Podcasts about Vulnerability

Send us a textWhat happens when men are finally given permission to explore their full emotional range? In this eye-opening conversation that concludes episode 212 with Lee Povey, we delve into the hidden emotional landscapes that many men navigate alone, often without the tools or language to understand their experiences.The discussion challenges fundamental misconceptions about emotions, particularly for men. "There is no negative emotion," Lee explains. "An emotion is just telling you about your experience." This perspective invites listeners to reconsider how we view feelings like anger, fear, or sadness – not as weaknesses to overcome, but as valuable information about our lived experiences.We explore the fascinating paradox of modern masculinity: men are simultaneously criticized for expressing certain emotions while being told others are unacceptable. This creates an impossible situation where many men retreat behind emotional walls, protecting vulnerability with anger or detachment. The conversation delves into how evolutionary responses to perceived threats continue to shape male behavior in ways that no longer serve us in contemporary society.The transformative power of men's groups emerges as a beacon of hope throughout our discussion. These spaces provide opportunities for men to be truly seen and understood, often for the first time. As Lee shares from his extensive experience facilitating these groups, "When men can come to a group and let go of that mask... it can be easier for them to connect." The simple recognition that one's struggles aren't unique can be profoundly healing.Whether you're a man seeking better understanding of your emotional life, someone who loves a man struggling with connection, or simply curious about how emotional intelligence develops across genders, this conversation offers valuable insights. Connect with Lee at leepovey.com or find him on Instagram and LinkedIn to learn more about his work with men's groups and emotional intelligence.Support the showYouTube Channel For The Podcast

Are you holding yourself back in the name of ‘getting it right'?In this heartfelt solo episode, Sarah Faith Gottesdiener shares the unfiltered truth about her creative process, the evolution of the podcast, and what it's taken to show up consistently—even when things felt unfinished, unpolished, or not quite “right.”This is a powerful conversation about the courage to begin, the discipline to keep going, and the grace to let your work evolve over time.You'll hear:Why making something imperfect is better than not making it at allThe difference between perfectionism and a devotion to excellenceHow years of psychic readings made Sarah a highly attuned interviewerThe spiritual, somatic, and structural practices that sustain creativityInsights from Clear Channels, her signature course on voice and visibilityJoin Our Community: Join the Moon Studio Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/themoonstudioBuy the 2025 Many Moons Lunar Planner: https://moon-studio.co/collections/all-products-excluding-route/products/many-moons-2025Subscribe to our newsletter: https://moon-studio.co/pages/newsletterFind Sarah on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gottesss/PROMO: POD33 for $33 off Clear ChannelsUpcoming Events [London]: August 9th: Intuition For Right Now: Regain Trust, Build Confidence, and Heal Old WoundsAugust 10th: Integrating the Gifts of Your Spirit: An Archetypal Deep Dive and Regression with Sarah Faith Gottesdiener 

About the Guest: Lori Melancon is the CEO of the Baton Rouge Area Chamber. A driven, candid, and deeply passionate leader, Lori is known for her commitment to systemic change, economic development, and building a more connected and resilient Baton Rouge. Her leadership style blends transparency, emotional intelligence, and a deep belief in community-driven progress.Episode Summary: Steve Mellor sits down with Lori Melancon to explore what it means to be "growth ready" as both an individual and a leader of an entire city. Lori unpacks the idea of enduring "seasons of suck", those tough, messy, uncertain times that test us and ultimately forge our greatest growth.Together, they dive into topics like vulnerability in leadership, the collective responsibility we all share in shaping our communities, and the relentless pursuit of meaningful work. Lori offers refreshing honesty about the loneliness of leadership, the power of transparency, and how embracing discomfort is essential for real progress.Whether you're a high-performing leader, someone navigating change, or just looking for real talk about personal growth, this episode is rich with insight, inspiration, and a whole lot of heart.Key Topics and Themes Discussed:What it means to be "growth ready"Embracing the "season of suck"Vulnerability and transparency in leadershipCommunity transformation and ownershipCreating culture through communication and actionHow to lead with purpose in challenging political and social climatesThe emotional and personal toll of meaningful workAccountability and radical candor as tools for growthLinks and Resources:Baton Rouge Area Chamber: https://www.brac.orgIna Garten's memoir reference: Be Ready When the Luck HappensGrowth Ready Podcast: https://growthready.comSend us a textSupport the showSign up for the monthly newsletter with Steve and GrowthReady (formerly known as Career Competitor) by providing your details here - Request to become part of our community Also be sure to give him and the show a follow on Instagram @coachstevemellor

Lisa Fine speaks with Cricket Snyder, the first Chief Compliance Officer for the Jefferson County Commission in Birmingham, Alabama, a role that was mandated by a US Federal District Court decree. Cricket shares her experiences in shifting the compliance culture in Jefferson County from one where she was initially viewed as an extension of the monitoring to one where she overcame employee skepticism and built trust, connecting with people throughout the county. Cricket also emphasizes the importance of vulnerability, particularly in a new, challenging role. She also reminds us of the power of being open about what you don't know and how doing so helped foster a more transparent and collaborative environment. She also received support from the broader compliance community. Lisa and Cricket also discuss strategies to increase engagement. Cricket introduced “Compliance Week” to Jefferson County, transforming compliance education into engaging, themed events. These have increased trust in the function among all county employees, leading to a positive culture shift.

Have feedback or a topic you want to hear about, let us know by sending us a direct message!Welcome back to another heartfelt and hilarious episode of The KarWell Chronicles! This week, we're joined by our beloved friend Dayle—whose story of survival, resilience, humor, and entrepreneurship will leave you both inspired and entertained. From “taking a 3-minute breather” (yes, actual cardiac arrest!) to starting a thriving small business as a mom of two, Dayle shares her journey of overcoming adversity, building community, and redefining success—with a few near-crying moments and endless laughs along the way.We talk friendship dynamics, mental health, motherhood, personal growth, and the ups and downs of choosing your own path—whether that means running 100 events a year or learning to slow down and savor family time. Expect raw honesty, relatable chaos, and genuine advice for anyone craving a fulfilling career, meaningful connections, or just reassurance that you don't have to do it all—or do it alone.If you're a mom, entrepreneur, friend, or someone looking for encouragement, this episode is for you. Don't forget to comment if you want a part two with ALL the dramatic stories!

What would you say to your younger self?In this raw and vulnerable episode, I'm sharing the letter I wrote during a leadership mastermind exercise—a truth I never planned to make public.It's a reflection on the pain that fuels our purpose, the “chip” we carry, and a powerful reminder of Solomon's Paradox: we often give better advice to others than to ourselves.This episode is for anyone who's ever wondered if the hard parts of their story were worth it. (Spoiler: they were.)Let's dive into the truth of the journey—no metrics, no masks.Click play to hear all of this and:[00:00] Why Writing a Letter to Your Younger Self Can Be Transformative[01:45] What's Your Chip? The Pain That Fuels Purpose[04:12] Vulnerability in High-Performing Rooms[05:45] Understanding Solomon's Paradox in Entrepreneurship[06:50] Why This Podcast Exists: Documenting the JourneyListen to Related Episodes:Growing in Life + Business: What I'm Learning in the Messy Middle

In this episode of the Addict to Athlete podcast, Coach Blu Robinson interviews Mallary Tenore Tarpley, a journalist and author, about her experiences with eating disorders and the concept of recovery. They discuss the importance of vulnerability in storytelling, the misconceptions surrounding eating disorders, and the impact of social media on body image. Mallary shares her journey of writing a book that explores the 'middle place' of recovery, where individuals may not be fully recovered but are still making progress. The conversation also touches on parenting and how to teach children about body image and food in a healthy way. Check out Mallary's book: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Slip/Mallary-Tenore-Tarpley/9781668035016 Takeaways Writing has been a form of catharsis for me. Recovery is not a linear process; it's a journey. The 'middle place' of recovery is often overlooked. Vulnerability in storytelling can help others feel seen. Eating disorders affect people of all ages and backgrounds. Social media can exacerbate body image issues. It's important to neutralize food language with children. Comments about weight can trigger eating disorders. We need to educate families about eating disorders. The journey of recovery is ongoing and complex. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Addict to Athlete Podcast 02:58 Exploring the Middle Place of Recovery 06:11 The Importance of Vulnerability in Storytelling 08:56 Navigating Relationships During Recovery 12:01 Understanding Eating Disorders and Misconceptions 14:55 The Role of Social Media in Eating Disorders 18:04 Teaching Children About Body Image and Food 21:02 The Impact of Comments on Young Minds 23:53 Finding Purpose in the Middle of Recovery 26:55 Conclusion and Book Promotion   Please join Addict to Athlete's Patreon support page and help us turn the mess of addiction into the message of sobriety! https://www.patreon.com/addicttoathlete   Please visit our website for more information on Team Addict to Athlete and Addiction Recovery Podcasts. https://www.AddictToAthlete.org   Join the Team! Circle, our new social support event, along with the team and athlete communication platform, is designed to help us break free from doom scrolling and shadow banning and foster stronger connections among us. Follow the link, download the app, and start this new chapter of Team AIIA! Join Circle https://a2a.circle.so/join?invitation_token=16daaa0d9ecd7421d384dd05a461464ce149cc9e-63d4aa30-1a67-4120-ae12-124791dfb519

He said the words that most don't dare to say. She asked the questions most don't think to voice. In this powerful sit-down, Glo and Skillet peel back the layers of emotional labor, expectations, and silent compromises men often make in relationships. Vulnerability meets insight as they break down what "sacrifice" really means—and who truly notices.

What do Paul McCartney, up-and-coming singer songwriter Ken Pomeroy, and a guy I passed on the street tugging along a French bulldog have in common? They all support my theory that pets inevitably resemble their owners–sometimes in looks, sometimes in spirit, but always in energy. When Ken Pomeroy introduced her song “Wrango” opening for I'm with Her and Iron & Wine at Asheville Yards on July 12, 2025, she described how the song was inspired by the liability her new dog had become from its quick temper. After WNCW's Joe Kendrick and I spent some time with her, we slowly got to see where the pup's feistiness came from. We talked about what it means to carry songs from childhood into adulthood, the tension between writing for yourself and performing for others, and the unexpected ways public commentary can rattle even the most grounded artists. As Ken says, “I never thought I'd care about online comments. But wow. I didn't know how sensitive I'd be.”And then there's “Flannel Cowboy”, Ken Pomeroy's closing track at her show, that isn't a love song, despite what you might assume. It's a quietly devastating reflection on friendship, ego, and the confusing wreckage of emotional fallout. It's a song about looking in the mirror and realizing that, sometimes, the thing biting at you isn't your dog, or your critics—it's you.Her vulnerability isn't just evident in the lyrics of her 2025 album, Cruel Joke, but in the way she speaks about songwriting as a spiritual act—one that gives form to feelings too big to hold alone. As a writer, I can relate to the need to shed some weight onto the page. Sometimes things get a little too loud and the only way to bring back the quiet is to release. Ken also told us about her connection to Cherokee heritage, her experience contributing to the language revitalization album ᎠᏅᏛᏁᎵᏍᎩ (Anvdvnelisgi), and what it meant to contribute to a project to empower young people to connect with their heritage. Whether she's reflecting on faith, feeling everything too deeply, or setting boundaries on what parts of her soul she's willing to hand over to strangers, Ken Pomeroy is an artist in full bloom. She's a songwriter first, a performer reluctantly, and a truth-teller always. — Elena Dickson Ken Pomeroy (photo: Kali Spitzer) Songs heard in this episode:John Denver “Leaving On A Jet Plane”“Wrango” by Ken Pomeroy, from Cruel Joke, excerpt“Grey Skies” by Ken Pomeroy, from Cruel Joke, excerpt“Flannel Cowboy” by Ken Pomeroy, from Cruel Joke, excerpt“Galvladi” by Ken Pomeroy, from Anvdvnelisgi Thank you for being here! We hope you enjoy this episode, and can help spread awareness of what we are doing. It is as easy as telling a friend and following this podcast on your platform of choice. You can find us on Apple here, Spotify here and YouTube here — hundreds more episodes await, filled with artists you may know by name, or musicians and bands that are ready to become your next favorites.This series is a part of the lineup of both public radio WNCW and Osiris Media, with all of the Osiris shows available here. You can also hear new episodes on Bluegrass Planet Radio here. You can follow us on social media: @southstories on Instagram, at Southern Songs and Stories on Facebook, and now on Substack here, where you can read the scripts of these podcasts, and get updates on what we are doing and planning in our quest to explore and celebrate the unfolding history and culture of music rooted in the American South, and going beyond to the styles and artists that it inspired and informed. The radio adaptation of this episode is part of the programming lineup during Morning Edition on public radio WNCW, where we worked with Joshua Meng, who wrote and performed our theme songs. This episode was written and hosted by WNCW intern Elena Dickson, with myself as editor and Ken Pomeroy's co-interviewer. - Joe Kendrick

Episode NotesWhy listening is the most underutilized leadership superpowerThe hidden root causes of burnout (hint: it's not just overwork)How to give and receive feedback without triggering egoBuilding psychological safety one honest moment at a timeThe surprising reason why emotionally intelligent leaders are the most effectiveRecommended Resources:Dare to Lead by Brené BrownLeaders Eat Last by Simon SinekThink Again by Adam GrantPodcast: WorkLife with Adam Grant www.YourHealth.Org

