The Things That Come Between Us with Charu Morgan

I'm a genuinely kind and loving person. I have great capacity for clear communication and I have done SO SO SO much 'inner work'.... what could possibly be going wrong in my relationships? Well, in this episode, I'm gonna tell you. This is a great episode for anyone who can relate to having done all that 'work', anyone who may feel they are the more 'skilled' partner in their relationships (I'm including family and friends as well as intimates here). It's also for anyone who may be feeling tired of bearing the weight of always being the 'bigger person'. This can be one of the most difficult patterns to see because we may feel like we are serving the relationship, but we are actually stopping the potential for true intimacy. I share a lot of my personal story in this episode, I hope it helps to highlight and educate if you have found yourself in similar relating patterns. Please let me know if you listen and it has value for you. Making a podcast is one of my favorite things I have done, but it is also so strange to be creating and sharing into blackness. While hundreds of you listen, all I get to see are numbers on an analytics page... it's just me, alone in a room, talking about a thing I hope provides insight and value for you. Anytime you write a review, leave me 5 stars or comment on my social media, it genuinely creates the inspiration to keep going. I have so much inside of me to share with you, so much I have cultivated from a literal LIFETIME of study of our human behavior. It flows out of me with joy when I feel how it's supporting you.  So, thank you to those who have shared your experience with me and a big PRETTY PLEASE keep sharing with me what you are receiving and what you would like to hear more about! Means the world to me. Do you see yourself in these episodes? Want some additional support? I would absolutely LOVE to be a part of your journey! Find out more about working one-on-one with Charu at charumorgan.com/sessions ***We've also created something special for you! If you would like to get started with some of the movement and breath that Charu speaks about in these episodes, you can get a FREE Start-up kit with videos for solo practice & a full-length class to do if you have a partner! Go to www.charumorgan.com/startup to get yours. For more information on small group retreats and online courses go to: www.CharuMorgan.com

What has shaped your sex life? The WAY you make love? What if there is territory yet to be explored that you haven't accessed only because it never occurred to you to approach your partner in new ways? In this episode I speak in detail about some very simple things you can try with your lover to incorporate their whole body and expand the possibilities for pleasure for both of you. Can't wait for you to listen and then try it!   Do you see yourself in these episodes? Want some additional support? I would absolutely LOVE to be a part of your journey! Find out more about working one-on-one with Charu at charumorgan.com/sessions   ***We've also created something special for you! If you would like to get started with some of the movement and breath that Charu speaks about in these episodes, you can get a FREE Start-up kit with videos for solo practice & a full-length class to do if you have a partner! Go to www.charumorgan.com/startup to get yours.   For more information on small group retreats and online courses go to: www.CharuMorgan.com

Do you find yourself experiencing the same things in relationship even with different partners over time?    Are you having the same fight over and over with your partner?   Are you noticing the overlap between how you felt within a family dynamic happening in your romantic relationship?   This is so so normal... in fact, perhaps part of intimate relationship is experiencing similar things that we once faced in childhood and having the opportunity to grow and make different choices.   In this episode, I talk about what is at the core of these repeating patterns and some super simple steps you can take to begin to strengthen and mature within relating.   Within the episode you will find a lot of care and tenderness for the parts of us that have decided all the many things we need to do to be loved. I hope you will carry that tenderness with you as you explore within yourself once you've listened.   Do you see yourself in these episodes? Want some additional support? I would absolutely LOVE to be a part of your journey! Find out more about working one-on-one with Charu at charumorgan.com/sessions   ***We've also created something special for you! If you would like to get started with some of the movement and breath that Charu speaks about in these episodes, you can get a FREE Start-up kit with videos for solo practice & a full-length class to do if you have a partner! Go to www.charumorgan.com/startup to get yours.   For more information on small group retreats and online courses go to: www.CharuMorgan.com

Does it ever feel like some of the relationships in your life just drain you? Like somehow you feel better when you are away from that family member, friend or partner...even though you love them so so much?    Maybe you even feel like your bond with this person is so special and the kind of intimacy you have with them is like no other... even though you can't shake the drained feeling?   I get it. In this episode we talk about some of the very good reasons you might be feeling this way. It may be tied into a deeper belief...   Some of us have built our lives and intimate relationships around how good we are at giving people what they need. It's a beautiful quality and it can also bring some complex challenges when a situation isn't well-balanced.   This episode deep dives into what underlying internal things may be going on here, how to become aware of them and how to work with them.    If you resonate with what I'm speaking to here, I hope this paves the way for more reciprocal bonds in your future.   Do you see yourself in these episodes? Want some additional support? I would absolutely LOVE to be a part of your journey! Find out more about working one-on-one with Charu at charumorgan.com/sessions   ***We've also created something special for you! If you would like to get started with some of the movement and breath that Charu speaks about in these episodes, you can get a FREE Start-up kit with videos for solo practice & a full-length class to do if you have a partner! Go to www.charumorgan.com/startup to get yours.   For more information on small group retreats and online courses go to: www.CharuMorgan.com

