Podcasts about Babe

Episode 40 focuses on the fortieth film that Stan and Babe made together, namely, They Go Boom, which was filmed between June 26th and July 11th, 1929 and was released on September 21st, 1929.Patrick welcomes back prominent Laurel and Hardy expert Randy Skretvedt to discuss the fascinating production history of They Go Boom. During the conversation, we identify the difficulties encountered during filming and the reasons for the production delays, as well as the mysteries of mustard powder, poultices and chamber pots! We also hear from Laurel and Hardy's editors, Richard Currier and Bert Jordan. To become part of the Podcast Community, 'Fraternally Yours', the online discussion group, and to access bonus Patron-only exclusive podcasts, just sign up to show your appreciation and support for the show and become a 'Plumtree Tier' Patron by clicking the link here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://patreon.com/user?u=88010194⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠For more information on The Laurel & Hardy Podcast and Patrick's forthcoming series of books starting with Laurel & Hardy: Silents, visit the website at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.laurelandhardyfilms.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠To contact Patrick, email ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠theboys@laurelandhardyfilms.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you'd like to leave feedback about the podcast, make a point, ask a question, or generally join in the discussions about the podcast and all other things Laurel and Hardy related, why not become part of the podcast community by joining the Fraternally Yours Facebook Group here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/2920310948018755⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠To purchase CDs of the Beau Hunks Orchestra's music contained in these podcasts, click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://amzn.to/2CgeCbK⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠To find the best Laurel and Hardy books and DVDs, and Blu-Rays, visit The Laurel & Hardy Podcast's Amazon storefront, click here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/laurelandhardyblog⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

We discuss the Elizabeth Smart documentary about her kidnapping and miraculous rescue, and the complicated nature of healing from that trauma. We learn about a graduate student who was offended when people in the department asked him to stop microwaving his "pungent" food, so he sued the school claiming he was discriminated against. We talk about the people who created a secret apartment in the mall and lived there for a long time without being detected, why they did it, and whether we love it or are annoyed by it. Susie talks about a woman who was busted for drunk driving and drug possession, but handled it in a hilarious way.Brain Candy Podcast Website - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/Brain Candy Podcast Book Recommendations - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/books/Brain Candy Podcast Merchandise - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/candy-store/Brain Candy Podcast Candy Club - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/product/candy-club/Brain Candy Podcast Sponsor Codes - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/support-us/Brain Candy Podcast Social Media & Platforms:Brain Candy Podcast LIVE Interactive Trivia Nights - https://www.youtube.com/@BrainCandyPodcast/streamsBrain Candy Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/braincandypodcastHost Susie Meister Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susiemeisterHost Sarah Rice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahriceBrain Candy Podcast on X: https://www.x.com/braincandypodBrain Candy Podcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/braincandy (JOIN FREE - TONS OF REALITY TV CONTENT)Brain Candy Podcast Sponsors, partnerships, & Products that we love:Visit https://www.carawayhome.com/braincandypod to take an additional 10% off your next purchase!Head to https://cozyearth.com and use my code BRAINCANDYBOGO to get these pj's for you and someone you love!Get $30 off your first box - PLUS free Croissants for life - when you go to https://wildgrain.com/braincandy to start your subscription today!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

2 - Scott Presler joins us today for his weekly hit. How was Groundhog's Day in Punxsutawney this morning? Who was all at the event? Who was the notable omission? What is it like looking back on the video that made Scott go viral the other day? Who are the lawmakers who continue in support of the SAVE Act? Will Scott make a special announcement soon? 215 - The TPUSA Halftime Show needs to be better. 220 - Dom's Money Melody! 225 - Can anyone get the Money Melody answer? Where do we stand with Real ID? 235 - We welcome attorney at law Linda Kerns back to the show. Who has more Grammys, Elvis or Sinatra? What is “Make Elections Great Again”? Why is Linda not high on this act? Why should elections not be federalized? Somebody clip that! What does she actually love about the law? 250 - The Lightning Round!

Sarah is all hot and bothered for the "gay hockey show," Heated Rivalry, and she explains why lesbians would enjoy male on male heat. Susie is all wound up about something totally different: umbrellas. To each their own. We learn about a practice that was created in the 1980s where people dying of AIDS would sell their life insurance policies to investors, and we debate the ethics of betting on someone's death. We discuss the difference in written communication between women and men, and the reason women have to track their punctuation and balance perceived warmth and competence. We find out which celebrities are mentioned the most in pop songs, and the three factors that can increase your chances of being name dropped. Plus, Susie shares big news in the true crime world, where two of the biggest unsolved cases in history have been solved--and the same person (allegedly) did both.Brain Candy Podcast Website - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/Brain Candy Podcast Book Recommendations - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/books/Brain Candy Podcast Merchandise - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/candy-store/Brain Candy Podcast Candy Club - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/product/candy-club/Brain Candy Podcast Sponsor Codes - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/support-us/Brain Candy Podcast Social Media & Platforms:Brain Candy Podcast LIVE Interactive Trivia Nights - https://www.youtube.com/@BrainCandyPodcast/streamsBrain Candy Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/braincandypodcastHost Susie Meister Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susiemeisterHost Sarah Rice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahriceBrain Candy Podcast on X: https://www.x.com/braincandypodBrain Candy Podcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/braincandy (JOIN FREE - TONS OF REALITY TV CONTENT)Brain Candy Podcast Sponsors, partnerships, & Products that we love:Go to https://thrivecausemetics.com/braincandy for an exclusive offer of 20% off your first order.Get $10 off your first month's subscription and free shipping when you go to https://nutrafol.com and enter the promo code BRAINCANDYHead to https://cozyearth.com and use my code BRAINCANDYBOGO to get these pj's for you and someone you love! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ryan Yarbrough joined the Yankees just days before the end of spring training last year, and he turned out to be a much-needed swing-man for the team's pitching staff, moving between the starting rotation and the bullpen. He's back in pinstripes for 2026, this time with a bit more runway before Opening Day, and he took some time out of his last-minute prep to chat with YES Network's Meredith Marakovits about all that makes him excited about being back with the Yankees. Then, Meredith and Yankees Magazine deputy editor Jon Schwartz chat about the role that Yarbrough can play this year, and they recap this past weekend's BBWAA Awards Dinner, at which Aaron Judge received his third career AL MVP Award. Finally, Brian Richards opens a fascinating chapter of the History Books, looking back at the offseason when the Babe had to get back in shape. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's a snowstorm, Jen's from Chicago, and we're feeling extra qualified to talk about Ice Planet Barbarians! It's the book, and the series that took the world by storm back in 2015, and we're revisiting the absolute powerhouse it was then, before it launched an entire subgenre of romance and changed the romance landscape. We're also talking about Ruby Dixon's clear skill, her obvious love of the genre, and all the ways she makes us both laugh and sigh.If you have a favorite IPB book and you want to talk about it, come find us (and other romance lovers) on the Fated Mates Discord, which you can access by joining our patreon. Support us and learn more at fatedmates.net/patreon.Our next read along (in March) is Sincerely, Your Inconvenient Wife by Julia Wolf. Find it in ebook or paperback, or with your monthly subscription to Kindle Unlimited.NotesHorsepower is definitely the same as measuring the weight of ice in golden retriever pounds. There's lot of ways to support the people of Minnesota right now. A good clearinghouse site is Stand With Minnesota. You can also order directly from area bookstores: Tropes and Trifles, Black Garnet Books, or Birchbark Books, or use Bookshop.Org for any number of Minnesota stores. Monarca If you are looking to support whistle production, You can also support other Romancelandia efforts. Bree (from Kit Rocha) is part of a team of people that have printed over 150k whistles this month alone! Romancing the Vote will also be back up this summer, so look for information on that. Along with Monarca, Indivisible is also holding trainings to teach people how to document and record ICE. Get ready, Derek Craven Day is nigh!It's February, so lots of upcoming romance events to check out!Feb 12, 2026: Jen will be at Babe's Sports Bar to discuss a WNBA romance, Rooting Interest.Feb 14, 2026: the Free Library of Philadelphia will be holding

Send us a textWhat would society look like if we could all be ourselves with no repercussions? I can't be sure, but we touch on it in this episode of Dem Bois Podcast. Today's guest is Gabe Tha Babe, a multidisciplinary artist and community organizer, and we discuss the importance of family support, the challenges of navigating masculinity and mental health, and our vision for a supportive community space that encourages authenticity and visibility as pathways to empowerment. The episode also delves into the topic of sex positivity, emphasizing the need to break free from societal shame and embrace one's identity and desires. We talk:03:50 - Gabe's journey to self-discovery14:19 - The role of family in identity21:17 - Navigating masculinity and mental health35:55 - Combatting negativity and gatekeeping46:54 - The impact of houselessness on youth51:24 - A vision for community supportEpisode References:History of Downtown Los Angeles “Skid Row” Containment and Community: The History of Skid Row…Read more about Gabe in his bio below:Gabe Tha Babe is a Brown Latino TransMasc multidisciplinary artist, public figure, night life personality, event producer, sex worker and community organizer and leader. Originally from rural South Texas, he understands the importance of Trans PoC visibility and strives to represent and center that in all the work that he does. He's been living in Los Angeles almost 10 years and has been organizing and advocating for the queer, trans and houseless communities since 2018. IG - gabe_thababeCelebrate 10 years of Dem Bois Inc.! 2026 marks ten years of Dem Bois Inc. To honor this milestone, we invite you to join our 10 for 10 campaign by giving $10 a month to help sustain the care, leadership, and visibility that trans men of color deserve. Your support helps build a future rooted in care, visibility, and possibility. Donate today! Donate today to support Transmasc Gender Affirming Grants and Community Wellness Packages for Trans Men of Color! The Visibility = Possibility™️ Merch is here! - Not just merch, but a movement! Dem Bois Community Voices Facebook Group is a safe, moderated sanctuary where trans men of color can connect authentically, discuss podcast episodes, share powerful experiences, and build support networks. Dem Bois YouTube Channel! - @demboisinc - Exclusive content you won't find anywhere else!

Sarah and Susie are reuniting in Denver again, and they are psyched. Sarah is talking about life hack's she's trying in the new year. So what, who cares. Sarah claims there are five "approved" lesbian haircuts and we learn what they are. There is some special nail polish that is going viral that is supposed to allow you to color coordinate by changing the color magically, but it ends up looking insane, and Sarah is mad about it.Brain Candy Podcast Website - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/Brain Candy Podcast Book Recommendations - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/books/Brain Candy Podcast Merchandise - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/candy-store/Brain Candy Podcast Candy Club - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/product/candy-club/Brain Candy Podcast Sponsor Codes - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/support-us/Brain Candy Podcast Social Media & Platforms:Brain Candy Podcast LIVE Interactive Trivia Nights - https://www.youtube.com/@BrainCandyPodcast/streamsBrain Candy Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/braincandypodcastHost Susie Meister Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susiemeisterHost Sarah Rice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahriceBrain Candy Podcast on X: https://www.x.com/braincandypodBrain Candy Podcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/braincandy (JOIN FREE - TONS OF REALITY TV CONTENT)Brain Candy Podcast Sponsors, partnerships, & Products that we love:Get 40% off your first box PLUS get a free item in every box for life. Go to https://www.hungryroot.com/braincandy and use code BRAINCANDYGet $10 off your first month's subscription and free shipping when you go to https://nutrafol.com and enter the promo code BRAINCANDYSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

You're listening to Bardtenders! In this episode of "The Mixing Glass", Mark McDonough talks about building local gaming communities, indie games, and the importance of inclusivity and creating safe spaces while playing tabletop games. ------------Mark McDonough has been playing tabletop role-playing games since the late 1980's.  While he has played Dungeons & Dragons throughout the years, he also has a fondess for playing and a variety of other games including indie games!In 2020, Mark started organizing and running bi-weekly games of Dungeons & Dragons in cooperation with Babe, Games and Geeks and created the group Duval Dice and Dungeons. Duval Dice and Dungeons is a group that focuses on providing a safe spaces and experiences for women and LGBTQ+  where they play Dungeons & Dragons and other tabletop role-playing games.  Their group officially started in October 2020 (during the height of the pandemic) at Lemonstreet Brewing Co. Over the last 5 years, they have built a community of players and Dungeon Masters. ----------Don't miss out on any of the action!  Head to www.bardtender.com to stay up to date with all of the Bardtender content, find resources for mental and physical well-being, get access to education materials, and check out what all of our bards are up to!Support the show