In this honest and raw solo episode, Joe drops into the heart of what it truly means to let yourself be seen. Not the polished, filtered, social-media-you—but the messy, magnificent human you actually are.From the early days of re-recording videos in the woods to pressing “Go Live” when it feels uncomfortable, Joe shares his personal journey of stepping into visibility and invites you to do the same.You'll hear stories, reflections, and real talk about the inner critic, imposter syndrome, and the powerful liberation that comes from choosing presence over performance. This is a call back to your truth—a reminder that clarity doesn't come before the leap, it comes through it.In this episode, you'll explore:Why waiting to feel “ready” is keeping you smallHow vulnerability leads to real, soul-deep connectionSimple ways to practice being seen (even if your hands are shaking)The daily devotion of showing up for your truthIf you've ever felt like your voice doesn't matter, or feared being “too much,” this is your reminder: you are allowed to be seen, exactly as you are.Work with Joe - Scheudle Your Call Download Free Inner Trust Meditation

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My guest today is Sava Riaskoff.Sava is a Performance & Wellbeing Coach, TEDxSpeaker, and Associate Professor at the ESADE MBA in Barcelona. Over the past seven years, he's worked with leaders and next-gen talent through 1:1 coaching, in-company trainings, and immersive retreats in Europe and Patagonia.His work is deeply shaped by his own journey — from following a path that looked right on paper but left him quietly burning out, to being forced to face some of the hard questions we tend to avoid: What do I actually want? And who am I really, when I stop trying to fit in or live up to other people's expectations?Today, he helps others explore those same questions — and navigate the uncertainty, self-doubt, and pressure that tend to come with choosing a new path or stepping into leadership.I met Sava through the kind introduction of Adela Warkentin (thank you, Adela!!).  This is a beautiful and inspiring conversation where we explore the intersection of emotional safety and authenticity or vulnerability.  What changes when we choose to be vulnerable and risk the unknown?  Ironically enough, as Sava shares… we find safety, despite it feeling so scary.Sava, thank you for jumping into the deep end of the conversational pool with me!  Thank you for choosing authenticity and vulnerability.  You are an inspiration!  Keep being you and adding such beautiful light to the world!!To learn more about Sava and the work he does in the world, you'll find links below: Sava's Website: https://www.inwardpath.comGrowth Week Retreats: https://growthweek.coWatch Sava's TEDx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5WelzFFA0TMlinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/savariaskoffMake Life Less Difficult~ Support:buymeacoffee.com/lisatilstra

We are human beings, not human doings! So how did we find ourselves doing more, more, more, when all we've ever needed exists here within us?Emanuele Mazzanti is here to remind us of this. As a facilitator alchemist for EY and an energy-giver at heart, he carves out space for authentic human experience, playfulness, and emotional depth, in a highly results-driven, corporate world.His approach is simple: connection before content, curiosity before questions, and presence before perfection, as he shows leaders how to show up in new, deeply connecting ways.So if you're ready to swap the PPT for something that feels a little more personal, this one's for you!Find out about:How to make more space to just be, in a culture obsessed with doingHow to foster emotional presence in corporate settings to enhance performance, decision-making and meaningful depthResisting the facilitative urge to fill workshops with content, tools and structureAnd why real transformation comes from simple, stripped back, human momentsThe mindset leaders must nurture to show up with empathy and curiosityDon't miss the next episode: subscribe to the show with your favourite podcast player.Links:Watch the video recording of this episode on YouTube.Connect to Emanuele Mazzanti:LinkedInShare your thoughts about our conversation!Support the show✨✨✨Subscribe to our newsletter to receive a free 1-page summary of each upcoming episode directly to your inbox, or explore our eBooks featuring 50-episode compilations for even more facilitation insights. Find out more:https://workshops.work/podcast✨✨✨Did you know? You can search all episodes by keyword to find exactly what you need via our Buzzsprout page!

Keywordscybersecurity, military transition, Tampa cybersecurity, mentorship, cyber law, incident response, private sector, cybersecurity misconceptions, legal perspectives, cybersecurity growth  SummaryIn this episode of No Password Required, hosts Jack Clabby and Kayley Melton sit down with Kurt Sanger — former Deputy General Counsel at U.S. Cyber Command — to talk about the evolving world of cyber law, the wild ride from government service to private sector strategy, and what keeps him grounded in a field that's constantly shifting. Kurt dives into the fast-growing cybersecurity scene in Tampa, the power of mentorship, and why people still get cyber law so wrong. Plus: insights on responding to incidents under pressure and what role the government should (and shouldn't) play in the digital fight.  TakeawaysKurt emphasizes that newcomers to cybersecurity are not as far behind as they think.The transition from military to private sector can be challenging but rewarding.Tampa is becoming a significant hub for cybersecurity talent and companies.Understanding cybersecurity misconceptions is crucial for decision-makers.Mentorship plays a vital role in navigating career challenges in cybersecurity.Military and civilian cyber law have distinct differences in enforcement and flexibility.The stakes in private sector cybersecurity can be incredibly high for clients.Kurt's experience highlights the need for collaboration between government and private sectors.Cybersecurity is an ever-evolving field that requires continuous learning.Kurt finds excitement in helping clients during their most challenging times.  Sound bites "You're only six months behind.""We're all in the same boat.""The government needs to step back."  Chapters 00:00 NPR S6E7 Kurt Sanger52:53 NPR S6E7 Kurt Sanger01:45:47 Introduction to Cybersecurity Conversations01:48:22 Transitioning from Military to Private Sector Cybersecurity01:51:11 The Growth of Tampa as a Cybersecurity Hub01:54:05 Understanding Cybersecurity Misconceptions01:57:15 The Role of Mentorship in Cybersecurity Careers02:00:24 Military vs. Civilian Cybersecurity Law02:03:07 The Excitement of Cyber Command vs. Private Sector02:13:52 High Stakes in Cybersecurity for Small Organizations02:15:44 The Role of Legal Experts in Cybersecurity02:17:21 Translating Technical Jargon for Clients02:18:57 Challenges of Explaining Cyber Operations to Commanders02:22:43 Lifestyle Polygraph: Fun Questions and Insights02:23:30 The 10,000 Hour Rule in Cybersecurity02:29:34 Creative Freedom with LEGO Bricks02:31:27 Tampa's Culinary Delights and Local Favorites

What You'll Learn:How ego can cloud judgment—and what to do when it doesThe difference between collaboration and consensus in leadershipHow to recognize decision fatigue in yourself and othersWhy it's okay to be wrong—and how to grow from itThe power of surrounding yourself with people who will tell you the truthKey Questions Explored:How do you lead when no one agrees with you?What does accountability look like after a bad call?When should you trust your gut over your data?What happens when someone says, “I just can't make another decision”?How do you stay humble and curious in the middle of pressure?

In this milestone 100th episode, Kat invites her fiancé Tyler to the podcast for a deeply personal conversation about building a conscious, emotionally safe, and evolving relationship. They open up about doing inner work individually and as a couple, the challenges and beauty of vulnerability, and what it really takes to grow together long-term.We talk about everything from the importance of asking better questions internally and in relationships to how conscious communication leads to emotional safety. In this conversation we really see the power of doing "the work" and how it transforms relationships 00:00 Introduction 3:16 How Kat and Tyler's story began 9:49 The nervous systems role 14:34 Avoidant and anxious attachment 33:20 How to not lose yourself in a relationship 46:04 Kat and Tyler share their thoughts around being parents 51:29 Being in a relationship with someone who's doing "the work" Connect with Kat:

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In this episode of The Unapologetic Man Podcast, Mark Sing dives deep into the art of demonstrating confidence to women without needing to speak a word. He explains how body language, tonality, and subtle social cues can effectively communicate your self-assuredness and attractiveness. Mark also shares his approach to NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) to rapidly remap belief systems, a key part of his coaching program that helps men shift their mindset and exhibit real confidence. Mark Sing is a dating coach with a bold, no-nonsense approach to improving men's lives. Known for his straightforward and masculine guidance, Mark teaches men how to build confidence, improve their dating lives, and navigate relationships with unshakable self-worth. Key Takeaways: How body language can communicate confidence to women. The power of tonality in making you seem authoritative. The concept of "staging" is to demonstrate your value socially. Why actions speak louder than words when showing confidence. The role of NLP in rapidly shifting belief systems for greater self-assurance. Key Timestamps: [00:00:00] - Introduction – Mark kicks off with how to demonstrate confidence without speaking. [00:02:00] - Body Language and Confidence – The key role of body language in showing confidence. [00:05:30] - Vulnerability in Body Language – Open body language signals strength and vulnerability. [00:08:00] - NLP and Mindset Shifting – How NLP helps shift your beliefs and boosts confidence. [00:12:00] - Staging for Attraction – Demonstrating your value socially without direct interaction. [00:14:30] - Tonality and Speaking from Power – The importance of speaking with authority to appear more attractive. [00:17:00] - The Importance of Actions Over Words – Confidence is demonstrated, not stated. [00:19:00] - The Power of Being the Prize – The person who wants less in a relationship holds the power. [00:20:00] - Final Takeaways and Key Tips – Confidence comes from within and is shown through actions. [00:21:00] - Closing Remarks – Mark encourages listeners to consider his coaching program for personal growth. Connect With Mark:

Welcome to the Leading Edge in Emotionally Focused Therapy, hosted by Drs. James Hawkins, Ph.D., LPC, and Ryan Rana, Ph.D., LMFT, LPC—Renowned ICEEFT Therapists, Supervisors, and Trainers. We're thrilled to have you with us. We believe this podcast, a valuable resource, will empower you to push the boundaries in your work, helping individuals and couples connect more deeply with themselves and each other. Join Dr. James Hawkins and Dr. Ryan Rana as they dive deep into the nuanced world of Stage 2 in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). In this illuminating episode, they unpack the critical transition from Stage 1 to Stage 2, providing therapists with a comprehensive guide to understanding when and how to help couples progress in their therapeutic journey. Using their innovative SAFE acronym, they provide practical insights into assessing client readiness, deepening vulnerability, and creating transformative therapeutic experiences. Episode Outline: Introduction SV Focus Lab invitation Podcast mission and purpose Importance of continuous learning in EFT Stage 2 Overview Common misconceptions about Stage 2 Challenges therapists face in transitioning The need for nuanced understanding SAFE Acronym Breakdown S - See the Cycle Cognitive and experiential awareness Understanding interpersonal impact A - Access Vulnerability Depth of emotional exploration Balancing client capacity F - Flexible Responses Adapting to partner's protective moves Demonstrating relational safety E - Experiential Corrections Importance of repeated corrective experiences Assessing readiness for Stage 2 Practical Applications Assessment techniques Therapeutic strategies Warning signs and opportunities Conclusion Invitation for further learning Call to action for therapists Key Takeaways: Understanding Stage 2 is about nuanced, patient therapeutic work Clients must demonstrate readiness through multiple experiences Therapists must balance pushing boundaries while respecting client capacity To support our mission and help us continue producing impactful content, your financial contributions via Venmo (@leftpodcast) are greatly appreciated. They play a significant role in keeping this valuable resource available and are a testament to your commitment to our cause. We aim to equip therapists with practical tools and encouragement for addressing relational distress. We're also excited to be part of the team behind Success in Vulnerability (SV)—your premier online education platform. SV offers innovative instruction to enhance your therapeutic effectiveness through exclusive modules and in-depth clinical examples.  Stay connected with us: Facebook: Follow our page @pushtheleadingedge Ryan: Follow @ryanranaprofessionaltraining on Facebook and visit his website James: Follow @dochawklpc on Facebook and Instagram, or visit his website at dochawklpc.com George Faller: Visit georgefaller.com If you like the concepts discussed on this podcast you can explore our online training program, Success in Vulnerability (SV). Thank you for being part of our community. Let's push the leading edge together!

