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Two imperfect people trying to navigate life as partners and parents. Listen in as we hold our weekly chat to discuss issues that have come up in our family and relationship. As we seek solutions from a faith-based perspective, we hope that you will find validation and inspiration to accept your own imperfect efforts and keep moving forward.

Scott and Cindy Gunderson


    • Jun 23, 2021 LATEST EPISODE
    • weekly NEW EPISODES
    • 33m AVG DURATION
    • 52 EPISODES

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    Latest episodes from Our Weekly Chat

    How to Travel With Friends...and Remain Friends

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 23, 2021 31:10


    Cindy and Scott - along with special guests Chelsea and Matt - discuss the joys and challenges of traveling with friends. 

    Finding Joy When Life Feels Hard

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 19, 2021 31:00


    Cindy and Scott discuss key practices to finding joy and meaning during more trying stages of life. Cutting out unnecessary stressors and being intentional about including joy-building activities can help life return to a better balance.

    Are You Loyal to Your Spouse?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 9, 2021 28:46


    Scott and Cindy discuss the potential relationship pitfall of taking your family's side over your spouse's. It's important to establish firm boundaries early on so the relationship is secure and all involved parties can get on the same page.

    Parenting Teens Part 2: Lovingly Unapologetic

    Play Episode Listen Later May 26, 2021 37:34


    Cindy and Scott discuss some of the challenges presented by trying to give teenage kids what they need while also protecting the marriage relationship and individual needs. Boundaries are essential.

    Blame the Cat, Not Your Spouse

    Play Episode Listen Later May 19, 2021 19:14


    Cindy and Scott discuss ways to recognize and resolve hidden resentment before it turns into a blowup. Spoiler alert: open communication helps.

    Life. Isn't. Fair.

    Play Episode Listen Later May 12, 2021 23:19


    Cindy and Scott discuss the difference between fairness and equality, with specific reference to how we treat our kids. As always, communication is key to make sure our kids understand we have their best interests at heart.

    Constructive Consequences

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 28, 2021 22:11


    Cindy and Scott discuss the importance of implementing consequences that are based on love and teaching our kids helpful lessons. Arbitrary consequences based on frustration are seldom, if ever, helpful.

    What to Do When You Think Your Spouse's Projects Are Dumb

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 21, 2021 23:55


    We don't always share the same passions as the people we love. Instead of assuming their goals and projects are unimportant or frivolous, we can create an open dialogue to foster understanding. 

    Is Getting Stronger Always Better than Giving Up?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 14, 2021 26:13


    Cindy and Scott discuss life situations that force us to give up or rise to the occasion. Several factors should be considered to make sure we aren't giving up for the wrong reasons. 

    Teaching Our Kids Some Dang Respect

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 7, 2021 32:02


    Scott and Cindy discuss concerns about their kids' occasional failure to show proper respect, for authority figures as well as for sacred times or spaces. Possible solutions include modeling proper behavior and utilizing strategic compromise.

    Becoming Untamed: How to Start Living Your Own, True Life

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 31, 2021 37:16


    Scott and Cindy discuss Glennon Doyle's latest book, Untamed. Living an authentic life requires making sacrifices and going against the grain, but the rewards are worth the effort. 

    Are You Making Your Partner Do All the Compromising?

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 24, 2021 23:13


    Scott and Cindy discuss the importance of finding a middle ground to ensure both partners get what they need. If we shut down when the situation feels uncomfortable, we're placing the whole burden on our partners.

    Questions to Spice Up Your Relationship

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 10, 2021 22:12


    Cindy and Scott take turns posing each other questions about their relationship, from dating life to the present. Meaningful conversations and unexpected questions build the relationship while keeping things fresh.

    Your Partner's Annoying Habits

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 6, 2021 27:55


    Scott and Cindy discuss how they can more effectively communicate when they discover each other's potentially bothersome habits. Reframing the situation into a team dynamic can help decrease conflict and foster cooperation.