Long-term relationship. It sure does have it's ups and downs. We all know that's kinda to be expected… ..and yet the thing I hear the most is ‘we've lost our spark'… followed by a lot of comparison to what they once had or what other couples have.   It's so so normal to think something is WRONG when our sexual connection changes… and to try to get back that ever-elusive ‘spark'.   I'm here to share a different message. I see relationships as having seasons. Trying to create a summer spark in the middle of a winter season is missing the possibility for the wisdom that winter is bringing… including the invitation to deeper experiences in lovemaking.   In this episode I'm talking about why we have an obsession with an endless summer and how to sink into the beauty of all the seasons. Click these links to listen: APPLE . SPOTIFY Pretty please, wherever you get your podcasts… if you enjoy this episode: FOLLOW, GIVE IT 5 STARS, LEAVE A REVIEW, SHARE WITH A FRIEND... all the things!! I genuinely could use some community support making sure the work I do gets seen in this wacky world. If it has been valuable to you, and it's authentic for you to share, that would mean so much to me! love- Charu P.S. Do you see yourself in these episodes? Want some additional support? I would absolutely LOVE to be a part of your journey! Interested in working with Charu 1 on 1? Find out more information at charumorgan.com/sessions Learn more at www.CharuMorgan.com where you can find information on working with me in small group retreats and online courses. ***We've also created something special for you! If you would like to get started with some of the movement and breath that Charu speaks about in these episodes, you can get a FREE Start-up kit with videos for solo practice & a full-length class to do if you have a partner! Go to www.charumorgan.com/startup to get yours.  

What if there is a whole world to lovemaking that most of us are not even aware of? Something that takes the experience in a completely direction. What if lovemaking could arise from expansion, relaxation and unfolding? What if the stories we have been told about a hard cock and a tight pussy being the best of the best when it comes to sex actually don't include the whole picture? How might that change the way we make love? How might that change the way we relate to our bodies? Our lovers? There is an incredible landscape just waiting to be discovered in sex. It isn't instead of what we already know, it's in ADDITION to. It is rich, it is deep, it is sublime. In this episode, I begin to invite you into that space of possibility. I hope it inspires you. You might find what I share hard to believe, but I promise every word is true.  Do you see yourself in these episodes? Want some additional support? I would absolutely LOVE to be a part of your journey! Learn more at www.CharuMorgan.com where you can find information on working with me 1 on 1 as well as small group retreats and online courses. ***We've also created something special for you! If you would like to get started with some of the movement and breath that Charu speaks about in these episodes, you can get a FREE Start-up kit with videos for solo practice & a full-length class to do if you have a partner! Go to www.charumorgan.com/startup to get yours.

In this episode we explore what devotion might mean and how bringing it into our relationships could possibly change the texture of what we share in our partnerships. How it might be an opportunity to bring more nourishment and love in new ways… We also talk about what happens IF when you think about bringing devotion to your partner you feel a ‘no'… or when giving or receiving so much brings up complex feelings. As in all episodes, however your body responds is welcome, and I share with you ways to explore even uncomfortable feelings for what they might bring to ultimately enhance intimacy. I have found that devotion opens up a possibility for love, creativity and new levels of mutual respect. A beautiful territory to swim in, explore and deepen within. It's an unusual context to bring into this modern world and I'm excited for you to explore what it might inspire in you! Do you see yourself in these episodes? Want some additional support? I would absolutely LOVE to be a part of your journey! Learn more at www.CharuMorgan.com where you can find information on working with me 1 on 1 as well as small group retreats and online courses.