Mentoring often sounds like the perfect way to steward your time in retirement—until you try it and realize it's not as intuitive as you'd hoped.For many retirees, mentoring seems like a meaningful way to invest in the next generation—a way to put their life experience to work. But what if we've misunderstood how mentoring fits into God's design for this season of life? Jeff Haanen joins us with practical stories and spiritual insight to help us reframe it.Jeff Haanen is an accomplished entrepreneur and the founder of the Denver Institute for Faith & Work. He is the author of An Uncommon Guide to Retirement: Finding God's Purpose for the Next Season of Life and Working from the Inside Out: A Brief Guide to Inner Work That Transforms Our Outer World.Rethinking MentoringRetirement is often marketed as the reward for decades of hard work—a long-awaited season of leisure and personal fulfillment. But what if there's a deeper, richer invitation waiting for us in this chapter of life? What if retirement isn't just about what we get—but what we give?Retirement isn't the end of our calling. It's a fresh opportunity to steward our lives for God's Kingdom in powerful new ways. One of the most meaningful ways we can do that is through mentoring—especially when we reimagine it as intergenerational friendship.Many of us picture mentoring as a formal, structured relationship: scheduled coffee dates where the older offers wisdom and the younger listens. While these settings can be helpful, we've found that mentoring is most fruitful when it grows from an organic, mutual friendship.Rather than casting ourselves as sages who dispense advice, we're invited to be fellow travelers—learning, laughing, sharing, and growing together. Intergenerational friendships emphasize mutual respect, shared experiences, and spiritual growth over time.This vision of mentoring as a form of friendship has deep roots in Scripture. Jesus said to His disciples, “I no longer call you servants… I have called you friends” (John 15:15). The Apostle Paul invested in Timothy, Elijah mentored Elisha, and Naomi walked with Ruth—but in each of these relationships, we find more than just a teacher and a student. We see companions whose hearts were knit together in love and trust.In God's upside-down Kingdom, wisdom flows both ways. The older bring experience and insight; the younger bring hope, energy, and perspective. Together, we become more like Christ.What Makes Mentoring Thrive?Through our own journey and through observing others, we've seen several elements that make these relationships truly flourish:Delight in the Next Generation. Mentoring starts not with duty but with joy. When we find genuine delight in those younger than us—when we enjoy being with them, listening, and learning—we build the foundation for real connection. Affirm Before Advising. Many younger adults are uncertain about their calling or whether they have what it takes. A word of affirmation can be far more powerful than advice. Encouragement builds trust and opens the door to growth. Lead with Vulnerability. We don't need to have it all together. It's our stories of failure and God's faithfulness that often minister most deeply. Humility makes room for healing and hope. Commit for the Long Haul. There's no shortcut to transformation. Mentoring thrives when we're patient and willing to walk alongside someone over time—through victories, setbacks, and seasons of change. Ask Thoughtful Questions. Jesus often asked His disciples powerful, heart-revealing questions. We can do the same. When we help others discover truth for themselves, they take greater ownership of their journey.The local church is a natural place to start. It's one of the few places left in our culture where generations regularly gather. Maybe it's time to simply show up—to attend a young adult gathering, volunteer in youth ministry, or offer to listen and pray for someone younger.Our workplaces also offer opportunities. Even in retirement, we may still have professional wisdom worth sharing. Informal conversations, apprenticeships, or consulting can all create meaningful space for mentorship.Most importantly, we must pray. We've learned to listen—not only to our mentee but to the Holy Spirit. We ask: Lord, what do You want us to say in this moment? How can we best serve this person? Prayer is the lifeblood of all fruitful mentoring relationships.What If Retirement Looked Like This?Imagine if thousands of believers approaching retirement swapped comfort for Kingdom impact. What if instead of isolating ourselves, we stepped into churches and communities, offering our time, wisdom, and presence?We believe that mentoring may be one of the most significant contributions we can make in our later years—not only for the benefit of others, but also for our own joy and growth. As we give ourselves away, we often find our richest reward.So here's the invitation: Start showing up. Start listening. Start sharing your story. And watch what God does through friendship across generations.Help Us Equip Others to Live with PurposeRight now, more people than ever are seeking biblical wisdom to navigate their finances and their calling. 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In this episode of QSJ Radio: Diggin' Up The Underground, we sit down with rising unsigned artist Lorena.Corr, whose haunting melodies and raw lyricism are capturing attention across the indie music scene. From her early songwriting in the UK to how she channels life's pain into power through her music, Lorena opens up about mental health, creative independence, and her mission to reach others who feel unseen. This intimate conversation dives deep into the soul of an artist making waves without a label — and doing it on her own terms. Tune in for laughs, vulnerable truths, and a reminder of what it means to make art without compromise.

Welcome back to another episode of Know Your Physio—the podcast where we dive deep into the science of human potential and self-mastery. Today, I'm beyond excited to introduce a guest who truly embodies resilience and what it means to live with purpose: Dr. Chris Lee.Dr. Chris Lee is not only a neuroscientist but also an entrepreneur and, most importantly, a compassionate human being whose journey has been shaped by immense personal challenges. He's navigated the profound loss of his father, taken on the responsibility of being a single parent, and powered through the demanding grind of earning his doctorate. Through it all, Chris has developed an unparalleled understanding of the human nervous system and the true art of self-regulation.In this episode, we dive into Chris's personal “why”—a journey that started with heartache but has evolved into a beautiful, transformative philosophy. Chris shares his foundational mantra: “If the flower doesn't bloom, you don't blame the flower.” This mindset shift helped him reframe pain, purpose, and the environments that either limit or liberate us. It's a powerful way to look at adversity—not as something to avoid, but as the very fuel for growth.We talk about the stark difference between being driven by suffering versus being inspired by purpose. High performers, as Chris explains, often unknowingly uncover what truly regulates them and what doesn't. We also explore the science of emotional intelligence, the importance of co-regulation in relationships, and how to thrive in an overstimulated world through "low-stimulation" habits.This conversation is raw, real, and packed with insights that will challenge your understanding of success. It's an invitation to embrace discomfort, redefine what “winning” really means, and discover the “unf*ckable” version of yourself that emerges when you do the inner work. Trust me—you don't want to miss this one.

