Podcasts about then elyse

Pop tells us a hilarious story about his week. We talk a little about the insurrection. Then Elyse closes us out with a great devotional on Hebrews 2:10-18

Elyse Slaine (Real Housewives of New York City) may not be holding an apple any time soon, but she is holding the key to our hearts and joins us on an exclusive bonus episode to help unlock all of yours. Elyse talks with Anthony, Donny, and Quin about the 5 love languages, safe sex during a pandemic, and the importance of self-reflection, while also spilling some tea about what it was like filming RHONY and shares what advice she would give herself about her time on the show. Then Elyse takes listener questions about everything from dating advice to parenting tips and offers wise words for the ladies of Potomac who appear to need her help very badly.Follow us!Podcast: www.instagram.com/knowthatpodElyse: www.instagram.com/elyseslaineBeauty Society: https://beautysociety.com/elyseAnthony: www.instagram.com/anthonyfcasellaDonny: www.instagram.com/realdonnywoodwww.twitter.com/realdonnywoodQuin: www.twitter.com/quintenlamar

In this week's episode we revisit the story of "your cows are safe with us". Jessica talks about Wes leaving to go back to college. Then Elyse closes us out with a devotional on 1 Peter 1:13.

In this week's episode it is the original crew. Joel goes on a couple of epic rants about mask wearing and bad customer service. Then Elyse closes us out with a devotional on the righteousness of Christ. 

In this episode Jess and Elyse talk about their two most recent conferences and the road trips they had to take to get to them. Then Elyse closes us out with a great devotional.

In this week's episode, the crew talks about the end of the baseball season. Elyse and Pop talk about their recent trip to SpaceX. Then Elyse interviews Jessica about her newest book How To Help Your Anxious Teen. Pop interviews Joel about his latest book Between Us Guys. It is a fun one. 

Allie (Jessica's daughter) and Eowyn (Joel's daughter) join us for this week's episode. We put out a call to all of our listeners to settle a bet for us. We talk a little about Harry Potter and share a funny news story. Then Elyse closes us out with a devotional reading from her book Comforts From the Cross. 

In this week's episode, Jessica shares two crazy cool experiences that she had in the last couple days. Then the crew talks about the culture of celebrity pastor and two different situations that are happening in evangelicalism right now. Then Elyse shares a great devotional on the rich young ruler.

POP IS BACK! This week's episode is basically him trying to tell the story about his recent trip to El Salvador and the rest of the crew making it impossible. Don't worry he had a great time and we have the picture to prove it. Jessica talks about a recent trip to a tattoo parlor and reveals a secret. Then Elyse closes us out with a devotional from Mark about Jesus' humanity and giving us peace in the storm.