What does it take to grow in love and sex within your partnership?   No one has talked to us about what it actually takes to have a partnership that really lights us up and keep us excited and inspired....and yet, that's what so many of us long for.   It's like a destination we crave, but we have no map.   In this episode we talk about: What we have been prioritizing and why (and how it may be taking us away from the connection). A simple scaffolding to help hold us as we journey back towards our partner. The easiest steps to take to re-invest in our love. The journey to creating a truly fulfilling partnership is deep and sometimes complex... listening to this episode and beginning to turn towards this inquiry and exploration is a great way to begin.   Do you see yourself in these episodes? Want some additional support? I would absolutely LOVE to be a part of your journey! Learn more at www.CharuMorgan.com where you can find information on working with me 1 on 1 as well as small group retreats and online courses. AND....We've also created something special for you! If you would like to get started with some of the movement and breath that Charu speaks about in these episodes, you can get a FREE Start-up kit with videos for solo practice & a full-length class to do if you have a partner! Go to www.charumorgan.com/startup to get yours.  

Tired of having the same old orgasms? I have good news! New orgasms are waiting for you just around the corner! I'm kidding… sort of. Like with so many things, our culture has flattened how we understand and define orgasm. It has defined it as one thing, when, in my experience, it is a FULL SPECTRUM to explore. In this episode we journey that spectrum to open our minds to discovering what our bodies might be capable of and the nourishment that awaits us if we are curious about expanding. What if you could enter into an ever-expanding orgasmic state that had no defined beginning or end? Or if you could feel ripples of orgasmic delight just from someone touching the palm of your hand? …all this and more is possible! ;) Do you see yourself in these episodes? Want some additional support? I would absolutely LOVE to be a part of your journey! Learn more at www.CharuMorgan.com where you can find information on working with me 1 on 1 as well as small group retreats and online courses.

The topic I've been asked to speak about the most since I started this podcast is PORN. Before I even begin to explore this topic, I want to be very clear that I am NOT against porn. The view I hold is that the most important thing is… what does your relationship to porn feel like for you? Is it creating inspiration and bringing things to you and your partner or is it taking something away? Over the years I have worked with many clients who have felt lost and distant from a partner who is consumed by porn or clients who have partners mimicking what they have seen in porn in the bedroom and it just isn't creating fulfillment or satisfaction. In this episode we explore: *Investigating whether porn is bringing inspiration or disconnect in your life. *How to create productive conversations with your partner about how your relationship to porn feels for them. *How porn may be affecting your arousal response and why. *How to begin to explore bringing vitality into the whole body rather than everything being head/fantasy-centered. Ultimately, it's possible that your relationship to porn may be limiting the depths of pleasure and exploration you can experience with your partner. This is not about making porn ‘good' or ‘bad', it's about allowing for as much exploration and curiosity as possible. Do you see yourself in these episodes? Want some additional support? I would absolutely LOVE to be a part of your journey! Learn more at www.CharuMorgan.com where you can find information on working with me 1 on 1 as well as small group retreats and online courses. AND....We've also created something special for you! If you would like to get started with some of the movement and breath that Charu speaks about in these episodes, you can get a FREE Start-up kit with videos for solo practice & a full-length class to do if you have a partner! Go to www.charumorgan.com/startup to get yours.

Men, I want you to have the most amazing sex, the deepest sex, the most exciting and inspiring sex, the most connected sex! I want you to be engaging in sex that is inspiring and exciting not only for you, and for the sensations in your body, but also for your partner. I want your partner to be inspired and excited about the way that you approach them and what you bring into the bedroom. To that end, I want you to have all of the skills need to be able to take lovemaking as deep and pleasurable as possible…and by deep I mean emotionally, mentally, spiritually. One of the things that allows sex to accomplish this kind of depth? Expanding the amount of time you make space for intimacy and sometimes expanding your capacity to maintain your arousal. Did you even know that men are capable of multiple orgasms? Many of the men I work with had no idea… I've even encountered men who are a little envious when they have a partner who has more than one orgasm. I get it, there isn't a ton of information out there about this. I'm here to tell you that it is possible and it can be an exciting way to expand your capacity for arousal while simultaneously feeling more pleasure. In this episode I will cover the basic building blocks for how to have those multiple orgasms! Including a simple exercise to get you started! If you already know how to experience multiple orgasms, you might still find this episode interesting because I also debunk some of the harmful myths that many men take on when they learn. *This episode will be supportive and informative for anyone with a penis. :) Do you see yourself in these episodes? Want some additional support? I would absolutely LOVE to be a part of your journey! Learn more at www.CharuMorgan.com where you can find information on working with me 1 on 1 as well as small group retreats and online courses.