In this episode of 'Don't Cut Your Own Bangs,' host Danielle Ireland introduces John Kippen, a resilience and empowerment coach, magician, and motivational speaker. John shares his incredible journey of overcoming a life-threatening brain tumor and how it transformed his life and career.  Throughout the episode, John discusses his healing journey, the power of vulnerability, and the importance of facing one's limiting beliefs. He also reveals the origins of his unique phrase 'impossible really means I am possible' and offers a special gift to listeners. Tune in to uncover valuable wisdom nuggets and be inspired by John's story of triumph over adversity.   00:00 Introduction to the Episode 00:40 Meet John Kippen: A Multihyphenate Talent 01:23 John's Life-Altering Diagnosis 05:46 The Surgery and Its Aftermath 08:04 The Road to Recovery 13:30 Embracing the New Normal 17:29 The Power of Truth and Magic 29:14 The Power of Magic and Connection 29:31 Introducing Treasured: A Journal for Self-Discovery 30:44 The Magic of Personal Connection 32:59 Overcoming Personal Struggles Through Magic 34:38 The Journey to Self-Acceptance 35:42 The Importance of Asking and Vulnerability 50:24 The TED Talk Experience 54:34 Final Thoughts and Encouragement   RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE TO “DON'T CUT YOUR OWN BANGS”  Like your favorite recipe or song, the best things in life are shared. When you rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast, your engagement helps me connect  with other listeners just like you. Plus, subscriptions just make life easier for everybody. It's one less thing for you to think about and you can easily keep up to date on everything that's new. So, please rate, review, and subscribe today.    DANIELLE IRELAND, LCSW I greatly appreciate your support and engagement as part of the Don't Cut Your Own Bangs community. Feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or anything you'd like to share. You can connect with me at any of the links below.   JOHN KIPPEN: https://www.ted.com/talks/john_kippen_being_different_is_my_super_power_magic_saved_my_life   https://www.johnkippen.com   DANIELLE IRELAND, LCSW Website: https://danielleireland.com/ The Treasured Journal: https://danielleireland.com/journal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/danielleireland_lcsw TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dontcutyourownbangspod?_t=ZP-8yFHmVNPKtq&_r=1 Transcript:   John Kippen Edited Interview [00:00:00] [00:00:07] Hello. Hello, this is Danielle Ireland and you are catching an episode of Don't Cut Your Own Bangs. And today I have the great pleasure of introducing you to someone I can now call a new friend John Kippen. John is a multihyphenate. He has had quite a life and he's an excellent storyteller. So this episode you're gonna wanna buckle up. [00:00:31] It is so good. Get those AirPods in, go on your walk, get safely in your car, get ready to listen because this is just an absolutely beautiful episode. But let me tell you a little bit about John. John is a resilience and empowerment coach. He was and is the CEO of a very successful IT company. [00:00:49] He was a main stage performer at the Magic Castle in Los Angeles, so if that just gives you a little insight, is the level of his magic. He is a motivational speaker. He's a life coach, and. He has a TED talk that has received over a million views. And the heartbeat of this TED talk is how he triumphs over tragedy with a diagnosis of a tumor the size of a golf ball that is separating his brainstem and the procedure he needed to save his life, changed his life forever. [00:01:23] Doing the work of healing does not come easily to anyone, but as John so beautifully puts in this episode, if John can do it, you can do it. He's using his stories, his vulnerable and raw experiences, and talking about not only what happened to him, but how he moved through the impossible. [00:01:45] He actually coins a phrase that I love and I'm going to keep. Which is that impossible really means I am possible. So the ultimate magic trick, the ultimate illusion is what your limiting beliefs are about yourself, and how do you use facing those fears and those limiting beliefs to transform your life. [00:02:08] And in John's case, he takes that healing and offers it as a gift to us. As listeners to his clients and his coaching practice to the readers of his book, he has authored a book The Forward by None other than the Jamie Lee Curtis from all of the places. You know her most recently. The Bear where she won an Emmy, but everything everywhere, all at once. [00:02:32] She and John are buds, and she believes in him and believes in his work, and as a champion of that work, it just adds a little extra sparkle and fairy dust to the beautiful work that he's already doing to say that he's been vetted by someone who is so sparkly and magnetic and also deeply entrenched in holding space for the truth and honoring the truth. [00:02:52] This is a heartfelt episode, so what I would recommend. If you're in a place to do so is you might wanna jot some notes down because John drops some beautiful wisdom nuggets in this episode. And the book that he authored is playing The Hand You're Dealt. And what I wanna share too, we talk about it in the episode, but I wanna highlight this 'cause it's really important. [00:03:12] John is giving everyone who listens to the episode a free gift, but it is not linked in the show notes. It is only available to those of you who listen. It's a special little surprise embedded in the episode that you have to listen to find, but it is a free gift from him to you. So without further ado, get ready to sit back, relax, and enjoy the beautiful wisdom of John Kippen. [00:03:35] ​ [00:03:36] Kippen, multihyphenate resilience and empowerment, coach magician, keynote speaker, author, and all around. Nice guy. Thank you for joining me today on the Don't Cut Your Own Bangs podcast. [00:03:47] Danielle: Hollywood legend wrote the forward of his beautiful book, playing the Hand You're Dealt Forward by the one and Only Take It Away, John, Jamie [00:03:58] John: Lee Curtis. [00:03:59] Danielle: Jamie Lee Curtis. Yes. So you have to stay and listen to the entire episode because he's going to tease out a special little giveaway that will only be revealed in the audio. [00:04:10] So you gotta listen. It's not gonna be linked in the show notes, folks. So buckle up, sit down. This is gonna be a great episode with a fun gift for you, a special little dose of magic hidden inside. So, John, you, I mean, all the different fun things that we listed about what you do. You're a magician, you're a motivational speaker, you're a coach. [00:04:30] What I know doing the work I do as a therapist is the skills and trade that you're building your life on. Those were skills that they were. Hard one, like nobody chooses, in my opinion and in my experience, no one chooses to go into a helping profession that hasn't needed help in their life. It's like the, our healing becomes our medicine. [00:04:54] And I really wanna learn about not just what you offer, but your healing journey that put you in the unique position you're in to do the work you do. So, welcome and I'd love to hear from you. [00:05:05] John: So just quickly, the Reader's Digest version of my backstory. Grew up Los Angeles, middle class family, two great parents loving, no sisters or brothers, had everything I needed. [00:05:18] They sent me to a nice school and, I got into theater, started doing theater, in college. I studied theater and became the big man on campus because pretty much I grabbed every opportunity that presented itself. Started a computer company out of college. 'cause I'm a creative problem solver. [00:05:38] That's the thread that goes through everything I do in my life. [00:05:42] Mm-hmm. [00:05:42] John: I look at a problem, I say, how am I gonna solve that? [00:05:45] Mm-hmm. [00:05:46] John: And then in June of July of 2002, I was diagnosed with a four half centimeter brain tumor called an acoustic neuroma. [00:05:55] Danielle: Yes. And this was, so it was slowly severing your brainstem? Correct. [00:05:59] John: It was displacing the brainstem. Causing not only hearing issues, but dizziness upon standing or walking. [00:06:07] Mm-hmm. [00:06:08] John: I had to have something done with it. I would not have survived. [00:06:12] Mm-hmm. [00:06:14] John: And. It was a whirlwind , I went and saw the doctor who finally diagnosed it after seeing him the MRI films, and he, he had no bedside manner. [00:06:25] I remember sitting on the examining room table, right. And the, the tissue paper is crinkling under my butt. Mm-hmm. I could feel the, I could sense the temperature. I'm heightened sensitivity. [00:06:37] And he looks up at the MRI after talking to a neurosurgeon, and he turns around and says, John, you have a four and a half centimeter brain tumor. [00:06:46] It's killing you. We're operating you on Friday. You're gonna go deaf in your left ear, and there's a possibility for some facial weakness. We're gonna do everything we can to prevent that. And he left [00:07:01] Danielle: the room. So he knew, and in his own. Brash in abrupt way, essentially prepared you for the outcome and challenges that would come assuming the surgery was a success? [00:07:17] John: Yeah. He is a world renowned acoustic neuroma surgeon. He's one of the guys you go to, when you have this kind of tumor and that's all he does. Wow. But he literally left the room and I'm sitting there and I didn't bring anybody in and [00:07:31] yeah. [00:07:32] John: A tip to anyone who's potentially going in for a serious diagnosis. [00:07:36] Yeah. [00:07:37] John: Bring a friend or a family member. [00:07:39] Because it goes in one ear and out the other, you're in shock. Right. Right. When you get home and you say, wait a minute, he said that surgery gonna be four hours or 14 hours or 20. How, how long ago and you have all these questions. Yeah. And you know, getting ahold of the doctor to ask them again is just not the way our medical system works. [00:08:01] He's back to back, to back to back patients. [00:08:04] So, I checked in the night before, they did blood tests and I tried to get an hour or two sleep, 6:00 AM my clockwork the orderly came in and said, okay, get naked, get on this cold gurney. What a sheet over you and we're going take you to the operating room. [00:08:21] Danielle: I wanna pause your story for a moment. 'cause there's a couple things that I, I wanna tease out a little. So one is you, the way that you tell your story, so well probably because you've told it on stages, you've shared it with others, you've written about it. There is something about a trauma. [00:08:37] That really marks the sort of BCAD of life. And the way you shared, I felt like I was in the room with you when you were getting this bomb of news dropped on you so you were theater trained, theater kid, a creative person, a creative problem solver, and a business owner. [00:08:57] Like I, I think about that often when people are experiencing trauma. What, what was life sort of the, the illusion of normalcy. The, the, you know, the predictability of this is my life and this is my to-do list and this is my calendar. So before that moment, you were just a guy on the west coast running a business. [00:09:17] Is that right? [00:09:18] John: Very successful business. [00:09:19] Danielle: And I, I just wanna share briefly too, I haven't met too many other only children. Theater background 'cause that's me too. [00:09:30] John: Oh, really? [00:09:31] Danielle: I'm an only child and I was a theater major and started acting when I was 13, so before. But, the creative problem solver, God, my theater background has paid dividends in ways I didn't know at the time. [00:09:42] I didn't know that when I was preparing for this interview, but now that you've said that, it's like that thing that I couldn't put my finger on has clicked into place. [00:09:49] John: I love doing improv. [00:09:51] Improv is the, you know, everybody talks about being in the moment. [00:09:57] Yeah. [00:09:57] John: What does that really mean, being in the moment? [00:10:00] When you do improv, you have to be in the moment. Otherwise you fall flat. And everybody, you're doing improv looks at you going. Well, it's your turn. [00:10:10] Danielle: You've tapped in. Now you've gotta say something. How are you gonna move the story forward? [00:10:14] Exactly. I feel most alive when I'm engaged in moments like that. And I, it's, I'm not a, a adrenaline junkie, but I would say that's my high, it's the, rush of connecting with somebody like that. So you were running a very successful business. This bomb has dropped. [00:10:32] You can barely remember what you were told and what your life is likely going to be. Assuming everything goes well, what is going to happen when you wake up off your op? And how long was your operation? [00:10:46] John: 15 hours. [00:10:48] Danielle: And the surgery was a success. They were able to remove the golf ice tumor. [00:10:52] Yeah. So they removed the fall sized tumor. [00:10:54] John: I didn't have time to think, you know, I got one of my guys who worked for me told him that he was gonna be running the company for a month or two. He agreed. [00:11:05] Mm-hmm. [00:11:05] John: Had to shovel up some more money to get him to do it, but, you know, it is what it is. You do what you have to do. [00:11:11] Yeah. And then,, I just tried to think positively, hope for the best. Plan for the worst. You know, I had someone gonna stay with me the first week, make food because I just wanted to recover and I didn't know what it was gonna be like. [00:11:27] Danielle: Yeah. You're like, I just need a week to recover, and then I'm just gonna hop back into life, hopefully. [00:11:31] John: Rolling the gurney into the surgical, prep area. [00:11:35] The nurse saying, Hey John, you know, we know we have to shape after your head. You want me to do it now or after you're under. [00:11:42] Danielle: So you didn't even know that they were gonna shave your head. Well, I didn't think about it. [00:11:48] John: I mean, if I had thought about it, I got a shaved part of my head. [00:11:51] Danielle: Right. [00:11:52] John: I said to her, please. [00:11:56] Danielle: Yeah. [00:11:58] John: And so, they roll me into the operating room. You got these really bright lights, , blinding you, and you're laying there and they're like, okay, you're gonna count back toward five. [00:12:09] The next thing I know, I hear faint voices and it was like I was 30 meters deep in a pool. Struggling to get to the surface. And I remember this like it was yesterday, literally trying to swim to the service to regain consciousness. [00:12:26] And finally when I got enough, I realized that my dad was sitting on the edge of my bed holding my hand, [00:12:34] and [00:12:34] John: he was smiling at me, but I didn't see my mom. [00:12:40] So I asked my dad for my glasses and he handed me the glasses. And I remember trying to put the, and then I realized my head's bandage. [00:12:48] Danielle: Oh, right. [00:12:50] John: So I had to figure out how to get the glasses in Cockeye to get 'em on my face, right? [00:12:55] And the look on her face was one of horror. What did these butchers do to my son's face? And at that point, I didn't know my face was paralyzed. Because I have full feeling, I just can't move it. [00:13:10] Danielle: So you currently, you still have full feeling in your face. You just lost mobility, [00:13:14] John: so I didn't really understand what that look was. [00:13:18] Danielle: Right. How could you? [00:13:19] John: And then my mom handed me her compact makeup. [00:13:22] And I opened it up and I'm like, holy crap. And then, I'm still getting [00:13:30] accustomed to, the one thing I noticed is leading into surgery, I was constantly dizzy and that dizziness was gone. [00:13:38] Danielle: Wow. [00:13:39] John: And that was like, oh my God, what a relief. [00:13:42] Mm-hmm. [00:13:43] John: So the doctor finally made his way in and I was like, so when's my face gonna move? And he said, John, we were, successful. [00:13:50] The tumors removed. Right when we were close the incision, your face stopped moving. But we think it's just to do the swelling, and once the swelling goes down, your face should start moving again. So I'm like, okay. I can handle that. That's a, it's not a permanent thing. I can deal with it. [00:14:05] So I'm in the hospital a week and, they're like, when you can do three laps around the hospital floor, without a walker, we'll send you home. [00:14:16] So that became my goal. I remember getting outta bed and then they said, no, no, no. Wait for the, I said, no. The doctor said that I need to rock three laps around. [00:14:26] I want to get the hell out of here [00:14:28] Five days I got home. My dad drove me home and I sat on my couch and now I'm like, okay, I can start healing and check email here and there. And I was taking lots of naps. And then I coughed and I touched the back of my neck and it was wet. [00:14:45] Mm. [00:14:47] John: Oh, it was a spinal fluid leak on the base of the incision. [00:14:51] Whew. [00:14:53] John: So immediately I called the doctor's office and the said, oh, get your ass back here. And I went back to the hospital three times with them to redo the bandaging to try to prevent the leak. [00:15:05] Danielle: Wait, you call the hospital. Hey, their spinal fluid leaking out of my surgical incision. And they're like, yeah, you should get in a car and drive yourself to the hospital. [00:15:16] John: They didn't say how I should get to the hospital. [00:15:19] Danielle: Okay. Fair, fair. But that, [00:15:22] okay. Wow. ' [00:15:24] John: cause that's not good. [00:15:25] And there was potential for getting, spinal meningitis in that. From what I understand is one of the most extreme pains out there. [00:15:35] Okay. [00:15:35] John: I went back and forth three different times over that week. [00:15:39] They tried to, it was just as right behind my ear, right at the base of the incision. So, there was no way that they were going to be able to, put a pressure manage to keep that and so it could start healing. [00:15:51] Danielle: Mm-hmm. [00:15:52] John: So they finally said, all right, tomorrow you're gonna come in and we're gonna, redo the incision and pull more belly fat outta your belly to fill the hole. [00:16:01] And Yeah. This time they used staples, man, thick Frankenstein. [00:16:07] All the way up. [00:16:08] But then I'm like, I was only in the hospital for a day. And then, and I'm like, okay, I can relax. I remember getting up and brushing my teeth, you know, and I'm looking at the mirror and God, , I don't recognize that guy. [00:16:24] Yeah. And I got rid of all the mirrors in my house. [00:16:30] I didn't want a constant reminder. [00:16:33] My face was screwed up. [00:16:34] Danielle: I, there's so much specificity to what is uniquely your story. [00:16:46] Mm-hmm. [00:16:47] Danielle: But what I have found is when people. Are able to share elements of their experience. It's when you go into the specificity of what you experienced. I can see myself in so many elements of your story in my own, like when we get in deeper, it becomes somehow more accessible and universal. [00:17:16] And in that way, you're not alone, even though it happened to you and that detail about your removing the mirrors from your home. It, it brings me to something I really wanted to ask you about. You share by saying, and then also , by, actually demonstrating in your TED talk that, once you began the healing process of really addressing your depression after your operation, that, the story, it led you to magic, literally. And I also think in a more magical way, beyond performing an illusion. And I know not to call it a trick, I learned that from arrested development. [00:18:03] But, there's something you said that I wanted to quote that it's amazing how accepting kids are of the truth. You open up your TED talk, which I will link in the show notes so people can see. But that you mentioned that this in a way that your permission and your humor and your honesty, it created levity and lightness. [00:18:27] For something that would be considered maybe so precious and heavy. And what I wanna speak to, and open up a question if that's okay, is, I'm curious what your relationship with the truth is because I think humor in its highest expression is allowing us to laugh at something that we see the truth in. [00:18:49] And yet it's this razor's edge between laughing at someone or laughing at something versus inviting us to laugh at the, the human experience that we maybe don't know how to name or express in another way. But I wanna know personally for you, what your relationship is with the truth and the value of embracing it. [00:19:13] And then in your line of work as a coach, where do you see people struggle with it? [00:19:19] John: Truth is an illusion. [00:19:21] Danielle: Ooh, tell me more. That just, that was a zingy response that you popped right out. Please tell me more. [00:19:28] John: Yeah. Truth. Everybody has their own truth. [00:19:31] Danielle: Oh, well there you go. [00:19:32] John: Their own perspective, [00:19:34] Danielle: uhhuh, [00:19:35] John: And the truth is formed out of your limiting beliefs. [00:19:41] Danielle: So the truth is formed out of your limited beliefs, [00:19:44] John: your limiting beliefs. [00:19:45] Danielle: Limiting beliefs. Okay. [00:19:47] John: Yeah. [00:19:48] I just wanted to take a slight step back. [00:19:50] Danielle: Mm-hmm. [00:19:51] John: I told you this was gonna be the Reader's Digest version. [00:19:54] Danielle: Yes. [00:19:54] John: But it took me 12 years [00:19:57] To come out of that hiding. Wow. 12 years. [00:20:02] Danielle: How old were you when you had your operation? [00:20:05] John: 33. [00:20:06] Danielle: 33. Okay. [00:20:08] John: And fortunately for me, I could work from home. But I miss so many celebrations with friends and family. 'cause I just didn't want to have to explain it. I didn't want to have to deal with the looks, , and I tell this story on my TED Talk and in my book. You know, at a restaurant I wanted to get a burger at Tony Aroma's. And I'm sitting there by myself and in a booth, and there's a booth right in front of me and there's a family with a kid, two parents and a kid. And the kid's squirming and gets up and turns around and is now on his knees on the bench and looking at me. [00:20:44] And he gets up and he comes over and he says, Mr, what's wrong with your face? And in that moment, I didn't want to have a five or 6-year-old come over and Right. And I'm like, okay, I had the strength to come out and go to a restaurant. I have to deal with this. So I started talking to this little boy [00:21:06] Danielle: Mm. [00:21:07] John: And saying, I had a medical procedure that caused me not to with my face before I could continue his mom grabbing him [00:21:16] mm-hmm. [00:21:17] John: The arm and drug him back and said, don't bother him. The nice man, he has enough troubles already. And I couldn't leave it there. [00:21:25] Mm-hmm. [00:21:27] John: So I had to go to the little boy and I knelt down and I got eye level and I said, I love my new face because it's different. [00:21:34] It's different just like yours. And I remember it like it was yesterday, he took his fingers and he tried to distort his face to be crooked like mine. And he turned to his mom and said, look, mom, I could do that too. And then he went back to eating his meal. His question was answered. [00:21:56] He had no judgment. And his parents were like, holy crap, did we just learn a lesson? How to raise our child? [00:22:03] They whispered, thank you on their way out. [00:22:07] Danielle: But there is something I, there, there's something to that woman's response to you that really resonated with me. [00:22:14] And it also, highlights the point you made so well about the, essentially the truth being relative. Because she projected onto you what her perception of your life was. Don't bother the nice man one, she didn't know you were nice, though. You are. But she didn't know that. Right. And she also didn't know what your troubles were or weren't, and she assumed that. [00:22:39] John: But I always wonder what her motives were. [00:22:41] Danielle: Right. [00:22:42] John: was it to make me comfortable or was it to make her and her son comfortable [00:22:48] Danielle: it for her? I think so. [00:22:50] John: And that's how I took it. [00:22:51] Danielle: I remember. So I have two children and I was pregnant once before and lost that pregnancy. [00:22:57] 12 weeks in. And I haven't thought about this in a very long time, but I remember going into, a annual doctor's appointment and she saw on the chart that I was listed as pregnant and clearly now was not. And it was in her own discomfort of not, she was asking me about the baby thinking, 'cause she was not my ob, GYN it was a different type of doctor. [00:23:20] And, she caught. Oh, and then I had sort of explained to her what that meant, and then she said, well, I'm sure, you blame yourself and I want you to know it's not your fault. Like she took her discomfort and tried to turn it into, she positioned herself above as someone who knew what he was experiencing and wanted to offer me this sympathy that was, one, she was wrong. [00:23:45] I totally misplaced. Yeah. I didn't blame myself. And it, that, that moment was such an extension of her own inability to hold the moment and the discomfort of the moment, and, tried to offer it up as a gift for me, which that's, yeah. [00:24:03] John: It's your perception of how you deal with that. [00:24:06] Danielle: Mm-hmm. [00:24:07] John: Losing a child can be. Empowering because you know that you can try again and get a child that is not gonna have any kind of defects and is gonna have a good life. And you know whether or not you believe in God or not. [00:24:24] Danielle: Yeah. [00:24:25] John: Things happen for a reason and we don't always understand the reason for them. [00:24:30] Danielle: I don't know if it, what the reason was, but I can say a gift from that was that somebody who lived with a very active monkey mind and a lot of head trash and some anxiety in the experience of the early grief, not for very long, but there was a moment in time where my mind was quiet, not numb, but quiet. [00:24:55] And it helped me realize, oh, there's the observer within me. Then there are the different conversations that are happening in my head that aren't me, which are maybe the perceptions that I call truth sometimes I wanna bring that same question of truth, which you had an answer I was not expecting, which I love when I never see it coming, so thank you. [00:25:18] Where do you see your clients? Because you're a coach, right? You are taking your healing and offering it as medicine to people that are trying to make a connection in their own life. So where do you see people that you work with? Struggle with the truth? [00:25:36] John: Everybody's hiding from someone something in their life. [00:25:40] They have buried something so deep and it keeps them from moving forward in their lives. 