Celebrating wins is not about ego—it is about visibility and honoring the work you are doing, even when it feels uncomfortable to say out loud. Lesley Logan shares the powerful and often-overlooked story of Rosalind Franklin, using it as a reminder of what can happen when contributions go unclaimed. From a meaningful community win to a personal birthday mindset shift, this FYF episode encourages you to stop playing small and let yourself be known for the work you're doing. Because when people can see your work, they can actually be helped by it. If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co mailto:beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/#follow-subscribe-free.In this episode you will learn about:Rosalind Franklin's uncredited role in discovering DNA.How her research was used and published without permission.A community win from Ainsley sparked by taking action together.Lesley's reflection on why talking about your work matters.How a new birthday theme restored excitement around celebrating.Episode References/Links:Submit your wins or questions - https://beitpod.com/questionsHer Wiki - https://www.instagram.com/p/DQOCW0ajNNYThe Art of Gathering by Priya Parker - https://a.co/d/8WYiDU0 If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox. https://lovethepodcast.com/BITYSIDEALS! DEALS! DEALS! 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Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started. Lesley Logan 0:44  Hi, Be It babe. Happy birthday weekend. Well, it's my birthday weekend. Is it your birthday weekend? I know a lot of Aquarians. Hi. It's actually a Fuck Yeah Friday episode, and that means we celebrate wins that you've sent in, a win of mine. We start to see how wins can exist everywhere, and a little mantra for our weekend. So, first, have to do the inspiration. First have to do inspiration. I am so sorry. It's my own show, and I forgot my own order, also laughing to myself, because I actually went in to do this, and then got distracted with my ADHD, and then then I got distracted, and now I'm here. So welcome. Welcome to a podcast with someone with ADHD. You know, we're just we're just making it work. Lesley Logan 1:26  Okay, so here we go. Here's the inspiration that I found, and I this is really cool. Oh, this is really cool. So excited. This blew my mind, and I'm so excited to share with you. 70 years ago, a woman discovered the structure of DNA, but two Cambridge men stole her work and won the Nobel Prize. She was erased from history and died of cancer. This is a story of the biggest theft in science, and its main character, Rosalind Franklin. So at the King's College in London, a brilliant young scientist made groundbreaking discoveries about DNA structure. Her name was Rosalind Franklin, using advanced X ray crystallography, she captured the clearest images of DNA ever seen inside the famous photo 51 and here's why it was important. And you can get this on her Wiki org. Photo 51 was revolutionary. So there's an image of this like, you know, it looks kind of like a baseball. After 100 hours of X ray exposure had showed clear X patterns that suggest a helical structure. Franklin has already concluded that DNA likely had a regular, repeating structure, but was meticulously gathering more and more data before publishing. On January 30th 1953 the theft that changed biology occurred in a dimly lit King's College London office. Maurice Wilkins took out a folder containing Photo 51, Franklin's clearest X ray image of DNA, and showed it to James Watson. When Watson saw the photo, he reportedly became so excited he could barely concentrate. The X pattern was precisely what he and Crick needed. He rushed back to Cambridge, sketching the image from memory on a newspaper during his train ride. Within hours of returning, Watson and Crick began building their now famous metal model of DNA. They use Franklin's precise measurements from Photo 51 data, they had no permission to access, determine the exact dimensions of their model. Their paper announcing DNA structure was published on April 25th 1953. Franklin's own paper appeared on the same issue. However, it was placed third after Watson and Crick's despite containing the critical experimental evidence that proved their model, Franklin's only credit, a brief acknowledgement of having been stimulated by general knowledge of her work. The reality, without her Photo 51 and unpublished analysis, Watson and Crick would have been discovered months or years behind. Discovery would have been months or years behind. The final result came. Final insult, excuse me, came in 1962 Watson Crick and Wilkins shared the Nobel Prize in Medicine. Rosalind Franklin never saw that recognition. She died of ovarian cancer in 1958 at just 37 years old, likely caused by her extensive work with X ray radiation, Franklin's story is evidence of disturbing pattern science. Women's contributions get being minimized, credit taken by male colleagues, critical discoveries going unrecognized. Even Watson's 1968 book the double helix portrayed her dismissively, the truth emerged slowly over decades, her X ray work was crucial. Without Photo 51 no DNA model. Her mathematical analysis was pioneering. Her experimental techniques were groundbreaking. Today, Franklin is finally being recognized multiple buildings and programs named after her. Her face on medical walls, books document her achievements a Mars rover named Rosalind, but she never knew her true impact. Rosalind Franklin died, never knowing she'd helped unlock one of science greatest mysteries, but our rigorous methods, brilliant mind and dedication to truth exemplify what genius really means. I just think, you know, I mean, like, it's, how is it like? Is that positive? Like, now we recognize her and we didn't before, and I just think that, like, sometimes it's really, I think the moral is like, yay. Well, not the moral, but first of all, yay that we celebrate her, and yay now that we know this. And also you're gonna do some crazy amazing things, and someone else is gonna get a win, and it can suck so much, and it hurts, and so first of all, brag about what you're fucking doing. Do it. Brag about it, and I know that word is, like, really hard for a lot of us, women over a certain age, because we were told, like, never to brag, to be quiet, like it's actually ugly and it's not attractive, to brag and you have an ego. Bullshit. No. People need to know the work that you're doing and the work that you're working on so that you you can be the person known for it, right, for the things that you're doing, and I definitely struggle with that a lot. And luckily, like having to put myself out there has really helped me realize that, like, the impact that I'm making is is incredible, and the people who are impacted are doing amazing things that are impacting others, and it's a domino effect. So who am I to play small not talk about the things I'm doing, because then people who need the help that I have don't get it. People who need the help that you have don't get it, they don't know. So brag about yourself a little bit. And I, I love what Rosalind Franklin did, and I just there are, I encourage you, like if you're needing a bit of inspiration, and just like someone to help you, like, get yourself up and keep going, is find books that celebrate the women in history, because there's so many we didn't learn about because they didn't tell us, didn't tell us. So we have to go after it. Go look at it. Lesley Logan 6:33  All right. Let's get to some wins of yours. Here we go. This one is from, oh, it's our lovely Ainsley. My win's from San Fran. These photos pretty much sum it up, having so much fun in San Francisco, going to different studios with Jennifer Maison, a road trip to Sacramento with a show around at the Balanced Body headquarters by lovely Paul, chatting about our Cambodia times, they were all at the retreat in Cambodia together, and then the sushi adventures with Christine Kam-Lynch. Lesley, thank you for bringing us all together. You have dreams of creating community, and your dreams are making our dreams come true, sending me on adventures that would honestly explode my imagination if you would tell me three years ago that this is what I'd be doing. I trusted your process, and this is wild. Thank you. It was an incredible five days. PS, Lesley, I've only just seen the video sent to you. It was birthday margaritas. I'm so freaking proud of you, Ainsley, I'm so freaking proud of you. You know what's fun is, like, even if you had told me, like, if I had been told, like, oh, like, in five, in three years, I'm gonna be doing this, like, I'd be like, okay, great, I love this. Let's figure out we're gonna do it right, like I would believe it, and I'd still be wowed when it happened, because like so few people do what they say they're gonna do, so few people put the work in. I am so obsessed with all that agency and eLevate and OPC members do, because I know they're a fraction of the people out there who will actually do what they said they're going to do. They're a fraction. And so when they do it, I am so freaking excited for them. I love guiding people. You know, you thank me so much, and I, and I do take all of that, I receive all that gratitude. Because seven, well, gosh, how long has eLevate been around, Agency been around? Agency's been around since 2018. Eight years. Like, eight years ago, I didn't know what I was creating, but I knew what I wanted to create. And sitting here reading this win, I get to go, it's like a win for me too, because I get to go, wow. Like we did it. We created this community that expands continents, and people meet up with each other, and they take action, and I'm just so I'm just so stoked for you guys. I like, can't even get the words out. I'm so freaking stoked reliving that win, and though that video was so fun, and reliving what you're doing and but also, like, you have to be proud of what you're doing, because it's actually when I bring people together that isn't easy. But like, it's easy for you, right? Like, I bring people but you guys have to take the next step. You guys had to plan the trip and take the action, and you guys had to commit to it. And then amidst all that was going on, all of your lives still show up and do it. So many people won't, because there's a should have, could have, maybe I should be doing this instead. I'm just like, Thank you for celebrating this win with us, because I know you're inspiring other people to take action and allow themselves to be surprised by what could happen in just a short period of time, just three years, right? We think that's so long and it's so short, I can't believe it's only been three years since we've been doing this. So thank you. Lesley Logan 9:32  Okay, my win. So it's my birthday on Monday, (inaudible). I'm so excited about it, and I know I've celebrated past birthdays, like, I'm like, I love that like, I don't even care that. I'm like, it's another year on the book. It's like, it's like, so fun. But I will say, like, before Covid, I had the most fun birthday parties, and I loved it. And then after covid, you know, there just wasn't a lot of ways to, like, gather people together. Like, I had my first in-person birthday in Vegas. It was my second birthday here, and it was, I was looking at pictures about, like, I don't even know who these people are, because I didn't, I didn't know people. So like, just random people showed up, and that was a win. But then the 2023 and 2024, 2025, I just, 2025, I had, I actually, actually did have a birthday party, and that was really fun. But 2022, 2023 and 2024 I just really wasn't excited to celebrate my birthday. And it's not because I wasn't excited to get older. It's not because I was like, oh, like, I just was like, I just want to be on a vacation. I'm just a little tired. And that's because, like, as the business was growing and we thought we prepared ourselves for the growth of the business, you reflect and refine and go, oh, I should have been two months ahead, not just one month ahead. I should have been like, so you learn from these things, right? But it can take a year to put those new changes to effect. We always want things to happen tomorrow. That's just not how it goes, right? Like, some things do take time. At any rate, I would get to my birthday and I'm just like, I just don't even have the time for the invitations. I just don't even have the time to plan. I just want to, like, spa life. I just want to go to Mexico, like, so I did those things, right? And I'm proud of I'm proud of everything I did. I have great celebrations. But I really did want to have, like, a fun birthday. And I wanted to go back to having fun birthdays and excitement. Last year's was actually a great time. And so I'm like, oh, I remember how great these were. So Priya Parker, I think I told this as, like, an inspirational thing. Priya Parker had posted, she's the author of The Art of Gatherings, great book. And she posted, you know, this thing of, like, dressing for the wrong party party. And so I was like, I'm obsessed with this. Because first of all, everyone who has a January birthday or a late December birthday knows like, no one is excited for your birthday. Some people are doing dry January. Some people are broke because they just got their credit card bill from their holiday. Some people are sick. Like, it's just not like, not the thing. So I definitely have been like, there needs to be a reason to come. And I don't know if this will be an annual theme, because I don't know if people get bored with it, but I freaking love it. I love it. So I threw myself a dress for the wrong party party. It's happening this weekend, so I can't tell you what everyone dressed like, or what I dress up like, because now that it's like, I can dress however I want. I might change my outfit, I don't even know, but I have made the invites. I've sent them out. I have excitedly done it, not reluctantly done it. And so my win is I just found a way to get excited about the thing that I wanted to do, and I just wanted to share that with you, because, like, maybe it's not your birthday, but maybe there's like, things in your life that you know you want to do, but like, there's not an excitement around it. And I encourage you to figure out, like, what is, what is the thing that's surrounding the thing that you want to do that's blocking you from excitement? My, my win I think I just needed a new theme to do the birthday, and it made me so excited to do it. So that's my win. I did it. I no longer. I'm like, oh, it's my birthday. I guess I'll throw something together like I am freaking having a good time. And my husband, if he's listening to this, would go, we're having a good time. There's a funny comedian who does that. And so anyways, if you know him, then you'll have to. Lesley Logan 12:58  All right, my love and affirmation for you to take with you on my birthday weekend, I am complete as I am, others simply support me. I am complete as I am, others simply support me. I am complete as I am, others simply support me. Babe, you are complete as you are, and we are here to support you. So until next time, Be It Till You See It. Lesley Logan 13:23  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the Be It Pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. 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281. Excel in Social Skills and Etiquette and Teach Your Children To Do The Same with Monica Irvine   Proverbs 20:11 NIV “Even small children are known by their actions, so is their conduct really pure and upright?”   Ephesians 4:32a AMP “Be kind and helpful to one another,”   *Transcription Below*   Monica Irvine, President and creator of The Etiquette Factory, LLC, is a master motivator and dedicated instructor who loves to help children and adults see the benefits and rewards of having proper etiquette, mastering professionalism and excelling in social skills. As a Certified Etiquette Instructor and working in the hospitality industry for 24 years, Mrs. Irvine specializes in etiquette and professional instruction to help ensure the success of each individual both personally and professionally.   Mrs. Irvine is the published author of three books on Etiquette and one book on Scheduling including: Etiquette for Beginners, Etiquette Intermediate, Etiquette Masters and A Schedule Makes for a Happy Family, in addition to authoring several monthly columns in national publications such as Everything Knoxville, The Homeschool Handbook and the Homeschool Magazine.   Mrs. Irvine is a national speaker, speaking to thousands of parents, educators and children every year.   Residing in Knoxville, TN with her husband, Mrs. Irvine spends her free time playing tennis, running and enjoying her family of three boys and a granddaughter.   You may contact Mrs. Irvine at monica@TheEtiquetteFactory.com  or via her website at www.TheEtiquetteFactory.com. Rise Up Parenting FUNdamentals 4 Kids Life Skills Essentials   Thank You to Our Sponsor: Sam Leman Eureka   Questions and Topics We Cover: What are some red flags we can identify in our lives if we are too busy and what wisdom do you recommend instead of our overstuffed schedules? As parents, why must we proactively teach these qualities to our children, rather than just instruct them in a moment of correction? Will you share stories of ways the Holy Spirit has nudged you to use etiquette and it resulted in something miraculous?    Other Savvy Sauce Episode Mentioned: Unexpected Grief and What Helped Me Through It Can Help You Too with Singer and Blogger, Brittany Price Brooker   Connect with The Savvy Sauce on Facebook or Instagram or Our Website   Gospel Scripture: (all NIV)   Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,”   Romans 3:24 “and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.”   Romans 3:25 (a) “God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.”    Hebrews 9:22 (b) “without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.”    Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”    Romans 5:11 “Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.”    John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”   Romans 10:9 “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”    Luke 15:10 says “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.”   Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus”   Ephesians 1:13–14 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.”   Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.”   Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“   Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ.“   Philippians 1:6 “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”   *Transcription*   Music: (0:00 – 0:10)   Laura Dugger: (0:11 - 2:19) Welcome to The Savvy Sauce, where we have practical chats for intentional living. I'm your host, Laura Dugger, and I'm so glad you're here.   The principles of honesty and integrity that Sam Leman founded his business on continue today, over 55 years later, at Sam Leman Chevrolet Eureka. Owned and operated by the Burchie family, Sam Leman in Eureka appreciates the support they've received from their customers all over central Illinois and beyond. Visit them today at LemanGM.com.   My guest for today is the charming Monica Irvine. She is president and creator of The Etiquette Factory. She's a master motivator and dedicated instructor who just loves helping children and adults to see the benefits and rewards of having proper etiquette. She also loves to help people master professionalism and excel in social skills.   So, she's going to give us insight into all of these ideas and share stories today for ways that we can actually seek the Lord and love others well and value people through the proper use of etiquette.   Here's our chat. Welcome to The Savvy Sauce, Monica.   Monica Irvine: (2:19 - 2:20) Thank you. Thanks for having me, Laura.   Laura Dugger: (2:20 - 5:41) Well, I'm so excited to get a chat with you today, but let's just begin here. I'm so fascinated because you were born and raised in the South. Is that right?   Monica Irvine: Well, yes, Tennessee. Absolutely consider myself Southern.   Laura Dugger: I love it. And I grew up in the Midwest and got to live in the South for a few years. And I was very struck by the difference in manners. And I'm just curious if manners and etiquette were intentionally taught to you, both in your family and then just kind of in your Southern culture around you.   Monica Irvine: (2:20 - 5:32) Well, yes. So, when I think about being raised in the South, I think and maybe my mom and my grandmas were a little different. But what I would describe my upbringing is very particular, meaning everything was made special.   And my parents and my grandparents took a lot of pride in making things beautiful and lovely. And so, of course, my mom cooked every night. But like at my home growing up and we did not have a lot of money, just know that my parents struggled.   But my mother would never put a ketchup bottle on the table or a mayonnaise jar. Everything had to be put in little bowls with little spoons. And it's funny because my friends that I have today, I get given little spoons for birthdays and occasions because my friends all know how much I love little dainty things.   But, you know, and some people, you know, might think that's a little ridiculous. But I'll tell you something. I don't know that we need to eat that way every night, seven nights a week.   But it made dinner time feel special. And even the way my mother and my grandmothers kept their house, everything had its place. It was not messy.   We had clean homes. And I think it also just helped me be proud of my home. I mean, once again, we did not have a lot of money, but my friends thought my home was so nice.   Well, the reason it was so nice is because my mother kept such care of it. And so, I was raised with a lot of cousins and live close to both of my grandparents. And so even the outside of their homes, both sets of grandparents, everything was beautiful.   And so there was a lot of pride in who we are, how we presented ourselves. But you're going to laugh at this. So, my mom, my dad tells me this story that right after my mom and dad got married, my dad came home from work one day and my mom was ironing.   You know, she'd spend a whole day ironing every week or half a day. And my mom was ironing my dad's underwear. And my mom's name is Janice.   And he was like, “Janice, honey, what are you doing?” And “I know just ironing, Bob.” And he's like, “Babe, you don't need to iron my underwear.”   But, you know, the thing is, that to my mother and my grandmothers being a good wife and being a good mother meant making sure everyone in the family looked nice, that their clothes were clean, that the home was clean, that there was good food on the table. And that was part of their identity, of this is what it means to be a good wife and mother. And I love that about my upbringing.   Laura Dugger: (5:33 - 5:41) And do you have any reasons why you think that's changed a little bit over the years?   Monica Irvine: (5:42 - 8:34) Yeah, I think we've gotten lazy. Well, no, I just I think there you know, there's balance, right? There's when I look back, I can't really remember my mom playing with me.   But now, listen, I don't feel like I missed out, but I do recognize it. But I guess even as a little girl, sure, I would have loved my mom to play with me. But that's just not in my mind what moms did.   Moms cleaned house and made everything and cooked your meal. And so, I do. I'm grateful that as a society, we have adjusted somewhat.   Sometimes I believe too much but have adjusted in going. What's the most important things? And because I'm a big believer in playing with our children and our grandchildren and creating memories.   But now my family, my parents and we worked a lot together. Like if we were if the yard needed raking, it wasn't kids go rake the yard. Mom, dad, kids were in the yard raking.   If a car needed to be washed, it wasn't go wash the car. We were all out there washing the car. So, I think that's why I don't feel like I missed out because my family did so many things together.   Whereas today we're so separated. No parents give their children and babies phones and iPads so they'll just be quiet so they can get their important work done. Like grocery shopping or cooking.   And I just think that instead of teaching our children how to self-soothe and self-entertain and how to creatively play even by yourself, sometimes we just always believe there has to be a babysitter to distract our children from wanting mom and dad. It's just I you know, this could be a whole other talk, Laura, but I just you know, I see it. It breaks my heart sometimes on the lack of how often families work together, play together and do things together.   But now, you know, dad's watching his game in this room. Mom is in another room, maybe on her computer doing social media. The kids are in their rooms on their games.   And I see a lack of family unity. So once again, even though maybe my mom and dad didn't play with us and I'm glad we've shifted with that thought process. Still, we were a united family.   Laura Dugger: (8:35 - 8:56) I love that. And the Lord has clearly given you a passion for that instilling that in others. And He invited you into a journey that eventually led to The Etiquette Factory, which is the work that you get to do today.   So, can you share the impetus for that and what that journey looked like for you?   Monica Irvine: (8:56 - 13:54) I will. I love my company. I feel like it's just yet another beautiful adventure the Lord has allowed me to be on in my life.   And so, I feel like I'm just outside looking in at this beautiful little business that has allowed me to minister to children and adults in need. So, years ago, I was homeschooling our kids. I was homeschooling our youngest son at the time, and we were studying the life of President George Washington.   And I just kind of stumbled upon this list. It was called George Washington's Rules of Civility and Decent Behavior. It is a beautiful list of 110 chivalry skills.   And apparently, President Washington was encouraged to focus on some chivalry as was part of a formal education in those days. He found a French book that had these list of chivalry kind of considerations, and he copied them. He hand copied them, of course.   And we have that list of 110 chivalry skills in President Washington's handwriting. But as I started reading over this list, the Lord penetrated my heart. I just I was like, these are so beautiful.   I mean, some of them were kind of funny. Some of them were. It's not polite to remove lice from your companion in public, which I think is good to know.   But most of the beautiful chivalry skills were very applicable to today. And I was like I want my son to memorize these skills. So, we started memorizing one Washington skill a week.   And because they were written in that old English, you know, sometimes we were like, what does this mean? And it just I just decided for my son's sake, who was nine at the time, I wanted to just kind of make my own version. But what was so a light bulb moment for me is as we started making manners part of our daily discussion in school, I noticed a change in my child's behavior and my son would be like, “Mom, let's do another one. What's the next one? Let's do one more.”   And I found that so fascinating because, as you know, most of us parents, when we teach manners, we're teaching it in the moment, usually correcting bad behavior. It's not that that's our goal. It's just that that's when we think about it.   Our child says, or does something that's not the most polite, and all of a sudden we're going, “Oh, honey, no, honey, you can't say that. That's not polite.” And then we make the correction and then we teach the skill.   And what I learned and realized is that so often that's when I was teaching my children manners in the moment of correcting. And what I've learned about that is when we're being corrected, whether you're three years old or 30 years old, we harden our heart typically because it's self-preservation. You know, we stiffen up when someone's like, “Monica, you really shouldn't have.” I'm like, whoa.   And it's just because of our own pride. We don't like being called out and neither do our children, even when we're doing it gently and politely. It's still a correction.   And so, what I found is when our heart is hardened, as the scripture says, it's not the best time to absorb information. It's the opposite of being humble. To be humble means to be teachable.   To be hardened means to not be teachable. So, when we have a hardened heart, it's hard for us to absorb things of the spirit, which all truth comes from God. So, anything that is lovely of good rapport is of God.   So, when we're teaching our children to be kind and to have kind considerations for others, those are God's truths and God's truths cannot seep into the soul of our heart unless our heart is soft. And so that is what happened is I was like, today we're going to learn how to use our napkin properly. Or today we're going to learn how to apologize.   But how do you make it sound sincere and how do you be sincere when you don't really feel it? And so, as we started just working on one skill at a time, the conversations were typically beautiful. Parts were changed and behavior ended up changing.   And so really, that's what then later became The Etiquette Factory.   Laura Dugger: (13:55 - 14:20) I love that because I think it gives our children confidence because then they're equipped and prepared and understand what's expected of them in different situations or what can bless others in the way they act. But then I'm curious, you gave a few examples of those. Can you think of any of George Washington's chivalry lines that would still apply today?   Monica Irvine: (14:21 - 19:07) Yes, well, so I'm not quoting, I'm summarizing. So, for instance, one is it is not polite to hum or sing in the presence of others that would cause distraction. And so basically it's not polite to draw attention to ourselves but also draw attention or interrupt other people's day life when we haven't been invited to do so.   So let me give you this definition we use for etiquette. So, at The Etiquette Factory, etiquette is helping those around us to feel valued and to feel comfortable. Well, if I'm sitting there humming along, but the person beside me really doesn't want to hear my humming, then I might be causing that person to feel uncomfortable.   Same thing, you know, whenever I start off teaching a class, because usually when everyone thinks of manners, they think of table manners. Of course, there's so much more. But I use this example.   I say, well, if I were to come to your home and sit down and I started eating like a pig in the presence of your family, I mean, I'm chewing with my mouth open. I'm making a smacking my lips. I'm taking too big of bites and food is falling in my lap or I'm making a mess on the table.   Or I eat so fast that I am finished eating, getting up to leave. And you're just on your third bite of food. Well, any of those behaviors, I would be sending a message.   And that message is, look, I'm here for one person and that person is myself. I came to fill up my belly because I'm hungry. And beyond that, I really don't care.   I don't care if I'm making you uncomfortable. I don't care if I'm grossing you out. I don't care if you actually wanted to talk to me because I just came here to eat and I'm out of here.   You see, we don't realize it, but a lack of chivalry is called selfishness. A lack of chivalry is inward focused. When we focus outwardly on what message am I sending to those around me?   Am I sending a message of love and care and value? That is etiquette. I get emailed all the time and message like, “OK, Monica, I've got this shower I'm putting on.   And my daughter is not going to invite her work friends to the wedding. But is it OK if we invite all of them to a wedding shower?” And they'll go, so what's the etiquette rule?   Well, there is no etiquette rule about that, except etiquette is about helping those around us to feel valued. And so that's how I answer every question. I'm like, well, let me ask you if you were invited to a wedding shower, where you're asking her friends to shower your daughter with gifts and love to celebrate her wedding.   But yet those friends were not valued enough to invite to the wedding. How do you think it would make them feel? And so that's what the answer is with etiquette.   Now, there's exceptions. In fact, that case, that's a real email I got. And she ended up having the shower because her daughter went and told her co-worker who offered to give her a wedding shower.   “You know what? I thought that is so thoughtful. I'm so grateful that you were willing to do that. But we're having a very small, intimate wedding, you know, for financial reasons and intimacy reasons. And so, I just don't feel comfortable inviting people to bring gifts for me and knowing that we're just we're not going to be able to invite everyone to the wedding.”   And that co-worker said, “We don't care. We knew you were having a small wedding. We want to celebrate you.”   And so, you know, you can there be exceptions, but a lady and a gentleman always try to be very aware of those unspoken messages. And that guides our conversation, our answers, our actions. And that's what we teach children and adults to do at The Etiquette Factory.   Laura Dugger: (19:07 - 21:17) And now a brief message from our sponsor.   Sam Leman Chevrolet Eureka has been owned and operated by the Burchie family for over 25 years. 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Stop allowing the adversary to tempt us to remain too busy.”   So, Monica, what wisdom can you share for maybe red flags that can help us identify when we're too busy to focus on the most important things, and what do you recommend instead of overstuffing our schedules and our lives?   Monica Irvine: (21:18 - 26:23) You know, that's a great question. Those are good questions that every family should ask themselves. You know, I think that if we are to strive to focus on the most important things, step number one is, has mom and dad identified the most important things?   Because if you don't know what your goal is, then you're not going to as easily recognize when something is interfering with your goal. So, for instance, maybe mom and dad sits down and says, “Well, our number one goal is to make sure that our children know Jesus Christ. And so, what do we need to do to make sure that we're doing our best to help our children know who He is?”   Well, and so a family might decide, well, we want to have daily scripture study and daily family and individual prayer. We want to make it a priority to be at church so that we can worship on the Sabbath, but also so that we can meet together with other like-minded Christians and minister to one another as we're taught by the Savior. That's important for us to do.   And perhaps we want to learn to do as the Savior does. And that's why we're going to learn of His attributes and try to follow in His footsteps and be a family of service. So, let's just say those are our four of the most important things.   If that's our goal, then hopefully mom and dad could recognize when we're starting to stumble off the path that leads to our goal. For instance, I can't tell you how many parents have come up to me after they hear me speak on this topic and say, “Monica, I wish I had heard you say this 10 years ago. But we got sucked up into the what the world has to offer, and we started allowing our children to play competitive sports on Sunday. And so, we stopped going to church years ago because there was always a championship game on Sunday morning and always another tournament. And we wanted our children to have, you know, college opportunities.”   And there's nothing wrong with college opportunities unless that college opportunity interferes with our most important goal. And so that's why first mom and dad have to decide what is the most important, because then it's easier to recognize when we are being tempted by the adversary to focus on what the world is trying to offer us.   And the world offers us shiny things that tempt our human nature to want to be popular and loved by all and wealthy. And so, we just have to always go back to our goals. You know, I've got families that say, “I wish we had eaten dinner together more often. But we allowed our children to be so scheduled that there was not one night or there was only one night a week that we actually sat down at the table together.”   You know, parents. You will regret that. And you can't take back these precious, very short years that you have your children under your roof in your home.   And you will be someone like me one day where all of my kids are graduating and grandchildren and all you live for is your children to come visit and your children to come have dinner. And so, when you allow the world to creep in and be more important than spending time with your family, time with the Lord, time on good and lovely things, you will regret it. And I just think that probably every year come January, mom and dad should sit down and go, let's look at last year.   What were we missing from our family schedule? What do we need to reevaluate whether that is the most important thing? And so that's something I think all of us have to do on a regular basis.   Laura Dugger: (26:24 - 27:20) I think you're hitting on something profound there, that reflection with the Lord or with our spouse. I think we have no excuse because if there is no spouse in the picture, we always have the Lord. But to be intentional, to take that time, maybe on a Sabbath and go through a few questions and reflect back.   I think that could save us from a lot of regret. So, I really appreciate that response. And going back to etiquette, then you've taught us that it is a learned behavior.   This isn't something that our children will just naturally pick up. It's best to do in times where their hearts are soft, so proactive if possible. But I'd love to know in your own life, when were times that the Holy Spirit nudged you to use etiquette and it resulted in something miraculous?   Monica Irvine: (27:21 - 32:56) Oh, goodness. Okay, well, to me, I think miraculous is seeing the Lord's divine hand in our life. I see the miracle of the Lord every day in my life.   But probably most often is when I kneel down at the end of a day, I repent daily because I need to daily. And it's always a little nervous because I pray and I ask the Lord, as sometimes I know what I need to repent of. I know that I recognized I stumbled that day on something, but sometimes I just I pray and I say, “Lord, you know, just help.”   If something needs to be brought to my mind that I need to repent of and that I need to do better, would you bring it to my mind at this time? And it wasn't that long ago that the Lord brought to my mind something that I had gotten in the habit of doing that I didn't feel like it was wrong, but it was wrong. And so, etiquette, one of the etiquette skills I teach everyone is that it's not polite for us to gossip.   A lady and a gentleman always draw attention to the lovely and wonderful things that other people do. Now, if there's a safety issue, that's different, but I'm just talking about we don't share negative things about other people. And so, it's something I teach every year, all year long.   But I feel like I've done so much better than I did twenty-five years ago when the Lord really chastised me one time for gossiping. But in the last couple of months, I had gotten in the habit of sharing with my husband. So sometimes, you know, when you share with your spouse that you kind of feel like that's a safe place that the same rules don't apply because you and your spouse kind of talk about everything.   And so, I was in the habit of sharing with my spouse something that I was worried about that another person in our family did. But I was constantly going, “Oh, I don't like that. They do this and I don't like that. They do this and I'm worried about it.” And I actually was worried about it. But I just was constantly kind of highlighting these things that I didn't like that someone in our family did.   Well, one night I was praying and asked the Lord to bring to my mind and the Lord brought that to my mind. And it was kind of like he said, “Monica, don't you remember that? If you're worried about someone. Instead of sharing those negative things, even with Charles, my husband, what would be more effective is if you prayed and asked me to bless that person, to help that person, you know, in the ways that they need help and ask me to help, you know, of ways that you could be a better example to that person. But you don't need to constantly draw attention because it's starting to make you be negative towards this person.”   And I just like right when the Lord said that to me, I was embarrassed. I was like, “Monica, that. Yeah. Like, how do you not know that? That you should know better than that.”   Well, so immediately I repented and I apologized to the Lord and I and I started doing what he asked me to do. And within just a couple of days, like I started just noticing all of the wonderful, lovely things that this person is and does. And so, just to me, that is miraculous and it happens all the time.   And if I'm humble enough to repent and to listen to the Lord, because the Lord wants to help us and he wants us to strive to be like him. But we've got to ask where we need to be corrected. And so, I teach etiquette, I teach we don't gossip.   And then lo and behold, I had kind of gotten myself in another trap again. You know, and I just I think it's a miracle what happens when we listen to the Lord. He immediately turns our mind to good, lovely, beautiful things and allows us to be a vessel of light instead of vessel of darkness.   And we can be that vessel of darkness just right inside our own marriage, even though we think that's kind of a safe place to maybe be a little looser with our tongue. So, there's one example.   Laura Dugger: (32:57 - 33:26) I love that. And I remember you also explaining whenever you get a thought in your head that you don't want to do, it's likely 100 percent from God. So, can you share a couple specific stories of times that that was the Holy Spirit telling you something that you didn't maybe want to do, but you obeyed?   I'm remembering something about a grocery store and another time separately about a phone call. Yeah.   Monica Irvine: (33:26 - 40:29) OK, well, I'll tell about the phone call just because it's less sad. So, yeah, one time there was this lady and she was just kind of investigating our church and starting to come to our church and kind of fill it out. So, I had just met her and I found out that her what led her to come looking for God is her husband was an addict and she was just at her wits end and their marriage and family was falling apart.   And so, she came looking for the for help for the Lord. And so, I learned a little bit about her story. I ended up taking her to one of those celebrate recovery places at another church because I knew they had a wonderful program.   And so, I had interacted with her a couple of times. I probably had only known her about a month when one night I was running late to take my kids to youth on Wednesday night and I was cooking some spaghetti and I was just, you know, cooking that spaghetti at the stove. And all of a sudden I had a thought come into my mind, “Call her.”   And, you know, I was like, oh, yeah, I do need to call her. I need to call and check on her. I will, you know, after church tonight.   And so, I, you know, kept cooking that spaghetti. And the second time the Spirit, because that's who it was talking to me, because that's who tells us to do good things. Not us, but God.   The Spirit said, “Monica, call her.” But I was running late and I was trying to get my kids fed and I was like, I will call her as soon as I get the kids fed, you know, drop them off at church and then I'll call her, you know, and so I really meant to call her. But I.   Finally, a third time, and it seems to always take me three times before I realize, OK, he means now. And so, a third time it was like “Monica call.” And so, it was so strong.   And I, I know it's the Lord, but I, I just turned the stove off. I went into my bedroom, got my phone out, dialed her number. And as it was ringing, she picked up the phone and all I heard was just some quiet sobbing.   And she couldn't speak. And I, you know, I said her name. I said, “Hey, so and so it's Monica. I just. I see that you're upset. I just wanted to call and check on you. In fact, the Lord insisted that I call and check on you.”   And then her, you know, her crying just continued. It wasn't until, you know, she had calmed down and she just said, you know, “Monica, I had been praying and just asking the Lord to just show me that, you know, show me that you care that this is happening to me.” Something like that.   And, you know, I, I, in that moment, my stomach kind of did that little knot because I knew how close I had come to just not calling. And sure, I could have called her an hour later. It would have been at least an hour later and maybe, you know, it would have mattered.   But the Lord knew that it mattered right in that moment. She needed an answer. She needed to know that the Lord was listening.   And I've learned that in my life, that whenever we get a thought that comes into our mind and that thought is to do something good, like calling someone, you all is a good thing. Visiting someone, writing a letter to someone. Those are good things.   And all good comes from the Lord. And sometimes I wonder, does the Lord trust me? Does he know I'll respond when the stakes are high?   You know, sometimes I think as we continue to learn how to hear the spirit, we have to practice. Oh, that was the spirit. And probably if you're like me, I've learned a lot about the spirit by not listening.   And then later going, “Oh, yeah, Lord, I did miss that. You tried. You tried to warn me, or you tried to get me to do that. And I dismissed it.”   But so, you all I just think it takes practice and I'm still practicing. But I do believe that especially when it's something that we don't really want to do or we think we don't have time. And I just realize I felt the Lord going, “Monica, do you not think I know you're cooking spaghetti? Do you not think I know you're running late? But right now, there's something more important I need you to do than to get your kids to church on time.”   And so, I think at some point we have to decide, do we trust Him or don't we? And if we trust Him, we have to trust Him completely. And that means when we receive a prompting that we will act quickly because the Lord knows what we're doing.   And He knows that we don't have the best relationship with that person. Yet you're feeling like you should call. He already knows that.   And it doesn't mean that everything's always going to turn out the way we think it will. Sometimes I think the Lord just wants us to know ourselves that we'll do what He asked us to do, regardless of how it will turn out. And sometimes I feel like the Lord has told me to do something and I did it and it didn't go well.   And I'm like, “Lord, like, why? Why?” And I know all of us, you all sit there and go, wait, was that my thought or was it God's thought?   And you know what I have learned is that just stop worrying about it. Just act in faith. And the Lord always backs up His people.   The Lord doesn't, as you and I are praying and striving to understand the Lord's will. And let's say we get an idea and so we act on it because we feel like it was a prompting and then it does not go well. I believe the Lord loves so much that you were trying to listen and be obedient and the blessings will come.   Sometimes we just don't know the timing or how, but we've just got to trust.   Laura Dugger: (40:29 - 43:59) I love that. And we never know what's happening on the other side of our obedience. And I'll link back to Brittany Price Brooker's episode because she was one who had lost her husband and was crying out to the Lord.   I think she was bathing her young children, and they didn't have food in the house and maybe they were sick. And the only thing that sounded good to their child was apples, but it was late at night. She couldn't go get them herself.   And she was just praying like, “Lord, do You see me? Do You know my needs? I need You to meet my needs.”   And right then the doorbell rings and somebody showed up and she said, “The Lord told me to buy you these apples and bring them to you.” And I think that highlights something else. You articulated it well when you say whenever you get that thought in your head that you something that you don't want to do, it's likely 100% from God.   I would say a lot of times too, it's also awkward or inconvenient. We don't know why. And then I think back to the Bible, Abraham was put in a very awkward situation with his son and Noah, that was very awkward to be building the boat when there wasn't rain.   But look at the blessing that comes on the other side of obedience. So, appreciate those stories are really helpful.   By now, I hope you've checked out our updated website, thesavvysauce.com, so that you can have access to all the additional freebies we are offering, including all of our previous articles and all of our previous episodes, which now include transcriptions. You will be equipped to have your own practical chats for intentional living when you read all the recommended questions in the articles or gain insight from expert guests and past episodes as you read through the transcriptions. Because many people have shared with us that they want to take notes on previous episodes, or maybe their spouse prefers to read our conversations rather than listen to them or watch them now that we're offering video rather than just audio. So, we heard all of that and we now have provided transcripts for all our episodes.   Just visit thesavvysauce.com. All of this is conveniently located under the tab show notes on our website. Happy reading.   So, at that same conference, when I heard you speak, you shared something that really stuck with me. This one was about our daughters. So, I want to talk about daughters first and then we'll move to sons.   But you mentioned there was this one study where over 3,000 men were surveyed. And they were asked, what's the number one quality that you desire in your wife? Either current wife or someday in the future when you're married.   And do you remember the response? Yeah, it was kindness. Kindness.   That she is kind. And so, I wondered, was there another side for the boys then too? What do you think women would say for their future or their current spouse?   What attribute do you think they would identify?   Monica Irvine: (44:00 - 47:35) It didn't have that for the other side, but a word that we don't use as much anymore. And I try to use it a lot is, I think most women, even if it wouldn't come to their mind immediately, once they heard it, they'd be like, oh, wait, no, yeah, that. And that is honorable.   They would want their husbands to be honorable. And to be honorable means that we do honorable things. And honorable things always 100 percent of the time require some level of sacrifice.   That's what makes them honorable when we sacrifice and give up our time, ourself in order to better someone else to help our country, our family, others. And so, I think today what we all want is for our spouses, husbands and wives to be kind and to live honorable lives. Those lives, it doesn't mean a perfect life, but to be honorable means we strive to have integrity.   We strive to be godly. We strive to do what we say we're going to do. We strive to live up to our divine nature as God called mothers and fathers and husbands.   And so, I would think to me that is the most important, because if you live an honorable life, then you honor God. You honor your marriage covenant. You honor your children by treating them and speaking to them with honor.   You honor your job. You make sure that you have integrity at work and that you're dependable. And the same goes for us women.   You know, but I think I think we all struggle with selfishness. I mean, that is ultimately what we struggle with every day is what do I want? What do I need?   What's important to me versus trying to live a selfless life for our spouse, for our family? Anyway, it would be interesting to do that survey, but I think what's so kind of funny about the kindness is that whenever I read that survey results that I had read years ago, when I say that to a crowd of women. And men, but when I say that to the crowd, you can always see I just see this rippling of women making this kind of gesture.   Or because they know that they could be more kind, because usually we can be kind to everyone in the world. But in the walls of our home, we struggle more with just kindness.   Laura Dugger: (47:37 - 48:00) And so if we go further upstream than before we're married, if that's what God has for us, what are practical ways that we can teach and instill kindness in our children and honorable character? Or any other practical tips for conduct?   Monica Irvine: (48:00 - 53:03) Yeah, well, I love when I do a workshop at a convention on a family of service, because honestly, when we have our children in our home, it's practice ground. We have once again a few years to help them learn to love the Lord and to love others. You know, the two great commandments, love me and love others.   Well, to me, the best way to teach our children to love God and love others is to get our children out and serving others. Because, as you know, typically, like, for instance, when someone calls us and says, “Oh, hey, Monica, hey, would you mind, you know, the Smith family, they just had their new baby. Do you think you could cook dinner for them one night next week?”   If you're like me, I'm going to say yes. And then I'm going to hang up. And then I'm going to have that anxiety because already my week is so full and I was already stressed out about how I was going to get all the things done I needed to get done.   And now I've just added another thing. And I'm not saying there are not times that we don't need to say no, because we absolutely have to say no sometimes. But my point is, I cook the dinner and I go drop it off.   And as I'm pulling, as we are pulling away from that home, how do we feel? Do we feel better or do we feel worse? Do we feel happy or do we feel sad?   Honestly, almost 100 percent of the time, y'all, we're going to feel happier. We're going to feel grateful. We're going to be grateful that we had the opportunity to cook that dinner for that sweet family.   We're going to be reminded of how sweet the Lord is to give us opportunities to be His hands and His feet and His mouth here on the earth. And so, we want our children to learn to love. To love others, but it takes practice.   It's not until you serve again and again and again that you start to realize that the secret to being happy, the secret to having peace in your life and love abounding in your home is when we lose ourselves in the service of others. It's the secret to fixing siblings arguing with each other. It's the secret to helping husbands and wives draw closer together and have more love for one another.   It's the secret to less contention overall, to more peace, to more joy and happiness is to lose ourselves in the service of others. And so, to me, if you want to raise if we want to raise honorable, kind, generous, compassionate, empathetic human beings, they've got to lose themselves. To find themselves and define God.   And so, yeah, I think that's the secret. And of course, Jesus Christ tried to teach us that over and over and over again. He tried to teach His disciples over and over again that if you love me.   Then love my sheep, feed my sheep, teach my sheep. And what's interesting is that you all. The more we do that, the more we serve and love others.   Do you know what I believe? I believe it's kind of like the Grinch. Remember when the Grinch's heart grew?   That's real. That's really what happens. The God expands our ability to love others.   And in doing that, it actually expands our deep love of God. I think it's so fascinating that that's the fruit of service is a deeper and abiding love of Jesus Christ. It seems like it would be the opposite, right?   Well, I've got to love Jesus more in order to have a greater desire to serve. But it's the opposite. He wants you to go serve when you don't really feel like it.   And he wants you to go serve when it's not convenient. And your kids are crying and no one wants to go rake her yard. And then the fruit of acting in faith and trusting God is the love.   Laura Dugger: (53:05 - 53:34) That's what I would do. That's so good. Such a good medicine or anecdote to selfishness and issues we're having in the home with our children and for ourselves.   Well, Monica, you have shared so much goodness with us throughout this conversation. Can you explain how you can help partner with us as parents to help us teach our children etiquette at neutral times? Like you said, when their hearts are softer?   Monica Irvine: (53:35 - 56:52) Yes. Yeah. So, we've got some awesome resources, parents.   And number one is we do have a parenting course called Rise Up Parenting. And it's just this beautiful 52-week course that you get lifetime access to in case it takes you three years to get through your 52 weeks. But it is a course for mom and dad, or mom, or dad by themselves.   But it's just a beautiful way to help parents focus on one parenting skill a week. I've learned that when we have purposeful parenting, when we focus on one improvement at a time because we can get so overwhelmed, like we want we want to teach our kids to be selfless and that be ambitious and to serve and share. And I mean, it's just, it's endless.   But the Lord is a house of order. The gospel of Jesus Christ is a house of order. And so as long as we're going in the right direction, y'all, we are successful.   And so, this parenting course teaches a biblical principle and then a parenting principle that are related and allows you to just make little increment steps of improvement. Because when mom and dad improve, it blesses your children. So that's the first resource.   And then the other two most popular resources is we just have two programs. We have a program called FUNdamentals4Kids that targets children preschool through about third grade. And it's so fun.   It's just these wonderful, fun board games, flashcards, songs, stories, crafts, where we try to encourage you to twice a week set aside 15 minutes of your school day for an official manners activity and watch what happens. So, we've organized it for you. And for the little kids, we found out that if they can play with it, sing about it, make some food with it, that it helps them to go, “Mom, let's do a manners lesson.”   And then they don't even know that they're being taught these beautiful, wonderful skills. So that is so wonderful. And then for kids about fourth grade through 12th grade, we have a course called Life Skills for You.   And it's just so fun and it's so effective. Basically, it's 142 little three-minute lessons. We once again just try to get you to commit to twice a week sitting down with your family, watching a three-minute lesson where I'm teaching the etiquette skill.   Plus, we show teenagers doing the skill the wrong way and the right way. So, it's kind of funny, but it just creates some really great conversation with the family. And so those are our top three selling product lines.   And you can find all of that on our website, theetiquettefactory.com.   Laura Dugger: (56:53 - 57:15) Thank you for sharing. We will certainly link to all of that in the show notes for today's episode. And Monica, you may be familiar that we are called The Savvy Sauce because savvy is synonymous with practical knowledge.   And so, this is my final question for you today. What is your savvy sauce? Yeah.   Oh, that's a hard one.   Monica Irvine: (57:15 - 59:06) I thought about this and I'm like, it's so hard. You all. Honestly, my savvy sauce is Jesus Christ.   It just is. I know sometimes we want the answer to be something else, but in all practical terms, it's Jesus. Meaning I start my morning out every day with Jesus.   I end every night with Jesus. I pray throughout the day and ask Him to help me make a decision. And I thank Him for all the beautiful things that happened to me throughout the day.   And I just He is this person, this real person that is at my side every day, all day, I hope. And that's how I do anything. That's why I am the mother that I am.   Not that I'm the best mother, but because of Him, I can mother and because of Him, I can be a good wife. And because of Him, I can be a good friend and I can minister to others through The Etiquette Factory. It's just it is Him.   And, you know, sometimes people will ask me, “Monica, I I want to have the knowledge you have or I want to be able to whatever parent the way it sounds like you parent.” And I'm like, you guys know, it's just it's called Jesus Christ. And Jesus will tell us all things that we should do.   And so my sauce is having a relationship with Jesus Christ. It truly is well said.   Laura Dugger: (59:06 - 59:24) And, Monica, you are such a gifted communicator and your heart of compassion is evident in your outward behavior. It's been such a joy to get to spend an hour with you today. So, I just want to say thank you for being my guest.   Monica Irvine: (59:24 - 59:43) Oh, thank you, Laura. And it's been such a joy. You're so kind.   And I appreciate the beautiful ministry that you're doing here on The Savvy Sauce. What a blessing for families to be able to just hear these resources that you've created. So, thank you.   Laura Dugger: (59:44 - 1:03:26) Thank you for being a part of it.   One more thing before you go, have you heard the term gospel before? It simply means good news. And I want to share the best news with you, but it starts with the bad news.   Every single one of us were born sinners, but Christ desires to rescue us from our sin, which is something we cannot do for ourselves. This means there's absolutely no chance we can make it to heaven on our own. So, for you and for me, it means we deserve death, and we can never pay back the sacrifice we owe to be saved.   We need a savior, but God loved us so much. He made a way for his only son to willingly die in our place as the perfect substitute. This gives us hope of life forever in right relationship with him.   That is good news. Jesus lived the perfect life. We could never live and died in our place for our sin.   This was God's plan to make a way to reconcile with us so that God can look at us and see Jesus. We can be covered and justified through the work Jesus finished. If we choose to receive what he has done for us, Romans 10:9 says, “that if you confess with your mouth, Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”   So, you pray with me now. Heavenly father, thank you for sending Jesus to take our place. I pray someone today right now is touched and chooses to turn their life over to you.   Will you clearly guide them and help them take their next step in faith to declare you as Lord of their life? We trust you to work and change lives now for eternity. In Jesus name we pray.   Amen. If you prayed that prayer, you are declaring him for me. So, me for him, you get the opportunity to live your life for him.   And at this podcast, we're called The Savvy Sauce for a reason. We want to give you practical tools to implement the knowledge you have learned. So, you're ready to get started.   First, tell someone, say it out loud, get a Bible. The first day I made this decision, my parents took me to Barnes and Noble and let me choose my own Bible. I selected the Quest NIV Bible and I love it.   You can start by reading the book of John. Also get connected locally, which just means tell someone who's a part of a church in your community that you made a decision to follow Christ. I'm assuming they will be thrilled to talk with you about further steps such as going to church and getting connected to other believers to encourage you.   We want to celebrate with you too. So, feel free to leave a comment for us here. If you did make a decision to follow Christ, we also have show notes included where you can read scripture that describes this process.   And finally, be encouraged. Luke 15:10 says, “in the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.” The heavens are praising with you for your decision today.   And if you've already received this good news, I pray you have someone to share it with. You are loved and I look forward to meeting you here next time.

