toward — and does the current plan reflect that? Goals shift. Life changes fast. A well-designed 12-week block can become completely misaligned with a client's reality by week six. Rebuild the communication. Reclarify the target. Make sure the plan still makes sense for the person standing in front of you today.Core Values — Motivation comes and goes. Discipline fluctuates. But core values — the one or two fundamental qualities a person anchors their identity to — do not change. David draws on Brené Brown's Dare to Lead and the OPEX coaching method to make the case: when training is connected to a client's core values (health, accountability, integrity, service, freedom), it stops being optional. It becomes part of who they are.THE QUESTION THAT CHANGES EVERYTHINGEvery coach has been there: a client who says they want results but isn't doing the work. The instinct is to push. To confront. To ask "why aren't you trying harder?" David challenges coaches to reframe entirely — and ask instead: what is making this feel hard? That one shift lowers defensiveness, opens conversation, and gets directly to the root of the capacity, clarity, or values disconnect driving the motivation problem.RESOURCES Core Values List — Use it yourself first, then share it with clients.Dare to Lead by Brené Brown — Referenced for its framework on identifying and living by core values.CoachRx — The coaching platform David uses and recommends. Listeners get a 30-day free trial using the link in the show notes. Manage client programs, billing, goal setting, habit tracking, and communication all in one place.NEXT WEEK — EPISODE 3Clients who don't value coaching as much as they should — and what coaches are supposed to do about it.Want more content? Follow Dr. David on Instagram: @dr.davidskolnik.dpt
Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3399: Mark Fisher reflects on how his fiercely independent approach to fitness ultimately slowed his progress, and why community, coaching, and vulnerability are often the missing ingredients for lasting success. Through humor, honesty, and plenty of unicorn references, he shows how support systems can transform not just your workouts, but your entire mindset around growth and accountability. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://markfisherfitness.com/getting-by-with-a-little-help-from-your-friends/ Quotes to ponder: "As Brené Brown says, your vulnerability is the most accurate measurement of courage." "None of us are ever as good as all of us." "The journey to health and hotness is far faster if you have someone guiding you through the inevitable moments of frustration and confusion." Episode references: Brené Brown: https://brenebrown.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3399: Mark Fisher reflects on how his fiercely independent approach to fitness ultimately slowed his progress, and why community, coaching, and vulnerability are often the missing ingredients for lasting success. Through humor, honesty, and plenty of unicorn references, he shows how support systems can transform not just your workouts, but your entire mindset around growth and accountability. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://markfisherfitness.com/getting-by-with-a-little-help-from-your-friends/ Quotes to ponder: "As Brené Brown says, your vulnerability is the most accurate measurement of courage." "None of us are ever as good as all of us." "The journey to health and hotness is far faster if you have someone guiding you through the inevitable moments of frustration and confusion." Episode references: Brené Brown: https://brenebrown.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Kirsten Moorefield, Chief Strategy Officer & Co-Founder at Cloverleaf, Sarika Lamont, CPO at Vidyard, and Sarah Royer, Sr. Manager of People Ops at Nirvana Insurance, joined us on The Modern People Leader for a live discussion on AI coaching. We talked about what AI coaching actually means today, building these tools in-house versus buying, and why career growth will never be a perfect checklist.---- Sponsor Links:
This episode explores how people with invisible learning challenges use “masking” and perfectionism to hide struggles rooted in shame—a concept defined by Brené Brown as feeling unworthy of belonging. It explains how repeated experiences of misunderstanding turn mistakes into identity, leading to exhaustion and disconnection. The podcast encourages embracing vulnerability, normalizing needs, and making small, intentional “reveals” to replace shame with empathy and authentic connection.Use this link to find my other podcasts, Etsy Shop, and Tailored Tech Services: https://linktr.ee/JenniferPTTS?utm_source=linktree_profile_share
What do you do when your relationship is hard but you can't tell if it's worth saving, or when your trauma history makes your instincts feel unreliable? This week on Ask Kati Anything, licensed therapist Kati Morton, LMFT, answers seven listener questions about the moments when everything feels overwhelming and you can't tell what's the relationship, what's the depression, and what's the trauma talking. Topics in this episode include: when to stay in a relationship versus when to leave, BPD and people pleasing, complex PTSD and attachment wounds, fear of abandonment, codependency, starting therapy when you have bulimia, non-suicidal self-injury, and dissociation, grounding techniques for flashbacks, what healthy love actually looks like, why depression breakthrough symptoms make you feel empty after good experiences, shame spirals and how vulnerability snuffs shame out (Brené Brown's research), rumination, behavioral activation, recovering motivation after emotional burnout, finding yourself again after trauma, inner child work and writing letters to your younger self, and how to respond to unsolicited advice without building resentment. Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:56 When to stay vs leave a relationship, attachment, BPD, complex PTSD 12:00 Starting therapy with bulimia, BPD, self-harm, and dissociation 19:00 What healthy love really looks like 25:11 Feeling empty after going out, depression breakthrough symptoms 28:39 Shame spirals, rumination, and Brené Brown on vulnerability 34:25 Lack of motivation after burnout, becoming yourself after trauma 40:56 Inner child work, writing letters to your younger self 45:21 Unsolicited advice and how to respond Submit your question: https://www.youtube.com/@Katimorton/community Follow Kati on Instagram: @katimorton Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In February 2019 I introduced myself to the internet with this: I don't want to post my highlight reel. I'd rather journey through life sharing life as it is. Comparison is the thief of joy. And then I wrote the first line of the first real post: I acted many years without a why of my own. And I was not my own. This episode is about why women lose themselves — what the research actually says, why we abandon ourselves and call it love, and what the conversation with yourself actually needs to sound like when you decide to start telling the truth. We talk about the I will be more me when list we keep making — and why the permission we are waiting for is never going to come from outside. We talk about Deborah Tannen on socialized silence, Brené Brown on performing for belonging, Kristin Neff on the inner critic we mistake for our own voice. And we replace the five false internal conversations with accurate ones. Not affirmations. Corrections. This episode closes the who am I arc and opens the door to the conversations we have been avoiding.
Cara Brennan Allamano (Founder of PeopleTech Partners and former Chief People Officer at Lattice) and Jevan Lenox (Chief People Officer at Writer) joined Stephen at Fix Healthcare Live. They talked about the growing pressure on HR leaders and why modern people leaders need to rethink how they operate in a rapidly changing world.---- Sponsor Links:
Welcome to the The Achievers Podcast. I'm your host, Amber Deibert, Performance Coach. I help enterprise sellers unlock their full potential by aligning their work with how they workout and cleaning up mindset trash, so they can sell more, stress less, and take back control of their time and success. You spend hours polishing a deliverable nobody notices. You build a beautiful AI-powered strategy and never implement a single piece of it. You refuse to start because you can't do it "right." In this episode, I break down how perfectionism quietly steals your time, masks deeper fears, and keeps your best work trapped in draft mode, plus the exact tools I use to release the pressure and start shipping work that actually moves deals forward.
Send us Fan MailIn this episode I'm getting a little personal — sharing what it felt like when my marriage ended unexpectedly in 2014 and how the messy, nonlinear years of rebuilding that followed shaped everything, including why I became a coach and why this podcast exists.This isn't a tidy glow-up story. It's an honest look at what rebuilding actually looks like, and five of the most important lessons it taught me:Emotions are survivable — they build, they peak, and they always passThe difference between regret and guilt, and a simple 3-question framework for moving through the hard stuffYou don't need to see the whole staircase — just the next stepRebuilding has no finish line, and why that's actually okayAuthenticity is where real connection lives — with others and with yourselfWhether you're navigating a divorce, an empty nest, a career shift, or any season where life has asked you to rebuild something, this one will meet you where you are.Mentioned in this episode: Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) — a skills-based approach to emotional regulation worth looking into Daring Greatly by Brené Brown — on vulnerability and connection Wellness Wake Up intro program — $99 [LEARN MORE HERE] Support the showWant more?For more information about the podcast, visit www.realbraveunstoppable.com. To learn more about your host, Kortney Rivard, visit www.kortneyrivard.comFollow Kortney on Social media:InstagramFacebook
Jennie Nash hosts a Write Big session of the #amwriting podcast introducing an “arena” metaphor for writers, inspired by Brené Brown's Daring Greatly (and Teddy Roosevelt's “man in the arena” quote), Priya Parker's The Art of Gathering, and Taylor Swift's Eras Tour. Jennie argues that writers, like performers, intentionally gather an audience and should be clear about who they want in the “seats,” what experience they want readers to have, and what energy and feedback they want in return. Using Swift's deliberate creation of emotionally meaningful, immersive moments and audience delight, Nash urges writers to stop playing safe, claim full creative power, and step into the spotlight with purpose. She emphasizes that internal satisfaction comes from making what matters first, and that external rewards follow from writing big, not the other way around.Books* Daring Greatly by Brené Brown* The Art of Gathering by Priya Parker#AmWriting is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.TranscriptHi, I'm Jennie Nash, and you're listening to the #amwriting podcast, the place where we help writers of all kinds play big in your writing life, love the process, and stick with it long enough to finish what matters most. This is a Write Big session, where I'm bringing you short episodes about the mindset shifts that help you stop playing small