'cause it erodes their self-confidence. [00:25:50] That's what I learned through my love for performing magic. [00:25:58] Going to the magic castle, sitting at a table with a paralyzed face. [00:26:03] Yeah. I'm this overweight guy with balding, balding with a paralyzed face. And I could sit at a table and have people come to me. I tell this story sometimes, that the Magic Castle is a place where you have to get dressed up to the nines, you know? And women love to get dressed up [00:26:22] Danielle: That's true. [00:26:23] John: They're wearing their best outfits, right? And all of a sudden I'd have five or six women sitting at the table, and their reactions are very guarded. [00:26:34] Hmm. [00:26:36] John: You know, they're sitting there with their legs and arms crossed. [00:26:39] Hmm [00:26:40] John: they're leaning back. They have a smile that's just more of a grin. [00:26:45] Mm-hmm. ' [00:26:47] John: cause I don't know what I'm about. Sure. They don't know if I'm gonna be inappropriate, if I'm gonna come onto them, if I'm what it is. So they have no expectations other than they're gonna see some magic. [00:26:58] Mm-hmm. [00:26:59] John: So I start my act saying, hi guys. My name is John and I'm doing magic all my life. [00:27:05] But in 2 0 2 I had a brain tumor. And when they cut over my head, they traumatized medication, nerve offense, a paralyzed face. But something happened to me on that talk table that day, Danielle. [00:27:16] Mm-hmm. [00:27:17] John: I'm not sure what it was because I was unconscious. All I know is I recovered. I realized I had acquired some new skills and I pause. [00:27:29] Yeah. And I wait for everybody to get on the edge of their seat. Like, what happened, John, what? Skills. Skills I could acquire. I'm having brain surgery. [00:27:40] Mm-hmm. I [00:27:41] John: looked to my right and I looked to my left like it's the biggest secret. [00:27:45] Lean in and I whisper in a loud voice as I am able to visualize people's thoughts. And then I do some mental magic mentalism. Love it. And what I just did was I turned my biggest challenge into a superpower. [00:28:07] Danielle: Yes, you did. And I wanna pause you because when you said that in your talk, have, have you read Elizabeth Gilbert's book, big Magic? [00:28:15] Yes. [00:28:15] Danielle: When she talks about trickster energy, I was like, John Kippen is a freaking trickster. [00:28:22] That is trickster energy that you can shift. Before someone's very eyes. It's like you are performing magic and you are performing magic. You shifted before them and you invited them, your audience to see beyond their own limiting beliefs, their own projected truth. [00:28:47] John: They were distracted. They wanted to know why it was paralyzed, but they couldn't ask, did he have a stroke? Did he have be palsy? What was the reason? So I found them being distracted when I was performing. So I got that outta way in the first two minutes. [00:29:00] Mm-hmm. [00:29:01] John: I explained why my face is paralyzed. [00:29:03] And now I treat it as the experience is now I'm able to do superhuman things. [00:29:10] And now they're like, okay, cool. So as I perform [00:29:16] I focus on the spectator. Magic happens in your mind as a spectator. [00:29:22] Danielle: Oh, I love that magic happens in your mind [00:29:26] ​ [00:29:31] If you've ever wanted to start a journaling practice but didn't know where to start, or if you've been journaling off and on your whole life, but you're like, I wanna take this work deeper, I've got you covered. I've written a journal called Treasured, a Journal for unearthing you. It's broken down into seven key areas of your life, filled with stories, sentence stems, prompts, questions, and exercises. [00:29:51] All rooted in the work that I do with actual clients in my therapy sessions. I have given these examples to clients in sessions as homework, and they come back with insights that allow us to do such incredible work. This is something you can do in the privacy of your own home, whether you're in therapy or not. [00:30:10] It has context, it has guides. And hopefully some safety bumpers to help digging a little deeper feel possible, accessible and safe. You don't have to do this alone. And there's also a guided treasured meditation series that accompanies each section in the journal to help ease you into the processing state. [00:30:29] So my hope is to help guide you into feeling more secure with the most important relationship in your life, the one between you and you. Hop on over to the show notes and grab your copy today. And now back to the episode.​ [00:30:44] John: Magic is what you see in your mind or someone else sees in their mind. [00:30:49] Magic is that thing that immediately makes you present. [00:30:56] Danielle: Yeah. [00:30:57] John: And your, all of your sensors are now in a heightened state , whether it's a sunset or a beautiful beach or a beautiful woman or a magic trick or whatever it is, there's that sense of awe and wonder. [00:31:15] So as I would start to take each spectator, I would learn their names. [00:31:19] And I would use their names throughout the show. [00:31:22] Danielle: People love that. [00:31:23] John: People, I ask them, the one word in everybody's language that they love to hear the most is their own name . and so I use that as a way of engaging the audience. [00:31:33] They start leaning in and now they've got real smiles on their face [00:31:37] and I can literally see this wall that women in today's society are forced to put up as a self-protection mechanism. [00:31:45] Yeah. [00:31:46] John: I see this wall start to grow as they start to identify with me and they're like, I'm okay being myself. [00:31:54] And then the end of this [00:31:56] they're asking permission to hug me. [00:31:58] And , having a creative mind, I wanted to understand. What that is. What that, what was going on. [00:32:06] Danielle: You also, not only through performing magic, inviting the curiosity you could see in other people's faces into your opening act essentially, or your sleight of hand. [00:32:17] I'm gonna show you this over here so that you can not see what's coming here. Vulnerability in its purest form is magic because it's the one thing sharing the story you feel like you couldn't share. Letting somebody see the one part of you that you would never let anybody see 'cause you were so utterly convinced you would be outed or you would be cast out by exposing that vulnerability is the birthplace of true connection. [00:32:47] Yeah. Which is the ultimate magic trick. It's, it's like what they say in nightmares, if you stop and face the thing that's chasing you, it, it can't chase you anymore in the dream. And so you spent a decade, did I remember that correctly, you wanted to be a main stage performer at the Magic Castle? [00:33:06] It took you about 10 years and you did it. [00:33:08] John: I did. [00:33:09] Yeah. [00:33:09] Danielle: 10 years. [00:33:11] John: Yeah. [00:33:12] Danielle: 10 years. [00:33:13] John: It was my creative coping mechanism. I had hit rock bottom, was I suicidal? No, not really. But I was unhappy. [00:33:25] Danielle: Yeah. [00:33:26] John: I was, my girlfriend left me, and, fortunately I had a job that I could focus on. But I needed something more. And through sharing something so personal and tying magic into it and making it a positive instead of a negative [00:33:45] people are attracted to it. [00:33:49] Danielle: Yeah. Well, because you're holding fire in your hand. Yeah. You're not just saying it's possible, but you're living. You're turning it into a performance, which I think for an artist is one of the most selfless, beautiful acts. [00:34:11] John: It's what separates great artists from mediocre artists. What is he giving me to care about? [00:34:18] Danielle: I never thought about that with magic. What are they giving me to care about? [00:34:22] John: Yeah. What do I want them to think when they leave the theater? [00:34:27] Ability to put your own life in perspective. If John can, so can I. [00:34:33] That's my true message. [00:34:36] Any different is your superpower. [00:34:38] Now, my facial paralysis does not have to define me if I don't let it. [00:34:44] You know, Danielle I live my life that it's better to ask for forgiveness than permission. [00:34:51] And that's bit me in the butt numerous times. [00:34:54] Danielle: I can also say the opposite, can bite you in the butt. I think I waited probably too long, many times for permission that wasn't really coming because no one can ultimately grant it. Right? Like, if there's a path you wanna carve, like the job that you built, all of the different things that you've done, there's no resume posted on LinkedIn. [00:35:15] No one's hot. Like that's an empowerment coach slash magician slash keynote speaker, slash documentarian like that. You have to get curious and still, and listen to that little voice inside and follow that curiosity to a path that may not make sense for anyone for a really long time. And I didn't do that. [00:35:40] And that can bite you in the butt too. 'cause regret's hard to hold. [00:35:42] John: Alex SBE came out on national television [00:35:45] to his fans, to the world and said, I'm scared. I am fighting the battle of my life and I'm gonna ask for everyone's good thoughts and prayers . of what I'm going through. I reached out to Nikki Trebek, Alex's daughter and I said, Nikki, I need to perform for your dad . we're having a 75th birthday party and we don't have any entertainment. [00:36:13] So if you wanna be the entertainment, and I was like. Damn. Yes. [00:36:18] Danielle: Well, yeah. I will go to his house and perform magic for him. a [00:36:22] John: restaurant, but [00:36:23] Danielle: Oh, a restaurant. Okay. [00:36:23] John: Wrote a unique magic show [00:36:25] With Jeopardy themes and the whole nine yards and he was actually at the table as one of my assistants. [00:36:33] Oh. Along with his daughter. so he was this, he needed to understand how things worked. [00:36:39] Was a genius. And so he was constantly looking at me like, wait a minute. That's not possible. Just embrace it, Alex. You're not gonna figure it out. Just enjoy it. [00:36:52] Danielle: That's awesome. [00:36:54] John: And there's, on my website, john kipp.com. There are some magic videos and there are two videos of me performing for Alex , sat with him, and I said, Alex, I need to share something with you that, when you came out so publicly about your diagnosis [00:37:10] I asked for everybody's support and love and prayers that resonated with me. I am here to give to you. You've been a part of my life and the lives of millions of people. [00:37:27] And your life's work is meaningful. [00:37:30] I just wanted to tell you that, 'cause I had a feeling that no one ever takes the time to say thank you for your life's work. [00:37:37] And he immediately started welling up. [00:37:39] Danielle: Well, anybody who makes something look easy that we do take for granted. [00:37:45] And I think that, like I appreciate so much in the telling of your story, you share not just the struggles, but the time you had a vision of yourself. On the main stage performing at the Magic Castle, like the most elusive place where magic is. And you didn't just wanna get in, you didn't just wanna get an audition, you didn't wanna just like get to per perform an illusion, like main stage. [00:38:23] You didn't just have a goal. You had the goal and you did it, but you also say that it took you 10 years. And there's usually themes that run with anxiety, about not enoughness and the crunchiness of time. There's never enough time. I'm not enough and there's not enough time. And not being worthy. [00:38:42] Yes, yes, yes. One of my main motivations when I started this podcast originally several years ago, was I was. Starting to increasingly feel, trapped in this sort of, world of before and after story. And it was no longer feeling inspirational. It was just another measuring stick for how not enough. [00:39:03] Yeah. 'Cause it, it's great to see where somebody was and where they are, but when I'm knee deep in my own struggle when I'm the caterpillar goo and the chrysalis, and I'm not the shiny butterfly, but I'm also not the caterpillar anymore. What do I do when my life is literally a shitty pile of goo this is something that most clients don't come right out and ask me like in sessions one, two, and three. But it inevitably comes well, I've been doing this for, so many months. How much longer is it gonna take? How long is it gonna take? And I just always, I appreciate when people can acknowledge. [00:39:41] The time and consistency that goes into healing [00:39:47] John: joy is in the journey. [00:39:48] Danielle: Mm. [00:39:49] John: Not in the destination. [00:39:51] And that's the thing I really focus with my clients. [00:39:55] I have clients come to me because they're holding themselves back in their life. [00:39:59] And it's my job to get that out of them by asking open-ended questions, by building a rapport, I can trust this guy. [00:40:08] Danielle: Yeah. Would you say that's your superpower as a coach? [00:40:11] John: Through my journey of reverse engineering who I am and who I wanted to become. Coming out the other side immediately understood that it's not about me. [00:40:24] Danielle: Yes. It's only true every single time. [00:40:27] John: The joy comes from helping others get that realization, [00:40:32] That they understand they are truly powerful and have a chance to shape their destiny. [00:40:40] That's why I talk about limiting beliefs. [00:40:43] And we grow up with our parents or whoever raised us, those are our belief systems. [00:40:49] And so that's what forms who you are. You stop dreaming. [00:40:54] That's what midlife crisis is all about. [00:40:58] Danielle: Yeah. [00:40:59] John: We got educated, we got a job, we built a career. We have a family. [00:41:06] Danielle: It's, I think the version of that I hear in my sessions is essentially I did everything right. Shouldn't I be feeling better than I am? Yeah. Like, I followed all the rules. I'm winning. Why does it not feel like I'm winning? Yeah. And finding our way back to that. [00:41:29] The unlearning and the unraveling. That is a, it's a process. [00:41:34] John: I'll talk to a friend. How you doing? And so many people respond automatically living the dream. But is it your dream? You're living? [00:41:46] Whose dream are you living? Because you're wasting your life by living someone else's dream. And that's why you get to that point in life where it's not enough. [00:41:58] Cause it's not your dream. You just finished the last 30 years building. [00:42:03] Danielle: Yeah. And the joy really is in the process and there's no way to enjoy the process of fulfilling the wishes of somebody else because you, what you're constantly chasing is when I get there, then the relief will come and then you're there and you're like, well, where's my pot of gold? [00:42:22] John: Yeah. I had, I spent 20 years learning how not to hide my face. [00:42:28] And what happened in March in 2020? The pandemic hit [00:42:33] now covering your face with a mask, became not only politically correct. [00:42:41] But government mandated and I'm like sitting there thinking to myself, what do I do? So I found a company who prints things on masks and I sent them a picture of my face and a picture of the lower part of my job. [00:43:01] Danielle: Trickster energy, John Kippen trickster. That's the new hyphen to your list of all of your accomplishments. [00:43:08] John: I would walk around and strangers would look at it and not understand. [00:43:12] Danielle: Right, right. But people who knew me [00:43:15] John: would do a double take. [00:43:17] Danielle: I will not hide. [00:43:19] John: Refuses to hide. [00:43:20] Even through a global pandemic. [00:43:23] Yeah. [00:43:23] John: I'm gonna live my life [00:43:25] Danielle: mm-hmm. On [00:43:26] John: my own terms. [00:43:28] Danielle: Yeah. I work too hard, too long to get free and I will not hide for you. Wow. Wow. And [00:43:37] John: when I share that story, people like, wow, John's done some soul searching. [00:43:44] Danielle: Which is why your clients come to you. [00:43:46] John: Yeah. [00:43:46] Danielle: Yeah. I unfortunately have come across many. People in the helping profession that haven't started with their first client, which is themselves. I put myself in that camp. I've talked about it on the podcast before, but I didn't start seeing a therapist until I became one, which is probably not the right order, but I didn't realize until I was sitting there trying to help people. [00:44:09] And then my own stuff was getting activated in the session. It's called Counter Transference. And, yeah, I was like, oh shit, I gotta look at the mirror. I gotta do a little more digging. But I think a, what leads a lot of people into helping professions is its desire to heal. And it sounds like in your case you did the herculean task of lifting your own self up before you said, now what can I offer you? [00:44:39] I wanna ask, just a purely curious, selfish question before we get to the very end I wanna ask. In your book playing the Hand you're Dealt how did you connect with Jamie Lee Curtis? The same way you did Alex Trebek? Did you just find someone and you DMed them and [00:44:55] John: you're like, her assistant worked for a production company [00:45:00] in a previous job. [00:45:02] Danielle: Gotcha. [00:45:02] John: That I knew. [00:45:03] When Jamie was like, I need it. So help with my computer. Her assistant said, I've got the guy for you. And I remember being at Jamie's house. [00:45:15] She knew me before my facial surgery, and after. [00:45:18] Danielle: So you have a history then? [00:45:19] John: Oh yeah. We met in 2000. [00:45:21] Danielle: Oh, okay. [00:45:22] John: So she saw me before. [00:45:24] She saw the struggle. Sure, she has two. Great kids. [00:45:29] And she adopted me as her third child. Wow. She saw the ability to help me. And so I had a filmmaker friend of mine reach out and said, John, I'd love your story. [00:45:45] I want to film a documentary on you. And I'm like, cool. So I realized I'm paying for the damn documentary. [00:45:51] Danielle: Oh. So I wanna offer you this gift, and by the way, here's the bill. [00:45:55] John: Yes, exactly. But at that point, I'm all in and I'm like, what do I have to lose? I'm a risk taker. I can afford it. [00:46:01] I've got money in the bank. [00:46:03] Let's make sure we stay on budget or close to budget, so there I am working on Jamie's computer and I'm staring at the screen and I'm summoning the courage. Ask Jamie. So I'm telling her the story. My friend Ryan's gonna direct this documentary about my life and my journey, and then I pause and I'm just staring at the screen. [00:46:23] I feel these eyes burning into the side of my head. [00:46:26] Mm-hmm. [00:46:28] John: And Jamie says, and [00:46:32] Danielle: I love that she didn't do it for you, but she made you do it. [00:46:36] John: And then at that point, I realized what the question was. I said, Jamie, will you be in my documentary? [00:46:44] And she goes, fuck yes, I will. [00:46:48] Danielle: Yeah. [00:46:49] John: She gets it. [00:46:50] Yeah. [00:46:51] John: Going through her sobriety, she wears her sobriety on her. Shoulder as a badge of honor. [00:47:00] And that is her message. [00:47:02] Yeah. [00:47:03] John: If she can get people to stop drinking by showing up for people. That's her ultimate goal in life. And so, she saw in me what I didn't see, [00:47:18] Danielle: and you asked the question. I think it's a lesson that I feel like I'm eternally playing a game of peekaboo with where I forget, and then I remember and then I forget and then I remember. But like the opportunities that you're asking for, you have to ask. [00:47:39] Yes. You have to say the thing. Right. Which is so brave and so vulnerable. But then the magic is sometimes when you ask, someone will say Yes. Now, in your case, she was essentially lovingly poking you until you, [00:47:55] John: asked. There was a point where I was debating plastic surgery. [00:48:00] Did I want to try to fix my face? Because at the end of the day, I wanted symmetry at rest. I wanted to be able to get rid of the droopiness and just, have a symmetrical base. That's all I really wanted. Sure. And because I would say, I hit my smile. And I've had friends come up and say, John, your first smile, we love your smile. [00:48:23] But I didn't love my smile. And until I, not up here, not in my head, but in my heart, accepted my smile. I couldn't move forward. I couldn't heal. And once I accepted my new smile, I found joy. I found that I could love myself. [00:48:46] And what's funny is when you get to that point, [00:48:49] yeah. [00:48:50] John: You overcome whatever that thing is that's holding you back. [00:48:53] Yeah. [00:48:54] John: And you want to share it with every person you come in contact with. [00:49:00] Danielle: Yeah. You are the love you're seeking. [00:49:02] John: Yes. Yes. And you are your acceptance. [00:49:05] Danielle: It reminds me of, something. He said in an interview, in, A New Earth, but author Eckert Tolle said that right before his essential death of the, he called it the death of his ego, but we could call it enlightenment or rebirth. [00:49:19] But he remembers the last thing he said before he went to sleep was, I can't live with myself anymore. And it wasn't about in the interpretation , of , taking one's own life . but what he realized is that he couldn't live with the self that was hating him. He couldn't live with that self. [00:49:40] And that self never woke up. But he did. [00:49:45] John: Through my journey [00:49:46] Of coming to accept myself for who I am. I immediately see others. [00:49:53] Yeah. [00:49:53] John: How they're hiding. [00:49:54] Before they recognize it. And so my coaching is all about not saying, this is why you're hiding. [00:50:03] That's what's holding you back. [00:50:06] Danielle: What you said about once you, you see somebody's wall so clearly because you understand your own so well. My less eloquent way of saying that to clients, it's once you smell bullshit, you can't unm it. It's the scent in the air and you're like, huh, what am I smelling? [00:50:23] Oh, it's bullshit. Well, John, I would love to know your, don't cut your own bang moment. [00:50:30] John: I'm backstage. There are a thousand people in the audience and I had theatrical training I had a talk memorized. It had to be 12 minutes long. [00:50:39] I'm doing a magic trick with other people that are coming up stage. I needed to control that. I got there early the morning of the TED Talk and helped the guys focus the lights so that it looked better. I'm all in. I want to shine in this TED Talk. , I remember I'm going up on stage and I'm saying, to the cherry picker operator, can I give you a hand? Because I have lighting experience. And I expected the presenter come and say, no, John, you're the actor. Go in your, the green room and there's some donuts and coffee , and we'll call you already, but you didn't. She knew that I was there to make the entire event better. And she let me do it, [00:51:18] That's awesome. [00:51:19] John: This is my first real speech. Okay, in front of a thousand people. And I knew that I had a limited time to get the audience on my side. [00:51:30] Get the audience engaged. How was I gonna be able to break their, going through their phone, talking to a neighbor, drinking, eating, snacking in a full day of speech? [00:51:41] Yeah. [00:51:43] John: So I said, I wanna go first. And everybody has said, great, but we don't, you can go first. And right before the mc went on stage to introduce me. I did a magic trick war. I turned Monopoly money into real money and then back again. [00:52:00] So as a magician, everything was possible. I turned monopoly into real money, but then I realized that's actually called counterfeiting he stays out for like seven seconds. I did that to the mc and now he just saw a miracle happen. [00:52:16] So he turns around and walks on stage beaming, and he told that story to the audience and said, Hey guys, your next speaker just did a miracle. He turned monopoly money into real money in front of my eyes. Pay attention to this cat. [00:52:37] Yeah. [00:52:38] John: So I walked on that stage. I had the love of everybody in the audience that everybody wanted to see what I was gonna do. [00:52:46] Everybody wanted to hear what I was gonna say, so I didn't have to warm up the audience. I got the mc to do it for me. Genius. And I do that every time I speak because it works but anyway, three quarters of the speech, I'm standing on my red circle and I'm delivering my talk. [00:53:08] And the front lights go out. [00:53:10] Danielle: Wait, you were three fours of the way done when they went out. [00:53:13] John: I'm standing in shadows. And my first reaction was, whoa. That Whoa. Got the lighting guy to realize, holy shit, I hit the wrong button, and he brought the lights slowly back up. [00:53:27] As the lights went back up, I went magic [00:53:32] and so I got an amazing laugh from the audience. [00:53:36] Because I cut the tension, I was doing improv. [00:53:38] I remember walking off stage and the producer of the event said, John, don't worry about, we'll edit that part out. And I said, don't you dare. That was my finest moment. Don't you dare edit that out. [00:53:54] I want that in the video. [00:53:57] She just smiled as I went back to the dressing room and sat down and then the adrenaline was like, whew. Walking out into the audience after the event and having strangers just come up to me and wanna hug me and say, holy cow, I resonate with your message. [00:54:18] And my message on the TED Talk was, treat people are different with respect to compassion. [00:54:23] That's what TED talks are all about. You want one key message and that was my message. [00:54:27] You never know, you might be in their shoes in an instant. [00:54:34] Danielle: I wanna add to that, another way to speak to the value of doing some self investigation, whether that's through journaling, through therapy, or seeking out a coach from someone like yourself is, because that expression of, treat other people the way you would wanna be treated. [00:54:53] What I know is that we don't treat ourselves all that well. A lot of us, many of us don't treat ourselves well, which is why accessing the compassion. Of treating others kindly is sometimes harder for us to find, jumping to criticism or judgment, because there's something we are rejecting in us. [00:55:13] So I think a way to do the thing you're saying , that beautiful treat others with kindness and compassion. The best way to do that is to look within. And I invite anybody listening to go to the show notes, visit John's website, seek out a coaching call, grab a copy of his book. There are resources that can help you be kinder to yourself, to lowering the walls, to lifting the veil, to seeing yourself in a new way, to performing the ultimate illusion, which is [00:55:52] to love yourself more fully exactly as you are so that we can be kinder to each other. 'cause we need that, we need a lot more kindness. [00:56:00] Thank you, John. Do we have the information we need for our listeners to get the special code? [00:56:06] John: John kipping.com. [00:56:08] Slash free gift. [00:56:11] Danielle: Ooh, you heard it here. John kipping.com/free gift. And this is only the gift for those of you who have listened this far. [00:56:20] So if you listen to the beginning and you just try to skip to the show notes, sorry. You ain't getting a gift. Thank you, John. [00:56:28] Thank you so much for joining me on this incredible episode of Don't Cut Your Own Bangs. I hope that you love listening because I thoroughly enjoyed making it. My favorite episodes are the ones where I get to learn something too. I'm also a listener. And benefiting from the wisdom and insights of all of the experts, creatives, performers, adventurers seekers that I get an opportunity to meet in this podcast format. [00:56:56] Don't forget to check out the show notes and please before you sign off , always remember rate, review, subscribe to the podcast when you interact with the podcast. It just helps send it out like a rocket ship to other people that are looking for the same value that you are. And it also helps create a conversation where I can continue to develop and cultivate something that benefits you more and is more fun for you to listen to. Feedback is great, and also if you just wanna throw a compliment, that's sweet too. But thank you so much for being here. [00:57:26] Your intention, your time mean the absolute world to me, and I hope you continue to have an incredible day. [00:57:32] ​