In this episode, I'm sharing the story behind The Mindset Babe why I created it, how it started, and the deeper mission that's guided every evolution along the way.What began as a personal journey through self-doubt, burnout, and the constant pressure to “do more” slowly turned into something bigger: a space for women who are tired of being hard on themselves and ready to feel confident, worthy, and grounded in who they are.I talk about the lessons that shaped this brand, the vision I'm holding for the next three years, and what I believe is possible when women stop shrinking, stop self-abandoning, and start trusting themselves.Connect with me:EMAIL ME: theperryrichardson@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠22 Journal Prompts ( Free Guide)⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on Instagram (the.mindsetbabe)Keywords:self love podcast, confidence podcast for women, mindset coaching, life coaching for women, self worth, personal development podcast, emotional wellness, becoming confident, healing self doubt, ambitious women, mindset coach, feeling good enough, feminine confidence, mindset growth, women over 30, self trust, worthiness, coaching for women

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We're already getting all emotional about coming up on our 1000th episode, and enjoying the fact that all the naysayers were wrong about us being a "showmance." Susie watched the Chevy Chase documentary, and was hoping to find out if he is in fact the a-hole he is often accused of being. Spoiler: he kind of is. We discuss some big news in psychology research, and it turns out maybe everything we thought we knew is wrong? (So what, who cares.) We found out about an ultramarathon that is simultaneously the opposite of our forthcoming (imaginary) flip-flop 5K and also in competition with it. It involves 31 miles and 9 Taco Bell locations.Brain Candy Podcast Website - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/Brain Candy Podcast Book Recommendations - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/books/Brain Candy Podcast Merchandise - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/candy-store/Brain Candy Podcast Candy Club - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/product/candy-club/Brain Candy Podcast Sponsor Codes - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/support-us/Brain Candy Podcast Social Media & Platforms:Brain Candy Podcast LIVE Interactive Trivia Nights - https://www.youtube.com/@BrainCandyPodcast/streamsBrain Candy Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/braincandypodcastHost Susie Meister Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susiemeisterHost Sarah Rice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahriceBrain Candy Podcast on X: https://www.x.com/braincandypodBrain Candy Podcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/braincandy (JOIN FREE - TONS OF REALITY TV CONTENT)Brain Candy Podcast Sponsors, partnerships, & Products that we love:Visit https://www.carawayhome.com/braincandypod and you can take an additional 10% off your next purchase!Let Rocket Money help you reach your financial goals faster. Join at https://rocketmoney.com/braincandySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

00:00 – 25:41 - JMV kicks things off by talking about IU basketball and their loss last night to Michigan State. He compares the Colts to IU hoops and how both have trouble with adversity. 25:42 – 43:41 – Former IU DE Adewale Ogunleye joins the show! Wale and JMV discuss the IU win over Oregon in the Peach Bowl! They also preview the National Championship between IU and Miami! 43:42 – 47:43 – JMV wraps up the 1st hour of the show! 47:44 – 1:12:49 – Kevin Bowen from The Fan Morning Show joins JMV! How did IU basketball look in the loss to Michigan State? What does Kevin think of the upcoming National Championship game? Does he think Carlie Irsay-Gordon would have kept Ballard and Steichen if she had known John Harbaugh and Mike Tomlin would be available? 1:12:450 – 1:30:20 – Babe Laufenberg, the former Hoosier quarterback, joins the show! How impressed has Babe been with his former team throughout the playoffs? What does he think will happen on Monday? 1:30:20 - 1:34:22 – JMV wraps up the 2nd hour of the show! 1:34:23 – 2:00:34 – Actor and filmmaker Billy Corben joins the show! How would Billy shoot a documentary on this iteration of the Miami Hurricanes? How does Billy think the game will go? 2:00:35 – 2:12:59 – JMV takes calls from listeners of the show! 2:13:00 – 2:20:44 – JMV wraps up the 3rd hour of the show! 2:20:45 – 2:26:55 – JMV wraps up the show! Support the show: https://1075thefan.com/the-ride-with-jmv/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Is a serum that smells like a public swimming pool actually the secret to flawless skin, or have we finally gone too far? On today’s Spendy Savey, Amy reveals the "annoyingly good" liquid gold she used to save her face from flare-ups before her wedding, while Kelly discovers a drugstore base that starts white but magically transforms into the perfect summer glow. We’re deep-diving into "vegetarian snail jizz" for the plumpest skin of your life, the budget nail savior that fixes yellowing beds in one swipe, and why everyone is obsessed with a "galactic" eyeshadow throwback that looks like a pink sci-fi dream. Plus, Kelly shows off a Charlotte Tilbury palette so pretty she’s treating it like a literal museum artefact. EVERYTHING MENTIONED: SPENDY: Kelly: Glow Recipe Prickly Pear Peptide Hydrating Mucin Serum, $55. Amy: Osmosis Skincare Rescue Epidermal Repair Serum, $253. SAVEY: Kelly: Pixi Beauty On-the-Glow Bronze, $33. Amy: Essie Hard To Resist Nail Strengthener, $20.99. NEWBIES: Kelly: Charlotte Tilbury Hollywood Instant Look in a Palette (Limited Edition), $111. Amy: MCoBeauty Illuminating CC Cream, $28. SHOP MY STASH/EMPTY: Kelly: MAC Pro Longwear Paint Pot in Babe in Charms, $47. Amy: Trinny London Take Back Time Elixir (2pk Refill), $136 DON'T FORGET: Watch & Subscribe on YouTube, this episode drops tonight at 7pm! Catch it here. Follow us on Instagram: @youbeautypodcast Follow us on TikTok: @youbeautypod Join our You Beauty Facebook Group here GET IN TOUCH: Got a beauty question you want answered? Email us at youbeauty@mamamia.com.au or send us a voice note on Instagram! You Beauty is a podcast by Mamamia. Listen to more Mamamia podcasts here. For our product recommendations, exclusive beauty news, reviews, articles, deals and much more - sign up for our free You Beauty weekly newsletter here Subscribe to Mamamia here CREDITS: Hosts: Kelly McCarren & Amy Clark Producer: Sophie Campbell Audio Producer: Tegan Sadler Video Producer: Artemi Kokkaris Just so you know — some of the links in these notes are affiliate links, which means we might earn a small commission if you buy through them. It doesn’t cost you anything extra, and it helps support the show. Happy shopping! Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.Become a Mamamia subscriber: https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

00:00 - 16:19 - Former IU DE Adewale Ogunleye joins the show! Wale and JMV discuss the IU win over Oregon in the Peach Bowl! They also preview the National Championship between IU and Miami! 16:20 - 31:56 - Babe Laufenberg, the former Hoosier quarterback, joins the show! How impressed has Babe been with his former team throughout the playoffs? What does he think will happen on Monday? 31:57 - 56:20 - Actor and filmmaker Billy Corben joins the show! How would Billy shoot a documentary on this iteration of the Miami Hurricanes? How does Billy think the game will go? 56:21 - 1:18:37 - Kevin Bowen from The Fan Morning Show joins JMV! How did IU basketball look in the loss to Michigan State? What does Kevin think of the upcoming National Championship game? Does he think Carlie Irsay-Gordon would have kept Ballard and Steichen if she had known John Harbaugh and Mike Tomlin would be available?Support the show: https://1075thefan.com/the-ride-with-jmv/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We are pretty psyched about our New Year's resolution, and we highly recommend not giving a f*ck to everyone. We learn why Denmark has suspended mail delivery, and we consider whether this is news of progress or a dystopian future. Sarah is extolling the virtues of an "analog bag," and we discuss what we would keep in our bags. Sarah got tricked by AI and we're mad about it. We learn about a man who was fined in England for littering, except the "litter" was a leaf that blew into his mouth and he spit out. WHAT. We learn about a senior living facility that is bringing in cosmetology students (aka a glam squad) to give the residents makeovers.Brain Candy Podcast Website - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/Brain Candy Podcast Book Recommendations - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/books/Brain Candy Podcast Merchandise - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/candy-store/Brain Candy Podcast Candy Club - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/product/candy-club/Brain Candy Podcast Sponsor Codes - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/support-us/Brain Candy Podcast Social Media & Platforms:Brain Candy Podcast LIVE Interactive Trivia Nights - https://www.youtube.com/@BrainCandyPodcast/streamsBrain Candy Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/braincandypodcastHost Susie Meister Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susiemeisterHost Sarah Rice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahriceBrain Candy Podcast on X: https://www.x.com/braincandypodBrain Candy Podcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/braincandy (JOIN FREE - TONS OF REALITY TV CONTENT)Brain Candy Podcast Sponsors, partnerships, & Products that we love:Get 40% off your first box PLUS get a free item in every box for life. Go to https://www.hungryroot.com/braincandy and use code braincandyGet 30% off your first 3 subscription orders when you use code BRAINCANDY at https://www.oneskin.co/braincandySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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In this episode, we're joined by Babe Laufenberg, former Indiana quarterback and NFL veteran, to talk about the unbelievable rise of Indiana football and what it means for the Hoosier program. Babe shares his perspective on watching Indiana reach new heights, including their first Heisman Trophy winner and national championship run. He breaks down quarterback Fernando Mendoza's game, why it translates to the NFL, and what makes this current Hoosiers team so disciplined and well coached. #collegefootball #cdfb #cfp #bigten #indiana #hoosiers #nationalchampionship Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the final hour of the Chase & Big Joe Show, the guys were joined by Dallas Cowboys Radio Analyst and former Indiana QB Babe Laufenberg. Babe shared his thoughts on the Titans' head coaching search. Babe gave high praise to Jason Garrett as a head coaching candidate. Later in the conversation, Babe shared his thoughts on the Indiana Hoosiers. Listen to hear more. Later in the hour, Nashville Predators President Michelle Kennedy joined the show and shared her excitement about the Preds' big win. The Preds also honored Steven Stamkos on 600 career goals. She also added what popular things are happening at Bridgestone Arena. To end the show as always, the guys played What Day Is It and Celebrity Birthdays!

Chase & Big Joe were joined by Dallas Cowboys Radio Analyst and former Indiana QB Babe Laufenberg. Babe shared his thoughts on the Titans' head coaching search. Babe gave high praise to Jason Garrett as a head coaching candidate. Later in the conversation, Babe shared his thoughts on the Indiana Hoosiers. Listen to hear more. 