Last night was one of those nights where our kids swiftly re-asserted who’s in charge. You get into these rhythms where everyone is sleeping through the night, in their own beds, going to bed at bedtime, waking up when it’s reasonable to wake up… But last night was not one of those nights. All it takes is one night to remember that we’re at the mercy of these little jerks.    Avi was up a bunch, wanted to sleep in our bed… We let him lay with us for a bit but then brought him back into his room. When I put him down, I noticed Lily was out of her blankets but curled up in a ball, looking cold, so I did the right thing, and simultaneously the worst thing possible, by putting her back under her covers. And then she was up. And then Avi was up.   Long story short, at 4am both kids wanted to be in our bed and I figured it was easier for me to just get up and go to the 5am class at the gym.    The gym was good, then came home at 615 to a quiet house, poured myself some homemade cold brew with some branch-chain amino acids in it and sat down to read more of John Philip Newell’s “Christ of the Celts,” which I can’t recommend highly enough… It’s outstanding. Really amazing…   Then Elyse came down, and we had a great conversation together, about all sorts of things. Friends that disagree with us theologically, and all of the beautiful, life-giving things we’re learning from some of these spiritual giants we sit under. It made the lack fo sleep worth it… to reconnect with her before the day started, to talk about things that matter to us, and to sort of spur one another’s spirits on, into a good day ahead.    Energy works like that, doesn’t it? When we bring positive energy into a conversation, we can transfer that energy to the person we’re with. On a spiritual plain, on a quantum physics level… We can quite literally re-energize the cells and spirit of the person we’re with. Particles are jumping off of us and landing onto them, all seemingly invisible, but we can feel it, can’t we?    You can certainly feel it when it’s the opposite… When someone brings negative energy into a conversation and there’s this transfer of negativity: anxiety, worry, a weight of despair or a feeling of being helpless… These things can just jump from one person to the next… And it might actually make the first person feel better. It typically does. Someone comes in carrying a heavy spirit, they off-load it to you, they walk away feeling lifted, and we walk away burdened.    Whatever language you want to use for this, you know what I’m talking about. Some interactions leave us feeling lighter, some leave us feeling heavier. Other people’s problems thrust onto our shoulders, and we lighten their burden, but add to ours.    Then, the question is… What are you gonna do with all of that negative energy?   You have three choices.    First would be to pretend it’s not there. Ignore it. I don’t really see that as an option because I’m big on awareness and paying attention to what’s going on in my heart. Being unaware of these things is a recipe for disaster. If you’re holding a grenade and the pin has already been pulled, you’d want to know. You don’t want to accidentally blow up on the next person that walks by.    The second option is to transfer that negative energy to someone else… Which is what I most commonly do, and maybe you do too. You have a heavy conversation and you immediately need to call someone ELSE and offload some of it to them, even if it had nothing to do with them… We find the nearest or most reliable scapegoat in our lives (typically a spouse or parent) and we vent. And they catch all of it. We feel great, they probably feel significantly LESS great, but we don’t really notice. We feel good! It worked! Phew, onto the rest of our day! Not great, long-term, to live like this.    The third option is to absorb it. And this is the hardest but perhaps the most Christlike option. This is what Jesus was up to on the cross… He didn’t take all that negative energy and then transfer it BACK to humanity, continuing the cycle of sin and death and “eye for an eye” and violence and retaliation. He absorbed it. He chose not to continue the cycle.    Negative energy tends to spin up and get worse and worse. Like Sonic the Hedgehog but of darkness. It gains steam like a hurricane, everyone’s negative energy feeding into it and escalating again and again until it’s out of control.   In Exodus 21:24 it lays out an “eye for an eye” form of justice, because that WAS actually progressive 3000-4000 years ago. That was a radical form of justice, because people had a habit of escalating things. At that point it was more like, “if you take my eye, I’m going to take your children.” or “You cut me off in the parking lot and I’m going to ram your car.” or “You tweeted a threat to me so I’m going to fire off a nuclear bomb.”    This was Mosaic wisdom, this was Moses trying to keep order amongst his people. "eye for eye, tooth for tooth, hand for hand, foot for foot, 25 burn for burn, wound for wound, bruise for bruise.”    This is what the world looks like if everyone were to choose the second option, TRANSFER. I received this negative thing, I’ll pass it on to you.   This is where the incredible wisdom of Jesus shines. He comes on the scene a millennia into this “eye for an eye” type of justice and flips it on its’ head. In Matthew 5, Jesus says, "38 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth.’[a] 39 But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also. 40 And if anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, hand over your coat as well. 41 If anyone forces you to go one mile, go with them two miles. 42 Give to the one who asks you, and do not turn away from the one who wants to borrow from you.”    He introduces the absorption method of dealing with negative energy. Break the cycle, in the face of an enemy, bless them.    The famous quote of Mahatma Ghandi was basically him riffing on Jesus’ teaching, when he said, “an Eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind.”    During the US Civil War, hatred became entrenched between the North and South. In one instance, President Abraham Lincoln was criticized for speaking of benevolent treatment for the Southern rebels. The critic reminded Lincoln that there was a war going on, the Confederates were the enemy, and they should be destroyed. But Lincoln wisely responded, “Do I not destroy my enemies when I make them my friends?”    When an absorber steps in... it changes everything. It disrupts the cycle; throws it off balance. When someone decides to NOT pass that negative energy on, they win. They defeat that energy. It dissipates. The world is quite literally a better place. This little demon that was once alive, jumping from person to person, disrupting God’s shalom, is now dead. And you killed it. Good job.   But how do we become absorbers that don’t eventually get exasperated? Because there is definitely an unhealthy was to absorb other people’s garbage… I see it all the time, and sometime’s I’m guilty of it too. We take a burden off of someone’s shoulders and feel pretty proud of ourselves, but then accidentally might end up feeling bitter or angry or sour towards that person. Or our self-righteousness gets to be too much, we have a little Messiah complex that needs dealing with.    To absorb this negative energy in a healthy way, we have to break it down. We have to process it and properly digest it. We have to break it back down into its’ original ingredients. Deconstruct it from the little demon it had become and recognize all the little puzzle pieces that made it what it was.    “Oh, here’s a little bit of discouragement that paired with confusion. Here’s someone’s dream getting overlooked, here’s some pain from a back-handed comment someone else made… And look, it all manifested into this angry little demon.”    No wonder. It didn’t just come out of nowhere… It was financial stress that came out of a lack of discipline that paired with a lack of sleep and an unhealthy self-image that had some bass note of a bad childhood memory reverberating under it all… That’s how this little demon was born, and you broke it back down into those parts… And what that created in you wasn’t more darkness or anger or negativity…   It was compassion. Compassion.    An empathy for where that darkness came from. An understanding. Not a judgement, but an alignment with the perpetrator. Compassion.    And all of a sudden you find yourself invested. You have skin in the game to actually see this person get healthy, or succeed, or realize their true self in Christ… To find freedom and joy.    “Do I not destroy my enemies when I make them my friends?”    To absorb it doesn’t mean becoming a victim. It means becoming victor. With the right tools and proper perspective, we actually become victorious over the darkness in the world. And we, quite literally, make the world a better place to live. A safer place for our children, a more joyful neighborhood to live in, a healthier church family, a more successful and healthy work environment.    So, today… And hopefully tomorrow, and the day after that: Keep your eyes peeled for this. You’ll inevitably have someone load some sort of burden off on you, and rather than ignoring it, or simply transferring it to someone else to deal with… Process it. Break it down. Dissect it. Absorb it. Understand it. See where it came from, and allow that negative energy to convert into compassion.    I know it’s a lot for a podcast episode, but it’s important. I’ll probably spend the next few weeks processing this idea and seeing how it plays out in the real world. I invite you to do the same.    And if this idea is helpful to you, maybe tell a friend about it and have them give a listen as well.   I love you guys, make it a good day. 

In this episode we are back up to our old shenanigans. We talk about some great Florida Man stories. We talk about some listener comments. Then Elyse gives a devotional on being called to your neighborhood. 

In this week's episode we go over all the latest news. Then we all go on a little rant about friendships between men and women. Then Elyse closes us out with a great devotional on Ezekiel 14. 

A Fitzfaithful asked if our family ever fights, well we answer that question with a recounting of our recent trip to Florida. We talk about Grace Encounter. The conference we just went to. Then Elyse closes out the podcast with a great devotional from Jeremiah 31.