In this week's message from our Songs For the Road series, we explore Psalm 123 and discover that pilgrim prayers are honest prayers. Together, we look at what it means to be honest about our pain, God's authority, and God's character—and why bringing our unpolished, real selves before God matters. Join us as we learn to lift our eyes beyond contempt and hurt, trusting in His mercy and walking honestly with Him and each other.For more information about Integrity Church, visit our website, http://liveintegritychurch.org Connect with us on social media throughout the week to stay up to date on events and things happening at Integrity! Instagram: @integrity_church Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/liveintegrity/

What if the key to becoming a better leader… is becoming a better you?In this soul-stirring episode, we sit down with Dr. Ron Stotts, a former U.S. Marine turned transformational executive coach, who shares how he rebuilt his life after PTSD—and how that inner healing became the foundation for helping leaders grow from the inside out.Ron pulls back the curtain on what conscious leadership really means, why so many high-performers unknowingly self-sabotage, and how to release the outdated beliefs that once protected you but now hold you back.This is a masterclass in emotional intelligence, inner work, and leading with heart.

Today's episode doesn't work on audio at all.Yesterday I talked about Vanity. Today I will show you my apartment, which doesn't satisfy my vanity in any way.  Check it out in instagram if you want to see it. 

Every vulnerability announcement comes with a score. We've all seen them. We've all panicked when they are high. But where did that score come from, how was it calculated, and what is up with that string of random letters next to it? Those answers and more in this intro to where Common Vulnerability Scoring System (CVSS) scores come from, what's new in version 4, and the parts you aren't doing. Speakers: Chris Taylor, Principal Consultant, Taksati Consulting, Kacy Zurkus, Director of Content, RSAC, and Tatyana Sanchez, Content & Programming Coordinator, RSAC

If you get close to someone, they see the most vulnerable, deeper part of you. That can be a scary thing, especially if you've been hurt before. And sometimes we feel the need to protect ourself from such scary things. 

Today I talk a bit about vanity. Both personal and professional. 