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Sarah has a PSA for ladies thanks to Trivia Pursuit and her aging feet. Hear why you're probably wearing the wrong shoe size. We learn why we were wrong about Octomom, how she is a victim of an unethical system and why she should get more credit. Susie is worked up about the P Diddy documentary, how messed up he seems, and how the documentary made us love Fifty Cent even more. A woman whose hobby it is to throw messages in a bottle out to sea got a response from someone who is none-to-pleased with her leisure activity. Hear why Sarah agrees with the woman's new enemy. Sarah teaches Susie about "string foot," which she claims is a common problem for birds, and Susie is dubious.Brain Candy Podcast Website - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/Brain Candy Podcast Book Recommendations - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/books/Brain Candy Podcast Merchandise - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/candy-store/Brain Candy Podcast Candy Club - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/product/candy-club/Brain Candy Podcast Sponsor Codes - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/support-us/Brain Candy Podcast Social Media & Platforms:Brain Candy Podcast LIVE Interactive Trivia Nights - https://www.youtube.com/@BrainCandyPodcast/streamsBrain Candy Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/braincandypodcastHost Susie Meister Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susiemeisterHost Sarah Rice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahriceBrain Candy Podcast on X: https://www.x.com/braincandypodBrain Candy Podcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/braincandy (JOIN FREE - TONS OF REALITY TV CONTENT)Brain Candy Podcast Sponsors, partnerships, & Products that we love:Go to https://thrivecausemetics.com/braincandy for an exclusive offer of 20% off your first order.Head to https://www.brodo.com/CANDY for 20% off your first subscription order and use code CANDY for an additional $10 off.Get $10 off your first month's subscription and free shipping when you go to https://nutrafol.com and enter the promo code BRAINCANDYSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Hour 3 - Color Analyst Babe Laufenberg, Teams Calling for John Harbaugh, Good News, Everyone! Racoons as Pets full 2686 Wed, 07 Jan 2026 03:26:23 +0000 o5ybiGj7FuDi2uKLm2Bd0GALWBhJPOHB sports The Fan After Dark sports Hour 3 - Color Analyst Babe Laufenberg, Teams Calling for John Harbaugh, Good News, Everyone! Racoons as Pets The Fan After Dark includes a rotation of hosts offering a truth-telling sports entertainment experience that gets listeners right on the biggest sports topics in and around DFW, across the country, and around the world. Focusing on the Cowboys, Rangers, Mavericks, etc., The Fan After Dark airs M-F from 7-11 PM and is the only live and local sports radio show in the MetroplexCome 'Get Right' with Reg on The Fan, and be prepared for sports talk on a whole new level. You can follow Reg on Twitter @regadetula © 2024 Audacy, Inc. Sports False