What happens when your partner is shut down to your advances? When you haven't made love in so long, and you are getting frustrated, but you seem to just be coming up against a dead-end with them? Is this something you've experienced? Have you been on the OTHER side of it? Feeling your partner coming towards you sexually, maybe in a way that isn't working for you or you just don't have the bandwidth to respond? Or maybe you are even stretching to just go ahead and ‘do it' even though it's not feeling right? In this episode, we explore what's really going on when your partner refuses your advances and what you can do to begin to foster more trust and communication so you can start connecting again in a way that feels great for both of you. Do you see yourself in these episodes? Want some additional support? I would absolutely LOVE to be a part of your journey! Learn more at www.CharuMorgan.com where you can find information on working with me 1 on 1 as well as small group retreats and online courses.

GREAT sex, like truly otherworldly, mind-blowing, life-changing sex is borne out of true intimacy and connection. We find that kind of intimacy and connection when we untangle what we have been hiding behind or protecting ourselves with…. When we can identify why we haven't been feeling ‘safe' to open to our partner, when we can work together to untangle dynamics and allow for vulnerability. Vulnerability breeds intimacy, intimacy opens the door for the sweetest altered states in lovemaking to come through.  In this weeks episode, we are looking at why you have grown apart sexually… We are going to deep dive into the dynamics that may be getting in the way of this potential for deeper sensual/sexual connection. What is a relational dynamic? Where do they come from? Why do we get stuck there? If you have been feeling that it has been difficult to come together sexually or maybe even that feeling sexually connected to your partner feels a million miles away and you don't know how to get back to it… this is the episode for you. Do you see yourself in these episodes? Want some additional support? I would absolutely LOVE to be a part of your journey! Learn more at www.CharuMorgan.com where you can find information on working with me 1 on 1 as well as small group retreats and online courses.  

What is your partner trying to tell you that you aren't hearing? Are you noticing that your partner has been easily upset about little things? Escalating situations that really didn't have to be that big a deal? Or have they been distant? Pulled back and you can feel a quiet seething in the energy when you are around them? Maybe it feels frustrating, annoying… maybe you feel like you are losing them… like you can't feel them the way you once did.  Maybe you even feel like, ‘Who is this person? This isn't the person that I married/chose to partner with… what's happening here?' These behaviors can feel like they are pushing you away.. and yet, they may just be a call for help. An unconscious way of expressing things that they haven't known how to express OR things they have tried to express and have felt dismissed. In this episode, we go over what your partner might be trying to tell you and what may be going on under the surface.  Do you see yourself in these episodes? Want some additional support? I would absolutely LOVE to be a part of your journey! Learn more at www.CharuMorgan.com where you can find information on working with me 1 on 1 as well as small group retreats and online courses.

For many of us, we have never thought to investigate where our ideas about sex have come from and what we might truly enjoy if we could have ANYTHING… In this episode we explore, ‘who am I beyond what the culture has taught me about sex? Beyond outside sources that have defined my sexual experience? What is sexual pleasure is for ME from the inside out?  What if I get to define who I am sexually from something deep inside of myself?  How remarkable would that be? How precious, how special and how potentially DIFFERENT?

I absolutely celebrate whole-heartedly when a man is dedicated to making sure the woman he's with orgasms every time. Thank you to those men… AND I've worked with more than one couple where his desire to give her pleasure has actually created stress for her. She starts to feel obligated to cum for him and her body is less and less relaxed and in her own unfolding of pleasure. In this episode we explore what we might do to move beyond our attachments to a certain outcome and be in a true exploration so s3x can truly go to the next level.  *Yes, this is episode is geared towards heterosexual relationships, not all episodes will be! Dynamics in relating between men and women are what I have the most experience with personally and in my 20 years of work.

Even when we have great communication with our partner and/or an amazing foundation of love, trust and care, there can still be good reason to create immersive time to connect with no sexual pressure. In this episode, we will explore hidden cultural threads of how we think we are supposed to behave and why that might be getting in the way of the pleasure we desire.

1. Yay for our first episode!! Diving into podcasting with a crappy mic, but some great insights!    In this episode we talk about:   - What we tend to do in relationships that makes them more difficult. - Things we may be doing to escalate challenges with our partner unconsciously. - What you CAN do instead of trying to change your partner's behavior. - One reason your partner is so reactive when you have constructive criticism. - How to navigate what happens next when this thing your partner is doing won't change.   Do you see yourself in this episode? Want some additional support?   Learn more about Charu's work at www.CharuMorgan.com where you can find information on working with her 1 on 1 as well as small group retreats and online courses.   Charu Morgan has spent the last 20 years in deep devotion and exploration of all things relating. She has worked with thousands of clients, supporting them in feeling more alive in their bodies, more integrated in their sexual experiences and closer to the ones they love.