In this heartfelt and highly practical episode of Faith Talks, Janna and Anna Faith return in person to continue their series on “Faith Over Fear.” Today's focus is the often-overlooked yet deeply personal fear of communication—whether it's not knowing who to talk to, what to say, or when to say it. They candidly share biblical wisdom, personal stories, and real-life encouragement to help you overcome fear and choose faith in your daily conversations.Topics DiscussedThe spiritual power of the tongue (James 3)Fears surrounding communication: who, how, what, and whenHonoring parents through open communication (Ephesians 6:2)Speaking truth even when it's hard (Proverbs 12, 27)Moses' fear of speaking and God's promise to help (Exodus 4)Giving grace in speech (Colossians 4:6)Personal stories of bitterness, forgiveness, and reconciliationSimple steps for starting spiritual conversationsCreative methods for difficult conversations (writing letters, texting)Pouring your heart out to God (Psalm 62:8)Key TakeawaysCommunication is one of the most powerful tools God has given us, and it should be stewarded in faith, not fear.Speaking the truth—especially when it's hard—is not only obedience to God but a gift to those around you.God promises to help us communicate when we feel weak or inadequate—He made our mouths (Exodus 4)!Reconciliation and honesty bring spiritual freedom, even when they take time or courage.When you pour out your fears to God, you'll find the strength to speak with grace, humility, and purpose.Faith Talks is a monthly program on the Thee Generation podcast designed to help young ladies discover greater ways to nurture and exercise their faith in their day-to-day walk with Christ. To leave a question for the Faith Twins or our guest, send an email to faithtalks@theegeneration.org. If you've been encouraged by this podcast, please take the time to give us a five-star rating and write a brief review. That would help tremendously in getting the word out and raising the visibility of the Thee Generation for others. For more faith inspiring resources and information about joining Thee Generation, please visit theegeneration.org.

Rick Denley is a keynote speaker, leadership coach, and founder of Peak Performance Leadership Services. With over 30 years of experience guiding organizations through transformational change, Rick empowers sales teams and leaders to embrace growth, develop trust-based cultures, and lead with courage. Blending engineering expertise with real-world leadership insights, Rick delivers impactful keynotes, coaching, and workshops that help people evolve into the best version of themselves. SHOW SUMMARYIn this episode of Selling from the Heart Podcast, Larry Levine and Darrell Amy are joined by Rick Denley, leadership coach and founder of Peak Performance Leadership Services. Together, they explore the importance of adaptability, empathy, and authenticity in sales and leadership. The conversation covers how to lead through change, connect with Millennial and Gen Z decision-makers, and cultivate trust-based workplace cultures. Rick shares practical advice on being courageous and vulnerable while staying grounded in integrity—offering listeners a powerful roadmap for personal and professional growth. KEY TAKEAWAYSAdaptability is Essential: Change is constant, and embracing it leads to growth and fulfillment.Empathy is a Superpower: Empathy requires courage, presence, and cannot be faked—it builds deep connections.Authenticity Wins: Vulnerability and being your true self foster trust in both clients and teams.Lead Across Generations: Millennial and Gen Z buyers and employees value transparency, respect, and growth.Build Daily Habits: Leadership and relational skills must be practiced consistently—not switched on and off.HIGHLIGHT QUOTESThe only constant in the world today is change. We need to get better at changing.Adaptability, empathy, authenticity—these are the skills that will help us become the best versions of ourselves.It's about identifying the anchor that holds you back to move forward.You can't fake empathy. If you try, people will pick it up in your tonality, your body movement, and all this.Vulnerability and authenticity take just as much courage as confidence.People buy from people they know, like, and trust.”The only constant in the world today is change. We need to get better at changing.Allow the up and coming generations to have a say, be seen and heard, and they're going to be fully engaged.

Today I share that I carry some mild insecurity about my male pattern baldness. 

In this microdose episode, Jon sits down to be interviewed by Jay Fields - one of our previous guests - on HER show, the Hey Wait podcast. They explore themes of authenticity, emotional vulnerability, and the societal conditioning that affects men's emotional expression. Jon shares his journey from the Navy SEAL Teams to mindfulness, emphasizing the importance of feeling emotions and the challenges posed by the 'nice guy' persona. The discussion also touches on the differences between being nice and being kind, the impact of people-pleasing in relationships, and the need for men to embrace their confidence and vulnerability. Listen to the full episode hereApple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hey-wait/id1810486310Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4ggpeSHBZ1358MoNXt6tdEtakeawaysAuthenticity is crucial for meaningful relationships.Societal conditioning affects emotional expression differently by gender.Mindfulness can help individuals connect with their emotions.The 'nice guy' persona can hinder personal growth and relationships.Being kind is different from being nice; kindness is rooted in authenticity.Men often seek validation through people-pleasing behaviors.Healthy masculinity exists and is essential for emotional well-being.Vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness.Emotional experiences on the battlefield can enhance self-awareness.Practicing mindfulness can lead to greater self-acceptance.Chapters00:00 John McCaskill's Journey: From Navy SEAL to Mindfulness Teacher00:56 The Importance of Feeling Emotions03:20 Overcoming Military Training: Embracing Vulnerability07:36 The Role of Mindfulness in Personal Growth11:16 Integrating Different Life Chapters13:29 Microdose OutroHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.

While openness can build trust, there's a fine line between “vulnerable” and “uh-oh.” Brené Brown, the goddess, says oversharing isn't true vulnerability—it can actually result in disconnection, distrust, and disengagement. So why do we overshare at work? Sometimes it is because we want to feel seen. Without our usual support systems—family, friends, faith, community—we sometimes turn our coworkers into unwilling therapists. Stress is another biggie – and can cause all of us to vent from time to time. We mistake emotional outbursts for “processing.” Sometimes we don't realize we've gone too far.   Sometimes we misread culture.  Social media has created norms of sharing that are in many cases not appropriate in the workplace. Oversharing risks include: damaged credibility; gossip fuel, confused boundaries and just uncomfortable moments, which lead to uncomfortable relationships. There is some clear guidance here - graphic health details, romantic chaos, money problems, coworker critiques, political or religious rants, constant negativity, and good old-fashioned trauma-dumping are no-gos.  Save that for your best friend. But here's the nuance: not all sharing is bad.  Strategic vulnerability builds trust when we consider relevance, timing, and audience. Saying “I'm overwhelmed” during a tough week = helpful. Saying “my child was arrested this week and is in jail” in the middle of the Monday morning staff meeting = probably nope.  Telling your supervisor – in private – or a trusted coworker, probably yes.  Your child's arrest is not relevant to the Monday meeting, but it could very well be relevant to your performance and the need for time off so talking with your boss is appropriate because it is relevant and just with your boss at a time which of course you have confirmed is convenient.  Relevance.  Timing.  Audience. Boundaries aren't walls—they're fences with gates. Absolutely we should open those gates, but wisely. Good Reads (and a video!): How to Stop Oversharing at Work (and Move On If You Slip) | The Muse What to Share, What to Hold Back The risks of oversharing at work are real. Here's how to set better boundaries - Fast Company …vulnerability vs. oversharing — where to draw a line?  Why Women Speak In TMI  

Growing up in the USSR Roman Lifson had zero relationship with anything spiritual. He and his family eventually moved to the United States and Roman became an attorney. But, as life would have it he met his soul mate and his life was forever changed. In this beautiful episode find how how he went from communism to a deep spirituality and relationship with the divine!Find out more at: https://www.mythicadventuretravel.com/ Thank you for listening – if you're struggling to break free and need support – go to my website and www.lucasmack.com. There's you'll find resources like videos and eBooks and information on how to work with me for coaching.

 We're Julietta and Graciela, and we're sooooo excited to invite you into our Cacao Conversations—your weekly dose of heart-opening chats, all served with a warm cup of cacao. You'll feel like one of the family during this podcast where we speak frankly, and humorously, about some of life's big questions. We share wisdom we've picked up along the way and wonder out loud about lots of life's mysteries. Whether we're diving deep into transformation, laughing at life's quirks, or simply talking about the weather (which is, like, a much bigger deal at this age, isn't it?!?), you get a front row seat to our sometimes crazy, mostly spiritual and always authentic lives. From sweat lodge ceremonies to sweaty teen socks, we cover it all. So, grab your favorite mug, fill it with cacao and join us for some profound laughter. Cacao Conversations is about empowering you to remember who you are and step into the life that feels authentically yours. How do you know when it's time to ask for support? Let's be real—so many of us wear independence like a badge of honor. But the truth is, none of us are meant to do this life alone.In this deeply honest episode, we're breaking down the signs that it's time to reach out for help and why asking for support is one of the bravest, most self-loving things you can do. We talk about the stories and conditioning that make us believe we "should" handle it all ourselves, how to recognize when you're running on empty, and how to shift into receiving without guilt or shame. From small daily struggles to big life transitions, we explore what it really looks like to lean into community, spirit, and trusted connections. If you've ever felt like you had to be the strong one all the time—this conversation is for you. So pour your cacao, soften your shoulders, and let's remind each other that strength lives in vulnerability. Your cup is ready. Your journey is waiting. Let's sip, chat, and transform—together. Find out more at https://www.bodyandsoulevents.love/ Hey! Thanks for listening! If you liked this episode, please send us a message. We'd love to hear from you!Your cup is full, your journey awaits. Let's sip, chat, and transform together. Find out more at https://www.bodyandsoulevents.love/ Julietta Wenzel Founder of Body & Soul Ministries, Julietta is a healer, guide, and visionary dedicated to helping others remember their true selves and step into their authentic power. With a background as a physical therapist turned spiritual practitioner, she combines individual healing sessions, sacred ceremonies, and transformative retreats to guide her community toward joy, fulfillment, and alignment. https://bodyandsoulministries.love/ Instagram: @bodyandsoulministries Graciela Laurent Co-founder of Body & Soul Ministries, Graciela is a Reiki Master, Sound Practitioner, Cacao Ceremonialist, Forest Therapy Guide, and award-winning photographer. Her work blends spirituality, healing, and artistry to create transformative experiences that honor authenticity and connection. https://gracielalaurent.com/ Instagram: @gracielalaurentphotography Shine bright and have a magical day!Julietta & Graciela

Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/  Why is it so hard to deal with uncertainty, and what does that have to do with hoarding? This week I'm joined by Dr Jan Eppingstall to unpack how our brains handle ambiguity, why fear of making mistakes can keep us stuck, and how intolerance of uncertainty feeds into hoarding behaviours. We break down practical ways to build up your tolerance for not knowing and share some strategies that might actually make a difference. Uncertainty and Its Challenges Definition and context of uncertainty Evolutionary reasons for discomfort with uncertainty (Selfish Brain Theory) Contrast between historical resource scarcity and modern abundance Our minds' outdated ways of managing uncertainty Cognitive Closure What is cognitive closure? Difference between cognitive closure (psychological need for definite answers) and “closure” in pop culture (emotional resolution) How it relates to need for certainty in present/future, not just past events The creation of cognitive closure measurement scales by researchers Factors influencing need for cognitive closure: Personality traits: Conscientiousness, neuroticism (now called emotionality), openness to experience, extroversion Trauma history and its effects on the nervous system Neurodivergence (with emphasis on autism and “sticky thinking”) Combination of personality, trauma, and neurodivergence Intolerance of Uncertainty Psychological definition of intolerance of uncertainty Negative cognitive bias: How it affects perception and response Manifestations in people experiencing uncertainty as distress Its direct relevance to hoarding behaviours The Link Between Hoarding Disorder and Intolerance of Uncertainty Research findings: intolerance of uncertainty as a predictor of hoarding symptom severity Usefulness in early intervention strategies intolerance of uncertainty as a transdiagnostic factor (across anxiety, some depression, and other mental health conditions) How heightened anxiety sensitivity in hoarding perpetuates avoidance Experiential avoidance in hoarding (saving and acquiring behaviours) Connection between maladaptive behaviours and intolerance of uncertainty Fear of Making Mistakes and Perfectionism Common fears of mistakes in hoarding (disposing, acquiring, putting things away) Perfectionism's role (fear of failure, not wasting) All-or-nothing thinking and rigid decision-making rules Paralysing effect of avoidance due to fear of mistakes Not making a decision as a potential mistake itself Interaction and reinforcement between perfectionism and intolerance of uncertainty Comorbidity and Severity Research on multiple diagnoses: More than half of psychiatric patients have more than one diagnosis Diagnostic challenges and overlapping criteria How comorbidity compounds issues: More symptoms and more complexity Higher intolerance of uncertainty linked with more severe hoarding, especially when other conditions are present Impact on treatment difficulty intolerance of uncertainty's Impact on Acquiring and Discarding Behaviours How acquiring reduces fear of missing out and future needs Difficulty discarding as protection against future regret Shame around mistake-making Common inner questions: Future use, responsibility, relationships More complexity leading to more avoidance Nuances in intolerance of uncertainty and Hoarding Study on sub-factors of uncertainty: Factor 1: Negative self-referential implications (linked to hoarding severity) Factor 2: Perception of uncertainty as unfair (not linked) Internal vs. external perspectives on uncertainty Relevance of anxiety-driven self-criticism Changing Relationship to Uncertainty: Curiosity and Reframing Rilke's quote on “loving the questions” Transforming approach from fear to curiosity Curiosity as a therapeutic tool Creativity in imagining alternatives and solutions Relevance of loss aversion and cognitive biases Modern Life and Uncertainty Intolerance Research linking increased use of technology (instant answers) to rising intolerance of uncertainty Smartphone/information overload and decreased tolerance “muscle” Relevance to hoarding (desire for backups, information saving) Example: IMDb, screenshots, saving digital info Treatment Strategies Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) effects on intolerance of uncertainty in anxiety Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and exposure-based methods: Pros and cons Importance of a therapist experienced in error-related distress and uncertainty Key skills: Observing distress, sitting with uncomfortable feelings, gradual exposure Self-help approaches: Reframing mistakes as learning Practicing self-compassion Values-based decision-making Systematic exposure to small errors Gradually breaking rigid rules (e.g., waste, tidiness) Recognising individual differences and seeking appropriate support Embracing Mistakes and Humanity Learning from therapist/client anecdotes Cultural expectations around perfectionism vs. real human messiness How mistakes can be positive or even entertaining Letting go of the need for perfection The Four Cs for Managing Uncertainty From Elizabeth Weingarten: Curiosity, Conversation, Community, Commitment How to foster each: Curiosity: Approach with questions and exploration Conversation: Discuss uncertainties with trusted people Community: Build social support Commitment: Dedication to exploring questions and knowing when to let go Links Hillman, S. R. HOARDING DISORDER AND Intolerance of Uncertainty, Anxiety Sensitivity and Distress Tolerance in Hoarding Disorder Compared to OCD and Healthy Controls - Shemariah R. Hillman; Claire L. Lomax; Nadeen Khaleel; Theresa R. Smith; James D. Gregory Baldwin, P. A Multimethod Examination of Vulnerability in Hoarding, UNSW Sydney, 2016. https://doi.org/10.26190/UNSWORKS/19156 Castriotta, N.; Dozier, M. E.; Taylor, C. T.; Mayes, T.; Ayers, C. R. Intolerance of Uncertainty in Hoarding Disorder. Journal of Obsessive-Compulsive and Related Disorders 2019, 21, 97–101. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jocrd.2018.11.005 Exploring Humanity's Relationship to Uncertainty with Elizabeth Weingarten  Podcast ep 49: Sitting with discomfort: distress tolerance and hoarding – How unconscious distress avoidance might be worsening your problems Podcast ep 190: What if we forgive ourselves, but now we know better, we do better? Choosing compassion over shame in hoarding disorder Podcast ep 182: What are “towards and away moves” and what on earth do they have to do with hoarding recovery? With Dr Jan Eppingstall Podcast ep 127: Overcoming overspending with Paige Pritchard, Money Coach Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom session: Accountability Booking Form Dr Jan Eppingstall at Stuffology https://www.facebook.com/stuffologyconsulting/ https://twitter.com/stuff_ology https://www.instagram.com/stuff_ology/ Dr Jan Eppingstall on Pinterest Website: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding Become a Dehoarding Darling Submit a topic for the podcast to cover Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Instagram: @thathoarderpodcast Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderpodcast Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Pinterest: That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder subreddit Help out: Support this project Sponsor the podcast Subscribe to the podcast Subscribe to the podcast here