and write like it matters.Today I'm talking about a concept that I haven't spoken much about before, and it's a big one for me, and it might take a bit of explaining. The concept is a metaphor, and it has to do with an arena, with being a writer in an arena. And if the image that just came to your mind involves gladiators and bloody battles, that's not what I'm talking about.What I'm talking about is Taylor Swift. So think of someone who gathers the people to them, who owns the spotlight and captivates the heart and soul of their fans with [00:01:00] intentional content that they make, and who's so fearless about their work that they're not gonna let anyone or anything stop them from doing it.Writing doesn't happen on big stages or in big stadiums obviously, but we're gonna borrow this image because it's the vibe I want writers to cultivate, and it's the heart of writing big. My arena metaphor has a lot of origins. The most obvious one is the quote at the beginning of Brené Brown's book Daring Greatly, where she's referencing the Teddy Roosevelt quote about the man in the arena.That Roosevelt quote had to do with politics and not standing on the side and criticizing others, but stepping into the fray and being part of the mix. And what Brené Brown said was this: “If you are not in the arena getting your ass kicked on occasion, I am not interested in or open to your feedback.There are a million cheap seats in the world today filled with people who will never be brave with their own lives, [00:02:00] but will spend every ounce of energy they have hurling advice and judgment at those of us trying to dare greatly. Their only contributions are criticism, cynicism, and fear-mongering. If you're criticizing from a place where you're not also putting yourself on the line, I'm not interested in your feedback.”These are obviously powerful words, especially coming from a woman, because I think it's true that women who dare greatly get more criticism than men who do. So that's one of the influences for this metaphor. But another is the book The Art of Gathering by Priya Parker. If you haven't read this book, I highly recommend it.It's about this whole idea of gathering people, and she's talking about physically gathering them in meeting rooms and at weddings and at Thanksgiving and things like that. And her main point is that you have to be intentional about the purpose of your gathering. If you don't know why you're bringing people together and what experience you want them to have- They're [00:03:00] not gonna have an experience that's memorable or transformative.And when I read that book, I thought, “This is true for writers, too.” This is what my blueprint books are all about, being intentional about what you're doing with your writing, no matter what you're writing. You have to know why you want people to gather around your words and ideas. You have to know what you're bringing them together for.And as I began to think about Brené Brown's Daring Greatly and Priya Parker's idea of gathering, I began to think about this idea that writers are gathering people, too, and I began to think about an arena. What if you could picture your readers in an arena? And these thoughts were all going down in my mind around the time of Taylor Swift's Eras Tour.We were seeing these images of 50,000, 60,000 people in these stadiums just packed in with no seat empty, and the lights are low, and they're holding up their phones. And it [00:04:00] was obviously so moving for all the people in that audience who showed up there and experienced that and took the time and effort and energy to be there in that room or in that space.So Taylor Swift became the other thread of this idea that writers, too, are gathering people, and so you have to think about who you want to be in those seats of your arena. Who do you want to play to? Who do you want to speak to? Who do you want to create this experience for, and what do you want for them?But also, what do you want from them? I didn't go to one of the Eras Tour concerts, but I watched the six-part documentary about it and the last concert that she filmed as part of that whole endeavor, and there was such a through line about intention to what she was doing on that tour. She talks all the time about creating emotionally meaningful and immersive experiences for her audience, so she's not just [00:05:00] entertaining them.She wants them to feel something, and she's so deliberate about that. Her whole thing about secrets and surprises feeds into that, and I loved these parts of the documentary where, where she shows the behind-the-scenes work with the different guests that she would bring onto the show and how they tried to craft some sort of surprise for the audience and tried to keep it a secret, and there was just so much delight in the way that they were approaching this.Taylor Swift would always say things like, “People are gonna lose their minds.” That seems to be a catchphrase of hers, and it's what she wants. She's like, “They're gonna lose their minds, and it's gonna be so great.” And this joy in creating the experience for those people who have come and this dedication that...I think she did 149 shows on the Eras Tour, that every single one of them was going to be impactful to the people who came. Not just like, we're [00:06:00] gonna get out there and do a good show and give it our all and put our energy out there, but I wanna blow their minds. I want to make these moments of delight, and that intention is clearly what feeds Taylor Swift.She talks about that very specifically, that she loves the energy and feedback that she gets from that audience. So in the arena, you're performing or creating for the people you've gathered there, but you're also getting