We landed on our theme for 2026, and it feels so right. It encapsulates our attitude for the year. Sarah got a good news/bad news situation about her lady parts, and she wants the world to know about it. We learn about a man who has been walking the globe for over 25 years and he is on our main nerve. Sarah watched the Murder in Monaco documentary, and it made her wonder whether you can lie to yourself if you do it long enough. We hear why men are becoming more involved in their health and well-being, but Susie wonders if this isn't just machismo dressed up as self-care. Sarah reveals which animals are the most "monogamous," and we wonder whether humans are messing up the data. Plus, we learn about Orville and Wilbur Wright's sister Katherine, who was erased from history despite her genius work.Brain Candy Podcast Website - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/Brain Candy Podcast Book Recommendations - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/books/Brain Candy Podcast Merchandise - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/candy-store/Brain Candy Podcast Candy Club - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/product/candy-club/Brain Candy Podcast Sponsor Codes - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/support-us/Brain Candy Podcast Social Media & Platforms:Brain Candy Podcast LIVE Interactive Trivia Nights - https://www.youtube.com/@BrainCandyPodcast/streamsBrain Candy Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/braincandypodcastHost Susie Meister Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susiemeisterHost Sarah Rice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahriceBrain Candy Podcast on X: https://www.x.com/braincandypodBrain Candy Podcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/braincandy (JOIN FREE - TONS OF REALITY TV CONTENT)Brain Candy Podcast Sponsors, partnerships, & Products that we love:Begin your personalized roadmap to sexual happiness with Beducated by taking the quiz at https://beducate.me/pd2602-braincandyGet $30 off your first box - PLUS free Croissants for life - when you go to https://wildgrain.com/braincandy to start your subscription. This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp. Sign up and get 10% off at https://www.betterhelp.com/braincandySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Debra Meyerson and the “Slow Fall Off a Cliff”: Aphasia After Stroke, Identity, and What Recovery Really Means There are stroke stories that arrive like lightning. And then there are the ones that feel like a quiet, terrifying slide hour by hour until you wake up and everything is different. For Debra Meyerson (also known as Deborah), that difference had a name: “the slow fall off a cliff.” Her husband Steve describes watching the change unfold overnight in the hospital, neurological tests every hour, skills fading, the unknown getting heavier with each check-in. And the scariest part? Not knowing where the bottom was. This episode isn't only about what Debra lost. It's about what she rebuilt with aphasia, with grief, with a fierce independence that made asking for help its own mountain, and with a new definition of recovery that doesn't depend on going back in time. When Stroke Doesn't “Hit”… It Develops One of the most jarring elements of Debra's experience was the way the stroke revealed itself. Steve shares that Debra left the emergency room still talking, slurring a little, but still planning. Still believing she'd be back teaching soon. Then the overnight monitoring began, and the decline became visible. From midnight to morning, her movement and speech changed dramatically. By morning, she couldn't move her right side. And she couldn't make a sound. That's what makes Debra's phrase so powerful: it captures the reality many survivors and families live through, watching ability disappear in stages, not all at once. It's not just a medical event. It's an emotional one. And it changes how you experience time. The mind starts bargaining. The heart starts bracing. The body is suddenly not predictable anymore. The Hidden Clue: Dissection, Headaches, and Near-Misses Debra's stroke was ischemic, but the cause wasn't a typical blood clot. Steve explains that it was due to a dissection, a tear in the inner wall of an artery. In the months leading up to the stroke, there were warning signs: severe headaches episodes where she nearly lost consciousness a moment where she told their son, “I think I'm having a stroke,” but the symptoms resolved before EMS arrived Steve describes a likely “opening and closing” pattern of temporary interruptions to blood flow that didn't show up clearly during exams because, in the moment, she appeared okay. This is one reason caregivers can feel so haunted after the fact: you did the right things, you sought help, you went to specialists… and the stroke still happened. That's not failure. That's reality. 20230922-GSE headshots at CERAS building in Stanford, CA Aphasia After Stroke: When Words Don't Do What You Want Aphasia isn't one experience. It's a spectrum, and Debra's challenge is word-finding, both in speaking and writing. When Bill asks whether writing is easier than speaking, Debra's answer is simple and blunt: it's hard either way. She also notes that dictation isn't a shortcut. What makes Debra's story especially moving is how Steve describes the long arc of speech returning: weeks before she could even form sounds a month or two before repeating words then, months later, the first original word that made it out unprompted, not as an exercise It happened during a normal moment at a table with family, searching for the name of the pig from a movie no one could remember. And Debra suddenly blurted out: “Babe.” It might sound small to someone who's never experienced aphasia. But for anyone who has, or for anyone who's loved someone through it, that moment is enormous. It's proof that the brain is still reaching for language. Proof that the person is still in there, still trying to connect. And yes, Steve mentions melodic intonation therapy, a method that attempts to engage the brain's musical/singing pathways to support speech. Debra's improvement, even years later, is described as gradual marginal gains that add up over time. The Identity Problem Nobody Prepares You For When Bill asks what part of her old identity was hardest to let go, Debra points to the heart of it: Stanford professor athlete fiercely independent skiing (a love that mattered deeply) the ability to do life without needing so much help This is the part many survivors don't see coming: you're not only recovering movement or speech. You're grieving a version of yourself that once felt automatic. And that grief can be complicated, because you might still look like you. Inside, everything is renegotiated. This is where Debra and Steve offer something that can change the trajectory of recovery: adaptation instead of abandonment. Debra couldn't ride a single bike anymore, but they began riding a tandem, and it became the thing they could do together vigorously, something athletic, meaningful, and shared. Not the same. But real. Cycles of Grief: Joy Can Trigger Loss Debra describes grief as something that shows up constantly, “every day… every hour.” Steve offers a powerful example: becoming grandparents. Debra was ecstatic. Over the moon. And then, the next morning, she was furious, spring-loaded into a bad mood, snapping at everything. Why? Because beneath the joy was a private inventory of what she couldn't do: hold the baby safely change a diaper be alone with their grandson the way she wanted to be chase a toddler the way she imagined This is what “cycles of grief” looks like. Not sadness replacing joy. Sadness sitting next to joy. And if survivors don't understand that's normal, they can interpret it as brokenness or failure. It's not. It's grief doing what grief does: reminding you of what mattered. The Care Partner Trap: Guilt, Burnout, and the “Fix It” Reflex Care partners often disappear inside the role. Steve names a different approach, one supported early by friends who told him plainly: if you don't take care of yourself, you're no use to Deb. So he set priorities: exercise eating well sleeping well He also acknowledges how support made that possible: family help, flexible work, and friends showing up. Then comes a line that many couples will recognize immediately: toxic positivity. Steve admits he struggles with sadness; he tends to solve problems, cheer people up, and push toward the bright side. But Debra doesn't always want to be talked out of it. Sometimes she needs space to grieve without being “fixed.” That's the lesson: Support isn't always uplifting someone. Sometimes support is staying present while they feel what they feel. “True Recovery Is Creating a Life of Meaning” Debra's philosophy shows up in the opening of her book and in the arc of this conversation: “True recovery is creating a life of meaning.” At first, recovery was about returning to who she used to be, therapy, effort, pushing hard. Then something shifted: writing a book became a turning point. It helped her stop using her old identity as the measuring stick and start asking a new question: “How do I rebuild a life I can feel good about with the cards I've been dealt?” That idea is the bridge for so many survivors: You don't have to pretend you're fine. You don't have to deny what you lost. But you also don't have to wait for a full return to start living again. Debra Meyerson: Aphasia After Stroke Interview Debra Meyerson's “slow fall off a cliff” stroke led to aphasia, grief, and a new definition of recovery: rebuilding identity with meaning. Stroke Onward: InstagramX.COMFacebookLinkedInYouTubeTikTokVimeo Debra Meyerson X.COMLinkedInFacebookInstagramSteve:LinkedIn Highlights: 00:00 Introduction and Background06:11 The Experience of a Stroke: A Slow Fall Off a Cliff22:45 Navigating Caregiving: Balancing Needs and Support32:01 Understanding Aphasia: A Spectrum of Experiences43:05 The Importance of Sadness in Healing50:08 Finding Purpose Through Advocacy53:31 Building the Stroke Onward Foundation57:12 Advice for New Stroke Survivors Transcript: Introduction and Background –  Steve Zuckerman and Debra Meyerson Bill Gasiamis (00:00)Welcome to the recovery after stroke podcast. name is Bill. And if you’re a stroke survivor or you love someone who is you’re in the right place before we begin a genuine thank you to my Patreon supporters. After more than 10 years of hosting this show solo, your support helps cover the costs of keeping it online and helps me keep showing up for stroke survivors who need hope and direction. And thank you to everyone who supports the show in the simple ways to YouTube comments, Spotify, Apple reviews. people who’ve grabbed my book, and even those who stick around and don’t skip the ads. It all matters more than you know. Today you’re going to meet Deborah Meyerson and her husband, Steve Zuckerman. Deborah describes her stroke as a slow fall off a cliff. And that phrase captures something so many stroke survivors experience but struggle to explain. We talk about aphasia after stroke, word finding. The moment a single word returned and what happens when recovery stops meaning going back and starts meaning rebuilding a life you can actually feel proud of. Deborah and Steve Myerson. Welcome to the podcast. Debra and Steve (01:08)Steve Zuckerman That’s okay. I don’t mind being Mr. Meyerson from time to time. Bill Gasiamis (01:17)Steve Zuckerman, of course. I mean, I’ve seen it on every email. I’ve seen it on every conversation we’ve had, but that’s okay. I mean, you’ve probably been called worst, Steve. Debra and Steve (01:29)Absolutely, much worse. Bill Gasiamis (01:32)Debra, before the stroke, how would you have described yourself professionally, socially and personally? Debra and Steve (01:39)Outgoing, social, comfortable, no time to to to other’s time. Not taking up other people’s time? Yes. In contrast to me. Bill Gasiamis (01:59)Yes, David, you’re very needy. Debra and Steve (02:02)Yeah, and ⁓ yeah, it’s really outgoing. Bill Gasiamis (02:09)Outgoing, yeah, fantastic. Debra and Steve (02:11)I’ll add, because you didn’t say it, a incredibly hardworking, self-demanding professional for whom good was never good enough. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Something like that. Bill Gasiamis (02:23)perfectionist. Fair enough Steve. What roles defined you back then? you’re a partner, you’re a father. How did you go about your day? Debra and Steve (02:37)I mean, I think, you know, very similar to Deb, we were both hard driving professionals who had serious careers. We had three kids that we were raising together and both took parenting very seriously. So worked really hard, you know, to not travel at the same time, to be home for dinner, ⁓ to be at sports games. And we were both very athletic. So both things we did together and things we did separately. I think, you know, before Deb’s stroke, most of our time and attention was focused on career and family and, you know, sort of friends were a third, but, ⁓ staying healthy and staying fit. So those were kind of all parts of, I think, who we both were. met mother, ⁓ athletic sailor, biker, ⁓ ⁓ family is first in academics. Bill Gasiamis (03:44)and academic and what field were you guys working in? Debra and Steve (03:48)No, am a, Steve is not academic. I am an academic. ⁓ Deb was, you know, immediately before the stroke. Deb was a tenured professor at Stanford. She had had lots of other academic jobs before that. ⁓ We met when I was in grad school for an MBA and Deb was getting her PhD. ⁓ So, you know, she is lot smarter than I am and was willing to work a lot harder academically than I ever was. ⁓ I’ve bounced back and forth between kind of nonprofit roles, nonprofit management roles, and a career in finance and business. So I sort of… have moved back and forth between for-profit and not-for-profit, but always sort of on the business side of things. Bill Gasiamis (04:50)often say when people meet my wife, Christine, for the first time and we talk about what we do and the things that we say. I always say to people that between me and my wife, we have four degrees. And then I qualify that. say, she has four and I have zero. And ⁓ she has a master’s in psychology, but ⁓ I never went to university. I never did any of that stuff. Debra and Steve (05:10)Yeah. Bill Gasiamis (05:19)So it’s very interesting to meet somebody who’s very academic and to be a part of her life when she’s in the study zone. my gosh, like I have never studied that much, that intensely, that hard for anything. And it’s a sight to behold. And I’m not sure how people go through all the academic side, all the requirements. And then also Deb, being a mom, being a friend. being active in your community and doing all the things that you do. I just don’t know how people fit it in. So it’s a fascinating thing to experience and then to observe other people go through. Debra and Steve (05:57)It’s really that we had really a lot of time to talk. It was a full life. Debra Meyerson – The Experience of a Stroke: A Slow Fall Off a Cliff Bill Gasiamis (06:11)Yeah, fantastic. What you did, Deb has described the ⁓ stroke as a slow fall off a cliff. What did it actually feel like in the first moments that the stroke happened? Debra and Steve (06:28)Two weeks after my stroke, I am going to the, back to the classroom. I am really not aware of the damage. So right at the outset, Deb was kind of in denial. As the symptoms were first starting to set in, she was still talking about you know, okay, this is annoying, but in three weeks I’m starting the semester ⁓ and genuinely believed she would. actually the slow fall off a cliff was really how I described the first full night in the hospital. This was in Reno, Nevada. ⁓ And Deb sort of left the emergency room talking. slurring her words a little bit, but talking about how she was going to be back in the classroom. And then over the course of that night, from midnight to eight in the morning, they woke her every hour to do a neurological test, you move your arm, move your leg, point to this, you know, say this word and just her skills got worse and worse and worse. And in the morning, She couldn’t move her right side at all and couldn’t make a sound. And that was the, that’s what we called the slow fall off the cliff because we knew at midnight that there was significant brain damage, but we didn’t see the ramifications of that damage. sort of happened over that eight hour period. ⁓ that Deb really wasn’t aware of any of that. was. you know, kind of her brain was in survival mode. ⁓ But for myself and our oldest son, Danny, you know, that was sort of a feeling of helplessness. was watching the person you love kind of fade away or the capabilities fade away. And we didn’t know how low the bottom would be ⁓ without being able to do anything. Bill Gasiamis (08:53)Is there an explanation for that? Now, obviously Deb had a stroke, so that’s the overarching issue, the problem. But I’ve had a lot of stroke survivors explain their symptoms in that slow onset ⁓ situation, whereas mine were just there. I had a blade in my brain, the symptoms were there. Another person ⁓ had an ischemic stroke, bang, the symptoms were there. So why does it take so long for some people to, for the symptoms to develop? Debra and Steve (09:25)I had a dissection five months ago for this stroke. I had really bad headaches. Yeah, so five, six months before Deb’s stroke, she was having bad headaches. She had two episodes where she kind of almost lost consciousness. And one of them, she actually said to our son, call dad, I think I’m having a stroke. And by the time the EMS got there, she was fine. ⁓ Her stroke, it turned out was caused by a dissection, which is a tear. in the inner wall of the artery. So in some ways it’s like a blood clot. It is an ischemic stroke because it’s the blockage of blood flow. But unlike most ischemic strokes, it’s not because of a blood clot. It’s because of this flap of, it’s not biologically skin, but it’s like a flap of skin coming across and blocking off the blood flow. And what they think happened, and it’s really just educated guessing, is that for that six month period, the flap was there, but it kind of kept opening, closing, opening, closing. So she’d have temporary loss of blood flow to the brain, but not permanent loss. Bill Gasiamis (11:04)We’ll be back with more of Deborah Meyers’ remarkable story in just a moment, but I wanna pause here because what Deborah and Steve are describing is something a lot of us live with quietly. That feeling, you can be having a good moment and then grief shows up out of nowhere, or you’re working so hard to stay positive and it starts to feel like pressure instead of support. In the second half, we’ll go deeper into the cycles of grief. the trap of toxic positivity and the shift that changed everything for Deborah when she stopped measuring recovery by who she used to be and started rebuilding identity with meaning. If this podcast has helped you feel less alone, you can support it by sharing this episode with one person who needs it, leaving a comment or subscribing wherever you’re watching or listening. All right, back to Deborah and Steve. Debra and Steve (11:58)And when she had those two events, it was probably stayed closed a little bit longer, but then opened up. But she had a scan, she went to neurologists and because every time she was examined, it was okay. They didn’t find the problem. And then when she had the stroke, it was a permanent blockage that just didn’t open back up again. And Your question is a great one that I’ve never asked. I don’t know why, because what they told us was we can see the damage to the brain. The brain has been damaged. They can tell that on the scan, but that the impact of that damage, how it will affect your motion and your speech will play out over time. And I don’t know why that was true for Deb, whereas, as you say, for some people, it seems like the impact is immediate. And that’s a, that’s a good one. I’m going to, I’m going to Try to research that a little bit. Bill Gasiamis (12:58)That’s just a curious thing, isn’t it? to sort of understand the difference between one and the other. I’m not sure whether if we find out what the difference is, whether there’s say something that a stroke survivor listening can do or a caregiver can do in that situation, like what can be done? How can it be resolved? Maybe different steps that we need to take. I don’t know, but I’d love to know if there was a doctor or a neurologist or somebody who might be able to answer that. Maybe we need to find someone. Debra and Steve (13:29)The doctor and the neurologist didn’t see it. Yeah, in the period before the stroke, they didn’t see it. While we were in the hospital when the stroke was happening, what they told us was at that point, there really wasn’t anything that could be done. The damage was done. So no intervention. would lessen the damage. ⁓ again, we are far from doctors. So there’s a lot about that that we don’t know. Bill Gasiamis (14:08)understood. Deb, what part of your old identity was the hardest to let go? Debra and Steve (14:14)The Stanford professor, athlete, had really a lot of… One hand is so difficult and independent person. Bill Gasiamis (14:33)Yeah. Debra and Steve (14:34)I am, skiing is so, I really love to ski and I am not, I am really not able to ski. Bill Gasiamis (14:52)understood so you were a professor, you were independent, you were physically active and all that stuff has had to stop happening at this point in time. Debra and Steve (15:03)I am the…striking…crossing…cycling…we are the…the…Sieve and I… Bill Gasiamis (15:19)You guys used to do something tandem. Debra and Steve (15:21)Yes, a lot of time in the stroke across America. Well, so I think we’re sort of answering a couple of different questions at the same time. I think what Deb was saying was early on, kind of in that first three or four years, she really, you know, was giving up her role as a Stanford professor, giving up skiing, cycling, sailing, and just the… not being a fully independent person needing so much help. That was really a lot of the struggle early on. Deb did return to a lot of those things. And that was a big part of the recovery process was realizing that she may not be able to do them the same way she used to, but there were a lot of different things. And then the cycling, Deb can’t ride a single bike, but we started riding a tandem. And that adaptation has proven really important for us because it’s, it’s the thing we can now do together vigorously for long periods of time. That is really a, a sport that we can do together, ⁓ and love. And so that that’s really been a, an adaptive way to get back to something, not exactly the same way as she used to do it before the stroke, but in a way that is very meaningful. Bill Gasiamis (16:46)A lot of stroke survivors tend to have trouble with letting go of their old identity in that they feel like they need to completely pause it and put the whole identity aside rather than adapt it and change it so that you bring over the parts that you can and you make the most of them, know. And adaptive sport is the perfect way. You see a lot of people in the Paralympics becoming gold medalists after they’ve been injured. a sports person before their injury and now all of a sudden they’re champion gold medal winning athletes because they decided to adapt and find another way to participate. And that’s what I love about what you guys just said. That’s still able to meet the needs of that identity, but in a slightly different way. What about you, Steve? Like when Deb goes through a difficult time and she has a stroke and then you guys come home from hospital, you’re dealing with, ⁓ well, all the changes in your life as well because you become a care, while you guys describe it as a care partner, we’ll talk about that in a moment. But as a care partner, ⁓ how do you go about doing that without, and also at the same time, protecting a little bit of your needs and making sure that your needs are met? Because a lot of caregivers, care partners, put all their needs aside and then they make it about the person who is ⁓ recovering from stroke. And then it leads to two people becoming unwell in different ways. One potentially emotionally, mentally, and the other person physically and all the other things that stroke does. Debra and Steve (18:36)Yeah, I mean, I think, um, Kyle was lucky in a couple of ways. One, a very close friend very early on who had been through similar situations said, you know, don’t forget, you’ve got to take care of yourself. If you don’t, you’re of no use to Deb. And so from the very beginning, I had people reminding me. I also had a ton of support in supporting Deb. Deb’s mom, you know, came up and lived with us for six months. ⁓ So I could go back to work a lot sooner than I otherwise would have been able to go back to work. And I was fortunate that my job was fairly flexible. ⁓ But, you know, I loved my work and it meant I wasn’t focused on the caregiving or care partnering aspects of my role 24 seven. I got to go do something else independently. ⁓ We also had a lot of friends lend support as well. So, you know, I think I basically said, I’ve got to organize around supporting Deb, no question about it. But with guidance from friends, I sort of said, okay, my three priorities are going to be exercising, eating well, and sleeping well. And I really just set those out as my goals and I created ways to do that. wall and that was sort of my physical health but also my mental health. And so, you know, sort of a problem solver and compartmentalizer by nature. So I guess maybe I was lucky that dividing up those roles was a little more natural to me than maybe it is for others. But it also took, you know, took deliberate choice to make sure not to let myself get sucked so far into the caring piece. that I got in healthy and was lucky enough to have support so that I was able to not let that happen. Bill Gasiamis (20:42)Yeah, a lot of people feel guilt like this unnecessary guilt that, I can’t leave that person alone or I can’t ⁓ look after myself or take some time to myself because the other person needs me more than I need me. And that’s an interesting thing to experience people talk about in the caregiver role where they become so overwhelmed with the need to help support the other person that they… ⁓ that they have guilt any time that they step away and allocate some care to themselves. They see caring as a role that they play, not as a thing that they also need to practice. Debra and Steve (21:29)Yeah, yeah. Well, I think I was also lucky because Deb is so fiercely independent that she wanted as little help as she could possibly get away with. So ⁓ she was not the kind of stroke survivor that was sort of getting mad when I walked out of the room. It was like she was trying to kick me out of the room at times that I shouldn’t leave the room. And so, you know, again, ⁓ Deb was not a demanding, again, she just wanted as little help as she could possibly survive with. And that probably made it easier for me to not feel guilty because it’s like, well, that’s what she wants. She wants me to get out of here as long as she was safe. Navigating Caregiving: Balancing Needs and Support Bill Gasiamis (22:16)That mindset is a really useful one. It makes it possible for people to activate neural plasticity in the most ⁓ positive way. Because some people don’t realize that when it’s hard to do something and then the easier thing is to say, Steve, can you go get me that or can you do this for me? That neural plasticity is also activated, but in a negative way. ⁓ How does your recovery or your definition of recovery evolve over time? How did it change over time? Debra and Steve (22:57)⁓ How did how you think about recovery change over time? The realizing I had to build realizing I had the of my identity and my life. The same past and writing a book. ⁓ Three, four years ago, four years after my stroke, really, well, ⁓ I am really, I am so committed to doing the best. No. I mean, you know, the first three or four years after Deb’s stroke, it really was all about trying to get back to who she used to be. Therapy, therapy, therapy, therapy, therapy, work hard, we’ll get back to life as we do it. And when Deb said, when she lost tenure and said she wanted to write a book, I thought she was nuts. was like, you know, her speech wasn’t as good then as it is now. you I was at her side when she wrote her first academic book and that was brutal and she didn’t have aphasia. So I was like, I really thought she was nuts. But in hindsight, it really was that process of writing a book that got her to turn her knowledge about identity onto herself. that really changed her view of what recovery meant. She sort of started to let go of recovery means getting back to everything I used to be doing and recovery means how do I rebuild an identity that I can feel good about? May not be the one I’d ideally want, but in the face of my disabilities, how do I rebuild that identity so that I can rebuild a good and purposeful and meaningful life? that really was an evolution for both of us. over the five-year book writing period. I sometimes say it was the longest, cheapest therapy session we could have gotten because it really was that kind of therapeutic journey for us. And really a lot of the 25 people are in the book and the friends and colleagues are in the book, really a lot of the colleagues. Deb was a social scientist and a researcher and she didn’t want to write a memoir. She wanted to write a research book. It has elements of a memoir because her story and our story is threaded throughout. But, you know, we learned so much from the interviews Deb did and and I was not involved in the interviewing process, but having that diversity of stories and understanding some of the things that were very common for stroke survivors and other things that were so different from survivor to survivor helped her, helped us on our journey. So that book writing process had so many benefits. Bill Gasiamis (26:49)Very therapeutic, isn’t it? I went on a similar journey with my book when I wrote it and it was about, again, sharing other people’s stories, a little bit about mine, but sharing what we had in common, know, how did we all kind of work down this path of being able to say later on that stroke was the best thing that happened. Clearly not from a health perspective or from a ⁓ life, ⁓ you know. the risk of life perspective, from a growth perspective, from this ability to be able to ⁓ look at the situation and try and work out like, is there any silver linings? What are the silver linings? And I get a sense that you guys are, your idea of the book was in a similar nature. Do you guys happen to have a copy of the book there? Debra and Steve (27:39)Yes. Of course. Don’t we have it everywhere? Bill Gasiamis (27:42)Yeah, I hope so. Identity theft, yep. I’ve got my copy here somewhere as well. Now, how come I didn’t bring it to the desk? One second, let me bring mine. Yes. There you go, there’s mine as well. I’ve got it here as well. So it’s a really lovely book. ⁓ Hard copy. ⁓ Debra and Steve (27:52)Yeah. You must have the first edition not the second edition. Because we didn’t print the second edition in hard copy so it’s not a white cover can’t tell in the photo. Bill Gasiamis (28:07)okay, that’s why. That is a blue cover. Debra and Steve (28:17)⁓ No, the paper cover on the front. Bill Gasiamis (28:20)The paper cover is a white cover. Debra and Steve (28:22)Yeah. So that’s actually the first edition of the book that came out in 2019. And then the second edition just came out about two months ago. ⁓ And they are largely the same. But the second edition has a new preface that sort of, because we wrote that in 2019 and then had five years of working on Stroke Onward and learning more, we kind of brought our story up to 2020. 