Have you ever sat down to create, only to find yourself endlessly scrolling for inspiration and losing your voice in the noise?  In this episode, I introduce a concept for clearing out mental buildup to make space for your authentic ideas to emerge.  We'll explore the surprising science behind why our best ideas often emerge during moments of rest, and I'll offer you a few simple, actionable ways to incorporate creative thinking into your own life.  This conversation is an invitation to give your creative voice the room it needs to breathe and to discover the brilliant work that wants to emerge through you. Chapters 00:00 - A Lesson from the Dentist's Chair 02:20 - The Buildup of Creative Plaque 04:10 - The Science of Mental Rest and “Attention Residue” 05:32 - When Do You Need a Creative Floss? 06:18 - Three Ways to Practice Creative Floss 08:00 - Why Your Best Work Requires Space, Not More Input 09:23 - A Loving Call to Action Find our Creative Floss Quiz on Instagram: @thisishowwecreate_ Support the Show Website: www.martineseverin.com Follow on Instagram: @martine.severin | @thisishowwecreate_ Subscribe to the Newsletter: www.martineseverin.substack.com This is How We Create is produced by Martine Severin. This episode was edited by Daniel Espinosa.   Subscribe wherever you get your podcasts Leave a review Follow us on social media Share with fellow creatives

Ever feel like you're on date #200, with the same guy? In this episode, Hilary breaks down emotional unavailability for what it actually is: a lack of real intimacy. If you're attracting men who can't go deep, there's a reason. And it may have more to do with you than you think. For high-functioning women especially, this is a sneaky blind spot. You might be warm, flirty, and fun—but still totally guarded. You might talk about your emotions, but not feel them in real time. And that performative intimacy? It's what keeps real connection out of reach.   Episode Highlights: Why emotional unavailability isn't just a “man” problem The two biggest reasons people avoid true intimacy The subtle difference between being expressive and actually being emotionally available How to finally break the pattern by turning inward   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why “200 First Dates” Is a Red Flag 01:51 What Emotional Availability Actually Means 02:45 Fear of Vulnerability and Rejection 04:19 Emotional Expression Is a Learnable Skill 06:06 Why Surface-Level Connection Isn't Enough 08:04 How to Break the Pattern for Good   If you're done settling for surface-level connections—or being the one who always “catches feelings” first—this is the episode for you.

On this solo episode, Amy takes us deep into one of the most underrated yet transformational leadership tools: authenticity. If your family, business, or personal life feels off-course, this episode delivers a clear and heartfelt message—real change starts with real connection. Through personal stories, leadership wisdom, and honest truth bombs, Amy shows us how to shift our culture, build trust, and multiply impact by showing up as our whole, vulnerable, and real selves.This episode is raw. It's timely. And it's one every leader, parent, business owner, or purpose-driven soul needs to hear.

Mental wellness is no longer just a plot twist—it's the story itself. In this episode of BHT Bytes, hosts Peter Fenger and Sharlee Dixon explore how our work overlaps with the films, TV shows, and music we consume, especially when it comes to mental health. We've both seen it move from punchline or surprise reveal to something central, human, even heroic. Think back to horror-movie “madness” in the 1970s and '80s, then fast-forward to recent, more nuanced portrayals in Silver Linings Playbook, 13 Reasons Why, or even The Thunderbolts. Media is changing quickly, and while greater visibility has brought many benefits, there are unintended downsides: everyday emotions get over-pathologized, diagnoses become identities, and awareness doesn't always mean accuracy. Today we ask: when mental wellness goes mainstream, what improves, what blurs, and what should we watch closely?   Follow Behavioral Health Today on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/behavioralhealthtoday/ Follow us on TikTok at: https://www.tiktok.com/@behavioralhealthtoday Follow us on Threads at: https://www.threads.net/@behavioralhealthtoday Or watch us live on YouTube at: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvOeCMGsF7B2gNBHuWxt-fQ

Secret to Memorable Presentations Be Funny without Offending: Self-Deprecating Humor Episode 267 (Danny is based in Denver, Colorado) In this conversation with Danny Brassel we explore: how to instantly connect with your audience using relatability, authority, and purpose why storytelling beats bullet points for memorability and emotional connection how to mine everyday experiences for meaningful stories that support your message why self-deprecating humor is the safest and most effective form of humor in today's culture how sharing personal failures builds stronger trust and audience rapport than bragging how business leaders can use storytelling to boost team morale and alignment why sad stories must have a hopeful ending to avoid emotional manipulation how to balance facts and feelings to reach both logical and emotional audience members the importance of a single clear call to action at the end of your presentation how to structure your talk using the 5C framework: Clarity, Connect, Content, Call to Action, and Close ----- About our guest, Danny Brassel: A speaker, trainer and coach known as “Jim Carrey with a Ph.D.,” Dr. Danny Brassell (www.DannyBrassell.com) has spoken to over 3,500 audiences worldwide. He has authored 18 books, including Leadership Begins with Motivation and Misfits and Crackpots. The co-founder of The WellCrafted Story Workshop™, Danny helps entrepreneurs, individuals and organizations leverage speaking on stages as a client lead-source that converts.  Get your free copy of the Storytelling Blueprint https://wellcraftedstoryworkshop.com/blueprint -----

"Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity." – Brené BrownAs part of The Wholehearted Series, I knew we had to talk about a key ingredient of wholehearted living—and that is vulnerability. Honestly, I don't think you can live a truly wholehearted life without it. So I invited my friend and returning guest, Jon Toms, back on the podcast to explore this important topic.In this heartfelt and honest conversation, Jon and I unpack what it really means to be vulnerable—and why we so often resist it. We dive into the difference between vulnerability and transparency, the hidden fears that keep us from opening up, and the subtle ways we armor up through humor, perfectionism, anger, and numbing.We also share personal stories—moments where vulnerability opened something sacred… and moments where it fell flat or wasn't received well. Along the way, we talk about self-protection patterns, the trap of oversharing, and how to practice discernment in knowing when and with whom to share our deeper stories.Finally, we explore how vulnerability can shift the way we do conflict, build safer spaces, and help us show up more compassionately—for ourselves and others.Whether you're new to vulnerability or learning to live with an open heart in deeper ways, this episode offers gentle insight and practical tools for moving toward greater courage, connection, and freedom.Follow Jon Toms on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jontomsGet your free Wholehearted Living journal prompts. https://calm-sun-843.myflodesk.com/x5yo2oyoyuBook a free discovery coaching call: www.ella-hooper.comFollow me on Instagram:@ella.hooper__

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Send us a message, we can't respond. If you'd like a response email us at rick@warriorswaymindset.comIn this conversation, Rick Yee and Chris "The Mechanic" Miller delve into the complexities of fatherhood, emotional health, and the importance of building a legacy for future generations. They discuss the challenges of parenting in today's world, the impact of past experiences on current behaviors, and the necessity of accountability and authenticity in raising children. Chris shares insights from his program, 'Be the Dad You Wish You Had,' emphasizing the need for men to break free from limiting beliefs and to create their own blueprints for fatherhood. The conversation highlights the ripple effect of parenting, the significance of emotional vulnerability, and the importance of teaching children to trust themselves in a rapidly changing world.Connect with Chris here Socials are all - mechanicsgarage417 Click the HERE to choose your path! Click HERE to choose your path! Support the showJoin our Discord community now and start your transformation today!MEN click here ----- WOMEN click here If you want more information on our programs head over to our website here

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Can altered states shift our collective future?   In this week's episode, we share a powerful moment recorded at Breaking Convention, where Amisha brings together Rose Cartwright, Moudou Baqui, Iyad El-Baghdadi, Shannon Dames, Dr Simon Ruffel and Akua Ofosuhene. Each bringing their own lived experience, they explore what becomes possible when psychedelic experiences meet social change and the deep remembering of older, wiser ways of being. There is a profound bravery and deep vulnerability in this conversation that lingers long after the listening ends. Speaking of grief and revelation, darkness and rebirth, community and disconnection, they reflect on what it means to be a host for new realities, to clear the landing pad for the future and to walk with integrity as stewards of both ancient and emerging ways of knowing. We explore: :: What becomes possible when psychedelic experiences meet social change and ancestral remembering :: How extraordinary gifts are returning to people :: What it means to host new realities and prepare the landing pad for beneficial energies :: How Indigenous and Western sciences can learn from one another through mutual listening and respect :: Why we may be at the end of many paradigms and the beginning of something entirely new :: How remembering the body can be a gateway to reconciling with each other and the earth :: What happens when people stop holding back and speak from the depth of lived experience :: How the healing of community lives deep in our bones :: Why you can be hopeful even when you're pessimistic :: How psychedelics can loosen the rigidity we carry and reconnect us to what is real We hope that this episode invites you to understand differently your own healing journey and the role that psychedelics can play for all of us. Visit www.allthatweare.org for links to everything and more.

How to be a skilled conversationalist in work, love, and life.Whether you're trying to build a romantic or professional connection, Rachel Greenwald's advice is exactly the same. “Focus on how you make someone feel more than you focus on the words that you're saying,” she says. As a professional coach, Greenwald helps people develop better communication skills, from executives in the business world to singles in the dating world. Building deep connections may at times be challenging, but as Greenwald says, it's ultimately not complicated. “You're demonstrating that you're interested in someone and that you like them,” she says.In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, Greenwald and host Matt Abrahams discuss relationship-building tactics like small talk, active listening, communication blindspots, and more.Episode Reference Links:Rachel Greenwald Connect:Premium Signup >>>> Think Fast Talk Smart PremiumEmail Questions & Feedback >>> hello@fastersmarter.ioEpisode Transcripts >>> Think Fast Talk Smart WebsiteNewsletter Signup + English Language Learning >>> FasterSmarter.ioThink Fast Talk Smart >>> LinkedIn, Instagram, YouTubeMatt Abrahams >>> LinkedInChapters:(00:00) - Introduction (02:10) - Don't Be a Data Collector (06:36) - How to Start and End Small Talk (11:23) - Romance vs. Work Communication (14:44) - The Role of Humor and Light Banter (17:30) - Conversation Pitfalls (21:49) - The Final Three Question (27:35) - Conclusion   ********Take your personal data back with Incogni! Use code TFA at checkout and get 60%off an annual planBecome a Faster Smarter Supporter by joining TFTS Premium.      

In this conversation, Stefan speaks with Bob, who struggles with emotional openness and vulnerability due to a traumatic childhood in a violent household. Despite a year of therapy, Bob finds it difficult to express his feelings, impacting his relationships and leading to isolation. Stefan connects Bob's fears to his upbringing, emphasizing the need for vulnerability to build meaningful connections. The conversation concludes with Bob expressing a commitment to confront his challenges in therapy and a desire for deeper emotional connections.FOLLOW ME ON X! https://x.com/StefanMolyneuxGET MY NEW BOOK 'PEACEFUL PARENTING', THE INTERACTIVE PEACEFUL PARENTING AI, AND THE FULL AUDIOBOOK!https://peacefulparenting.com/Join the PREMIUM philosophy community on the web for free!Subscribers get 12 HOURS on the "Truth About the French Revolution," multiple interactive multi-lingual philosophy AIs trained on thousands of hours of my material - as well as AIs for Real-Time Relationships, Bitcoin, Peaceful Parenting, and Call-In Shows!You also receive private livestreams, HUNDREDS of exclusive premium shows, early release podcasts, the 22 Part History of Philosophers series and much more!See you soon!https://freedomain.locals.com/support/promo/UPB2025