something back from them. You're getting this communication or this energy that reflects back to you or comes back to you, and that's obviously why performers do what they do.You would not get up on a stage 149 times in front of 60,000 people and put yourself out in that way if you didn't love that. And I think writers need to think about this, too. What are we putting out there for our fans or our readers? What do we want to get from them, and what do we want them to get from us, [00:07:00] and what is that energy exchange like?So I want you to think about the arena of your writing life. It's a place where you're gonna show up with your whole self with intention, and you're gonna do the best work that you're capable of. It's where you're gonna stop playing it safe and claim your full creative power. When someone writes with that kind of authority, they feel the satisfaction deep in their bones, the sweet reward in and of itself.It has actually nothing to do with the external rewards of the marketplace. It has to do with what you wanted to make and the fact that you went out there and made it and you called people, you gathered the people around to be part of it with you. And the paradox of this whole thing is that when you decide to step into the arena and play big, it comes across in the writing, and that leads to the exact external rewards that most writers crave.It doesn't work the [00:08:00] other way around. You can't go after those external things and feel the internal satisfaction. You have to do the work that's gonna feed that internal desire that you have and that thing that you want to make and that you want to create for yourself in order to get the things that you want from your writing.So this metaphor of creating the arena for your writing life and stepping into it in your fullest power and learning how to be the person in the spotlight is something that I want you to really think about. All of the 14 questions in my blueprint for a book process are really about this. Why are you writing a book is really why do you want to gather people to you?Why do you want to be heard and seen? And who are you writing for is who do you want to invite into that arena and put in those seats and play for? Your arena is going to be different from every other writer's arena on the planet because [00:09:00] no one is going to answer these questions the way that you are.Nobody's going to write what you are. So take this idea of daring greatly and being brave with your own life and putting yourself out there and marry it with this idea of gathering people around you with intention and designing the experience that you want them to have. And no matter what you think of Taylor Swift as a musician or a performer or a human, take from her this incredible delight in showing up and delivering something meaningful to your fans.And those things together are going to transform your writing life. There's going to be no way that you can't write big. And if you do that, there's going to be no way that you can't derive deep satisfaction from doing this work. Until next time, stop playing small and write like it matters.[00:10:00]The hashtag amwriting podcast is produced by Andrew Perilla. Our intro music, aptly titled Unemployed Monday, was written and played by Max Cohen. Andrew and Max were paid for their time and their creative output because everyone deserves to be paid for their work. 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What if loneliness isn't just an emotion… but one of the most dangerous biological threats to your health? In this deeply personal and scientifically explosive solo episode, Darin opens up about something he recently realized in his own life: despite being surrounded by people, he was lonely. But what began as an emotional realization quickly became a deep dive into some of the most shocking research he's ever uncovered, showing that chronic loneliness may increase the risk of heart disease, dementia, cancer, autoimmune dysfunction, accelerated aging, and early death. From inflammatory gene expression and cortisol dysregulation to oxytocin, vulnerability, and the collapse of real human connection in the digital age, this episode reveals why loneliness may be the most overlooked "fatal convenience" of modern life, and how vulnerability may be the medicine. What You'll Learn Why loneliness is a biological crisis, not just an emotional feeling The shocking link between loneliness and heart disease, dementia, and early death Why the quality of your relationships is the #1 predictor of long-term health How loneliness activates inflammatory genes inside your body The role of cortisol, sleep disruption, and chronic stress in social isolation Why social media and "surface-level connection" are replacing real intimacy The connection between loneliness and Alzheimer's disease How oxytocin and genuine connection reduce inflammation Why vulnerability is the gateway to meaningful relationships Practical ways to create deeper connection starting today Chapters 00:00:33 – Sponsor: the truth about the exploding NAD supplement market 00:01:04 – Why supplement verification and transparency matter 00:02:17 – Opening: Darin admits something deeply personal 00:02:30 – "I realized recently… I'm lonely" 00:02:37 – The difference between being surrounded by people vs being truly known 00:03:06 – Loneliness as a biological experience, not just an emotional one 00:03:27 – The hidden risks: heart disease, dementia, cancer, early death 00:03:45 – Why this is not fringe science 00:04:13 – The most important predictor of long-term health 00:04:34 – Why relationship QUALITY matters more than quantity 00:05:06 – The global loneliness epidemic 00:05:11 – U.S. Surgeon General advisory on loneliness 