One Heart

Matt Allred sits down with Dan Chambers, owner of Unlimited Soul Coaching: Summary Self-knowing and source-connecting. 2:33 Dan has a business called unlimited soul and is developing personal leadership in the framework of self-knowing and source-connecting. The first step to self-knowledge is letting go, and dan often says that everything starts with letting go of the belief that God sees you. Letting go of beliefs and letting go of labels that encumber the view of who we are that is divine, and seeing ourselves as god sees us. The name of his company, tech connect, came about 10 years ago. Matt was part of a business called tech connect How he got into real estate. 7:34 He was a successful salesman for the company, but felt the desire for something bigger and better, and his career at that point had been very linear. He and his best friend decided to start their own business together, and they decided to go into real estate during 2006. They were heavily invested and the wheels started coming off the bus, and they were hustling and thinking they would figure it out. He found a job in upstate new york in the same industry that he had been in, and it served a mission. The moment when all of my pride was stripped off. 12:10 The moment when all of his pride is stripped off, and how he feels like the only way he can survive is with help and all his helps back in utah. The move. Joyce and her husband lost their jobs and were going through some hard times. They prayed and he got an even better job, and they got to the point where they couldn't be friends anymore. Joyce was making six figures more money than she had ever made in her life. Can I come back? I will come back. 16:24 In that moment in the rawness of having everything that he created and made an event, he was taking credit for the fact that he was doing this right. He had enough humility to go back and talk with the owner of tech connect and said he would come back. Became the owner of the business at the end of 2014, coming back to give it to her husband in 2009 after a three year boom and bust. Became an owner in 2017, and her financial life has never been more stable and comfortable. Dealing with falling into the drama triangle. 21:28 He started to have 10 reactions to events and a sense of discontent that he couldn't shake. He found a coach and engaged with a personal coach. He was invited to see fallen beliefs and practices and thoughts that didn't honor him and serve him and patterns that some of those The thoughts he was having at this moment had to do with, I'm not good enough. The belief was if one is good, 10 is better. If one is better, then they are better now. And that is what that would start to look like. Seeing the gap between your agency and your beliefs. 26:53 The coach is helping Matt go and see the thoughts and comparisons that are part of what he believes so that he can make a new choice. The space between what he chose to do more and life, and how it was happening to him. He was beginning to be introduced to his own faith that he needed in christ to go, this can be changed. With his help, he began to choose and choose. He went from 12 weeks of working with his coach to two and a half years working with her. Become conscious of your own power. 31:37 Being able to validate yourself and love yourself, even if nobody in the world pat you on the head and say you're a good guy. How to step into your agency. Becoming conscious of one's own power and the power to choose their own path and to create and to accomplish and to make things happen. The two things Matt has seen in his life that he is not comfortable feeling, feeling good for a certain amount of time to true. Receive, release and create. 36:19 Receive, release and create, the three words that are at the heart of most of his work, and why they are so important to him. The cyclical yin and yang experience

Today our guest is Bob Smith. Bob is a life coach for Latter-day Saint men who is on a mission to help empower LDS men to become the men God created them to be. Bob has learned priceless lessons through his own life experiences and challenges and has developed the coaching skills that enable men to use their agency to change any aspect of their life. Bob and his wife Molly have 8 children in a blended family and live in Texas.

Today our guest is Mark Rowley. Having walked to the edge between faith and atheism, being ready to reject God, Mark began to see himself as a son of God. Mark has learned to love God and himself and has a desire to help others see their own beauty and to be a light to those who may be on similar journey.

Chaunine Shanks is on the board of OneHeartOneLight. She is the mother of 9 children, and grandmother to 4 little ones. Chaunine works as a Risk and Control executive with a large bank. She is passionate about helping people find and love their uniqueness and believes that each of us have a genius that we can cultivate.

When we last left off talking with Jeremy, he was in jail in Wyoming for DUI and had just found God in, at his lowest point. In this part of Jeremy's story, he shares with us the journey of building back trust with his wife, and coming back together as a family. Jeremy is open raw and honest about his weakness and trials. He is also open and powerful about calling on men to wake up and grow up so we can change ourselves, our families, and the world.

Today our guest is Marcus Ellsworth; Marcus is married with 4 children and he teaches high school drama. Marcus has experienced his share of hearthache and trauma throughout his life and He has chosen to be on the path of healing. Today, He has agreed to share part of his story with us to help others choose to heal.

Jake Fairbanks has experience a lot in his life, even though he is still a young man. As a high school student, Jake was looked up to as a leader in his high school and band when several students ended their lives by suicide in one year. Jake also had the experience of helping provide love, support and encouragement to his mother when she was diagnosed with cancer. Through it all, Jake gave selflessly, and eventually he realized he also needed self-care, and he needed to learn how to create safe boundaries. Jake continues to love, serve, grow and heal and is very active in his men's group. Jake also knows the power of vulnerability in forging deep connections, love and trust.

Jeremy Morris is a husband, father and son. He is also a co- founder of Wild Courage and host of the Wild Courage podcast. After Jeremy's 5th DUI, he turned to the Lord and found God while pouring out his soul in a jail cell in Wyoming. That was the beginning of Jeremy's healing and redemption, and the harder part of cleaning the mess he had made was just starting. Today, Jeremy helps men from all walks of life find their own redemption as they turn to God, open up about their struggles and find the loving, healing support of other men and God.

Kurt Francom is the Executive Director of Leading Saints, a non-profit organization dedicated to helping Latter-day Saints be better prepared to lead. Kurt grew up in West Valley City, UT, and served a mission in Sacramento, California. He and his wife have 3 children and live in Stansbury Park, UT. In this episode, Kurt talks about the power of "story" and how through our stories, we can connect and find healing.

Michael Young is 78 years old and has lived a long and full life. Michael experienced physical, sexual and emotional abuse as a child and got involved with pornography at at an early age. In college and in his early 20's Michael lived in New York City, living a homosexual lifestyle. Michael decided he wanted to marry and have a family and eventually he married and they had two children. Michael and his wife were married for 39 years, before it ended in divorce. Michael continued to have homosexual desires and to use pornography and he made the decision to look more closely at his emotions, beliefs and desires. Today, Michael leads a men's support group and continues to help and support other men as they desire to grow, learn, connect and heal from past traumas.

Brad Mower is a wellness coach today, but just a couple years ago, he almost took his own life because of depression and burn-out. Brad shared his story with us as he came through the lowest points of his life and how he continues to grow, heal and help others "fight on."

Tonya Cox talks with us about healing, wholeness and choosing to become more of who each of us already is; a divine son or daughter of God. Coming to love ourselves and see our own divinity is not easy, but it's essential to learning to love as God loves.

In this episode, Matt Allred talks about what it means to be of "one heart" and how we can work together to get there.

Matthew Alger talks about the challenge of living with the expectation of perfection and how that sent him in the opposite direction. He also talks about finding the courage to be true to himself, including the courage to bring darkness into the light.