    Parenting Hacks to Help You Hate Your Kids Less

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 3, 2021 24:45


    Scott asks Cindy to share some tips on how he can interact more effectively with the kids when he's home from work. As it turns out, many problems may solve themselves if you know when to keep your mouth shut! 

    Homeschooling

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 27, 2021 36:12


    Scott and Cindy share some of their homeschooling experiences, successes, and failures!

    Extreme Ownership

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 20, 2021 23:54


    Scott and Cindy discuss principles learned from the book Extreme Ownership, written by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin. If we can learn to take responsibility for our part in problems, we will model that behavior to our team--including our kids--and create a more functional, successful organization.

    Arguing the Right Way

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 13, 2021 25:39


    Scott and Cindy discuss the inevitability of arguments within a relationship and how to avoid falling into toxic habits within these arguments. Depending on the nature of the disagreement, solutions may come in the form of rules, systems, or compromise.

    Praising Our Children

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 6, 2021 34:16


    Cindy and Scott discuss points from the book "Pride and Joy: A Guide to Understanding Your Child's Emotions and Solving Family Problems." Their conversation largely centers around the importance of praising our children and how to do it effectively.

    Family Contract Followup

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 30, 2020 18:10


    Cindy and Scott discuss the family contract they set up a few months ago, including both successes and challenges that have come up as a result. Regardless of the exact outcome, setting goals and following up gives endless learning opportunities.

    Processing Parenting Emotions

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 16, 2020 32:25


    Cindy and Scott discuss the unavoidable emotional rollercoaster that accompanies parenting, along with some ideas of how to recognize and process emotions that may be clogging up our emotional pipes.

    Managing Holiday Stress

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 9, 2020 31:39


    Scott and Cindy discuss factors leading to stress around the Holidays, as well as strategies that have helped make things more manageable in their home at year's end.

    Conventional Wisdom for Couples

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 2, 2020 29:32


    Cindy and Scott discuss pieces of conventional wisdom--some more useful than others--that have been shared with them over the years. 

    How to Give a Real Apology

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 18, 2020 35:30


    Have you ever found your partner's apology to be a bit lacking? Or given a lackluster apology yourself? Scott and Cindy discuss the elements of a true apology and how to use these tools to strengthen your relationships.

    Fake It Till You Make It

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 11, 2020 31:10


    Cindy and Scott discuss the ubiquitous yet counterproductive "fake it till you make it" strategy of getting through life. Feelings need to be felt, sooner or later.

    The New Adolescence

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 4, 2020 35:21


    Cindy introduces a favorite book on parenting teenagers. She and Scott discuss how being a teenager is different today compared to when they were growing up, as well as how we can love and support our teenagers more effectively.

    Coupling Criticism with Love

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 21, 2020 42:25


    Cindy and Scott discuss the importance of keeping our ultimate goal in mind--building unity and love--when bringing up criticism with friends, family, or coworkers.

    Worst-Case Scenario Planning

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 14, 2020 34:52


    Scott and Cindy discuss how to overcome anxiety by envisioning the worst-case scenario. Naming the thing you are afraid of often makes it less scary.

    Supporting Each Other's Dreams

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 7, 2020 34:44


    Scott and Cindy discuss the balance between supporting each other's dreams and staying grounded in reality. As always, open communication and focusing on what matters most are keys to success.

    Judging Others and Feeling Judged

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 30, 2020 33:46


    Cindy and Scott discuss why people have a tendency to judge each other and how we can recognize and modify our own habits of judgment.

    Relationship Resiliency and Flexibility

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 23, 2020 45:27


    Cindy and Scott discuss keys to remaining flexible as individuals and within a relationship to create resiliency. Setting reasonable expectations is crucial.

    Building Unity Through Family Traditions

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 16, 2020 30:00


    Cindy and Scott discuss the power of family traditions, from weekly meal schedules to holidays and trips. Uniqueness and shared experience are key to making these traditions special and using them to promote family unity.

    Creating Family Contracts

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 9, 2020 35:03


    Scott and Cindy discuss how their family has worked toward overcoming several recent inefficiencies by drafting a family contract. They point to firm, clear boundaries and group discussion as keys to promoting buy-in from the kids.