00:05:39 – Loneliness declared a public health crisis 00:06:02 – 50% of Americans report measurable loneliness 00:06:22 – "A generational collapse of connection" 00:06:30 – 29% of adults have no close friends 00:06:40 – Face-to-face interactions dramatically declining 00:07:01 – The UK, Japan, and Australia loneliness crisis initiatives 00:07:32 – The paradox: hyperconnected but deeply isolated 00:08:04 – Loneliness as a biological alarm signal 00:08:31 – What loneliness actually looks like in modern life 00:08:42 – The lonely CEO, the unseen mother, the isolated social media addict 00:09:31 – "Perceived social isolation" and why the brain can't tell the difference 00:10:21 – Meta-analysis of 3.4 million people 00:10:55 – Loneliness vs obesity and smoking risk comparisons 00:11:18 – The biology of loneliness begins 00:11:50 – NF-kB: inflammatory gene activation explained 00:12:33 – How loneliness changes gene expression 00:13:02 – Chronic inflammation and disease pathways 00:13:21 – Cortisol, sleep disruption, and immune dysfunction 00:14:00 – How loneliness affects brain repair and amyloid plaque clearing 00:14:21 – Sponsor: Fatty15 and cellular health 00:18:02 – The Alzheimer's and dementia connection 00:18:25 – Loneliness as a major modifiable dementia risk factor 00:18:57 – Cortisol, neuroinflammation, and brain degeneration 00:19:16 – The hippocampus physically shrinking in lonely people 00:19:27 – Social media as a "fatal convenience" 00:19:57 – The oxytocin economy: connection as medicine 00:20:15 – Oxytocin as one of the body's strongest anti-inflammatory molecules 00:20:30 – HeartMath research: emotional synchronization between people 00:20:48 – "You regulate each other's biology" 00:21:07 – The real barrier: vulnerability 00:21:32 – Darin's recent experiences with radical vulnerability 00:21:54 – Conversations with family, ex-partners, and loved ones 00:22:35 – Brené Brown's research on connection and worthiness 00:23:14 – The "depth audit" exercise 00:23:42 – Reaching out, expressing appreciation, and owning your emotions 00:24:01 – Sacred hours: spending time without phones 00:24:13 – Questions that create real intimacy 00:24:30 – Darin's emotional conversation with his brother 00:25:03 – Protecting yourself from social media disconnection 00:25:20 – Becoming a source of joy and connection in everyday life 00:25:25 – Darin reflects on seven years of subtle loneliness 00:25:48 – The shift from surface conversations to meaningful connection 00:26:01 – "If you want love, give love" 00:26:19 – Final message: generate the connection you want to receive 00:26:22 – Closing thoughts and outro Thank You to Our Sponsors Truniagen: Go to www.truniagen.com and use code DARIN20 at checkout for 20% off Fatty15: Get an additional 15% off their 90-day subscription Starter Kit by going to fatty15.com/DARIN and using code DARIN at checkout. Join the SuperLife Community Get Darin's deeper wellness breakdowns — beyond social media restrictions: Weekly voice notes Ingredient deep dives Wellness challenges Energy + consciousness tools Community accountability Extended episodes Join for $7.49/month → https://patreon.com/darinolien Connect with Darin Olien: Website: darinolien.com Instagram: @darinolien Book: Fatal Conveniences Platform & Products: superlife.com New Show: Roadmap to Happiness Key Takeaway "Loneliness isn't weakness. It isn't failure. It's a biological signal telling you that something essential is missing. And in a world addicted to surface-level connection, the real medicine may simply be this: vulnerability, presence, eye contact, honesty, and the courage to let yourself truly be seen." Bibliography/Sources The Loneliness Epidemic & Public Health Data Bureau of Labor Statistics. (2023). American time use survey. U.S. Department of Labor. https://www.bls.gov/tus/ Cigna. (2023). Cigna U.S. loneliness index. 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What if the biggest thing holding you back is waiting for someone else to say yes? In this powerful solo episode, Lesley Logan continues her permission series and unpacks why so many people second-guess their desires, choices, and next moves. She shares how childhood conditioning, perfectionism, and the need for approval keep people stuck far longer than they realize. From Brené Brown permission slips to boundaries, intuition, and radical responsibility, Lesley offers practical ways to trust in your own intuition. If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co mailto:beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. 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It's rocky, complicated and cold, and can even be confusing because we have to unlearn and untangle. Lesley Logan 0:10 Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started. Lesley Logan 0:52 Hello, be it, babe. Well, welcome back to our series on permission. On our Tuesday episode. If you missed it, we were talking about like, what is asking for permission? Look like, where does it come from? Why do we do this? I shared some stories. Some of you had sent me some great stories of your own. I love that you're loving that I'm doing this solo episode on this. And please keep sending your questions in your topic requests in, be it pod.com/questions you can also send your wins in there as well. Maybe you have a win that you stopped asking for permission. I'd love to know that. But be it pod.com/questions, is where you can send in all those things. I'm hopeful to have some more different topics. We could do a couple episodes on, just to kind of go deeper on some of these things. I'm hearing our amazing guests give us, BE IT action items on they're like, don't ask permission. Just do it. It's like, well, what the fuck did like you