2024 and then two chapters at the end, one with some of the insights we’ve learned ⁓ kind of since writing the first book and a final chapter about what we think might need to change in the US healthcare system to better support stroke survivors. So we’ll have to get you a copy of the new one. Yeah. Bill Gasiamis (29:13)Yeah, why not? Signed copy, thank you very much. ⁓ Debra and Steve (29:15)Yeah, and the Julia Wieland. ⁓ It’s available on audiobook as well via, we were fortunate to be able to work with a great narrator named Julia Wieland, who’s an award winning audiobook narrator and actually has a business called Audio Brary that she started to really honor narrators and help promote the narrating of audio. the narrators of audio books. ⁓ well, make sure you send us an email with the right mailing address and we’ll get you new copy. Bill Gasiamis (29:55)Yeah, that’d be lovely. So what I’ll do also is on the show notes, there’ll be all the links for where people can buy the book, right? We won’t need to talk about that. We’ll just ensure that they’re included on the show notes. I love the opening page in the book. ⁓ It’s written, I imagine, I believe that’s Deborah’s writing. Debra and Steve (30:14)⁓ yeah, yeah. yes, we have a signed copy of the first edition. Yeah. Bill Gasiamis (30:20)So it says true recovery is creating a life of meaning. Deborah Meyerson. Yeah, you guys sent me that quite a while ago. By the time we actually connected, so much time had passed. There was a lot of people involved in getting us together. And you know, I’m a stroke survivor too. So things slipped my mind and we began this conversation to try and get together literally, I think about a year earlier. So I love that I have this. this copy and I’m looking forward to the updated one. ⁓ And it’s just great that one of the first things that Deb decided to do was write a book after all the troubles. Now your particular aphasia Deb, I’m wondering is that also, does that make it difficult for you to get words out of your head in your writing as well and typing? Debra and Steve (31:13)Yes, dictation is my dictation. It’s so hard. Speaking and writing isn’t the same. Bill Gasiamis (31:31)Speaking and writing is the same kind of level of difficulty. Understanding Aphasia: A Spectrum of Experiences Debra and Steve (31:35)Yeah, and the ⁓ other survivors in aphasia didn’t, Michael is. Want me to help? Yeah. Yeah, just that, and I think you know that there are so many different ways aphasia manifests itself and word finding is Deb’s challenge and it’s true whether she’s speaking or writing. other people and a guy who rode cross country with us, Michael Obellomiya, he has fluent aphasia. So he speaks very fluently, but sometimes the words that come out aren’t what he means them to be. So the meaning of what he says, even though he says it very fluently, and he also has, I think, some degree of receptive aphasia so that he hears what people are saying, but sometimes the instruction or the detail doesn’t. register for him and so aphasia can be very very different for different people. Bill Gasiamis (32:37)Yeah, there’s definitely a spectrum of aphasia. then sometimes I get to interview people really early on in their journey with aphasia and, ⁓ and speech is extremely difficult. And then later on, if I meet them again, a few years down the track, they have ⁓ an improvement somewhat. ⁓ perhaps there’s still some difficulty there, but they can often improve. ⁓ how much different was the Debra and Steve (33:08)15 years ago? I don’t know speech at all. Bill Gasiamis (33:23)No speech at all. Debra and Steve (33:24)Yeah. So Deb, it took several weeks for her to even be able to create sounds, maybe a month or two before she was sort of repeating words. ⁓ We have a great story of the first time Deb actually produced a word out of her brain. So it wasn’t an answer to a question or a therapy exercise. but we were sitting around a table and a bunch of people who hadn’t had strokes were saying, what’s that? No, my family. Yeah, with your brother. No, our family. Yeah. Danny and… Okay, anyway. We were talking about, what was that movie where the guy trained a pig to… do a dog show and what was the pig’s name and none of us could remember it and Deb just blurted out, babe. And it was like we started screaming and shouting because it was the first time that something that started as an original thought in her head actually got out. And that was like four months after her stroke. ⁓ A year after her stroke, it was really just isolated words. ⁓ She then did a clinical trial with something called melodic intonation, a kind of speech therapy that tries to tap into the other side of the brain, the singing side of the brain. And then I would say, you know, it’s been, mean, Deb’s speech is still getting better. So it’s just marginal improvement ⁓ over time. Bill Gasiamis (35:10)Yeah, Deb, what parts of Professor Deborah Meyerson remain and what’s entirely new now? Debra and Steve (35:19)⁓ The sharing knowledge and trading knowledge is the same. The new is how I do it. More constraints, I need help. really help and I am so bad at asking. Really bad at asking. I have really a lot of phases of classes and Ballroom classes, you know ballroom dancing. Yeah, no In the work we do Deb’s favorite thing to do is to teach so we’ve been invited, you know ⁓ Quite a few speech therapists in the United States are using identity theft as part of the curriculum in their aphasia course in the speech language pathology programs Bill Gasiamis (36:28)So speaker-2 (36:28)I’ll be. Debra and Steve (36:48)⁓ and we’ve been invited to visit and talk in classes. And Deb just loves that because it’s back to sharing knowledge. It’s a different kind of knowledge. It’s not about the work she did before her stroke, but it’s about the work and the life experience since. that is still, Professor Deb is still very much with us. Bill Gasiamis (37:14)Yeah, Professor Deb, fiercely independent, ⁓ doesn’t like to ask for help, ⁓ still prefers to kind of battle on and get things done as much as possible and suffer through the difficulty of that and then eventually ask for help. Do you kind of eventually? Debra and Steve (37:32)Yeah, yeah, you skipped the part about correcting everything her husband says. That’s not quite exactly right. Bill Gasiamis (37:40)Well, that’s part of the course there, Steve. That’s exactly how it’s meant to be. And you should be better at being more accurate with what you have to say. Debra and Steve (37:49)I thought we’d be on the same side on this one. Bill Gasiamis (37:53)Sometimes, sometimes as a host, you know, I have to pick my hero and as a husband, I truly and totally get you. Deb, you describe experiencing cycles of grief. ⁓ What does that actually look like in a day-to-day life now? And I kind of get a sense of what cycles of grief would mean, but I’d love to hear your thoughts, your version of what that means. Debra and Steve (38:22)Every day, hour every day, small ways and big ways. Like one year ago, Well, grandmothers. Can I correct you? It was 16 months ago. I’m going to get her back. Yeah. That’s what she does to me all the time. I am really happy. Make sure you explain. don’t know if they would have caught what it was that made you so happy. Grandmother. Sarah, Danny and Vivian. I know, you don’t have to tell me. Just that we became grandparents for the first time. And Deb was ecstatic. I am so happy and also really frustrated. And I don’t… crawling… no. You want me to help? I mean, you know, it’s sort of the day we got there, the day after the baby was born in New York and Deb was over the moon and the next morning… We were walking back to the hospital and Deb was just spring-loaded to the pissed off position. She was getting mad at me for everything and anything and she was clearly in an unbelievably bad mood. And when I could finally get her to say what was wrong, it was that she had been playing all night and all morning all the ways in which she couldn’t be the grandmother she wanted to be. She couldn’t hold the baby. She couldn’t change a diaper. She couldn’t, you know, spell the kids later on to give them a break by herself because she wouldn’t be able to chase no one is our grandson around. And so she had had really kind of gone into grieving about what she had lost just in the moment when she was experiencing the greatest joy in her life. And that’s an extreme example of a cycle of grief. And but it happens, as Deb was saying, it happens. every hour, maybe three times an hour where you’re doing something that’s good, but then it reminds you of how you used to do that same thing. so, you know, when we talk about and write about cycles of grief, it’s the importance of giving yourself that space to grieve because it’s human. You lost something important and it’s human to let yourself acknowledge that. But then how do you get through that and get back to the good part and not let that grief trap you? And that story from 16 months ago in New York is sort of the, that’s the poster child, but it happens in big ways and small ways every day, 10 times a day. Bill Gasiamis (42:00)Sadness is a thing that happens to people all the time and it’s about knowing how to navigate it. And I think people generally lack the tools to navigate sadness. They lack the tools to ⁓ deal with it, to know what to do with it. But I think there needs to be some kind of information put out there. Like you’re sad. Okay. So what does it mean? What can it mean? What can you do with it? How can you transform it? Is it okay to sit in it? ⁓ What have you guys learned about the need for sadness in healing? Debra and Steve (42:35)grief and sadness is so important and through the really once it’s an hour. The Importance of Sadness in Healing From my perspective, I have learned a ton about sadness because I don’t have a good relationship with sadness. In most cases, it’s a great thing. just, you know, I’m a cup is nine tenths full person all the time and I tend to see the positive and that’s often very good. But it makes it really hard for me to live with other people’s sadness without trying to solve the problem. Bill Gasiamis (43:12)Hmm. Debra and Steve (43:35)And we actually came up with a phrase because sometimes if I get positive when Deb is sad, it just pisses her off. She doesn’t want to be talked out of it. And so we now talk about that dynamic as toxic positivity because, you know, most people think of positivity as such a positive thing. And yet If someone needs to just live in sadness for a little while, positivity can be really toxic. And I think that’s been my greatest learning, maybe growth is sort of understanding that better. I still fall into the trap all the time. devil tell you there are way too many times when, you know, my attempts to cheer her up are not welcomed. but at least I’m aware of it now. ⁓ And a little less likely to go there quite as quickly. Bill Gasiamis (44:38)Hmm. What I, what I noticed when people were coming to see me is that it was about them. They would come to see me about them. It wasn’t about me and what they made them do. What made what their instinct was, was to, if I felt better, they felt better and all they wanted to do was feel better and not be uncomfortable and not be struggling in their own ⁓ mind about what it’s like. to visit Bill who’s unwell. And that was the interesting part. It’s like, no, no, I am feeling unwell. I am going to remain feeling unwell. And your problem with it is your problem with it. You need to deal with how you feel about me feeling unwell. And I appreciate the empathy, the sympathy, the care I do. But actually, when you visit me, it shouldn’t be about you. It shouldn’t be, I’m gonna go and visit Bill. and I hope he’s well because I don’t want to experience him being unwell. It should be about you’re just gonna go visit Bill however you find him, whatever state he’s in, whatever condition he’s in, and therefore ⁓ that I think creates an opportunity for growth and that person needs to consider how they need to grow to adapt to this new relationship that they have with Bill. ⁓ which is based now around Bill’s challenges, Bill’s problems, Bill’s surgery, Bill’s pos- the possibility that Bill won’t be around in a few months or whatever. Do you know what I mean? So it’s like, ⁓ all, all the, ⁓ the well-meaning part of it is well received, but then it’s about everyone has a, has to step up and experience growth in this new relationship that we have. And some people are not willing to do it and then they don’t come at all. They’re the people who I find other most interesting and maybe ⁓ the most follow their instincts better than everybody where they might go, well, I’m going to go and say, Bill, he’s all messed up. ⁓ I don’t know how I’m going to deal with that. can’t cope with that. And rather than going there and being a party pooper or not knowing what to say or saying the wrong thing, maybe I won’t go at all. And they kind of create space. Debra and Steve (46:58)So. Bill Gasiamis (47:01)for your recovery to happen without you having to experience their version of it. Debra and Steve (47:09)Yeah, that’s it. That’s really interesting to hear you talk about it that way. And I would say very generous to hear you talk about it that way, because most of the time when we’ve heard people talk about it’s that because people talk about the fact that because other people don’t know what to say, they don’t say anything or they don’t come. But that then creates an isolation that’s unwanted. You’re talking about it as a, maybe that’s a good thing. They’re giving me space, given their skill or willingness to deal with it. Whereas I think a lot of people feel that when people just disappear because they don’t know what to say, that’s a lack of caring and a lack of engagement. ⁓ interesting to hear your take on it. think there’s a close cousin to this that Deb felt very intensely is that some people in the attempt to be understanding and supportive really took on an air of pity. And that there were some people that that we had to ask not to come if they couldn’t change how they were relating to Deb because it was such a like, ⁓ you poor thing that was incredibly disempowering. Whereas there were other people who had the skill to be empathetic in a supportive way. And so, I mean, in some ways, I think we’ve learned a lot, not that we necessarily do it right all the time, but we’ve learned a lot about how to try to support other people by what has and hasn’t worked in supporting us. Bill Gasiamis (49:20)Yeah, it’s a deeply interesting conversation because people get offended when they need people the most that don’t turn up. And I, and I understand that part of it as well. And then in, in time, ⁓ I was, I was like that at the beginning, but then in time, I kind of realized that, okay, this is actually not about me. It’s about them. They’re the ones struggling with my condition. They don’t know how to be. And maybe it’s okay for them. not to be around me because I wouldn’t be able to deal with their energy anyway. ⁓ yeah. So Deb, what made you turn to advocacy? What made you decide that you’re gonna be an advocate in this space? Finding Purpose Through Advocacy Debra and Steve (50:08)⁓ Feeling purpose and meaning. Survivors? Yes. And caregivers? Yes. Really a lot of risky is really… ⁓ medical, medical. Yeah. I mean, I I, I know what Deb is trying to say, which is, you know, once she got past the life threatening part and kind of on her way and was relatively independent, she was drawn back to saying, I want to live a life that has meaning and purpose. And so how in this new state, can I do that? And Deb, as I’m sure you know by now, doesn’t think small, she thinks big. And so what she’s saying is, yes, I want to help other people, other survivors, other care partners, but really we need a better system. Like I can only help so many people by myself, but if we can actually advocate for a better healthcare system in the United States that treats stroke differently. then maybe we can make a difference for a lot of people. that’s kind of the journey we’re on now. the survivors and caregivers, advocacy is so important to California or even the state. Building the Stroke Onward Foundation Bill Gasiamis (52:05)Yeah, advocacy is very important ⁓ and I love that I Love that you become an advocate and then you find your purpose and your meaning you don’t set out to Find your purpose and your meaning and then think what should I do to find my purpose of my meaning it tends to catch Catch go around the other way. I’m gonna go and help other people and then all of a sudden it’s like, ⁓ this is really meaningful I’m enjoying doing this and raising awareness about that condition that we’ve experienced and the challenges that we are facing. And wow, why don’t we make a change on a as big a scale as possible? Why don’t we try to influence the system to take a different approach because it’s maybe missing something that we see because we’re in a different, we have a different perspective than the people who are providing the healthcare, even though they’ve got a very big kind of, you know, their purpose is to help people as well. their perspective comes from a different angle and lived experience, I think is tremendously important and ⁓ missed and it’s a big missed opportunity if ⁓ lived experience is not part of that defining of how to offer services to people experiencing or recovering a stroke or how to support people after they’ve experienced or recovering from a stroke. ⁓ I love that. So that led you guys to develop the foundation, stroke onward. it a foundation? it a, tell us a little bit about stroke onward. Debra and Steve (53:42)In US jargon, we’d call it a nonprofit. Generally, foundations are entities that have a big endowment and give money away. We wish we had a big endowment, but we don’t. We need to find people who want to support our work and make donations to our nonprofit. And yeah, we now have a small team. ⁓ Deb and I given our age, given that we’re grandparents, we were hoping not to be 24 sevens. So needed people who were good at building nonprofits who were a little earlier in their careers. And we’ve got a small team, a CEO, a program manager and a couple of part-time people ⁓ who are running a bunch of programs. We’re trying to stay focused. We’re trying to build community with stroke survivors, care partners, medical professionals. We’ve got an online community called the Stroke Onward Community Circle that we just launched earlier this year. We’re hosting events, ⁓ some in medical settings that we call Stroke Care Onward to really talk with both ⁓ a diverse group of medical professionals, as well as survivors and care partners about what’s missing in the system and how it can be improved. ⁓ And then a program that we call the Stroke Monologues, which is sort of a a TEDx for stroke survivors where survivors, care partners, medical professionals can really tell their story of the emotional journey in recovery. And we want to use all of that to sort of build a platform to drive system change. That’s kind of what we’re trying to build with Stroke Onward. Bill Gasiamis (55:32)I love that. I love that TEDx component of it. ⁓ People actually get to talk about it and put out stories and content in that way as well. Debra and Steve (55:35)Yeah. ⁓ Yeah. Denver, Pittsburgh, ⁓ Boston, and Oakland and San Francisco. We’ve now done six shows of the stroke monologues and a big part about our work in the coming year. is really trying to think about how that might scale. can we, you know, it’s a very time consuming and therefore expensive to host events all the time. So how we can work with other organizations and leverage the idea ⁓ so that more people can get on stage and tell their story. ⁓ Also how we capture those stories on video and how we can do it virtually. So that’s a big part of what the team is thinking about is, you know, how do we Cause you know, at the end of the day, we can only do as much as we can raise the money to hire the people to do. So, that, that developing a strategy that hopefully can scale and track the resources that it takes to make more impact. That’s kind of job one for 2026. Bill Gasiamis (57:05)Yeah, I love it. Lucky you haven’t got enough jobs. That’s a good job to have though, right? ⁓ So if you were sitting, if you guys were both sitting with a couple just beginning this journey, what would you want them to know? What’s the first thing that you would want them to know? Debra Meyerson – Advice for New Stroke Survivors Debra and Steve (57:12)Yeah. Don’t have a stroke. Bill Gasiamis (57:28)Profound. Debra and Steve (57:29)Yeah. Yeah. I mean, I think, you know, it’s a journey and think of it as a journey and try to get as much as much of your capabilities back as you can. But don’t think of recovery as just that. It’s a much broader journey than that. It’s rebuilding identity. It’s finding ways to adapt. to do the things you love to do, to do the things that bring you meaning and purpose and create that journey for yourself. Nobody else’s journey is gonna be the right model for yours. So give yourself the time, space, learn from others, but learn from what’s in your heart as to the life you wanna build with the cards you’ve been dealt. Bill Gasiamis (58:25)Yeah. What are some of the practices or habits that have helped you guys as a couple, as partners stay connected? Debra and Steve (58:34)⁓ It’s, it’s hard. mean, and we’ve gone through phases, ⁓ where I think, you know, in some ways early on after the stroke, we may have been as close or closer than we’ve ever been. as Deb got better ironically and wanted to do more. Bill Gasiamis (58:39)You Debra and Steve (59:01)that created a different kind of stress for us. ⁓ stress is the key. No, stress is not the beauty. I had so much stress. Yeah. And sometimes I say stress is a function of the gap between aspiration and capability and while Deb’s capabilities keep growing, I think maybe her aspirations grow faster. And the question then says, how do you fill that gap? And so I think Deb struggles with that. And then for me, a big struggle is, so how much do I change my life to support Deb in filling that gap versus the things I might want to do that I still can do? So. You know, when Deb decided to write a book, I really wasn’t willing to give up my other nonprofit career, which was very meaningful to me. And I felt like I was midstream, but we had to find other ways in addition to my help nights and weekends to get Deb help so she could write the book she wanted to write. Whereas when the book came out and we decided to create Stroke Onward, that was a different point in time. And I was sort of willing to. cut back from that career to come build something with Deb. So I think again, we hate to give advice because everybody’s journey is different, but things change and go with that change. Don’t get locked into a view of what the balance in relationship should be. Recognize that that’s gonna be a never ending process of creating and recreating and recreating a balance that works for both of us. Bill Gasiamis (1:01:04)Hmm. What’s interesting. Some of the things that I’ve gone through with my wife is that I’ve kind of understood that she can’t be all things that I needed to be for me. And I can’t be all things that she needs me to be for her. And we need to seek that things where we lack the ability to deal to provide those things for the other person. The other person needs to find a way to accomplish those tasks needs, have those needs met, whatever with in some other way. for example, my whole thing was feeling sad and I needed someone to talk me through it and my wife wasn’t skilled enough to talk me through it, well, it would be necessary for me to seek that support from somebody else, a counselor, a coach, whomever, rather than trying to get blood out of a stone, somebody who doesn’t have the capability to support me in that way. Why would I expect that person to… all of a sudden step up while they’re doing all these other things to get through the difficult time that we were going on to that we’re dealing with. So that was kind of my learning. was like, I can’t expect my wife to be everything I need from her. There’ll be other people who can do that. Who are they? And that’s why the podcast happened because I’ve been talking about this since 2012 and since 2012 and ⁓ well, yeah, that’s 2012 as well. 2012 anyhow. ⁓ I’ve been talking about it since. Debra and Steve (1:02:41)You’re both our roles. You’re saying it and then correcting yourself. Bill Gasiamis (1:02:45)Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I have a part of me that corrects me as I go along in life. Yeah. Sometimes I don’t listen to it. ⁓ but today was a good one. The thing about it is I have a need, a deep need to talk about it all the time. That’s why I’ve done nearly 400 episodes and those 400 episodes are therapy sessions. Every time I sit down and have a conversation with somebody and I, and even though my wife has a I, ⁓ masters in psychology. I wouldn’t put her through 400 conversations about my stroke every single day or every second day. You know, it’s not fair because it’s not her role. I, ⁓ I talked to her about the things that we can discuss that are important, for the relationship and for how we go about our business as a couple. But then there’s those other things that. she can’t offer her perspective because only stroke survivors know how to do that. And I would never want her to know how to ⁓ relate to me having had a stroke and having the deficits that I have and how it feels to be in my body. I would never want her to be able to relate to me. So ⁓ it’s, that’s kind of how I see, you know, the couple dynamic has to play out. have to just honor the things that each of us can bring to the table and then go elsewhere to ⁓ have our needs met if there’s needs that are left unmet. Debra and Steve (1:04:23)Yeah. Really. Well, it’s good to know that if this is a ⁓ helpful therapy session for you, you won’t mind if we send you a bill. Yeah. Bill Gasiamis (1:04:32)Yeah. Yeah. Send it along with the book. Just put it in the front cover and then, and then I’ll make a payment. ⁓ Well guys, it’s really lovely to meet you in person and have a conversation with you. Have the opportunity to share your mission as well. Raise awareness about the book, raise awareness about stroke onward. I love your work. ⁓ And I wish you all the best with all of your endeavors, personal, professional, not for profit. And yeah, I just love the way that this is another example of how you can respond to stroke as individuals and then also as a couple. Debra and Steve (1:05:18)Yeah, thank you. Well, and we hope you’ll join our online community and that includes the opportunity to do live events. yes. And maybe there are some additional therapy sessions. Yes. On our platform and chat with people and well, all over the place. So yeah, please join us. Bill Gasiamis (1:05:43)That sounds like a plan. Well, that’s a wrap on my conversation with Deborah and Steve. If Deborah’s slow fall off a cliff description resonated with you, leave a comment and tell me what part of your recovery has been the hardest to explain to other people. And if you’re a care partner, I’d love to hear what you needed most early on. You’ll find the links to Deborah and Steve’s work, their book, identity theft and their nonprofit stroke onward in the show notes. And if you’d like to go deeper with me, grab my book, The Unexpected Way That a Stroke Became the Best Thing That Happened via recoveryafterstroke.com/book. Also, you can support the podcast on Patreon by going to patreon.com/recoveryafterstroke. Thank you for being here. And remember, you’re not alone in this journey. 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Brad and Tyler are back to discuss the latest headlines across wrestling and culture. They debate whether Bron Breakker will dethrone CM Punk at WWE Monday Night RAW and forecast what's ahead for Stephanie Vaquer. Later, they react to Willow Nightingale's victory at AEW Dynamite and share their notes following the in-ring debut of El Clon.Other topics include:Gratitude: 2026 OutlookDrake's Case and Nicki Minaj's AmericaFest DebutGI at the Movies: "Welcome to Derry"Follow the show for exclusive updates.Social: @gipod19 Web: gimmickinfringementpod.com, 19mediagroup.comGoods: https://19-media-group.myspreadshop.com0:00 Intro3:27 Gratitude — 2026 Outlook6:37 Steph Watch — #AndStill11:58 WWE — SmackDown Surprises and Bron Breakker versus CM Punk35:19 WHH — Drake's RICO Case and Nicki Minaj at AmericaFest47:47 AEW — Willow's Win, El Clon, and the Dante Martin Dilemma1:04:25 GI at the Movies: Welcome to Derry1:19:20 WDWM — Undefeated Wildcats, Unrivaled's Return, Stoke's Message, and HS Hoops1:22:33 ClosingFollow 19 Media Group:Twitter: @19MGroupInstagram: 19mediagrouphttps://www.19MediaGroup.comDiscover our favorite podcast gear and support the show—shop our studio must-haves on our Amazon Affiliate page! https://www.amazon.com/shop/19mediagroupWant to join the conversation or invite us to your platform? Connect with us and share your vision (budget-friendly collaborations welcome)!  https://bit.ly/19Guest