    Redefine Parenting Success

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 5, 2020 44:23


    Cindy and Scott discuss how easy it is to feel judged as parents. Learning to base our sense of parenting success on factors within our control is key to maintaining hope and avoiding frustration.

    Let's Follow Up!

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 29, 2020 27:14


    Scott and Cindy review points from some of their favorite Season 1 episodes, including both successes and goals that still need some work.

    Book Club: Essentialism

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 22, 2020 34:02


    Do you ever feel overworked, underappreciated, or like you just can't say no? Then this book club is for you! Scott and Cindy discuss the book 'Essentialism' by Greg Mckeown, giving their takeaways and an overview of what essentialism is and how it could work in your life.

    Parenting Teens

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 15, 2020 43:52


    Cindy and Scott discuss the challenges of up-leveling their parenting with teenagers in the house!

    Building Intentional Relationships

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 8, 2020 39:33


    Cindy and Scott consider points from the book, Getting the Love You Want, by Harville Hendrix. Specifically, the discussion focuses on building a purposeful, intentional relationship that fulfills the needs of both partners.

    Family Finances Part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 1, 2020 34:45


    Scott and Cindy discuss tools they've used in the past, and then bring up some new ideas for teaching their kids practical skills regarding finances.

    Sex and Intimacy Part 2

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 24, 2020 35:56


    Talking with kids about sex and intimacy isn't always easy. Scott and Cindy give examples of challenges and solutions in their own family, as well as resources that can help you improve these conversations in your own family.  

    Sex and Intimacy Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 17, 2020 30:31


    Scott and Cindy discuss sex and intimacy: the messages we receive as youth, the issues that come up in marriage, and the tools they use to continue building a healthy relationship. 

    Book Club: The Four Tendencies

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 10, 2020 37:33


    Scott and Cindy discuss The Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin and how it changed their marriage for the better.

    Family Finances Part 1

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 3, 2020 33:27


    Cindy and Scott discuss beginning a marriage with two totally different ideas about money. They give resources and ideas for adjusting your budget as your finances change.

    Equal Partners and Mental Load

    Play Episode Listen Later May 27, 2020 27:34


    Cindy and Scott discuss the patterns they set up early in their marriage and how they didn't set them up to have equal stewardship as life become more complicated.

    Book Club: The Power of Habit

    Play Episode Listen Later May 20, 2020 45:06


    Do you have bad habits that you'd like to get rid of and good habits you'd like to start? Scott and Cindy discuss the research and tools presented in The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg. 

    When Consequences Don't "Work"

    Play Episode Listen Later May 13, 2020 54:37


    Scott and Cindy discuss the difficulty of parenting when consequences don't seem to work. What do you do when you're caught in a spiral of stubbornness? How should parenting change as children grow?

    Chronic Struggle and Compassion

    Play Episode Listen Later May 6, 2020 50:44


    Scott and Cindy discuss how chronic struggle changes us and allows us to have more compassion for others. How can we be better listeners and is there a way to view our own issues differently?

    Self-Care and Balance

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 29, 2020 52:00


    In times of stress, or even in normal life, where do we find the balance between taking care of ourselves and making sure that we show up for others? Are we using self-care to make ourselves truly happy or is it simply a distraction?

    Is Our Parenting Making Tattling Worse?

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 22, 2020 38:51


    Scott brings up the fact that the Gunderson kids are way too quick to throw each other under the bus. Why is this happening and is there something we, as parents, can do to help?

    Unemployment, Stress, and Self-Worth

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 15, 2020 55:16


    Scott realizes that much of his self-worth is tied up in his ability to earn money for the family. In the face of his underemployment during COVID-19, he and Cindy discuss ways that he can reframe and create resiliancy. 

    When I'm Annoyed With My Kids

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 8, 2020 36:49


    Cindy has been struggling with responding kindly in annoying situations (read: kids). Changing thoughts, feelings, and actions are the subject of our discussion in this episode. 

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