mean, just do it easy. Easy for them to say they weren't raised to put other people's needs before their own. They weren't raised to go, like, to not seek approval from others. They weren't raised to not like, look crazy, right? So they aren't constantly hearing just different things, where people go, oh, you believe she did that? She's so greedy. I mean, they gave, they've they gave the team a locker room on Tuesdays and Thursdays now, they went on Saturdays too? Like, those are things we pick up when we're children and teenagers and young adults. We pick up on these things where people are saying things mostly about women, about when they step outside those traditional roles when they do something against the grain. And I'm not saying you have to go be against the grain. What I am saying is you can't be it till you see it. If you're waiting for someone else's permission to start being it, you have to give it to yourself. But how do we do that? So let me go to my notes, and in my research, I have sources, so we put those in the show notes as well. There's some really great reading in Psychology Today and all these different things, so it's pretty great. Lesley Logan 2:44 Okay, so now we know we are often conditioned to ask for permission, and in the last episode, I do want to highlight, we did talk about the permission gap. We also talked about the signs to close it. So the gap is basically the gap between, like, what we want and what we think people's needs are, and then putting their needs in front of our own. And so we're kind of all and so we're kind of always in the negative for what we need, and then we're asking for permission to give ourselves what those needs are. So, according to Wonder Within, the path to permission is not an easy one. It's rocky, complicated and cold, and can even be confusing because we have to unlearn and untangle. So on Tuesday, I challenged you, I gave you a bunch of different signs, feelings, examples of like, what like, what permission looks like, asking permission looks like. And so hopefully able to explore that and now means we have to unlearn and untangle. If you listen to the series that came out starting in December of 2025 we did a whole habit series we talked about in one of the episodes, all about unraveling a bad habit, and that is in air quotes, and it's really, truly unraveling. It's not breaking it. I was very specific on that, because we do have to unravel. We have to understand, like, what's the prompt? And I will say this unraveling, untangling the habit of asking for permission is advanced habit making, because you have to be aware of yourself asking for permission. It's not the same as I want to build a habit of running around the block in the morning that is very tangible. It's easier for your brain to go, oh, I went around the block this morning, versus catching yourself asking for permission or filling the need to ask for permission, because that's a psychological habit, and you'll have to have that self awareness. So I just want to say it might take longer than you think, okay, but definitely check out that episode. So permission to become to be till you see, it might be the biggest work that we have to do. That's what I believe. After doing all this research, I'm like, oh my God, I feel like I need a permission slip expert. It may include working with a trauma informed therapist, a somatic worker. So even with all the suggestions that I'm about to give you, I want you to understand that if you need extra support, that is okay, okay. It is really, really okay. And I need you to know that it's okay and you're not asking for permission when you hire an expert in trauma or like somatic work or therapy or any kind because. That's actually saying, hi, I need help. That's not you asking for permission, right? Lesley Logan 5:04 Hey, so I told you in the last episode about when I wanted to I thought about becoming a Pilates instructor. Like, I was like, I had this thing, this thought, and I recognize now that I was kind of asking for permission to belong, for permission to fit into the Pilates role. Because, to be honest, at the time, there was not Pilates instructors who did not discover Pilates from dancing. So that felt so weird. Also, I knew I couldn't afford the comprehensive training, so I was gonna start the mat training then save up my money for comprehensive training, which I did a year later. And I remember thinking like, Oh, my God, maybe I can't do it because, like, I can't do the whole thing at the same time. And so I do recall asking for permission, right? I remember being in vintage and basically just saying, Well, tell me what to do. I'll just do whatever you want me to do, which is just me asking for permission so that I can do be the thing that belongs. Because we all want to belong. Sometimes we're just like, hey, just how do I be perfect so I can not get kicked out of this group because we just want to belong. But really, and what they challenged me with is like, Oh no, we're not going to tell you what to do. You're going to figure you've got to feel what you need to do. It's got to be intuitive. It's got to be something that you understand for your body. And oh, my god, that is permission from them to be in my body, which is not something any teacher had given me. All the teachers before had been like, do it like this. You do it like this. And just telling me what to do, and that was kind of my whole life, right, covering perfectious over achiever, lots of people telling me the right thing to do, and just following the checklist and following the path. And so I had a whole adult life. Thank God for Pilates and the curiosity that gave me start going, oh, look at me. Like not checking a box here with a smile