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I'm seeing “perfect” wellness routines everywhere! Red light masks, infrared saunas, ice baths, supplements lined up on the kitchen counter, breathwork, journaling, grounding mats… the list goes on.And yes, my wife has been trying most of them.So today, we're doing something a bit different. We're recreating those little “sofa consults” we have at home. We'll be casually watching TV, and out of nowhere she pauses the show, turns to me dead seriously, and hits me with a question like…“Babe… what are your thoughts on grounding mats?”So the format is simple: she's going to take us through her wellness routine from morning to night, and after each bit she'll ask me what I think.I'll give it a verdict, the why behind it, and a quick takeaway you can actually use, so you can make a choice as to whether you want it in your routine or not.If you liked this episode let me know by leaving a comment on Spotify, or shooting us a message on instagram. I'll be watching out for them!

«Si fuera posible que [Torriente y Méndez] jugaran conmigo en las Ligas Mayores, ganaríamos el gallardete a más tardar en el mes de julio y nos iríamos a pescar el resto de la temporada.» Esa fue la conclusión a la que llegó Babe «El Bambino» Ruth sobre Cristóbal Torriente, a quien enfrentó en La Habana en 1920.1 Nacido en Cienfuegos, Cristóbal Carlos Torriente fue un fornido bateador zurdo que no sólo conectaba jonrones sino también sencillos, dobles y triples hacia todas las zonas del terreno con elevados promedios, hasta por encima de .400. Junto con su extraordinario poder, Torriente, con asombrosa facilidad, conectaba las bolas malas que le lanzaban tanto derechos como zurdos, y se desplazaba por las bases vertiginosamente, robando y alcanzando bases extras. A la defensiva, fue un portentoso jardinero central, sumándole a su velocidad un brazo potente y certero que le sirvió para figurar también como lanzador. De ahí que su actuación fuera estelar en sus doce temporadas con la Liga Profesional Cubana entre 1913 y 1927, a la vez que lo era jugando en las Ligas Negras norteamericanas entre 1913 y 1928. En sus 17 temporadas con las Ligas Negras se destacó como líder en todas las categorías, incluso en bases alcanzadas y carreras impulsadas, y condujo a Los Gigantes Americanos de Chicago al campeonato de la Liga Nacional Negra en sus primeras tres temporadas entre 1920 y 1922.2 En 2006, sesenta y siete años después de su ingreso al Salón de la Fama del Béisbol Cubano, Cristóbal Torriente fue electo al Salón de la Fama de Cooperstown en Nueva York, a pesar de no haber podido jugar en las Grandes Ligas por el color de su piel. En la página web de su membresía se le recuerda por una serie histórica que se menciona en la placa y en el siguiente resumen de su carrera: «En 1920, Torriente se estableció como una de las figuras legendarias del béisbol cubano. Los Gigantes de Nueva York, que por entonces incluyeron en su nómina a Babe Ruth, visitaron la Cuba natal de Torriente para enfrentar en una serie de nueve partidos al equipo Almendares, por el que jugaba Torriente. En la serie, Torriente superó en promedio de bateo y en jonrones a Ruth, y el equipo de casa ganó la serie por un juego.»3   El tercero de esos partidos, jugado el 4 de noviembre, fue inolvidable. Esa tarde el humilde cienfueguero conectó tres jonrones e impulsó seis carreras en cinco veces al bate, mientras que «El Bambino» Babe Ruth, su legendario rival que acababa de imponer la marca de 54 cuadrangulares en una temporada, no conectó ni un solo hit.4 Trágicamente, lo que sí venció a Torriente fue su adicción al alcohol, culminando en su muerte como tuberculoso, en extrema pobreza, a los 43 años de edad.5 En él se cumplió el siguiente «dicho de los sabios» en el libro de los Proverbios: «¿De quién son los lamentos? ... ¡Del que no... deja de probar licores!»6 Carlos ReyUn Mensaje a la Concienciawww.conciencia.net 1 Matt Monagan, «The Cuban star who outslugged the Babe» [La estrella cubana que pegó más jonrones que el Bambino], mlb.com, 5 noviembre 2024 En línea 2 julio 2025. 2 Juan A. Martínez de Osaba y Goenaga, «Cristóbal Torriente: El Bambino... de Cienfuegos», Periódico Cubadebate, 27 marzo 2014 En línea 2 julio 2025. 3 «About Cristóbal Torriente», National Baseball Hall of Fame, Cooperstown, N.Y. En línea 2 julio 2025. 4 Jorge S. Figueredo, «November 4, 1920: The Day Torriente Outclassed Ruth» [El día en que Torriente superó a Babe Ruth], 1982 Baseball Research Journal [Revista de la Investigación del Béisbol] En línea 2 julio 2025. 5 Martínez de Osaba 6 Pr 23:29-30 (NVI)