on my face. So think about one thing that you have been wanting could be as small as a food craving for today's lunch, or as big as an idea you want to take action on. So you're thinking about it. Got it in your head, what is keeping you from taking the next step?Lesley Logan 6:57 How much permission do you feel you have or don't have. Who decides how much permission you do or don't have? Is it possible that they are irrelevant? In my case, the people that I thought I needed permission from was the world of Pilates, they didn't even know me. They're so irrelevant. They didn't even know me, right? I was giving so much power to a bunch of people I didn't even know existed. So can you give yourself permission? Take a deep breath, right? A deep breath, if you've listened to episode 400 about upper limiting sometimes we get outside of our comfort zone, and then wild things come through worry. Do you feel some worry right now? Worry is a sign of upper limiting to pull you back into your comfort zone, right? Self-deprecating can be so I'll just want to, like go through those questions one more time. So what's something you want to be taking action on or wanting or desiring, no matter how small it is. Okay? So what's keeping you from taking that step or trying that thing or ordering that thing? How much permission do you feel you need you have or don't have for that who decides how much permission you do or don't have, and is it possible that they are relevant. Can you give yourself permission? So Brené Brown gives herself permission slips. It's actually in her book, dare to lead. She said, I give myself permission slips. And they say, I give myself permission to blank. So to make mistakes, to rest. I love this. I think this is a really great way to close that gap and to get rid of the habit of asking for permission is just to give, like literally write yourself permission slips. So if you remember my dear friend Nikole, whose last name is escaping me, sorry, team, she said two episodes, oh my god. Why is it not coming up anyway? So she talked about, in the first episode about all the different post it notes that she put around her house affirmations, and then she'd take them down because people are coming over, because she didn't want any single person to be able to give her any nagging thing that would remove the permission she'd given herself. So maybe you need to put little permission slips everywhere. I give myself permission to try a new outfit today. I give myself permission to make a mistake. I give myself permission to go a different route. I would give myself permission to ask that person for that thing. I give myself permission to rest. I give myself permission to turn off my phone. I give myself permission to not respond. Lesley Logan 9:31 So use clear and powerful language to empower yourself. That's really, really important. Affirmations are really helpful. So this one will start kind of the same way. I give myself permission to be successful. I give myself permission to be authentic. I give myself permission to pursue my dreams, right? So affirmations can also be helpful in also going with what Brené Brown's mission slips are. You can do a meditation. So this meditation is really easy one. You can take your hands, put them on your heart, close your eyes and say, I've got this or you've got this beautiful right, hands on the heart, eyes closed, you've got this beautiful. It's one of Fridays. The episodes I give you as an affirmation, I say it three times. I'm hoping you're saying it out loud with me. I'm giving you a second to do that. I want you to give yourself permission to have that affirmation to be it till you see it. And of course, journaling. Journaling is always a great thing. Look like you'd be surprised what comes out of your head when you journal. I like free writing. If you haven't done the book The Artist's Way, it's 12 weeks of journaling prompts and really will help you peel back the onion of why you're asking for permission in the first place, especially if you go into the book with that in mind, you're going to start to like, answer those questions with those thoughts, and it's going to give you a whole host of information. It's such a great thing to do. You can do it annually. You can do it more often than once, but it's really, really great. I highly recommend it. Lesley Logan 10:59 Okay, so tips for cultivating self-permission. So here's some other tips and tools you can use. So accept 100% responsibility. This is very difficult for some people, because that means responsibility for your own mistakes as well, but acknowledge that you are responsible for your own life, actions and responses. This shifts you from a victim mindset to one of empowerment, removing the blame, shame and guilt game. So what happens when you accept responsibility? It means you cannot you're not asking for cannot. You're not asking permission for people. It also means you can't say, oh, my kids wouldn't let me do Pilates today. Gotta accept 100 responsibility, right, radical responsibility,Lesley Logan 11:31 Another thing. Let go of the need for external approval. Recognize that relying on others for validation can prevent you from trusting your own judgment. I think that's really, really true. I got a medical diagnosis that isn't bad, don't freak out, but it's, it's not great either. And I'm a verbal processor, so I I like to talk about it to kind of, like, understand how I'm feeling, and it's interesting. Like, what I talked about with, like, some people my wife, are like, well, whatever you need, you can recover here. You could do this thing. Brad's like, so you're thinking about doing this. Like, it wasn't, I wasn't asking for permission. I was just, like, talking about