(Día del Béisbol Cubano) «En noviembre de 1908, [el pelotero cubano José Méndez] fue seleccionado para [lanzar] contra los Rojos de Cincinnati, de las Grandes Ligas, de visita en Cuba para una de las... Series Americanas, y [permitió un solo] hit, conectado en el noveno inning. ¡El negrito estuvo a un paso [de no conceder ningún hit o carrera] a un equipo de Las Mayores! Pero... no paró ahí.... Méndez... lanzó [también los dos juegos siguientes], colgándoles veinticinco [innings consecutivos sin permitir carreras], ¡una hazaña! ... »Él pudo ser el primer cubano en Grandes Ligas, pero lo impidió la discriminación racial [que marcó al béisbol desde su surgimiento... hasta fines de la primera mitad del siglo XX]. Cuentan que [la] hazaña [de Méndez] ante el Cincinnati hizo exclamar [a John McGraw, el] mánager de los Gigantes de Nueva York: “... Si me lo pintan con cal, me lo llevo a los Estados Unidos...” »[Fue] precisamente John McGraw [quien le dio] su seudónimo, pues al regresar a su país declaró: “He visto en Cuba un Diamante Negro”».1 El mismísimo Babe Ruth comentó sobre su visita a Cuba en 1920: «Si fuera posible que [Torriente y Méndez] jugaran conmigo en las Ligas Mayores, ganaríamos el gallardete a más tardar en el mes de julio y nos iríamos a pescar el resto de la temporada.»2 «[Entre sus grandes logros, Méndez] fue primero en porcentaje de [juegos] ganados y perdidos de la Liga Profesional Cubana después de 1902, [con un promedio de] .731... [y] encabezó [los juegos sin permitir carreras] en cinco [temporadas], [propinando] veinte [en total]. »[Muy merecidamente, José Méndez, El Diamante Negro,] fue seleccionado entre los Cien Mejores Atletas del Siglo XX en Cuba; en 1939... fue elevado al... Salón de la Fama del Béisbol Cubano...; ese mismo año engrosó el de las Ligas Negras; y también por sus méritos, a pesar de no jugar en las Grandes Ligas, en el 2006 fue electo al Salón de la Fama de Cooperstown en Nueva York.» Así reseña el cronista deportivo cubano Juan Antonio Martínez de Osaba y Goenaga la extraordinaria carrera de José Méndez con relación al racismo en el béisbol profesional de la época.3 La sección «Sobre José Méndez» en la página web del Salón de la Fama de Cooperstown aborda el mismo tema al citar las memorias de la esposa de John McGraw, en las que ella «recuerda cómo John deploraba abiertamente el fracaso del béisbol —incluso su propio fracaso— al no desechar las normas culturales existentes o no escritas —o lo que fuera— y contratar a jugadores sin que importara su raza o su color».4 Gracias a Dios, el único color que nos acredita para formar parte del equipo de seguidores de su Hijo Jesucristo es el rojo, ya que es la sangre que Él vertió por nosotros en la cruz del Calvario lo que nos limpia de todo pecado, y que cuando le pedimos perdón por nuestros pecados, Él nos lo concede ¡sin que importe si esos pecados son como la púrpura o como el rojo más vivo!5 Carlos ReyUn Mensaje a la Concienciawww.conciencia.net 1 Juan A. Martínez de Osaba y Goenaga, «Un Diamante... del más allá», Periódico Cubadebate, 27 junio 2013 En línea 30 junio 2025; Juan A. Martínez de Osaba y Goenaga, «Las raíces racistas del béisbol cubano prerrevolucionario», Periódico Cubadebate, 8 septiembre 2012 En línea 30 junio 2025. 2 Matt Monagan, «The Cuban star who outslugged the Babe» [La estrella cubana que pegó más jonrones que el Bambino], mlb.com, 5 noviembre 2024 En línea 30 junio 2025. 3 Martínez de Osaba, «Un Diamante... del más allá». 4 «About José Méndez», National Baseball Hall of Fame, Cooperstown, N.Y. En línea 30 junio 2025. 5 Is 1:18; 1Jn 1:7-9

Hour 1 of BMitch & Finlay features a look into the Christmas football slate and an interview with Cowboys radio voice Babe Laufenberg.

Sarah is back from Mexico, and she has tales to tell! It was a White Lotus scenario with a little jellyfish run-in on the side. Susie watched The Stringer documentary about the Napalm Girl Pulitzer Prize winning photograph, and the recent controversy about who took the picture. We learn about a 30 year study on the language used in obituaries, and what it can teach us about societal values, what matters to us, and what influences changes over time. We discuss a theft of a Fabergé egg and the unusual means the thief used to take it.Brain Candy Podcast Website - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/Brain Candy Podcast Book Recommendations - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/books/Brain Candy Podcast Merchandise - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/candy-store/Brain Candy Podcast Candy Club - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/product/candy-club/Brain Candy Podcast Sponsor Codes - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/support-us/Brain Candy Podcast Social Media & Platforms:Brain Candy Podcast LIVE Interactive Trivia Nights - https://www.youtube.com/@BrainCandyPodcast/streamsBrain Candy Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/braincandypodcastHost Susie Meister Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susiemeisterHost Sarah Rice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahriceBrain Candy Podcast on X: https://www.x.com/braincandypodBrain Candy Podcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/braincandy (JOIN FREE - TONS OF REALITY TV CONTENT)Brain Candy Podcast Sponsors, partnerships, & Products that we love:Head to https://airdoctorpro.com and use promo code CANDY to get UP TO $300 off today!Cancel your unwanted subscriptions and reach your financial goals faster at https://rocketmoney.com/braincandy today.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The true Christmas story is far more powerful—and far more personal—than the version we often see wrapped in sentiment and tradition. Through Luke 2, Pastor Greg looks at how Christmas has been romanticized and even sidelined, yet the real story remains explosive: God stepped out of Heaven and into human history. Notes: Taking Christmas Back Luke 2 The real Christmas story is explosive. That’s because the gospel is the power of God unto salvation. Christmas has been hijacked. Christmas has been emptied of its meaning. Portland, Oregon just had its annual Christmas tree lighting ceremony. Christmas has perhaps been far too romanticized even by well-meaning Christians. The beauty of the true Christmas story has explosive power. The night when God Himself came to this earth. The first Christmas is when God stepped out of Heaven and entered history. Mary was living in Nazareth, a town known for its wickedness. Mary was a nobody in a nothing town in the middle of nowhere. The angel Gabriel had announced to Mary that she would be the mother of the Messiah. Luke 1:28–30 (NLT) Gabriel appeared to her and said, "Greetings, favored woman! The Lord is with you!" Confused and disturbed, Mary tried to think what the angel could mean. "Don't be afraid, Mary," the angel told her, "for you have found favor with God! Read Luke 2:1–7 Joseph is the unsung hero of the Christmas story. God’s selection of Joseph was just as significant as His selection of Mary. God, the Father in Heaven, chose Joseph to be a stepfather or father figure on earth for Jesus. Jesus grew up in many ways like any other child. We are in danger of becoming a fatherless society in America. That’s why Joseph matters. Hearing that Mary was pregnant, Joseph was willing to simply “put her away quietly,” to break the engagement. But the angel of the Lord came to Joseph, too. Matthew 1:20–21 (NKJV) But while he thought about these things, behold, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream, saying, "Joseph, son of David, do not be afraid to take to you Mary your wife, for that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Spirit. And she will bring forth a Son, and you shall call His name JESUS, for He will save His people from their sins." Luke is very meticulous in his reporting. Luke was not an eyewitness to the life of Jesus. He carefully researched and had first-person interviews with the principal characters of the story. It was his desire to bring a historical and accurate record of the life of Jesus. These are not fairy tales or legends Luke invented. Luke 1:3 Caesar Augustus was the first real Roman emperor. His real name was Caius Octavius. The Roman Republic was now the Roman Empire. One inscription that was found called Augustus Caesar “the savior of the whole world.” Luke 2:11–12 (NKJV) "For there is born to you this day in the city of David a Savior, who is Christ the Lord. And this will be the sign to you: You will find a Babe wrapped in swaddling cloths, lying in a manger." The angel was saying, “Augustus is not the savior of Rome, Jesus is.” In a time when man wanted to be God, God became a man. God incarnate born on the dirt floor of a filthy cave. God became a fetus. Deity in diapers. Babies are so amazing and so helpless. You have to cradle their heads. “It was clearly a leap down— as if the Son of God rose from his splendor, stood poised on the rim of the universe irradiating light, and dove headlong, speeding through the stars over the Milky Way to earth’s galaxy . . . where he plunged into a huddle of animals. Nothing could be lower.” — R. Kent Hughes This symbolized Jesus’s whole life on this earth, from the cradle to the cross. 2 Corinthians 8:9 (NKJV) For you know the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, that though He was rich, yet for your sakes He became poor, that you through His poverty might become rich. Luke 2:7 (NKJV) And she brought forth her firstborn Son, and wrapped Him in swaddling cloths, and laid Him in a manger, because there was no room for them in the inn. That phrase became emblematic of Jesus’s life and ministry on earth. Christ said, “In my Father’s house are many mansions.” We didn’t have any room for Him, but He has many rooms for us. We effectively lose Jesus at Christmas. We say things like, “I would like to go to church, but I’m just too busy.” When Mary and Joseph got back home, they realized Jesus was gone. This can happen to us, too. Not that we lose our salvation, but we can lose sight of Jesus. It’s not about Christmas presents but His Christmas presence. The message of Christmas is, “let us worship.” We need a savior because we are sinners. — Become a Harvest Partner today and join us in knowing God and making Him known through media and large-scale evangelism, our mission of over 30 years. Explore more resources from Pastor Greg Laurie, including daily devotionals and blogs, designed to answer your spiritual questions and equip you to walk closely with Christ.Support the show: https://bit.ly/anbsupportSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The true Christmas story is far more powerful—and far more personal—than the version we often see wrapped in sentiment and tradition. Through Luke 2, Pastor Greg looks at how Christmas has been romanticized and even sidelined, yet the real story remains explosive: God stepped out of Heaven and into human history. Notes: Taking Christmas Back Luke 2 The real Christmas story is explosive. That’s because the gospel is the power of God unto salvation. Christmas has been hijacked. Christmas has been emptied of its meaning. Portland, Oregon just had its annual Christmas tree lighting ceremony. Christmas has perhaps been far too romanticized even by well-meaning Christians. The beauty of the true Christmas story has explosive power. The night when God Himself came to this earth. The first Christmas is when God stepped out of Heaven and entered history. Mary was living in Nazareth, a town known for its wickedness. Mary was a nobody in a nothing town in the middle of nowhere. The angel Gabriel had announced to Mary that she would be the mother of the Messiah. Luke 1:28–30 (NLT) Gabriel appeared to her and said, "Greetings, favored woman! The Lord is with you!" Confused and disturbed, Mary tried to think what the angel could mean. "Don't be afraid, Mary," the angel told her, "for you have found favor with God! Read Luke 2:1–7 Joseph is the unsung hero of the Christmas story. God’s selection of Joseph was just as significant as His selection of Mary. God, the Father in Heaven, chose Joseph to be a stepfather or father figure on earth for Jesus. Jesus grew up in many ways like any other child. We are in danger of becoming a fatherless society in America. That’s why Joseph matters. Hearing that Mary was pregnant, Joseph was willing to simply “put her away quietly,” to break the engagement. But the angel of the Lord came to Joseph, too. Matthew 1:20–21 (NKJV) But while he thought about these things, behold, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream, saying, "Joseph, son of David, do not be afraid to take to you Mary your wife, for that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Spirit. And she will bring forth a Son, and you shall call His name JESUS, for He will save His people from their sins." Luke is very meticulous in his reporting. Luke was not an eyewitness to the life of Jesus. He carefully researched and had first-person interviews with the principal characters of the story. It was his desire to bring a historical and accurate record of the life of Jesus. These are not fairy tales or legends Luke invented. Luke 1:3 Caesar Augustus was the first real Roman emperor. His real name was Caius Octavius. The Roman Republic was now the Roman Empire. One inscription that was found called Augustus Caesar “the savior of the whole world.” Luke 2:11–12 (NKJV) "For there is born to you this day in the city of David a Savior, who is Christ the Lord. And this will be the sign to you: You will find a Babe wrapped in swaddling cloths, lying in a manger." The angel was saying, “Augustus is not the savior of Rome, Jesus is.” In a time when man wanted to be God, God became a man. God incarnate born on the dirt floor of a filthy cave. God became a fetus. Deity in diapers. Babies are so amazing and so helpless. You have to cradle their heads. “It was clearly a leap down— as if the Son of God rose from his splendor, stood poised on the rim of the universe irradiating light, and dove headlong, speeding through the stars over the Milky Way to earth’s galaxy . . . where he plunged into a huddle of animals. Nothing could be lower.” — R. Kent Hughes This symbolized Jesus’s whole life on this earth, from the cradle to the cross. 2 Corinthians 8:9 (NKJV) For you know the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, that though He was rich, yet for your sakes He became poor, that you through His poverty might become rich. Luke 2:7 (NKJV) And she brought forth her firstborn Son, and wrapped Him in swaddling cloths, and laid Him in a manger, because there was no room for them in the inn. That phrase became emblematic of Jesus’s life and ministry on earth. Christ said, “In my Father’s house are many mansions.” We didn’t have any room for Him, but He has many rooms for us. We effectively lose Jesus at Christmas. We say things like, “I would like to go to church, but I’m just too busy.” When Mary and Joseph got back home, they realized Jesus was gone. This can happen to us, too. Not that we lose our salvation, but we can lose sight of Jesus. It’s not about Christmas presents but His Christmas presence. The message of Christmas is, “let us worship.” We need a savior because we are sinners. — Become a Harvest Partner today and join us in knowing God and making Him known through media and large-scale evangelism, our mission of over 30 years. Explore more resources from Pastor Greg Laurie, including daily devotionals and blogs, designed to answer your spiritual questions and equip you to walk closely with Christ.Support the show: https://bit.ly/anbsupportSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We're discussing the feedback from Sooz Review of Jaws, and why people are real worked up about it. We learn about a woman who changed her gender on LinkedIn only to get a 400% increase in page views, so obviously we're mad about it. Sarah explains why drones are being used in warfare and it feels more dangerous than you'd think. Susie describes a study that had a man dressed as Batman entering a subway car, and the surprising effect it had on passengers, but the real surprise was the conclusions it gave scholars. We learn about a man who is wearing ridiculous pants to win a jeans contest for absolutely no reason, and Sarah cannot quit laughing at him. Plus, we hear about a trial where a mistress was fined almost $2M for breaking up a marriage, while the man was not held accountable in any way.Brain Candy Podcast Website - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/Brain Candy Podcast Book Recommendations - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/books/Brain Candy Podcast Merchandise - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/candy-store/Brain Candy Podcast Candy Club - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/product/candy-club/Brain Candy Podcast Sponsor Codes - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/support-us/Brain Candy Podcast Social Media & Platforms:Brain Candy Podcast LIVE Interactive Trivia Nights - https://www.youtube.com/@BrainCandyPodcast/streamsBrain Candy Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/braincandypodcastHost Susie Meister Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susiemeisterHost Sarah Rice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahriceBrain Candy Podcast on X: https://www.x.com/braincandypodBrain Candy Podcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/braincandy (JOIN FREE - TONS OF REALITY TV CONTENT)Brain Candy Podcast Sponsors, partnerships, & Products that we love:Get $35 off Aura's best-selling Carver Mat frames - named #1 by Wirecutter - by going to https://auraframes.com and using promo code BRAINCANDY at checkout.For 20% off your order, head to https://reliefband.com and use code BRAINCANDYSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We learn about the Selena documentary, and the life, career, and death of the Tejano singer, who was killed by a disgruntled employee. We find out the evolutionary advantage of kissing, which animals do it, how scientists define "kissing," and why it actually could protect us from harm. Susie explains why raccoons might become the next domesticated animals, why they seem to be ushering in their pet era, and why experts are convinced it's inevitable. We discuss the new female test dummy (or smartie as Susie calls her), and why it took so long to get it made, why people still aren't happy, and why it's so expensive to make. We're mad at the Guinness World Book of Records again because of their evolving business model and the schemes they're using to make bank. And Susie talks about the Stiller and Meara documentary, about the comedy duo and their famous son, Ben Stiller, and why despite their fame, they're more relatable than you'd think.Brain Candy Podcast Website - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/Brain Candy Podcast Book Recommendations - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/books/Brain Candy Podcast Merchandise - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/candy-store/Brain Candy Podcast Candy Club - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/product/candy-club/Brain Candy Podcast Sponsor Codes - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/support-us/Brain Candy Podcast Social Media & Platforms:Brain Candy Podcast LIVE Interactive Trivia Nights - https://www.youtube.com/@BrainCandyPodcast/streamsBrain Candy Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/braincandypodcastHost Susie Meister Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susiemeisterHost Sarah Rice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahriceBrain Candy Podcast on X: https://www.x.com/braincandypodBrain Candy Podcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/braincandy (JOIN FREE - TONS OF REALITY TV CONTENT)Brain Candy Podcast Sponsors, partnerships, & Products that we love:For 50% off your order, head to https://www.dailylook.com and use code BRAINCANDYGo to https://cozyearth.com and use my code BRAINCANDY for up to 20% off!Get $35 off Aura's best-selling Carver Mat frames - named #1 by Wirecutter - by going to https://auraframes.com and using promo code BRAINCANDY at checkout.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.