it, right? And then I had another friend I was sharing it with, and they were almost talking me out of the thing. I remember going, what the fuck, right? So it made me go, ugh, because I was a little annoyed that she wasn't like, like everybody else. But then I was like, Wait, why do I care what she thinks, right? So it's interesting thing. There's like, just start to recognize when you're relying on the validations of other people and that, and then their lack of validation that causes you to think differently. Now, by the way, it's okay that she has me think differently. It really made me go back and kind of research what she was saying and making sure that, like, I almost got more secure in my decision because of it. So it's also fine to talk things out, but just notice, or maybe what she said could have got me to go, oh, maybe I don't need to do that. Those are all fine things, but just it's a very different thing from getting feedback versus validation. There are two different things. Lesley Logan 12:51 Embrace imperfection and mistakes, so give yourself permission to be human, to be wrong and to learn from what doesn't work. Viewing failures as lessons, not torture, is crucial for growth, and I think this is really, really important. Really important in my journey of just like become a recovering perfectionist and overachiever, it's really helped me to not need permission, because I'm not trying to be perfect to the thing, and I'm allowing myself to learn and ask questions and be a human being who doesn't fail, but actually learns and then makes adjustments along the way. It's kind of like a route right when you're driving, and the map is like, go here. And then it's like, oh, we found a faster route. You didn't go, ugh, MapQuest. You're an asshole. You fucked up the last one. No, you just go, wow, thanks for getting better at what you do. You're just like, look at this app. So great. Like, we don't go, oh, my God, they got it wrong. No, we go, oh, they're like improving every time. Lesley Logan 13:44 Set boundaries. Is vital to give yourself permission to say no to things that don't serve you, even if it makes others uncomfortable, this protects your time and energy for what truly matters to you. Erika Quest, she's been on the pod, we were talking the other day about, like, when people invite us to different things, like, we ask ourselves, is this more, or is it better? But more? Is it better? And if it's just more, then it's probably no, it's better. Gonna make my impact better? Gonna make me a better person? Then, yeah, I'll look into it. Lesley Logan 14:10 Okay, listen to your own intuition. So reconnect with your inner voice and trust your gut feelings. The more you exercise permission muscle, the louder and clearer becomes. I am going to have a whole series on how to listen to your inner voice, so I'm not going to go deeper on that that will be coming up in a few weeks. Hey, be curious, not judgmental. So approach your feelings and experiences with curiosity rather than fear or judgment. Label your emotions to understand them better, which is a gateway to healing and growth. Lesley Logan 14:41 Prioritize self-care and rest. Oh, hi, hello. Give yourself permission to rest, to recharge and enjoy life without guilt. Integrating self-care rituals into your daily routine helps make it a habit. Listen to the habit series so you have even better chance of doing that. But my goodness, you've got to prioritize your self-care so you get rid of that permission gap. And it's not that I'm like, You're not going to help other people or you're not going to care about them. It's just that, like, you can't care about them before your own air mask is on first. Hello. Lesley Logan 15:07 Allow yourself to pivot. Recognize that personal growth involves change. Give yourself permission to change your mind, career or life direction if an old path no longer aligns with your evolving self. I mean, heck, you might have asked for permission to do something and someone talked you out of it, the thing you want to do, and now you're doing the thing that they gave you permission to do. So you're probably going to have to evolve, pivot, change things. And I would say, be nice to yourself. Have grace and space for recognizing that because, my goodness, everything you learn on that path is what's going to make you even better on the path that you're on now. So please be kind. Lesley Logan 15:38 Another way to give yourself permission is, what's the cost of your inaction? What is the cost of doing nothing? What is the cost of not doing the thing you want to do? I want to dive deeper into that, into next week's episode with Dr. Corey. So, definitely be watching out for that interview, because I promise you, it's going to be so good. But I was like, oh my God. Yes, and I'm so glad that we talked about that in her episode. And keep in mind, after years of second guessing, after years of asking permission, for permission, it can be hard to trust yourself and believe you've got this. Lesley Logan 16:10 So consider this permission to be you to be it till you see it. No one but you defines the scope of what's possible, and no one but you can dare to believe that you can be it till you see it. No one but you can define the scope of what's possible, and no one but you can dare to believe that you can be it till you see it. I promise you that you are amazing. You don't need my permission to be it till you see it, but you might need my reminder that you can. And I hope each and every week, you say that to yourself as well. All right, babe, until next time, be it till you see it. Lesley Logan 16:41 That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. 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